Would You Ever, Could You Ever Date a Single Mom
ฝัง
- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 ก.ย. 2024
- #filipinas #philippines #thailand
Would you ever, could you ever consider dating a single Filipina Mom in The Philippines or single Thai Mom in Thailand. The subscribers to our channel Fly Me to The Philippines have written some disturbing comments regarding this question.
********PLEASE SUBSCRIBE **********
@FlyMeToThePhilippines
_________________________________________________
Click here to book a personalized custom consultation
FlyMeToThePhil...
________________________________________________
In an other episode of Chrissy tells all she takes on the top 5 negative comments about why there are so many single moms in the Philippines and Thailand. Why a woman would find herself a single mom, and why a man would take on a commitment to raise another mans son.
Join us
As a man, I would say that you must consider your responsibilities to the woman and her child when you enter their lives. You need to make sure that you don't hurt their long term life prospects. If you have determined that the love and respect from the woman is genuine and you have the respect of her family, I believe the man is responsible to add to their lives in a positive way. The foreign man's financial situation is most likely to be at a much higher level than the woman and her family. So, if the man chooses to become part of their lives, he needs to plan for the woman and her child's security and future. If there is mutual respect, the man will find satisfaction in this endeavor and the bond he creates with the woman and her child.
I totally agree, thanks for watching and taking the time to share your thoughts
There's lots of reasons women get into a relationship and have sex. It's not always love. This rule number One for men: Women will do almost anything to avoid accountability. Keep that in mind then life will make sense. Smile.
@@michaeljohnson6019when a woman wants something she will find a way to get it. By using her resources or a man's resources, to achieve the goal
And all the sisterhood said “amen!”
There's a flaw in this logic. A male choosing to be a stepdad with no rights to her kids has very low self-esteem. For some reason they don't feel they deserve to have kids of their own. Kind of a eunuch complex.
A male with this issue is going to have a very hard time judging others. A male who doesn't respect themselves is never going to be respected by others and because of this will have no ability to tell if other respect him. Instead he'll create some crazy measure of respect. Like he'll buy a Filipina's parents a bunch of stuff and assume that buys respect and love. But the opposite is true. Filipinos don't marry single moms or support another man's kids. They make fun of stupid foreigners who throw away their money and partner up with single moms.
However, such guys really have no choice. Their low self-esteem forces them to rationalize why raising another man's kids is a great idea.
If you date a single mom, better make sure she's not married. Otherwise, you're bringing down a heap of trouble on yourself.
I remember myself adding to my dating profile "you must need to produce a CENOMAR". 😂
Also, if in any of the children's certificate of birth the biological dad is there, regardless of marriage or not, you will also have issues if you ever decide to move them to your country or go on a vacation outside the Philippines. The dad would need to sign his consent...
This is very good advice here in the Philippines. You can get a certificate of no marriage with little difficulty and little money from PSA.
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines In the US you could never take a man's kids out of the country if he has custody rights. Is that the case in PH?
@@yaimavol not sure but that’s my assumption
@@yaimavol Even to get the child a passport, both parents would need to be present, or issue a Special Power of Attorney, or the mother would need to prove she had the sole custody with a court letter.
If you aren't absolutely sure you won't want to move out the Phillies, avoid non-widower single moms, or ask to see the certificate of birth. If the baby daddy ran away, he won't show in that document and he won't be able to extort you.
I know a guy that needed to wait until his wife's daughter was 18, to move them to his country.
When I met my wife, she was a mom of 1 teenage girl. This did not matter to me at all! I fell in love with my wife and her daughter. We met when I was 40 years old! This was the best decision I ever made! We never did have a child between the 2 of us, but that did not matter! Since my wife passed away 2 years ago, my daughter fully supports me as any daughter would and very glad that she is in my life! God bless Chrissy!
Thanks, Marc for sharing your story and I’m so sorry for your loss
Most foreigners are older men who don't want children but do want a woman. What surprises me is that these men need to ask questions and be taught how to understand what Filipino women think about this. It seems as if they can't think independently. I would think that the most common scenario is that men who date women with children ensure that these children from previous relationships feel like they have a stepfather who cares about them, providing the best education in the Philippines and thus a better starting point in life ahead of them.
Thanks for watching our channel and sharing your thought. Well said.
Yes, they feel it's the best they can do, but are not honest with themselves. I enjoy kids, so we had one of our own, there is no comparison. Not that you can't love another child, but it's just not the same and we all know it.
I have seen your video tags for a while but was reluctant to watch as I thought they were just another blogger targeting thirsty men with a pretty woman. After a while, I noticed one video that seemed interesting and watched. During that video, I noticed how the two of you interacted and listened to how each of you spoke not us but to each other. I enjoy chemistry and the way you present these thought proving topics. 👍 I subscribed shortly after.
Mike. Thank you for watching our channel and taking it a time to provide positive positive feedback. We certainly appreciate it.
Having seen many of your videos ,I have begun my own journey and I can honestly say I don’t think Rob had to “settle“ for anything. I know you’ve put your lives out there, please don’t let the comments of some clearly unhappy people discourage you from doing what you’re doing . Thank you so much for the content , more often than not it is very helpful and extremely informative, thank you so very much. 🙌
Thanks for watching our videos and we really appreciate the commentary in this particular video
Very much agree with @SPENJERE ! Haters will always hate. I feel very sorry for their pathetic life.
