It was actually TJ who started this mess. The reason the family doesn't like her is because he poisoned the well. The very second they had a fight, he ran downstairs and blabbed to his family, saying that she was ab*sive and terrible. So of course they are then riled up. This is why you do not tell your fights to family because inevitable you two make up and the family is still upset about what you said. So it was TJ who poisoned the well. Its not Kim or the families fault. Was Kims behavior abhorrent? Yes, but the family didn't know that as they were upstairs.
I’m starting to see it’s NOT Kimberly that’s the problem; the brother keeps instigating and starting problems. Kimberly isn’t the easiest person because she isn’t the traditional house wife in India but the brother in the mothers ears and constantly talking badly to everyone behind Kimberly back is a problem
Yes, I see that too. They all hid things from Kim Tull the wedding is over and this hen expected her to embrace the traditions of India with open arms. That is manipulative.
U guys talk like its only in india and making reals like girl should b in kitchen doing dishes and cooking and cleaning and men job is to work hypocrisy at its finest.
When you date someone from other countries it is very important to know the culture it is too easy to whine about this or that . Take it or leave it simple than that .🤷 Nobody forced her to put herself into it she made choices she is an adult .
The brother is jealous. It's not his place to tell Kimberly that TJ gave up a lot & she needs to be thankful & conform. What did TJ give up? I feel like the brother knows he's on the bottom step in the family. Now that Kim is there he thinks he finally has someone he out ranks & can boss around.. She didn't fall for it so that made him livid. He's in his mom's ear every chance he gets trying to poison her against Kim and it seems to be working. What a weasel.
Listen guys, I know the Indian culture. I know for a fact, the brother is jealous of the older brother landing s WHITE WOMAN (the best women according to Indians). So he will do everything to make sure his brother's wife leaves so he does not have to feel jealous anymore
@crestfire I hate that. Why can’t both they have the wife they want without feeling animosity/jealousy for each other? They should both want the best for each other
I honestly don’t think Kimberly is “so picky”. Many women are specific in their requirements when it comes to their living environment and also a wedding. I’m not surprised she is somewhat disappointed in parts of both the apartment and the wedding planning.
Yep, and she’s not even being picky, she just wanted to narrow down the flower color to the light pink and doesn’t want a bunch of red and hot pink. So far that’s the only input she’s been allowed, they won’t even let her choose her own wedding dress. She wanted white but they said no because it’s for widows in India, so she’s going along with everything else they’ve wanted her to do.
To be fair, they are building in India and a smaller city like Jaipur. Construction takes a long time in India but that’s on Tj. He lives there and should have told her.
So the belly and “rolls” in the belly indicate someone’s wealth - as in if you are wealthy you will have a lot of food and therefore more stomach rolls and that’s why it’s appropriate to show portions of their belly when wearing a sari. It would be less about her knees showing and more about her upper legs showing as women within India should have at minimum down to their knee covered and preferably down to their ankle
@@kobekellerman8055Im Indian, and this is the first time in hearing about your story of belly rolls as well. Stop spewing random stuff bro. That story don't make sense. Lets just accept that it's weird. Aunties will judge someone for showing knees and thighs, but they be showing their exposed back and belly. Its stupid. In the villages you see ladies showing their knees while working the field as well. Its just about status. Showing knees means you are poor, and that you work in fields. So in decent homes, its just about modesty. Nothing deep about it.
This family is just dysfunctional. It has nothing to do with being Indian or even Kimberley. There’s just issues here I see at hand , and it looks like the brother has favoritism from the parents. Kimberly and TJ need to either get their own place or just come to the USA altogether. Yes, Kimberly has made very rude & ignorant comments In the past but she also doesn’t deserve to be in this hot ass mess
Yeah, this family is warped, after that first argument, TJs’s concept of a nice gesture was for him to invite Kim to sleep in the bed downstairs with him and his mother. Not just the same bedroom, THE SAME BED. Because it’s been perfectly normal to them for TJ and Yash take to take turns sleeping with mommy while the other sleeps in a small bed in the same room, but their dad has slept on the living room floor for 20 years after a “fight” with his wife.
Oh, but it does have EVERYTHING to do with Kimberly...she is an American spoiled brat who has no manners and is totally out of her league ..She needs to go home, like yesterday...while she still can!
Even though I'm not big fan of this girl, I feel for her. I also grew up with unloving mom who had left, toxicity at home and grew up to learn to be free spirited and see for positive outcomes regardless of the childhood.. and then I met my ex husband who was just like TJ, happy guys but black sheep in toxic and controlling family... They from the start didn't appreciate neither liked me .. we had two kids, I even moved to his country near his controlling mother... Issue was,my ex husband never collected enough courage to stand against his mother and after over a decade, I had to break the marriage cause I couldn't take another mother who didn't even like me,another family which didn't even bother to get to know me.. my sanity and well being was most important. And looking back,that was a good decision, I only regret I hadn't done it earlier. This girl needs to listen to herself,to her guts, if her man can't be honest and stand with her, this marriage is pointless. She should go back to America and save herself her sanity and honour. She doesn't deserve this behavior.
I think it is problematic when a partner says," I sacrificed everything to come here for you", because that is not true , they too are getting something out of it. She moved to India not just for TJ but also for her own happiness in being with TJ. If she was not getting something out of it she would have stayed in the US.
She only says it in response to TJ and Yash going on about how much TJ has sacrificed for her when she just wants to be treated like an equal partner and have some privacy as a couple, instead of being subservient and having them police what she eats.
Nothing quite as seductive as an exposed piece of knee 😅 I actually find knees weird but then if we didn’t have knees that would just be even weirder 😂
TJ is a fool.. he knows what his family is like and still wants to have an American girl as his wife 😂😂 Only way for Kim to be happy is to leave TJ or TJ has to decide to live separate from his family at some other location with Kim.. not right above his family's apartment😂😂😂
Honestly I feel really bad for Kim after this. It's so incredibly rude of his family to yell and talk about her like that. If she was smart she'd leave - it doesn't seem like the brother is going to change his way of thinking and neither is she so things like this will just continue since they are going to be living in the same house. But I do have to hand it to TJ for standing up for her.
Absolutely. It is very wonderful when a man stands up for his woman. Family can get in the way. But they also live with them. Such a catch 22. She needs to dress appropriately, if she wants respect she needs to give respect
I’m completely with Kimberly on this, it’s extremely difficult to start off in a whole new country, a whole different culture and they have been nothing but disrespectful,trying to make it more difficult for her.
They're acting shocked she isn't an Indian woman 😂😂😂. I'm in the same situation and my mother in law always complains about how I'm an American because I don't allow her to verbally abuse me and steamroll my life 😂. I have adapted to the culture, and done a LOT to blend in and accept the differences, but I will never let my in laws or husband control me and Kim shouldn't either. Kim needs to get the hell out before she gets pregnant bc if it's this bad now it will only get infinitely worse.
Kim will be always seen in a poor light in the eyes of tj's family. She will never ever fit in. Darling he is not worth what is headed your way. Yes she may love him..that is not enough to deal the stress and crazy that she will encounter.
She’s not used to driving on the WRONG side of the road, so her spatial awareness cant be very good in a right side driver seat. That was an epic fail lol
The fact the mom was upset with her ripped jeans is what made me mad, I get Kim should learn the culture respect but the mom was so dramatic about it. She could’ve told tj to ask her to change and nothing more, the rest of her comments were unnecessary. The brother needs to stop being a virgin and get his own family
Haha. The brother is too used to having his dad in the background. The sons slept with the mom on the floor and the dad was in the corner. So strange and not a healthy environment
@@elainefranco725 I thought it was weird that the sons sleep with the mom too but I can understand it if it’s a culture thing. I know the mom is the head of the house as seen in arguments too, she even told the dad to be quiet before he could talk. I don’t see the marriage working out because tj can’t leave his family and Kim was a independent marriage life away from his family
@@xxvoid4 Don´t assume is all culture my ex parents in law have their own bedrooms separated and sleep on bed not on the floor. They are southindian christian couple with 40+ years married they as well eat in the same table all the family together not separated women and men like in Rishi and Jen scene that couldn´t enter in the kitchen. Northern people specially are much regressive and backwards compared with Southindians. My ex fiancé had his own bedroom to sleep alone at parents home. My sister in law live with her husband and children. It is true that women are who run the house and in some households are the dominant figure. Mothers are highly regarded and respected.
