Hi Rob! Another excellent video. You always give the best information about living in the Philippines. I have a beautiful 36 year old college educated nurse. She has never been married or had any children. She is absolutely crazy about me and I her. I am coming to the Philippines in December to spend the month and spend Christmas with her and her family. So I credit you and Chrissy with my success in finding him. Thanks! John
I'm 68 and my Filipina is 39 and we're living together in Cebu. I met her 2 years ago and she takes care of me and loves me like no one before. I feel so fortunate to have restarted my new life in the Philippines with a younger woman. My options in the West were just terrible!
Your's and just a very few other channels are my go to channels , not only for entertainment but for familiar insight. I can appreciate you both both both for same as well as individual reasons. Obviously, Crissy for her beauty. I'm no different than any other man in that we are visual creatures and Crissy is very attractive and stimulating to see. Best to both of you.
Great videos Rob, I’ve learned a ton thank you. I wanted to comment on the living arrangement you and the family now have. I personally grew up in Los Angeles but I was the odd duck that was in a 3 generational household, my maternal grandmother lived with us and helped raise me. I think that’s one of the greatest gifts I was given as a child to have her love and wisdom at my disposal. It helped make me the man I am today so good for you in seeing that and having Chrissy’s dad and wife live there with the 3 of you.
64/32 age gap. I'm living this lifestyle, and can tell you - do not hesitate - it's real - and can happen for you too. Chrissy is not unusual - there are thousands of pretty Filipina's just like her waiting for you.
Thank you Rob for this Video, now I have no fear on the Agent gap. I will be 60 in 4 days and next year I want to fly to the Philippines. Greetings from Germany
Chrissy is clearly genuine and sincere , intelligent and thoughtful of others, having endured through a difficult life women like her often understand and value what is important . Rob and Chrissy make a great couple.
Way to bring your A game Rob! As I sit ALONE in my mid-century modern hillside home overlooking LA-- working to tie things up for a January move to the Philippines-- I'm drinking the Kool-Aid brother! I'm chugging it. Your channel is like comfort food. I'm 63, never been 10 lbs overweight in my whole life and my first job in LA was a bartender at Chippendales. I look 50 and still can get the young ones from time to time but it's all smoke and mirrors lol. For the long term it's more like 45-55 and dealing with the issues we Western men all know and don't love. There's no coffee at Starbucks and a first date in Newport Beach is $250- $500+ easy. Mostly I am ready for a big change and an international adventure. I know you said 45-60 days out, but like someone else commented I'm lonely and joined PinaLove early. OMG! Four days in and I was ready to tap out. As soon as I log on I'm overwhelmed like a Zombie apocalypse. And I honestly can't comprehend the filters these girls use, it's like you said there will be that one picture that informs your decision. But the desperation? And the glimpses of poverty? At times it's like a gut punch knowing how easy I can change all that. Another big one is the lies-- I just don't do it and never have, so that's been a huge shock. I actually came to the conclusion of a sweet spot of 26-32 on my own, but you articulate it better. I would be open to a new family, but I had a vasectomy and don't think I want to go through all that and there's no guarantee of success. Then there's the Filipina having to work part-- yikes, I'm really not going to like sitting around alone when I can solve that as well-- something I know is a big no no and vow to resist. Today's sermon of patience and persistence couldn't have come at a better time for me. Thank you both for the love you put out in the world-- sincerely.
Robert, thank you for sharing such a well written post. Cris and I really enjoyed reading it and we wish you continued success on your journey. You’re on the right track and you have the right mindset.
Hey, keep going man I’m 64 not too far behind you. The thought of me going out with someone here in the US even close to my age doesn’t enter my mind because I’ve stayed in shape and well you know how it is here
Thanks Rob, best video yet. I’ve struggled for a long time with the age group of women i should look at and the single mom v single girl comparison. This really clarifies things and is a huge help.
No. No more father duty. Im retired. Never in a million years. I don't care to be the referee. I want calm. No more kids. Don't listen to this guy. You will be sorry. You are not a Spring chicken any more.
I love all your videos! One minor correction on your comment about social security though.... Children only get death benefits from social security until they are 18 unless they are in high school full time between 18 and 19. My dad died and I didn't get it when I was in college. Keep up the good work Rob and Krissy!!
They started phasing out post secondary education benefits with the phase out being complete by 1985. I graduated in '86 lol www.ssa.gov/history/studentbenefit.html
How old is too old in the Philippines is a bit difficult to answer since some think a 10-year age gap is too much, while others have no limit. Personally, I’m 40 years older than my wife, but good chemistry, love, and two children with promising futures here in Spain where we live make me not bother to philosophize about the age gap. If you have a wife with a good heart and honest intentions, it usually works out well, and the children make me feel young too. The age gap is a recurring topic on TH-cam channels in the Philippines, and it seems to concern foreigners far more than the locals.
Having first moved to the Philippines in 1961 at age 7, Rob is correct. I returned in my early 50's and met my wife who is 24 years my junior. Finding a wife is a contact sport, you have to make many contacts. The only advice I would like to add is becareful if the women is married. In the Philippines, living with a married women is ileagal. You can be arested, deported but most likely extorted. To get married to you, she will need a single certificate proving she can get married. Many filipinos do not get married but still have children from a previous relationship. If you get serious with a girl you may want her to get a singlle certificate to give you peace of mind. Enjoy the Journey
Thanks for posting a true and honest perspective on how to succeed in moving to the Philippines. I'm 65 and recently retired. For a few years, I've been watching expat videos and most of them portray the seedy side of things which I want to avoid if I take the plunge and go to the Philippines to live.
I see many expat in south Manila, and 90% of expat lady are same age., my wife is 16 years younger then me. And get those looks.i guess the big age gap is in the southen part of philippines, like cebu are Davao, my friends from England and Australia are in there late 60s and so are there wives, they married around 10 years ago. They ask why i get a wife that younger, i say, i never ask her age when i met her at church. I did know her age till we start talking about marriage about 18 months in our relationship.
My husband is 66. He did 60 push-ups and 12 pull-ups today. He can do a jump-spin hook kick over your head and break 3 cement blocks with his fist. He made the Olympic Trials in his main sport nearly half a century ago. When I met him he was doing wind sprints up the mountain by our place. I never saw anyone doing that before. He was just 49 then. I was a teenager. Married 16 wonderful years, two amazing boys. They were both admitted to college on full scholarships at age 13.
@@ElvisGarciaDeJesus-bl4cf I'm 36. The children are both in college on full scholarships, admitted at age 13 in what would have been 7th grade. We homeschooled. So I started working. It's hard to believe how much money I am making. The employers are frantic to hire foreigners because the American women are lazy, entitled, loud, fat, and incessantly insult our clients.
@@amylee6038 Yes American women or westernized women act like karens. They dont value men the way panays women do. There is not respect for men in general. Congratulations for the two scholarships to your kids. BTW, a 30 years age gap difference can be handled if the woman you married has family values and is God fearing.
Forty year age gap 69/29 living in Texas. Got married in Alfonso, Cavite in 2022. I returned to Philippines 2023 and lived there with my asawa in our province house for 7 months. It was a great chance to bond with her family. We left the Philippines and arrived in Texas December 2023. She now has a green card (received 120 day after arrival in the U.S.)
What you’re talking about is REAL love vs ROMANTIC love. Accepting each other as you are. Money is important but living within your means and being happy. The old fashioned love in PH culture is conducive to being happy for what you have , even though simple. Robert Johnson writes a couple of books about the psychology of men and women, it’s called HE and SHE , it’s describes why couples of any age get along and are happy.
Always good info- The issue is when your are in your 80’s and your gf is in her 40’s difficult to imagine how she will respond to your needed care! We all know men can look good in their 60’s. Also unless you married a Flipina and brought her to the 🇺🇸 you have limited perspective.
Thanks for clarifying the transactional equation between you both. With the added color of Rob’s true provider status- cash allowances, raising another man’s kid, in-laws as roommates, etc. - there is now more clarity to their dynamic . Which is great. For when you look deep under the hood, all relationships are a transactional exchange of value. Value = money, status, youth, beauty, etc, etc… Would it be reasonable for Rob to spend his days wondering if Chrissy and her fam would stick with him if his net worth and cash flow dropped to ZERO? Of course. But so what? Enjoy the ride. Would it be reasonable for Chrissy to wonder if Rob’s primary driver is her youth and beauty? Of course. But so what? Enjoy the ride. It’s a fair and balanced exchange of value,… so long as it remains in the Philippines. Cheers, 🍻
Columbus 7275 you are so cynical because you are afraid to do what others of us have done and made a change in our lives like most men like you can't believe. What Rob is really describing is an "old fashioned" relationship where the man is the provider and the woman is everything else. Those values no longer exist in the US - whatever - you can still find it in the Philippines. You can keep sitting in your easy chair and hollering at the TV or you can start living a better life - it's your choice.
