Women CAN'T Do That Here!
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- We join Kimberly and TJ in the aftermath of their big fight. TJ has gone running off downstairs to complain to his family about Kimberly. "I loved her" he says... past tense. It's clear his family's perception of her is being heavily influenced, and just as she feared, Kimberly IS all alone. But, bizarrely, the next morning, TJ wants to act like everything is okay. He wonders upstairs acting like the blow up from last night never happened.
When Kimberly refuses to sweep it under the rug, she tries to explain her point of view but TJ isn't listening. Kimberly feels unheard. And now, as tensions start to build, he starts firing back at her.
TJ calls Kimberly out for her "disrespectful" language and rages at her for claiming there's a cultural gender bias in India. And * surprise surprise * that just sets Kimberly off again!
Oh boy. Have we actually seen TJ and Kimberly smile yet? How on earth are they meant to be getting married in a week?
👇 What are your thoughts? Let's continue the conversation down in the comments below.
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In this video I'm recapping TJ and Kimberly in 90 Day Fiance: The Other Way Season 5 Episode 4
I always wonder if people who decide to move to another country don't inform themselves about the culture and the living situation.
It boggles the mind 😳
I always hear them say is in America, but your somewhere else. I think before I packed up to move somewhere else I would have to research the country I’m moving too.
Passpprt lames are like this and the 304 who also do it as well
True but also as her spouse shouldn't he be informing and teaching her about his culture before she gets there. I mean it is a two way street ppl always blame it on the ppl that go over to these countries and that's not fair.
@@sumthin2talkabout True, what he did felt to me like he wanted to trap her there before he tells her everything. Cheap move
TJ's embarrassing. Kimberly's embarrassing. She needs to go home and this relationship needs to end. They're both astonishingly immature for 30+.
Tj hasn't done too many embarrassing things though.
@@LisaSoulLevelHealingbesides sleeping on a mat with his Mommy and not telling his fiancee that he expects her to be the house slave and wait on everyone hand and foot. Yep, old TJ is really on the up and up 😂
It's not immaturity as much as emotional disregulation
@@LisaSoulLevelHealing We clearly aren't watching the same show through the same lens lol
@@Lunchladydoyle she should have looked up the culture before moving there
TJ is a man baby and home girl needs to go home, they’re already fighting on the first day. him going to his family is ridiculous, that’s like the number one thing you don’t do when you fight.
Don't you think the family already knows what's going on lol?? I mean... She was only screaming at him, while being in the same house as them. It would be silly if he didn't tell them anything.
@@M0-niquehe didn't just tell them what was going on. He made himself a victim in a problem he knows he caused. Its a difference, he went to air out his grievances and get ppl on his team
I agree, he is a sneaky one , manipulated everyone.
Actually, this is normal in Indian families. It is a totally different situation!!!
He sleeps with his mother and asked her to come sleep with his mother! Why did he even invite her there if he wants to maintain that degree of closeness with his mom?
Wait until Kimberly finds out that she will be the one doing all the chores and cooking and taking care of the entire household.
this should be TV gold
Can't believe he didn't even tell her that beforehand, recipe for disaster 😬
Judging from the look of the house they just built,the family appears to be at least middle class. Everyond there has maids for cooking, cleaning,washing. You usually dont have to do it. But since she will bea housewive she will feel bored very soon because she cant go anywhere and it will take long until indian wives except her. They will be nice, but backbiting a lot. She needs to learn the language and see how she can adjust. It is not easy for westerners. I found it difficult and I am glad I never had to stay there for too long.
@@easypeasy7584 I respectfully disagree., she will be expected to do all chores and WILL NOT. Far better than trying to adjust, she needs to just LEAVE. As for the house they just built, a 7 year loan, apparently large, was used for that. Guy need to find someone ELSE to live in it.
@@albertfinney1328 She never will be fully accepted socially it is right that they will backbite about her and will be pointing fingers at her back. Unless she find a group of American expats indian women will not care about her in reality.
why are these dudes expecting foreigners to become Indian women? Like the compromise part has to be always on the women. Please just marry an Indian girl.
Nah forreal so many people are shitting on her for not being informed (which is earned; she should have learned more before she moved) and completely ignoring that TJ specifically chose an American woman with American ideals who he now expects to be a perfect Indian tradwife. But he's hiding that info from her because he knows she wouldn't agree and is hoping to wait until he thinks he has her trapped. They both suck.
Turkish guy married me, an American, then afterwards had a problem with me being too independent, outspoken and not ‘obedient’ enough … umm, then why didn’t you just look for a wife from around your way?! 👏
THANK YOU !! They always blame the woman like you should have a read book about the culture. You don’t know until you get there and these Patriarchal man-babies keep lying anyway.
Okay if she is having American ideals and raised American way then why didn't she give any money to him while building that house . I mean if she is independent and all why can't she fill her share ?.So he has to be in traditional gender role of giving money for the house but has she done anything but complain . Men are not expecting American women to be indian traditional women . So u r telling me there were no American women who had supported their husbands when they were lacking in something? Clearly a no I guess it's not American women or Indian women problem it's Kimberly . Usually women who has atleast struggled in life will know that having a house is a great thing before marriage.
