Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Exercises (FEEL Better!)

แชร์
ฝัง
  • เผยแพร่เมื่อ 12 ส.ค. 2019
  • Exercises from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy designed to help you feel better. This video explains the CBT cycle and how changing thoughts and behaviors is necessary in order to change feelings. Cognitive behavioral therapy exercises are provided to help in a practical way. Cognitive behavioral therapy is a well-research therapy technique shown to help with anxiety, to help with depression, and to help with difficult life situations. Barbara Heffernan, LCSW, life coach and psychotherapist, expert in anxiety and trauma, walks you through how CBT can help you.
    _____________
    Free PDF: Transform your Negative Core Beliefs: awakenjoy.lpages.co/negative-...
    Free Webinar: Rewiring Your Brain for Joy and Confidence: www.awakenjoy.life/rewire-you...
    Sign up for a Free Trial on Virtual EMDR - bit.ly/bhvirtualemdr
    Use Promo Code: AWAKENJOY20 for 20% off. The program code must be put into the promo code box when you checkout for the discount! This is an online service I have used and I support!
    1:1 Virtual Psychotherapy with Betterhelp: betterhelp.com/awakenjoy. I have personally used their services and have recently become an affiliate. Using this link enables you to a discount of 10% off the first month.
    Transformational Program: Roadmap to Joy and Authentic Confidence: www.awakenjoy.life/roadmap
    The "aah!" mini-series is now on TH-cam. Start here: • Diaphragmatic Breathin...
    Full playlist here: • Diaphragmatic Breathin...
    Say hi on social:
    Instagram: / awakenjoy.life
    Facebook: / awakenjoy.life
    My website: www.awakenjoy.life/
    NOTE: This description contains affiliate links for the Virtual EMDR site, for betterhelp.com and for pridecounseling.com. While this channel may earn a minimal sum when the viewer using these affiliate links, the viewer is in NO WAY obligated to use these links; the viewer is not charged extra for these links and, in fact, receives a discount over the regular pricing of these programs. I have used both Virtual EMDR and betterhelp.com, and pridecounseling is connected to betterhelp.com.
    Disclaimer:
    This video was created by Barbara Heffernan, LCSW for educational purposes only. These videos are not diagnostic and provide no individual consultation. Consumption of these materials is for your own education and any medical, psychological, or professional care decisions should be made between you and your primary care doctor or another provider that you are engaged with. Barbara Heffernan is not available for individual consultation via TH-cam, social media, or email, and provides services only in the manner mentioned above.

ความคิดเห็น • 2.2K

  • @Lost_Witness
    @Lost_Witness ปีที่แล้ว +896

    If you're here, watching this video because you want to better yourself, I'm proud of you and you should be proud of yourself. It's not easy and maybe something pushed you to be here but whatever the reason, you're here and that's something to be proud of.

    • @sm02.04
      @sm02.04 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I just got out of drug/alcohol treatment CBT and DBT were a huge part of the program

    • @Fuzzbuns4552
      @Fuzzbuns4552 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      You are truly God sent, thank you so much for your work ❤

    • @thewisdomtherapist
      @thewisdomtherapist ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Yes!!! All the best to you people searching 4 solutions to your problems! Most wont do it!

    • @kristenmitchell9390
      @kristenmitchell9390 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      This just made me smile. Thank you

    • @LianasLife
      @LianasLife ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you so much for ur words. I was drowing in anxiety, now, I feel better.

  • @thewisdomtherapist
    @thewisdomtherapist 3 ปีที่แล้ว +794

    CBT saved my life. After that I became a CBT therapist. This way of living is so much powerful that my mission now is to let the whole world know, how CBT can heal our lives!

    • @Himachaltimes1999
      @Himachaltimes1999 3 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      Please help me.i am dying slowly and slowly.Please help me sir...

    • @artilama9658
      @artilama9658 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @@Himachaltimes1999 same here😭

    • @aaymathebest4705
      @aaymathebest4705 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@Himachaltimes1999 CBD INDIAN HERBAL SHOP PR AVAILABLE HUU GAA....VIDEO DAIKHAIN ABOUT CBD OIL KY BENEFIT IN HINDI,URDU AND IN ENGLISH

    • @vipermad358
      @vipermad358 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Did you start making more money? By my experience, CBT is bullshit, like every other “therapy.”

    • @scotthunt2479
      @scotthunt2479 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Dude, you've posted this same comment on just about every CBT video on YT. Give it a rest, would ya?

  • @karenweber52
    @karenweber52 ปีที่แล้ว +98

    I got more out of this 12 minute video than I have seeing a therapist for the past 2 years! A million thankyous!!!

    • @kasperknight398
      @kasperknight398 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Me too

    • @beaglerescue5281
      @beaglerescue5281 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Agree!

    • @mayamorabito1669
      @mayamorabito1669 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Do you feel healed?

