Monkey Branching: let go and move on from women who betrayed you | Relearning Relationships
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You have to keep telling yourself, she doesent give a damn, she doesent give a damn, she doesent give a damn. Slowly you will realise she just doesent give a damn....
Only thing to do with a Monkey Brancher: Never speak to them again.
Christian, I really needed to hear this. I wasted 1.5 months mourning the death of 8 years relationship due to monkey branching. I am a person with self-respect, however the mind plays tricks on a person in a depressed state. Thanks for bringing me back to my senses.
I’m glad the video brought you back to your senses!
I’ll have a new video up tomorrow
Ya, ur not kidding, how ur mind plays tricks on u. I'm going on my 5th week following hearing abt my ex monkeybranching me before i was abt to propose to her. Sucks, bcz we as men feel we need to DO something, or SHOULD have done something, etc. But videos like this help keep things in perspective, thankfully. All the best to you, Brother...
After three months to monkey branch my ex upload relationship status with her new man. Its suck she has daddy issue.
@@RelearningRelationships This video is exactly what I needed to hear said out loud. I knew this is the truth, but hadn't quite finished mourning the loss. The reality is I haven't lost anything of real value. It's good riddance and I feel better already. When she does come sniffing around once her monkey branch falls apart, she isn't going to get the reception she thinks she will get.
Exactly
There is a saying ‘when someone shows you who they are believe them’ Christian knows my story I have a son had a family home but I can still walk away from her keep your self respect listen to Christian guys
Perfect example of how hearing the truth hurts. It's painfull to hear you talk my man, but it is a necessary pain. Because I know you are right, but it still is a hard pill to swallow. Acceptance is the hardest part...
Truth is truth man. This is how you grow
Christian, you are literally the best out of the entire relationship youtube. Thank you.
That’s very kind of you :) God Bless You
@@RelearningRelationships Hey what if you found out after that she cheated on you like you found out that she cheated a couple months after and she’s in a relationship with that person. I feel the need to reach out and confront her how she betrayed me
My girlfriend/partner monkey branched to her co worker and its been 3 weeks. I finally stopped blaming myself and see that it's her and not me. Thanks for the video. It has helped a lot!!
betray me once, there’s no coming back!!!
The good riddance mindset
Sounds like the title of an amazing self help book😂💯
I’ll definitely mention it in the book for sure!. Perhaps... it will be a chapter ;)
I’m so happy that my monkey branching girlfriend abandoned me for a clown of a man with no morals! He save my life . Imagine I would married her and have children! I would be done for life ! Guys be grateful that the garbage in your life is not longer with you.
Honestly you deserve a lot more recognition. Everyone needs to hear this. Thank you for existing and making these kind of videos. It made me feel so much better. I like your videos and content, and already subscribed ♥️ keep doing what you’re doing!! Love you
Watch this guys and listen I’ve just watched again as a refresher, for them moments we’re you just want your old family life back if you have kids a home etc GET IT IN YOUR’E HEADS THERE IS NO GOING BACK! Even for your kids like Christian said become the best version of you for you for you’re kids, you will enjoy telling her no thanks when she tries to worm her way back when her betrayal fails and you have levelled up keep pushing guys nice one Christian
You are young, but you speak wise words. Thanks for helping on bringing peace to our minds.
Great video. My gf of 2 years was mad at me after a argument and dumped me but kept in touch with me for 7 days but refused to take me back when I was trying to fight for her. She would call me everyday and I would say I miss you and come on back. She would say idk if I’m ready and I think it’s best if we go our separate ways etc. that 7th day she was super mad at me for not chasing her and blamed me for not pursuing her even tho she dumped me and went slept with someone. Instantly after that, she called back crying regretting that she made a mistake and she realized she wanted me back. I comforted her and took her back for about 3 days back and forth after that situation. And I bought it up and her response was that I was single and I won’t apologize for what I did. I cut ties with her and that’s it. So she’s mad and blame shifting and blocked me. GOOD RIDDANCE. I needed this video because you do still blame yourself and I was until I seen this. Time to move on and I know my future is bright. Can finally fully put all this pain into working out,( cause I gained lots of weight in the relationship), my business and rebuilding my life.
