Yes, my ex was cheating for nearly a decade, monkey branching to several women while still married. A person certainly has to be self absorbed to do that, if not fully narcissistic.
5 weeks ago I discovered I’ve been monkey branched by my ex now, I immediately broke up, we were 3 yrs together. I tought all was going well, and never seen it coming. She chose for him over me, just like that.. 5wks ago she told me she still loves me.. I never experienced such heavy pain before.. I thought she was so vulnerable sweet tender woman, at least thats what she often showed me. I’m since 5wks in no contact now and slowly start to feel better. Blessings to all of you with such similar kind sad experience🙏❤️
They always have men lined up, Hypergamy doesn't care about our feelings. I have several on my social media that are in relationships and marriages that want to cheat with me on their partners.
Hypergamy means = to marry or enter a relationship solely based on social class or wealth. Only girls who settle for you ( you’re not that attractive) or lower their standards to be with you, will do such an thing. If you marry the right woman, this will never happen to you.
I was thinking about dating my h.r manager, when she started showing signs of interest, come to find out she's in a relationship already, and on top of that she's still married, so I was the other guy, found out by checking her Facebook, and I thought I was going to end up in a relationship with her, but told myself be cautious
My ex monkey branched and now I find her repulsive , what a disgusting pig to have the same partner for 5 years and easily jump right into another relationship
It’s happening to a lot of people a lot of long term relationships to. Sad to say this may be the new dating trend. All the signs were right in front of us but nobody wanted to believe it
From my experience, a very good indicator of a potential monkey brancher is someone who is very possessive. You see, possessive people are terrified to be alone, and when they can no longer manipulate, and fears their partner may leave them, their loneliness fears are heightened and they start lining up a replacement. Once they feel the replacement can be more easily manipulated, they’ll immediately enter new r/s and forget you like you never existed.
Yep. Insecure attachment style (flat attachers) + most likely a cluster B with severe abandonment anxiety (npd, bpd) + extremely frequent daddy/mommy issues.
@@USMC6976this is straight facts. My monkey branching ex was always very insecure of me around other women and would always accuse me of being unfaithful, this confused me at the time as I gave her no indication and even proved multiple times my loyalty to her, I later found out this was all just projection to cover up her cheating!
Low self esteem people can also be a monkey brancher, when problems start to appear in a relationship, they're afraid to be left so they leave by themselves and stick to another branch in order to "assure the psychologicl security"
I got branched very early in life in the rawest way. I was 21 she was 19. In a matter of one weekend she chose and in just one night she instigated an argument and ran off in the middle of the night and threw herself at a guy she barely knew. He’d been handed everything by his parents including a house. They married less than a year later. 20 plus years and two kids later she branched him, got caught and he divorced her. She took him to the cleaners. Aaahh karma.
I’d encourage you to make a video on why it’s so important to turn away from lust and to have control over sexual desires. I resonate with you and enjoy your content, cheers from Texas.
@@AhmadAhmad-vl4ic The new relationship is going through a storm. She is confused and trying to figure it out. Am not too keen as am done fighting for the relationship so will just watch from the sidelines now and work on healing myself.
I think the thing that bothers me most is having to hear all the misandry over the years masked as feminism. I've been told men sleeping around is harmful to women, that men play games, that men aren't emotionally available, that men fear commitment, that men aren't good communicators, and so on... And it now feels like it's all been propaganda to eliminate men as competition.
My husband and his coworker who he is moving in with (15wks after our separation) are definately the first kind. She is a home wreaker and he is a cheater. She knew he was married and still pursued him. My husband also has low self esteem too. They will take each other for a ride. Can't see how it will work between them. They are immoral and it's built on infidelity.
Sir ima going thru this right now, as I look at this video, and your hitting head on, THIS IS SO PAINFUL SHIT, my little sister died, and this is more painful then that, monkey branching hits different, you watch it in real time. Thanks for sharing
The worst part is you don’t even know you’re being monkey branched once the honeymoon phase weres off but there are signs to watch for because nobody can give 100% of there attention to one person in a day. Inconsistent communication is the biggest red flag
I was 23 when I met my ex wife. 16 years and 3 kids later, she hopped onto another branch. I think I had little self esteem as she was my first serious partner. I know better now. Once a cheater, likely always a cheater.
Sorry bro I’m glad you survived all that time. Same with me instead it was only 3 years which is way less but still feel like I need to get better any advice?
@@lininsuleiman7024work on yourself man, assess what went wrong and how you ended up here, what were some red flags she always exhibited etc. learn to look for these pitfalls in the future. Surround yourself with friends and family and get yourself out of that bad state of mind. Realise that they dont change and never ever go back
This is why I dont waste my time trying to get to know women who have boyfriends, unless Im friends with guy and just want to be friends. Women who let guys flirt, get close are just trying to monkey branch. I also dont waste my time on habitual daters.
Monkey Branching and Hypergamy goes hand in hand. In my experience they are looking for something better than the person they are with. I speak from experience. I'm single, no children and have a paid off house. I get young women trying to monkey branch on to me. The problem is I'm not a branch for them to monkey on to.
Thankyou this was a excellent message…and well presented in a very easy to understand manner…You are describing my long term separated wife…Unbelievable how long this Disordered Behaviour lasted before I placed all the pieces of the Puzzle together and I didn’t recognize my Wifes Unbelievable Behaviours…Divorce application filed…I had more than enough…
So...a guy tried to monkey branch to me. Multiple times. With two different gfs. One he was on and off with, constantly. Did I do the right thing by rejecting him? I also recently heard he left her in another state when they were supposed to move together. He was super charming. Sweet. I just always felt nervous and uncomfortable around him and couldn't figure out why. Do you think that my subconscious picked up on this?
This happened to me seven months ago, after a mostly good four-month relationship/situationship. My ex has fearful avoidant attachment tendencies. His new love was a victim of marriage to a narcissist. What a pair! I have done inner work to be the best version of myself. I am much happier now than I was with him. A blessing in disguise !!🙏
@@RelearningRelationshipsBitter? I’m just stating the truth. I never said in my comment that good women didn’t exist. Attractive women have unlimited options and they exercise this behavior uninhibited. I attract dozens and most monkey branch or try to do it.
@GREGSJH13 you’re dating immoral women. It might be time to look in the mirror and realise if you’re only attracting bad women… you may not be as good as you think you are.
I'm not sure if my ex-wife monkey branched me. I have no proof she cheated and don't know of any men in her life until at least a few weeks after we split. I met someone else a few weeks after also, and it was a random contact on a dating app. She did leave thinking she could find better. In the end I thrived while she hasn't. She did me a favor and I realized it after I met that woman from the dating app from a few weeks after my ex left me. I'm still with that woman and married for 2 years.
I was being breadcrumbed by a monkey-brancher. Fascinatingly, at the point I was fed-up, she let go of her ex and when she wrapped her hands around my neck, I peeled her hands off me like a banana skin and walked off, ghosting her.
My relationship ended 8 months ago. I only learnt today I was monkey branched. Best part is her new partner is a monkey branched and she is 4 months pregnant. Can't wait for them to break up. I pity their unborn child
I've noticed on the internet it is often women that are characterized as the branchers, but thinking about it my dad was definitely one of these and has had children with several women. I will say that I think he does actually care about me. A memory that comes to mind is a journal I found of his where he layed out one of his goals was to be a good dad to me. I don't think it's fair to characterize all branchers as evil, but it is an evil behavior.
