"I used to think the worst thing in life is to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone." ~ Robin Williams
@@noname-ye7zj if I felt that way, I would be the first one to go, and leave now. You will regret not leaving her first if you know that she’s going to leave you.
Me too. I am living in the world but I am not responsible for saving it. That doesn't mean I won't try to help people (and I'm not even talking from a Christian POV) and be a good person, but it's because I want to and because it makes me happy to be a good person.
as a boy scouts group leader i see lots of young people, girls and guys that are confused by our current social political ways of mistreating the truth. they are confused of their roles and their borders. it is frustrating at times and gives lots of headaches, but it's also the reason i do this voluntary work.
“If I am sitting outside by myself by the fire in the evening and I am constantly beating myself up over my failures in the past, I am not someone I want to be alone with”… damn.
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A friend of mine once said, “If the person you’re with isn’t lifting you up, they’re dragging you down.” This made me realize that statement applies to how you treat yourself also.
Thats tough, because my wife suffers from depression, and has a hard time controlling that, and the every day emotions are not always controllable. I wouldn't say that statement works for every situation.
@@karlpage9028 I agree but I’d also say,if the person you’re with forces you to confront the ugly parts of yourself even if it’s to meet theirs,so long as it’s based in real selfless love,I think that’s a form of uplifting
more or less, as an anti-social person in the majority of time, i can say it would be out of love cuz if u like or get use to loneliness you won't feel lonely...
I’m a young woman watching this, and I’m so sorry. Every single guy watching this, you deserve good people to be around. You deserve a partner, life, friends and happiness. Please don’t give up on this world yet.
I know its not all women but sometimes big movements like feminism can make them feel like they can tear everything down around them just to make a point and I am so fed up to what women do to the people around me.
"You're never lonely, if you like who you're alone with." I carry this thought with me every day. A very powerful mindset that I believe every man should cultivate.
This is true! I get more satisfaction trying to make myself happy instead of trying to please someone who thought it was normal to diappear and go no contact whilst working away for days/weeks/months and after years of enduring this, threw a tantrum when I did it back to him. This man had double standards and I could never measure up enough for him despite keeping well groomed, paying all the bills, educating myself, remaining loyal to him. These days, I'm at a point where I would like someone but not necessarily "need" someone in my life. After 4 years I decided I will no longer settle.
I do the same. It helped when I took a step back to try and realize where all of the negative thoughts came from. I realized it was just all the things my parents had said about me or had believed about me. Which now helps me realize that it probably isn't true and should just be ignored. Not sure if this will help anyone but hopefully it does.
@@gingermuffin4292 Hi, my parents said similar things. The part that made me cry especially is that I was doing this to myself, not because I hated myself, but because it was a learned behavior from our parents. We learned from them our poor qualities, and our self doubt amplified them.
A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free
I turned to alcohol heavily for 3+ years to deal with being lonely. All my family is 2,000 miles away. I'm 5 days sober which isn't a lot, but I'm trying to learn to deal with it in healthier ways. Thanks for your video
Many people label themselves "lonely" but most of them don't have the slightest idea about what true loneliness feels like. That feeling of utter hopelessness you get every single day you wake up, knowing that you have no plans, no place to be, no one to meet, no one to talk to. Even your own family don't know how morbidly lonely you are and you can't even tell them. And you slowly start getting consumed by your mind that has been starved of human interaction for soooo long. Imagine repeating this scenario every single waking hour.
true loneliness is the feeling of not being connected to another human being it does not matter how many people are around you or if you are around anyone at all i do get you man im going on 5 years of being truly alone as in physical loneliness but "lonely" most my life came back because I found out about a crush I had and hurts to see them moving along in life with everyone else and me being behind without a way to connect to them stay strong become comfortable with yourself and you will make it through
whats worst is when u do try making friends, u kinda hold back and have trust issues because of what happened in the past, people treated u badly and now u feel the need to careful each time u are talking to someone, and the biggest issue for me is that when i feel lonely, i suddenly have a surge of hope and i say i need to give the effort of talking to people and thats one of the reasons why im lonely, but the main reason for my lonliness was because i was paired up with the wrong people, and when ever i have the chance to get to talk to people, for what ever reason its the days where i have the chance i feel socially akward and shy at the time when i have the chance to talk to people... .but whenever i feel hopefully and all that saying and planning what im going to do, those are the times when im at home. like it sucks, i can have days and weeks feeling socially akward and shy for days and weeks, and its like a cycle im trying to break, to all the people reading this good luck and i hope u guys find the right people to be with and thrive with....
I am alone & got a dog, we go hiking and camping & go to parks , I don't feel alone anymore & my dog shows true love & loyalty. So much happier than I ever was .
The only soul that has ever loved me unconditionally was my sweet dog. He was my doggie soulmate. I'm praying he is there waiting when it's my time to cross over. I'm so glad you have found that kind of love, too.
@@shijagurumayumdeosharma It means don't be pulled into outside issues and controversies. Your life (and the people you love) and sense of purpose should be your focus. The rest is actually a diversion and can even be a form of avoidance of one's own life.
I'm sorry about your parents Ann. I'm 40 and mine are both still healthy and alive even though not together. I try to think of it that EVERYONE must die, but no parent should ever outlive their child, so we are in theory, condemned to watch our parents die at some point. We are lucky to of had loving parents and many don't. Mine will leave me one day and it will be hard but I will never live wreckless on drugs care free and let my mom or dad bury me. I OWE them that much. I'd rather cry for weeks, months, years, instead of letting my mom or dad have to bury me first and suffer the tragedy of seeing me birthed and seeing me dead. God bless
@@annettegenovesi this is why I think you can form loving bonds with people everywhere all the time. Let people inside. Get to know them. Even online. Not because we have to but because we want to. I believe you reap what you sow and if you put kindness and positivity and things like that out into the world and society it will come back to you way more so than putting out negativity.
I'm an 18 year old boy from Iran and it has been a while since I was watching your videos and I really like you sir My Father is an Iranian- American and when I showed him this video He said that this man is a real American Thank you for your kind words ❤️
So sorry that your Father wasn’t around for you. One great thing that you can do someday if you have kids, is to be there for them. I raised two boys , who are grown up now, they were and still are the greatest joy in my life. I spent every free moment with them, and sadly they grew up way too fast. Good luck!
Me neither buddy. I'm 19 and i sometimes feel like i must be missing some kind of secret that having a father around would bring and that the other guys in my school just "knows" maybe not even consciously. Not saying im a total weirdo but sometimes i just feel a bit off beat i guess.
Thank you for a fresh perspective. I’m a 72 year old man in good shape. But I’ve been lonely all my life. I was trapped in a horrible marriage fo 35 years. But I’m separated since 6 years. The pain of loneliness has morphed into the joy of solitude
I can relate, as a 53 year old woman and the solitude for the last 4 years has been priceless and the times I do get lonely, it passes. Music has been my therapy🎵
@@gabrielle-AV-n-PFloyd thank you for your response. I just moved me and my business from New York City to upstate New York. I think a geographical change was very helpful to me. It gave me a fresh perspective on life.
@@Gettingback997 I'm your neighbor here in Connecticut! Yes I also made a geographical change and enjoying my peace near the water so I completely understand🙏🌹
I’m 66 years old and buried my mother 12/26/22 and week later I lost my wife 01/02/23 to pancreatic cancer at 58 years old. I needed to hear this, this afternoon. Thank you for your time and video.
Stay strong brother. There’s times I feel like that. My wife died of cancer my soul mate but she would want me to be strong and move forward. I’m 44 years old. At the end God will put us together with those we lost.
I'm sorry for your losses. You're a strong person to be able to push through that and keep going. I hope you can take some comfort in knowing you'll see them again.
But he forgets that "being confortable with yourself" requires primarily taking care of your health, and smoking will tend to lead him to hate "himself" like any person who lost the most fundamental part of his well being, which is being in good health
@@kaledon6 He has lived long enough for that to be a problem, also smoking does not cause cancer or any disease for everyone, I have read studies on that and he may be one of the lucky ones who is not prone to cancer.
I'm a 17 year old guy who's been considering suicide. I've been feeling extremely lonely and afraid of the world and I know that it's time i pick myself back up. This video really inspired me to get my life together and start liking myself again. This is all really good advice and I have a lot of respect for you sir. I hope this video can reach even more people and help them too.
I myself am 17 and i felt the same way! life is pretty hard in these times, but we need to pull ourself together and be the best versions of ourselves! keep looking up brother! it will get better soon, trust me!
@@famousjavis4412 i feel exactly the same man. it's really hard to feel like they want you around but i promise they do. people care a lot more than it usually seems like they do
I'm 17 yo form iraq and I just got a notification from my friends that they'll left me and I'm alone now and nobody with me so I watched this video and realized that I need to pick up myself I need to be the man who is called a man and make decisions that I won't regret on it , sometimes we get hurt we do because we have feelings. But we should love ourselves. Thank you sir 🙏
It's great to see our elders too! I wish we would have more opportunities to speak with them since they lived way longer than us and are wiser than us. They know what we going through.
@Rita I'm really sorry to hear that. I will admit that when I was a little kid, I didn't care much (Tho I still respected them obviously). When I grew up a little, I saw their importance but it was too late. Both my grandparents are dead on my father's side and on my mum my granddad died before I was born. My grandma is too old and has lost her mind a little bit because of the age. I feel sad knowing I lost good moments I could of shared with them, and their knowledge. It was even harder since they lived in Romania and I in Canada. I hope one day your family will learn from their mistakes and come back to you. We never know the luck we have until it's gone. We tend to forget they have been through this and had time to think about it and see it on the long term while we are just experiencing it at the moment. Please excuse any mistakes I made in English (it's my third language). Have a nice day sir/ma'am
The internet, and especially social media, has absolutely torn the fabric of society asunder. I'm still a young man by most definitions but am old enough to remember back pre-Facebook when you could disagree on politics/policy with someone and still break bread with them or enjoy a beer over a game. Nowadays, forget it, just hate all the way down at the first whiff of disagreement. I used to feel lonely and alienated, but now just learned that doing my own thing away from everyone else is the best path to peace in the modern world. Improvise, adapt, overcome.
I feel the same way and I'm in my late 60's. Young people think everyone is like those on social media. They don't realize they're the minority of our population. Those that have the biggest mouths usually have the least to say, I wish the young ones knew that
Mr. Dwayne thank you so much, I lost my father when I was 16. I'm 28 now and I feel like I just listened heart to heart with him through you. Thank you
"The hell that you go through with these relationships just in order to have someone to sleep with from time to time is not worth the destruction that it is doing to your soul and your spirit, to your life, it's not worth it." Amen to that, brother.
and as i found out even when you find "the one," even after yrs together she can suddenly turn into someone youd never ever have wanted to be with...I wonder sometimes if experiencing a loved one turning into a hated one is more traumatic than if the loved one had died?
You can tell this man had his experiences with women before he was lucky enough to find Momma. And I would even go so far as to say that he needed to make these experiences in order to be able to meet Momma.
Very wise comments. Thank you sir. I am 65 years old and my wife passed away last year. I have never really been alone. But I feel awfully alone now. I am struggling with moving forward with my life. I retired a couple years early to take care of her as her health declined. Now I find myself sitting at home for weeks at a time, only to leave the house to get a few groceries. Your words and Wisdom is encouraging. I only Pray that I can wake up tomorrow and apply those words of Wisdom . Thank You Sir... God Bless .
Hello sir, maybe try getting involved in a community. Share what you’ve learned with others and connect. The world needs your wisdom. And your pain. Start a grieving group to grieve and help guide one another.
You're getting out of the hole one day, one way or another, but however that journey unfolds, promise yourself to take it easy. Take it one day at a time champ!
Thanks for sharing your situation terry. Must be difficult. I also live on my own and it can be tough sometimes dealing with loneliness. Wishing you all the best Keep active and eat healthy :)
Sir, if I might make a suggestion, visit a local church and you just might find friends, community, and maybe a good woman to spend time with. I promise if you seek God he will reveal himself to you and He will change your life in so many ways your bound to like one of em! Ha! God Bless you friend!
I am very sorry to hear about your loss, sir. I truly am. I am not a Christian per se, but blessed are those that mourn for they shall be comforted. And I pray you shall be comforted. **hugs**
As a 26 year old I feel so much older than I should. I compare my life to all my peers, they all seem to be settling down, getting married, having kids, making 6 figures. I just moved back home to my dads house to take care of him as his health is declining. I’m looking at is as a beautiful thing, spending time with my old man while he’s still here. However, I want to be successful, find love, own a home, have children, but it all seems so impossible. These videos you make really help me get through these hard times, I feel so isolated and alone every single day, but when I watch clips like this, it makes me feel less alone. Thank you.
You have plenty of time. I didn't even start my "career" until 30. Take care of your Dad, there's nothing more important, no matter the sacrifice. Mine's gone, I miss him.
I'm 33 almost 34, living with my parents in the countryside, no friends near, only internet friends that seem far. I couldn't find myself a good job so I am doing many projects, but I find it hard sometimes que loneliness kicks in. You are still young, try your best with what you have right now. Don't look at the past mistakes. Dont overdo easy drugs like sugar, porn, tiktok, etc. They drain out your will to do things. Not every day you will be motivated to do things. Life is hard, those folk who have 8 hour jobs are having a hard time, they are killing themselves slowly. We have the chance to work for ourselves.