Random thoughts: Ha ha ha! You just called me young! :-P It is nice to hear that a potential wife would be taken care of by SS if a Western man passes away while she/they still have kids. Thanks for this video, it will take me a while to get my affairs in order but I'm on a path and have set goals. My first visit will most likely just be as a tourist. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result; it is time to work towards a change.
hi Rob. good vid as usual. i will be in the Philippines in November. will i be able to rent a car or motorbike with my Michigan drivers license? or should i get an international drivers license here in Michigan before i go to the Philippines? thanks for all you do. Glenn
Thank you for all the great info Rob. The info about social security paying 75% for the first kid and 50% for the second child a retiree has or adopts after reaching full retirement age is fantastic and referenced on the social security website. I would definitely choose this option in six years at age 67 if I can but there's one detail that has to be researched further first...I also read somewhere there's a 5 year residency in the US residency requirement for the child/children to qualify. If true, we would have to risk westernizing our filapina at least 5years to gain this fantastic benefit for the child. Please let me know if you know more info about this. Thanks so much!
So refreshing to hear that one's relations with a filipina's family are not always about "helping her familly" but also her familly helping your couple or new nuclear family.
In the USA I date 24-35 and I’m 54. I am the anomaly as I have no issues finding woman to dating in the USA. I am retiring next year and moving to the Philippines, I am not moving for woman I am moving for better quality of life, less stress, to live a healthier lifestyle and to travel Asia.
You give me hope that my current LDR will work. I’m 67 and the single mom (32 in November withone teenage son) will work. I hope so. Thanks for your encouraging words.
Hi Rob, I really appreciate your analysis and breakdown of everything. If you were simply looking to date the absolute youngest person you can find, keep in mind, you are definitely playing with Fire. Do that too much, and you can burn the house down and lose everything. I would think as with everything a good balance is very important. Not too young …not too old.
Still can't believe that you are 68! You look great, I'm 61 and you look better! Lol. Chrissy is definitely in the top 20% of women, my wife is filipina as well so I'm being objective here. Your video states the age gap issue perfectly. My wife is my age and I love it, but 38 years is no problem if you manage it the way you went over. Really good job!
There is another factor more lmportant than chronological age that is ur fittness and general health. A man in he is seventies with no ailments is definitely fitter and more active than a man in his forties with congestive heart failure or advace diabetes.Age sometomes may be just a number but not always.
I am Filipina, a single mom. I love older man .😊.. i just want a relationship that is no lies,no secrets, be transparent and communication is the key. Trustworthy for both sides
Rob i was in a long term relationship with a mexican American woman. Lived on the border all here family when they came over witch was often would speak Spanish. I often felt disconnected in my own home. How or you coping with this? Our was thi just a me problem?
The local language is 15% Spanish and 15% English. I speak Spanish so I have some comfort level and I’m learning especially with a five-year-old in the house. I’ve started to learn the language.
It would be nice to have statistics about how many of these age gap relationships work out vs the total. Because on some TH-cam channels they say the failure rate is quite high.
Age gap acceptance varies and depends on many factors but in my opinion, the main age gap factor is the lady's age. As the woman's age is higher, the Age gap factor beocmes less relevant. If i had to guess woman's age should be 30 min and man's age 60 max. But again, it all depends on them and the factors in play.
Good advice. I’ve purchased a business class tix and secured a long stay rate from Marriott (Titanium Elite Lifetime.) Will be in Cebu December 1 - May 30, 2025. How do you recommend would I connect with ExPat community in Cebu?
Go to Bo’s coffee at the fancy Ayala mall - weekdays around 1pm or 10am not sure. Join Facebook Group- search expats in cebu city - ask question on fb group Philippines Expats
If you know of anyone looking for a life partner, I knew some. But the men you have to share the info must be good & responsible; no drunkards, gamblers, wife beaters, womanizers. Got a god daughter taking care of her mom; niece in law working as accountant in the Visayas; my only surviving sister; a widowed friend; widowed niece in law with grown up children ( 5 boys all married )& 2 daughters in high school.
I do believe it includes adoption and I think you could easily have a child become a US citizen if they were your own genetic offspring or if you were adopted, but this subject has created a lot of subscriber comments many subscribers are more knowledgeable about this subject and it some point I need to get an expert on discuss it
Love to see you two working together on the YT project. Congratulations on a successful life. Her family is in a much better place thanks to you. You're done well. :)
After 4 year's of experience with Filipina women, i think it's all about the money here. Like you said one of thier options are to get online fimd a foreign man that she will get into a committed relationship with, or play foreign men for fools and make up all the stories under the sun, like only a Filipina woman can with thier vivid imaginations . My experience after being in Philippines twice they are not interested in meeting foreigners . Good information and well said
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines my overall experience with Filipina women has destroyed me . I will stay on my own for the rest of my life. I have never experienced so much disapoimment as what women from Philippines has done to me . I can't handle the lies anymore, i thought this was supposed to be a Christian country.
One question though, you mentioned going for a college educated girl so I assume you mean college and above to degree and masters degree ? Also does that mean avoiding all high school educated girls? Or is it more important that they have a job and good level of job ? Do I go for a teacher or nurse or an office girl ? What about low level jobs like washing clothes and production jobs or working in shops ? It seems if she earns less my bill increases but at some level she has enough money and doesn’t need me anyway.
When starting a search, it’s always good to have a target. It doesn’t mean you have to stick to your target you can deviate and if you meet a girl who has a job or even a girl who doesn’t have a job, but she has all the other characteristics you’re looking for you can make an exception certainly an educated woman is gonna provide you with better companionship And possibly better decision-making, but here in the Philippines people have been prevented from going onto a good education because of lack of funds and you’ll find them to be quite intelligent so you have to keep an open mind
Hi Rob. We addressed this the other day so it feels like you are talking to me. I am middle 70s and concerned I missed the boat. Back on track for end of year search visit. Thanks again. You're the best.
This is a very true video in the correct light. Anyone reading please continue to read. Instead of me praising and saying this is a wonderful and helpful video I will say that it is true only with a foreigner. 30 or even 40 years age gap if you are a foreigner as the glue that holds it apart is MONEY. You even say it here in this video. Parents move in, child is in a private school, if a baby sitter or house maid is needed it is all taken care of at the expense of the MAN, foreigner paying for it. No one ever, ever sees an elderly WOMAN married to a 30 years or 40 years younger man. Wake up guys. This is just old men wanting to believe this is true that a young 25 or 30 year old loves them. This is the only couple I have seen that has the woman in most the videos. Most women have their own channel and use their body as a lure to get more views. I have seen on this channel at the end of some videos some very slight such. I assume in a year it will be like any other channel with her having her own channel and hardly ever being on this one and a lot of "skin" for views. Let' see how it plays out. I know this, no 20 or 30 year old man watching this video would ever,,,,, or could ever,,,, fall in love with a 60, 65, 70 year old woman and marry the old woman no matter what. It is ALL about the man and his money. If it is a tradition that the children pay for and keep up their parents then why is it that NO child pays for and keeps up a foreigner and his wife when they reach the age of 18 years old? They never do. It all falls on the foreign man, NEVER a foreign woman, to keep up the entire family and no one ever returns the favor. The old man foreigner dies and the family either lives off what he left them or they move on and find another foreign man to drain their money and continue the cycle.
Is Chrissy’s mom still in the picture? Love your channel…I’m the same as you my girlfriend is 30 and I’m your age and fit like you….I land in Cebu from Michigan September 3rd….
I've met a Filipina 5 yrs ago, I've been shot down by her more times than a Chinese Spy Balloon, I plan on retiring to Talisay in 2 yrs she has never asked for money, she is college educated and never married with no children, she is extremely picky so I feel somewhat optimistic I've thought of if we marry she'd be entitled to survivor benefits and if we had a child planning their future but I thought she would need to live here in the US before she became eligible for my benefits when I pass could you clarify
It’s quite complicated and there’s no government website that lays it out in a clear and easily understandable way two or three other subscribers have written in offering more context and more explanation on the subject rather than me attempting here to rephrase that it would be better if you read through some of the other comments in particular Did a very good explanation Benefits you can get benefits you can get for survivor benefits woman can get if she works in the United States for 10 years so possibly in the future will do an entire video on it
A very good video about the age gap relationships. I am 74, living in Texas, and coming to Iloilo in November to live. I'm single but am not looking for a partner at this moment. I'm not sure if I want to be in a relationship again, and my plan is to move there, get acclimated to the weather, figure out my budget, and just relax. As far as age gap, I have no desire to hook up with a young Filipina in her 20's mainly because she needs to get that young mentality out of her before I even think of dating. My thoughts, at my age, find a young Filipina of 40+, if with kids, they are not young children. I really don't want to get remarried but would consider living together as if we were married. Is this something a Filipina would consider or is marriage the only avenue they have. My son told me not to go online looking for any Filipina's but to wait until I get my boots on the ground and settled into my condo for a while. He's worried I'll be taken advantage of, mainly due to my soft heart. I've already drained my savings over the years taking care of my brother with medical bills, paying off his bad debts, helping my son with housing for him and his family, etc. All I have left is about $15000 USD when I get there. I'm keeping my medicare active for now, not sure about the future yet. My budget will be $1500 per month to start.
