Reading Body Language | Janine Driver | TEDxDeerPark

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  • The average person wouldn’t think that they can learn something from decoding the body language of a murderer. Little do they know, there is more than a little to learn through this unusual approach to protecting your
    friends, family and finances. In this out-of-the-box TEDx talk, retired ATF Investigator and Human Lie Detector, Janine Driver cracks the detecting deception through the nonverbal hot spots of murderers. Janine Driver is the founder, president, and lead instructor for BLUEStreak Training, an elite certification program that offers award-winning advanced communications training. BLUEStreak helps executives, sales people, and other professionals build executive presence; explode their selling skills; and create and deliver business presentations that win new business.
    Janine and her team of the world’s most sought after subject matter experts have helped clients become the total leader, which ultimately led them to win billions of dollars in new business contracts. Her elite A-list clients come from a wide variety of industries. Janine has made appearances on NBC’s Today, The Rachael Ray Show, and HLN.
    Janine’s background includes being a federal law enforcement officer within the United States Department of Justice for 16-years, where she trained over 60,000 lawyers, judges, and law enforcement officers how to read body language and detect deception. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • @RedT...TheOriginal.NotANumber
    @RedT...TheOriginal.NotANumber 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3046

    "Anger is a secondary emotion to things like fear and sadness and anxiety."
    Possibly one of those most valuable lessons in this entire talk.

    • @dylanmcwhirter9844
      @dylanmcwhirter9844 3 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      Pain aswell physical pain

    • @christyeddy3199
      @christyeddy3199 3 ปีที่แล้ว +54

      I was in a behavioral rehab for 2 weeks when i was 13 and was taught that. Its really the only thing i remember. It has been very helpful in understanding people. That and a phrase i heard about 10 years ago... "Hurt people -hurt people"

    • @roshanibabu
      @roshanibabu 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      That is all I took from this talk...

    • @ArtofReliance
      @ArtofReliance 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      "Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering." ~ Green Thing

    • @rpshd7275
      @rpshd7275 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      My mom must be really anxious

  • @vanessawood2837
    @vanessawood2837 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2732

    Really interesting stuff. Some caution: Eye blocking is very common with people on the Autistic Spectrum and to some degree with people who have anxiety. This should absolutely be taken into account when assessing eye blocking.

    • @daughterofyah6209
      @daughterofyah6209 4 ปีที่แล้ว +91

      Vanessa Wood but if you speak to them you understand that there could be something different. Her points still valid-notice the scenes and probe. With her son and her mother she asked deeper questions that was related to their ESL. The more questions you asked the more you may notice the difference in autism and someone who is hiding. My older cousin is autistic and before I actually understand what that is and the spectrum I could see that there was a disability or learning difference between us.

    • @benjaminmarler457
      @benjaminmarler457 4 ปีที่แล้ว +124

      Totally agree this is all interesting but I'm not sure about the eye blocking I personally just have trouble looking people In the eye some days more than others feeling intimidated seems to do the same for most

    • @idaliihernandesss924
      @idaliihernandesss924 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      I was just thinking of this!

    • @jessicarenae5107
      @jessicarenae5107 4 ปีที่แล้ว +77

      I just commented about this. I have social anxiety so i tend to never look ppl in the eye. However, if I'm blamed and innocent, you'll get my attention ... changes your focus and becomes serious. Of course that can depend on the situation too! And your def right about Autism...ty for stating that to everyone!!! My cousin is autistic, and that's very true.... most autism causes them to be distant with all their gestures and emotions!

    • @lungulst
      @lungulst 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      It is not important because there will be not so many. And no one could by mistake, take an autistic as a person without that condition.

  • @hobypop
    @hobypop 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +70

    Comming from a Middle Eastern background, we were taught from a young age that looking someone in the eye is a sign of daring and disrespect, especially when done during a conversation with an older person or one with a higher level of authority.
    That caused me some real problems with one of my bosses at work in Australia. He believed he's a 'people reader'. He often thought I was lying when I spoke to him 🙄

    • @Dolphinboi
      @Dolphinboi 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      So what do u think of this woman?

    • @kennywonderley5883
      @kennywonderley5883 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I'm always thinking and my eyes tend to go up. I'm been misread many times.

    • @nopetheworld977
      @nopetheworld977 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I can totally relate. Cultural differences really do make communication a bit more complicated and can misread someone’s intentions.

  • @SiaLaterZ
    @SiaLaterZ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +266

    I appreciate her emotion when talking about things that are clearly important to her. Thank you so so much!

    • @KarenC-yi9xl
      @KarenC-yi9xl ปีที่แล้ว +1

      😂 this is the first video I watch the beginning to the end thanks 😊

  • @walterpaton8698
    @walterpaton8698 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3204

    I have learned more about life from Tedtalks than my 61 years of life.

    • @saraf.3444
      @saraf.3444 3 ปีที่แล้ว +69

      I love your comment. ♥️

    • @janetpierce6487
      @janetpierce6487 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@saraf.3444 8 ,,p , by

    • @RM-lk1so
      @RM-lk1so 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      RIGHT ON. I share more Ted's talks than ANY other TH-cam series

    • @annamariedetter4319
      @annamariedetter4319 3 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      Same, but I'm a millennial. Which is why I go easier on my Mom these days. The internet is truly a privilege to use.

