hey guys! I just want to say thanks for your overwhelming support. It seriously makes me feel much less alone through this, and I'm glad I could make some of you feel the same way :). can't believe I'm at 200 subs, so cool! I'll try and get to all your comments soon!
This comment is probably gonna get taken down, deleted or whatever, I dont care but just a piece of advice.. Take this video clip down if u wanna find another partner. Women tend to use this kinda sh*t to weaponize against you. Don't listen to those saying being vulnerable is okay as man, in fact, it's frowned upon. My suggestion is to go hit the gym and focus only on yourself. Get your $$$ up and I can guarantee you, these 304s gonna come flockin, its in their nature.
you deserve much more than 200 subs thats for sure, thank you for sharing your experience that many of us can relate to and have ourselves, been through. Glad to see you doing so much better towards the end of the video.
Man fr my ex girlfriend broke up with me it’s all my fault it’s been 5 days now i feel like shit i need someone to talk to about it i feel so lonely without her.
@@d1lawrence933I’m sorry man :( if you ever need to talk I’m here. I’m still getting over a breakup that happened through the beginning of summer I understand
it's a hard pill to swallow buddy, i feel you, for 2 yrs now I've been single but i still catch sudden dreams and memories with her. it's a tough road but i hope the future reserved a better outcome for all of us in here, have hope 🙏🏻
Stfu, you women move on quick to the next one while we have no options at all to hop on to and do it alone. Your moving on experience is so much easier than ours. Especially that you look attractive. I'm sure you have a pool of men after you. Life is not fair. Women live life on easy mode while most men can't even get a date!
Dios les llama al arrepentimiento. Dios quiere darle misericordia y salvación. Nosotros pecadores merecemos el infierno por haber roto la Ley de Dios, pero “Porque de tal manera amó Dios al mundo, que ha dado a su Hijo unigénito, para que todo aquel que en él cree, no se pierda, mas tenga vida eterna.” Por eso, Jesucristo (Dios en la carne) murió en la cruz. La Ley, pero Cristo pagó la multa. Él sufrió en cambio, como Sustituto, y resucitó después de tres días y vencio a la muerte. Ahora está sentado a la diestra del Padre. Arrepiéntase y ponga su fe en la Persona y obra de Cristo,, y entonces así será salvo de la ira de Dios. “Porque por gracia sois salvos por medio de la fe; y esto no de vosotros, pues es don de Dios; no por obras, para que nadie se gloríe.” (Efesios 2:8-9)
Drinking alcohol to cope is probably the worst thing to do. You have to sit in those feelings and let them shape you till you’ve accepted. I did that mistake when I broke up with her. The first few days I felt awful, by the weekend I accepted and removed social media and felt ready to improve myself. By Sunday night I drank all day and messaged her by night. Then it opened conversation which can only prevent your closure.
And then when we do it you women kick us to the curve because subconsciously you see it as weakness. Women say one thing but they emotionally respond to the opposite
@@I_AM_MONKEYYeither you showed the attachment to her in a toxic way, or she just wasnt the right girl. me and my boyfriend got back together because he showed his dedication to fight for us, dont lump in all girls as the same just because of your own bad experiences.
@@Goalseeker123 Y'all are making assumptions about me and it was my ex who did this in this situation. He left me at one of my most vulnerable times. It doesn't just apply to women. This is why we don't believe in love anymore cause we have preconceived notions of each other's.
@@therealhexia No problem, no need to blame yourself; just cherish those moments. Every relationship comes with a risk of ending. It's best to give what you can.
break up or cheating hurts so baddd , so bad ,muchhh bro , but i will never show world how i cried or made a edit video onn myself crying over breakup lol , and you are saying him bravest
"don't be afraid to love someone. when you fall in love, I want you to fall in love all the way. even if it ends in heartache" these is one of the quote I wanna live with, hope you have better life bro.
@@nihalmohammed6674 i'd have to disagree. it's been two and a half years and it still hurts. we've also been together for two years. so it lasts longer than the relationship itself. it's still eating me alive to this day and i'm scared that i won't be able to trust anyone again. it just wasn't worth it.
I feel like that'd be applicable to only those who have the courage to accept that the person they wanted to spend their whole life with has gone far away from them...tbh my life would be in pieces if it was me
@@d_onorit seems like you can’t accept the facts that it’s over, if you use the proper tools to heal yourself, after a month you should begin to be fine
As someone currently going through their first breakup in life, I want to thank you for making this video and making me feel less alone in this horrible grieving process.
After 8 years, 2 kids, lots of ups and downs, selling my car for a ring and then a rejected proposal to watch her find someone new within a month, I needed this. It brings hope. Thank you.
Dude, we just saw a single human being, progress with their inner emotions, and find a way out😮 That's what being human is really about. I hope you're okay, bro
I love just how raw everything is and showed how your road to acceptance isn't linear. Some days you were alright, but some days after you go back to crying and wishing to text your ex. I just love what a realistic and genuine portrayal of your grieving process of a break up is like, and it'll definitely make others feel less alone.
this perfectly shows that recovering from a breakup isn't linear. it comes in waves. sometime maybe good sometime maybe. but overtime there is more good.
Took me five years to get over my first heartbreak. At the five year mark, couldn't have cared less, and actually agreed with her decision. She made the right move.
I heard some people can get over a breakup after only three weeks, why do you think it took you so long to heal? Maybe you were hiding what you felt? The break up was harsh or you were married?
@@dozoneil1253 i've been getting over a break up myself, heck i can't even call it that, for we where just a fling for her. contaced her less then a week ago and told her how i felt. she doesn't love me anymore and that just took a big ass hit to my heart and feelings. i'm 14 and i find it hard to connect with people on a deeper level. it doesn't matter how long it takes you , it matters that you get out of the heartbreak knowing how to love yourself and that you get healthy again.
breaking up with someone your still in love with is the hardest thing. i feel so alone. i completely understand you. the codependency, the need to speak to them, im just so sad.
it’s really a non linear experience! there are days you feel like the world is ahead of you and you’ve got nothing to fear, and then there are days you’re stuck wondering if you’ll ever be the same again. devastating but also a strangely beautiful and universal part of love.
@@jackmace6531 Are you? He just broke up do you expect him not to morn over the end of his 3 year relationship if yea you’re clearly young or haven’t been through a relationship.
Not everybody getting through someone like he does. There are plenty of ways to do that. And because you are hoping that he was doing this or this is the way you would want him to be isn't necessary. He found his own ways to get through it
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let him go. So i had to do all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring him back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
This made me strangely miss the worst nights of my life in a nostalgic way. Wouldn't take them back but walking through the silent night missing her was something magical. Also appreciating everything I went through. So bittersweet.
last night i felt this random surge of missing my ex for the first time in a while. i didn't know why, and when i checked my phone i saw it had been exactly a year since we had broken up. kind of beautiful how your body sometimes understands things before your mind does :) seeing this video made my bumpy post-breakup recuperation journey feel less lonely
@@venividivici7461 it’ll be a year next month, since my ex and I had broken up. were in this together as a team!! keep going strong and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise, because at the end of the day, you are still important and worth enough!!!🥹
i dreamed about my ex out of nowhere and woke up kept wondering why the heck throughout the day. checked my phone to realize it had exactly been 2 years to the day i saw them for the last time
Your brain subconsciously has this calendar. It’s usually with traumatic events but sometimes you’ll feel really bad and won’t know why but then you check the date and realize something bad happened this same day last year or something in that vein. Look into it it’s quite interesting. I think it’s called like trauma anniversaries.
I totally relate to this; something similar happened to me. It felt so strange because I thought I was over it, but then I couldn't sleep for three nights straight. I couldn't stop thinking about him, even prayed that he'd be okay. Then, out of nowhere, my heart just sank. I don't remember every detail, but I felt completely drained. When I looked at my calendar, I realized it was the anniversary of our breakup. It was one of the most intense moments I've ever experienced.
the only girl i've been with, i probably cried for about a month everyday after she cheated on me. That was about a year and a half ago and I still haven't really recovered in terms of getting ready to trust and date again.
Take the time you need. Nothing is linear and working to better yourself and not focusing on wanting to find someone for you is the best way to navigate life. People come and go, but you are with yourself 1000% of the time, so nurture yourself and love yourself🙌🏽
Make sure you forgive yourself and treat yourself with kindness. I know it's easier said then done, but once you reconnect with your own self, you will find a new outlook to the world around you. Wishing you all the joy and happiness in the world because you deserve it!
That's good. That means you've got empathy. Just pick a philosophy and embrace it. Stick to it. This is what I'll do but relationships are hard, the single-most drivers of human emotions and problems.
Now this is what healing looks like. Not sleeping with people but taking the time to feel all the emotions and learning to be alone. I love this video so much I hope you make it far in your TH-cam journey.
It's common for relationships to encounter obstacles, but there is always a solution. My own marriage faced considerable issues, but with appropriate guidance, my husband and I worked through them and deepened our connection. Solutions are achievable if you're ready to work together. Stay hopeful-there's always a way forward.
I'm facing significant relationship problems and can't stand the idea of losing him. My love and longing for my partner are profound, and I'm ready to do anything to restore our connection. I would greatly appreciate any advice or help you could give.
Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. His name is Father Akunna.
I just searched for Father Akunna online indeed he is a very generous man and the most powerful spell caster that I have ever seen he brought my husband back to me with so much love ❤
Its a feeling that never get easier, you spend so much time with someone and then all of a sudden they are gone, you grieve because they were apart of who you were. You grieve the loss of someone and yourself at the same time.
There will be a good reason the are not together with you anymore. Teenagers and young people have a very disney like view of "love". At the end of the day its not THAT deep.
@@oranges557 what hurts the most imo, is when you break up without any hatred or without each other doing anything wrong, it hurts a lot more i feel like and especially when you still care about them and all i guess, thats my situation on what happened with me
@@infinity_sh4816 ill tell you what bro, if ghe chemistry and all that was really real, you both would have NEVER broken up without any reason. Trust me, when you get older you realize it doesnr work like that. Youve lost nothing. You only gained experience. Youre not special and she is not special. You will love again, no worries
its been about 9 months since i broke up with my girlfriend. it was both of our first relationships. i was the one who broke it off, and i regret it. i regret not fighting, not WORKING, not doing more to be a better partner. but i didn't know, and i was naive to relationships. 9 months later, the heartbreak is setting in now that she is with someone new. we're friends, me and her. and that sucks. but i'm healing. thanks for reminding me that. and if she's seeing this: hi, i love you. after everything, i love you.