@@xxvoid4 Cultural or not it is gross and i am so glad i am not in that culture and i am glad for my boys that we are not in that culture, no respect for the father or the husband
@@PoeticPeer that's what I say I'm glad he's choosing her over his family. There can still be cultural expectations but it needs to be agreed upon before marriage
This is Tj fault from the start for not telling Kimberly everything, at this point just get married then move to US since they're both know each other and they get along fine without Tj family involve
I’m Latina and it’s the same here 😭 Literally have to dress appropriately around my brother and father, but they find inappropriate clothes like dresses or skirts or showing my shoulders… it’s like.. we’re family?!? ahaha why is it weird Even I don’t understand
Nope, TJ called them out, reminding them that they’d seen her wear it before and never told him it was a problem, they’re just dumping more crap out to be petty.
@@sweetcheeks5775why it her skin turning them on and making them uncomfortable. Her skin is the last place their focus should be at. They are family why they looking at her skin so sexually that its making them uncomfortable
It gives them a bad reputation if you dress like a "hoe". That's why they're upset. If they care about you, then they don't want you to get a certain kind of male attention.
I think Kim shld go home unless she suddenly developed the eq and tolerance to deal with a big Indian family and their expectations. TJ may take her side for now but no guarantee as the days goes by he won’t be sick of it and turn against her too. 😵💫😬
@@musingwanderer2765 You called it perfectly gotta give it to you! If Kim listened to you she would have spared herself a mental breakdown! She should have ditched him before the wedding 💯
Could be the dysfunction in the family. His dad has slept on the floor for twenty years because of a fight with his wife while his son sleeps in their bed. I think TJ’s mom May be jealous of their young relationship because of her own marriage. I also noticed her tell his father to hush when he tried to speak. jmho
Yeah, first time I’ve seen the dad actually speak up, and it was to tell Yash to shut up, but mama couldn’t have her baby boy criticized by his own father. She and Yash run this toxic household, the dad’s just trying to keep his head down, so it means something that he stood up for TJ and Kim.
There doesn't seem to be room for compromise with his mom, and honestly I think he's been hoping she'd just let it go eventually. I definitely think Kim overreacted when Yash playfully pat her. I also think Yash is jealous of TJ. And OMG did anyone else see the mom tell the dad to stay quiet when he said TH was saying rubbish?! Then she realized she was on camera and caught herself before she said anything else. What in the world is going on in this family? Why can't the dad speak?
The dad was telling Yash that HE was saying, rubbish, not TJ, that’s why the mom shushed him, because she’s on Yash’s side and the dad knows they are the instigators, not TJ or Kim. And Yash didn’t “playfully pat” her, this was after he called her stupid and had been insulting her and her culture non-stop.
@@elainefranco725not just the corner, he sleeps on the living room floor, not even in the bedroom with his wife and sons. The mom’s trying to use him an excuse to get mad about Kim’s pants, complaining it’s bad to wear that in front of her father-in-law, but the first time he finally speaks up, it’s to defend TJ and Kim by telling Yash to shut up. 😂
So in most Indian families, there's a decorum to be maintained when elderly people are in the room. It's a two way thing, even the old man will not be dressed in shorts or vest if there's a woman (not wife) in the same room. It's like showing respect.
People like to get real upset when you start setting boundaries smdh She’s not being disrespectful. She’s asking for the same respect she is expected to give them
My boyfriend and his family are from Mexico. When I visited them, they spoke no English, and I only know very basic stuff from taking 2 years of Spanish in high school. It was very difficult at times. To have someone look at you, ask a question, and you just have to blankly stare back because you don’t understand. I felt left out when his whole family and their friends were gathered all laughing and talking, while I just smiled. It makes you feel pretty isolated. So to have that on her scale, would be so stressful. It’s tough not being able to properly communicate with your significant other’s family.
Kim should have done some research about the Indian culture.... just another example of how the majority of Americans are. It was refreshing seeing an Indian man NOT scared of his mother and family..... and standing up for his woman.
Did you even watch the show? Y’all people jumping in the comments “she should’ve done research” “blah blah Americans suck” She lived in India for a YEAR. She attended college there and had her own apartment while she and TJ dated. He’s admitted that he’s been deceptive about how conservative his family is and their expectations of her being their submissive little servant, saying he’s not gonna tell her until after the wedding. He said it again in front of Yash and their mom, and both nodded and laughed about it. This isn’t about Americans being ignorant of Indian culture, this is one messed up Indian family that says it’s against their religion to eat garlic and onions while those are staple ingredients in most Indian cooking. The adult sons sleep in the same bed with their mommy while the dad sleeps on the living room floor because she got mad at him 20 years ago. That’s not about Indian culture.
"Just another example of how the majority of Americans are??" There are 340,354,201 people in the U.S., 86.9% are U.S. citizens. You've watched maybe 10 on a SCRIPTED reality show over the past few years. Your statement is ridiculous and not factual.
Kimberly needs to return to the US before something bad happens to her! I just don't see how she could ever live in harmony with this family. This is just NOT A GOOD FIT! She really needs to go home...like, yesterday!
I think that The Kimberly has an awesome attitude, she’s actually being a very good sport. She’s actually quite an adorable person. They are both cute together. They family drama will blow over eventually and everyone will grow from it.
Kimberly did the same exact thing when she saw the apartment! She popped off yelling and speaking in English. While I think TJ’s mom and brother are acting like bullies- she did the same thing.
No she didn’t, she was speaking English in a private conversation with TJ, who also speaks English, which is the language they’ve always spoken to each other, after he first reached out to her on social media, in English. She wasn’t talking in front of his family and wasn’t talking about them. His mistake was running and crying to them about it. But his mom and Yash were yelling about her right in front of her and waving their hands at her, knowing she’d have no idea what they were saying but would obviously know they were sh*t-talking about her, so she couldn’t even defend herself. They figured she’d just sit there and meekly take it, hoping she’d be so shaken that she’d shut up and fall in line with their plan to make her the family’s submissive servant. There’s absolutely no comparison.
I agree, she set the tone during her first moments there yelling in their home rather than expressing extream gratitude, that'll resonate and continues to influence them
Kimberly did not make a good first impression when she moved to India and I think that on top of Yash being an issue and earworming, has just snowballed and amplified everything so that all it took was a pair of ripped jeans to just break everyone. Also the way TJ snapped at his brother so quickly after he said barely a sentence kinda shows that they had issues concerning Kimberly or issues in general long before she arrived.
What's going to happen when they marry and she is expected to take over all the cooking and housework for the parents-in-law and be the lowest of the low, the daughter-in-law? Hope she shows them that's not right for any woman!!!
Here’s an idea…if you want TJ’s family to welcome you…BE LIKABLE! Had she done her due diligence before traveling to India and exercised basic common courtesy once there….all this drama - avoided
Too many comments about “due diligence” and “research” from people who didn’t do their own research by watching the show. So I’m copypasting what I said to someone else: She lived in India for a YEAR. She attended college there and had her own apartment while she and TJ dated. He’s admitted that he’s been deceptive about how conservative his family is and their expectations of her being their submissive little servant, saying he’s not gonna tell her until after the wedding. He said it again in front of Yash and their mom, and both nodded and laughed about it. This isn’t about Americans being ignorant of Indian culture, this is one messed up Indian family that says it’s against their religion to eat garlic and onions while those are staple ingredients in most Indian cooking. The adult sons sleep in the same bed with their mommy while the dad sleeps on the living room floor because she got mad at him 20 years ago. That’s not about Indian culture.
@@akaLaBrujaRoja knowing she’s been there before makes her look even MORE stupid….was your point? Living on her own in India, taught her absolutely NOTHING about what to expect from this “joint” family situation. Also, pointing out that TJ’s family is quirky, only further proves me right…
@@mommav0107 no, it doesn’t make her look “MORE stupid,” it shows how deceptive and manipulative TJ and his family have been (I’m not including his dad because he’s obviously sick of his wife and Yash’s crap.) And further proves you haven’t watched the show, because TJ says SEVERAL TIMES that he’s hiding the reality of living with his family until after the wedding, and when she asks him about it directly, he dances around it and gives her the impression she won’t have to do it, then off camera, says yeah, he’s not gonna tell her the truth because she’d call off the wedding. But if you think that Oedipal sleeping arrangement is just “quirky,” you got bigger problems. Are you in some incestuous cult? I hope you don’t have kids.