@@Doc-hp5wf becouse this house is not her house and Tjs by documents. It would be strange if the girl gave money to someones relatives properties🤣
I'm supporting Kimberly 100%. As an Indian woman its unacceptable for me on do many levels. Please don't waste your time Kimberley.
@@marciestoddard730 exactly 💯
I bet you don't even stay in India.. Just some nri kid westernized isn't it. We don't claim all the watered down indians out there. So your opinion doesn't matter.
I find it so aggravating that people hide the truth about what is expected until the potential partner is already there. I hope she gets the heck out of there.
Bro she got a lot of cooking and cleaning to do so this is small compared to cleaning for the whole family 😂😂
Unless she’s a toddler then she should have did some research. But then again most women are grown children anyway.
@@flyingcrossbody4456 agree to disagree on that point.
@@flyingcrossbody4456 not every single woman in india becomes a housewife once she gets married. obviously she could have researched but he was actively hiding the fact that those were his expectations from her, i feel like if someone was open minded enough to date someone from a western country, you might assume he's maybe not as traditional. somehow blaming this on every woman and turning it into a misogynist comment is so weird lmao, especially since that statement is so blatantly wrong
@@LittleCatLisa we’re not talking about him we’re talking about her. Making a decision of that magnitude does not give any sensible person the luxury of assuming anything. You clams are all about avoiding accountability at all costs and this is no exception. She should have thought this through better plain and simple.
As an American born Indian woman, even a lot of us wouldn’t be okay with TJ’s demands and behavior. Kimberly isn’t totally innocent in this situation but he’s being ridiculous and infantile. Sure the culture does have expectations that are rooted in patriarchy but not everyone in our generation even born in India agrees with them.
Also boundaries don’t really exist in Indian families except maybe the upcoming generations in America who are working to create them firsthand
What demands?
you are not indian. plz stay out of it.
The guy is a voiceover artist, so its not rocket science to assume that he is not making a whole lot of money but her freaking out over not being a fairy tale castle is an overreaction dont you think? i mean, he did take a 7 year loan just to build this much. if she asked a simple question on how much do u make and can u support my lifestyle would have made things so much easier and lowered her expectations. lol
No hate but you're literally Americanized. You're so far removed from your culture that you're not even indian socially. So you could never get it
@@vivekjkumar5797 True, considering the effort and money he's already put in. Huge difference in perspectives due to cultural backgrounds. Difficult situation.
is this type of guy common in India?
Yeah her spirits need to guide her ass back home and maybe to a therapist....
Maybe that was the spirit guides plan. Kimberly so annoying 😂🤔😂
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How could she have lived there for a year and not seen how everything is? How women are treated, wives, daughters, even just people in the street..? How could you be so willfully ignorant and then claim you love it there. I just don't understand how she could be so blind and naive.
At this point she is acting stupid 😅
I completely agree. I think this whole relationship should have gone the other way to be sustainable- TJ move to the USA. Sending money back home to his family in India if needed probably would have been a better fit for both of them. And maybe then TJ would grow up a little bit.
that's true but being a tourist in love is a lot different than living in that culture as a prospective wife
I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt. I think he sold her a dream which turned out to be a nightmare. Think of it like this... You see a lot of crazy sh*t in America & you're like "couldn't be me or anyone I'm close to doing that"... That gives you a sense of reassurance. TJ now wasn't the same TJ when she previously came to India. She didn't see the relationship going this way cause she wouldn't have came the 2nd time. Simple.
@@barbaraHAngelnot an act
Do none of these people ever research the country, religion and culture they are leaving their life for? What a disaster!!!
Hello ,another person who thinks ! It's your responsibility to educate yourself . I'm flabbergasted by the arrogant and ignorant attitude .
Nope, they never do! How American of them 😂 and I am American BTW. I need them to do better.
Not at all 😂 then act soooo surprised 😅
Do none of the people who make this comment ever realize that the strict, Patriarchal males never tell their female partners they will be the family slave when they get there ??? It takes 2 and he STILL hasn’t fessed up that he expects her to take over cooking and cleaning for his mother. Your comment is so one sided it’s farcical. You can read about a culture for a year but if your partner is hiding what’s really up what difference does it make if you do research. FFS 😂
But this is a relationship both parts should be conscious of the cultural differences, and we can see in this shows is that one of the parts tend to lie and they don't say the things before, he told her she has to live with his family when she did arrive there, not before
TJ was wrong for airing their problems to his family but Kimberly shouldn't have yelled like that when her in laws were in the house. Especially when she was insulting the house. They both have some work to do.
Problem is the home is small and her yelling I am sure could be heard all over the neighborhood.