Same here, broke things off with her back in April, 6 months later, she has a new guy, and i'm only feeling the heartbreak now. Truthfully, we just weren't compatible, but it still sucks to look back on the good memories, because it still hurts. I thought I could be friends with her, but it's too hard. I had to go no contact.
This advice always comes like a punch in the gut. But don’t be friends. Cut contact forever. Being “friends” only leads to unnecessary confusion and stalls you and her from moving on. And it’s wrong for you to do so seeing how you were the one to break things off. Staying friends with her can be seen as imposing. She has her new partner and shouldn’t require a former partner to keep her company. Don’t be that person. It’s also disrespectful for the person she’s with because it seems very behind the back.
"We were together 3 years, so it makes sense to feel the way I feel." Right there I know brother would be okay because he accepted where he was and why he felt the way he did. He grieved, but he kept going and made it out alright again
I literally went thru this in 2020. It took me about a year to get over her. 4 years later and i dont feel anything but still think about her every now and then. Ig we manage to get over people, but we never manage to forget them.
@@nordwind4219 She blocked me about a month ago and I'm still not over it Thinking about the fact that this feeling could go on for another year or maybe two is devastating and scary
Me too. Had my first and only relationship in 2020. We stayed as friends. I still think about him sometimes, more in a "that is an experience I had" way, but I still have my regrets that it didn't work out. Sometimes I cry. But it's nice that with time I learned that he is not as flawless as I saw him when I was in love. And he does some things that would stress me out a lot if I tried to tolerate it to keep the relationship. Sometimes I'm even glad our relationship didn't last for long. The breakup hurt like hell though. But I'm healing
going on month three of my breakup with the guy i was with for a year and a half, and while he is dating his girl best friend who he told me not to worry about, I'm still trying to cope with the feeling of being alone :0) this was a cool video and made me feel less alone
Dang, so I’m not the only one who’s been crying for the last 6 months straight? I was celibate for 4 years since my last partner and I broke up, but I tried again this year and completely lost myself again, but it all did launch me into my next era of growth. I learned more about how I love, my flaws, my willingness to accept the bare minimum. Going celibate again for a while to get myself together, it wasn’t all sad. There were good times and moments in all of that, but I’m not ready to let myself go through that again.
I've been going through my first heartbreak. I still love her, and yes, I want her back, but I won't be able to handle that. I've watched this video multiple times, start to finish. It helps me know it takes time and its ok. Thank you.
How raw, real, & beautiful. It was almost 20 years ago when I went through the hardest break up of my life, and instead of documenting it like this, I did by writing songs. Life went on and I ended up meeting the love of my life.. and those songs became some of the material that we play in a band we formed together. All of this is to say: you may be surprised where your heartbreak leads you, as it oftentimes is better than you could ever imagine ❤
Man this actually brings so much hope. My girlfriend and I broke up a month ago. I've never been this low in my life. All the love she gave me, all the plans and promises she made, they were all gone in an instant for no reason at all. She apparently just wanted to focus on herself and her mental health. There has not been a single day that I haven't thought bout her. My day starts and ends with thinking about her. I miss her so so much but ehh can't force her to love me. She used to say things like "I love being in love with you" "I hope it continues forever", she used to make plans for us to grow together. All of this just ended one day when she decided that she doesn't love me anymore for no reason. This was my first actual love and I can't begin to explain how much it hurts. I try not to tell about this to my friends cause it feels like I'm bothering them continuously saying the same thing. Idk why she did this even tho she told me she loved me so much. I've just accepted it now and I hope that she is happy now, I really do. I'll still miss her and love her for a long long time..
I’m in a very similar situation to you I broke up with my first true love about 2 and a half weeks ago it seemed so sudden after all we’d been through but I know it’s for the best and everything will turn out okay but it still hurts. But the fact that we care this much and still love the people we dated shows how human we are. It’s hard accepting the truth, but that’s okay. It takes time. Everything will turn out great in the end, I promise you it will
Thank you so much for sharing this. I broke up with my girlfriend 3 weaks ago and i've felt tremendously Sad and hearkbreaking. I miss her everyday, and constanly feel guilty for leting her go. I just hope time will make me feel better
Buddy please talk to your friends and family about your feelings!!! I just had to leave work because my fiance who I’ve been with for 6 years left me while I was at work yesterday and broke up over text. I talked to the security guard on the way out and he told me about his wife leaving him 2 months ago and we hugged. We all have problems, please share them with those who care. With love from Houston
@@notcountingsheep3361 Love doesn't end with heartbreak. I loved my father 'till the day he died and I loved him even more when that happened. If love ended with a heartbreak, this video wouldn't exist. Because he still loved and missed her, this video exists.
Lowkey crying rn bro. This touched my heart in a way I can't explain. This video made me realize a lot about myself. thanks for posting this experience.
this was so intimate and vulnerable, thank you for being so open! i related to this more than you know given that my relationship of 3 years ended back in february, so thank you for making me feel less alone in this experience :’)
i am so proud of you:) i am 18, after 5 years relationships and trust me, i wish i was THAT strong to deal with all my breakups ive been expieriencing afterwards (instead of healing). you literally gave me a hope.. that it is going to be better sooner or later. thank you so much :) sending a lot of hugs
I’m so proud of you. I spent about eight months of agony after my nine year old relationship ended. Agony wears you like a blanket on a winter morning some days. It gets better. It always does.
18 weeks since my exgf and I've broken up our 8 year relationship... We had our reasons but they seem so unimportant nowadays and I often miss her. Can you please tell me it gets easier? Sometimes I just feel incredibly alone.. How was your journey, do you still mourne the breakup?
Thank you so much for this video. My partner of 9 years and I broke up today. I’m so lost but your video paints such a beautiful picture of what it is to feel love and heartbreak. I hope you’re doing well and had a good day
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
I’m so glad I found this, I’ve undergone a pretty major heartbreak and it’s still only been like two weeks. Some days I feel fine, some days I feel like I’m gonna die. Heartbreak is complete agony, and the feelings of isolation that come with it. It’s without a doubt the worst pain I’ve felt in my whole life and I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. Thank you for sharing this it is beautiful and so brave of you :))
i’m going through the same thing, and exact same timing as you. i got through it once before. having faith in that, i promise both u and i will be okay one day :)
we're in it together, friends. it's been almost a year since the breakup. I still miss her terribly. she was my best friend and my everything. i really pray that you're doing better without me. i will grow into a better and kinder person, even if it means you won't be here to see me.
you're so sweet for praying for your ex partner, hang in there things will get better eventually and its understandable that you miss her, hope u feel better soon! :)
@@ashketchum5011 She's a wonderful human being. We're no longer in contact and so all I can do is pray for good things to happen to her as we move to our different paths in life.
@@fvehedI really feel what you're saying. It's similar for me. She's living her live and probably not thinking about me at all. But I hope the best for her. In the end we have to keep working on ourselves to become a better human being. And one day another human being will come that threats us how we deserve it and is willing to go through good and bad times together.
I was cheated on by my ex boyfriend of 8 years. It’s officially a year since we broke up and it gets so much better. I learned so much about myself and did so much growing within that year… I moved away from my hometown and now live in a city I love, have 2 jobs in my field, i am getting my Masters degree, i traveled, I feel amazing. It’s almost like the universe took away a toxic man I didn’t want to let go of and showed me a world of love, peace, and happiness that I wouldn’t have discovered otherwise. Sometimes these things are a blessing. Sending love ❤
Hello Nat. Thank you for sharing.. 1 month since I broke up with my ex-girlfriend of 8 years too, who also cheated on me.. I mean, you, more than anyone I know, knows how I'm feeling right now. Your post gives me hope, thanks again :)
It’s been a bout a month since my breakup. You’ve taught me that it’s okay to not be okay some days, I feel less alone. Thank you for saving my life today❤️
I actually went through heartbreak the same exact time as you. You would not believe the indescribable amount of comfort this video brings me. You are so strong for taking your heartbreak and turning it into something that helps others instead of using it for bad like others would. You should be so proud of yourself. I am proud of you. 💖
I’m in the best relationship I’ve had because I let someone go I thought was the love of my life, this video reminded me of the hardship I went through with that break up. I felt doomed, never to find someone perfect for me, but 2 years later I find myself with a girl that loves me way more than I've ever been loved, she brings me peace, and if we are ever at odds she is the peacemaker. She deserves the world, she deserves my unyielding love in return for hers. I haven't been the best partner for her lately, I've closed myself off to her, and i think my reasoning is because i don't want to feel this way again. Ive noticed my actions around this topic cause me to shrink away from relationships and all that does is hinder the love. This video has helped me recognize what i need to do to preserve my relationship. I resonated with you when you said you would have fought till the very end of your relationship. i felt that way one time when i was looking back at my old relationship, but now i recognize that person wasn't meant for me, but this one is so i will fight for her. thank you
Thank you for sharing. I’m 7 months in and she’s found someone else. I thought I was good until I saw that and what I found was that I hadn’t spent a single second processing what happened. When that day came- which it inevitably was going to, things got hard. I’m learning to love whoever I have around me as well as myself. It’s tough, I’m sure you know. As you said though, it gets better.
The fact that you were able to document your heartbreak alone is empowering to me just because with my first heartbreak, I barely could get out of bed and acting normally felt like it would take forever for it to happen. Hope you’re doing well today and hope you continue to do better!
I got broken up with a week ago. It was my first relationship and crush and almost everything. I really did love and trust him. It’s just that after 2 years and 6 months we weren’t compatible anymore. We went everywhere together and tried so many things together. I shared so many things with him. I love watching tv and movies but now I can’t watch any of them without thinking of the past. We had so many plans and ideas. We wanted to help people together. Even after the break up we still said “I love you”. And he kept saying maybe we will meet again when he is ready or changed. Sometimes I wished he said he hates me. I don’t know what to do. I know I shouldn’t wait for him. I just felt if we could talk it out more it would’ve been fine.