Girl is just young and inexperienced. I hurt a bunch of girls when I was in my 20's, because I was insecure. Never cheated, but I'd just break up out of the blue, couldn't feel attached to any girl. I just got monkey branched by my young girlfriend recently. She's probably starting to regret it, but trying to convince herself and the people around her that she's happy with the guy (who also monkey branched from his girlfriend to my ex 🤦🏾♂️). All kinds of insecurities and fears. You gotta learn your lessons in life. I do agree that for some people cheating is a valid option, and they might never grow out of that. I might take her back slowly if I see growth. She's really self-aware, but weak.
I’m in hopes my ex is like this. It’s really hard to want them back though. I still love her, so I hope it’s just inexperience and weakness but there’s part of me that knows other women are stronger than her and will treat me the way I deserve.
Like you’ve said, I think I might try again but extremely slowly. I might even spin plates while she’s trying to do good by me. But that’s just being optimistic.
@@Ives1776 Man, after 6 months I realized she hadn't grown at all. Cut absolutely all contacts with her, and I feel so much better. Stopped making excuses for her behaviors, and started being truly honest with myself. I have love for her, but I have more love for myself. I don't miss her anymore, don't want her. I got my strength back. But it took time. No more weak-minded women for me.
@@bibigreen6533 I appreciate the update man, good to hear you're moved on. I do think monkey branching is a huge sign they aren't mature enough to date. I spent 3 years with her and I've started to notice all the things I had to bend over backwards to do and how shitty my life had gotten trying to accommodate her. It's time to find myself a girl that takes care of herself as much as I take care of myself.
@@bibigreen6533 power move, well done. How are you holding up these days? :)
@@elricko9817 Haven't dated a woman in 7 months. I've been focusing on improving myself and the quality of my life, and working on my projects. I'll start dating again this summer, but by then my life will be drastically improved. Haven't seen my ex since, and as time passed, I realised she was a terrible partner.
Just hearing this helped clear up my mind..thanks a lot.
You’re more Than welcome man!
6 months out and your channel changed my perspective
Thank you for your deep work! Respect
I appreciate it man!
I’m a woman and this hit home “. Done and Dusted
Truth bombs! 💣
You deserve million subscribers 🙏
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Great video Christian
This is scott. Hope your well.
I'm doing better. I think I can relate. Just moving forward with self improvement.
Hey Scott! Lovely to hear from you Man.
I hope you and Luca are doing well. Keep moving forward. You’ve come a long way!
You deserve to be happy!’
Im glad you enjoyed the video.
Reach out to me whenever with an update!
@@RelearningRelationships
Will do my friend.. thank you
This chanel is my last stop. Thanks for the videos brother
Why is that? Last stop?
Thanks brotha I needed to hear this.
You’re more than welcome
Monkey branchers likely justify their cheating to themselves by saying things like the current relationship is not working etc etc….just so they can feel better and not guilty. Or they legitimately don’t care.
My struggle right now is the fact that she was telling me she loved me right up until the end and saying things like “I would be happy to die in your arms”. I want to spend the rest of my life with you, while dealing with someone else on the side. I should have seen the signs.
My other struggle right now is not that I want her back at all….I just cannot wrap my head around the betrayal. She is the LAST person I thought would ever lie to me let alone cheat on me and monkey branch into a new relationship. I am just completely in SHOCK and disbelief. How did I miss it? How did I miss the fact that her morals and values were this messed up.
Sounds like you have a knowledge gap regarding relationships. This is the perfect time for you to learn, heal and make yourself ready to find a good woman worthy of being your future wife. If you are serious about learning, I would love to invite you to join my relationship mastery course. We can hop on a free call and discuss all the details if you like? Here’s the link: calendly.com/relearningrelationships/call?back=1&month=2023-05
God bless you.
Hey man, how are you doing now?
I'm going through pretty much exactly what you've described with the same disbelief and sense of betrayal. 2 months ago when my ex's brother was visiting (he did actually visit) she became less responsive over texts and apologised and said it was just cause her brother was staying and so she was busier.
