If you're here, watching this video because you want to better yourself, I'm proud of you and you should be proud of yourself. It's not easy and maybe something pushed you to be here but whatever the reason, you're here and that's something to be proud of.
CBT saved my life. After that I became a CBT therapist. This way of living is so much powerful that my mission now is to let the whole world know, how CBT can heal our lives!
Yes,avoidance was definitely me with anxiety. 💕 I would avoid going places,making phone calls or even going outside.. Now I’m doing them all by working hard on myself.
@@BarbaraHeffernan I am exactly the same, massive avoider, procrastinator which increases my depression and anxiety . This has given me great understanding of CBT- to get working an into action. Thankyou your presentation is easy to understand and inspiring
She is VERY right about how depression works. Behavior -> Thoughts -> Feelings. Sit all day -> Blame yourself all night -> Feel like crap the other day. Repeat for an year and you become emotionally numb AF. I knew i had a problem, but one day i thought "Why my favorite music stopped making me feel good, i get no emotions like before from it (and im fan of Accept, Black Sabbath, Deep Purpple, Pink Floyd - stuff that you just cant feel emotionless towards)". That was the moment i realised that something is VERY VERY dangerously wrong with me. That happened today. Now looking for ways to "fix" that thick emotional "shield" of mine :|
Petar and Laura, I hope you both doing better by now. Recognition of a problem is the biggest step you can take towards fighting and curing depression and/or anxiety. Taking action and seeking help (which might be watching TH-cam videos, reading, therapy, talking to a friend/family/stranger in TH-cam comments) is the second biggest step you can take. You both just took two huge steps towards recovery which is a great accomplishment. From now on it will get better. I’m sending a lot of love to you
LIES. THE ULTIMATE CORRELATION TO DEPRESSION IS POVERTY, MISERY AND A HORRID CHILDHOOD. NOT NOT NOT BEHAVIOR OR ANY OTHER SELF HATING, SELF BLAMING BS. LOOK IT UP. CBT/DBT ARE THE MOST FAILED PROTOCOLS IN THE BUSINESS. ALL THE PATIENTS AND COUNCILORS TEND TO QUIT IT. FACT FROM THE UNIVERSITIES WHO BORE THESE FRAUDULENT COUNCILORS..
Hi, i am in that state right now. Feeling numb. There are things that used to make me happy now it doesn’t. And i knew something was wrong with me. This wasn’t me. So yeah i am also searching for ways to make myself feel better. Peace🌹🌹
My social anxiety was extreme and my therapist was trained in CBT. She also included exposure therapy and challenging automatic negative thoughts. I was cured in about seven sessions.
My therapist called the automatic negative thoughts, ANTs, for short. Good name as they are hard to find, but easy to stomp out. I saw them as soap bubbles. Easy to pop as they have no foundation.
Same here. I am 56 and my dad passed when I was 28. I had 2 failed marriages ...2nd one ended right before he passed. I suddenly found myself with 2 little boys and they were 6 years apart in age. I had NO ONE to turn to in the event I dropped one ball I was juggling. Their dad's disappeared and were not part of their lives nor helped with any support. I had to get tough, ON THE OUTSIDE while on the inside I was terrified. I worked hard and worked my way up and up to pretty good money. BUT, I couldn't rest. Always knew I wasn't good enough and all it would take is for those around me to realize it. Always knowing I would be the next one to lose my job. Always, it will be me tge next time. My sons are grown men with their own families. My oldest just retired from 20 years in the Navy. I still say...they layer off 300, I am sure I will be next. Last year I sent my youngest a text and jokingly told him how much my raise was and added another 0 to it. Then I said...oops...that's the raise you get I had too many zeros. He responded with..."congratulations, and so, when are you getting fired...next week? You are tge only person I know who gets raises and bonuses and you always think you will lose your job any day." Yeah...sorta made me really see how sad I am. It's hard to live your life in that kind of fear. Been at this company for 27 years. In 2020, my husband of 18 years left for work on July 2 and sent me a text message he was no longer in love and it's over. Added to my anxiety all over again! 2 weeks will be a year since I have been completely alone in my home and working from home over a year due to cv. I am supposed to return to the office July 12th. I am FREAKING out. I honestly don't know if I will even know how to act around people. I have been in solitude.
I’ve been through CBT treatment for depression. The skills have helped me so much. I no longer get overwhelmed by emotions frequently. Now I am watching my sister go through severe depression with very negative thoughts. Her behavior ends up pushing people away. She feels frightened and alone. I’m sending her this video to encourage her to get into CBT. Thank you so much for the video.
Yes. Makes complete sense. Here to learn to change. Was in a toxic relationship for a long time and negative thought pattern became habit. I felt trapped. Growing and learning now.
Great Video! I agree, I hear too much advice on "changing my mindset", but once I started changing a lot of my behaviors, I was able to help control my anxiety much better.
@@musiclife-zr1os thats the thing isnt it? by changing your behavior you put yourself into situations to expose and face your beliefs instead of avoiding them
The cycle you mention makes so much sense. I get anxiety about my day. And then my anxiety immobilises me I get nothing done and I criticise myself. This was very helpful, thank you. I just subscribed to your channel.
This is EXACTLY me!!! I am going to really work on learning the strategies and techniques of CBT. You explain life so eloquently and it doesn't feel so intimidating.
Thank you so much for the lovely compliment! I am so pleased you find it helpful! So great you are going to try - and just give it time, day by day… you can do it!
Johnathon Eltrevoog That’s a good quote! I do yoga every morning for an hour, and work in my garden. My back doesn’t allow me much more. I’m going to remember that. Though! 🙏💫💕
Just wanted to say an immense thank you for this! You've earned a subscriber. You really hit the nail on your head with the point about it sometimes being easier/better to change behaviours than just to always focus on changing thoughts. I'd been banging my head against the wall trying to get rid of my OCD's intrusive thoughts, but after watching this video I decided to change my behaviour by acting in spite of those thoughts and feelings instead. Previously I couldn't do simple things like sit on a chair someone else had previously sat on (without putting a clean towel down on them first), or touch door handles or light-switches without immediately washing my hands afterwards. If I dropped my clothes on the floor after laundry for even half a second, they'd have to go straight back in the wash. These last few days since I watched this video I've been forcing myself to do all those things regardless of what my thoughts are telling me, and sure enough, the change has been absolutely dramatic. After 6-7 years now of feeling like I'm living in a bubble and can't touch anything, I'm starting to feel like a normal person again. I'm also now hopeful that I can apply the same principle to fighting my social anxiety, that's kept me house-bound for years. So thank you!
Wow. I am so happy to read this (got chills actually!) You are putting into practice the "exposure" part, which is the main way to eventually stop the OCD cycle. I'm so impressed you've been able to make those changes! Keep it up. And, yes, so important for us to know that we do not need to believe our thoughts!
