I have no doubt that 90% of what your kids need is their parents love, acceptance and understanding and I am quite sure they get this. Your kindness and empathy shines in every one of your videos and I am sure your kids benefit from this the most. It was no surprise to hear about your daughter's award. And although I completely understand the need to mask I think supported and informed kids will have a better chance to limit the masking to only what is vital and not lose who they are. I do hope there is a happy medium for all of us. Our kids are now grown. They have their own little neurodivergent journeys but are doing really well.
I agree, education, support and kindness can help create a better way forward for our kids. I know that I pushed on ahead for years before I realised that I just couldn't deal with the constant burnout cycle anymore, and I am hoping my kids don't experience this to the extremes I have. Really lovely to hear your kids are doing well on their own neurodivergent journeys!
During our adolescent years we really discover how much we stand out when we are trying so hard to blend in. Being a teen is so so hard. You're a great mum. Keep 'seeing' her. To have a mum who really gets it will make so much of a difference in her accepting herself.
No need to "rush back". Just a message to say I hope you and your family are well and safe and all your discoveries re autism are helping much more than hindering.
Did my earlier comment on this fail to post or succumb to gremlins? Either way I can't see it and I'm not sure whether or not that's a glitch at my end.
@@TheGreatReveal Ok thanks, not just me then! I'll have to resurrect it from memory: It may also be worth considering the question from another perspective i.e. self-esteem is as much about one's values as one's identity. When we feel excluded and/or othered it isn't just personally hurtful but also an implied criticism of our identities as individuals (which is ironic, given the typically ignorant and reactionary judgements of young peer critics; how valid can their attacks be when they don't yet know themselves let alone anyone else?) The adolescent struggle to come of age as an individual is, in part, a reaction to others. If we constantly see the worst in people directed towards us then it's hard not to be disappointed with human nature. It may be that your daughter is concerned with those sorts of questions as well but hasn't learned yet how to articulate them, e.g. "How can one feel good about oneself in a world that criticizes, ridicules or outright rejects "good"/ethical behaviour in favour of superficial, petty materialism (and etc.)?" Honestly, I can only imagine how difficult it must be to be an adolescent in our current cultural climate, but I recall my own well enough and it certainly didn't feel that different: other people were such a disappointment that I questioned whether it was worth involving myself with society at all. It's a difficult position for any young person to be in but the search for those answers is a valuable formative experience (and, for me personally, the reason I survived my first major depression at 18.)
She's a lucky girl to have a mum who loves her as much as you do
Thank you! x
I have no doubt that 90% of what your kids need is their parents love, acceptance and understanding and I am quite sure they get this. Your kindness and empathy shines in every one of your videos and I am sure your kids benefit from this the most. It was no surprise to hear about your daughter's award.
And although I completely understand the need to mask I think supported and informed kids will have a better chance to limit the masking to only what is vital and not lose who they are. I do hope there is a happy medium for all of us.
Our kids are now grown. They have their own little neurodivergent journeys but are doing really well.
I agree, education, support and kindness can help create a better way forward for our kids. I know that I pushed on ahead for years before I realised that I just couldn't deal with the constant burnout cycle anymore, and I am hoping my kids don't experience this to the extremes I have.
Really lovely to hear your kids are doing well on their own neurodivergent journeys!
During our adolescent years we really discover how much we stand out when we are trying so hard to blend in. Being a teen is so so hard. You're a great mum. Keep 'seeing' her. To have a mum who really gets it will make so much of a difference in her accepting herself.
Thank you!! I hope it will make a difference.. it feels like new territory but a positive one!
No need to "rush back". Just a message to say I hope you and your family are well and safe and all your discoveries re autism are helping much more than hindering.
Thank you 😊 I am much better now but yes I've been unwell due to heavy masking. I made a new video that kinda explores that.
Just checking in, hope you're doing ok!
Thank you! I've made a new video which explains the break and more insight on my journey for me.
Did my earlier comment on this fail to post or succumb to gremlins? Either way I can't see it and I'm not sure whether or not that's a glitch at my end.
Oh I can't see it, so I think it got lost somewhere in the ether and didn't land!
@@TheGreatReveal Ok thanks, not just me then! I'll have to resurrect it from memory:
It may also be worth considering the question from another perspective i.e. self-esteem is as much about one's values as one's identity. When we feel excluded and/or othered it isn't just personally hurtful but also an implied criticism of our identities as individuals (which is ironic, given the typically ignorant and reactionary judgements of young peer critics; how valid can their attacks be when they don't yet know themselves let alone anyone else?)
The adolescent struggle to come of age as an individual is, in part, a reaction to others. If we constantly see the worst in people directed towards us then it's hard not to be disappointed with human nature. It may be that your daughter is concerned with those sorts of questions as well but hasn't learned yet how to articulate them, e.g. "How can one feel good about oneself in a world that criticizes, ridicules or outright rejects "good"/ethical behaviour in favour of superficial, petty materialism (and etc.)?"
Honestly, I can only imagine how difficult it must be to be an adolescent in our current cultural climate, but I recall my own well enough and it certainly didn't feel that different: other people were such a disappointment that I questioned whether it was worth involving myself with society at all. It's a difficult position for any young person to be in but the search for those answers is a valuable formative experience (and, for me personally, the reason I survived my first major depression at 18.)