CPTSD Overloads Your Nervous System (4-Video Compilation)
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One in three people (and even more among people with CPTSD) report that most days they feel completely overwhelmed -- emotionally, mentally and in terms of all they have to do in a day. Just about everyone has lost at least SOME of their power to FOCUS during the last decade. For many, it’s become much harder to feel alert and peaceful inside, and to get things done. In this 4-video compilation, I share some of my most popular videos on Clutter and Overwhelm, with tips on how YOU can recover your full potential to focus, take a
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When you started talking about clutter i felt SO seen but then when you started talking about cars in the front yard and the broken wall turned into a doorway, i couldnt help but laugh my ass off hearing how many different ways it can manifest 😂 this video made me feel good and less alone thanks for that : )
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Nika@TeamFairy
Omg thays me eith my 'vintage' cars too!
You are the best therapist that ever was/is/will be. Thank you.
I know, right?!! Sometimes it feels like we need Crappy Childhood Fairy leaflets from planes….our society is so messed up and “the experts” (overwhelming majority) are doing it all wrong. The time, energy & money wasted on counselors (& the gaslighting we get because their “expert” ideas don’t work!!!) 😩. (Happy for those that found help…seeking help became just another form of trauma for me, tho.)
Clutter .. I battle it every day..
Same. I’m realizing that for me. I attach emotion to material things and so it’s very difficult to let go of anything. I understand it yet struggle to overcome it.
If you haven't already, try Daily Practice. It can help with decluttering by giving you clarity on what you should do first. Here’s a link to the free course if you’re interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
Same. I just signed up for the zoom call. I’m trying so hard to break this habit
I don’t even have enough power to take an action
Fires are natural disasters and they happen every day
Very comforting to listen to your words while cleaning and decluttering for the plumber’s visit tomorrow. I haven’t had anyone in the house since the last time the plumber came! Thank you for being there and for all you do to help this community.
You're doing a great job! Thank you for being a part of our community here!
Nika@TeamFairy
Aww I feel you
I continue learning, even at age 75. Thank you for doing this vital work. My therapist 28 years ago did a great job, but our understanding of CPTSD has grown so much. I'm grateful to keep growing because of your posts.
We're so proud of you! Understanding that every year of life counts and working on healing is a beautiful gift we can give ourselves. Thank you also for sharing your experience with us, we hope it will encourage others to work on healing, regardless of age. Keep up the great work! We're here to support you!
Nika@TeamFairy
Beautiful.
Over the weekend I got rid of clothes and papers I have kept for 15yrs when I was still with my partner. But I didn't just throw then out in a huff I wrote about how I felt and why I was throwing them out now. She moved on very quickly after me and I was stuck in a nightmare..until now..I have good days and bad days but I'm starting to notice the bad days more clearer now.
I love the idea of journaling! Good luck on your healing journey!
Nika@TeamFairy
I was absurdly sick a few years ago my spine was deteriorating and i couldnt focus on anything anymore at all and i couldnt feel my body/feet anymore which i only realized was the case after i could feel them again while healing. That was so fcked up the despair is just crushing you into depression.
You don't know me, but you're describing me like we're having a personal conversation. I have tried for YEARS to find someone who understands me and what I'm feeling but gave up and resolved to just be that oddball that people stare at and whisper about (or so it feels). I feel like I can finally look back at myself with kindness and true understanding and gently work on finding my own peace aka liking myself. Thank you for sharing, this has been the most insightful, kind, gentle and caring conversation I've ever had.
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Nika@TeamFairy
I can’t be around people and am isolating which is bad .
Hang in there… me too.., it’s like we do it to ourselves we blow up. We do the wrong behavior and then we isolate ourselves because we feel bad and then we’re lonely. And then we reach out because we really want our friends and family in our lives and they get more and more hesitant to do things with us because of our behaviors. It’s such a vicious circle.
Same. Struggling to get myself out of it
I am isolating and it's kind of awesome. It certainly is relaxing and I find it quite enjoyable. Maybe I will change, I just don't see it though. Too many people who enjoy being cruel and hurtful. It's so very nice not to be around them.
@@Boyhowdy875aye. Introverted people must be alone to recharge.
