The government has made it even harder. If you try to get help you lose your guns, your job, society looks down on your like a crazy person. Government made it harder
As a guy that is very financially successful but has no friends at a relatively young age (29) mainly because of jealousy, I’d never kill myself (I’m too strong willed) but it’s complete bullsh*t that everyone has someone to go to. If I went to people like that, they’d just blow me off or laugh. The reality is that a lot of people would then use my death for attention or self aggrandizement, after the fact, but they would never actually care in the moment if I was still alive. I’m not going to ever do something like that because I’m not going to give them the satisfaction though. But the reality is that not everybody has somebody to go to. And a lot of people will just use a death for their own ego boosting or to make themselves look like they care when they don’t. Hard truth
Let's not forget that everyone says they want to listen, but then most people don't. The expression on a person's face when you start talking about your problems really says it all.
Discerning who and what you share with others is important. There are many who are willing to hold space for others to share - those people may not be our friends or family... if we're fortunate they are. We're all working through things and those who are unwilling or incapable of holding space are often ignoring facing their own problems or fears - nothing wrong with that but good to acknowledge that they're hurting too and are in need of someone to truly hold space for them. Peace and love to all.
Because we are all flawed. It takes courage for a person to speak up and be vulnerable, but the one who listens and receives them must be a comforter and risk being vulnerable also. Pride can be deadly. Trust, compassion and love needs to take the place of pride in these moments.
I'm 33, I've lost 10 friends to suicide or overdose since I was 19... it's s ruthless cycle. At one point in less than 5 months I lost 3 friends. 2 to overdose and 1 suicide.. the hardest part was 2 of the friends were brothers... their mother lost both of their sons in a 5 month span, I didn't know what to say to her.
Your experiences hit home for me, I lost 7 childhood friends to addiction, One was my closest friend really he was my brother I still spend my holidays with his family. And I lost my cousin to drunk driving & my big brother to suicide. It isn't easy. I too suffered from opioid addiction for over a decade I'm now 4 years clean with 2 slip ups but I've managed to put it behind me, I honestly didn't think I would live past 25 & at the time I didn't care, I am now 30 against all odds. Its a awful thing but it is nice to hear someone that has delt with similar situations and losses. Bless 🙏
I hear you mate. There is an epidemic of suicide in Belfast that is terrifying. Your experience is so like my own. I'm 50 now and I've lost some good ones too soon as well. We need to properly rely on each other.
Yeah it sucks, but it doesn’t matter cause nobody’s gonna do anything about it. We need a strong middle class like back in the 90s. It sad today that being good is no longer good enough.
Fckkk man.. this really hit hard for me. Almost to a t what happened with me. 3 of my best friends died within 5 months of one another. 1st was murdered. Shot in the neck over a pound of weed. Then the other 2 overdosed. Reading your comment really punched me in the gut. I hope that you are getting by. I know it is hard. Some days harder than others. Keep your head up, man.
@@powerhousenw lol still waters run deep A lot of women throw their sensitivity and emotionality around like they're in a hockey game, hip checking people Just because men don't do that a much, doesn't mean we aren't as sensitive lol Go look at a list of all the artists and poets and composers and philosophers and novelists of the world Regardless of whatever "partiarchal" institutions that have kept women down You cannot deny that the greatest works of romance were made by men
Stay strong man, sometimes it’s impossible to see what purpose you have or what your life is worth, but I promise you your life is so precious and valuable. There is only one you, and the world is a better place having you in it
@@solarwolf1336 Thank you , I needed to hear that at this very specific moment . You my friend just made the world a better place . With some kind words to a stranger . Omar Pena is my name , bless you and yours .
@@negringo4470 - Of course!! There’s not enough positive words to go around nowadays, the world is already a dark place, we have to do our best to shine a light in it! I’m happy you’re still with us Omar :)
You and I are in the same situation bud. Similar timeframe, similar surprise, and ongoing pain from losing a friend you'd do anything for. My heart goes out to you friend 👼
A good buddy of mine had his best friend kill himself with a shotgun. My buddies girlfriend left him when he started breaking down and I really let her have it. I layed into that bitch for being so cold and heartless. I coulsnt believe her cruelty to her boyfriend
@Dutch with glasses your mother should have swallowed you, she certainly knows how to clean the plate. You will die alone with nothing and no one. That's still a better future than you deserve, but even the sun shines on a dog's ass from time to time.
@@lalsangkimahnamte7208 no here's a weird thing the very good comedians and funny people of the world, tend to have either very hard early life or a very depressed early life my school had a former therapist speak in my class, i think that he's arguably funnier than the whole school no joke, and he did mention that in his early life he had around 3 s**cide attempts
This is the greatest post-fight interview of all time. Forget all that macho posturing and calling out. Patty recognized he was going to have the whole world listening and used that opportunity to speak on something that many people needed to hear.
I’m a grown man and I can safely say that in my life I can count on one hand the amount of beings that have truly cared whether I live or die and three of them have been dogs.
That's fucked up to hear... It's crazy because seeing this written out, makes me lowkey hate myself a bit more. I've only had 3 people that's fully cared about me. 2 people, 1 dog. All dead. The two people were when I was a kid... I genuinely hope the world gets better, mental health seems to be declining.
I loved him for this. He probably actually and literally saved some men's lives just by saying this. I lost my best friend to suicide. And I never knew he was feeling that way. He was great guy and an honorable friend. Thank you Paddy. Cause I feel guarantee you because of your words, you directly saved a humans life. Probably more than a few even. Much love.
And as for the fighter; He spoke nothing but the purest of truth and that of the Heart of a Champion because it takes a real true man to speak out about one of the best and most used tricks of Satan on a stage such as he did immediately after participating and winning a match in a sport primarily partaken in by men who consider themselves to be true fighters. Taking a stand and using the opportunity presented to him to talk about and say anything, he chose to stand up against the deceptive beliefs we as men have taken on to accept as so called truth and denounce silence amongst men as it is a false and a way of living that must be done away with so that men may live and not die in silence. "I would rather he cry on my shoulder today than me go to his funeral next week" POWERFUL AND PROFOUND.
I had a falling out with a friend a long time ago. But we had a lot of history together prior. She took her life in June 2020, in CA. She was wicked smart, surrounded by friends she cared about, did charity work, had a Masters in fashion design, did some minor filming jobs, etc... .....and she took her life. I couldn't understand it. Then I had a dream that visually expressed her emptiness and hopelessness. I can only imagine what a man will go through if he doesn't feel he can even speak up. I am sorry you lost your friend. It is devastating and tragic.
@@unlimited971 You are right in that we don't really know. But quite often, people need to hear that in a certain setting or at the right moments. There are plenty of people in the crowd for the UFC who are struggling (human life + inflation, etc), so the probability of the fighter reaching at least one person is pretty high.
This gave me goosebumps. I can’t for one second imagine being in that kind of pain and not having anyone to talk to. He’s right! Let’s get rid of that stigma.
There are thousand of people out there that have no one to talk too. Seem strange but it is the truth. Then they thousands more that just don't want to talk about it because they might be called weak that not the case. But when some do talk and then other make fun of them for talking or showing emotion this even worse. Most people really do get things inside that really should be let out. Until we can get both men and woman not to judge someone because there cry for because of the pain and hurt they are going though it won't change.
The “stigma” is made up. We will talk to people we can trust. The sad part is that not many can be trusted to listen without judgement, without handing out glib advice and without listening to respond rather than listening to understand.
It's less a matter of having someone to talk to and more matter of having someone to help you. When someone gets defeated completely they don't need somebody to understand them and their problems, they need the problems to go away, suicide achieves that goal. The only way to reverse the increasing suicide rates is to create a path to victory in society.
I'm 51 now. my mom's generation had to fight for women's rights. so, we got rights, to vote, to leave toxic relationships, etc... now, we've gone around the other way. I have 2 sons, young men. and I'm disgusted with women nowadays. after fighting for the right to be heard, and have equality - to now treat men with such vehemence and ridicule and their selfish TOXIC behaviour... its appalling. we need balance, on both sides. I love my boys and all their friends ❤️. Your wonderful men and boys and YOU ALSO DESERVE to be RESPECTED.
Thank you. May your house increase always, and may your sons find women who are worthy of them and that they are worthy to have. Take care and all my best to you.
You and your generation didn't fight for equality -you were pawns in other people's feminist agenda for undermining the basic family unit on which a strong nation, that they wanted gone, had been built. Equality is the marketing/propaganda side for get more pawns into the fray. You don't get to complain about the fruits of your labor. All men, your sons and myself included, are "enjoying" the world you helped create. If you're really disgusted, try taking some actual action and do something about it.
I was in this state of mind the other day i was on treadmill watching people with good lives socialising im the loner in the gym nobody really talks to me. I finish my session walking across to leave and staff said hi how you doing, through me off guard i came home and just cried. Im used to being ignored, that staff guy made my day.
Hope you're doing better now. I had a random old man greet me in a book shop and it put a smile on my face. Don't be afraid to start a conversation yourself.
