as a western girl who lived in India for 10 years, i can say for sure that the wedding ceremonies are so intricate and elaborate, that even most Indians have a hard time knowing what is going on, letting alone explaining it to a person who is not in the same culture and religion. us girls really just have a grand time going through the motions and experiencing the amazing celebration. she needs to chill and go with the flow.
i was thinking the same. she should just feel free to go with it and perhaps gather more understanding on the practices and ceremonies later on. indian weddings are the most beautiful and she’s privileged to be able to experience one. but i can understand feeling frustrated at feeling like you’re being left out of your own wedding
@@laur83I think she's just high strung in general. She always lets herself get worked up about everything, then when it happens and she sees there isn't going to be a problem, she relaxes and enjoys herself. My grandma is like this, but she never calms down, she has to make everyone else feel anxious and uncomfortable with her for the rest of the day. Kim isn't doing too bad imo. At least in that aspect.
Kim is very similar to my mother. Even down the stress pains in the gut, being a spiritualist (mom does tarot) and loses her shit over things she shouldn't lose herself over. I think it's a mental disorder caused by bad parenting. My mom came from a broken home much like Kim. If Kim doesn't get a handle on her melodramatic attitude, she will end up single and alone in India, the worse place a woman wants to be alone in.@@Zeroshiki
@@RozettaVyper Women don't have to worry about being alone until they completely lose their looks and youth. That's when one finds out what a nice personality is worth.
Correct, that's why I always communicate dissatisfaction with things in relationships immediately through passive aggressive behavior, shutdowns and irritability
If I was marrying someone from a different culture I would 100% research all the details before my wedding and make sure that there were two translators at the wedding so I don't miss anything. If you fail to plan, plan to fail.
@@mycinnamongirl I also don't like how she is so ugly about his family when they STILL going above and beyond for her and she doesn't deserve it. She has been nothing but awful to them.
She doesn't want the family, she just wants TJ. And when she's not the absolut center of attention, she becomes demanding and all around ugly. She's really not a good Person, TJ is in for a really rude awakening....
My boyfriend is Italian and I happily informed him about my culture and customs just as he taught me about his. I can't imagine to leave a person I love and not to teach them anything. Sure, she should educate herself but Indian culture is very vast. It's super weird her husband didn't even think to prepare her. Of course, she could ask on Quora but if I were her partner I'd feel partly responsible for the outcome. Plus, her husband still haven't told her that she's expected to be a traditional wife, actively living with his parents. It's nothing bad she just wants him. Plus, why is she the one supposed to 100% cater to their culture? It's a mutual effort. I don't like her but her husband is equally responsible for the outcome. I can't imagine a universe where me and my boyfriend are getting married in my country and I don't walk him through the entire ceremony and customs, asking if something should be adjusted or added so he felt more comfortable. She's unlikable but learning about a culture is crazy. It takes years and customs vary from family to family. It's different when a person explains you something then you reading a Wikipedia article. I don't understand her husband. He still haven't told her she's expected to share everyday life with his family and to be a traditional wife. He's equally, if not even more, inconsiderate of her culture and customs.
This. I can't believe how much people don't think about these things. There's no way I'd even commit to moving somewhere else before at least becoming fluent in the language and learning the laws and customs to avoid trouble. Idk how these people do it.
That's what I was thinking too! Why didn't she do her own research if she's so clairvoyant like she says she is. She is 30 years old she needs to stop acting like a big child.
❤ she literally said nobody cares about me and starts whining. Her step mom rolls her eyes afterwards imo. The whole wedding is about her. She literally wants people worshipping her…
She is very immature for her age. It cracks me up when she says she's a spiritual person!! I've never seen anyone that seemed less spiritual!! Imo, she behaves more like a kid in middle school rather than an adult
After the first day when she was upset about not knowing anything, why on earth didn’t she ask him that night to explain what was going to happen the next day?. Also TJ is to blame as well because he had time to explain things to her. At the very least he could have got someone who speaks English to sit with her and explain things to her. It’s not that hard.
Maybe the process should have been explained to her prior to the actual wedding ceremonies. She also,could have educated herself on this practice in their culture. As stated she had months to learn or ask about it.
Compounding the issue, tjs english is poor...i dont even think he has the vocab to explain the traditions and also acts like he isnt quite sure the significance or meanings either.
Wow there is no one from TJ family that speaks English to help translate? I am Indian, married a Canadian-Chinese girl in India, and she didn't have any of these issues. In fact, I also made sure she understood everything that was happening. And so were most of my family members. It's not fair to put it on her doorstep here. She is out of her comfort zone and someone needs to support her.
@@ajheartsong Kim does make herself pretty easy to dislike, she’s the worst whiner, she’s never happy about anything. No matter what happens, Kim’s going to b*tch, & snivel. Maybe she want cheese with her whine?
Kim has such high expectations about how everyone needs to make her happy - as she screams and cries and sulks - why doesn’t she have to be considerate of others?!?!?
I'm not a fan of Kim at all but TJ should have introduced and educated her in terms of his culture in the same way she should have tried harder integrating and blending into her fiance's culture and language. Everyone is to blame here (except Kim's parents who are lovely, the stepmum in particular)
I’m sorry to say, but I kinda find it hard to like Kim. She’s done nothing but complain since she’s got to India. She hasn’t tried to make a chance and she just wants everyone to sympathize for her.
Uggghhhh.. I'm so tired of Kim & her terrible attitude.. that just shows you that her positive attitude isn't real.. she's acts like a brat & her parents & TJ are enabling her to act this way....
This girl is too much. Her attitude and demeanor sucks. She’s always mad. Her husband won’t be too happy with her. She won’t get along with her family. Why wouldn’t she educate herself? His family tried to make her happy.
