To Anyone Going Through A Breakup (for boys only)

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  • @trajan15
    @trajan15 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2259

    I met her in my darkest place, we both grew so much together, and now it’s over. It’s hard to think the woman who saved me is gone

    • @alfiere2078
      @alfiere2078 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +98

      i can feel this a lot, man..

    • @ffjake4762
      @ffjake4762 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      Felt

    • @zacharypecora5339
      @zacharypecora5339 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

      I fully feel that man, the same thing happened to me. She got me to finally stop getting pinned and actually “Wrestle the Giant” and then she left

    • @hunterelliott4858
      @hunterelliott4858 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +49

      That’s the problem brother. You gotta get out of the dark place before you meet the one. Gotta have some self worth and value before you get serious. Then you’re just relying on her to give you value

    • @worldrecordmethod7119
      @worldrecordmethod7119 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

      wtf me too man, chick literally pulled me out of the gutter and turned me into a great man. I know it feels like you’re back in the gutter now that she’s gone but you’re not. I’m currently 55 days in and it’s not easy, but it definitely feels possible

  • @random3rsifO_O
    @random3rsifO_O 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +751

    “It's sad when someone you know becomes someone you knew.”

    • @beready4861
      @beready4861 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      That hits hard man 😢

    • @random3rsifO_O
      @random3rsifO_O 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yeah bro it does 😕

    • @makaveli2363
      @makaveli2363 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      2nd day without my partner of over 3 years. This shit hurts boys.

    • @AIDAN_TTK
      @AIDAN_TTK 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Na dwg i talked to this girl day and night we werent tg but we had the nicknames for eachother but shes with someone else

    • @J1DIGGLYWIGGLY
      @J1DIGGLYWIGGLY 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@AIDAN_TTK exactly the same
      i cant stay strong anymore

  • @SpyOnDeck
    @SpyOnDeck 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +693

    7 years ended last week. I've been through heartbreak before, but this one hurts more than any of them combined.
    Trusting in God for brighter days ahead. Praying for all my boys feeling the same hurt. We got this Kings. Stay strong 👊

    • @jordy9313
      @jordy9313 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Hope you are Allright. Same thing happend to me last week. After 7 years, she left me. And moved back to her home town, 200 kilometers away. Stay strong and positive

    • @SpyOnDeck
      @SpyOnDeck 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@jordy9313 🙏 sorry to hear. My relationship has turned into long distance. It's still tough to deal with. Hang in there 👊

    • @oliverislost
      @oliverislost 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      dude, me too
      I feel like shit and I'm the one who broke up with her

    • @worldrecordmethod7119
      @worldrecordmethod7119 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      7 years is insane man. honestly I would look into Okbaby break up reaction videos, it’s been my form of therapy and it’s pretty funny. She ended a 7 year relationship with her bf and married his friend later. Bro was absolutely wrecked for a whole year then suddenly got a girlfriend from heaven. Gorgeous beyond words and his ex got fat and ugly. Content about their break up has literally been getting me through the heartbreak one chuckle at a time

    • @stefanandersson1263
      @stefanandersson1263 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      hope youre doing okay brother

  • @ianfranco4686
    @ianfranco4686 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1302

    That hug part damn! Yeah i really need that so bad. To all us men going through these phases sending y'all hugs bros! We fucking got this!

    • @tbm4557
      @tbm4557 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      I completley agree with you. It is really hard for me now bro. And all I can think about is that hug from her. But in the day when I am with my friends it is a lot esier, but the evenigs, damn they hit hard, I am alone and cant stop thinging about how it was. But I am trying. Hope you are too!

    • @regan420
      @regan420 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      ⁠@@tbm4557 I am thinking the exact same thing. I can’t remember the last time I hugging someone that wasn’t her. You’re literally alone with your thoughts contemplating things you should’ve done to make her want you but you didn’t so you just blame yourself and it hurts so much.

    • @nlegault1218
      @nlegault1218 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      i literally choked up when he said that

    • @anthonyesposito4344
      @anthonyesposito4344 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@nlegault1218same

    • @CityForlife-jy8cw
      @CityForlife-jy8cw 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks man

  • @lordstone57
    @lordstone57 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +444

    I’m in college and my girlfriend of 10 months who is still back home just broke up with me. I’ve had horrible relationships in the past, but she was the first one to ever really love me and show me that she loved me. She wrote me handwritten notes every day and I’d write her letters, she took the time to text me and remind me to have some food in between classes and she would call me every night and would rant about work and then eventually we would fall asleep on the phone together. I honestly saw the rest of my life with her. She took me out of such a horrible place and was the first person I was able to cry in front of in years. She honestly was the first person who made me feel safe enough to cry at all. She’s back home though and long distance is hard. We both love eachother but can’t say it. I truly believe she is my soulmate and the one I’m meant to be with, and I’m not planning on looking around at other girls anytime soon. I hate the idea of “dating just to date”, I only date if I genuinely see a long term/possible future with someone. I’ve only been in 3 relationships and those were because I saw a future with each of them, the first two were honestly middle school and then high school relationships and I would hardly call them relationships looking back at them, tbh I never kissed either of them because I didn’t feel comfortable with doing so and I wanted my first kiss to be special; this girl that just left me was my first, and was the first person I truly felt I was meant to be with. I wanted to make every memory by her side. I saw us starting a family someday and growing old together. She told me to stop texting her because I was asking about why we were breaking up, so I wrote her a letter and mailed it telling her one last time that I do love and care about her and that I’d be here for her whether it’s 10 months or 10 years that we don’t talk with one another. I finished it off with “And hopefully, if fate wills it, I will See You Again

    • @redo3390
      @redo3390 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

      im in the same boat brother, best wishes

    • @ScreamingObsidian
      @ScreamingObsidian 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

      brother, i want to say that im also in the same boat as you but she was my first girlfriend, we spent so much time together everyday, video calls and in class together but then everything just broke apart (not related to cheating). our relationship is also 10months and i gave away everything for her, i had friends before i met her but then one of the friends betrayed my trust so i just gave up on friends as a whole and gave everything for her and it still wasnt enough. now that we are done, i realize that im not alone and i owe my friends an apology.(some of ‘y friends changed schools becus im in highschool). i cant understand the intensity of your pain but i do understand your type of pain. we, as men or “boys” dont get to open up and talk about emotions a lot but at the end of the day, we are all human and we cant stop our feelings. i never comment on videos but seeing your emotion, pain and suffering in the form of this post makes me want to speak up and say that you arent alone and we can get through this. i hate to admit that even im tearing up abit. (ironic how my pfp is obsidian and there is an item called crying obsidian and im only making this joke to lighten up the mood abit and you also have a minecraft pfp, i hope my form of joking it dont show my age) good luck man, we can get through this, from a random person on the internet to another random person on the internet

    • @thatonedudethatplaysroblox3137
      @thatonedudethatplaysroblox3137 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      I'm sorry man, the same thing happened to me. One man to another, hopefully we all get though this. Prayers your way friend.

    • @S.Drift.1
      @S.Drift.1 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Ik how you feel emotionally. I was in a relationship of almost 3 yrs. Today she called it quits after saying that she’s tired of trying and telling me what to do. Moments later I got in my car and broke down, I’ve never broke down like this before especially in a relationship. I’ve ofc tried to reason with her but she keeps saying “I’m sorry but no”. I’ll keep trying since we decided to continue the convo tomorrow but she said nothing will change her mind, hopefully I can bc I don’t want to lose all of this progress and start over.