I'll just make this point - I spent my 20s working on a 'career' that I just *happily* abandoned at 37. What you do to make money, and how much you make, does *not* define you. Neither does presence or absence of a partner. My father passed a few years back. I hadn't seen him since I was 13, I always wanted to get halfway across the country to visit him but kept telling myself, "There's plenty of time, I'll save for that plane ticket next year." Next year never came. He passed, and no one even bothered to tell me he was in rough shape until 6 months after. That's one regret I'll probably take to my grave. At 40 you'll have forgotten all about feeling like you were lagging behind your peers at 26, you'll have learned there are more important things in life than keeping up with the Joneses. Enjoy your dad while you can.
That's really well said!! I'm a mom of six kids, dairy farming family. I got three boys. And 3 girls. We raised them with hard work ethics, morals and values. My 24 year old and 22 year old sons are alone trying to cope. They want to find nice girls, but so far neither of them have dated anyone yet. We are not rushing them, but I am seeing what's going on out there and so are they and they are gun shy. The feminists have done great damage. One of my girls dated a little but sees guys are withdrawing and hesitant to even ask her out and she's looking for a strong man who's got some morals and is a hard worker and wants to take the lead. Tough times all around, I really am sad to see what is happening to our young men in this country. You are right when you say that you have to become comfortable with yourself. I am encouraging that for my boys and girls. Thank you so much for sharing from your heart!
One of the best antidotes to loneliness is volunteer work. Eventually you start to make friends with your fellow volunteers, who are frequently good people
Thank you! That’s such a great idea. I’ve thought about volunteering but just don’t do it. I’m committing to get started so I can give back and be around like minded people. ❤
Thank you for this. When I was 27, I got out of an engagement with an unfaithful woman. I sold most of my possessions, left my old job behind, threw what I had left in my vehicle, and hit the road. Ended up in the sticks in Oklahoma working as a steelworker with the best quality of life I've ever had, my own small humble home, and the best damn dog a man could ask for. It's like you said, it truly takes courage to leave everything that you know and makes you comfortable behind to go into the unknown. It's unsettling and its uncomfortable sometimes. The loneliness was hard to deal with at first. It would keep me up at night, it was a bad feeling I couldn't chase away. But it turned into peace. Genuine peace. It turned into self-reflection and growing as a man. Everyday, every task is an accomplishment that I achieved. You're a wise man, sir, thank you for sharing your thoughts. It's always good to have more tools for the mental toolkit. Continue to be a good man.
Congratulations on the success of peace and quiet... it's a fabulous learning experience.. I'm right behind you, I'm on similar path...great job, awesome stuff brother man🇺🇸💪💪👍👍😎
Thank you for doing this talk. I'm 50 this year and struggling with the now reality that I'm going to be alone for the first time in my life. So many mistakes and regrets. So I think you may have planted some mustard seeds for me and I'll keep looking down that path. Yah bless brother.
Im barely 20 and I’ve struggled with crippling lonlieness. I sat back and just listened and it was the best 20 minutes of advice I’ve ever gotten. Thank you so much
I'm 40 and have been in the same position in my 20s. Like someone posted a while back, the Robin Williams quote 'being alone isnt as bad as being around people who make you feel alone' (to paraphrase). Youve always your TH-cam bros if you need a hand. We're always here.
@edieltondantas6084this. quitting p0rn was one of fhe best decisions in my life, also i quit drinking but i didnt have a problem with that to begin with i just wanted stronger bones for the sport i practice, i drink every now and then. When i was researching about p0rn addiction i saw so many post of people saying that its normal and ok to do it. I think its not and im an atheist, so im not saying its because of religion, i still think those that want to live watching p0rn then thats ok too.
I can't believe I came across your shows just when I needed help the most. My wife of 42 years passed away a year ago. I am so lonely and messed up. Your words have made a lot of sense. You have a gift. Keep up the good work. Thank you.
I am so sorry, and I know what you mean. It was a battle for me but as I came to understand myself and noticed little minutes or seconds I learned to appreciate the simple things- like the leaves blowing across the yard, the light coming through the window in the morning, a child's smile, or the dew on a plant shining. It was hard to come out of my pain and memory's but I finally became silent in my mind and just observed life around me. I pray that for you too-peace, the quiet from the storm. blessings
I've lost almost everyone and everything in my life recently. Both parents died,lost my job and my wife separated from me. It's really hard to keep hanging on. Thanks for the advice.
Hang on men you can. Hard times pass and good times come you just need to keep going, I know it may seem impossible but you can man just keep on going. You are important to this world and you still have a lot to give. God bless. Greetings from Argentina
It’s hard man, I did not lose my parents. But I lost my job and I was living with my 4 year girlfriend, she separated from me shortly after, it’s weird that when you truly most need certain people the most, they are not there for you! Now I don’t have a place to stay, nor I can pay for myself so I’m going to France to join the foreign legion. Unfortunately that’s the only way out I can see for now, I’m 31
New sub here. Got married when I was 30 and my wife and I had two boys. In 2006 my wife passed away suddenly from a brain aneurysm at age 40. My two sons were 10 and 7 at the time. I worked full time ( self employed construction) full time and raised my two sons with the help of family on both sides. I spent ALL of my free time with my two boys. They came first, no exceptions. Had absolutely no desire to date or form a relationship while my boys were young. My Dad wasn’t able to spend as much time with me as I wanted so I wasn’t going to make the same mistake. My two sons went to church and belonged to the youth group while growing up. Now my sons are 26 and 23 and are both pursuing their goals and working hard. I have not dated since my wife passed away. Sometimes I feel lonely for companionship but after 16 years of being single I am set in my ways and I enjoy being able to come and go as I please. I retired 2 years ago at age 56 and have found some interests to keep me busy and mostly content. It’s hard to know what to do ( relationship or stay single) because today you don’t know who you can trust and too many people are all about themselves.
Kind words from a real man. Be happy Or move from the u.s.a. it is not the greatest country anymore. I know 100 broke people in half of them are happy I know 20 rich people and all of them are miserable do the math
Thank you for sharing this. I’m a single father of three sons. I haven’t had a relationship in 5 years, for the same reasons you said, and then some. My free time has always been devoted to my boys. My time alone was great for a while, but now it is getting lonely. Since covid, my job has been working from home. My isolation started in 2017 with the split from my son’s mother. Covid just made it worse, and now I find it terribly difficult to form and maintain relationships.
Hey Jim. I lost a lot too. Nothing is stronger than the power of 2 great brothers and a wonderful set of parents. You seem like a stand up guy. The free world is built on the backs of families like ours. Stay strong. Take it easy.
Love your philosophy discussions. You have to love yourself. Be comfortable with yourself alone. Before you seek another companion. I myself only need a part time companion. I have many hobbies, guitars, pet reptiles, and growing mushrooms and plants. I rode a Harley Fatboy to Tucson at age 59 with very little cash. It all turned out great 10 years latter. Cary in Tucson
I'm 64, was very happily married for 40 years, she was 14 yrs older than me, we hit it off from day one, I lost her to Alzheimer's 3 years ago, life isn't the same without her, I feel my age and being disabled make me undesirable so I pretty much keep to myself. Such a nice show and very sound advice, you made my day, please keep up the good work !!
Wow, you wonderful man. She must have been a good woman - and you a good man. I'm sorry that she had to pass. That must have left a gaping hole in your life. I'm praying that you find what it is you need to fill that void and wish you well on the rest of your journey through life. Best, K
7:19 Im in my early twenties, I left my abusive fathers home. Moved in with my boyfriend found out how toxic he really was two years in. I learnt this the hard way at a young age. I never had a GOOD male figure in my life ever and to this day, but you sir though I never met you, you heal that little piece in me. Thank you.
Me too man. I would kill to have had a dad growing up. I just got out of a rough relationship a month after my birth father passing. He divorced mom when I was 7. Never really saw him after he moved out. I visited him maybe twice (I’m 22 now)… I definitely wanna grow up and have kids just so they have a father figure. Someone with wisdom and knowledge. It makes life a little easier to understand.
I’m 26 and am a widower, my wife died 9/9/21. I have two little daughters, which has helped. Loneliness has been rough. Now a days females are hard to even talk to. Thanks for the content!
So sorry for your loss, glad that your girls provide you with solace. Hope that with time someone else will come into your life to be your companion (if that's what you want of course!)
I lost my wife 3 months after my daughter was born. There have been lonely nights but better that than being stuck with someone you don't like. If we keep our heads straight we'll both be fine. Hang in there.
This is the second video I've watched of this man. In today's society a legend could be considered a celebrity, rapper, or a politician. But this man is a legend in my book. He's like an uncle we all never had but always wanted. Something about this man just seems so heartwarming and delightful to be around with. Thank you for all that you do Mr. Cowboy sir. And apologies for my inappropriate profile.
He says this towards the end of his video, I believe what he means is as the world implodes around you sometimes, be strong and hold fast to your truths and strength’s. For me it’s realizing that I can’t always control what’s going on around me, but continue to be a good strong man, and leaning more on faith and God to control the things I cannot. Hope this helps.
@@mattday4661 i absolutely agree with 'holding fast to your truths and strengths' - lotta people get pressured by the environment around them to sacrifice their morals & values for the sake of money or the safety of their family. however, if you stay steadfast in your beliefs, your inspiration can help change the environment around you to one that doesn't require others to sacrifice the values that make them, them!
thanks Dewayne, these videos help me feel like I'm not so alone with my bad thoughts, this world feels so backwards and its hard for me to keep going in it everyday
I do not have a dad. You are the first person I've ever felt that I can sit and listen to your words of wisdom, as a father figure. Thank you for your time and truth. These are the conversations I've always longed for that I never got.
At 61 and divorced and no kids and my entire small family has passed on. My two horses have died recently......I asked the lord to help me.....I literally feel him and hear him talking to me daily on what to do and its over whelming how much he has helped me.
I’m 61 years old and have been single now for 10 years, no dating, no one night stands, I haven’t even touched a woman since my divorce and it was and still is hard at times to cope with the loneliness, but it passes. I mean this sincerely, everything he mentioned in this video I have already learned or I’m working on now. What I can say is thanks Dude you nailed it exactly. Sincerely, Oklahoma Cowboy
How come your marriage didn’t last? I am experiencing the same thing too, it’s a possibility that it could go down to divorce and Im trying to be better so it wont happen
Sometimes it got to do with some women often are more keen on developing themselves and their marriage, try new things, keep romance alive, while we men more tend to enjoy status quo when getting older, relax in the sofa infront of the TV and more or less take the wife for granted@@mg_kj
im 34 and have been single for four years, same deal just single no stands or anything, its liberating and those who thrive on companions should try it
Good morning. My name is Hannah from North Carolina. Thank you for making this video... For the past 8 months, I have been feeling this unfamiliar feeling that has been uncomfortable. So, this morning i woke up and jumped on the computer looking for ideas that could help me make a start, and I feel that your video has. Thank you very much for making this video.
I'm 40 Yr old man, been single for 7 years and live on my own with my dog. I'm use to being alone most my life and to be honest I've learned to love myself and never been happier. The biggest battles are in your mind once you learn to love oneself no person can harm you, also you can't love others if you don't love yourself.
One thing to seriously consider is how we see the world through social media. Social media isn’t our life. Deleting most social media and focusing on what’s in front of me, my actual life, has helped me so much. Of course I still feel lonely but at least I don’t have hundreds of people rubbing it in my face how awesome their lives are. We are all on different paths in life, make sure you focus on where your paths going instead of wondering where everyone else is.
Im 20 and im going thru & thinking the same thing. Everybody is on their own narrow path and we need to be happy about it, dont take nothing too serious…
I never have social media account. I never surfed on it. And I know that (you know I always felt that) my life is so much better this way then the others. I have felt that. Now I know that and see. You are on a very good way. Keep it up!
I think it's also important that you introspect about that kinda thing and consider why you have feelings like these too. Like, why do you feel like people are rubbing it in your face on social media? Cause for me, i see people enjoying themselves and I'm happy for them. But as for myself, i rarely make posts or interact with the timeline. I'm comfortable in myself and knowing that I don't need to be slaying I'm Instagram all day, yk? Idk if that's where you're at, but I'd urge you to think about what about what you project onto the internet that you actually value.
@@tigergaj I really love your point of view. I engage with social media pretty consistently, and over the years I've come to the conclusion that it is a soul sucking void of meaningless affirmation. I like to make movies so I still feel a need to engage in order to keep a portfolio for other artists, but even then I fall back into the habit of endless scrolling on the timeline. I've considered many times deleting my social and just keeping a website up.
First step to beat loneliness is to accept that you are lonely. Second step is to allow yourself to feel all thousand colours of loneliness. Third step is to refocus on something that you are putting value in(running with dog, painting, making music, meditation, breath work, etc.) Dont forget that no one can save you from this feelings, only yourself. It will pass...
@@mf_yopey1467 Hard truth is when someone saves you first time, you expect again, again and again. Sure someone can mend your mind but if you have felt real loneliness you know that nobody can be with you 24/7. My point is get out from victim frame and make vaule that is bigger then feeling of loneliness. And this is only your own job and long process. Fuck it there's no shourtcuts. Stay strong.
@@mf_yopey1467 there will always be a time when no matter who chooses to help when they won't be able to because of uncontrollable events in the universe. And when that time comes, if you can't stand on your own for however long the universe asks you to. Nobody else will be able to pick up the pieces.