@@ronmiller997 Thanks Ron
A likeable presenter - for a difficult topic. Taking on real responsibility for other people's children is a big and long-term challenge. The tasks don't get any easier as you get older. This applies to both the children and the parents. I have concrete experience as a father, grandfather and sports coach.
Thanks for watching our channel and taking time to share your comment. We certainly appreciate it.
I am currently engaged to a Filipina who has a 10yo daughter. I'm in my 60's and have already raised 3 of my own children but I'm very glad to have the chance to be a father again to this wonderful girl. We are going through the K1 visa process right now, and that is stressful both emotionally and financially but we pray every day for the time when we will be together again and be a family. For all of the haters that think we western men are being manipulated I feel sorry for them. They have never known the love a truly good and Christian woman, and have never seen the adoration in the eyes of a child that has never had a father in her life. My own adult children are accepting of my new bride to be, and they are looking forward to welcoming a new "ate" into our family. I consider my life to be blessed by their presence, and I hope and pray for you and Rob to continue to be blessed as well.
Well, Dennis, thanks for watching and what a great comment. Really appreciate you taking the time to share.
Hamburger A: Single mom with a cute daughter fathered by another man.
Hamburger B: Single woman I can father a cute daughter with.
In both cases I have a cute daughter. Which do I choose? I pick Hamburger B.
Why would I pick the single mom instead? It's not like there's only one Filipina in all of PH who would make a great partner. IMO what's going on is guys are getting online and falls for the first Filipina that is nice to him. And single moms are hitting the dating sites hard. Lots of single Filipinas working, going to college and don't have the time to be online 14 hours a day. Many singles moms have nothing but time to be on dating sites to get to these men before the Filipinas without kids. For the guys it's lazy dating.
@@MrWaterbugdesign
You are a very shallow human.
@@MrWaterbugdesign Well you know, there's a reason that the Big Mac and the Whopper are both so popular. Some people prefer hamburger A, and some people prefer hamburger B. One is not better than the other, but people have their reasons for which one they choose. My fiancé has her Bachelors degree and works 12 hours every night as a call center rep, and I vetted dozens and dozens of potential mates before choosing her. Be careful about painting people with one large brush. Every couple has their own unique story.
Very well stated !
Definitely not a fan of this video. Being a stepdad sucks. All the responsibility and none of the authority.
@@travisl9201 🤔
Yahh, that’s the downside of being a step Father
I think that is a possibility. But I have also seen where step-dad is given all the authority and love of a biological father. Much depends on the mother and supporting family's attitude as well as communication.
@@jeffreycaudle5108 Sure, could happen. And I could win the lottery. But even in this extreme "I saw it work once" case the male still has no legal right to those kids. The Filipina has 100% control. Yes she can hand out some authority as long as the male does as she wants. But if the male does something she doesn't like she can snap that "authority" right back.
In reality the stepdad has no real authority over her kids. If you want to rationalize what you see and call it all good then that's on you.
Great video Chrissy. As a 55 yo divorced man, I'd like to address a couple of your scenarios.
First, this priority thing. This is such a lame excuse, saying you won't be her priority. If you're married, with children, and your wife comes in the house to you and the children sick as a dog, who do you think she is going to prioritize? My hope would be the children, and this should be the result whether dad or step dad.
I've been married twice. 1st wife had a son when we met and we has 2 boys together. 2nd wife had a son and daughter. No children together. In both instances I had full authority to discipline. It's not that rare. If you are a rational, fair, and trusted man, a woman will naturally let you lead, if you pick the right one. If you are a tyrant, or you pick a woman that has no expectations of her children, hell yes she's gonna waffle back and forth. And yes, I am divorced, but for entirely different reasons.
Once a man has had children of his own, it is much easier to fall into a step dad role. For him, the priority of his mate and her child has to be equal to the priority he places on himself. Again, this all leads back to choosing the right woman, the man being aware and comfortable with his role, and accepting that she can truly love him enough to trust.
To simply say no single mother is worth anything comes from a very immature, self-centered, black pilled, I'm alpha so I should be priority and lead no matter what, mindset, in my opinion.
Many of these men aren't fit to lead a home unless the goal is to push it off a cliff. There is a huge difference between leading and ruling, and sadly, a lot of men can't tell you what that difference is.
Hey Chrissy…I’ve enjoyed watching the video’s you and Rob produce and a couple of reasons I watch your videos is because of how informative they are and regardless of the topic. To me it’s easy to see the love and respect both of you have for each other because of the teamwork you both present in your videos. What a team you guys are together and it’s so satisfying to see the professionalism as well as the fun that you share together. You’re very intelligent Chrissy and so is Rob. I also agree with everything you said about the responsibilities of family in a loving relationship regardless that the children didn’t come from the two of you. When a man loves a woman from a failed marriage, being responsible for her children and loving them should be the natural choice in my opinion. In heaven there’s no such thing as orphans or unwanted children because God is love and He is the Father to everyone born on earth. His agape love for us is the most powerful love known to mankind and it’s endless. He is the example we should all be following. I wish the two of you continued success in everything the two of you strive for as a loving couple. Thank you again for another wonderful video.
Wow we’re blushing- love this comment
Thankyou. You and rob are awesome. I’m in the same boat as you guys. My Filipina has a child too.i brought up 2 kids myself,and I’m willing to bring up her child too. We are in love. And that’s what matters. Have a great day. David
David thanks for watching and you are totally right we agree
WoW, Chrissy ! What an excellent monologue.