@@mommav0107it's one thing to live in India as a tourist and it's another thing entirely to BE an Indian, which is what her in laws expect. You can't research your way into assimilating into an extremely complex foreign culture. It's impossible. I've lived as a foreign wife in India for 7 years and only now am quite comfortable in my understanding of how Indian culture works. I read books, was interested in Hinduism, and practiced yoga years before I met my husband and it NEVER prepared me for the reality of life here.
No, if TJ thought she was dressed “appropriately” then she had no reason to question it. And he reminded them that she’d worn it before and they didn’t complain, only bringing it up now as another excuse to pile on.
My BIL won't even be in the same room with me. He only ever speaks to me if absolutely necessary 😂. Definitely not part of Indian culture for a man to touch his brother's wife.
@@PoeticPeer yeah was gna say he has bad manners instead he is just faulting his brothers wife. nobody is perfect but i would rather wprk on my self to better myself than concentrate on others flaws
Love that TJ has his future wife back erytime he really cares for her and akso goes against his brother and mum you go TJ tell them off 🤣She's your bride not theirs
It may not look gross to an American about a daughter in law wearing exposed jeans in front of her father in law.. But as an Indian this is terrible and absolutely indecent.. I don't blame Kim for this but TJ coz he clearly hasn't educated her on how the culture and customs are here in India!
People need to take responsibility for the choices they make. If you do not like a culture or agroup of people. Just move and live your life's together in another place. Some people just like to live in drama. 😂😂😂
Shes not very nice. When she first arrived she was very unkind to her fiancé . She should have stayed home. Another disaster....his brothet sees right through her.
To build the relationship, you need to have a respect for each other family too as you might not love them but show them respect. If you love the man/woman you love their country, their family and their friends. I've respected my husband family and his parents that I wouldn't have a clothes that I usually wear in front of them and behaved with total respect as they were from the developing world and had a different culture and I was willing to obey. It's hard for Kimberly as she was not prepared for this, lol
But as TJ pointed out, they’d seen her wear it before and never told him they had problem with it, only bring it up now while they’re already bitching about her. If even TJ didn’t know it was a problem, why should she be expected to know?
Well I was just india and a bicycle in the road handle bar got stuck in a sign on the richahaw and it ripped off violently and he slowed down to see the guy put his hand up like wtf and he just kept driving 😂
SA is real in India and maybe this brings a lot of unnecessary attention. She lived there for a year prior she fully knows this and doesn't care. Typical American making all of us look bad.
Nope, if he knows it’s a problem there in a way it isn’t in the US, it’s HIS responsibility to just not touch her. He was calling her stupid and personally insulting her (which she never did to him or any of the family), so he shouldn’t have touched her. All she said was “please don’t touch me,” then he rolled his eyes and whimpered more bs, so she clarified that she could’ve instead told him “don’t f*cking touch me”, but didn’t. And they were in a private area, away from other people except the film crew, so no one would think it was SA. Yash and mommy were just stirring up phony drama to complain about.
Personally I dont think Yash is jealous or anything like comments are speculating here. They had fight the first night when she arrived in india and Tj went to his family to vent instead of trying resolve the issue amongst themselves. Therefore the family isn’t going to perceive Kimberly in a good light because they saw how much Tj put work into building the place despite not being of Kim’s likings or the loan he took. Mostly likely saw Kim has ungrateful or “picky.” Plus American women don’t have the best image in India so they already have some sort of hesitation about her and the fight in the first night probably didn’t help. Also when Yash and Kim were fighting, you can clearly hear what kind of perception he has about Americans. Yash is disrespectful a-hole but Kim didn’t help her case by not disassociating herself from that situation but instead she stooped to his level and went on rant about how she hates his family and culture. Yash and Kim are both have some mouth of them. They just met their match. Just because Yash was wrong to attack him like that and shouldn’t have minded his business. This doesn’t mean Kim wasn’t as disrespectful.
@@cheery-hex I find her attitude towards the culture and her fiancé’s family very rude. She said she hates India, doesn’t want to be with his family and is only there for her fiancé. What is going to happen when she finds out she’ll have to take over all the housework? She’ll refuse, causing more problems..although this is her fiancé’s fault. She acts like she’s three years old. With her tantrums and closed off judgements..do you really think that in five years time these two will be together? This is supposed to be the honeymoon period.
@cheery-hex wow clearly you aren't watching her episodes. Just existing my buttcrack. She's been instigating all this drama and she likes to sit back and play victim. None of this wouldn't have happened if she didn't act an ass in front of his family. They don't owe her anything but she owes them an apology for disrespecting they house and culture. They were pretty welcoming and loved on her but she screwed that up and now they are act accordingly.
I love your videos, your takes seem so wise and compassionate. As far as TJ, Kim, and the family. Honestly, its TJ's fault the most. The reason the family doesn't like her is because he poisoned the well. The very second they had a fight, he ran downstairs and blabbed to his family, saying that she was ab*sive and terrible. So of course they are then riled up. This is why you do not tell your fights to family because inevitable you two make up and the family is still upset about what you said. So it was TJ who poisoned the well. Its not Kim or the families fault. Was Kims behavior abhorrent? Yes, but the family didn't know that as they were upstairs.
@@cathyincolorado1432 But it worked for them for over 20 years. I don't think anyone can say they have "problems" when they have remained an intact unit all that time. What's problematic to you might be perfectly alright to someone else. Co-sleeping with children, even adult children is common in Indian culture. Westerners confuse sex and sleeping. These are two different things altogether. The mother and father could still be having a sexual life when their sons are out. It actually makes sense because if they were to do it at night, their sons would hear them in that small house.
Nope, most Indians eat garlic and don’t live in families where the adult sons sleep in their mommy’s bed while their dad has to sleep on the living room floor for 20 years because he had a “fight” with her. She and Yash are toxic, giving off Norma/Norman Bates vibes.
People saying oh Kimberly isn’t any of the problem, did she not say: I hate India, I don’t want to live here, I am putting up with your parents? Yes she said everyone of those things & more, the entire time acting like she is better than everyone in his family & all of India. Did she not snarl “don’t touch me” to his brother when he touched her arm? Yes, they are not in the US things like that can be totally different in other countries. I do think TJ & his brother should have set down without Kimberly or their parents & talked. How do you think his mother is going to feel after hearing what she has said, she sees firsthand Kimberly insisted on not living in the family home & heard the fit she threw about the apartment. Kimberly has lived in India for a year previously & sees how women mostly dress there, I found her jeans & jeans like that appalling. There is nothing attractive about them, a few well off people wanted to spread their idea of fashion & this was part of it so of course the followers bought them. This is their country not hers & his parents are older & TJ should have told her about clothes before now. It’s not TJ’s house downstairs where the parents live so what they want in their house should be respected. Kim could have tried harder to become part of the family but hasn’t she stays upstairs alone all the time, that won’t endear her to them. Kim is spoilt & selfish thinking like many westerns do that they can move to another country not have to learn the customs because they expect to be accommodated to how they are used to living. I think this may be a blessing in a way. TJ thinks after they marry he can get her to become an Indian wife & Kimberly isn’t going to want to do what they expect at all so there will be major turmoil with the entire family. His parents probably don’t even realize daughter in laws here in the west don’t take over all of the household duties & taking care of all the entire household family’s wants & needs after marriage. Thing is they don’t have to realize this it’s their country & there is no reason for them to change if they don’t want to. If these two want to continue then it would be best if they moved completely out of the family house or to the US, but Kimberly doesn’t even speak to TJ about this so is she really ready to get married to him? Problem is TJ took out what is a large loan there so he probably cannot afford another home & if he left India they might put his family out of the house completely & take it to compensate for the loan. This is a perfect example of if you can’t live like & by the culture of the country you are moving to then stay in the west you will not be happy & your partner will not be either.