It issue also is that friends often don’t really ask how their friends are doing. Even if they don’t ask like it, someone could be going through hell. We need to care more about others. Even if it feels awkward. An awkward moment is much better than having regrets at a funeral.
@@unclephil1091 Its not about flowers, it's about talking. Males need to understand that their friends care for them more then they realize and are there to help them.
So powerful for young men to hear another young man say what Paddy did. I grew up in a home with an old school macho, man's man for a father. I learned to keep my stuff inside until I was grown and married then divorced. That's when I started to tell another person my traumas. It helps immensely to talk about the weight we carry to another person. And there's absolutely no shame in it. It doesn't mean you're weak, just human
This is not "powerful". It's emasculating men. Instead of teaching men how to handle their emotions, and carry on, they are telling men to unload their emotions onto someone else for them to deal with it for you. It's NOT "powerful". Men are in despair today, BECAUSE they are weak. Not because "they have no one to talk to".
I hear you, and I share the same background story, we learn the wrong thing when we’re way to young to know any better. It’s bad. Women sure have their own fish to fry, but it’s nothing like this, they talk, maybe too much, but it’s better than us, we freakin die 8 (eight!) years younger than females. So yeah…
Biggest mistake I did was to cry on my ex wife’s shoulder though, I don’t have regrets but that one is my biggest regret and I say talk and cry but never to a woman
i feel you on this, there were times in the night where I would just be in tears, I cannot ask for anyone because I really don't trust anyone that much (including my family)
About 2 or 1 week ago. I had a talk with my own father. He wants to be left alone but want my family near him. Ive never under my 20 years spoken about troubles. I sat down to talk to him, which he who doesnt understand much, he had to know the importance of my crucial information. He sat down for about 6h with me which he knows and I know he hates doing. But He did for me. He'd much rather have me and him cry to eachother than him going to his son's funeral. When youre sick like I am. You disappear into your own selfishness. Makes life for everyone around you horrid. I just know that ive never spoken to anyone. From a child to adult As a man. Not even my own blood family. You can manage life with minimal things to love and have love from. But never be quiet. About anything in life. The pain you feel won't disappear when youre gone. You will give it to everybody around who wholeheartedly loves you. I've realised the power of the mind and the meaning of words. I'm young as 19. This vitriolic year has taught me the most important things in my life. Going forwards. Everyone I know will know how much love I want to give. I will do everything in my lifes power to give of everything I have to offer. I love yall in here. If I only could give everyone on this planet the internal love of my powerful mind. I'd sacrifice everything for it to happen. I'd give my life for it, and be happy knowing everyone would be loved. Stay strong Kings and Queens. This world needs both.
What I have found, the best way to get out of serious depression, is to to help others. That helps you get out of your head… when things seems to be the worst…
So true. Helping others give our lives a purpose and perspective. Purpose and perspective foster empathy and strength that may not always lead us to a happy life, but at least a meaningful one.
It hurts more to see someone going through something alone than I do for myself. I have learnt to embrace and accept my burdens to give me strength. The best part of it all is being able to overcome it because then those weights seem worth it. Years of reflecting and understanding my feelings to improve has kept me alive and move forward.
Isn't it amazing how we can handle others problems and he'll the. Fi d vleaf routes whilst also ignori g those things we say when it Co. Es to our self's
I regret every time I've opened up and told someone what goes on in my head - it doesn't help and it can't be taken back either - people can't and won't understand suicidal thinking, they'll take it as a personal insult or dismiss it as not serious, they'll tell you about how much you'll hurt everyone else and how you just need to go "walking" or some other nonsense. If you see a psych, they'll give you sympathetic looking nods while they think about what they're having for lunch - it's a waste of time, money and energy. Hang on as best you can but don't think for a second that anyone else can help you they can't, you're on your own and if there's any possibility of a future it'll be because you brought it about nobody else.
False. Woman put men down in many ways. Where do you often hear woman ending there lives because of depression? It happens but it’s more rare then you know. Why? Because it’s very easy for a woman to find someone else. A man that chooses to speak with a woman on there issues are associated to how they want things and don’t give in to work it out. So, men don’t say shit because we know it gets nowhere and bundles with us for our lives to ruin. Now! I’m not saying this is all but what I seen the past several years this is the common direction of a majority in whole. This whole thing on woman equal rights has already been given years ago. I don’t know what more woman are wanting! You want to go in the sewer slumps cleaning them by all means go, how about work in the oil fields or all the major physical jobs please go give it a try. I just don’t get what more does a woman want that men haven’t given.
@@paulchristiansen7014 it is so unbelievably sad to be part of the 1%, i wish what you say wasn't true. it is upsetting to me that very few women value the men in their lives. as a woman, you cannot say you truly love your father, brother, or son if you treat the father of your kids/husband or potential husband like crap.
@@chemextin74 going through a messy divorce now, as I thought she was my soul mate as her and I have been though child abuse from a family member, I am a very family oriented person myself, but she sleep with someone her friend introduced to her and called me by his name..that crushed me to my core.. as for the divorce her lawyer is after 95% of my money and that is what my divorce is cost me.. but it will be up to a judge in the a year or so..
@@paulchristiansen7014 there's a saying in mexico that translates to, "tell me who your friends are and i'll tell you who you are". yet, i myself believed i could be close to women that live differently than i. but one day it suddenly hit me that i need to get away from any woman that doesn't encourage me to serve my family, and i must meet and befriend women who are devoted to their husband and children in order for me to become the wife and mother i say i would like to be. sorry to hear about what you're going through, it ain't easy. my parents have been talkin divorce for years, but my mother has my poor father wrapped around her narcissistic finger. it pains me to see my father settle, i wouldn't wish that sort of cuckholdry on my brother or son.
If men do share any vulnerability, people, especially women, will use it to attack them. Just look at how Jordan Peterson was attacked for crying on behalf of other people's suffering.
I am glad that you are in support. But tell that to the many women that become un-attracted when a man shares his feelings. But if you ask them in isolation they say they want a man who shares his feelings. What that really means is that she wants a man to be able to listen to her feelings and connect with her feelings. For some men to do this they also have to show their vulnerability. And that is where it fails for men. Firsthand knowledge I no longer show my vulnerability.
Bro that hit me..last year I admitted myself into a treatment center because I was gonna go home from work and end myself. I felt I was so alone, but instead I told my boss of my plan and they said we don’t want you to go anywhere, we care about you. And I told them I need help and I need to go to the treatment center. And they took me to the treatment center. They cared and I’m not dead because of that.
Please, for your own sake, find communities, friends or a support network that you can be close to. Someone to spend some time talking to from time to time. I've been a loner throughout my life with few friends, but good friends and they have been incredibly valuable to me. I wish you nothing but happiness, Mason! I'm glad you opened up, even though it can be a hard and painful thing to do.
I did some training on suicide prevention. Very next day I noticed a mate was down, I asked the question if he was considering suicide. He answered I'm not sure, he'd just had enough of life. I spoke to the people from the training and got him help. He's still with us. Thank God for the training So speak up Lads 👍
Problem is (speaking from personal experience) when you do open up to someone you are made to feel like you are being "dramatic" and that your problems are not that serious or even worse ridiculed for not being "man enough" to cope with them
If you worry about opening up to someone you know perhaps a professional would do better. They have supposedly better training in handling delicate situations whereas the everyday bloke has spent his whole life being told to toughen up so when someone else shows that weakness they just sincerely don't know how to react in those moments besides saying the stuff that was always drilled into them...
Yes. Society needs to LISTEN. Also it's pathological to imply that none of us have time for each other and to push it all off onto for-profit 'professional therapists'.
Paddy was truly the "Baddy" (most badass dude) for saying this after his "W" that night. Saying this with such raw & real emotion in remembrance of his friend, Ricky. RIP Ricky
Yeah but he only said it because it's HIS friend. He wouldn't have said it for SOMEONE ELSE. It is against Islam to kill yourself, so easy solution here - become a Muslim and have billions of Muslim brothers and sisters you can talk to anytime.
While I agree with you to an extent, for anyone to say something like this nowadays, is like killing off your roles in the places that make people money. Sponsorship rules most sports & even though the UFC isn't hurting for money, the fighters are all 1099 workers. They are self-wmployed contractors essentially. So yeah, he said it because his friend is gone, but he still used a platform that may have or will save someone from suicide.
Hate the break it to you all that there's no one to talk to as a guy. Been there done that, there are things that can't be fixed in this world. It's how we are weighed and measured that determines are life.
Problem is finding people you trust. A lot of us are on our own for the most part. We’ve had peers that we could talk to but they’ve broken that trust numerous times.
Plz reach out to your family, friends or doctor/ therapist or even just pray or meditate/ let it out to the universe. Don't suffer alone, I know what ever your going thru or have gone thru or are dealing with inside may feel like to much to bear but it can get better everything will be ok one day. I'm sure you have ppl who will be in great pain and sorrow to not have you here anymore. I know it's hard to see the sun behind the rain and grey clouds but it's there. I hope your day's get brighter bud.