Sadly, she’s not the first clairvoyant/energy worker who claims to be in tune with energy I’ve seen acting totally unaware of how they’re own energy and behavior projects onto others.
Real clairvoyants don’t advertise their gifts to every Tom, Dick and Harry that crosses their path. They keep it on the downlow. Kimberly is a typical white girl tarot card reader who learned the meaning of the cards and just pulls storylines out of her behind. She’s one of the most obvious new age poseurs I’ve ever seen 😅
I'm trying to understand the disconnect here. Kim seemed to be very focused on the decor and colors of the wedding, but not so much on the actual ceremonies. She talks about how spiritual she is all the time, but didn't really put any effort into learning what goes into it. I do think TJ should have at least provided her with a translator, but this is not 100% on him.
I feel she didnt bother to research cz she expected to be spoon fed. He shud ve provided her with a translator but men like TJ r not considerate he wud ve nevr thot of something like dat. I bet she will leave him n go back within a year
She’s so bratty as usual. Instead of finding solutions she’s whines and sob, when she can just take out the phone and google “Indian wedding ceremony process” - I did that and I found a lot of info😑😑😑
About the chantings by the Pandit, half of us doesnt know what it means. We just chant after him, whatever and however we can. 😂 Also it's in Sanskrit..so it's pretty difficult to pronounce stuff.
0:00 Kim should be crying with joy but, of course, Kim is crying because she thinks no one gives a damn about her. Kim is just as problematic as Jasmine but in a more emo way.
I think Kim's feelings are 100% valid. TJ's family and TJ together should put themselves in Kim's shoes and made sure that everything happening should be translated and communicated properly to Kim and her parents.
I’ve learned so so much about cultures different, it really plays a very big role be and I’ve learned that in a relationship communication and sacrifice take you far.
Maybe if the two of them weren’t fighting so much they would’ve had time to sit down and go over what was gonna happen at the wedding and go over all the different ceremonies. These two are so wrong for each other.
I don't understand her not at least Googling the customs and trying to figure out how to communicate a bit with his family in all that time. That said, I was in my friend's wedding in Vietnam a few years ago. I studied the wedding traditions and even tried to learn some Vietnamese phrases. I got there, and things were a bit different. No one understood any of my Viet, and my attempts were just awkward. Google Translate doesn't work so well with tonal languages either. It was so hot and humid (and I'm from Texas near the gulf), and the ao dai I was wearing was a mock turtleneck all the way down to my feet, several layers too. I was just focused on not passing out most of the time during the ceremonies and many photo shoots.
That is INSANE that she didnt have a chaperone of some sort and they couldve at the very least made her a schedule of events with the names of ceremonies and such.
Bro, he is the GROOM. This isn't a Christian wedding where neither does barely anything but dress up before the wedding. He is LITERALLY NOT ALLOWED TO LEAVE. There are Constant people and things to do. YOU ALSO SHOULD RESEARCH about weddings before you speak
Regardless of religion, weddings can be overwhelming. The cost, the loads of people, the events, the expectations--anyone would be overwhelmed, even if they helped planned or researched it. Coupled with the fact that Indian weddings is a multi day affair and her not being told anything or understanding anything- it can contribute to that overwhelming feeling.
Immature? Oh yeah. But having grown up in the US I know that she’d have gotten a beat down somewhere along the line if she acted like that. I’m not saying it’s ok, but it happens. Most Mericans don’t act that way, thank God…
@@dennismiles1 I myself am American, and I don’t think she’s gotten any “beat down”. Having a beat down would have most likely made her more immune to different stressors.
@@cookie22100 It was a joke, obviously. Did anyone actually think that I was saying that “I’d have her “beat up”, lol? God I hope not, but y’all can do whatever you’re gonna do with it.
I think TJ wants to avoid her attitude and that’s why he didn’t explain the ceremony but if it were me I would have definitely have googled it . She is not a child and playing the victim all the time gets old . I think she is used to her family babying her so she was thinking the new family was going to do the same .
She could have done herself but she literally just said that she wanted it to come from him so she must have wanted it to be a special and something he shared with her. I don't like her either but I think that's what she wanted. He could have taken the initiative too.
He should’ve explained before the wedding what and when and how things are going on during the days of the ceremonies… Also she could’ve learned about the ceremonies before the wedding on google or something 🫣… but also can understand where she is coming from… with only her father and stepmother there, she feels lost as they are the only two of her side of 8:028:078:108:138:168:19 the party so to speak… And again … she could’ve done research and or talk through the ceremonies with TJ … 🙄 Love you’re videos ♥️♥️ have a great evening 😘
@@lauracaldwell5640 hahaha 🤣🤣 sure seems like that, right? 🤣🤣 Indian culture and rituals are a huge deal and as a foreigner marrying an Indian man/wife should do research and see if you can accept and willing to live “like that”… don’t complain afterwards or like Kim… just not interested and blaming TJ all the time for her negligence of what she is marrying into… if you know what I mean 😅😜
I’m coming out for Kim. As others have said she is a little highly strung and I think that does come across.But again, I still think this is down to TJ. Imagine it’s your wedding and you’re the bride and people are asking you to sit on your mother in laws lap. As an adult !!! I’m pretty sure that many viewers or commenters would appreciate a heads up with traditions like that. I’m irked because I feel this is a subtext to what Kim’s life will become. Ignored and marginalized in a country that isn’t as progressive as the place of her birth. I just wonder if she’s actually fully aware of this. This is someone who was told her ripped jeans was inappropriate in front of the elder gentlemen but she didn’t seem to get why. We like to think love conquers all but if your priorities are you parents, religion and culture before anything else. I don’t see Kim having as stronger voice as she would’ve if she married an American.