    • @MM-py9st
      @MM-py9st 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Broke up with my first girlfriend two weeks ago, we were together for almost 13 months and then she suddenly became cold and wanted to take a break even though we hadn’t seen each other in 5 months. She wouldn’t really talk to me and her main reasoning was because of where both of us were in life relative to each other. We both graduated college but she makes WAY more than me and despite giving her everything I could with what little I had, it wasn’t enough. I don’t want to get into too much detail but she was the first girl I ever connected with so deeply. I used to think we could’ve been soulmates but things started to change and in the end it didn’t work out. I also don’t normally date unless it’s with someone I’m serious about having a future with which is why my first relationship/kiss was at the age of 22. Anyways, it was tough. Just wanted to say I appreciate all the effort put into this video and to anyone going through a breakup, I want you to know everything will be okay. You deserve to be happy and you will find that happiness one day, just focus on enjoying the journey until you meet the right one.

  • @mdcmdc1
    @mdcmdc1 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +326

    And they think men don't care...it's really difficult to be with someone and then suddenly it's gone. You can have friends, parents or whatever, but its your partner you build a life with. The emptiness is real.

    • @pook304
      @pook304 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      It sure is cause I'm completely empty and she doesn't even care one goddamn bit about it.

    • @Clleonie
      @Clleonie 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@pook304she does trust me

    • @nicolassimon2367
      @nicolassimon2367 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Empty, Lost in thought and regret, we were planning to start a family and a week later she just left. I am not able to stop the pain yet, i see her everywhere and cant stop looking at my phone but we have to at least give it a try.

    • @bunnypxnts
      @bunnypxnts หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@nicolassimon2367 how are you holding up man?

    • @williamgunderson7365
      @williamgunderson7365 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It really is. We only dated from March 2023 to June/July 2024 but it felt like it was going to last forever. I understand rationally that I idealized the relationship with her but it really was the guiding star in my life.

  • @cocoa_ar
    @cocoa_ar 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +549

    Why did I tear up after he said "When was the last time you felt a hug?"?

    • @Crusader930
      @Crusader930 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      no bur fr i started crying

    • @regan420
      @regan420 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      I came close to crying bc I couldn’t think of the last time someone other than my ex hugged me

    • @AKrieger94
      @AKrieger94 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Same.. I literally cannot remember

    • @McSalty087
      @McSalty087 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Idk

    • @anirban_5
      @anirban_5 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      25th march 2023 last time she hugged me unexpectly from my back❤‍🩹

  • @joeykidney
    @joeykidney  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1254

    boys, as cheesy as it seems - you are not alone.

    • @lukebouwman6843
      @lukebouwman6843 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      You've just helped me more than you can even imagine Mr joey.... Thank you

    • @Privileged_Slave
      @Privileged_Slave 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I’m grateful for your video and advice . It helped me calm down and have a different perspective on my situation .

    • @LucasRiley-ig1gf
      @LucasRiley-ig1gf 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thanks Joey

    • @SmorezCx
      @SmorezCx 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      You just helped save someones life, me. I love you for that! ❤

    • @shanevrins8470
      @shanevrins8470 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Why does it feel like the complete opposite then? 😪

  • @Valhalla2008
    @Valhalla2008 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +214

    My girlfriend left me on my birthday, right after I got home from the Walter reed military hospital, because my dad was in a helicopter crash. I've been so depressed from that and to the things I saw in the hospital. I'm struggling man, I've been needing something like this. Especially when we live in a society where Men can't show their feelings. Where men just need to go suck it up and keep working. I'm just, struggling. Struggling with my faith, Struggling with depression, struggling with the will to live. I needed this. Thank you.

    • @KVuong-rv2hs
      @KVuong-rv2hs 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Let tears water the seeds of your future's happiness.

    • @jimg5797
      @jimg5797 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Me too brother..

    • @AKrieger94
      @AKrieger94 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Sending love for you brother! Keep fighting. It shall pass 🙏

    • @gakorothyt9768
      @gakorothyt9768 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Bro, I am truly for your loss. Especially for you dad. It must really be hard for you to just keep living. I know what you're going through. My mom's gonna have surgery, I have me end Semester exams, and my woman whom I thought to be my emotional anchor left me. So my whole life is just crumbling apart bro. And I can't show that to anybody else. I can cry and grieve in solace. That's the best I can do right now. Everyday it's hard to put on a I'm happy and fine face and live my day as usual
      So you're not alone brother. We are there for each other.

    • @jonburnett2207
      @jonburnett2207 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      stay strong my bro (:

  • @aidanlund3767
    @aidanlund3767 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +315

    Just gotten broken up with by my girlfriend of a year and 4 months. I was too attached to her and she needed some space and independence. After losing her a few days ago, I have felt so empty. I have no motivation to do anything and I’m constantly wanting to text her back and fix everything, even though I know she wants to move on. I hate this feeling so much
    Edit: Thank you guys for all of the support. While it is sad to know other people are experiencing what I’m feeling, it does help me to understand that I’m not alone. This feeling still sucks, but time does heal. We got this boys. Sending love to all of you❤️

    • @iwanther17
      @iwanther17 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      Im on the same boat as you she just broke up with me and i feel so empty.

    • @christianstone8570
      @christianstone8570 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Same here!! 1 year and 4 months! we were perfect

    • @christianstone8570
      @christianstone8570 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I hate this man

    • @TevitaSwann
      @TevitaSwann 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Same boat right now bro. It's really hard man.

    • @toxicty6595
      @toxicty6595 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      How's everyone doing

  • @issa_adventures
    @issa_adventures 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +237

    I’m crying watching this video, it hurts so much. But thank you for making it. It was something I needed to see.

    • @joeykidney
      @joeykidney  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      I’m happy it found you

    • @babyyoda4942
      @babyyoda4942 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Are u doing alright now bro

    • @chipmunkmusic2100
      @chipmunkmusic2100 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      me too man

    • @Håkon-i7x
      @Håkon-i7x 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      does it get better?

    • @chipmunkmusic2100
      @chipmunkmusic2100 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Håkon-i7x yes,after 3 weeks it gets much better

  • @bryanruppel9307
    @bryanruppel9307 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +120

    41 male here. I've been with my partner going on 15 years. We've been married for 7. This year she told me she loves me but no longer in love with me. She won't go to marriage counseling or work on us in anyway. She told me I did everything right, and nothing wrong(I've always dated my wife), I feel in love with her now as much as I did when I married her. But there is nothing I can do if she won't try. This is by far the hardest thing I have ever gone through. I don't just lose her, I lose all her family(I have no family, all passed away). This video did help a lot, but I started crying when you said the hug part. I have no one to reach out to. I go day by day, try not to get overwhelmed. Thank you for talking about this, it needs more talking about. I hope everyone out there going through a hard time knows the same, you are not alone, just like Joey said.

