@DictatorOfTheUniverse or….. wait for it……. It might be a joke. Dummy. You’re supposed to laugh. Not spend ten minutes analyzing it then giving your two cents worth of advice.
@DictatorOfTheUniverselolol. you go fight, you go fall on your sword. If she cheated, let him have her. That's a good thing, it was never gonna work out.
Never take a woman back after she's slept on another man's bed....even if you love her, just walk on and never look back.....there are times in life when you'll have to be cold blooded and this is one of those times
It happened to me. After a month of breaking up(she broke up with me) with her I still loved her. She was with an extremely good looking guy for like 3 weeks then all her pictures on social media with him were gone aswell. I do not know what happened between them but she messaged me that we should get back and try once more time. Even if I did loved her I said no. It was the best choice of my life but a hard one,i was very naive and young at that time. With time you forget the love you had for that person but the damage is hard to forget but thanks to that I learnt a good lesson about women and how a man should act.
I learned this from That 70’s Show about 16 years ago. Donna and Eric break up, Donna’s choice. Donna gets dumped by the bad boy, and tries to rebound onto Eric. Eric breaks his own heart when he explains to Donna, “I can’t be your second choice.” She tries to tell him that he isn’t, and he walks away. He was never rude, mean, or loud. He simply explained his boundary, and honored himself as someone worth choosing first. The moment that another guy is involved with your ex, there is no going back. She chose him over you, enough said.
@@kcirtapelyk6060 agreed. Suddenly Eric’s lack of confidence and maturity started to make sense. The coddling mother and the father that’s never pleased.
That’s the point where my divorce is now. She wants to break up with the man she left me for because he cheated on her. Now she’s begging to come back. I always told her that I’m not her backup plan and I will never play second best to anyone.
@@deirdrewalsh1134 lady, I’m single forever. Never getting used as an ATM again. In no way lonely I’m raising two daughters and have no time for dating even if I wanted to and I don’t.
Can relate. Damn can I relate. Had a girl leave me bc I didn't make enough money and held the wrong profession. I was an electrician/HVAC technician at the time and she wanted a white collar lawyer or whatever. I made myself sick with depression and then a year later she came back. At first I was over the moon but that first night after we'd gone out and then had sex bsck at my place I realized the same. Even tho it still hurt I was no longer in love with the girl. I didn't even like her. I got up the next day and let her know how I felt. I'd be lying if I said I didn't get some satisfaction in her tearful response and subsequent begging. I asked her to leave and instantly felt this huge weight lifted from my shoulders. Don't know what became of her nor do I care. Maybe my satisfaction was petty but I wanted to give her a taste of her own bitter medicine.
I learned this very early on in my teens… A girl that I was absolutely in love with, dumped me for a guy with a nicer car than me. Turned out his car was nicer, but he was a creep. So a couple of months after she broke up with me, I get a phone call from her, apologizing profusely and saying what a horrible person she had been. I have to admit that I was very close to taking her back, but I did not. I wasn’t going to give her the opportunity to rip my heart out again.
I have worked with at least 4 different men of who's wives divorced them and essentially took half and within a year they were back together. Two of the women were pregnant and broke. 3 of these men had families with their wives. Not one of these relationships ever worked out again after the wife had stepped out and tried her experiment of finding a better man. Women over value themselves and under value their men because they cannot wrap their minds around the fact that we are different, we absolutely have to be different in order to fulfill our roles as men and the more that they want from us the harder we have to work and the more stressed we are.
I cannot love this comment enough!!!! The last part of women over valuing themselves is spot on!! Too many think they're better & "deserve" more until they get into a worse relationship than what they had... I've always said, the grass may be greener on the other side, but that's only bc it's full of bullshit!!!
The problem is that many women confuse sexual attraction that their are having from men with relationship attraction. Never take back a woman who has left you for another man and commit to, if not drive her away completely, use her as a friend with benefits.
I had a wife who left me for her boyfriend when I was 24 and she got pregnant by him. He dumped her an she had the balls to show up on my door step wanting me to take her back. When I asked her why she came back she said she loved me. You should have thought about that before you screwed around on me told her to hit the road and haven’t seen or heard from her or cared what happened to her for 44 years. Glad I made the right decision. 😁😁😁
Damn i know that hurt but given your perspective now I'm sure you are so happy you dodged that bullet. Sometimes the greatest blessings are very hard to see when first bestowed upon us.
Deuteronomy 24 “When a man takes a wife and marries her, if then she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, and she departs out of his house, and if she goes and becomes another man's wife, and the latter man hates her and writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, or if the latter man dies, who took her to be his wife, then her former husband, who sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after she has been defiled, for that is an abomination before the Lord. And you shall not bring sin upon the land that the Lord your God is giving you for an inheritance.”
@@cosmictreason2242 Wooooow that is too real! I skimmed over that, when reading it years ago, while I was still with my ex! So glad I didn't take her back!
@@Ahriman216 and I will point out there is an important difference between marriage and dating because the former involves a covenant but the PRINCIPLE applies to any voluntary relationship , just to lesser degrees. And how, that is determined by seeking to understand WHY the law is given. And you see that it is preventing abuse of trust, where one or the order partner can manipulate someone for their benefit if they don’t respect the commitment they made to them. I
My ex left me for another man. A few months later she called me said she missed me and still loved me. I said if you really loved me you wouldn't have moved another man in the day you asked me to leave. Saw her agian a few months later and she was 8 months pregnant. She left me got pregnant and immediately tried to get me back as I am a bread winner and take care of the woman I am with. I always felt like I dodged a bullet.
@@EXTEZZEE It worked out for the best. This happened 23 years ago and I have stayed single until six months ago I finally got engaged to a beautiful woman who got left by a man who wanted a younger woman. Now I come home from work and get to spoil a beautiful woman who spoils me. Life is good and I am happy.
Yep been there, play baby daddy with three kids that weren't mine worked a full-time job to provide for them just to have their mom go back to her baby daddy. He ended up making three children sleep on a bean bag in the corner while he was having sex with a 13-year-old girl and after my ex went through all this she wanted to come back to me. I'll always miss the kids but never allow yourself to become a victim twice.
that sucks. been through the same shit playing baby daddy to 3 kids for 8 years then all of a sudden covid hit and i got stranded in a different province and now she "got used to not being with you". aprouted all sorts of tattoos and shit when she kept telling me she had no money, so how she pay for all that? and the moment I was able to get back there we barely had sex? lol bid her good riddance and replaced her with someone 6 years younger, no kids, has a job working remotely AND is willing to help me with my business.
@@BrandonWest87 you right bro. Back then my mentality was "i stole this bitch from her husband/boyfriend. that must mean i'm a badass, have a bigger dick, more handsome, yadda yadda" i mean all my exes except for the first were milfs. I told myself i didn't want to be teaching no virgins how to suck dick. I want the tried and tested product. I wasn't gonna take 'em seriously anyways. Until I turned 32 and wanted to get serious. I was too stupid to realize that all I had was a bigger wallet, and was easier to manipulate. Took me 8 years but i finally wised up.
Told this same message to my sons and added that it’s going to suck and be painful at times being alone but at the end of it having your dignity and pride is well worth it.
yes sir. you are 100% correct. I have a son that falls in love with the WORST girls. I keep trying to tell him if when he is with someone and his THOUGHTS and/or FEELINGS don't matter or she doesn't even consider him on any level then she only cares about what you do for her. If you do anything that doesn't involve her and she freaks out about it..... Walk away because it's only gonna get worse.... People only treat you how you let them ...
My wife said our marriage papers were nothing more than a piece of paper and she wanted her freedom. I told her when she walked out the door that once she closed it that she was on her on. Now she is expecting a baby and says he does not respect her as he always runs when his ex calls. Told her she made a decision and choice so she has to live with her decision.
@@ag116 ivthonk she just called him back once crying and saying she made a mistake and she started rambling saying she's prégnante and he runs a way and hé answered right a way and hang UP
It hardly ever works out the second time around. I've made the same mistake and I know exactly what you mean by the hurt being worse. Wouldn't wish that one anybody
It highly depends on the reason you broke up in the first place. If she cheated, destroyed your property or physically attacked you, don't ever even think about taking her back.