A similar thing happened to me. I was with her for two years we broke up 4 months ago because I had come to realize I had been staying in the relationship because I saw her potential but she was unable to reach it with me. We but kept in contact, recently i found out she got with someone else and she posted him on her insta and it hurts a lot. Ive cut off contact now but still growing still processing. Sending you much love and I hope you know you are not alone
@@alexbean4581 I had something similar to you as well but instead of her not reaching her potential with you, in my situation she saw the potential in me but I was unable to reach it with her. The part that's the same, however, was that eventually I found out that she was seeing someone else, and as much as I wanted to maintain contact I just couldn't without my mental health being utterly destroyed. It's only been about a month of no contact for myself but I felt like it was the right thing to do, but I can't help shake the heavy feelings of missing her and wanting to meet her again someday once we're both ready.
Idk how to tell you but if a person leaves you in search of “themselves” when nothing was wrong and you gave it all you have, they didn’t really love you in the end. - It’s a cheap excuse for someone to exit the relationship and still claim they “love you”. By that time, someone has already grieved and accepted in silence. Don’t let it get in the way though. Give yourself time and eventually you’ll love again with someone who will reciprocate the same feelings
@@alexbean4581 thank you for your kind words. And I’m sorry you had to go through that. I hope you were able to find someone that will reciprocates the love you give.
Please move on. It is not fair for you to stay waiting. Go live life. I know it’s hard sometimes but it gets easier. Allow yourself to feel grief but don’t let it lead you back to him. You don’t deserve to be waiting on someone who, if they had the choice, would leave you for another girl.
Bro i needed this, right now i feel so fucking lonely, the effects are physical, i can't eat, i want to throw up all the time, nothing can distract me. And i fell like i could never pass this phase, but this video gave me hope! Thanks
I’m going through it dude. I am in the thick of it. I feel everything you said dude especially the eating and sick stomach shit. I hate it but it’s so necessary to be a better happier human in the future. You will get back to where you want to be!
@@RidleyWerla That's it bro, eating a little more now, working out, giving myself time to process these emotions. We will get through this as better humans!
watching this 1 year and 6 months after my breakup. i cant say i've fully moved on yet. obviously i feel good, and the pain is gone, but the flashbacks are just something i've learned to sit with now, i know that now i would never go back, but in my head i still fantasize about the potential we had and reminisce about the good times. its like that relationship is still consuming a part of me and honestly im mad about it because i dont want it taking up space in my life anymore but time isnt making me forget.
Maybe with acceptance and letting the good memories and what ifs will help you move on. When I go through breakup I try to hide things that remind me of them and eventually cut ties completely. Some times certain objects and places will remind you of them, but you can just accept that and let it go. Be grateful for the experience you had, the lessons you've learned while embracing your new life.
@@chairmanwu i’m also the type to cut all ties and remove all things related to this person. but time is moving against me for some reason. i feel my head is still fighting a war with this relationship whilst my heart is open to something new and better :(
@@an1me451 I see, I'm no psychologist so take what you will from my advice. But IMO it will help if you remind yourself why the relationship didn't work and why it wouldn't work everytime you remember the good times, instead of focusing on the good times and entertaining them. Instead of focusing on how it could've been or would've been, focus on the problems you had to help you realize that even if you revisited the realtionship or went back in time, the same things would unfold for the same reasons. And with self-love, you will realize that you deserve more than what you received. You deserve a loving relationship w/o the problems that lead to its ending. You deserve to find someone who will treat the way you deserve and love you the way you need. Your ex was not able to provide that for you, and that's ok. You will be able to move on from this. Just remind yourself the reason why it didn't work and will not work.
You think about she, and maybe she it is with a new dude right now, do all staff that do with you… get up man, forget about that chick, go to see new women’s, there are much more better that that you ex.
Seeing someone being this vulnerable online is super rare, it's beautiful to see the ups and downs of the end of a relationship. Im a month late, but im so sorry for what you had to go through. Day by day you kept on going without this person you loved so much. You deserve all of the love and online hugs that you'll recieve, hope youre doing better now man. 💗💗💗💗
Thank you for this, my last serious relationship caused the worst break up blues of my life. He was my first love, my first everything. There’s just something about that. I remember feeling numb and genuinely like shit for a little over a year, thinking this feeling would never go away. I’m glad to say that eventually it does get better, you’ll even find yourself looking back at your relationship with a smile on your face and lessons gained. Much love :)
I'm 4 days into my breakup, and this video just gave me an overwhelming shot of hope and optimism. I just know now that I'll be okay in the end even if it seems hard sometimes. Good luck to everyone else going through heartbreak. You got this.
Thank you for doing this, I needed this. All these sleepless nights and having no one to talk to it's good to know I'm not the only one who is going through this. ❤
she broke up with me yesterday and i left because i couldn’t possibly handle just being her friend from now on. she also didn’t really seem to care that i would leave her which made me feel a lot worse. so i just did it in order to protect myself. i deleted and blocked everywhere, trying to erase her from my life. it really hurts. i feel empty. we were together for over 3 years and we talked every single day without exceptions. she was the only person i could talk freely with and that i felt comfortable with. now all of that is gone. she changed. the person i love doesn’t exist anymore. i mourn the death of a person that is technically still alive… and its horrible. i hope one day i will be able to recover from this, learn, and grow. watching these types of videos or reading similar comments of people struggling as well comforts me a bit with feeling less alone. so thank you for this video and giving me hope that i can improve. i hope everyone else takes care of themselves and learns how to be happy again, even if it means being without them.
Hey, you'll through this. it's not easy at first of course; but time flies by and you'll end up healing yourself. try finding yourself out... go hang out with friends find stuff that didn't interested you before. get yourself distracted okay? if they were the right person they would have stayed with you. You're not alone with this if you need someone to talk to. I can try to give you some advice. I'm also having a rough time because of my ex. I'm trying to heal up also, it's not easy but I have supportive friends who are there for me.
The best part of a break up is how you learn about yourself in the pain and turmoil. My girlfriend dumped me after 5 years of us talking to each other every single day. It took me a year and a half just to mourn what I'd lost, and how she moved on without me. It took me another year just to find out that I could be happy, without her. The best thing was learning how to feel empathy for myself, and realising that I needed help, I needed support and kindness. You know what? You'll find love again, and maybe it's you finally learning to love yourself and when done right you don't feel lonely anymore.
Thank you for posting this. My boyfriend and I broke up a little over two years ago. It was only about a year ago that I finally “moved on” (i.e. was not still feeling angry, hurt, and like I should have done everything differently). I still think of him sometimes. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t click on this video because you look a little like him. I really don’t know what he went through after we broke up; we didn’t communicate (I am not counting the time I desperately met up with him in the hopes he would take me back🤦♀️). I don’t have Instagram, so he couldn’t see what I was up to. My friends would show me his Instagram, and it looked like he was having such a great time without me. That hurt. I’m sure it wasn’t all real, but still. So when I saw your thumbnail, I thought, “wouldn’t it be nice to know how he felt after we broke up?” Obviously you're not my ex, but I really didn’t have any male perspectives on how my ex may have been feeling after our breakup. I just want to say, it’s nice to know that there are guys out there who put their heart and soul into their relationships. It wouldn’t hurt so much if the relationship wasn’t meaningful. So… yeah. Thank you. Sending good vibes to you and your family :)
i feel this video. my ex ghosted me and i thought he was my soulmate, i’ve been grieving for over a year, and it’s been so many ups and downs, but i have been healing. this video has helped a lot, thank u :)
A really bad breakup is the perfect time for people to really sit down with themselves and mature as a person. I truly believe that you have grown so much that I don't think you'd be as mature as you are now. A relationship is built on trust and caring for someone else, a breakup is about acceptence and selfcare. You did amazing.
I'm glad I came across this video now. I didn't have a breakup, I just lost friends who were important to me. This time it hurts more than breaking up with a boyfriend. Thanks for sharing, it helps to feel that loss is a part of everyone's life and it's not forever.
that's crazy and super brave!!! i don't even dare to fall in love with someone to begin with. whenever i feel something like attraction towards someone, i back off. i mean, i avoid them, ignore them, distract myself etc. until i lose interest in them. i just can't pay the price of love: grief. also, that new haircut looks so good on you! glad seeing you gettinh better occasionally.. so so brave lol
You’re just like me fr. But pushing people away can be just as painful, I guess at least you know the pain you’ll feel when you push them away; if you let things grow, you never know what height you’ll fall from. But that’s life, that’s one of the many risks that just may be worth taking. Anyway..
@@DraftedRedd exactly!!! i just feel more in control and everything just seems to be a lot more predictable, in which i can prepare myself for all horrible things that can possibly happen to my life. it might not seem to matter so much, but it's like a reflex to me, i just have the instinct to do it lmao. idk if i will ever marry... but i guess i'll leave that to my future self :)
@@meisyani I really wish the best for you. Remember, taking risks is a huge part of life. To live a life with no risks is to simply exist. I believe the right people will be brought to us through time when we are ready to have them in our lives. But if we don’t take any chances how will we ever get the opportunity to let those people in?
Same giving someone a chance and being in a relationship can change the whole trajectory of your life and I have only seen it happen for the worst to people around me the amount of missed opportunity and fun as well as accomplishments is crazy and it was simply due to people making decisions based on their partners
Dude, I also went through a breakup about six months ago, and this is honestly the most relatable video I have ever watched. None of my friends have experienced a similar breakup as me, and this video makes me feel less alone. The relapses at random times, the self-doubt, the growth. All of it is so weirdly beautiful from an outside perspective. Thank you for making this.