You might have missed your calling. Well, it's not too late.
The secret word that you said and the Beatles said it is:
All you need is LOVE ❤
Of course, you have to be careful you find the right woman, children, and family to give your love.
If everything is done right. When you give your love.
The reward will be beyond your imagination to all involved.
There is no greater thing than: LOVE
Jose 🙏
Rob and Chrissy are in a unique relationship. Most American women would not have the option to send their children to go live with their grandparants for the 1st 10 months of a new relationship. Rob was lucky that way to have Chrissy all to himself and feel that he was #1 in her life. Now that Chrissy's child has moved in the house along with Chrissy's Dad and Stepmonther, it will be interesting to see how the relationship moves foward. Also, be very careful dating single mothers in the philippines if they lie about being married you could go to jail or worst.
Thanks joe for watching and sharing your thoughts. We appreciate having you here.
Theres a lot of ignorant, unhappy, disaffected or estranged people out there with their anger and negativity. Thats a matter for them.
I like watching your channel 😊
We like having you here, Scott and thank you for putting out those positive vibes
Don't listen to the haters guys! I met my Filipina in 1999 (here in the US) with her 2 girls 6 and 7 who I helped raise. we married in 2007, had our daughter in 2008. And now I even have 2 (Step) granddaughters. I feel Rob is like myself and has a big heart and loves family. And there is never anything wrong with that. Kudos to you guys for living the dream! Thanks for sharing! (My profile pic has my 15 yr old daughter and 12 yr old granddaughter. :)
Love this comment
Before I found my single province farm girl that was never married and had no children I stayed away from single moms because I did not want to fall in love with one.. dating a single Filipino mom could get complicated very quickly because lots of things can go wrong that would not happen with dating a single girl with no children.. I have raised three kids so I know raising children is not a walk in the park but I enjoyed every minute of it.. that was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life..😊
Thanks for watching our video Richard and sharing your story
I married a single mom of six. It is a blessed life.❤
@@rexlaughlin3897 🙏👍❤️
Desperate!
Lucky You ok
lol
If Rob is happy with you and your son that’s really all that matters from his perspective. Just as long as you and your son are happy that’s all that’s matters from your perspective also . Remember some of the comments are coming from unhappy people who trying make comments to derail your happiness to make them feel better their miserable lives.
BigDave thanks for that.
This is a great video. If a woman was a single mother, I would respect her even more. It is so difficult for her, and my love would be even greater for her and her children
Well said! We agree
Although not necessarily age related, men often fall victim to being O.L.D. (Overlooked, Lonely & Desperate). When that happens, more often than not, men tend to rationalize making bad financial and emotional decisions regarding women. Women can sense this like a shark senses blood in the water.
Wow, I love the acronym. Maybe I need to make a video about it.
Yup
Six signs of a desperate and lonely "Pay Piggy"
1. Retire after 20+ years of work, get financially ruined by the ex-wife and family court system, devise a plan to enjoy the 3rd/4th quarter of your life abroad, move to your chosen destination with the intent to live a simple life on the savings, and/or pension the courts were "kind" enough to leave you with.
2. After arrival, fall in "Lust" and attach yourself to a young local woman with kid(s) because she makes you feel "young", abandon the plan that you laid out in step #1, put on the old "Step Dad" cape and assume the financial responsibility of raising kid(s) that you have no rights over while the real father is down the road gambling, smoking and drinking.
3. Build a house for your new girlfriend/wife and let her extended family move in, pay for her kid(s) private school/college, buy braces for her mouth, a new iPhone for her social media addiction, and lots of sexually revealing clothes for her attention seeking nature. Provide an allowance to "upgrade" her lifestyle, provide her parents with a monthly allowance, buy the brother-in-law a motorbike, build and fund the sister-in-law a Sari-Sari store and pay for every party/fiesta that happens.
4. Notice that your girlfriend/wife is becoming more distant, annoyed and combative towards you. You also notice that she has become more westernized, is surrounding herself with other westernized women and has become thirstier for online attention.
5. Spend the majority of your lonely days struggling with the items listed in steps #3-4 until you become bankrupt, mentally exhausted or physically compromised due to stress.
6. Rationalize steps #1-4 by saying. "She and her kid(s) should be left in a better position than when I found them" or "I can't take it with me" or "Someone has to step up to the plate and do the honorable thing" or "She loves me and will never betray me" or "It's just part of the culture for a foreigner to take care of her and her family" or "I am providing for her in "exchange" for companionship" etc...
Gentlemen, take off your blinders and at least try to be honest with yourself. If you have relocated or are thinking about relocating to another country to find love then either you are now, are becoming or have been a Pay Piggy to some degree.
"Present yourself as a Pay Piggy and get roasted like a Lechon.
Great analysis and advice. You and Rob are great humans.
Wow❤️🙏👍
Well said. Much happiness to you both.😊
❤️🙏👍
I have heard more stories of mothers cheating than fathers in the Philippines, but like always, society must always hold the men responsible for both, his and the woman's poor choices
🤔
Maybe those stories are the ones you prefer to listen too?
Goes both ways that’s for sure! There not all princesses 😮
What do you mean? Women are wonderful!
Had a date with a women the other day and a mutual friend said that is why she was single again, it wasn't her BF of 8 years cheating. But LDRs are often to blame. Her BF was working overseas to support them. I have seen that on both sides of the table.
As a man that had married two single mothers in the past, the answer is no for me. There are to many variables that come into play and as far as my experience things never ended well.