    • @FarhiaFarah-wg5qe
      @FarhiaFarah-wg5qe 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      35 years caming agE lEvEls numbers is Notnotnotnot NECESSARY EvEr and isntisnt thE point wEy , Familyyyyyy systems SELFSELF is SENERATIONSSS is point

  • @karenweeks3941
    @karenweeks3941 2 ปีที่แล้ว +300

    Yes,avoidance was definitely me with anxiety. 💕 I would avoid going places,making phone calls or even going outside.. Now I’m doing them all by working hard on myself.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Awesome! How great you are doing the work❤

    • @taniaconlan3873
      @taniaconlan3873 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@BarbaraHeffernan I am exactly the same, massive avoider, procrastinator which increases my depression and anxiety . This has given me great understanding of CBT- to get working an into action. Thankyou your presentation is easy to understand and inspiring

    • @marjoriecentore9072
      @marjoriecentore9072 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Just looking at that log is making me anxious... 😫

    • @kevimh4584
      @kevimh4584 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Can't wait to I get there..I'm right we're you were

    • @charsm2820
      @charsm2820 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Relatable 😢

  • @anthonyrispo1229
    @anthonyrispo1229 3 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    Anybody would be lucky to have you as their therapist!

    • @FatmaYousuf
      @FatmaYousuf 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Exactly what I was thinking

  • @petariovchev1477
    @petariovchev1477 3 ปีที่แล้ว +80

    She is VERY right about how depression works. Behavior -> Thoughts -> Feelings. Sit all day -> Blame yourself all night -> Feel like crap the other day. Repeat for an year and you become emotionally numb AF. I knew i had a problem, but one day i thought "Why my favorite music stopped making me feel good, i get no emotions like before from it (and im fan of Accept, Black Sabbath, Deep Purpple, Pink Floyd - stuff that you just cant feel emotionless towards)". That was the moment i realised that something is VERY VERY dangerously wrong with me. That happened today. Now looking for ways to "fix" that thick emotional "shield" of mine :|

    • @laurab972
      @laurab972 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Petar I hope you are doing better.I am where you were right now. Searching for anything to feel alive again.

    • @Niceworkson
      @Niceworkson ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Petar and Laura, I hope you both doing better by now. Recognition of a problem is the biggest step you can take towards fighting and curing depression and/or anxiety. Taking action and seeking help (which might be watching TH-cam videos, reading, therapy, talking to a friend/family/stranger in TH-cam comments) is the second biggest step you can take. You both just took two huge steps towards recovery which is a great accomplishment. From now on it will get better. I’m sending a lot of love to you

    • @jimicunningable
      @jimicunningable ปีที่แล้ว

      LIES. THE ULTIMATE CORRELATION TO DEPRESSION IS POVERTY, MISERY AND A HORRID CHILDHOOD. NOT NOT NOT BEHAVIOR OR ANY OTHER SELF HATING, SELF BLAMING BS. LOOK IT UP. CBT/DBT ARE THE MOST FAILED PROTOCOLS IN THE BUSINESS. ALL THE PATIENTS AND COUNCILORS TEND TO QUIT IT. FACT FROM THE UNIVERSITIES WHO BORE THESE FRAUDULENT COUNCILORS..

  • @geraldvaughn8403
    @geraldvaughn8403 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    My social anxiety was extreme and my therapist was trained in CBT. She also included exposure therapy and challenging automatic negative thoughts. I was cured in about seven sessions.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Awesome!! Thank you for sharing your experience. It is important that people know it is possible to recover!

    • @geraldvaughn8403
      @geraldvaughn8403 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      My therapist called the automatic negative thoughts, ANTs, for short. Good name as they are hard to find, but easy to stomp out. I saw them as soap bubbles. Easy to pop as they have no foundation.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@geraldvaughn8403 I love the soap bubble image!

  • @TheAguevara201
    @TheAguevara201 3 ปีที่แล้ว +66

    Wow the whole loosing job ending up on the street homeless are my exact thoughts. Wow glad I found this.

    • @Akoyn360
      @Akoyn360 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Literally so relatable

    • @sujatagautam5916
      @sujatagautam5916 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Akoyn360 p pm
      lq

    • @Donna-LookingUp
      @Donna-LookingUp 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Same here. I am 56 and my dad passed when I was 28. I had 2 failed marriages ...2nd one ended right before he passed. I suddenly found myself with 2 little boys and they were 6 years apart in age. I had NO ONE to turn to in the event I dropped one ball I was juggling. Their dad's disappeared and were not part of their lives nor helped with any support. I had to get tough, ON THE OUTSIDE while on the inside I was terrified. I worked hard and worked my way up and up to pretty good money. BUT, I couldn't rest. Always knew I wasn't good enough and all it would take is for those around me to realize it. Always knowing I would be the next one to lose my job. Always, it will be me tge next time. My sons are grown men with their own families. My oldest just retired from 20 years in the Navy. I still say...they layer off 300, I am sure I will be next. Last year I sent my youngest a text and jokingly told him how much my raise was and added another 0 to it. Then I said...oops...that's the raise you get I had too many zeros. He responded with..."congratulations, and so, when are you getting fired...next week? You are tge only person I know who gets raises and bonuses and you always think you will lose your job any day." Yeah...sorta made me really see how sad I am. It's hard to live your life in that kind of fear. Been at this company for 27 years. In 2020, my husband of 18 years left for work on July 2 and sent me a text message he was no longer in love and it's over. Added to my anxiety all over again! 2 weeks will be a year since I have been completely alone in my home and working from home over a year due to cv. I am supposed to return to the office July 12th. I am FREAKING out. I honestly don't know if I will even know how to act around people. I have been in solitude.