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Those studies about cortisol levels and clutter have ALWAYS bothered me precisely for the reasons you’ve described, and I agree with you entirely regarding your observations of the correlations between stress and clutter! So, so happy to finally hear it expressed somewhere outside of my own thoughts!
Also, your observation that it is essentially caused by Nesting Behaviour on overdrive is so interesting! I absolutely agree and it feels oddly liberating to hear it described like that. Interestingly, I’ve gone from one extreme to the other recently after a very stressful move. I had WAY too much stuff -clothes, knickknacks, household supplies, everything, and I -*-rarely-*- cleaned- to now, this past 6 months or so, becoming OBSESSED with decluttering and cleaning, to the point of thinking to myself just last night, “what am I going to do when I run out of things and spaces to clean? I guess I can start over, but will it be too soon?” It’s like it’s gone into overdrive in the opposing polarity. I think the Stuff made me feel safe before, but when it became an enormous hurdle in my life, Getting Rid of Stuff makes me feel safer now. But the neutral level of “calm and at peace” still seems out of reach.
I LOOOOOVE Mr. Rogers. He always calmed me. Still does.
I ❤Mr. Rogers!!
You are amazing! Thank you so much for all your hard work!
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Nika@TeamFairy
I really appreciated your reaction to the free silverware and where you lovingly took the conversation. I have made far more progress with my clutter issues by forgiving myself and addressing the core trauma than I ever did by cracking the whip over my own head . This morning I pulled junk out of a junk locked corner in an out building. I was inordinately pleased to notice that many of the containers were already empty due to previous but forgotten efforts. My success starts with listening to people like you but it's me that is taking action and acknowledging my growth. Thank you!
Glad you are here! We're all rooting for you!
Nika@TeamFairy
Exactly,bc of my childhood trauma, I have a huge stress reaction.
We understand as few others can. You're in the right place :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Again, Anna, you’ve resonated. I still plan on buying your membership but I’ve too many debts presently.
I am so grateful to have found you, Anna.
Happy to have you in our community here!
Nika@TeamFairy
She’s great at describing the problem. What’s the solution? How do you address nervous dysregulation?
Please watch some of her other videos and check out her website, info is there. 😉
Kinda what therapist do. They listen to your problems then repeat them back to you..
I live in Sonoma, and imagined coming out to the square to see if I could recognize my tribe though I could not afford to participate..
My honey thought it very funny that I would be going out to find folks with ptsd, and so am doing costco instead. Ease and grace and many blessings you and the tribe in this endeavor.
We were there! It was the Cinco de Mayo festival today.
I had a narcissistic father and was until recently in a marriage with a narcissist for 18 years.. He only once said to me that he loved me. Once in 18 years. Only when I came to God my eyes were opened that this man doesn't love me, he loved the perks he got from me. I was trauma bonded to him for too long. We have teenage children. Son is after me and my husband doesn't and never did showed him any love. My daughter is after him and he is good to her(I won't say love because he doesn't know what love is).
I was willing to forgive anything just for a image of a happy family. He didn't even work nowhere for longer than 2 months, occasionally. I payed for housing where ever we lived.
Of course this marriage took a toll on me. I would just feel like someone is tearing my heart and lungs if I allow him to leave.
I had so many symptoms, that multiplied recently. Even dreams. I dreamt of being in dungeons and stuff like that.
I procrastinate and most days don't open mail because it is too much for me. Now that he is finally gone I am learning to do things. My biggest concern is that my daughter will have a horrible taste in men.
Thank you for aiding me in understanding why I am alone and often wanting to die because so much has always been out of my control and still is. I am tired of being on the couch defeated and looking forward only to death. Maybe I can find a way out. Been fighting as an only child 50+ years of a Narcissistic mother. Relief that she is gone but she took it all with her. Been on disability since 1985 when I was 23 and having ECT in a psych hospital. Court took my parents and took life insurance and took all their assets. I'm alone and just can't justify keeping up the fight to stay alive.
Am sorry @smokymtnhigh. That's difficult and it sounds painful. However, there is always a way out,there is always a solution. Am sure you will find one. Don't give up.
I know a little bit of what that feels like. I’m also grateful for the internet - even someone of meager means can have access to helpful info - over the last decade have come across Anna’s work, Wim Hof, breath work, Eutaptics, and so much more content that has helped me take my power back.