Living together (in the Philippines they call that: live-in partner) becomes more accepted but most people frown upon that scenario. Dont forget: the majority of the PH population is Christian/Catholic. Although PH youngsters do have pre-marital sex (without using contraceptives) and often leading to a pregnancy. Sex-ed is basically unknown there. They still believe that god will take care of everything. "Bahala na"
I am not at 2500 but will be over 2000. I have already decided Eastwood City is where I want to live. Everything I could need is close. I also have VA benefits and hope to use it as much as possible for medical, and get added coverage for major needs. I would be there now if I had any retirement savings. I am still working and drawing Social Security so I can put larger amounts into a 401k. What would you consider a minimum amount of emergency funds I would need to have before the move?
I do block women that ask for money. When a woman asks me for money it's usually within the first week or so. I had one recently ask me for money for a 🍕 pizza that costs $65, obviously a scam bcuz that's an expensive pizza and she asked for it the 2nd day I met her.
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines I am not at 2500 but will be over 2000. I have already decided Eastwood City is where I want to live. Everything I could need is close. I also have VA benefits and hope to use it as much as possible for medical, and get added coverage for major needs. I would be there now if I had any retirement savings. I am still working and drawing Social Security so I can put larger amounts into a 401k. What would you consider a minimum amount of emergency funds I would need to have before the move?
@@bobby75044 1. Understand that the VA in Manila is only there for service-related injuries, not for general care. 2. Eastwood City is a more expensive place to live in the Philippines, so you might need $3,200 per month. 3. Every person is different for emergency funds, but for a single man, I would suggest at least $20,000 is the minimum amount you want to have. Maybe a bit less to start, but building up to that by age 70. A single serious operation with some hospitalization in the Philippines can set you back $5,000.
@@bobby75044 Please be aware that Manila VA will ONLY treat rated service connected disabilities... Please do more research on your healthcare needs in the Philippines
I am a veteran, I Heard the is a US VETERANS HOSPITAL SOMEWHERE in the Philippines Is that true?? I have PTSD, and on compensation for the rest of my days, I think free hospital at the Veterans Hospital.....?????
## Veterans Memorial Medical Center The **Veterans Memorial Medical Center** (formerly known as **Veterans Memorial Hospital**) is a hospital located in Quezon City, Metro Manila, Philippines. It was established in 1955 with full assistance from the U.S. government under the U.S. Veterans Administration to provide quality hospitalization, medical care and treatment to Filipino veterans[5]. The hospital originally treated patients who suffered from service-connected disabilities arising from their service with the USAFFE, recognized guerrilla units, Philippine Scouts, and Philippine Commonwealth Army. This was later extended to include Armed Forces of the Philippines (AFP) retirees and their dependents[5]. The 55-hectare land was originally intended to be the location of the new Malacañang Palace in the original masterplan of Quezon City in 1939[5]. ## Manila VA Outpatient Clinic The **Manila VA Outpatient Clinic** is the only VA health care facility located in a foreign country. It is situated on U.S. Embassy property in Pasay City, Metro Manila[6][9]. U.S. Veterans residing in or visiting the Philippines may receive care and services for a service-connected disability at the Manila VA Outpatient Clinic. It provides limited inpatient and non-VA care, which is provided through the Foreign Medical Program[6]. The Manila VA Outpatient Clinic is currently providing limited in-person medical appointments, with a focus on completing specialty care services. Most primary care and mental health services are provided via telephone appointments[6]. Sources [1] Veterans Memorial Medical Center google.com/maps/?ll=14.656118%2C121.040056&q=Veterans+Memorial+Medical+Center&z=15 [2] Veteran Affairs Medical Clinic www.va.gov/directory/guide/facility.asp?ID=682 [3] Philippine Veterans Affairs Office - Field Service Office Cagayan de Oro City pvao.gov.ph [4] VA Manila Regional Office benefits.va.gov/manila/ [5] Veterans Memorial Medical Center - Wikipedia en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Veterans_Memorial_Medical_Center [6] Manila VA Clinic - VA Sierra Pacific Network (VISN 21) www.visn21.va.gov/locations/manila.asp [7] Retired Activities Office (RAO) Subic Bay, Philippines www.raosubic.com/raodepartment.html [8] Veterans Memorial Medical Center - LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/company/veterans-memorial-medical-center [9] Philippines - Locations - VA.gov www.va.gov/directory/guide/state.asp?STATE=PI&dnum=ALL [10] U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs - U.S. Embassy in the Philippines ph.usembassy.gov/u-s-department-of-veterans-affairs/ [11] VETERANS HOSPITALIZATION & MEDICAL CARE PROGRAM | PVAO pvao.gov.ph/veterans-hospitalization-medical-care-program/ [12] Veterans Accredited Hospitals | PVAO pvao.gov.ph/non-pension-benefits/veterans-accredited-hospitals/
Hi Rob, You probably won’t read this much less respond as l appreciate you get lots of comments. I am 67. I have given up on my ability to find a western woman and if l want to, l’de have to scrape the barrel. Feeling worthless and past my used by date. It’s simply lonely. I am very healthy, fit and have no vices. I am financially very sound and despite all this, l am feeling like there Is little hope. I keep busy in a full time professional job, play sports and have some close friends. That’s what keeps me going. I have a stoic mindset and trust god. On the outside l am smiling and hold a good conversation but l am imploding inside. I have 2 grown up kids who are married- we are close but they have to live their own lives. I get that. For me to say all this is difficult as l am a private person but l just wanted to get it off my chest for the first time. I am 100% the real deal. I watch lots of TH-camrs on the Philippines and hear all the good and the BAD. Don’t know who or what to believe!!!!anymore. There are so many scammers out. I am just STUCK. I envy you Rob but l am honestly happy for you. Bless you.
@@geoffb5813 Geoff B. I appreciate your choosing to share here on this videos comments in response to my recent video. It is not easy! Let me know how I can help
How old is too old. So long as you are happy, were happy. Go for it. it was your choice. you know that she's young why did you pick her. so, just enjoy your partner.
She will only be able to draw your social security benefits for her and the children if she is residing in the United States or she has already obtained her US Citizenship. Once she has obtained her US Citizenship she can return to the Philippines and recieve your social security benefits
OR - your kids in the PH can draw - even if they've never lived in the US. You could have kids at 70 - die at 71 - and each kid would receive 50% SSI until their 18th birthday.
@@tg213 any child born to a US citizen either in the US or abroad is a naturalized US citizen at birth. Therefore as citizen children of a social security recipient - they qualify for the benefit regardless of the country they lived in.
You know I love your and Chrissy’s channel, but a few things in this video didn’t sit right. Most of the video was spot on, but here are a few things I would challenge: 1. You talked about “Leftover” women. That concept holds in lots of places, especially in Asia, but it’s actually predominately considered to be 27 not 32. Is Chrissy a “Leftover,” hell no! She is a charming, beautiful, hardworking, and smart woman. Why talk about it at all? My wife was 37 when we started dating. She is charming, beautiful, hardworking, and smart, just like Chrissy, except she was 6-7 years older. I just don’t see the need to put everything into boxes, and I believe it's unnecessary and even harmful to do so. 2. You have this focus on a sweet spot age range (That varies with the age of them somewhat). Why let men figure it out for themselves? They may find an amazing woman who is in her early 40s or even 50s, which would be perfect for them. The same thing about whether she has children or the number of children. Talking about the implications of whether she has kids or can have kids makes sense, but why define for men whether they should date a woman with one child but not two? Again boxes. 3. The whole discussion of social security benefits if a US citizen really deserves its own video, or two, or three because it's some simple stuff, but with brutal consequences if you count on it or get it wrong. The easy thing is to point viewers to the SSA site. For families, it's www.ssa.gov/family, and the other relevant one for families is www.ssa.gov/survivor, which both spell out in easy-to-understand language what the rules are. For example- Spouses MAY be eligible if married for at least one year and caring for a child 15 and younger or a child of any age with a disability. For the children themselves, it stops at age 17, unless they are still in K-12 education. Also, It’s any age for children who have a disability. Beyond this, the SSA defines eligibility as your genetic children, and they say stepchildren, adopted children, grandchildren, and step-grandchildren MAY be eligible. So, it's not a blanket benefit to age 22, as you said in the video. There is an additional set of rules for “Survivors,” in which case your spouse and children may be eligible for benefits if you die. Your wife, though, needs to be 60 years old typically. Then the third category is spousal retirement benefits, but with the big caveat that your wife must have lived in the USA for five years. As I said, this stuff potentially benefits our families when living abroad, but it’s complicated. As always, thank you for all the hard work you and Chrissy do, putting these together.