Cycle: Thoughts - Behavior - Feelings. "Feelings" seem to be out of direct control. Similarly, "thoughts" tend to be like feelings, but perhaps we have some control. "Behaviors" seem to be under our control. Right? Becoming aware of thoughts, behaviors and feelings through writing them down is a start. What about attitude? Noticing and adjusting our internal judgements or attitudes towards our thoughts, behaviors and feelings seems to be part of the CBT method. Some amount of acceptance and acknowledgment of where we are at currently seems to be a turning point. Thank you for the video.
Hello ma'am I am suffering from schizophrenia, insomnia, depression, anxiety,i am 32 years old girl,i am unmarried, negative thoughts of suicide murders disturbs me a lot that i get headaches,and i feel shameful about all this,i am from India Lucknow Uttar Pradesh,my name is humaira ❤❤ just loved your video ma'am thanks 🙏👍❤❤
As a child, I had zero agency. My folks always dismissed my feelings---I WASN'T EVEN ALLOWED TO HAVE MY OWN FEELINGS! It's taken decades to allow myself to acknowledge and allow my true feelings. It's been a big breakthrough. And CBT is exactly my parents all over again. No, thank you.
I believe some people instead of spending money on expensive and material things, they need to pay for therapy. The world is so toxic and unhealthy, the bad apples spoil the good apples. I believe there are so many beautiful, kind souls in this world, that been broken by greedy, selfish, narcissistic people that have no boundaries, know no God, or how to love and are very ungrateful. The good souls instead of expanding their love in this Universe, choose to shut down and learn how to cover and protect themselves from these dark souls. How unfair?? Right. To all beautiful souls who been treated unfair by others, may you know peace and love from the Universe each day. And thank YOU for existing here on Earth. Anxiety and depression is also rooted from the fear that this world contains...we all should work on ourselves to live in Peace, love and understanding.
milachyc88 You don't need a god to be kind, loving, or generous. People who need religion to feel those things are making progress, but it's basically faking it until you make it. Don't confuse being a decent person with religion, or religious people with decency. They are separate things.
Jackie Cauthron-Schafer God was one of the things that it was listed, and not ONLY!! If you read the whole thing, you will understand. Don’t pull only one word out of the context and create your ideas. It was never said, only by believing in God you can become a good person. And by the way, God does not have to do anything with religion. If you are a spiritual person, you understand what I’m talking about . God controls the universe, and you and I and 7 billion people are controlled by the universe. If I would of call Christians, muslims or Jewish, Buddhist, etc., that’s religion. So you don’t get my text mixed up neither. I stated my opinion clearly. Have a good day
Thanks so much! Sending love and support to anyone who is having a difficult time right now. Find a good therapist and seek out support from a friend. You can do this! 💙☀️
I suffer from depression and two of the most affective methods for me in battling my depression is exercise and changing my thoughts about myself (shutting down negative loops) Watching your video and the phrase "move a muscle, change a thought" reminds me how often I wake up not wanting to exercise that morning... but the moment I have exercised I immediately feel better about myself. It's a two way street. Thoughts changing behaviour and behaviour changing thoughts. Thanks for the video :)
So many times I didn’t feel like going to the gym but went anyway. I have yet to come out of the gym feeling the same or worse as when I went in. Exercise definitely changes your thoughts
Excellent video. You gave me that “aha” moment. It’s my behavior that I have to change more so than my mindset. I think that’s why It’s taken me so long to figure things out. I’ve only been focusing in my though process and it’s been so difficult to cope with because most of the negative thoughts are involuntarily. Then guilt sets in because it feels as if I’m the one doing the sabotaging. Then the depression sets in. It’s a vicious cycle. CBT is truly a miracle. Subscribed.
Yes! So pleased it resonated. LMK how it goes changing behavior - it isn't easy, but it is possible, and then the thoughts and feelings change from there.
I’m here & YES! This is making tremendous sense to me as you’re explaining it. I’ve been told by many people around me that I talk in such a negative way. Therefore I end up shutting down. Man, are others words really powerful too!
Great video, I am an LCSW in California and I love using CBT with my clients. It's easy to explain, engaging, and rewarding when you see clients change their way of thinking and behavior as their lives began to improve.
Move A Muscle Change A Thought It's What Captured Me Because Once You Start Acting, You Feel Better And In Turn Positive Thoughts Are Stimulated. Thanks Very Much
This totally makes sense! I've been trying to learn more and more about CBT. I have just been diagnosed with ADHD, at 58, trying to find a way to help my adult son with ADHD, get help for his depression to no avail. He is stuck, jobless has a family with 2 kids and won't take necessary steps to get the help he needs.
@@BarbaraHeffernan From what you have presented in a clear and precise manner, I would have to say CBT would probably never have helped me when I was young and suffering from depression, anxiety and severe phobic disorder. I also had Post Partum Psychosis after my second child and Post Partum Depression after my third. I was treated for those with older drugs ( only ones available at the time - Nardil for the Psychosis and Anafranil for the PPDepression ) I have never felt like a failure. I am very disciplined - studied piano for 13 years ( for 6 years - 2 hours practicing every day even if I had a 12 hour nursing shift ) Was an RN. I became a lane swimmer at 21 and would swim regularly once my baby was old enough to stay with my husband ( usually after I quit breastfeeding. ) Exercise never helped my depression, anxiety and phobias. I had 4 children and did my very best to be a good mother. There was no time for indulging in sleeping for depression. I faked my way through everything with smiles. No one had a clue that I was suffering so terribly. My phobias began to become more extreme so that I had to even avoid what would seem like normal activities to other people. I could see that I was slowly dying - having been a nurse, I could see where I was headed. At 40, I had a psychiatrist put me on medication for depression ( the new SSRIS ) and a benzodiazepine for life for my phobic disorder. A miracle for me after 20 years of terrible suffering. I am now 68 and am grateful for the help I received. I was given a life. I think CBT could be helpful for many people, but my case was severe in the extreme. My granddaughter is going for CBT and in her case, I believe it will be very helpful. She has many issues with abandonment and that sort of thing. Thank you for your presentation and I hope many people will find CBT a great help in their lives.
Great job explaining Mrs. Heffernan. I am a LMSW preparing to work full-time as a therapist and prayerfully start my LCSW supervision journey. This has helped me a lot. I plan to check out your video playlist. God bless and enjoy your weekend!
Hi! Im 59 years old. I suffer with depresion for the last 18 years. Childhood unattended traumas, and health issues. While doing research I found your video. I like the way you explained CBT the therapy.
This is very interesting. I believe your really onto something here. We cant just make our thoughts stop. Get your body moving though, and man what a difference. It doesnt have to be " go big or go home either". Do a 10 minute walk outside in nature if that's all you can do. Do a 5 minute yoga session on u - tube. I try to treat exercise like taking my morning vitamin. I just do it. I dont wait to feel like it. I just say " this is part of my health care" and just do it. 😉
I've been doing avoidant behaviours now that it's really as natural as breathing, I think it comes from trauma, I seem to have to get to a really bad point in order to know I've not been feeling well, but I am going to take control of my life and help myself like I would a friend with these exercises. Thank you, it's very helpful because I love you explain it in a very clear way.