    • @Fifiguggles
      @Fifiguggles 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I get it from all sorts of sources

  • @herbross7629
    @herbross7629 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1265

    This woman is spot on. She captured me immediately and distracted me from imprtant work.

    • @angelagivens545
      @angelagivens545 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Wow. This was awesome

    • @aleenanoad9
      @aleenanoad9 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Me too. Haha

    • @alvinzady764
      @alvinzady764 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      very good,her words are great...

    • @styxmot
      @styxmot 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same here :D

    • @JacquelynnFaye
      @JacquelynnFaye 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I believe it was you who pushed play first sir lol

  • @joannep3437
    @joannep3437 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +52

    My 19 y.o. son is a junior w/ a psychology major. I met you today on Mel Robbins’ podcast and immediately sent this Ted Talk to my son. I plan on following up with him to be sure he gets well acquainted with you!! You’re going to be an additional professor of his…
    We need you in our lives!! Thank you!!❤

    • @actuallyjustVaibhavSharma
      @actuallyjustVaibhavSharma 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      How did it go ?

    • @joannep3437
      @joannep3437 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@actuallyjustVaibhavSharma
      Well, I have yet to find the opportunity… he’s so busy that we’ve been like two ships passing in the night.

  • @RubeeRoja
    @RubeeRoja 3 ปีที่แล้ว +191

    When you're a person with high empathy (an "empath") It seems like most of this is just innate. We pick up body language, energy, and other people's emotions quickly...even when you would prefer not to. It's all highly intuitive even before you know what to do with the information that you're feeling.

    • @cynthiadennewith49
      @cynthiadennewith49 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Accept, her information is concrete. Everyone can benefit from the knowledge she is teaching. Even Empaths. We may be able to intuit the emotional energy of a person, and 'know' what that person is feeling, and that they are not being honest. Or that they are hiding something. But 'feeling' something from someone isn't actionable when it comes to using that information to show how you 'know' when a person is lieing. Having both; abilities as an Empath and skilled knowledge like she is teaching, can only make you better all around.

    • @ompabaletserametse8643
      @ompabaletserametse8643 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Yes. You're totally right. I saw a friend after probably a year and I could feel that they were not doing so good. I didn't know what to do. I just prayed that whatever it is, they got through. I'm hoping to learn how to "get it out" of people and maybe that will help.

    • @traceyschneider3296
      @traceyschneider3296 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      You are totally right! I’ve been told I am an empath but haven’t really gotten into researching it but even if I’m not, I’ve noticed things that would be considered signs like these I was told I was crazy and those signs that I’d see in a person weren’t really credible. This verifies and validates so much for me!

    • @lowbudgetadvice95
      @lowbudgetadvice95 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      True that.

    • @violentnewworld
      @violentnewworld 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I can spot these things.. Just unnatural reactions.

  • @n.d8001
    @n.d8001 3 ปีที่แล้ว +288

    She wants everybody to fight their battles using whatever tools they have in order to never give up. She is a friend to all of us

  • @isabellerobbe-dren752
    @isabellerobbe-dren752 4 ปีที่แล้ว +743

    Me to pup (pointing at carpet stain): “Did you do this?”
    Pup: eye blocks for 9 seconds.
    Fast forward - pup watches video.
    Me to pup (pointing to shredded dog bed): “Did you do this?”
    Pup: Looks me square in the eye, assertively shakes head no, and points to invisible cat.
    Thanks TH-cam.

    • @kierraspearman4759
      @kierraspearman4759 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Isabelle Robbe-Dren lololololololol

    • @KimishaJames
      @KimishaJames 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      🤣🤣🤣

    • @lindseynovak8058
      @lindseynovak8058 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Everyone needs this information. Spectacular talk.

    • @abdul-q-khan
      @abdul-q-khan 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@lindseynovak8058 If she is gifted it doesn't mean that everyone can and should start relying on their ESL.
      I remember once upon a time in Pakistan, We were going in a Jeep and we noticed there was another jeep overtook us and there wasn't number plates on it.
      And a after while there were to police with 125 cc bike standing at road shoulder and waved to us to stop and we saw the other jeep of different make passed them, they asked us for registration of the jeep and we showed it. Then they told ok you can go. You only can feel it when it happens to you. We asked why they checked our jeep registration while the other jeep even passed in front of them didn't have number plates. They replied we doubted you. 😡🤬

    • @jeannieravenscraft4938
      @jeannieravenscraft4938 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Ha!

  • @azharmuhammedu5989
    @azharmuhammedu5989 ปีที่แล้ว +82

    Wow this is one of the best ted talks ever. The fact that Janine gets emotional gets back to her full strength throughout this talk makes her so strong. Her mom is so lucky to have her ❤️

  • @warnerrecordsvault5869
    @warnerrecordsvault5869 3 ปีที่แล้ว +83

    thank you Janine Driver for motivating my daughter when thing went really had for her.
    It was really so bad that she attempted committing murder until you invited Mrs Lyra Holt Dean for your TED show program.
    Am really so grateful for her finical assistance in my daughters life thank you so much once again.

    • @bennyhinnministries3027
      @bennyhinnministries3027 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I see please do you mind if i know how this woman helped you cause i have been hearing people testifying i really want to know who this Mrs Lyra Holt Dean is. I even searched her name on goggle she was all over but i want to confirm if she can help me too.