I was once told that I expect too much of other people. This was a hidden compliment and a resource for me. Acceptance of others selfishness and limitations is the toughest thing I've had a real hard time understanding. Live and like yourself because most others are a mess in the Head! Codependency is self-destructive! Independence is it's own reward!👍
Just dealt with my mom's passing at 27 she was my best friend... I feel immensely alone. Feel like she led me here.. I love you ma! Thanks for always looking after me
im 18 years old female, and i would like to thank this man for this great advice, i felt this and it comforted me, and to the hardworking guys out there, be safe, you're doing great and i hope you will never let your handsome power die stay strong
I love you sir I've been needing an older man's wisdom in my life, and you are him. because I've listened to every motivational speaker, and I can and still feel restless in a weird way. But the way you talk and smoke your cigar is just the peace I needed. Again, Thank you good sir. God Bless.
22 year old man, just getting out of a toxic relationship with a girl that was destroying my sense of self and what I valued and had me a shadow of myself scared of her. Stayed with her for the exact reason I was scared of being alone and being by myself, god forbid. Being alone is 10000x better than the hell of being with the wrong person just for touch. This video hit hard, brother. Thanks for sharing some of your wisdom with us. Stay strong men, times are tough but we got this.
I'm more than 20 years your senior. When i was your age I was almost married to a toxic narcissist who almost drove me to ending my life at about 22. When we split up I thought I was done and would never be able to love again. I was wrong. I stayed single for 5 years before I met my wife of 20 years. Hang in there young man. You're gonna be fine.
Thank you for your vulnerability & transparency. 🙏🏾 th-cam.com/video/08j4dytaju8/w-d-xo.htmlsi=m1DVyhW16PS-sOLM Here's my video on loneliness.. Have a beautiful day. 💎
I’m 2 years younger and I’ve never been in a relationship, I don’t know if it’s cause I didn’t really try, or if women just don’t like me. I think I know of two people that did somewhat like me and the one girl was like my best friend but she ended up with someone else and the other girl I never had feelings for. I now feel embarrassed about this comment💀
21 years old here, and I totally feel you, been with a girl, not bad, but broken, sometimes some people can drag you down while you are trying to bring them up. Being lonely makes you a better person, but from time to time we feel the need and the hurry of someone good coming to our lives. Let’s do the hard work till the time comes. Let’s become better men till there
Your pain is felt my friend. I spent three years with a woman who destroyed my sense of self. Everything that made me proud of myself was gone, every skill, hobby, hope, and dream was dashed. Friends and family were cut off. I was the punchline of every joke amongst her friends and family. And the yelling, it never stopped, I never realized just how much it messed me up until after the relationship, the fear of conflict that comes from her still persists. But I know this, I know that I'm better for having lived that relationship, and I'm stronger for having left it.
76yo, married man for 54 years. A wonderful message about dealing with being alone. One should recognize that neither your wife, your children, your friends or any of your possessions are yours. You only borrow them for a while. You make a good point about beating yourself up and not liking yourself. You have to be kind to yourself. No one wants to live with or be friends with a downer, someone with a cloud over there head.
Sir, what is lacking in this world for most men is having an older man with Godly wisdom who walks with a true “father spirit,” speak into their lives. Well I see you!! Hope you keep encouraging these young guys on many topics. They need you. ❤
YES!!! This right here!!! People are seeking physical pleasure to cure loneliness but what they need is wisdom and strength. a guide. even women are lacking in that area. i was blessed to have my mom and both grandmothers and great grandmothers in my life. the grandfathers were only there sometimes, except for two. one was a scoundrel and the other actually took the time to talk to me and teach me useful skills. my sons, sadly, were ignored by their paternal grandad. by MY dad is trying to take time with them. he never bothered to do much with me and my brother but i am thankful he's there for my sons - since their dad can't be bothered. sad state of affairs in this world. we need more MEN to guide these boys. but my goodness, who can you trust anymore?? so many weirdos out there preying on the kids because there's no one around to protect them.
He sure does encourage us! It's not about disliking or resenting women, it's about working to be better men, and being comfortable with who we are. Men need that!
Yes Ma'am! I have my 13 yo son watch some of his videos and other men like him. His own Daddy, while he loves his son and we love his Daddy, he's struggling hard at the moment and is just not available for our son and our marriage and our family. Not like he needs. Not like this. So, while my husband, who I love with my whole self, is struggling and being hammered into the sword he's meant to be, I'm so grateful to God for these men who are taking their time to encourage our young men because as much as I can try to teach my son all the things my Daddy taught me, I'm not a man and I just can't guide him as well as a real, true and honest man can. 💙 Praise the Lord!
My ex used to “jokingly” tell me “I gotta keep you down to keep you around”. It was all jokes at first until I started developing anxiety and became self conscious of things about myself I never even noticed. After 6+ years I was an empty shell of a man, I had no concept of myself. I broke up with her a year ago and I’m proud to say I’ve never been more confident in myself in my entire life. You said it best, she was a parasite. Finally I’m growing to be the man I know I can be, and I’ll never settle for anything but the absolute best.
Been there too buddy, 4 years of belittling and to end it all found out about 3 other men she had going. Now I'm almost 2 yrs on with a women who would give a organ for me. I hope a good women comes your way and shows you your worth, till then stay strong and find connection in your friends!
Women spend much more time with other women understanding them. They on average understand their psychology more. That can be used as a weapon or a tool. You happened to stumble on a parasite who was missing something- self-confidence, or something- that used it as a weapon against you.
I'm also 21, working and soon I will also start my studies. I'm trying everything to feel better, hopefully it will. But I also hope you can somehow work out things for yourself.
Just wanna say hope you feel better. Although you feel alone, just know that you’re still valuable and loved. May God bless you, and He is your companion too 🤍 Jesus said “Come to Me all who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest” Matthew 11:28
@@sebastiano2508 hey I’m sorry for what you’re going through right now. I get that it’s hard. This world will come with its hardships, Jesus never promised that it wouldn’t. But He is there to support us and help us get through whatever it is. And our sufferings can help us become stronger. You must be going through a lot, but just know that it is possible for you to overcome it by the grace of God. Jesus said “I told you these things so that you can have peace in me. In this world you will have trouble, but be brave! I have defeated the world.” John 16:33 Wishing you nothing but the best
Enjoyed your video, some true words spoken. Spent 16 years with the wrong lady, on my own now I’m happy with my own company. Be kind and things will be fine.
41 Years young man here and have found myself alone quite often. Never married and no kids. Parents been gone for over 10 years now and I have to agree 100 % it's all about learning yourself. I've been in good relationships and bad but in the end never lasted over two years. Have learned to be totally self sufficient. Yes, I do get lonely and occasionally bitter but have to remind myself to be constantly working on myself. Thanks for the episode.
Need more women in ur life. also if you are worried about kids then freeze sperm so when you meet a quality girl you can have a kid professionally and even choose some of the genetics now.
Almost 3 years ago I lost my wife, my soulmate. The hole in your chest and the emptiness it leaves is almost unbearable. Losing your other half is a loneliness I would never wish on someone.
Unfortunately, many older couples argue about trifles - and only realize after the loss which angel they have lost. Too late to talk. Nice that you call her soul mate. And that you were better. I'm sorry for your loss.
Spot on, Dwayne. I'm 80 now, but back in my forties I learned that I can't be responsible for somebody else being happy, nor they for me. Happiness is a choice we make for ourselves. Likewise, unhappiness is not because of somebody else. It is a choice we make. Oh, people can disappoint us, but that doesn't mean we have to be unhappy as a result. It simply presents us with another choice to make regarding that relationship. As you said, if we are comfortable in our own skin (hopefully because we have done the requisite homework) nobody can penetrate our happiness without our permission. As another commenter said, there is a difference between solitude and loneliness. Great things can be accomplished in solitude, not so much in loneliness. Your videos have given me a lot of pause to reflect on the days when I had a Buckskin quarter horse, and it always puts a smile on my face. Thank you, brother, much appreciated.
@@freezinginhere When I bought my Buck back in 1966, I had just returned from Vietnam and having a horse was one of my youthful bucket list items. He was 9 years old and was an experienced ranch horse, but had been previously owned by a family that bought him for their daughter who wasn't really interested.... so he had been left to pasture for a couple of years and was in really bad shape. Hooves so long that they were curling up, his coat so sunburned by the Florida sun that he looked more white than buck skin, and had a terrible sun cancer spot on his pink nostril. I was naive about caring for a horse, but fortunately I was able to board him at a farm near where I lived and with the help and advice of the farmer, brought him back to peak health and condition. He knew more about being ridden that I did about riding, but he also knew that I was a worthy pupil for having shown him the love and attention that he needed. It was a good time. One of the things I enjoy about Dewayne's chats is finding out that I did at least a few things right while Buck and I were pards.
10:46 "But if you're with yourself, and yourself is always beating you up, you're not gonna want to be with yourself" Exactly my issues. Thanks for the insight.
Just lost my father a few days ago. Feel like this is something he would say to me, the way he would say it to me. Thank you for giving me a piece of him tonight.
I am a 23 year old woman who has lived a lot of life so far. I was trapped in a home fire and escaped, was in a car accident that made my baby 2 months premature, my father passed away suddenly in front of me a few days ago. And more obviously lol. (All Within the past 2 years). I learned a long time ago that you are the only one who will be with you for the rest of your life guaranteed. So make sure you can deal with yourself for that long. And if you can’t then figure out what you don’t like about yourself and change it. Also sometimes we go through terrible things even if you try to be a good person every day. Maybe bad things happen to good people to test if they are going to stay good people strong in their convictions and morals. I’m not sure yet. I hope things get better for me but maybe there is no exchange of good karma or an ultimate reason why I went through these things. But having those beliefs help me cope.
@@Sidney-ov8ws I'm sorry Sidney, that's really unfortunate to hear about your recent times. You are followed by your father, to watch over you and the young ones. The Creator has a plan, even if we don't see eye to eye with said purposeful plan. If you believe in god there is always a friend no matter the darkness. i hope this comment finds you in a peaceful manner
Sidney, I lost my father in late 2020. I'm not a young man but it still hurts. He was the strong man who taught me to ride a bicycle, drive a car, work with wood and tools, sew buttons, and be self-sufficient. He gave me his skills to look after myself. That's his legacy. Your Dad will have left you similar gifts 💪👍
I’m so sorry for your loss. We’re unfortunately in the same situation. I’m sure he meant so much to you. I hate this feeling so much but I know he wouldn’t want me to mope. That’s the only thing keeping me sane. I know he loves me to death and if there was one thing he wants me to know, it’s that he loves his kids more than anything in the world and know time will heal all wounds 🤟🏽
For men who are lonely I'm 33 years old now. Outside of work and life itself I've found a way to cope with life playing guitar and piano maybe that might not be for you but what I can say is find a hobby or something that drives you to continue doing it and enjoying it in the moment when your alone with yourself. Fishing hunting drawing art and or playing an instrument even having a pet can be a huge help. There was a point in my life where I wanted to end my life. I don't do drugs smoke or drink. I didn't know what to do or where to turn I was coming home from work one night around midnight driving home. I live in the country I was going 50 mph I decided to push it to 110 mph and was shaking ready to yank the wheel sending me into a ditch ending everything.... I slowly stopped and stopped. I made it home woke up the next day and went to work and a coworker was talking about his new guitar he had got. I was curious and got to talking and came to getting my own. It's been 3 years now of playing and nothing makes me feel better like this guitar.... It makes everything go away it melts my feelings away. I got to thinking about it how instant it was and how it all fell into place in that moment and all I can say is to never give up. Keep your circle small, work hard, keep drama away and do what makes you happy. In the end it kinda sorts itself out and don't let anyone tell you that you NEED to be with a woman or in a relationship to live a good life. You can live a good full life even by yourself. Work hard and prosper brother's and God speed. Don't give up.....
Thank God you're here, friend. God loves you. You are precious to him; he gave his life for you so you can enjoy a beautiful eternal life with him and your loved ones. So happy you find joy in music! Be well.
Honestly, I'm just glad to hear an elder man say some kind words instead of telling me how worthless I am for not wanting to work 16-hour work days for the rest of my life.
This comment caught my eye! I'm nobody. A little older then some. But young and dumb for sure. When we give grief to young people like that it's not that young kids don't "want" to work 16 hours days for the rest of their life it's more that they aren't willing to if that's what it takes. It's an eye opener and encouragement!
Yeah and several other disparities ... >you're spoiled. Your generation was given everything and y'all still aren't happy. >you don't need sympathy. You think this is hard? When i was younger.... >you can do anything you put your mind to. If you didn't achieve your goal it's because you didn't want it bad enough. No excuses. >your generation is so entitled and thinks the world owes them something. Let me tell you the world doesn't owe you a thing. Very encouraging and helpful ... s/
@@L2PlayRunescapeit’s so funny to say that meanwhile hunger is still a problem, corruption is at the most it’s ever been, all the markets are all fucked up can’t even buy anything. Your lucky if you grew up back in that generation I rather get sent to war and die a hero than work all my life and be used like a toilet paper
I'm a 65 year old widow and am alone alot, but rarely lonely. I enjoy my own company not only because I like myself but because I've been around enough people to know I'd rather be alone than sorry. I feel for young men in this current world and pray for them. My message to them is don't settle for any woman who berates you, be comfortable with yourself and let the Lord lead you to the right partner.
I'm a 44 YO black woman. I just found your channel, and I am happy I did. Your messages are applicable to a spectrum of ages and lifestyles. Thank you Sir for sharing your wisdom with the world.
"You be a strong man, you be a good man, and just let the world rage around you".....what a freaking quote. I will never forget that. Just found you today on youtube Dwayne and I've watched three of your videos already. I am 22 years old, in the Military for almost 5 years now. In college, kinda losing my way. But trying to be a better man, and leave a hole when I leave this world. God bless ya Dwayne, thank you for all the advice. You make me want to be better and be a good man.