Hey Youngster, as you know the term monkey branching is how I found your channel a while back. Because I'd never heard of the term before, there were some on TH-cam that kind of explained it. But then I found the first video you did on monkey branching, let's just say it was enlightening. It opened my eyes to what was really going on when I was a trusting individual. I need to mention right here my name is James so I always find amusement and you using the name Jimmy. One thing I have noticed is they always leave you for someone that you say to yourself "they left me for him, that looser?" Or they run off with a cheap copy of you, I learned she wasn't my girlfriend, it was just my turn. And once a cheater always a cheater, and one never takes back a cheater. I guess I would fall into the second category, because things were not going as planned for my senior years, I'm supposed to be sitting down on my porch at the beach property living in my 35 ft Terry Manor fifth wheel trailer, listening to the ocean watching the cars go by on the highway. But no, life threw a monkey wrench into my plans, I had a beautiful blue-eyed blonde haired when she wasn't dying it red wife for about 30 years, even though she was starting to get bitchy and putting on a few more pounds than she had previously had, just more of her to love. And no those pants don't make your ass look fat ,your ass makes your ass look fat. Let's call her Jenny, rest in peace baby I told you not to take the shot. I had my business, we had a nice four bedroom two car garage house with a view of the valley where you could see from Mount Baker to what's left of Mount Saint Helens on a good day, and Mount Rainier was always an amazing sight out the living room window. she was working making good money, we had cars and boats ,our matching Silverado pickup trucks and motorcycles, RVs,the beach property,the little 11 acres in the woods. And then she had her breakdown. Dropped her off at work one morning as I was getting off the freeway she calls tells me she can't do this anymore come get her and I jumped right back on the freeway to Seattle to get her she worked for q west it was the phone company at the time. She was a collector, she was ruthless, she was always getting bonuses of things like tickets to sporting events, coupons to go to fancy restaurants, tickets to the Opera? Okay I think I still have a tux. Cash bonuses. She was one of the top five collectors in the company. So until she got her disability settlement, my auto repair shop was what was supporting us. And business wasn't good. Then my colon decides to explode on me and puts me in the hospital with a 74% chance of not living. I guess she spent three nights on a cot next to my bed while I was in intensive care I don't remember I was out, ended up wearing a little plastic bag on my side to defecate into for 4 years.Had to sell off a few toys to pay the bills. Things were getting tight but it was working. We downsized we're getting rid of things we don't need, sold the house, the shop and most of the toys. And would spend the summer time at the beach property in the 35 ft fifth wheel and the winter time on the 11 acres in the 29 foot Terry Trailer. That's caravan to you. She was doing an online buying and selling stuff thing. And I was still twisting wrenches for cash only. Then one night I had a cerebral vascular accident accompanied by an myocardial infarction. Which put me in the hospital. Then did it again the next night. I can't be like Dad that died from the stroke, or like grandpa that died from the heart attack. No I have to be the family overachiever and have both at the same time and just to prove my point do it two nights in a row. That ate up more of resources we did not have. And I become 100% disabled. It's not like I penciled in Wednesday night let's have a heart attack and stroke and just for fun let's do it again Thursday night. Oh yeah, I forgot this part of it. That's how I found out I was diabetic. One hell of a way to find that out. You think they would have figured that out when they were pumping me full of sugar water when I was laying in the hospital with the zipper down the front of me and the hole in my side crapping into a plastic bag. Or when the surgery was done to hook me all back up again. So I was laid up for a bit, and she was out and about doing her buying and selling of stuff for her internet business. Little did I know she had met some guy online why she was doing this. And since I was totally useless, she decided that Tom, Dick, Harry whatever his name was. Was able to take care of her better than I was at the time.Let's just say I was relearning to control bodily functions and not drool down the front of myself, how to walk and talk and write again. The first time that I've seen her after she took off with Tom? That wasn't my Jenny, that was some other man's version of my Jenny. And why do they always want you to be friends with the idiot they ran off with? We went our separate ways I got to keep my truck the woods and the trailer in the woods and she got everything else. Oh yeah I got to keep the dog. Nothing like the last 2 years of the dog's life, her spending all her time looking down the driveway waiting for Mama to come home. Damn I'm single again, give me a lot of time to go fishing and play in the garden, then I got hooked up with the neighbors batshit crazy bad blonde dye job over the hill looks are fading teeth are going highway meth whore aspiring to be a lot lizard Sharolyn and that one a couple years with me getting her out of jail out of rehab out of whatever institution she was in just to have her run off and hear from her two weeks later that she's back in again. She spent most of the time during our relationship locked up. I was coming to the conclusion that I couldn't do this to myself anymore when I met Rhonda. Let's say myself esteem wasn't high. I was pushing 60 with a short stick, 100% disabled can't work anymore according to the government. Coming back from a stroke and a heart attack, living in the woods in my trailer. No running water unless I go and get water and fill the tanks, no electricity unless I fire up the generator, no internet unless I use the hotspot on the phone, television reception is crap. So yeah my self-esteem wasn't the highest when I ran into Rhonda and I was just flattered that she would pay attention to my old ass. We hit it off had no disagreements on anything. Food, music, entertainment, religion, travel, It was like meeting someone that I had known all my life but I had just met them. This is the woman my kitten jumped out the window of my truck and ran up to in the park this is how I met her. Strange that the cat disappeared the night of the one year anniversary of our meeting. Even stranger is the last four numbers of my social security number are the last four numbers of her phone number calculate the odds of that ever happening and just to keep it on the weird side when she went down to get the new license plates for her car they start off with my initials backwards. We would finish each other's sentences if we even spoke at all because we could just look at each other and have a conversation just in a look. Knew what the other one was hungry for, and can feel when each other isn't feeling good. Right now she's having cramps so that means it's that time of the month so at least she isn't pregnant. This is the woman that when we were out together everybody thought we were an old married couple just by how we were with each other our body language our bantering back and forth. After we went our separate ways when she monkey branched on me, we kept showing up at the same intersection at least three times a day, running to each other in the store the gas station the coffee place the Indian smoke shop. Even after I had changed my schedule up couple hours earlier in the morning still run into a couple hours later than normal in the morning still running to her. The one that after 11 months of me going the f away and leaving her the f alone gets a hold of me because her car is broke down. I know that had to be a total act of desperation on her part. Hours of texting back and forth seriously a 10-hour phone call.And stupid me I put on my Captain save A ho tights and Cape purple tutu optional, and go down and tow her car out of downtown tweakerville central, find out she's doing meth again after 30 years of being clean. My main attraction to her was she didn't do meth because to find a woman in this area that doesn't do methamphetamines is like finding a unicorn. She comes home meets the cats that she only knew his kittens fills the cupboards up with food that she wants me to cook for dinner for the upcoming week then disappears. Later in the week she's with some guy I don't know. And picks a fight with me by text. That I had to decode because I don't speak spun. Something about telling her who she can see and who she can be with and where she can go. And I explained to her don't contact me again we're done. Yeah I would have to go with a low self-esteem. But I'm feeling much better now.
Hey Mr Mudduck; reading through your comment is beyond shocking. I’m terribly sorry you had to go through these health concerns & that you were betrayed in such a brutal way. I pray the Lord keeps you upright & that you find peace! There’s still good people out there! God bless you
@@RelearningRelationships There are times where I think I died during the emergency colon surgery and I ve been in hell for the last twenty years, I do remember standing up against the wall watching them working on me, the doctors were a little panicked, the heart monitor was flatlined and standing there leaning up against the wall waving at them, I'm telling them, let me go guys I'm good. I had never felt such peacefulness.Then waking up tied down to the hospital bed. But that's another story.Seems they did lose me for a couple minutes. The thing with Jenette made me feel useless like I had out lived my usefulness. I wasn't need anymore. Used up and thrown away like I was an old tampon. I gave it everything I had and burnt myself out doing it to provide a good life for us. And it was a good life for quite a few years. We were magic together. Little things like were flat broke, and between her digging around at her desk and me going through the vehicles we came up with $50 in scratch tickets and change for gas. I do remember a couple weeks before the stroke and heart attacks her mother telling her I wasn't looking so good she might start thinking about looking for a replacement. Mother-in-law's, of course I didn't look too good it was the middle of summer in a heatwave, I had just spent the last 10 hours loading up her two bedroom townhouse furniture,beds,boxes, appliances into the back of both Jenette's and my pickup trucks and unloaded it all and stuffed in into a storage unit, I did all the loading, unloading. Yeah I was worn out, of course I'm not going to look good. And I didn't want to do it in the first place. Because I knew that old woman would try to work me to death it wasn't the first time I'd helped her move. I know that the time with Sharolyn was the total definition of insanity. Doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different outcome. But then again, myself esteem wasn't at its peak. But I gave her more chances than anybody else ever did. Till I couldn't do it to myself anymore. Now this on going neverending cluster fux with Rhonda, I think it's like that special place in hell that's reserved for people that talk during the movie and fart in elevators. Somewhere in my life I got comfortable with always having a woman by my side. I kind of enjoy the company and the companionship,plus conversations better when you're not talking to yourself, sometimes. things are better in life when you have someone at your side to enjoy them with. Or someone at your side during the bad times. And for some reason I just felt extremely comfortable with Rhonda from the start and let my guard down. I have seen her for who and what she is, but She's like a boomerang I throw her away from me and eventually comes back.
Been monkeybranched after 3 years relationship. I’m just few weeks finds a new target and moves in with her together. Never felt such an excruciating pain before , a betrayal at heart but I know I will be better off without such a person in my life.
The best part of low self esteem is the fact that you arent special or anomolous and that everyone else is also worthy of low esteem. All things remain equal.