    • @FREEDOM-23
      @FREEDOM-23 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Donna-LookingUp there’s a sun to everyone

  • @youjeltrevo
    @youjeltrevo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    I had never heard “move a muscle, change a thought.” That really makes a lot of sense.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      So glad that resonated with you!

    • @Tinyteacher1111
      @Tinyteacher1111 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Johnathon Eltrevoog That’s a good quote! I do yoga every morning for an hour, and work in my garden. My back doesn’t allow me much more. I’m going to remember that. Though! 🙏💫💕

    • @victoryscrewattack7433
      @victoryscrewattack7433 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@BarbaraHeffernan yeah I completely understand it too I have this a lot

    • @artilama9658
      @artilama9658 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@BarbaraHeffernan mam plz help me😭

    • @namsiswamy8692
      @namsiswamy8692 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Very insightful video I belong to the old school methods like transactional analysis will try cbt

  • @kayseriann
    @kayseriann 3 ปีที่แล้ว +264

    It's hard having perfectionist tendency and being average joe at the same time. it makes me feel like a total loser.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  3 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      We are all average in some ways and very special in others! Sounds like pretty harsh negative self talk... the PDF on Negative Core Beliefs May be helpful (link in comments below video)

    • @nelclark3000
      @nelclark3000 3 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      Just because you feel like a loser doesnt mean you are. This is why you should exercise. Its a start to getting your mind off your feelings. Rock climbing is good because you cant think, you have to be mindful and right there in that moment. Btw average Joe ? Nope you have a gift and a purpose. You just haven't found it yet. Be patient and kind to yourself.

    • @judichristopher4604
      @judichristopher4604 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Well... then you're lucky... because FEELINGS can be changed.

    • @JayKay-zt2bo
      @JayKay-zt2bo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      hear ya! guess i'll need to look at the core beliefs thing too 😬😉

    • @telking7471
      @telking7471 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I hear that. Trying to be perfect when I don't think its possible is disheartening. Also a BIG Kick in the (figurative) nuts to be told such things by therapists as "of course you're paranoid, you're not important enough for that to be likely..." 'its magical thinking. You don't have that much effect on your own life let alone anything else..." Nice....

  • @carolgeibe9360
    @carolgeibe9360 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I’ve been through CBT treatment for depression. The skills have helped me so much. I no longer get overwhelmed by emotions frequently.
    Now I am watching my sister go through severe depression with very negative thoughts. Her behavior ends up pushing people away. She feels frightened and alone. I’m sending her this video to encourage her to get into CBT. Thank you so much for the video.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  ปีที่แล้ว

      You are very welcome. And thank you for sharing how much CBT helped you! That will give people hope :)

  • @901591148kiki
    @901591148kiki 3 ปีที่แล้ว +95

    The cycle you mention makes so much sense. I get anxiety about my day. And then my anxiety immobilises me I get nothing done and I criticise myself. This was very helpful, thank you. I just subscribed to your channel.

  • @milachyc88
    @milachyc88 3 ปีที่แล้ว +176

    I believe some people instead of spending money on expensive and material things, they need to pay for therapy. The world is so toxic and unhealthy, the bad apples spoil the good apples. I believe there are so many beautiful, kind souls in this world, that been broken by greedy, selfish, narcissistic people that have no boundaries, know no God, or how to love and are very ungrateful. The good souls instead of expanding their love in this Universe, choose to shut down and learn how to cover and protect themselves from these dark souls. How unfair?? Right. To all beautiful souls who been treated unfair by others, may you know peace and love from the Universe each day. And thank YOU for existing here on Earth. Anxiety and depression is also rooted from the fear that this world contains...we all should work on ourselves to live in Peace, love and understanding.

    • @shumnoor
      @shumnoor 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Very true same happens here

    • @jackiecauthron-schafer9554
      @jackiecauthron-schafer9554 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      milachyc88 You don't need a god to be kind, loving, or generous. People who need religion to feel those things are making progress, but it's basically faking it until you make it. Don't confuse being a decent person with religion, or religious people with decency. They are separate things.