Hi Paul, thanks for your feedback in terms of having a target. It’s always good to aim for something. It doesn’t mean that you can’t have exceptions to rules and you won’t be quality people who don’t fit exactly in what you were targeting. You could meet a wonderful woman without an education you could meet a woman with an education who’s not a wonderful woman in terms of the Social Security benefits you’re exactly right. It is crazy complicated and I need to find an expert or someone like yourself who really really understands all the opportunities and options, especially when it comes to children, maybe make a video on that
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines not me. I have learned a lot, but am far from an expert. Folks take everything you say as Gospel so it has to be 100% accurate when it comes to this stuff.
It is not true women who are past 30 are left overs. It’s just that they haven’t found the right soul mate for them & some busy building their career or taking care of aged parents.
I was born in the Phils. during the silent generation; I’ve heard about this when I was growing up in Manila; once you reached age 30 you are considered old maid; but nowadays people are marrying late.
Sorry Rob. I disagree. The acceptable age difference is the man's age divided by 2 + 7 years. Thus for a 68 year old man it would be a 41 year old Filipina. In my case I thought it was an exageration for me at 70 to date a 42 year old. I looked and found a wonderful Filipina in her mid 50's. Also, if you intend to get a visa for your partner one day - most countries will not approve a gap of more than 15 or 20 years. I do understand the fun of having a 30 year old on your arm and I wish you both well. You guys seen to have a good relationship and chemistry however most 70 + year old men would not be able to relate to a girl in her 30's.
And there are plenty of people, especially in the West, that will disagree with your acceptable age-gap formula. Fortunately we all get to choose for ourselves.
I disagree with your disagreement. There is *_no formula_* for age gapiosis. It comes down to personality compatibility. It's wrong of you to age discriminate young women based upon your Western World experience. And to say you'd rather make love to a 50 year old woman - rather than a 25 year old woman - is completely stupid and totally pious.
The acceptable age to who ?. Sorry, finding the ideal partner shouldn’t be dating by numbers. I think your formula is flawed at best, unnecessarily restrictive at worst.
@@TravellingMan20 It isn't my formula. I am not the author of it. It comes from what the Filipinos see as appropriate. To each his own. If a 70 year old man wants to date a 20 year old and it is consensual than all is well
Great video as always Rob. As someone also in a large age gap relationship, I feel that age difference in relationships is given too much significance. The high divorce rate in Western countries, where people typically marry someone within a few years of their own age, tends to disprove that idea. I’m closer to my young Filipina than I have been with any of my Western women of similar age. It’s never too late to start enjoying your life.
@snbi7959 even if he marries the wrong woman and runs out of money that is his mistake. No woman can make you run out of money if you don't let her do it
This is an interesting video. However, you need to check what you say about Social Security. In the Philippines, only US citizens can receive SS. I am not sure about how it might work for a child unless the child is your biological child. I am not sure about adoption. But a spouse is not eligible unless she or he is a US citizen. That's true with my Filipina wife. Check out the accuracy of your claim.
You preach it better than I do. I've been telling guys here for years about all the topics you covered. Few believe. I married a Filipina 17 years ago. It lasted better than most marriages in USA. I would do it again, but this time, move myself to the Philippines. Real worth in this world is health. Real food, exercise and sunshine, and you will need no medicines.
You cannot be sure of that. When you reach 75 then tell us again about your experience. If she’s a GOD fearing woman I’ll believe you. Only few were able to find a true gem Filipina. Before you jump into marriage you have to observe her in all aspects of her personality. If the Filipina is fond of buy me this or buy me that, never marry her coz she’s a very materialistic woman. What if the time comes that you don’t have money anymore? The possibility of being dumped by her is 100%. Choose a woman who will love you and stay with you through thick and thin no matter what. Most of all you pray and ask GOD’s guidance if that Filipina is right for you otherwise a sign that you’re not fit for each other.if possible learn their language so you won’t easily be fooled by her/family.
Fortunately each person and their partner get choose for themselves what the acceptable age-gap is. Go where you're treated best and valued most. Then add to that a very affordable lifestyle and Visa, English speaking, and tropical islands and weather. Even the brain-dead can figure that one out cause it's a no-brain'r. Peace and Love, B Goat
@@davidtoro4218 Fortunately establishing the appropriate boundaries is also Fully in control of the Expat (and finding a partner that accepts those boundaries). In order for Romantic Relationships to be functional and succeed the relationship must be to the benefit of both partners. All romantic relationships are transactional Worldwide.Thanks for the well wishes... the more work a person puts in the less luck one needs to succeed. I've put in the work and stand strong in my masculine frame of abundance. Peace and Love, B Goat
I love your videos Rob, you and Chrissy. I have to say though, I have an odd feeling about your story this time. I kind of get the feeling you want live in services instead of family, the way you describe your relationship with CJ and Chrissy's father/wife. You are his stepfather now, it doesn't surprise me that at first you treated him like he was your son. But this newer sort of hands off approach feels off. I get that maybe that is their culture but it just feels funky to me, no offense intended.
I appreciate the positive feedback and except your comment. Perhaps the fact that he doesn’t speak English completely but just partially might moderate your viewpoint.
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Hi Rob! Another excellent video. You always give the best information about living in the Philippines. I have a beautiful 36 year old college educated nurse. She has never been married or had any children. She is absolutely crazy about me and I her. I am coming to the Philippines in December to spend the month and spend Christmas with her and her family. So I credit you and Chrissy with my success in finding him. Thanks! John
Thanks John. So happy to hear this. I really enjoyed speaking with you and getting to know you. Keep me updated on WhatsApp
Can you really live good on 700 US dollars a month?
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I'm 68 and my Filipina is 39 and we're living together in Cebu. I met her 2 years ago and she takes care of me and loves me like no one before. I feel so fortunate to have restarted my new life in the Philippines with a younger woman. My options in the West were just terrible!
Thanks, Real Gary for watching our channel and sharing your success story we hope it inspires many
Your's and just a very few other channels are my go to channels , not only for entertainment but for familiar insight. I can appreciate you both both both for same as well as individual reasons.
Obviously, Crissy for her beauty. I'm no different than any other man in that we are visual creatures and Crissy is very attractive and stimulating to see.
Best to both of you.
Old age not Problems F..... Woman's have mostly one Boyfriend between .....🎉🎉😂😂😂
@@SirLosiloss 🤔 not sure I understand what you’re saying
I truly appreciate your advive
Great videos Rob, I’ve learned a ton thank you. I wanted to comment on the living arrangement you and the family now have. I personally grew up in Los Angeles but I was the odd duck that was in a 3 generational household, my maternal grandmother lived with us and helped raise me. I think that’s one of the greatest gifts I was given as a child to have her love and wisdom at my disposal. It helped make me the man I am today so good for you in seeing that and having Chrissy’s dad and wife live there with the 3 of you.
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I am in Thailand.
My partner and I have been together for 9 years.
I am eighty and she is 33.
I wish others all the best
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Thanks Les
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64/32 age gap. I'm living this lifestyle, and can tell you - do not hesitate - it's real - and can happen for you too. Chrissy is not unusual - there are thousands of pretty Filipina's just like her waiting for you.
Thanks for contributing that comment Murray
The situation described seems to improve both lives - love and companionship 👌
_( When Mom was in hospital Phillipine nurses were the best )_
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Thank you Rob for this Video, now I have no fear on the Agent gap.
I will be 60 in 4 days and next year I want to fly to the Philippines. Greetings from Germany
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It's not about the age.. Age is just a number annd everyone deserves to love and be loved. Wishing you may find the love of your life..
Chrissy is clearly genuine and sincere , intelligent and thoughtful of others,
having endured through a difficult life women like her often understand and value what is important . Rob and Chrissy make a great couple.
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Way to bring your A game Rob! As I sit ALONE in my mid-century modern hillside home overlooking LA-- working to tie things up for a January move to the Philippines-- I'm drinking the Kool-Aid brother! I'm chugging it. Your channel is like comfort food. I'm 63, never been 10 lbs overweight in my whole life and my first job in LA was a bartender at Chippendales. I look 50 and still can get the young ones from time to time but it's all smoke and mirrors lol. For the long term it's more like 45-55 and dealing with the issues we Western men all know and don't love. There's no coffee at Starbucks and a first date in Newport Beach is $250- $500+ easy. Mostly I am ready for a big change and an international adventure. I know you said 45-60 days out, but like someone else commented I'm lonely and joined PinaLove early. OMG! Four days in and I was ready to tap out. As soon as I log on I'm overwhelmed like a Zombie apocalypse. And I honestly can't comprehend the filters these girls use, it's like you said there will be that one picture that informs your decision. But the desperation? And the glimpses of poverty? At times it's like a gut punch knowing how easy I can change all that. Another big one is the lies-- I just don't do it and never have, so that's been a huge shock. I actually came to the conclusion of a sweet spot of 26-32 on my own, but you articulate it better. I would be open to a new family, but I had a vasectomy and don't think I want to go through all that and there's no guarantee of success. Then there's the Filipina having to work part-- yikes, I'm really not going to like sitting around alone when I can solve that as well-- something I know is a big no no and vow to resist. Today's sermon of patience and persistence couldn't have come at a better time for me. Thank you both for the love you put out in the world-- sincerely.
