Lovely video. Really helpful channel with regards to my recovery journey, always professional and straight to the point. Thank you and keep em coming :)
Accepting social anxiety is the way to go. Accepting is not ignoring. When we realize that social anxiety is part of Complex Trauma - then we no longer try to control the anxiety. When we try to control anxiety - we will develop neurosis and PureOCD issues, root of OCD is trying to control anxiety. When we identify that behind anxiety are toxic people and trauma - we can take steps to heal those areas. We can cut contact with toxic people whom we have no connections - immediately. We can plan to leave toxic job instead of rationalizing it by large sums of money that we would spend on impressing people who do not care about us anyways. When we realize that social anxiety stand for effect of being exposed to long term narcissistic abuse, We can learn how to handle manage narcissistic abuse. We can learn how to recognize red flags and listen to our social anxiety as form of red flag, Darwin evolution mechanism that allow us to detect fake and dangerous people. I see social anxiety as ability to sniff out dangerous people. What we need to learn is to evaluate the danger- similar to Covid levels of danger. We simply need to learn how to deal with danger without drama, avoidance, in proper and healthy and functional manner. Carl Rogers said: “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself, just as I am, then I can change.”
I'm most impacted by social anxiety in the area of employment and dating. While I am grateful, I'm working a job that I don't enjoy and causes my anxiety to be on 10. In the area of dating, I'm 41 years old and have never been in a relationship. I've never left home and have always lived with my parents. I feel so hopeless and depressed that I'll never get married or have children. What's even worse is the fact that other people feel "bad" for me too and they think I don't want to do these things because they don't understand I can't because of S.A.D. I sometimes think I would've been netted off of I had a physical impairment rather than a mental impairment. At least it would something that people can actually "see" and not something that's in my mind. It's soooooo unfair!!! Why did God make me this way??? I just want to be normal. I don't want to be like this but I feel I have no hope of overcoming it and will be this way for the rest of my life.
First, it's very generous of you to share your story here, Chris. I know social anxiety feels incredibly isolating, and there are, in fact, so many people who are having a similar experience. They will appreciate seeing what you've shared. The intensity of the fear of judgement is something that many, many people just cannot grasp. So, I definitely hear you when you wonder "why me?" If I move forward with the community I'm planning, I do hope you'll consider joining. If for no other reason, I'll be doing 1:1 calls to kick things off, and we'd be able to talk about your experiences and some best next steps. Thank you for being here, watching, and being open.
@@DrTynessaFranks Thank you so much for bringing light to social anxiety and offering help to people like myself. I greatly appreciate. I'm on board to join whenever you start the program.
In what area of life does social anxiety impact you the most?
Lovely video. Really helpful channel with regards to my recovery journey, always professional and straight to the point. Thank you and keep em coming :)
Ahhh, this means so much. I appreciate you watching and leaving this feedback. 🤗
Accepting social anxiety is the way to go.
Accepting is not ignoring.
When we realize that social anxiety is part of Complex Trauma - then we no longer try to control the anxiety.
When we try to control anxiety - we will develop neurosis and PureOCD issues, root of OCD is trying to control anxiety.
When we identify that behind anxiety are toxic people and trauma - we can take steps to heal those areas.
We can cut contact with toxic people whom we have no connections - immediately.
We can plan to leave toxic job instead of rationalizing it by large sums of money that we would spend on impressing people who do not care about us anyways.
When we realize that social anxiety stand for effect of being exposed to long term narcissistic abuse,
We can learn how to handle manage narcissistic abuse. We can learn how to recognize red flags and listen to our social anxiety as form of red flag, Darwin evolution mechanism that allow us to detect fake and dangerous people.
I see social anxiety as ability to sniff out dangerous people.
What we need to learn is to evaluate the danger- similar to Covid levels of danger.
We simply need to learn how to deal with danger without drama, avoidance, in proper and healthy and functional manner.
Carl Rogers said: “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself, just as I am, then I can change.”
I'm most impacted by social anxiety in the area of employment and dating. While I am grateful, I'm working a job that I don't enjoy and causes my anxiety to be on 10. In the area of dating, I'm 41 years old and have never been in a relationship. I've never left home and have always lived with my parents. I feel so hopeless and depressed that I'll never get married or have children. What's even worse is the fact that other people feel "bad" for me too and they think I don't want to do these things because they don't understand I can't because of S.A.D. I sometimes think I would've been netted off of I had a physical impairment rather than a mental impairment. At least it would something that people can actually "see" and not something that's in my mind. It's soooooo unfair!!! Why did God make me this way??? I just want to be normal. I don't want to be like this but I feel I have no hope of overcoming it and will be this way for the rest of my life.
First, it's very generous of you to share your story here, Chris. I know social anxiety feels incredibly isolating, and there are, in fact, so many people who are having a similar experience. They will appreciate seeing what you've shared.
The intensity of the fear of judgement is something that many, many people just cannot grasp. So, I definitely hear you when you wonder "why me?"
If I move forward with the community I'm planning, I do hope you'll consider joining. If for no other reason, I'll be doing 1:1 calls to kick things off, and we'd be able to talk about your experiences and some best next steps.
Thank you for being here, watching, and being open.
@@DrTynessaFranks Thank you so much for bringing light to social anxiety and offering help to people like myself. I greatly appreciate. I'm on board to join whenever you start the program.