He shouldn’t have went and talked to them about it but if she had not been acting like a spoiled, mean, child it wouldn’t have even happened. India is not America and Kimberly lived there for a year before yet never bothered to acclimate into society, it shows by her expecting the apartment to look like an American apartment. He didn’t get a builder like we think of (a company) he had to get a person that does each specific job so things often don’t match up or work like you think they should. Also there people consider others lives like the guy that was doing the windows (I think windows) was ill and TJ didn’t want to insist on him doing the work as soon as possible. People there all live together which she is not going to like and her attitude is going to make everyone miserable. Expecting people in Their countries to accommodate you and change because that’s how it was in the US is wrong, if you can’t live like they do then don’t go.
He took out a loan to build the apartment which isn’t a norm there.
Just like the person doing this video thinks things should be there like it is here and if it isn’t it’s wrong, no what is wrong is expecting complete change simply because you decided to go to their country and live.
Would I want to live that way? No but I wouldn’t move there expecting a change for me.
What does Kimberly think she is going to do all the time there, spend her time talking with her “spirit guides”? He should have told her what would be expected of her, but once again she lives there a year and if she was an intelligent adult she would have seen exactly how his family and much of India lives.
She keeps saying no one listens but does she listen? No she continues to tell him her language is fine even though she said she cussed from an early age, that’s not ok.
Screaming at someone is not going to get you what you want. No matter how much they had talked about the apartment it is not going to ever be a American apartment.
I seriously doubt his mom was planning on sitting down and doing nothing but I have a feeling Kimberly planned on spending her time in her apartment and avoiding his family, that’s not going to work.
@danasandoval624 You're right. She expects things to be like they are in America but it's a different country and culture.
They do things different in India as u seen him laying in one bed with whole family
She shouldn't have yelled at him at all
@@benjamin48th The bed is appart my ex fiancé parents have different bedrooms to sleep separated from my ex . TJ is a rural man not exxposed o western mentality and she cannot expect india to be USA both are wrong. They can talk their problems with the parents and reach and agreement but should learn to clear things by themselves and no need arbitration from any side. If she avoid the in laws they will think that she hate them and will be worst for her instead opening her eyes to how live them.
TJ told her that he isn't her servant, yet he expects her to be a servant for the family.
It's called being respectful. Something u evidently lack
Not a servant , but these are their customs and traditions in India. Women participate in the housework and help the family.
@@honestbarcafan8259 Clearly you lack it as well given your disrespectful reply. Welcome to the club.
@@onyx081 ahh ofc speaking facts is now disrespectful to westerners 🤩
@NF-hh3qq That was TJ's words not mines..look at the episode again.
She lived there for a year on student exchange but she never realized what their culture is like? Girl, this is not riding your atv across the dunes - this is doing the housework and cooking and letting the men be the boss of everything..
Exactly. No thank you! I would never ever let that become my reality. Absolutely never.
Living a year in a student exchange has nothing to do with the life in an indian parivar (family). It is like saying that people who stayed in rishikesh for a while know about the indian culture 😂. Above all are indians very good at deceit, but making things appear differently for outsiders. You will first come to know once it is too late😂. And the way she has patted the old man on the head was very embarrassing. Never ever has she been there before. That was horrible.
Im an Indian women... You are wrong and stop justify oppression to women in thr name of culture.....it's just patriarchy, where most of the Indian women itself kind of fed up with that
@@easypeasy7584 All cultures put on a front, especially for tourists, but once you become a citizen it’s a totally different story.
The way he speeds off to his family like a disgruntled child running to his mama is both hilarious and concerning 😂 She's insane to put up with that, best of luck to her lol.
My ex was the same but he didn´t know that i used to call his Mama as well and give her my side of the situation. I tried to be reasonable and she appreciated she proceeded to speak her son to get him into his senses.
She chose it knowing what it entails. Too bad for her. Love India and everything about it. Including not making my Indian men feel inferior to entitled American and outside our local culture women
And wtf is she doing she’s not a saint either.
That is typical. He is mommas boy and she will tell him that he is right. Women always have to obey. She must know that. I was married to an indian, he never did that with me and nobody talked to me about such bullshit, but he got married again and there they had the full package. Once they argued, he calles his parents 😅. No idea why to upset elderly people with their relationship issue.
@@sandradsouza432 "She chose it knowing what it entails." how do you figure? He specifically said he did NOT tell her: 'Marry first then talk. ' She did not find out for herself, her 'fault' for having her head in the clouds, but she can still leave him--so far. God forbid she should stick around long enough to ''disgrace the family.'' Love all you will, it is not a safe or fabulous experience for women. That is clear.
This relationship can only end well if Kimberly leaves and they get as far away from each other as they were when they met online. If they get married, oh what a dumpster fire it will be. It is hard to watch two young people who have not, in any way, thought through all the intricacies of what they are trying to do. A domestic marriage is hard enough, why make it infinitely harder by making it international?
They are 30+ and behave like teens!