    • @warnerrecordsvault5869
      @warnerrecordsvault5869 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@bennyhinnministries3027 Honestly is not something we can talk about on the comment section i can give you her direct so you can contact@lyraholtdean; KOM that her direct mail feel free talking to her and thank me later SMILES.

    • @KimberleyB
      @KimberleyB 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@bennyhinnministries3027 this is scammy. You'll notice this account posted identical comments on different videos. Please be careful.

    • @hadesisbaby
      @hadesisbaby 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@KimberleyB the account replying to the comment is part of the scam lol they responded to all of the other accounts comments

    • @lucienoon7262
      @lucienoon7262 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ah!

  • @huiy.8767
    @huiy.8767 4 ปีที่แล้ว +513

    What a wonderful public speech! The speaker uses effective speaking techniques such as story telling, repetition, audience engagement, body language and vocal variety, to make her speech memorable and persuasive. I am going to follow her call and use this ESL in my day-to- day life.

    • @peterbarker3574
      @peterbarker3574 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      You sound like you must be a Toastmaster. AmI correct?

    • @robhatesyoutube
      @robhatesyoutube 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Is she holding you hostage and making u comment?

    • @mayasanchez4014
      @mayasanchez4014 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I found the story telling and repetitions a bit tiring by the end I have to say, maybe not for everyone

    • @blessingsbest6838
      @blessingsbest6838 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      She is good!

    • @geewiz8253
      @geewiz8253 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Maya Sanchez I don’t know how you don’t understand that all she was doing was showing several examples to compare... and contrast. Not rocket science or a reason to see her speech as a negative but 🤷‍♀️

  • @zahriahkaharah2034
    @zahriahkaharah2034 3 ปีที่แล้ว +368

    She is absolutely captivating. I loved this ted talk. Easily made my top faves.

    • @danfelmusic447
      @danfelmusic447 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same

    • @aidanpowell9143
      @aidanpowell9143 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I would also have loved to be in the audience. She captivated the audience's attention very well.

    • @jocelynford4209
      @jocelynford4209 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Right! This may be one of the best talks I have heard. Powerful and enlightening.

    • @drivebyquipper
      @drivebyquipper 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      What's up with the Spanx?

  • @deannaseguin4342
    @deannaseguin4342 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    We always read each other's body language...we just haven't honed the decoding skills to the level this lady has.....she was very compelling and amazing....strong woman....loved it!!!!

  • @gabrielaloyola2043
    @gabrielaloyola2043 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I loved the talk, now I'll see anger differently. Also, I don't know if I'm right because she put "I miss you mom" in the last slide, but I am really sorry for her loss, it is a beautiful thing to honor her with this talk and sharing ESL to teach people another way to help others

  • @thezebrahippyhall8528
    @thezebrahippyhall8528 4 ปีที่แล้ว +266

    As a single mother to an angry, frustrated little boy who’s full of love, Thank You. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

    • @atlas3732
      @atlas3732 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      You're welcome

    • @neoanderson4840
      @neoanderson4840 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yeah agree to the kids anger and the response from his mother is what makes better parenting 🤗

    • @estrid8616
      @estrid8616 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      man i was like your son when growing up. wish my mom had seen this video. great of you to utilize it and not dismiss your son. amazing mother

    • @Yeniphur
      @Yeniphur 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I've been there and I wish I knew then what you know now. I wish you the very best with your spirited little boy. Please remember to take care of yourself as well. Being a single mother is VERY draining. ❤️❤️❤️

  • @TamiePryor
    @TamiePryor 4 ปีที่แล้ว +228

    With typical people, eye contact probably a good clue, and I have used this many times to judge someone's truthfulness. However, people on the autism spectrum do not make eye contact and if they are low on the spectrum, they will seem like everyone else, but will avoid looking you straight in the eye. Teaching law enforcement that certain behaviors means someone is guilty or up to something can be dangerous. Unseen handicaps can make people seem to be something that they are not.
    This reminds me of a case in Aurora, IL several years back where someone was shot and killed by police. He had a BB gun, someone called the cops thinking it was a real gun, he did not drop the gun when the cops approached. They killed him, of course. He was deaf.

    • @toshir0m1
      @toshir0m1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      What exactly are "typical people" supposed to be? No two situations will be the same, and the "general" principles Janince Driver uses here are useless. I mean, useless to everyone but her, since it helps her scam a lot of people.

    • @ernawiget868
      @ernawiget868 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Tamie Pryor TOY. GUNS NEED TO. B. OUT- LAWED. SUE THE TOY COMPANIES 👀

    • @Traumatised311
      @Traumatised311 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      I am autistic and what you said is true , people often don't expect things I do or I have done , they can nevr tell what I am up to

    • @tiffanybruner6002
      @tiffanybruner6002 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@Traumatised311 do you feel that is a gift or a curse, if you don't mind me asking??

    • @Traumatised311
      @Traumatised311 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@tiffanybruner6002 , both curse and a blessing but more of a curse , cause i am more often misinterprated and misunderstood

  • @kiptomkin8549
    @kiptomkin8549 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Miss Beautiful Janine,
    Your talk "rocked" my world! I thank you from the deepest depths of my heart & soul.
    I'm not much more than a counselor, but i'm the founder of a nonprofit that works with the homeless, has a safe house for women & children, is a Community Outreach Center, runs an animal rescue, has a small thrift store & lots more. I'm an advocate for Veterans as well as for delicate situations for those recently freed from years in prison & EVERYTHING you brought up up in your talk filled my heart with gladness & hope.
    Thank you for all you do.
    Blessing & mst respectfully yours.