I’m not stating anything other then the obvious she should’ve done her research and studied the culture she was marrying into but this is a singular comment 💋 everyone can calm down I never said she was in the right
I see why the brother said she was stupid 😅😅she's the most negative person their..she still c complaining and being the victim,,blah blah blah blah omyghost worse bride on here 😒 😅
My god I’m constantly screaming for Kim to just get some DBT like PLEASEEE. she is the most textbook case of someone who has no idea how to regulate her emotions. She let herself spiral with her negative judgements instead of just living in the moment and enjoying her bloody wedding 😭 m
I completely agree. I am diagnosed with Borderline PD, and after 15 months of DBT I managed to get myself out of endless negativity, obsessions with sui-cide and toxic mindsets into a much happier OR at least a largely content life where I find pleasure and happiness in even the smallest of things.
Even us born and raised here we don't know what's going on... The mantras are in a different script so we don't understand it either... so it's the same for everyone.. should have just enjoyed what's going on...
She keeps saying she’s spiritual without understanding there’s many different spirits out there there. So she’s just accepting of them all? Being spiritual doesn’t mean you know what spirit you’re inviting.
They should have sat down together and tj and her could have watched TH-cam videos on what to expect and learned together that way she could see what was everything about and wouldn't feel weird.
I just started watching 90 day fiance, from the beginning, with Russ, Paola, Mike, Aziza, Alan, Kirlylam, etc, but what a big difference in the couples they have today, like Kim, TJ, Jasmine, Gino, etc etc etc etc etc!! After the first few seasons they just have a bunch of nuts on the show, imo!! I've never been a dan of Paola, but she's a heck of a lot better than Jasmine!!! By far!!
IDK why Kim is having such a hard time. I went to a couple states in India and it didn't feel alienating at all. Everyone tried their hard to communicate and was also all very nice. Regarding the timing though, everything in India starts late lol, it's normal and it's not a big deal.
Even with or without her researching the wedding festivities, they were still treating her like she wasn’t really there, lol. I don’t see how her knowing what was going on would help with her feeling like no one cares about her
She was more then happy to let TJ take care off the whole wedding , with out her input , she should have at the minimum asked Tj to explain and what she should expect for there wedding. I can not wait until she finds out she will be the house maid hahaha
That’s a lie. She asked him constantly. In the very first episode she asks him on video chat and he tells her not worry about anything that his family is doing everything the way THEY want and don’t want her input, wouldn’t even let her choose her own wedding dress. And I can’t wait till TJ’s momzilla and her baby boy Yash find out they blew all this money thinking they were getting a house maid when she tells them to f*ck off and not do a damn thing for them.
Kimberly and tj should’ve communicated way before the wedding ceremonies so she could understand what was going to happen and what to expect. Both of them are to blame
I agree. I can’t believe this never came up before the actual wedding! TJ should have found a pundit that spoke English so he could explain the rituals they were performing. And she could have at least tried to google it weeks before lol 😅
It would have helped to have a translator around. TLC should have just provided a translator. That would help her navigate the elaborate ceremonies and timeframes.
It really seems to me that indian weddings aren't really about the bride and groom so much as it's about the family and its status. The wedding is to show off. Not necessarily to please the bride. The bride should just be happy to be joining a family that can put on such an elaborate show. It's still a compliment to her though. They are celebrating her worth to them. Maybe she can go to the US and have a reception and or small get together that suits her desires to make it about her. I think She needs to realize in India it's about family. Not about self.
I do see a double-standard in the commentary where brides who go to India or the Middle-east are repeatedly shamed for not knowing local customs or refusing to follow them, and I see ZERO of the same energy when Muslim guys particularly come to the US with their older brides and expect things to still be like they were in the Islamic world. More than once this has happened but it only ever seems to be the Western women going East who are obliged to fit in.
Forever confused by how many people move without knowing the basics in the language… at least learn to better understand your partner, they could be saying all sorts, sneaking, lying, all with you sat right there none the wiser!
I think there’s an important pieces of background info in this situation that’s being ignored. Many Hindu wedding customs follow the idea of “auspicious times” according to the Vedic horoscopes of the couple so there’s often a narrow time in which you need to finish the ceremony. That explains why they couldn’t wait for the translator.
I feel both r at fault here. Kim not doing any research and tj for not keeping anyone from his family/fren with her not jus to explain everything dats going on but also for company.
“Im a spiritual person” then why didnt you do any research on the spiritual practices of a different country?!? Its no secret that most eastern cultures always bless big events & ceremonies like weddings
@ClaireisVegan that's why I said I don't agree with what the person on this youtube video said placing the blame mostly on her. When if he loved her he would help her not stay away and say figure it out lol
Well considering that tj and the family planned the whole thing. She could have at least done a little research so seemed interested enough to ask questions rather than moping around. Definitely, TJ should have told her beforehand but she should have taken the initiative herself.
Tbf most women would not like the grooms family and others planning their weddings with no input allowed from the bride. She also looks pregnant which could explain her stress. He could of at least given her a breakdown of events and times of all these events. Seems a huge waste of money when they are all living in a cramped building.
If this girl "WHINE WHINE SNOT SNOTS" one more time, I'm tempted to give her something to WHINE about. Does it never occur to these imbeciles, to EDUCATE themselves about the language, customs and expectations when marrying someone in a foreign country? I have no sympathy for her . Dude, you should have never answered her phone call after you told her it was over.
Wait isn’t she clairvoyant?…like why didn’t she see this was going to be as big of a train wreck in the future and then Google it to know what’s going on so she could have fun?…. I don’t blame him not wanting to explain everything one he’s a male most men don’t really know what goes on with weddings and two who has a good time constantly explaining everything? We all know it wouldn’t stop there too she would be like why? And so on. I get that it would be hard but she is so entitled it’s hard to watch.