After just over a year went by, I saw the branch break just recently. We lasted about two years... I feel bad considering everything that's happened, but not in the sense that I would want the relationship rekindled. I would, however still seek to properly make amends regarding my faults in the relationship, but she has to initiate that in my view, while I just remain open and ready to follow through. I think it's emotionally immature how people handle break-ups these days. No one tries to talk about anything anymore-it's just looking out for self, only.
3 months ago my ex left me for a guy from her new friend group, knew the guy for like 2 weeks and outright left me for him after lying to me. dunno if she will ever come back or even talk to me ever again
If they dont both monkey branched, would that relationship last? Yes my ex reaches out , then she goes away, comes back, leaves, etc alll while she still with the monkey branch.
I was in category two and three. Low self esteem and a lustful person. The monkey brancher wasn’t in a long term relationship when we first got together. However, they had a string of orbiters and were still hung up on their previous ex who dumped them.. I courted her and always felt like I was being friendzoned.. I missed all the red flags. It was only after 5 dates did we even made out and 6 dates before we had sex. Unfortunately, this relationship did bare children. So I’m tied to the monkey brancher for a good 18-19 years still.. when it should’ve been a clean break and I rebuild my life. She never really loved me. Was always highly critical and never appreciated any of my sacrifice. I loved her unconditionally and more. But she withheld her affection and starved me of love within this relationship. Her breaking up with me was a real eye opener. I’m lucky I walked away with full custody of our children. Could’ve been much worst. I’m now much more cautious when dating. And in the future, I will impart my knowledge to my children so they don’t make the same painful mistakes that I did.
My ex monkey branched me with a coworker and immediately moved him in ! my ex is 53 and broke up via text, what a coward ! I went radio silent and could care if I ever see her again !
Master the skill of seeing a declining attraction from your partners. Always have your back up contingency plans ready. They are not yours, it's just your turn! -The Red Pill
@@josephpchajek2685 I am not a red pill guy but somehow that adage seems true. Attraction fades and disappear. This is why guys get burned so bad and become angry during break ups because they didn't see it coming. Premeditatio Malorum. "Remind yourselves of the impermanence of things." -Marcus Aurelius
@@josephpchajek2685 All people are monkey branchers given the correct situation, survival instinct.... 99% of people do not leave one job unless they have another, even if the job is abusing them.
Just started the video and already like the way it’s going “the three types of people monkey branchers target”. Although I don’t think my ex is a prolific monkey brancher and will unlikely do it again. It’s still going to be a helpful video for myself and others for future relationships.
Bro! It only hurts if you don’t expect it. 99% of women do it. They stay in whatever relationship till somebody better comes around. If a woman gets dump she’s looking for a rebound within hours.
I definitely do not do this. I don't even stay in the same room as someone I'm attracted to if they are taken or i am taken. Faithfulness is super important
Thanks for posting this video!! It’s been 3 months now since my ex gf cheated on me (monkey branched) with her long-time college best friend orbiter. I have a feeling this new relationship won’t work because if she truly loved him she would of left me years ago for him. We were together for 7 years and this is the 3rd time she has monkey branched on me. She is 25, I’m 29, and her new boyfriend is 25. How do ex’s feel if they monkey branched/rebounded with someone they already knew? My ex has an anxious attachment style. when she left me she told me “I havant felt happy in a long time” and “I’m not attracted to you anymore”. I’m still very much in love with her especially after 7 years together. I’m not sure what to do anymore nor how to help her.
@@RelearningRelationships she keeps reaching out at times, I read and then ignore her. She started talking more of this ' best friend ' from work that she went to a movie with and kissed. Was stupid to keep it going while I was abroad . We split up for good 3rd of July. I didn't block her but if she keeps disrespecting I will be forced to
My name is Romulo and this whole attitude was because I was totally unaware of the pills and I got carried away by my emotions. I dated a girl for 7 years and we were getting married. My ex asked for "some time" in May to think about "something" and said she was anxious. I told her after all this time and everything I'd done to her, she didn't deserve this break and I broke up. She's 22 now and she's been dating me since she was 15 (I was her first boyfriend) and I'm 26, I started dating her when I was 19 or 20. an idea, she was a virgin before she met me and I didn't have sex with her for 2 years at the beginning of our relationship because she didn't want to lose her virginity back then. Then, after 2 years of dating, it happened. Now back to the end. The first week she asked me if I was okay. Then I went to talk to her best friend, who is also my friend. We've been dating since we were kids and our circle of friends is pretty much the same. This friend confessed to me that a week before she asked for this break, they talked and my ex told her that she was having feelings for a guy from her work and that she went to talk to the guy during work that she liked him and that everything it started when they started having lunch together and the company people kept teasing her that they were having an affair, but she was taking it seriously and didn't want to "stop it". But I remembered that she once deleted the conversation with this guy on her cell phone, but I didn't mean that because he's too ugly and old, old enough to be her father, so I didn't mean it, I was a little jealous of a crazy handsome guy for his job. But well, something else was also the story of the IPHONE. She showed up with a used iphone 8 and said she had bought it from this guy, but I asked for the pix she bought and to this day she hasn't shown me the receipt. and there was even a day that we had a fight because i went to pick her up from work and she was with him closing the store and as she was getting in the car he took a long look at her ass and i went to charge her for this shit i started having afraid of losing, I walked into the fucking women's center, then a few weeks went by and she got cold feet and asked this time. It was her first job, she was in her second year of work, job where I went for the interview and helped her send her resume. Well, as we have always been very religious, especially her family. We were looking for a house to get married NOW. My financial situation has improved a lot in the last year, I tripled my salary after graduating. She graduated too, but earns 3x less than me. Well, 1 month later I saw her with this guy on the street together. Dude, seriously, I was outraged, I let my emotions speak louder, because in addition to my prejudice (because of my male ego) with the guy's age, he is 47 years old and she is 22 years old. They are almost 30 years apart in age. The guy is ugly as fuck and earns less than me. I realized that perhaps this generated an emotion in her that I was no longer generating. Man, I lost patience and it got really messed up. I called her on wpp and told her that "I didn't feed the feeling" "that I didn't go out with her" "that I relaxed, that my energy was bad, that I was down". After a few weeks her parents found out about everything and all hell started in her life too, her father went to her work and spoke to her boss and wanted to accuse him of harassment but he didn't "harass" her, she went to talk to him before she liked him. The father almost hurt the guy, which made him come out as a “saint” and made her even more in love, only her father talked to the boss and the boss himself said that this guy is a bit of a womanizer. But for a very religious family, it was a shock that the daughter exchanged a child “raised in the backyard” with a huge affective bond with everyone (her mother is my MOM) for an old, poor and ugly man who has a daughter. But that's it, the parents talking to the guy see that he's also in love with her, he doesn't seem to be all milk and Ghost. But even so, his parents don't like him, because according to them everything started wrong, because of a desire at work, a betrayal during a relationship that was "solid". Well, 7 months have passed, parents call me to see if I'm okay, friends send me things and pictures of her with him and the things they post, I've fought with God and the world not to send them and I've seen them leaving a very expensive hotel. They sent me pictures of the two of them drinking on the beach. Anyway. Some crap that only hinders my development and makes me more disgusted. As everything is still recent, these things still bother me. But after I found out her lie about the "time" and the guy, I went under, brother. I got really fucked up, I went out to drive drunk, I had sex with several women without a condom, I even had a threesome (which I had never done before) and I just fucked up, I hit a biker and he almost died. It could have been an eternal trauma for me if that had happened. It was a tense moment for me, I was deep in debt, I owed a lot of money... Brother, today she is having a "relationship" with this guy without exposing it to the public because all her friends and family are against it. Her parents have already warned that she doesn't want to meet this guy and she still hasn't posted any pictures with him. How I know? Close friends talk, but I stopped following her on everything. But everyone knows she's been seeing this guy. Brother, it's been hard but I'm graduating for the last 2 months, I have some women in the comb. But it's hard to forget her and my male ego just wanted revenge and to see her get screwed. But from what I can see, she is very happy, I was told that she has changed her language, is speaking differently, has changed in a short time, less shy (she was so shy and very introverted). She changed from water to wine and fuck her parents and friends annoy me with this news. Today I have a good job, a car. But I can't stop thinking about her, the shit she threw away, and mostly because my ego has been replaced by such a crazy person. So it's just a man's ego! There isn't a day that I don't dream and think about this shit, even when I date other women like me. and today she goes to church with the guy and plays the saint as if nothing had happened and what she did was "normal".
@@exodia_2299 technically she did cheat because she had been seeing this guy even during the relationship. Emotional cheating is still cheating. Then she monkey branched.
