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- It's natural to feel strongly about someone you care for deeply, but sometimes those feelings can lead to behaviors that are less than ideal for both you and your partner. We've all been there, and it's essential to recognize when attachment becomes overwhelming. You're not alone! In this video, we're exploring "6 Signs You're Overly Attached to Someone" and offering practical tips on how to maintain healthy boundaries.
#love #relationship #attachment
Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Editor: Morgan Swift
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Amanda Silvera ( / amandasilvera )
Animator: Dinda
TH-cam Manager: Cindy Cheong
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References:
Draghici, A. (2023, May 4). 7 Signs Someone Has Unhealthy Attachment Issues in a Relationship. Happier Human. www.happierhuman.com/unhealthy-attachment/
Jackson, S. (2022, Oct 17). What Is Emotional Attachment & When Does It Become Unhealthy? Choosing Therapy. www.choosingtherapy.com/emotional-attachment/
Lukin, K. (2022, Oct 3). Is It Bad To Be Attached to Someone? 5 Signs of an Unhealthy Emotional Attachment. Lukin Center for Psychotherapy. www.lukincenter.com/is-it-bad-to-be-attached-to-someone-5-signs-of-an-unhealthy-emotional-attachment/
Raypole, C., & Litner, J. (2022, Jul 28). 4 FAQs About Emotional Attachment. Healthline. www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/emotional-attachment
Regain Editorial Team. (2023, Mar 30). How Do You Know When You’re Emotionally Attached To Someone? Regain Therapy. www.regain.us/advice/attachment/how-do-you-know-when-youre-emotionally-attached-to-someone/
Salters-Pedneault, K. (2023, Feb 21). Idealization and Devaluation in BPD. VeryWell Mind. www.verywellmind.com/devaluation-and-idealization-in-bpd-425291
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I'm well aware I'm overly attatched to someone. I was hoping that there could be a video soon on how to deal with such feelings because this is something I'm desperately struggling with as I'm someone who struggles with being by myself, etc. and kind of rely on others a bit more than I should.
I’m in the same situation
Me too
Im in the same situation and was kinda hoping that's where this video would go since it always seemed so positive and motivating and having a "you've got this" mentality. This video, while informative, left me feeling... dissatisfied.
Ya, I think this is actually a very common problem in the dating sphere (I speak from experience) and I think it needs to be even further addressed.
Its honestly been one of the most common things I saw while meeting people, and I think it could be useful to have some tips on breaking out of such a mentality and viewing things properly.
Same here, I know how it feels
0:50 over Idealizing
1:26 avoiding being alone
1:55 constant validation
2:23 weak sense of self
2:46 inability to function
3:14 Unbalanced dynamics
Ty
@@trylesta9668you’re welcome
A girl I've been talking to for a few weeks who I have a crush on touched my thigh today, i feel like she might like me. Am I taking things to fast or should I follow my gut?
@@Red-hot_Pyro always follow your gut my guy, even if the feelings aren't reciprocated you should always do the things you want in life as long as they don't hurt others, but if you're afraid of rejection build a friendship with this person learn what they enjoy, their dislikes, and all their quirks it's okay to take things too fast as long as it doesn't get you attached or dependent on a person!
Thank you for the time stamps!
I had these signs with a favorite person, and eventually the fear of abandonment became so bad that I decided to abandon them first. It was a very painful end to a friendship that meant a lot to me.
Same here, ur not alone😊
I also saw friends that abandon relationships in fear that they'll be abandoned first. It's never easy when you see close friends ghosting another because they're afraid that they'll be abandoned someday.
I can't truly grasp the emotions you went through when ending that friendship due to the fear of abandonment, and I'm genuinely sorry for the pain it caused. How are you feeling now? Are your experiences with friendships and relationships improving?
So you ended the relationship for an issue that had not even happened? Just because you were fearful? All of life is a risk.
I very much relate to this. I do this is romantic relationships. Thankfully my partner saw through it and has continued to stay with me. I try to work on it but I always feel the fear to run away out of fear and to run before I’m possibly left. It’s very stressful and I don’t want to think or feel this way. I’m sorry you experience this too 😔
Avoiding alone is something I tried doing. Nothing really hurts more than being lonely.
As someone with anxious attachment I’m always worried if I’m being to clingy with my partner and I’m well aware how that can be too much and even overwhelming your videos help remind me that most of the time I’m doing good about not being too much but instead should remember to try being more affectionate and open with them. Thank you! 😊
Edit: It’s nice seeing people who struggle with the same things as you. Even if you don’t experience it the same way it’s nice relating to others.