Indian here. In Kimberly's defense, the wedding customs greatly vary across geographies and communities in India. It may not be possible to find a lot of this online. Plus the prayers are chanted in Sanskrit, which is not a colloquially spoken language. They would need someone well versed in Sanskrit to translate everything in detail. Having said that, someone in the family could have given Kim and her parents at least a running commentary so that they would know what each ritual signifies.
I would be the same way I cannot and would not adjust to another culture, but I realize Kim chose this. I am sure she regrets it now since she apparently is no longer in India
I think India has priests like that who are specifically professionals in the realm of ritual and stuff, so that regular people actually have little to no idea what the intricacies of each ceremony is.
Honestly I would feel uncomfortable if someone touch my feet too culture or not. And honestly anyone who is trying to fit in/learn about a different culture will feel uncomfortable and uneasy because you don’t wanna do something wrong and everyone look at you like oh what is wrong with her/him even if they understand that you don’t know and your gonna make mistakes. I do think she should have done her research but at the same time she probably wanted to learn with TK to get a better connection with him but they was always fighting or arguing. All brides get emotional, mad, and even feel left out sometimes I’m sure even Indian brides who fully understand the culture gets uneasy sometimes. Ik this is long but this video seem like an attack on her she’s stressed and anxious this is a big step to her life and I’m sure all of us would be the same if we were in her situation.
I mean she should’ve asked all her questions regarding the ceremony’s before hand or at least little research before getting in to a relationship that deep 😅
WHAT IRKS ME ABOUT BOUT THIS MISS DONT TOUCH ME IS THAT PEACH COMPLAIN ABOUT THE THINGS SHE CHOOSES,I MEAN,SHE GOT AN OPPORTUNITY TO GET THE HELL BACK HOME AND CALL OFF THE WHOLE DAMNED THING,BUT NON!! SHE STAYS,BECAUSE SHE WANTS THE WORLD TO KNOW SHE IS IN THERE AND THAT SHE NEEDS THEIR WORSHIP!! VERY ANNOYING PAMPERED WOMAN,SHE HAVEN'T GROW UP YET,,,HER MEMORY STAYS BACK IN HER TEENS YEARS.
I also think that TLC paid some off the wedding so maby the whole occasion is a bit rusht, however Kim seems to be goining a bit passive agressive true this part off her life. Just like the house. Complaining and not contributing
It’s completely her fault she could learned what they were saying back before she went there; but no like so many before she DOES NOT, so why’d we feel sorry?
You know people can use google and do their research and still be uncomfortable with something right..? People can call in love with someone and not like aspects of the culture this is reality …
What I don’t get, it is the first time that she ever been to India ? Never been before ? Many things she could have realized before with a simple visit to village 😊
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as a western girl who lived in India for 10 years, i can say for sure that the wedding ceremonies are so intricate and elaborate, that even most Indians have a hard time knowing what is going on, letting alone explaining it to a person who is not in the same culture and religion. us girls really just have a grand time going through the motions and experiencing the amazing celebration. she needs to chill and go with the flow.
i was thinking the same. she should just feel free to go with it and perhaps gather more understanding on the practices and ceremonies later on. indian weddings are the most beautiful and she’s privileged to be able to experience one. but i can understand feeling frustrated at feeling like you’re being left out of your own wedding
@@laur83I think she's just high strung in general. She always lets herself get worked up about everything, then when it happens and she sees there isn't going to be a problem, she relaxes and enjoys herself. My grandma is like this, but she never calms down, she has to make everyone else feel anxious and uncomfortable with her for the rest of the day. Kim isn't doing too bad imo. At least in that aspect.
Kim is very similar to my mother. Even down the stress pains in the gut, being a spiritualist (mom does tarot) and loses her shit over things she shouldn't lose herself over. I think it's a mental disorder caused by bad parenting. My mom came from a broken home much like Kim. If Kim doesn't get a handle on her melodramatic attitude, she will end up single and alone in India, the worse place a woman wants to be alone in.@@Zeroshiki
@@RozettaVyper Women don't have to worry about being alone until they completely lose their looks and youth. That's when one finds out what a nice personality is worth.
maybe but some ppl like to have meaning to the things they're doing. on your wedding day you should do things that are meaningful to you
90 day fiancé truly highlights how important communication is in a relationship lmao
Correct, that's why I always communicate dissatisfaction with things in relationships immediately through passive aggressive behavior, shutdowns and irritability
it highlights how important it is to discipline your kids.
It’s like watching a bad romcom “JUST TALK TO EACH OTHER!”
@@Shadow666_also true, Emily is one big example
90 day fiancé truly highlights how important it is to not get married in 90 days lmao
If I was marrying someone from a different culture I would 100% research all the details before my wedding and make sure that there were two translators at the wedding so I don't miss anything. If you fail to plan, plan to fail.
Ofcourse!!!!!!!!
@@mycinnamongirl I also don't like how she is so ugly about his family when they STILL going above and beyond for her and she doesn't deserve it. She has been nothing but awful to them.
She doesn't want the family, she just wants TJ. And when she's not the absolut center of attention, she becomes demanding and all around ugly. She's really not a good Person, TJ is in for a really rude awakening....
My boyfriend is Italian and I happily informed him about my culture and customs just as he taught me about his. I can't imagine to leave a person I love and not to teach them anything. Sure, she should educate herself but Indian culture is very vast. It's super weird her husband didn't even think to prepare her. Of course, she could ask on Quora but if I were her partner I'd feel partly responsible for the outcome. Plus, her husband still haven't told her that she's expected to be a traditional wife, actively living with his parents. It's nothing bad she just wants him. Plus, why is she the one supposed to 100% cater to their culture? It's a mutual effort. I don't like her but her husband is equally responsible for the outcome. I can't imagine a universe where me and my boyfriend are getting married in my country and I don't walk him through the entire ceremony and customs, asking if something should be adjusted or added so he felt more comfortable. She's unlikable but learning about a culture is crazy. It takes years and customs vary from family to family. It's different when a person explains you something then you reading a Wikipedia article. I don't understand her husband. He still haven't told her she's expected to share everyday life with his family and to be a traditional wife. He's equally, if not even more, inconsiderate of her culture and customs.
