The Cooperation Paradigm: How to Get People to Listen & Cooperate | Janine Driver | TEDxWilmington

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  • In this talk Janine discusses strategies to gain agreement and cooperation with others - even in difficult situations. JANINE DRIVER is the CEO of the Body Language Institute,
    the NY Times Best-Selling author of YOU SAY MORE THAN
    YOU THINK, an international trainer, an award-winning
    keynote speaker, and a retired ATF Investigator.
    Janine attained rank #1 in the «Inspiration» category in the
    World’s Top 30 Body Language Professionals for 2017. In
    2015, Janine was named one of the top twenty educational
    trendsetters in the meetings industry by Meetings Today
    Magazine. Janine is a popular media guest on NBC’s
    TODAY, Harry Connick Jr›s show called HARRY, Steve Harvey
    Show, CNN Morning Show,and more. She has been quoted
    in publications, such as the New York Times, the Washington
    Post, and Cosmopolitan.
    Janine›s corporate clients include companies such as
    Proctor & Gamble, Lockheed Martin, ADP, KRONOS,
    Charles Schwab, Prudential, Remax, and YPO. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • @thinkoutsidetherock
    @thinkoutsidetherock 4 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    you are an amazing speaker. I can't believe I never heard you before - April 5, 2020 is the day I discovered Janine Driver. This is the fifth of your videos I have watched and you leave me in tears, cheers, and YES! I love your passion and your sensitivity.

    • @MindsetMom
      @MindsetMom 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same here. First time seeing her. I'm addicted. Watching Dec 2020.

    • @denasellsKC
      @denasellsKC 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ikr I just found her an hour ago. This is my 3rd video that I've found of hers. She is an excellent teacher and speaker.

    • @annaayoub551
      @annaayoub551 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Found her yesterday. Made me cry in every video. What an amazing woman!

  • @dbroenen
    @dbroenen 5 ปีที่แล้ว +104

    Janine, the Like button is not good enough for this talk. I wish there was a LOVE button to click for you!

  • @alabamajenny8751
    @alabamajenny8751 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I wish I had a TED talk with Janine every single day. I am just in awe of her relatability. She was created to lead. Thank you Janine. You are the real MVP!

  • @RudeBwoyKaban
    @RudeBwoyKaban 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    your passion is captivating
    ✓ I'm cooperative 100%
    Love & Gratitude
    Thank you 🕉️

  • @QCDoggies
    @QCDoggies 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Janine's techniques are incredible, I'm watching all of them! Now I want to check out her books.

  • @nourhanahhamdy1425
    @nourhanahhamdy1425 5 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    i have just seen the body language video in 2019 n now i am tracing the rest of ur series without even noticing their topics !! Janine Driver is my new incredible name on my idols list !

    • @leah387
      @leah387 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same. We just want MORE, Janine!!!

    • @leah387
      @leah387 ปีที่แล้ว

      Even in 2022

  • @kellybarnes9434
    @kellybarnes9434 5 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    BEAUTIFUL! Thank you, Ms. Driver! I've only just "found" you today and am already A HUGE fan! Thanks so much!

  • @drummermomcjs
    @drummermomcjs 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Thank you Janine for sharing this. Having watched several Ted talks featuring you, I must say that I appreciate this one the most. All of your talks are great, and useful, but as a mother I appreciate this one the most. I want to speak words that bring life to people, not fear, anger and sadness. I am eager to put the wisdom that you shared in this video to use with the people around me and no longer assign traits that I abhor but rather assign traits that build them up. Once again thank you for sharing.

  • @rememberyj
    @rememberyj 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    so i have of course watched this again because its so awesome and i need repetition to integrate...and i had a thought. Angus didnt think you were mean on thanksgiving. which is beautiful. it also makes me think about how when we talk negatively to our kids they absorb it so easily they dont even remember it as trauma or abuse. omg big ah ha. we teach out kids what negative comments about them to accept as normal and believe.. :-( yikes thats huge. thanks SOOOO much for shifting my paradygm.

  • @babybloo1818
    @babybloo1818 5 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    Janine is incredible! She's one of the best speakers I've ever seen! Thank you so much for this video!

  • @lisafeck1537
    @lisafeck1537 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I really like Janine Driver. I've watched 3 of her Ted talks, all good.

  • @debfebruary
    @debfebruary 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Janine, you have a wonderful gift. You've taught us so much and I'm so grateful to you. Your emotion is your truth about what is most important. Thank you.