Robert, thank you for sharing such a well written post. Cris and I really enjoyed reading it and we wish you continued success on your journey. You’re on the right track and you have the right mindset.
Hey, keep going man
I’m 64 not too far behind you.
The thought of me going out with someone here in the US even close to my age doesn’t enter my mind because I’ve stayed in shape and well you know how it is here
Thanks for watching our video and thanks for writing and sharing
Thanks Rob, best video yet. I’ve struggled for a long time with the age group of women i should look at and the single mom v single girl comparison. This really clarifies things and is a huge help.
👍 thanks for the positive feedback
No. No more father duty. Im retired. Never in a million years. I don't care to be the referee. I want calm. No more kids. Don't listen to this guy. You will be sorry. You are not a Spring chicken any more.
Thanks for watching our channel and expressing your opinion. By the way, my name is Rob.
I love all your videos!
One minor correction on your comment about social security though.... Children only get death benefits from social security until they are 18 unless they are in high school full time between 18 and 19.
My dad died and I didn't get it when I was in college.
Keep up the good work Rob and Krissy!!
www.ssa.gov/pubs/EN-05-10085.pdf
Thanks, Paul for watching our channel and for contributing to make it better
They started phasing out post secondary education benefits with the phase out being complete by 1985. I graduated in '86 lol
www.ssa.gov/history/studentbenefit.html
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How old is too old in the Philippines is a bit difficult to answer since some think a 10-year age gap is too much, while others have no limit. Personally, I’m 40 years older than my wife, but good chemistry, love, and two children with promising futures here in Spain where we live make me not bother to philosophize about the age gap. If you have a wife with a good heart and honest intentions, it usually works out well, and the children make me feel young too. The age gap is a recurring topic on TH-cam channels in the Philippines, and it seems to concern foreigners far more than the locals.
Thanks for sharing that good feedback
Having first moved to the Philippines in 1961 at age 7, Rob is correct. I returned in my early 50's and met my wife who is 24 years my junior. Finding a wife is a contact sport, you have to make many contacts. The only advice I would like to add is becareful if the women is married. In the Philippines, living with a married women is ileagal. You can be arested, deported but most likely extorted. To get married to you, she will need a single certificate proving she can get married. Many filipinos do not get married but still have children from a previous relationship. If you get serious with a girl you may want her to get a singlle certificate to give you peace of mind. Enjoy the Journey
CENOMAR from psa.com cost around eight US dollars
Thanks for posting a true and honest perspective on how to succeed in moving to the Philippines.
I'm 65 and recently retired. For a few years, I've been watching expat videos and most of them portray the seedy side of things which I want to avoid if I take the plunge and go to the Philippines to live.
You can do it!
It's 90% normal in the right place - 10% seedy if that's what you want. You determine your life - not others.
I see many expat in south Manila, and 90% of expat lady are same age., my wife is 16 years younger then me. And get those looks.i guess the big age gap is in the southen part of philippines, like cebu are Davao, my friends from England and Australia are in there late 60s and so are there wives, they married around 10 years ago. They ask why i get a wife that younger, i say, i never ask her age when i met her at church. I did know her age till we start talking about marriage about 18 months in our relationship.
Thanks for sharing your observations and experiences and for watching our channel
21:52 This is an important part! Thanks for saying it!
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12:15 is something I'll have to think about down the line with ss. Overall thanks for the video, this was a lot of information to think about!
Hi William, thanks for the comment
My husband is 66. He did 60 push-ups and 12 pull-ups today. He can do a jump-spin hook kick over your head and break 3 cement blocks with his fist. He made the Olympic Trials in his main sport nearly half a century ago.
When I met him he was doing wind sprints up the mountain by our place. I never saw anyone doing that before. He was just 49 then. I was a teenager. Married 16 wonderful years, two amazing boys. They were both admitted to college on full scholarships at age 13.
Awesome
And how old are you na Amy?
@@ElvisGarciaDeJesus-bl4cf I'm 36. The children are both in college on full scholarships, admitted at age 13 in what would have been 7th grade. We homeschooled. So I started working.
It's hard to believe how much money I am making. The employers are frantic to hire foreigners because the American women are lazy, entitled, loud, fat, and incessantly insult our clients.
@@amylee6038 Yes American women or westernized women act like karens. They dont value men the way panays women do. There is not respect for men in general. Congratulations for the two scholarships to your kids. BTW, a 30 years age gap difference can be handled if the woman you married has family values and is God fearing.
Forty year age gap 69/29 living in Texas. Got married in Alfonso, Cavite in 2022. I returned to Philippines 2023 and lived there with my asawa in our province house for 7 months. It was a great chance to bond with her family. We left the Philippines and arrived in Texas December 2023. She now has a green card (received 120 day after arrival in the U.S.)
That’s great to hear Emmanuel. Thanks for sharing your story.
What you’re talking about is REAL love vs ROMANTIC love. Accepting each other as you are. Money is important but living within your means and being happy. The old fashioned love in PH culture is conducive to being happy for what you have , even though simple.
Robert Johnson writes a couple of books about the psychology of men and women, it’s called HE and SHE , it’s describes why couples of any age get along and are happy.
Mark, thanks for providing this great commentary
Hi Rob & Chrissy,
Ooh, that’s a great, but tough one, 🤔???
👋 hi Pete great to see you here
Always good info- The issue is when your are in your 80’s and your gf is in her 40’s difficult to imagine how she will respond to your needed care! We all know men can look good in their 60’s. Also unless you married a Flipina and brought her to the 🇺🇸 you have limited perspective.
Yes, that’s why we try and interview Expats who have brought Filipina back to the United States to share that experience from other points of view
Thanks!
🙏❤️👍 thank you so much, Joeseph
Thanks for clarifying the transactional equation between you both. With the added color of Rob’s true provider status- cash allowances, raising another man’s kid, in-laws as roommates, etc. - there is now more clarity to their dynamic .
Which is great. For when you look deep under the hood, all relationships are a transactional exchange of value. Value = money, status, youth, beauty, etc, etc…
Would it be reasonable for Rob to spend his days wondering if Chrissy and her fam would stick with him if his net worth and cash flow dropped to ZERO? Of course. But so what? Enjoy the ride.
Would it be reasonable for Chrissy to wonder if Rob’s primary driver is her youth and beauty? Of course. But so what? Enjoy the ride.
It’s a fair and balanced exchange of value,… so long as it remains in the Philippines.
Cheers, 🍻
Cheers
Columbus 7275 you are so cynical because you are afraid to do what others of us have done and made a change in our lives like most men like you can't believe. What Rob is really describing is an "old fashioned" relationship where the man is the provider and the woman is everything else. Those values no longer exist in the US - whatever - you can still find it in the Philippines. You can keep sitting in your easy chair and hollering at the TV or you can start living a better life - it's your choice.
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The 3 P's. Philippines, Patience and Persistence.
Sounds like solid strategy.
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Shalom Rob as usual a good video.
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Random thoughts: Ha ha ha! You just called me young! :-P It is nice to hear that a potential wife would be taken care of by SS if a Western man passes away while she/they still have kids. Thanks for this video, it will take me a while to get my affairs in order but I'm on a path and have set goals. My first visit will most likely just be as a tourist. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result; it is time to work towards a change.
Fingers crossed!
hi Rob. good vid as usual. i will be in the Philippines in November. will i be able to rent a car or motorbike with my Michigan drivers license? or should i get an international drivers license here in Michigan before i go to the Philippines? thanks for all you do. Glenn
@@glenn9057 90 days no problem then ph license needed
Best inclusive presentation I’ve heard. Good job.
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Thank you for all the great info Rob. The info about social security paying 75% for the first kid and 50% for the second child a retiree has or adopts after reaching full retirement age is fantastic and referenced on the social security website. I would definitely choose this option in six years at age 67 if I can but there's one detail that has to be researched further first...I also read somewhere there's a 5 year residency in the US residency requirement for the child/children to qualify. If true, we would have to risk westernizing our filapina at least 5years to gain this fantastic benefit for the child. Please let me know if you know more info about this. Thanks so much!
There are a lot of really good comments about this subject. I think I need to get an expert and do a complete video on this.
So refreshing to hear that one's relations with a filipina's family are not always about "helping her familly" but also her familly helping your couple or new nuclear family.
🙏❤️👍 Thanks Jean
Great video . . . thank you. I live in AZ also.
Thanks for watching!