Thank you for the kind words. Have you spoken to your partner about this? How do you guys communicate with one another about the topic of attachment?
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! It's completely okay to have moments of self-reflection about your attachment style, and it's clear you're putting effort into finding a healthy balance.
I am anxiously attached as well.
@@Psych2go I plan on telling them about it soon. I just got to get over the overthinking. We talk over text usually since they’re busy with work or other things.
Update: On the day I planned to tell them about everything they broke up with me.. I’m perfectly fine now though!
i have to admit that im an overly attached person.sometimes i chat someone and they dont message back for a few weeks days or hours i get really worried and anxious, sometimes i know they're a red flag yet i still dont want to believe that cause i thought that there just busy so i just cant just believe right away that there a red flag..
I just left a friend because of this. She felt less like a friend and more like a parole officer.
Meaning she was overly attached to you and got jealous when she felt like you didn't return her affections?
@Psych2go it was like she would whine and complain about everything all the time. Then she would get grouchy if I didn't have a sea of complaints. I have none! I'm loving life right now.
I'm sorry to hear that you had to make such a difficult decision. It's important to prioritize your mental and emotional well-being in relationships. If you're comfortable, could you share more about how you navigated this situation and how you're feeling now?Your experience might resonate with others who are facing similar challenges.
Yeah this was me in my last relationship. I'll not repeat this ever again
I was REALLY attached to someone and then we had a break and I went crazy and cried all the time, we came back to each other but now we have fully broken up and it's not that bad.
Like the famous quote of Dr. Seuss... "Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened" I may never get to experience what it means to have a gf since I'm in my early 20s and time seems to be running out for me... But you've lived your life out to experience something that is challenging for people to accept. I hope you're doing fine now.... As for me I'm still looking for someone to be my gf... Till then, I'm all open to any girl at this point. 💔
@@timinator900 I think you will get your time. Honestly when I look back I do smile surprisingly💙
@chloe1124 tbh that is exactly what happened to me, we met again after fully breaking up and we didn't seem like we hated each other, we just became friends again but that doesn't mean we gonna date again cause I'm no longer into these stuff and think about what I need and what my family needs first, so we not dating again.
Breakups can be emotionally challenging. It's commendable that you're managing the situation better now. Could you share some insights into how you overcame the attachment, considering that the feelings are not as intense anymore?
@@onnie1036 honestly I was like so depressed and I thought no one understood me and what I was going through, but my attachment and relationship was unhealthy so what I told myself helped me it won't always help everyone out. But after some time I told myself I am free from them, I also started focusing on myself more and that might sound like everyone else but it's true it can really help in the long run.
I feel like I struggled with this for a while and when my first major relationship was broken off I felt so alone and helpless. I‘ve been through a few relationships since then but they haven’t ended well and now I’ve been single for the longest time since I first started dating. I’m honestly terrified to date again because I worry about getting too attached to people. Just been working on myself and making myself happy in the meantime.
Saw the notification and read the title that I actually needed to talk about while on another Psych2Go video about crushes. ❤️
I am/was overly attached to someone. I knew it was a problem, one made worse by the fact she was the one person I knew well enough to open up to. Fortunately, I never told her how I felt about her (she was with someone else), and following a year of doctor's visits, consultations with the psychologist, antidepressants and removing myself from her social circles (temporarily), I feel like I'm getting better. I don't feel fixed, but I'm better than I was.
I also felt this many times in my relationship before it was done. I gave her alll because in my mind making her happy makes me happy so i did everything for her but after 5 years of doing that she never efforted at all i ask for comfort none she always gaslight me for something i never did but my answer to that was simply to push myself and do more efforts till she will love me like how i love her. This slso has been helpful to me
Wow this was confirmation of the progress I’ve made in my healing and this makes me sooo happy, hopeful and relieved!🙏🏾 I’ve been guilty of all of these in every past relationship, and I started wondering if I was doing the same thing in my current one (which i really want to last) so this helped a lot.
Nice! How did you make progress in your relationships? What were some practices that you did to improve on your tendencies for attachment?
@@Psych2gohonestly, the repeated cycle of failed relationships was draining me. I just started being intentional about my growth and I’m starting to become the person, for myself, that I’ve always wanted my partners to be for me. Once I took the pressure off of others to make me feel a certain way, it brought me a lot of peace and confidence in a way.
That's great to hear. Once you free yourself from feeling like people should make you feel a certain way, you tend to feel very free. Thank you for sharing your experience with us.