  • @chcamerica22
    @chcamerica22 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Beautiful presentation, Janine, you are a smart intuitive woman and I thank you for sharing your wisdom. The answer to your unasked question is YES, you prevented many of us from going down a destructive path by showing us how to make intelligent choices. Job well done.

  • @musicfanmic
    @musicfanmic 5 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Beautiful Brilliant Bold. Thank you Janine! Thank you so much!

    • @TheRealJanineDriver
      @TheRealJanineDriver 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks for the love Michael! You rock! xo, Janine

  • @emiliana1767
    @emiliana1767 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    How can you grip me emotionally within a second janine?! I instantly cried when you did, i felt your regret so much. And learned A LOT! thank you so much dear 🙏

    • @miachevaisav2285
      @miachevaisav2285 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Ditto

    • @dudelmicha
      @dudelmicha 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes, me too. It just triggered me instantly, burst in tears, made me searching in the comments for likewise people. I believe in you as a great mom!

  • @alabamajenny8751
    @alabamajenny8751 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Ive actually spoken on phone with Jim Kavanaugh when I worked at our local police dept in Hoover AL. He is a superhero. But then, so are you Janine!

  • @rememberyj
    @rememberyj 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    holy shite!! this is incredible. i cant thank you enought for sharing this. this should be taught to all new parents. should be a requirement. thanks you so much.

  • @kathleenreyes4345
    @kathleenreyes4345 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Just beautiful Janine! Thank you for this talk!!

  • @nspector
    @nspector 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Holy cow, Janine. I don't know if you look at these comments, since this isn't on your channel, but, damn, I'm glad I found you. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

    • @prepperjonpnw6482
      @prepperjonpnw6482 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      She has her own channel? How do I find it?

  • @artoffthegrit
    @artoffthegrit 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Janine, I am obsessed with your videos! You deliver messages that are truly life changing, wise, authentic, and with just the right amount of humor to make it all fun to learn! What a gift to the world you are. Thank you immensely.

  • @jocelynstewart1186
    @jocelynstewart1186 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    thank you for being my teacher. a blessing to us all.......

  • @theblackroe8832
    @theblackroe8832 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love you jeanine

  • @barbievallot9146
    @barbievallot9146 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Best Ted Talk Ever! Thank You!

  • @jenniferrumsey9887
    @jenniferrumsey9887 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I wish this was taught to DCS workers.

  • @beyourselfbekind4371
    @beyourselfbekind4371 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    How and what!! Only questions to ask. Forget the why!

  • @chrisjones2625
    @chrisjones2625 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wow

  • @suneelewitzky6797
    @suneelewitzky6797 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    A mama in tears over here. Thank you for this and for sharing your stories. I am going to try this with my kiddos.

  • @prepperjonpnw6482
    @prepperjonpnw6482 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Another awesome video!
    This is the third video of yours I’ve watched all in a row lol
    Yes I’m about to search for more of your videos lol
    Cheers

  • @hydro58
    @hydro58 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you! This is a great life lesson. Thanks for your time and effort.

  • @vickydittfield9822
    @vickydittfield9822 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for inspiring me ! Phenomenal is the way to describe your gifts. I want to view everything you have written and spoken !I have a Solike Angus, too! He is my favorite of the gifts of life !

  • @greatape2522
    @greatape2522 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Incredible! That really opened my eyes, thank you so much.

  • @gnuman1841
    @gnuman1841 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This talk, and Janine herself, is an amazing lesson/speaker and an amazing paradigm/communicator to learn from.

  • @miachevaisav2285
    @miachevaisav2285 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    One of, if not the best, talks I've ever heard.

  • @pieterlast4864
    @pieterlast4864 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Wow Wow. You brought tears to my eyes. LOVE you. AWESOME job.

  • @michelleglowala2360
    @michelleglowala2360 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Janine. You are a phenomenal leader and teacher. I just discovered your talks and I will look to purchase your books. Amazing.

  • @sunflower-mr5nj
    @sunflower-mr5nj 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    amazing!

  • @asabove_sobelow_333
    @asabove_sobelow_333 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    What a Great talk. Thank you for your transparency & love.

  • @malk6277
    @malk6277 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    TERRIFIC talk Janine. I'm only three minutes in but feel pretty confident I'll still feel this way by the end.