I agree with everything you said. She thinks she is superior to Indians and we all know why. She says things like “there are no rules in India” how ignorant can she be! She acts like a 5 year old spoiled brat. She has zero respect for Tj, and his family and his country. And now she wonders why they stopped respecting her?
thx for sharing your input here. its nice to see how its perceived on the other side. in regards of her snapping at Yash; would it be possible for the two of them to talk it out? I can understand how her snapping can be seen as hurtful towards Yash (ex: feeling like she rejected him family wise)- however; I do think its was a misunderstanding. Kim was not in the mood for light hearted gestures & fail to realize it was Yash way of de-escalating. It would be better if they have a neutral translator (I think TJ shouldn't be there cuz it can make things worse) to help both Kim and Yash to help communicate & seek reconciliation. I think it was wrong for them (Yash & mom) to talk smack about her indirectly and should have sat with TJ 1st to speak about their frustrations. firstly the mom should have spoken to TJ and express how Kim acted towards Yash has hurt/offended her. Kim did say hated India and didn't want to live with the in-laws or in the country if they overheard it; it makes sense for them needing a family talk. just cuz Kim was mad and lashing it out doesn't mean she rude statements can be dismissed. Just because tj and mom are upset at Kim and Yash (for different reasons) doesn't mean they have the a reason to lash out that way to either of them. 2 wrongs don't make it right. I think in this scenario it would be good to hear/see the dad intervene I wish we had more time to hear his take on the matter. if not again have a neutral person/ translator to help carry the conversation. TJ role in this matter is that he was ultimately not fully honest to his family nor to Kim; thus, setting them up to fail in adjusting each other & new chapter in their lives. Kim needs to assimilate to Indian culture just as much as her in-laws need to assimilate/ understand American culture- if they truly wish her to be part of the family they need to be able to understand her view. that way in the future when they have small squabbles they can talk it out & speak directly to her rather than putting every matter on TJ. Kim must put an effort to interact & bond w/ family. tj should have been honest to himself in deducing Kim living with his folks was a good idea or not. if yash and Kim don't make up I think it would doom tj relationships with his family or with Kim. with people saying Kim isn't the problem. the argument we are seeing is the dynamic of tj and his family- Kim has nothing to do it. that is a matter that needs to be resolve since we are just watching a fake reality tv show I like to think they are just acting for having a good story line so we can't make assumptions on their personal lives/ family dynamics that's reaching. every lie there's some truth. =S good show
@@lexansstories6952 thank you! I usually get told how awful the family is. It’s their home, their country no one drug Kimberly there & the disrespect she shows is horrible!
Thank you! Tjs brother is a hole but he definitely gave her the same energy. Personally I wouldn’t want my sibling to marry someone who hates my culture and family. Just because he’s wrong doesn’t mean Kim isn’t. Two things can be right at the same time. Kim is a a-hole and so is the brother.
I was referring to the hosts creepy explanation about Kim saying as if she is trying to steal the fil to be. It's about wearing decent clothes in front of elders which is not common in other cultures.
@AllThingsRealityTV That's a different topic, that was irresponsible as a human being no matter where a person lives. With the knees it's cultural, nothing above the knees or you were something more modest during the wedding week celebration to show you are transitioning to being a wife. It's cultural preference, we all have different opinions, culture and traditions.
@@fifisdlo6079she’s totally grasping, that’s why TJ called her out, reminding her that Kim wore that before and his mom never said anything. He didn’t think there was a problem with what Kim wore, so there’s no reason Kim should. Even the dad told Yash to shut up about it.
I married an Indian in India and I love his family we get along very well - although I can't cook 🤦🏻♀️ oops and yes I'm a western woman too, Australian not American
The thing with Indian culture is they do a lot of things just for show. They shower you with praises, love, affection at the beginning because they want to appear in favourable image to you. Then they start showing their actual selves
to avoid all of it why not marry in America, live in America?? This relationship I think will be a short one - anytime the couple has issues with the family or a problem with their culture that Kim doesn't understand - it will be short.
I genuinely think TJ and Kimberly would do fine together as a couple if they just came to the states. I'm not trying to bash on their culture, it just seems TJ doesn't share the exact same conviction that his family does. I feel like if he didn't have his family in such a close proximity constantly putting pressure on him, they'd be fine and much happier. I feel like they would be fine in india if they wanted more of a traditional life based on Indian values.
Yash is totally trying to gain his family's favour by being the majorS he already is. Kimberly acted maturely in this situation. TJ's mom needs to be open minded and not just listen to yash and no one else.
Those jeans aren’t appropriate for anyplace, they are terrible, splits & small holes in your jeans are good but not the complete knees cut out, but that family is soooo bad I want to watch this until Kimberly finds out she’s going to be the families Maid & cook, no way in HELL WOULD I DO THAT EITHER 🤬😡
The original video got taken down, so I've edited and reuploaded. Second time lucky 🤞
You can just tell that the brother has been in the mums ear and filling her head with poison 💀
I was gonna say the same thing too cause the mom's energy to Kimberly was completely different
Yup
It was actually TJ who started this mess. The reason the family doesn't like her is because he poisoned the well. The very second they had a fight, he ran downstairs and blabbed to his family, saying that she was ab*sive and terrible. So of course they are then riled up. This is why you do not tell your fights to family because inevitable you two make up and the family is still upset about what you said. So it was TJ who poisoned the well. Its not Kim or the families fault. Was Kims behavior abhorrent? Yes, but the family didn't know that as they were upstairs.
@@TheBakingSlaveAgree
@@TheBakingSlaveI’m sure they could hear her ranting and raving
I’m starting to see it’s NOT Kimberly that’s the problem; the brother keeps instigating and starting problems. Kimberly isn’t the easiest person because she isn’t the traditional house wife in India but the brother in the mothers ears and constantly talking badly to everyone behind Kimberly back is a problem
Exactly!
Umm noo stop with the traditional wife.
Yes, I see that too. They all hid things from Kim Tull the wedding is over and this hen expected her to embrace the traditions of India with open arms. That is manipulative.
that is why you shouldnt live with your parents if your getting married lol
This is exactly why Kim said she didn’t want to live with TJ’s parents, but he insisted.
Poor thing imagine when she finds out she will be their servant after marriage 😂
Hahaha. I forgot he is hiding the truth of his intentions for her. Ugggg
I can't see her doing it. I sure as heck wouldn't.
U guys talk like its only in india and making reals like girl should b in kitchen doing dishes and cooking and cleaning and men job is to work hypocrisy at its finest.
When you date someone from other countries it is very important to know the culture it is too easy to whine about this or that .
Take it or leave it simple than that .🤷
Nobody forced her to put herself into it she made choices she is an adult .
His brother seems jealous tbh
sibling rivalry? maybe🤔
The brother is jealous. It's not his place to tell Kimberly that TJ gave up a lot & she needs to be thankful & conform. What did TJ give up? I feel like the brother knows he's on the bottom step in the family. Now that Kim is there he thinks he finally has someone he out ranks & can
boss around.. She didn't fall for it so that made him livid. He's in his mom's ear every chance he gets trying to poison her against Kim and it seems to be working. What a weasel.
Listen guys, I know the Indian culture. I know for a fact, the brother is jealous of the older brother landing s WHITE WOMAN (the best women according to Indians). So he will do everything to make sure his brother's wife leaves so he does not have to feel jealous anymore
@crestfire I hate that. Why can’t both they have the wife they want without feeling animosity/jealousy for each other? They should both want the best for each other
I agree 😢
I’m on Kim’s side with this. It must be terrible. I heard of the evil sister in law.. never heard of the crazy brother in law ..
They're more common than you think.
@@lovelydeath04 seems so now, it’s scary :/
You are deluded
She is the evil sister in law, they just aren't married yet. 🙄
Bro evil brother in law are more evil than sister in law
I honestly don’t think Kimberly is “so picky”. Many women are specific in their requirements when it comes to their living environment and also a wedding. I’m not surprised she is somewhat disappointed in parts of both the apartment and the wedding planning.
Yep, and she’s not even being picky, she just wanted to narrow down the flower color to the light pink and doesn’t want a bunch of red and hot pink. So far that’s the only input she’s been allowed, they won’t even let her choose her own wedding dress. She wanted white but they said no because it’s for widows in India, so she’s going along with everything else they’ve wanted her to do.
To be fair, they are building in India and a smaller city like Jaipur. Construction takes a long time in India but that’s on Tj. He lives there and should have told her.