    • @tanakaren1822
      @tanakaren1822 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes you are much more - an embodied angel, doing needed & challenging work!! Thank you for your open careing heart & persistent efforts, dear one!

  • @traceyschneider3296
    @traceyschneider3296 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I’m seeing this for the first time and I can’t leave this TH-cam until I say that I’m praying for your Mom and hope she is well though the video says it was posted 2 years ago! I cried! She made an impact on me though I loved your tremendously informative video as well! This is my favorite TEDtalk of all time! You and yours are in my prayers! ❤️

  • @MeetByTheRiver
    @MeetByTheRiver 4 ปีที่แล้ว +337

    First of all, everything she said is true, however, people with anxiety, depression, all do these same things. I live with really bad Anxiety and horrible depression. I am always asked why do I never look at people in the eye when I talk to them. I always answer, because I feel claustrophobic, and I do, it makes me have a panic attack every time I look at someone in the face when I am having a conversation with someone new, or when they are next to me. My nerves skyrocket when I have to look at someone in the face when I talk to them. However, I can look someone in the face, in the eyes when I listen.

    • @rachell2099
      @rachell2099 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I feel exactly the same as you… every way. And claustrophobic is the true feeling. But yes, looking while listening is nice.. are you an artist? I am in love with human faces their range of differences, measuring and drawing them even if only in my mind. Good day!

    • @MeetByTheRiver
      @MeetByTheRiver 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Rachel L I’m not a professional artist if that’s what you mean? I don’t draw or paint as much as I honestly should, though I like to write more. My real art skills is in writing, I love to create a work of art through a story, though I never do it professionally, lol I also hardly ever post them online anyway, because I never finish them. The few I do post are just fanfictions. But, I can appreciate the art of profile expressions. I never got into wanting to draw profiles a lot even though I practiced a lot to try and draw different types of faces I never could do it as well as I thought it in my head lmao. It always turned into some animated version of myself for some reason, I put it up to me just being horrible at drawing and left it at that, but I’m gonna sound like a creep here, but I love to watch people’s expressions when I’m in like a public place, its not that I’m obsessed I just curious and also nosey, lol you can tell a lot about a conversation through someone’s expressions sometimes. It’s also a little frustrating because I can’t look at someone’s face when I talk unless there’s like more than a arms distance so I’m always guessing peoples reactions as a way. Man, living with social anxiety sucks, especially because people always assume the worst because you don’t look them in the eye or is just a little standoffish

    • @BeeLove369
      @BeeLove369 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      You just proved her point love. ❤😊😉

    • @slhayhoe
      @slhayhoe 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Agreed 100%. ME TOO

    • @slhayhoe
      @slhayhoe 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Rickie j 100%

  • @paulineboucher7074
    @paulineboucher7074 3 ปีที่แล้ว +147

    I find her amazing, PTSD affects us all. I can hear it in your voice when you talk about the murder of the mom and daughters. In a odd way we can be exposed to so much and not have much of a reaction. Then a case comes along that blindsides you. A particular gruesome murder of 1 child still haunts me to this date. I am medically retired Thank goodness . Thank you Janine, you are fascinating and I love your passion !! Glad your mom got a second chance !!!

    • @julietv3863
      @julietv3863 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thanks for your service ❤️💕✝️

    • @stixx3342
      @stixx3342 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I completely agree with everything you say. But the end it states, I miss you mom, meaning unfortunately her mother is dead.

    • @drivebyquipper
      @drivebyquipper 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      She is overconfident and overbearing.

    • @TecnamTwin
      @TecnamTwin 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​​@@drivebyquipperOverconfident? Maybe you're just not used to a confident woman who has strong reasons to be confident. She's an industry expert and knows what she's talking about. Why do you feel threatened by her strength? You should get that checked out.

  • @kerrysmith4838
    @kerrysmith4838 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    This was the most informative talk I’ve heard in awhile. I’d love to see this speaker again.

  • @JohnWickPotter
    @JohnWickPotter 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    She really … she’s an excellent speaker. She showed her emotions & sometimes it can enhance the message. She hit nail on head.

  • @mirameli1756
    @mirameli1756 4 ปีที่แล้ว +434

    She is so dynamic, I really admire her and her speach was amazing and useful😮

    • @TheLeopard0
      @TheLeopard0 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      yeah she could be a real rabble rouser

    • @Darkphoenix3450
      @Darkphoenix3450 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      She tell you whatever you want to hear as long as you will pay her. (That is just the facts about her.)

    • @toshir0m1
      @toshir0m1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      so "dynamic"? Ffs people, don't make her job even easier, try to exercise at least SOME rationality.

    • @ChristopherYTDontchangemyname
      @ChristopherYTDontchangemyname 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@toshir0m1 what do you mean ?

    • @joseph-mariopelerin7028
      @joseph-mariopelerin7028 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      with a grain of salt...

  • @AmyNCole-luv4God
    @AmyNCole-luv4God 4 ปีที่แล้ว +187

    Weak clapping, audience.., she deserved so much more enthusiasm, in my belief, during this presentation. I appreciate the gift of knowing, the signs to look for, thanks to this informative video.