    • @MajorPickleSwag
      @MajorPickleSwag 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      hang in there king

    • @WillOligher
      @WillOligher 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I’m sorry to hear this man, the not wanting to try really resonated with me. About a month ago my wife said she needs space and was going to a furnished apartment through work to figure some things out. Found out that she had been having an affair for about 7 months, that this was not the first time she’s done this but the 4th and that she wasn’t actually at some apartment but his house. Gave her the option to try and work on this but she didn’t want to, didn’t want to try and didn’t really even want to talk about it. Also found out that she had been using a credit card to start preparing for this for a few months. Hard to fathom how someone could be so cold. You’re not alone man so keep going. I know it’s early and it’s only been 5 weeks for me but I feel like I’m in a drastically better place than during the first week or so.

    • @dannyliles8025
      @dannyliles8025 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I love you man

    • @clawje
      @clawje 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      time time time and TIME. Give yourself time! You are still very young at 41 yo and life doesn't end there. You are going to be fine. Much love

    • @57_arijitseal26
      @57_arijitseal26 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      🫂

  • @Tattooed_goldenretriever
    @Tattooed_goldenretriever 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +86

    This is really sweet more men need to know it’s okay be emotional and express themselves. You’re a great example of a man to look up to. Thank you for everything joey. You’ve changed my life and I’m in a much better and healthier spot

    • @joeykidney
      @joeykidney  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      appreciate you

    • @mk0759
      @mk0759 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It'd be nice if that were true. Usually, a man is wise to keep his guard up and his vulnerable emotions hidden. Most people will turn it against him sooner or later if he lets them that close (I've seen it too many times). There's no social stigma or consequence for emotionally attacking men, even when it's blatant and out of pure spite. A lucky few may have a male friend who's been in that painful situation too, can truly empathise and be trusted to confide in. That's still only a lucky FEW from my observations.

  • @D-A-N-
    @D-A-N- 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    The fact almost everyone went thru this and is going thru it makes u feel better that what happened to u is really not that special, it’s just part of the game.

  • @noahseip4420
    @noahseip4420 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +59

    Thank you. The hardest part is letting go of the meaning you attached to them, and the vision you had for you guys and for the future. Looking back at pictures, from when things were great, looking back at a letter she wrote you telling how much she loved you. Now all of a sudden she is moved on and does not have feelings for you anymore. The pain of her moving on, and wanting to see other people the pain of all the memories, and the pain that she is excited to be moving forewared without you is a pain like nothing else.

    • @oscargarcete8200
      @oscargarcete8200 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      It is unbelievable how someone can love you to death and suddenly she's with other person

    • @corvoriever539
      @corvoriever539 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@oscargarcete8200 it really is a lot of pain. I was with her for 5 years and then she got with someone about a month and a half later, and then I heard from a friend that she’s getting engaged with him?! Already?! It hasn’t even been 4 months my bros. Shit fuckin hurts.

    • @nicholisfourie8971
      @nicholisfourie8971 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@corvoriever539 Yeah I do not know what is up with that. It is around a month, or in your instance a month a half, and they are with somebody knew. I keep on reading instances of this.
      4 months is flipping wild. At least perhaps there might be security in that?
      Mine had a hookup with a work colleague 2 weeks after the break-up.
      Originally I wanted to be there for her to talk to so that she doesn't do dumb stuff like that. My efforts were rendered pointless and I didn't even know.

    • @corvoriever539
      @corvoriever539 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@nicholisfourie8971 she got engaged less than 2 months before our breakup. I want to slap that new dudes goofy smile off his face. Get my white air forces bloody bro. But I can’t think of them. The focus needs to be on my own healing and personal progress. I take solace in the fact she didn’t upgrade at least when it comes to looks. It’s funny too, she talked so much shit about white dudes and the first person she gets with is a blonde ass white guy lol fuckin eating her words. Following in her mother’s footsteps just hopping to the next guy instead of focusing on herself.

  • @ptvpoint9855
    @ptvpoint9855 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    If I didn't find this video sooner, people would have found my body, dead, floating on some random river. Your warm soft voice, with understanding confidant and advice, bring me back. Thank you!

    • @nannimancini3088
      @nannimancini3088 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      you got this homie

    • @Moodeng-sama
      @Moodeng-sama 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Stay strong king!

  • @harmmx2923
    @harmmx2923 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    When you started about the "'hug" i broke down, perfect words.
    Thank you Joey

  • @TheThinkFirst
    @TheThinkFirst 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

    This really does describe all the emotions that I’ve felt so far with my recent breakup. I’m still moving towards the 3rd and 4th step in the first part. Keep doing great things because mental health is extremely important.

  • @joaomacedo7279
    @joaomacedo7279 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    You are one of the few that actually says what it's need to be heard. It has been over a year now and I guess I am at the last stage, I've accepted it and moving forward but still with pain in my heart but I don't ignore my feelings anymore. That hug thing at the end it's so true, everyone needs a tight hug from time to time!

  • @robertg78
    @robertg78 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Thank you, Joey.
    In my case, the part that hurt the most was that I was trying to feel valued through my GF because I didn't feel valued at my job. That said, I was dumped. Couple of months later she is going out with a new guy and gets in a new relationship. I actually did not care much about it -kinda happy for her actually- but the ego, man. Ego took a serious low blow, reinforcing my low-self esteem and value issues.
    I believe that when your ego gets hurt like this, you need to acknowledge it, try to understand where it comes from, and work on yourself; be kind to yourself. Men are shaped under the heat of the forge and by the weight of the hammer. Work on yourself with purpose.
    Even though I still have my setbacks, I feel blessed whenever I feel excited to know what partner the future will bring. I don't know any of you guys, but I love you still.

  • @bobbyrebholz2183
    @bobbyrebholz2183 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Maybe I can help some men in here because I'm going through a breakup that's my first relationship post divorce.
    I was married for eight years and I'm a single dad at 44.(Single dads, you know how challenging this can be). Well, I gave it a full year before I would even date again. I met someone in May of this year and I kept my distance on purpose. We started falling for each other hard but there was one single thing getting in the way: she wants to start a family(she's 34) and I already have kids and don't want to start another family. I'm not going down that road. It's one of the most difficult things I've had to do because she's amazing. It hurts bad but we had to do it because she deserves to be a mom. She's wonderful. When you have to break up for reasons that were never toxic, those can be the hardest to deal with.

  • @Lbf81769
    @Lbf81769 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Very powerful message here "You deserve too see what tomorrow is like"

  • @ryan_clutch35
    @ryan_clutch35 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +102

    Although its been 6 months since my 2.5 year relationship ended, this video just saved me from a lifetime of unhealthy thoughts and all I can say is thank you. To everyone else who may read this, take this from someone who made mistakes (even with the right intentions) and had to get over the depths of self-blame. YOU. ARE. NOT. ALONE.
    Love yourself and forgive yourself for any mistakes you may have made. Nothing moves linear so let the lessons be lessons and move forward with your new perspective, because one day you'll realize how strong you truly are. You are the author of your own life story. Some chapters may be your favorite and some you might choose to skip, but realize that you hold the pen. So write the story you want! Go out and try something you've always wanted to do, tell your loved ones you appreciate them, and let the next time you smile be the evidence that you deserve to be happy.
    Thank you for being on this Earth with me, I can't wait to read the story you write!