How is it ok to expose the belly in India but not the knees😹😹😹
So the belly and “rolls” in the belly indicate someone’s wealth - as in if you are wealthy you will have a lot of food and therefore more stomach rolls and that’s why it’s appropriate to show portions of their belly when wearing a sari. It would be less about her knees showing and more about her upper legs showing as women within India should have at minimum down to their knee covered and preferably down to their ankle
@@kobekellerman8055Im Indian, and this is the first time in hearing about your story of belly rolls as well. Stop spewing random stuff bro. That story don't make sense. Lets just accept that it's weird. Aunties will judge someone for showing knees and thighs, but they be showing their exposed back and belly. Its stupid. In the villages you see ladies showing their knees while working the field as well. Its just about status. Showing knees means you are poor, and that you work in fields. So in decent homes, its just about modesty. Nothing deep about it.
This family is just dysfunctional.
It has nothing to do with being Indian or even Kimberley.
There’s just issues here I see at hand , and it looks like the brother has favoritism from the parents.
Kimberly and TJ need to either get their own place or just come to the USA altogether. Yes, Kimberly has made very rude & ignorant comments In the past but she also doesn’t deserve to be in this hot ass mess
Yeah, this family is warped, after that first argument, TJs’s concept of a nice gesture was for him to invite Kim to sleep in the bed downstairs with him and his mother. Not just the same bedroom, THE SAME BED. Because it’s been perfectly normal to them for TJ and Yash take to take turns sleeping with mommy while the other sleeps in a small bed in the same room, but their dad has slept on the living room floor for 20 years after a “fight” with his wife.
Oh, but it does have EVERYTHING to do with Kimberly...she is an American spoiled brat who has no manners and is totally out of her league ..She needs to go home, like yesterday...while she still can!
Even though I'm not big fan of this girl, I feel for her. I also grew up with unloving mom who had left, toxicity at home and grew up to learn to be free spirited and see for positive outcomes regardless of the childhood.. and then I met my ex husband who was just like TJ, happy guys but black sheep in toxic and controlling family... They from the start didn't appreciate neither liked me .. we had two kids, I even moved to his country near his controlling mother... Issue was,my ex husband never collected enough courage to stand against his mother and after over a decade, I had to break the marriage cause I couldn't take another mother who didn't even like me,another family which didn't even bother to get to know me.. my sanity and well being was most important. And looking back,that was a good decision, I only regret I hadn't done it earlier.
This girl needs to listen to herself,to her guts, if her man can't be honest and stand with her, this marriage is pointless. She should go back to America and save herself her sanity and honour. She doesn't deserve this behavior.
To be fair, we’ve all seen those viral driving in India videos and we are all under the impression that they don’t enforce their road rules 😅
That's actually not true
Nobody follows the road rules in India
I think it is problematic when a partner says," I sacrificed everything to come here for you", because that is not true , they too are getting something out of it. She moved to India not just for TJ but also for her own happiness in being with TJ. If she was not getting something out of it she would have stayed in the US.
Two things can meet you at the same time,
She only says it in response to TJ and Yash going on about how much TJ has sacrificed for her when she just wants to be treated like an equal partner and have some privacy as a couple, instead of being subservient and having them police what she eats.
You are right its a way to make their partners feel like they owe them something. Its manipulation
@@TheSands83 which is why TJ and Yash should stop saying it.
@@akaLaBrujaRoja shes the one who said it😂
Nothing quite as seductive as an exposed piece of knee 😅 I actually find knees weird but then if we didn’t have knees that would just be even weirder 😂
Them ankles tho. ;) 😅😂
Sexiest part of the body 😂😂
Knees look like little faces
@funkyfresh3613 yeah not sexy at all 🤣
Especially, if it’s extra knobby ;)
TJ is a fool.. he knows what his family is like and still wants to have an American girl as his wife 😂😂 Only way for Kim to be happy is to leave TJ or TJ has to decide to live separate from his family at some other location with Kim.. not right above his family's apartment😂😂😂
I'm wondering where the father is?
Honestly I feel really bad for Kim after this. It's so incredibly rude of his family to yell and talk about her like that. If she was smart she'd leave - it doesn't seem like the brother is going to change his way of thinking and neither is she so things like this will just continue since they are going to be living in the same house. But I do have to hand it to TJ for standing up for her.
Absolutely. It is very wonderful when a man stands up for his woman. Family can get in the way. But they also live with them. Such a catch 22. She needs to dress appropriately, if she wants respect she needs to give respect
She lived there for a year she's a grown woman. Maybe spend more time with your fiance?
She starts the drama and then watch it play out. She's giving me narcissistic personality. 😢
How can anyone feel bad for her? Shes a spoiled entitled bitch
She will be making huge mistake by marrying him, he will want her pregnant ASAP and then she will be trapped as he won't let her leave with his child.
I’m completely with Kimberly on this, it’s extremely difficult to start off in a whole new country, a whole different culture and they have been nothing but disrespectful,trying to make it more difficult for her.
They're acting shocked she isn't an Indian woman 😂😂😂. I'm in the same situation and my mother in law always complains about how I'm an American because I don't allow her to verbally abuse me and steamroll my life 😂. I have adapted to the culture, and done a LOT to blend in and accept the differences, but I will never let my in laws or husband control me and Kim shouldn't either. Kim needs to get the hell out before she gets pregnant bc if it's this bad now it will only get infinitely worse.
Kim will be always seen in a poor light in the eyes of tj's family. She will never ever fit in. Darling he is not worth what is headed your way. Yes she may love him..that is not enough to deal the stress and crazy that she will encounter.
Kim was a monster to TJ when he showed her the apartment he built for her. TJ was so happy to show it to her too. I felt bad for him 🥺
She's an ungrateful, haggard, Bae hotch
She’s not used to driving on the WRONG side of the road, so her spatial awareness cant be very good in a right side driver seat. That was an epic fail lol
The fact the mom was upset with her ripped jeans is what made me mad, I get Kim should learn the culture respect but the mom was so dramatic about it. She could’ve told tj to ask her to change and nothing more, the rest of her comments were unnecessary. The brother needs to stop being a virgin and get his own family
Indians are weird. They get upset about stuff like that but rape is fine and must of the time the woman's fault
Haha. The brother is too used to having his dad in the background. The sons slept with the mom on the floor and the dad was in the corner. So strange and not a healthy environment
@@elainefranco725 I thought it was weird that the sons sleep with the mom too but I can understand it if it’s a culture thing. I know the mom is the head of the house as seen in arguments too, she even told the dad to be quiet before he could talk. I don’t see the marriage working out because tj can’t leave his family and Kim was a independent marriage life away from his family
@@xxvoid4 Don´t assume is all culture my ex parents in law have their own bedrooms separated and sleep on bed not on the floor. They are southindian christian couple with 40+ years married they as well eat in the same table all the family together not separated women and men like in Rishi and Jen scene that couldn´t enter in the kitchen. Northern people specially are much regressive and backwards compared with Southindians. My ex fiancé had his own bedroom to sleep alone at parents home. My sister in law live with her husband and children. It is true that women are who run the house and in some households are the dominant figure. Mothers are highly regarded and respected.
@@xxvoid4 Cultural or not it is gross and i am so glad i am not in that culture and i am glad for my boys that we are not in that culture, no respect for the father or the husband
I thought I was going crazy like "didn't I just watch this"
Lol my comment still stands tho tj has great energy, especially about the car damage.
I think they'd be happy and successful as a couple if they moved to the us. They won't make it with this family atmosphere
@@PoeticPeer that's what I say I'm glad he's choosing her over his family. There can still be cultural expectations but it needs to be agreed upon before marriage
This is Tj fault from the start for not telling Kimberly everything, at this point just get married then move to US since they're both know each other and they get along fine without Tj family involve
His brother is a troublemaker
I’m Latina and it’s the same here 😭
Literally have to dress appropriately around my brother and father, but they find inappropriate clothes like dresses or skirts or showing my shoulders… it’s like.. we’re family?!? ahaha why is it weird
Even I don’t understand
they probably are thinking the same thing. like “omg we’re family, why is she showing off her shoulders and upper legs to us? awkward “
Nope, TJ called them out, reminding them that they’d seen her wear it before and never told him it was a problem, they’re just dumping more crap out to be petty.
@@sweetcheeks5775 ya so i end up just wearing pjs and dressing lazy around them 😔
very sad..