  • @natashanarushev3450
    @natashanarushev3450 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I just stumbled upon this accident yesterday at work. Im relistening to the whole talk again. Thank you.

  • @ishurayes4583
    @ishurayes4583 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    The wisdom i gained by this lady for this 30min is just amazing ❤❤❤❤

  • @crishall9522
    @crishall9522 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1098

    Oh man, people are gonna come after me for not making eye contact now lmao. Im guilty of a lot of this, i promise im not hiding anything. Im just autistic, ive almost been arrested a few times. Now i know why haha

    • @melclarke64
      @melclarke64 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      alot of people use autism as an excuse for bad behavior.

    • @lishangisbae9170
      @lishangisbae9170 4 ปีที่แล้ว +110

      Melvin Clarke Maybe, but some people genuinely have situations such as this because they have autism. I’m not dismissing your comment, I’m just stating that some people are genuine with their reasons for seeming suspicious but are actually innocent in reality.

    • @jpmorgain912
      @jpmorgain912 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Absolutely fuckang understand! Can't wait until Jesus comes back and allows skyscraper sized loctus monsters smack everybody's mom👍

    • @jpmorgain912
      @jpmorgain912 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@melclarke64 ---- your mom uses jungle fever to excuse her bad behavior👍

    • @jpmorgain912
      @jpmorgain912 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@lishangisbae9170 ---- I'm dismissing His comment because His mom uses jungle fever to excuse Her bad behavior👍

  • @cisrot
    @cisrot 3 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    The moment she mentioned Chris Watts my heart dropped

    • @AnxietyRat
      @AnxietyRat 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Same. He was also very bad at lying. Most people could tell SOMETHING was wrong with his behaviour. But as she said they didn't have the skills to KNOW why his behaviour was wrong and sending red flags.

    • @eunicestone838
      @eunicestone838 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      The very moment I saw Chris Watts speak for the first I had a horrible sinking feeling.

  • @RhettaPeoples
    @RhettaPeoples 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Mama has me in tears! I love her! She looks like a warrior.

  • @s4ndmanthorsminion637
    @s4ndmanthorsminion637 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    You had me in tear about your mom, but so happy she is fighting it , all love and prayer for her.

  • @carolmartin8781
    @carolmartin8781 4 ปีที่แล้ว +89

    Good stuff; but I have to point out that there are people who have difficulty with making eye contact for other reasons like mental illness, aspergers, fear, nervousness, etc.

  • @cmessett11
    @cmessett11 4 ปีที่แล้ว +354

    Am i the only one annoyed at how the camera is cutting off the top of her screen or nah?

    • @ogmma7364
      @ogmma7364 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      More annoyed about her repetitive sell on ESL, like we get it already, we ain't autistic..

  • @teeoffgolfclub1219
    @teeoffgolfclub1219 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    Probably the best presenter I have seen deliver a talk. Amazing.

  • @jorgegonzalezsossa7661
    @jorgegonzalezsossa7661 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    This is the best talk I've ever seen, I can't believe all the information this woman is delivered, fantastic job ! 👍

  • @junior.69420
    @junior.69420 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    These are the things I took as note but please watch the whole video it's really great :). Remember that context matters because some people who have autism may do eye blocking so be careful
    *_Eye Blocking_* : To protect sensitive information
    9:25
    *_Shoulder Shrugging_* : May indicate uncertainty
    18:00
    *_Lip Locking_* : "When we dont like what we see or here, our lips disappear" 20:55
    Bonus
    *_Anger_* : In the video she states that anger most of the time might be a secondary emotion to fear, sadness, anxiety
    23:38

    • @TheRealJanineDriver
      @TheRealJanineDriver 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you Junior! Yes, context does matter. People on the Spectrum often give less eye contact. xo, Janine

    • @may_0reo816
      @may_0reo816 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      fr

    • @gallorumrex
      @gallorumrex 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Not just Autism, but those with ADHD also.

  • @Posh718
    @Posh718 4 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    I really enjoy learning from this woman. She's so genuine and down to earth, and Real. it's hard not to love her!

    • @terahwieland8482
      @terahwieland8482 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Look up Paul Ekman. At one point there were some free things on his website and he has been at the research for a very long time.

  • @ladyjei
    @ladyjei 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Oh I love this! Your Mom swearing is so awesome...and accurate observations! Thank you! "Sometimes we have to fight for people that can't fight foe themselves!" LOVE!!!

  • @suzannehall
    @suzannehall 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I have to say THANK YOU. She breaks it down so easily. She has been an inspiration for me. God bless her

  • @jeannewagner8133
    @jeannewagner8133 4 ปีที่แล้ว +64

    This is the 3rd of her TED talks I've listened to and she is just amazing. Thank you for sharing your knowledge, Janine.

    • @alvinzady764
      @alvinzady764 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      her words are too amazing..how are you,hope you are good?

  • @bevoss7573
    @bevoss7573 3 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    She's fascinating! I almost didn't click, but I'm so glad I did. Definitely worth watching!

