I Hired A Speech Therapist To Fix My Boring Voice
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- Kane Diep has always had a monotone voice. He finally decided to hire a speech therapist to fix his boring voice. He had no idea just how life-changing the journey would be.
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"Why am I so awkward?"
honestly me.
if you say "honestly me" i believe you
@@AwesomeMan2696 why does that make them awkward?
me too
I relate to that question and this video on a deeply spiritual level. As I've gotten older, I've realized that I'm not nearly as expressive as I'd like to be, and that coupled with not always knowing what to say in social settings makes me come off as super awkward, boring, and maybe even a little mean. I don't want that though! That's not who I am. This video has made me think about some things.
That and the part where he is like 'I'm feeling so much. Yikes.'
This will sound weird, but Kane’s determination to become his better self is charming.
Right?! What a dude. And his speech was amazing. :)
RIGHT!! Every video from the shoe lifts to fashion he really gives it a try and (to me) more importantly tries to have fun while growing
Kristin Chang The quality he strives for is evident in everything he does. Yet he remains humble. A sweetie pie.
determination is widely held as an attractive trait... "weird" lmao people think they're special for having normal thoughts
it doesnt sound weird cuz hes gay
Literally everyone was like 'I thought you didn't like me!?'
I feel sooo bad for him 😕😂
I was thinking, what great friends he has made who were willing to be both kind and honest with him. He's got friends who are so invested in his well-being, they were willing to share the hard things with him.
I felt the same way too!!
Immy Smith this is me because I don’t really smile lol it’s kind of awkward for me
i know it’s so sad! all of my school friends told
me they hated me and/or thought i hated them when i first met them cause i have an RBF :(( it makes me so upset honestly. !
Learning how to communicate more effectively is the real life hack nobody talks about
what are you talking about? lol it's a whole profession
Except there are thousands of coaches out there on that.
hehe good one. message me.
The thing is that nowadays everybody's used to insulting everyone on twitter. But when it comes to real life they break.
Technology, man.
Michelle Xie this video was kind of also how to manipulate people video
Might be the first buzzfeed video I find genuinely interesting and purposeful
Samuel The video with the 2 girls that had chronic pain was also interesting to me. But it’s strange how it was never followed up.
@@xSunnyDaysx I rarely watch buzzfeed since it's mainstream trash but of courrse there is probably more than 1 good video on their channel
Samuel I haven’t watched Buzzfeed since theTry Guys stopped.
But i understand you
Dee Cookie Oh really? I was really hoping for an update. The series ended a bit weird. And there was no update wether the laser therapy fully helped them recover or not. So weird. I was hooked on that segment.
same here. He's my favorite one now
This is my voice one day on speech therapy.
ThIS IS MY voice ONE WEEk on spEEch therApy.
THIS IS MY VOICE ONE MONTH ON SPEECH THERAPY!
omgno
That’s exactly what’s going on
I am so glad Toutube doesn't allow or tags.
Sister shook
😭😭
I really need this! I'm SO monotone and it doesn't help that I'm also sarcastic.
Friends, family, and coworkers all say I sound and speak like Tina Belcher
Tina Belcher is the best.
I'm monotone too, all my jokes comes off as offensive
I got in trouble at my callcenter job constantly for having a monotone voice. I couldn’t spend 8 hours faking it all day.
Tina Belcher is bae though 😭❤️
Same!
When he told the story about being 6 and being told not to be so curious and stop asking question....
I felt that
i relate so hard to this
THAT WAS strongly impactful.
same. it was heartbreaking honestly
you felt what? the air?
I lived in an Islamic house ”and I still live in”
And I asked my parents once about god’s shape and why we don't see him
They said
Be careful
Satan is playing with your head
Stop asking these haram questions
"This is my voice, 1 day on speech therapy."
*1 month later*
*Kane delivers a 30min heartfelt and genuine speech to 500 strangers*
Taufik Johari lol TED talk 💀
Becomes a politician
ive never even considered the fact that something like this actually exists and I feel incredibly ignorant. I’m so grateful to have learned about it through this video. this was so well done, thought provoking, and informative. this is how ALL buzzfeed videos should be. inspirational!
jenn jayemcee it definitely exists, people always think I hate them or and mad when I’m really not.
jenn jayemcee Here in Holland it’s very common. Children with speech problems go to a speech therapist at a young age.
But the therapist in this video is also focused on presentation.
@@xSunnyDaysx i think they were referring to the connection of how we communicate and emotions and stability
SeaQueSea Aaah, i didn’t thought of that.