Definitely agree it depends heavily on the reason behind the breakup. Life isn’t as cut and dry as he makes it sound. In the scenario where you broke up with her, he may be the 2nd choice with you still as her 1st choice rather than you being the 2nd choice like he said. Granted, even if she still loved you deeply at that point she’d need a lot more reassurance that you wouldn’t abandon her again, and this thought might prevent her from allowing you to even take her back.
Any girl worth your time would know what a prize you are and would never risk losing you. Let me put it to you this way. When I first met my husband. I had a guy that made a lot of money that was interested in me. My husband and I only had two dates so far and I turned him down for my husband. I knew my husband was special from the beginning and it was the best thing I ever did.
Thank you for your honesty. That type of foresight, intuition, trust, and belief in oneself is rare. This is especially true in today's day and age. Congratulations on your successful marriage.🎊👍
Yep. Been married 11 years and at the beginning same thing similar to yours. I noticed a lot of people especially women once the spark or interest is gone or a big change or any struggle happens they leave. And I think if you fins someone that's willing to be there with you through thick and thin and willing to work it out then you found a good one.
@@daashazireael6613 I agree. Plus nobody is perfect. Everyone has their flaws. My husband seen everything from me my good and my bad and he still loves me. You will be surprised how much you flourish when someone just accepts you. We keep open and honest communication as well. If I have a problem with him I discuss it with him and vice versa. It's like being with a best friend. We are just comfortable with eachother.
I'm 5 years divorced. I didn't know how much I needed to hear this. Not that I ever really wanted her back, but it removed a question in my mind of when I should have stopped thinking about it.
Even if she says she's not been with someone else, in the meantime, don't take her back... they are stone cold lying. If she initiated the break up, her new man was already lined up, and, more than likely, already being 'used'. If you initiated the break up, she'll have fallen straight into an orbiter's arms.
If you have broken up, under no circumstances take her back. Do not, do not, do not, and if you do then for the love of god never marry her. She left you once she will leave you again.
@Anthony sorry to hear that. I spoke from personal experience but at least my ex was honest and told me she just wanted me to dick her down but if I married her she would divorce me and take half. She was toxic like that but at least honest.
My mother warned me back in 1975 that women are manipulators. And she also said, "Women are manipulators, I'm a woman so I should know." Thanks Mom! Thanks for the warning back when I was young!
THAT'S a mom that TRULY LOVES her son! She didn't let gender keep from protecting her child from ALL types of harm. She completely understood how the genders manipulated (each other) as well as the manipulation within her own. The world can be a cruel place.
Best advice I was ever given was from a boyfriend's father who said, "relationships are like jobs. There's a reason you left. Would you go back to that job that you left? No. Same applies to relationships." So true!
Right on point! I haven’t had to deal with this kind of situation in many a year, I’ve been with my wife for over twenty five years now and we both still love each other immensely. That being said if a breakup happened with a girlfriend before my wife was in my life and she went to another guy, all cards were off the table at that point. Go to your schmuck and don’t let the door hit you on the @$$ on your way out. Believe me, it’ll save you a lot of heartache in the long run and keep you sane for the next girl that comes your way.
One of the biggest mistakes I ever made was thinking (and actually saying once). " i know for sure that my wife would never do something like that" then BANGO !!
The sane part is so true. Lots of people who treat their partners like garbage and cheat so so bc they were treated that way themselves and didn't deal with it in a constructive manner. They become paranoid and afraid of commitment and engage in the same behavior that was inflicted upon them.
I would always tell my daughter growing up, would you reuse a tampon? Then why would you take back a relationship that was thrown out. I would always tell my sons growing up, would you reuse somebody else's condom? Then why would you take back a relationship that was thrown out.
@@dianedeloach4761 you know it. I won't ever let a daughter of mine treat a man in a way they they wouldn't want one of their brothers treated, and I will never let a son of mine treat a woman in a way they wouldn't want one of their sisters treated. If my husband and I are going to raise our boys to be good men we are going to raise our daughters to be good women worthy of good man.
People and relationships are not throwaway items to be used once and tossed. I have had sex with many women only once after I would then avoid their phone calls because I moved on to my next quest. It took me many years to realize that I would never find the woman of my dreams in one night.
Completely agree and have lived this. Once your partner moves to someone else it's super over and time for you to move on. Trust me, there is something better waiting for you in the near future.
My ex wanted to break up after 17 years. Our daughter was then 9 years old. I said we should try out family counselling. She said she didn't want to. I said, if there is no one else, then we should at least try family counselling. She said there is no one else. We did family counselling. After a while she moved out and I was devasted. Then I found out she was in a relationship with another guy since a year and during the whole time we did family counselling. Now she is married to him.
There's always someone else. All women monkey-branch. Women never stop dating, even when they're married. Women are never single. Every new relationship is the result of female infidelity.
I got involved with a woman after being divorced 19 years what are on dates but nothing real spectacular. Her and I live together for 4 years I wanted to marry the woman. She left me for a man with more money. 3 months after she left she called me up crying. Stating I think I made a mistake. And then told her you made your bed now lie in it.
Or she will always be looking for someone else who would be a better option in her mind, knowing that she could get someone else. That's what happened to me, 16 year marriage and two kids..she decided to move on.
So true when I was in my twenties mubex try coming back after she dated another man and I couldn't take her back knowing she was with someone else. I am not going to be any back up plans for anyone because I have self respect for my self knowing I might find someone who want to be equals in relationship.
Yeah, doesn't matter if the other guy had a 2 inch peepee or a 2 foot peepee. Your always going to know another man was up in there. Especially when she wants you to go down town.
Never marry a woman who was previously married. She pledged forever and changed her mind. It wasn't a momentarily moment of weakness or a mistake. It was deliberate intentional action. During a woman's second marriage, she is regretting what she threw away, or she is looking for something better.
Do you all ever take into account that it may have been her first husband that was the problem? Or that they both found out they weren't compatible? Not everyone is a match, and that's ok. We all deserve second chances in life. Some people just aren't experienced enough to be in a mature relationship until they are. Everyone's situation is different, as we are all different people.
@@ElleS572 Then she shouldn’t have married him or she should have worked on her marriage with him via counseling and communication. There is no excuse.
Every man would be wise to listen to the wisdom of this man. He speaks the truth. Great video. Keep up the good work. I'm looking forward to the next one.
...🎶"I've got spurs that jingle-jangle-jingle... ...as I go riding merrily along... ...and they say, 'Oh, ain't you glad you're single... ...and that song ain't so very far from wrong!🎶...
Never take them back...they are Exs for a reason..Dont get played like that...I was with a girl I adored but she told me that her ex was gttg out of jail (wtf) and she still had feelings for him, I said, "Go, last thing I want is a woman with me that's thinking about someone else"..Flash forward 2 months. I get a call from her , "it didn't work out, he's an asshole, Do you wanna hang out?...I said "No I'm good, you picked someone else over me, Bye".. True story, on my word...
Actually, it does. In my senior year of high school a boyfriend dumped me in a very humiliating way. We both went on to have other relationships. He came waltzing back into the picture about 18 months later expecting to pick up where we left off. For awhile (about 6 months) we would see each other when he was in town but I made it clear it wasn't a committed relationship. He wasn't happy about it but understood he could see other women too. He was in his early 20's and wanted to settle down. I was 19 and was getting out on my own at the time. I did look back all these years later and realized I made an appropriate decision.
My dating life as a teenager was a nightmare. I grew up different so I held jobs from a very young age. None of the girls I dated were that way. They wet to school and just goofed of, partied, played sports, whatever in their free time. I had purchased my first 4 vehicles before I even had a driver's license. Lol. The point I am getting to that since I was ofen working while they were bored TBE inevitable things always occurred they cheated and tried to find something different. The thing is that something different was always another irresponsible version of themselves. By my early 20's I married owned land, built a house, etc. and after 17 the same occurred. She loved me, she had everything but even as she said she wanted to move on and try something different. This once a young body building, modeling, pretty boy type gave her attention when she had free time because she was laid off and feeling low. My point is that I have seen a pattern. Women want what perhaps only 1/10 of all men can offer. Otherwise they need 2 men.