  • @sherrysunshine6986
    @sherrysunshine6986 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I would love to say thank you! Thank you Janine for helping us by giving you all. You shared hard and personal things to get the point across and it shows you really care ... . Thank you so much Janine from one loving soul to another! namaste

  • @tatsianakuzmiankova2414
    @tatsianakuzmiankova2414 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is the best Ted talk I have ever watched, and I watched a loooot. Thank you so much for this eye opening talk. Thank you for sharing this with the world and raising the awareness around body language.

  • @76Pou
    @76Pou 4 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    Best talk I have ever heard! I really needed this because I tend to miss social clues. I was dating and then married to more than one abuser, and being bullied and/or being taken advantage of so often! Finally, my therapist ordered me a dose of abstinence and living on my own until I learn and heal, or else, she was sure I would end up with the man that woul kill me.
    Thank you so much! I will be learning more about this, and continue Aikido classes for sure.

  • @MhamedHlioui
    @MhamedHlioui 4 ปีที่แล้ว +165

    27:34 .... in 34 second
    Use ESL to read body language:
    - Eye blocking (the person don't want you to see his eyes, to protect/hide his thoughts)
    - Shoulder shrugging (uncertain about something)
    - Lips disappearing (the person tights and presses his lips when he don't like what he sees or hears)

    • @robhatesyoutube
      @robhatesyoutube 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Ah... I finally see another person unimpressed by this lengthy presentation

    • @judichristopher4604
      @judichristopher4604 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@robhatesyoutube
      Move on random person... she is way above your pay grade...

    • @laurabloodiam
      @laurabloodiam 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@judichristopher4604 Indeed!

    • @JessBlake2
      @JessBlake2 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      ​@@judichristopher4604 She does not have sound scientific support for her claims. She uses the same strategies for fooling people that psychics do. Post hoc observations, bait and switch, making generalizations from subparts of the data without evidence, burying false data that is easy to believe because it sounds plausible, using appeals to mysterious phenomena by using concepts that can't be defined as if she has defined them, using sciencey sounding words occassionally to sound like an expert even though she uses the words incorrectly, etc, etc.

    • @amystarstimulusandcrypto4303
      @amystarstimulusandcrypto4303 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@JessBlake2 She worked for the government because of her skills. She is very qualified. Eye blocking is also used by people with autism and anxiety, but she has a depth of knowledge and an extensive background in profiling murderers for the government.

  • @eleanorrouxel122
    @eleanorrouxel122 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    This TED talk was the best I have ever seen, Janine!!!!! Thank you

  • @gambit9701
    @gambit9701 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is the Best Ted Talk I have ever watch!...im literally crying, oh how I wish
    Im more matured when i was 14 when my mother had to fight a cancer how I wish to comfort her, I realized how it really affect me know that im 19 how i deeply regret being there physically but not emotionally.Thank you for your inspiring story

    • @TheRealJanineDriver
      @TheRealJanineDriver 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Oganse!
      I'm so sorry to hear that when you were just 14-years old, your mother had to fight a cancer! I'm sure your mother knew you loved her with all your mighty. I remember when my mom was dying, I apologized for all the years I would ignore her phone calls when I was in college. She said, "Janine, that's what teenagers and young adults do, they are trying to find themselves. I let that go years ago." xo, Janine

  • @betty179
    @betty179 3 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    I cried when the mom came on. I’m beyond happy for them that she’s survived.
    And thaaannnk you so much for all this information 🙏🏾 I’ll definitely spread this info

  • @gzwerpjgbf
    @gzwerpjgbf 4 ปีที่แล้ว +73

    The emotion in her voice when she was talking about Chris Watts...

    • @GLPification
      @GLPification 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      which suddenly disappeared, then came back during the mom scene, then suddenly disappeared in a second.. come on ppl, wake up. (emotion fiber, cancer, kids... => rational/critical thinking = OFF)

    • @imlate3238
      @imlate3238 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@GLPification its almost like emotional things make people emotional. Strange.

    • @GLPification
      @GLPification 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      ​@@imlate3238this is what make people (and a lot of other species) social. that woman like facebook & marketers know it well and they are always looking on how to manipulate/exploit it for an outcome.

    • @lanajeanvecchione9659
      @lanajeanvecchione9659 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@GLPification Its true she is using emotion to captivate and manipulate people in a sense. She knows her stuff. She also knows how to dress very well to maximize her body. Great talk.

    • @lanajeanvecchione9659
      @lanajeanvecchione9659 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@imlate3238 This is true, that's why they always sell the lifestyle and not just a product.

  • @sacerrone
    @sacerrone 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Wow. I’m speechless. This is absolutely incredible. You are an amazing story teller- and had be captivated from the very first minute to the very end. Thank you!!!

  • @redisveryawesome23
    @redisveryawesome23 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Wow this was an amazing ted talk and i love that she wore her emotions proudly. Lots of respect and appreciation for her.

  • @SuperPurusothaman
    @SuperPurusothaman 4 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    First Ted talk I watched more than 15 min. Amazing information and the way she educated the listener was awesome

    • @judichristopher4604
      @judichristopher4604 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      RIGHT!!!! She took a (can be boring) subject and made it AMAZING...
      She is not only smart she teaches you something along the way.

