It's funny how schools and companies think that just letting the bullies and the victims sit in the same room and talk about the issue will solve the problem. Would a judge recommend the same when it comes to a rapist or a abuser in a relationship sitting with his victim in the same room to discuss the problem? Certainly not. That's one of the biggest misconceptions about bullying. Many people who never experienced it think it's harmless. Some even think that the victim brought it to himself because of being or acting in a strange way. And thinking that solving it by simply talking with both sides about it is ignorance in its ultimate form.
Workplace is worse than high school. At least teachers and principals will punish the bullies, at work the bullies are bullies cos they know they themselves are powerful or have powerful backing.
Workplace bullying is WAY WORSE than sexual harassment. I've heard many people say that. I myself experienced sexual harassment, and it paled in comparison to workplace bullying. Workplace bullying is when one person intentionally and repeatedly targets another specific person, with the aim of making that targeted person look incompetent or to drive the target out. The target usually suffers all the consequences, and the harasser/bully/abuser goes completely unpunished.
I’m actually going through that at work right now. And to think that I have to go through bullying on a daily basis at work in order to provide food and maintain a roof above my family’s head is totally messed up and beyond depressing.😔
It seems that often bullying behaviour is down to the psychological issues of the bully. Those with narcissistic, sociopathic or sadist tendencies tend to bully as if it's normal. I realised early on at work that bullying reflects the issues of the bully and not those that are bullied. I think this is an important point to make, and for those that are bullied to realise.
I was just bullied out of my work by an old woman. She made me feel so little everyday and it caused me to become depressed. I complained to the manager about it but they sided with her. The next day I was forced to leave because it made me that angry and miserable. No one should ever be bullied just for trying to make a living every day.
Women are the worst bullies. Male bullies at least are rational enough not to hinder work progress. Female bullies will just nuke everything and go scotched Earth just cos of her ego.
In my case it was an old black man. HR didnt seem to do much, so i said he goes or i go. I then applied for a transfer and was accepted, but was fired 4 weeks later for threatening HR id do something physical to another coworker who was aggresively glaring at me as I walked by.
I was bullied by nasty bystanders after I was stalked by a young man at work. Since I was a desirable stalking target the women there started to bully me the worst. They pretended I had a loser character and that I was not desirable, and made up stories about me which depict a total loser, of course. At the same time I learned eventually that it is them who are actually those losers.
I've been through my fair share of bullying at work. What you need to do is find another job and never be too friendly with your future co-workers. It may sound bad but there is a reason you get bullied, and it's normally out of your control. Be distant, cold, avoid staff parties and minimise the amount of face to face interactions with others.
I’m bullied at work, the bullies will constantly criticise my work and make me redo it multiple times. They’re all friends with the boss and will randomly disappear for long periods just so they can have a gossip.
Those kind of people seem to be busy with every thing and and everyone else but there work, still this are the ones how get the promotion because they now how to kiss ass
I was bullied for years. It started straight away from senior management. Then colleagues attacked me for my work ethic. The organisation was completely toxic and it turned out they were terrified of being exposed. Senior management tried to portray them as a world leader where in fact they were actually committing fraud right across the company. When I eventually presented my evidence to HR they laughed at me, despite evidence of racism, sexism and physical threats/job security threats. Colleagues initially listened but some told others, isolated me even further and sided with management. The only answer is to leave, don’t do what I did and try and fight it. I genuinely feel like most workplaces are dominated by sociopathic narcissists who create cliques destroying the entire organisation yet present themselves as the people who keep the organisation together. This is why most people hate work. They don’t hate the job, they hate the managers.
Most managers are insecure to begin with this is why they Take on Theases sort of jobs so they can bring on their insecurities into the workplace. Sometimes school bullies growing into Adults Taken on a manager's job their Personalities have not changed.
I’m actually going through that at work right now. And to think that I have to go through bullying on a daily basis at work in order to provide food and maintain a roof above my family’s head is totally messed up and beyond depressing. Your experience is the main reason why I’m not gonna report my manager to HR, because I found out he’s been reported numerous times in the past and yet he’s still here as if nothing happened.
My boss tried to bully me at work and always wanted to fight. One day I told him to stick his head up his rear and fight for air. He did nothing. They are all cowards.
I always say they have serious problems in their own lives they will never ever admit to. They take it out on others, and in my case people I would not chose to know on a private level.
I was bullied at the BBC by a Director. I’m going to tribunal. This led me to try and take my life earlier this year. This content is hard to take. Bullying at the BBC is rife.
100% true. Rife at every level. Highly jealous and spiteful women and some men. Entitlement 💯 deeply institutionalised. People of colour bent out of shape with resentment who sabotage other people of colour. A literal caste system re different races. It’s a mess.
Hope you had the support of a union rep - and that you got justice! Remember bullies usually go after people they envy or feel threatened by: those who are good at their job, popular and independent. I’ve known a lot of BBC staff - all the good ones got bullied at some point -and most of the ones who were unthreateningly average at the job but good at kissing ass got promoted!
I got PTSD from being stalked and being in an abusive marriage at the same time. Had to face two powerfully abusive men at the same time and that almost cost me my life. Not right away, but later when I started therapy for PTSD, I was so sick and I thought by taking my life I can get away from the illness of PTSD and the pain they caused me. I had to fight so hard for my freedom to get away from 2 very abusive men at the same time.
I am in a new role, and this one guy who everybody loves, bullies the new people, me being one of them. Soon after I lost my Dad in a past job, I was being bullied and snapped. I did a Hulk and smashed the place up, they were petrified, and when I think back it serves them right The Police actually took my side, and were so kind and supportive to me.
@jessicaj9743 Kind words, but it feels like God enjoys watching me suffer. It’s even led to suicide attempts and pleading for God to take me home. These 2 others are being bullied, but sent as sensitive as me, but I go alongside them and encourage them. I have nobody
Having suffered bullying throughout my career. I look back now and see I had one big weakness: 1: Naivety.. I went in to positions assuming I just had to ‘do a good job’ and I would be treated well. This naivety was only compounded by total lack of realistic advice when I asked for it - which was basically that same philosophy. Looking back - I did not assess my surroundings at all. I did not assess the characters of the people, or the power dynamics or the goals of the individuals and what they might be willing to do to achieve those goals. I spent my whole time trying to do a ‘really good job’. In retrospect doing a good job, is way way down the list of what’s important in many organisations. Look at who the people are, look at what their nature is, look at what their career financial plan is. Very very few people will ever care about your best interests. Most displays of help, collaboration etc are ‘performative’. I just wish I had approached the workplace for what it is, a competitive environment, that is very often hostile. And sought training and support with this reality in mind. Looking back I really was a lamb to the slaughter. I believed all the ‘positive speak’ and was duped into sacrificing my time and my career advancement to help others.
I will also add, that I am very competent - most of my bullying came from people who saw me as a threat. It was not discrimination. When that wasn’t the issue, it was because I wouldn’t collude with the bullying of others, or allow my boss to pressure me into crossing picket lines. It’s called having principles. Toxic workplaces do not like that.
Absolutely spot on, this is exactly the case I've had as well. The actual job is minor compared to the social dynamics - any kind of autism, social anxiety, very introverted or what-not basically gets crucified without proper social support and grounding self-abundance and confidence to push back in ways we can. Work "culture" is often a massive roast and not the comedic well-intentioned kind but competitive fire for seeking approval to be advanced up the ladder by superiors. I notice the only ones actually mentally sustaining these dynamics have the sharpest wit about handling them, sometimes a barrage of comebacks is still a very unsustainable insecure position - sometimes pure silence is also the same. The sustainability of the individual (job isn't normally disrupting their sleep) seems to determine the real success of a "job" providing career advancement. This massive dichotomy between what values and principles are merely said and which are actually practiced as well.
@JimmyJaxJellyStax Agreed. I do think we are all in a process of learning. When I can name the dynamic, it loses its power over me, once it’s lost its power, all the people like that, don’t seem to come into my life as much anymore. I feel I am often the canary in the coal mine.. I feel it and get the brunt of it all first, years later I hear my colleagues all left eventually too.
@@annastone5624 everything you say I experienced the exact same. Feeling like a canary in the coal mine, doing an excellent job out of principle and always keeping my authenticity and integrity in check whilst underestimating other peoples readiness to act out of their own insecurities. Very well put reflection. It's good to know that there are people out there with the same naivety who understood what needs to be done. I hope you are in a good place. Thank you for sharing your reflections, help me a lot!
@@nori_yah Thank you. That's great to hear. Yes we are not alone. I having an abusive upbringing is most of the problem. Never allowed to question their motives, while constantly trying to prove we are not guilty of a shred of selfishness, while they are the profoundly selfish ones.
I have always been bullied by women because of their jealousy. I dress well and have a professional conduct and women find that intimidating. I am not pompous and I actually lower myself to be accepted. My manager glares at me all the time as does her colleague. They speak rudely and curtly and I am trying to tolerate it but I can’t. I feel upset going into work.
I made the mistake of trying not to be shallow by making sure I didn't use my looks . I'm 42 now and just about making up for lost time. People don't realise that at lest 50% of looks is hard work anyway. And 20% at least is character, soul and spirit . So I advise you not to be grubbing around in the dirt with ugly souls. Use your looks to your advantage in a field that will reward you .
I love this comment.. “ I advise you not to be grubbing around in the dirt with ugly souls. Use your looks to your advantage in a field that will reward you” I always put down my looks, dressed down, in an effort to stay safe. Now I realise the women that bullied me, will only really back down if you absolutely don’t let them make you smaller. They may still hate me, but now I’d choose their jealousy over their condescending superiority any day! I’m older than you & for the first time in my life, I’m investing in wardrobe and grooming. No more making myself small for them! I also really like what you say about the 50%.. yes.. and really it’s that self-care that’s so so powerful.
Do not lower yourself. Do not put yourself down. I repeat. Do not put yourself down by any means. That's like showing a red flannel to a bull who just had a joint and a bottle of vodka. Never do that. It's a green light to be bullied. They hate you bc you are competent, good-looking and nice. Be nice, be distant. Do not act friendly with them. And if you did, stop right away. Do not talk to them unless absolutely necessary. If they start bullying you, turn around and walk away while they're talking
Oh yeah, if I have a really nice outfit on all the women are jealous. I do not have star looks, and I am getting older. They walk around all day giving each other sweet compliments and try to make me sound like I am old and ugly.
My daughter is being bullied at her job! She works in the medical field, and she is a hard worker goes above and beyond volunteers to work extra! She has not had a proper orientation. In fact, the preceptor is the bully. She’s been given too much power managers have came and left, staff members have left in a short timeframe, travelers do not stay at this medical facility. I have one thing to say about this I am helping my daughter file a complaint. I’m also taking measures to help protect her mental health as she has been depressed, came home crying and it’s been one thing after another. She has taken the abuse for eight months now. I say to you bully no more.