I will say this: I am with my ex right now, though she is an ex of 18 years. The two of us are completely different people from when we were in high school, and the first words out of her mouth when we reconnected were "I am sorry," followed by an actual list of all the things she was sorry for, and not generalized stuff, individual things, actual stuff that she held on to for almost 20 years. Having both of us been married and divorced... how could I say no? We are incredibly happy, and engaged.
@@emidunkingsley8982 I wasn't trying to negate anything, there really isn't anything to negate. He's talking about something completely different. He's talking near term, like a couple years. Not nearly two decades (over two now). After twenty years no one is the same. Coming back to someone after twenty years they might as well be an entirely different person. We were kids when we were dating back in 2000, late teens early twenties. Kids. Those are kids. They don't look at themselves as kids, we didn't either, but when you hit 40, 50, you look back on your youth and realize you were a kid in your 20s. She's a grown woman now, and a totally different person. That's not what the brother is talking about. In fact, he's probably not old enough to even experience that kind of change. So, take his words with a grain of salt. Don't close yourself to the potential of life and time.
@@stuarthamilton5112...I was not a kid in my twenties but a fully grown adult responsible for my choices. I was raised different than most, with good parents who taught me right from wrong and a strong work ethic. People believe and choose to be immature for many years in their life and it's sad. Our society has not improved as the years go by but degenerated to the lazy immature self loathing hating evil mass it has now become!
@@normansawatzky4778 No, you were a kid. Your prefrontal cortex wasn’t even fully developed until approximately 25. It was then you-and every other human-*began* learning how to make decisions. Being held responsible for decisions is an entirely different thing from knowing how to make them. We are very often held to account for things we know nothing about, it’s normal. It doesn’t mean you were an adult.
@@stuarthamilton5112 Women are born hypergamous and will remain so by their very nature. I hope you can beat the odds in your case but I sincerely doubt it. I'm about the same age as you and had an opportunity at an eerily similar situation. I returned her to the streets where she belongs.
Had a girlfriend in college that CRUSHED me... Called me months later wanting to get back together. I wanted that call more than I wanted air. I told her, according to Dante written on the gates of Hell is the inscription: "ABANDON ALL HOPE". because she would never have me again.
That's 100% true I refused to accept a ex back exactly because of that. And yes, she was totally hot, smart, nice, caring, everything a guy wants... But she slept with a guy right after our break up That's why I never took her back, no matter how much she sweared that she loved me, that she was wrong, that i was her soulmate, that she wanted to have my children... I gave her the same answer i will write here. I'm not a plan B, I'm worth more than that
I learned even as a female to never take a partner back. No matter how much they have changed, learned, or gotten therapy they will always treat you the way they did the first time. You allowed it the first time and they know you will allow them to get away with it again. This is true just as much for women as it is for men...it is human nature.
Yes. I just posted a comment pretty much describing several couples like yourselves, which includes family. As you well know - we have to figure things out for our own lives.
Thank you. I know you didn't share you and your wife's story for thanks, but it gives me a lot of hope and joy to see. Me and my husband are also an exception. Our measly ten compared to your impressive 26 years doesn't compare, but I know that my husband and I will be together until we die. He is my best friend. My rock. And my soulmate. Generalized statements are harmful to society; we really must learn to treat people on an individual basis. I wish you and your wife many, many more happy years together!
This one girl I was really into was cheating on her bf with me and I didn’t know. I broke the first cardinal rule of being a friend to her for years before we started “dating”. Everything revealed itself over time and I was really hurt about it, she as you could expect ghosted me to reconcile w/ him and we didn’t talk for years. A year or two ago that very same boyfriend was murdered, and it traumatized her. She reached out to me later down the line not to get back together but to have a friendly dinner. But we had to address the dead elephant in the room. she wasn’t truthful back then, even though I thought we were close. she showed me I was just another guy when things got physical between us. And it wasn’t until after he was killed that she ever reached out. I had to ignore it, sorry for her loss, on both fronts, the guy she loved died, and one of the only friends she really had wishes they’d never met🤷🏾♂️ But she deliberately chose this outcome 🤷🏾♂️
Been in situations like that. It’s really a red pill moment and you never look at them the same. We’re told that women emotionally connect with men they sleep with. So either that isn’t true or they’re too damaged already.
@@coldhardtruth333 nah bro I was pretty clueless, maybe I was naive or young but it’s still what it was. Had I known I could’ve avoided all of it 🤷🏾♂️ Plus being her friend was more reason for me not to know, if my friend says she’s single I have no reason not to believe her until I do🤷🏾♂️
I had a boyfriend that I adored and did everything for when I was younger. One day he just ghosted me after 1 year of dating. I was devestated that I meant so little to him he couldn't even tell me he didn't want to be with me. He came back almost a later saying he regretted it all and he actually loved me and was so sorry. He told me he was ready for a real relationship. My heart lept. I had stayed single since we broke up because I loved him so much and waited for him to come back. Then after he got what he wanted he told me he just couldn't have a serious girlfriend because he wanted to drink with his friends and he had nothing to offer me. I just nodded my head crying and left. Never wanted to see him again. He kept texting me every so often asking how I was after that. Finally I got a new boyfriend and got a new number. I knew he was just failing at finding another girlfriend so he kept me in his radius as backup. Knowing that the man I had lived so much didn't love me back just ruined me. Don't act like women don't go through sh** to. Men play alot of games with women. Especially when they know that woman loves them.
@@RiZenAsH I learned a hard lesson after that. The boyfriend that came after I literally made him try so hard because I was so hurt from before. He liked me enough where he saw through that but I kept expecting him to one day just leave me and not tell me. That's how fd up the relationship left me. I was a really sweet girl to. One time my then boyfriend found out he kept messaging me. He told him not to text me anymore because I wasn't his girlfriend anymore and it was hurting me. My ex's response was she was never my girlfriend....
Don't ever back pedal. You're just going to split up again for the same reasons that split you up. Got back with my ex-wife 3 different times, and we split up for all the same reasons over and over again. Glad she is out of my life forever now.
When you look past the Tates being silly or over the top, there's genuine advice is usually pretty smart. Tristan I know usually gives good advice like this
Yeah always after we've been hurt unfortunately, we hear these messages. Sometimes I look back and realize the signs were there. There were times I tried to ignore them. We break up for the reasons we got together.
Thank you! The deeper problem is that they are so incapable to be self reliable that they go to spread discord and suddenly they come back with envy derrived conflicts because of their reckless actions and tauntings on the other partners that they have out of their misery.
so true...i got forced out of my marriage and my son i focused on was turned against me by lies and years on...she suddenly tried to 'force' me back!! Talk about gall!! But she outsmarted herself. i only put up with her as long as i did because of my son, once she turned him against me she also removed the only reason i would have humoured her
But you never know if someone is hooking up with someone in that time of a break up. You don't have eyes on people so it's best to just move on once they decided to leave. They left for a reason. Trust it. You haven't changed. What ever they walked away from will still exist within you.
@@bloociferhow... what would be some signs? I'm going thru this but I don't know if she's doing that per say ya know what I mean? She said she offers friendship I said na I'm not interested in platonic friendship... she said ok.... that text again and said so I guess this is goodbye then
@@fleecejohnson6939 she's offering YOU friendship? It sounds like she just wants to be your friend then. You have to be upfront with women from the get go. I will literally tell random women that I'm trying to destroy their pussy on day 1 😂 they either block you or they don't. If they don't, then ur all good lmao it helps to not be creepy too. Just be carefree. Women will 100% use you for your masculinity and ego boost if you let them. If a woman wants you, it will be very easy to tell. You won't be questioning it
Agreed wholeheartedly. The Tates can preach some really toxic messages that kind of only lower themselves to the level of the toxic females they hate, but sometimes their messages are really good and helpful
Idk. My mom broke up with my dad, twice, to date other guys. They've been married now for almost 40 years. Although that was in high school during the 70s. Tate here is talking about adult romance.