@gottrekk5798 brother the best thing to learn is how to release ppl from your life. Even in a marriage you don't own the other person. It's tough I know... my wife since high-school did a very similar thing and we have 4 kids.. there's blessings in letting them go and not letting it destroy you. Focus on developing yourself. Learn to be happy for her and the grief will pass.
Sometimes there are warning signs . I have changed the details in the following account but the main thrust of the account is true. This girl I was acquainted with dated 2 guys while keeping both in the dark about each other. I am a guy from Singapore. I studied in a British university in the late 90s. During the term holidays of 8 weeks , I return to Singapore. During one such holiday , I got acquainted with this girl and her bf at a mutual friend’s party. She and her bf were studying in a different British university. Let call her Tina And her bf , Jim. Tina is from Singapore and Jim is from Malaysia. At that point in time , they were a couple for about 6 months. Jim And I were studying the same subject and we talked for a while. The following term holidays , I ran into Tina again at a party but Jim was not around . I Asked And it turned out Jim would be in Malaysia and Tina would drive over to see him on weekends. The next year , the same thing … i would see Tina at parties but not Jim. I graduated And started working . The next year Tina graduated and started working at the same company but she was in a different department. Jim was due to graduate the following year. I would see Tina around the building and asked about Jim every now and then. About 2 months after Tina came back to Singapore she told me not to ask about Jim anymore as they had broken up. I was surprised but did not press for details. The next year , I left for another company . One of my supervisors turned to be Tina’s new boyfriend . Let’s call the new bf Brad. It turned out that Tina was dating Brad long distance during the term holidays . They were dating long distance for 3 years !!! And they were engaged to be married !!That was why she would visit Jim in Malaysia instead of him coming to see her !
I`m in love with a really beautiful and great woman, I´m really in love and I hope it works out. We´ve been together for a few month and I recently moved in with her. However, I`m really not comfortable with her relationship with her ex-partner. I have not problems with her ex-husband, they have minimum contact with each other and they only contact each other if it´s about their kids ( and I think the kids are great ) But this ex-partner. When we met she only mentioned him once or twice, but since she has been picking up the pace. Sometimes she can talk about him for a week, like what he said and what he thought about something, she has said that she would like him to help with renovation. He could consult us on business deals. She wants me to be friends with him so we could all hang out together even when has a new partner and she has me. Once she mixed our names, twice. I would really love to be with her, she is a fun, beautiful lady, but I can´t shake the feeling that they are somehow, someway still in love with each other and I`m a third wheel. I`m really at a loss here..
You didn’t ver her properly. I can clearly see this woman has issues. You have a knowledge gap in relationships that will hurt you in a long run. All I can offer is to coach & help you. If you want to check out my course & sign up: book a free call here: www.relearningrelationships.com/
A lot of people in this comments section seem to think the term "monkey branching" refers to a woman who simply cheats on one guy with the next. The correct explanation of the term is a woman who develops the means to go from one relationship to another whist still in the first relationship. She does not have to have had sex or done anything sexual with the new guy whilst still with the first guy for it to be monkey branching. The woman could have simply been getting to know a guy via text & subtly flirting with him who she then leaves her current partner for at the time she considers right. A lot of people here are thinking it is a term for cheating & whilst it is a kind of betrayal, it is not defined as someone who cheats on another. It is also very common for women to do this compared to men, sure not all do but it's kind of built into women's psychology because they are hypergamous.....
Monkey branching is all about your HUGE ego, any situation thats "soul crushing" shows how over blown your ego really is!!! If it crushes your soul then its a ego wound, its all mental, but nothing that actually hurts your physical body, why is somebody so delusional to think people are perfect in a relationship?
Women are cheating at levels beyond men. The statistics are out there, look them up. Not to mention, women initiate divorce 60-70% of the time. That number goes up by around 5% if they have a masters or pHD. I don't make this stuff up. It's reality.
Not true because women can Monkey Branch a lot easier a man actually has to go out their way to talk to other women a woman just needs to entertain whatever men approach her
My wife monkey branched, everyone could see she was seeing another man. She says she doesn't remember anything we tell her. She won't even answer the question did you have sex with him. She has totally erased anyform of accountability from her mind. Wake up men, women are always looking for someone better. If they don't they will stay with you, until someone else comes along.
No, women are not looking for someone better. There are godly women that are suitable for marriage and there are immoral women that are not. You, my friend; married the wrong woman that didn’t love nor respect you. Don’t lump all women into that category.
Im a monkey branching. Then I got monkey branched. I can tell you how we think. We have deep core wounds. We were taught as children that we have to be perfect and look for perfect. We were never good enough and don't view ourselves or anyone that way. It was painful when I was monkey branched after doing it for years. We do find the one but it is usually another monkey branches who destroys us. We think about the pain we caused the other person and feel terrible. However our own pain is more important because it's how we survive. That's why when it's done to us we respect the person. We know the emptiness it comes from. We are not narcissist but have learned that love triggers something we've put deep in the grave. We love all the people we hurt and don't like it done back to us. We do f8nd the one eventually but they are always bad for us and give us the karma we deserve and we know that's what we are getting. Don't take a monkey branches back. If they didn't want you the first time they'll never want you. I know their psych and that's why I never take my monkey branches exes back
I was monkey branched back in 2019. I’ve learned a lot since then! Now…I found an amazing woman who I will marry next month. I’m a blessed man.
You were the first person to ever send me an email when I started bakc in 2019. This is wonderful news. I pray god blessed your marriage!
If you are up to it, send me an email with your sucess story. How you met your wife and how you courted her. It could inspire other men
@@RelearningRelationships At some point, I would love to share my story. I’m just so busy with wedding preparations right now, it’s insane!
Awesome. I hope you have a wonderful wedding! Really looking. Forward to hearing all about it :)
Karma is a bitch. Well done.
A lot of women or people who monkey branch have Borderline personality disorder or Narcissistic personality disorder.
Yeah....the problem is that the mental one's are usually good in bed. IMHO
Yes, my ex was cheating for nearly a decade, monkey branching to several women while still married. A person certainly has to be self absorbed to do that, if not fully narcissistic.
Dude YES
Or avoidant attachment
and PTSD
5 weeks ago I discovered I’ve been monkey branched by my ex now, I immediately broke up, we were 3 yrs together. I tought all was going well, and never seen it coming. She chose for him over me, just like that.. 5wks ago she told me she still loves me.. I never experienced such heavy pain before.. I thought she was so vulnerable sweet tender woman, at least thats what she often showed me. I’m since 5wks in no contact now and slowly start to feel better. Blessings to all of you with such similar kind sad experience🙏❤️
They always have men lined up, Hypergamy doesn't care about our feelings. I have several on my social media that are in relationships and marriages that want to cheat with me on their partners.
Hypergamy means = to marry or enter a relationship solely based on social class or wealth. Only girls who settle for you ( you’re not that attractive) or lower their standards to be with you, will do such an thing.
If you marry the right woman, this will never happen to you.
11 years here 👋🏻! He chose someone else over me after being together for 11 years :)
Me,too and I have the worst case: we have two small children
I was thinking about dating my h.r manager, when she started showing signs of interest, come to find out she's in a relationship already, and on top of that she's still married, so I was the other guy, found out by checking her Facebook, and I thought I was going to end up in a relationship with her, but told myself be cautious
My ex monkey branched and now I find her repulsive , what a disgusting pig to have the same partner for 5 years and easily jump right into another relationship
It’s happening to a lot of people a lot of long term relationships to. Sad to say this may be the new dating trend. All the signs were right in front of us but nobody wanted to believe it
From my experience, a very good indicator of a potential monkey brancher is someone who is very possessive. You see, possessive people are terrified to be alone, and when they can no longer manipulate, and fears their partner may leave them, their loneliness fears are heightened and they start lining up a replacement. Once they feel the replacement can be more easily manipulated, they’ll immediately enter new r/s and forget you like you never existed.
Yep. Insecure attachment style (flat attachers) + most likely a cluster B with severe abandonment anxiety (npd, bpd) + extremely frequent daddy/mommy issues.
possessive and jealous. they will accuse you of doing exactly what they are doing in order to justify to themselves why it is ok for them to do it.
@@alexandruescu1207 spot on !
@@USMC6976this is straight facts. My monkey branching ex was always very insecure of me around other women and would always accuse me of being unfaithful, this confused me at the time as I gave her no indication and even proved multiple times my loyalty to her, I later found out this was all just projection to cover up her cheating!
@@0w3n27 You and me both have had the same experience with a monkey brancher.