I was bullied through all of my working life. It was all kinds ... being called weird everyday because my accent didn't fit with the elites' accent of my boss, being told everyday that if I don't take on more and more workload, they couldn't afford me, sexual harassment, calumny, being shouted at, talked down to, and so much more. There was no way I could file a complaint because I'd have ended up without a job. I always ended up having to leave, only to find other bullies in the new workplaces. Eventually, it affected my mental health so badly that I'm now agrophobic, afraid of my own shadow, with severe PTSD and anxiety issues. When your pay cheque is a necessity that you and your family depends on, to have to suffer such cruelty in the workplace must be the worst of crimes. And yet, it's still happening everywhere in some form or another and these bullies always get away with it.
I'm in that same boat, I'm in a field that is socially demanding And it's the only way I know how to make a living, I normally either get fired or they make it (bullying) really bad so I end up quiting ...I'm going threw this again with the new company now and it's on a higher scale...the job itself pays well, have awesome benefits 👏 off the phones, set schedules work mon threw Friday 7 to 3:30 with weekends off, it's a huge corporation so we get all bank holidays off plus it's a hybrid schedule meaning i work 3 days in office two at home it's hard to say goodbye to this after all i been threw, I been doing well with the work and my production but despite all it offers I find myself in the same delima I'm always facing ostracized, left out, made fun off ..no one wants me seated by them...I will quit this job get another good one and the same thing happens this has been happening to me sense i started working as a teen and here I am in my 50s nothing has changed...this time I wanted answers so I started to go seek counseling and got no help in fact they gave up on me and refuse to help me any more 😢 a doctor thinks I'm autistic and I think that's it also 50 years of rejection and unhappiness I just want to know why..and try to fix my life to fit the issue
@@datnohi8612 I'm sorry you also had to go through that. I understand completely where you're coming from and it's NOT your fault! Sometimes I think it's just fate ... we all have a cross to bear and no matter what we do, we just need to work through that nasty Karma. Really sad that you have such a good job but are being bullied. I would leave and try my luck elsewhere anyway. I'm also in my 50s, so nothing's going to change at this stage, is it? I still prefer peace of mind to any perks I'm offered. In fact, I'd rather be poor than have to put up with bullying. It will only ruin your health!
The bullies don't get away with it. They eventually get caught. Weather it take months or years even a decade or more they get caught and their reputations are ruined.
Its the absolute worst when you find out your bully is in cohorts with your boss. Its hard to take any kind of legal action if you have no job. Every place I have worked ever has said that they have a no retaliation policy and if you speak with someone about what is going on it would be confidential but it never is. So you just get stuck getting bullied without saying anything about it in order to get your paycheck.
I’m not sure if it’s the case in US law but in U.K. law we can take employers to court for constructive dismissal if your bully is in cohorts with your boss. Regardless of a company’s policy they aren’t above the law and would lose in a tribunal and be forced to review their policy.
@David the problem is proving it, managers have access to the evidence you need and it will go missing. Often the punishment for raising a bullying issue is worse than the punishment for bullying because management don’t want to acknowledge that bullying is taking place on their watch, because they would have to do something about it and they don’t have the training to deal with it. But they know how to deal with those who speak out and so punish the victim.
@@custossecretus5737 that’s why you need to join a union. I was speaking with a colleague and we are now going to record stuff so there’s no getting out of it. They did a background check on those in charge of us and the corruption goes right up to government. I can’t give too much information on that without giving away where I work but let’s say my boss is very much connected with their feet well and truly under the table. If they try and get rid of me I’m taking it all straight to the press and blowing the lid on it all.
On a bright note in the past my bullies usually wind up quiting.. I think they are kind of like miserable suicide hate bombers.. so eventually they go away
It is difficult to explain to loved ones that you have experienced abuse at the workplace. You simply suffer it in yourself and get sick. Psychological and physical recovery lasts from 2 years to 6 years in my case. People around me make fun of me because I'm unemployed, but they don't know the reason for my dismissal is the violence I experienced from swearing by my colleagues, throwing things at me, they gave me more work, they denied me breaks and food, they left me overtime while they others went home, I was so exhausted, I had injuries from overwork as well as mental breakdown from harsh words, I can't describe to you the evil I saw and experienced what people are willing to do for a little money.
I’m so sorry!! I’m glad you have compassion for yourself, that is so appropriate.. well done! It’s easy to blame ourselves. But with compassion and kindness, I believe you will find your way to a better future.. I wish you lots of luck 🌸
Bullying starts at the corporate level: imposing intentionally unrealistic standards from top down to squeeze productivity. Seems simple, but that's where most bad attitude arise.
I work for a small business. I’ve been there for a while. I ran my own crew for the last two years and I struggled trying to even tell people what to do. Then then now this year, someone came back that were around 2 years ago. And everything is happening all Over again. If he’s struggling and I can help. I don’t even want to Speak up And tell Him what’s wrong bc I’m afraid. He will freak out. This work bullying stuff is real as it can get.
Yes, filing a complaint with HR may or may not be affective but I know what will be effective is filing a complaint with the accreditation governing bodies, and other entities. My advice to bullies are your days are numbered, and your time is coming to answer for your actions. How dare you mistreat others through your bully tactics and your unprofessional behavior. This cannot keep happening.
I am bullied right now as a CNA at work, my mental health is worse than it has ever been before, they sabotage my work and put me in dangerous situations and even got me beat up by a PT and didn't call for help or press any alarms for me. GOD HELP US ALL this is truly a nightmare and don't want to become suicidal again, GOD help us all❤❤
the biggest problem is that HR is not on the employees side. they are hired by the company to work for the company and their efforts will only be damage control for the company, not support for the victim. Always remember who butters HR's bread.
I was bullied at work as a young worker just starting out in the 1980's. I'm still cut up inside that I let him get away with so much, and that I can't find him to get some legal justice. I was called names, shouted at, grabbed physically, given arduous tasks that weren't my responsibility,etc. The boss and owner of the business, just did nothing. I eventually left to get away from it all, but realised I couldn't get away from the anger and long term effects. Now that I'm physically fit and better able to stand my ground, I just wish I could find this bloke and just, I don't know, make damn well aware that it wasn't ok. It was a long time ago, but it sticks in your memory.
I get it, but you really have to let it go. Just know that you will never put up with it again, it was a lesson learned. Sometimes for whatever reason we're given these lessons in life, you're a stronger person now and perhaps that time in the 80's is partially the reason. I'm sure that bully is pretty miserable
I was bullied by this one female at work. For whatever reason she hated me and would tell lies on me to other people, etc. She was really mean and evil.
Help with Bullying = appreciated. But just where the h-ll do i get it from? Asking for some solidarity-showing, no matter how small - literally just showup&drop-comment&leave is too much to ask, not to mention tohe bot-paranoia is making people think i ask soooo often i muuuust be a bot. Yeah, a bot asking to call a specific Karenn out for mobbing disabled people and playing victim cause duh: It's a karen - that makes sennnsee
I’ve been through this. It is very painful. And they get away with it. My last employer gave me bad references to prospective employers - the same employer who tolerated the bullying and did nothing about it. Hurt me financially and mentally.
Idk what to do my managers talk crap about me to the employees. I’ve seen it with my own eyes, people at my job don’t really like me they just are nosy. I’ve put myself out there and they don’t want to talk to me because I set boundaries with all them. I don’t chase people if you don’t talk to me, I don’t want to open up to you. I deal with passive aggressive people all day, people are not who they say they are fr. I don’t talk about anything personal and i made up some excuse to explain why. Then from there I noticed a shift. I’m unhappy because people like to pick on me, I don’t mind defending myself but I don’t deserve it.
I’ve been subjected to bullying in nearly all work places I’ve been to. I am dyslexic and I often find it hard to voice myself properly. In my current position I get a lid of misandrist comments made towards me if I do something they don’t like or doesn’t look good to them, I get belittled, I’ve had people throw me under the bus saying they’ve asked me to do something and they haven’t. My job when I was in supported living I was attacked and my boss stitched me up and fired me to cover up I got attacked and there were no risk assessments and no extra support for workers when the client should of had two workers on shift at any given time and he tried to get into my room when I was sleeping to sexually assault me. I’ve been subjected to religious discrimination because my boss didn’t like me going to church on a Sunday. I have a bad back from that job because they wanted me to store salt in a very small room and the ceiling height was about up to your chest. I’ve found work life extremely hard and I can’t give up because I’m the bread winner. I have a joint mortgage and a son with learning disabilities.
I am so sorry. Keep acting with professionalism and keep your head held high. Its hard because if you go to try to file a grievance or to possibly get justice..... usually that includes loosing your job and when the job is the only way you have to survive.. its just really hard. A very hard decision to make to reach out for help. But if you ever want to id contact the department of labor where you live.. and contact whomever regulates proper working conditions about the salt room.
@@rebeccawills8697 it’s difficult as there aren’t many decent jobs that show up in my area, certainly ones I’m qualified to do. We have the HSE which oversees government legislation. The job where the salt room is I lost because that boss stitched me up when I got into engineering and said I could carry on during weekends but then employed someone else behind my back. I had no union at the time so it’s now difficult to prove as it was quite a few years ago now. My current job I’m just keeping records of everything I hear. I have ears in the place so I know when things have been said that probably shouldn’t of been. I’m in a union so will take them to court if they try anything. They don’t realise how much I’ve got on them. Those causing the issues don’t use the channels of communication I’ve given them they just moan when stuff isn’t getting done but I’m they don’t ask so they shoot themselves in the foot really.
I'm so sorry you went through all this. This is not ok at all and you didn't deserve any of this. Some people just can't act their age and are very sick in the head which leaves them to lead very messed up lives. It will catch up with them eventually. This type of behavior only extends and they will end up making them same mistake somewhere else and get caught.
@@ozzibear I’d like to think so but I’m yet to see people like this get their comeuppance. I’ve seen corruption in every profession I’ve worked in right the way up to government. There’s no active agencies that go after these people and put them inside or heavily fines them.
@@daviddoyle2085 Believe it or not, the ones who know of this criminal lack of justice is child abuse survivors. Most of the people who abused them hold great public regard. Yes, even those who prey upon their own children. Most live a cushy life. People tend to side with their story. Or defend them. Or believe them. The victim frequently sees no justice, ever. All of this is connected and points to an unspoken sickness deep within humanity.