I started watching a video like this couple weeks before I asked out my now ex girlfriend. I was in a good place and felt no need to continue because, why would I be thinking about a breakup when I'm so caught up in love. It's been just over two months since we split and all I have now are the memories of us. You know you love someone when you're with them, that's a given, but true love is shown in their absence. I had no idea how much I cared until she left, but that's how I know I'm healing correctly. I'm feeling my emotions instead of pushing them down. It's weird how one day I'm happy with how I've grown since, then I feel like I'm back at square one the next. Worst part of it all is I know she still loved me and part of her still does, but she got scared because it was getting serious. She'd never admit that's why she left, but I know it is. I almost wish it ended horribly because knowing that it ended on good terms and still loving each other almost feels like we have unfinished business. It just makes the whole grieving process that much harder. You're an amazing girl Kacey, I've never felt that way about anyone before and I know you hadn't either. I almost don't want to feel that way about anyone else. If only we could realise that again together, but that's for the future to decide. I hope you're happy and life is treating you right. If someone read all of this, thank you. I had no wish for anyone to read it, I just wanted to put my feelings out there. If you're going through a breakup now, just remember that you're not alone. I know that's how you feel, I still do, but we're not. You're an amazing person. I mean they fell in love with you for a reason. Don't forget that. It might be done now, but it happened, and nobody can change the fact that they loved you. We tend to forget our worth when we face our own judgement, but you're worth a whole lot. We'll all make it through this one day, and we'll be better for it.
thank you so much for this video, 2 days ago broke up with my gf of 3 years as well. I saw our entire future together so vividly and I am completely and utterly devastated. I wake up crying everyday so far and no pain I've ever felt is even comparable to the way I'm feeling right now. This video helped me see that the next few months are going to be rough but there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
I never leave TH-cam comments but I had to this time. This impacted me from the moment I hit play in such an intense way- I just recognized the form of pain instantly. I feel like this is the first time I've seen a person through the internet and known exactly what they were feeling. I just had a mutual break up with my long-term partner who I still love very deeply. Breaking up with somebody I was still in love with took a level of courage I didn't know I was capable of. I'm on week 3 and it's getting better, but still one of the hardest things I've ever done. Genuinely, from the bottom of my heart, thank you for making this video. This helped me more than you can fathom. You showed me the light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you. Good luck out there.
Sorry if this question is invasive or something... but why exactly did you make this decision? You said that you still love him and that it was a mutual decision so how did you two arrive at this conclusion? I also just broke up with the person that I loved the most and it's really difficult...
This new era of youtube is incredible. Thank you for putting so much time and effort to document your process and journey. We live in a such incredible time where this artform is so accessible, and its amazing to see people do such extraordinary things with it. I know it's as simple as turning on your phone camera and saying some stuff, but this wasn't always this accessible. Thank you friend for sharing this part of your life with the world. It's truly unique to see someone go through this ❤ day-by-day and i'm grateful for you, your honesty, vulnerability and the want to document this difficult experience. Thank you for being you Steven
My God you have talent! And what a beautiful story. I went through the same thing, all those feelings. 7 months discovering myself. Thank-you for the beautiful msg!
I was ready to get this horrible feeling from this video because break ups are never easy. Tursn out this video felt more like the thightest and warmest hug you can get. This showed sadness of loss in so pretty way, how you and it shapes each other and how feelings are there to be felt. Thank you
Did you think guys dont go through break ups? Trust me, often times, the guy has a MUCH worse time after a breakup. Theres a reason why most suicides are commited by guys
I dont think it’s related to that , but it’s because men are taught to bottle up emotions , to “man up” ,and the only emotion that is valid is anger . And often times , it’s men themselves that impose on other men these standards ( not saying women don’t ). Honestly, if you feel emotions, it’s because they were meant to be felt and expressed
man this video brings me so much positive energy. you've gone through pain, you suffered, but in result you helped other people to suffer less. I just wanna say that I respect you so much for your courage, patience and being opened to others. much love ❤
Very humbling. It’s really nice to know we all have bad break ups. It’s like we all try to hide how much pain we’re in because we don’t want to look weak. They just hurt 🤷🏽♂️. It’s okay, we’re all human.
Probably one of the most amazing videos ive seen in a long time, a proper man being vulnerable and showing us that it can be done, its not the end of the world. Just the beginning of a new chapter to our life. The journey of this whole video is just surreal because everyone once in their life has gone through this sort of pain but to see it on video like this and your journey its just inspirational and motivating.
I genuinely love this bro. When me and my girlfriend broke up it felt like hell man this whole video serves as an example of how much pain someone can go through and I really connected with many parts of the video itself especially the socializing part on day 2. After we broke up it felt like something was missing, we would hangout almost every single day and she was my first everything. She was the first person who I got very intimate with in many ways not just sexually but we understood each other on another level and even till this day I think about that connection we had. I am so proud of your progress because even after 10-12 months I still had thoughts about her just like you did during month 1 so seeing that you have been able to overcome that is amazing and I really do hope you continue to prosper. Seeing your progress is amazing as overtime you learn to accept what is and what I've learned is you just have to be grateful even through all the bad, just be happy about the good and take it as a learning experience onto the next chapter in your life. And if anyone of you is reading this just know it does get better, stay positive and let time heal you mentally, physically and spiritually as well as do what is best for you when it comes to taking care of yourself because you are not alone and YOU MATTER!! Thank you so much for making this video, it really helped me sit down and think about things and realize I am not alone in the way I feel. Much love man-❤
Wow! It's just inspiring to see a man embrace his emotions so openly-your vulnerability is a powerful reminder that it's okay to feel deeply. You are helping to break down the walls around men’s mental health and showing that every emotion deserves respect. Keep shining your light and being true to yourself. Thank you for having the courage to document and share your heart with us!
it’s nice to see someone who feels what i feel. you’re going through what i am. i’m in a state of limbo. the urges to break no contact. i’ve failed multiple times man.. i understand every emotion you feel bro. i’m going through it now. i’m a month in. may was the worst month of my life. june was so hard. my mood swings.. we’re in a state of limbo. i miss her so much. i let it out through my music.
This video came at the right time for me. Relatable in every way, constant crying, crawling in the right direction, self-control, relapse into grief, and the most painful part, taking a step forward, only to move 3 steps backward. I hated every second of screaming into my pillow and feeling every single emotion sharply, but the hurt turned into comfort, and then acceptance. I'm currently 11 months out of the breakup, and it still feels like I'm journaling the process of trusting myself. To anyone reading who's going through the loss of someone you love, progress isn't linear, and it definitely doesn't have a timeframe, grow as you can as you loved as much as you could. You will be okay.
hey guys! I just want to say thanks for your overwhelming support. It seriously makes me feel much less alone through this, and I'm glad I could make some of you feel the same way :). can't believe I'm at 200 subs, so cool! I'll try and get to all your comments soon!
heaiy bleaush supoprt
Thank you brother this was beautiful and this helped me
This comment is probably gonna get taken down, deleted or whatever, I dont care but just a piece of advice.. Take this video clip down if u wanna find another partner. Women tend to use this kinda sh*t to weaponize against you. Don't listen to those saying being vulnerable is okay as man, in fact, it's frowned upon. My suggestion is to go hit the gym and focus only on yourself. Get your $$$ up and I can guarantee you, these 304s gonna come flockin, its in their nature.
you’re not alone man . chin up . we all in this tgt . trust me by sharing this content going to ease a lot for you to recover from this.
you deserve much more than 200 subs thats for sure, thank you for sharing your experience that many of us can relate to and have ourselves, been through. Glad to see you doing so much better towards the end of the video.
It’s weird grieving over someone still alive. I’m gonna miss her
Man fr my ex girlfriend broke up with me it’s all my fault it’s been 5 days now i feel like shit i need someone to talk to about it i feel so lonely without her.
i feel this so much. not to mention the guilt of wishing you knew better & loved better. this is the worst grief i have ever felt ❤️🩹
@@d1lawrence933I’m sorry man :( if you ever need to talk I’m here. I’m still getting over a breakup that happened through the beginning of summer I understand
You got this brother
it's a hard pill to swallow buddy, i feel you, for 2 yrs now I've been single but i still catch sudden dreams and memories with her. it's a tough road but i hope the future reserved a better outcome for all of us in here, have hope 🙏🏻
The one day ‘acceptance’ phase and the next day not feeling well at all is so real!
hahaa yess!
Stfu, you women move on quick to the next one while we have no options at all to hop on to and do it alone. Your moving on experience is so much easier than ours. Especially that you look attractive. I'm sure you have a pool of men after you. Life is not fair. Women live life on easy mode while most men can't even get a date!
me currently
I thought it was just me who did that... it's been over a year now.
Man 😔
6 days in, that “I woke up and didn’t immediately cry” was exactly what I needed to hear in order to know I’m making progress
Dios les llama al arrepentimiento. Dios quiere darle misericordia y salvación. Nosotros pecadores merecemos el infierno por haber roto la Ley de Dios, pero “Porque de tal manera amó Dios al mundo, que ha dado a su Hijo unigénito, para que todo aquel que en él cree, no se pierda, mas tenga vida eterna.”
Por eso, Jesucristo (Dios en la carne) murió en la cruz. La Ley, pero Cristo pagó la multa. Él sufrió en cambio, como Sustituto, y resucitó después de tres días y vencio a la muerte. Ahora está sentado a la diestra del Padre.
Arrepiéntase y ponga su fe en la Persona y obra de Cristo,, y entonces así será salvo de la ira de Dios.
“Porque por gracia sois salvos por medio de la fe; y esto no de vosotros, pues es don de Dios; no por obras, para que nadie se gloríe.” (Efesios 2:8-9)
Jesus Loves You Please Repent Of The Sins That You Have Committed Against Him He Died For You Please Give Your Life To Him!
You got it 🙏
Sameeee!
Drinking alcohol to cope is probably the worst thing to do. You have to sit in those feelings and let them shape you till you’ve accepted. I did that mistake when I broke up with her. The first few days I felt awful, by the weekend I accepted and removed social media and felt ready to improve myself. By Sunday night I drank all day and messaged her by night. Then it opened conversation which can only prevent your closure.
"I would fight for the relationship till the day I die." I need a man that shares that same sentiment.
And then when we do it you women kick us to the curve because subconsciously you see it as weakness. Women say one thing but they emotionally respond to the opposite
then we do and yall think were too much to handle and progressively stop being there emotionally for us.
@@I_AM_MONKEYYeither you showed the attachment to her in a toxic way, or she just wasnt the right girl. me and my boyfriend got back together because he showed his dedication to fight for us, dont lump in all girls as the same just because of your own bad experiences.
@@Goalseeker123 Y'all are making assumptions about me and it was my ex who did this in this situation. He left me at one of my most vulnerable times. It doesn't just apply to women. This is why we don't believe in love anymore cause we have preconceived notions of each other's.
@@Goalseeker123i literally broke up bcuz he didn't try
Rare footage of the bravest man to exist. Nice to be vulnerable like this, loved to see you grow through the whole thing!
thanks man. I was p hesitant to share this video at first but I'm really glad I did!
Bravest man to exist ? Stop it.