Low self esteem people can also be a monkey brancher, when problems start to appear in a relationship, they're afraid to be left so they leave by themselves and stick to another branch in order to "assure the psychologicl security"
Indeed
Excellent insight, and that has been my experience as a monkey branchee
So well put and 💯 spot on . Keep the info going because personality disorders have never been at an all time high and social media has amplified it .
Yes! Thank you!
Meanwhile monkey branches also get used by other people because they need others for their survival.
What a miserable life!
Most are narcissistic parasites
100% agree. I feel sorry for my ex
How so
Ok had to pause the video at 5:53 this stuff is heavy… but I’ll continue
Thanks for the information much love ❤
Any advice on monkey branching but we share equal responsibility with a kid thanks again !
I got branched very early in life in the rawest way. I was 21 she was 19. In a matter of one weekend she chose and in just one night she instigated an argument and ran off in the middle of the night and threw herself at a guy she barely knew. He’d been handed everything by his parents including a house. They married less than a year later. 20 plus years and two kids later she branched him, got caught and he divorced her. She took him to the cleaners. Aaahh karma.
This is very typical. Sounds like a happy ending for all 😅
If she would have been left destitute in the divorce, it would have been ultra-karma.
@@mikyl-fo8rh She’s a realtor so her karma came the last two years. He was too smart to let her get away with too much 🤷♂️
The old instigating an argument, trick. It is so immature and unaccountable for an adult.
I’d encourage you to make a video on why it’s so important to turn away from lust and to have control over sexual desires. I resonate with you and enjoy your content, cheers from Texas.
I have a few videos I made a month back or so where I talk about lust quite a bit. I can definitely do more.
Happened to me just a month ago when my ex monkey branched and broke 11 year old relationship with me leaving me completely shattered and lost. 😢
Any update ?
@@AhmadAhmad-vl4ic The new relationship is going through a storm. She is confused and trying to figure it out. Am not too keen as am done fighting for the relationship so will just watch from the sidelines now and work on healing myself.
@@himalayangoat28you made the right choice. There was no future with her
@@himalayangoat28 please do no take her back no matter what.
He was with someone else just two weeks after breaking up with me, after 3 years together. That hurt more than the breakup itself.
@@monicaleond well sorry to break it to you, that person has been in his life for much much longer than 2 weeks.
I think the thing that bothers me most is having to hear all the misandry over the years masked as feminism. I've been told men sleeping around is harmful to women, that men play games, that men aren't emotionally available, that men fear commitment, that men aren't good communicators, and so on... And it now feels like it's all been propaganda to eliminate men as competition.
That is so true
That was the dumbest take I’ve ever heard
Absolutely. I heard this growing up and internalized it. To grow up and see the 'fairer sex' just as corrupt if not more so is really eye opening.
It's not exactly that they target them, it's that those are the type of people that let this happen to them.
True
I HAVE LEARNED A LOT. MAY GOD BLESS YOU FOR THIS
Thank you
My husband and his coworker who he is moving in with (15wks after our separation) are definately the first kind. She is a home wreaker and he is a cheater. She knew he was married and still pursued him. My husband also has low self esteem too. They will take each other for a ride. Can't see how it will work between them. They are immoral and it's built on infidelity.
Sir ima going thru this right now, as I look at this video, and your hitting head on, THIS IS SO PAINFUL SHIT, my little sister died, and this is more painful then that, monkey branching hits different, you watch it in real time. Thanks for sharing
And my wife left me for a woman. 😢
The worst part is you don’t even know you’re being monkey branched once the honeymoon phase weres off but there are signs to watch for because nobody can give 100% of there attention to one person in a day. Inconsistent communication is the biggest red flag
I was 23 when I met my ex wife. 16 years and 3 kids later, she hopped onto another branch. I think I had little self esteem as she was my first serious partner. I know better now. Once a cheater, likely always a cheater.
Sorry bro I’m glad you survived all that time. Same with me instead it was only 3 years which is way less but still feel like I need to get better any advice?
@@lininsuleiman7024work on yourself man, assess what went wrong and how you ended up here, what were some red flags she always exhibited etc. learn to look for these pitfalls in the future. Surround yourself with friends and family and get yourself out of that bad state of mind. Realise that they dont change and never ever go back
This is why I dont waste my time trying to get to know women who have boyfriends, unless Im friends with guy and just want to be friends. Women who let guys flirt, get close are just trying to monkey branch. I also dont waste my time on habitual daters.
Keep up the good work man and thanks for the help
Monkey Branching and Hypergamy goes hand in hand.
In my experience they are looking for something better than the person they are with.
I speak from experience. I'm single, no children and have a paid off house. I get young women trying to monkey branch on to me.
The problem is I'm not a branch for them to monkey on to.
Good on you sir. A man of morals.
Holy shit! That part about like attracts like just hit me! How many times she told me she messed with someone cheating on their lady!
Thankyou this was a excellent message…and well presented in a very easy to understand manner…You are describing my long term separated wife…Unbelievable how long this Disordered Behaviour lasted before I placed all the pieces of the Puzzle together and I didn’t recognize my Wifes Unbelievable Behaviours…Divorce application filed…I had more than enough…
So...a guy tried to monkey branch to me. Multiple times. With two different gfs. One he was on and off with, constantly. Did I do the right thing by rejecting him? I also recently heard he left her in another state when they were supposed to move together.
He was super charming. Sweet. I just always felt nervous and uncomfortable around him and couldn't figure out why. Do you think that my subconscious picked up on this?
He also seemed possessive and obsessed with me... sometimes i wonder if I am too much of a goody too shoes
Why are my just finding your channel?
It's the best channel on TH-cam
Good bless you John. You should join the community! Would love to have you in the group calls: www.skool.com/relearningrelationships/about
This happened to me seven months ago, after a mostly good four-month relationship/situationship. My ex has fearful avoidant attachment tendencies. His new love was a victim of marriage to a narcissist. What a pair! I have done inner work to be the best version of myself. I am much happier now than I was with him. A blessing in disguise !!🙏
"Four YEAR"!!!
Trust and Believe 🙏
They do this all the time, especially the real attractive ones. Loyalty is nonexistent.
You sound bitter towards women. You do realise there are good women out there too?
@@RelearningRelationshipsBitter? I’m just stating the truth. I never said in my comment that good women didn’t exist. Attractive women have unlimited options and they exercise this behavior uninhibited. I attract dozens and most monkey branch or try to do it.
@GREGSJH13 you’re dating immoral women. It might be time to look in the mirror and realise if you’re only attracting bad women… you may not be as good as you think you are.
@@RelearningRelationshipsNo, you’re just making a bunch of assumptions without any evidence.
I’m making a statement based on pattern recognition and working with 100+ clients who struggle with your issues.
I'm not sure if my ex-wife monkey branched me. I have no proof she cheated and don't know of any men in her life until at least a few weeks after we split.
I met someone else a few weeks after also, and it was a random contact on a dating app.
She did leave thinking she could find better. In the end I thrived while she hasn't. She did me a favor and I realized it after I met that woman from the dating app from a few weeks after my ex left me. I'm still with that woman and married for 2 years.
Brother keep preaching the gospel truth..😊
Always
I was being breadcrumbed by a monkey-brancher. Fascinatingly, at the point I was fed-up, she let go of her ex and when she wrapped her hands around my neck, I peeled her hands off me like a banana skin and walked off, ghosting her.
12:48.....That hits home hard. I got a decision to make.
My relationship ended 8 months ago. I only learnt today I was monkey branched. Best part is her new partner is a monkey branched and she is 4 months pregnant. Can't wait for them to break up. I pity their unborn child
Amen, great job bud!
Thank you!
My question is, how do I know if I WAS the monkey branch?
I've noticed on the internet it is often women that are characterized as the branchers, but thinking about it my dad was definitely one of these and has had children with several women. I will say that I think he does actually care about me. A memory that comes to mind is a journal I found of his where he layed out one of his goals was to be a good dad to me. I don't think it's fair to characterize all branchers as evil, but it is an evil behavior.
Very true
Imagine if women adopted a child before giving one up for adoption.