Sorry to hear that thanks for watching our video and sharing your experience with us
My now wife was a single mom in Davao when we met. I made it clear I could not give her any children because I got fixed a LONG time ago after having 4 of my own. Her son has never met his father, so he has known only me in that role. I have never asked my wife of 12 years anything about her past relationships, and frankly I was not interested in that part of her life when what I could observe for myself more than answered any important questions I had. I also did not have a problem with her (our) son and her parents being a higher priority for her, which is not to imply I am not a priority. We talked it out and I can understand why she feels that way. An example of what does not make sense is why I live in a place that has been over 120F for the past couple weeks.
Thanks for sharing that Stephen
Rob and i apparently think similarly. It is a fair and realistic decision to seek a woman who already has a kid, thus less pressure to have more. Bottom line, a man does need to like children and be capable of being a father to someone elses kid(s). Kudos to the both of you!
@@Alan-BonneyLake-yr2ry thanks Alan really appreciate receiving your thoughts and feedback
i am a child to a single mother* my step father marry my mother when i was 7 or 8 my real father left my mother when she got pragnent ..... soo, i dont see a problem to marry a single mother as long as there is love
Thanks for watching our channel and taking time to share your personal story
I must say sir when you said you got lucky... you did. 🙏 However you seem like a great person as well so as a 38 year old man I am not hating on you I commend your commitment to this lovely young woman and her child. Thank you for being a good man and giving us great information to learn how this place and its people operate daily life!
Wow, thank you
"In situations where tough choices have to be made, a single mother will often prioritize the well-being of her child over that of her husband. This is because she recognizes that her child needs more care and attention, while her husband is an adult who can take care of himself. Furthermore, the bond between a mother and child is stronger, as the husband may leave her, but the child will always be a part of her life."
No one can argue with these points that you’ve made. Thanks for watching our video and taking time to share.
Yup, and I will never disturb that bond 😅
That's why it's a great responsibility for a man to take on this role. Most single mothers already have it in their minds that the man could leave at any time, so they subconsciously sabotage their relationships with the man by showing him how lesser of importance he is in the relationship. A humble single mom is what's needed for a successful relationship. Yet a lot of them walk around with their heads held high, almost as if they believe their Sexual marketplace value (SMV) is on the same level as a woman with no kids coming into a relationship.
😊 Goodness, IN MY HEART ❤️. I raised 7 kids with 1 woman for 25 years.❤❤ Divorced 10 years now, at 60. I would joined another wonderful woman that had 7 daughters from her 1 marriage, but she was told not to since I am 12 years older.
Nothing wrong with a single mother with kids! ❤ 😊 As long as her BEHAVIOR BEFORE AND AT PRESENT ARE OF GOOD MORAL INTENTIONS. 😊
As a dad, I've had daycare children for years to protect.
Had 2 foreign exchange students in high school recently.
FAMILY CAN BE WHOM EVER YOU CARE DEEPLY ABOUT AND ENJOY HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS WITH. ❤❤
❤️🙏👍
I would only allow my affections to be for a single mom if she is a widower. There's no way I would involve myself with a woman knowing as a foreigner, the father has a huge advantage over me with the woman and her children or child.
On the other hand, if she is a widower, and this was a love that would had exist if the guy lived, then thats a plus because, it shows her devotion without the emotional scars of a bad relationship. Therefore, if her mourning was complete, and shes open to have a new healthy relationship, then I see nothing wrong with taking her into my life. There are no options for the child, you are the only example of a man she/he would come to know if the mom and the man loves eachother.
I am currently in this situation where my lovely beautiful Filipina significant other died and they had one 6 year old daughter. A year later, i came into their lives and we both love eachothers very much. The daughter call me uncle... i know i could never be her father, but i can be there for her.
I understand your thoughts thanks for sharing. I think it’s OK if you proceeded with a lot of caution and you make sure the X is not going to be a problem. Maybe he’s already moved on as another life and with another woman.
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines Her ex is gone... he died. She's a widow.
Great video! I'm 47 now and plan on being in the Philippines by 50. I've never had or raised children, but have the longing desire to do so. Hopefully when i fall in love with a Filipina she will already have a kid or two...or three... lol. My Dad who is now 73 , was and still is the greatest, most patient, loving, caring man that has ever been in my life. Even though I haven't had or raised any, he taught me how to do it. Thanks for the hard work and time making these videos. You both are awesome!!!
Listen carefully. If you've never been a father before to your own children, do not under any circumstances become a step father first. Start YOUR family with a woman whose first child is also your first child. You can do this the easy way by listening or learn this lesson the hard way by following emotions.
Thanks for that. Great feedback ensuring your point of view we really are glad you’re here.
Yes, Yes! YES!! Pure Unconditional Love. Perfectly said! It's not relatives, it's connection, spiritual connection. The attraction of souls. The attraction to the attributes of God that you see in each other. "We are the flowers of one garden, the leaves of one sea" Baha'i
Thanks for this poetic comment beautiful
I think this is a good video, as long as the two individuals are in agreement and work together and love each other and communicate all should be well, and the child is a bonus if you love the mother and are willing to accept him or her.
@@omarburton1715 Thanks Omar
Thanks Chrissy. I love your perspective. Rob is a lucky man. I am 64, and I don't even know who my father is. Your son will not have that problem, and with Rob as a father figure, and you as his mum, his future is looking good. I am currently in an LDR with a mum of two from the province. I would have no hesitation taking on a father figure roll to her two children, 5 and 16. Ignore the haters, they are going to hate regardless.