@@sweetcheeks5775why it her skin turning them on and making them uncomfortable. Her skin is the last place their focus should be at. They are family why they looking at her skin so sexually that its making them uncomfortable
It gives them a bad reputation if you dress like a "hoe". That's why they're upset. If they care about you, then they don't want you to get a certain kind of male attention.
I think Kim shld go home unless she suddenly developed the eq and tolerance to deal with a big Indian family and their expectations. TJ may take her side for now but no guarantee as the days goes by he won’t be sick of it and turn against her too. 😵💫😬
Wow you predicted exactly what happened. You’re more clairvoyant than Kim was…
@@ladytea697 hahaha😹😹 thank you. The lost art of common sense 🤣🤣
@@musingwanderer2765 You called it perfectly gotta give it to you! If Kim listened to you she would have spared herself a mental breakdown! She should have ditched him before the wedding 💯
Could be the dysfunction in the family. His dad has slept on the floor for twenty years because of a fight with his wife while his son sleeps in their bed. I think TJ’s mom May be jealous of their young relationship because of her own marriage. I also noticed her tell his father to hush when he tried to speak. jmho
Yeah, first time I’ve seen the dad actually speak up, and it was to tell Yash to shut up, but mama couldn’t have her baby boy criticized by his own father. She and Yash run this toxic household, the dad’s just trying to keep his head down, so it means something that he stood up for TJ and Kim.
20 years 😅😅
He needs to stop telling his family about their rows????
There doesn't seem to be room for compromise with his mom, and honestly I think he's been hoping she'd just let it go eventually. I definitely think Kim overreacted when Yash playfully pat her. I also think Yash is jealous of TJ. And OMG did anyone else see the mom tell the dad to stay quiet when he said TH was saying rubbish?! Then she realized she was on camera and caught herself before she said anything else. What in the world is going on in this family? Why can't the dad speak?
And sleeps on the floor….
The dad was telling Yash that HE was saying, rubbish, not TJ, that’s why the mom shushed him, because she’s on Yash’s side and the dad knows they are the instigators, not TJ or Kim.
And Yash didn’t “playfully pat” her, this was after he called her stupid and had been insulting her and her culture non-stop.
@@roxanecyr8345yep, the dad sleeps on the floor because even he’s sick of his wife’s sh*t. 😂
Does the father every speak or have any opinions of his own? He just seems to just sit there like a lifeless zombie.
We all know who wears the long, knees covered, pants in that family!
Hahaha. Truth. The sons sleep next to the mom and the dad is left in the corner. Very strange and unhealthy.
@@elainefranco725not just the corner, he sleeps on the living room floor, not even in the bedroom with his wife and sons. The mom’s trying to use him an excuse to get mad about Kim’s pants, complaining it’s bad to wear that in front of her father-in-law, but the first time he finally speaks up, it’s to defend TJ and Kim by telling Yash to shut up. 😂
So in most Indian families, there's a decorum to be maintained when elderly people are in the room. It's a two way thing, even the old man will not be dressed in shorts or vest if there's a woman (not wife) in the same room. It's like showing respect.
11:52 I feel for her here. That's gotta be tough.
People like to get real upset when you start setting boundaries smdh She’s not being disrespectful. She’s asking for the same respect she is expected to give them
Why are this gril taking all this crap from this people. Those people never change they always think they are the best screw them
My boyfriend and his family are from Mexico. When I visited them, they spoke no English, and I only know very basic stuff from taking 2 years of Spanish in high school. It was very difficult at times. To have someone look at you, ask a question, and you just have to blankly stare back because you don’t understand. I felt left out when his whole family and their friends were gathered all laughing and talking, while I just smiled. It makes you feel pretty isolated. So to have that on her scale, would be so stressful. It’s tough not being able to properly communicate with your significant other’s family.
Brother is everywhere even while walking 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Love the longer vids!
I hope and pray this girl goes home, like NOW! I am very worried for her!!!
Kim should have done some research about the Indian culture.... just another example of how the majority of Americans are.
It was refreshing seeing an Indian man NOT scared of his mother and family..... and standing up for his woman.
Did you even watch the show? Y’all people jumping in the comments “she should’ve done research” “blah blah Americans suck”
She lived in India for a YEAR. She attended college there and had her own apartment while she and TJ dated. He’s admitted that he’s been deceptive about how conservative his family is and their expectations of her being their submissive little servant, saying he’s not gonna tell her until after the wedding. He said it again in front of Yash and their mom, and both nodded and laughed about it.
This isn’t about Americans being ignorant of Indian culture, this is one messed up Indian family that says it’s against their religion to eat garlic and onions while those are staple ingredients in most Indian cooking.
The adult sons sleep in the same bed with their mommy while the dad sleeps on the living room floor because she got mad at him 20 years ago. That’s not about Indian culture.
"Just another example of how the majority of Americans are??" There are 340,354,201 people in the U.S., 86.9% are U.S. citizens. You've watched maybe 10 on a SCRIPTED reality show over the past few years. Your statement is ridiculous and not factual.
Kimberly needs to return to the US before something bad happens to her! I just don't see how she could ever live in harmony with this family. This is just NOT A GOOD FIT! She really needs to go home...like, yesterday!
LOL
I think that The Kimberly has an awesome attitude, she’s actually being a very good sport. She’s actually quite an adorable person. They are both cute together. They family drama will blow over eventually and everyone will grow from it.
Kimberly did the same exact thing when she saw the apartment! She popped off yelling and speaking in English. While I think TJ’s mom and brother are acting like bullies- she did the same thing.
No she didn’t, she was speaking English in a private conversation with TJ, who also speaks English, which is the language they’ve always spoken to each other, after he first reached out to her on social media, in English. She wasn’t talking in front of his family and wasn’t talking about them. His mistake was running and crying to them about it.
But his mom and Yash were yelling about her right in front of her and waving their hands at her, knowing she’d have no idea what they were saying but would obviously know they were sh*t-talking about her, so she couldn’t even defend herself. They figured she’d just sit there and meekly take it, hoping she’d be so shaken that she’d shut up and fall in line with their plan to make her the family’s submissive servant. There’s absolutely no comparison.
I agree, she set the tone during her first moments there yelling in their home rather than expressing extream gratitude, that'll resonate and continues to influence them
Kimberly did not make a good first impression when she moved to India and I think that on top of Yash being an issue and earworming, has just snowballed and amplified everything so that all it took was a pair of ripped jeans to just break everyone. Also the way TJ snapped at his brother so quickly after he said barely a sentence kinda shows that they had issues concerning Kimberly or issues in general long before she arrived.
What's going to happen when they marry and she is expected to take over all the cooking and housework for the parents-in-law and be the lowest of the low, the daughter-in-law? Hope she shows them that's not right for any woman!!!
I seriously doubt she'll do it and I don't blame her.
Cooking and keep house clean is not not all around world ?
kimberly brought this all on herself kicking off her first night in india lol. the consequences of your own actions? neverr.
TJ……about Kimberly…ruuuuuuuuuuuun!
Here’s an idea…if you want TJ’s family to welcome you…BE LIKABLE! Had she done her due diligence before traveling to India and exercised basic common courtesy once there….all this drama - avoided
Too many comments about “due diligence” and “research” from people who didn’t do their own research by watching the show. So I’m copypasting what I said to someone else:
She lived in India for a YEAR. She attended college there and had her own apartment while she and TJ dated. He’s admitted that he’s been deceptive about how conservative his family is and their expectations of her being their submissive little servant, saying he’s not gonna tell her until after the wedding. He said it again in front of Yash and their mom, and both nodded and laughed about it.
This isn’t about Americans being ignorant of Indian culture, this is one messed up Indian family that says it’s against their religion to eat garlic and onions while those are staple ingredients in most Indian cooking.
The adult sons sleep in the same bed with their mommy while the dad sleeps on the living room floor because she got mad at him 20 years ago. That’s not about Indian culture.
@@akaLaBrujaRoja knowing she’s been there before makes her look even MORE stupid….was your point? Living on her own in India, taught her absolutely NOTHING about what to expect from this “joint” family situation. Also, pointing out that TJ’s family is quirky, only further proves me right…
@@mommav0107 no, it doesn’t make her look “MORE stupid,” it shows how deceptive and manipulative TJ and his family have been (I’m not including his dad because he’s obviously sick of his wife and Yash’s crap.) And further proves you haven’t watched the show, because TJ says SEVERAL TIMES that he’s hiding the reality of living with his family until after the wedding, and when she asks him about it directly, he dances around it and gives her the impression she won’t have to do it, then off camera, says yeah, he’s not gonna tell her the truth because she’d call off the wedding.