Hey Youngster, as you know the term monkey branching is how I found your channel a while back. Because I'd never heard of the term before, there were some on TH-cam that kind of explained it. But then I found the first video you did on monkey branching, let's just say it was enlightening. It opened my eyes to what was really going on when I was a trusting individual. I need to mention right here my name is James so I always find amusement and you using the name Jimmy. One thing I have noticed is they always leave you for someone that you say to yourself "they left me for him, that looser?" Or they run off with a cheap copy of you, I learned she wasn't my girlfriend, it was just my turn. And once a cheater always a cheater, and one never takes back a cheater. I guess I would fall into the second category, because things were not going as planned for my senior years, I'm supposed to be sitting down on my porch at the beach property living in my 35 ft Terry Manor fifth wheel trailer, listening to the ocean watching the cars go by on the highway. But no, life threw a monkey wrench into my plans, I had a beautiful blue-eyed blonde haired when she wasn't dying it red wife for about 30 years, even though she was starting to get bitchy and putting on a few more pounds than she had previously had, just more of her to love. And no those pants don't make your ass look fat ,your ass makes your ass look fat. Let's call her Jenny, rest in peace baby I told you not to take the shot. I had my business, we had a nice four bedroom two car garage house with a view of the valley where you could see from Mount Baker to what's left of Mount Saint Helens on a good day, and Mount Rainier was always an amazing sight out the living room window. she was working making good money, we had cars and boats ,our matching Silverado pickup trucks and motorcycles, RVs,the beach property,the little 11 acres in the woods. And then she had her breakdown. Dropped her off at work one morning as I was getting off the freeway she calls tells me she can't do this anymore come get her and I jumped right back on the freeway to Seattle to get her she worked for q west it was the phone company at the time. She was a collector, she was ruthless, she was always getting bonuses of things like tickets to sporting events, coupons to go to fancy restaurants, tickets to the Opera? Okay I think I still have a tux. Cash bonuses. She was one of the top five collectors in the company. So until she got her disability settlement, my auto repair shop was what was supporting us. And business wasn't good. Then my colon decides to explode on me and puts me in the hospital with a 74% chance of not living. I guess she spent three nights on a cot next to my bed while I was in intensive care I don't remember I was out, ended up wearing a little plastic bag on my side to defecate into for 4 years.Had to sell off a few toys to pay the bills. Things were getting tight but it was working. We downsized we're getting rid of things we don't need, sold the house, the shop and most of the toys. And would spend the summer time at the beach property in the 35 ft fifth wheel and the winter time on the 11 acres in the 29 foot Terry Trailer. That's caravan to you. She was doing an online buying and selling stuff thing. And I was still twisting wrenches for cash only. Then one night I had a cerebral vascular accident accompanied by an myocardial infarction. Which put me in the hospital. Then did it again the next night. I can't be like Dad that died from the stroke, or like grandpa that died from the heart attack. No I have to be the family overachiever and have both at the same time and just to prove my point do it two nights in a row. That ate up more of resources we did not have. And I become 100% disabled. It's not like I penciled in Wednesday night let's have a heart attack and stroke and just for fun let's do it again Thursday night. Oh yeah, I forgot this part of it. That's how I found out I was diabetic. One hell of a way to find that out. You think they would have figured that out when they were pumping me full of sugar water when I was laying in the hospital with the zipper down the front of me and the hole in my side crapping into a plastic bag. Or when the surgery was done to hook me all back up again. So I was laid up for a bit, and she was out and about doing her buying and selling of stuff for her internet business. Little did I know she had met some guy online why she was doing this. And since I was totally useless, she decided that Tom, Dick, Harry whatever his name was. Was able to take care of her better than I was at the time.Let's just say I was relearning to control bodily functions and not drool down the front of myself, how to walk and talk and write again. The first time that I've seen her after she took off with Tom? That wasn't my Jenny, that was some other man's version of my Jenny. And why do they always want you to be friends with the idiot they ran off with? We went our separate ways I got to keep my truck the woods and the trailer in the woods and she got everything else. Oh yeah I got to keep the dog. Nothing like the last 2 years of the dog's life, her spending all her time looking down the driveway waiting for Mama to come home. Damn I'm single again, give me a lot of time to go fishing and play in the garden, then I got hooked up with the neighbors batshit crazy bad blonde dye job over the hill looks are fading teeth are going highway meth whore aspiring to be a lot lizard Sharolyn and that one a couple years with me getting her out of jail out of rehab out of whatever institution she was in just to have her run off and hear from her two weeks later that she's back in again. She spent most of the time during our relationship locked up. I was coming to the conclusion that I couldn't do this to myself anymore when I met Rhonda. Let's say myself esteem wasn't high. I was pushing 60 with a short stick, 100% disabled can't work anymore according to the government. Coming back from a stroke and a heart attack, living in the woods in my trailer. No running water unless I go and get water and fill the tanks, no electricity unless I fire up the generator, no internet unless I use the hotspot on the phone, television reception is crap. So yeah my self-esteem wasn't the highest when I ran into Rhonda and I was just flattered that she would pay attention to my old ass. We hit it off had no disagreements on anything. Food, music, entertainment, religion, travel, It was like meeting someone that I had known all my life but I had just met them. This is the woman my kitten jumped out the window of my truck and ran up to in the park this is how I met her. Strange that the cat disappeared the night of the one year anniversary of our meeting. Even stranger is the last four numbers of my social security number are the last four numbers of her phone number calculate the odds of that ever happening and just to keep it on the weird side when she went down to get the new license plates for her car they start off with my initials backwards. We would finish each other's sentences if we even spoke at all because we could just look at each other and have a conversation just in a look. Knew what the other one was hungry for, and can feel when each other isn't feeling good. Right now she's having cramps so that means it's that time of the month so at least she isn't pregnant. This is the woman that when we were out together everybody thought we were an old married couple just by how we were with each other our body language our bantering back and forth. After we went our separate ways when she monkey branched on me, we kept showing up at the same intersection at least three times a day, running to each other in the store the gas station the coffee place the Indian smoke shop. Even after I had changed my schedule up couple hours earlier in the morning still run into a couple hours later than normal in the morning still running to her. The one that after 11 months of me going the f away and leaving her the f alone gets a hold of me because her car is broke down. I know that had to be a total act of desperation on her part. Hours of texting back and forth seriously a 10-hour phone call.And stupid me I put on my Captain save A ho tights and Cape purple tutu optional, and go down and tow her car out of downtown tweakerville central, find out she's doing meth again after 30 years of being clean. My main attraction to her was she didn't do meth because to find a woman in this area that doesn't do methamphetamines is like finding a unicorn. She comes home meets the cats that she only knew his kittens fills the cupboards up with food that she wants me to cook for dinner for the upcoming week then disappears. Later in the week she's with some guy I don't know. And picks a fight with me by text. That I had to decode because I don't speak spun. Something about telling her who she can see and who she can be with and where she can go. And I explained to her don't contact me again we're done. Yeah I would have to go with a low self-esteem. But I'm feeling much better now.
You should sent a email to Christian man
Hey Mr Mudduck; reading through your comment is beyond shocking. I’m terribly sorry you had to go through these health concerns & that you were betrayed in such a brutal way. I pray the Lord keeps you upright & that you find peace! There’s still good people out there! God bless you
@@RelearningRelationships There are times where I think I died during the emergency colon surgery and I ve been in hell for the last twenty years, I do remember standing up against the wall watching them working on me, the doctors were a little panicked, the heart monitor was flatlined and standing there leaning up against the wall waving at them, I'm telling them, let me go guys I'm good. I had never felt such peacefulness.Then waking up tied down to the hospital bed. But that's another story.Seems they did lose me for a couple minutes.
The thing with Jenette made me feel useless like I had out lived my usefulness. I wasn't need anymore. Used up and thrown away like I was an old tampon. I gave it everything I had and burnt myself out doing it to provide a good life for us. And it was a good life for quite a few years. We were magic together. Little things like were flat broke, and between her digging around at her desk and me going through the vehicles we came up with $50 in scratch tickets and change for gas. I do remember a couple weeks before the stroke and heart attacks her mother telling her I wasn't looking so good she might start thinking about looking for a replacement. Mother-in-law's, of course I didn't look too good it was the middle of summer in a heatwave, I had just spent the last 10 hours loading up her two bedroom townhouse furniture,beds,boxes, appliances into the back of both Jenette's and my pickup trucks and unloaded it all and stuffed in into a storage unit, I did all the loading, unloading. Yeah I was worn out, of course I'm not going to look good. And I didn't want to do it in the first place. Because I knew that old woman would try to work me to death it wasn't the first time I'd helped her move.
I know that the time with Sharolyn was the total definition of insanity. Doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different outcome. But then again, myself esteem wasn't at its peak. But I gave her more chances than anybody else ever did. Till I couldn't do it to myself anymore.