Thanks for watching our video and taking the time to share your thoughts. We appreciate the feedback.
I was a husband to a single Mom. And it wasn't easy by any means. But I took on the responsibility willingly. I feel that people should not weigh in on other people's lives and have to explain to others why. Continued Blessings to your Family...
Thanks Stephen we appreciate your here. I’m for sharing also.
I just broke up with my fiancé who has 3 daughters. What I realized over the year we were together, I’ll never be a priority and she’s using me for money and a visa to the U.S. I also believe her parents are in on it too. I lost a lot of money and have a broken heart but at least I won’t end up in a miserable marriage. I know not all Filipinos are like this but it seems lying and scamming is very common in the Philippines. I’m not sure if I’ll try looking for anyone else over there again. I like the people, the culture and the women in my opinion are far better than here in the west but it seems to be difficult to find someone without ulterior motives.
@@scottc4206 Scott, sorry to hear about your experience, but I appreciate you taking the time to share with our subscribers
It's really a sign of a healthy and mature man, that he has allowed his heart to be healed and has opened himself to love more.
A man that will love not only his lady but all that is important to her, shows his character.
It shows that he is at a place in his life to truly give of himself.
The comments here that go against this video, you can feel their personal discontent.
Forgive all who have wronged you, so that God can clean your heart.
You will have a healthy outlook in life, and be a partner worthy of a filipina flower.
Otherwise, what are you looking for?
You can choose to be with a single lady, but don't have a toxic heart.
Speak a blessing to Rob and Crissy, and be happy for what they have.
❤️🙏
Spoken like a true feminist
I have been with a Filipina for 7 years, She is a gold digger and the biggest liar I have ever met. I was stuck helping her ungrateful family. Not all Filipinas are like this. I just wound up with the wrong one. For me to take care of a woman with a child , she must be grateful. If I found the right girl I don't mind. I am currently not looking. It feels good to be single. If the right one arrives, maybe.
Be patient and you will find one that has never been married and has no children, in my opinion, you should completely avoid any and all single mothers
Gonna be brutally honest with you, because you need it, okay? Don't lash out at the messenger.
If you've been SEVEN years with what you consider a gold-digger, then you also need to reevaluate your fitness and mental maturity in regards to knowing how women operate in general, and especially to recognize a worthy partner.
If you just expect the next woman being better, instead of already *knowing* she is after three months of dating, then you will fail again and spent another seven years being a pushover.
Be better. Know your worth. Own your shit.
Danielle, sorry to hear about your experience but we appreciate you watching our video and taking time to share with others
🤔
@@Abelius I am not going to lash out. Just learned from my experience. I have my own property. I was involved in a relationship. We were going to get married. I wanted her to sign a prenup. I worked hard , I do not want her to keep my property. She cried , she refused to sign . The wedding was called off. What I learned is a valuable lesson. I do not take this as a bad experience. I take this as learning experience. In life we make mistakes learn from it , just don't repeat it. I told her all she wanted was my money. She then married another person with no prenup. after 5 years she divorced him and took everything.This could've been me. This taught me something. Protect your assets always. Learn life's lessons... so you don't repeat the same mistake.
I want to be with someone but I'm scared of not living long enough.
Im 65 years old now I love kids but at my age I don't know if I have the energy to help raise a kid.
I dated single moms here in West and been hurt.
Because you love the kids as well as the mom.
It hurts because you can't see the kids if it doesn't work out with the the mom😢
It’s definitely a gamble and there’s plenty of downside risk
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines Do you think a single mom would have me at 65 years old and I'm disabled?
@@hermanedwards1981 Sure - I think it’s worth a try
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines Even with my disability?
And heath problems?
@@hermanedwards1981 I am not familiar with the particular issues
My son's mom left us when my son was 16 months old and I raised him by myself. Drugs and alcohol were more important to her than our son and she left with another guy. Furthermore, she had 3 more kids. 2 she did the same thing left the child with the dad and 1 died from crack addiction. She finally found the right guy for her, a drug dealer.
Wow so sorry to hear that but thank you for watching our video and taking the time to share your experience
No matter where in the world you might be…avoid a myriad of troubles…there is a no benefit at all…responsibility without DO NOT MARRY A SINGLE MOTHER…
I politely disagree
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines Great. You are entitled to your opinion. I did express mine…politely but firm
Life is full of challenges. A relationship with a single mother is not without a bucket full of challenges, but a bucket full of blessings may also come with that relationship. It is good to know yourself and what your temperament and level of flexibility prior to entering a relationship with special challenges and blessings. Not everyone enjoys eating ice cream.
I concur with your perspective on single motherhood. I was raised by a stepfather who was an exceptional mentor. As a single man contemplating relocation to the Philippines with the intention of starting a family, I am particularly drawn to the idea of partnering with a woman who already has a child. I am fully committed to providing the necessary guidance and support to ensure the child's success and well-being. In fact, the prospect of raising a child as my own holds greater appeal to me than the notion of starting a family with a woman who does not have children.
Don’t Do it Don’t Do it
Thanks Ron for taking the time to share your thoughts. I agree with them.
In America (USA, Canada), many young couples prefer to have dogs instead of childs. We live in a strange world.