Nope. My wife and I broke up in 2005. We did our own things, I dated a few girls, she dated a few guys. We are going on 9 years of marriage right now. I found out last year that she compared other guys to me.
I've been a second choice once... not anymore and that horrible feeling and experience make me a better person and seeing every single woman different at the point that I can scan them and see what type of woman are they. sadly, the percentage of good women is getting too low in the market 😔
@@JosefFurg1611 Matthew chapter 5 the beatitudes. And love (agape love) one another as I have loved (agape love) you, for this is the whole of the law and the prophets. Also.... Judge not, lest ye be judged.. agape to you.
True.... But has nothing to do with letting whores bounce around town and then get free access to your life. Love also has boundaries. So by all means forgive and don't hate....Agape them from a distance, wish them the best, and move on. Unless of course you are Hosea and God specifically tells you to marry a whore for some higher reason, lol
absolutely true.... for every reason they left. Doesn't matter what the reason they left, if they decide to come back you're always plan B and they will leave again. NEVER OPEN THAT DOOR
I know a girl like this. Randomly coming back around trying to talk about the good times. Unfortunately all I remember from her are the bad times. She can no longer find a man to put up with her bs. That's all on her. She chose to be single over having the real thing. Now she can lay in her misery.
My sister and her husband divorced for a year, got back together and remarried. Much happier the 2nd time around and had 2 more children. They are very happy.
An ex is an ex for a reason, wether it is you or them that ended it, for whatever reason it ended. Wether they have moved on or not, I will stay friends and support them but I never go back to anything romantic or physical.
Naw I can't be friends with an ex that's like going backwards! I'm an all or nothing type of person in a relationship I'll give you my all I'm loyal all the way. That why I say women can't have it both ways if you reject me or hurt me why would I want to be your friend?? If I can't have it both ways then you definitely can't have it both ways and eat your cake too!🤬
@@John-vn1tv I am the same, I wipe people from my life if they are harmful to me. If you have just grown apart and are going in different directions I don’t have an issue with being friendly, and offering advice but we won’t be hanging out alone on anything that even resembles a date. It only works if it ended amicably.
Never under any circumstances, be “just friends“. Let her know that if she breaks up with you, it’s forever. Women love to rack up a list of “friends“ that they can call for favors and fall back on. And guys foolishly think that if they’re in the friend zone, they can somehow work their way back in. If she breaks up with you, you must completely emotionally detach, and want nothing to do with her. This will teach her two things one that you don’t really need her and you can get over her, and two not to play games with guys hearts.
I'll make even simpler from a 50yr old. Once they are an ex. They stay a ex take time and enjoy being single. Then again it was easier in my 20s no t every one had a cell phone
That is spot on correct in all aspects. If she left you the first time, she will leave a second, that is when she will make it your fault. Lastly, she has already found a new perfect guy.
😕 Really wish I had seen this video 7 years ago cause I would have NEVER taken my ex back and just got my heart and my son's heart broken in the end. ☹️ I was just the fall back guy.
If another man takes your wife. The best revenge is to let him keep her.
Hahahahahahahahaha!!!!! That made me laugh out loud!!!
yes indeed
@DictatorOfTheUniverse or….. wait for it……. It might be a joke. Dummy. You’re supposed to laugh. Not spend ten minutes analyzing it then giving your two cents worth of advice.
😂😅🤣
@DictatorOfTheUniverselolol. you go fight, you go fall on your sword. If she cheated, let him have her. That's a good thing, it was never gonna work out.
Happened to me. She ran away, and a year later, calls me and says “I’m always thinking about you”. My reply? “I wish I could say the same”.
My motherfuckin man.
She needs some ice on that burn.
Another reply could be: "I wish it wasn't the same for me, because of the damage caused."
“Damn that’s crazy….. Can’t say the same”
My reply:
"I'm sorry, have we met?"
Never take a woman back after she's slept on another man's bed....even if you love her, just walk on and never look back.....there are times in life when you'll have to be cold blooded and this is one of those times
Bravo.
Solid advice.
It's not even cold blooded, it's just men doing what's best for them... Something women seem to have no problem doing.
@@porgyjr.7737 you have to be cold blooded . That’s how men operate.
It happened to me. After a month of breaking up(she broke up with me) with her I still loved her. She was with an extremely good looking guy for like 3 weeks then all her pictures on social media with him were gone aswell. I do not know what happened between them but she messaged me that we should get back and try once more time.
Even if I did loved her I said no. It was the best choice of my life but a hard one,i was very naive and young at that time. With time you forget the love you had for that person but the damage is hard to forget but thanks to that I learnt a good lesson about women and how a man should act.
I learned this from That 70’s Show about 16 years ago. Donna and Eric break up, Donna’s choice. Donna gets dumped by the bad boy, and tries to rebound onto Eric. Eric breaks his own heart when he explains to Donna, “I can’t be your second choice.” She tries to tell him that he isn’t, and he walks away. He was never rude, mean, or loud. He simply explained his boundary, and honored himself as someone worth choosing first.
The moment that another guy is involved with your ex, there is no going back. She chose him over you, enough said.
His parents pissed me off when they berated their son for having an ounce of self respect.
@@kcirtapelyk6060 agreed. Suddenly Eric’s lack of confidence and maturity started to make sense. The coddling mother and the father that’s never pleased.
@@geoffreyokrongly916 ouch.... i felt that lol
Damn, don't make me miss middle school, flipping on the CW at 6 PM every night. I miss that show.
It was actually Eric who ended the relationship. Donna was the one with commitment issues.
That’s the point where my divorce is now. She wants to break up with the man she left me for because he cheated on her. Now she’s begging to come back. I always told her that I’m not her backup plan and I will never play second best to anyone.
Same happened to me and I told her she should marry the man as I am not available.
You will then live alone, lonely congratulating yourself.
Follow your own heart, not some you tube person.
@@deirdrewalsh1134 no I have moved on and found someone else who sees marriage as a partnership.
@@deirdrewalsh1134🤔😳....😁🤭😄😅
@@deirdrewalsh1134 lady, I’m single forever. Never getting used as an ATM again. In no way lonely I’m raising two daughters and have no time for dating even if I wanted to and I don’t.
I was mad at myself because the first minute I got her back I realized I didn't really want her anymore.
Can relate. Damn can I relate. Had a girl leave me bc I didn't make enough money and held the wrong profession. I was an electrician/HVAC technician at the time and she wanted a white collar lawyer or whatever. I made myself sick with depression and then a year later she came back. At first I was over the moon but that first night after we'd gone out and then had sex bsck at my place I realized the same. Even tho it still hurt I was no longer in love with the girl. I didn't even like her. I got up the next day and let her know how I felt. I'd be lying if I said I didn't get some satisfaction in her tearful response and subsequent begging. I asked her to leave and instantly felt this huge weight lifted from my shoulders. Don't know what became of her nor do I care. Maybe my satisfaction was petty but I wanted to give her a taste of her own bitter medicine.
I learned this very early on in my teens… A girl that I was absolutely in love with, dumped me for a guy with a nicer car than me. Turned out his car was nicer, but he was a creep. So a couple of months after she broke up with me, I get a phone call from her, apologizing profusely and saying what a horrible person she had been.
I have to admit that I was very close to taking her back, but I did not. I wasn’t going to give her the opportunity to rip my heart out again.
I have worked with at least 4 different men of who's wives divorced them and essentially took half and within a year they were back together. Two of the women were pregnant and broke. 3 of these men had families with their wives.
Not one of these relationships ever worked out again after the wife had stepped out and tried her experiment of finding a better man.
Women over value themselves and under value their men because they cannot wrap their minds around the fact that we are different, we absolutely have to be different in order to fulfill our roles as men and the more that they want from us the harder we have to work and the more stressed we are.
I cannot love this comment enough!!!!