I know I have these issues, so despite my down bad literally delusional crushes, I won’t get into a relationship because I don’t wanna ruin the other person. And it’s hard cuz I really do have a bad habit of basing my self worth off of what men tell me, and I get super sad when I see a cute guy cuz I know it’s really not gonna work out. So later down the road, I’m just gonna get therapy, unpack all my shit, and learn how to let love come to me instead of me going out my way for it and stuff.
Right video at the right time
I've over attachment issues and I was not understating what are its signs until this video came. Now I know how to improve. Thanks a lot Psych2go !
Yep, just out of a relationship where I was overly attached, this video helps me understand what I was doing but now need to fix myself to stop repeating it.
Hi PHI, I just wanted to tell you that your team has helped me understand myself, and understand others, thank you ❤
Thank you for the kind words! :)
I was complacent in over idealization and unbalanced dynamics for a long time, until someday when I snapped and called her to order. I've never heard from her again, but that is a good thing.
Having some unhealthy habits doesnt mean you need to break up but work towards developing a healthier way of loving
Your Channel Is SO helpful!!! We love you and keep going
Thank you for the kind words! We'll do our best :)
I THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS
this has got rid of all my overthinking.
Man... I'm overly attached to my ex and I didn't know until now... That's why I miss her so much I guess..
😭😭 I feel your struggle..
I don’t have these signs myself, but a few of my friends do in a platonic. I’m in 2 friend groups and it’s really hard to balance the two. When i’m hanging out with one group, the other once forces me over to them. If i’m with the other group, the first group get’s angry with me. They often fight over me and it gets really stressful, and if I just wanna have some alone time at break/lunch, they all tell me that they were all looking for me that entire time.
it's incredible how you always manage to put out videos based on my current state of life. fantastic video though :D
Thanks, I really needed this video. Ive been having issues with overattachment with a certain person, and it's been taking a toll on me. But i didnt know how bad I actually had it until now. I tick all the boxes of the points you've brought up.
The relationship is so unbalanced. I put so much time and effort in supporting her and trying to look after her needs, but she just doesn't do the same. It hurts so much knowing she doesnt care about me as much as I do about her. Thanks for the video. It's time I start getting over her.
Wishing you strength and healing as you navigate through this situation.
As someone who thought the same things as you, talking to your partner can change your outlook on the matter. I used to think that my girlfriend was not putting in as much effort as I was and it bothered me until I took the time to talk to her and try to understand her. That's when she let me know the way she thinks about things and the way she puts effort in, and although something can seem effortless to me, it doesn't mean it's something that is easy to her.
Rather than conforming and hoping they match you, try understanding where they might be coming from and what they might be working on that you cannot see plainly.
Obviously not every situation is like mine but since I thought along the same lines as you previously, I just want to make sure you don't squander something that might still have life. I hope this was helpful, either way I hope things go well for you and start improving.
@ap3xwafer291 The two of us had a really close relationship, but we never officially started dating. We only ever called each other really close or best friends, but we still acted in ways that blurred the lines between "just friends" and "something more."" I think both of us were hoping the relationship might advance to dating, but it never got there because of our issues.
It was a strange relationship. We were best friends over text, calls, and when we hung out just by ourselves. But when we were with our other friends, she barely acknowledged me. There were days when she wouldn't even utter a single word in my direction. I kept bringing up to her how that hurt me, and she said she just couldn't bring herself to do it. I could tell she was being genuine when she said she didn't know why.
I always did everything I could to comfort her and support her when she was going through problems, but she could never do the same with me. She just didn't know how. She was terrible at it, and she wasn't even aware of it.
She barely understands herself, so it makes sense she wouldn't be able to understand me. We're both still young, with me being 17 and her 18. And even though she's a year older than me, I've come to realise that she's too immature and incapable of being in a deep relationship, even if it was just a close friendship. I need companionship, someone to have a deeper emotional relationship with, and she's just not the one.
We've had a few fights already, but I think the most recent is the last. I kept coming back and hoping she might have changed and gotten better, but that was never the case. I think I'll be able to forget about her this time.
It's kind of silly, honestly. I got overattached to someone I never even dated. All because she was going through some problems, and I saw someone I had the ability to help and the opportunity to protect. Little did I know, what I needed was for someone to care for me as much as I cared for them, and thats not her.