But if you think that Oedipal sleeping arrangement is just “quirky,” you got bigger problems. Are you in some incestuous cult? I hope you don’t have kids.
@@mommav0107it's one thing to live in India as a tourist and it's another thing entirely to BE an Indian, which is what her in laws expect. You can't research your way into assimilating into an extremely complex foreign culture. It's impossible. I've lived as a foreign wife in India for 7 years and only now am quite comfortable in my understanding of how Indian culture works. I read books, was interested in Hinduism, and practiced yoga years before I met my husband and it NEVER prepared me for the reality of life here.
her sitting on the stairs gives, "im listening to my separating parents argue in the kitchen"
I think in ANY culture dressing appropriately around your mother in law is standard! That’s standard.
No, if TJ thought she was dressed “appropriately” then she had no reason to question it. And he reminded them that she’d worn it before and they didn’t complain, only bringing it up now as another excuse to pile on.
@@akaLaBrujaRoja I agree in this case but to be on the safe side ALWAYS dress well in front of your mother in law and your life will be easier!
and why did he touch her thats a very sensitive issue
My BIL won't even be in the same room with me. He only ever speaks to me if absolutely necessary 😂. Definitely not part of Indian culture for a man to touch his brother's wife.
@@PoeticPeer yeah was gna say he has bad manners instead he is just faulting his brothers wife. nobody is perfect but i would rather wprk on my self to better myself than concentrate on others flaws
Love that TJ has his future wife back erytime he really cares for her and akso goes against his brother and mum you go TJ tell them off 🤣She's your bride not theirs
Kim is definitely the problem as well. What are you guys talking about 😂
Can you make a playlist? So that I can go through each and every episode sequence wise
the traffic in india *actually* has no rules or any specific guidelines as compared to the USA, Kimberly IS actually in the right here 😂
How ignorant !!
Loving your videos
I don't think hit and run is legal in any country.
Ps I'm indian and it's not legal here
but it’s probably very easy to get away with.
@@sweetcheeks5775women are stupid and your the proof of it. u probably going to make onlyfan
I'd be scared of TJ blowing up next to me, even when he's defending me ... ?
It may not look gross to an American about a daughter in law wearing exposed jeans in front of her father in law.. But as an Indian this is terrible and absolutely indecent.. I don't blame Kim for this but TJ coz he clearly hasn't educated her on how the culture and customs are here in India!
Maybe this is scripted. They say all TLC shows are scripted.
People need to take responsibility for the choices they make. If you do not like a culture or agroup of people. Just move and live your life's together in another place. Some people just like to live in drama. 😂😂😂
Shes not very nice. When she first arrived she was very unkind to her fiancé . She should have stayed home.
Another disaster....his brothet sees right through her.
To build the relationship, you need to have a respect for each other family too as you might not love them but show them respect. If you love the man/woman you love their country, their family and their friends. I've respected my husband family and his parents that I wouldn't have a clothes that I usually wear in front of them and behaved with total respect as they were from the developing world and had a different culture and I was willing to obey. It's hard for Kimberly as she was not prepared for this, lol
But as TJ pointed out, they’d seen her wear it before and never told him they had problem with it, only bring it up now while they’re already bitching about her. If even TJ didn’t know it was a problem, why should she be expected to know?
Hahaha. Now his whole life is bakwas 😂😂😂 And he was shouting at his family? He wants that's green card bad man.
Well I was just india and a bicycle in the road handle bar got stuck in a sign on the richahaw and it ripped off violently and he slowed down to see the guy put his hand up like wtf and he just kept driving 😂
SA is real in India and maybe this brings a lot of unnecessary attention. She lived there for a year prior she fully knows this and doesn't care. Typical American making all of us look bad.
Nope, if he knows it’s a problem there in a way it isn’t in the US, it’s HIS responsibility to just not touch her. He was calling her stupid and personally insulting her (which she never did to him or any of the family), so he shouldn’t have touched her. All she said was “please don’t touch me,” then he rolled his eyes and whimpered more bs, so she clarified that she could’ve instead told him “don’t f*cking touch me”, but didn’t. And they were in a private area, away from other people except the film crew, so no one would think it was SA. Yash and mommy were just stirring up phony drama to complain about.
Tj should given the full detail about his family culture and home too
Personally I dont think Yash is jealous or anything like comments are speculating here. They had fight the first night when she arrived in india and Tj went to his family to vent instead of trying resolve the issue amongst themselves. Therefore the family isn’t going to perceive Kimberly in a good light because they saw how much Tj put work into building the place despite not being of Kim’s likings or the loan he took. Mostly likely saw Kim has ungrateful or “picky.” Plus American women don’t have the best image in India so they already have some sort of hesitation about her and the fight in the first night probably didn’t help. Also when Yash and Kim were fighting, you can clearly hear what kind of perception he has about Americans. Yash is disrespectful a-hole but Kim didn’t help her case by not disassociating herself from that situation but instead she stooped to his level and went on rant about how she hates his family and culture. Yash and Kim are both have some mouth of them. They just met their match. Just because Yash was wrong to attack him like that and shouldn’t have minded his business. This doesn’t mean Kim wasn’t as disrespectful.
This is a much better upload and much less degrading to the Indian culture 💯
Love conquers all. Love this couple and their families on how they are able to get through their cultural differences 🥰💕❤❤❤❤
There is so much wrong with TJ and his family oh my god? He needed to be honest with Kimberly, just that!
She’s destroying this family. They should wait at least a year, then see if they still want to marry.
huh? All she doing is just existing lol
What? She's done nothing wrong besides being a bit over the top and wanting her apartment finished.
He pretty much lied to her.
@@cheery-hex I find her attitude towards the culture and her fiancé’s family very rude. She said she hates India, doesn’t want to be with his family and is only there for her fiancé. What is going to happen when she finds out she’ll have to take over all the housework? She’ll refuse, causing more problems..although this is her fiancé’s fault. She acts like she’s three years old. With her tantrums and closed off judgements..do you really think that in five years time these two will be together? This is supposed to be the honeymoon period.
@cheery-hex wow clearly you aren't watching her episodes. Just existing my buttcrack. She's been instigating all this drama and she likes to sit back and play victim. None of this wouldn't have happened if she didn't act an ass in front of his family. They don't owe her anything but she owes them an apology for disrespecting they house and culture. They were pretty welcoming and loved on her but she screwed that up and now they are act accordingly.
What does he sees in her?!!!!
I am not a huge fan of the Kimberly but I started to tear up for her and tj.
I love your videos, your takes seem so wise and compassionate. As far as TJ, Kim, and the family. Honestly, its TJ's fault the most. The reason the family doesn't like her is because he poisoned the well. The very second they had a fight, he ran downstairs and blabbed to his family, saying that she was ab*sive and terrible. So of course they are then riled up. This is why you do not tell your fights to family because inevitable you two make up and the family is still upset about what you said. So it was TJ who poisoned the well. Its not Kim or the families fault. Was Kims behavior abhorrent? Yes, but the family didn't know that as they were upstairs.
So since she’s got to India, she’s been nothing but ungrateful to his family, the apartment, the wedding, crashed the car and divided two brothers 😅
Kimberly is destroying this Indian family
She is toxic and disrespectful. She needs therapy.
The sons sleep with the mom, the husband sleeps on the floor. That family had problems before Kimberly arrived.
@@cathyincolorado1432 But it worked for them for over 20 years. I don't think anyone can say they have "problems" when they have remained an intact unit all that time. What's problematic to you might be perfectly alright to someone else. Co-sleeping with children, even adult children is common in Indian culture. Westerners confuse sex and sleeping. These are two different things altogether. The mother and father could still be having a sexual life when their sons are out. It actually makes sense because if they were to do it at night, their sons would hear them in that small house.
Co sleeping? Hahahahaha
My question is, how does TJ speak English, but no one else in his family does? How did he learn it? 🤔
nope Kimberly is rude. if they were in the West she would be bleating on about 'how they do in America'. so when in Rome....
Nope, most Indians eat garlic and don’t live in families where the adult sons sleep in their mommy’s bed while their dad has to sleep on the living room floor for 20 years because he had a “fight” with her. She and Yash are toxic, giving off Norma/Norman Bates vibes.