23 year old women here. I'd say even as an orphan I've never felt as alone as I do right now. Homeless , but nomadic , can hold my own my parents only ever taught me to survive outside. As a culture we've forgotten how to value each other. My heart goes out to men dealing with depression or loneliness that is overlooked out of societal expectations , you are seen. Unfortunately not by enough but some of us do want yall to know we care. And your feelings are valid.
Just as you said that we are valued and seen, the same goes for you. I’m sorry that you’re going through some hard times right now. You are so worth it and loved. God bless you and the Lord is there for you
Im a 27 year old dude. This actually did help me. Thank you so much for actually acknowledging how horrible the loneliness pandemic is. The media only scoffs and laughs at it, as do many many women. Sometimes I find it really difficult to not be hateful. Your advice is really good. Consider doing a follow up to this video if you think or more things to say. Edit: 7 months later. Forgot I wrote this. I’m glad I did, because some these comments make me want to press the end humanity button. Thanks to those of you who gave kind and thoughtful replies.
Covid pandemic did change everything, and it's never acknowledged. Everyone is scared, no one socializes, and the only thing people have is fear. It will get better in time though, I do not think society can stay in fear forever. Try to show compassion instead, or that is what I do. Imagine how much these people are suffering being so afraid. And with women, that must be awful to be trapped in one's on head by fear, so I try to just smile and speak softly if I detect a woman is afraid.
@@anothernobody1804 Oh, that part is cascading. We face those people and actually have a choice. We can return kindness instead, and it may be the first time that poor soul who is spitting hate at you has ever heard kindness in their life.
You are 100 percent right. I was homeless in 2015 and I made a choice to change that ,and now I have my own place and a van. It wasn't easy and I worked really hard and I didn't give up.
Keep it up bro proud of you, keep using the job experience to switch to other jobs and negotiate better pay start a side hustle people sell water for millions just gotta find something you like or something to help people or solve problems
I got divorced this year at 27. She found another man, moved away, etc; it was devastating to my self esteem. I cautiously started talking to another girl over the last couple months, but I really liked her. I treated her well, went on dates, talked every single day, and I found out she was "seeing" an ex boyfriend of hers on the side. Again, devastating. More lies and deceit. But, I'm going to be ok. I'll have to learn to be alone for a little while.
That sucks, sorry to hear you got disappointed. But these days it’s almost the norm for both men and women to not commit when “only” dating. The only solution is: be very direct from the start. Tell them what you want and what’s a deal breaker. Talk early and honestly. Otherwise, it’s a waste of time.
Don't get too down on yourself man, it sounds like you are a great guy and none of these girls deserve you, keep your head up and try to enjoy the little things in life.
1year divorced after 16 years married. Ran off w another guy after cheating, they only lasted 4 months. Never felt so low, so worthless. She was the parasite he described. I feel you bro. What helped me? 1)wake up early every morning w a cold shower 2) pullups pushups dips, and run 2 Mike's every day 3) complete sobriety though I never really drank or smoked often 4) ESTHER PEREL go get her book or watch her speak on TH-cam, really eye opening for me
I'm 42, I'm an only child, and was raised in a neighborhood full of mostly senior citizens. I'm autistic so social skills are pretty much not an option for me. Sometimes loneliness really is a crippling darkness that hangs over me and other times it's not so bad. But my issue isn't just with women, it's with people in general. I've always had a hard time making friends and that's never changed. Just my cross to bear I guess
I’m 35, autistic, divorced, honestly join a club you’re interested in. I love model trains and model rc planes so I joined a model railroad club and a model rc plane club and have made real genuine friends and it’s awesome getting to be around people that don’t care how nerdy and awkward you are because everyone there is but everyone is extremely nice too.
Sounds weird but join a coed team "sport" like bowling league or softball. Bowling leagues are low pressure environments and you'll meet plenty of people.
I am a 53-year-old currently sitting in my garage smoking a cigar and having a bourbon buy myself as a normally do and came across your video. All I can say is your Insight is spot on. Amen brother, you are a blessing so you young guys listen to the wisdom man this man offers!
I read your comment and had a good chuckle. I'm 52 sitting in my garage watching this video having a beer and smoking a winston. I had to divorce my ex 10 years ago because she was just unbearable. I haven't dated since. I'm just not interested. I dated a lot and got married when I was older. I was in between 10 years of combat deployments and saw everyone around me married with kids and I though ok I should too. I was wrong. I don't think I've ever dated or met a good woman. They were ok but not good for me. The games and fighting just isn't me. I've see how marriage is for my brothers and sisters and comrades and friends and I just shake my head and wonder where is the woman for me? And I'm pretty well off. Retired from the feds and a law enforcement officer with a great pension and 100% disabled Veteran. I've built and sold a few business a farm and two construction companies. I have no debt and the best healthcare in the world. I have a great family and life long friends. I just can't seem to find the woman I believed was out there. So for now I'm just going it alone. Hope your doing well brother.
Even if no one may ever read this, I want to thank you. Sometimes all it takes to be pulled out of the dark downwards spiral is someone reminding you of who we are. The biggest journey starts with the first step, and every downwards spiral I will use this advice to look back and see that it’s ok. Well be fine. So thank you. It might not be much but often what I and many others look for is just that bit of encouragement, that other person saying it’s ok, that person simply giving you some guidance. That person reminding you it’s yourself fcking with you and that you can tell that person to politely piss off or change for something better. Today you brought me out of my dark spiral, I may probably need it again, but that’s ok.
"I used to think the worst thing in life is to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone." ~ Robin Williams
Yes, as an older woman who recently became alone I can so relate. I worry for today's young people in this modern society.
I'm there right now buddy, just waiting for the day that my partner will tell me she's leaving me.
So true.
@@noname-ye7zj that’s no way to live man
@@noname-ye7zj if I felt that way, I would be the first one to go, and leave now. You will regret not leaving her first if you know that she’s going to leave you.
"You be a strong man, you be a good man, and let the world rage around you." Love this.
Me too. I am living in the world but I am not responsible for saving it. That doesn't mean I won't try to help people (and I'm not even talking from a Christian POV) and be a good person, but it's because I want to and because it makes me happy to be a good person.
First comment already indicates it will be good, it's nice to see others perspectives
Tattoo worthy
almost wanna hang that in a frame right?
@@jt_heili5326 too edgy man. Rather just get a portrait of Jesus .. even tho it says not too in the bible 🤔
As a young man I can listen to this guy forever. Nobody is speaking like this to us no more.
Jordan Peterson & DeWayne that’s bout it 💯
True. The hate for millennials an zoomers by the older generations just beat you down. This is a breath of fresh air.
@@John_Connor556 definitely bro
@@John_Connor556 jordan peterson is a grifter and a christian ideologue. don't listen to him, he has nothing for you.
as a boy scouts group leader i see lots of young people, girls and guys that are confused by our current social political ways of mistreating the truth. they are confused of their roles and their borders. it is frustrating at times and gives lots of headaches, but it's also the reason i do this voluntary work.
“If I am sitting outside by myself by the fire in the evening and I am constantly beating myself up over my failures in the past, I am not someone I want to be alone with”… damn.
🌸 don’t dwell in the past, think of present and make best decisions you can
Ask for guidance, create a plan
Making right ones now determine & shapes your future
A friend of mine once said, “If the person you’re with isn’t lifting you up, they’re dragging you down.” This made me realize that statement applies to how you treat yourself also.
Thats tough, because my wife suffers from depression, and has a hard time controlling that, and the every day emotions are not always controllable. I wouldn't say that statement works for every situation.
@@karlpage9028 I agree but I’d also say,if the person you’re with forces you to confront the ugly parts of yourself even if it’s to meet theirs,so long as it’s based in real selfless love,I think that’s a form of uplifting
well a person could be neutral as well...every person u meet doesnt necessary need to encourage you or lift you.
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Yes, but the more we are actively thinking about ourselves, not how to help others, makes us more miserable. It’s a balance
True:
Until you get comfortable with being alone, you'll never know if you're choosing someone out of love or loneliness
100% out if lonliness
more or less, as an anti-social person in the majority of time, i can say it would be out of love cuz if u like or get use to loneliness you won't feel lonely...
this hits hard thank you
I very much agree. Great thoughts!
OK thanks! More stuff to hold me back.
We don't need more people like this man, we need to be like this man.
that’s how we help each other out
Yes but it end up in the same way, everything is good.
This advice is just as relevant to good women with bad experiences with problematic men
No, you need to be yourself.
@DorothyPotterSnyder Its starts with listening and understanding. What he trying to get you to understand.
I’m a young woman watching this, and I’m so sorry. Every single guy watching this, you deserve good people to be around. You deserve a partner, life, friends and happiness. Please don’t give up on this world yet.
❤
I don't believe that, If I deserved them I'd have them, those things are earned.
But I'm not giving up either.
I know its not all women but sometimes big movements like feminism can make them feel like they can tear everything down around them just to make a point and I am so fed up to what women do to the people around me.
We didn't give up, society gave up on us.
@@musicandairplanes6330 Will you marry again ?
"You're never lonely, if you like who you're alone with." I carry this thought with me every day. A very powerful mindset that I believe every man should cultivate.
Easier said than done my friend, but it’s the goal
I see a flaw on that
A person who hates being alone finds himself in bad company
If you have the ability to choose who you want to be alone with then you are not truly lonely.
This is true! I get more satisfaction trying to make myself happy instead of trying to please someone who thought it was normal to diappear and go no contact whilst working away for days/weeks/months and after years of enduring this, threw a tantrum when I did it back to him. This man had double standards and I could never measure up enough for him despite keeping well groomed, paying all the bills, educating myself, remaining loyal to him. These days, I'm at a point where I would like someone but not necessarily "need" someone in my life. After 4 years I decided I will no longer settle.
"You don't want to be alone with you because you beat yourself" drove me to tears. This realization drove me to tears.
I do the same. It helped when I took a step back to try and realize where all of the negative thoughts came from. I realized it was just all the things my parents had said about me or had believed about me. Which now helps me realize that it probably isn't true and should just be ignored. Not sure if this will help anyone but hopefully it does.
@@gingermuffin4292 Hi, my parents said similar things. The part that made me cry especially is that I was doing this to myself, not because I hated myself, but because it was a learned behavior from our parents. We learned from them our poor qualities, and our self doubt amplified them.
Every single day
A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free
Copium but it’s true in some aspect
I turned to alcohol heavily for 3+ years to deal with being lonely. All my family is 2,000 miles away. I'm 5 days sober which isn't a lot, but I'm trying to learn to deal with it in healthier ways. Thanks for your video
Proud of you brother keep it up !
@Hayden Gorman Thank you so much man. It's not easy kicking out cold turkey. But I'm determined! Doing AA has really helped so far
keep goinggg
@escandaloso I lost it on day 6...back to the drawing board...but thank you man. It's brutal
@@Secretary.of.Education I believe in you
Many people label themselves "lonely" but most of them don't have the slightest idea about what true loneliness feels like. That feeling of utter hopelessness you get every single day you wake up, knowing that you have no plans, no place to be, no one to meet, no one to talk to. Even your own family don't know how morbidly lonely you are and you can't even tell them. And you slowly start getting consumed by your mind that has been starved of human interaction for soooo long. Imagine repeating this scenario every single waking hour.
exactly. i'm in your exact situation right now. I feel so alone and helpless. it's eating my mind
true loneliness is the feeling of not being connected to another human being it does not matter how many people are around you or if you are around anyone at all
i do get you man im going on 5 years of being truly alone as in physical loneliness but "lonely" most my life came back because
I found out about a crush I had and hurts to see them moving along in life with everyone else and me being behind without a way to connect to them
stay strong become comfortable with yourself and you will make it through
real
whats worst is when u do try making friends, u kinda hold back and have trust issues because of what happened in the past, people treated u badly and now u feel the need to careful each time u are talking to someone, and the biggest issue for me is that when i feel lonely, i suddenly have a surge of hope and i say i need to give the effort of talking to people and thats one of the reasons why im lonely, but the main reason for my lonliness was because i was paired up with the wrong people, and when ever i have the chance to get to talk to people, for what ever reason its the days where i have the chance i feel socially akward and shy at the time when i have the chance to talk to people... .but whenever i feel hopefully and all that saying and planning what im going to do, those are the times when im at home. like it sucks, i can have days and weeks feeling socially akward and shy for days and weeks, and its like a cycle im trying to break, to all the people reading this good luck and i hope u guys find the right people to be with and thrive with....
Imagine this scenario exactly, but *with* human interaction
I am alone & got a dog, we go hiking and camping & go to parks , I don't feel alone anymore & my dog shows true love & loyalty. So much happier than I ever was .
man i feel that so hard, it’s gonna hurt when he passes
@@Mabisyoo WTF
The only soul that has ever loved me unconditionally was my sweet dog. He was my doggie soulmate. I'm praying he is there waiting when it's my time to cross over.
I'm so glad you have found that kind of love, too.
A dog's love truly is one of the best things that can happen in life.
Cat friends are great, too.
"You be a strong man, you be a good man, and you let the world rage around you."
That's wisdom.
Please do explain brother what does this rage around you meant
@@shijagurumayumdeosharma it's from the end of the video. It means whatever is happening in the world around us, we choose to be good men regardless.
@@shijagurumayumdeosharma It means don't be pulled into outside issues and controversies. Your life (and the people you love) and sense of purpose should be your focus. The rest is actually a diversion and can even be a form of avoidance of one's own life.