This. I can't believe how much people don't think about these things. There's no way I'd even commit to moving somewhere else before at least becoming fluent in the language and learning the laws and customs to avoid trouble. Idk how these people do it.
Why not research her wedding custom before it happened? Understanding the symbolisms and meanings vs approaching it like a costume party!
That's what I was thinking too! Why didn't she do her own research if she's so clairvoyant like she says she is. She is 30 years old she needs to stop acting like a big child.
That part, and also understand women's roles, languages, and the customs in each culture.
Bc she’s allergic to personal responsibility.
Because she is a spoiled little girl and is not interested in India culture at all. She did say she hates India!
She acts like a spoiled child.
❤ she literally said nobody cares about me and starts whining. Her step mom rolls her eyes afterwards imo. The whole wedding is about her. She literally wants people worshipping her…
She is very immature for her age. It cracks me up when she says she's a spiritual person!! I've never seen anyone that seemed less spiritual!! Imo, she behaves more like a kid in middle school rather than an adult
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👏🏽👏🏼👏🏾!
shes clearly NOT spiritual. shes a narrcissist@@julietteoscaralphanovember2223
Last week they told her what to: sit on his mom’s lap. She refused.
After the first day when she was upset about not knowing anything, why on earth didn’t she ask him that night to explain what was going to happen the next day?.
Also TJ is to blame as well because he had time to explain things to her.
At the very least he could have got someone who speaks English to sit with her and explain things to her. It’s not that hard.
exactly. or gotten one of the women in his family to explain it and use google translate to allow kim to have a better understanding
Maybe the process should have been explained to her prior to the actual wedding ceremonies. She also,could have educated herself on this practice in their culture. As stated she had months to learn or ask about it.
When Kimberly announced that she’d “shit her pants” (literally),
the party’s OVER!
Compounding the issue, tjs english is poor...i dont even think he has the vocab to explain the traditions and also acts like he isnt quite sure the significance or meanings either.
Wow there is no one from TJ family that speaks English to help translate? I am Indian, married a Canadian-Chinese girl in India, and she didn't have any of these issues. In fact, I also made sure she understood everything that was happening. And so were most of my family members.
It's not fair to put it on her doorstep here. She is out of her comfort zone and someone needs to support her.
Nice off you to look it that way, This must be overwelming for her, maby she also needs a small American wedding to geel her identity or something
Agree, ppl will find any reason to hate Kim
@@ajheartsong
Kim does make herself pretty easy to dislike, she’s the worst whiner, she’s never happy about anything. No matter what happens, Kim’s going to b*tch, & snivel. Maybe she want cheese with her whine?
Kim has such high expectations about how everyone needs to make her happy - as she screams and cries and sulks - why doesn’t she have to be considerate of others?!?!?
She’s a class A narcissist. TJ is going to regret ever meeting her.
I'm not a fan of Kim at all but TJ should have introduced and educated her in terms of his culture in the same way she should have tried harder integrating and blending into her fiance's culture and language.
Everyone is to blame here (except Kim's parents who are lovely, the stepmum in particular)
I’m sorry to say, but I kinda find it hard to like Kim. She’s done nothing but complain since she’s got to India. She hasn’t tried to make a chance and she just wants everyone to sympathize for her.
Uggghhhh.. I'm so tired of Kim & her terrible attitude.. that just shows you that her positive attitude isn't real.. she's acts like a brat & her parents & TJ are enabling her to act this way....
The people who did actually give a sh*t about her on day one of the ceremonies, probably hated her by day 3. She’s a real piece of work. 😮👹🙃
This girl is too much. Her attitude and demeanor sucks. She’s always mad. Her husband won’t be too happy with her. She won’t get along with her family. Why wouldn’t she educate herself? His family tried to make her happy.
It seems like pouting, whining, & screaming are her only means of communication.
Sadly, she’s not the first clairvoyant/energy worker who claims to be in tune with energy I’ve seen acting totally unaware of how they’re own energy and behavior projects onto others.
Nobody would ever guess she’s “clairvoyant”, since she can’t seem to buy a clue or read a room, lol! 😂😂😂
She may be able to read tarot cards but that is it.....she isn't what she says she is for sure
😂😂😂😂😂 Lmfaoooo 😂😂😂😂
Real clairvoyants don’t advertise their gifts to every Tom, Dick and Harry that crosses their path. They keep it on the downlow. Kimberly is a typical white girl tarot card reader who learned the meaning of the cards and just pulls storylines out of her behind. She’s one of the most obvious new age poseurs I’ve ever seen 😅
Being clairvoyant would probably help in this sort of situation. Also Google
And maybe you should Google what having clairvoyance is like before you try to use it in a joke.
@ktrayn78 😂😂😂 Oh yeah, what's it like, sweetheart?
@@stephfunny6800 Oh, I see. You already know everything. 🙄
I'm trying to understand the disconnect here. Kim seemed to be very focused on the decor and colors of the wedding, but not so much on the actual ceremonies. She talks about how spiritual she is all the time, but didn't really put any effort into learning what goes into it. I do think TJ should have at least provided her with a translator, but this is not 100% on him.