The last part of women over valuing themselves is spot on!! Too many think they're better & "deserve" more until they get into a worse relationship than what they had...
I've always said, the grass may be greener on the other side, but that's only bc it's full of bullshit!!!
What if you're not always thinking about the obstacles
So any updates on the taken back
@@danaparfitt2491if youre not thinking of the obstacles then you have no reason to bitch at the man. Point blank.
The problem is that many women confuse sexual attraction that their are having from men with relationship attraction.
Never take back a woman who has left you for another man and commit to, if not drive her away completely, use her as a friend with benefits.
I had a wife who left me for her boyfriend when I was 24 and she got pregnant by him. He dumped her an she had the balls to show up on my door step wanting me to take her back. When I asked her why she came back she said she loved me. You should have thought about that before you screwed around on me told her to hit the road and haven’t seen or heard from her or cared what happened to her for 44 years. Glad I made the right decision. 😁😁😁
Damn i know that hurt but given your perspective now I'm sure you are so happy you dodged that bullet. Sometimes the greatest blessings are very hard to see when first bestowed upon us.
I like Tristan's message. It might be very simple but it's completely true.
Deuteronomy 24 “When a man takes a wife and marries her, if then she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, and she departs out of his house, and if she goes and becomes another man's wife, and the latter man hates her and writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, or if the latter man dies, who took her to be his wife, then her former husband, who sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after she has been defiled, for that is an abomination before the Lord. And you shall not bring sin upon the land that the Lord your God is giving you for an inheritance.”
@@cosmictreason2242 Wooooow that is too real! I skimmed over that, when reading it years ago, while I was still with my ex! So glad I didn't take her back!
@@Ahriman216 and I will point out there is an important difference between marriage and dating because the former involves a covenant but the PRINCIPLE applies to any voluntary relationship , just to lesser degrees. And how, that is determined by seeking to understand WHY the law is given. And you see that it is preventing abuse of trust, where one or the order partner can manipulate someone for their benefit if they don’t respect the commitment they made to them. I
@@cosmictreason2242back then, a sexual partner was akin to a spouse. There was no birth control yet
@@kingkarlo9587 back then, there was no concept of licit sex not with a spouse
My ex left me for another man. A few months later she called me said she missed me and still loved me. I said if you really loved me you wouldn't have moved another man in the day you asked me to leave. Saw her agian a few months later and she was 8 months pregnant. She left me got pregnant and immediately tried to get me back as I am a bread winner and take care of the woman I am with. I always felt like I dodged a bullet.
Proud of you Brother.
@@EXTEZZEE It worked out for the best. This happened 23 years ago and I have stayed single until six months ago I finally got engaged to a beautiful woman who got left by a man who wanted a younger woman. Now I come home from work and get to spoil a beautiful woman who spoils me. Life is good and I am happy.
"I don't chase 'em, I replace 'em." - The Notorious B.I.G.
Yep been there, play baby daddy with three kids that weren't mine worked a full-time job to provide for them just to have their mom go back to her baby daddy. He ended up making three children sleep on a bean bag in the corner while he was having sex with a 13-year-old girl and after my ex went through all this she wanted to come back to me. I'll always miss the kids but never allow yourself to become a victim twice.
Example #345346 of "Chad fucks"
that sucks. been through the same shit playing baby daddy to 3 kids for 8 years then all of a sudden covid hit and i got stranded in a different province and now she "got used to not being with you". aprouted all sorts of tattoos and shit when she kept telling me she had no money, so how she pay for all that? and the moment I was able to get back there we barely had sex? lol bid her good riddance and replaced her with someone 6 years younger, no kids, has a job working remotely AND is willing to help me with my business.
@@ZappakeR Don’t date single moms! They are single moms for a reason.
Dang. She left you for a ped0. I hope you told her your standards are too high to accept someone like her.
Also, hope the guy was reported.
@@BrandonWest87 you right bro. Back then my mentality was "i stole this bitch from her husband/boyfriend. that must mean i'm a badass, have a bigger dick, more handsome, yadda yadda" i mean all my exes except for the first were milfs. I told myself i didn't want to be teaching no virgins how to suck dick. I want the tried and tested product. I wasn't gonna take 'em seriously anyways. Until I turned 32 and wanted to get serious.
I was too stupid to realize that all I had was a bigger wallet, and was easier to manipulate.
Took me 8 years but i finally wised up.
Told this same message to my sons and added that it’s going to suck and be painful at times being alone but at the end of it having your dignity and pride is well worth it.
Extremely nessy when children are involved.
yes sir. you are 100% correct. I have a son that falls in love with the WORST girls. I keep trying to tell him if when he is with someone and his THOUGHTS and/or FEELINGS don't matter or she doesn't even consider him on any level then she only cares about what you do for her. If you do anything that doesn't involve her and she freaks out about it..... Walk away because it's only gonna get worse.... People only treat you how you let them ...
I've always said "never go backwards, only move forward."
The past has nothing new to say to you. They're an ex for a reason.
I told the last one , "you made your choice , you live with it"
My wife said our marriage papers were nothing more than a piece of paper and she wanted her freedom. I told her when she walked out the door that once she closed it that she was on her on. Now she is expecting a baby and says he does not respect her as he always runs when his ex calls. Told her she made a decision and choice so she has to live with her decision.
She found a man just like herself and doesn't like it. What a mirror God held up for her to see herself.
When you lie with dogs…you get fleas. She got what she deserved.
@@hoobeydoobey1267 That's a great way to say it.
I don’t understand, why are you still in contact with her?
@@ag116 ivthonk she just called him back once crying and saying she made a mistake and she started rambling saying she's prégnante and he runs a way and hé answered right a way and hang UP
I made this mistake years ago in my early twenties. I got hurt ten times harder the second time.
Me also. Worst pain I ever felt.
@@brunetteordie I totally understand.
It hardly ever works out the second time around. I've made the same mistake and I know exactly what you mean by the hurt being worse. Wouldn't wish that one anybody
@@odoyle_rulez I totally agree.
I'm sorry that happened to you fellas. That kind of pain can change someone if they allow it to .....
It highly depends on the reason you broke up in the first place. If she cheated, destroyed your property or physically attacked you, don't ever even think about taking her back.
Definitely agree it depends heavily on the reason behind the breakup. Life isn’t as cut and dry as he makes it sound. In the scenario where you broke up with her, he may be the 2nd choice with you still as her 1st choice rather than you being the 2nd choice like he said. Granted, even if she still loved you deeply at that point she’d need a lot more reassurance that you wouldn’t abandon her again, and this thought might prevent her from allowing you to even take her back.
Half the time, she won't even leave you until she's already found another guy.
Any girl worth your time would know what a prize you are and would never risk losing you. Let me put it to you this way. When I first met my husband. I had a guy that made a lot of money that was interested in me. My husband and I only had two dates so far and I turned him down for my husband. I knew my husband was special from the beginning and it was the best thing I ever did.
Thank you for sharing!
Thank you for your honesty. That type of foresight, intuition, trust, and belief in oneself is rare. This is especially true in today's day and age. Congratulations on your successful marriage.🎊👍
@@randygilliland3390 Thank you! 🙂
Yep. Been married 11 years and at the beginning same thing similar to yours. I noticed a lot of people especially women once the spark or interest is gone or a big change or any struggle happens they leave. And I think if you fins someone that's willing to be there with you through thick and thin and willing to work it out then you found a good one.
@@daashazireael6613 I agree. Plus nobody is perfect. Everyone has their flaws. My husband seen everything from me my good and my bad and he still loves me. You will be surprised how much you flourish when someone just accepts you. We keep open and honest communication as well. If I have a problem with him I discuss it with him and vice versa. It's like being with a best friend. We are just comfortable with eachother.
The moment she/you says “we are over” is the moment she’s lost the chance to come back
Exactly.
I'm 5 years divorced. I didn't know how much I needed to hear this. Not that I ever really wanted her back, but it removed a question in my mind of when I should have stopped thinking about it.
Even if she says she's not been with someone else, in the meantime, don't take her back... they are stone cold lying.