I love Anna’s empathetic approach! She does a phenomenal job of describing what’s happening and how we can help ourselves. 🙏may your day be a little brighter today, may the birds sing for you and the sun shine upon your face & warm your heart. 💕
Cool! Another deep dive video. Time to grab the 🍿.
You mentioned being an adult child of an alcoholic. My family has a similar background, but the point of my comment is to say I just discovered, in my 50's there is such a thing as adult children of emotionally immature parents. Always thought my parents were emotionally unavailable, but never thought there was such a thing as emotional immature. V interesting
I never realised I had these triggers until they caused neurological issues. I became very sensitive to noise and sound. I’m more aware now and challenge myself to not totally stay out of the environment triggers but to limit them
Good job! You may also like Daily Practice. It is a good tool to help with getting regulated is the Daily Practice. You can learn it for free here: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
Thank you for being who you are and sharing your gift with the world!
My trauma has made it impossible for me to think through something as simple as:Do I need this? Or “where should I store this? And if I find a place for an item I am bound to forget where I put it and am forced to purchase another one.
There are some really great decluttering YT channels (I’m really enjoying The Spacemaker Method) which I find can be helpful to watch and just absorb that other way of thinking, of being able to let go of some things. Sometimes I’ll watch to motivate myself to start. Sometimes I’ll have a playlist of it running while I actively declutter. Engaging with that kind of content might help you slowly and gently shift your mindset without committing to anything permanent, if that’s something you’re interested in trying out! In any case, I’m wishing nothing but health and happiness in your journey.
Edit: with regards to where to put an item- a great place to start is to ask yourself: “if I were trying to find this item, where would I look for it first?” And try to make a space for it there. Then, hopefully next time you need it, you do actually find it!
I have the same issue. I recently moved and everything is out of whack even more than normal. I don't know if I'll ever get everything found again.
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I will stay in this present life, finally I found peace within myself
THANK YOU! Just hearing someone say out loud these feeling are normal is A LOT of help! Always shaming and and talking down on your self starts chipping away at your self esteem and then makes the underlying cause even WORSE!
Thank You Anna so much this video was so helpful for me, I have been burning and destroying relationships for so long, not knowing why…. Recently my two 30 & 38 year old sons have lost it with me, and I understand why. Would you consider doing a video for family of a CPTSD affected person, that we could share with them, just so they can know how to help? This video is the closest one I have seen of yours to that, so I am grateful for this video, I am just at the stage where my sons are thinking I’m beyond help as I blew up and did the wrong things at Christmas because my younger son’s now live in girlfriend is untidy (which disregulates me) and at Christmas, we were not doing ANYTHING that we usually do and we were all running late to open presents and the girlfriend had told her large family that they would be with them at 5:00 pm and my older son was cooking the prime rib roast and the two guys had not communicated about timing and so he blew up at me.. saying there’s a reason it’s called dinner, and he wanted to have dinner ready at 5:00 when his girlfriend was coming back from her family, and so the whole thing was disregulating me, and I asked my younger son to step outside to talk and the girlfriend overheard me asking him “what is wrong with her, why is she so untidy, and what is going on with the timing of all of this day? We always open presents 🎁 in the morning and by now we were in the afternoon and I was stressed about opening presents and the timing of the meal and just had lost it…. So he asked me to apologize to her, which I did… but she has talked to me since because I also called her parents and lashed out on them about their lives… not good… they are going through a divorce after having FOUR children together…. I have obviously just blown it, and my sons are very unhappy with me now… :(
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Nika@TeamFairy
Is it possible that the frequencies, unseen and bombarding everyone, like wifi, emf, etc. might, at least for some, be causing or exacerbating the dis-regulation to our nervous system, in addition to or instead of, the ptsd from childhood trauma?
Good question! I think it has to play a part.
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It does it me. I can't live in a regular house. I can't even visit people in their houses for more than half an hour, as i can't stand it. The effects of e.m.f , WiFi, are intense for me. If i stay too long or for consecutive days, it feels like a metal spike has been driven into the back of my skull.
My mom was brought up in the depression. She hoared food. Experation date was never paid attention too. Freaze day old bread. Tasted sweet when you finally opened it.