Keenan Reeves was once asked what he thought happens to us when we die. He replied, "I don't know, but I know the people who love us will miss us when we're gone." When I was young the one thing I knew was my mother would blame herself, and I couldn't break her heart. The Almighty has a plan for you, and there are people who love you. Open up to them friend... Don't break their hearts
My little brother took his own life. He was my only sibling. I wish he would of heard this message or something like it. Our family has never been the same. My mom died suddenly a week before Xmas last year from a brain aneurysm that I swear was caused by the depression she suffered from my brother's decision.
I also lost my mother to a brain aneurysm when I was 4 years old and then my brother 10 years later to cancer so I know what it's like. You just gotta soldier on my bro.
He has it so, so, right. I've been there myself and being able to talk to somebody made all of the difference in the world to me. It's very possible I might not have made it by now had I not had someone to talk to. I really, really admire him for speaking out like this. Bravo, good sir, bravo!
My buddy on Xbox live did too, I had gotten off Xbox that summer cuz it got too toxic and by the time I came back, he was gone. I knew he was losing it too, I can't believe I wasn't there when he needed someone. He was a father of 2 boys. Guys speak to anyone, reach out as hard as you can, you're not alone!
I wish my brother would have heard this. I wish I knew how much he was hurting. Had I known, I'd been there for him. Instead of getting that call we all dread and think we'll never get. I miss you Ryan. I sincerely hope your no longer in pain, are happy and safe now. Love you man
Aye, that's a thing that stays with you forever. 15 years on and there's hardly a day go by that I don't think of my bro. A pain you must learn to live with and one that irreversibly changes life for you and your family. God Bless John, hope you and the family are keeping on and living this life.
@@Walkingstoic thank you very much. Your exactly right. There's not a day that goes by where my brother isn't on my mind. I'm so sorry you lost yours and I understand the lose. Your never the same again. God bless you and your family. Thanks again for the kind words. Take care
I've literally told people about seriously thinking about killing myself, and nobody checked on me. It's easy to look back and say "what if" but suicidal people often feel like the world is better without them, and they feel so alone that nobody cares. Men are told to man up. Women leave us if we open up. I've opened up about multiple suicide attempts, and the response I got was "well, you're still here, so it couldn't have been that bad".
from my expireance most people who talk about suicide all the time or cut themselves arnt always the ones to keep an eye on, a lot if the time they are just crying out for attention! with most the people i know who topped themselves it always came out the blue, its the quiet ones u got to watch out for
@@johnsmith-nl3js I hate to say it, but I agree. I knew 2 people back in high school, played sports, had good grades, were popular, didn’t seem to have anything wrong with either of them. They killed themselves 7 months apart, nobody knew the real reason why because they never opened up to anyone. No signs of depression, no cuts, no scratches, never talked about suicide, never hinted at suicide. I don’t know for sure if I’d say those who cut are attention seekers, but sadly it seems 90% of the population is self diagnosed with depression and does it just for the attention so I can’t disagree as much as I want to.
He's 100% correct. I promise there is someone out there who would rather have you cry on their shoulder than they would go to your funeral. Take care of yourselves, please
20 years of not talking to someone over the loss of my son caused me to be suicidal. Finally talking to a sweetheart of a woman healed my heart, and 6 years later I am healed by her kindness, as I no longer blame myself for my son's death. Mental health is so important.
As someone who almost did kill themselves and recently wanted to again, I went and got help and talked it out. I changed my ways. I realized that I have much to offer someone and I will leave behind so many people who do care about me.
One of the biggest mistakes I'm ever made in my life was believing a woman when she said she cared about me and that I could trust her. The damage her lies and cruelty inflicted on me changed me. I'll NEVER make that mistake again.
My friend, don't let the Monstrous behavior of another dictate who you are. You deserve love and to be open and trusting. The longer you refuse to open up, the longer she will continue to have power over you. I love you and God bless!
@@Andrew3455 Actually no. That relationship fell apart almost 10 years ago. I spent 3 years after that "trying again" only to have one terrible date after another. Eventually I stopped trying, stopped viewing dating as worth the effort. I was sad for about another two years after that. But eventually I started enjoying my life again. Now my life is great, and I don't waste tine, money, or my emotional well being on trying to find some woman to have around. I get plenty of company from friends and dogs, and the internet has more adult material than 1 man could watch in 1 lifetime. So what do I meed a woman for?
@@sarahdawnmoore Just please don't go crazy MRA. Like Karen Staughan. Don't let this become an echo chamber, tell men how we treat women shit too, which you do Just please, don't let it become the mra lol
@@sarahdawnmoore thank you for what you do. it's refreshing to see a woman standing up for men. God only knows it's not something that happens very often.
When I was very young, I tried telling my parents about my ideation. My mom laughed, my dad called me a, "coward". That was the first and last time I ever opened up about myself to anyone.
Until you have nobody to pass it on to. Now realize how many of us are in that situation and imply again that we are being selfish, even though we have been going through this shit alone over and over again.
It ends it for the person that's in pain. We need to be careful with those type of statements. They're shaming and part of the stigma. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. I've been there many many times in the last 10 years. It will get better. It won't always hurt.
I just turned 60 yesterday and I'm grateful for my birthday. I was there a year ago. Through therapy and meds I don't want to do that anymore. Talk to anyone life is too precious
When I was 27, my mother had a therapist come to the house to talk to her about her disability and what not. The lady wanted to talk to me, but I refused, cause talking about things isn't something I ever learned to do. Mom told her about what went on in my life, and how I was having to deal with a lot of shit while taking care of her from her disability since I was 15. The lady said to mom "With all the weight he has on his shoulders, I'm surprised he hasn't killed himself".
She definitely should have worded that comment differently, "Well with all of that weight on his shoulders, he needs to learn that talking about it, halves the weight every time!" Something along those lines would have been preferable.
My heart breaks for this dude. It's ridicules! We need to make our men feel comfortable showing emotion. I'd rather have my guy open up than to feel like he's alone. 💯 💔😢
Just remember if a man expresses in such a way to you, that means he's opening up being vulnerable to you. If you use it against him in any way or any time in the future, he will close himself off. This happens alot. Much more than you think. Be his comfort when he is vulnerable with you.
Its got nothing to do with making men feel comfortable of showing emotion. See thats a typical female perspective! that's why we don't talk to you women aaarghh so annoying. When will you ladies wake up! The issue is we don't know how to put it into dam words. Also every woman says they would care but that's a complete load of nonsense. Have you seen the rest of the thread, 80% of the comments is regarding guys saying women say they care but they don't.
It's really hard to talk when no one cares to listen. That is one of the biggest problem. Experienced this when I decided to open up to someone, then I saw the look on their face that they aren't interested at all. And the response "don't be sad, everything will be fine" doesn't really help.
R.I.P my mate's mate. This is the power of the words. When the spoken word speaks a million feelings and few sentences can push mountains with a message that must be received by the ears of those who need it the most.
Start by, as a man, not feeling emasculated hugging another man, loving cats, openly crying, amongst other things. I have the most beautiful lilac point siamese named Gabby ( for obvious reasons), and we play hide and seek. She wins the most because she does her "Squirrelly Temple " routine ( run up a tree and hide)
@@lavanderwilliams111 My brother has just adopted a cat and it puts a smile on my face and just brightens my day watching him be a 'cat dad'. That cat is an absolute spoiled princess and she's well aware of it too 😁 He has had his low moments and it makes me feel a lot less worried about him seeing how much joy his little friend brings him (I still keep an eye on him though because I think it's important to check in, even more so when people seem happiest because happiness can hide a lot) Some people are carrying pure bitterness in their heart if they can't see someone they love feeling content and enjoying life and companionship without finding a negative. Some people will say 'oh, they're just pets' but a pet can get you through the darkest days and give you something to carry on for, especially when you feel too vulnerable to open up or trust anyone.
I just had a very close friend of mine 3 weeks ago commit suicide... the problem was we were talking everyday up until 3 days prior to him killing himself....those last 3 days he spent with his girlfriend.
This! It took me having multiple military TBIs, combat PTSD, and a stubborn combat mediic to help me talk about it and to seek help. We need to talk about men's mental health clear across the entire board.
As a man who doesn't talk I can say it's not as easy as just start talking, like I literally don't know how to communicate what I feel so I just bottle it up and know that one day I will explode or implode
As a woman, I fifth that motion, not because it's okay, but because men have been socially conditioned to believe they need to be a certain way, to build walls because they weren't taught, again, thanks to society and parenting, that it's okay to be vulnerable. Toxic masculinity is very real and it comes from women too. It's just disguised as overt sexism, which it is. The most you can do is let your guy know that it's okay to be open and vulnerable, and when he is, you thank him for opening up and acknowledge that it wasn't easy. I'm sure you'll do just fine though. Don't take the fact that someone doesn't open up to you personally. Good things take time. 😊 P.S. Sorry this is so long. I get wordy when I'm hungry. Going to eat now! 😂
This is truly heartbreaking, and this is coming from me, a 63 year-old man's man. But it's so true, that by a LARGE margin when you are man, nobody gives a shit. That's the truth.