If she initiated the break up, her new man was already lined up, and, more than likely, already being 'used'.
If you initiated the break up, she'll have fallen straight into an orbiter's arms.
If you have broken up, under no circumstances take her back. Do not, do not, do not, and if you do then for the love of god never marry her. She left you once she will leave you again.
Exactly. This guy is a simp
I was broken up with at the beginning of our relationship, now years later we are married and guess who wants to separate again🙄
@Anthony sorry to hear that. I spoke from personal experience but at least my ex was honest and told me she just wanted me to dick her down but if I married her she would divorce me and take half. She was toxic like that but at least honest.
My mother warned me back in 1975 that women are manipulators. And she also said, "Women are manipulators, I'm a woman so I should know."
Thanks Mom!
Thanks for the warning back when I was young!
🤣 True. Freedoms worth the fight.Look up KGB defector 1985 on u tube it explains a lot. Complacency, and distraction has got us here in America.
I love your mom! (figuratively)
@@learningtime3935...I have found that most people are UNWILLING to learn the truth...its sad.
THAT'S a mom that TRULY LOVES her son!
She didn't let gender keep from protecting her child from ALL types of harm. She completely understood how the genders manipulated (each other) as well as the manipulation within her own.
The world can be a cruel place.
My mum said the same thing when I started dating. She saved me a lot of grief, let me tell you.
Best advice I was ever given was from a boyfriend's father who said, "relationships are like jobs. There's a reason you left. Would you go back to that job that you left? No. Same applies to relationships." So true!
Right on point!
I haven’t had to deal with this kind of situation in many a year, I’ve been with my wife for over twenty five years now and we both still love each other immensely.
That being said if a breakup happened with a girlfriend before my wife was in my life and she went to another guy, all cards were off the table at that point.
Go to your schmuck and don’t let the door hit you on the @$$ on your way out.
Believe me, it’ll save you a lot of heartache in the long run and keep you sane for the next girl that comes your way.
One of the biggest mistakes I ever made was thinking (and actually saying once). " i know for sure that my wife would never do something like that" then BANGO !!
The sane part is so true. Lots of people who treat their partners like garbage and cheat so so bc they were treated that way themselves and didn't deal with it in a constructive manner. They become paranoid and afraid of commitment and engage in the same behavior that was inflicted upon them.
@@douglasgarrett4521 sorry to hear that.
@@loganstroganoff1284 yup I totally agree.
I would always tell my daughter growing up, would you reuse a tampon? Then why would you take back a relationship that was thrown out. I would always tell my sons growing up, would you reuse somebody else's condom? Then why would you take back a relationship that was thrown out.
You just put me off everything and everyone! 🤣
100 you said to both son and daughter! Never go backwards always forward!
@@dianedeloach4761 you know it. I won't ever let a daughter of mine treat a man in a way they they wouldn't want one of their brothers treated, and I will never let a son of mine treat a woman in a way they wouldn't want one of their sisters treated. If my husband and I are going to raise our boys to be good men we are going to raise our daughters to be good women worthy of good man.
People and relationships are not throwaway items to be used once and tossed.
I have had sex with many women only once after I would then avoid their phone calls because I moved on to my next quest.
It took me many years to realize that I would never find the woman of my dreams in one night.
Brutal, but true.
Women never leaves a man until they've solidified his replacement first. Never take them back.
Completely agree and have lived this. Once your partner moves to someone else it's super over and time for you to move on. Trust me, there is something better waiting for you in the near future.
My ex wanted to break up after 17 years. Our daughter was then 9 years old. I said we should try out family counselling. She said she didn't want to. I said, if there is no one else, then we should at least try family counselling. She said there is no one else. We did family counselling. After a while she moved out and I was devasted. Then I found out she was in a relationship with another guy since a year and during the whole time we did family counselling. Now she is married to him.
There's always someone else. All women monkey-branch. Women never stop dating, even when they're married. Women are never single. Every new relationship is the result of female infidelity.
I got involved with a woman after being divorced 19 years what are on dates but nothing real spectacular. Her and I live together for 4 years I wanted to marry the woman. She left me for a man with more money. 3 months after she left she called me up crying. Stating I think I made a mistake. And then told her you made your bed now lie in it.
I would have replied. "No, you saved me from making one".
You dodged a bullet on that one my friend.
Or she will always be looking for someone else who would be a better option in her mind, knowing that she could get someone else. That's what happened to me, 16 year marriage and two kids..she decided to move on.
narcissistic hoover goes brrrrrr
So sorry, for you. 😢 hopefully someday you find someone who will love and put you first.
Much love brother. Stay strong!
Hypergamy defined.
If we broke up,it was for a reason. No take backs,no matter how much I love or miss you.I love myself more,and refuse to be abused/walked over.
So true when I was in my twenties mubex try coming back after she dated another man and I couldn't take her back knowing she was with someone else. I am not going to be any back up plans for anyone because I have self respect for my self knowing I might find someone who want to be equals in relationship.
And even if you're not plan B, you always feel like you're possibly plan B. You can't get that out of your head.
Because you are plan B
Yeah, doesn't matter if the other guy had a 2 inch peepee or a 2 foot peepee. Your always going to know another man was up in there. Especially when she wants you to go down town.
Wish I could have heard this years ago...
Yeah, 29 years ago, that would have been very handy!!!
This is an absolute TRUTH GRENADE.. No nonsense and no playing second fiddle..
I mean like they say ‘If you’re not first you’re last!’ Honestly I wouldn’t take anyone back and just continue to work on myself!!
There's a saying out on the Bering Sea with the same sentiment.
Second To None
Never take sloppy seconds.
That applies to men to Don’t want your nasty think that’s been swimming in some other girls muck🤮🤮
Never marry a woman who was previously married. She pledged forever and changed her mind. It wasn't a momentarily moment of weakness or a mistake. It was deliberate intentional action. During a woman's second marriage, she is regretting what she threw away, or she is looking for something better.
@@garydouglas9413 THIS! If it didn’t work the first time…
Do you all ever take into account that it may have been her first husband that was the problem? Or that they both found out they weren't compatible? Not everyone is a match, and that's ok. We all deserve second chances in life. Some people just aren't experienced enough to be in a mature relationship until they are. Everyone's situation is different, as we are all different people.
@@ElleS572 Then she shouldn’t have married him or she should have worked on her marriage with him via counseling and communication. There is no excuse.
So true. Don't be that guy to take back your ex
Every man would be wise to listen to the wisdom of this man. He speaks the truth.
Great video. Keep up the good work. I'm looking forward to the next one.
He Is Absolutely 100% on 🎯
Deep facts an sometimes they hide even beening with anyone. It's best to be alone sad to say.
...🎶"I've got spurs that jingle-jangle-jingle...
...as I go riding merrily along...
...and they say, 'Oh, ain't you glad you're single...
...and that song ain't so very far from wrong!🎶...
Best advice I've ever heard. Yea I took an ex back. She left I raised my girls alone.
Never take them back...they are Exs for a reason..Dont get played like that...I was with a girl I adored but she told me that her ex was gttg out of jail (wtf) and she still had feelings for him, I said, "Go, last thing I want is a woman with me that's thinking about someone else"..Flash forward 2 months. I get a call from her , "it didn't work out, he's an asshole, Do you wanna hang out?...I said "No I'm good, you picked someone else over me, Bye".. True story, on my word...
Very sound advice. And it works both ways too.
Actually, it does. In my senior year of high school a boyfriend dumped me in a very humiliating way. We both went on to have other relationships. He came waltzing back into the picture about 18 months later expecting to pick up where we left off. For awhile (about 6 months) we would see each other when he was in town but I made it clear it wasn't a committed relationship. He wasn't happy about it but understood he could see other women too. He was in his early 20's and wanted to settle down. I was 19 and was getting out on my own at the time. I did look back all these years later and realized I made an appropriate decision.
My dating life as a teenager was a nightmare. I grew up different so I held jobs from a very young age. None of the girls I dated were that way. They wet to school and just goofed of, partied, played sports, whatever in their free time.