    • @joeykidney
      @joeykidney  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      love this

    • @parashar.s
      @parashar.s 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      thanks man I can relate to the things you said I hope everything will be fine

    • @ryan_clutch35
      @ryan_clutch35 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@parashar.s You'll be okay and everything will be fine, as long as you make yourself your biggest cheerleader. You may not like who you see in the mirror today, but that's the crazy part. It doesn't reflect who we'll be in the future. So keep moving forward and keep the momentum! You have my complete support!

  • @Somusicais
    @Somusicais 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +193

    I suffered severe depression several years ago. I could remember several years ago after divorce with my wife which brought me into my disastrous journey on Alcohol and cigarettes. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with cptsd.
    Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.

    • @AfkAliaga
      @AfkAliaga 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

    • @AfkAliaga
      @AfkAliaga 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Is he on instagram?

    • @socialworkgroupa5256
      @socialworkgroupa5256 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episode, enough to start working on my mental health.

    • @grandmastermario3695
      @grandmastermario3695 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      My mom had breakups all the time because all her boyfriends were alcoholics and abusive to all of us, so honestly being depressed over 1 break up wow sounds like someone who can't handle life sensitive much.

  • @PheonxGlare
    @PheonxGlare 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Coming back to your videos in my 2nd heartbreak feels like popping a drink with my older brother and talking about it all.
    I still remember sending in a video 4 years ago sharing with you and your viewers that i was afraid of love- it was my biggest anxiety. The cause of panic attacks, and despite all of that, it was the reason i got up every morning.
    That girl built me back up over those four years, but found a way to convince herself to leave despite everything i did for her. Now, its my turn to build myself up, separate from loving her.
    Thank you, Joey. Your videos are something every guy whos ever been hurt like this should see.

  • @itsmesoleh06
    @itsmesoleh06 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I have released my ego and asked him for the second chance but he didnt want me to come back. Thanks for it, helps me a lot.

  • @Syndor12
    @Syndor12 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    Thank you. I'm 28, been in only one serious long distance relationship for the last 4 years. We'd broken up three times before, but we'd always get back together. I finally ended it again, two weeks ago. She was my best friend, my safe place, but logistically we just couldn't be together. Neither of us fell out of love, we just knew we wouldn't be able to get married. No one really tells you how to handle those breakups where both people are still in love but have to break up for reasons out of their control. Still, this video helped me.

    • @HQR000
      @HQR000 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I had to breakup with my bf because he went through a major illness.. we were seeing each other with the intention of marriage but in the end I had to walk away because if we pursued it further & became more knowing the fact that he could practically leave me widowed in the next few years it would crush us both. If he really became my husband & I had to see him deteriorate in front of me & then die I dont think I could mentally handle it. I had no choice but to walk away even though I still think about him everyday.

    • @Syndor12
      @Syndor12 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@HQR000 I'm sorry, that's such a horrible and cruel situation for anyone to be put in, I can't imagine it. I hope you get through it. I left that comment five months ago and today I'm able to get through most days without the feeling of pain and loss. I know our situations are completely different, but time really does make things easier. Hang in there.

    • @nicholisfourie8971
      @nicholisfourie8971 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yeah. I didnt stop loving her, but we knew that we had such different ideas over a household together.
      I did not go researching strategies on how to handle break ups, weighing the odds of not talking to them anymore and so forth. It was my first. I was genuinely reacting. Some people encouraged not talking at all, but that just sounded so extreme and cruel.

    • @Syndor12
      @Syndor12 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@nicholisfourie8971 Honestly as much as I was against going no contact, in the end that's what did help the most. It did basically mean the end of any relationship we'd ever have, I don't think the two of us will ever speak again or be friends, but it's the only way I could move on. It's still a struggle during some days, but I think it'd be worse if we were still in contact.

    • @anycoveryoulike7510
      @anycoveryoulike7510 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Thank you for sharing this. I went through a very similar situation where I broke up with a girl I really loved 3 weeks ago, it was really hard, but it was the 5th breakup in our relationship and at the end of the day despite how much we loved each other, it wasn't compatible

  • @AfkChris04
    @AfkChris04 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    It’s been 3 days since I broken up with my 1 year relationship, and I needed a hug. My grandma is my top supporter, and yesterday, before I left from work, she said to me “Drive safely my son, I love you” I couldn’t hold it in any longer so I came running to her and we hugged and cried together. Guys, I wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for that hug. I’m grateful for the friends and family I have.

  • @999plays
    @999plays 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Damnnn I didn't think of it at first but the thing you said... You don't feel it when it happens but the more time passes, the worse it gets

  • @nlegault1218
    @nlegault1218 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    i love everything in this video, but you really got me when you said i need to hug someone. i started choking up

  • @godofgames0947
    @godofgames0947 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    We hugged before we said our last goodbye's. Im thankful to have someone like her, to have the chance to court her. Thank you.

  • @718QNZKID
    @718QNZKID 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I got discarded a month and half ago, everyday I cry for her. Our time together was full of love and laughter, we never argued and than when our first rough patch hit, she ran and left me behind... Kings, brothers we are strong and we are enough. Please talk to someone. I've started seeing a therapist to help get all my emotions in check. If you've got healthcare coverage, I encourage you deeply to look into and find mental help. Please brothers, we can't keep up the stigma of appearing weak for needing help! It could very much help you understand and make sense of what goes where in life. Stay strong kings!

    • @oscargarcete8200
      @oscargarcete8200 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      How are you bro? Hope you doing well buddy, im going thru the same shit rn, she left me 5 days ago, 3 years right down the sink, just like that, gone...
      It is fucking hard, the hardest thing ever, i cried so much these days and i feel empty.
      I just hope we can survive this shit and be happy again.
      We can do it brother, i know we can

    • @revonn7336
      @revonn7336 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This was exactly what happen to me as well.
      From a happy moment where we both enjoyed each other company, had sex and was intimate. We were long distance as well. I was ready to give everything to make it work, no matter how difficult it gets. But she always avoid when there is difficult conversation. I tried everything to fix it. From being ignored and messages becoming further and further she slowly moving out of my life, unfollowing me and removing me from Instagram with no explanation, that’s was what we used to contact each other.
      Whoever going through a break up or ending a situationship, it’s tough. But believe in yourself, work on yourself, because you deserve to be love. You deserve to be treated well. One day you will find the one. And hopefully I will heal and become a man who is able to love once more.

  • @skeley1167
    @skeley1167 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    That hug part really got me man. Wish me luck boys. sending love to all of you, lets get through this ❤

  • @offISH-c4c
    @offISH-c4c 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    thanks a lot, it’s the seemingly cringy things that are always what we need to hear especially about something like this. Keep doing what you are doing it’s helping me and i’m sure it’s helping a lot of other people too. Thanks

  • @areebjaved0022
    @areebjaved0022 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Thanks for this. She just left me yesterday and her mom was trying to comfort me, it's been really hard even though it's been a day. I will still be there for her and support her as she has more problems than me

  • @mikelgutmut
    @mikelgutmut 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    This is just so good, thank you brother. Almost a year since I took the decision to break up with my ex-girlfriend. It has been a super healthy breakup, full of respect and love, but also, of course, so much pain. Your words are just so accurate and true. Thank you. Keep moving forward guys and strive to become better men in the process.