    • @milachyc88
      @milachyc88 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Jackie Cauthron-Schafer God was one of the things that it was listed, and not ONLY!! If you read the whole thing, you will understand. Don’t pull only one word out of the context and create your ideas. It was never said, only by believing in God you can become a good person. And by the way, God does not have to do anything with religion. If you are a spiritual person, you understand what I’m talking about . God controls the universe, and you and I and 7 billion people are controlled by the universe. If I would of call Christians, muslims or Jewish, Buddhist, etc., that’s religion. So you don’t get my text mixed up neither. I stated my opinion clearly. Have a good day

    • @milachyc88
      @milachyc88 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      shumnoor ❤️

    • @judichristopher4604
      @judichristopher4604 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      "Amen" Sista

  • @calebcole203ccs
    @calebcole203ccs 4 ปีที่แล้ว +231

    Great Video! I agree, I hear too much advice on "changing my mindset", but once I started changing a lot of my behaviors, I was able to help control my anxiety much better.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Thank you! Yes, especially exercise can be extremely helpful in motivating yourself to get out of dangerous anxiety spirals.

    • @amberdavis1514
      @amberdavis1514 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      what behaviors did you change? avoidance type?

    • @musiclife-zr1os
      @musiclife-zr1os 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It really is not about the behaviors though the reason your depressed is because of your beliefs

    • @srambrero
      @srambrero ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@musiclife-zr1os thats the thing isnt it? by changing your behavior you put yourself into situations to expose and face your beliefs instead of avoiding them

  • @virginiaparker9450
    @virginiaparker9450 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Yes. Makes complete sense. Here to learn to change. Was in a toxic relationship for a long time and negative thought pattern became habit. I felt trapped. Growing and learning now.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I truly hope this is helpful. Wishing you health and healing!

  • @donettesis6155
    @donettesis6155 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    This is EXACTLY me!!! I am going to really work on learning the strategies and techniques of CBT. You explain life so eloquently and it doesn't feel so intimidating.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much for the lovely compliment! I am so pleased you find it helpful! So great you are going to try - and just give it time, day by day… you can do it!

  • @AnneWhyte
    @AnneWhyte 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Yes, a little bit of forcing yourself to do things that your uncomfortable doing and when you do them you will find that once you do, you feel much better.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes! I think I'll force myself outside after lunch today for a walk! :)

  • @thotasrihari
    @thotasrihari ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I can't thank you enough Baraba Heffernan. Thanks a million to you for sharing this treasure of knowledge with us.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  ปีที่แล้ว

      You are very welcome. I truly hope my videos are helpful for you!

  • @MEGATestberichte
    @MEGATestberichte 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    The cycle absolutely makes sense.

  • @SnakeAndTurtleQigong
    @SnakeAndTurtleQigong ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Thanks so much!
    Sending love and support to anyone who is having a difficult time right now. Find a good therapist and seek out support from a friend. You can do this!
    💙☀️

  • @BarbaraHeffernan
    @BarbaraHeffernan  4 ปีที่แล้ว +187

    Does the Cognitive-Behavioral-Therapy cycle make sense to you? Can you see using this in your life?

    • @sherimyrick1905
      @sherimyrick1905 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Barbara Heffernan I’m new to your site. After searching to figure out how to overcome my anxiety and to know what type of help I need, I found our site. I feel better knowing what it is, what therapy I need, and that I’m not alone. It has been impacting my work, so thank you for you videos and content.

    • @joseuribe1552
      @joseuribe1552 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yes! this is what I do continuously

    • @vandananangia1900
      @vandananangia1900 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yes it makes a lot of sense

    • @simplybuyer1
      @simplybuyer1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Hi Barbara, I suffer alot of death anxiety, I have these thoughts for over 1 year and this caused by the news that my father had died- wrong news. Anyways, I suffer alot and my mind overthinks and I start get frontal and back headaches. I become suicial too

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@simplybuyer1 Hi: I am so sorry to hear how much you are struggling. CBT or EMDR therapy would be very helpful for the death anxiety - I strongly encourage you to reach out to someone. Thanatophobia (fear of death) is treatable. Also, this is a free US hotline where you can speak to a counselor if you are feeling suicidal: 1-800-273-8255.

  • @nelclark3000
    @nelclark3000 3 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    This is very interesting. I believe your really onto something here. We cant just make our thoughts stop. Get your body moving though, and man what a difference. It doesnt have to be " go big or go home either". Do a 10 minute walk outside in nature if that's all you can do. Do a 5 minute yoga session on u - tube. I try to treat exercise like taking my morning vitamin. I just do it. I dont wait to feel like it. I just say " this is part of my health care" and just do it. 😉

  • @teriengert4849
    @teriengert4849 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    This is exactly the type of therapy I need! I believe with the help of your videos I can heal from years of trauma. Thank you!