Interesting point
Chrissy you forgat Reason #6 . I was married to a filipina for 10 years . We had two beautiful daughters . Then out of nowhere she left me , because she fall in Love with a Filipino . So don't forget Reason #6 😅. It's not always the man's fault .
Thanks for sharing your story
Interesting. I'll look into this. I have a few single moms stalking me.
Thanks for watching Ken. Good luck.
I hope you talk Rob into having a little girl! 🙏🙏❤️❤️
Eric 😂
A Step Father, is not the same of having your own. I'm telling you from experience. You can say or think whatever you wish, it's your opinion. Switch it, for you being a Step Mother, is not the same. As a Mother or Father you sacrifice your life for them, not so if it's not.
Blood is thicker than water cheers
Thanks for watching and giving us your thoughts
Any healthy male can become a father.
However a dad shows emotion, listens, plays, educates, counsels, demonstrates positive male behavior and becomes a caregiver who raises a child with love, care and attention.
So true thanks for sharing and taking the time to write your comment
Why not have your own children, rather than adopt? I wonder if a lot of guys want an easy out if/when the time comes.
Nope I tried that twice won't ever do it again !!!!!
Thanks for sharing your experience
Love your Vlog
❤️🙏👍
Some people can afford a instant family. Me I can t. But I understand how hard it is to raise a family.
Yes, it takes resources Toby, commitment, and time
Hi, I am the man you talked about as being on the extreme end of having a relationship with a single, married mother of 5 children. Her husband abandon her and her 5 children 11 years ago and has never even visited his children or provided any support. For me the relationship was never a problem or challenge. For me if you love the woman, then you accept and love the children. I did and do. Now we have a 6 year old child of our own so we now have the 6 kids you reffered to. In our case the only problem is getting her single so we can get married. We are hopping the divorce law that passed the house of representatives will also pass the Senate and then be signed into law. Other wise we will have to wait on an annulment. I enjoyed your vlog.
Thanks for sharing your experience and the feedback
each man who fathers a child or this single mom circumstance are required to make a transition from being #1 to making the child’s future #1. & this is the same in all cultures, i think.
I was married before and have three children. We also had two labradors. I think I was number six on the pecking order.
Excellent video. Rob and I are from the same neighborhood in Scottsdale. You did very well here.
👋 Thanks 🙏
True love is true fruit... and being alone and rich is fruitless.
There's no UHaul trailer with all your valuables behind your coffin.
Very well, said Randall
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines I pray devine favor on your path too!
God is good.
Stay worthy, save as many as we can until we're called. Victory to Jesus!
Absolutely beautiful and accurate video.
My 2nd marriage was to single mom, 4 boys 8 thru 14 After all kids grew up and a few years she passed.
I’m now dating a Filipina widow (in USA) with one daughter 23 yrs old, oh yeah I’m 71 and she is 56 ❤❤
Such an interesting life history thanks for watching our video and taking the time to share your story
Nothing wrong with dating a single mom it’s a package deal you care for the child as your own and in my opinion your wife or girlfriend must realize that in my opinion you have a child you need to understand the that the children come 1st in the relationship your wife is 2nd and as the man your needs and wants now become last in all situations your family is 1st all ways and you can’t accept that don’t be in a relationship with children and if our cant b a man don’t even hav a child of your own with your partner.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts
I adore you so much for your hard life and you blessed you found Rob ..even you work long time on your videos.. I think he is not so easy as it looks, then he has his own plan of life golfing, playing cards…and you have as most important your son to take care off
Thanks for watching and taking time to share those thoughts
How can anyone NOT like this woman, shes a good person as well as very pretty. Good video.
❤️🙏👍
❤️🙏👍
Maybe if I am over 55 years old and single ..I would not mind getting in a relationship with a single mother... but my current view about single mothers is that for me, they might as well be men....I want nothing to do with them. Interesting video.
Martin, thanks for watching our channel and for providing feedback. Yes once you get older and you already have a family you might perceive single women with children differently.
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines I agree with you 💯
I am dating a married woman in the Philippines. When I first met, and as an American, I thought no problem if it works she can just get a divorce. Wrong. But I didn’t have a clue. The Philippines and the Vatican are the only two places where divorce doesn’t exist(maybe soon). If I had it to do over again I WOULD NOT DATE A MARRIED WOMAN. With that said I would date a single mom if she were unmarried or if she had an annulment.
Thanks, Papa Doug as always it’s great to see you here and thanks for sharing your thoughts
Excellent explanation, Chrissy. Yes, you are right... if you love your partner then must also love your partner's family, including children. So I long ago decided to marry a single Filipina mom. Probably with between 1-3 kids. I am a father to my own grown children, so I am confident in my ability as a father. Looking forward to your next episode, Chrissy.
Thanks dragon we love seeing you here and we appreciate that you take time to comment when you watch our videos. It really helps our channel.
The apostle Paul tells the Christians in Rome that we have been adopted by God. So, adoption can be an expression of God‘s heart. Yet, the natural parent must be ready to relinquish the appropriate authority in the household in order for the adoptive parent to fulfill his or her role. This is a practicality that must occur. When my father was abandoned by his natural parents, a young husband and wife, with no obligation toward my father, took him in and raised him through high school. At the time, these people did not consider that they were changing history for my father and his future children. Nor, I think, did they realize how much they were expressing the heart of God in this world. Rob and Chrissy, tend to your relationship with God just as you do toward each other. His love is everlasting.