Thank you so much for the CBT log this will help me a lot. My positive thoughts and constructive behavior only lasts so long until I go back to negative and destructive behavior.
Thank you Barbara I do walk alot for my mental health nature's a great reset for me just the sounds when yiu close you're eyes and breathing slow is really calming ❤
Psychologist told me to undergo therapy for four consecutive days. One day 40 minutes only. But he charges huge amount for one session. Is it enough to heal long lasted mental problems?
This video was very helpful!! being an Indian teen with anxiety, these videos are helpful for me who has parents who think that u are fake crying and faking everything abt your mental state. Thank u so much for your help
This video is gold, Thank you so much for giving us great information and things that we can follow. I have very bad social anxiety and I can confirm that Avoidance and my thoughts made it worse. I had this cycle of avoiding my fears and then blaming myself constantly for avoiding or performing bad in those situations, that made my self esteem low and I got more socially anxious. Just block your exit. Do not avoid your fear. Avoidance feeds anxiety. Second thing is self talk, now this is crucial. How you feel about yourself really changes everything. Try to write down those negative thoughts and try to replace them with good thoughts, it’ll be very difficult at first your brain will not allow you but force yourself to do it. Slowly slowly your thought process will start to change.
Recently diagnosed w ADHD , but as a child I thought I couldn’t learn, then I learned on my own that I just have a different learning style and my brain thinks differently than most children my age. I always has depression and anxiety as young as I remember, and this explanation helps a lot. Thank you, I am now 41 years old and I am still looking for coping skills to help me focus better at work and have a better quality of life in general , I also want to go back to school but it was a struggle when I was younger with having to put triple the effort for a decent passing grade, now I tend to be more forgetful, my pcp didn’t think I’ve had adhd but then I asked my therapist psychologist to help me and test me for some sort of early dementia/alzheimers , he diagnosed with ADHD.
This is an incredible resource Barbara, thank you. I think I’ve had a certain amount of CBT via therapy, but I’ve never had it explained so clearly. Thank you ❤️
You have explained more that I understand in this first 4 minutes and 45 seconds than I seemed to be able to find elsewhere. I am eager to keep watching, but you asked the viewers to leave a comment if that cycle makes sense/relation to what one might encounter. Yes, my life in the last 2 years and 4 months seems to have spiraled backwards into a deep abyss...and I'm still falling. I resigned from a safety sensitive, high income, long term career for this.. alone, unemployed without desire to be employed. I have become what I despised throughout my lifetime. I'm frightened and tired. I sincerely appreciate your video so far. Thank you
Hey Charles I’m sorry you’re going through this. Reach out for help - do you have a family member or friend you can talk to? Lots of Facebook groups too👍 Andrew Huberman videos, Wim Hof method all will help. Take care of yourself 🙏❤️
@@BarbaraHeffernan Thank you, that's encouraging. I'm going to be candid with you Barbara because I don't have anything to hide. Up until a few days ago , I'd been teetering and sifting through my options. I have decided not to enter anything inpatient, for now. There have been a few specific issues with regards to aftercare and my finances that for the long-term future I have been researching. This may not be the process of most that seek recovery, but for me, I have come to realize that sometimes my routes to successful pathways are not the same as my neighbor. So for now, I'd like to keep learning and self educate concerning CBT, addiction, triggers or anything else that brings a little more flicker of light to my tunneling end. I don't have what Rona mentioned, a loved one to walk with me, so to speak, through this journey. That factor is one of a few determining factors for me continuing to actively 'Use' while keeping an open mind on my options. I appreciate that you took time out for me, thank you Barbara. Charlie
Barbara Heffernan I’m new to your site. After searching to figure out how to overcome my anxiety and to know what type of help I need, I found our site. I feel better knowing what it is, what therapy I need, and that I’m not alone. It has been impacting my work, so thank you for you videos and content.
Hi Barbara, I suffer alot of death anxiety, I have these thoughts for over 1 year and this caused by the news that my father had died- wrong news. Anyways, I suffer alot and my mind overthinks and I start get frontal and back headaches. I become suicial too
@@simplybuyer1 Hi: I am so sorry to hear how much you are struggling. CBT or EMDR therapy would be very helpful for the death anxiety - I strongly encourage you to reach out to someone. Thanatophobia (fear of death) is treatable. Also, this is a free US hotline where you can speak to a counselor if you are feeling suicidal: 1-800-273-8255.
God bless you I need this am suffering from anxiety I feel sad lonely and hurt all the time I pray that god heal me and everyone who need help with thanksgiving in Jesus name
Good morning mam, A Very Easy to Understand and Practical Video on CBT and I am Watching the First Video on CBT.Thank You So Very much for Sharing your Knowledge and helping People in Desperate Need.😊.God bless you n ur family. 😊.Great Regards.
I’ve been escaping reality and imagining a different place in my inner world and the visions I’ve created for myself as a refuge. I want to be more in touch with my inner world and not be so out of touch with it.
We are all average in some ways and very special in others! Sounds like pretty harsh negative self talk... the PDF on Negative Core Beliefs May be helpful (link in comments below video)
Just because you feel like a loser doesnt mean you are. This is why you should exercise. Its a start to getting your mind off your feelings. Rock climbing is good because you cant think, you have to be mindful and right there in that moment. Btw average Joe ? Nope you have a gift and a purpose. You just haven't found it yet. Be patient and kind to yourself.
I hear that. Trying to be perfect when I don't think its possible is disheartening. Also a BIG Kick in the (figurative) nuts to be told such things by therapists as "of course you're paranoid, you're not important enough for that to be likely..." 'its magical thinking. You don't have that much effect on your own life let alone anything else..." Nice....
Wow !! This explanation has been an Epiphany !! I had a lot of trauma in my childhood, was scapegoated by my dysfunctional family on top of that … this has led to self doubt, overthinking,& anxiety/depression… chronic problems in my life… I discovered the root cause of my self esteem issues were caused by the dysfunctional narcissistic family dynamics,& this gave me some comfort… I was relatively “normal “… I was just reacting to the ongoing situation,& abuse. I still am stuck in this ruminating, negative thinking, feelings of inadequacy… etc… This is the first time I’ve seen a video with some helpful steps to take… to break this life killing ,(literally), negative cycle. Thank you soooo much… I am going to enact these steps,& advice…. So I can recoup my life,& create joy, success,& independence in my life .
Thanks so much for this. The love of my life and I are both struggling separately with our own trauma, anxiety and depression, & I feel this will set us on a path that helps us greatly.
Thank you Barbara for the incredibly helpful video. I am currently struggling with anxiety and depression and your insight on changing behaviour before thoughts makes a lot of sense. As difficult as it is I am going to try and implement some of these techniques. And to all the people here who commented on how they are struggling with their mental health I want you to know I am proud of you for having the courage to share this and you are not alone. You can and will get better. Sending you love and compassion.