As someone who has felt the pain of losing a loved one this way I gotta say this hit me real deep. Never hesitate to tell someone you love and care about em. It could save their life. 🙏🏼RIP Jesse, I love you brother
amen brother. I have been in a similar situation many a time. Be it a PTSD moment from the Army or giving up after my divorce. I've had that pistol on my temple ready to finish it. The one thing that has constantly kept me from pulling the trigger is my children. So I would open up about it and I've had my own parents call me crazy for even thinking it. I know what it's like but I'm telling ya find someone that you CAN open up to and talk about it cause you can't take back a bullet.
The trouble is, when you feel that low, speaking to someone about anything is very hard. People tend to become insular and withdraw when they're depressed. We need to try and take preventative action through our day-to-day interactions with our loved-ones and spot the signs of someone 'drifting away' so we can reel them back in before the damage is done.
Easier said than done. In reality everyone needs to take accountability for themselves. No one is a physic only yourself will know if you need help. If you don't call out for help how is anyone going to be able to help you. It's like the saying goes "you can lead a horse to the water. But you cannot force it to drink it"
This a hero... This what we want in men. Don't go it alone... the people you leave behind will be heart broken... You matter to someone.... get it out into the light. The bad thoughts about yourself seem bigger in the dark, are manageable & have no hold on you in the light.... you can heal please don't give up!
As a young man/teenager I was stricken with depression and suicidal thoughts for more than 5 years. The watershed moment that changed my constant spiral down into depression was when I finally decided to talk to my parents about it.
I'm glad you opened up to your parents about your feelings...i just wish that more people, especially young men, don't feel so afraid to talk about their feelings ♥️ take care
@@stryfe0 I wasn't bullied. I was actually quite popular and the school president, but nobody knew how much I was dissatisfied with myself or how much I was tortured by an unquenchable desire to dive deep into spirituals questions that aren't asked and not answered. I had a whole stream of consciousness that nobody knew about because it wasn't things you can casually talk about to anyone.
I was roughly thirteen when the Spirit of Depression hooked its talons into me. I slowly spiraled out of control until I got into a serious car accident when I was eighteen. Inside, I was a mess. To the outside world, I was quiet and well-behaved. It was during my recovery from the accident that I started to open up. Eventually, I saw a Psychologist who diagnosed my Depression and told my parents “he’s depressed. He knows it and wants help”. From that point on, my parents got me the help that I needed, and I haven’t looked back since. But those five years? It was a personal, helpless hell which I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy.
My best friend from high school talked me out of ending my own life a long time ago. We're still best friends to this day over a decade later. Having a brotherly bond with a trusted friend that supports you can mean so much.
I cry hearing this, the problem is, if you come out really wanting to expose and take that "weigh of your shoulders" because you are affraid to reach such a low point as to consider suicide, the look of disgust by those we wished would be the most caring and kind and by those, I mean women. I know not all women are like that, this channel is a great example of that, but men sometimes its really dark and I wished there would be someone to help me out. But no. We have to keep standing. Peace to all.
I see woman that see men that deal like this, they are disgusting. I feel that they are more afraid of losing their wallets than losing the man. But they will continue to take him for granted and show respect or appreciation. I have turned to a life of solo. As far as a full-time life partner I am much happier. Not that I haven't seen just the opposite. It just seems rare.
This hits so hard specially since I had a close friend of almost 20 years end his life 6 years ago. I’d like to think if he just told me what’s going on in his head that he might still be here today.
"I'd rather me mate cry on me shoulder than go to his funeral next week"
100% summed up the feeling that men can share with their brothers.
Yes
Yeah that was deep
The government has made it even harder. If you try to get help you lose your guns, your job, society looks down on your like a crazy person. Government made it harder
@@trying3841 That's literally the purpose of government. A job well done. Your tax dollars hard at work.
There is something in the way he said it, so deep and emotional...
This man is really good for sharing this in his moment to shine. He used his platform to help. He deserves to win even more.
As a guy that is very financially successful but has no friends at a relatively young age (29) mainly because of jealousy, I’d never kill myself (I’m too strong willed) but it’s complete bullsh*t that everyone has someone to go to. If I went to people like that, they’d just blow me off or laugh. The reality is that a lot of people would then use my death for attention or self aggrandizement, after the fact, but they would never actually care in the moment if I was still alive. I’m not going to ever do something like that because I’m not going to give them the satisfaction though. But the reality is that not everybody has somebody to go to. And a lot of people will just use a death for their own ego boosting or to make themselves look like they care when they don’t. Hard truth
THATS WHY HE’S THE GGOOAATTT
Finally. A prime athlete using his platform for good.
@@charlesrowe6720 Well said!
I thought this. What a guy! Xx
Let's not forget that everyone says they want to listen, but then most people don't. The expression on a person's face when you start talking about your problems really says it all.
someone cares I don't know you but I do believe me 🙂
You are 100% correct. Most give just lip service but a few actually give their time because they care.
Discerning who and what you share with others is important. There are many who are willing to hold space for others to share - those people may not be our friends or family... if we're fortunate they are. We're all working through things and those who are unwilling or incapable of holding space are often ignoring facing their own problems or fears - nothing wrong with that but good to acknowledge that they're hurting too and are in need of someone to truly hold space for them. Peace and love to all.
Those are the type of people you remove from your life
Because we are all flawed.
It takes courage for a person to speak up and be vulnerable, but the one who listens and receives them must be a comforter and risk being vulnerable also.
Pride can be deadly.
Trust, compassion and love needs to take the place of pride in these moments.
I'm 33, I've lost 10 friends to suicide or overdose since I was 19... it's s ruthless cycle. At one point in less than 5 months I lost 3 friends. 2 to overdose and 1 suicide.. the hardest part was 2 of the friends were brothers... their mother lost both of their sons in a 5 month span, I didn't know what to say to her.
Your experiences hit home for me,
I lost 7 childhood friends to addiction,
One was my closest friend really he was my brother I still spend my holidays with his family.
And I lost my cousin to drunk driving & my big brother to suicide.
It isn't easy.
I too suffered from opioid addiction for over a decade I'm now 4 years clean with 2 slip ups but I've managed to put it behind me,
I honestly didn't think I would live past 25 & at the time I didn't care,
I am now 30 against all odds.
Its a awful thing but it is nice to hear someone that has delt with similar situations and losses.
Bless 🙏
Say NOTHING. GIVE HER A HUG. She needs it right now. Trust me.
I hear you mate. There is an epidemic of suicide in Belfast that is terrifying. Your experience is so like my own. I'm 50 now and I've lost some good ones too soon as well. We need to properly rely on each other.
Yeah it sucks, but it doesn’t matter cause nobody’s gonna do anything about it. We need a strong middle class like back in the 90s. It sad today that being good is no longer good enough.
Fckkk man.. this really hit hard for me. Almost to a t what happened with me. 3 of my best friends died within 5 months of one another. 1st was murdered. Shot in the neck over a pound of weed. Then the other 2 overdosed. Reading your comment really punched me in the gut. I hope that you are getting by. I know it is hard. Some days harder than others. Keep your head up, man.
Paddy brought me to tears with that post fight speech. I was like am I really about to cry watching UFC?! Really good word
Paddy is badass!
That's the day I became ride or die for Paddy Pimblet.
Same here. I’m called a big tough scary guy but I’m just a guy with a lot of heart. Love this guy. I’m getting choked up just typing.
@@powerhousenw lol
still waters run deep
A lot of women throw their sensitivity and emotionality around like they're in a hockey game, hip checking people
Just because men don't do that a much, doesn't mean we aren't as sensitive lol
Go look at a list of all the artists and poets and composers and philosophers and novelists of the world
Regardless of whatever "partiarchal" institutions that have kept women down
You cannot deny that the greatest works of romance were made by men
Same her brother.
I saw that post fight interview , I struggle with staying alive sometimes . Thank You Paddy meant a lot . One more day brothers . One more day .
Stay strong man, sometimes it’s impossible to see what purpose you have or what your life is worth, but I promise you your life is so precious and valuable. There is only one you, and the world is a better place having you in it
@@solarwolf1336 Thank you , I needed to hear that at this very specific moment . You my friend just made the world a better place . With some kind words to a stranger . Omar Pena is my name , bless you and yours .
@@negringo4470 - Of course!!
There’s not enough positive words to go around nowadays, the world is already a dark place, we have to do our best to shine a light in it! I’m happy you’re still with us Omar :)
Me too, Brother!
One day at a time Omar, I've been struggling too but made it through and now I'm happy. Keep it up buddy
People who smile and joke a lot are often the most depressed ones inside.
The sad clown..😢
RIP Robin Williams
Yes, bc "compassion fatique" is a real thing.
Tears of a clown when no one is around
A party for one
My best friend killed himself. I had no idea he was even upset about anything. Total shock . I’m grieving still 6 years later
I'm sorry my friend....prayers to you. May your friend rest in peace.