  • @henrichomette831
    @henrichomette831 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I cried watching this, your so genuine and real. Thank you

  • @beckymurphy5399
    @beckymurphy5399 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Blessings to you for getting this vid together. I’m a female of-a-certain age and yet I needed this, too…! My relationship was brief but intense and the end came suddenly LIKE a car crash!
    It helped to hear you say that just bc someone didn’t die doesn’t mean it wasn’t traumatic… bc I can’t stop thinking about it! I journal a LOT, talk to friends, employ strategies, have good days and bad days, but ‘society’ has moved while i still haven’t.
    This video gave me permission to acknowledge I may NOT move on like my people hv and that’s ok, bc I AM processing it…and one day I too will be able to enter a store we went to w/o hoping I’ll see him, nor being triggered to relive our last date again. Your words hv restored a new level of hope🙂
    Thank you!

  • @MAGNATEOfficial
    @MAGNATEOfficial 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    6 years ended 2 weeks ago. The worst part is I’m not sure I fully understand her reasons for wanting to break up, which makes it worse, harder to process or to accept that it was a good thing when there doesn’t seem to be a good reason to break up. But there isn’t much I can do. First week was fine, felt normal but I ran into her 1 week ago and she spoke to me for the first time like a stranger, like we were fully truly done and I think it was then that it properly hit me, have been feeling really shit lately and have lost some ‘friends’ who no longer seem to reach out anymore. I feel lonely to be honest, and I want someone to talk with but I don’t feel like I have anybody that cares. Its tough man.

    • @chipsahoy8716
      @chipsahoy8716 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I feel you bro 3 years over like I swear 30 minutes ago everything you say I feel the same, but we got this bro I love you💙

    • @godnoss466
      @godnoss466 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@chipsahoy8716I relate to you man! I am going through something very similar. Stay strong bro, at least I’m trying to!

    • @whiteyls9682
      @whiteyls9682 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hey man I seen this is 3 months old now, how are you doing. I had a 6 year relationship that just ended still early stages literally this past Monday and I'm not sure I know why it ended as well I mean she gave me reasons but us guys can't truly comprehend a woman's mind unfortunately, anyway I been down for the most part but I am trying my damn hardest to hold it together

    • @tsluthra5490
      @tsluthra5490 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Me too guys , got blindsided in June , got my reasons and a closure ( all fixable by a mere conversation ) but she just wanted to leave. Was fxed the first 2 months after that, begged and pleaded too but my pleas fell on a deaf error. Got the cold treatment from her, I'm getting better now. I would just advise you to find hobbies and workout a lot bro. Time will heal us and we will make it brahs.

  • @braedendabney3934
    @braedendabney3934 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +50

    Just figured out 2 hours ago my girlfriend was talking and started a relationship with someone else. She gaslighted me but i knew in my gut feeling something was wrong. 2 years wasted.

    • @calumtorn1340
      @calumtorn1340 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I'm sorry bro... I've been there and I'm still hurting and broken over it
      .. but not as bad as I was. Time will heal you bro just feel as much as you can and get through each day. Much love bro you deserve better just let yourself cry

    • @ottosneider7233
      @ottosneider7233 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@calumtorn1340åå😊å😊åpppååå😊😊😊😊😊😊å😊

    • @CheeseyMilkshakes
      @CheeseyMilkshakes 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Look at it this way, it wasn't wasted. You still had two years of beautiful memories with this person, and half of those memories are you. That feeling you have for her, all of that love, it's YOU that did that. Your brain made the chemicals that made you feel that way, your brain generated that love. Your brain will make those chemicals again, it'll be hard but they will. My partner left me two months ago, I was absolutely devastated and in many ways I still am (hell I'm watching this video now lmao), but I feel so much better than I did even a month ago. Put yourself out there , join new groups, start a new hobby, READ (get off your phone). Take this time to build yourself up into a person that you would be envious of. I'm sorry you're going through this man, the pain is atrocious.

    • @huangbusiness
      @huangbusiness 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      just happened to me recently. nearly 3 years gone for some random fella

    • @joshuabrown9398
      @joshuabrown9398 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@huangbusinessdon't feel bad, a horrible poison on your life is now gone.
      Better people are out there

  • @d.b.2917
    @d.b.2917 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    She told me I saved her when I entered her life, but she didn’t save me when she left me.

  • @mgd8867
    @mgd8867 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I really recommend talking about it with a close friend. I made the mistake of just tamping it down and burying my emotions. It made me a bitter resentful person and just filled me with frustration and anger that I took it on others.
    It’s part of the journey boys, some are lucky to never experience it, most of us do though. You loved, you lost and now you keep on living.

  • @aditdeshmukh3431
    @aditdeshmukh3431 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    You’re doing a great job,its been 3 months but still trying to fight it.

    • @joeykidney
      @joeykidney  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      and you’re doing great too! Keep going

    • @aditdeshmukh3431
      @aditdeshmukh3431 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@joeykidney thanks man

  • @brandon360white8
    @brandon360white8 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I needed this channel badly, just got out of a fantastic 1 year relationship and it ended because of anxiety and we both were going down mentally and we had to accept we had to end things, now I'm starting a new job and my life feels so confused and unmotivated, it's been hard to move on and accept everything that happened, it's weird trying to find myself again, thank you for the advice

  • @mast3rchief536
    @mast3rchief536 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I met mine in a dark place, I ended up supporting her and helped her get her dream job even in middle of balancing real problems in my life. Once her life took off and got where she needed to be, she left me behind. We got speaking again now 10 months later and when I brought it up she was like “why do you bring something up from a year ago” and “yes you did do …. But that’s all you’ve done”. My love that turned to sadness and depression has now turned to anger but it’s also taught me and cleared my head. My empathy has been crushed which was my weakness and I’m never gonna let that happen again. Feel sorry if the next person who comes a long coz she isn’t gonna get full version of me. Right now I have no interest in women whatsoever

  • @tommyreynolds6237
    @tommyreynolds6237 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for being authentic and honest. Young men need more role models who aren’t afraid to be vulnerable.

  • @Jenna-vj2ju
    @Jenna-vj2ju 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I am not a boy but I appreciate this. Wishing all the best to anyone going through a rough time rn💖

    • @joeykidney
      @joeykidney  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you Jenna

  • @matrixdude0887
    @matrixdude0887 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Man I felt this, more than words could describe, I could try but it would never be enough, you all get it. Stay safe guys, together.🙏

  • @TheWaunfawr
    @TheWaunfawr 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +176

    Day 77 after a 6 year relationship

    • @retroaspects729
      @retroaspects729 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      Same we’ll get through it brother

    • @captainrich0222
      @captainrich0222 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      I’m on day 7 after a 3.5 year one. Does it get easier?

    • @TheWaunfawr
      @TheWaunfawr 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@captainrich0222 it does mate.
      You go from being in pain and upset into a stage of being confused and not knowing what’s next for you in life. You just have to grind the pain out mate. Feel your emotions and let them out, no shame in it. Stay active, get closer to your friends and family and set some big goals in your life! My 2 goals this year is to go to the Amazon and do ayahuasca then later on climb up Mount Kilimanjaro! It’s something to look forward to and to prepare for!