@@therealhexia No problem, no need to blame yourself; just cherish those moments. Every relationship comes with a risk of ending. It's best to give what you can.
break up or cheating hurts so baddd , so bad ,muchhh bro , but i will never show world how i cried or made a edit video onn myself crying over breakup lol , and you are saying him bravest
but i will be happy for anyone who recovered
As terrible as it sounds, it is calming to know that my feelings were never exclusive
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@@soapyrainmaker5367 i think they mean that they werent the only one feeling these feelings
@@wayfivebeats its only 1 person why do you use they
@@djallass im too lazy to see what gender they are so i just say they. it isnt grammatically incorrect either
@@wayfivebeats just say he its clearly a man in the pic
"don't be afraid to love someone. when you fall in love, I want you to fall in love all the way. even if it ends in heartache" these is one of the quote I wanna live with, hope you have better life bro.
nonono es mentira no vale la pena nooooo
@@gradga nah bro, it'll all make sense to you in the end. It was worth every single second of the time I spend with her
@@nihalmohammed6674 i'd have to disagree. it's been two and a half years and it still hurts. we've also been together for two years. so it lasts longer than the relationship itself. it's still eating me alive to this day and i'm scared that i won't be able to trust anyone again. it just wasn't worth it.
I feel like that'd be applicable to only those who have the courage to accept that the person they wanted to spend their whole life with has gone far away from them...tbh my life would be in pieces if it was me
@@d_onorit seems like you can’t accept the facts that it’s over, if you use the proper tools to heal yourself, after a month you should begin to be fine
As someone currently going through their first breakup in life, I want to thank you for making this video and making me feel less alone in this horrible grieving process.
Bruhh my bf literally broke up with me today now I'm binge watching these type of vids lolll
@@princess_taina We broke up 5 days ago, im starting to feel better
After 8 years, 2 kids, lots of ups and downs, selling my car for a ring and then a rejected proposal to watch her find someone new within a month, I needed this. It brings hope. Thank you.
I’m so sorry
Gosh man
whoaaaaaaaaaa dude. hugs!!!!!!
More power to you ❣
Hey man she just opened the door for someone better don’t even stress it
Glad this was recommended to me, a beautiful snapshot of the human experience!
Historic
right!
Bruh everytime i thought he was getting better id see him cry again💔
❤❤❤
I felt like such a loser for dropping from my classes cause my breakup had me so unbelievably depressed. I'm glad I'm not the only one...
I left college for mine dw about it you’ll get back to it
Sameeee
3 years i ve got the wprst symptoms of depression and i got myself so back in lofe bc of that
same i felt like the absolute worst when i failed two of my classes because of my relationship..
Don’t worry been there.
I was preparing for my one of the competitive exam he broke up with me and asked me to move on too
hey man its natural human reaction youre doing alr
Dude, we just saw a single human being, progress with their inner emotions, and find a way out😮
That's what being human is really about. I hope you're okay, bro
I love just how raw everything is and showed how your road to acceptance isn't linear. Some days you were alright, but some days after you go back to crying and wishing to text your ex. I just love what a realistic and genuine portrayal of your grieving process of a break up is like, and it'll definitely make others feel less alone.
I'm glad to hear this aspect of my grief was well conveyed. Thanks so much for watching.
ik lol. it comes in waves.
Yes adventure time!
It helped me a lot
U do a lot. I think that helps a lil
Grieving is not linear 100% I am 3.5 months post break up and the good moments and starting to outnumber the bad ones.
this perfectly shows that recovering from a breakup isn't linear. it comes in waves. sometime maybe good sometime maybe. but overtime there is more good.
i almost died when he left me lmfao
@@meryemaouragh how long did it take you to get over him?
Took me five years to get over my first heartbreak. At the five year mark, couldn't have cared less, and actually agreed with her decision. She made the right move.
I heard some people can get over a breakup after only three weeks, why do you think it took you so long to heal? Maybe you were hiding what you felt? The break up was harsh or you were married?
@@dozoneil1253 i've been getting over a break up myself, heck i can't even call it that, for we where just a fling for her. contaced her less then a week ago and told her how i felt. she doesn't love me anymore and that just took a big ass hit to my heart and feelings. i'm 14 and i find it hard to connect with people on a deeper level. it doesn't matter how long it takes you , it matters that you get out of the heartbreak knowing how to love yourself and that you get healthy again.
@@dozoneil1253 everyone's different that's the answer
5 years! Perhaps you have deeper wounds that the heartbreak reopened brother
me too
breaking up with someone your still in love with is the hardest thing. i feel so alone. i completely understand you. the codependency, the need to speak to them, im just so sad.
it’s really a non linear experience! there are days you feel like the world is ahead of you and you’ve got nothing to fear, and then there are days you’re stuck wondering if you’ll ever be the same again. devastating but also a strangely beautiful and universal part of love.
what a way to articulate the experience. W comment, more power to you.
Nothing beautiful about it
he was literally glowing at the end he looked so alive! glad he found the happiness he deserved.
yeah because it was all fake crocodile tears in the first place what would you expect from someone who FILMED THE ENTIRE THING wtf? Are people insane?
@@jackmace6531 Are you? He just broke up do you expect him not to morn over the end of his 3 year relationship if yea you’re clearly young or haven’t been through a relationship.
The worst part about having an ex is knowing he probably wasn’t crying like you were
You cant possibly know that tbf. And even if it were to be true it doesnt matter aswell, that person is no longer a concern to you :)
@@LK-pt6gv I still owe him.
He helped me in some really powerful ways.
Not everybody getting through someone like he does. There are plenty of ways to do that. And because you are hoping that he was doing this or this is the way you would want him to be isn't necessary. He found his own ways to get through it
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Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let him go. So i had to do all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring him back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach one?
Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
she left me after 5 years because she wanted someone different
This made me strangely miss the worst nights of my life in a nostalgic way. Wouldn't take them back but walking through the silent night missing her was something magical. Also appreciating everything I went through. So bittersweet.
An undescribable feeling
This hit the spot
100% even now i still do it sometimes, but only on my worst days
this is so real bro
Melancholy, the only word I can think of to describe it...
last night i felt this random surge of missing my ex for the first time in a while. i didn't know why, and when i checked my phone i saw it had been exactly a year since we had broken up. kind of beautiful how your body sometimes understands things before your mind does :) seeing this video made my bumpy post-breakup recuperation journey feel less lonely
@@venividivici7461 it’ll be a year next month, since my ex and I had broken up. were in this together as a team!! keep going strong and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise, because at the end of the day, you are still important and worth enough!!!🥹
i dreamed about my ex out of nowhere and woke up kept wondering why the heck throughout the day. checked my phone to realize it had exactly been 2 years to the day i saw them for the last time
Your brain subconsciously has this calendar. It’s usually with traumatic events but sometimes you’ll feel really bad and won’t know why but then you check the date and realize something bad happened this same day last year or something in that vein. Look into it it’s quite interesting. I think it’s called like trauma anniversaries.
I totally relate to this; something similar happened to me. It felt so strange because I thought I was over it, but then I couldn't sleep for three nights straight. I couldn't stop thinking about him, even prayed that he'd be okay. Then, out of nowhere, my heart just sank. I don't remember every detail, but I felt completely drained. When I looked at my calendar, I realized it was the anniversary of our breakup. It was one of the most intense moments I've ever experienced.
Bro I had a dream abt my ex and then when I woke up that morning I checked my phone and saw that he messaged me. Am I psychic?
he seems like such a sweet and genuine human being.
5 years and I now start to accept the fact that I’ll never forget someone I truly loved, I can only accept to live with the feeling that we were great
This is so true ❤️🩹
the only girl i've been with, i probably cried for about a month everyday after she cheated on me. That was about a year and a half ago and I still haven't really recovered in terms of getting ready to trust and date again.
Take the time you need. Nothing is linear and working to better yourself and not focusing on wanting to find someone for you is the best way to navigate life. People come and go, but you are with yourself 1000% of the time, so nurture yourself and love yourself🙌🏽
Make sure you forgive yourself and treat yourself with kindness. I know it's easier said then done, but once you reconnect with your own self, you will find a new outlook to the world around you. Wishing you all the joy and happiness in the world because you deserve it!
10 month in and she still appears in my dreams like can you just fuck off or sum lol how much more time will this take
That's good. That means you've got empathy. Just pick a philosophy and embrace it. Stick to it. This is what I'll do but relationships are hard, the single-most drivers of human emotions and problems.
Makes sense, I waited around 4 years before getting in the scene again. Oh and it doesn't get easier. You just become stronger.
Now this is what healing looks like. Not sleeping with people but taking the time to feel all the emotions and learning to be alone. I love this video so much I hope you make it far in your TH-cam journey.
It's common for relationships to encounter obstacles, but there is always a solution. My own marriage faced considerable issues, but with appropriate guidance, my husband and I worked through them and deepened our connection. Solutions are achievable if you're ready to work together. Stay hopeful-there's always a way forward.
I'm facing significant relationship problems and can't stand the idea of losing him. My love and longing for my partner are profound, and I'm ready to do anything to restore our connection. I would greatly appreciate any advice or help you could give.
Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. His name is Father Akunna.
I'II quickly search for him online. Thank you.
I'm optimistic that taking this approach will yield results for me as well; his absence is keenly felt.
I promise you will not regret it.
I just searched for Father Akunna online indeed he is a very generous man and the most powerful spell caster that I have ever seen he brought my husband back to me with so much love ❤
this video is way more valuable than you think
Its a feeling that never get easier, you spend so much time with someone and then all of a sudden they are gone, you grieve because they were apart of who you were. You grieve the loss of someone and yourself at the same time.
There will be a good reason the are not together with you anymore. Teenagers and young people have a very disney like view of "love". At the end of the day its not THAT deep.
@@oranges557 what hurts the most imo, is when you break up without any hatred or without each other doing anything wrong, it hurts a lot more i feel like and especially when you still care about them and all i guess, thats my situation on what happened with me
@@oranges557 both of our first ever relationship and we are young and we weren’t ready and it hurts a lot but i wont regret the times we had together
@@infinity_sh4816 ill tell you what bro, if ghe chemistry and all that was really real, you both would have NEVER broken up without any reason. Trust me, when you get older you realize it doesnr work like that.
Youve lost nothing. You only gained experience. Youre not special and she is not special. You will love again, no worries
its been about 9 months since i broke up with my girlfriend. it was both of our first relationships. i was the one who broke it off, and i regret it. i regret not fighting, not WORKING, not doing more to be a better partner. but i didn't know, and i was naive to relationships. 9 months later, the heartbreak is setting in now that she is with someone new. we're friends, me and her. and that sucks. but i'm healing. thanks for reminding me that.
and if she's seeing this: hi, i love you. after everything, i love you.
do yiu think you'd ever want to try to be in a relationship with her or its for tge better that you guys have closed that road
Tell her!