You never know because they don't tell you the pain they are in
You and I are in the same situation bud. Similar timeframe, similar surprise, and ongoing pain from losing a friend you'd do anything for. My heart goes out to you friend 👼
A good buddy of mine had his best friend kill himself with a shotgun. My buddies girlfriend left him when he started breaking down and I really let her have it. I layed into that bitch for being so cold and heartless. I coulsnt believe her cruelty to her boyfriend
@Dutch with glasses your mother should have swallowed you, she certainly knows how to clean the plate. You will die alone with nothing and no one. That's still a better future than you deserve, but even the sun shines on a dog's ass from time to time.
the hard part is finding someone who won't belittle you or use it against you! 😭😭😭😭😭
and even after getting past that part then them really caring about you after you talk to them
Exactly. Most women will lose respect for you or actively shame you
It's hard to find good friend these days
I'm a 54 year old Man who's had Mental health issues all my life. There are people like me out here that do care and will listen.
@@alanwallis2467 thank you!
I lost a friend to suicide and I still miss that joker. I wished he would have called me
I know, right? I’m sorry for your loss. Here if you need anything
You calling him a joker says it all.
@@vikasjsheth Means u have no idea how close they rly were, and how deep this ordeal hurt him
@@lalsangkimahnamte7208 no
here's a weird thing
the very good comedians and funny people of the world, tend to have either very hard early life or a very depressed early life
my school had a former therapist speak in my class, i think that he's arguably funnier than the whole school no joke, and he did mention that in his early life he had around 3 s**cide attempts
@@vikasjshethwhat does that have to do with anything? Sometimes, the people who seem the happiest are often the ones deeply scarred.
This is the greatest post-fight interview of all time. Forget all that macho posturing and calling out. Patty recognized he was going to have the whole world listening and used that opportunity to speak on something that many people needed to hear.
I’m a grown man and I can safely say that in my life I can count on one hand the amount of beings that have truly cared whether I live or die and three of them have been dogs.
damn that hit me hard, stay strong dude
Animals love unconditionally. Please don't give up but surround yourself with people or animals that are happy to see you.
That's fucked up to hear... It's crazy because seeing this written out, makes me lowkey hate myself a bit more. I've only had 3 people that's fully cared about me. 2 people, 1 dog. All dead. The two people were when I was a kid...
I genuinely hope the world gets better, mental health seems to be declining.
that's just sad dude
same here
I loved him for this. He probably actually and literally saved some men's lives just by saying this. I lost my best friend to suicide. And I never knew he was feeling that way. He was great guy and an honorable friend. Thank you Paddy. Cause I feel guarantee you because of your words, you directly saved a humans life. Probably more than a few even. Much love.
And as for the fighter;
He spoke nothing but the purest of truth and that of the
Heart of a Champion because it takes a real true man to speak out about one of the best and most used tricks of Satan on a stage such as he did immediately after participating and winning a match in a sport primarily partaken in by men who consider themselves to be true fighters. Taking a stand and using the opportunity presented to him to talk about and say anything,
he chose to stand up against the deceptive beliefs we as men have taken on to accept as so called truth and denounce silence amongst men as it is a false and a way of living that must be done away with so that men may live and not die in silence.
"I would rather he cry on my shoulder today than me go to his funeral next week"
POWERFUL AND PROFOUND.
No he didn t
@@unlimited971 probably cost more lives than saved. He's been feminized. The women don't care regardless.
I had a falling out with a friend a long time ago. But we had a lot of history together prior. She took her life in June 2020, in CA. She was wicked smart, surrounded by friends she cared about, did charity work, had a Masters in fashion design, did some minor filming jobs, etc... .....and she took her life. I couldn't understand it. Then I had a dream that visually expressed her emptiness and hopelessness. I can only imagine what a man will go through if he doesn't feel he can even speak up.
I am sorry you lost your friend. It is devastating and tragic.
@@unlimited971 You are right in that we don't really know. But quite often, people need to hear that in a certain setting or at the right moments. There are plenty of people in the crowd for the UFC who are struggling (human life + inflation, etc), so the probability of the fighter reaching at least one person is pretty high.
This gave me goosebumps. I can’t for one second imagine being in that kind of pain and not having anyone to talk to. He’s right! Let’s get rid of that stigma.
There are thousand of people out there that have no one to talk too. Seem strange but it is the truth. Then they thousands more that just don't want to talk about it because they might be called weak that not the case. But when some do talk and then other make fun of them for talking or showing emotion this even worse. Most people really do get things inside that really should be let out. Until we can get both men and woman not to judge someone because there cry for because of the pain and hurt they are going though it won't change.
Most of us just leave bitter comments on social media as a lash out
Yeah f society
The “stigma” is made up. We will talk to people we can trust. The sad part is that not many can be trusted to listen without judgement, without handing out glib advice and without listening to respond rather than listening to understand.
It's less a matter of having someone to talk to and more matter of having someone to help you.
When someone gets defeated completely they don't need somebody to understand them and their problems, they need the problems to go away, suicide achieves that goal.
The only way to reverse the increasing suicide rates is to create a path to victory in society.
Cry on my shoulder.... Better than Me crying at your funeral...
Thank you so much for your reaction, without it, I just don't know what I would've done.
I'm 51 now. my mom's generation had to fight for women's rights.
so, we got rights, to vote, to leave toxic relationships, etc...
now, we've gone around the other way.
I have 2 sons, young men. and I'm disgusted with women nowadays. after fighting for the right to be heard, and have equality - to now treat men with such vehemence and ridicule and their selfish TOXIC behaviour... its appalling.
we need balance, on both sides.
I love my boys and all their friends ❤️.
Your wonderful men and boys and YOU ALSO DESERVE to be RESPECTED.
Thank you. May your house increase always, and may your sons find women who are worthy of them and that they are worthy to have.
Take care and all my best to you.
You and your generation didn't fight for equality -you were pawns in other people's feminist agenda for undermining the basic family unit on which a strong nation, that they wanted gone, had been built. Equality is the marketing/propaganda side for get more pawns into the fray.
You don't get to complain about the fruits of your labor. All men, your sons and myself included, are "enjoying" the world you helped create.
If you're really disgusted, try taking some actual action and do something about it.
Thanx
You don't have equality.
You have superiority.
You literally have more rights and privileges than men.
thank you for this
I was in this state of mind the other day i was on treadmill watching people with good lives socialising im the loner in the gym nobody really talks to me. I finish my session walking across to leave and staff said hi how you doing, through me off guard i came home and just cried. Im used to being ignored, that staff guy made my day.
Hope you're doing better now. I had a random old man greet me in a book shop and it put a smile on my face. Don't be afraid to start a conversation yourself.
That’s male life it’s extremely lonely
My life is solitude
I felt that
How are you doing today??
Some really valuable blinking she added to the video. Pure genius content creation!
It issue also is that friends often don’t really ask how their friends are doing. Even if they don’t ask like it, someone could be going through hell. We need to care more about others. Even if it feels awkward. An awkward moment is much better than having regrets at a funeral.
Many men don't get shown love. Tell your friends that you care about them. Show them you care.
Most Men only get flowers at their Funeral .....
@@unclephil1091 Its not about flowers, it's about talking.
Males need to understand that their friends care for them more then they realize and are there to help them.
Damn that actually hit me in the feels. The stigma gonna go.
Literally makes me tear up. So many stresses in life and no one cares about us men.
So powerful for young men to hear another young man say what Paddy did. I grew up in a home with an old school macho, man's man for a father. I learned to keep my stuff inside until I was grown and married then divorced. That's when I started to tell another person my traumas. It helps immensely to talk about the weight we carry to another person. And there's absolutely no shame in it. It doesn't mean you're weak, just human
It's not about appearing weak, never was.
It's about NOT handing another person a weapon they can use against you if they happen to want to.
This is not "powerful". It's emasculating men. Instead of teaching men how to handle their emotions, and carry on, they are telling men to unload their emotions onto someone else for them to deal with it for you. It's NOT "powerful".
Men are in despair today, BECAUSE they are weak. Not because "they have no one to talk to".
I hear you, and I share the same background story, we learn the wrong thing when we’re way to young to know any better. It’s bad. Women sure have their own fish to fry, but it’s nothing like this, they talk, maybe too much, but it’s better than us, we freakin die 8 (eight!) years younger than females. So yeah…
Biggest mistake I did was to cry on my ex wife’s shoulder though, I don’t have regrets but that one is my biggest regret and I say talk and cry but never to a woman
I remember him... 😔 So sad..... 😔 😢
Trust me. I speak from experience when I say this. Nobody cares about us and asking for help makes it far worse.
i feel you on this, there were times in the night where I would just be in tears, I cannot ask for anyone because I really don't trust anyone that much (including my family)
It’s one of Life’s Terrible Truths.
Is that so? Mind saying how? Cause my personal experience has been different.
About 2 or 1 week ago. I had a talk with my own father. He wants to be left alone but want my family near him. Ive never under my 20 years spoken about troubles. I sat down to talk to him, which he who doesnt understand much, he had to know the importance of my crucial information. He sat down for about 6h with me which he knows and I know he hates doing. But He did for me.