I was thinking I couldn't listen to an hour an a half but here I am, commenting at the end. Thank you Anna, I think I'll listen to this again.
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Nika@TeamFairy
I collected books because it was a positive experience with my teacher who praised me for reading. People pleasing though she left my life at six. It was a time i celt nutured.
I have since started listening to books and donating them.
I agree clutter is part of trauma. I got my treasured baby craddle broken at 3 or 4. He was drunk. He and my dad started fighting. He fell on it and no matter how mamy times i brought it up. I was mever getting that cradle back.
You sure do make a lot of sense ! Thanks
It makes me wonder why many people feel that they have the right to be disparaging to someone who may have some type of mental illness or disability. I mean the incredible nerve of them.
Touché
Just what I needed to hear
Inch by inch
Day by day
Room by room
Minute by minute
Anna, you are a gift. Thank you.
Thank you for your kind words! -Calista@TeamFairy
I love it when I am open and receptive to one of your videos and I am able to take it all in. I am slowly healing now, instead of fruitlessly searching for answers. Thank you for your hard work and for showing it can be done.
You got this! We're all rooting for you :) -Calista@TeamFairy
I can't wait for my finances to be more stable so I can support your service. You are worth every penny. It's been a year since I visited here. I went off and did the homework you set out for us to do, which was to go back to some sort of activities/studies and taking care of our health. I went back to college to do my level 3 in hairdressing. Some issues but I'm striving little by little. I also checked in on my health. Through MRI, X-ray and ultrasounds, I have a few slip disks and lost a ovarie due to menopause, not to mention osteoarthritis. I have a few more test to go and follow ups. Not quite out the woods but it’s definitely been great progress. Still can feel lost and all the other things mentioned here why I returned back to Crappy Fairy 🧚♀️ Lately I’ve been going back into procrastinating after falling out with a close family member. Already I feel by watching one of your videos back again yesterday, made me wake up putting me on track. Like honestly, where would most of us be with you ♛☥❤︎✨ Thank you so much for everything. You are so appreciated. ❤︎❤︎❤︎❤︎
Thank you so much for being a part of our community here! We appreciate your kind words and we're happy to hear you found help through Anna's videos and are willing to explore more of her content in the future. We're all rooting for you!
Nika@TeamFairy
The hell are we supposed to do when people have made a mess of our lives and kept flying monkeys to keep us from moving on or threatening to put us back in that abusive mindset ?
Confronting the victim mentality and reframing mistreatment. The justice is that most of us have the courage to heal. We retained adequate empathy. I see my ex. and me as being two sides of the same coin. The tails side is “less embossed”. I got a bit luckier I am guessing.
I get that it's sometimes unbelievably difficult to move on with your life and do something positive for yourself, especially when you're in some abusive relationship with a partner or family members and you don't have the means to get away. Many people are dependent on a toxic relationship due to housing or health issues and that's so unfortunate and demotivating. I believe that there always is something that you can do in every situation and you need to focus on whatever brings you forward, even if it's just a tiny step. Sometimes there are other people who can help with something, but sometimes even our closest friends fail us in some way during the worst of times. Hold on to hope and keep looking for ways to improve the current situation, it may be difficult and exhausting, but it's not impossible ;) Good luck!
4 adult children rewarded ( by Father, my EX) to shun ME
Yep. I agree with your hypothesis on clutter.
I am an Artist and swing from being out there and performing poetry to the complete opposite and stay in doors what feels like too long just painting or sewing , although I love it , sometimes I feel I have not put any efforts into relationships because in the past I let so called friends walk all over me and just take take take , it took me a long time to drop these people from my life and it did empower me ( but at times ) I feel ( what now ? ) so it’s videos like this that help to .. go slow and take your time . Also when we become conscious .. there is a lot of catching up to do ! .. I believe the efforts pay off .. slowly slowly 😍😉
most of my traumas happened in my 40s, but i feel the same way.
This was so good, I enjoyed it immensely.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge. You are changing peoples lives for the better.
Thank you for your comment! Glad you are here!
Nika@TeamFairy
You missed a HUGE vital sign....BP! "White coat syndrome" and as a nurse, the more I see and the more I experienced, it gets worse and worse at every visit to mainstream doctors :) Working on it...hard! Thank you :) I ran in a ICU and PCU, and felt "great"...and now, can't do two things at once. Amazing..