Same here, broke things off with her back in April, 6 months later, she has a new guy, and i'm only feeling the heartbreak now. Truthfully, we just weren't compatible, but it still sucks to look back on the good memories, because it still hurts. I thought I could be friends with her, but it's too hard. I had to go no contact.
This advice always comes like a punch in the gut. But don’t be friends. Cut contact forever. Being “friends” only leads to unnecessary confusion and stalls you and her from moving on.
And it’s wrong for you to do so seeing how you were the one to break things off. Staying friends with her can be seen as imposing. She has her new partner and shouldn’t require a former partner to keep her company. Don’t be that person. It’s also disrespectful for the person she’s with because it seems very behind the back.
@@Roboartist117 I needed to hear this.
Thanks
"We were together 3 years, so it makes sense to feel the way I feel." Right there I know brother would be okay because he accepted where he was and why he felt the way he did. He grieved, but he kept going and made it out alright again
I literally went thru this in 2020. It took me about a year to get over her. 4 years later and i dont feel anything but still think about her every now and then.
Ig we manage to get over people, but we never manage to forget them.
type shit❤
That scares the shit out of me
@@nordwind4219
She blocked me about a month ago and I'm still not over it
Thinking about the fact that this feeling could go on for another year or maybe two is devastating and scary
Exactly. No matter how long it’s been, they will occasionally be on your mind. They stick!
Me too. Had my first and only relationship in 2020. We stayed as friends. I still think about him sometimes, more in a "that is an experience I had" way, but I still have my regrets that it didn't work out. Sometimes I cry. But it's nice that with time I learned that he is not as flawless as I saw him when I was in love. And he does some things that would stress me out a lot if I tried to tolerate it to keep the relationship. Sometimes I'm even glad our relationship didn't last for long. The breakup hurt like hell though. But I'm healing
going on month three of my breakup with the guy i was with for a year and a half, and while he is dating his girl best friend who he told me not to worry about, I'm still trying to cope with the feeling of being alone :0) this was a cool video and made me feel less alone
Im about a month into one and I'm definitely trying to accept it all. Just keep your head up!
sry but this is really sounds like a typical meme situation.
over time everything will pass and everything will be fine tho :)
trust me, time is the key
@@BK-201😂 ikr. "Told me not to worry about"
big big hug
Dang, so I’m not the only one who’s been crying for the last 6 months straight? I was celibate for 4 years since my last partner and I broke up, but I tried again this year and completely lost myself again, but it all did launch me into my next era of growth. I learned more about how I love, my flaws, my willingness to accept the bare minimum. Going celibate again for a while to get myself together, it wasn’t all sad. There were good times and moments in all of that, but I’m not ready to let myself go through that again.
Hugs
I've been going through my first heartbreak. I still love her, and yes, I want her back, but I won't be able to handle that. I've watched this video multiple times, start to finish. It helps me know it takes time and its ok. Thank you.
How raw, real, & beautiful. It was almost 20 years ago when I went through the hardest break up of my life, and instead of documenting it like this, I did by writing songs. Life went on and I ended up meeting the love of my life.. and those songs became some of the material that we play in a band we formed together. All of this is to say: you may be surprised where your heartbreak leads you, as it oftentimes is better than you could ever imagine ❤
Man this actually brings so much hope. My girlfriend and I broke up a month ago. I've never been this low in my life. All the love she gave me, all the plans and promises she made, they were all gone in an instant for no reason at all. She apparently just wanted to focus on herself and her mental health. There has not been a single day that I haven't thought bout her. My day starts and ends with thinking about her. I miss her so so much but ehh can't force her to love me. She used to say things like "I love being in love with you" "I hope it continues forever", she used to make plans for us to grow together. All of this just ended one day when she decided that she doesn't love me anymore for no reason. This was my first actual love and I can't begin to explain how much it hurts. I try not to tell about this to my friends cause it feels like I'm bothering them continuously saying the same thing. Idk why she did this even tho she told me she loved me so much. I've just accepted it now and I hope that she is happy now, I really do. I'll still miss her and love her for a long long time..
I’m in a very similar situation to you I broke up with my first true love about 2 and a half weeks ago it seemed so sudden after all we’d been through but I know it’s for the best and everything will turn out okay but it still hurts. But the fact that we care this much and still love the people we dated shows how human we are. It’s hard accepting the truth, but that’s okay. It takes time. Everything will turn out great in the end, I promise you it will
Hey man! I'm sorry to hear this. It's going to get better, just let it all out, don't hold back
Thank you so much for sharing this. I broke up with my girlfriend 3 weaks ago and i've felt tremendously Sad and hearkbreaking. I miss her everyday, and constanly feel guilty for leting her go. I just hope time will make me feel better
me too man, she told me that she had problems but never came and told me about them until it was too late.
Buddy please talk to your friends and family about your feelings!!! I just had to leave work because my fiance who I’ve been with for 6 years left me while I was at work yesterday and broke up over text. I talked to the security guard on the way out and he told me about his wife leaving him 2 months ago and we hugged. We all have problems, please share them with those who care. With love from Houston
All love ends in heartbreak. None of us can escape it. Whether it's death, break ups, divorce, estrangement, etc.
It’s better to treasure the time we have with our significant other than mourn what will inevitably come in future
@@ViperAceFilms Different strokes for different folks except we all end up with the same strokes in the end.
@@notcountingsheep3361 Love doesn't end with heartbreak. I loved my father 'till the day he died and I loved him even more when that happened. If love ended with a heartbreak, this video wouldn't exist. Because he still loved and missed her, this video exists.
@@philipesantos484 Your heart didn't ache for your Dad? Did he live a long life?
@@notcountingsheep3361 It did. That's what I said. The news of his death broke my heart and I still loved him.
This is incredible man thank you for this
JACK
Lowkey crying rn bro. This touched my heart in a way I can't explain. This video made me realize a lot about myself. thanks for posting this experience.
this was so intimate and vulnerable, thank you for being so open!
i related to this more than you know given that my relationship of 3 years ended back in february, so thank you for making me feel less alone in this experience :’)
it means a lot that I could help, even if just a little bit
i am so proud of you:) i am 18, after 5 years relationships and trust me, i wish i was THAT strong to deal with all my breakups ive been expieriencing afterwards (instead of healing). you literally gave me a hope.. that it is going to be better sooner or later. thank you so much :) sending a lot of hugs
Beautiful representation of growing through what you go through!!! Bravo, sir. I hope Mexico is treating you well!
it's been lots of fun so far :). thanks for all your support, means a lot
I’m so proud of you. I spent about eight months of agony after my nine year old relationship ended. Agony wears you like a blanket on a winter morning some days. It gets better. It always does.
"Agony wears you like a blanket on a winter morning dome days"
Wow. That's it
9 years... dang bro hope ur doing better
18 weeks since my exgf and I've broken up our 8 year relationship... We had our reasons but they seem so unimportant nowadays and I often miss her. Can you please tell me it gets easier? Sometimes I just feel incredibly alone..
How was your journey, do you still mourne the breakup?
This should be preserved in the library of Congress. It’s such a good snapshot of the human experience
Thank you so much for this video. My partner of 9 years and I broke up today. I’m so lost but your video paints such a beautiful picture of what it is to feel love and heartbreak. I hope you’re doing well and had a good day
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him
His name is Fatherabulu, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
He is Fatherabulu has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked he up now online. impressive
9:07 bro is majestic
I’m so glad I found this, I’ve undergone a pretty major heartbreak and it’s still only been like two weeks. Some days I feel fine, some days I feel like I’m gonna die. Heartbreak is complete agony, and the feelings of isolation that come with it. It’s without a doubt the worst pain I’ve felt in my whole life and I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. Thank you for sharing this it is beautiful and so brave of you :))
i’m going through the same thing, and exact same timing as you. i got through it once before. having faith in that, i promise both u and i will be okay one day :)
I promise you, yes promise, that one day youll look back at this time with only a smile on your face. Youre basically guaranteed to get over this.
I'm going throug the same thing actually, wish you the best. One day we will be fine.
I’ve been experiencing this for the last 3 months idk how to ever get over him. My heart goes out to you and to everyone going through this
we're in it together, friends. it's been almost a year since the breakup. I still miss her terribly. she was my best friend and my everything. i really pray that you're doing better without me. i will grow into a better and kinder person, even if it means you won't be here to see me.
:(
dont worry about her who cares bro be sigma
you're so sweet for praying for your ex partner, hang in there things will get better eventually and its understandable that you miss her, hope u feel better soon! :)
@@ashketchum5011 She's a wonderful human being. We're no longer in contact and so all I can do is pray for good things to happen to her as we move to our different paths in life.
@@fvehedI really feel what you're saying. It's similar for me. She's living her live and probably not thinking about me at all. But I hope the best for her. In the end we have to keep working on ourselves to become a better human being. And one day another human being will come that threats us how we deserve it and is willing to go through good and bad times together.
I was cheated on by my ex boyfriend of 8 years. It’s officially a year since we broke up and it gets so much better. I learned so much about myself and did so much growing within that year… I moved away from my hometown and now live in a city I love, have 2 jobs in my field, i am getting my Masters degree, i traveled, I feel amazing. It’s almost like the universe took away a toxic man I didn’t want to let go of and showed me a world of love, peace, and happiness that I wouldn’t have discovered otherwise. Sometimes these things are a blessing. Sending love ❤
I hope u are doing well and that u found someone that truly loves u and deserves u
GL man, a whole 8 years is crazy to recover from so remember how strong you are 🤞
was just recently cheated on... this gave me a lil peace of mind, thank u for sharing
I’m glad you left him though and now you’re thriving. I bet he has to now live with guilt for what he had done
Hello Nat. Thank you for sharing..
1 month since I broke up with my ex-girlfriend of 8 years too, who also cheated on me..
I mean, you, more than anyone I know, knows how I'm feeling right now.