When we did text she was still her usual affectionate self which reassured me but after a few days I had a gut feeling something wasn't right. Found out she had been talking to a guy and met him that same week, just using the brother as an excuse. She then broke up with me the day I confronted her about it and said she wasn't going to date the guy and that the break up was for other reasons: it's not going to work because of bla bla, etc, despite just days before telling me how much she loved me and missed me.
Of course I was hurt and angry but I tried to be mature about it and be the bigger person giving her the benefit of the doubt and trying to have a wtv attitude. I went NC and she would still reach out to me over the next month to ask how I was doing, but the conversations were pointless and didn't go anywhere. It was confusing and after a bit of further digging around I found out that she had actually been together with that guy after breaking up with me after all. So she monkey branched and was just reaching out to slowly detach because she still had feelings for me. Just using me as an emotional fallback pretty much until she had fully emotionally transitioned to the other guy.
The sense of betrayal from someone you trusted is the most painful thing ever and is the main cause of the lingering pain. I don't want her back now knowing how much of a pathological liar she is. I'm trying to adopt the good riddance mindset. It's only been a few days though since I confronted her again and told her to not contact me anymore, but again the pain from being betrayed is like no other.
To be honest I don’t even want her back now but I still can’t get over the longing for her relationship with the guy she monkey branched with to fail miserably.
Forgive and let go:
Any updates man? Did that relationship fail?
Thank you Christian for your videos, they've been really helpful. You understand everything going on in my head so perfectly, that I tear up. You're doing an amazing job, please keep making videos. We all really appreciate it🫂❤
Thank you for giving me this great advice
Christian, not sure if you'll see this, but thank you! My ex broke up with me 4 months ago. we'd been together over a year, she told me she loved me and wanted to marry me literally days before she randomly asked for a 1 week break because she felt we might be too politically different (we're similar enough in that regard for it to make no sense). 5 days prior, she started a new job. She then immediately slept with a coworker and left me for him - although I had to work that out for myself unfortunately. She had constantly made us promise each other we'd never do anything like that to each other and always asked for reassurance that I would never - and she didn't hesitate. She said it didn't count as cheating etc, but it was. She never said we wouldn't be exclusive and only asked for space to think about OUR relationship. Not trying to start another one. She even acknowledged she knew I wouldn't be okay with it and it would hurt me, but it wasn't her problem. She lied about the reasons for the break and was just keeping me as a back-up if it didn't work out with this guy.
I'm not the first person she's done this to. I only found out about this deep into the relationship, and her last attempt failed - she crawled back to her ex and for the remainder of the relationship, wished her then-girlfriend would "just kill herself" because it would make her life easier. She blamed me for things afterwards, petty things, like not caring to watch La La Land with her (I did, but I fell asleep for 5 minutes during it - God forbid). It was all my fault apparently and I blamed myself. But I'm realising more and more, she's just a very sad person terrified of being alone and an incredibly selfish one. She even made a joke about her sleeping with someone else to my face! I know I was a good boyfriend, I was always there for her and put her first, I treated her well and made sure she felt loved. But she love bombed me at the start (looking back its clear) and she likely wanted that intensity again. Your videos are making me realise it wasn't on me. She's the one at fault. She could have talked to me about her doubts or issues, but chose not to and wait for someone else to come alone. I can't thank you enough for that realisation and helping me get my self-worth back.
Sorry for the essay, thanks for coming to my TedTalk.
I’m always at your service
They exact same
Thank you for this video.
So true! No man deserves to be taken advantage of like that! Walk away guys, don’t look back. Unless they show TRUE signs of repentance ( very rare though)
Marc Keen once they betray you = you disqualify them from being in your life!
Very Very Very RARE
@@RelearningRelationships thank you so much bro I really needed to hear that right there
Just the video we all needed!
An amazing one yet again.