    • @kittycat1302
      @kittycat1302 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wondering how you’re doing, Teri. It’s been nine months. I just discovered this channel And I’m hoping that it will help me as well

  • @JesusGreenBL
    @JesusGreenBL 2 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Just wanted to say an immense thank you for this! You've earned a subscriber. You really hit the nail on your head with the point about it sometimes being easier/better to change behaviours than just to always focus on changing thoughts. I'd been banging my head against the wall trying to get rid of my OCD's intrusive thoughts, but after watching this video I decided to change my behaviour by acting in spite of those thoughts and feelings instead.
    Previously I couldn't do simple things like sit on a chair someone else had previously sat on (without putting a clean towel down on them first), or touch door handles or light-switches without immediately washing my hands afterwards. If I dropped my clothes on the floor after laundry for even half a second, they'd have to go straight back in the wash.
    These last few days since I watched this video I've been forcing myself to do all those things regardless of what my thoughts are telling me, and sure enough, the change has been absolutely dramatic. After 6-7 years now of feeling like I'm living in a bubble and can't touch anything, I'm starting to feel like a normal person again.
    I'm also now hopeful that I can apply the same principle to fighting my social anxiety, that's kept me house-bound for years.
    So thank you!

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Wow. I am so happy to read this (got chills actually!) You are putting into practice the "exposure" part, which is the main way to eventually stop the OCD cycle. I'm so impressed you've been able to make those changes! Keep it up. And, yes, so important for us to know that we do not need to believe our thoughts!

  • @perkinsdearborn4693
    @perkinsdearborn4693 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Cycle: Thoughts - Behavior - Feelings. "Feelings" seem to be out of direct control. Similarly, "thoughts" tend to be like feelings, but perhaps we have some control. "Behaviors" seem to be under our control. Right? Becoming aware of thoughts, behaviors and feelings through writing them down is a start. What about attitude? Noticing and adjusting our internal judgements or attitudes towards our thoughts, behaviors and feelings seems to be part of the CBT method. Some amount of acceptance and acknowledgment of where we are at currently seems to be a turning point.
    Thank you for the video.

  • @Gabeloveyou
    @Gabeloveyou 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Perfect! 100% disabled for PTSD and pri caregiver for screaming demented wife. Will study you. Thanks ❤️❤️❤️.

  • @alaynaskylar5494
    @alaynaskylar5494 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I’ve been escaping reality and imagining a different place in my inner world and the visions I’ve created for myself as a refuge. I want to be more in touch with my inner world and not be so out of touch with it.

  • @Kaitybardot
    @Kaitybardot 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thank you! I can only see my therapist twice a month and can’t get into a psychiatrist for weeks, so this is incredibly helpful. 💕

  • @ShannaRA73
    @ShannaRA73 4 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    This was a great explanation and very easy to understand. Definitely takes effort and practice to change but definitely feasible!!

  • @kiirsttx
    @kiirsttx 3 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Wake up everyday and smile, express gratitude daily. life is a gift and it's beautiful! 🥰🥰💕

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      😄👍

    • @frankshbat
      @frankshbat 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You're right, Dear
      Life's a true gift from God.

    • @woodwork8262
      @woodwork8262 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@BarbaraHeffernantttt[tttttttttttttt ttt[tttt[[tt[t[ttttttt[ttt

    • @woodwork8262
      @woodwork8262 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@BarbaraHeffernan [[tttttttttttttt[tttttt[tttttttttttttt[[ttttt[ttttt[tttt

    • @woodwork8262
      @woodwork8262 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@BarbaraHeffernanttttttt[ttt[tttttttttttt[tttttttttttttttttt[tttttt ttttttttttttttttttt[[tttt

  • @GinaAnnYup
    @GinaAnnYup 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Your example when it comes to a job is spot on, I am currently at work dealing with the exact cycle which is why I looked up this therapy ! I always felt so alone since I couldn’t relate to anyone when I talk about it because they always respond with shock that my thought process is so negative and debit

  • @christianfunez6389
    @christianfunez6389 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Hi Barbara, this cycle makes sense to me, thank you!!! I’m new to your channel and I’m hopping around your videos trying to grasp how I feel!!

  • @robertgnicholson61
    @robertgnicholson61 3 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    Oh happy day! So glad I found you :) Yours may be the clearest explanation and presentation of CBT I’ve ever heard and seen. Thank you!

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      😀 Thanks!! I'm so glad you found it helpful.

    • @bones987123
      @bones987123 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      read or podcast feeling good david burns .. alot of good info there as well also on youtube..

    • @SandeepSingh-xe8cl
      @SandeepSingh-xe8cl 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@BarbaraHeffernan need private discussion