This was an interesting video because it explains why feeling's and thoughts that are negative can lead to unacceptable behavior with steps to take responsibility and change.
thanks for these simple tips! I love how clear and simple you make this. It is so common when people are struggle that we make it SO much more difficult then it really is!
Hi @Janelle Fraser: You are super welcome. Us humans sure can complicate things, can't we? Our society contributes to some of these unhelpful ways of thinking... Yet sometimes trauma or difficult childhoods contribute, and then it is not so easy to change 😔, although recovery is definitely possible!
World needs more ppl like u ...I need therapy ..but I dont find the intellect ppl like u around me...even many dont know how to give the right therapy for my problem...therapy prices are too high to afford
Thank you this was very helpful! I was stuck at that point because I thought if I feel bad I just need to heal the wound behind and then I ll feel better and able to move and do stuff; but I felt like I was failing and couldn’t get the joy feeling of doing something. I found sometimes that if I would do something even if I don’t feel like it, I would feel better afterwards. I had trouble to understand it because I was in the whole concept of « following joy », but I realized that sometimes I had to follow discomfort and fear and absence of joy to feel better...
Great video, I believe that I've been using cbt techniques to help me deal with negative thought patterns without even knowing it! You break down the components of cbt very well and that allows me to see the importance of truly utilizing each aspect of cbt. Ex, identifying a negative thought is an important start. However, actually changing a negative response and making a healthy alternative move is really what cbt is all about! That rational response is useless until I put it to use! Perfect ex, "I don't want to work out, I'm tired, it's hot etc" then, I choose to push through the grind and work out anyway. I instantly put the healthier response to work... and that, is cbt
thank you so much! so easy to follow and digest. and I love that you're chill and not being all youtube vlogger-y. going to watch more of your videos for sure. thanks for doing what you do
Dear Barbara: best regards to you from Saudi Arabia: the great effort of you offer mankind a curative way to the problems we create to ourselves due to lack of understanding how balance our thoughts, feelings and behaviours. May ALLAH ( GOD) bless you and all your loved ones for the great efforts of yours. 🌺🌺🌺🤲🤲🤲
This is the best psychotherapy channel I have ever found. The most professional, helpful, insightful and well spoken. Thank you so much for sharing with us your videos; they are invaluable!
I love how you explain the connections between behavior and thoughts. You’re right, I’ve heard so much about changing thoughts which is incredibly hard. If changing behavior is what implements that change in thoughts then this is life changing! Thanks for making this video!
This information was extremely helpful for me!! Thank you for doing this. I’m trying to work on my anxiety and I found this very helpful and insightful!!
If you're here, watching this video because you want to better yourself, I'm proud of you and you should be proud of yourself. It's not easy and maybe something pushed you to be here but whatever the reason, you're here and that's something to be proud of.
I just got out of drug/alcohol treatment CBT and DBT were a huge part of the program
You are truly God sent, thank you so much for your work ❤
Yes!!! All the best to you people searching 4 solutions to your problems! Most wont do it!
This just made me smile. Thank you
thankyou logic!
Psychology should be thaught at school
so should spelling. Lol
CBT saved my life. After that I became a CBT therapist. This way of living is so much powerful that my mission now is to let the whole world know, how CBT can heal our lives!
Please help me.i am dying slowly and slowly.Please help me sir...
@@Himachaltimes2024 same here😭
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Did you start making more money? By my experience, CBT is bullshit, like every other “therapy.”
Dude, you've posted this same comment on just about every CBT video on YT. Give it a rest, would ya?
I got more out of this 12 minute video than I have seeing a therapist for the past 2 years! A million thankyous!!!
Me too
Agree!
Do you feel healed?
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Thank you for saying that
Yes,avoidance was definitely me with anxiety. 💕 I would avoid going places,making phone calls or even going outside.. Now I’m doing them all by working hard on myself.
Awesome! How great you are doing the work❤
@@BarbaraHeffernan I am exactly the same, massive avoider, procrastinator which increases my depression and anxiety . This has given me great understanding of CBT- to get working an into action. Thankyou your presentation is easy to understand and inspiring
Just looking at that log is making me anxious... 😫
Can't wait to I get there..I'm right we're you were
Relatable 😢
She is VERY right about how depression works. Behavior -> Thoughts -> Feelings. Sit all day -> Blame yourself all night -> Feel like crap the other day. Repeat for an year and you become emotionally numb AF. I knew i had a problem, but one day i thought "Why my favorite music stopped making me feel good, i get no emotions like before from it (and im fan of Accept, Black Sabbath, Deep Purpple, Pink Floyd - stuff that you just cant feel emotionless towards)". That was the moment i realised that something is VERY VERY dangerously wrong with me. That happened today. Now looking for ways to "fix" that thick emotional "shield" of mine :|
Petar I hope you are doing better.I am where you were right now. Searching for anything to feel alive again.
Petar and Laura, I hope you both doing better by now. Recognition of a problem is the biggest step you can take towards fighting and curing depression and/or anxiety. Taking action and seeking help (which might be watching TH-cam videos, reading, therapy, talking to a friend/family/stranger in TH-cam comments) is the second biggest step you can take. You both just took two huge steps towards recovery which is a great accomplishment. From now on it will get better. I’m sending a lot of love to you
LIES. THE ULTIMATE CORRELATION TO DEPRESSION IS POVERTY, MISERY AND A HORRID CHILDHOOD. NOT NOT NOT BEHAVIOR OR ANY OTHER SELF HATING, SELF BLAMING BS. LOOK IT UP. CBT/DBT ARE THE MOST FAILED PROTOCOLS IN THE BUSINESS. ALL THE PATIENTS AND COUNCILORS TEND TO QUIT IT. FACT FROM THE UNIVERSITIES WHO BORE THESE FRAUDULENT COUNCILORS..
Hi, i am in that state right now. Feeling numb. There are things that used to make me happy now it doesn’t. And i knew something was wrong with me. This wasn’t me. So yeah i am also searching for ways to make myself feel better. Peace🌹🌹
You have excellent taste in music. I truly hope you are in a better place today
My social anxiety was extreme and my therapist was trained in CBT. She also included exposure therapy and challenging automatic negative thoughts. I was cured in about seven sessions.
Awesome!! Thank you for sharing your experience. It is important that people know it is possible to recover!
My therapist called the automatic negative thoughts, ANTs, for short. Good name as they are hard to find, but easy to stomp out. I saw them as soap bubbles. Easy to pop as they have no foundation.
@@geraldvaughn8403 I love the soap bubble image!
Anybody would be lucky to have you as their therapist!
Exactly what I was thinking
Wow the whole loosing job ending up on the street homeless are my exact thoughts. Wow glad I found this.