It started with one dominant senior figure in my workplace, who of course was close to management. He wouldn't ever bully me to my face, it was all done through the rumor mill. He spread untrue rumors about me, tried to turn people against me with lies, pointed out minor flaws (such as not being sociable when tired... who is?) to those who liked me, etc. It got to the point where he lied to the manager that I can't do my job after supervising me, I'd been there for 4 years and did my job well. The manager said he was surprised but it was probably best if I was dismissed, 'regretfully' saying I just didn't fit in anymore. I was casual so couldn't do anything about it. On my way out the bully gave me a farewell card in front of everyone. I was a shadow of myself when I left and was actually quite relieved to see the back of the place, had it been now I would have outed him as a bully on my way out. I'm still working out how it's affected my mental health, but I think the best way to deal with a bully is to laugh at them. Just laugh and don't show them that it hurts. Also, stand up for yourself and out them, to their face. But most of all don't take it seriously, literally laugh at them because they're genuinely quite sad people. These are things I will do if it happens to me again.
I'm having this from a huge respected company, management ect all in on it. I've done nothing to anyone I'm always polite. It's just raw discrimination mass actually I'm talking a whole factory having a problem with me. I've denied so many rumours. Honestly I genuinely could sue for this. My mental health and my personality is completely destroyed. And I genuinely hate people now. I'm trying so hard not to name and shame the company, if you go into the office with a complaint nothing will happen but you'll become talk of the place for years. I've not put a complaint in about anybody, I've never messed about with anyone I'm so angry
Bullying is insidious and as this video says can be difficult to pin down. Most of us want to give others the benefit of the doubt but when something feels off your instincts are normally spot-on, and it's rarely anything to do with your performance but with not being part of the gang, or because dominant toxic personalities within the workplace hierarchy have decided to make life difficult for you. Any form of difference - and it doesn't need to be a protected legal characteristic - can make you a target if it's the wrong kind of difference. I've never worked in an office where there hasn't been some form of favouritism and privilege being awarded for being part of the in-crowd.
This can happen to anyone. I'm a big gym guy, trained fighter. So, not easily intimidated. I joined a new team of people who from day one were not happy with the presence of a younger member of the team. They've spread lies around the business to other departments and I've become persona non grata. People who would have stopped and had a chat now look up, see its me and look away. I've approached management and HR about it and they are hopeless. Sad to say, but my best advice is just swallow your pride and move on.
At the start of my career I wasn’t really good and confident in my work thats why my self worth was hitting rock bottom. I didn’t realize that I was being bullied at that workplace because I wasn’t aware of workplace bullying. A colleague used to put my efforts down infront of seniors and at times I couldn’t say anything. I didn’t realize that colleague was intentionally targeting me because there was a time when my performance got better and CEO started praising me and that colleague couldn’t tolerate that. I could see that on her face. Some people can never see others flourishing. I believe that whenever someone targets you like this its mostly out of jealousy factor.
I was bullied at work and out of my job and developed heart failure which I think was the result of the prolonged stress. I think it has taken 20 years off my life. That was about 25 years ago, but I recently looked back over the file of events and felt all the stress again.
I'm from Canada. What is your advice? Same here being bullied, mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for over 12 years. I've happened to be the top worker for 38 years and have never been suspended. These bullies are jealous and miserable people. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, I drink, I'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. The biggest mistake since they removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroyed my reputation. I will never quit to make these lazy bums ever win. If I decide to transfer to another hospital and may start gaslighting, smearing and bullying me once again, I don't know all the new managers etc. like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. I will never let bullies try to control me from quitting. Just don't react and not try to defend yourself which will only go back and forth making me look even more guilty. Action always speaks louder than words. Just best ignore them and find another easier target. Never let these low life lazy coward bums ever win.
Im sorry you had to go through all of that. Everyone experiences effects of being bullied, and for you you experienced heart failure. These bullies know how dangerous their actions and verbal abuse is doing to us but I think it’s because they’re already mental, so they like to drag others down to their misery. For me, I got bullied and mobbed at a warehouse, and in return, I developed auditory hallucinations (schizophrenia) for the first time ever last year 2023. I still am suffering the hallucinations here and there but it’s way better now this year. There are so many mental illnesses and even physical illnesses, that is victims, receive after getting bullied heavily. But in the end, the universe will balance this all out. People will get what they deserve.
I'm bullied every day at work they think it is ok to make fun of someone just because they have different views than mine they make a point of letting me know everyday that I am not respected I realised recently that I lowered my standards way too much to work at my current job and that is why I'm in this situation . It is really all my fault
Sometimes you do that and if it’s a narcissist they DO not respect boundaries. In the other hand those who bully are insecure and envious and feel that you may “take their job” so they HAVE to make you look bad. No, not everyone is a narcissist. Also there is workplace mobbing by multiple people.
Got that right, they do not like desirable people, they do not like smart people, they actually do not like people with integrity unlike them. They portray themselves as smart and interesting and play Hollywood movie set scenarios at work that are supposed to make them look interesting. They are total fakes too, let me tell you, I found everyone knows at that workplace exactly what kind of losers they are. They cheat at work, while actually pretending to have normal family lives, they just make you sick. The behavior of such men and women that harass me has gone to the point where they just pick the biggest loser and tell stories as if I am like that person. And I hate using the word loser, because they use stories about people who have had really nasty things happen to them. A sane intelligent person will never ever even get into the positions they get into. A sane intelligent person also knows very well that he or she deserves way better in life than to have such fake friends or heaven forbid hook up with one of them. They are lame, aggressive, and the life path they are on is not my life path, I have completely different goals and my life path is totally different from theirs. They go so far to aggressively get into my way at work, they all work together, they make up the nasties loser stories about me all day long. They just enjoy hurting people.
I have been treated unfairly in one location. Forced to transfer to another location where I tried to prove that my transfer was not justified by working hard but within comfort zone. That led to one of the most worse 8 months especially the last 3 months. Group harassment, bullying, intimidation and mobbing. I posted to this video previously but It got deleted because I provided a link to my article on linkedin. If you care to read, link is in my profile.
i have been working in a work place where the higher people dont like me and is the worst toxic experience ever i had a mental breakdown and my health is suffering just the thought that i have to go back make me feel sick and i cant stop shacking
Watching this video as my boss threatens to cut my hours for having an allergic reaction at work to pain medication that got prescribed because the nature of my work is strenuous as hell
I work in a company in Belfast , why I didn't leave before thing went wrong. Many years of redundancy and other companies going through the same the sector I worked in had no jobs I could move to and I was the financial provider for my wife and children. After years of verbal abuse and poor working conditions and multiple mental health breakdowns I am unemployed from a career I loved from a company that could not even honour the contract they agreed which is not a surprise because when they were reducing wages by 10 percent they were taking delivery of their new cars and holidaying on the other side of the world . When you have a breakdown because of working conditions and issues, what help can you get . Maybe the labour relations agency. Think again because that won't happen. What about the law society , well there is no provision if you contacted them to provide you help even though you pointed out the reasons.... so you are on your own . The issue is you are going through a mental breakdown and have possibly tried to hurt yourself and the company you work for doesn't care because even though you have been part of the organisation for many years you are a nothing to them . Why didn't I leave, I wish I could go back and leave so I am not this person
LEAVING IS THE REASON WHY BULLYING AT WORK STILL EXISTS !! We need new laws ! Unite and really fight for nicer treatment, respectful managers, no bias LEAVING WONT CHANGE ANYTHING, YOU WILL BE REPLACED BY SOMEONE ELSE THEN THEY WILL BE BULLIED AND NEXT PERSON AFTER NEXT PERSON AFTER NEXR PERSON
They always advise to talk to your manager or HR. They are the BIGGEST BULLIES! Be tactical and strategic. Most of all prioritise yourself and your health. I know it’s easier said than done.
Life is too short to tolerate bullies - don't hope it will just get better without action - it won't. Talking about real major league dark-triad vampires, void of peace within obviously, feeding on others to sustain. A slave to codependence of leeching the energy of others. There's too many opportunities to sell your soul in a toxic longterm situation that is pure numbness and depersonalization of memory come the end of life. Certainly not the highlight and yet extremely costly of your life time. Be bold, speak what you need to speak, but especially live how you really need to live to making a living - sleeping well at night, arranging the situation to better fit your longterm wellbeing. Always map it out, hone in, sharpen best you can, what you need.
It's mostly from managers, they have power, business will always support the manager over staff. Power corrupts. Unless there are clear procedures and process, not too many managers, things will be easy. Otherwise, bully never stops.
People fall into the most supid vibe ever of copying bullies to win as in copy every word they say back to them. That supid game can ruin your whole life.
This goes on all over and when you report it they dont want to know coz its too much hassle for the company they just want to brush it under the carpet
Calling it bullying makes it sound like we are all still in middle school. It is much sinister than that because the target is not just your self-confidence but your entire livelihood and future. There is no superior authority like principal or teachers you can complaint to. You are all alone. I understand that it is hard to navigate bullying when you first face it because i know i didn't know what to do either when i first faced workplace bullying even after having many years of experience. It is always advisable to collect some evidence of bullying because companies will always try to bury it so their brand is not spoiled and please understand HR is there to protect company brand name not your career. In my case i missed to collect proper evidence like derogatory comments made by the manager and claiming my ideas as his but making complaints about my competence behind close doors and so on. People need to be aware of group bullying as well and if you are a new person and your co-workers have a long history of working together your word won't have any weight without any real evidence. It is borne out of insecurity and fear of losing to a new person with skills.
I was in that position. Diaries didn't help and I would have no one to help me there. Always use text and don't engage in direct contact without recording secretly. While you won't be able to use that as evidence in court, it can be used to make you believe and make the public aware. I regret that I haven't done that.
I remember when i was in my teens, my mum used to send me to the market to buy stuff for her. I came across a store colleague who smack another colleague on the head and honestly i could tell right there the guy was being bullied.
Help with Bullying = appreciated. But just where the h-ll do i get it from? Asking for some solidarity-showing, no matter how small - literally just showup&drop-comment&leave is too much to ask, not to mention tohe bot-paranoia is making people think i ask soooo often i muuuust be a bot. Yeah, a bot asking to call a specific Karenn out for mobbing disabled peoplee and playing victim cause duh: It's a karen !
I'm 2 years into my bullying. I made complaints to my manager, my people leader, a team leader. Problem is I never recorded any of it. But it's hard when it happens all the time, every day. How to grab any one instance. This one? but if it happens again, do you use this one? or this? Or this? You end up feeling overwhelmed with trying to pin it down. What about the small instances? The one you feel silly even bringing up. That still counts. Many, many times workplace bullying is small everyday things that build up over time and when you do finally seek help, you can feel embarrassed when that ask why it took so long or when you bring up an instance it doesn't seem big or important when you read it out.
Hello, I have got my dream job and salary but I am also being a victim of workplace-bullying here. Also, if I leave this job, I won't get even half the salary that I get in this company. Also my seniors are putting a lot of work pressure on me.