Austin Wood that’s unfortunate :( just curious, would you ever go to a speech therapist like Kane in this video? And does the misunderstandings affect you emotionally??
I feel bad for Kane because he seems like he's very focused which can come off to others as disinterested. This tends to happen to people that have been taught that work is work. You end up not forming work relationships.
This is me. I'm an extremely hard worker to the point I don't see the need to make genuine friends at work, I just see them as acquaintances that I small-talk with because my first priority is doing well at my job. However, it's getting harder and harder to work with my co-workers because I'm realizing that they are growing further away from me. I hope I can redeem myself to be a better friend than a co-worker.
There’s nothing wrong with that. You need to separate business from personal here and there
To be honest I wish people at work would just talk about work, everything else is a distraction and if I wanted to talk about other stuff I wouldn't do it while at work. That's not how other people are, though, so I realize I need to change myself instead of expect other people to change, but it's hard to change when your motivation for something might be seemingly different.
Being an anxious person and very expressive with my voice I appreciate monotone voices because it feels like everything is actually chill and safe lol
That Speech therapist seems like an incredible human being!
She's using her techniques to make us think that (sarcasm)
A milf and a dangerous one too, she can literally be anything and for some reason I love it 😂💯
sexy af
An incredibly weird human being.
That therapist was so good at her job in every appointment
She also talks with her eyes as well.
Thank you! ☺️
@@walterwhite5578
What do you mean talk with your eyes?
she should do all the announcements on trains and buses. and on google maps. makes you feel assured that you're going the right way.
and she is cute :)
How could someone possibly tell a child they are asking too many questions? That’s heart breaking.
My mom would tell me the same thing. 😔
My mother did.
and a teacher for that matter....... :(
The worst thing you can tell a child. Asking questions is how they learn to understand the world around them. Children have a scientific mind.
You definitely aren't around too many kids huh lol
I teach kindergartners, I'm with them from 6:30am to 6pm
If you don't shut it down quick, then you will literally waste the day answering nonstop random questions that half the time they don't even care what the answer is.
It can definitely be annoying lol
this is my voice 1 week with a speech therapist...
tHiS iS mY vOiCE afTeR oNe moNtH wItH a sPeEcH thEripISt
hahhaaha
thIS is mY VOIce afTER oNE yeAR WIth A spEEch therapist.
Asdfghjkl best comment!
hahaHA!
Read my name :)
“Why am I so awkward?”
I felt that.
Me too.
@Sasuke420 Awkward...
@Sasuke420 Yes. How's Josh's house at 3am?
whats the timing??
Sasuke420 Alright! Let’s go. You tell me when you’re free.
Can we do a fix my boring life next
Starring me sksksk
Go to school and make money
Same
same here
do stuff. pick up a bunch of hobbies and JUST DO IT
Me: ooo i should try this
Speech therapist: *EYE CONTACT*
Me: haha nope.
i Stan haha I’m with you
You got this.
Hahaha yup pretty much.
Too true! I will literally turn my body away from the people I'm talking to to avoid eye contact.
omg KSJSHFJS same
This video is really eye opening. I have the same problem. Pair that with my shyness and you get a girl with a lot of barriers and missed opportunities for friendship. Before this video, I viewed my speech and shyness as "not my problem". If someone misunderstands my monotone voice, it's their fault for judging before really getting to know me. Also, I know people who have big reactions but constantly roll their eyes behind backs - aka fake people. So I've never had a desire to be less monotone because I thought it would seem fake. Now I realize that this IS my problem, and it's preventing me from living my best life. I need to start changing. (Speak Yourself!! Connects so much more now!)
I agree with you... what we thought was not our issue, really affects us negatively in the long run.
The secret to charisma: try to make people feel good. People want to be around people who make them feel good about themselves. Laugh at their jokes, compliment the nice things they do, etc.
It's not fake--more than anything it's just letting people actually know how you feel. Sometimes I think something is funny but it may not naturally compel me burst out laughing--I can still summon up a chuckle for something.
I mean, think about it--I'm willing to bet that when you think about the most charismatic and like-able people you know in real life, they are the people who make you feel good. So try to make others feel good.
Even just doing little stuff like trying to give a little laugh here and there will make a difference. And making other people feel good makes them want to continue that--so they'll try to treat you well too.
@@brandonhern You just know the secret of life ! ( i'm 100% agree with you )
I recently met a person that speaks in a pretty flat way, with rarely any kind of inflexion and emotion when speaking and that have had a tiger parenting style. I wonder if she is happy or is just afraid of showing emotions... Seems that is as expressive as Kane at the beginning! Very interesting... as she is from Asian descent too. Wonder if it has to be with the kind of parenting. I think this would be useful for her... but probably doesn't appreciate some else to point this out... even she is already pointed it out herself.