It irritated me when adults refer to themselves as boys and girls! As you said act like teenagers or younger. By 13/14 I wouldn't have been impressed if someone called me a girl! Do you also think 18 year olds are treated like teens, described as not or girl & not made to accept responsibility for their actions? It's bonkers to me, children ages 5 were in pitch black coal mines, leaving school in Victorian times at 12 & doing a full time job. The other day I heard about a 19 year old drink driving & cannabis impaired, well....he's still only a kid! (Insert annoyed face)
He's 19! An adult man
Just think, he hasn't even told her she needs to get up and cook and clean for the family, can't wait for that one to go boom.
😮but she should suspect that.
@@xiomaragomez6649 I think that if she watched the show before, she would know what awaits her. India is a country that preserves customs and traditions, but she can tell him that if you want a woman who does housework and lives with your family, he should marries an Indian traditional woman. She doesn’t has to change herself only because she will marry an Indian man and live in India.
These people are horrible for each other. It’s like adding gasoline to fire. One is immature and inflexible, the other uses spirituality as a cover for her bad, bad temper.
I’m not on TJ’s side anymore. I’m on neither. They should BOTH take the L.
HORRIBLE IS THE GANGSTER FAMILY THAT JOIN TOGETHER TO HARASS A GIRL!
THE AWFUL TWO BROS,,,,THIS MAN IS A QUEER,,HE CANNOT STAND UP FOR HIMSELF WITHOUT HIS FAMILY SUPPORT!!
ALSO HE SEEMS TO BE ACTING THE VICTIM HERE!! BIG DEAL CONSTRUCT A SLUM APT,IT IS NOT LIKE IF KIMBERLY LEAVES SHE GONNA CARRY IT WITH HER.....
cant play both sides at the same time
@@noticiasfaisca2685why you're screaming😂😂😂😂
@@lolaispure4296 BECAUSE IT IS NOT OF YOUR BUSINESS AHMED
WITH FAKE PROFILE OF A WOMAN,AND A FAKE ZODIAC SIGN
SHOW YOUR BALLS AND YOUR STUPID COWARD ZODIACAL SIGN OF...SCORPIO.,DONT THINK THAT ONLY YOU CAN USE CAP LOCKS
IDIOT!
@@noticiasfaisca2685what a homophobic disgusting comment.
Forming a relationship with someone that considers you inferior is not a good idea!
That part. She's looking for a relationship and he's shopping for a slave
Right! And have you seen the new ep where she gets into it with his brother? His brother is even worse than him. She's no saint but you can tell they have 0 respect for women. They just want servants.
She isn’t looking for a relationship… she is looking for a man to do what she wants and let her run all over the place. He isn’t much better but let’s not confuse that she wants to walk all over him and boss him around. She thinks he and his culture are inferior to her. They both are doing the same thing.
@@rileys6182america has no culture so idk why she would think his culture is inferior to her nonexistent culture. She is a white women who is entitled
@@summeretry251SHE is the one who believes she is " better"😂😂😂
Kimberly's spirit guides are missing alot of shit 😂
She wants to be witch but missing all the qualifications to be one
when she said “your culture is sexist” i’m just so shocked she doesn’t realize that this is HER culture now too. Girl, you are on the complete opposite side of the world BY CHOICE you gotta be so delusional to not have realized this before moving
also, her tattoos are remarkably infantile. straight up bad
It is not her culture too, she can be accepting of the culture it doesn't become her culture. Her own culture followers her where she goes
@marciestoddard730 But by and large the culture is sexist. Of course there'll be some progressive families but especially on this show the Indian families mostly fit the stereotypical ideas.
@@marciestoddard730 I had luck to have a good family in law, my ex fiancé family were lovely and understanding people, they were Indian Christians. TJ family are from rural area and not used to deal with tourist and people raised abroad he should have sticked to a local woman to become his wife.
@@muhreeeee8458 NOw is hers as she is involved with him and plans to marry him, but he must as well be understanding and aware of her culture but not in a biased way, trying to understand their reasons of motives no need for yelling. They have to bridge the gap or leave.
I think she forgets America is sexist asf 😭 like girlllll that’s over here too
Love can not override a lifetime of being locked into a slum house with a husband who is hiding a bunch of secrets behind his back. I can't wait to see what happens when she learns she's also expected to be the household slave!
@@marciestoddard730 Very accurate when they have no money for buying bedrooms or mattresses for the family very poor they have to be. She is with a man of low class that is suicidal for her. He will never keep her satisfied to her life standards level.
Clearly you both know he is living in a third world country where his culture and way of living is very different from America. So what exactly is the point of insulting this man who did nothing but take verbal insults? Just say your racist
“household slave” is so demoralizing to another culture it’s disgusting
“household slave” is raising your loving children and respecting your husband…. your comment reeks of a single american woman in her 30’s slaving away at some job she hates
Slum house?? What an arrogant american thing to percieve😂😂
@FM09255 Yeah, the problem is he did NOTHING, so maybe he deserved some verbal dressing down. He did not lead with honesty, he didn’t try to understand her culture, he didn’t respect her enough to work with he, he lied to her, and he went running to sleep with mommy and complain like a baby to his family. Did he ever go to US to see how women live and are treated? Does he educate himself so he can compromise? Zero American women are going to want that life; even the Amish like cleanliness. No, he did nothing.