There’s a lady at my job that’s really mean. First I thought it was all just in my head but I see they wasn’t the case. Then I thought “Hmm maybe I’m too sensitive?” Now I realized that also isn’t the case. I’m new at this job (this is my third week) and recently moved back to my home a little over three weeks ago. I noticed this woman looking at me with pure hatred. I didn’t know her (like I said, I’m new), haven’t done anything to her. This obviously made me uncomfortable. So I told myself, “I’m going to stay away from her and just do my work” Sadly they’ve started to assign me to work in the same area with…yup, you guess it, her. 😕 I completed all of my work and my manager asked me to go downstairs and help her with hers. Of course, I didn’t want to help out someone who’s been giving me that look and making me feel uncomfortable but I went anyway, because I had a job to do. As soon as I asked her if she needed help (I had to interact with her to get the labels from her so I could help her finish her side). She gave me that same look again then blew up at me shouting “GO OVER THERE AND HELP HIM!” Not wanting to argue, I helped the other guy. She let this other girl (who’s also pretty mean) help her, which is fine, but kind of confirm there is a problem here. She also always seems to want me to mess up so she can say something. She’ll tell me about something I need to do even though I’m literally about to do it with that same look in her eyes. Just pure hatred. Today I needed more boxes so that I could put the leftover labels on them (my pallet ran out of them). I needed what we call a “pallet drop”. I look around to ask someone who would have a walkie talkie to tell them. Just my luck, there was no one around but…you guessed it…her. So by now, I’m thinking “Here we go 🙄 “ But I needed to do my job so I asked her “Do you have a walkie talkie?” She gives me that same horrible look then shouts “WHAT?!! 😡 IF YOU NEED A PALLET DROP YELL WHEN YOU SEE SOMEONE DRIVE BY!!!!” The machines were too loud, no one could hear me, that was the first thing I did. So ofc she walks away and another guy shows up and I ask him and he’s super cool about it. Point is, I don’t want to snitch on this girl, but she is making life at my new job really sucky. I can tell she is one of those girls that like to fight (physically and verbally) but I refuse to play into that. I don’t like to do either. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to snitch because I know there will be retaliation with other people involved. I think she may even be friends with one of the higher ups (saw them talking today). I wish they’d assign me to work with the group I was working with before. 😢
I think you have to dominate her psychologically, don't be mean, and don't be a bully back - just assert yourself and make it clear with your body language and tone of voice that the shouting and dirty looks aren't going to wash with you. Laugh at her.
When she ask you to move you should of stayed where you were Played deaf like you couldnt hear what she was saying the manager told you to work with her you were following orders. you were new to the job she was testing your Personality. Her or the boss wouldn't be able to hold anything against you because you were following orders.
If u can walk the hell out. U don't need that crap. Find somewhere better. When u start to have a breakdown in the parking lot that's when u know it's time to leave
I feel targeted at work. Made to feel incompetent although I've had very little training/opportunities. It's really destroying my confidence. I'm suffering, but I need my paycheck. Everyone there is related or are close, personal friends. I'm none of the above.
I was bullied at work. It was a white collar job with highly educated people. However the company did not talk to workers about bullying. I went to my manager three times. The bullying continued. A friend in another department got me to his department and the bullying stopped. By far one of the worst experiences in my life. There’s also the case where I was bullied bu an occupational therapist. I had undergone hand surgery. This girl gossiped about me. So the other workers joined in the bullying. They even broke hippa by discussing my sisters medical issues. I didn’t report it. Should have gotten away. I was hysterical before every appointment. Bullies are immature and have poor self esteem. Management needs to be more active in educating their employees and penalize the employees who bully.
What if everyone in the company I work for is a bully and stick together to protect the bully? My HOD bullies everyone in the office including me. He makes nasty comments, jokes and insults all the time, picks on me, blames me for many things. I am 22 weeks pregnant and even now he makes all these subtle comments aimed towards me together with my manager
I was lucky to not get bullied by my manager(s); but one of them wasn't being stern enough about certain boundaries not being respected; so the bullying never ended. The other was being blindsided by cultural bias or something. He refused to see how one's behavior was wrong. As if their demeanor was normal in their culture at work. It was like being in a little school clique. I hated being singled out, labeled and stereotyped as a freak and treated with so much ostracism and tribalism. They had the nerve to judge people about being fake when they're no different. Didn't help that i didn't speak Spanish. Only explanation is that they saw me as a threat. I was too scared to confront them and i regret it. I just have to trust that karma will get them and i will heal and move on.
My colleague is bullying me over and over and over again.. Almost every day in 24/7 and today on my way home I was crying my eyes out.. He really hates me and he wants to make my life a living nightmare. He always complains and no matte how hard I work, he's never happy.. Barely :-( I don't know what to do anymore😢😢 He's been bullying me for over a year and yesterday I almost fainted because I was so exhausted and tired😨
I was also bully many times but i cannot do anything they attack me like wild dogs....but the interesting part is that bully bully people stay on the job but i was kicked out everytime
I’m dealing with it at my job now. I have a coworker who is quite an ass... He’s very toxic. The funny thing is that I’m taller, bigger and older than he is. He has to look up to speak to me. But still... I’m working on how I’m going to deal with him. Frankly management wants to fire him. The only reason they haven’t yet is because we are super short on workers... Asking the Lord for guidance will be key.
Whenever you have to deal with this person, kill him with kindness. Make eye contact, smile, fold your arms for defensive body language. Ask him how his weekend was. If he's blowing up and having a rough day say something like "gee, are you having a bad day". Watch the toxic person crack overtime, because they can't handle positive people.
@@blacklambo It is what prisoners do. Just wish I'd have thought of that to do to a work place bully boss, trouble is I would have gotten in trouble for taking a break in the first place.
Imagine all the productivity and improved businesses there would be if unnecessary bullying was diminished. Good thing is companies with bullying don't survive eventually because workers go elsewhere due to the reputation. After you self reflect and realise it is bullying and not because of poor performance or an attitude problem, You must stick up for yourself each time they bully you and call it out. Joke back at their expense.
Sadly all the bullying I’ve ever been subjected to in my life came from baby boomers in the heritage railway sector when I was involved in it, they are the worst when it comes to this behaviour 😡😡😡
I find it brings the worst out in me and I can't function as a person,I'm bullied by alot of people in my work place,I can't sleep,I've with drawn from my family I don't know if I'm going to have a good day or bad from one day to the next.cant trust anyone.
Quit that job there are lot of other jobs. Don't need tolerate those morons.just curse them and leave that job and find another one. Yeah it may be hard but your mental well-being is more important or else depression will reach you. When depression reaches you can't enjoy anything. So change your job and tell that manager why you are quiting job if he asks you.
A bit late! Bullied for 10y then maliciously made redundant using covid as an excuse - just as i was going to HR/OCC HEALTH with this matter. This was done by a woman.
I was made to feel like I was being either too sensitive or when there was very clear cut evidence of bullying it was totally dismissed and ignored. This seems like it’s everyone’s story. I have developed PTSD from my experience and have been on months of work leave.
1:27....yess assuming its a reasonable request but so many managers twist the story when the big boss comes to talk to them and your advice is too talk to the manager? 3:25 ....when you already stated that 3/4 manager are the bully 0:32 basically it will never be resolved
People who do this to others deserve a long and painful visit from Karma.
Be assured that it happens to them in life, i have seen it myself
It's funny how schools and companies think that just letting the bullies and the victims sit in the same room and talk about the issue will solve the problem.
Would a judge recommend the same when it comes to a rapist or a abuser in a relationship sitting with his victim in the same room to discuss the problem? Certainly not.
That's one of the biggest misconceptions about bullying. Many people who never experienced it think it's harmless. Some even think that the victim brought it to himself because of being or acting in a strange way. And thinking that solving it by simply talking with both sides about it is ignorance in its ultimate form.
❤ Right ❤
God takes care of everyone even bullies
@@fallonrappaport5270 My friend commited sucide because of bullies. I hope she's in peace.
High school never ends
Workplace is worse than high school. At least teachers and principals will punish the bullies, at work the bullies are bullies cos they know they themselves are powerful or have powerful backing.
For we all are just aging teenagers.. with refined techniques
I have always said, we never really leave junior high!
@@davidcattin7006 They told me that 12 year olds just suck and everything would be soo much better after school. It has been worse if anything.
Workplace bullying is WAY WORSE than sexual harassment. I've heard many people say that. I myself experienced sexual harassment, and it paled in comparison to workplace bullying. Workplace bullying is when one person intentionally and repeatedly targets another specific person, with the aim of making that targeted person look incompetent or to drive the target out. The target usually suffers all the consequences, and the harasser/bully/abuser goes completely unpunished.
I’m actually going through that at work right now. And to think that I have to go through bullying on a daily basis at work in order to provide food and maintain a roof above my family’s head is totally messed up and beyond depressing.😔
Both jobs I have right now I'm being bullied
Totally agree.
I experienced both 😅
Sometimes, sexual harassment IS part of the bullying. If you are a guy, goodluck because no one will believe you.
It seems that often bullying behaviour is down to the psychological issues of the bully. Those with narcissistic, sociopathic or sadist tendencies tend to bully as if it's normal. I realised early on at work that bullying reflects the issues of the bully and not those that are bullied. I think this is an important point to make, and for those that are bullied to realise.
Wow that really helped me. Thank you. I am currently being bullied by a coworker and I don't know why.
It’s often the most hardworking, honest and loyal people that get attacked.
It’s upside down.
@@oldskoolordie Yep, people who come in and get the job done. If you're cheerful, watch out you'll become a target. Pretty sad really
@@Harry-fk5of. Wow. It’s amazing. Also the ones who don’t work hard get the perks and no reprimand. I’m speaking of a toxic workplace of course.
@@Harry-fk5ofSadly this is so so true
I was just bullied out of my work by an old woman. She made me feel so little everyday and it caused me to become depressed. I complained to the manager about it but they sided with her. The next day I was forced to leave because it made me that angry and miserable. No one should ever be bullied just for trying to make a living every day.
Women are the worst bullies. Male bullies at least are rational enough not to hinder work progress. Female bullies will just nuke everything and go scotched Earth just cos of her ego.
Some people are just pure evil honestly. I am so sorry you had to go through all that
In my case it was an old black man. HR didnt seem to do much, so i said he goes or i go. I then applied for a transfer and was accepted, but was fired 4 weeks later for threatening HR id do something physical to another coworker who was aggresively glaring at me as I walked by.
I was bullied by nasty bystanders after I was stalked by a young man at work. Since I was a desirable stalking target the women there started to bully me the worst.
They pretended I had a loser character and that I was not desirable, and made up stories about me which depict a total loser, of course. At the same time I learned eventually that it is them who are actually those losers.
@dm5129 yeah, that's gross. Basically they are envious of your attention.