🙏❤️
Chrissy, this was a very entertaining and informative video. However, I would like to challenge your assertion (at the 1:58 mark in the video) that these are unwanted babies. My belief is that all children are wanted but some are unexpected. It is very sad that in "Western Society" children are viewed as disposable. Both the biological father and the biological mother, too often, shirk their responsibility to the child (or future child). We need to change the narrative regardless of where we live in the world. Who cares whether a woman has prior children? As long as she is a quality woman that can join with her man to take the relationship to a higher level...who really cares! Currently, I contribute to the support of seven children in the Philippines. I am not the biological father of any of these children. I get the satisfaction of knowing that they don't have food anxieties. I get the satisfaction of knowing that they have shoes to wear to school. Two of the women have three children each. I won't go into my relationships with their mothers, but suffice to say, I had a lot of difficulty dealing with the anxiety of the mothers.... lol. So, Chrissy, I am not at all surprised as to why Rob loves you (with a child). It is in our DNA to be fathers.
We have received many wonderful comments. Yours is one of the most appreciated and interesting. Thank you so much for taking the time.
I would have no issues with raising another man's children because we're all God's children. They are in a situation that is out of their control. As long as the woman truly loves the man and isn't just in the relationship for financial reasons there's no difference to me.
Thanks for watching our video and taking the time to share your thoughts
No way!
🤔
👍 you did a great job😊
❤️🙏👍
What kind of a man what’s another man’s seed walking around his pad? 🤷♂️🙅♂️
🤔
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines Only men share their pot of gold to help raise another man’s seed 😊
Outstanding perspective! The appreciate you sharing! Peace ☮️
Michael, thanks for watching our video and taking the time to comment
I’m looking to become the husband of a single mom of a teenage boy. I’m in my 60’s and have raised three kids already. But I love my future wife, and part of that is loving her son too. And making sure he is raised well is something that will make my future wife and I closer.
Thanks for watching our channel and taking the time to provide this comment we enjoyed reading about your future plans and we agree. It’s an awesome opportunity for you.
If a man’s best friend can be his dog then loving a child that is not his own is natural. It may not be unconditional love that is biologically linked but can grow like a relationship with your partner. Gio in the Philippines sought after a single mom because he knew that most all Filipinas would not feel complete without a child. Most expats likely have children and maybe grandchildren in their home country and likely do want any more.
Thanks for watching our video Jim yes, I’m familiar with that and I agree
If supporting her extended Philippine family wasn't enough, are you also going to support six kids? No healthy alpha male would ever do this.
Thanks for watching our video and sharing your feedback
No real man identifies themselves as an Alpha male, so who cares about those people?
Your advice applies to dating ANYWHERE in the world. When I was single and living in the USA my dates felt like Job interviews. My dates were asking questions that I felt were a way to determine If I could support their kids. Many times their kids would ask me, "Will you be my daddy" YIKES! That is the first clue to NEVER date that woman EVER AGAIN. LOSE HER CONTACT INFO😅
Thanks for watching our channel and for sharing your thoughts
Date as defined in the west, yes. But I wouldn’t get into a relationship with one. It’s all downsides for men, zero benefit.
Her mistakes should not be my consequences.
Thanks for watching our video and taking time to share your thoughts
My GF and i have a BIG age gap. And i really wish she had a child. Not our case.
Thanks for sharing that
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines She makes happy. I wouldn't change anything. We have a 40 year gap.
I am 60 and My Filipina is 58 she has 3 adult sons who are wonderful and Now I have 5 grand childern. I am happy for this. I have no Kids.
Congratulations on putting your family together and thanks for watching and sharing your thoughts
If you could choose between a younger, hotter, tighter woman with another man’s children or one without the children, which would you choose if they were equally hot and tolerable?
Some of us have already had children and raised families and we know that a woman who says she’s OK not having children going forward may change her mind and that is something to be careful about
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines then on to the next.
By your reasoning, if a person can have unconditional love, and if love can be unlimited, if a person can love their ex-wife, their children, their own family and as you demanded as long as he doesn't love his neighbors wife or gf.
So then why can't he love another available women too, and still love you? If you can accept that truth, and you can show some level of unconditional love to the men so he can love another women, then surely the man can be even more motivated to have greater love, monetary provision for your children, and takes care of you financially and emotionally too.
Isn't that still true by your definition, or does unlimited love works only for a women's benefit and not the men too?
Also by extension, I want to also clarify, I do agree he can't love his neighbors women as that is covetousness, BUT unlikely as it may be (say the neighbor is gay or bisexual and is happy to see his wife and gf happy) he can also show unlimited love her too if he has the blessing of both the neighbor and his wife or gf.
So what's left is your blessing since you are reaping the benefit of unconditional love and unlimited love for your life and you son too, but do you allow your men to also have the same?
I know it's a hard truth to to accept, but a man who has more than 1 committed sexual partner, could he not love both unconditionally and unlimited no? So the only thing stopping that is a women who is selfish to not allow her loving man to have unlimited love in safety (she is committed to him too and only him, she is clean, she will not shame you by keeping it discrete and you too no trying to incite jealousy towards here, perhaps she is also a single mother, etc)
🤔
Any guy who has options will rather choose women without kids. It is the same as a woman with options will not usually go for a short broke guy, a woman's past matters to men as much as a man's future matters to the woman. ... And the world does not owe understanding. All this - this would take a "special man" is a big BS, a man who is special deserves something special and he will pick accordingly.