It’s not racist to notice a childish mamas boy. And yeah, they seem poor but not everybody in India is poor so calling somebody who noticed that a racist is stupid.
He needs to find an Indian woman who is fine being a slave until her kids grow up and she can enslave their wives. Kimberly needs to go back to US pronto and find a man who wants to sleep with her and not his mommy.
As an absolute pure Indian woman, I can confirm, TJ is a horrible guy. Kimberly, please maintain your peace of mind and with respect, go back. He is HORRIBLE. This is not about culture but more about TJ's behaviour.
Not Indian but I sure do agree. I think first time she was screaming and crying she said he would not acknowledge her. Would not say he heard her. This is egregious behavior on his part. I do hear you, would have gone a long way. ACKNOWLEDGMENT is as important as water to a plant. UTTERLY CRUCIAL! I thought that so stunning.
Did u see how he was talking bout her to his family.
@@Madinaash Not yet.
As a brown dude who is born and raised in the west, none of TJ's reactions and expectations is shocking. All that stuff is standard over there, and the fact after all these years, with the advent of the internet, people are still shocked how ass backwards India is...Its completely their fault now.
having culture doesn't make a country "backward"
should i say that just because americans wipe their butt's that makes them primitive 🤣🤣
She lived there for a year , proir to this . She's selfish and unstable .
@@marciestoddard730 People who live in poorer rural areas tend to be that way in every country.
It's so funny b/c India is so into advanced tech. At least that's what I've gathered from my travels and all the Indians I've met
@@massiahgromliving in India does not equate to living AS an Indian in an Indian household with the unfair expectations thrust upon you as a woman to stay home and serve the men while never experiencing any freedom besides the breadcrumbs your mother in law gives you 😂
2 grown ass men sleeping in the same bed with their mom! And people are saying kim has issues lol she got herself in a mad house and i hope she gets out
They seem poor and live together without privacy and boundaries, which is normal for them.
Yea
He’s a man child, and he’s looking for a second mom. Hope she runs, and doesn’t look back.
She should've watched Jen and Rishi's season or Jenny and Sumit's seasons... Also, I fucking LOVE this guy's voice who does these videos, instantly makes me smile.
6:08 Kimberly patting his fathers head back killed me 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
The scary part is this is happening in front of the camera, imagine if they were alone, what would he do, how would he treat her.
Imagine going to your in law's house and start screaming less than an hour of being there.
She is disrespectful. She is acting like she hasn't lived in India.
exactly
He's awful too. They deserve each other
Imagine expecting a American woman to move in with your parents without plans of moving out like a real married couple.
Indian men need to do their research too if they are going to marry outside their culture
even though she was in the wrong I did feel bad for her when he was off running his mouth to his family because of course they are going to 100% take his side and now she is the villain. she has no one on her side who will tell her what she did wrong with love, they will only come from a place of distain and it will only make things worse.
Yeah… telling your family everything and still deciding to be with that person is a no go. You will get over it and they will hold a grudge because they love you. Certain things are better to keep to self. They need open communication. He also needs to be need honest with her.
I as an indian women cant ever marry that TJ. rUN KIMBERLY RUN
I believe the thing that struck TJ the most was not just that she was dissatisfied with the apartment, but the hateful way she spoke to him and how her body language was expressing the level of hostility one would not expect from a lover. She was expressing herself as if she were yelling at an incompetent servant.
Right.
I agree. She came across very hostile. Like dissatisfied with the service and I’d like to speak to your manager. This is an outrage. Kind of attitude lol.
You can be angry with a loved one and not speak to them like that. TJ instantly became defensive of his very being and his family and his culture.
Interesting you used the word servant when TJ still hasn’t told her he expects her to take over all the cooking and cleaning for his mother. Why don’t you go over there and sleep on a mat next to his Mom and wait on the brothers and the father hand and foot ???
he is the same though. they both explode in anger and are super emotional. they are pretty similar
@@LunchladydoyleShe’s there by choice right? She needs to take responsibility for her choices and lack of preparation moving to a completely different country. You don’t get to move to another country and bring your privileged expectations with you without getting a huge reality check.
Look at the grin on the mother's face when she met Kimberly. Mom gets a maid, son gets laid. Jackpot!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
sorry that living situation is a disaster, especially if you’re coming from a totally different background. some people can’t immediately adapt to their surroundings, also she’s right his culture is incredibly sexist, she should’ve never started dating him. he will never see her as his equal in relationship. she just needs to go home lol
Exactly
Let’s talk about the bigger picture here:
Why is TJ is purposefully withholding information from Kimberly on the roles and responsibilities that is expected of her once she becomes his wife.
Could it be that he is fully aware that she would have never agreed to the marry him, had he fully disclosed to her the roles and expectations in the first place?
Exactly. So many people commenting on this reaction videos obviously haven’t seen that part.