@@brandonhern That's an effective way to reframe this topic and it reminds me of a quote I've seen the other day: people may not remember what you told them, but they remember how you made them feel.
The change in his voice is subtle but the difference is huge.
The way I talk is very similar to his so I’d like to change too
wow the speech therapist is actually super smart
kristin tyler actually? you thought speech therapists can’t be smart? lmao
candysweet434 no that’s not what I meant! I meant she had a really creative approach!
Haha I was gonna say wtf lol
and hot af lol
candysweet434 Yes, you expect a speech therapist to be smart about that subject, but it's crazy how interconnected she showed speech to be.
I typically don't comment on youtube videos but I felt compelled to leave a comment for this video. Although I love Ladylike, As/Is and Nifty, I feel like your videos are always the most charming, honest and self-reflective. Its a joy to watch any videos you make. Keep being the amazing, open, and honest person you've been and I look forward to many more videos. Happy New Year!!!
That speech therapist is outstanding.
As a speech language pathologist this video made me so happy! I feel that our profession is misunderstood. Speech therapy is way more than just fixing lisps! I could definitely see the progress he made throughout the video; wonderful job!
Yes! Absolutely. Our field is highly misunderstood.
Kane is admirable for putting his insecurities up in videos for us to watch and learn.
I think my speech is normal but I’m definitely awkward in social situations. People think I’m aloof. Should I like... do this?
If you want to do it, then go for it! I'm an SLP and I think the misconception a lot of people have about us is that we literally just work on speech sounds (e.g., lisps or stuttering). In actuality, we work in a lot of different domains (cognitive-linguistic impairments, swallowing/feeding disorders, receptive/expressive language impairments etc.,). One of the domains we can work on is social communication. In fact, one of the clinics I know of in Chicago works with many adolescents and adults on social communication (e.g., in the work setting, for dating, etc.) and they even work with companies to improve communication throughout the whole team.
Many speech-language clinics provide consults where individuals can go and explain their needs/desires re: communication skills and see if it would be the right fit for them (e.g., SpeechIRL in Chicago) - this way they can get a better idea of what's possible without having to commit to therapy. If a private speech clinic is cost prohibitive, sometimes a university clinic can be the better route because you'll have a grad student working with you (typically supervised by a certified SLP) so the cost per session is lower (e.g, Northwestern University's SLP clinic). Hope this helps anybody reading/passing through here.
@@asmamakesvideos1729 That's so cool! Of course my awkwardness may be less a lack of social knowledge and more a lack of confidence/abundance of anxiety, but maybe I'll give it a try some day. :)
I didn't know Gaga was also a voice therapist. Such a multi talented queen.
Singing and performing is actually just a hobby for her.
THIS. This here is her main thing.
I THOUGHT THE SAME THING!!
she looks and sounds just like her
I came down to the comments to write the same thing lol
@@stirfry7987 I was just waiting for her to tell him _there be a hundred people in a room._
Can she fix my personality?
Mandy G No, only YOU can!
😂😂😂
Speech therapists need more recognition. I worked with one for 12 years (started at around 6 months and ended at 13) and it changed my life. I had an extreme speech impediment and had to work on about 7 different things. Now I can actually talk normally and I can be understood!
Allie Lindon-Lake same!
Same but now I got my tounge pierced and now I’m noticing that the same things as before so now I’m doing it myself
How did they know you had a speech impediment at 6 months
Isobel Higgs they have weekly group sessions with new mums to help speech development
Isobel Higgs because of the way you baby talk they will be like a slur or lisp that’s how they found out on ne
I never thought his voice was "boring" I always thought it was relaxing kind of like Bob Ross but I guess most people wouldn't consider it a compliment if you told them "your voice makes me fall asleep"
Miss_Kisa94 it’s boring asf
Girl please, his voice is boring af
It's not relaxing..disrespectful to compare it to Bob Ross
@@ivanichianus chill piggy
I think it's nice and soothing too, but I totally get how without video editing he could easily cross over into the boring/monotone territory.
I find it relaxing too tbh. It's not boring tbh
My biggest problem is that 90% of everything i say to people outside of my family is answered with "What?".
OMG same, why though??
I have the same problem. I have a pretty quiet voice and I'm not very determined as I speak.
Aino I just mumble because lack of confidence
My voice is deep and people have trouble hearing me cause I'm also quiet
I havr tmj so I can't open my mouth that wide. So when I talk its mumbled. So everyone is like what??