I've been through my fair share of bullying at work. What you need to do is find another job and never be too friendly with your future co-workers. It may sound bad but there is a reason you get bullied, and it's normally out of your control. Be distant, cold, avoid staff parties and minimise the amount of face to face interactions with others.
I’m bullied at work, the bullies will constantly criticise my work and make me redo it multiple times. They’re all friends with the boss and will randomly disappear for long periods just so they can have a gossip.
Those kind of people seem to be busy with every thing and and everyone else but there work, still this are the ones how get the promotion because they now how to kiss ass
I was bullied for years.
It started straight away from senior management. Then colleagues attacked me for my work ethic.
The organisation was completely toxic and it turned out they were terrified of being exposed. Senior management tried to portray them as a world leader where in fact they were actually committing fraud right across the company.
When I eventually presented my evidence to HR they laughed at me, despite evidence of racism, sexism and physical threats/job security threats.
Colleagues initially listened but some told others, isolated me even further and sided with management.
The only answer is to leave, don’t do what I did and try and fight it.
I genuinely feel like most workplaces are dominated by sociopathic narcissists who create cliques destroying the entire organisation yet present themselves as the people who keep the organisation together.
This is why most people hate work. They don’t hate the job, they hate the managers.
Well said
I'm glad you did what was right for you! This sounds like a government dept. Only speaking from experience
Can you please message me on Instagram ?
Most managers are insecure to begin with this is why they Take on Theases sort of jobs so they can bring on their insecurities into the workplace. Sometimes school bullies growing into Adults Taken on a manager's job their Personalities have not changed.
I’m actually going through that at work right now. And to think that I have to go through bullying on a daily basis at work in order to provide food and maintain a roof above my family’s head is totally messed up and beyond depressing. Your experience is the main reason why I’m not gonna report my manager to HR, because I found out he’s been reported numerous times in the past and yet he’s still here as if nothing happened.
I once worked under a bullying boss for 2 years and lost complete confidence in myself but eventually came out of it after a period of 4 years
That stuff really messes you up
@Sandra-thinker24 Yes my Sandra. Only direct threatening to bully help.
My boss tried to bully me at work and always wanted to fight. One day I told him to stick his head up his rear and fight for air. He did nothing. They are all cowards.
Thats the funny part. When you finally match energy they become helpless.
I always say they have serious problems in their own lives they will never ever admit to. They take it out on others, and in my case people I would not chose to know on a private level.
most bullies are cowerds
I was bullied at the BBC by a Director. I’m going to tribunal. This led me to try and take my life earlier this year. This content is hard to take. Bullying at the BBC is rife.
So sorry to hear darling. Meditate and do self hypnosis to heal xx
This is reminding me of how my bully left my workplace and then went on to become the Mental Health Representative of their new work place.
100% true. Rife at every level. Highly jealous and spiteful women and some men. Entitlement 💯 deeply institutionalised. People of colour bent out of shape with resentment who sabotage other people of colour. A literal caste system re different races. It’s a mess.
Hope you had the support of a union rep - and that you got justice! Remember bullies usually go after people they envy or feel threatened by: those who are good at their job, popular and independent. I’ve known a lot of BBC staff - all the good ones got bullied at some point -and most of the ones who were unthreateningly average at the job but good at kissing ass got promoted!
I got PTSD from being stalked and being in an abusive marriage at the same time. Had to face two powerfully abusive men at the same time and that almost cost me my life. Not right away, but later when I started therapy for PTSD, I was so sick and I thought by taking my life I can get away from the illness of PTSD and the pain they caused me. I had to fight so hard for my freedom to get away from 2 very abusive men at the same time.
I am in a new role, and this one guy who everybody loves, bullies the new people, me being one of them.
Soon after I lost my Dad in a past job, I was being bullied and snapped.
I did a Hulk and smashed the place up, they were petrified, and when I think back it serves them right
The Police actually took my side, and were so kind and supportive to me.
@jessicaj9743 Kind words, but it feels like God enjoys watching me suffer.
It’s even led to suicide attempts and pleading for God to take me home.
These 2 others are being bullied, but sent as sensitive as me, but I go alongside them and encourage them.
I have nobody
Wow! Glad the police took your side instead of reactive abuse you further. Glad you stood up for yourself and hope you're doing better!
@@lemotheemonemo Your comment is amazing and healing 🙏❤️
@rectify2003 how are things going?
@ Hey, thanks for asking
Lifes changed a lot.
Actually a couple of life changing events
Having suffered bullying throughout my career. I look back now and see I had one big weakness:
1: Naivety.. I went in to positions assuming I just had to ‘do a good job’ and I would be treated well.
This naivety was only compounded by total lack of realistic advice when I asked for it - which was basically that same philosophy.
Looking back - I did not assess my surroundings at all.
I did not assess the characters of the people, or the power dynamics or the goals of the individuals and what they might be willing to do to achieve those goals.
I spent my whole time trying to do a ‘really good job’.
In retrospect doing a good job, is way way down the list of what’s important in many organisations. Look at who the people are, look at what their nature is, look at what their career financial plan is. Very very few people will ever care about your best interests. Most displays of help, collaboration etc are ‘performative’.
I just wish I had approached the workplace for what it is, a competitive environment, that is very often hostile. And sought training and support with this reality in mind.
Looking back I really was a lamb to the slaughter.
I believed all the ‘positive speak’ and was duped into sacrificing my time and my career advancement to help others.
I will also add, that I am very competent - most of my bullying came from people who saw me as a threat. It was not discrimination. When that wasn’t the issue, it was because I wouldn’t collude with the bullying of others, or allow my boss to pressure me into crossing picket lines. It’s called having principles. Toxic workplaces do not like that.
Absolutely spot on, this is exactly the case I've had as well. The actual job is minor compared to the social dynamics - any kind of autism, social anxiety, very introverted or what-not basically gets crucified without proper social support and grounding self-abundance and confidence to push back in ways we can. Work "culture" is often a massive roast and not the comedic well-intentioned kind but competitive fire for seeking approval to be advanced up the ladder by superiors. I notice the only ones actually mentally sustaining these dynamics have the sharpest wit about handling them, sometimes a barrage of comebacks is still a very unsustainable insecure position - sometimes pure silence is also the same. The sustainability of the individual (job isn't normally disrupting their sleep) seems to determine the real success of a "job" providing career advancement. This massive dichotomy between what values and principles are merely said and which are actually practiced as well.
@JimmyJaxJellyStax
Agreed.
I do think we are all in a process of learning.
When I can name the dynamic, it loses its power over me, once it’s lost its power, all the people like that, don’t seem to come into my life as much anymore.
I feel I am often the canary in the coal mine.. I feel it and get the brunt of it all first, years later I hear my colleagues all left eventually too.
@@annastone5624 everything you say I experienced the exact same. Feeling like a canary in the coal mine, doing an excellent job out of principle and always keeping my authenticity and integrity in check whilst underestimating other peoples readiness to act out of their own insecurities.
Very well put reflection. It's good to know that there are people out there with the same naivety who understood what needs to be done.
I hope you are in a good place. Thank you for sharing your reflections, help me a lot!
@@nori_yah Thank you.
That's great to hear. Yes we are not alone. I having an abusive upbringing is most of the problem. Never allowed to question their motives, while constantly trying to prove we are not guilty of a shred of selfishness, while they are the profoundly selfish ones.
I have always been bullied by women because of their jealousy. I dress well and have a professional conduct and women find that intimidating. I am not pompous and I actually lower myself to be accepted. My manager glares at me all the time as does her colleague. They speak rudely and curtly and I am trying to tolerate it but I can’t. I feel upset going into work.
I made the mistake of trying not to be shallow by making sure I didn't use my looks . I'm 42 now and just about making up for lost time. People don't realise that at lest 50% of looks is hard work anyway. And 20% at least is character, soul and spirit . So I advise you not to be grubbing around in the dirt with ugly souls. Use your looks to your advantage in a field that will reward you .
I love this comment..
“ I advise you not to be grubbing around in the dirt with ugly souls. Use your looks to your advantage in a field that will reward you”
I always put down my looks, dressed down, in an effort to stay safe. Now I realise the women that bullied me, will only really back down if you absolutely don’t let them make you smaller. They may still hate me, but now I’d choose their jealousy over their condescending superiority any day!
I’m older than you & for the first time in my life, I’m investing in wardrobe and grooming. No more making myself small for them! I also really like what you say about the 50%.. yes.. and really it’s that self-care that’s so so powerful.
Do not lower yourself. Do not put yourself down. I repeat. Do not put yourself down by any means. That's like showing a red flannel to a bull who just had a joint and a bottle of vodka. Never do that. It's a green light to be bullied. They hate you bc you are competent, good-looking and nice. Be nice, be distant. Do not act friendly with them. And if you did, stop right away. Do not talk to them unless absolutely necessary. If they start bullying you, turn around and walk away while they're talking
@@KantoCafe715 same thing is happening with me
Oh yeah, if I have a really nice outfit on all the women are jealous. I do not have star looks, and I am getting older. They walk around all day giving each other sweet compliments and try to make me sound like I am old and ugly.
My daughter is being bullied at her job! She works in the medical field, and she is a hard worker goes above and beyond volunteers to work extra! She has not had a proper orientation. In fact, the preceptor is the bully. She’s been given too much power managers have came and left, staff members have left in a short timeframe, travelers do not stay at this medical facility. I have one thing to say about this I am helping my daughter file a complaint. I’m also taking measures to help protect her mental health as she has been depressed, came home crying and it’s been one thing after another. She has taken the abuse for eight months now. I say to you bully no more.
I was bullied through all of my working life. It was all kinds ... being called weird everyday because my accent didn't fit with the elites' accent of my boss, being told everyday that if I don't take on more and more workload, they couldn't afford me, sexual harassment, calumny, being shouted at, talked down to, and so much more. There was no way I could file a complaint because I'd have ended up without a job. I always ended up having to leave, only to find other bullies in the new workplaces. Eventually, it affected my mental health so badly that I'm now agrophobic, afraid of my own shadow, with severe PTSD and anxiety issues. When your pay cheque is a necessity that you and your family depends on, to have to suffer such cruelty in the workplace must be the worst of crimes. And yet, it's still happening everywhere in some form or another and these bullies always get away with it.
Take care Simone.