If Kimberly was treated differently from her siblings by her mother, then Kimberly is living a nightmare right now. People who experience what Kimberly experienced tend to quickly feel unheard, dismissed and even teamed up against. I feel genuinely sorry for her, but why she moved in a country were women are treated differently from men?
Why would a western woman, go to an Eastern culture and not expect this? 😂🤯
The way I wanted to punch my screen when TJ asked Kimberly why she wasn't feeling good the following morning. Is he okay? At what point did you two resolve your fight?! Also, Kimberly REALLY needs to learn how to manage her emotions. It's not normal to go from 0 to 100 like that every time you have an argument.
he was trying to communicate w her
He pushed her to the limit psychologically. American women are not used to this level of neglect. He never listens to her and acts like he is married to his mom. This is completely unacceptable in her culture.
😂😂😂😂😂 the opening got me so damn stress and it ain’t even my problem I don’t know these ppl 😂😂😂😂 also it’s funny 😂😂😂
11:25 TJ storming of again like: "Mooooom, Kimberly was mean to me again!"
It's so funny bc I married an Indian man and he specifically told me he will never talk about our issues to other people... thought that odd but now I understand why 😂. Funny thing is in Indian culture GOOD in laws will take the side of the wife 😉😂
All this show has informed me is that I should stay away from Indian men if I don't want to be degraded for being a woman and subjected to abuse by the man's family because he'll encourage and enable them to do that. What's this sleeping with his mom thing?! So gross.
😂 bro shut up
@@kgincognito You sound like you sleep with your mom. Do you suck her tits too?
As an Indian woman, I approve this message.
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Don't get fooled by social media they show what viewers would like not what actually story is...
You protect your spouse reputation or you aren't grown enough to get married
As a Indian women Kimberly leave the man. The only reason he’s not telling her everything because he knows he’ll own her after the wedding and she would not have a say in her life.
This is so stressful but somehow I CANNOT LOOK AWAY
Wait.. didn't she spend many months there in India before all this chaos? I don't get it - did TLC tell them to act like this for views?..
Apparently she spent a yr there on a student Visa
She put herself into a bad situation, marrying a man who lives with his family???😮😮sorry girl, more drama to come your way
She should've did more research on Indian culture. I feel like she went into this with her American standards of living and culture and expected things to be the same. You're in a different country!!! Things are not going to be the same!!!
If his culture is sexist and whatnot marry an American.
@@Randomperson16-q4j asking her to be capable of intelligent thought is way too much
@@grandmascreampie5372You're right 😂😂😂. But I also feel like TJ should take it easier on her and help her adjust to the cultural differences.
@@Randomperson16-q4j He has high expectations cannot convert an American in a Traditional Housewife from day to night. He should have married an indian girl not a foreigner woman and less that doesn´t want to be involved in his cultures. I don´t know why most of the foreigner partners never wear a Saree only Kurtas, Suit or Lehengas. Still remember Jenny at Saree Store with SUMIT.
you know what I've realized watching TJ and Rishi... that Sumit is really NOT sexist, especially considering the culture he grew up in. he knows if he said what TJ says to Kimberly, that Jenny would tell him to pound salt
I mean, how many red flags do you need? This was enough.
I am Asian and family values are important but living with the inlaws is a frowned upon. Whenever you two will have a fight, the family will always get involved. Its better to live separate so you two will also work on the relationship. This relationship won't work.
She did a lot she gave up everything and moved across the world for you so go sit down!!
Facts... Like if TJ came to the US he'd be a bum... He's not a doctor or professor like the ppl who left that country and came to the US for schooling. He does voiceovers. LOL !!
Not to justify how men in other countries treat their women but I never understand how an American woman can move to another country and expect it to be just like America or there not be any cultural differences or act surprised on how they are viewed ..
Maybe because he’s openly admitted on camera that he’s been intentionally deceiving her until she marries him?
It goes both ways. Indian men need to do their research too
Remember the mom said she was going to torcher her 😂. Yeah. This is the beginning of a bad situation! Go home mama!!
Cultural ignorance for all to watch again. Baffling
i'm pretty sure this woman thought that living in india was going to be yoga lessons, spiritual shit and vegan food all day, everyday.....she give me that kind of vibes
And I'm sure that's the lifestyle he told her she would have...she specifically says he wants her to live in a way she didnt agree to
Definitely, you can live such life if you married into wealthy Indian family. But you can't expect that, if you marry a middle class guy
Actually, in India, it's pretty common to sleep beside one's parents when there's not enough space. It's not a big deal. And for the part about sexism. It's Very prevalent here. In some cases, it disgusts me to my core.
Exactly...its normal it other countries
Okay but how was there not space? Kimberly slept in the apartment and he let her sleep alone up there so he could go sleep with his mommy. On the first night his partner was in the country. It's weird.
@@hospitable_ghost I meant that it's normal to sleep with parents, when there's not enough space..in a very general sense, as I heard in the video about "deep psychological analysis of its own". I didn't refer to him leaving his fianceé alone and running to sleep with his mom. That wasn't right, obviously. But here, and specially from where TJ belongs, if they slept together before they're married, it'd be a hell lot of drama. So...