That's so me! I recognized myself in many points in this video. With this video, and other ones of your channel, I understand better how I sabotaged involuntarily some relationships that meant a lot to me. I know I have to work on on many points of my personality. But it's worth it. Thank you so much for this insightful video. Your channel is one of my favorites. It helps me very much to see clearly in myself, to grow up and become a better person. 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍
Recognizing areas for improvement is a crucial step, and the fact that you're willing to work on yourself is a commendable effort.
I dealt with the over idealization and unbalanced dynamics with a woman. I finally told her how I felt and she rejected me. Yes it hurt me but now I have that answer, I can work on healing and moving on.
There were times where I almost went overboard with attaching to someone. Good thing I know when to stop myself so I wouldn’t make mistakes.
a lot of the time i’ll be very obsessed and reliant to someone and i cannot be without them and i don’t want to be without them and i’m always talk to/about them, and then one day i get bothered by them and i don’t like being around them as much. i’ll always give lots of support and always listening to people even when the tell me problems about me, and i won’t tell them things so that we still stay close. esp when i make new friends, i make ideas in my head of us becoming best friends forever and idk how to stop. sorry that was a lot 😭
I was once like this, I always had to attach myself to other people because I feared faci g myself. I eventually learned that I was never going to escape myself so I did face myself with the help of learning psychology for myself to become my own therapist. Because of dealing with myself I have become a much better version of myself and could start moving forward instead of holding myself back.
This is so much like me and because of that, my girlfriend broke up with me. We we're in a long distance relationship but she had to move even further for her studies causing our time to not match anymore. Also, from the new environment and new people, it made me very anxious about everything and caused me to overthink a lot. I kind lost myself and my secure attachment because of that. It was very difficult for me to handle since she had an avoidant attachment style. Right now, I'm still holding on with her even though we broke up already, hoping that we could come back together. But I guess I still need more time for myself too.
I just ended a relationship containing all of these signs of being overly attached. We were together for 3 years but in the end I couldnt stop feeling that this is not love but a form of co-dependency we were living out. Breaking up with the other person shattered my whole world of the last few years. Two weeks straight it literally felt like going cold turkey. It was the hardest thing I ever did and I‘ve been through a bunch of difficult obstacles in my life. Be aware that it will be absolutely horrible to break up a co-dependent relationship. However, it will get better and eventually you will start returning to who you really are outside of this relationship
Ya is the queen has posted!
I realized not long ago that I might be overly attracted to a friend I made through my ex. She's helped me deal with my ex and has been there listening and helping me through it. I love who this person is, she's down to earth, she's not overly exaggerated and doesn't pretend to be someone else, she's kind and she's fun to be around. It's only been 3 months but she's been one of my favorite people to be around, even compared to my old best friend. But I'm concerned that I put them on a pedestal without realizing it. Part of me can't tell how I feel about her, I can't tell if I love her as a friend or as a potential partner. But regardless, I think I would be happy either way. I honestly just want the best for her and for her to be happy.
Regardless of the outcome, expressing your care and wanting the best for her is a beautiful sentiment. It sounds like you value her well-being, and that's a wonderful foundation for any relationship.
That can happen between people who are "friends" too. I had someone who was overly attached to me. It was a complete drain, and I always felt like I'd be the mean one if I pulled away. This person was constantly worried about losing me, and through half the time we knew each other, I did want out.
It's okay to prioritize your well-being and establish limits to ensure that both parties feel comfortable. Mutual respect and understanding contribute to positive and sustainable relationships.
this video was very personal, thank you!
Thank you for telling me everything
yes i feel that, all the time… last week i broke the cycle by breaking up with him. after four years i now feel so free but so vulnerable. i’m now overthinking too much by every step i take towards my friends and the people i like. i always think they’re better off without me, but i’m a (unhealthy) people pleaser who loves to have people around me. i’m a big people person even though i’m an introvert. it’s a balance i have to find, but it’s so difficult. i’m an idealist who ‘likes’ to put all of my effort in just one person. romanticising, idealising has always been a part of that and yes… it’s crushing you.
I’m so hurt rn because of my attachment issues to the point I started watching videos like this. Damn!😭
I think I’m on the borderline with this, thankfully my bf keeps me grounded with it all ❤
I used to date someone who had signs like this.they texted me 24/7, wanted to be friends with all my friends(even though I didn’t want them to be in contact with my online besties) and kinda talked me into getting into stuff I do, like rping in servers even though they hated rping. It was always about me and I felt like I had to give them attention because I felt like I would be a bad partner. But in reality, it was unhealthy and I’m glad I caught that and broke off our relationship. I just didn’t feel like I had time to myself. And it made me feel like I had to tell him everything like my past. He got mad at me when I told others and not him. He said “ I’m your boyfriend, you should tell me your troubles and problems, not them” man I hated it. Today I was tired having his stuff he never took back and I threw it away. I’m glad it’s all over now
Im so attached to my friend i cant do anything without her. She cleaned, cooked, guided me through my school years and now im in college and i gotta admit, not even 1 sec pass by that i dont wish she was beside me.