@@stubect Thank you. xx
I'm in that same boat, I'm in a field that is socially demanding And it's the only way I know how to make a living, I normally either get fired or they make it (bullying) really bad so I end up quiting ...I'm going threw this again with the new company now and it's on a higher scale...the job itself pays well, have awesome benefits 👏 off the phones, set schedules work mon threw Friday 7 to 3:30 with weekends off, it's a huge corporation so we get all bank holidays off plus it's a hybrid schedule meaning i work 3 days in office two at home it's hard to say goodbye to this after all i been threw, I been doing well with the work and my production but despite all it offers I find myself in the same delima I'm always facing ostracized, left out, made fun off ..no one wants me seated by them...I will quit this job get another good one and the same thing happens this has been happening to me sense i started working as a teen and here I am in my 50s nothing has changed...this time I wanted answers so I started to go seek counseling and got no help in fact they gave up on me and refuse to help me any more 😢 a doctor thinks I'm autistic and I think that's it also 50 years of rejection and unhappiness I just want to know why..and try to fix my life to fit the issue
@@datnohi8612 I'm sorry you also had to go through that. I understand completely where you're coming from and it's NOT your fault! Sometimes I think it's just fate ... we all have a cross to bear and no matter what we do, we just need to work through that nasty Karma. Really sad that you have such a good job but are being bullied. I would leave and try my luck elsewhere anyway. I'm also in my 50s, so nothing's going to change at this stage, is it? I still prefer peace of mind to any perks I'm offered. In fact, I'd rather be poor than have to put up with bullying. It will only ruin your health!
The bullies don't get away with it. They eventually get caught. Weather it take months or years even a decade or more they get caught and their reputations are ruined.
Its the absolute worst when you find out your bully is in cohorts with your boss. Its hard to take any kind of legal action if you have no job. Every place I have worked ever has said that they have a no retaliation policy and if you speak with someone about what is going on it would be confidential but it never is. So you just get stuck getting bullied without saying anything about it in order to get your paycheck.
I’m not sure if it’s the case in US law but in U.K. law we can take employers to court for constructive dismissal if your bully is in cohorts with your boss. Regardless of a company’s policy they aren’t above the law and would lose in a tribunal and be forced to review their policy.
@David the problem is proving it, managers have access to the evidence you need and it will go missing. Often the punishment for raising a bullying issue is worse than the punishment for bullying because management don’t want to acknowledge that bullying is taking place on their watch, because they would have to do something about it and they don’t have the training to deal with it. But they know how to deal with those who speak out and so punish the victim.
@@custossecretus5737 that’s why you need to join a union. I was speaking with a colleague and we are now going to record stuff so there’s no getting out of it. They did a background check on those in charge of us and the corruption goes right up to government. I can’t give too much information on that without giving away where I work but let’s say my boss is very much connected with their feet well and truly under the table. If they try and get rid of me I’m taking it all straight to the press and blowing the lid on it all.
On a bright note in the past my bullies usually wind up quiting.. I think they are kind of like miserable suicide hate bombers.. so eventually they go away
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It is difficult to explain to loved ones that you have experienced abuse at the workplace. You simply suffer it in yourself and get sick. Psychological and physical recovery lasts from 2 years to 6 years in my case. People around me make fun of me because I'm unemployed, but they don't know the reason for my dismissal is the violence I experienced from swearing by my colleagues, throwing things at me, they gave me more work, they denied me breaks and food, they left me overtime while they others went home, I was so exhausted, I had injuries from overwork as well as mental breakdown from harsh words, I can't describe to you the evil I saw and experienced what people are willing to do for a little money.
I’m so sorry!! I’m glad you have compassion for yourself, that is so appropriate.. well done! It’s easy to blame ourselves. But with compassion and kindness, I believe you will find your way to a better future.. I wish you lots of luck 🌸
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Sadly I can relate very well :(
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Bullying starts at the corporate level: imposing intentionally unrealistic standards from top down to squeeze productivity. Seems simple, but that's where most bad attitude arise.
I work for a small business. I’ve been there for a while. I ran my own crew for the last two years and I struggled trying to even tell people what to do. Then then now this year, someone came back that were around 2 years ago. And everything is happening all
Over again. If he’s struggling and I can help. I don’t even want to
Speak up
And tell
Him what’s wrong bc I’m afraid. He will freak out. This work bullying stuff is real as it can get.
I can’t even talk to the manager about it cause he is also one of the bullies! 😢
Your not alone 😢
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Sorry to hear that ☹️☹️. Hope you get out of this situation soon and find a better job with a better manager 🙏🙏.
And the worst is that HR never helps in that cases... They're part of the problem...
what are you gonna do about it?
@@Stayler17 nothing, i left and left a review on glassdoor. nothing else could be done
Yes, filing a complaint with HR may or may not be affective but I know what will be effective is filing a complaint with the accreditation governing bodies, and other entities. My advice to bullies are your days are numbered, and your time is coming to answer for your actions. How dare you mistreat others through your bully tactics and your unprofessional behavior. This cannot keep happening.
I was bullied by a a manager at Michael’s, it caused so much harm to my mental health.
I am bullied right now as a CNA at work, my mental health is worse than it has ever been before, they sabotage my work and put me in dangerous situations and even got me beat up by a PT and didn't call for help or press any alarms for me. GOD HELP US ALL this is truly a nightmare and don't want to become suicidal again, GOD help us all❤❤
the biggest problem is that HR is not on the employees side. they are hired by the company to work for the company and their efforts will only be damage control for the company, not support for the victim. Always remember who butters HR's bread.
Never complain to HR, it'll only make things worse. HR themselves are the most toxic people in any company
Im being bullied at work and it sucks . They have so much power you would think that they would use their power for good
I have come across bullies at work. The laughable thing about them is that no one likes them.
I was bullied at work as a young worker just starting out in the 1980's. I'm still cut up inside that I let him get away with so much, and that I can't find him to get some legal justice. I was called names, shouted at, grabbed physically, given arduous tasks that weren't my responsibility,etc. The boss and owner of the business, just did nothing.
I eventually left to get away from it all, but realised I couldn't get away from the anger and long term effects.
Now that I'm physically fit and better able to stand my ground, I just wish I could find this bloke and just, I don't know, make damn well aware that it wasn't ok.
It was a long time ago, but it sticks in your memory.
I get it, but you really have to let it go. Just know that you will never put up with it again, it was a lesson learned. Sometimes for whatever reason we're given these lessons in life, you're a stronger person now and perhaps that time in the 80's is partially the reason. I'm sure that bully is pretty miserable
Bullying is what we call it when we’re kids, in adulthood it’s a form of toughening people up mentally and physically.
I was bullied by this one female at work. For whatever reason she hated me and would tell lies on me to other people, etc. She was really mean and evil.
Help with Bullying = appreciated. But just where the h-ll do i get it from? Asking for some solidarity-showing, no matter how small - literally just showup&drop-comment&leave is too much to ask, not to mention tohe bot-paranoia is making people think i ask soooo often i muuuust be a bot. Yeah, a bot asking to call a specific Karenn out for mobbing disabled people and playing victim cause duh: It's a karen - that makes sennnsee
I used to work at a place where HR targeted me and I was basically bullied out of the company. Hope karma gets them.
I’ve been through this. It is very painful. And they get away with it. My last employer gave me bad references to prospective employers - the same employer who tolerated the bullying and did nothing about it. Hurt me financially and mentally.
Well. They WILL reap what they sow. You don’t need to SEE it. They may act like all is ok but they could be going. But we gradually move forward.
They don't teach you at school about narcissistic people and young adults who never grow up because if they did ...... you probably wouldn't work 😢😢
It is quite sad. I just hope people can have the strength and support. Hope no one has to go through it 🌻🌞
Idk what to do my managers talk crap about me to the employees. I’ve seen it with my own eyes, people at my job don’t really like me they just are nosy. I’ve put myself out there and they don’t want to talk to me because I set boundaries with all them. I don’t chase people if you don’t talk to me, I don’t want to open up to you. I deal with passive aggressive people all day, people are not who they say they are fr. I don’t talk about anything personal and i made up some excuse to explain why. Then from there I noticed a shift. I’m unhappy because people like to pick on me, I don’t mind defending myself but I don’t deserve it.
Im in the same situation seems if your not in the creepy clicks and your your own person your picked on, they are weak people.
I’ve been subjected to bullying in nearly all work places I’ve been to. I am dyslexic and I often find it hard to voice myself properly. In my current position I get a lid of misandrist comments made towards me if I do something they don’t like or doesn’t look good to them, I get belittled, I’ve had people throw me under the bus saying they’ve asked me to do something and they haven’t. My job when I was in supported living I was attacked and my boss stitched me up and fired me to cover up I got attacked and there were no risk assessments and no extra support for workers when the client should of had two workers on shift at any given time and he tried to get into my room when I was sleeping to sexually assault me. I’ve been subjected to religious discrimination because my boss didn’t like me going to church on a Sunday. I have a bad back from that job because they wanted me to store salt in a very small room and the ceiling height was about up to your chest. I’ve found work life extremely hard and I can’t give up because I’m the bread winner. I have a joint mortgage and a son with learning disabilities.
I am so sorry. Keep acting with professionalism and keep your head held high. Its hard because if you go to try to file a grievance or to possibly get justice..... usually that includes loosing your job and when the job is the only way you have to survive.. its just really hard. A very hard decision to make to reach out for help. But if you ever want to id contact the department of labor where you live.. and contact whomever regulates proper working conditions about the salt room.
@@rebeccawills8697 it’s difficult as there aren’t many decent jobs that show up in my area, certainly ones I’m qualified to do. We have the HSE which oversees government legislation. The job where the salt room is I lost because that boss stitched me up when I got into engineering and said I could carry on during weekends but then employed someone else behind my back. I had no union at the time so it’s now difficult to prove as it was quite a few years ago now. My current job I’m just keeping records of everything I hear. I have ears in the place so I know when things have been said that probably shouldn’t of been. I’m in a union so will take them to court if they try anything. They don’t realise how much I’ve got on them. Those causing the issues don’t use the channels of communication I’ve given them they just moan when stuff isn’t getting done but I’m they don’t ask so they shoot themselves in the foot really.
I'm so sorry you went through all this. This is not ok at all and you didn't deserve any of this. Some people just can't act their age and are very sick in the head which leaves them to lead very messed up lives. It will catch up with them eventually. This type of behavior only extends and they will end up making them same mistake somewhere else and get caught.
@@ozzibear I’d like to think so but I’m yet to see people like this get their comeuppance. I’ve seen corruption in every profession I’ve worked in right the way up to government. There’s no active agencies that go after these people and put them inside or heavily fines them.
@@daviddoyle2085 Believe it or not, the ones who know of this criminal lack of justice is child abuse survivors. Most of the people who abused them hold great public regard. Yes, even those who prey upon their own children. Most live a cushy life. People tend to side with their story. Or defend them. Or believe them. The victim frequently sees no justice, ever. All of this is connected and points to an unspoken sickness deep within humanity.
It started with one dominant senior figure in my workplace, who of course was close to management. He wouldn't ever bully me to my face, it was all done through the rumor mill.