Literally so relatable
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Same here. I am 56 and my dad passed when I was 28. I had 2 failed marriages ...2nd one ended right before he passed. I suddenly found myself with 2 little boys and they were 6 years apart in age. I had NO ONE to turn to in the event I dropped one ball I was juggling. Their dad's disappeared and were not part of their lives nor helped with any support. I had to get tough, ON THE OUTSIDE while on the inside I was terrified. I worked hard and worked my way up and up to pretty good money. BUT, I couldn't rest. Always knew I wasn't good enough and all it would take is for those around me to realize it. Always knowing I would be the next one to lose my job. Always, it will be me tge next time. My sons are grown men with their own families. My oldest just retired from 20 years in the Navy. I still say...they layer off 300, I am sure I will be next. Last year I sent my youngest a text and jokingly told him how much my raise was and added another 0 to it. Then I said...oops...that's the raise you get I had too many zeros. He responded with..."congratulations, and so, when are you getting fired...next week? You are tge only person I know who gets raises and bonuses and you always think you will lose your job any day." Yeah...sorta made me really see how sad I am. It's hard to live your life in that kind of fear. Been at this company for 27 years. In 2020, my husband of 18 years left for work on July 2 and sent me a text message he was no longer in love and it's over. Added to my anxiety all over again! 2 weeks will be a year since I have been completely alone in my home and working from home over a year due to cv. I am supposed to return to the office July 12th. I am FREAKING out. I honestly don't know if I will even know how to act around people. I have been in solitude.
@@Donna-LookingUp there’s a sun to everyone
I’ve been through CBT treatment for depression. The skills have helped me so much. I no longer get overwhelmed by emotions frequently.
Now I am watching my sister go through severe depression with very negative thoughts. Her behavior ends up pushing people away. She feels frightened and alone. I’m sending her this video to encourage her to get into CBT. Thank you so much for the video.
You are very welcome. And thank you for sharing how much CBT helped you! That will give people hope :)
What is the process of CBT and ERP
Yes. Makes complete sense. Here to learn to change. Was in a toxic relationship for a long time and negative thought pattern became habit. I felt trapped. Growing and learning now.
I truly hope this is helpful. Wishing you health and healing!
Great Video! I agree, I hear too much advice on "changing my mindset", but once I started changing a lot of my behaviors, I was able to help control my anxiety much better.
Thank you! Yes, especially exercise can be extremely helpful in motivating yourself to get out of dangerous anxiety spirals.
what behaviors did you change? avoidance type?
It really is not about the behaviors though the reason your depressed is because of your beliefs
@@musiclife-zr1os thats the thing isnt it? by changing your behavior you put yourself into situations to expose and face your beliefs instead of avoiding them
The cycle you mention makes so much sense. I get anxiety about my day. And then my anxiety immobilises me I get nothing done and I criticise myself. This was very helpful, thank you. I just subscribed to your channel.
This is EXACTLY me!!! I am going to really work on learning the strategies and techniques of CBT. You explain life so eloquently and it doesn't feel so intimidating.
Thank you so much for the lovely compliment! I am so pleased you find it helpful! So great you are going to try - and just give it time, day by day… you can do it!
The cycle absolutely makes sense.
I had never heard “move a muscle, change a thought.” That really makes a lot of sense.
So glad that resonated with you!
Johnathon Eltrevoog That’s a good quote! I do yoga every morning for an hour, and work in my garden. My back doesn’t allow me much more. I’m going to remember that. Though! 🙏💫💕
@@BarbaraHeffernan yeah I completely understand it too I have this a lot
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Very insightful video I belong to the old school methods like transactional analysis will try cbt
Just wanted to say an immense thank you for this! You've earned a subscriber. You really hit the nail on your head with the point about it sometimes being easier/better to change behaviours than just to always focus on changing thoughts. I'd been banging my head against the wall trying to get rid of my OCD's intrusive thoughts, but after watching this video I decided to change my behaviour by acting in spite of those thoughts and feelings instead.
Previously I couldn't do simple things like sit on a chair someone else had previously sat on (without putting a clean towel down on them first), or touch door handles or light-switches without immediately washing my hands afterwards. If I dropped my clothes on the floor after laundry for even half a second, they'd have to go straight back in the wash.
These last few days since I watched this video I've been forcing myself to do all those things regardless of what my thoughts are telling me, and sure enough, the change has been absolutely dramatic. After 6-7 years now of feeling like I'm living in a bubble and can't touch anything, I'm starting to feel like a normal person again.
I'm also now hopeful that I can apply the same principle to fighting my social anxiety, that's kept me house-bound for years.
So thank you!
Wow. I am so happy to read this (got chills actually!) You are putting into practice the "exposure" part, which is the main way to eventually stop the OCD cycle. I'm so impressed you've been able to make those changes! Keep it up. And, yes, so important for us to know that we do not need to believe our thoughts!
Cycle: Thoughts - Behavior - Feelings. "Feelings" seem to be out of direct control. Similarly, "thoughts" tend to be like feelings, but perhaps we have some control. "Behaviors" seem to be under our control. Right? Becoming aware of thoughts, behaviors and feelings through writing them down is a start. What about attitude? Noticing and adjusting our internal judgements or attitudes towards our thoughts, behaviors and feelings seems to be part of the CBT method. Some amount of acceptance and acknowledgment of where we are at currently seems to be a turning point.
Thank you for the video.
Hello ma'am I am suffering from schizophrenia, insomnia, depression, anxiety,i am 32 years old girl,i am unmarried, negative thoughts of suicide murders disturbs me a lot that i get headaches,and i feel shameful about all this,i am from India Lucknow Uttar Pradesh,my name is humaira ❤❤ just loved your video ma'am thanks 🙏👍❤❤
As a child, I had zero agency. My folks always dismissed my feelings---I WASN'T EVEN ALLOWED TO HAVE MY OWN FEELINGS! It's taken decades to allow myself to acknowledge and allow my true feelings. It's been a big breakthrough. And CBT is exactly my parents all over again. No, thank you.
I believe some people instead of spending money on expensive and material things, they need to pay for therapy. The world is so toxic and unhealthy, the bad apples spoil the good apples. I believe there are so many beautiful, kind souls in this world, that been broken by greedy, selfish, narcissistic people that have no boundaries, know no God, or how to love and are very ungrateful. The good souls instead of expanding their love in this Universe, choose to shut down and learn how to cover and protect themselves from these dark souls. How unfair?? Right. To all beautiful souls who been treated unfair by others, may you know peace and love from the Universe each day. And thank YOU for existing here on Earth. Anxiety and depression is also rooted from the fear that this world contains...we all should work on ourselves to live in Peace, love and understanding.
Very true same happens here
milachyc88 You don't need a god to be kind, loving, or generous. People who need religion to feel those things are making progress, but it's basically faking it until you make it. Don't confuse being a decent person with religion, or religious people with decency. They are separate things.