  • @TyphanyGarcia
    @TyphanyGarcia 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Hola 👋🏽, Ted talk brief notes 📝 de nada
    ESL = everyone’s second language
    Fear & sadness- 2 missing emotions of a killer
    👁👁 glasses 👓
    E- eye closing ( eye blocking)
    S- shoulder shrug - uncertainty
    L- lip locking ( lip going in) ( when we don’t like what we see or hear our lips disappear)
    Eye blocking- ( timing) screen saver password- take away visuals
    Second and a half- hiccup
    -***9 seconds eyes closed exercise
    Anger - 2cd emotion to fear , anxiety and
    sadness

  • @jaredanderson7203
    @jaredanderson7203 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I came across this video trying to deal with devastating betrayal. This took my mind off the negative thoughts, perked my mood, and captivated my imagination. The topic was dark and I never would have thought it would give me hope and lighten my mood

  • @chrissasmithvlogs4000
    @chrissasmithvlogs4000 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Brought me to tears thank you for telling your story and giving knowledge

  • @jeannettearmendariz9824
    @jeannettearmendariz9824 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Janine , Thank you for sharing your expertise and your vulnerablity with us when talking about your momma.💗 You're mom is truly a hero ❤️

  • @melissastraugh4461
    @melissastraugh4461 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Amazing.. first thing I thought.. this lady has PASSION! And what a beautiful thing to watch when someone has that kind of passion.
    I laughed, I cried... even she laughed and cried.. so engaging, best ted talk I’ve seen in a while!

  • @jasonandrews2330
    @jasonandrews2330 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    This talk is riddled with debunked myths. As a therapist I can assure you that this is not always true. People eye block for many reasons not just one. Anger is not always a secondary emotion as recent research indicates, closed off body language does not always mean defensiveness. Crossed legs do not always mean comfortability. Closed eyes is not uncomfortable to many. When eyes are closed many people are seeking visualization in that area of the brain. So is what she said true? Absolutely in some cases and absolutely not in others.

  • @indraroy3894
    @indraroy3894 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I am grateful to Janine Driver for sharing this beautiful wisdom😊

  • @matinaverdusco2690
    @matinaverdusco2690 4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Janine Driver, you are an amazing speaker !!! Thank you for all this life saving information. Please let us know how your mom is doing. I was so happy you talked to the doctor and the truth surfaced. Your mom was so relieved. Keeping her in my prayers !!!!🌷

  • @yvonnerich1514
    @yvonnerich1514 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Absolutely amazing! Such great advice for parents, friends, and coworkers. I have listened to 3 other ones from Janine and each one is valuable. She is a "must share TED Talker "for sure.

  • @sarahlilledal5
    @sarahlilledal5 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love and enjoy watching and learning from great and inspiring speakers here on TED Talk. Thank you so much for sharing your talents and knowledge that enriches and blesses your viewers lives.👏 Warm Greetings from Norway!🇳🇴

  • @winniehernandez2805
    @winniehernandez2805 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you for the authenticity and genuineness which you are present. It made learning from you easy.

  • @sheryllallawa3692
    @sheryllallawa3692 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I am crying while watching this. I have so many to thank for.

  • @chynnhowe
    @chynnhowe 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I did not expect to cry. Excellent Ted talk. One of the best I’ve watched in years.

  • @thebandvia
    @thebandvia หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Janine! Thank you for who you are + for all you do.

  • @aultunwhite4988
    @aultunwhite4988 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    this is in the top 5 most informative presentations on youtube....absolutely uncompromisingly honest!!

  • @LG-jb9zs
    @LG-jb9zs 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    she literally just describes someone who's anxious. Like, I have anxiety. I'm not meeting your eyes because I'm anxious. I'm shrugging and fidgeting because I have anxiety.

  • @Thankful_.
    @Thankful_. 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Precious moms testimony brought tears to my eyes. Great talk!

    • @toshir0m1
      @toshir0m1 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes, it brought tears to your eyes. She's expecting that exact reaction because she needs the emotional appeal to convince you without the slightest shred of scientific credibility.

  • @amj6644
    @amj6644 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The best talk I’ve ever had the privilege of listening to

  • @shelbylangston329
    @shelbylangston329 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Janine, thank you. I watched your interview with mel. I'm listening to your audiobook "you can't.lie to me" now and I feel I need the hardcover.. again, thank you for sharing with us, for your vulnerability with us and for guiding us along in our self discovery.

  • @ruwnglalalfina9008
    @ruwnglalalfina9008 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    This is one of the best Ted talk! It took all the flick of an eye. The message coveys depths of knowledge!

  • @fanikokkinopliti4919
    @fanikokkinopliti4919 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Great talk!!! I love the passion , dynamism and sensitivity at the same time, this lady sends out!

  • @seethroughwalls
    @seethroughwalls 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Damn powerful. Thank you, Janine.

  • @siddharthnagani
    @siddharthnagani 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Janine,
    I like to pay my sincere repects to you and how you have helped the ones who suffered, and contributing so much for the people.
    Because, you know that sharing without expecting a return, is difficult but true way of life.
    Thank you Ms. Driver

  • @surrected4526
    @surrected4526 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Well done, indeed. Thank you. Your mother's message was heartwarming. Bless you both. Sending love and love and love 💕💞💕

  • @prepperjonpnw6482
    @prepperjonpnw6482 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I love this woman’s presentations soooo much! Every TEDx talk she does is better than the previous one.
    Cheers

  • @whatistheamac3667
    @whatistheamac3667 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I am really glad I dropped my prejudices that Ted Talks were boring. Literally became a thing I liked spending time listening while studying after this video ❤

  • @toypoodle50
    @toypoodle50 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Favourite talk Ever. She is extraordinary! ESL. Wow.