@@shijagurumayumdeosharma dont contribute to the chaos and mayhem
That made me cry. That's a man's wisdom and it was beautiful so needed.
Never felt alone ever in my life, until I lost the 2 people who loved me most, my Mom and Dad. God Bless you sir and all you folks
It's true that when you lose your parents you lose those who will always know you best, leaving you feeling like you're now in slippery waters.
My condolences, not try to sound insensitive but treasure that feeling they gave you I could only dream my parents saw me!
I'm sorry about your parents Ann. I'm 40 and mine are both still healthy and alive even though not together. I try to think of it that EVERYONE must die, but no parent should ever outlive their child, so we are in theory, condemned to watch our parents die at some point. We are lucky to of had loving parents and many don't. Mine will leave me one day and it will be hard but I will never live wreckless on drugs care free and let my mom or dad bury me. I OWE them that much. I'd rather cry for weeks, months, years, instead of letting my mom or dad have to bury me first and suffer the tragedy of seeing me birthed and seeing me dead. God bless
@@annettegenovesi this is why I think you can form loving bonds with people everywhere all the time. Let people inside. Get to know them. Even online. Not because we have to but because we want to. I believe you reap what you sow and if you put kindness and positivity and things like that out into the world and society it will come back to you way more so than putting out negativity.
@@flightofthebumblebee9529 Thank you polyanna
I'm an 18 year old boy from Iran and it has been a while since I was watching your videos and I really like you sir
My Father is an Iranian- American and when I showed him this video
He said that this man is a real American
Thank you for your kind words ❤️
"Nobody will destroy you, if you won't let them!" Well said.
Amen!
Sounds like something Donald Trump would say . ❤
Yes, we are in control
A lot of people who are very resolute/spiteful also need to be very calculated and collected in order to be successful.
16:35
this doesn't feel like a video, this feels like a conversation
that's when you know you found yourself a real teacher eh
It was
I’m 21 and never really had a father, so thank you much sir for this talk, felt needed and I appreciate these words…
That's hard you must believe in yourself at all cost. Do what you want and need to do!
So sorry that your Father wasn’t around for you. One great thing that you can do someday if you have kids, is to be there for them. I raised two boys , who are grown up now, they were and still are the greatest joy in my life. I spent every free moment with them, and sadly they grew up way too fast. Good luck!
Me neither buddy. I'm 19 and i sometimes feel like i must be missing some kind of secret that having a father around would bring and that the other guys in my school just "knows" maybe not even consciously. Not saying im a total weirdo but sometimes i just feel a bit off beat i guess.
Read the first 27 pages of the Bible.
@@MagnusMonsted be impeccable with your word. Don't make assumptions. Always do your best and don't take shit personally.
Thank you for a fresh perspective. I’m a 72 year old man in good shape. But I’ve been lonely all my life. I was trapped in a horrible marriage fo 35 years. But I’m separated since 6 years. The pain of loneliness has morphed into the joy of solitude
Well said, I to am stuck. For now, but I don’t intend to remain this way much longer. I just hope I haven’t wasted too many years
@@n2daair23 it’s never too late. It’s better to be lonely when you’re alone than to be lonely when you’re with someone
I can relate, as a 53 year old woman and the solitude for the last 4 years has been priceless and the times I do get lonely, it passes. Music has been my therapy🎵
@@gabrielle-AV-n-PFloyd thank you for your response. I just moved me and my business from New York City to upstate New York. I think a geographical change was very helpful to me. It gave me a fresh perspective on life.
@@Gettingback997 I'm your neighbor here in Connecticut! Yes I also made a geographical change and enjoying my peace near the water so I completely understand🙏🌹
I’m 66 years old and buried my mother 12/26/22 and week later I lost my wife 01/02/23 to pancreatic cancer at 58 years old.
I needed to hear this, this afternoon.
Thank you for your time and video.
Stay strong gramps! There are people that need you still!
Stay strong brother. There’s times I feel like that. My wife died of cancer my soul mate but she would want me to be strong and move forward. I’m 44 years old. At the end God will put us together with those we lost.
Prayers for you 🙏🏼 everyone here. Much love ❤ till we see our loved ones again 😇
May Allah make it easy for you, grant you patience and guide you to the truth, may Allah reunite you with your loved ones in Paradise. Ameen
I'm sorry for your losses. You're a strong person to be able to push through that and keep going. I hope you can take some comfort in knowing you'll see them again.
The “being comfortable with yourself like a friend” part is beautiful
True
I am working hard to become someone I enjoy spending time with.
But he forgets that "being confortable with yourself" requires primarily taking care of your health, and smoking will tend to lead him to hate "himself" like any person who lost the most fundamental part of his well being, which is being in good health
@@kaledon6 He has lived long enough for that to be a problem, also smoking does not cause cancer or any disease for everyone, I have read studies on that and he may be one of the lucky ones who is not prone to cancer.
Real bro.
I'm a 17 year old guy who's been considering suicide. I've been feeling extremely lonely and afraid of the world and I know that it's time i pick myself back up. This video really inspired me to get my life together and start liking myself again. This is all really good advice and I have a lot of respect for you sir. I hope this video can reach even more people and help them too.
Hang in there man. Life sucks sometimes but there's things worth living for
same bro, i don’t have anyone to connect to, sure i have friends, but i’m always the one to ask how they are, it’s never my turn. idk what to do
I myself am 17 and i felt the same way! life is pretty hard in these times, but we need to pull ourself together and be the best versions of ourselves! keep looking up brother! it will get better soon, trust me!
@@famousjavis4412 i feel exactly the same man. it's really hard to feel like they want you around but i promise they do. people care a lot more than it usually seems like they do
@@hunroodoesart we got it!!
I'm 17 yo form iraq and I just got a notification from my friends that they'll left me and I'm alone now and nobody with me so I watched this video and realized that I need to pick up myself I need to be the man who is called a man and make decisions that I won't regret on it , sometimes we get hurt we do because we have feelings. But we should love ourselves. Thank you sir 🙏
Nothing is more lonely than having people around you that make you feel that way.
Robin Williams...quote that ...
Yes everyone else saw that instagram meme too. It's not that deep. It's usually what delusional women say as an excuse for cheating.
I am fokin lonely!
friends and family are infamous for that , me personally I got no problems giving anyone a time out , ppl would put their limitations on u
Note though that this is kind of your problem. You are responsible for that and you can change the people you hang out with
I'm 76 years old and still learning. This is some of the best advise that I have ever heard. Thank you sir.
Such is life living in this city it's hard to find a good man
It's great to see our elders too! I wish we would have more opportunities to speak with them since they lived way longer than us and are wiser than us. They know what we going through.
@@mars4105 you're very smart to want to listen to us older people. My kids, grands, great-grandson think I'm stupid & treat me as such.
@Rita I'm really sorry to hear that. I will admit that when I was a little kid, I didn't care much (Tho I still respected them obviously). When I grew up a little, I saw their importance but it was too late. Both my grandparents are dead on my father's side and on my mum my granddad died before I was born. My grandma is too old and has lost her mind a little bit because of the age. I feel sad knowing I lost good moments I could of shared with them, and their knowledge. It was even harder since they lived in Romania and I in Canada.
I hope one day your family will learn from their mistakes and come back to you. We never know the luck we have until it's gone. We tend to forget they have been through this and had time to think about it and see it on the long term while we are just experiencing it at the moment.
Please excuse any mistakes I made in English (it's my third language).
Have a nice day sir/ma'am
JESUS LOVES U AND IS COMING BACK
JESUS AMA VOCÊS E ESTÁ VOLTANDO
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The internet, and especially social media, has absolutely torn the fabric of society asunder. I'm still a young man by most definitions but am old enough to remember back pre-Facebook when you could disagree on politics/policy with someone and still break bread with them or enjoy a beer over a game. Nowadays, forget it, just hate all the way down at the first whiff of disagreement. I used to feel lonely and alienated, but now just learned that doing my own thing away from everyone else is the best path to peace in the modern world. Improvise, adapt, overcome.
#Truth
Amen!
Well Said
you read my mind!
I feel the same way and I'm in my late 60's. Young people think everyone is like those on social media. They don't realize they're the minority of our population. Those that have the biggest mouths usually have the least to say, I wish the young ones knew that
Mr. Dwayne thank you so much, I lost my father when I was 16. I'm 28 now and I feel like I just listened heart to heart with him through you. Thank you
"The hell that you go through with these relationships just in order to have someone to sleep with from time to time is not worth the destruction that it is doing to your soul and your spirit, to your life, it's not worth it." Amen to that, brother.
and as i found out even when you find "the one," even after yrs together she can suddenly turn into someone youd never ever have wanted to be with...I wonder sometimes if experiencing a loved one turning into a hated one is more traumatic than if the loved one had died?
@@joejones9520 I've been through this...yes, it would be less worse and less painful if the person had passed away.
"It is better to dwell alone in the wilderness than with a quarrelsome and vexatious woman." - Proverbs 21:19
Got that one right....
You can tell this man had his experiences with women before he was lucky enough to find Momma. And I would even go so far as to say that he needed to make these experiences in order to be able to meet Momma.
Very wise comments. Thank you sir. I am 65 years old and my wife passed away last year. I have never really been alone. But I feel awfully alone now. I am struggling with moving forward with my life. I retired a couple years early to take care of her as her health declined. Now I find myself sitting at home for weeks at a time, only to leave the house to get a few groceries. Your words and Wisdom is encouraging. I only Pray that I can wake up tomorrow and apply those words of Wisdom . Thank You Sir... God Bless .
Hello sir, maybe try getting involved in a community. Share what you’ve learned with others and connect. The world needs your wisdom. And your pain. Start a grieving group to grieve and help guide one another.
You're getting out of the hole one day, one way or another, but however that journey unfolds, promise yourself to take it easy. Take it one day at a time champ!
Thanks for sharing your situation terry. Must be difficult. I also live on my own and it can be tough sometimes dealing with loneliness. Wishing you all the best
Keep active and eat healthy :)
Sir, if I might make a suggestion, visit a local church and you just might find friends, community, and maybe a good woman to spend time with. I promise if you seek God he will reveal himself to you and He will change your life in so many ways your bound to like one of em! Ha! God Bless you friend!
I am very sorry to hear about your loss, sir. I truly am. I am not a Christian per se, but blessed are those that mourn for they shall be comforted. And I pray you shall be comforted. **hugs**
As a 26 year old I feel so much older than I should. I compare my life to all my peers, they all seem to be settling down, getting married, having kids, making 6 figures. I just moved back home to my dads house to take care of him as his health is declining. I’m looking at is as a beautiful thing, spending time with my old man while he’s still here. However, I want to be successful, find love, own a home, have children, but it all seems so impossible. These videos you make really help me get through these hard times, I feel so isolated and alone every single day, but when I watch clips like this, it makes me feel less alone. Thank you.
You have plenty of time. I didn't even start my "career" until 30. Take care of your Dad, there's nothing more important, no matter the sacrifice. Mine's gone, I miss him.
You'll get everything u want, is already there.
I wish the best for you old man.
I'm 33 almost 34, living with my parents in the countryside, no friends near, only internet friends that seem far. I couldn't find myself a good job so I am doing many projects, but I find it hard sometimes que loneliness kicks in. You are still young, try your best with what you have right now. Don't look at the past mistakes. Dont overdo easy drugs like sugar, porn, tiktok, etc. They drain out your will to do things. Not every day you will be motivated to do things. Life is hard, those folk who have 8 hour jobs are having a hard time, they are killing themselves slowly. We have the chance to work for ourselves.
Damn i feel you im 25, i dont have a job, i feel that im way behind y peers shit, lonrliness is a bitch
I'll just make this point - I spent my 20s working on a 'career' that I just *happily* abandoned at 37. What you do to make money, and how much you make, does *not* define you. Neither does presence or absence of a partner. My father passed a few years back. I hadn't seen him since I was 13, I always wanted to get halfway across the country to visit him but kept telling myself, "There's plenty of time, I'll save for that plane ticket next year." Next year never came. He passed, and no one even bothered to tell me he was in rough shape until 6 months after. That's one regret I'll probably take to my grave. At 40 you'll have forgotten all about feeling like you were lagging behind your peers at 26, you'll have learned there are more important things in life than keeping up with the Joneses. Enjoy your dad while you can.
That's really well said!! I'm a mom of six kids, dairy farming family. I got three boys. And 3 girls. We raised them with hard work ethics, morals and values. My 24 year old and 22 year old sons are alone trying to cope. They want to find nice girls, but so far neither of them have dated anyone yet. We are not rushing them, but I am seeing what's going on out there and so are they and they are gun shy. The feminists have done great damage. One of my girls dated a little but sees guys are withdrawing and hesitant to even ask her out and she's looking for a strong man who's got some morals and is a hard worker and wants to take the lead. Tough times all around, I really am sad to see what is happening to our young men in this country. You are right when you say that you have to become comfortable with yourself. I am encouraging that for my boys and girls. Thank you so much for sharing from your heart!
One of the best antidotes to loneliness is volunteer work. Eventually you start to make friends with your fellow volunteers, who are frequently good people
Yeah but then life takes you separate ways and your on your own again
Thank you! That’s such a great idea. I’ve thought about volunteering but just don’t do it. I’m committing to get started so I can give back and be around like minded people. ❤
@@davidnorman2134 But then there's always an opportunity to meet new people right?
Fantastic advice.
Having a dog is also a great help imho.