I had purchased my first 4 vehicles before I even had a driver's license. Lol.
The point I am getting to that since I was ofen working while they were bored TBE inevitable things always occurred they cheated and tried to find something different. The thing is that something different was always another irresponsible version of themselves.
By my early 20's I married owned land, built a house, etc. and after 17 the same occurred. She loved me, she had everything but even as she said she wanted to move on and try something different. This once a young body building, modeling, pretty boy type gave her attention when she had free time because she was laid off and feeling low.
My point is that I have seen a pattern. Women want what perhaps only 1/10 of all men can offer. Otherwise they need 2 men.
No, bro. You were always enough for a good woman. You just dealt with 304s. You have to learn to identify them sooner. This content will help you.
Thank you. Thank you. Such an obvious wake up call for me with emotional blinders on!!
I will say this: I am with my ex right now, though she is an ex of 18 years. The two of us are completely different people from when we were in high school, and the first words out of her mouth when we reconnected were "I am sorry," followed by an actual list of all the things she was sorry for, and not generalized stuff, individual things, actual stuff that she held on to for almost 20 years.
Having both of us been married and divorced... how could I say no? We are incredibly happy, and engaged.
Exceptions don't negate facts bro, I'm genuinely happy for you tho
@@emidunkingsley8982 I wasn't trying to negate anything, there really isn't anything to negate. He's talking about something completely different. He's talking near term, like a couple years. Not nearly two decades (over two now).
After twenty years no one is the same. Coming back to someone after twenty years they might as well be an entirely different person. We were kids when we were dating back in 2000, late teens early twenties. Kids. Those are kids. They don't look at themselves as kids, we didn't either, but when you hit 40, 50, you look back on your youth and realize you were a kid in your 20s.
She's a grown woman now, and a totally different person. That's not what the brother is talking about. In fact, he's probably not old enough to even experience that kind of change. So, take his words with a grain of salt. Don't close yourself to the potential of life and time.
@@stuarthamilton5112...I was not a kid in my twenties but a fully grown adult responsible for my choices. I was raised different than most, with good parents who taught me right from wrong and a strong work ethic. People believe and choose to be immature for many years in their life and it's sad. Our society has not improved as the years go by but degenerated to the lazy immature self loathing hating evil mass it has now become!
@@normansawatzky4778 No, you were a kid. Your prefrontal cortex wasn’t even fully developed until approximately 25. It was then you-and every other human-*began* learning how to make decisions.
Being held responsible for decisions is an entirely different thing from knowing how to make them. We are very often held to account for things we know nothing about, it’s normal. It doesn’t mean you were an adult.
@@stuarthamilton5112 Women are born hypergamous and will remain so by their very nature. I hope you can beat the odds in your case but I sincerely doubt it. I'm about the same age as you and had an opportunity at an eerily similar situation. I returned her to the streets where she belongs.
An ex is an ex. If it's a fight but dating started she's now a sex toy at the most. Better yet cut off all ties
Had a girlfriend in college that CRUSHED me...
Called me months later wanting to get back together. I wanted that call more than I wanted air.
I told her, according to Dante written on the gates of Hell is the inscription: "ABANDON ALL HOPE". because she would never have me again.
You’re a real king my man. We’re not alone, bruv. Stay strong, king 👑
Dante is DEEP
That's 100% true
I refused to accept a ex back exactly because of that.
And yes, she was totally hot, smart, nice, caring, everything a guy wants...
But she slept with a guy right after our break up
That's why I never took her back, no matter how much she sweared that she loved me, that she was wrong, that i was her soulmate, that she wanted to have my children...
I gave her the same answer i will write here.
I'm not a plan B, I'm worth more than that
Former simp here,I 💯 agree. Out of sight,out of mind. Value yourselves and know there are many options.
Fell for it. Hurts way more the second time.
Even if that guy "made her realize how much she loves you", she actively moved on. That it didn't work is a detail, important to HER.
“But we can still be friends.” No, you want me on the sideline just in case. As he said don’t be plan B.
I've always loved by that advice. There is always a better woman than the one that does this to you.
I learned even as a female to never take a partner back. No matter how much they have changed, learned, or gotten therapy they will always treat you the way they did the first time. You allowed it the first time and they know you will allow them to get away with it again. This is true just as much for women as it is for men...it is human nature.
Women leave men 90% times and even in divorce 😂 stop caping you choose the asshole men 😂
I can't stand when there is a message for men there is always some woman the makes it about "women too". Like dude go to another video with that bs.
@@millyardopeacecraft9778 dude get over yourself....a message for men....lol I'm sorry where did the content creator say it was just for you?
I was stuck in that vicious cycle for 19 years on and off with my son's mom. I learned this lesson the hardest way imaginable
This has nothing to do with your son .. you mean one of your exes ..
I needed to hear this.
Me and my wife must be an exception to the rule then. 21 years married and still going. Together 26 years all together
There is always time. Years together are an irrelevance in this respect
Exception to every rule.
Sometimes you think you want something you really don't.
And come back to do what you do like.
Yes.
I just posted a comment pretty much describing several couples like yourselves, which includes family.
As you well know - we have to figure things out for our own lives.
Thank you. I know you didn't share you and your wife's story for thanks, but it gives me a lot of hope and joy to see. Me and my husband are also an exception. Our measly ten compared to your impressive 26 years doesn't compare, but I know that my husband and I will be together until we die. He is my best friend. My rock. And my soulmate. Generalized statements are harmful to society; we really must learn to treat people on an individual basis. I wish you and your wife many, many more happy years together!
My husband and I are also an exception; married 30 years now with 5 beautiful grandchildren. All the best to you.
This one girl I was really into was cheating on her bf with me and I didn’t know.
I broke the first cardinal rule of being a friend to her for years before we started “dating”.
Everything revealed itself over time and I was really hurt about it, she as you could expect ghosted me to reconcile w/ him and we didn’t talk for years.
A year or two ago that very same boyfriend was murdered, and it traumatized her.
She reached out to me later down the line not to get back together but to have a friendly dinner.
But we had to address the dead elephant in the room.
she wasn’t truthful back then, even though I thought we were close.
she showed me I was just another guy when things got physical between us.
And it wasn’t until after he was killed that she ever reached out.
I had to ignore it, sorry for her loss, on both fronts, the guy she loved died, and one of the only friends she really had wishes they’d never met🤷🏾♂️
But she deliberately chose this outcome 🤷🏾♂️
Been in situations like that. It’s really a red pill moment and you never look at them the same. We’re told that women emotionally connect with men they sleep with. So either that isn’t true or they’re too damaged already.
Not your fault
Naaa bro you knew, there’s no way you can get be her so called friend for years and not know she has a boyfriend.
@@coldhardtruth333 nah bro I was pretty clueless, maybe I was naive or young but it’s still what it was. Had I known I could’ve avoided all of it 🤷🏾♂️
Plus being her friend was more reason for me not to know, if my friend says she’s single I have no reason not to believe her until I do🤷🏾♂️
This happened to me but I did take her back but I listened to my gut and couple of weeks later I ended it. I deserve someone that puts me first
I had a boyfriend that I adored and did everything for when I was younger. One day he just ghosted me after 1 year of dating. I was devestated that I meant so little to him he couldn't even tell me he didn't want to be with me. He came back almost a later saying he regretted it all and he actually loved me and was so sorry. He told me he was ready for a real relationship. My heart lept. I had stayed single since we broke up because I loved him so much and waited for him to come back. Then after he got what he wanted he told me he just couldn't have a serious girlfriend because he wanted to drink with his friends and he had nothing to offer me. I just nodded my head crying and left. Never wanted to see him again. He kept texting me every so often asking how I was after that. Finally I got a new boyfriend and got a new number. I knew he was just failing at finding another girlfriend so he kept me in his radius as backup. Knowing that the man I had lived so much didn't love me back just ruined me. Don't act like women don't go through sh** to. Men play alot of games with women. Especially when they know that woman loves them.