  • @lizzievega7455
    @lizzievega7455 4 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    One of the best things I've ever seen in my life. Thank you for sharing! Best learning experience in a long time.

  • @Maryjane13400
    @Maryjane13400 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    What a phenomenal talk... Thank you so much for sharing... love Janine's mom, such a warrior. 💜 from TX

  • @corinnemcleod1804
    @corinnemcleod1804 3 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    There is more sadness in her voice taking about him than he ever showed

    • @nghhn9687
      @nghhn9687 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Who?

    • @janetbrennan3882
      @janetbrennan3882 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Would like to share my body language things that I learned from around the world brains of people who respected my psychic ability I was born with as some things are not in books and would love to share with you as I am sr retired now and would like to give to you a nd would love to talk to you and help your mother too Janet Brennan Bklyn ny. I am real

  • @traceyquick4768
    @traceyquick4768 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I admire your courage to show emotion in your talks and to keep talking, it feels like your talking to me not at me and its so more engaging and memorable. These ESL lessons are interesting. I'm very visual and purposefully block my own eyes to stop overwhelm. I see too much.

  • @narniagirl1420
    @narniagirl1420 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Having been raised in a DV situation, for many years I was afraid to look men in the eyes; there are OTHER reasons than lying for not looking people in the eyes.

  • @motv-independentthinkingfo3817
    @motv-independentthinkingfo3817 3 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    Janine Driver stole my attention and kept me interested and excited, ESL EVERYBODY'S SECOND LANGUAGE!

  • @_TheArtChannel
    @_TheArtChannel 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much for your courage to use your voice and knowledge to serve humanity.

  • @alishacanno8340
    @alishacanno8340 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This was the best Ted talk I’ve seen in a long time.

  • @rdayal73
    @rdayal73 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Wow.... Just wow... Now i know how many moments i have missed with my family specially my daughters... I am going to promise them, I am not going to miss anymore ...
    THANK YOU JANINE, God Bless You.

  • @funguscreature4721
    @funguscreature4721 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    as an autistic person, i do all of these entirely naturally. yes, a lot of these things can be essential for finding criminals, but many neurodivergent people display these traits with no guilt behind them at all

    • @redsloane879
      @redsloane879 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      She's specifically talking about her time working with murderers and their body language..... naturally 'regular' ppl may react differently or the same depending on context.

    • @averyjoycelynbarakudablock4139
      @averyjoycelynbarakudablock4139 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@redsloane879 Absolutely .Thank you.🌱
      I find this to be a key point.

  • @chantakchantal6065
    @chantakchantal6065 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    One of the best Tedx I've watched, thank you Janine.

  • @notfromhere6839
    @notfromhere6839 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    One of the best and most useful Ted talks I’ve ever heard!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

  • @qmydee1481
    @qmydee1481 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you. Going to look up more of your work. You are a blessing. Thank you

  • @rwatson2609
    @rwatson2609 4 ปีที่แล้ว +137

    Exceptional Ted talk, this amazing lady put a lot of herself into this.

    • @toshir0m1
      @toshir0m1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      No, she's a charlatan. You might want to strengthen your epistemology, brother.

    • @djangoalvarado6703
      @djangoalvarado6703 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yeah this lady I'm not sure I can put into words how amazing this woman is because she knows a thing or two about a thing or two and she makes you feel assured that what she saying it's some real talk the truth no doubt

    • @lungulst
      @lungulst 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I don't know this woman but her voice is hard to hear for me. I simply cannot listen. I like peacefully, worm voices. Too bad. Hope next time it will talk with more affection.

    • @rwatson2609
      @rwatson2609 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@lungulst It's these types of talks where the full heart is invested that make an impact on me.

    • @rwatson2609
      @rwatson2609 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@toshir0m1 Perhaps.

  • @musiimefosca6714
    @musiimefosca6714 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I don't really know the right words to use, but honestly, this was my best Ted talk so far.
    I've not come across such information before, thank you , I really appreciate.

  • @debireginabroughton9982
    @debireginabroughton9982 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wow! I love you Janine...you taught me so much today...thank you thank you thank you! You're a beautiful person!

  • @lorrainemarcketta489
    @lorrainemarcketta489 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Janine -- I absolutely love what you do! I can't imagine how many people you've helped with your 'street smart' genius! I also have the ability to see differently than a lot of people -- could be because I had a difficult childhood. It gave me a talent for reading faces and body language. Thanks so much for sharing your gifts. Using this talent to help people is so valuable and also gratifying.

  • @bencesz
    @bencesz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Janine is so passionate, you absolutely mirror her feelings during her speech. God bless her Mum, I hope she is okay.

  • @tamikamaloney9814
    @tamikamaloney9814 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am so grateful for this contribution, to the people and we are blessed to have people like this who are willing to share the knowledge that they have and for sharing the private part of their lives too as an example.
    There is a alot of fear, and the only way to deal with the fears is to confront the fears and with truth.
    I am saddened by the, tragic loss of lives in regards to the murders .

  • @crystalminnella8907
    @crystalminnella8907 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    This has been one of the most amazing Ted talks. She grasp and held the audience and engaged them, put parts of herself and spoke with so much passion. This is one of the lessons I will not forget. Thank you