In the USA I date 24-35 and I’m 54. I am the anomaly as I have no issues finding woman to dating in the USA. I am retiring next year and moving to the Philippines, I am not moving for woman I am moving for better quality of life, less stress, to live a healthier lifestyle and to travel Asia.
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You give me hope that my current LDR will work. I’m 67 and the single mom (32 in November withone teenage son) will work. I hope so. Thanks for your encouraging words.
Thanks for the positive feedback and thanks for sharing. I wish you the best of luck.
Once again great video lots of useful information , thank you.
Once again, thank you for your consistent support. We really appreciate your feedback.
Hi Rob, I really appreciate your analysis and breakdown of everything. If you were simply looking to date the absolute youngest person you can find, keep in mind, you are definitely playing with Fire. Do that too much, and you can burn the house down and lose everything. I would think as with everything a good balance is very important. Not too young …not too old.
Well said
Thanks Rob for making great videos that inform well. Cheers!
Still can't believe that you are 68! You look great, I'm 61 and you look better! Lol. Chrissy is definitely in the top 20% of women, my wife is filipina as well so I'm being objective here. Your video states the age gap issue perfectly. My wife is my age and I love it, but 38 years is no problem if you manage it the way you went over. Really good job!
Thanks for sharing your experience and thanks for the kind words
There is another factor more lmportant than chronological age that is ur fittness and general health. A man in he is seventies with no ailments is definitely fitter and more active than a man in his forties with congestive heart failure or advace diabetes.Age sometomes may be just a number but not always.
Good point
I am Filipina, a single mom. I love older man .😊.. i just want a relationship that is no lies,no secrets, be transparent and communication is the key. Trustworthy for both sides
Thanks for watching our video and taking time to comment. Wish you the best of luck in your future.
So nice to hear this
How old are you and whether you have children?
@@debnatheto4387 I am already 41 and yeqh I have 1 kid. I am currently working here in hongkong😊
@@FlyMeToThePhilippinesMy pleasure. Thank you so much. Likewise😊
You guys make great videos! So interesting. Please keep up the good work!
Thank you! Will do!
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Well researched and presented. Keep up the good work you both are doing. Extremely great content. 🎉
Thank you! Will do! Art
Rob i was in a long term relationship with a mexican American woman. Lived on the border all here family when they came over witch was often would speak Spanish. I often felt disconnected in my own home. How or you coping with this? Our was thi just a me problem?
The local language is 15% Spanish and 15% English. I speak Spanish so I have some comfort level and I’m learning especially with a five-year-old in the house. I’ve started to learn the language.
It would be nice to have statistics about how many of these age gap relationships work out vs the total. Because on some TH-cam channels they say the failure rate is quite high.
It would be interesting. Failure rate in traditional marriage is high add age gap and different cultures and it can be challenging
You're always insightful with your information
Thank you so much Timothy for your positive feedback. We certainly appreciate it.
Age gap acceptance varies and depends on many factors but in my opinion, the main age gap factor is the lady's age. As the woman's age is higher, the Age gap factor beocmes less relevant.
If i had to guess woman's age should be 30 min and man's age 60 max.
But again, it all depends on them and the factors in play.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this Trent
Good advice. I’ve purchased a business class tix and secured a long stay rate from Marriott (Titanium Elite Lifetime.) Will be in Cebu December 1 - May 30, 2025. How do you recommend would I connect with ExPat community in Cebu?
Go to Bo’s coffee at the fancy Ayala mall - weekdays around 1pm or 10am not sure. Join Facebook Group- search expats in cebu city - ask question on fb group Philippines Expats
🙏🙏🙏 Give Chrissy a baby girl! ❤❤❤ This would make your marriage and her life complete! 🙏🙏❤️❤️ Love your channel Rob!
Or boy, or maybe none. Yes, I get the vibe that Chrissy probably wants a child with Rob, but it's their business and not ours. Right?
Thanks, Eric
Im 41 and fiance is 65. Im happy in the relationship
Congratulations
If you know of anyone looking for a life partner, I knew some. But the men you have to share the info must be good & responsible; no drunkards, gamblers, wife beaters, womanizers. Got a god daughter taking care of her mom; niece in law working as accountant in the Visayas; my only surviving sister; a widowed friend; widowed niece in law with grown up children ( 5 boys all married )& 2 daughters in high school.
What do you think of telling philippina I am 10 years younger than my actual age? I'm 66 and say I;m 56..seems to make a big difference..
I think lying to be going a relationship is not a good way to meet someone and it’s not necessary since she will be a Filipina
You're the best!! Thank you.
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SSi ? Does that include Adoption, and does the child need to be a US citizen?
I do believe it includes adoption and I think you could easily have a child become a US citizen if they were your own genetic offspring or if you were adopted, but this subject has created a lot of subscriber comments many subscribers are more knowledgeable about this subject and it some point I need to get an expert on discuss it
Love to see you two working together on the YT project. Congratulations on a successful life. Her family is in a much better place thanks to you. You're done well. :)
Thanks so much! 😊
After 4 year's of experience with Filipina women, i think it's all about the money here. Like you said one of thier options are to get online fimd a foreign man that she will get into a committed relationship with, or play foreign men for fools and make up all the stories under the sun, like only a Filipina woman can with thier vivid imaginations . My experience after being in Philippines twice they are not interested in meeting foreigners .
Good information and well said
Thanks for sharing your experience and your thoughts
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines my overall experience with Filipina women has destroyed me . I will stay on my own for the rest of my life. I have never experienced so much disapoimment as what women from Philippines has done to me . I can't handle the lies anymore, i thought this was supposed to be a Christian country.
One question though, you mentioned going for a college educated girl so I assume you mean college and above to degree and masters degree ? Also does that mean avoiding all high school educated girls?
Or is it more important that they have a job and good level of job ? Do I go for a teacher or nurse or an office girl ? What about low level jobs like washing clothes and production jobs or working in shops ? It seems if she earns less my bill increases but at some level she has enough money and doesn’t need me anyway.
When starting a search, it’s always good to have a target. It doesn’t mean you have to stick to your target you can deviate and if you meet a girl who has a job or even a girl who doesn’t have a job, but she has all the other characteristics you’re looking for you can make an exception certainly an educated woman is gonna provide you with better companionship And possibly better decision-making, but here in the Philippines people have been prevented from going onto a good education because of lack of funds and you’ll find them to be quite intelligent so you have to keep an open mind
Hi Rob. We addressed this the other day so it feels like you are talking to me. I am middle 70s and concerned I missed the boat. Back on track for end of year search visit. Thanks again. You're the best.
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You haven’t missed the boat, trust me. I’m living proof of that.
Wow! You were selling it today Rob. Thumbs up!
Thanks, Clint
This is a very true video in the correct light. Anyone reading please continue to read. Instead of me praising and saying this is a wonderful and helpful video I will say that it is true only with a foreigner. 30 or even 40 years age gap if you are a foreigner as the glue that holds it apart is MONEY. You even say it here in this video. Parents move in, child is in a private school, if a baby sitter or house maid is needed it is all taken care of at the expense of the MAN, foreigner paying for it. No one ever, ever sees an elderly WOMAN married to a 30 years or 40 years younger man. Wake up guys. This is just old men wanting to believe this is true that a young 25 or 30 year old loves them. This is the only couple I have seen that has the woman in most the videos. Most women have their own channel and use their body as a lure to get more views. I have seen on this channel at the end of some videos some very slight such. I assume in a year it will be like any other channel with her having her own channel and hardly ever being on this one and a lot of "skin" for views. Let' see how it plays out. I know this, no 20 or 30 year old man watching this video would ever,,,,, or could ever,,,, fall in love with a 60, 65, 70 year old woman and marry the old woman no matter what. It is ALL about the man and his money. If it is a tradition that the children pay for and keep up their parents then why is it that NO child pays for and keeps up a foreigner and his wife when they reach the age of 18 years old? They never do. It all falls on the foreign man, NEVER a foreign woman, to keep up the entire family and no one ever returns the favor. The old man foreigner dies and the family either lives off what he left them or they move on and find another foreign man to drain their money and continue the cycle.
I don’t know where to begin to respond to this comment I guess I’ll just say thanks for watching our video and sharing your views
Is Chrissy’s mom still in the picture? Love your channel…I’m the same as you my girlfriend is 30 and I’m your age and fit like you….I land in Cebu from Michigan September 3rd….