I feel she didnt bother to research cz she expected to be spoon fed. He shud ve provided her with a translator but men like TJ r not considerate he wud ve nevr thot of something like dat. I bet she will leave him n go back within a year
She’s so bratty as usual. Instead of finding solutions she’s whines and sob, when she can just take out the phone and google “Indian wedding ceremony process” - I did that and I found a lot of info😑😑😑
There‘s NO WAY she‘s going to stay in India. I give her a few months and she‘ll be back in the US without TJ.
About the chantings by the Pandit, half of us doesnt know what it means. We just chant after him, whatever and however we can. 😂 Also it's in Sanskrit..so it's pretty difficult to pronounce stuff.
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I have not seen a single clip of them being happy together.
Then you haven’t watched all of their scenes in the show or seen her Instagram posts.
Kim is combative, i can understand why T.J Holds off or doesn't;t tell her things cause it's just turns into another argument
0:00 Kim should be crying with joy but, of course, Kim is crying because she thinks no one gives a damn about her.
Kim is just as problematic as Jasmine but in a more emo way.
I think Kim's feelings are 100% valid. TJ's family and TJ together should put themselves in Kim's shoes and made sure that everything happening should be translated and communicated properly to Kim and her parents.
I’ve learned so so much about cultures different, it really plays a very big role be and I’ve learned that in a relationship communication and sacrifice take you far.
Maybe if the two of them weren’t fighting so much they would’ve had time to sit down and go over what was gonna happen at the wedding and go over all the different ceremonies. These two are so wrong for each other.
Its hard to imagine that anyone else would want her, with her bad attitude, rude demeanor, & her big mouth. She’s her own worst enemy.
I don't understand her not at least Googling the customs and trying to figure out how to communicate a bit with his family in all that time. That said, I was in my friend's wedding in Vietnam a few years ago. I studied the wedding traditions and even tried to learn some Vietnamese phrases. I got there, and things were a bit different.
No one understood any of my Viet, and my attempts were just awkward. Google Translate doesn't work so well with tonal languages either. It was so hot and humid (and I'm from Texas near the gulf), and the ao dai I was wearing was a mock turtleneck all the way down to my feet, several layers too. I was just focused on not passing out most of the time during the ceremonies and many photo shoots.
That is INSANE that she didnt have a chaperone of some sort and they couldve at the very least made her a schedule of events with the names of ceremonies and such.
She actually lives there for 1 year prior to this!
Bro, he is the GROOM. This isn't a Christian wedding where neither does barely anything but dress up before the wedding. He is LITERALLY NOT ALLOWED TO LEAVE. There are Constant people and things to do. YOU ALSO SHOULD RESEARCH about weddings before you speak
The Groom should have educated Kim on Indian wedding traditions.
Literally. I’m not saying she’s not in the wrong about some things, but the way everyone is demonizing her is crazy.
@@MusicalMe123 its not so easy when he barely knows as well. The groom's ceremony is different than the bride's
@@tamramkhel4806which is why everyone needs to stop demonizing her and stfu about saying she could’ve easily googled it.
The chant, translated to English, is "If you have to ask, then why TF are you in India?" 🎵
Regardless of religion, weddings can be overwhelming. The cost, the loads of people, the events, the expectations--anyone would be overwhelmed, even if they helped planned or researched it. Coupled with the fact that Indian weddings is a multi day affair and her not being told anything or understanding anything- it can contribute to that overwhelming feeling.
She’s soooo American, my god. She’s like the hormonal teenagers you see in films.
Oef wait till she get pregnant
Immature? Oh yeah. But having grown up in the US I know that she’d have gotten a beat down somewhere along the line if she acted like that.
I’m not saying it’s ok, but it happens. Most Mericans don’t act that way, thank God…
@@dennismiles1 I myself am American, and I don’t think she’s gotten any “beat down”. Having a beat down would have most likely made her more immune to different stressors.
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I was speaking hypothetically, & I didn’t say that she’s “had a beat down”.
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It was a joke, obviously. Did anyone actually think that I was saying that “I’d have her “beat up”, lol? God I hope not, but y’all can do whatever you’re gonna do with it.
I think TJ wants to avoid her attitude and that’s why he didn’t explain the ceremony but if it were me I would have definitely have googled it . She is not a child and playing the victim all the time gets old . I think she is used to her family babying her so she was thinking the new family was going to do the same .
Kim breaks down at her own wedding? She’s always so pleasant tho. 😂
She could have done herself but she literally just said that she wanted it to come from him so she must have wanted it to be a special and something he shared with her. I don't like her either but I think that's what she wanted. He could have taken the initiative too.
He should’ve explained before the wedding what and when and how things are going on during the days of the ceremonies…
Also she could’ve learned about the ceremonies before the wedding on google or something 🫣… but also can understand where she is coming from… with only her father and stepmother there, she feels lost as they are the only two of her side of 8:02 8:07 8:10 8:13 8:16 8:19 the party so to speak…
And again … she could’ve done research and or talk through the ceremonies with TJ … 🙄
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Lol I think most of us have already done more research on this then she has.
@@lauracaldwell5640 hahaha 🤣🤣 sure seems like that, right? 🤣🤣 Indian culture and rituals are a huge deal and as a foreigner marrying an Indian man/wife should do research and see if you can accept and willing to live “like that”… don’t complain afterwards or like Kim… just not interested and blaming TJ all the time for her negligence of what she is marrying into… if you know what I mean 😅😜
@@ykskes2561 yes! Even we doing research here lol
@@lauracaldwell5640 I would be ashamed of myself not knowing anything about their culture and rituals and living under their roof 🫣
I’m coming out for Kim. As others have said she is a little highly strung and I think that does come across.But again, I still think this is down to TJ. Imagine it’s your wedding and you’re the bride and people are asking you to sit on your mother in laws lap. As an adult !!! I’m pretty sure that many viewers or commenters would appreciate a heads up with traditions like that. I’m irked because I feel this is a subtext to what Kim’s life will become. Ignored and marginalized in a country that isn’t as progressive as the place of her birth. I just wonder if she’s actually fully aware of this. This is someone who was told her ripped jeans was inappropriate in front of the elder gentlemen but she didn’t seem to get why. We like to think love conquers all but if your priorities are you parents, religion and culture before anything else. I don’t see Kim having as stronger voice as she would’ve if she married an American.