I got to see Kane speak at BU and he was amazing on stage. He put a lot of passion and emotion in giving his speech, which made his message really shine. The little things he included, from the little jokes to the concept of saving face, made him really relatable as an Asian American and most importantly as a person. Meeting him in person was even better as he was really sweet, kind, and patient even with people like me who were simply too starstruck to make coherent sentences. Thank you Kane for coming to BU, giving such an amazing speech, and being an awesome person!! ^_^
Wow, this was not how I thought this video would go
I know right, but it was great.
Kane was so me when he goes ”when you were at my house were we friends then?"
He was a little terrified 😂 "My life is a lie"
not his fault. asian households are usually limited when it comes to emotional expression
In the Philippines it's also an intimidation technique to look someone in the eyes, it's a bad thing in their culture.
Countries To Go ya I've seen that before. Strange.
well swedish households aren't. and I also have this speach problem.
it's actually quite normal
ummm no, a lot of asian languages are very dynamic and have lots of tones wtf
No what he means is not the language being emotionally restrictive, he means the culture around asian parenting is that emotional expression is limited.
One of the best videos I’ve ever seen.
So vulnerable.
He exposed him self.
So thank.
I'm studying to become a speech therapist and I've been thinking about switching to a different major, but this video has shown me what a difference it can make in people's lives, in a more real way than the textbooks can. I think I'm going to keep going down this path...
Maybe give me a discount
That's awesome! I have vcd (vocal cord dysfunction) and it was so helpful and amazing with fixing my public speaking (which is a huge part of my job) with my overly wet mouth when I do speeches.
It's a really impactful carreer. I was also discouraged through the first half of my undergrad, but when I started treating people with real disorders like aphasia or dysarthria, I began feeling that deep change in their quality of life, and it became an amazing and rewarding experience.
Just to put things in perspective: from all the pathologies and disorders we are taught to treat, the one in the video is not even one of them. And even then, it made a huge difference in Kane's life. Imagine the kind of difference you make when a post-stroke patient recovers speech. Or when you help an elderly person with Parkinson's Disease to be heard in between the noise of a crowded nursing home.
“We all got inner fire.. why do you look like you’ve got heart burn?!” 😂😂😂
Iris The Virus i
That was so funny and cute!
I feel like it’s gotta be harder in America cuz everyone expect everyone to be expressive and happy.
Yo the speech therapist kind of looks like Lady Gaga when she was in A Star Is Born in some angles.
LOOKS ASIDE I'm learning a lot in this video. I'm very monotone and chill and I think these tips will really help me on the dating scene too wow.
ibhouse i thought the same!!!
She does!!
Ikr!
ibhouse l was waiting to see if anyone had seen that too lol
i thought the same lol
How come I’m feeling so proud of someone I’ve never met?
Because he's COME...SO...FAR!
I mean, I think. I don't know him either.
Gets a hair transplant... wears a hat 24/7
I know! Waiting for that reveal!
@@sasukecoochieha i'm intrigued to see it too. You can see some of the front of his hair and i have to say it looks pretty full for what i've seen and it's grown out a bit
Firetail that’s a myth
I heard Kane was let go in the buzzfeed layoffs and it makes watching this all the more heartbreaking. I've adored him for so long. Im not a guy, I'm not gay, and I'm not asian but I have felt a connection to him and found him inspiring. I can't believe they let someone who has made content like this for them go :'(
He was let go. I loved this video so much I am following him on Twitter and there is a post about that.
khaxjc1 aww that’s so disappointing to hear. He seemed like he really gave it his all in creating content and had good relationships with his coworkers. Times are tough perhaps
look at the bright side: he left a mark, a legacy :) from now on, he's free to conquer new heights
Why was he let go?
Exactly
he got a hair transplant but still wears a hat 24/7...
I guess he just likes it now
that's what i was thinking
It's a habit most likely. It's like me I love wearing my hair down, but out of habit I put it up all the time. It's hard to break those habits.
Probabably there's a video coming up about it
and wearing a hat makes you lose your hair more lmao
"My boring voice" omg this is actually mood
Iconic why do i see u everywhere
Iconic i saw u on vox too
@@falloncarrington5977 Ive never seen this guy anywhere.
Just STFU gen z kids are so cringe normalizing bad things as if it's cool
TheWildZorua Well ITS MY OPINION!!!!!!!!!!! I WILL SUE FOR CYBERBULLY!!!!! 🤬🤬😡😡😡😡🤬🤬🤬🤬
he’s so cute when he finds out Freddie didn’t think they were friends in the beginning 😂
Amy, the speech therapist, was really outstanding. I like how specific and simple her feedback and instructions.