Your post gives me hope, thanks again :)
It’s been a bout a month since my breakup. You’ve taught me that it’s okay to not be okay some days, I feel less alone. Thank you for saving my life today❤️
We are with you bro same case here it's been a day😂 for me
Like last night we broke up
@@Shreya_B_a_n_i_k damn that sucks, I wish you the best man, I know it probably hurts a lot especially since it’s fresh. You have my support
@@Crimson_381 thanx budyyyy
I actually went through heartbreak the same exact time as you. You would not believe the indescribable amount of comfort this video brings me. You are so strong for taking your heartbreak and turning it into something that helps others instead of using it for bad like others would. You should be so proud of yourself. I am proud of you. 💖
I’m in the best relationship I’ve had because I let someone go I thought was the love of my life, this video reminded me of the hardship I went through with that break up. I felt doomed, never to find someone perfect for me, but 2 years later I find myself with a girl that loves me way more than I've ever been loved, she brings me peace, and if we are ever at odds she is the peacemaker. She deserves the world, she deserves my unyielding love in return for hers. I haven't been the best partner for her lately, I've closed myself off to her, and i think my reasoning is because i don't want to feel this way again. Ive noticed my actions around this topic cause me to shrink away from relationships and all that does is hinder the love. This video has helped me recognize what i need to do to preserve my relationship. I resonated with you when you said you would have fought till the very end of your relationship. i felt that way one time when i was looking back at my old relationship, but now i recognize that person wasn't meant for me, but this one is so i will fight for her. thank you
Thank you for sharing. I’m 7 months in and she’s found someone else. I thought I was good until I saw that and what I found was that I hadn’t spent a single second processing what happened. When that day came- which it inevitably was going to, things got hard. I’m learning to love whoever I have around me as well as myself. It’s tough, I’m sure you know. As you said though, it gets better.
The only way out... is through. Sending love and strength❤
This just happened to me at a year in. Absolutely shattered me. I’m with you, friend. Just gotta keep moving :)
Chill mine moved on after a week
The fact that you were able to document your heartbreak alone is empowering to me just because with my first heartbreak, I barely could get out of bed and acting normally felt like it would take forever for it to happen. Hope you’re doing well today and hope you continue to do better!
I got broken up with a week ago. It was my first relationship and crush and almost everything. I really did love and trust him. It’s just that after 2 years and 6 months we weren’t compatible anymore. We went everywhere together and tried so many things together. I shared so many things with him. I love watching tv and movies but now I can’t watch any of them without thinking of the past. We had so many plans and ideas. We wanted to help people together. Even after the break up we still said “I love you”. And he kept saying maybe we will meet again when he is ready or changed. Sometimes I wished he said he hates me. I don’t know what to do. I know I shouldn’t wait for him. I just felt if we could talk it out more it would’ve been fine.
A similar thing happened to me. I was with her for two years we broke up 4 months ago because I had come to realize I had been staying in the relationship because I saw her potential but she was unable to reach it with me. We but kept in contact, recently i found out she got with someone else and she posted him on her insta and it hurts a lot. Ive cut off contact now but still growing still processing. Sending you much love and I hope you know you are not alone
@@alexbean4581 I had something similar to you as well but instead of her not reaching her potential with you, in my situation she saw the potential in me but I was unable to reach it with her. The part that's the same, however, was that eventually I found out that she was seeing someone else, and as much as I wanted to maintain contact I just couldn't without my mental health being utterly destroyed. It's only been about a month of no contact for myself but I felt like it was the right thing to do, but I can't help shake the heavy feelings of missing her and wanting to meet her again someday once we're both ready.
Idk how to tell you but if a person leaves you in search of “themselves” when nothing was wrong and you gave it all you have, they didn’t really love you in the end. - It’s a cheap excuse for someone to exit the relationship and still claim they “love you”. By that time, someone has already grieved and accepted in silence.
Don’t let it get in the way though. Give yourself time and eventually you’ll love again with someone who will reciprocate the same feelings
@@alexbean4581 thank you for your kind words. And I’m sorry you had to go through that. I hope you were able to find someone that will reciprocates the love you give.
Please move on. It is not fair for you to stay waiting. Go live life. I know it’s hard sometimes but it gets easier. Allow yourself to feel grief but don’t let it lead you back to him. You don’t deserve to be waiting on someone who, if they had the choice, would leave you for another girl.
Dang the good little films are always slightly vulnerable I love to see it
thanks :), glad you enjoyed
Bro i needed this, right now i feel so fucking lonely, the effects are physical, i can't eat, i want to throw up all the time, nothing can distract me.
And i fell like i could never pass this phase, but this video gave me hope!
Thanks
Same....I was ghosted..zero closure
I’m going through it dude. I am in the thick of it. I feel everything you said dude especially the eating and sick stomach shit. I hate it but it’s so necessary to be a better happier human in the future. You will get back to where you want to be!
@@RidleyWerla That's it bro, eating a little more now, working out, giving myself time to process these emotions. We will get through this as better humans!
@@praqnome2793 yes sir we will
@@kk-xi8li I’ll give you closure rn, fuck that your a dawg go be one
This vid saves me, makes my days, makes me hopeful and believe in the future. Thank you so much 😁
It’s actually inspiring to see men open up like this. I appreciate seeing this and your vulnerability is honourable.
watching this 1 year and 6 months after my breakup. i cant say i've fully moved on yet. obviously i feel good, and the pain is gone, but the flashbacks are just something i've learned to sit with now, i know that now i would never go back, but in my head i still fantasize about the potential we had and reminisce about the good times. its like that relationship is still consuming a part of me and honestly im mad about it because i dont want it taking up space in my life anymore but time isnt making me forget.
Maybe with acceptance and letting the good memories and what ifs will help you move on. When I go through breakup I try to hide things that remind me of them and eventually cut ties completely. Some times certain objects and places will remind you of them, but you can just accept that and let it go. Be grateful for the experience you had, the lessons you've learned while embracing your new life.
@@chairmanwu i’m also the type to cut all ties and remove all things related to this person. but time is moving against me for some reason. i feel my head is still fighting a war with this relationship whilst my heart is open to something new and better :(
@@an1me451 I see, I'm no psychologist so take what you will from my advice. But IMO it will help if you remind yourself why the relationship didn't work and why it wouldn't work everytime you remember the good times, instead of focusing on the good times and entertaining them. Instead of focusing on how it could've been or would've been, focus on the problems you had to help you realize that even if you revisited the realtionship or went back in time, the same things would unfold for the same reasons. And with self-love, you will realize that you deserve more than what you received. You deserve a loving relationship w/o the problems that lead to its ending. You deserve to find someone who will treat the way you deserve and love you the way you need. Your ex was not able to provide that for you, and that's ok. You will be able to move on from this. Just remind yourself the reason why it didn't work and will not work.
I have this same thing 8 months .. i dont want to remember anything regarding past..
You think about she, and maybe she it is with a new dude right now, do all staff that do with you… get up man, forget about that chick, go to see new women’s, there are much more better that that you ex.
Watching this on month 4, day 12 and it feels like a warm hug. Thanks for making us heartbroken folks feel less alone
bro i really want to say thank u , my english in not good but ur video is going to help me rn , after worst break up
Seeing someone being this vulnerable online is super rare, it's beautiful to see the ups and downs of the end of a relationship. Im a month late, but im so sorry for what you had to go through. Day by day you kept on going without this person you loved so much. You deserve all of the love and online hugs that you'll recieve, hope youre doing better now man. 💗💗💗💗
Thank you for this, my last serious relationship caused the worst break up blues of my life. He was my first love, my first everything. There’s just something about that. I remember feeling numb and genuinely like shit for a little over a year, thinking this feeling would never go away. I’m glad to say that eventually it does get better, you’ll even find yourself looking back at your relationship with a smile on your face and lessons gained. Much love :)
I'm 4 days into my breakup, and this video just gave me an overwhelming shot of hope and optimism. I just know now that I'll be okay in the end even if it seems hard sometimes. Good luck to everyone else going through heartbreak. You got this.
Thank you for doing this, I needed this. All these sleepless nights and having no one to talk to it's good to know I'm not the only one who is going through this. ❤
Re-experiencing these emotions with you through 11 minutes was one hell of a roller coaster, great video
she broke up with me yesterday and i left because i couldn’t possibly handle just being her friend from now on. she also didn’t really seem to care that i would leave her which made me feel a lot worse. so i just did it in order to protect myself. i deleted and blocked everywhere, trying to erase her from my life. it really hurts. i feel empty. we were together for over 3 years and we talked every single day without exceptions. she was the only person i could talk freely with and that i felt comfortable with. now all of that is gone. she changed. the person i love doesn’t exist anymore. i mourn the death of a person that is technically still alive… and its horrible. i hope one day i will be able to recover from this, learn, and grow. watching these types of videos or reading similar comments of people struggling as well comforts me a bit with feeling less alone. so thank you for this video and giving me hope that i can improve. i hope everyone else takes care of themselves and learns how to be happy again, even if it means being without them.
why did you guys break up tho? did she completely change into a person that no longer felt loved by you?
Hey, you'll through this. it's not easy at first of course; but time flies by and you'll end up healing yourself. try finding yourself out... go hang out with friends find stuff that didn't interested you before. get yourself distracted okay? if they were the right person they would have stayed with you. You're not alone with this if you need someone to talk to. I can try to give you some advice. I'm also having a rough time because of my ex. I'm trying to heal up also, it's not easy but I have supportive friends who are there for me.
Same here bro. Everyone watching this video, is actually feeling the same way.
The same happened to me except the genders are reversed .
Somethings in life is not meant to stay 😄
The best part of a break up is how you learn about yourself in the pain and turmoil. My girlfriend dumped me after 5 years of us talking to each other every single day. It took me a year and a half just to mourn what I'd lost, and how she moved on without me. It took me another year just to find out that I could be happy, without her.
The best thing was learning how to feel empathy for myself, and realising that I needed help, I needed support and kindness. You know what? You'll find love again, and maybe it's you finally learning to love yourself and when done right you don't feel lonely anymore.
Day 9 and the pain I’m in is indescribable. I just want the sun to shine one day for me and stay shining.