    • @pjsmith4369
      @pjsmith4369 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@BarbaraHeffernan From what you have presented in a clear and precise manner, I would have to say CBT would probably never have helped me when I was young and suffering from depression, anxiety and severe phobic disorder.
      I also had Post Partum Psychosis after my second child and Post Partum Depression after my third. I was treated for those with older drugs ( only ones available at the time - Nardil for the Psychosis and Anafranil for the PPDepression )
      I have never felt like a failure. I am very disciplined - studied piano for 13 years ( for 6 years - 2 hours practicing every day even if I had a 12 hour nursing shift ) Was an RN.
      I became a lane swimmer at 21 and would swim regularly once my baby was old enough to stay with my husband ( usually after I quit breastfeeding. )
      Exercise never helped my depression, anxiety and phobias.
      I had 4 children and did my very best to be a good mother. There was no time for indulging in sleeping for depression. I faked my way through everything with smiles. No one had a clue that I was suffering so terribly. My phobias began to become more extreme so that I had to even avoid what would seem like normal activities to other people. I could see that I was slowly dying - having been a nurse, I could see where I was headed.
      At 40, I had a psychiatrist put me on medication for depression ( the new SSRIS ) and a benzodiazepine for life for my phobic disorder.
      A miracle for me after 20 years of terrible suffering.
      I am now 68 and am grateful for the help I received. I was given a life.
      I think CBT could be helpful for many people, but my case was severe in the extreme.
      My granddaughter is going for CBT and in her case, I believe it will be very helpful. She has many issues with abandonment and that sort of thing. Thank you for your presentation and I hope many people will find CBT a great help in their lives.

  • @blueblackyellow
    @blueblackyellow 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    This is right. I always assess the interconnectedness between thoughts and behaviours and encourage my clients to make efforts in both.

  • @KP-tx9gq
    @KP-tx9gq 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Great video, I am an LCSW in California and I love using CBT with my clients. It's easy to explain, engaging, and rewarding when you see clients change their way of thinking and behavior as their lives began to improve.

  • @chandrasingh7030
    @chandrasingh7030 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    God bless you I need this am suffering from anxiety I feel sad lonely and hurt all the time I pray that god heal me and everyone who need help with thanksgiving in Jesus name

    • @bhaskarmunjal1620
      @bhaskarmunjal1620 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Good morning mam, A Very Easy to Understand and Practical Video on CBT and I am Watching the First Video on CBT.Thank You So Very much for Sharing your Knowledge and helping People in Desperate Need.😊.God bless you n ur family. 😊.Great Regards.

  • @ajlepik6272
    @ajlepik6272 4 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Wow! This was SO good! Thank you for actually giving information on HOW to proceed, not just "about" CBT and "why". Very applicable info!

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      So happy you found it helpful!! Thanks for letting me know - it means a lot to me :)

  • @mariedillon1403
    @mariedillon1403 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    The cycle makes a lot of sense

  • @abhijayskumar7408
    @abhijayskumar7408 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thanks Mam ! Thanks Barbara

  • @rudolphsimmonds1382
    @rudolphsimmonds1382 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Your description of the anxiety symptoms are me exactly

  • @svenkite
    @svenkite 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I just used the log and was able to change my behavior and the result using your log. I am so blessed I found your video.

  • @kashkakent3511
    @kashkakent3511 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Yes it definitely makes sense to me... and I desperately need this help with trauma CBT... new subscriber here 👍 and really appreciate your work 👍 thank you 🙏🏻

  • @lindaletkemann7752
    @lindaletkemann7752 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I found the video very helpful. Becoming aware of our emotions to identify traps that cause us to feel badly is definitely something I will analyze in myself. Thank-you.

  • @Lucypearla
    @Lucypearla 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    This is an incredible resource Barbara, thank you. I think I’ve had a certain amount of CBT via therapy, but I’ve never had it explained so clearly. Thank you ❤️

  • @sheilaprice1942
    @sheilaprice1942 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I thank you for your message and helping us to heal. So many are not able to afford the psychological care we need. Blessings to you 🙏💕

  • @aasshh711
    @aasshh711 3 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    thank you so much! so easy to follow and digest. and I love that you're chill and not being all youtube vlogger-y. going to watch more of your videos for sure. thanks for doing what you do

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you Ashley! I'm so pleased I'm not vlogger-y also lol!

  • @FernandoOcumarez
    @FernandoOcumarez ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It makes so much sense. It describes the way I've felt in many, many moments of the day 🙏

  • @stemcell2036
    @stemcell2036 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You are doing a great job Ma’am! More power to you. Thank you!

  • @JanelleFraser
    @JanelleFraser 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    thanks for these simple tips! I love how clear and simple you make this. It is so common when people are struggle that we make it SO much more difficult then it really is!

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi @Janelle Fraser: You are super welcome. Us humans sure can complicate things, can't we? Our society contributes to some of these unhelpful ways of thinking... Yet sometimes trauma or difficult childhoods contribute, and then it is not so easy to change 😔, although recovery is definitely possible!

  • @brengz7663
    @brengz7663 3 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    Excellent video. You gave me that “aha” moment. It’s my behavior that I have to change more so than my mindset. I think that’s why It’s taken me so long to figure things out. I’ve only been focusing in my though process and it’s been so difficult to cope with because most of the negative thoughts are involuntarily. Then guilt sets in because it feels as if I’m the one doing the sabotaging. Then the depression sets in. It’s a vicious cycle.
    CBT is truly a miracle. Subscribed.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes! So pleased it resonated. LMK how it goes changing behavior - it isn't easy, but it is possible, and then the thoughts and feelings change from there.