Thank you for this. When I was 27, I got out of an engagement with an unfaithful woman. I sold most of my possessions, left my old job behind, threw what I had left in my vehicle, and hit the road. Ended up in the sticks in Oklahoma working as a steelworker with the best quality of life I've ever had, my own small humble home, and the best damn dog a man could ask for. It's like you said, it truly takes courage to leave everything that you know and makes you comfortable behind to go into the unknown. It's unsettling and its uncomfortable sometimes. The loneliness was hard to deal with at first. It would keep me up at night, it was a bad feeling I couldn't chase away.
But it turned into peace. Genuine peace. It turned into self-reflection and growing as a man. Everyday, every task is an accomplishment that I achieved. You're a wise man, sir, thank you for sharing your thoughts. It's always good to have more tools for the mental toolkit. Continue to be a good man.
being a steelworker is my dream job
Good job brother! Greetings from Kansas! 🤘
Congratulations on the success of peace and quiet... it's a fabulous learning experience..
I'm right behind you, I'm on similar path...great job, awesome stuff brother man🇺🇸💪💪👍👍😎
Thanks fer sharing that brother really
"Everyday, every task is an accomplishment that I achieved."
Wow that was beautiful, brother, I will remember that
Sir, I am in Asia, and You have saved me from suicide tonight. Thank you and God bless you always!
Hey man hope you're doing well now
hope ur doing well
Hang in there bro, find hobbies stay healthy, and make money it'll get better bro ❤
عليك ان تبحث عن الغايه من وجودك
و دين الاسلام فقط يجيب لك عن هذا السؤال
Hang in there is not the best advice for a guy who wants to end his life 😂😂😂😂
Thank you for doing this talk. I'm 50 this year and struggling with the now reality that I'm going to be alone for the first time in my life. So many mistakes and regrets. So I think you may have planted some mustard seeds for me and I'll keep looking down that path. Yah bless brother.
Im barely 20 and I’ve struggled with crippling lonlieness. I sat back and just listened and it was the best 20 minutes of advice I’ve ever gotten. Thank you so much
God Bless you!
@@mickey6244 Same for you too, may god bless everyone growing up
What are you going to do differently from now on?
I know how you feel. I'm the same age and I feel the same way...
I'm 40 and have been in the same position in my 20s. Like someone posted a while back, the Robin Williams quote 'being alone isnt as bad as being around people who make you feel alone' (to paraphrase). Youve always your TH-cam bros if you need a hand. We're always here.
We must protect this man at all costs
I don't think this man needs our protection, my friend.
@@theronpeavey232 193 people agree with him
This man has enough guns to protect us.
@Theron Peavey definitely
Agreed
There are some days where I just feel unwanted, forgotten and alone but then I go back to this video to brighten my day up. Goodluck gents
Your transparency moves me. 💎
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Here's my video on loneliness.. Have a beautiful day. 💎
Same
@edieltondantas6084this. quitting p0rn was one of fhe best decisions in my life, also i quit drinking but i didnt have a problem with that to begin with i just wanted stronger bones for the sport i practice, i drink every now and then. When i was researching about p0rn addiction i saw so many post of people saying that its normal and ok to do it. I think its not and im an atheist, so im not saying its because of religion, i still think those that want to live watching p0rn then thats ok too.
“ You wanna tell yourself the truth but you wanna tell yourself in understanding and forgiveness” thank you for sharing ❤ I’m trying
I can't believe I came across your shows just when I needed help the most. My wife of 42 years passed away a year ago. I am so lonely and messed up. Your words have made a lot of sense. You have a gift. Keep up the good work. Thank you.
I am so sorry, and I know what you mean. It was a battle for me but as I came to understand myself and noticed little minutes or seconds I learned to appreciate the simple things- like the leaves blowing across the yard, the light coming through the window in the morning, a child's smile, or the dew on a plant shining. It was hard to come out of my pain and memory's but I finally became silent in my mind and just observed life around me. I pray that for you too-peace, the quiet from the storm. blessings
Sympathies and prayers. Never forget that Jesus Loves You!
Best of luck to you sir
@@nword5999😊
My deepest condolences
A TH-camr
I've lost almost everyone and everything in my life recently.
Both parents died,lost my job and my wife separated from me. It's really hard to keep hanging on.
Thanks for the advice.
Hang on men you can. Hard times pass and good times come you just need to keep going, I know it may seem impossible but you can man just keep on going. You are important to this world and you still have a lot to give. God bless. Greetings from Argentina
@sunshinyday I hope you truly find God.
@jaxandree Hang in there Jax 💕
It’s hard man, I did not lose my parents. But I lost my job and I was living with my 4 year girlfriend, she separated from me shortly after, it’s weird that when you truly most need certain people the most, they are not there for you! Now I don’t have a place to stay, nor I can pay for myself so I’m going to France to join the foreign legion. Unfortunately that’s the only way out I can see for now, I’m 31
@@anjosdomar269 Wishing you good luck. Hang in there!
New sub here. Got married when I was 30 and my wife and I had two boys. In 2006 my wife passed away suddenly from a brain aneurysm at age 40. My two sons were 10 and 7 at the time. I worked full time ( self employed construction) full time and raised my two sons with the help of family on both sides. I spent ALL of my free time with my two boys. They came first, no exceptions. Had absolutely no desire to date or form a relationship while my boys were young. My Dad wasn’t able to spend as much time with me as I wanted so I wasn’t going to make the same mistake. My two sons went to church and belonged to the youth group while growing up. Now my sons are 26 and 23 and are both pursuing their goals and working hard. I have not dated since my wife passed away. Sometimes I feel lonely for companionship but after 16 years of being single I am set in my ways and I enjoy being able to come and go as I please. I retired 2 years ago at age 56 and have found some interests to keep me busy and mostly content. It’s hard to know what to do ( relationship or stay single) because today you don’t know who you can trust and too many people are all about themselves.
Sorry for you loss sir , may god bless you and your family!, you’re a good father and man
May God bless you always ✝️❤
Kind words from a real man. Be happy Or move from the u.s.a. it is not the greatest country anymore. I know 100 broke people in half of them are happy I know 20 rich people and all of them are miserable do the math
Thank you for sharing this. I’m a single father of three sons. I haven’t had a relationship in 5 years, for the same reasons you said, and then some. My free time has always been devoted to my boys. My time alone was great for a while, but now it is getting lonely. Since covid, my job has been working from home. My isolation started in 2017 with the split from my son’s mother. Covid just made it worse, and now I find it terribly difficult to form and maintain relationships.
Hey Jim. I lost a lot too. Nothing is stronger than the power of 2 great brothers and a wonderful set of parents. You seem like a stand up guy. The free world is built on the backs of families like ours. Stay strong. Take it easy.
Love your philosophy discussions. You have to love yourself. Be comfortable with yourself alone. Before you seek another companion. I myself only need a part time companion. I have many hobbies, guitars, pet reptiles, and growing mushrooms and plants. I rode a Harley Fatboy to Tucson at age 59 with very little cash. It all turned out great 10 years latter. Cary in Tucson
I'm 64, was very happily married for 40 years, she was 14 yrs older than me, we hit it off from day one, I lost her to Alzheimer's 3 years ago, life isn't the same without her, I feel my age and being disabled make me undesirable so I pretty much keep to myself. Such a nice show and very sound advice, you made my day, please keep up the good work !!
Sorry to hear. God bless you
,an it will get better i promise
I feel you brother u have people here who understand your loneliness wish I could have sit and have a beer with u
Wow, you wonderful man. She must have been a good woman - and you a good man. I'm sorry that she had to pass. That must have left a gaping hole in your life. I'm praying that you find what it is you need to fill that void and wish you well on the rest of your journey through life. Best, K
@@CamperVan-K Thanks for such a nice reply, it's much different without my wife being with me
Protect this man at all costs. That's all I can say.
If we don’t this world will fail!
I don't think this man needs protection, he seems to have that covered already ^^
As if a man like this needs protected. I think he’s quite capable all on his own.
@@LilPeeper420 Wow how original and fresh...
@@deathbunny3048 wow someone had the same thought as you... clearly the right course of action is to go after them with petty sarcasm, great job buddy
There's only one thing worse then feeling lonely and alone and that's feeling lonely and alone with the wrong person.
Spent eleven years doing that and now that I am alone on my little farm I feel less lonely and anxious.
Or surrounded by people who you deem friends but move on with the wind when it pleases. Loyalty in good and bad is rare.
@@commancheheart420 Have you been stocking up on food, ammo, water, etc?
7:19 Im in my early twenties, I left my abusive fathers home. Moved in with my boyfriend found out how toxic he really was two years in. I learnt this the hard way at a young age. I never had a GOOD male figure in my life ever and to this day, but you sir though I never met you, you heal that little piece in me. Thank you.
I relate to you a lot. Hope you have a good life.
"Make the unpopular decisions." really can't stress how important that one is. Trust your self and do what you know is right.
Grew up without a father, just got out of a toxic relationship. This helped more than you could ever know, thank you.
Stand up for yourself, stay strong
Same here man same here
Me too man. I would kill to have had a dad growing up. I just got out of a rough relationship a month after my birth father passing. He divorced mom when I was 7. Never really saw him after he moved out. I visited him maybe twice (I’m 22 now)… I definitely wanna grow up and have kids just so they have a father figure. Someone with wisdom and knowledge. It makes life a little easier to understand.
I’m 26 and am a widower, my wife died 9/9/21. I have two little daughters, which has helped. Loneliness has been rough. Now a days females are hard to even talk to.
Thanks for the content!
My condolences for your loss, I’m sure she is watching over the 3 of you. Stay strong for those girls of yours 💙 all the best
So sorry for your loss, glad that your girls provide you with solace. Hope that with time someone else will come into your life to be your companion (if that's what you want of course!)
I lost my wife 3 months after my daughter was born. There have been lonely nights but better that than being stuck with someone you don't like. If we keep our heads straight we'll both be fine. Hang in there.
Stay strong and care the best you can for your daughters.
Thanks for the support, it means a lot
20:00
"You be that warrior in a garden. You be a strong man, you be a good man, and let the world rage around you."
This is the second video I've watched of this man. In today's society a legend could be considered a celebrity, rapper, or a politician. But this man is a legend in my book. He's like an uncle we all never had but always wanted. Something about this man just seems so heartwarming and delightful to be around with. Thank you for all that you do Mr. Cowboy sir. And apologies for my inappropriate profile.
I appreciate your username
I feel he is the elder we young people need
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“Be a good, strong man and let the world rage around you.” Great life advise. Love your cool, calm and collected videos, thank you !
How what does that mean
Can you please explain it brother
He says this towards the end of his video, I believe what he means is as the world implodes around you sometimes, be strong and hold fast to your truths and strength’s. For me it’s realizing that I can’t always control what’s going on around me, but continue to be a good strong man, and leaning more on faith and God to control the things I cannot. Hope this helps.
Rage against the dying of the light
@@mattday4661 i absolutely agree with 'holding fast to your truths and strengths' - lotta people get pressured by the environment around them to sacrifice their morals & values for the sake of money or the safety of their family. however, if you stay steadfast in your beliefs, your inspiration can help change the environment around you to one that doesn't require others to sacrifice the values that make them, them!
24 year old male who really needed to hear this. Appreciate the honesty and reinforcement, Dwayne.
You got this. The Lord has good plans for you.
bruh 🤟💪
Same age same situation
Take care bro
@@Aqueox what’s even the point of commenting this? Such surface level understanding
@@Aqueox thats why he said "you got this". Idiot.
thanks Dewayne, these videos help me feel like I'm not so alone with my bad thoughts, this world feels so backwards and its hard for me to keep going in it everyday
Hang in there my fellow human.
I do not have a dad. You are the first person I've ever felt that I can sit and listen to your words of wisdom, as a father figure. Thank you for your time and truth. These are the conversations I've always longed for that I never got.
Why don’t u have a dad
My father was like him. But kept to himself...he's been gone 10 years now...
I have a dad, but I do not get this type of wisdom from him. I think this guy would be an exceptional father.
@@myquickjab2098 let him be not really your business dude
Why would you ask that? Read the room.
At 61 and divorced and no kids and my entire small family has passed on. My two horses have died recently......I asked the lord to help me.....I literally feel him and hear him talking to me daily on what to do and its over whelming how much he has helped me.
I’m an equestrian. Can you rescue an older horse to keep you busy?? It will help both of you ❤
Amen ❤✝️
God bless
You've been talking to yourself, because you are your own best coach.
That's called schizophrenia.
I’m 61 years old and have been single now for 10 years, no dating, no one night stands, I haven’t even touched a woman since my divorce and it was and still is hard at times to cope with the loneliness, but it passes. I mean this sincerely, everything he mentioned in this video I have already learned or I’m working on now. What I can say is thanks Dude you nailed it exactly. Sincerely, Oklahoma Cowboy
How come your marriage didn’t last? I am experiencing the same thing too, it’s a possibility that it could go down to divorce and Im trying to be better so it wont happen
Your Shelly West is out there somewhere 🤍
@@mg_kjseek counseling brother
Sometimes it got to do with some women often are more keen on developing themselves and their marriage, try new things, keep romance alive, while we men more tend to enjoy status quo when getting older, relax in the sofa infront of the TV and more or less take the wife for granted@@mg_kj
im 34 and have been single for four years, same deal just single no stands or anything, its liberating and those who thrive on companions should try it
Good morning. My name is Hannah from North Carolina. Thank you for making this video... For the past 8 months, I have been feeling this unfamiliar feeling that has been uncomfortable. So, this morning i woke up and jumped on the computer looking for ideas that could help me make a start, and I feel that your video has. Thank you very much for making this video.