I'm better with a bag of cats TBH
Clutter is a big issue for me. Between space issues and the stuff from my mom, some really nice, I'm piled up. Every effort has failed so far. I'm more forgiving of myself so there's that.
Have u watched the videos by Clutter bug,The Minimal Mom and Dana K White ? Theyve really helped me with my clutter struggles - not fully done yet but have managed to sort a lot of my stuff and slowly changing my habits around stuff xx
This is so insightful. Thank you 🙏 ❤
Glad it was helpful!
Nika@TeamFairy
I am either overwhelmed and crashing down or so tired that I feel numb and unable to think.
Yep, that’s a classic CPTSD thing, and you’re not alone! The Daily Practice can help with regulation, and if you’re looking for more Anna has a course that focuses specifically on healing CPTSD.
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Nika@TeamFairy
I wanted to add a note about meditation that was true for me. It took me a couple months just to quiet the mind chatter. It's finally a go-to for starting my day. Now I should go through all that mail...🥴
Thanks for sharing! -Calista@TeamFairy
I love you so much!
So much comfort and encouragement in your videos
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I wish so badly that she was my therapist. I have to listen to these videos over and over because I dissociate and then the next thing I know it’s been 30 minutes and I didn’t hear a thing. I don’t know why that happens. Everything she says is so so true.
Omg you know me!! I have sooo much to do but just am overwhelmed by everything that nothing moves forward..I’m physically and emotionally exhausted!🙏🙏🙏
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Nika@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy thank you 🙏🙏you have no idea how out of my skin I feel. Knowing this but trying to pull it together has be frightening 💙💙
Very informative thank you for sharing
Thank you for watching!
Nika@TeamFairy
Im so glad that you made the decision to make this channel, Fairy lady, it makes me feel less crazy 🤣🥴🤪😜😝😶🌫️
Thank you for being a part of our community here!
Nika@TeamFairy
Great video tyvm. I literally came off methadone 120mg/lyrica/vyvanse and several psych meds in a year, I take Latuda in small amounts b/c it helps, but they had me on way too much. Today I'm more organized, I keep the house clean, I vacuum I clean I even help my neighbor. I just don't work right now. Something I really need to do. Not gonna go into details about my life, but there was tons of trauma. I live at home with my mom and stepdad. Hate my stepdad and I think even my mom is starting to hate him. Dunno how to get out of it. It's hard to get off all that medication and go and work, but it was making me completely unfunctional and it had to be done.
Im weening off methadone right now any suggestions on the final jump from 20 to turkey.. i was originally on 250mil I got tired of being a slave to it thanks very proud of you! ❤
@@saramurphy4636 Go down 1ml a week. If you feel too uncomfortable, stop for a week and stay on the same dose for two weeks. Slow and steady wins the race!
@@saramurphy4636 I would taper at 1ml a week if it feels too fast for you stay on the same dose for 2 or even 3 weeks. Keep going!!
So hard to let old things go when you have been hurt so many times over and over by the people who are supposed to be your family and friends
You can't change the past but you can change your future. Letting go is letting the past die and being open to a new beginning. I encourage you to try The Daily Practice. It has already changed many people's lives. Here's a link to the free course: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
I knew I was beginning to become emotional from my childhood traumas and abuse all the around me began to the point where I massively decluttering my house.
I am not done but i keep going and finding more and more things to get out that I dont need.
Its so relieving and freeing now… seeing my house become livable and more and more rooms easily cleaned and maintained without clutter and chaos.
I am right in the middle of it and some days its hard and wears me out. But bow with decluttered rooms, I see the light and cant wait for the whole house to be like this!!
How did I live lime this for so long ?!!
You are doing an amazing job! Keep it up and don't worry about having worse days - all people have them!