He spread untrue rumors about me, tried to turn people against me with lies, pointed out minor flaws (such as not being sociable when tired... who is?) to those who liked me, etc. It got to the point where he lied to the manager that I can't do my job after supervising me, I'd been there for 4 years and did my job well.
The manager said he was surprised but it was probably best if I was dismissed, 'regretfully' saying I just didn't fit in anymore. I was casual so couldn't do anything about it. On my way out the bully gave me a farewell card in front of everyone. I was a shadow of myself when I left and was actually quite relieved to see the back of the place, had it been now I would have outed him as a bully on my way out.
I'm still working out how it's affected my mental health, but I think the best way to deal with a bully is to laugh at them. Just laugh and don't show them that it hurts. Also, stand up for yourself and out them, to their face. But most of all don't take it seriously, literally laugh at them because they're genuinely quite sad people. These are things I will do if it happens to me again.
I'm having this from a huge respected company, management ect all in on it. I've done nothing to anyone I'm always polite. It's just raw discrimination mass actually I'm talking a whole factory having a problem with me. I've denied so many rumours. Honestly I genuinely could sue for this. My mental health and my personality is completely destroyed. And I genuinely hate people now. I'm trying so hard not to name and shame the company, if you go into the office with a complaint nothing will happen but you'll become talk of the place for years. I've not put a complaint in about anybody, I've never messed about with anyone I'm so angry
Bullying is insidious and as this video says can be difficult to pin down. Most of us want to give others the benefit of the doubt but when something feels off your instincts are normally spot-on, and it's rarely anything to do with your performance but with not being part of the gang, or because dominant toxic personalities within the workplace hierarchy have decided to make life difficult for you. Any form of difference - and it doesn't need to be a protected legal characteristic - can make you a target if it's the wrong kind of difference. I've never worked in an office where there hasn't been some form of favouritism and privilege being awarded for being part of the in-crowd.
This can happen to anyone. I'm a big gym guy, trained fighter. So, not easily intimidated. I joined a new team of people who from day one were not happy with the presence of a younger member of the team. They've spread lies around the business to other departments and I've become persona non grata. People who would have stopped and had a chat now look up, see its me and look away. I've approached management and HR about it and they are hopeless. Sad to say, but my best advice is just swallow your pride and move on.
At the start of my career I wasn’t really good and confident in my work thats why my self worth was hitting rock bottom. I didn’t realize that I was being bullied at that workplace because I wasn’t aware of workplace bullying. A colleague used to put my efforts down infront of seniors and at times I couldn’t say anything. I didn’t realize that colleague was intentionally targeting me because there was a time when my performance got better and CEO started praising me and that colleague couldn’t tolerate that. I could see that on her face. Some people can never see others flourishing. I believe that whenever someone targets you like this its mostly out of jealousy factor.
I was bullied at work and out of my job and developed heart failure which I think was the result of the prolonged stress. I think it has taken 20 years off my life.
That was about 25 years ago, but I recently looked back over the file of events and felt all the stress again.
I'm from Canada. What is your advice? Same here being bullied, mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for over 12 years. I've happened to be the top worker for 38 years and have never been suspended. These bullies are jealous and miserable people. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, I drink, I'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. The biggest mistake since they removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroyed my reputation. I will never quit to make these lazy bums ever win. If I decide to transfer to another hospital and may start gaslighting, smearing and bullying me once again, I don't know all the new managers etc. like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. I will never let bullies try to control me from quitting. Just don't react and not try to defend yourself which will only go back and forth making me look even more guilty. Action always speaks louder than words. Just best ignore them and find another easier target. Never let these low life lazy coward bums ever win.
@@eightiesmusic1984 Thank you. I agree.
Im sorry you had to go through all of that. Everyone experiences effects of being bullied, and for you you experienced heart failure. These bullies know how dangerous their actions and verbal abuse is doing to us but I think it’s because they’re already mental, so they like to drag others down to their misery.
For me, I got bullied and mobbed at a warehouse, and in return, I developed auditory hallucinations (schizophrenia) for the first time ever last year 2023. I still am suffering the hallucinations here and there but it’s way better now this year.
There are so many mental illnesses and even physical illnesses, that is victims, receive after getting bullied heavily. But in the end, the universe will balance this all out. People will get what they deserve.
I'm bullied every day at work they think it is ok to make fun of someone just because they have different views than mine they make a point of letting me know everyday that I am not respected I realised recently that I lowered my standards way too much to work at my current job and that is why I'm in this situation . It is really all my fault
That's a good point, actually. Lowering ourselves to work with imbeciles , is at least 5% our fault. We can learn and not do it again.
The true problem arises when they develop an obsession and dependency on bullying you.
You have to put a stop to workplace bullying a millisecond after it starts otherwise it is extremely difficult to make it stop.
Sometimes you do that and if it’s a narcissist they DO not respect boundaries. In the other hand those who bully are insecure and envious and feel that you may “take their job” so they HAVE to make you look bad. No, not everyone is a narcissist. Also there is workplace mobbing by multiple people.
@@simplymetwo9370
True. They are part of cliques who support each other. Targets are isolated and nobody believes them.
Bullies are jealous losers. They have low self-esteem and they want to make sure they take it out on others
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Got that right, they do not like desirable people, they do not like smart people, they actually do not like people with integrity unlike them.
They portray themselves as smart and interesting and play Hollywood movie set scenarios at work that are supposed to make them look interesting.
They are total fakes too, let me tell you, I found everyone knows at that workplace exactly what kind of losers they are. They cheat at work, while actually pretending to have normal family lives, they just make you sick.
The behavior of such men and women that harass me has gone to the point where they just pick the biggest loser and tell stories as if I am like that person.
And I hate using the word loser, because they use stories about people who have had really nasty things happen to them.
A sane intelligent person will never ever even get into the positions they get into. A sane intelligent person also knows very well that he or she deserves way better in life than to have such fake friends or heaven forbid hook up with one of them.
They are lame, aggressive, and the life path they are on is not my life path, I have completely different goals and my life path is totally different from theirs.
They go so far to aggressively get into my way at work, they all work together, they make up the nasties loser stories about me all day long. They just enjoy hurting people.
I have been treated unfairly in one location. Forced to transfer to another location where I tried to prove that my transfer was not justified by working hard but within comfort zone. That led to one of the most worse 8 months especially the last 3 months. Group harassment, bullying, intimidation and mobbing. I posted to this video previously but It got deleted because I provided a link to my article on linkedin. If you care to read, link is in my profile.
I was bullied at work for the last 4 months and I lost my job because of it. HR doesn’t want to know or help
i have been working in a work place where the higher people dont like me and is the worst toxic experience ever i had a mental breakdown and my health is suffering just the thought that i have to go back make me feel sick and i cant stop shacking
im a US nurse whose bullied daily in a pulmonary clinic
For me horrible bully someone, this should be considered inaceptable for all companies.
HR will also back the bully boss
Watching this video as my boss threatens to cut my hours for having an allergic reaction at work to pain medication that got prescribed because the nature of my work is strenuous as hell
I work in a company in Belfast , why I didn't leave before thing went wrong. Many years of redundancy and other companies going through the same the sector I worked in had no jobs I could move to and I was the financial provider for my wife and children. After years of verbal abuse and poor working conditions and multiple mental health breakdowns I am unemployed from a career I loved from a company that could not even honour the contract they agreed which is not a surprise because when they were reducing wages by 10 percent they were taking delivery of their new cars and holidaying on the other side of the world . When you have a breakdown because of working conditions and issues, what help can you get . Maybe the labour relations agency. Think again because that won't happen. What about the law society , well there is no provision if you contacted them to provide you help even though you pointed out the reasons.... so you are on your own . The issue is you are going through a mental breakdown and have possibly tried to hurt yourself and the company you work for doesn't care because even though you have been part of the organisation for many years you are a nothing to them . Why didn't I leave, I wish I could go back and leave so I am not this person
LEAVING IS THE REASON WHY BULLYING AT WORK STILL EXISTS !!
We need new laws ! Unite and really fight for nicer treatment, respectful managers, no bias
LEAVING WONT CHANGE ANYTHING, YOU WILL BE REPLACED BY SOMEONE ELSE THEN THEY WILL BE BULLIED AND NEXT PERSON AFTER NEXT PERSON AFTER NEXR PERSON
They always advise to talk to your manager or HR. They are the BIGGEST BULLIES!
Be tactical and strategic. Most of all prioritise yourself and your health. I know it’s easier said than done.
They only support bullies who are part of a clique.
Life is too short to tolerate bullies - don't hope it will just get better without action - it won't. Talking about real major league dark-triad vampires, void of peace within obviously, feeding on others to sustain. A slave to codependence of leeching the energy of others. There's too many opportunities to sell your soul in a toxic longterm situation that is pure numbness and depersonalization of memory come the end of life. Certainly not the highlight and yet extremely costly of your life time.
Be bold, speak what you need to speak, but especially live how you really need to live to making a living - sleeping well at night, arranging the situation to better fit your longterm wellbeing. Always map it out, hone in, sharpen best you can, what you need.
It's when they play pranks on you, but don't tell you about the pranks.
Bullying is worse than just pranks.
Going through this for the past two years and it has taken a physical toll on me
It's mostly from managers, they have power, business will always support the manager over staff. Power corrupts. Unless there are clear procedures and process, not too many managers, things will be easy. Otherwise, bully never stops.
I am bullied at my current position now.
People fall into the most supid vibe ever of copying bullies to win as in copy every word they say back to them. That supid game can ruin your whole life.
This goes on all over and when you report it they dont want to know coz its too much hassle for the company they just want to brush it under the carpet
Something has to be done to stop workplace bullying
I’ve been isolated as punishment
Calling it bullying makes it sound like we are all still in middle school. It is much sinister than that because the target is not just your self-confidence but your entire livelihood and future. There is no superior authority like principal or teachers you can complaint to. You are all alone. I understand that it is hard to navigate bullying when you first face it because i know i didn't know what to do either when i first faced workplace bullying even after having many years of experience. It is always advisable to collect some evidence of bullying because companies will always try to bury it so their brand is not spoiled and please understand HR is there to protect company brand name not your career. In my case i missed to collect proper evidence like derogatory comments made by the manager and claiming my ideas as his but making complaints about my competence behind close doors and so on. People need to be aware of group bullying as well and if you are a new person and your co-workers have a long history of working together your word won't have any weight without any real evidence. It is borne out of insecurity and fear of losing to a new person with skills.
Absolutely. It is theft and attempt to murder.
@@999timepass Yep, they are nothing without the power and enablers.
I was in that position. Diaries didn't help and I would have no one to help me there. Always use text and don't engage in direct contact without recording secretly. While you won't be able to use that as evidence in court, it can be used to make you believe and make the public aware. I regret that I haven't done that.