Jackie Cauthron-Schafer God was one of the things that it was listed, and not ONLY!! If you read the whole thing, you will understand. Don’t pull only one word out of the context and create your ideas. It was never said, only by believing in God you can become a good person. And by the way, God does not have to do anything with religion. If you are a spiritual person, you understand what I’m talking about . God controls the universe, and you and I and 7 billion people are controlled by the universe. If I would of call Christians, muslims or Jewish, Buddhist, etc., that’s religion. So you don’t get my text mixed up neither. I stated my opinion clearly. Have a good day
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"Amen" Sista
I can't thank you enough Baraba Heffernan. Thanks a million to you for sharing this treasure of knowledge with us.
You are very welcome. I truly hope my videos are helpful for you!
Thanks so much!
Sending love and support to anyone who is having a difficult time right now. Find a good therapist and seek out support from a friend. You can do this!
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Life changing video,practise is needed but I'm sure it will help my negative thoughts..thankyou
Awesome! And yes, practice is needed and it is worth it :)! Wishing you all the best
This is exactly the type of therapy I need! I believe with the help of your videos I can heal from years of trauma. Thank you!
Wondering how you’re doing, Teri. It’s been nine months. I just discovered this channel And I’m hoping that it will help me as well
I suffer from depression and two of the most affective methods for me in battling my depression is exercise and changing my thoughts about myself (shutting down negative loops) Watching your video and the phrase "move a muscle, change a thought" reminds me how often I wake up not wanting to exercise that morning... but the moment I have exercised I immediately feel better about myself. It's a two way street. Thoughts changing behaviour and behaviour changing thoughts. Thanks for the video :)
I agree! Move a muscle, change a thought is so true, but I kind of don’t get the rest of it. Of exactly what other tools get me from A to B ?
So many times I didn’t feel like going to the gym but went anyway. I have yet to come out of the gym feeling the same or worse as when I went in. Exercise definitely changes your thoughts
Excellent video. You gave me that “aha” moment. It’s my behavior that I have to change more so than my mindset. I think that’s why It’s taken me so long to figure things out. I’ve only been focusing in my though process and it’s been so difficult to cope with because most of the negative thoughts are involuntarily. Then guilt sets in because it feels as if I’m the one doing the sabotaging. Then the depression sets in. It’s a vicious cycle.
CBT is truly a miracle. Subscribed.
Yes! So pleased it resonated. LMK how it goes changing behavior - it isn't easy, but it is possible, and then the thoughts and feelings change from there.
move a muscle, change a feeling. thank you for this very clear explanation
I’ve suffered for years with depression and always refused help, after watching this it makes sense to do it. Thank you
Wow. I'm so pleased to hear that. Yes, good therapy really can help!
I like that you include behaviors. Thats needed.
This is right. I always assess the interconnectedness between thoughts and behaviours and encourage my clients to make efforts in both.
Yes! :)
Wow! This was SO good! Thank you for actually giving information on HOW to proceed, not just "about" CBT and "why". Very applicable info!
So happy you found it helpful!! Thanks for letting me know - it means a lot to me :)
I just used the log and was able to change my behavior and the result using your log. I am so blessed I found your video.
So great to hear this!
Plz explai how,
I’m here & YES! This is making tremendous sense to me as you’re explaining it. I’ve been told by many people around me that I talk in such a negative way. Therefore I end up shutting down. Man, are others words really powerful too!
i am finding your videos very helpful and thought provoking thank you
You are welcome. So pleased they are resonating with you.
Hello 👋 how are you doing?
Great video, I am an LCSW in California and I love using CBT with my clients. It's easy to explain, engaging, and rewarding when you see clients change their way of thinking and behavior as their lives began to improve.
Someone like this comment for me please, as I need to focus on making food, but I don’t want to forget to come back and watch this afterwards
Move A Muscle Change A Thought It's What Captured Me Because Once You Start Acting, You Feel Better And In Turn Positive Thoughts Are Stimulated. Thanks Very Much
This totally makes sense! I've been trying to learn more and more about CBT. I have just been diagnosed with ADHD, at 58, trying to find a way to help my adult son with ADHD, get help for his depression to no avail. He is stuck, jobless has a family with 2 kids and won't take necessary steps to get the help he needs.
Thank you so much Barbara.
Your description of the anxiety symptoms are me exactly
Oh happy day! So glad I found you :) Yours may be the clearest explanation and presentation of CBT I’ve ever heard and seen. Thank you!
😀 Thanks!! I'm so glad you found it helpful.
read or podcast feeling good david burns .. alot of good info there as well also on youtube..
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@@BarbaraHeffernan From what you have presented in a clear and precise manner, I would have to say CBT would probably never have helped me when I was young and suffering from depression, anxiety and severe phobic disorder.
I also had Post Partum Psychosis after my second child and Post Partum Depression after my third. I was treated for those with older drugs ( only ones available at the time - Nardil for the Psychosis and Anafranil for the PPDepression )
I have never felt like a failure. I am very disciplined - studied piano for 13 years ( for 6 years - 2 hours practicing every day even if I had a 12 hour nursing shift ) Was an RN.
I became a lane swimmer at 21 and would swim regularly once my baby was old enough to stay with my husband ( usually after I quit breastfeeding. )
Exercise never helped my depression, anxiety and phobias.
I had 4 children and did my very best to be a good mother. There was no time for indulging in sleeping for depression. I faked my way through everything with smiles. No one had a clue that I was suffering so terribly. My phobias began to become more extreme so that I had to even avoid what would seem like normal activities to other people. I could see that I was slowly dying - having been a nurse, I could see where I was headed.
At 40, I had a psychiatrist put me on medication for depression ( the new SSRIS ) and a benzodiazepine for life for my phobic disorder.
A miracle for me after 20 years of terrible suffering.
I am now 68 and am grateful for the help I received. I was given a life.
I think CBT could be helpful for many people, but my case was severe in the extreme.
My granddaughter is going for CBT and in her case, I believe it will be very helpful. She has many issues with abandonment and that sort of thing. Thank you for your presentation and I hope many people will find CBT a great help in their lives.
Great job explaining Mrs. Heffernan. I am a LMSW preparing to work full-time as a therapist and prayerfully start my LCSW supervision journey. This has helped me a lot. I plan to check out your video playlist. God bless and enjoy your weekend!
Hi! Im 59 years old. I suffer with depresion for the last 18 years. Childhood unattended traumas, and health issues. While doing research I found your video. I like the way you explained CBT the therapy.
Hello how are you doing?
Fake it till you make it...what you teach, explains why that is so important in recovery. Thank you!!
Yes! 😀
This is very interesting. I believe your really onto something here. We cant just make our thoughts stop. Get your body moving though, and man what a difference. It doesnt have to be " go big or go home either". Do a 10 minute walk outside in nature if that's all you can do. Do a 5 minute yoga session on u - tube. I try to treat exercise like taking my morning vitamin. I just do it. I dont wait to feel like it. I just say " this is part of my health care" and just do it. 😉
That is great! Exactly!