    • @anzorthewolf5558
      @anzorthewolf5558 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@captainrich0222
      Hello brother! I hope you're doing well❤️
      I know it's so hard to deal with especially if it wasn't you who decided to break up
      I have been in an online relationship for over 8 years
      And today she just decided to break up just like that... No reason at all... 8 years.... 8 years gone from my life the memories, the feelings, the emotions... They meant nothing to her...
      She were just manipulating me all the time... I tried everything to make her stay... My feelings were so true and pure towards her
      She was my everything my love my soul my motivation to keep going and to never give up
      I thought that she was the one for me... I gave her everything.....
      Yet I meant nothing to her...
      I rejected many girls in real life for her, it was so hard for me but I did it anyway just for her
      And now after all of these years together.....after 8 years she just left me like it was nothing
      Just simply saying: "I think we should break up I'm sorry but we can't be together" nothing more and nothing less
      She just left like it was nothing
      It's so hard to deal with, so much pain in my heart, so much memories that won't fade away
      Stand strong brother! You deserve better than that! You'll get up from this
      It's ok if you fall down but remember no one will hold you back up but yourself
      Take your time to heal and let it all go away
      Don't chase a silhouette that's long gone
      She's gone forever and she'll never return
      Stay strong brother❤️ I hope you the best in your life!

    • @nelsonleung613
      @nelsonleung613 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@captainrich0222Day 1 for me from a 3 year relationship

  • @Bigoldcupofdirtysprite
    @Bigoldcupofdirtysprite 16 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    "You could be happy but your not"
    Yeah that one hits

  • @romanfude2938
    @romanfude2938 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Hey Joey, I wanted to say thank you for all that you do. I’m currently reading your books working backwards and appreciating every word that’s in them. Keep up the good work can’t wait for what’s ahead!

  • @christiaannel8339
    @christiaannel8339 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Man, when you said the word hug I burst into tears, yup
    That's all we want now

  • @nidhithakker5911
    @nidhithakker5911 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Thank you so much needed this badly
    I'm a woman, never been in a relationship but still somehow needed this badly especially right now ❤

    • @joeykidney
      @joeykidney  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I am glad it helped you

  • @Mr_gray641
    @Mr_gray641 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    6:33 hit hard😢 it feels like I’ve been smiling and masking while my heart is out of me and in pieces and I just
    Stoped and looked and saw it there on the road broken it was i think a year ago :( or when my sister did when i was about to end myself. Ima hug my sis this weekend, thank you.

  • @RadYudoka
    @RadYudoka 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    my fiance and i just ended our 3 year relationship and although it ended in a good way and out of love and no hate, my heart still hurts so dam bad and i cant seem to stop crying. to my queen, i will forever love you and have a special place in my heart for you.

  • @Spectrumpicture
    @Spectrumpicture 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I moved to a new city, knowing no-one. I met her, through new friends. I had a glimpse that I wasn't going to be alone, I found a new home in this person. Obviously, im here, and she didn't feel the same.
    I share this because it helped me to know my situation is not unique, and maybe this describes you too.

    • @CrazyPancake9876
      @CrazyPancake9876 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I hope everything gets better for you, man. Just remember that we’re all in this together.

    • @ricassiocosta
      @ricassiocosta 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This is exactly what happened to me... I moved to a new city in a different state just to be with him. We lived together for two years and now I'm totally alone. I feel like I don't belong to this city, but in the same time, I changed to much back to my home town... I'm totally lost.

  • @swampthing94
    @swampthing94 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    My girlfriend of 7 years left me today. Everything feels so unreal and I feel like I'm slowly sliding into a black hole that I can't climb up from

    • @ErichHiller44
      @ErichHiller44 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hey man youre not alone! Same shit just happened to me the worst part is how I was just randomly ghosted so not knowing is killing me! Starting to think women are evil no joke. How do you spend time and emotions on someone and they don't even have the empathy to say what happened or why?

    • @swampthing94
      @swampthing94 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@ErichHiller44 I relapsed less than an hour ago and called her. It feels like I'm dying inside, my gut is wrenching and her BS about "It wasn't you, it's me" doesn't help. I indeed slid into a black hole and still going deeper. Thank you for your comment and support, let's hope we get through this. No girl, I mean not a single one is worth dying over and being miserable to no end. (The great relief that begins with the letter S does seem tempting to be fair)

    • @TheDRGSdontWork
      @TheDRGSdontWork หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@swampthing94hope you’re good brother stay safe , I just got dumped by someone who I spent so much time and energy on just for them to act like everything we ever did meant nothing. Man does it hurt & I hate getting emotional but I just don’t know what to do

    • @swampthing94
      @swampthing94 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@TheDRGSdontWorkThank you brother 🙏It will get better, it still hurts like hell and probably will for a while but no woman will kill my will to live and will to move forward. Not even the one I thought I'd share my life with

    • @nannimancini3088
      @nannimancini3088 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@swampthing94let’s fucking go buddy

  • @ju_tkaper
    @ju_tkaper 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Anger is linked with optimism and sadness with pessimism. I know It’s not right but that anger high feels good.

  • @leviotten
    @leviotten 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    14 years of love is over. Depression caused her to to turn inward, and it was 4 years of decline at the tail end that caused her to open up and tell me she cant see a future with me anymore. She can barely see tomorrow, let alone feel anything but anxiety about our love. She said the suicidal ideation hasnt left her alone for years now. She needs to focus entirely on recovery.
    She is still alive. She is still the woman of my dreams and the love of my life so far. I have to somehow cope with her needing to move on and deal with her depression in earnest. I have to move on as well.
    Nothing could have prepared me for this outcome. Be kind to yourselves. The grief is total and it is the very definition of pain. I dont see a way out yet, but one day I hope too.
    I love you more than life itself gaby. I dont how to deal with being alone.

    • @veer5714
      @veer5714 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Stay strong brother... we love you.... Seek help from God ... Make a bond with him... He will surely help... I am going through the same situation after staying 9 years together she is marrying to someone else....

  • @jakehoffman6443
    @jakehoffman6443 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    thanks for the great advice! my girlfriend broke up with me last sunday, needed to hear this words. kinda broke me not gonna lie!

  • @jakubmroz7104
    @jakubmroz7104 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Im 3 weeks after breakup of 5 years relationship and i just couldnt stop to cry after the hug part, I was doing it every day I only could and thinking that I haven't done it for so long made me realise how much I've started not to even think about it, it was just a habbit for so long, but man I would use a hug from her rn so freaking much

    • @xXChaChingXx
      @xXChaChingXx 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I think I'm getting to this stage. Man it sucks

  • @kemtronix
    @kemtronix 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I’m crying watching this, I’m about to propose we even picked the rings together, and before we get on our 3rd anniversary she suddenly dumped me telling me her feelings weren’t the same anymore. I’m in no contact for a month now, the pain is unbearable

  • @user-walnut909
    @user-walnut909 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Its okay for guys to vent !! Its okay to cry and talk about how you feel !! That's what friends and family are for ,to listen to you amd be there for you and make you feel better 🫶And if that doesn't work, therapy is there for everyone as well !! Every broken heart needs proper treatment,male or female ❤️

  • @ImWildflower110
    @ImWildflower110 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Hay everyone, I’ve been going through the worst heartbreak of my entire life recently, and I wanted to let you all know, that whatever happens it will be ok, it doesn’t matter what other people say or do, just keep being you, and that is what matters keep doing the right thing, God is with you and will always be by your side, so please, never stop being the best you can be.