She’s not comfortable with the whole culture… 😂
I think she was upset none of her friends and family were there to support her
Well then she is in for a ride if she is goining to life there
Her dad & stepmother were there, she probably doesn’t have any friends, with her abrasive attitude.
I’m not stating anything other then the obvious she should’ve done her research and studied the culture she was marrying into but this is a singular comment 💋 everyone can calm down I never said she was in the right
I see why the brother said she was stupid 😅😅she's the most negative person their..she still c complaining and being the victim,,blah blah blah blah omyghost worse bride on here 😒 😅
My god I’m constantly screaming for Kim to just get some DBT like PLEASEEE. she is the most textbook case of someone who has no idea how to regulate her emotions. She let herself spiral with her negative judgements instead of just living in the moment and enjoying her bloody wedding 😭 m
I completely agree. I am diagnosed with Borderline PD, and after 15 months of DBT I managed to get myself out of endless negativity, obsessions with sui-cide and toxic mindsets into a much happier OR at least a largely content life where I find pleasure and happiness in even the smallest of things.
What's DBT mean
Run TJ!!! RUN!!! 😂
Even us born and raised here we don't know what's going on... The mantras are in a different script so we don't understand it either... so it's the same for everyone.. should have just enjoyed what's going on...
She’s (Kim) such a narcissist
Y’all are crazy any one would be overwhelmed with this
And everything is in another language too? No amount of self “research” can prepare anyone for this.
She keeps saying she’s spiritual without understanding there’s many different spirits out there there. So she’s just accepting of them all? Being spiritual doesn’t mean you know what spirit you’re inviting.
They should have sat down together and tj and her could have watched TH-cam videos on what to expect and learned together that way she could see what was everything about and wouldn't feel weird.
Her parents also should have also researched the wedding traditions there
Even the step mom rolled her eyes LOL
Kimberley would not be on tv if she was normal.
Why does no one do any RESEARCH???!!! She could have looked some things up…
I just started watching 90 day fiance, from the beginning, with Russ, Paola, Mike, Aziza, Alan, Kirlylam, etc, but what a big difference in the couples they have today, like Kim, TJ, Jasmine, Gino, etc etc etc etc etc!! After the first few seasons they just have a bunch of nuts on the show, imo!! I've never been a dan of Paola, but she's a heck of a lot better than Jasmine!!! By far!!
IDK why Kim is having such a hard time. I went to a couple states in India and it didn't feel alienating at all. Everyone tried their hard to communicate and was also all very nice. Regarding the timing though, everything in India starts late lol, it's normal and it's not a big deal.
She felt alone and isolated with none of her friends or family really there and TJ and his family didn’t do much to help her feel better
Even with or without her researching the wedding festivities, they were still treating her like she wasn’t really there, lol. I don’t see how her knowing what was going on would help with her feeling like no one cares about her
There is something called Google!!🙄
She was more then happy to let TJ take care off the whole wedding , with out her input , she should have at the minimum asked Tj to explain and what she should expect for there wedding. I can not wait until she finds out she will be the house maid hahaha
😂😂😂😂😂
That’s a lie. She asked him constantly. In the very first episode she asks him on video chat and he tells her not worry about anything that his family is doing everything the way THEY want and don’t want her input, wouldn’t even let her choose her own wedding dress.
And I can’t wait till TJ’s momzilla and her baby boy Yash find out they blew all this money thinking they were getting a house maid when she tells them to f*ck off and not do a damn thing for them.
I am from India and I agree one person should be there to explain her everything. I feel so sad for her she was alone there.
She says she is spiritual....I would like to know how...she is angry and so dramatic
To be honest, I think there is some underlying attractuon/tension between Kim and tj's brother . I'm sure I'm wrong but they seem better matched
Manipulation hurt my brain. Where is Angela to teach her to spice it up😂😂 2 minutes and I am done. See you at the next video.
Kimberly and tj should’ve communicated way before the wedding ceremonies so she could understand what was going to happen and what to expect. Both of them are to blame
I agree. I can’t believe this never came up before the actual wedding! TJ should have found a pundit that spoke English so he could explain the rituals they were performing. And she could have at least tried to google it weeks before lol 😅
See, she can be happy only when she hurt someone
Kim comes off like one of those corny influencers who keeps saying “grand rising!”
She doesnt need to research. She is Clair everything.
Exactly what I was thinking 😂
@@zzzdreamz341 that was exactly what she said lol
Mental deficiency Kim
It would have helped to have a translator around. TLC should have just provided a translator. That would help her navigate the elaborate ceremonies and timeframes.
It really seems to me that indian weddings aren't really about the bride and groom so much as it's about the family and its status. The wedding is to show off. Not necessarily to please the bride. The bride should just be happy to be joining a family that can put on such an elaborate show. It's still a compliment to her though. They are celebrating her worth to them. Maybe she can go to the US and have a reception and or small get together that suits her desires to make it about her. I think
She needs to realize in India it's about family. Not about self.
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I do see a double-standard in the commentary where brides who go to India or the Middle-east are repeatedly shamed for not knowing local customs or refusing to follow them, and I see ZERO of the same energy when Muslim guys particularly come to the US with their older brides and expect things to still be like they were in the Islamic world. More than once this has happened but it only ever seems to be the Western women going East who are obliged to fit in.