I am exactly the same way, and oh boy can I tell you how many times it has affected me socially and personally. I never knew it was that bad until I found out that people stayed away from me because I came across as ‘rude’ or ‘arrogant’ or just plain ‘awkward’. All because of my voice! (& partly because I am so shy, I didn’t say much which made it worse, thus the seeming ‘arrogant’ part). So yeah... this really helps me remember to keep at it and remember that I will get better in time. 😊
Savannah Vu off topic but i love you hair!!
This is hard for me too because people will initially approach me because when I'm mentally unaware I look friendly and approachable, but as soon as they speak to me I'm too "awkward" or "weird", or "short and uninterested" because I'm shy and self conscious and not interesting or passionate about anything to hold conversation, which are not appealing qualities in a woman. It hurts, but I'm trying to become better at opening myself.
ugh me too it’s been a big problem of mine forever + I speak to face when i get excited which makes me stutter a lot and that calls for many awkward social interactions.
kali0589 lol me too guys. I’m glad others know what I mean. 😊
Leila thanks darl 😊
the fact that you absorbed that much information in a month or so really baffles me. aaaaa i love this video im so happy u got to discover new things about urself and that u were able to address something that has been bothering u for a while:DD 2019 has barely begun and its already the year of character development and self acceptance HNGNGG this is so wholesome thank u for sharing ur experience!
I like how honest Freddie is with him. That's what true friends are for.
If this guys voice is monotone I'm in big trouble. My voice is 100% more monotone than his.
Moderategamer / my voice is deep and monotone. And when I show emotion in my voice it sounds like I’m yelling a little. Idk it’s weird
Yeah too
Jeremiah Blake that’s the same problem i have, I’ve been trying so hard to fix it
Absolute Omg how you found anything to fix it? I have the same issue.
His voice isnt that monotone as he thinks it is.
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Sally M. BAHAHAHAHAAAA
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😂🤣😂
Sally M. Ian Charles did
BRUHH
“WHY AM I SO AWKWARD” yep sounds about right. Quite relatable
I'm 8 minutes in. As a woman with Asperger's, I struggle with speech tone and expressing myself correctly for the given scenario. This is ALREADY really helpful.
My husband is autistic and has a terrible time with everyone assuming he hates them or is uninterested, and people in drive-thru windows never understand him. I'm glad (yet not at the same time, sorry you also deal with it! ) that others here have the same issues and he's not so alone.
Same here
Agree! Coming from another aspie!
@@buttcheeksunite Me too.
I am too and I'm learning so much from this video! Nobody ever explained any of these things because they are supposed to be 'intuitive'
this was really comforting to know that there are people who have the exact same problems and way of thinking and are trying to improve. thanks so much for sharing
god i need human training....
Fageta Boutit Same 😫
And grammar changing to learn to capitalize your “i”
Big yeet
LMFAO I felt that
🤣🤣🤣🤣
I love how this video isn’t about changing yourself, it’s about expressing yourself! Some commenters don't seem to understand why you would do this, and there's nothing wrong with being more reserved and calm, but you're not that always. Sometimes you are excited and happy, or sad, and you want to show it, you want to connect with people around you. I love this video :)
Jasmin Miettunen so well put
My fave video thus far
Halfway through this I started realizing Kane is really attractive. Like I can see him as like a popular guy that everyone likes, once his personality started shining through
Chloé Jean Osmond same
It’s amazing how he transformed my entire view of him by changing the way he SPEAKS WOW
"I'm in training to be a human right now"
The gift receiving one was giving me stress flashbacks to every birthday and Xmas I’ve ever had 😂
saaammmeee
lauren X ocean same 😭‼️
I never know how to react. All I say is "Thank You" and maybe throw a little "it's really nice" in there. 😢
Saame, my bday was a few days ago and it was so awkward, cause I had 8 people staring at me all the time
Yoooo same all I can ever think to do is smile, raise my eyebrows and say thanks 😂
This was intense. It’s not about speach, it’s about finding your voice.
Speech*
Sues Anna he had a problem with both. He had a voice he knew exactly who he was and how he felt about it. He just didn’t know how other people saw him or how he came across. With speech therapy he was able to better present himself and communicate better. The one impacted the other. He definitely had a speech problem, several in fact or he wouldn’t have come across like he did.
Been a while since buzzfeed actually made a good video.
gwenish i know I sound thirsty but I just want to say u are very pretty
I love how the speech therapist turned into a psychotherapist real quick.