  • @austeam
    @austeam 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thank you so much for this. My relationship with her lasted 10 months and she broke it off without giving an actual reason. All she did was just texting me saying that this will end in "good terms". Later I found out she was cheating on me for a while and was hinting it a few times. Its been 4 months and although it doesnt bother me as much, my thoughts still run wild from time to time. Now I realize I really am not alone, and perhaps this breakup might be good for me after all. Everyone, you're all worth it and you deserve to experience so much more. Don't let a breakup control your emotions and remember sadness is as important as hapiness in life. ❤

  • @samuelfarmer7388
    @samuelfarmer7388 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Just went separate ways from the woman i was with for 3 years and planned on marrying. It happened so fast. We’re still talking but it’s accepting the fact that there might never be an “us” again is what’s crushing

  • @Wazes
    @Wazes 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    7 years me and my “Ex” ( it feels so weird calling her that now ) were together. She broke up with me over text while I was working; my first reaction to it I laughed and shook my head & went back to work. I hadn’t talked to her since she sent me that text and it has now been 1 month. As time is going by it’s getting harder; it didn’t feel real at first at all but now reality is setting in and it’s gut wrenching. My days off are the worst right now because that’s when I typically spend all day with her.

  • @josdav07
    @josdav07 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The thing that hurt me the most was how cruel and cold she became. It made me feel like everything was a lie and the person I fell in love with never existed and was just a creation of my mind.

  • @christiansantiago.5586
    @christiansantiago.5586 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    It may have been about a year ago when my ex told me they lost feelings for myself and just didn't want to be in a relationship anymore and that was the thing that broke my hart i couldn't eat for a few days i couldn't go to bed without crying and sometimes i cry to this day but it was something that was going to happen i shouldn't be crying about the past i should just move on for my self and enjoy the freedom of my self and learn to talk to people and be less introverted and more outgoing and confident i may be sad for now but its okay if you are sad about someone or something just reamber that one door opens and another closes

  • @paklani9078
    @paklani9078 27 วันที่ผ่านมา

    you're right dude, anytime that emotion comes up, i just push it down until they arise again, and it's continue over and over this whole time

  • @ankurmukherjee2302
    @ankurmukherjee2302 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Thank you so much Joey..... You don't know how much I needed this❤❤..... Lots of love my guy❤❤❤

  • @The.RandomTube
    @The.RandomTube 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    5:30 To anyone going through a tough time, Firstly I'm only 19 years old, but I went through my first breakup when I was 15, At the time I didn't know anything about seperation and I underwent pure depression locked up in my house due to covid for a few months, it took me 3-4 months to move on and I know it may seem like a small time, but to a 15 year old mind that had never experienced this before it seemed like an eternity. I thought that I may never be able to be happy again, I felt like my world was crumbling, I didn't want to eat, didn't want to sleep, didn't even want to exist, but I pulled through. Later, I went through one of the best times of my life, found someone that I loved even deeply which made me a better person than I have ever been, now I'm 19 and this person that I'm referring to who made me the best version of myself has broken up with me, it's been 10 months and I still haven't moved on but I know that it's okay, it always feels like the sadness isn't going to end until it does. Even right now I don't know how long it will take for me to be 100% happy or atleast happy from my core, but I'm gonna stand tough and swim through this, to anyone going through something similar, I wish you and myself luck ♥️ Much love

  • @unanimousgamer
    @unanimousgamer 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This is the video i needed. Def brought out some tears but nice to feel it rather than just feeling numb

  • @sagergamer719
    @sagergamer719 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I had a breakup today this video really helped me gather my thoughts thank you Joey ❤ :)

    • @grogis2931
      @grogis2931 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      same

  • @HudsonSnow-j9q
    @HudsonSnow-j9q หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    i dont know if anyone is gunna see this but thank you so much for this video its hard to vent when you live on a world where men are spouse to bottle up there emotions this video realy help

  • @Grey_legend59
    @Grey_legend59 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    1:45 I’m here because I miss my ex, and I wanna move on, but I still miss her. I still have feelings.

    • @kadiramukatar8168
      @kadiramukatar8168 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Even tho I luv ha had to leave herLone

  • @grandeisayev570
    @grandeisayev570 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    "You think it was sad, but you still love them, so you understand it needed to happen."
    This hits hard. It needed to happen.

  • @joshuwa6036
    @joshuwa6036 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Guys, it does get better, I’ve been in your position. Shit hurts and it’ll hurt for a while. but learn to love yourself; figure out what you like, hobbies n all that. Also learn to appreciate time, like, I appreciate for a moment in time she was in my life and it was everything. I was happy. Those memories make me happy and I’m thankful for that. The best thing you can do is learn to wish someone the best and go do what’s best for you.

  • @EnZoKaede
    @EnZoKaede 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thanks man, u help me alot i just brokeup with my ex couples days ago and i have trust issued before getting into this relationship but she betrayed me. Not cheat or anything just she pull the trigger and leave me at the sidewalk. And this video come up on my fyp. Its help alot and motivated to doing better for my self. Sometimes i remember what Arthur Morgan said "when the times come you have run and dont look back this is over" i try to do the new thing like learning Japanese language now for make my mind didn't think too much about past.

  • @36200
    @36200 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Many girls hitted on me but i was so depressed i didn't even care. Then she came. Not the most beautiful, not the most sane, not the most stable. But there was something in her i couldn't explain in words. I still didn't show interest, but she was the one making the first move, and i went for it. It was magical, every second with her. I forgot my depression, forgot every bad thing that happened to me. And then she just left. No explanation, no reason, nothing. The worst part - i see her everyday at work, acting like nothing happened...

    • @ovrxpsd
      @ovrxpsd หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      damn. I'm sorry. that's probably why everyone always advises against dating someone in the workplace. i hope you get thru this brother.

  • @ynfeli8987
    @ynfeli8987 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    1 year & 9 months came to a end yesterday. Her trauma before me, where she was in life finically & mentally , and things I did before her & people I dated before her all collectively made me loose my best friend. Thanks for the advice man🖤

  • @AquaInferno
    @AquaInferno 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Love you so much big bro!! Been with you along this journey of life for years now. So thankful I your wisdom found me you always bring me back to a humble and emotionally vulnerable state of mind. I hope we get closer one day and get closer because I genuinely have seen you over the years as an older brother. Sending you love forever!!! Stay positive twin

  • @mvpfireant5188
    @mvpfireant5188 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Respect peace and love to everyone. But I’m gonna get her back and I won’t lose her twice. I spent 2023 in a deep depression that left me unable to give or receive love in a healthy way, but the breakup was a wakeup call.
    I’m working overtime on myself. Over the past 2 months I’ve been more vulnerable and had a better relationship with my parents than ever before, I’m going to therapy, I do things every day to be the healthiest version of myself. When her and I first got together, she brought out this incredible version of me I didn’t know existed. But it wasn’t sustainable because I hadn’t done the work for emotional stability, and things faded. When I get back to that place of “seeing the world in color” on my own, I will be ready for a beautiful and healthy relationship whether its with her or someone else. But my loyalty and commitment remains as of right now

  • @Somusicais
    @Somusicais 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +132

    Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

    • @AfkAliaga
      @AfkAliaga 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

    • @AfkAliaga
      @AfkAliaga 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Is he on instagram?