Now this on going neverending cluster fux with Rhonda, I think it's like that special place in hell that's reserved for people that talk during the movie and fart in elevators. Somewhere in my life I got comfortable with always having a woman by my side. I kind of enjoy the company and the companionship,plus conversations better when you're not talking to yourself, sometimes. things are better in life when you have someone at your side to enjoy them with. Or someone at your side during the bad times. And for some reason I just felt extremely comfortable with Rhonda from the start and let my guard down. I have seen her for who and what she is, but She's like a boomerang I throw her away from me and eventually comes back.
Been monkeybranched after 3 years relationship. I’m just few weeks finds a new target and moves in with her together. Never felt such an excruciating pain before , a betrayal at heart but I know I will be better off without such a person in my life.
The best part of low self esteem is the fact that you arent special or anomolous and that everyone else is also worthy of low esteem. All things remain equal.
Always remember a woman will leave you if she has another guy lined up
I’ve been dating on and off for a few years. Many women does this to maximize their entertainment. They don’t care about anyone else but themselves
After just over a year went by, I saw the branch break just recently.
We lasted about two years...
I feel bad considering everything that's happened, but not in the sense that I would want the relationship rekindled.
I would, however still seek to properly make amends regarding my faults in the relationship, but she has to initiate that in my view, while I just remain open and ready to follow through.
I think it's emotionally immature how people handle break-ups these days.
No one tries to talk about anything anymore-it's just looking out for self, only.
3 months ago my ex left me for a guy from her new friend group, knew the guy for like 2 weeks and outright left me for him after lying to me. dunno if she will ever come back or even talk to me ever again
Why would you want her back after she’s having intercourse with another man?
If they dont both monkey branched, would that relationship last? Yes my ex reaches out , then she goes away, comes back, leaves, etc alll while she still with the monkey branch.
I was in category two and three.
Low self esteem and a lustful person. The monkey brancher wasn’t in a long term relationship when we first got together.
However, they had a string of orbiters and were still hung up on their previous ex who dumped them..
I courted her and always felt like I was being friendzoned.. I missed all the red flags. It was only after 5 dates did we even made out and 6 dates before we had sex.
Unfortunately, this relationship did bare children. So I’m tied to the monkey brancher for a good 18-19 years still.. when it should’ve been a clean break and I rebuild my life.
She never really loved me. Was always highly critical and never appreciated any of my sacrifice. I loved her unconditionally and more. But she withheld her affection and starved me of love within this relationship.
Her breaking up with me was a real eye opener. I’m lucky I walked away with full custody of our children. Could’ve been much worst.
I’m now much more cautious when dating. And in the future, I will impart my knowledge to my children so they don’t make the same painful mistakes that I did.
YES SIIIIR
❤
Thank you
My ex monkey branched me with a coworker and immediately moved him in ! my ex is 53 and broke up via text, what a coward ! I went radio silent and could care if I ever see her again !
Can’t include 3rd type..They are not being manipulated
caught him by accident. 12 years we were together and 2 of those he was with someone else too. shocking.
My God God bless you
Master the skill of seeing a declining attraction from your partners. Always have your back up contingency plans ready.
They are not yours, it's just your turn! -The Red Pill
If you live that way you’ll keep attracting women that are just as d damaged as you.
@@RelearningRelationships
The fantasy version of me in their minds is not my fault.
@@josephpchajek2685
I am not a red pill guy but somehow that adage seems true. Attraction fades and disappear. This is why guys get burned so bad and become angry during break ups because they didn't see it coming. Premeditatio Malorum.
"Remind yourselves of the impermanence of things." -Marcus Aurelius
@@josephpchajek2685 All people are monkey branchers given the correct situation, survival instinct.... 99% of people do not leave one job unless they have another, even if the job is abusing them.
"Its just your turn" is cuck mindset
Just started the video and already like the way it’s going “the three types of people monkey branchers target”. Although I don’t think my ex is a prolific monkey brancher and will unlikely do it again. It’s still going to be a helpful video for myself and others for future relationships.
Amen
Bro! It only hurts if you don’t expect it. 99% of women do it. They stay in whatever relationship till somebody better comes around.
If a woman gets dump she’s looking for a rebound within hours.
No. Not all women do this. Only men & women who have issues do this. Good men & women do not do this.
Exactly because if you truly loved the person, your heart, mind and body won’t let you move on that fast.
I think lots of women mentally/emotionally check out of the relationship for a long time before making the decision to start lining up a replacement.
I definitely do not do this. I don't even stay in the same room as someone I'm attracted to if they are taken or i am taken. Faithfulness is super important
Thanks for posting this video!! It’s been 3 months now since my ex gf cheated on me (monkey branched) with her long-time college best friend orbiter. I have a feeling this new relationship won’t work because if she truly loved him she would of left me years ago for him. We were together for 7 years and this is the 3rd time she has monkey branched on me. She is 25, I’m 29, and her new boyfriend is 25. How do ex’s feel if they monkey branched/rebounded with someone they already knew? My ex has an anxious attachment style. when she left me she told me “I havant felt happy in a long time” and “I’m not attracted to you anymore”. I’m still very much in love with her especially after 7 years together. I’m not sure what to do anymore nor how to help her.
There's nothing for you to do. Why would you want to help someone who betrayed you? Cut her off and move on. There's better women out there.
She does not need help though.
Hey I'm literally in the same boat as you when you wrote this comment. How are you doing now that some time has passed? :)
I feel the same way. Been 3 weeks. It’s awful
Third time??? That's where you messed up. You cut her out of your life the first time.
How do you deal or hurt a monkey branched
Walk away. Don’t be bitter.
@@RelearningRelationships she keeps reaching out at times, I read and then ignore her. She started talking more of this ' best friend ' from work that she went to a movie with and kissed. Was stupid to keep it going while I was abroad . We split up for good 3rd of July. I didn't block her but if she keeps disrespecting I will be forced to
My values and morals just don’t translate in this modern world anymore so I just gave up .
In the Bible, Besheba did this to uriah and moved on to be with king David
Join my FREE relationship Community: www.skool.com/relearningrelationships?invite=36a9fd15fbf24e94ade10ecd4821f1ef
Apply to Relationship Mastery here:calendly.com/relearningrelationships/call?back=1&month=2022-11
Wow 30% of your viewers are women, that’s awesome. I’ve learned a lot from watching your videos.
My name is Romulo and this whole attitude was because I was totally unaware of the pills and I got carried away by my emotions.
I dated a girl for 7 years and we were getting married. My ex asked for "some time" in May to think about "something" and said she was anxious. I told her after all this time and everything I'd done to her, she didn't deserve this break and I broke up.
She's 22 now and she's been dating me since she was 15 (I was her first boyfriend) and I'm 26, I started dating her when I was 19 or 20. an idea, she was a virgin before she met me and I didn't have sex with her for 2 years at the beginning of our relationship because she didn't want to lose her virginity back then. Then, after 2 years of dating, it happened. Now back to the end.
The first week she asked me if I was okay. Then I went to talk to her best friend, who is also my friend. We've been dating since we were kids and our circle of friends is pretty much the same. This friend confessed to me that a week before she asked for this break, they talked and my ex told her that she was having feelings for a guy from her work and that she went to talk to the guy during work that she liked him and that everything it started when they started having lunch together and the company people kept teasing her that they were having an affair, but she was taking it seriously and didn't want to "stop it". But I remembered that she once deleted the conversation with this guy on her cell phone, but I didn't mean that because he's too ugly and old, old enough to be her father, so I didn't mean it, I was a little jealous of a crazy handsome guy for his job. But well, something else was also the story of the IPHONE. She showed up with a used iphone 8 and said she had bought it from this guy, but I asked for the pix she bought and to this day she hasn't shown me the receipt. and there was even a day that we had a fight because i went to pick her up from work and she was with him closing the store and as she was getting in the car he took a long look at her ass and i went to charge her for this shit i started having afraid of losing, I walked into the fucking women's center, then a few weeks went by and she got cold feet and asked this time. It was her first job, she was in her second year of work, job where I went for the interview and helped her send her resume. Well, as we have always been very religious, especially her family. We were looking for a house to get married NOW. My financial situation has improved a lot in the last year, I tripled my salary after graduating. She graduated too, but earns 3x less than me.
Well, 1 month later I saw her with this guy on the street together. Dude, seriously, I was outraged, I let my emotions speak louder, because in addition to my prejudice (because of my male ego) with the guy's age, he is 47 years old and she is 22 years old. They are almost 30 years apart in age. The guy is ugly as fuck and earns less than me. I realized that perhaps this generated an emotion in her that I was no longer generating.