This is my voice one day with speech therapy....
This is my voice one week with speech therapy....
This is my voice one month with speech therapy
This is their voice one year after speech therapy.
She is a FANTASTIC speech therapist!!
I thought the same! Not only was she very good at her job but she also came across super genuine and seemed like a real sweetheart. (:
Bravo Kane!!! Guess what, this is just the start of something great! I love how vulnerable you allow yourself to become after going through the sessions with a speech therapist. You have opened up so much and you will grow from here. This is not the end... this is just a beginning of another exciting phase of your life... I am looking forward to seeing you grow with this new found you. Take your time to explore your insecurities and emotions... I am so proud of your achievements! Hang in there!! You got this for sure!
Vulnerability is the key
I'm new to this guy, but my impression is more that he's unexcitable rather than monotone.
That’s the same thing
Just remember how in the beginning of the video he said he makes such a concerted effort to be "better" for all his videos, and he edits around it. So what we see is not his fully genuine self or the self he is around all the people in his real life
True! And the problem is he comes as unexcitable cause he's montone. He hadn't even realized how he sounded like and, as he discovers when talking to Freddie, even when in his mind he was very excited about something he wasn't able to show the emotion through his face or voice. And that's because he'd been instructed or conditioned all his life to hide his personality, his emotions and thoughts, as he finds out later.
He filters all his thoughts through his mom who I’d guess was very clinical, thoughtful, and.... I will stop there because it could sound mean. Moms are so important to how a boy becomes a man.
@Useonlyforstudy M'Dear it’s called expression, if you aren’t expressing yourself and speak monotone people are only gonna pick up the bored voice
Wow i barely knew kane but hes so likeable, i love him now. Makes you think about the comments you write on videos, even small insults can cut deep. Hes realky admirable.
*I definitely need this*
omg michael jackson HEEE HEE
Saaaammmmeeee
omg sameeeee.
I'd love to help. I’m giving away a few speech & voice sessions as part of our February giveaway. If you’re interested, reach out via a DM on IG at @verineiac and let’s rock your new found voice.
Who tf asked?
Kane’s inner fire is just heartburn lol
Kane and I are literally the same person. I'm private, I'm monotone, I can be dismissive, people are always questioning whether I like them or not.. maybe seeing a speech therapist isn't a bad thing.
Me too, I'm always told that I sound bored or pissed off when I don't mean too at all
I'm actually crying. This was genuinely beautiful and shows how great speech therapy can be in uncovering why we talk the way we do.
I'm so happy that more people are learning about speech language pathologists (SLP's ). Communication is such an important skill that is taken for granted. SLP's are really changing lives.
the one in the video is so nice and welcoming, if there was a SLP near me like her I would be running to their office. but unfortunately, there aren't any kind ones near me. They just laugh in your face, mock you, assume you're crazy and say it's just a phase there's nothing wrong with me...while I already know there is nothing wrong with me- I just can't put my thoughts into words/ think at a normal pace / express what I mean in talking / have an overly quiet speaking voice that is inaudible to most people. I want to improve in these areas that I wasn't gifted in because I value communication and understand how credible communication is. but I can't. I wish I could go to her sessions she seemed so understanding and very professional, but unfortunately I don't live there.
This was really interesting. I’ve never been so mind blown before
K T I just checked her site (link in video notes) and she does Skype sessions! She seemed so great I think I might try that.
I'm a straight black woman but I relate to this almost entirely. Still finding my voice after letting others and negative self talk get me down. I'm so happy for Kane!
What does being straight have to do with it?
@@sun.sh.in.e She's explaining that even though she doesn't have the same life experiences that Kane identified as the root cause of his communication issues that she still relates to everything he is saying. Did you even watch the video?
Of course cause it's about their personalities, not their race and gender
God man. This is the bravest thing anyone can do. To not only get feedback but to broadcast that feedback for the world to hear, that takes a lot of guts man. Much respect Kane for the courage for coming out of your shell and becoming the best version of yourself! As an Asian myself, I am empowered by people like you. Cheers to your future success!
i need a series just with that lady teaching stuff jsjd is she a youtuber???
Cata R. same!!
She gets paid for it. Dont hive it away for free ;)
She needs to make a channel
@@rizzlestickzz Would love to help if you're looking to take voice/speech therapy classes
Hey super girl, if you want to take voice coaching classes, I'd be happy to help.