It sounds like your friend wasn't just a friend but someone who actually took care of you. It's hard not to get attached to someone like that.
Hit me deep in the soul like DAMN
Needed this video i was just thinking about this
I knew I was attached to them but, wow. I even knew they were manipulating me yet, I loved them. I still want to believe what I feel is real. But I'd be lying to myself. Its time for me to move on and forget. I hope that I actually mean it this time.
Moving on can be a challenging journey, but it opens the door to new possibilities and growth. Wishing you strength and resilience as you embark on this path of self-discovery and healing.
Thank you so much! This video is really insightfull
i had a feeling i was being overly attached so this confirms what i was feeling. i was losing myself but luckily im almost back to being me again :)
Wow. This is it, I finally found the answer ive been looking for the past 5 years.
i learn new thingd everyday from you and im glade that i do because it always helps me understand what i need and what i have to do to stop or fix myself for myself, thank you so much for what you do:)
Personal growth is a continuous journey, and you're doing great by actively seeking knowledge and making positive changes.
Every point is valid for me. As I am in love for the first time, I could not differentiate between attached and overly attached to him. I always feel happy within.
It's wonderful to hear that you're in love and experiencing happiness in your relationship☺. Finding a balance that works for both you and your partner is key. Enjoy the journey of love!🥰
I notice I did some of these things, but they didn’t lead to the overall break up in the relationship. But I thank you for pointing these out, on my journey to better my personality and eventually get back with her!
I wish you success on your journey towards self-improvement and the betterment of your relationships.
@@onnie1036 thank you, i really needed this as a little boost
My friend is nice but she’s hurt me so much, yet I stay with her. Another friend said I have attachment issues so I watched this
I love these videos! They're so interesting.
We try! ;) Thanks for acknowledging our team's hard work!
Timestamps
1). Over-idealizing 0:49
2). Avoiding being alone 1:25
3). Constant-validation 1:53
4). Weak sense of self 2:21
5). Inability to function 2:44
6). Unbalanced dynamics 3:13
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
How is it that every time i have a problem you guys come out with a video with the soulition to it that very day.
I am very relieved to watch this and notice I don’t fit the description at all. I have really severe anxiety and I worry I get too attached too easily.
It s a good video and I think it a good way off trying to help everyone who is going through that
Cool topic! Cute new artstyle!!
Thanx ✨️
Now I can see if I do these things or not!
Three of my classmates are way too attached, one time when one of them when the two didn’t respond and ignored her because they didn’t hear her, she cried.
Attachment issues matter 😔 Not yet in delulu era. But I just like someone, which I could say platonic love it is.
ok apparently asking my friends if I should do something for just about everything is over attachment
and apparently always thinking about them is too lol-
and the rest of the things are just personal lol
1) Overidealising
2) Avoiding being alone
3) Constant validation
4) Weak sence of self
5) Inability to function
6) Unbalanced power dynamics
You're welcome, haha
Haha thank you for the summary!
I do have these traits, surprisingly it took something in the last 24 hours to realize it and the fact this was uploaded within those 24 hours, I’ll take it as a sign.
It's interesting how sometimes life seems to provide the right information at the right time. 😊
Thankyou for this
how does this channel know exactly what I need to be hearing right now. Just went through the worst breakup in my life and like yup. Mhm yeah. Relationships without dealing with trauma on both sides just leads to so much hurt.
Nice video thank you so much 🙂
i have a biiig problem with it
i used to live being alone and i nevwr cared much about people, but ever since i met the person im overly attached to, i cant stand to be alone. that person became my whole word and i cant stop thinking about them, when im alone the only thing i think about is how much i want to hang out with them. and i feel like without them there isn't anything that is meaningful and good. i get super jealous when i see them spending time with someone, else and of course i just try ignore it but it made all of our mutual friends look like rivals to me. and I'm not sure if i should talk about it because i dont want them to be worried about me, and also i know i need to do something with it, but i also love it, it makes me feel so good when we are together and i love how much i love them and i dont want to give it up
I know I get attached to people too easily and too much. I've also been able to see it more since the one I was closest to got a boyfriend. After that, I lost what to do with myself for, like, 2 days. And me being so attached to people also makes me clingy because I really don't want to be alone, so I tend to be with those I know as much as possible
Idk whats happening to me, none of those matched with me, but I know something is wrong with my behaviour. I keep procrastinating, and then my anxiety levels rise up like crazy. I see weird dreams that would never happen in reality and they aren't even good ones they're nightmares. And to top it off I get recalled of my memories of my best friend who transferred schools and literally forgot me after completely ignoring me. and guess what neither my parents understand and give me solutions nor did they take me to a professional. I went from loving to absolutely hating myself and no one cares. At least your videos help me. Thank you very much for that.😶🌫