Nika@TeamFairy
Thank you for making these videos. I am on my own healing journey and your videos have helped me tremendously in SO many ways. #onceahoarder
Illness. I WAS trapped for 8 years due to a collection of illnesses. My hip was rotting and didn’t know it until it came out of the socket. Now just getting over long COVID. As I get healthy again my relationship is getting more toxic. I speak up for myself now and he doesn’t like it!😮
Yes I feel it daily
You're in the right place :) -Calista@TeamFairy
I went to a Doctor when I was about 20, I was in a really awful mental state due to being an army kid and having no roots and depression. He was young and he said to me what do you expect me to do in a really nasty way, I got up and walked out totally crushed, he was a nasty piece of work and I wonder what damage he's done in all these years. He was in Hythe Kent, about 40 years ago, total narcissist, he could have tipped me over the edge when I felt so bad already. If he spoke to me like that these days he'd get a different outcome, I've never forgotten it.
I have so much digital clutter...seeing it as a symptom instead of an attribute and making space.
Hurrying, wow you seriously hit the nail on the head like no other in this one. Also I’m thinking I don’t have adhd just voted. Ty so so much. Keep it coming❤❤❤
Thank you for watching! More to come!
Nika@TeamFairy
You look beautiful! The new make up must’ve been a great purchase
My room rn is overwhelming filled and i don't know how to navigate through and it get it organized. I'm being made to deal with it and i keep avoiding it. I don't know what to do
You start with one square foot area. You deal with what's in that space. When that is done and you see how it works, you move on to the next square foot of space. It's okay to rest in between but try to do a space a day. If you can't do that much then start with picking up an area of the floor. Get clean clothes back on hangers and dirty clothes to the laundry. Pick up books and make a neat stack. Go through a pile of papers and sort them. Just small steps. My mother used to say just throw a rock and see where it lands and start there. Since it's your bedroom I would say throw a sock instead.
The Daily Practice can help with decluttering by giving you clarity on what you should do first. Here’s a link to the free course if you’re interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
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@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Thank you so much. I look forward to watching it and getting some pointers 💕
@@roughroadstudio thank you for your input 🙏
I get overwhelmed and disregulated when hearing too long a story from someone, OR too many details about someone i don't even know. Because i memorize everything and i get WAY overwhelmed. I tell them "My input valve is broken" and they let go.
It feels true to me that clutter is associated with trauma.
I feel stressed when people come over. I feel like there will always be a cobweb or ladybug walking by. No matter what I do, it’s not good enough!
We understand as few others can. You're in the right place :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Sooooo relatable omg
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I will have to watch the rest of the video later, but I am very bad at planning. I'm very much a seat of the pants or just figure it out as I go kind of person. And so far, the clutter is kinda winning, I can see that starting anywhere along the path is a good idea. I had a girlfriend who had a major cluttering problem, and I won't deal with that again. I got 34.minutes into the video and I can't wait to see the rest. I work very hard to not get angry, and I can turn off or at least realize I use hyper vigilance all the time. Thanks Anna, by the way, I need a bike. I hear a lot of crazy stories at work concerning how people grew up. Parents, get it together. The debt holding me back is a reality but I'm working on it again. So, Anna, is there a video of you driving off with the hose in your car?
Aha! So funny reading me like a book. Wow I kind of feel normal now! 😂
How'd you differentiate between CPTSD and neuro-divergence?
11:20 ‘like ink in water’ That’s how I’ve always described it too!
My house a mess my shop my yard and me. I received a traumatic brain bleed in 2021 thanks to a so called friend. I have went through some very scary and strange emotional distress since then. I'm 58 and own my own home in the country and have nothing to be like I am but I am. I just feel ill especially with my cervical and lumbar spinal stenosis and the unbearable pain. Thanks for this video. God bless everyone.
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My emotions often feel like they are in overdrive so it doesn't take much to send me into over emoting or a breakdown 🥺
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This is definitely me but I’ve always wondered if it was more because of being on the spectrum. I’ve never been tested, but I suspect I have very high functioning Asperger’s. I never thought of this as CPTSD but makes sense.
Stress? Understatement!! I'm living a nightmare waiting for the rug to be pulled out from under me.
I'm so afraid I'm going to cave and just throw in the towel. I don't feel like I can "soldier" on anymore.
I suffer from autonomic dysregulation from heavy metal poisoning and any "stress above that sends me in a spiral.
I'm married to an 85 yr old narcissist who is killing himself (diabetes) and if he dies before me, I'll lose my home.