@@RiZenAsH I learned a hard lesson after that. The boyfriend that came after I literally made him try so hard because I was so hurt from before. He liked me enough where he saw through that but I kept expecting him to one day just leave me and not tell me. That's how fd up the relationship left me. I was a really sweet girl to. One time my then boyfriend found out he kept messaging me. He told him not to text me anymore because I wasn't his girlfriend anymore and it was hurting me. My ex's response was she was never my girlfriend....
Don't ever back pedal. You're just going to split up again for the same reasons that split you up. Got back with my ex-wife 3 different times, and we split up for all the same reasons over and over again. Glad she is out of my life forever now.
When you look past the Tates being silly or over the top, there's genuine advice is usually pretty smart. Tristan I know usually gives good advice like this
Yeah always after we've been hurt unfortunately, we hear these messages. Sometimes I look back and realize the signs were there. There were times I tried to ignore them. We break up for the reasons we got together.
I only ever took 1 ex back and that was one of the biggest mistakes I ever made , some of the best advice for those still searching for the one
Guy or no guy in between, she's the same person you broke up with and will always be the same person you broke up with.
yep. iits called Trauma
In most cases, she's the same person that broke up with you. Definitely dont take her back then.
Simple, but the best advice you could get
The answer is No,
The answer is always No,
There are no exceptions.
Thank you! The deeper problem is that they are so incapable to be self reliable that they go to spread discord and suddenly they come back with envy derrived conflicts because of their reckless actions and tauntings on the other partners that they have out of their misery.
I told the mother of my child i wasnt going to be "plan B" when i caught her talking to another guy. Now i rarely get to see my son.
Poor kid. Must be tough for him
A simple, and sincere message that goes both ways.
Have a nice day 😈
Been there, done that! Took me years too learn that wisdom!!👍
Not always cut and dry like that. But yes. If you are together and break up is over.
Never would i have seen the day were Sarah agrees with anything a Tate says..
I need to open my mind more 😂.. Lesson learnt!
Why? they say the same thing just worded differently.
@@OHCAM5 well Sarah never said that women belong in the kitchen, or that a womans life is pointless without having kids.
@@CoffeeCrazzee2006 She very heavily implies that when she says women should embrace the traditional roles.
@@OHCAM5 oh, haven't watched that one
@@CoffeeCrazzee2006 that's pretty much all
This is excellent!! Great advice to you Men out there!
so true...i got forced out of my marriage and my son i focused on was turned against me by lies and years on...she suddenly tried to 'force' me back!! Talk about gall!! But she outsmarted herself. i only put up with her as long as i did because of my son, once she turned him against me she also removed the only reason i would have humoured her
But you never know if someone is hooking up with someone in that time of a break up. You don't have eyes on people so it's best to just move on once they decided to leave. They left for a reason. Trust it. You haven't changed. What ever they walked away from will still exist within you.
It's very easy to tell if someone is sleeping with someone else if you've been around the block once or twice.
@@bloociferhow... what would be some signs? I'm going thru this but I don't know if she's doing that per say ya know what I mean? She said she offers friendship I said na I'm not interested in platonic friendship... she said ok.... that text again and said so I guess this is goodbye then
@@fleecejohnson6939 she's offering YOU friendship? It sounds like she just wants to be your friend then. You have to be upfront with women from the get go. I will literally tell random women that I'm trying to destroy their pussy on day 1 😂 they either block you or they don't. If they don't, then ur all good lmao it helps to not be creepy too. Just be carefree.
Women will 100% use you for your masculinity and ego boost if you let them. If a woman wants you, it will be very easy to tell. You won't be questioning it
Well that’s on you cuz no one has time to teach you sir .
True story. As a man you have to do what’s right and logical, sometimes that means doing what hurts you.
Agreed wholeheartedly. The Tates can preach some really toxic messages that kind of only lower themselves to the level of the toxic females they hate, but sometimes their messages are really good and helpful
Idk. My mom broke up with my dad, twice, to date other guys. They've been married now for almost 40 years. Although that was in high school during the 70s. Tate here is talking about adult romance.
Please, she just couldn’t find better ..
Nope. My wife and I broke up in 2005. We did our own things, I dated a few girls, she dated a few guys. We are going on 9 years of marriage right now. I found out last year that she compared other guys to me.
That was precisely the point of them going for that last round on the track... Shopping around for better
I've been a second choice once...
not anymore
and that horrible feeling and experience make me a better person and seeing every single woman different at the point that I can scan them and see what type of woman are they.
sadly, the percentage of good women is getting too low in the market 😔
Love is defined many ways, however, only one of those definitions is the truth.
Agape !
Keeping the commandments is love!
John 14:15 - If ye love me, keep my commandments.
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@@JosefFurg1611 Matthew chapter 5 the beatitudes. And love (agape love) one another as I have loved (agape love) you, for this is the whole of the law and the prophets. Also.... Judge not, lest ye be judged.. agape to you.
True.... But has nothing to do with letting whores bounce around town and then get free access to your life. Love also has boundaries. So by all means forgive and don't hate....Agape them from a distance, wish them the best, and move on. Unless of course you are Hosea and God specifically tells you to marry a whore for some higher reason, lol
I think it really depends on context. Rules like this apply well to certain examples but not universally
That context would be if the guy is a simp.
absolutely true.... for every reason they left. Doesn't matter what the reason they left, if they decide to come back you're always plan B and they will leave again. NEVER OPEN THAT DOOR
I know a girl like this. Randomly coming back around trying to talk about the good times. Unfortunately all I remember from her are the bad times. She can no longer find a man to put up with her bs. That's all on her. She chose to be single over having the real thing. Now she can lay in her misery.
My sister and her husband divorced for a year, got back together and remarried. Much happier the 2nd time around and had 2 more children. They are very happy.
Who filed for divorce?
Your brother in law must check if the kids are his!!!
I guess your sister found a sucker.. show him this video ..
I'm going through this with my ex right now. We've been off and on for 6 years and I'm starting think we both think the other person is plan B.
That’s not fair for either of you 😢 sorry
Leave her today. You’ll thank yourself in six months. Move on. She’s either a ride or die for u or she’s trash
Move on
Duh
Deuteronomy 24, start reading and let me know when you see it
Speaking from experience, this is true. if she coming back from another relationship, you're just a resource.
An ex is an ex for a reason, wether it is you or them that ended it, for whatever reason it ended.
Wether they have moved on or not, I will stay friends and support them but I never go back to anything romantic or physical.
Naw I can't be friends with an ex that's like going backwards! I'm an all or nothing type of person in a relationship I'll give you my all I'm loyal all the way. That why I say women can't have it both ways if you reject me or hurt me why would I want to be your friend?? If I can't have it both ways then you definitely can't have it both ways and eat your cake too!🤬
Once you leave me in a relationship for whatever reason especially if you cheat on me and really break my heart! Then your DEAD to me forever! 🧐🤔🤨😱
@@John-vn1tv I am the same, I wipe people from my life if they are harmful to me.
If you have just grown apart and are going in different directions I don’t have an issue with being friendly, and offering advice but we won’t be hanging out alone on anything that even resembles a date.
It only works if it ended amicably.
Never under any circumstances, be “just friends“. Let her know that if she breaks up with you, it’s forever. Women love to rack up a list of “friends“ that they can call for favors and fall back on. And guys foolishly think that if they’re in the friend zone, they can somehow work their way back in. If she breaks up with you, you must completely emotionally detach, and want nothing to do with her. This will teach her two things one that you don’t really need her and you can get over her, and two not to play games with guys hearts.
FRIENDZONE.....ARGH 🥶
I'll make even simpler from a 50yr old. Once they are an ex. They stay a ex take time and enjoy being single. Then again it was easier in my 20s no t every one had a cell phone
That is spot on correct in all aspects.
If she left you the first time, she will leave a second, that is when she will make it your fault.
Lastly, she has already found a new perfect guy.
😕 Really wish I had seen this video 7 years ago cause I would have NEVER taken my ex back and just got my heart and my son's heart broken in the end. ☹️ I was just the fall back guy.
A broken clock is right twice a day. I agree. This goes for men and women.