Some of the darkest thoughts I've ever had were related to bullying
Currently being bullied indirectly at work 😥
I remember when i was in my teens, my mum used to send me to the market to buy stuff for her. I came across a store colleague who smack another colleague on the head and honestly i could tell right there the guy was being bullied.
How do you walk away if you have to pay bills and on a tight budget with no HR and everything managed by the same family?
Help with Bullying = appreciated. But just where the h-ll do i get it from? Asking for some solidarity-showing, no matter how small - literally just showup&drop-comment&leave is too much to ask, not to mention tohe bot-paranoia is making people think i ask soooo often i muuuust be a bot. Yeah, a bot asking to call a specific Karenn out for mobbing disabled peoplee and playing victim cause duh: It's a karen !
Me being a waiter but being relegated to polishing duty for weeks on end... because I once questioned one of the supervisors.
I have been bullied at work. My boss uses “performance management” as a way to do it.
I'm 2 years into my bullying. I made complaints to my manager, my people leader, a team leader. Problem is I never recorded any of it. But it's hard when it happens all the time, every day. How to grab any one instance. This one? but if it happens again, do you use this one? or this? Or this? You end up feeling overwhelmed with trying to pin it down. What about the small instances? The one you feel silly even bringing up. That still counts. Many, many times workplace bullying is small everyday things that build up over time and when you do finally seek help, you can feel embarrassed when that ask why it took so long or when you bring up an instance it doesn't seem big or important when you read it out.
Hello,
I have got my dream job and salary but I am also being a victim of workplace-bullying here. Also, if I leave this job, I won't get even half the salary that I get in this company.
Also my seniors are putting a lot of work pressure on me.
How are you now? I hope things got better for you. I’m currently experiencing the same things.
There’s a lady at my job that’s really mean. First I thought it was all just in my head but I see they wasn’t the case. Then I thought “Hmm maybe I’m too sensitive?” Now I realized that also isn’t the case.
I’m new at this job (this is my third week) and recently moved back to my home a little over three weeks ago. I noticed this woman looking at me with pure hatred. I didn’t know her (like I said, I’m new), haven’t done anything to her. This obviously made me uncomfortable. So I told myself, “I’m going to stay away from her and just do my work” Sadly they’ve started to assign me to work in the same area with…yup, you guess it, her. 😕
I completed all of my work and my manager asked me to go downstairs and help her with hers. Of course, I didn’t want to help out someone who’s been giving me that look and making me feel uncomfortable but I went anyway, because I had a job to do.
As soon as I asked her if she needed help (I had to interact with her to get the labels from her so I could help her finish her side). She gave me that same look again then blew up at me shouting “GO OVER THERE AND HELP HIM!” Not wanting to argue, I helped the other guy. She let this other girl (who’s also pretty mean) help her, which is fine, but kind of confirm there is a problem here.
She also always seems to want me to mess up so she can say something. She’ll tell me about something I need to do even though I’m literally about to do it with that same look in her eyes. Just pure hatred.
Today I needed more boxes so that I could put the leftover labels on them (my pallet ran out of them). I needed what we call a “pallet drop”. I look around to ask someone who would have a walkie talkie to tell them. Just my luck, there was no one around but…you guessed it…her. So by now, I’m thinking “Here we go 🙄 “ But I needed to do my job so I asked her “Do you have a walkie talkie?” She gives me that same horrible look then shouts “WHAT?!! 😡 IF YOU NEED A PALLET DROP YELL WHEN YOU SEE SOMEONE DRIVE BY!!!!” The machines were too loud, no one could hear me, that was the first thing I did. So ofc she walks away and another guy shows up and I ask him and he’s super cool about it.
Point is, I don’t want to snitch on this girl, but she is making life at my new job really sucky. I can tell she is one of those girls that like to fight (physically and verbally) but I refuse to play into that. I don’t like to do either. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to snitch because I know there will be retaliation with other people involved. I think she may even be friends with one of the higher ups (saw them talking today). I wish they’d assign me to work with the group I was working with before. 😢
Hi, I see your comment is two months ago, how are things going at your job now?
I think you have to dominate her psychologically, don't be mean, and don't be a bully back - just assert yourself and make it clear with your body language and tone of voice that the shouting and dirty looks aren't going to wash with you. Laugh at her.
Leave. Not worth it
When she ask you to move you should of stayed where you were Played deaf like you couldnt hear what she was saying the manager told you to work with her you were following orders. you were new to the job she was testing your Personality. Her or the boss wouldn't be able to hold anything against you because you were following orders.
If u can walk the hell out. U don't need that crap. Find somewhere better. When u start to have a breakdown in the parking lot that's when u know it's time to leave
I feel targeted at work. Made to feel incompetent although I've had very little training/opportunities. It's really destroying my confidence. I'm suffering, but I need my paycheck. Everyone there is related or are close, personal friends. I'm none of the above.
@jessicaj9743 I do leave my entire life in God's hands. Whatever will be, will be. I just put forth my best effort, and that's all I can do.
Always remember, if you reward bad behaviour, it continues.
Bullies don't care.
@@999timepass That's why it is so important to call it out.
I’ll be reporting my supervisor soon with a team of ppl.
I was bullied at work. It was a white collar job with highly educated people. However the company did not talk to workers about bullying. I went to my manager three times. The bullying continued. A friend in another department got me to his department and the bullying stopped. By far one of the worst experiences in my life.
There’s also the case where I was bullied bu an occupational therapist. I had undergone hand surgery. This girl gossiped about me. So the other workers joined in the bullying. They even broke hippa by discussing my sisters medical issues.
I didn’t report it. Should have gotten away. I was hysterical before every appointment.
Bullies are immature and have poor self esteem.
Management needs to be more active in educating their employees and penalize the employees who bully.
What if everyone in the company I work for is a bully and stick together to protect the bully? My HOD bullies everyone in the office including me. He makes nasty comments, jokes and insults all the time, picks on me, blames me for many things. I am 22 weeks pregnant and even now he makes all these subtle comments aimed towards me together with my manager
'how to tell if you're being bullied' ? Surely you already know?
I was lucky to not get bullied by my manager(s); but one of them wasn't being stern enough about certain boundaries not being respected; so the bullying never ended. The other was being blindsided by cultural bias or something. He refused to see how one's behavior was wrong. As if their demeanor was normal in their culture at work. It was like being in a little school clique. I hated being singled out, labeled and stereotyped as a freak and treated with so much ostracism and tribalism. They had the nerve to judge people about being fake when they're no different. Didn't help that i didn't speak Spanish. Only explanation is that they saw me as a threat. I was too scared to confront them and i regret it. I just have to trust that karma will get them and i will heal and move on.
My colleague is bullying me over and over and over again.. Almost every day in 24/7 and today on my way home I was crying my eyes out.. He really hates me and he wants to make my life a living nightmare. He always complains and no matte how hard I work, he's never happy.. Barely :-( I don't know what to do anymore😢😢
He's been bullying me for over a year and yesterday I almost fainted because I was so exhausted and tired😨
Start looking for a new job bless you 💙
FFS fight back, you have literally nothing to lose just remember that
Usually theirs a psychopath in the group that gets obsessed with you - run for your sanity!
We need real leaders who can deal with abrasive people.
I was also bully many times but i cannot do anything they attack me like wild dogs....but the interesting part is that bully bully people stay on the job but i was kicked out everytime
Managers protect the meanest of bullies bc they're afraid they'll be the next victim 😂
I’m dealing with it at my job now. I have a coworker who is quite an ass... He’s very toxic. The funny thing is that I’m taller, bigger and older than he is. He has to look up to speak to me. But still... I’m working on how I’m going to deal with him. Frankly management wants to fire him. The only reason they haven’t yet is because we are super short on workers... Asking the Lord for guidance will be key.
Just be toxic to him for 2-3 days and as management is short on workers nobody gonna fire you
@@patilabhinav7941 That wouldn’t solve anything. No, I don’t operate like that.
Whenever you have to deal with this person, kill him with kindness. Make eye contact, smile, fold your arms for defensive body language. Ask him how his weekend was. If he's blowing up and having a rough day say something like "gee, are you having a bad day". Watch the toxic person crack overtime, because they can't handle positive people.
@@shoot_the_glass5654 We actually just worked things out. Things are better now.
@@CDLClassA oh, good. 😀
Find out where bullies live and get revenge. Simples.
Get the hottest cup of coffee, walk by that bully, fake tripping over sumthin on the floor and dump it on that bully. Then apologize! Simple!
Correct
Make sure it is a black coffee and you stir plenty of sugar in to it, sticks and burns.
@@banana9106 Experienced, huh? 😂
@@blacklambo It is what prisoners do. Just wish I'd have thought of that to do to a work place bully boss, trouble is I would have gotten in trouble for taking a break in the first place.
Do this when you are about to quit or getting fired.
Imagine all the productivity and improved businesses there would be if unnecessary bullying was diminished.
Good thing is companies with bullying don't survive eventually because workers go elsewhere due to the reputation.
After you self reflect and realise it is bullying and not because of poor performance or an attitude problem, You must stick up for yourself each time they bully you and call it out. Joke back at their expense.
So terrible I spoke up every time and was ignored going through this currently now and being punished
Sadly all the bullying I’ve ever been subjected to in my life came from baby boomers in the heritage railway sector when I was involved in it, they are the worst when it comes to this behaviour 😡😡😡
Reduced hours yelled at demeaned infront of other coworkers very detrimental
I find it brings the worst out in me and I can't function as a person,I'm bullied by alot of people in my work place,I can't sleep,I've with drawn from my family I don't know if I'm going to have a good day or bad from one day to the next.cant trust anyone.
Quit that job there are lot of other jobs.
Don't need tolerate those morons.just curse them and leave that job and find another one.
Yeah it may be hard but your mental well-being is more important or else depression will reach you. When depression reaches you can't enjoy anything.
So change your job and tell that manager why you are quiting job if he asks you.
You need to quit, it's hard but your future self with thank you
I have been bullied, in M.r.H. By the most wonderful Díva, I was her subordinate, the Boss adored her.
A bit late! Bullied for 10y then maliciously made redundant using covid as an excuse - just as i was going to HR/OCC HEALTH with this matter. This was done by a woman.
I was made to feel like I was being either too sensitive or when there was very clear cut evidence of bullying it was totally dismissed and ignored. This seems like it’s everyone’s story. I have developed PTSD from my experience and have been on months of work leave.
Same experience, my boss told me I was being too sensitive and dramatic
1:27....yess assuming its a reasonable request but so many managers twist the story when the big boss comes to talk to them
and your advice is too talk to the manager? 3:25 ....when you already stated that 3/4 manager are the bully 0:32
basically it will never be resolved
Thank goodness there is a change in UK law. Unfair dismissal from day one, not two years
Makes you hate life
Say not to Bullying at work:
Keep a record.