Ppl don't understand what it's like to be chronically ill and isolated, living with someone who's a stranger. My husband almost died in 2017 and the guy who went in that hospital? Never came home.
I've tried my hardest to deal with my situation but, I'm at the end of my rope. I can barely take care of myself, never mind a grown adult with a 5 yr old mentality.
Help, any encouraging words would be greatly appreciated
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@@CrappyChildhoodFairy ♥♥♥ Thank you, I appreciate you reaching out to offer an avenue. I will definitely check it out.
Mine is a very, unique story and probably not one you've ever heard before.
I'm just trying to find my way with the time I have left and its been the greatest challenge of my life.
This was so validating to hear our stress response is different. All the advice out there seems to be not helpful for me. Thanks ❤
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It’s why I drink every friggin day
I have cptsd.adhd, rejection sensitivity disporia, boderline personality Disorder etc,
And I've thrown every particle of my being at my total f...ked up ness,in vain.. And a ridiculous, useless thought came into my head.today , forgive one(me) forgive all, everyone....and tomorrow???
Dreams and wishes nice
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I made the mistake of saying out loud, "Sunday for sure. I'm gonna tackle this clutter" and my clutter laughed at me like the munchkins in the Wizard of Oz. Like when they were still hidden in the foliage. Remember the hee!hee!hee!hee! . . . like that. My clutter knows me better than I do
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CCLUTTER? HUM.MMMM. That was my mind.. constantly, before trauma therapy. Overwhelmed was the lie of comfort.. vERY GOOD POINTS AND LEASON.
You DEFINITELY need to keep your canned food, because there could very well be a period where you CAN'T get it at the store just anytime. USE IT UP, OR DONATE AND REPLACE IT.
Yep and I sit back and ask myself how all the sane people see it and sit back and say nothing to call it out as morally and ethically wrong to coerce another living being into a cycle of perpetual trauma and grief..grief over the loss of trust or faith in human ity..we are our siblings keeper..but.i was raised in a cult..of personality..and Here we are..forced to submit to the Wil of others in flight fight freeze and fawn.
All of these things. Check
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I don't know why I feel overwhelmed ... There is no loud noise, no parties during the day... so how can I remind myself...
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I have to figure out what to do with self-customized, screen-printed clothes….
I checked the prices. Can't afford this yet. Sorry.
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Keep in mind that one of the possible factors to this isnt from cptsd, but something talked about in johanthan Haidt's coddling of the american mind.
Ohhhhh yessss i know that you just cant function AT ALL!!
Sam Vaknin, author and professor of psychology in an email:
Sent: Sunday, 10 March 2024 12:09 PM
“Just finished reading your magisterial book. [MIND GAMES The Dual Facets of Manipulation and Dark Psychology]
The most thorough survey of Machiavellianism I have ever come across. Congratulations. It is awe-inspiring and seamlessly combines erudition with practical advice.
Take care there!
Sam Vaknin, Ph.D.”
Member of the Faculty of CIAPS (Commonwealth Institute for Advanced Professional Studies), Cambridge, UK; Toronto, Canada, Lagos, Nigeria
Former Visiting Professor of Psychology, Southern Federal University, Rostov-on-Don, Russia
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1st comment
Technically it's not a comment. Why is it so important to post something as "first?"
@@dorisjking8937why do you feel the need to crap on someone's post?
@@katiekane5247I’m not being mean either, I’m genuinely curious why people do it. ❤😊
Yes! When too many people talk to me at once I panic. Worried I’m not giving each one enough attention, worried I’m not taking it all in. Worried they can see I’m worried 😑
You actually know I have rotting vegetables in my refrigerator?
The cauliflower florets has been taken care of 🫢
Happens all the time to me. Last night, was at a family member’s home and MIL was speaking to me. Then my husband starts saying my name and trying to tell me something. All I hear is a bunch of noise-everyone talking at once and I can’t focus. Happens all the time. I told him later, I can’t focus on multiple conversations at once. He knows this, but forgets.
Don't they know it's rude to talk over others
❤❤❤ Thanks so much , I just found your video come up on my feed, So a new subscription here 🥰 Your no doubt helping so many others , I think it helps people hearing that other people struggle with the same thing, it brings comfort and makes people feel less lonely 🫶🏻🥰Fifi
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