Yes she is. Congratulations- safe travels, thanks for sharing
what matters is the cohesiveness of the couple. Too much emphasis on age gap is lost in others opinion that adds doubt
Thanks for the comment Albert
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I've met a Filipina 5 yrs ago, I've been shot down by her more times than a Chinese Spy Balloon, I plan on retiring to Talisay in 2 yrs she has never asked for money, she is college educated and never married with no children, she is extremely picky so I feel somewhat optimistic I've thought of if we marry she'd be entitled to survivor benefits and if we had a child planning their future but I thought she would need to live here in the US before she became eligible for my benefits when I pass could you clarify
It’s quite complicated and there’s no government website that lays it out in a clear and easily understandable way two or three other subscribers have written in offering more context and more explanation on the subject rather than me attempting here to rephrase that it would be better if you read through some of the other comments in particular Did a very good explanation Benefits you can get benefits you can get for survivor benefits woman can get if she works in the United States for 10 years so possibly in the future will do an entire video on it
A very good video about the age gap relationships. I am 74, living in Texas, and coming to Iloilo in November to live. I'm single but am not looking for a partner at this moment. I'm not sure if I want to be in a relationship again, and my plan is to move there, get acclimated to the weather, figure out my budget, and just relax. As far as age gap, I have no desire to hook up with a young Filipina in her 20's mainly because she needs to get that young mentality out of her before I even think of dating. My thoughts, at my age, find a young Filipina of 40+, if with kids, they are not young children. I really don't want to get remarried but would consider living together as if we were married. Is this something a Filipina would consider or is marriage the only avenue they have. My son told me not to go online looking for any Filipina's but to wait until I get my boots on the ground and settled into my condo for a while. He's worried I'll be taken advantage of, mainly due to my soft heart. I've already drained my savings over the years taking care of my brother with medical bills, paying off his bad debts, helping my son with housing for him and his family, etc. All I have left is about $15000 USD when I get there. I'm keeping my medicare active for now, not sure about the future yet. My budget will be $1500 per month to start.
Living together (in the Philippines they call that: live-in partner) becomes more accepted but most people frown upon that scenario. Dont forget: the majority of the PH population is Christian/Catholic. Although PH youngsters do have pre-marital sex (without using contraceptives) and often leading to a pregnancy. Sex-ed is basically unknown there. They still believe that god will take care of everything. "Bahala na"
Living together should not be a problem
I am not at 2500 but will be over 2000. I have already decided Eastwood City is where I want to live. Everything I could need is close. I also have VA benefits and hope to use it as much as possible for medical, and get added coverage for major needs. I would be there now if I had any retirement savings. I am still working and drawing Social Security so I can put larger amounts into a 401k. What would you consider a minimum amount of emergency funds I would need to have before the move?
$20k
I do block women that ask for money. When a woman asks me for money it's usually within the first week or so. I had one recently ask me for money for a 🍕 pizza that costs $65, obviously a scam bcuz that's an expensive pizza and she asked for it the 2nd day I met her.
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What is considered the minimum to be considered "well resourced" for a man in his upper 60's?
2500 per month
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines I am not at 2500 but will be over 2000. I have already decided Eastwood City is where I want to live. Everything I could need is close. I also have VA benefits and hope to use it as much as possible for medical, and get added coverage for major needs. I would be there now if I had any retirement savings. I am still working and drawing Social Security so I can put larger amounts into a 401k. What would you consider a minimum amount of emergency funds I would need to have before the move?
@@bobby75044 1. Understand that the VA in Manila is only there for service-related injuries, not for general care. 2. Eastwood City is a more expensive place to live in the Philippines, so you might need $3,200 per month. 3. Every person is different for emergency funds, but for a single man, I would suggest at least $20,000 is the minimum amount you want to have. Maybe a bit less to start, but building up to that by age 70. A single serious operation with some hospitalization in the Philippines can set you back $5,000.
@@bobby75044 Please be aware that Manila VA will ONLY treat rated service connected disabilities...
Please do more research on your healthcare needs in the Philippines
I am a veteran, I Heard the is a US VETERANS HOSPITAL SOMEWHERE in the Philippines Is that true?? I have PTSD, and on compensation for the rest of my days, I think free hospital at the Veterans Hospital.....?????
## Veterans Memorial Medical Center
The **Veterans Memorial Medical Center** (formerly known as **Veterans Memorial Hospital**) is a hospital located in Quezon City, Metro Manila, Philippines. It was established in 1955 with full assistance from the U.S. government under the U.S. Veterans Administration to provide quality hospitalization, medical care and treatment to Filipino veterans[5].
The hospital originally treated patients who suffered from service-connected disabilities arising from their service with the USAFFE, recognized guerrilla units, Philippine Scouts, and Philippine Commonwealth Army. This was later extended to include Armed Forces of the Philippines (AFP) retirees and their dependents[5].
The 55-hectare land was originally intended to be the location of the new Malacañang Palace in the original masterplan of Quezon City in 1939[5].
## Manila VA Outpatient Clinic
The **Manila VA Outpatient Clinic** is the only VA health care facility located in a foreign country. It is situated on U.S. Embassy property in Pasay City, Metro Manila[6][9].
U.S. Veterans residing in or visiting the Philippines may receive care and services for a service-connected disability at the Manila VA Outpatient Clinic. It provides limited inpatient and non-VA care, which is provided through the Foreign Medical Program[6].
The Manila VA Outpatient Clinic is currently providing limited in-person medical appointments, with a focus on completing specialty care services. Most primary care and mental health services are provided via telephone appointments[6].
Sources
[1] Veterans Memorial Medical Center google.com/maps/?ll=14.656118%2C121.040056&q=Veterans+Memorial+Medical+Center&z=15
[2] Veteran Affairs Medical Clinic www.va.gov/directory/guide/facility.asp?ID=682
[3] Philippine Veterans Affairs Office - Field Service Office Cagayan de Oro City pvao.gov.ph
[4] VA Manila Regional Office benefits.va.gov/manila/
[5] Veterans Memorial Medical Center - Wikipedia en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Veterans_Memorial_Medical_Center
[6] Manila VA Clinic - VA Sierra Pacific Network (VISN 21) www.visn21.va.gov/locations/manila.asp
[7] Retired Activities Office (RAO) Subic Bay, Philippines www.raosubic.com/raodepartment.html
[8] Veterans Memorial Medical Center - LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/company/veterans-memorial-medical-center
[9] Philippines - Locations - VA.gov www.va.gov/directory/guide/state.asp?STATE=PI&dnum=ALL
[10] U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs - U.S. Embassy in the Philippines ph.usembassy.gov/u-s-department-of-veterans-affairs/
[11] VETERANS HOSPITALIZATION & MEDICAL CARE PROGRAM | PVAO pvao.gov.ph/veterans-hospitalization-medical-care-program/
[12] Veterans Accredited Hospitals | PVAO pvao.gov.ph/non-pension-benefits/veterans-accredited-hospitals/
I’m 54 and my Filipina is 53, she looks like in her 20’s, they don’t age especially if you take good care of your wife.
Thanks for sharing that Rick
Hi Rob,
You probably won’t read this much less respond as l appreciate you get lots of comments.
I am 67. I have given up on my ability to find a western woman and if l want to, l’de have to scrape the barrel. Feeling worthless and past my used by date. It’s simply lonely. I am very healthy, fit and have no vices. I am financially very sound and despite all this, l am feeling like there Is little hope. I keep busy in a full time professional job, play sports and have some close friends. That’s what keeps me going. I have a stoic mindset and trust god. On the outside l am smiling and hold a good conversation but l am imploding inside.
I have 2 grown up kids who are married- we are close but they have to live their own lives. I get that.
For me to say all this is difficult as l am a private person but l just wanted to get it off my chest for the first time. I am 100% the real deal. I watch lots of TH-camrs on the Philippines and hear all the good and the BAD. Don’t know who or what to believe!!!!anymore. There are so many scammers out.
I am just STUCK.
I envy you Rob but l am honestly happy for you.
Bless you.
@@geoffb5813 Geoff B. I appreciate your choosing to share here on this videos comments in response to my recent video. It is not easy! Let me know how I can help
Well my lady is a nymphomaniac, so I don't have to worry about boring old cardio anymore. 😆
A perfect world
wow. USA has a good wicket ! in AU nothing like that . after age 67 we get about 300 usd per week until death . see ya.
Thanks for sharing
Good tip is: if ur old enough to be her father, ur prob too old for her. Younger than ur kids too.
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How old is too old. So long as you are happy, were happy. Go for it. it was your choice. you know that she's young why did you pick her. so, just enjoy your partner.
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She will only be able to draw your social security benefits for her and the children if she is residing in the United States or she has already obtained her US Citizenship. Once she has obtained her US Citizenship she can return to the Philippines and recieve your social security benefits
Yes agree
OR - your kids in the PH can draw - even if they've never lived in the US. You could have kids at 70 - die at 71 - and each kid would receive 50% SSI until their 18th birthday.
The children can if they are US CITIZENS or if they are US residents for 5 years. Being child of US citizen is not enough by itself.
@@tg213 any child born to a US citizen either in the US or abroad is a naturalized US citizen at birth. Therefore as citizen children of a social security recipient - they qualify for the benefit regardless of the country they lived in.