People saying oh Kimberly isn’t any of the problem, did she not say: I hate India, I don’t want to live here, I am putting up with your parents? Yes she said everyone of those things & more, the entire time acting like she is better than everyone in his family & all of India.
Did she not snarl “don’t touch me” to his brother when he touched her arm? Yes, they are not in the US things like that can be totally different in other countries.
I do think TJ & his brother should have set down without Kimberly or their parents & talked.
How do you think his mother is going to feel after hearing what she has said, she sees firsthand Kimberly insisted on not living in the family home & heard the fit she threw about the apartment.
Kimberly has lived in India for a year previously & sees how women mostly dress there, I found her jeans & jeans like that appalling. There is nothing attractive about them, a few well off people wanted to spread their idea of fashion & this was part of it so of course the followers bought them. This is their country not hers & his parents are older & TJ should have told her about clothes before now.
It’s not TJ’s house downstairs where the parents live so what they want in their house should be respected.
Kim could have tried harder to become part of the family but hasn’t she stays upstairs alone all the time, that won’t endear her to them.
Kim is spoilt & selfish thinking like many westerns do that they can move to another country not have to learn the customs because they expect to be accommodated to how they are used to living.
I think this may be a blessing in a way. TJ thinks after they marry he can get her to become an Indian wife & Kimberly isn’t going to want to do what they expect at all so there will be major turmoil with the entire family. His parents probably don’t even realize daughter in laws here in the west don’t take over all of the household duties & taking care of all the entire household family’s wants & needs after marriage. Thing is they don’t have to realize this it’s their country & there is no reason for them to change if they don’t want to.
If these two want to continue then it would be best if they moved completely out of the family house or to the US, but Kimberly doesn’t even speak to TJ about this so is she really ready to get married to him?
Problem is TJ took out what is a large loan there so he probably cannot afford another home & if he left India they might put his family out of the house completely & take it to compensate for the loan.
This is a perfect example of if you can’t live like & by the culture of the country you are moving to then stay in the west you will not be happy & your partner will not be either.
I agree with everything you said. She thinks she is superior to Indians and we all know why. She says things like “there are no rules in India” how ignorant can she be! She acts like a 5 year old spoiled brat. She has zero respect for Tj, and his family and his country. And now she wonders why they stopped respecting her?
thx for sharing your input here. its nice to see how its perceived on the other side. in regards of her snapping at Yash; would it be possible for the two of them to talk it out? I can understand how her snapping can be seen as hurtful towards Yash (ex: feeling like she rejected him family wise)- however; I do think its was a misunderstanding. Kim was not in the mood for light hearted gestures & fail to realize it was Yash way of de-escalating.
It would be better if they have a neutral translator (I think TJ shouldn't be there cuz it can make things worse) to help both Kim and Yash to help communicate & seek reconciliation. I think it was wrong for them (Yash & mom) to talk smack about her indirectly and should have sat with TJ 1st to speak about their frustrations. firstly the mom should have spoken to TJ and express how Kim acted towards Yash has hurt/offended her. Kim did say hated India and didn't want to live with the in-laws or in the country if they overheard it; it makes sense for them needing a family talk. just cuz Kim was mad and lashing it out doesn't mean she rude statements can be dismissed. Just because tj and mom are upset at Kim and Yash (for different reasons) doesn't mean they have the a reason to lash out that way to either of them. 2 wrongs don't make it right.
I think in this scenario it would be good to hear/see the dad intervene I wish we had more time to hear his take on the matter. if not again have a neutral person/ translator to help carry the conversation.
TJ role in this matter is that he was ultimately not fully honest to his family nor to Kim; thus, setting them up to fail in adjusting each other & new chapter in their lives. Kim needs to assimilate to Indian culture just as much as her in-laws need to assimilate/ understand American culture- if they truly wish her to be part of the family they need to be able to understand her view. that way in the future when they have small squabbles they can talk it out & speak directly to her rather than putting every matter on TJ. Kim must put an effort to interact & bond w/ family. tj should have been honest to himself in deducing Kim living with his folks was a good idea or not. if yash and Kim don't make up I think it would doom tj relationships with his family or with Kim.
with people saying Kim isn't the problem. the argument we are seeing is the dynamic of tj and his family- Kim has nothing to do it. that is a matter that needs to be resolve since we are just watching a fake reality tv show I like to think they are just acting for having a good story line so we can't make assumptions on their personal lives/ family dynamics that's reaching. every lie there's some truth. =S good show
Finally someone gets it instead of blindly taking Kimberly's side. That woman is God awful and disrespectful as all hell
@@lexansstories6952 thank you! I usually get told how awful the family is. It’s their home, their country no one drug Kimberly there & the disrespect she shows is horrible!
Thank you! Tjs brother is a hole but he definitely gave her the same energy. Personally I wouldn’t want my sibling to marry someone who hates my culture and family. Just because he’s wrong doesn’t mean Kim isn’t. Two things can be right at the same time. Kim is a a-hole and so is the brother.
Why are the car seats wrapped in plastic?
He called the car “my baby”, so I’m guessing the plastic is to keep it clean.
Shouting and throwing objects...no thanks! Drive on that day..could have waited.
Being 🇮🇳 indian Americans 🇺🇸 should learn to understand indian culture and keep their ego and attitude in America.
You get what you give Kimberly
TJ & Yash's mom has the prettiest smile.
She will go to jail for a hit and run. Which country allows hit and run ??? 🤔. Btw its about respecting elders which westerners know nothing about. 😂
How do you know what westerners know & don't know? Your statement shows how little you know about westerners.
I was referring to the hosts creepy explanation about Kim saying as if she is trying to steal the fil to be. It's about wearing decent clothes in front of elders which is not common in other cultures.
@@cathyincolorado1432your people
Know nothing u can see all comment they think hit and run is allowed here and u get away with it.
I am from India and we have very strict rules
I never knew wearing a ripped jeans can cause these much issues. Why are they overeating ?
Can we point out that Kimberly is an extremely difficult woman?? She admits this.
I understand them to say don’t touch me that way is not Ok
The jeans are gross for American standards, too ❗🚫
Exposed knees in inappropriate around in-laws... it's not the mom grasping on straws
But why? What makes it inappropriate? Are we saying that's more inappropriate than crashing a car and not stopping?
@AllThingsRealityTV That's a different topic, that was irresponsible as a human being no matter where a person lives.
With the knees it's cultural, nothing above the knees or you were something more modest during the wedding week celebration to show you are transitioning to being a wife.
It's cultural preference, we all have different opinions, culture and traditions.
@@fifisdlo6079she’s totally grasping, that’s why TJ called her out, reminding her that Kim wore that before and his mom never said anything. He didn’t think there was a problem with what Kim wore, so there’s no reason Kim should. Even the dad told Yash to shut up about it.
I married an Indian in India and I love his family we get along very well - although I can't cook 🤦🏻♀️ oops and yes I'm a western woman too, Australian not American
Kim is crazy crazy and crazy....I know she loves to be called that
I love that Indian culture chooses to use bright colors for weddings rather than boring white!
The thing with Indian culture is they do a lot of things just for show. They shower you with praises, love, affection at the beginning because they want to appear in favourable image to you.
Then they start showing their actual selves
to avoid all of it why not marry in America, live in America?? This relationship I think will be a short one - anytime the couple has issues with the family or a problem with their culture that Kim doesn't understand - it will be short.
I genuinely think TJ and Kimberly would do fine together as a couple if they just came to the states. I'm not trying to bash on their culture, it just seems TJ doesn't share the exact same conviction that his family does. I feel like if he didn't have his family in such a close proximity constantly putting pressure on him, they'd be fine and much happier. I feel like they would be fine in india if they wanted more of a traditional life based on Indian values.
Yash is totally trying to gain his family's favour by being the majorS he already is. Kimberly acted maturely in this situation. TJ's mom needs to be open minded and not just listen to yash and no one else.
Those jeans aren’t appropriate for anyplace, they are terrible, splits & small holes in your jeans are good but not the complete knees cut out, but that family is soooo bad I want to watch this until Kimberly finds out she’s going to be the families Maid & cook, no way in HELL WOULD I DO THAT EITHER 🤬😡
For all those who came here after watching instagram reel 😅
The brother should keep out.