  • @4ll1d0155m0k3w33d
    @4ll1d0155m0k3w33d 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This makes perfect sense. I wish I could have you as a therapist.

  • @ruthlehre3319
    @ruthlehre3319 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    thank you so much for this earnest outreach, I'm in the middle of a set back and so sad, I feel I went 20 years back, having non stop surges of panic, which intensifies the dizziness and floating brain fog! the feeling of unreality is so odd, I never get used to it, the anxiety feeds the VM they are so co morbid.Thank God for people like you so similar to what we arre going thru.....I try to keep walking dr. said walk no matter, it builds our lungs from covid...and helps get us a bit closer , to somewhat normal, so thank you again!

  • @JolyTematio
    @JolyTematio 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I loved the way you explained the content! Great value I enjoyed watching it

  • @EMA-EMA-
    @EMA-EMA- 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you Barbara I took a walk while listening :)

  • @rockylarson7441
    @rockylarson7441 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    As a counseling intern, this video beats all of the CBT books I’ve purchased! Go Barbara for making it easy to explain and understand!!! 🎉

    • @marybusch6182
      @marybusch6182 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      So true! She is so clear.

  • @user-hy3ro8ml8d
    @user-hy3ro8ml8d 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I loved how you discussed behavior as the driver to change feelings. Simple things like taking a shower to start fresh and can help.

  • @jayimzd
    @jayimzd 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank you for making this video. Wish my therapist was as thorough as you.

  • @KateMurray
    @KateMurray 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Ohh, I'm so driven by my feelings! If I wake up and don't feel like exercising, then I totally don't! It's like you read my mind!

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hi Kate! Our feelings can be good guide posts much of the time...depends on whether it is resulting in problems or not! For example, if you feel like exercising 4-5 days a week, no problem. If you feel like it only 1x every 3 months, it would be a problem!!! Sorting through which feelings we can rely on and which we can't can take some thought! Does that make sense?

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      p.s. I tend to head to the gym on the days my schedule allows whether I feel like it or not, because my schedule can be tight - and if I don't feel like it today, I may not be able to go tomorrow!

  • @nellier5704
    @nellier5704 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hi! Im 59 years old. I suffer with depresion for the last 18 years. Childhood unattended traumas, and health issues. While doing research I found your video. I like the way you explained CBT the therapy.

  • @marthabennett2149
    @marthabennett2149 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    yes absolutely understand this cycle soooooo much. I have tried meditation, therapy, and more and I still have these horrible thoughts. I want it to change

  • @korahtan4367
    @korahtan4367 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    move a muscle, change a feeling. thank you for this very clear explanation

  • @sherazkhan2939
    @sherazkhan2939 3 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    Thanks a lot. I don't have much control over my feelings and thoughts, but I will definitely try to change my behavior. Thanks once again.

  • @juicyjuice9955
    @juicyjuice9955 ปีที่แล้ว

    I can truly relate to the cycle you described - I’ve spent a lot of time caught up in unhelpful thinking - I’m very grateful for your posted video thank you 🙏🏼

  • @engineerinng6108
    @engineerinng6108 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is so relatable! Thank you so much! I WILL FEEL BETTER!!

  • @tamarajohnson8464
    @tamarajohnson8464 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Great job explaining Mrs. Heffernan. I am a LMSW preparing to work full-time as a therapist and prayerfully start my LCSW supervision journey. This has helped me a lot. I plan to check out your video playlist. God bless and enjoy your weekend!

  • @kekgaotsengmokgokong2262
    @kekgaotsengmokgokong2262 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Move A Muscle Change A Thought It's What Captured Me Because Once You Start Acting, You Feel Better And In Turn Positive Thoughts Are Stimulated. Thanks Very Much

  • @marilynoverton8142
    @marilynoverton8142 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So, so helpful! Thank you, Barbara!

  • @karenwhite41
    @karenwhite41 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    That thinking cycle is exactly what I do!

  • @MsDayday2285
    @MsDayday2285 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Yes. Makes sense. Thank you.

  • @nasrinzaboli2718
    @nasrinzaboli2718 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    You are the best I have watched on TH-cam thank you so much extremely helpful

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Nasrin: You just made my day!! Thanks! I do appreciate it :)

  • @christianavila9209
    @christianavila9209 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Dr. Heffernan these videos have helped immensely. Thank you so much!!

  • @RiPp1er
    @RiPp1er 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I have a lot of anxiety and stress problems and thus video helped me out a lot. I am also sometimes a perfectionist. I get afraid of making mistakes a lot.

  • @jeble5341
    @jeble5341 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Certainly made sense to me. Thank you.

  • @Bellabc-ki3pe
    @Bellabc-ki3pe 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank you so much for the CBT log this will help me a lot. My positive thoughts and constructive behavior only lasts so long until I go back to negative and destructive behavior.

  • @redg3031
    @redg3031 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    this video is very helpful for my training. Thank you so much! I'm glad i found your channel.Will definitely use that log.