That guy isn’t Muslim he’s hindu
Forever confused by how many people move without knowing the basics in the language… at least learn to better understand your partner, they could be saying all sorts, sneaking, lying, all with you sat right there none the wiser!
She couldn't predict any of this with her tarot cards 😂she is annoying and immature
God, she's exhausting.
I think there’s an important pieces of background info in this situation that’s being ignored. Many Hindu wedding customs follow the idea of “auspicious times” according to the Vedic horoscopes of the couple so there’s often a narrow time in which you need to finish the ceremony. That explains why they couldn’t wait for the translator.
Usually your friends and cousins keep you company.....
I feel both r at fault here. Kim not doing any research and tj for not keeping anyone from his family/fren with her not jus to explain everything dats going on but also for company.
“Im a spiritual person” then why didnt you do any research on the spiritual practices of a different country?!? Its no secret that most eastern cultures always bless big events & ceremonies like weddings
You think she’d of been excited to learn it all….
I don't know if I agree with you. If I loved my wife I would explain it to her not say look it up yourself lazy.
He don't love her, he just wants someone to wait on his parents and cook and clean for them.
@ClaireisVegan that's why I said I don't agree with what the person on this youtube video said placing the blame mostly on her. When if he loved her he would help her not stay away and say figure it out lol
Well considering that tj and the family planned the whole thing. She could have at least done a little research so seemed interested enough to ask questions rather than moping around. Definitely, TJ should have told her beforehand but she should have taken the initiative herself.
Plus Indian weddings are chaotic and the grooms themselves are busy with their own ceremonies
Tbf most women would not like the grooms family and others planning their weddings with no input allowed from the bride. She also looks pregnant which could explain her stress. He could of at least given her a breakdown of events and times of all these events. Seems a huge waste of money when they are all living in a cramped building.
If this girl "WHINE WHINE SNOT SNOTS" one more time, I'm tempted to give her something to WHINE about. Does it never occur to these imbeciles, to EDUCATE themselves about the language, customs and expectations when marrying someone in a foreign country? I have no sympathy for her . Dude, you should have never answered her phone call after you told her it was over.
Wait isn’t she clairvoyant?…like why didn’t she see this was going to be as big of a train wreck in the future and then Google it to know what’s going on so she could have fun?…. I don’t blame him not wanting to explain everything one he’s a male most men don’t really know what goes on with weddings and two who has a good time constantly explaining everything? We all know it wouldn’t stop there too she would be like why? And so on. I get that it would be hard but she is so entitled it’s hard to watch.
Indian here. In Kimberly's defense, the wedding customs greatly vary across geographies and communities in India. It may not be possible to find a lot of this online. Plus the prayers are chanted in Sanskrit, which is not a colloquially spoken language. They would need someone well versed in Sanskrit to translate everything in detail. Having said that, someone in the family could have given Kim and her parents at least a running commentary so that they would know what each ritual signifies.
I would be the same way I cannot and would not adjust to another culture, but I realize Kim chose this. I am sure she regrets it now since she apparently is no longer in India
Maybe Kimberly should have looked up what to expect. Shame on him for nit telling her
They probably don’t speak English … it’s their job to “keep her in the loop” but not her job to either learn the language or the what to do
I think India has priests like that who are specifically professionals in the realm of ritual and stuff, so that regular people actually have little to no idea what the intricacies of each ceremony is.
Honestly I would feel uncomfortable if someone touch my feet too culture or not. And honestly anyone who is trying to fit in/learn about a different culture will feel uncomfortable and uneasy because you don’t wanna do something wrong and everyone look at you like oh what is wrong with her/him even if they understand that you don’t know and your gonna make mistakes. I do think she should have done her research but at the same time she probably wanted to learn with TK to get a better connection with him but they was always fighting or arguing. All brides get emotional, mad, and even feel left out sometimes I’m sure even Indian brides who fully understand the culture gets uneasy sometimes.
Ik this is long but this video seem like an attack on her she’s stressed and anxious this is a big step to her life and I’m sure all of us would be the same if we were in her situation.
I mean she should’ve asked all her questions regarding the ceremony’s before hand or at least little research before getting in to a relationship that deep 😅
WHAT IRKS ME ABOUT BOUT THIS MISS DONT TOUCH ME IS THAT PEACH COMPLAIN ABOUT THE THINGS SHE CHOOSES,I MEAN,SHE GOT AN OPPORTUNITY TO GET THE HELL BACK HOME AND CALL OFF THE WHOLE DAMNED THING,BUT NON!! SHE STAYS,BECAUSE SHE WANTS THE WORLD TO KNOW SHE IS IN THERE AND THAT SHE NEEDS THEIR WORSHIP!!
VERY ANNOYING PAMPERED WOMAN,SHE HAVEN'T GROW UP YET,,,HER MEMORY STAYS BACK IN HER TEENS YEARS.
Never ever get married🤣😂🤣🤣😂🤣😂
Why is she still getting married if she is unhappy
I also think that TLC paid some off the wedding so maby the whole occasion is a bit rusht, however Kim seems to be goining a bit passive agressive true this part off her life. Just like the house. Complaining and not contributing
It’s completely her fault she could learned what they were saying back before she went there; but no like so many before she DOES NOT, so why’d we feel sorry?
Tgis relationship is similar to Syngin Tanya's..intense and toxic
How tf do you say TJs name I read it as Te-jas-wee lol
This over obsession with herself is soo annoying.
Couldn't be me 😢
You know people can use google and do their research and still be uncomfortable with something right..? People can call in love with someone and not like aspects of the culture this is reality …
What I don’t get, it is the first time that she ever been to India ? Never been before ? Many things she could have realized before with a simple visit to village 😊