the drawings in this one are adorable
7. Making everything they do affect your mood for the good or bad.
I know I may have had the first sign of being too atached to someone.
Not so much on the other signs.
What was said on here does make sense.
She got more than 10 million but she still replies to Evey comment, i d k but she is so down to earth✨, watching her from years, and this us the best channel for anyone fore phycho confusions
Love veggie looking characters…awesome topic
So hard when your trying to change your anxious habits and not come off clingy to a friend but try to starting having your own life and enjoy your alone time. Which is hard to do when you forget what your hobbies are, the things that used to bring you joy when its been decade(s) since then.
Some things to think about.
dam such timing
Where were these videos last year gang
scored 6/6 !!
I keep coming back to this channel, listening to videos that Amanda Silvera lends her relaxing voice to. ✨😊 @amandasilvera
I feel this and know i have attachment issues as i personally got them due to my family by not being paid any attention to as well as being kept out in the dust unable to do anything only sitting in my room isolated although i am in high school and college i have a loving boyfriend who i had gotten with recently and found myself getting way attached to were im in emotional stress. although my past relationships have been toxic and hurtful he tries to pull his way through to help with these parts of me and that im autistic so it gives it more of a challenge but im always appricative of him. even before meeting him i took a long time to build on myself but i had fallen for my bf deeply too scared of losing him although i hated being around his friends due to them saying rude things to me about how hes talking to his other chicks and stuff although hes on call with me
Realizing I was attached and emotionally connected to my ex but not feeling love :(
bro same.. I feel really attached to my ex, I bet she is too because she calls me her brother but we not feeling love :/
@WAVESVSV for the first time in years I understand the phrase "its only your job to take care of yoirself" it's not your place to take care of others and completely your place to take care and make sure your needs are met :) the best of luck to your recovery
@@DaxVerus wise words
Just here to say this channel has been absolutely ruthless recently
(with good content, of course!)
I was literally searching up how to stop getting so easily attached to someone just yesterday. And because of that, I start distancing myself a bit from that person. 😭 (only speaking of friendship cs I've never been in a relationship lol).
Take things at your own pace, and you'll likely find a healthy balance in your connections.
I already knew this before watching this video.
I feel all of these with my supposed bff. Especially the last one, I put so much effort into pleasing her and she doesn’t really seem to care when I’m upset.
I actually started crying watching this, it reminds me of my ex. I miss her so much 😢
Omg 5 and 6 are I've been doing wrong all this time because I have anxious attachment issues.
I needed to be treated like shit and breaking up to be able to undertand and try to fix them
Love this video and your channel
You are so kind :D
I wish I could've seen this video months ago, because I agree completely that this is how I acted when I was overly attached.
It's never too late to reflect on our actions and learn from them. Wishing you a future filled with happy and balanced relationships.🥰
Bro I needed this! ❤❤
these signals are also very common in bpd..... I learned this the hard way.
literally see every single one of these
I find number 2 interesting i do this sometimes but i don't want there validation i just want themto care morei hope i make sense
That used to be me!!!! But after gaining some self esteem and breaking up with my ex bf, I feel so much better about myself.
I could relate all of these signs 😢. What should i do now. How to balance myself. 😢
im wildly over attached to someone, and i’m well aware of how bad it is, but it’s weird because we don’t even talk that much anymore but i still cannot stop thinking of her. i do have a crush on her but she’s way more than just a crush, we’ve been friends since 1st grade and now we’re almost done with high school. so it feels like i’m losing a part of myself. i don’t know what to do. i cannot get over her but i also cant keep thinking about her this much, it’s destroying me. ughhhhh being a human is so hard.
I don’t know if I love that person or hate that person I’m pretending to hate that person, even if I love that person,I know it’s weird.
It sounds like you might be experiencing complex or conflicting emotions towards this person.
@@onnie1036I do,but I don’t know what to do.