@@hospitable_ghost I don´t want o know what will happen in Wedding Night if they reach to make it.🤣🤣🤣 They should go to a Hotel.
This is an exaggeration of Indian culture. I am an Indian and have been married to an American for last 10 years. We have built our family, we both respect each other, my family treats her with respect Not everyone is Mothers boy in india 😂
Passport sister you got this 😉
🤣🤣
She is rude and crazy and has a ton of mental issues. I don't even want to be a fly on the wall when he tells her that she has to serve his whole family. Damn
It's going to be a train wreck 🫣
I hope she picks her bag and walks out of that disaster! Serve his family?! You people are really delusional.
TJ is a 12 year old in an adult body
it's funny because my husbands mom didn't like me when we first started dating and even when we got married but when we fight he will ask his mom for advice and she will take my side when she can see her son was wrong. so parents need to learn to be Impartial until you hear the FULL story before painting someone as the bad guy, I will never coddle my kids that way either, there is no way they are always in the right and they need to learn that more likely they BOTH are wrong
As a Hindu I got to say she deffo got a point there...Hinduism in India can be sexist and they need to cone to terms with it. No point praising godessss but treat women how he is. Some aspects are lovely but other aspect they clearly dont follow and shes got a point!. Her being a woman as he pointed out doesnt and shouldn't mean shes beneath him.
This couldn't be a worse match. They have absolute opposite values. What in the world
I can't wait for the conversation where he tells her that she will cook and clean for his family 😂
His family? He is married to his mom, not to Kimberley.
The moment you realize that culture you fetishized isn't all that.
She should run from those crazy people
Shes a massive walking red flag
he is too! he expects her to conform and she doesnt even know what to conform to!
i'm from Iran and i must say that traditions in many countries are just sexist and outdated. i married a Kazakh man, and i their traditions are also very sexist so we had to stay away from his family, that was the only way.
What the people on the show needs to understand is that various countries especially the Middle East women have extremely limited rights. Kimberly moves to India and has almost zero understanding of the culture and customs there
What does middle east have to do with india
Please tell me you didn't write that thinking india is in middle east
Middle East has nothing to do with Indian totally different cultures! Try again😂😂 fyi in the Middle East women don’t take care of a man’s entire family and do chores for them!!
@@montanasharif don't fcking lie you know damn well women do move in with husband's family and do the chores and take care of the family while men go and earn money there 💀
I've lived in two foreign countries with completely separate cultures and adapted pretty well to both ... BUT I was there voluntarily and knew that I could leave at any moment if/when the going got too rough. Maybe it helped for this Californian to get a culture shock by living in different States in America first before trying Europe.
@@marciestoddard730 Depends on where you find yourself .. some places I went to didn't have electricity and/or running water. Believe me when I say it was like living in the medieval times, but you adapt .. or suffer.
Being an Indian my self I just don’t understand how these women always catch hold of such dicks 😅 not all Indian men are not like this and not all cultures in our country are so oppressive since our country has diverse cultures. its all about choosing the right person with ur priorities clear in ur partner.
If you’re from India 🇮🇳 and you see this. Please don’t hate us. This is not who or how we are 🇺🇸. This is just a poor example.
americans should just stay in america. They are so dramatic about everything. Not to mention that apartment looks better than 60% of Cardboard box houses that americans are making.
Exactly like stay out of other countries and mind your own business. If you're not gonna be respectful just stay away.
In case you didn't know, many Americans are 2nd and 3rd generation here in the US. So many types of cultures exist here. I don't know where they find these women but they do not represent us. It's very ignorant to think we are all like them.
Kimberley needs to go back home and get some trauma therapy. TJ needs an Indian woman who knows his traditions than maybe he would be more understanding and accommodating. They both need completely different things out of their partners
He’s disgusting, immature, and backwards and she needs to RUN!
The other question is...why don't these foreign Men do their research on these Americans 🤔 How whiny & unsatisfied they are😭 These couples are a hot ass mess
Indian women go through this when they get arranged marriage... That's why lot of them don't want marriage
Incredibly naive, and he is so over reliant on validation from his parents.
Thank you so much for this video! All other videos I’ve seen commenting on this side way more with TJ than Kimberley but honestly TJ is way worse
Y won’t one be heartbroken when someone built something with his hard earned money and with all his heart and someone just steps in and calls it shit !
What is the point of moving to a country that you haven't done any research on? To be happy in any country, you need to learn the laws, language, and culture before the move. They're both clueless and over 30. That's a whole new level of pathetic! What kind of man constantly runs to Mommy and Daddy every time he has an arguement with his wife?
THAT IS NORMAL IN INDIA AND PAKISTAN SPEAKING ABOUT PROBLEMS WITH THE FAMILY.
I GOT USED I LIVED FOR 5 YEARS WITH A PAKISTANI FAMILY AND ALWAYS SPOKE ABOUT DISAGREEMENTS . NOT ONLY WITH MY EX BOYFRIEND WE SHARED INFO WITH HIS FAMILY AND ME WITH MINE APPART .