  • @Heytno
    @Heytno ปีที่แล้ว

    It makes a lot of sense to me, thanks for your thorough explanation. It ticked a lot boxes for me, I feel like I’ve been hiding, isolating and hibernating for over a year now I even stopped working and it’s completely crushed my confidence as well as my self-esteem. I realise now how toxic of a pattern of behaviour I’ve developed. Avoidance is not the way forward. The problem with me is that I keep promising myself I will turn my life around and be slowly changing up these patterns but I just can’t bring myself to follow through with my intentions 😔 so the next day Im back to square one and I feel sorry/angry with my self and as you said it spirals out of control hence I feel helpless. It’s a vicious cycle. 😢 I will now play this video first thing in the morning until the message has sunk in! Thank you

  • @sarnold1277
    @sarnold1277 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Your description of the cycle is spot on. Great video.

  • @LeaFranceTV
    @LeaFranceTV 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Love your down to earth examples I can totally relate to. I learned so much about how my behavior could impact how I feel. You are so right about the fact we hear everywhere that how we think is the most important aspect but how we "behave" is underestimated. It was eyes opening!! Thanks

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi @LeaFranceTV! I am so pleased this was helpful for you!

  • @luvmydaughterRat
    @luvmydaughterRat 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I do this with my psychologist and she has me doing it when I go out so yes it makes sense to me I have to do mindfulness twice a day

  • @KB-xk2fe
    @KB-xk2fe ปีที่แล้ว

    This cycle certainly makes sense; something I very much needed to hear💔❤️🙏

  • @JayKay-zt2bo
    @JayKay-zt2bo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    fantastic summation !!!
    thank you 🙏 wow, getting back to basics is exactly what i need right now !

  • @marywidener1409
    @marywidener1409 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    This information was extremely helpful for me!! Thank you for doing this. I’m trying to work on my anxiety and I found this very helpful and insightful!!

  • @imarielmermaid
    @imarielmermaid 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    i just want to say ive had therapy my whole life (lots of CPTSD, very bad social anxiety like really bad, and depression). nothing worked, it was all the same and i was just giving up on getting better. then i was introduced to cbt and it helped me so much and im not easy to change and rarely open to coping skills but cbt is different.

  • @shudanhao8643
    @shudanhao8643 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is soo helpful. I will rewatch this for sure whenever I am in depressed situation.

  • @kashkakent3511
    @kashkakent3511 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This work you do is so soooo important... this needs to be in the educative system ... your work is so important/relevant and needed !!!.... Thank you Sharon 🙏🏻from my ♥️🙏🏻♥️🙏🏻

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      You are very welcome!! I appreciate your feedback :)

  • @saraparsons473
    @saraparsons473 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I'm only just starting on my new journey and this clip helped me understand it 💯 thanks for taking the time to help 🙂

  • @riaz951
    @riaz951 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you very much for helping humanity to live better life😊

  • @danielodekunle1524
    @danielodekunle1524 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is explanatory and practical. I find this really helpful. Thank you.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      You're very welcome! So glad it is helpful!

  • @jetpilot3714
    @jetpilot3714 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Yes, thank you for this video. The cycle makes perfect sense I’m caught up in it right now. Thank you again.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      You are so welcome. I truly hope this helps.

  • @priscillaberkey9863
    @priscillaberkey9863 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This definitely makes all the sense in the world. I need help with these patterns for sure.

  • @naomijafaru2225
    @naomijafaru2225 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I have never heard of this before in my life,thank you for helping and saving lives

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You are very welcome. Thanks for letting me know how meaningful this was for you.

  • @janeway73
    @janeway73 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are actually giving me hope, I will keep watching and learning!

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi Jane: I'm so pleased to hear this is giving you hope! Wishing you health and healing, Barbara

  • @partheshsoni6421
    @partheshsoni6421 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    You are helping people make some solid change in their life and lead a better life. Always proud of people like you ❤️

  • @lovemachinko8573
    @lovemachinko8573 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thanks so much for this. The love of my life and I are both struggling separately with our own trauma, anxiety and depression, & I feel this will set us on a path that helps us greatly.

    • @BarbaraHeffernan
      @BarbaraHeffernan  ปีที่แล้ว

      I hope it is helpful, and I wish you and your partner health and healing.

  • @eyebutterfly
    @eyebutterfly 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’m a provisional psychologist and after years of study it still feels difficult to know how to apply it all when seeing a real life client and this video has helped me so much with how to approach it in a simple yet powerful way thank you!

  • @geraldnacpil5414
    @geraldnacpil5414 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is very, very helpful and enlightening. Thank you very much!

  • @Susanamounce
    @Susanamounce 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    love the graphics and explanations!

  • @schoeyschoey1062
    @schoeyschoey1062 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for taking the time to create and post this. Clear and concise. I feel inspired to change my behaviours and research CBT more.

  • @tillycomedy2194
    @tillycomedy2194 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    this is a brilliant video!! thank you so much for proving such great value to us ☺️