Good idea
I've been doing avoidant behaviours now that it's really as natural as breathing, I think it comes from trauma, I seem to have to get to a really bad point in order to know I've not been feeling well, but I am going to take control of my life and help myself like I would a friend with these exercises. Thank you, it's very helpful because I love you explain it in a very clear way.
So glad this was helpful!
Thank you so much for the CBT log this will help me a lot. My positive thoughts and constructive behavior only lasts so long until I go back to negative and destructive behavior.
You are welcome!
I loved how you discussed behavior as the driver to change feelings. Simple things like taking a shower to start fresh and can help.
Thank you Barbara I do walk alot for my mental health nature's a great reset for me just the sounds when yiu close you're eyes and breathing slow is really calming ❤
I went to my first therapy session today for anxiety and CBT is part of my treatment. I was so pleased to find your videos! Thank you !
Do you need to take session with psychologist
So pleased they are helpful!
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Psychologist told me to undergo therapy for four consecutive days. One day 40 minutes only. But he charges huge amount for one session. Is it enough to heal long lasted mental problems?
@LP so how did it go?
This video was very helpful!! being an Indian teen with anxiety, these videos are helpful for me who has parents who think that u are fake crying and faking everything abt your mental state. Thank u so much for your help
You are very welcome. I wish you health and healing.
This video is gold, Thank you so much for giving us great information and things that we can follow. I have very bad social anxiety and I can confirm that Avoidance and my thoughts made it worse. I had this cycle of avoiding my fears and then blaming myself constantly for avoiding or performing bad in those situations, that made my self esteem low and I got more socially anxious.
Just block your exit. Do not avoid your fear. Avoidance feeds anxiety.
Second thing is self talk, now this is crucial. How you feel about yourself really changes everything. Try to write down those negative thoughts and try to replace them with good thoughts, it’ll be very difficult at first your brain will not allow you but force yourself to do it. Slowly slowly your thought process will start to change.
So glad this is helpful, and thank you for sharing with others how avoidance made things worse!
Recently diagnosed w ADHD , but as a child I thought I couldn’t learn, then I learned on my own that I just have a different learning style and my brain thinks differently than most children my age. I always has depression and anxiety as young as I remember, and this explanation helps a lot. Thank you, I am now 41 years old and I am still looking for coping skills to help me focus better at work and have a better quality of life in general , I also want to go back to school but it was a struggle when I was younger with having to put triple the effort for a decent passing grade, now I tend to be more forgetful, my pcp didn’t think I’ve had adhd but then I asked my therapist psychologist to help me and test me for some sort of early dementia/alzheimers , he diagnosed with ADHD.
Yes this makes so much sense. I have anxiety, depression and PTSD.
The cycle makes a lot of sense
Thanks a lot. I don't have much control over my feelings and thoughts, but I will definitely try to change my behavior. Thanks once again.
Terrific - I hope it helps!
This is an incredible resource Barbara, thank you. I think I’ve had a certain amount of CBT via therapy, but I’ve never had it explained so clearly. Thank you ❤️
So glad this was useful for you!
You have explained more that I understand in this first 4 minutes and 45 seconds than I seemed to be able to find elsewhere. I am eager to keep watching, but you asked the viewers to leave a comment if that cycle makes sense/relation to what one might encounter. Yes, my life in the last 2 years and 4 months seems to have spiraled backwards into a deep abyss...and I'm still falling. I resigned from a safety sensitive, high income, long term career for this.. alone, unemployed without desire to be employed. I have become what I despised throughout my lifetime.
I'm frightened and tired.
I sincerely appreciate your video so far. Thank you
Hey Charles I’m sorry you’re going through this. Reach out for help - do you have a family member or friend you can talk to? Lots of Facebook groups too👍 Andrew Huberman videos, Wim Hof method all will help. Take care of yourself 🙏❤️
Hi Charles: I truly hope this is helpful. How wonderful you are searching out answers - you are worth it - ! I wish you the best, Barbara
@@skippy7208 Thanks for the information, I appreciate you.
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Thank you, that's encouraging. I'm going to be candid with you Barbara because I don't have anything to hide. Up until a few days ago , I'd been teetering and sifting through my options. I have decided not to enter anything inpatient, for now. There have been a few specific issues with regards to aftercare and my finances that for the long-term future I have been researching. This may not be the process of most that seek recovery, but for me, I have come to realize that sometimes my routes to successful pathways are not the same as my neighbor. So for now, I'd like to keep learning and self educate concerning CBT, addiction, triggers or anything else that brings a little more flicker of light to my tunneling end. I don't have what Rona mentioned, a loved one to walk with me, so to speak, through this journey. That factor is one of a few determining factors for me continuing to actively 'Use' while keeping an open mind on my options.
I appreciate that you took time out for me, thank you Barbara.
Charlie
What you are presenting makes complete sense.
I thank you for your message and helping us to heal. So many are not able to afford the psychological care we need. Blessings to you 🙏💕
Thank you! I can only see my therapist twice a month and can’t get into a psychiatrist for weeks, so this is incredibly helpful. 💕
Does the Cognitive-Behavioral-Therapy cycle make sense to you? Can you see using this in your life?
Barbara Heffernan I’m new to your site. After searching to figure out how to overcome my anxiety and to know what type of help I need, I found our site. I feel better knowing what it is, what therapy I need, and that I’m not alone. It has been impacting my work, so thank you for you videos and content.
Yes! this is what I do continuously
Yes it makes a lot of sense
Hi Barbara, I suffer alot of death anxiety, I have these thoughts for over 1 year and this caused by the news that my father had died- wrong news. Anyways, I suffer alot and my mind overthinks and I start get frontal and back headaches. I become suicial too
@@simplybuyer1 Hi: I am so sorry to hear how much you are struggling. CBT or EMDR therapy would be very helpful for the death anxiety - I strongly encourage you to reach out to someone. Thanatophobia (fear of death) is treatable. Also, this is a free US hotline where you can speak to a counselor if you are feeling suicidal: 1-800-273-8255.
Thankyou so much, I wish you could live a joyful life too! God bless you, Wish you the best, Wish everyone the best!
Yes this is how I behave & feel!
I am sorry to hear that but I hope this is helpful!
God bless you I need this am suffering from anxiety I feel sad lonely and hurt all the time I pray that god heal me and everyone who need help with thanksgiving in Jesus name
Good morning mam, A Very Easy to Understand and Practical Video on CBT and I am Watching the First Video on CBT.Thank You So Very much for Sharing your Knowledge and helping People in Desperate Need.😊.God bless you n ur family. 😊.Great Regards.
I’m feeling better just after watching this video, and I believe it will help me cope with depression and anxiety
So pleased to hear that! I truly hope it helps :)
This was a great explanation and very easy to understand. Definitely takes effort and practice to change but definitely feasible!!
I love it when I find a new teacher!