Thank you for posting this. My boyfriend and I broke up a little over two years ago. It was only about a year ago that I finally “moved on” (i.e. was not still feeling angry, hurt, and like I should have done everything differently). I still think of him sometimes. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t click on this video because you look a little like him. I really don’t know what he went through after we broke up; we didn’t communicate (I am not counting the time I desperately met up with him in the hopes he would take me back🤦♀️). I don’t have Instagram, so he couldn’t see what I was up to. My friends would show me his Instagram, and it looked like he was having such a great time without me. That hurt. I’m sure it wasn’t all real, but still. So when I saw your thumbnail, I thought, “wouldn’t it be nice to know how he felt after we broke up?” Obviously you're not my ex, but I really didn’t have any male perspectives on how my ex may have been feeling after our breakup. I just want to say, it’s nice to know that there are guys out there who put their heart and soul into their relationships. It wouldn’t hurt so much if the relationship wasn’t meaningful. So… yeah. Thank you. Sending good vibes to you and your family :)
hope you're doing better ❤
i feel this video. my ex ghosted me and i thought he was my soulmate, i’ve been grieving for over a year, and it’s been so many ups and downs, but i have been healing. this video has helped a lot, thank u :)
Ups and downs are indeed ahead of the healing journey but you’ll become even stronger. You’ll get through it stronger than ever 🎉
A really bad breakup is the perfect time for people to really sit down with themselves and mature as a person. I truly believe that you have grown so much that I don't think you'd be as mature as you are now. A relationship is built on trust and caring for someone else, a breakup is about acceptence and selfcare.
You did amazing.
I'm glad I came across this video now. I didn't have a breakup, I just lost friends who were important to me. This time it hurts more than breaking up with a boyfriend. Thanks for sharing, it helps to feel that loss is a part of everyone's life and it's not forever.
that's crazy and super brave!!! i don't even dare to fall in love with someone to begin with. whenever i feel something like attraction towards someone, i back off. i mean, i avoid them, ignore them, distract myself etc. until i lose interest in them. i just can't pay the price of love: grief.
also, that new haircut looks so good on you! glad seeing you gettinh better occasionally.. so so brave lol
You’re just like me fr. But pushing people away can be just as painful, I guess at least you know the pain you’ll feel when you push them away; if you let things grow, you never know what height you’ll fall from. But that’s life, that’s one of the many risks that just may be worth taking. Anyway..
@@DraftedRedd exactly!!! i just feel more in control and everything just seems to be a lot more predictable, in which i can prepare myself for all horrible things that can possibly happen to my life. it might not seem to matter so much, but it's like a reflex to me, i just have the instinct to do it lmao. idk if i will ever marry... but i guess i'll leave that to my future self :)
@@meisyani I really wish the best for you. Remember, taking risks is a huge part of life. To live a life with no risks is to simply exist. I believe the right people will be brought to us through time when we are ready to have them in our lives. But if we don’t take any chances how will we ever get the opportunity to let those people in?
@@DraftedRedd thank you, i'll try my best for sure! i also wish the best for you, we'll figure this out😊
Same giving someone a chance and being in a relationship can change the whole trajectory of your life and I have only seen it happen for the worst to people around me the amount of missed opportunity and fun as well as accomplishments is crazy and it was simply due to people making decisions based on their partners
I’m only 2 mins in and this is beautiful. I appreciate your rawness, vulnerability, and openness :) ty
Dude, I also went through a breakup about six months ago, and this is honestly the most relatable video I have ever watched. None of my friends have experienced a similar breakup as me, and this video makes me feel less alone. The relapses at random times, the self-doubt, the growth. All of it is so weirdly beautiful from an outside perspective. Thank you for making this.
I started watching a video like this couple weeks before I asked out my now ex girlfriend. I was in a good place and felt no need to continue because, why would I be thinking about a breakup when I'm so caught up in love. It's been just over two months since we split and all I have now are the memories of us. You know you love someone when you're with them, that's a given, but true love is shown in their absence. I had no idea how much I cared until she left, but that's how I know I'm healing correctly. I'm feeling my emotions instead of pushing them down. It's weird how one day I'm happy with how I've grown since, then I feel like I'm back at square one the next. Worst part of it all is I know she still loved me and part of her still does, but she got scared because it was getting serious. She'd never admit that's why she left, but I know it is. I almost wish it ended horribly because knowing that it ended on good terms and still loving each other almost feels like we have unfinished business. It just makes the whole grieving process that much harder. You're an amazing girl Kacey, I've never felt that way about anyone before and I know you hadn't either. I almost don't want to feel that way about anyone else. If only we could realise that again together, but that's for the future to decide. I hope you're happy and life is treating you right.
If someone read all of this, thank you. I had no wish for anyone to read it, I just wanted to put my feelings out there. If you're going through a breakup now, just remember that you're not alone. I know that's how you feel, I still do, but we're not. You're an amazing person. I mean they fell in love with you for a reason. Don't forget that. It might be done now, but it happened, and nobody can change the fact that they loved you. We tend to forget our worth when we face our own judgement, but you're worth a whole lot. We'll all make it through this one day, and we'll be better for it.
thank you so much for this video, 2 days ago broke up with my gf of 3 years as well. I saw our entire future together so vividly and I am completely and utterly devastated. I wake up crying everyday so far and no pain I've ever felt is even comparable to the way I'm feeling right now. This video helped me see that the next few months are going to be rough but there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
Thank you for documenting this so that other people suffering through the same thing can see that there’s hope in time
time heals all :) thanks for sharing such vulnerable parts of what it is to be human, glad you’re better!!
Makes me happy seeing people being people. Here I am doubting if I can even feel compassion, empathy or love for anyone including myself.
I never leave TH-cam comments but I had to this time. This impacted me from the moment I hit play in such an intense way- I just recognized the form of pain instantly. I feel like this is the first time I've seen a person through the internet and known exactly what they were feeling. I just had a mutual break up with my long-term partner who I still love very deeply. Breaking up with somebody I was still in love with took a level of courage I didn't know I was capable of. I'm on week 3 and it's getting better, but still one of the hardest things I've ever done. Genuinely, from the bottom of my heart, thank you for making this video. This helped me more than you can fathom. You showed me the light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you. Good luck out there.
Sorry if this question is invasive or something... but why exactly did you make this decision?
You said that you still love him and that it was a mutual decision so how did you two arrive at this conclusion?
I also just broke up with the person that I loved the most and it's really difficult...
This new era of youtube is incredible. Thank you for putting so much time and effort to document your process and journey. We live in a such incredible time where this artform is so accessible, and its amazing to see people do such extraordinary things with it. I know it's as simple as turning on your phone camera and saying some stuff, but this wasn't always this accessible. Thank you friend for sharing this part of your life with the world. It's truly unique to see someone go through this ❤ day-by-day and i'm grateful for you, your honesty, vulnerability and the want to document this difficult experience. Thank you for being you Steven
Been together 6 years.
Going through pain.... Alone but i know God is with me.
My God you have talent! And what a beautiful story. I went through the same thing, all those feelings. 7 months discovering myself. Thank-you for the beautiful msg!
I was ready to get this horrible feeling from this video because break ups are never easy. Tursn out this video felt more like the thightest and warmest hug you can get. This showed sadness of loss in so pretty way, how you and it shapes each other and how feelings are there to be felt. Thank you
First thought I had when I come across this video was “A guy going through a break up?” I was so interested because it’s rare to see this.
Did you think guys dont go through break ups? Trust me, often times, the guy has a MUCH worse time after a breakup. Theres a reason why most suicides are commited by guys
I dont think it’s related to that , but it’s because men are taught to bottle up emotions , to “man up” ,and the only emotion that is valid is anger . And often times , it’s men themselves that impose on other men these standards ( not saying women don’t ). Honestly, if you feel emotions, it’s because they were meant to be felt and expressed
man this video brings me so much positive energy. you've gone through pain, you suffered, but in result you helped other people to suffer less. I just wanna say that I respect you so much for your courage, patience and being opened to others. much love ❤
Very humbling. It’s really nice to know we all have bad break ups. It’s like we all try to hide how much pain we’re in because we don’t want to look weak. They just hurt 🤷🏽♂️. It’s okay, we’re all human.
Probably one of the most amazing videos ive seen in a long time, a proper man being vulnerable and showing us that it can be done, its not the end of the world. Just the beginning of a new chapter to our life. The journey of this whole video is just surreal because everyone once in their life has gone through this sort of pain but to see it on video like this and your journey its just inspirational and motivating.
I genuinely love this bro. When me and my girlfriend broke up it felt like hell man this whole video serves as an example of how much pain someone can go through and I really connected with many parts of the video itself especially the socializing part on day 2. After we broke up it felt like something was missing, we would hangout almost every single day and she was my first everything. She was the first person who I got very intimate with in many ways not just sexually but we understood each other on another level and even till this day I think about that connection we had. I am so proud of your progress because even after 10-12 months I still had thoughts about her just like you did during month 1 so seeing that you have been able to overcome that is amazing and I really do hope you continue to prosper. Seeing your progress is amazing as overtime you learn to accept what is and what I've learned is you just have to be grateful even through all the bad, just be happy about the good and take it as a learning experience onto the next chapter in your life. And if anyone of you is reading this just know it does get better, stay positive and let time heal you mentally, physically and spiritually as well as do what is best for you when it comes to taking care of yourself because you are not alone and YOU MATTER!! Thank you so much for making this video, it really helped me sit down and think about things and realize I am not alone in the way I feel. Much love man-❤
This was such a beautiful and human documentary on what healing and fighting through the hard days looks like thank you so much for sharing
Wow! It's just inspiring to see a man embrace his emotions so openly-your vulnerability is a powerful reminder that it's okay to feel deeply. You are helping to break down the walls around men’s mental health and showing that every emotion deserves respect. Keep shining your light and being true to yourself. Thank you for having the courage to document and share your heart with us!
it’s nice to see someone who feels what i feel. you’re going through what i am. i’m in a state of limbo. the urges to break no contact. i’ve failed multiple times man.. i understand every emotion you feel bro. i’m going through it now. i’m a month in. may was the worst month of my life. june was so hard. my mood swings.. we’re in a state of limbo. i miss her so much. i let it out through my music.
How are you now?
This video came at the right time for me. Relatable in every way, constant crying, crawling in the right direction, self-control, relapse into grief, and the most painful part, taking a step forward, only to move 3 steps backward. I hated every second of screaming into my pillow and feeling every single emotion sharply, but the hurt turned into comfort, and then acceptance. I'm currently 11 months out of the breakup, and it still feels like I'm journaling the process of trusting myself. To anyone reading who's going through the loss of someone you love, progress isn't linear, and it definitely doesn't have a timeframe, grow as you can as you loved as much as you could. You will be okay.