This video is very important because a small percentage of people are like this, including me, except I'm not mono toned but can't speak the same way as I think, and it's not talked about (I mean look at the views on this video itself, compared to other Buzzfeed videos) . As an example, my writing and speaking is like two different people. In my mind, I think very quickly almost like a video on double speed, but actually talking is very slow and difficult to put my thoughts to words. I can come across as not interested, but hell I'm a Sagittarius! The only issue that this video didn't mention is that people should know that the way we talk is genuine all the time, and learning how to talk in a new way can be uncomfortable and make us seem like now we are just acting to people and not being ourselves.
I'm getting better A LOT but it's not always easy bc I feel ingenuine
Yes the last section!!! I feel like I'm acting if I do any of the above things mentioned
Exactly! But we get used to it through practice :) never lose yourself through the process
K T yes, exactly. Same! I even dream of huge drawn out big word conversations or when Im talking to myself my point sounds more concise. Smh lol
@@jaetok lol haha I get you! practice makes perfect they say :)
I didn’t realize that I was going to cry from this video but this really hit home. I’ve always been a shy person and I’ve learned a lot from this video
“why... am I so awkward”
*my life*
I feel like being raised by non Americans can really affect speech. I’m Haitian-American and I CONTINUOUSLY have to learn how to speak and communicate. They way I speak to my parents, even in English, is very different from how I would speak to Americans. Even the way I speak to foreigners or people raised by foreigners is different. But this was a really encouraging video, knowing other people have this struggle as well.
Oh my goodness I was thinking this the whole video and wondered if anyone else noticed.
Same I’m burmese and in my culture, youngsters are supposed to look down when speaking to their elders but Americans find that as disrespectful and rude.
To me Haitians always sound passionate & like they’re arguing, but since I live in South Florida it’s normal to me because a lot of Caribbean people speak like that regardless of what language(s) they speak (like Cubans, Jamaicans, Trinis, Dominicans, Puerto Ricans, etc.)
Yeah I totally agree! I find that North Americans speak a lot more expressively.
Part of culture is how we speak, so being able to switch that is a form of code-switching. It's difficult, and depending on where you live you can use different tones, different words, and just be different. It's very interesting but something that is very ingrained in our culture.
So far on buzzfeed he has fixed his hair, his body, and now his voice😂😂😂
Edit: HOW THE HELL DID I GET THIS MANY LIKES
O_o
Sofia Purple he is doing it right haha
He's basically an all new person.
Kate he’s still himself just a better version
Sofia Purple madddd
That's literally in the video.
As a young child I was so reserved because I have alcoholic parents who shut down any bad emotions in me immediately. I didn’t even know how to tell people when I was feeling physically ill until I was 8 because I HAD to since I was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes. I’ve improved an immeasurable amount due to years of therapy, but I still struggle to communicate my full emotions in an effective manner. Everyone tells me I’m intimidating and that they think I don’t like them, but I’m just so shut off to my emotions I don’t even understand my own feelings about other people sometimes. I have a long way to go but I’m excited by the fact that I can only get better now that I know the root of the problem.
If a therapist can be this friendly I would go right now there and train my voice
Idk why but I can listen to the speech therapist talk forever
Finally!!! I’m a speech therapist and I love Buzzfeed and I was hoping they would eventually do a video with a speech therapist!!!! Do more, it’s the best job!
thanks for doing one of the best jobs to make people communicate better =)
Is that what speech therapist is in the US? i feel like she is more of a speech coach or communication coach than therapist. There doesn't seem to be a medical condition in the speech she addressing, is there?
@@victoriage either a speech coach or a speech therapist can do something like this that doesn't involve a disorder
I'm planning on majoring in this so I am equally excited to learn more about the career.
I saw that I have the same mannerisms as you before you went to speech therapy. I'm black so we have completely different backgrounds but the thing that is similar is that we both had to suppress our feelings for guys. Throughout my life I always wondered why my extended family gravitated to my brother with conversation and not me. This video helped me realize that I must have made them feel like I don't like them. When we hide one thing, we push push everyone away.
kane your speech made my tear up!! also i just wanna say i appreciate all the videos you do for buzzfeed. they are always so interesting and you can really tell you put so much thought, work, and heart into it--but in a human way, not like look how hard i work and how successful i am for it way. thank you for all of it!!!
What an AMAZING speech therapist.
I thought she was very intelligent!