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This is great I have learnt that I feel bad or get depressed when I practice negative self talk
I’ve been escaping reality and imagining a different place in my inner world and the visions I’ve created for myself as a refuge. I want to be more in touch with my inner world and not be so out of touch with it.
Thank you for making this video. Wish my therapist was as thorough as you.
It's hard having perfectionist tendency and being average joe at the same time. it makes me feel like a total loser.
We are all average in some ways and very special in others! Sounds like pretty harsh negative self talk... the PDF on Negative Core Beliefs May be helpful (link in comments below video)
Just because you feel like a loser doesnt mean you are. This is why you should exercise. Its a start to getting your mind off your feelings. Rock climbing is good because you cant think, you have to be mindful and right there in that moment. Btw average Joe ? Nope you have a gift and a purpose. You just haven't found it yet. Be patient and kind to yourself.
Well... then you're lucky... because FEELINGS can be changed.
hear ya! guess i'll need to look at the core beliefs thing too 😬😉
I hear that. Trying to be perfect when I don't think its possible is disheartening. Also a BIG Kick in the (figurative) nuts to be told such things by therapists as "of course you're paranoid, you're not important enough for that to be likely..." 'its magical thinking. You don't have that much effect on your own life let alone anything else..." Nice....
Wow !! This explanation has been an Epiphany !! I had a lot of trauma in my childhood, was scapegoated by my dysfunctional family on top of that … this has led to self doubt, overthinking,& anxiety/depression… chronic problems in my life… I discovered the root cause of my self esteem issues were caused by the dysfunctional narcissistic family dynamics,& this gave me some comfort… I was relatively “normal “… I was just reacting to the ongoing situation,& abuse. I still am stuck in this ruminating, negative thinking, feelings of inadequacy… etc… This is the first time I’ve seen a video with some helpful steps to take… to break this life killing ,(literally), negative cycle. Thank you soooo much… I am going to enact these steps,& advice…. So I can recoup my life,& create joy, success,& independence in my life .
Thank you for clear easy to understand explaination of CBT
Thanks so much for this. The love of my life and I are both struggling separately with our own trauma, anxiety and depression, & I feel this will set us on a path that helps us greatly.
I hope it is helpful, and I wish you and your partner health and healing.
Thank you for taking the time to create and post this. Clear and concise. I feel inspired to change my behaviours and research CBT more.
Perfect! 100% disabled for PTSD and pri caregiver for screaming demented wife. Will study you. Thanks ❤️❤️❤️.
As a counseling intern, this video beats all of the CBT books I’ve purchased! Go Barbara for making it easy to explain and understand!!! 🎉
So true! She is so clear.
Thank you Barbara for the incredibly helpful video. I am currently struggling with anxiety and depression and your insight on changing behaviour before thoughts makes a lot of sense. As difficult as it is I am going to try and implement some of these techniques. And to all the people here who commented on how they are struggling with their mental health I want you to know I am proud of you for having the courage to share this and you are not alone. You can and will get better. Sending you love and compassion.
This was an interesting video because it explains why feeling's and thoughts that are negative can lead to unacceptable behavior with steps to take responsibility and change.
Thanks! I'm glad you found it helpful!
This is the best CBT video I've watched on TH-cam. Simply detailed, helpful. Thank you.
Wow! that is the nicest comment I've ever gotten!!❤ I'm so glad you found it helpful.
thanks for these simple tips! I love how clear and simple you make this. It is so common when people are struggle that we make it SO much more difficult then it really is!
Hi @Janelle Fraser: You are super welcome. Us humans sure can complicate things, can't we? Our society contributes to some of these unhelpful ways of thinking... Yet sometimes trauma or difficult childhoods contribute, and then it is not so easy to change 😔, although recovery is definitely possible!
World needs more ppl like u ...I need therapy ..but I dont find the intellect ppl like u around me...even many dont know how to give the right therapy for my problem...therapy prices are too high to afford
Excellent work, i am now tuned in for more.
Thank you this was very helpful! I was stuck at that point because I thought if I feel bad I just need to heal the wound behind and then I ll feel better and able to move and do stuff; but I felt like I was failing and couldn’t get the joy feeling of doing something. I found sometimes that if I would do something even if I don’t feel like it, I would feel better afterwards. I had trouble to understand it because I was in the whole concept of « following joy », but I realized that sometimes I had to follow discomfort and fear and absence of joy to feel better...
Do I have your permission, may I use your words in psychotherapy, presentations,lectures,speeches and motivational lectures etc?
Great video, I believe that I've been using cbt techniques to help me deal with negative thought patterns without even knowing it! You break down the components of cbt very well and that allows me to see the importance of truly utilizing each aspect of cbt. Ex, identifying a negative thought is an important start. However, actually changing a negative response and making a healthy alternative move is really what cbt is all about! That rational response is useless until I put it to use! Perfect ex, "I don't want to work out, I'm tired, it's hot etc" then, I choose to push through the grind and work out anyway. I instantly put the healthier response to work... and that, is cbt
Yes! How awesome you began to utilize these techniques on your own!
Your description of the cycle is spot on. Great video.
Thank you s arnold!!
I love that I discovered your channel. Thank you 🩵
Dear Doctor B. you are so sweet and kind...thank you! You do always help me
Thank you for letting me know!
This was one of the best videos on CBT that I’ve seen on TH-cam. Loved the added emphasis on the behavioral component. Thank you for sharing!
Hi @nicholasjohnfilms: Thanks for letting me know! So pleased! And you are very welcome.
Thank you Barbara I took a walk while listening :)
thank you so much! so easy to follow and digest. and I love that you're chill and not being all youtube vlogger-y. going to watch more of your videos for sure. thanks for doing what you do
Thank you Ashley! I'm so pleased I'm not vlogger-y also lol!
Dear Barbara: best regards to you from Saudi Arabia: the great effort of you offer mankind a curative way to the problems we create to ourselves due to lack of understanding how balance our thoughts, feelings and behaviours.
May ALLAH ( GOD) bless you and all your loved ones for the great efforts of yours. 🌺🌺🌺🤲🤲🤲
This is the best psychotherapy channel I have ever found. The most professional, helpful, insightful and well spoken. Thank you so much for sharing with us your videos; they are invaluable!
Wow, thank you! Thanks for letting me know ❤️
I love how you explain the connections between behavior and thoughts. You’re right, I’ve heard so much about changing thoughts which is incredibly hard. If changing behavior is what implements that change in thoughts then this is life changing! Thanks for making this video!
You're so welcome! Try it and let me know how it goes! :)
Hello how’re you doing?
You are the best I have watched on TH-cam thank you so much extremely helpful
Hi Nasrin: You just made my day!! Thanks! I do appreciate it :)
This information was extremely helpful for me!! Thank you for doing this. I’m trying to work on my anxiety and I found this very helpful and insightful!!
So pleased you found it helpful!
This is an answer to prayer!