I'm 40 Yr old man, been single for 7 years and live on my own with my dog. I'm use to being alone most my life and to be honest I've learned to love myself and never been happier. The biggest battles are in your mind once you learn to love oneself no person can harm you, also you can't love others if you don't love yourself.
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I'm 47 and live the same way. I got sick of games liars heartbreak disappointment etc etc etc. I'm happier alone
You are right about loving yourself. It gets me through everything. We need to love our selves so we can love someone else. You are so right.
@@lizwebster1521 ❤️❤️😁
Absolutely right man spot on
One thing to seriously consider is how we see the world through social media. Social media isn’t our life. Deleting most social media and focusing on what’s in front of me, my actual life, has helped me so much. Of course I still feel lonely but at least I don’t have hundreds of people rubbing it in my face how awesome their lives are. We are all on different paths in life, make sure you focus on where your paths going instead of wondering where everyone else is.
Im 20 and im going thru & thinking the same thing. Everybody is on their own narrow path and we need to be happy about it, dont take nothing too serious…
Thank you so much for this comment. I need to keep reminding myself about this. Social media is the most destructive illusion in our modern society.
I never have social media account. I never surfed on it.
And I know that (you know I always felt that) my life is so much better this way then the others.
I have felt that. Now I know that and see.
You are on a very good way.
Keep it up!
I think it's also important that you introspect about that kinda thing and consider why you have feelings like these too. Like, why do you feel like people are rubbing it in your face on social media? Cause for me, i see people enjoying themselves and I'm happy for them. But as for myself, i rarely make posts or interact with the timeline. I'm comfortable in myself and knowing that I don't need to be slaying I'm Instagram all day, yk? Idk if that's where you're at, but I'd urge you to think about what about what you project onto the internet that you actually value.
@@tigergaj I really love your point of view. I engage with social media pretty consistently, and over the years I've come to the conclusion that it is a soul sucking void of meaningless affirmation. I like to make movies so I still feel a need to engage in order to keep a portfolio for other artists, but even then I fall back into the habit of endless scrolling on the timeline. I've considered many times deleting my social and just keeping a website up.
First step to beat loneliness is to accept that you are lonely. Second step is to allow yourself to feel all thousand colours of loneliness. Third step is to refocus on something that you are putting value in(running with dog, painting, making music, meditation, breath work, etc.) Dont forget that no one can save you from this feelings, only yourself. It will pass...
I respect that, thanks for this
saying no one can save me from this feeling is a joke. literally anyone can if they wanted to
@@mf_yopey1467 Hard truth is when someone saves you first time, you expect again, again and again. Sure someone can mend your mind but if you have felt real loneliness you know that nobody can be with you 24/7. My point is get out from victim frame and make vaule that is bigger then feeling of loneliness. And this is only your own job and long process. Fuck it there's no shourtcuts. Stay strong.
@@mf_yopey1467 there will always be a time when no matter who chooses to help when they won't be able to because of uncontrollable events in the universe. And when that time comes, if you can't stand on your own for however long the universe asks you to. Nobody else will be able to pick up the pieces.
And don’t EVER give a damn what other people think. Do what makes you happy.
I was once told that I expect too much of other people. This was a hidden compliment and a resource for me. Acceptance of others selfishness and limitations is the toughest thing I've had a real hard time understanding. Live and like yourself because most others are a mess in the Head! Codependency is self-destructive!
Independence is it's own reward!👍
Just dealt with my mom's passing at 27 she was my best friend... I feel immensely alone. Feel like she led me here.. I love you ma! Thanks for always looking after me
Stay strong bro!
Going through the same thing with my dad, he passed back in the end of May. It really sucks not having that close relationship anymore.
My mum passed away last year and she was my best friend too..
I miss her every day❤️
Stay strong brothers, they all want you to stay safe and they love you! ❤️❤️❤️
Dude I'm so sorry I can't imagine that feels
im 18 years old female, and i would like to thank this man for this great advice, i felt this and it comforted me, and to the hardworking guys out there, be safe, you're doing great and i hope you will never let your handsome power die
stay strong
thanks, and thank you for dealing with the BS that comes with being a women
So nice of you to say. Thank you!
youre wonderful
very sweet of you
Did you forget he called women a parasite?
When I get really lonely I'll go out & hang around with people & it almost always reminds me why I spend so much time alone
Here here! 💪🏻
I get it hahahah
Aint that the truth
Ain’t it !
Same …
I love you sir I've been needing an older man's wisdom in my life, and you are him. because I've listened to every motivational speaker, and I can and still feel restless in a weird way. But the way you talk and smoke your cigar is just the peace I needed. Again, Thank you good sir. God Bless.
22 year old man, just getting out of a toxic relationship with a girl that was destroying my sense of self and what I valued and had me a shadow of myself scared of her. Stayed with her for the exact reason I was scared of being alone and being by myself, god forbid.
Being alone is 10000x better than the hell of being with the wrong person just for touch.
This video hit hard, brother. Thanks for sharing some of your wisdom with us.
Stay strong men, times are tough but we got this.
I'm more than 20 years your senior. When i was your age I was almost married to a toxic narcissist who almost drove me to ending my life at about 22. When we split up I thought I was done and would never be able to love again. I was wrong. I stayed single for 5 years before I met my wife of 20 years. Hang in there young man. You're gonna be fine.
Thank you for your vulnerability & transparency. 🙏🏾
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Here's my video on loneliness.. Have a beautiful day. 💎
I’m 2 years younger and I’ve never been in a relationship, I don’t know if it’s cause I didn’t really try, or if women just don’t like me. I think I know of two people that did somewhat like me and the one girl was like my best friend but she ended up with someone else and the other girl I never had feelings for. I now feel embarrassed about this comment💀
21 years old here, and I totally feel you, been with a girl, not bad, but broken, sometimes some people can drag you down while you are trying to bring them up. Being lonely makes you a better person, but from time to time we feel the need and the hurry of someone good coming to our lives. Let’s do the hard work till the time comes. Let’s become better men till there
Your pain is felt my friend. I spent three years with a woman who destroyed my sense of self.
Everything that made me proud of myself was gone, every skill, hobby, hope, and dream was dashed. Friends and family were cut off.
I was the punchline of every joke amongst her friends and family.
And the yelling, it never stopped, I never realized just how much it messed me up until after the relationship, the fear of conflict that comes from her still persists.
But I know this, I know that I'm better for having lived that relationship, and I'm stronger for having left it.
76yo, married man for 54 years. A wonderful message about dealing with being alone. One should recognize that neither your wife, your children, your friends or any of your possessions are yours. You only borrow them for a while. You make a good point about beating yourself up and not liking yourself. You have to be kind to yourself. No one wants to live with or be friends with a downer, someone with a cloud over there head.
Wise words my friend.
Sir, what is lacking in this world for most men is having an older man with Godly wisdom who walks with a true “father spirit,” speak into their lives. Well I see you!! Hope you keep encouraging these young guys on many topics. They need you. ❤
YES!!! This right here!!! People are seeking physical pleasure to cure loneliness but what they need is wisdom and strength. a guide. even women are lacking in that area. i was blessed to have my mom and both grandmothers and great grandmothers in my life. the grandfathers were only there sometimes, except for two. one was a scoundrel and the other actually took the time to talk to me and teach me useful skills.
my sons, sadly, were ignored by their paternal grandad. by MY dad is trying to take time with them. he never bothered to do much with me and my brother but i am thankful he's there for my sons - since their dad can't be bothered.
sad state of affairs in this world. we need more MEN to guide these boys. but my goodness, who can you trust anymore?? so many weirdos out there preying on the kids because there's no one around to protect them.
He sure does encourage us! It's not about disliking or resenting women, it's about working to be better men, and being comfortable with who we are. Men need that!
Yes Ma'am! I have my 13 yo son watch some of his videos and other men like him. His own Daddy, while he loves his son and we love his Daddy, he's struggling hard at the moment and is just not available for our son and our marriage and our family. Not like he needs. Not like this. So, while my husband, who I love with my whole self, is struggling and being hammered into the sword he's meant to be, I'm so grateful to God for these men who are taking their time to encourage our young men because as much as I can try to teach my son all the things my Daddy taught me, I'm not a man and I just can't guide him as well as a real, true and honest man can. 💙 Praise the Lord!
This genuinely made me realize where I was going wrong in my life. Thank you.
Im not even that lonely, I just like listening to this guy. He's so chill about everything he's chatting about in this video
You are right
I like this person
Same
😂
He´s my real life Arthur Morgan.
My ex used to “jokingly” tell me “I gotta keep you down to keep you around”. It was all jokes at first until I started developing anxiety and became self conscious of things about myself I never even noticed. After 6+ years I was an empty shell of a man, I had no concept of myself. I broke up with her a year ago and I’m proud to say I’ve never been more confident in myself in my entire life. You said it best, she was a parasite. Finally I’m growing to be the man I know I can be, and I’ll never settle for anything but the absolute best.
God, that's awful. People often reveal who they really are in the form of jokes it seems like. Sorry you went through that.
Wow I've had someone similar tell me the exact same words
Good for you man! Keep it up
Been there too buddy, 4 years of belittling and to end it all found out about 3 other men she had going. Now I'm almost 2 yrs on with a women who would give a organ for me.
I hope a good women comes your way and shows you your worth, till then stay strong and find connection in your friends!
Women spend much more time with other women understanding them. They on average understand their psychology more.
That can be used as a weapon or a tool.
You happened to stumble on a parasite who was missing something- self-confidence, or something- that used it as a weapon against you.
I am 21 I am exhausted every day. I don’t have many friends I work, these 20 minutes have given me so much advice thank you.
wait till you get 30
I'm also 21, working and soon I will also start my studies. I'm trying everything to feel better, hopefully it will. But I also hope you can somehow work out things for yourself.
Just wanna say hope you feel better. Although you feel alone, just know that you’re still valuable and loved. May God bless you, and He is your companion too 🤍
Jesus said “Come to Me all who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest” Matthew 11:28
@@discipleofjesus719 Jesus wouldn't want us to suffer like this.
@@sebastiano2508 hey I’m sorry for what you’re going through right now. I get that it’s hard. This world will come with its hardships, Jesus never promised that it wouldn’t. But He is there to support us and help us get through whatever it is. And our sufferings can help us become stronger. You must be going through a lot, but just know that it is possible for you to overcome it by the grace of God.
Jesus said “I told you these things so that you can have peace in me. In this world you will have trouble, but be brave! I have defeated the world.”
John 16:33
Wishing you nothing but the best
Enjoyed your video, some true words spoken.
Spent 16 years with the wrong lady, on my own now I’m happy with my own company.
Be kind and things will be fine.
41 Years young man here and have found myself alone quite often. Never married and no kids. Parents been gone for over 10 years now and I have to agree 100 % it's all about learning yourself. I've been in good relationships and bad but in the end never lasted over two years. Have learned to be totally self sufficient. Yes, I do get lonely and occasionally bitter but have to remind myself to be constantly working on myself. Thanks for the episode.
Need more women in ur life.
also if you are worried about kids then freeze sperm so when you meet a quality girl you can have a kid professionally and even choose some of the genetics now.
a young man who has never been married or never had kids isn't a man by definition.
Who’s definition?
@@DryCreekWranglerSchool rural western balkan, 21st century!
Wish this had been around before I lost my brother. He needed this.
Thank you for posting.
Almost 3 years ago I lost my wife, my soulmate. The hole in your chest and the emptiness it leaves is almost unbearable. Losing your other half is a loneliness I would never wish on someone.
It feels indescribable losing someone so important in your life, i cant express how much i connect with your words here
Hope you’re keeping well man
At least you had someone my guy.. better to have and lost
I wish you all the best and hope you're doing well man...
Unfortunately, many older couples argue about trifles - and only realize after the loss which angel they have lost. Too late to talk. Nice that you call her soul mate. And that you were better. I'm sorry for your loss.
Spot on, Dwayne. I'm 80 now, but back in my forties I learned that I can't be responsible for somebody else being happy, nor they for me. Happiness is a choice we make for ourselves. Likewise, unhappiness is not because of somebody else. It is a choice we make. Oh, people can disappoint us, but that doesn't mean we have to be unhappy as a result. It simply presents us with another choice to make regarding that relationship. As you said, if we are comfortable in our own skin (hopefully because we have done the requisite homework) nobody can penetrate our happiness without our permission. As another commenter said, there is a difference between solitude and loneliness. Great things can be accomplished in solitude, not so much in loneliness. Your videos have given me a lot of pause to reflect on the days when I had a Buckskin quarter horse, and it always puts a smile on my face. Thank you, brother, much appreciated.
well said!
Wisdom
@@Roger-tv7sf I have nothing but the highest regard for Dewayne and his videos. Your sniping at my typo, well, that's another matter.
There's a buckskin quarter horse in my life. He makes everything better that's for sure.
@@freezinginhere When I bought my Buck back in 1966, I had just returned from Vietnam and having a horse was one of my youthful bucket list items. He was 9 years old and was an experienced ranch horse, but had been previously owned by a family that bought him for their daughter who wasn't really interested.... so he had been left to pasture for a couple of years and was in really bad shape. Hooves so long that they were curling up, his coat so sunburned by the Florida sun that he looked more white than buck skin, and had a terrible sun cancer spot on his pink nostril. I was naive about caring for a horse, but fortunately I was able to board him at a farm near where I lived and with the help and advice of the farmer, brought him back to peak health and condition. He knew more about being ridden that I did about riding, but he also knew that I was a worthy pupil for having shown him the love and attention that he needed. It was a good time.