  • @eagle7757
    @eagle7757 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. John 3:16, Ephesians 2:8-9, Romans 4:5, Jesus Christ is the only way, KJV..........

  • @yavrum22
    @yavrum22 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you 🙏

  • @latinkeys1
    @latinkeys1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Incredibly awesome

  • @chybrennafitch-minton7291
    @chybrennafitch-minton7291 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Very good lesson!

  • @cintremblay9795
    @cintremblay9795 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you, you have no idea what you just unlocked for me. xxx

  • @leahdamron2176
    @leahdamron2176 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Damn it, I'm sick of this lady making me cry. The best ted talk EVER!

    • @annajeanblackburn240
      @annajeanblackburn240 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I just found this yesterday and again right now...and am already awed. Do you happen to know What the T.E.D. stands for ?

  • @nikital.8255
    @nikital.8255 ปีที่แล้ว

    What’s ur plan?
    How will you implement this?
    No ‘why’ questions cause it makes one think ur questioning their judgement.

  • @jenniferhizzy6591
    @jenniferhizzy6591 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I love this lady

  • @dorothybailey1789
    @dorothybailey1789 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for your talks Janine. You are a very inspiring speaker

  • @digitalheartistry8018
    @digitalheartistry8018 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you.

  • @DrSantiagoHolyday
    @DrSantiagoHolyday 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    unbelievable! Amazing talk! I teared up and I never cry!

  • @danareed2729
    @danareed2729 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I absolutely loved your talk.

  • @justme-dm7sb
    @justme-dm7sb 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Waco was a disaster at every level. I love the things I have learned in some of your other videos but there were other ways to work that guy out without killing over 75 people, including pregnant women and children. They couldn't stay in there forever. Water, food and electricy had to run out at some point but the the big suits at the FBI got their little feelers stepped on and their huge egos took over. They should have waited them out.
    Ruby Ridge in Idaho was equally as much a disaster. Those were children doing what their father had told them to do. With the skill of our modern military both of those incidents could have, and should have turned out different. We spend an aweful lot of money on military to be massacring our own citizens.

  • @jameslipke354
    @jameslipke354 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow. Just Wow! That's all I've got.🤯 ❤
    ~ APRIL LIPKE

  • @writerinfact1768
    @writerinfact1768 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Just wow! Thank you.

  • @innerpeaceproject
    @innerpeaceproject 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Wow! Awesome presentation and valuable information.

  • @florakoutouzakis9615
    @florakoutouzakis9615 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I LOVE hearing you!

  • @Steve-uw4un
    @Steve-uw4un 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great job. Call next time in town. I'll show you some chicken houses and Little Debbie cakes being made. lol

  • @samantharimmer6270
    @samantharimmer6270 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    good video

  • @scootydub
    @scootydub 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This was fantastic!

  • @ClearlyHinze
    @ClearlyHinze 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wow! You are an amazing speaker. I was moved and gained so much wisdom at the same time. Thank you so much for sharing yourself and what you know. It's helping me so much.

  • @jenina247
    @jenina247 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is phenomenal!

  • @AragonaAlessandro
    @AragonaAlessandro ปีที่แล้ว

    Gosh ..she made me crazy again 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽😘

  • @barbierimando8133
    @barbierimando8133 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    thank you for sharing this video...i needed this...i just said things to my son this morning that I totally regret right now..i have to make it up to him when I will pick him up from school this afternoon keeping in mind what Janine said...

  • @christineh4782
    @christineh4782 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    💗💝💖💓💕👍 Janine Driver is fantastic! Wish I could her a question.

    • @TheRealJanineDriver
      @TheRealJanineDriver 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Janine here, what's your question?

    • @christineh4782
      @christineh4782 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@TheRealJanineDriver I don't remember. You may have already answered it. I watched this video again. You are excellent at your job. Glad I found you. Lots to learn from you.

  • @STORYTIMEWITHGRANNYK2024
    @STORYTIMEWITHGRANNYK2024 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I listen to this two times it is one of the best beaches you gave. Thank you so much for opening my eyes this

  • @staciwalters2065
    @staciwalters2065 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I was in the audience that day and Janine is amazing! You will laugh, cry and learn so much from her talks!

  • @kathywinkler9802
    @kathywinkler9802 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Well done!! ........... I will remember this.......

  • @ChavaMalka-z8k
    @ChavaMalka-z8k 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    ❤❤ amazing speaker- useful for business or home ❤

  • @toniques7
    @toniques7 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    She’s awesome! What she says is very practical and easy to use.