@@girisha_laxmi11 You can talk about problems with your family, but you should never villianize your spouse while doing it. A husband needs to show his wife loyalty.
Ignorant by choice. My partner comes from a completely different culture, religion, continent etc. Theres no excuse to not inform yourself of the dos and don'ts, typical gender expectations and roles within the home and community...then, take the info you learned to your partner and discuss. If you can't discuss stuff like that upfront then he or she ain't for you. Dating someone from a vastly different culture from you is hard work and it takes a high level of openness, compromise, self exploration and extremely uncomfortable discussions, often done in a language that at least one partner doesn't speak as a mother language. It's not easy and you have to really want everything about it to work. This, what she did and said, is so insanely disrespectful. My partner is more grateful when I make him a cup of coffee in the morning than when this guy built her a whole home. Just go home and date an American, this life and type of relationship isn't for you. There is no space for ego or always being right 🙄
Kimberly is so rude! Send her home! TJ has a crazy temper too! Shes so ungrateful his family paid for her wedding and an extension to make her happy! But she acted like a devil when she saw her residence. His poor parents sling them both out!
Why would Kimberly listen to the same spirit guides that led her to TJ and her current predicament...
She is a devil worshipper and she reaps what she sows.
because shes delusional I mean she honestly believes she can tell peoples futures or glean some insight into the future via tarot cards and even charges people for it! 😂she's not the sharpest tool in the shed
TJ should man up and not share his problems with his family, the guy is a child, she left US for him
It will be epic when she finds out about all the cooking and cleaning.
But she’s psychic 😂, yet she didn’t see this coming 😅
I'm not saying TG has faults, he definitely does because of his deception, but Kimberly immediately came in hostile. I think TG communicated very fluently about what made him upset. You can say certain things without yelling or insulting. She just came into their new apartment and just started complaining about everything. At this point, they should separate, because they're both talking to walls.
Buy dad a bed , please.
Or at least some bunkbeds😂😂😂
I thought same when saw it when will buy a bedroom for parents or two single beds.
Even from an indian perspective its creepy n weird for grown up men sharing bed with mommy. Y aren't mom n dad in one room n bros taking the front room?
According to TJ, their mom had a fight with their dad 20 years ago and he’s been sleeping on the living room floor ever since. That’s probably why he never says anything, and the one time he tried to speak to tell Yash to stop antagonizing TJ and Kim, the mom shut him down. But that’s no reason for the grown sons to sleep in mommy’s bed, especially with both a single bed and double bed in the bedroom. That whole arrangement is creepy asfk. I think the dad is sick of their sh*t and would’ve left his toxic wife long ago if divorce was an acceptable option for him.
@@akaLaBrujaRoja agreed. I think after d fight the mother wanted d boys to be on her side n she did so literally by making dem sleep besides her 🤣. I m jus wondering why didn't they build d 1st floor way b4 Kim came into the picture.
@@Ypin636 TJ said he had to take out a 7-year loan to build it, but they already have 2 sofas in the living room, including one that looks like a futon, so there’s no need for either of the bros to sleep in the actual bed with the mom, they could just take turns sleeping on the single bed next to hers while the other sleeps in the living room, keep their dad company. 😂
But I’m getting Norma/Norman Bates vibes of the mom and Yash.
What did she expect from a man that still sleeps with his mom 👵
Sometimes I think that the Americans going to another country forget that this is a totally different culture you have to understand that this is not going to be like anything like your life in America.This woman has spent time in India before and she did not like it what What made her think it would be different now I think that she is delusional As a lot of the people who go to foreign countries are delusional And they keep trying to put theirs on a whole different country Learn to be flexible
An utter disaster, I don’t believe they are gonna name it. Plus the upcoming “wife becomes the family servant” surprise
WTH did she think was gonna happen? Most countries live in extended families. It’s not America. That’s why I told my husband we needed to live in the USA. As long as he doesn’t get a green card he won’t be taxed here.
"You're acting like a US Girl now" BECAUSE SHE IS ONE?!!? You cannot marry a non-indian and expect them to act and behave like an Indian woman. Clearly he hasn't shown the work he's done before for her to see the place, and he hasn't informed her what the expectations of a wife he wants. While Kimberly is a bit delusional to think they're going get married without understanding what kinda culture he's from.
I would run the other wayy bro. This isn't okay. TJ should marry an Indian woman possible from the rural area who will happily take the responsbilities, be a doormat, be a SAHM or even go to work and still do everything on her own and TJ should still expect her to have seex after all of that.
This is atpical Indian man behavious of him running to his parents everytime they have a fight. BRO YOU PICKED THIS PARTNER!!! F fix it.
TJ needs to stay right there in the bed with his mama ....this is beyond ridiculous 😕 she should have known better...
Both of them needs to watch this video..then they will understand...cheers to you for explaining it!
Tj is a 🐱 for not been able to get married to an Indian woman now he can’t even handle a American woman lol
He wants to make an Indian wife out of an American girl?