Man, I lost patience and it got really messed up. I called her on wpp and told her that "I didn't feed the feeling" "that I didn't go out with her" "that I relaxed, that my energy was bad, that I was down". After a few weeks her parents found out about everything and all hell started in her life too, her father went to her work and spoke to her boss and wanted to accuse him of harassment but he didn't "harass" her, she went to talk to him before she liked him. The father almost hurt the guy, which made him come out as a “saint” and made her even more in love, only her father talked to the boss and the boss himself said that this guy is a bit of a womanizer. But for a very religious family, it was a shock that the daughter exchanged a child “raised in the backyard” with a huge affective bond with everyone (her mother is my MOM) for an old, poor and ugly man who has a daughter. But that's it, the parents talking to the guy see that he's also in love with her, he doesn't seem to be all milk and Ghost. But even so, his parents don't like him, because according to them everything started wrong, because of a desire at work, a betrayal during a relationship that was "solid".
Well, 7 months have passed, parents call me to see if I'm okay, friends send me things and pictures of her with him and the things they post, I've fought with God and the world not to send them and I've seen them leaving a very expensive hotel. They sent me pictures of the two of them drinking on the beach. Anyway. Some crap that only hinders my development and makes me more disgusted. As everything is still recent, these things still bother me.
But after I found out her lie about the "time" and the guy, I went under, brother.
I got really fucked up, I went out to drive drunk, I had sex with several women without a condom, I even had a threesome (which I had never done before) and I just fucked up, I hit a biker and he almost died. It could have been an eternal trauma for me if that had happened. It was a tense moment for me, I was deep in debt, I owed a lot of money...
Brother, today she is having a "relationship" with this guy without exposing it to the public because all her friends and family are against it. Her parents have already warned that she doesn't want to meet this guy and she still hasn't posted any pictures with him. How I know? Close friends talk, but I stopped following her on everything. But everyone knows she's been seeing this guy. Brother, it's been hard but I'm graduating for the last 2 months, I have some women in the comb. But it's hard to forget her and my male ego just wanted revenge and to see her get screwed. But from what I can see, she is very happy, I was told that she has changed her language, is speaking differently, has changed in a short time, less shy (she was so shy and very introverted). She changed from water to wine and fuck her parents and friends annoy me with this news.
Today I have a good job, a car. But I can't stop thinking about her, the shit she threw away, and mostly because my ego has been replaced by such a crazy person. So it's just a man's ego!
There isn't a day that I don't dream and think about this shit, even when I date other women like me.
and today she goes to church with the guy and plays the saint as if nothing had happened and what she did was "normal".
If she didn’t cheat on u. She did nothing wrong. Better she break up and date someone new than. Cheat behind ur back. I see nothing with what she did.
@@exodia_2299 technically she did cheat because she had been seeing this guy even during the relationship. Emotional cheating is still cheating. Then she monkey branched.
@@exodia_2299 Didn't you read the story? She was cheating , she was flirting with a man from work and she had an emotional affair.
You deserve better.
@gottrekk5798 brother the best thing to learn is how to release ppl from your life. Even in a marriage you don't own the other person. It's tough I know... my wife since high-school did a very similar thing and we have 4 kids.. there's blessings in letting them go and not letting it destroy you. Focus on developing yourself. Learn to be happy for her and the grief will pass.
Only a Monkey knows about other Monkeys 😂
or, it’s a bit of all three in one
Sometimes there are warning signs .
I have changed the details in the following account but the main thrust of the account is true. This girl I was acquainted with dated 2 guys while keeping both in the dark about each other.
I am a guy from Singapore. I studied in a British university in the late 90s. During the term holidays of 8 weeks , I return to Singapore. During one such holiday , I got acquainted with this girl and her bf at a mutual friend’s party. She and her bf were studying in a different British university. Let call her Tina And her bf , Jim. Tina is from
Singapore and Jim is from Malaysia. At that point in time , they were a couple for about 6 months. Jim
And I were studying the same subject and we talked for a while.
The following term holidays , I ran into Tina again at a party but Jim was not around . I Asked And it turned out Jim would be in Malaysia and Tina would drive over to see him on weekends. The next year , the same thing … i would see Tina at parties but not Jim. I graduated And started working . The next year Tina graduated and started working at the same company but she was in a different department. Jim was due to graduate the following year. I would see Tina around the building and asked about Jim every now and then. About 2 months after Tina came back to Singapore she told me not to ask about Jim anymore as they had broken up. I was surprised but did not press for details. The next year , I left for another company . One of my supervisors turned to be Tina’s new boyfriend . Let’s call the new bf Brad. It turned out that Tina was dating Brad long distance during the term holidays . They were dating long distance for 3 years !!! And they were engaged to be married !!That was why she would visit Jim in Malaysia instead of him coming to see her !
I`m in love with a really beautiful and great woman, I´m really in love and I hope it works out. We´ve been together for a few month and I recently moved in with her.
However, I`m really not comfortable with her relationship with her ex-partner.
I have not problems with her ex-husband, they have minimum contact with each other and they only contact each other if it´s about their kids ( and I think the kids are great )
But this ex-partner. When we met she only mentioned him once or twice, but since she has been picking up the pace. Sometimes she can talk about him for a week, like what he said and what he thought about something, she has said that she would like him to help with renovation. He could consult us on business deals. She wants me to be friends with him so we could all hang out together even when has a new partner and she has me. Once she mixed our names, twice.
I would really love to be with her, she is a fun, beautiful lady, but I can´t shake the feeling that they are somehow, someway still in love with each other and I`m a third wheel.
I`m really at a loss here..
You didn’t ver her properly. I can clearly see this woman has issues. You have a knowledge gap in relationships that will hurt you in a long run. All I can offer is to coach & help you. If you want to check out my course & sign up: book a free call here: www.relearningrelationships.com/
Mostly men in the comments herw it seems..
30 seconds of information in an 18 minute video. Spit it out, man!!
A lot of people in this comments section seem to think the term "monkey branching" refers to a woman who simply cheats on one guy with the next. The correct explanation of the term is a woman who develops the means to go from one relationship to another whist still in the first relationship. She does not have to have had sex or done anything sexual with the new guy whilst still with the first guy for it to be monkey branching.
The woman could have simply been getting to know a guy via text & subtly flirting with him who she then leaves her current partner for at the time she considers right.
A lot of people here are thinking it is a term for cheating & whilst it is a kind of betrayal, it is not defined as someone who cheats on another.
It is also very common for women to do this compared to men, sure not all do but it's kind of built into women's psychology because they are hypergamous.....
No they’re not. Immoral women that don’t desire you will be hypergamous to you. A good woman that values genuine desire will never be hypergamous
Monkey branching is all about your HUGE ego, any situation thats "soul crushing" shows how over blown your ego really is!!! If it crushes your soul then its a ego wound, its all mental, but nothing that actually hurts your physical body, why is somebody so delusional to think people are perfect in a relationship?
this happens to woen more than men,,,,,,,
Women are cheating at levels beyond men. The statistics are out there, look them up. Not to mention, women initiate divorce 60-70% of the time. That number goes up by around 5% if they have a masters or pHD.
I don't make this stuff up. It's reality.
Naw😊
Not true because women can Monkey Branch a lot easier a man actually has to go out their way to talk to other women a woman just needs to entertain whatever men approach her
My wife monkey branched, everyone could see she was seeing another man.
She says she doesn't remember anything we tell her.
She won't even answer the question did you have sex with him.
She has totally erased anyform of accountability from her mind.
Wake up men, women are always looking for someone better.
If they don't they will stay with you, until someone else comes along.
No, women are not looking for someone better. There are godly women that are suitable for marriage and there are immoral women that are not. You, my friend; married the wrong woman that didn’t love nor respect you. Don’t lump all women into that category.
Im a monkey branching. Then I got monkey branched. I can tell you how we think. We have deep core wounds. We were taught as children that we have to be perfect and look for perfect. We were never good enough and don't view ourselves or anyone that way. It was painful when I was monkey branched after doing it for years. We do find the one but it is usually another monkey branches who destroys us. We think about the pain we caused the other person and feel terrible. However our own pain is more important because it's how we survive. That's why when it's done to us we respect the person. We know the emptiness it comes from. We are not narcissist but have learned that love triggers something we've put deep in the grave. We love all the people we hurt and don't like it done back to us. We do f8nd the one eventually but they are always bad for us and give us the karma we deserve and we know that's what we are getting. Don't take a monkey branches back. If they didn't want you the first time they'll never want you. I know their psych and that's why I never take my monkey branches exes back
Brancher not branches. Autocorrect
You need Jesus
Only women monkey branch
No, men and women who are immoral, monkey branch.