This guy injects our logical minds with steroids😂🔥
Great video coach💯🙏
This comment is gold HAHHA I love it
Cheers man
@shit happens exactly his been there for us more than most people who we considered as "close"
His always here for us, and never asks us for a cent in return. He isn't here to sell us some sleazy program as well. His direct, honest and to the point. What a guy💯
@shit happens we in the same boat bro. It's been over 2 months since the breakup and I feel better as time went on. Time does do its healing, just stay in no contact and don't stalk her. Also keep watching this guy's vidoes, his videos slap and wake up our logical minds
@shit happens you need to block her or delete her number. I also used to do that, I used to check her last seen and profile Pic. Once I stopped doing that, I started healing better
I don’t even say move on, I say BREAK OUT & EXCEL & BE A BETTER MAN THAN YOU’VE
EVER BEEN, if you’ve lost lots of money, get earning and trading and get it back 100 fold !
Get a good finance advisor and educate your self to get it all back and some 💪👍👍
Wait noo I just realized you cut your hair, nice cut I like it. I talked to you about my that cheated on me with a girl and that I became pregnant not by him though... However Ive let go completely. I felt like he was more into the infactuation stage as well as the woman as well. He kept going back and forth between me and her and from there I've had it because he was always blaming me for all everything when he was the one that cheated. I feel like if he would've never put me through so much I would've never gotten pregnant. But I've learned my lesson. He caused so much drama between me and her, had the audacity to call me out of my name, it gotten to the point to where he physically hurt me because of her.. and he was Soo blind the girl nevered worked she don't have an education and she's 25 years old. He's 20. So now that he has went to a different state, me and her started talking and apologized to eachother. Now I don't know if this is a sign but til this day he has been calling my phone non stop and keep checking up on me, trying to get into my buisness and see what I'm doing in my life. I told him worry about what your doing over there and don't worry about what I'm doing. He got super mad and started bringing up the past making it seem as if everything is my fault. When I mentioned that I'm doing what I have to do for the sake of my daughter and that I'm living my best life I guess that has triggered him and he started to even call me out of my name, bring up the past and everything. So please let me know I don't know if this is him feeling regretful but I ignored him. He called my phone after the arguement and I still ignored him and he didn't call me back or communicated with me after the argument because if anything I don't deserve this. He's put me through so much and I'm tired. A part of me still loves him but that other part of me istelling me to let go . And I did. When me and the girl talked, the one he cheated on me with she said to me for her it was more infactuation and loneliness and that she didn't know him long enough to love him. Whereas me I've known him for so long since freshmen year trying to protect him from her but I'm getting disrespected by him. Now he's in missouri by himself alone and I think he's really regretful and I think karma is really going to catch up to him.
You did the right thing by walking away. If he loved you he wouldn’t have cheated on you. Good men don’t cheat. Good women don’t cheat. It’s that simple. Cut your ties and take your time to heal. There’s plenty of men out there with good values. Don’t waste your time on someone who betrayed you. Respect is important
well said!
good going
A good video THX
Thanks bro.
100 likes bro!
Yes sir!
Amazing video ❤️
Cristian this is my doubt
As you told me to move on from a girl who was flaking . It's been 2 months now .
So I give it a shot by asking her out again ??
I know this is not right because in the past every time I did that she flaked and make excuses. But I having a hard time moving on because she keeps on posting on social media
Stop looking at her social media.
Don’t waste your time on her.
There is other women out there who will like you back.
Nice hair sir
Put your glasses on. Nothing will be wrong.
Excellent video, That's my case, my EX broke up with me (5 years relationship) and she jumped into another relationship 6 days after ! We were negociating to not break up and to take time and she was ok for that, but when she found a guy in her work place she insisted to leave and we broke up ! She brought that guy into our appartment and they slept in our bed (when i was absent). I feel incredibly MAD and angry against her ! Should i tell her how selfish, immature, disgusting she is, or should I just step back and stay indifferent. (i left the apartment by the way, i'm living in another place).
Let go and move on! It will be hard at first; but understand that this woman was not right for you.
@@RelearningRelationships I already don't feel anything for her, i don't want to get her back, but the anger stays with me, in me
You need to forgive & let go. Get right with God.