You know I love your and Chrissy’s channel, but a few things in this video didn’t sit right. Most of the video was spot on, but here are a few things I would challenge:
1. You talked about “Leftover” women. That concept holds in lots of places, especially in Asia, but it’s actually predominately considered to be 27 not 32. Is Chrissy a “Leftover,” hell no! She is a charming, beautiful, hardworking, and smart woman. Why talk about it at all? My wife was 37 when we started dating. She is charming, beautiful, hardworking, and smart, just like Chrissy, except she was 6-7 years older. I just don’t see the need to put everything into boxes, and I believe it's unnecessary and even harmful to do so.
2. You have this focus on a sweet spot age range (That varies with the age of them somewhat). Why let men figure it out for themselves? They may find an amazing woman who is in her early 40s or even 50s, which would be perfect for them. The same thing about whether she has children or the number of children. Talking about the implications of whether she has kids or can have kids makes sense, but why define for men whether they should date a woman with one child but not two? Again boxes.
3. The whole discussion of social security benefits if a US citizen really deserves its own video, or two, or three because it's some simple stuff, but with brutal consequences if you count on it or get it wrong. The easy thing is to point viewers to the SSA site. For families, it's www.ssa.gov/family, and the other relevant one for families is www.ssa.gov/survivor, which both spell out in easy-to-understand language what the rules are. For example- Spouses MAY be eligible if married for at least one year and caring for a child 15 and younger or a child of any age with a disability. For the children themselves, it stops at age 17, unless they are still in K-12 education. Also, It’s any age for children who have a disability. Beyond this, the SSA defines eligibility as your genetic children, and they say stepchildren, adopted children, grandchildren, and step-grandchildren MAY be eligible. So, it's not a blanket benefit to age 22, as you said in the video. There is an additional set of rules for “Survivors,” in which case your spouse and children may be eligible for benefits if you die. Your wife, though, needs to be 60 years old typically. Then the third category is spousal retirement benefits, but with the big caveat that your wife must have lived in the USA for five years. As I said, this stuff potentially benefits our families when living abroad, but it’s complicated.
As always, thank you for all the hard work you and Chrissy do, putting these together.
Hi Paul, thanks for your feedback in terms of having a target. It’s always good to aim for something. It doesn’t mean that you can’t have exceptions to rules and you won’t be quality people who don’t fit exactly in what you were targeting. You could meet a wonderful woman without an education you could meet a woman with an education who’s not a wonderful woman in terms of the Social Security benefits you’re exactly right. It is crazy complicated and I need to find an expert or someone like yourself who really really understands all the opportunities and options, especially when it comes to children, maybe make a video on that
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines not me. I have learned a lot, but am far from an expert. Folks take everything you say as Gospel so it has to be 100% accurate when it comes to this stuff.
It is not true women who are past 30 are left overs. It’s just that they haven’t found the right soul mate for them & some busy building their career or taking care of aged parents.
@@dedibearde I agree
I was born in the Phils. during the silent generation; I’ve heard about this when I was growing up in Manila; once you reached age 30 you are considered old maid; but nowadays people are marrying late.
I think 80 is old in the Phillipines.
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@@FlyMeToThePhilippines Being 80 years old in the Phillipines is perfect for a woman who is 60+. She will age with you and will take care of you.
What dating service would you recommend?
Filipina Cupid
Sorry Rob. I disagree. The acceptable age difference is the man's age divided by 2 + 7 years. Thus for a 68 year old man it would be a 41 year old Filipina.
In my case I thought it was an exageration for me at 70 to date a 42 year old. I looked and found a wonderful Filipina in her mid 50's. Also, if you intend to get a visa for your partner one day - most countries will not approve a gap of more than 15 or 20 years. I do understand the fun of having a 30 year old on your arm and I wish you both well. You guys seen to have a good relationship and chemistry however most 70 + year old men would not be able to relate to a girl in her 30's.
Thanks for watching our channel and taking the time to express your thoughts
And there are plenty of people, especially in the West, that will disagree with your acceptable age-gap formula. Fortunately we all get to choose for ourselves.
I disagree with your disagreement. There is *_no formula_* for age gapiosis. It comes down to personality compatibility. It's wrong of you to age discriminate young women based upon your Western World experience. And to say you'd rather make love to a 50 year old woman - rather than a 25 year old woman - is completely stupid and totally pious.
The acceptable age to who ?. Sorry, finding the ideal partner shouldn’t be dating by numbers. I think your formula is flawed at best, unnecessarily restrictive at worst.
@@TravellingMan20 It isn't my formula. I am not the author of it. It comes from what the Filipinos see as appropriate. To each his own. If a 70 year old man wants to date a 20 year old and it is consensual than all is well
Great video as always Rob. As someone also in a large age gap relationship, I feel that age difference in relationships is given too much significance. The high divorce rate in Western countries, where people typically marry someone within a few years of their own age, tends to disprove that idea. I’m closer to my young Filipina than I have been with any of my Western women of similar age. It’s never too late to start enjoying your life.
Well said
How could I contact you to help me in getting to the Philippines?
Email me flymetothephilippines@gmail.com
Awesome man. You are an inspiration. I think you should write a book, but you will be hated by 100% of the western women, lol.
Wow, thanks
You do look great for 68
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I told my philippina hottie that when this “earthsuit” kicks the bucket- make sure that for the next guy that he signs your pre-nup:)
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How old is too old...once the money runs out that is when age will matter...
If money is the reason you’re together, you chose the wrong woman. If you run out of money, you’re doing it wrong. Both issues fall squarely on you.
I’d like the other guys response
@snbi7959 even if he marries the wrong woman and runs out of money that is his mistake. No woman can make you run out of money if you don't let her do it
This is an interesting video. However, you need to check what you say about Social Security. In the Philippines, only US citizens can receive SS. I am not sure about how it might work for a child unless the child is your biological child. I am not sure about adoption. But a spouse is not eligible unless she or he is a US citizen. That's true with my Filipina wife. Check out the accuracy of your claim.
Others have written and added to this discussion and yes it needs clarification
You preach it better than I do. I've been telling guys here for years about all the topics you covered. Few believe. I married a Filipina 17 years ago. It lasted better than most marriages in USA. I would do it again, but this time, move myself to the Philippines. Real worth in this world is health. Real food, exercise and sunshine, and you will need no medicines.
❤️👍 Thanks for the share Kieth
You cannot be sure of that. When you reach 75 then tell us again about your experience. If she’s a GOD fearing woman I’ll believe you. Only few were able to find a true gem Filipina. Before you jump into marriage you have to observe her in all aspects of her personality. If the Filipina is fond of buy me this or buy me that, never marry her coz she’s a very materialistic woman. What if the time comes that you don’t have money anymore? The possibility of being dumped by her is 100%. Choose a woman who will love you and stay with you through thick and thin no matter what. Most of all you pray and ask GOD’s guidance if that Filipina is right for you otherwise a sign that you’re not fit for each other.if possible learn their language so you won’t easily be fooled by her/family.
Ok. We have lived together for 15 months. She has inly shopped at Thrift stores for clothes even though I offer.
I am one of those men who keeps sending ..
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Fortunately each person and their partner get choose for themselves what the acceptable age-gap is. Go where you're treated best and valued most. Then add to that a very affordable lifestyle and Visa, English speaking, and tropical islands and weather. Even the brain-dead can figure that one out cause it's a no-brain'r. Peace and Love, B Goat
🙏❤️👍 Truth to power B 🐐
@@davidtoro4218 Fortunately establishing the appropriate boundaries is also Fully in control of the Expat (and finding a partner that accepts those boundaries). In order for Romantic Relationships to be functional and succeed the relationship must be to the benefit of both partners. All romantic relationships are transactional Worldwide.Thanks for the well wishes... the more work a person puts in the less luck one needs to succeed. I've put in the work and stand strong in my masculine frame of abundance. Peace and Love, B Goat
I love your videos Rob, you and Chrissy. I have to say though, I have an odd feeling about your story this time. I kind of get the feeling you want live in services instead of family, the way you describe your relationship with CJ and Chrissy's father/wife. You are his stepfather now, it doesn't surprise me that at first you treated him like he was your son. But this newer sort of hands off approach feels off. I get that maybe that is their culture but it just feels funky to me, no offense intended.
I appreciate the positive feedback and except your comment. Perhaps the fact that he doesn’t speak English completely but just partially might moderate your viewpoint.
Sold! Sold! Sold! Stop already. 😅
Never sell through the close 🤓
haha. Rob does make a compelling case, doesn't he? Or is it seeing Chrissy? Heck, it's both.
Lolo and kids??😮😮hmmmm ehat a....f
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I'm in the background. Just call me the bank.
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I think it would be quite difficult to find a good woman like your wife who doesn’t have any children and isn’t married!
I agree that’s why I think a willingness to accept one child as I did is still a sweet spot and worth, including in your search parameters
Need to compromise on accepting the 1 kid considering the age gap.
Do you miss Scottsdale at all? That's where I live.
I miss my kids and my grandchildren
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines how often do you fly back or do they come see you