He'd much rather have me and him cry to eachother than him going to his son's funeral.
When youre sick like I am. You disappear into your own selfishness. Makes life for everyone around you horrid.
I just know that ive never spoken to anyone. From a child to adult
As a man.
Not even my own blood family.
You can manage life with minimal things to love and have love from.
But never be quiet. About anything in life.
The pain you feel won't disappear when youre gone. You will give it to everybody around who wholeheartedly loves you.
I've realised the power of the mind and the meaning of words.
I'm young as 19. This vitriolic year has taught me the most important things in my life.
Going forwards. Everyone I know will know how much love I want to give. I will do everything in my lifes power to give of everything I have to offer.
I love yall in here. If I only could give everyone on this planet the internal love of my powerful mind. I'd sacrifice everything for it to happen.
I'd give my life for it, and be happy knowing everyone would be loved.
Stay strong Kings and Queens.
This world needs both.
somehow hits harder coming from a Northern bloke...thanks for this my guy.
"The only people that are loved unconditionally are women and children!" -Chris Rock
Thats a bar, you have to sit with that for a second.
Children, yes.
Women, no.
Dogs....
women children and dogs.
Cats as well
What I have found, the best way to get out of serious depression, is to to help others. That helps you get out of your head… when things seems to be the worst…
So true. Helping others give our lives a purpose and perspective. Purpose and perspective foster empathy and strength that may not always lead us to a happy life, but at least a meaningful one.
It hurts more to see someone going through something alone than I do for myself. I have learnt to embrace and accept my burdens to give me strength. The best part of it all is being able to overcome it because then those weights seem worth it. Years of reflecting and understanding my feelings to improve has kept me alive and move forward.
Isn't it amazing how we can handle others problems and he'll the. Fi d vleaf routes whilst also ignori g those things we say when it Co. Es to our self's
That’s the approach I take when I feel low. If I can’t make myself happy then at least I can try to make others happy.
It’s not that we can’t talk to each other it’s that no good ever comes from it😢
Literally this. Nothing changes.
Not to mention they charge you for it ;)
I regret every time I've opened up and told someone what goes on in my head - it doesn't help and it can't be taken back either - people can't and won't understand suicidal thinking, they'll take it as a personal insult or dismiss it as not serious, they'll tell you about how much you'll hurt everyone else and how you just need to go "walking" or some other nonsense. If you see a psych, they'll give you sympathetic looking nods while they think about what they're having for lunch - it's a waste of time, money and energy.
Hang on as best you can but don't think for a second that anyone else can help you they can't, you're on your own and if there's any possibility of a future it'll be because you brought it about nobody else.
yeah, people will say stuff behind your back, 2 faced
False. Woman put men down in many ways. Where do you often hear woman ending there lives because of depression? It happens but it’s more rare then you know. Why? Because it’s very easy for a woman to find someone else. A man that chooses to speak with a woman on there issues are associated to how they want things and don’t give in to work it out. So, men don’t say shit because we know it gets nowhere and bundles with us for our lives to ruin. Now! I’m not saying this is all but what I seen the past several years this is the common direction of a majority in whole. This whole thing on woman equal rights has already been given years ago. I don’t know what more woman are wanting! You want to go in the sewer slumps cleaning them by all means go, how about work in the oil fields or all the major physical jobs please go give it a try. I just don’t get what more does a woman want that men haven’t given.
Lost my best friend of 15+ years a little under a year ago. Shit still is hard af
men start talking, women, start LISTENING👂🏽
1% of women care, at the end the end is about money for themselves..
@@paulchristiansen7014 it is so unbelievably sad to be part of the 1%, i wish what you say wasn't true. it is upsetting to me that very few women value the men in their lives. as a woman, you cannot say you truly love your father, brother, or son if you treat the father of your kids/husband or potential husband like crap.
And that's not happening
@@chemextin74 going through a messy divorce now, as I thought she was my soul mate as her and I have been though child abuse from a family member, I am a very family oriented person myself, but she sleep with someone her friend introduced to her and called me by his name..that crushed me to my core..
as for the divorce her lawyer is after 95% of my money and that is what my divorce is cost me..
but it will be up to a judge in the a year or so..
@@paulchristiansen7014 there's a saying in mexico that translates to, "tell me who your friends are and i'll tell you who you are". yet, i myself believed i could be close to women that live differently than i. but one day it suddenly hit me that i need to get away from any woman that doesn't encourage me to serve my family, and i must meet and befriend women who are devoted to their husband and children in order for me to become the wife and mother i say i would like to be. sorry to hear about what you're going through, it ain't easy. my parents have been talkin divorce for years, but my mother has my poor father wrapped around her narcissistic finger. it pains me to see my father settle, i wouldn't wish that sort of cuckholdry on my brother or son.
If men do share any vulnerability, people, especially women, will use it to attack them. Just look at how Jordan Peterson was attacked for crying on behalf of other people's suffering.
There is a greater strength in talking to someone than falsely thinking it’s a sign of weakness.
It breaks my heart knowing that men suffer through this. And that people adamantly refuse to believe that they are mistreated
I am glad that you are in support. But tell that to the many women that become un-attracted when a man shares his feelings. But if you ask them in isolation they say they want a man who shares his feelings. What that really means is that she wants a man to be able to listen to her feelings and connect with her feelings. For some men to do this they also have to show their vulnerability. And that is where it fails for men. Firsthand knowledge
I no longer show my vulnerability.
A man must be as soft as silk and as hard as steel. Nobody cares when we're somewhere in the middle.
It's a trap.
Amen
Bro that hit me..last year I admitted myself into a treatment center because I was gonna go home from work and end myself. I felt I was so alone, but instead I told my boss of my plan and they said we don’t want you to go anywhere, we care about you. And I told them I need help and I need to go to the treatment center. And they took me to the treatment center. They cared and I’m not dead because of that.
Power to you my friend! You deserve this life and to be happy throughout it, I hope you find your inner peace brother
Outstanding
Please, for your own sake, find communities, friends or a support network that you can be close to. Someone to spend some time talking to from time to time. I've been a loner throughout my life with few friends, but good friends and they have been incredibly valuable to me. I wish you nothing but happiness, Mason! I'm glad you opened up, even though it can be a hard and painful thing to do.
Thank you brothers. You guys deserve all that life has to offer as well. My peace is within me and I’m grateful. I wish you all the best.
@@MazedAndConfused Glad your still here my brother. Stay strong 💪
I did some training on suicide prevention. Very next day I noticed a mate was down, I asked the question if he was considering suicide. He answered I'm not sure, he'd just had enough of life. I spoke to the people from the training and got him help. He's still with us. Thank God for the training
So speak up Lads 👍
Lots of us feel this hidden inside but the stigma given to us by our parents has us in a troubled state.
That legit gave me goosebumps and made me nearly tear up. God bless mate.
nearly? you monster! lol
Problem is (speaking from personal experience) when you do open up to someone you are made to feel like you are being "dramatic" and that your problems are not that serious or even worse ridiculed for not being "man enough" to cope with them
If you worry about opening up to someone you know perhaps a professional would do better. They have supposedly better training in handling delicate situations whereas the everyday bloke has spent his whole life being told to toughen up so when someone else shows that weakness they just sincerely don't know how to react in those moments besides saying the stuff that was always drilled into them...
Yes.
Society needs to LISTEN.
Also it's pathological to imply that none of us have time for each other and to push it all off onto for-profit 'professional therapists'.
The more I hear Paddy talk the more I like him, he's probably an awesome friend.
Paddy was truly the "Baddy" (most badass dude) for saying this after his "W" that night. Saying this with such raw & real emotion in remembrance of his friend, Ricky. RIP Ricky
Was? Only for the night I guess
Baddy dude? Really?
@@369pendulum yea that wuz a horrible compliment y did he call a man a baddy 😂
Yeah but he only said it because it's HIS friend. He wouldn't have said it for SOMEONE ELSE.
It is against Islam to kill yourself, so easy solution here - become a Muslim and have billions of Muslim brothers and sisters you can talk to anytime.
While I agree with you to an extent, for anyone to say something like this nowadays, is like killing off your roles in the places that make people money. Sponsorship rules most sports & even though the UFC isn't hurting for money, the fighters are all 1099 workers. They are self-wmployed contractors essentially. So yeah, he said it because his friend is gone, but he still used a platform that may have or will save someone from suicide.
I believe there will be a day when people will care what men have to say . Thanks to people like him .
Most don’t care. And they laugh at us when we share our feelings.
This is powerful.
Hate the break it to you all that there's no one to talk to as a guy. Been there done that, there are things that can't be fixed in this world. It's how we are weighed and measured that determines are life.
@@d.samsimon8524 obviously you didn't listen. Focus on the words, not the teets
@@d.samsimon8524 lol You are a simpleton, dude.
Problem is finding people you trust. A lot of us are on our own for the most part. We’ve had peers that we could talk to but they’ve broken that trust numerous times.
Thank you posting this. It's heartbreaking
If you teared up watching this... might just need someone to listen as well.