Some men already have children and grandchildren, and they see the world slightly different
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines True, but it is not the majority, rather a rare occurrence.
My best buddy is 51, expecting a child from his 19-year-old girlfriend, and they are both happy.
Not judging your situation though, best wishes.
I'm not raising someone's else's spawn. No way Hos'e
🤔
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines Nothing to think about for a male expat. Why raise a little Pinoy. Nobody comes here with that in mind
@FlyMeToThePhilippines 😄🫠😄😄😄😄 Good luck you MUG 🍺
Thank you
You're welcome
Love your story Krissie. 👍
Thank you! 😊
Wow, so manipulative. Rob got finessed
@@travisl9201 🤔
Don't do it guys. There are many Beautiful single Filipinas with no children.
Eduardo, your opinion is welcome here
Another PH vlogger claims that PH women respect deadbeat men who want them to do all the work, make the money, and raise the children. He says he sees it all the time. Would you mind doing a video on why so many women stay with a deadbeat guy in the PH? Love learning with you and Rob. Thanks!
Woman love deadbeat and bad boys around the world.
Hmm interesting thanks for the feedback and suggestion
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines Great channel. You two represent yourselves very well. I could see why Rob has so many consults, and how you help him. Thank you.
@@themacker894 🙏
I sought out a filipina with a daughter. I wanted a daughter so...... My daughter is now 21 and I adopted her. Life is good.
Jeff, thanks for sharing that and for watching our video
I have listened to you speak on this video very carefully. You seem to blame the man for everything except for death. You did not take any accountability nor did you hold women to be accountable for them being the possible reason as to why they are a single mom. Well, since you did not do it, I will. Yes, it’s true that sometimes men do not fulfill the promise that they had given to the woman, but there are times that the woman does not fulfill her promises either. Secondly, some women are unbearable to live with because they are argumentative, disrespectful, bossy, and wants to take charge in the relationship as though she is the man, etc. It’s OK to put some blame on the men, but let’s not only blame the men. Just the same as a woman should not stay in an abusive relationship with a man although she has made a lot of promises to stay in it, neither should a man stay in a relationship with a contentious woman
Thanks for watching our video and taking the time to carefully write out your thoughts and feedback
Unless her name is Chrissy!
❤️
An obvious answer that is not pointed out much : the man already has children and is old and doesn't want more children so marry a single mother rather than deprive a woman of children.
👍
Beautifully explained. Now I want to meet a filapina single mom. Thank you!
Thanks, James and good luck
I'm marrying a single mom in the Philippines soon👋🤓👍🇺🇸👨👩👧🇵🇭
gratz
Warren congratulations and best of luck going forward
How can you marry Rob if you are married?
The marriage was annulled
Sorry, l have 2 kids already & would be a hypocrite if l ruled out single moms. Just have to find the right one & l did 😁
@@aussiex0152 congratulations
If she was paying for your kids, then yes, otherwise you are not a hypocrite, since you're the only one paying.
Many single mom Filipinas are great partners. However, if I'm going to raise kids I prefer they be my kids. IMO a guy who agrees to raise another man's kids has a self-esteem issue. Why do you think you don't deserve your own kids?
There's also the issue of having no rights to those kids. You accept a single mom, spend months, years raising her kids, learn to love those kids and then something happens and the Filipina takes off with her kids. How is that going to feel losing kids you love. You don't have any right to ever see those kids again. And Filipina can use that power against you to get her way.
Single moms are very popular with a certain kind of foreign male. The type of male who will get online and send money to a Filipina he's never met. If he comes to PH he will use his money to buy love. This type of guy has extremely low self-esteem and can only feel secure if he's buying love. He feels his money makes up for his worthlessness. For this type of guy a single mom is perfect because he'll think she's forced to stay with him because of his money.
This is also why a huge percentage of guys going to PH have this type of low self-esteem. Women in poverty makes these males feel more secure. Single moms are the cherry on top.
I already have 3 grown kids and 6 grandkids. I resentfully agree to disagree. Thanks for watching
I don’t think love between you and Rob or your son is 50/50. Your son will always be the priority as your son is your blood. You could argue with Rob and the marriage could be over at any point for various reasons. But the relationship with your son will never break down no matter what he does.
Obviously a single mom taken on by a man is happy as she’s the beneficiary. But is the guy really happy 100% ? Definitely not if he wants his own kids. If he doesn’t then he has to go for a young single mom or an older single mom with grown up kids. He probably isn’t attracted to the older single mom so he’s chosen a younger one. His true desire is probably a young woman with no kids who doesn’t want any. But that kind of woman doesn’t really exist.
So his own refusal to have his own kids has pushed him into the situation he’s in. Fine if he’s ok with it.
Here, you're free to share your opinion David. Thank you for this insightful comment - Chrissy
👍
🙏
older, retired foreign men with a decent pension would take you into his life a hot second, Missy, because you're smart and lovely. Whether or not he'll marry you, support you, help you raise the kids, that's another story. EYE would, but I"m not a typical guy. I have taught karate and defensive "combat' shooting for over 40 years now. and I have 50k per year of pension, untaxed I've got 50k of gold scatter buried. So very little scares me.
Thirsty simp
Thanks for watching
Dont be the clean up guy bringing up another man,s seed that is gross and wrong .
Certainly not for the child. Mom's issues are one thing but the kid had nothing to do with it. Grow up.
🤔
Me thinketh the., talk and then we have.......the walk!@!??😉
🤔