So many people say that to me “I thought you didn’t like me”, “I thought you hated me”, “You look like you never wanna talk”, “I was lowkey scared of you”, “You look mad”, “You always sound sarcastic”, “You have such a monotone voice”. Like damn, blows my mind.
omg you saw my sister and me at the place and we where shooooooookkkkkk but now we know why
im curious what services you were there for
@@fagetaboutit4968 Im curious why you asked
Fageta Boutit she cant pronounce the r. For example, instead of saying “turtle” she says “total”
Jacqueline Mora uhh no I can pronounce my Rs fine it’s that I talk soooo fast like James Charles or jojo siwa
Fageta Boutit I talk really fast
2:20 "Are you mad? Are you FUSStrated?" 😹
😭😭
This was interesting to think about. I’m autistic so I often don’t quite express as well as other people, and tend to have problems making new friends. I often feel like I’m in training to be a human as I pilot this weird flesh vessel. 😅
Such a difference. Where he used to drag his words his now has this sexy bass purr in the syllables he's saying. Everything he says sounds more interesting. I could go on and on about all the things I noticed!! I'm SO excited that Kane did this. It's going to be a whole new world for him!
This is a testament to the dangers of living a closeted life and even once you have acknowledged your true self the amount of time you spent in hiding has residuals that follow you for the rest of your life. And, you have to love the inside you before you start doing cosmetic repairs to the outside.
Bob Trent Amazing point!
Jesus, I feel like you just ripped my scobby villian mask off!!
I'm seen!!
Dude, this is my life encapsulated in one comment. I want to get rid of the residuals so badly. I lived in almost total isolation from society for 2 years prior to this one and I'm finding it very difficult to get assimilated back in. There are so many customs and unspoken rules I seem to have forgotten and no one seems to be honest with me when I ask them straight out. The scary part is that I can't see a way out of this at all. My life is a mess and even though I trying to change that, I don't know how.
little witch I’ve spent years isolated in addiction and depression. I finally have a job and I’m still learning how to talk to the public and my peers. It was devastating at first, but it’s getting easier. Sometimes I even enjoy a few words here and there with a coworker or customer. I live in a recovery house and having daily conversations with the women here has gone from awkward and painful and embarrassing to normal and comfortable and nice. My progress is slow but steady, even if it’s a struggle, it’s worth it. I believe in you.
This video made me feel a little bit less weird about myself. Thank you for opening up
Faustino Beats Lol I’m just like this and more. You’re are not alone
This brought tears to my eyes cause I can relate to a certain degree. I reached a point in my life where I don't allow emotions or passion to show in my voice. What's funny is that last week I wrote in my planner "find a speech therapist" cause I want to be a better me. But I've been hesitant because there's so many in NYC and I don't know who is legit and who isn't. Anyway, thank you for sharing your story, it reinforced what I wrote in my planner and because of you I have given myself a deadline to make it hqppen. I have until the 31st to find a speech therapist. If there's any tips you can share on how to find one, it would be greatly appreciated. Also I loved your speech, you did great :)
I am asian and feel like for a lot of asians are thought to be unfriendly, unengaging and lacking interest. I think it's the way we express ourselves - no overreacting or being overly emotional, staying always calm and minding our own business.
Here I am not minding my own business, but I have to ask: you don’t feel obligated to change what is essentially a cultural phenomenon with speech therapy do you? Many cultures are reserved manner as a show of respect. (And we need folks to teach us to mind our own business.) I for one, celebrate the differences we all bring. I feel sad for Zane. He he quickly erasing himself. He has transformed himself into a marketable product.
@@paulagiordan3753 No one is forcing him to change. He must be unhappy with how he is right now and that is why he's on this journey of self improvement. He's gaining confidence.
Girl Scout Cookie there’s a difference between minding your own business and being calm and building up walls and avoiding making connection with others
I agree. When I first moved to America I was very overwhelmed with how talkative and energetic everyone was. I had to learn how to smile and talk to complete strangers, which is a really strange thing to me
@@paulagiordan3753 Well it did seem like he felt that his mannerisms could have jeopardized future or past relationships, and he wants people to see him as friendly- which in America means bubbly and expressive. You don't have to erase a culture once you learn about another, you don't replace english with french as you learn- I'm sure he knows how to switch between Reserved Zane and Expressive Zane for whichever situation fits it best. But he had to learn it first!
Listennn Ik this video is old but I’m 3 minutes in and it’s so relatable my friends always tell me before they met me they thought I was stuck up Bc of my voice and ig my rbf is horrible so those two combined led them to that conclusion...anyways I always get upset at the chances of being friends with someone that I lost Bc they thought I didn’t like them Bc of my voice/face and I was like it’s not something I can fix😭...
It’s only from last week though?
same :,) rbf + monotone + introvert is a really bad combination HAHA
Even your profile pic emphasises rbf, hahaha!
He doesn't sound monotoned to me 😂Maybe because I've met a lot of people like him.