Plz reach out to your family, friends or doctor/ therapist or even just pray or meditate/ let it out to the universe. Don't suffer alone, I know what ever your going thru or have gone thru or are dealing with inside may feel like to much to bear but it can get better everything will be ok one day. I'm sure you have ppl who will be in great pain and sorrow to not have you here anymore. I know it's hard to see the sun behind the rain and grey clouds but it's there. I hope your day's get brighter bud.
I have been there..and I. failed..thankfully! if you think at anytime..you might need too talk to someone...
THEN YOU NEED TOO!
Please just start by talking to the social worker at a free clinic. The one I talk with is full of wisdom.
Keenan Reeves was once asked what he thought happens to us when we die.
He replied, "I don't know, but I know the people who love us will miss us when we're gone."
When I was young the one thing I knew was my mother would blame herself, and I couldn't break her heart.
The Almighty has a plan for you, and there are people who love you.
Open up to them friend...
Don't break their hearts
My little brother took his own life. He was my only sibling. I wish he would of heard this message or something like it. Our family has never been the same. My mom died suddenly a week before Xmas last year from a brain aneurysm that I swear was caused by the depression she suffered from my brother's decision.
condolences bro
I also lost my mother to a brain aneurysm when I was 4 years old and then my brother 10 years later to cancer so I know what it's like. You just gotta soldier on my bro.
I heard you can literally lose the will to live and just die
Would HAVE. Not “would of”
Its never easy having your heart ripped from your chest like that. God bless man. Stay up.
HOW can people not like this guy? he is amazing and himself, integrity and personality, a great man
He has it so, so, right. I've been there myself and being able to talk to somebody made all of the difference in the world to me. It's very possible I might not have made it by now had I not had someone to talk to. I really, really admire him for speaking out like this. Bravo, good sir, bravo!
Lost my father by suicide. That's brother for putting the word out. We all love ya bro
My buddy on Xbox live did too, I had gotten off Xbox that summer cuz it got too toxic and by the time I came back, he was gone. I knew he was losing it too, I can't believe I wasn't there when he needed someone. He was a father of 2 boys. Guys speak to anyone, reach out as hard as you can, you're not alone!
I wish my brother would have heard this. I wish I knew how much he was hurting. Had I known, I'd been there for him. Instead of getting that call we all dread and think we'll never get. I miss you Ryan. I sincerely hope your no longer in pain, are happy and safe now. Love you man
Sorry it's hard to get through that
Aye, that's a thing that stays with you forever. 15 years on and there's hardly a day go by that I don't think of my bro. A pain you must learn to live with and one that irreversibly changes life for you and your family.
God Bless John, hope you and the family are keeping on and living this life.
@@Walkingstoic thank you very much. Your exactly right. There's not a day that goes by where my brother isn't on my mind. I'm so sorry you lost yours and I understand the lose. Your never the same again.
God bless you and your family. Thanks again for the kind words. Take care
@@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259 Absolutely. Thank you and take care
Feeling sorry for you man
Stay strong, and God bless you. Sincerely.
A brother from bloody old Scotland. He can cry on my shoulder any day and if need be, I'll cry WITH him. I know that feeling very well.
I've literally told people about seriously thinking about killing myself, and nobody checked on me. It's easy to look back and say "what if" but suicidal people often feel like the world is better without them, and they feel so alone that nobody cares. Men are told to man up. Women leave us if we open up. I've opened up about multiple suicide attempts, and the response I got was "well, you're still here, so it couldn't have been that bad".
Whaaaat?
from my expireance most people who talk about suicide all the time or cut themselves arnt always the ones to keep an eye on, a lot if the time they are just crying out for attention! with most the people i know who topped themselves it always came out the blue, its the quiet ones u got to watch out for
@@johnsmith-nl3js I hate to say it, but I agree. I knew 2 people back in high school, played sports, had good grades, were popular, didn’t seem to have anything wrong with either of them. They killed themselves 7 months apart, nobody knew the real reason why because they never opened up to anyone. No signs of depression, no cuts, no scratches, never talked about suicide, never hinted at suicide. I don’t know for sure if I’d say those who cut are attention seekers, but sadly it seems 90% of the population is self diagnosed with depression and does it just for the attention so I can’t disagree as much as I want to.
Told my mother about my issues and she told me i was "too privileged to feel that way".
Bottling up the emotions is better
Awe damn, bro. That’s tough. Reach out to your best friend.
Talk to someone else then.
Sounds familiar. It was always "Oh, I'm not interested!" or "Don't be stupid!" with me. I don't even bother anymore. Small talk only.
No buddy, bottling is bad. I had/have a horrid mother who said that shit to me since childhood. She is the broken brother
Speak with someone else. Our parents generation don’t know mental health like we do. They did the best they could.
He's 100% correct. I promise there is someone out there who would rather have you cry on their shoulder than they would go to your funeral. Take care of yourselves, please
We think we have to hold it in because we hear words like "suck it up", "man up" and my favorite "what's wrong with you".
Yeah, but most of the time they are hearing that from other men, sometimes even their own fathers.
Although I know some women say that crap too.
@@tabbyreed8925 It's a proven fact women lose respect for men once they show emotion
@@tabbyreed8925 Women will tell you the same, just using body language, tone of voice, and eventually abandoning you, if you keep trying.
@@tabbyreed8925 Men don’t open up to women BC they will use it against him later.
Especially from women. 😒
20 years of not talking to someone over the loss of my son caused me to be suicidal. Finally talking to a sweetheart of a woman healed my heart, and 6 years later I am healed by her kindness, as I no longer blame myself for my son's death. Mental health is so important.
😊❣️ love u brother ...be safe
lucky guy 💖
I sure will ❤
He 'tea bagged' his downed opponent immediately before this charming speech.
As someone who almost did kill themselves and recently wanted to again, I went and got help and talked it out. I changed my ways.
I realized that I have much to offer someone and I will leave behind so many people who do care about me.
One of the biggest mistakes I'm ever made in my life was believing a woman when she said she cared about me and that I could trust her. The damage her lies and cruelty inflicted on me changed me. I'll NEVER make that mistake again.
My friend, don't let the Monstrous behavior of another dictate who you are. You deserve love and to be open and trusting. The longer you refuse to open up, the longer she will continue to have power over you. I love you and God bless!
@@Andrew3455 Actually no. That relationship fell apart almost 10 years ago. I spent 3 years after that "trying again" only to have one terrible date after another. Eventually I stopped trying, stopped viewing dating as worth the effort. I was sad for about another two years after that. But eventually I started enjoying my life again. Now my life is great, and I don't waste tine, money, or my emotional well being on trying to find some woman to have around. I get plenty of company from friends and dogs, and the internet has more adult material than 1 man could watch in 1 lifetime. So what do I meed a woman for?
@@Andrew3455 Terrible advice. Youre telling him to just dismiss a very good life lesson.
@@magicalminty6203 Good man! Never make a woman the center of your world. They are not essential.
speaking truth! this generation of women for the most part can't be trusted to love as they expect us to
We have all felt this way….it’s crazy, I’m glad it’s being discussed and I’m glad women like you exist.
Very well said.
Thank you 🙏
@@sarahdawnmoore Just please don't go crazy MRA. Like Karen Staughan.
Don't let this become an echo chamber, tell men how we treat women shit too, which you do
Just please, don't let it become the mra lol
Agreed, you are a God send young lady.
@@sarahdawnmoore thank you for what you do. it's refreshing to see a woman standing up for men. God only knows it's not something that happens very often.
RIP to that brother who took his life.
And a huge salute to this guy......
When I was very young, I tried telling my parents about my ideation. My mom laughed, my dad called me a, "coward".
That was the first and last time I ever opened up about myself to anyone.
"suicide doesn't end pain, it just passes it on"
Well it ends for the deceased, and that's the whole point.
Until you have nobody to pass it on to. Now realize how many of us are in that situation and imply again that we are being selfish, even though we have been going through this shit alone over and over again.
It ends it for the person that's in pain. We need to be careful with those type of statements. They're shaming and part of the stigma.
Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
I've been there many many times in the last 10 years. It will get better. It won't always hurt.
@@LeftLeftRightRight16 I feel you. That was a stupid comment they wrote. It gets better. We need to talk to people.
The pain of the on who did it was 1000x more than a bit of sadness for some selfish people afterwards
I just turned 60 yesterday and I'm grateful for my birthday. I was there a year ago. Through therapy and meds I don't want to do that anymore. Talk to anyone life is too precious
Paddy is 100% right, I can’t believe it takes suicide to make people listen or realize, they should’ve helped him beforehand, Rest In Peace.
When I was 27, my mother had a therapist come to the house to talk to her about her disability and what not. The lady wanted to talk to me, but I refused, cause talking about things isn't something I ever learned to do. Mom told her about what went on in my life, and how I was having to deal with a lot of shit while taking care of her from her disability since I was 15. The lady said to mom "With all the weight he has on his shoulders, I'm surprised he hasn't killed himself".
Carrying that weight will just make you stronger. I'm sure it can be frustrating tho. See it as a positive.
Sorry you went through that.