@@RelearningRelationships Thank you for the comment, i appreciate it
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Christian, i m currently feeling so bad because the girl i dated for the last 7 months, replaced me for another guy... we had some arguments in the past, but i never cheated... i never used physical abuse... she told me at the end "this is your karma, you will stay alone and i hope to get married!" ....
It hurts a lot... i was blamed for everything...
If she replaced you for someone else; that should be enough to lose any respect for her & continue on with your life. How long ago was this ?
@@RelearningRelationships the break up happened on 1st june ... she probably had already a guy lined up, but i got told she met him 2 weeks later on tinder and committed immediately end of june...
If you want; shoot me & email and write out your story and I’ll make a video about it ( and keep your name private of course).
@@RelearningRelationships after going once again through a lot of pain, i will shoot you a mail...
How much do you charge ?
@@charlesdc1233 if you want to send an email for me to do a case study it’s a always free. But if you want to sign up for my course & coaching for 12 months then of course you will have to pay. If you’re interested in joining Relationship Mastery, take a look at my website, go through the about section to learn more and if you’re interested; book a call on on the “book a call” button and we will discuss how we move forward together! www.relearningrelationships.com/
Sometimes it's hard to let go.
I'm divorcing from my wife because I made her confess that she's having an emotional affair with another man for months. I'm 38 years old. We've been together for 13 years, including 7 years of marriage. There was never any fight between us, we discussed everything, we were true to eachother, we built this relationship on dialogue an trust. She always was stable and loyal. Even in the last months of our relationship everything was peaceful and light.
And suddendly this. Nobody saw this coming. Already hard to let go of 13 years of great memories. But the worse is that the betrayal puts everything into perspective. Was she always like this ? Is there anything else she lied about if she was able to do such a terrible thing ? Was this whole relationship a lie ? Were there some red flags I didn't see or chose to ignore ? Did she do other shady things behing my back ? Was anything she said to me true ? Too many questions which prevent me from moving forward 100%. I know I won't have closure so I must fight these thoughts.
Any update Man? How are you handling?
My ex wife 36F monkeybranched to our 22F daycare worker. We were married 10 years with 2 very young kids. They live together in my old house. Trash.
Does this go for guys too? My ex-boyfriend of over 4 years just monkey branched with a friend of ours who I was always wary about..
Yep. Both men and women monkey branch.
Abdelkader Anouar
I know deep down I shouldn’t blame myself because I was going through some things some due to pandemic and career but it’s so hard when they were nice but all of sudden change and really abandoned you it’s very hard I’m trying my best she seemed perfect and but one red flag was her ex still in the scene when we started that bothered me to were we broke up but I had to get past that and did then she left me for another man it’s all in the red flags I suppose
Nice jacket 👍
Thanks man!
Nicest comment I’ve had 😂👌
@@RelearningRelationships should get good riddance mindset on a t-shirt and start selling them .
Great video man where can I get that jacket
John Barcoe I bought it from Zara a couple years back. It’s awesome.
Hi All
Can a woman who monkey branch from a 5 year relationship to a new relationship last ....she posted up pic she happy never happier in her life ...how can this be surely it will FAIL cause she must off tell this guy a load of Bull ...can some one respond if it would last because I'm at a lost ...
Those relationships don’t last for long since they’re founded on immorality. Regardless; don’t worry about what your Ex is doing. Focus on Christ and move forward step by step. In time you’ll find someone better
Here's the thing buddy, once you let go, you will allow the Lord to inact karma on her. Hell she might be going through it right now but she's just hiding it. Don't focus on her. Get off her media. Remove her from your life permanently.
We all have back up careers, back up transportantion, back up jobs, back up baby sitters, back up dinner plans, back up computer storage, its seems to me its only in relationships that "having a back up relationship and emotional support" is considered wrong, i think the idea of "owning" your partner is "crazy", i think everybody should monkey branch and this ethical b*ll crap would be pointless!!!
“Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.”
Galatians 6:7.
Keep living the way you’re living. There’s a reason you can’t seem to keep a good man in your life, let alone appreciate one. It’s not too late for you to turn around and accept Christ.
Great video Sir, you want to grow your channel?