    • @MohamedZaitoun-mh9ht
      @MohamedZaitoun-mh9ht 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episode, enough to start working on my mental health.

    • @socialworkgroupa5256
      @socialworkgroupa5256 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Can dr.porass send to me in UK?

    • @coffinboy556
      @coffinboy556 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I almost killed myself after a breakup because I munched on a bunch of mushrooms after she told me to fuck off

  • @Mystic_Paths
    @Mystic_Paths หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    First, know that it's okay to grieve. Breakups can feel like losing a part of yourself, and the pain you feel is real and valid. You might feel overwhelmed by a range of emotions-sadness, anger, confusion, or even relief. This is all part of the process.

  • @lilshroom
    @lilshroom 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    dawg i still miss her and can’t stop thinking about her. it’s been almost 3 months and i watched this right after we broke up and nothings changed. i only want her.

    • @owenuden9929
      @owenuden9929 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      I know the feeling

    • @goatking3137
      @goatking3137 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

      How you feeling bro?

  • @LordOfTheRons
    @LordOfTheRons หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I really needed this man. I think you've saved my life. Thank you so much.

  • @caczter_5288
    @caczter_5288 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    After 24 years and 4 kids she left me, the pain is horrendous, I feel so alone. I'm so worried about how I will cope, thank you for this video, it really helped.

    • @zayxoxo
      @zayxoxo 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    • @RAJohnson713
      @RAJohnson713 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      How do you feel now?

    • @caczter
      @caczter 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@RAJohnson713hi, yea I’m a lot better, the pain is still there though it’s nowhere near as noticeable and only shows it’s head rarely. But in general I feel a lot better, the hell I was in 6 months ago is gone.

  • @TheUltraTeam
    @TheUltraTeam 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    My first love broke my heart yesterday. I made a mistake and instead of trying to fix it she ended it all. I know I’ll probably meet more people in the future but this pain is unlike anything I’ve ever felt before. 1.5 years of my life, countless good memories, and my heart all just down the drain. To anyone that’s going through the same thing as me, I’m sorry, this is a pain that hurts more than anything else. 💔

    • @sentakatsuki
      @sentakatsuki 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      did you go no contact? how is it now?

  • @joshfriggle7977
    @joshfriggle7977 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    dude these videos are accually amazing like i dont even understan how u get me so well like what thank you

    • @joeykidney
      @joeykidney  9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I really appreciate that and I’m glad they hit the spot!

  • @neo304
    @neo304 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    really appreciate this video, she left me yesterday and ever since nothing feels right

    • @James16jj8
      @James16jj8 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      How are you doing bro?

  • @Nancy2551-g6i
    @Nancy2551-g6i 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

    Great video, I'm still having trouble letting go of my seven-year romance. I can't seem to get over the concept of my ex-significant other, who I truly believed to be the love of my life, leaving me a month ago. Nothing has worked to get him back into my life, and I'm feeling helpless and frustrated. My heart still aches for him, and even though I've made an effort to move on, I can't envision myself with anyone else. Sorry to post this here, but I simply can't seem to get over missing him.

    • @Jennyfenty-n1b
      @Jennyfenty-n1b 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It's tough to let go of someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to get him back. Eventually, I had to turn to a spiritual counsellor for assistance.

    • @Nancy2551-g6i
      @Nancy2551-g6i 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      How did you find a spiritual counsellor, by the way, and how can I get in touch with him?

    • @Jennyfenty-n1b
      @Jennyfenty-n1b 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Father Obah Eze is a wonderful spiritual advisor with the ability to bring your ex back.

    • @Jennyfenty-n1b
      @Jennyfenty-n1b 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Father Obah Eze is who he is; he can assist you and possesses amazing powers.

    • @Nancy2551-g6i
      @Nancy2551-g6i 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked him up online. striking I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤

  • @sayonarasakura
    @sayonarasakura 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    very good heartfelt video. been a year and still getting over it. thanks for caring when most don't

  • @ushwush
    @ushwush 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    My ex broke up with me about 7 months ago and she broke my heart, she was amazing and i often think of her even though im over her, not in an love way just of how wonderful person she is. How she made me feel a goal with life.
    At parties an stuff i dont even physically touch other girls because it feel like i am doing wrong (i cant even sit next to them). When i meet new girls i always compare them to my ex :( And no other girls is even close to how (perfect in her way) my ex was.
    I also feel like im not enough anymore.
    I am still only 17 and the type of love i want is date to marry relationsship and it feels like no one out there is thinking the same way at my age.

    • @tm-pm1rp
      @tm-pm1rp 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      holy shit get over her and stop putting her on a pedestal its not healthy

    • @ushwush
      @ushwush 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@tm-pm1rp ye bro im finally over her conpletely

  • @yoshiguevara8425
    @yoshiguevara8425 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Going through it now, 3 years and she didn’t know what she wanted. Broke it off because I couldn’t do the uncertainty, I still love her and wished she would want to fix it but she’s checked out. Meanwhile I’m over here trying to keep it together after working so hard to build a life for us. It hurts and although I’m staying busy doing everything I should, being 31 I’m losing hope. I’m just living day to day and getting used to actually living alone. Coming home to nothing. It’s the first time I’ll be truly alone coming home as my family moved away and feel like I have no support. I’ll keep fighting the fight for now take care everyone

  • @GauravMishra-vt7dq
    @GauravMishra-vt7dq 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Perfectly said everything

    • @joeykidney
      @joeykidney  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Appreciate it!

  • @karlzilz9004
    @karlzilz9004 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Those stages are bang on. She left me almost a year ago and my heart initially felt sad because I thought I lost the one but then I found out how she was manipulating me, using me for what ever she needed or wanted and then just left me high and dry. I will never forget the lies she told me that night, the famous line “it’s not you it’s me. I don’t know what’s wrong with me.” I was this secret, never a profile photo or a status… then there was the other guy that she went overseas with. That was a fucken kick in the balls.
    Now my heart is just filled with seething rage and hate towards her. I hope that one day she is plagued with reflection or she has to comfort her child one day for the exact thing she did. Never have I hoped karma existed this much. She was my everything.
    I am slowly getting back to myself and able to laugh and smile again. There are good days and horrible days but we have to push forward and learn from the hard lessons.
    To the guys going through heartbreak, stay strong gents you are not alone and we must stand strong together.

  • @lily_liya
    @lily_liya 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    perfect timing, i needed this video though i'm a girl! thank you :)! much love n blessings!

    • @joeykidney
      @joeykidney  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      this video is for everyone, so I am glad it found you too

    • @lily_liya
      @lily_liya 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@joeykidney :) thank you!

    • @katie-jv3he
      @katie-jv3he 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@joeykidney(for boys only)

  • @InimfonDuncan
    @InimfonDuncan 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I can't believe I'm searching this on the internet rn. This has really torn me apart

  • @ekaprayogawinata2883
    @ekaprayogawinata2883 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I suddenly cried when you asked about the hug 😂

    • @joeykidney
      @joeykidney  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I think about that a lot. I never really got hugged growing up and now I dislike being hugged