One of the things I enjoy about Dewayne's chats is finding out that I did at least a few things right while Buck and I were pards.
10:46 "But if you're with yourself, and yourself is always beating you up, you're not gonna want to be with yourself" Exactly my issues. Thanks for the insight.
Just lost my father a few days ago. Feel like this is something he would say to me, the way he would say it to me. Thank you for giving me a piece of him tonight.
I am a 23 year old woman who has lived a lot of life so far. I was trapped in a home fire and escaped, was in a car accident that made my baby 2 months premature, my father passed away suddenly in front of me a few days ago. And more obviously lol. (All Within the past 2 years). I learned a long time ago that you are the only one who will be with you for the rest of your life guaranteed. So make sure you can deal with yourself for that long. And if you can’t then figure out what you don’t like about yourself and change it. Also sometimes we go through terrible things even if you try to be a good person every day. Maybe bad things happen to good people to test if they are going to stay good people strong in their convictions and morals. I’m not sure yet. I hope things get better for me but maybe there is no exchange of good karma or an ultimate reason why I went through these things. But having those beliefs help me cope.
@@Sidney-ov8ws I'm sorry Sidney, that's really unfortunate to hear about your recent times. You are followed by your father, to watch over you and the young ones. The Creator has a plan, even if we don't see eye to eye with said purposeful plan. If you believe in god there is always a friend no matter the darkness. i hope this comment finds you in a peaceful manner
Sidney, I lost my father in late 2020. I'm not a young man but it still hurts. He was the strong man who taught me to ride a bicycle, drive a car, work with wood and tools, sew buttons, and be self-sufficient. He gave me his skills to look after myself. That's his legacy. Your Dad will have left you similar gifts 💪👍
I’m so sorry for your loss. We’re unfortunately in the same situation. I’m sure he meant so much to you. I hate this feeling so much but I know he wouldn’t want me to mope. That’s the only thing keeping me sane. I know he loves me to death and if there was one thing he wants me to know, it’s that he loves his kids more than anything in the world and know time will heal all wounds 🤟🏽
Take care.
For men who are lonely I'm 33 years old now. Outside of work and life itself I've found a way to cope with life playing guitar and piano maybe that might not be for you but what I can say is find a hobby or something that drives you to continue doing it and enjoying it in the moment when your alone with yourself. Fishing hunting drawing art and or playing an instrument even having a pet can be a huge help. There was a point in my life where I wanted to end my life. I don't do drugs smoke or drink. I didn't know what to do or where to turn I was coming home from work one night around midnight driving home. I live in the country I was going 50 mph I decided to push it to 110 mph and was shaking ready to yank the wheel sending me into a ditch ending everything.... I slowly stopped and stopped. I made it home woke up the next day and went to work and a coworker was talking about his new guitar he had got. I was curious and got to talking and came to getting my own. It's been 3 years now of playing and nothing makes me feel better like this guitar.... It makes everything go away it melts my feelings away. I got to thinking about it how instant it was and how it all fell into place in that moment and all I can say is to never give up. Keep your circle small, work hard, keep drama away and do what makes you happy. In the end it kinda sorts itself out and don't let anyone tell you that you NEED to be with a woman or in a relationship to live a good life. You can live a good full life even by yourself. Work hard and prosper brother's and God speed. Don't give up.....
@@JerelLorenzo Go out there and make a life for yourself, instead of repeating nonsense on the internet, it'll do you good, friend.
I think we've lived the same life.
How depressing
Thank God you're here, friend. God loves you. You are precious to him; he gave his life for you so you can enjoy a beautiful eternal life with him and your loved ones. So happy you find joy in music! Be well.
great advice, that I think pertains to men and women! no one needs anyone but we all desire some kind of company sometimes. 🙏
Honestly, I'm just glad to hear an elder man say some kind words instead of telling me how worthless I am for not wanting to work 16-hour work days for the rest of my life.
aka Andrew Tate
This comment caught my eye! I'm nobody. A little older then some. But young and dumb for sure. When we give grief to young people like that it's not that young kids don't "want" to work 16 hours days for the rest of their life it's more that they aren't willing to if that's what it takes. It's an eye opener and encouragement!
Yeah and several other disparities ...
>you're spoiled. Your generation was given everything and y'all still aren't happy.
>you don't need sympathy. You think this is hard? When i was younger....
>you can do anything you put your mind to. If you didn't achieve your goal it's because you didn't want it bad enough. No excuses.
>your generation is so entitled and thinks the world owes them something. Let me tell you the world doesn't owe you a thing.
Very encouraging and helpful ... s/
@@L2PlayRunescapeit’s so funny to say that meanwhile hunger is still a problem, corruption is at the most it’s ever been, all the markets are all fucked up can’t even buy anything. Your lucky if you grew up back in that generation I rather get sent to war and die a hero than work all my life and be used like a toilet paper
@@Ez-lk2hlso true man. I would rather live back then and go through those problems. Modern times are so fast and overwhelming
Dude I accidentally found this......MAN....the best sermon I have ever sat threw.....much love.....THANK YOU!!!
I'm a 65 year old widow and am alone alot, but rarely lonely. I enjoy my own company not only because I like myself but because I've been around enough people to know I'd rather be alone than sorry. I feel for young men in this current world and pray for them. My message to them is don't settle for any woman who berates you, be comfortable with yourself and let the Lord lead you to the right partner.
Amen brother
Well said my lovely. Amen, totally agree!.....😊
I am 61 years old and recently divorced. I'm happier alone than alone in a marriage.
Amen. Well spoken ✝️
Mary I totally agree
I'm a 44 YO black woman. I just found your channel, and I am happy I did. Your messages are applicable to a spectrum of ages and lifestyles. Thank you Sir for sharing your wisdom with the world.
i agree as a 39 yr old Puerto Rican , i can relate to this video and comment so much , blessings
Yay welcome
Bot.
Why did you mention your colour? That's racist.
@@Benstormcrow you're ignorant
"You be a strong man, you be a good man, and just let the world rage around you".....what a freaking quote. I will never forget that. Just found you today on youtube Dwayne and I've watched three of your videos already. I am 22 years old, in the Military for almost 5 years now. In college, kinda losing my way. But trying to be a better man, and leave a hole when I leave this world. God bless ya Dwayne, thank you for all the advice. You make me want to be better and be a good man.
Such a wise advice. Instead of finding someone else, be a good companion to yourself. I feel peaceful. Thank you sir.
23 year old women here. I'd say even as an orphan I've never felt as alone as I do right now. Homeless , but nomadic , can hold my own my parents only ever taught me to survive outside. As a culture we've forgotten how to value each other. My heart goes out to men dealing with depression or loneliness that is overlooked out of societal expectations , you are seen. Unfortunately not by enough but some of us do want yall to know we care. And your feelings are valid.
How’s it going brother?
Sister*
Just as you said that we are valued and seen, the same goes for you. I’m sorry that you’re going through some hard times right now. You are so worth it and loved. God bless you and the Lord is there for you
You will unite... or you will fall.
The game has been divide and rule.
Nice to meet you
Im a 27 year old dude. This actually did help me. Thank you so much for actually acknowledging how horrible the loneliness pandemic is. The media only scoffs and laughs at it, as do many many women.
Sometimes I find it really difficult to not be hateful. Your advice is really good. Consider doing a follow up to this video if you think or more things to say.
Edit: 7 months later. Forgot I wrote this. I’m glad I did, because some these comments make me want to press the end humanity button. Thanks to those of you who gave kind and thoughtful replies.
Covid pandemic did change everything, and it's never acknowledged. Everyone is scared, no one socializes, and the only thing people have is fear. It will get better in time though, I do not think society can stay in fear forever. Try to show compassion instead, or that is what I do. Imagine how much these people are suffering being so afraid. And with women, that must be awful to be trapped in one's on head by fear, so I try to just smile and speak softly if I detect a woman is afraid.
Women laugh at the loneliness epidemic? Evidence?
It’s not just women laughing. It’s shitty people who are miserable that feel better tearing others down
@@anothernobody1804 Oh, that part is cascading. We face those people and actually have a choice. We can return kindness instead, and it may be the first time that poor soul who is spitting hate at you has ever heard kindness in their life.
Bruh women are lonely in this pandemic too tf you even bring that up for
You are 100 percent right. I was homeless in 2015 and I made a choice to change that ,and now I have my own place and a van. It wasn't easy and I worked really hard and I didn't give up.
Keep it up bro proud of you, keep using the job experience to switch to other jobs and negotiate better pay start a side hustle people sell water for millions just gotta find something you like or something to help people or solve problems
imagine your house was in gaza
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Be your own best friend, you will never be alone…do mindfulness…self-love and self-care are important keys for this life journey…Good luck…
Happy for you. 🙌🏾
that parasite situation is accurate as hell
We need to spread this guy around some more. I feel comforted and inspired.
Same here 🥰
Hello Dr. Freeman, Its good to see you. They're expecting you down in the anomalous materials lab.
Dont worry. G-man will hook you up.
I got divorced this year at 27. She found another man, moved away, etc; it was devastating to my self esteem. I cautiously started talking to another girl over the last couple months, but I really liked her. I treated her well, went on dates, talked every single day, and I found out she was "seeing" an ex boyfriend of hers on the side. Again, devastating. More lies and deceit. But, I'm going to be ok. I'll have to learn to be alone for a little while.
I hope you can heal soon. It's tough but with time....your heart will heal.
That sucks, sorry to hear you got disappointed. But these days it’s almost the norm for both men and women to not commit when “only” dating. The only solution is: be very direct from the start. Tell them what you want and what’s a deal breaker. Talk early and honestly. Otherwise, it’s a waste of time.
Don't get too down on yourself man, it sounds like you are a great guy and none of these girls deserve you, keep your head up and try to enjoy the little things in life.
1year divorced after 16 years married. Ran off w another guy after cheating, they only lasted 4 months. Never felt so low, so worthless. She was the parasite he described. I feel you bro. What helped me? 1)wake up early every morning w a cold shower 2) pullups pushups dips, and run 2 Mike's every day 3) complete sobriety though I never really drank or smoked often 4) ESTHER PEREL go get her book or watch her speak on TH-cam, really eye opening for me
Head up King. No Bad Days, Only good days!
I'm 42, I'm an only child, and was raised in a neighborhood full of mostly senior citizens. I'm autistic so social skills are pretty much not an option for me. Sometimes loneliness really is a crippling darkness that hangs over me and other times it's not so bad. But my issue isn't just with women, it's with people in general. I've always had a hard time making friends and that's never changed. Just my cross to bear I guess
Go out more and let it come naturally and don’t go out to meet people just go out and visit places and when you meet people just connect
Similar situation, but man being alone is way better than being with a bad woman, trust me partner
How do I feel for you. Where do you live? I live in Phoenix Arizona.
I’m 35, autistic, divorced, honestly join a club you’re interested in. I love model trains and model rc planes so I joined a model railroad club and a model rc plane club and have made real genuine friends and it’s awesome getting to be around people that don’t care how nerdy and awkward you are because everyone there is but everyone is extremely nice too.
Sounds weird but join a coed team "sport" like bowling league or softball. Bowling leagues are low pressure environments and you'll meet plenty of people.
The father I never had but always wanted. Thank you for your wisdom and understanding.
I am a 53-year-old currently sitting in my garage smoking a cigar and having a bourbon buy myself as a normally do and came across your video. All I can say is your Insight is spot on. Amen brother, you are a blessing so you young guys listen to the wisdom man this man offers!
I read your comment and had a good chuckle. I'm 52 sitting in my garage watching this video having a beer and smoking a winston. I had to divorce my ex 10 years ago because she was just unbearable. I haven't dated since. I'm just not interested. I dated a lot and got married when I was older. I was in between 10 years of combat deployments and saw everyone around me married with kids and I though ok I should too. I was wrong. I don't think I've ever dated or met a good woman. They were ok but not good for me. The games and fighting just isn't me. I've see how marriage is for my brothers and sisters and comrades and friends and I just shake my head and wonder where is the woman for me? And I'm pretty well off. Retired from the feds and a law enforcement officer with a great pension and 100% disabled Veteran. I've built and sold a few business a farm and two construction companies. I have no debt and the best healthcare in the world. I have a great family and life long friends. I just can't seem to find the woman I believed was out there. So for now I'm just going it alone. Hope your doing well brother.
There are good woman out there in the world 😊 i do wish you well ❤ NZ
Dwayne is like the father some never had or he can be the man that’s truthful with everyone and tells you things your daddy was afraid to teach you
Good ol’ telling it like it is, never goes out of style. My hat’s off to Mr. Dwayne, once again.
So true
Man his talk and voice calming in a very crazy world!
So true
@@EricCampbellUAV This ladies and gentlemen, is a textbook example of how some people will hate on everything.
Yep , I'm 65 and this gentleman speaks from the heart.
He speaks the truth.
Even if no one may ever read this, I want to thank you.
Sometimes all it takes to be pulled out of the dark downwards spiral is someone reminding you of who we are.
The biggest journey starts with the first step, and every downwards spiral I will use this advice to look back and see that it’s ok. Well be fine.
So thank you. It might not be much but often what I and many others look for is just that bit of encouragement, that other person saying it’s ok, that person simply giving you some guidance. That person reminding you it’s yourself fcking with you and that you can tell that person to politely piss off or change for something better.
Today you brought me out of my dark spiral, I may probably need it again, but that’s ok.