  • @digitalheartistry8018
    @digitalheartistry8018 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Janine is Brilliant.

  • @LoveFlatfootin1
    @LoveFlatfootin1 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    You seem a little angry, LOL.

  • @Benjohnson-nc1ik
    @Benjohnson-nc1ik 3 ปีที่แล้ว

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  • @wondafaith8621
    @wondafaith8621 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love your realness! Thank you.

  • @stefaniegodfrey6155
    @stefaniegodfrey6155 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Damnit.. I love you

  • @karenthompson9492
    @karenthompson9492 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Oh that was so fukin good

    • @TheRealJanineDriver
      @TheRealJanineDriver 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you Karen! You just made my day! xo, Janine

  • @ozdigg9254
    @ozdigg9254 ปีที่แล้ว

    Brilliant, thank you. Allow What and How, Say Bye to Why. Assign a positive trait to them. The real life situations you illustrate your talk with are very helpful. Thank you for your emotional honesty, Janine. All peace and strength to you. ❤ 🌹🌹🌹

  • @ouafieddinenaciri3783
    @ouafieddinenaciri3783 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Nice and Great Talk .. Thank you so much Janine

  • @ItsaShortLyfe
    @ItsaShortLyfe 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Jeanne Driver is a powerhouse. She provides people with the tools needed to navigate tough situations. Though I cannot promise you that you will WIN every time. I CAN PROMISE that you will be a better version of yourself. More aware, stronger, faster version of whoever you were before Jeanne blessed you!

  • @sabinewk625
    @sabinewk625 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    🙌🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼thank you !!

  • @MRS.SammeK
    @MRS.SammeK 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Beyond wisdom. Parents are not perfect and love always matters. You are doing amazing. Doing it through anxiety. I did it the sand way. Thank you for pointing it out. These boys are amazing! They aren’t the norm! Sounds like my boy!

  • @JacquelynnFaye
    @JacquelynnFaye ปีที่แล้ว

    I needed this. 😭❤❤❤❤

  • @shaniroga
    @shaniroga 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I Love, Love, Listening to this Lovely Woman!

  • @kyleneeley9200
    @kyleneeley9200 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much

  • @sherikennedy4117
    @sherikennedy4117 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    you are fabulous.

  • @pattyoreilly1097
    @pattyoreilly1097 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Amazing ... wish I heard this presentation years ago!

  • @dodgingrain3695
    @dodgingrain3695 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I think Janine needs to work on being a less abrasive presenter. She comes off as a member of law enforcement which feels like she is bullying her audience even when she isn't trying. Even her body language is aggressive.

  • @carlin5409
    @carlin5409 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wonder Woman!

  • @mike-yp1uk
    @mike-yp1uk ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm a big fan of Janine and she detects lies but she definitely speaks the truth. This content is so true

  • @carolinepuno8788
    @carolinepuno8788 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    You're darn good, Janine! Your mundane exchanges with your son are loaded with lessons to learn from a mom like me. Thank you.

  • @araratqarachatani3806
    @araratqarachatani3806 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you

  • @transamsteve1
    @transamsteve1 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great points. Will definitely keep in mind in the future. Don’t think the emotion was authentic.

  • @mittenkitten89
    @mittenkitten89 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Amazing

  • @joycereese6731
    @joycereese6731 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Tears

  • @yeame1033
    @yeame1033 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    so relatable and easy to understand, you make us live your moments. Thank you for sharing,you are truly inspirational!

  • @adefay7813
    @adefay7813 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    TED talks has made a significant impact in my life. I can't express my gratitude for the things I've learnt . Thank you so much.

  • @brendashenda4249
    @brendashenda4249 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    holy. wow.

  • @theresagarcia6699
    @theresagarcia6699 ปีที่แล้ว

    God bless you Janine I appreciate all you share with us 💕

  • @foxleyshop2174
    @foxleyshop2174 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    OMG!😢😢😢👏👏👏👏

  • @cecilsingh970
    @cecilsingh970 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    you are the rebirth of god. thanks. I have a 4 yrss old autism son and I get too uptight

  • @exposingunconditionalselfl8731
    @exposingunconditionalselfl8731 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Is that what the basis to hypnosis to get control over a person or does it work the same?

  • @CrystalNibarger
    @CrystalNibarger 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Someone in my life needs to watch this.