That being said, if a therapist said that, she is being very unprofessional.
She definitely should have worded that comment differently, "Well with all of that weight on his shoulders, he needs to learn that talking about it, halves the weight every time!"
Something along those lines would have been preferable.
Well thats fkd up. If you weren't thinking about it you sure were then. 💀
im more surprised a therapist said that
Honestly, men do talk but we still get ignored 🙁. Jordan Peterson whole argument is the men no one cares about.
Not only a great fighter, but a great man. I'd be happy to call this man my friend.
Everybody says they want to listen, but most of them won’t.
My heart breaks for this dude. It's ridicules! We need to make our men feel comfortable showing emotion. I'd rather have my guy open up than to feel like he's alone. 💯 💔😢
Just remember if a man expresses in such a way to you, that means he's opening up being vulnerable to you. If you use it against him in any way or any time in the future, he will close himself off. This happens alot. Much more than you think. Be his comfort when he is vulnerable with you.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 very funny
Women say this and leave in real life
Its got nothing to do with making men feel comfortable of showing emotion. See thats a typical female perspective! that's why we don't talk to you women aaarghh so annoying. When will you ladies wake up! The issue is we don't know how to put it into dam words. Also every woman says they would care but that's a complete load of nonsense. Have you seen the rest of the thread, 80% of the comments is regarding guys saying women say they care but they don't.
Yea right, we do that and all of a sudden you see us as "less masculine" and you get "turned off" by it and you leave us to rot. My ex certainly did.
Don't forget them joking about it behind your back. I've heard chicks do that so many times. Its funny until I call them out on being a POS.
It's really hard to talk when no one cares to listen. That is one of the biggest problem. Experienced this when I decided to open up to someone, then I saw the look on their face that they aren't interested at all. And the response "don't be sad, everything will be fine" doesn't really help.
R.I.P my mate's mate.
This is the power of the words. When the spoken word speaks a million feelings and few sentences can push mountains with a message that must be received by the ears of those who need it the most.
So strong a message. Lost my cousin shortly after this video started circulating. We have to do more.
I really feel that, especially when loosing a young man.
@@sherril.562 that's a good point
Start by, as a man, not feeling emasculated hugging another man, loving cats, openly crying, amongst other things. I have the most beautiful lilac point siamese named Gabby ( for obvious reasons), and we play hide and seek. She wins the most because she does her "Squirrelly Temple " routine ( run up a tree and hide)
@@lavanderwilliams111 My brother has just adopted a cat and it puts a smile on my face and just brightens my day watching him be a 'cat dad'. That cat is an absolute spoiled princess and she's well aware of it too 😁 He has had his low moments and it makes me feel a lot less worried about him seeing how much joy his little friend brings him (I still keep an eye on him though because I think it's important to check in, even more so when people seem happiest because happiness can hide a lot) Some people are carrying pure bitterness in their heart if they can't see someone they love feeling content and enjoying life and companionship without finding a negative. Some people will say 'oh, they're just pets' but a pet can get you through the darkest days and give you something to carry on for, especially when you feel too vulnerable to open up or trust anyone.
I just had a very close friend of mine 3 weeks ago commit suicide... the problem was we were talking everyday up until 3 days prior to him killing himself....those last 3 days he spent with his girlfriend.
Sorry brother, these women are toxic as he'll nowadays
Her mouth caused it.
This! It took me having multiple military TBIs, combat PTSD, and a stubborn combat mediic to help me talk about it and to seek help. We need to talk about men's mental health clear across the entire board.
As a man who doesn't talk I can say it's not as easy as just start talking, like I literally don't know how to communicate what I feel so I just bottle it up and know that one day I will explode or implode
I saw that fight and watched that speech the day he gave it. Still makes me tear up every time. Love you Paddy
The fact that men feel like they have to hold it all in makes me cry. I hope I never make a man feel that way. 😭💞
You will. I forgive you, though.
@Jck law third place accepted.
@@apparently_sonam fourth, approved
As a woman, I fifth that motion, not because it's okay, but because men have been socially conditioned to believe they need to be a certain way, to build walls because they weren't taught, again, thanks to society and parenting, that it's okay to be vulnerable. Toxic masculinity is very real and it comes from women too. It's just disguised as overt sexism, which it is. The most you can do is let your guy know that it's okay to be open and vulnerable, and when he is, you thank him for opening up and acknowledge that it wasn't easy. I'm sure you'll do just fine though. Don't take the fact that someone doesn't open up to you personally. Good things take time. 😊 P.S. Sorry this is so long. I get wordy when I'm hungry. Going to eat now! 😂
I talk to myself for comfort. The things I say to keep me happy.
Thanks for adding your contribution... Your blinking is what really made this video hit hard for me.
This is truly heartbreaking, and this is coming from me, a 63 year-old man's man. But it's so true, that by a LARGE margin when you are man, nobody gives a shit. That's the truth.
We definitely need more men like this speaking up! Thank you
As someone who has felt the pain of losing a loved one this way I gotta say this hit me real deep.
Never hesitate to tell someone you love and care about em. It could save their life.
🙏🏼RIP Jesse, I love you brother
The pressure to perform is real… crying on a shoulder won’t change that.
amen brother. I have been in a similar situation many a time. Be it a PTSD moment from the Army or giving up after my divorce. I've had that pistol on my temple ready to finish it. The one thing that has constantly kept me from pulling the trigger is my children. So I would open up about it and I've had my own parents call me crazy for even thinking it. I know what it's like but I'm telling ya find someone that you CAN open up to and talk about it cause you can't take back a bullet.
Stay strong brother and thanks for your service
A year ago same thing. Doesn’t have to be a friend or family. But find someone- anyone!!!
The trouble is, when you feel that low, speaking to someone about anything is very hard. People tend to become insular and withdraw when they're depressed. We need to try and take preventative action through our day-to-day interactions with our loved-ones and spot the signs of someone 'drifting away' so we can reel them back in before the damage is done.
Easier said than done. In reality everyone needs to take accountability for themselves. No one is a physic only yourself will know if you need help. If you don't call out for help how is anyone going to be able to help you. It's like the saying goes "you can lead a horse to the water. But you cannot force it to drink it"
@@NitrousXProductions Yep, that's a fair point. 👍
@@Killadey you still made an extremely underrated observation that makes perfect sense
No trouble at all. Never too late to talk.
This a hero...
This what we want in men.
Don't go it alone... the people you leave behind will be heart broken... You matter to someone.... get it out into the light. The bad thoughts about yourself seem bigger in the dark, are manageable & have no hold on you in the light.... you can heal please don't give up!
Paddy is a true hero for this speech
As a young man/teenager I was stricken with depression and suicidal thoughts for more than 5 years. The watershed moment that changed my constant spiral down into depression was when I finally decided to talk to my parents about it.
I'm glad you opened up to your parents about your feelings...i just wish that more people, especially young men, don't feel so afraid to talk about their feelings ♥️ take care
Young men would if they weren’t bullied, and shamed lol.
@@stryfe0 I wasn't bullied. I was actually quite popular and the school president, but nobody knew how much I was dissatisfied with myself or how much I was tortured by an unquenchable desire to dive deep into spirituals questions that aren't asked and not answered. I had a whole stream of consciousness that nobody knew about because it wasn't things you can casually talk about to anyone.
lol
I was roughly thirteen when the Spirit of Depression hooked its talons into me.
I slowly spiraled out of control until I got into a serious car accident when I was eighteen.
Inside, I was a mess. To the outside world, I was quiet and well-behaved.
It was during my recovery from the accident that I started to open up.
Eventually, I saw a Psychologist who diagnosed my Depression and told my parents “he’s depressed. He knows it and wants help”.
From that point on, my parents got me the help that I needed, and I haven’t looked back since.
But those five years? It was a personal, helpless hell which I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy.
My best friend from high school talked me out of ending my own life a long time ago. We're still best friends to this day over a decade later. Having a brotherly bond with a trusted friend that supports you can mean so much.
I can see she put a lot of effort and thought into that speech
And when he says things like this the nickname paddy the badie goes out the window. Such a kind soul, and he's 100% right!
Can we find a way to send this man a group hug and have him know it's happened? We got your back, buddy!
I cry hearing this, the problem is, if you come out really wanting to expose and take that "weigh of your shoulders" because you are affraid to reach such a low point as to consider suicide, the look of disgust by those we wished would be the most caring and kind and by those, I mean women. I know not all women are like that, this channel is a great example of that, but men sometimes its really dark and I wished there would be someone to help me out. But no. We have to keep standing. Peace to all.
I see woman that see men that deal like this, they are disgusting. I feel that they are more afraid of losing their wallets than losing the man. But they will continue to take him for granted and show respect or appreciation. I have turned to a life of solo. As far as a full-time life partner I am much happier. Not that I haven't seen just the opposite. It just seems rare.
Bingo - an on the surface they will share shit like this, while not being disgusted - women always want men to act like women, its sickening
This hits so hard specially since I had a close friend of almost 20 years end his life 6 years ago. I’d like to think if he just told
me what’s going on in his head that he might still be here today.