5 WEAKNESSES of NARCISSIST that can be YOUR SUPERPOWER/Lisa A. Romano
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As always, this video is full of fantastic information we can put into action now, which is what I've been doing the past 4 or 5 months I have been learning from you & absorbing all the teachings you bring to the table from all your experiences, learning & passing on. I can tell you that you have helped me a great deal already & I can face each day with a different perspective, one I've never quite had before, I've a new bounce in each step & speak with more clarity & confidence !
Thank You So Very Much Lisa ❤️🕊️ !
Yay!!!! So happy for you!!!
Aa
Lisa is amazing she has helped me so much as well...im struggling today..its been 3 months since i left my narc..and listening to her videos help.
That's fantastic news Chris...well done you hooray 👏
@@marylawtoncostine9577, Thank You, I'm not saying at all I don't have really bad days, cause I do, I am moving to a new apartment & my narc-codep mom has collected alot of new stuff from around her home she never used for me, she didn't like something I wrote so now she's using emotional & material blackmail against me, telling me she's giving it all to the salvation army, so I wrote back "there are so many more needy than me anyhow" ! Not to mention all the vial, disgusting, disturbing, reprehensible things she called me. She's 80 now & never gonna see the light in me lest the light within herself .....
1. Inability to self-analyze
2. Lack humility
3. Lack ability to forgive
4. Lack "we" mentality
5. Lack gratitude
Thank you xoxoxo
Yep....exactly my sister to a T.
@John Smith yes cannot stand up to his mother/family for me...... Uses them his mother especially as the reason not to continue our couples therapy, heal our relationship and get back together
@John Smith when the true narcissist in mine & his relationship are both our mothers but I don't mind standing up for him but he did lie to me about things..... Probably many things I still know not about
Thank you 👌🌷
One word to describe a Narcissists treatment: EXHAUSTING 💯💀
Quite, if only I had known the relationship I had was with a Narc. He would cause any argument out of nowhere ...
Sleeping pills stopped working.
Terror - pure torture.
Agree - 100% EXHAUSTING - they don't call energy vampyres for nothing. 😘
BEYOND DRAINED
Part of healing is to stop analyzing and concentrating on the narcissist and start focusing on yourself, how you became a narcs victim and how you can move on to live a fabulous life.
This is so true. When you focus on yourself and the whys and how’s of your own behaviour, why you allow and engage , then you naturally begin to open your eyes to the toxic behaviour of others and begin to set boundaries and limits and permanently walk away from some of the particularly pathological ones. Focusing our own issues is the key to opening the door towards freedom ❤️
There is no figuring them out there's no consistency nothing honestly saidit's a ping pong game and you're the yo-yo
Absolutely amen so help me holy Spirit in Jesus Christ mighty name amen
Amen!
No truer words!
Add alcohol to the equations and it’s even worse. 20 years of it. We didn’t know about labels. 50 years ago, they were just moody. I learned early not to be a puppet, went about doing what I was raised to be and do, and act independent. He hated because I was so independent. Consequently, i soon became my own self, and just let him have “ his rope”. Give him enough rope, they’ll hang them selves. I grieved through the years, and when I had enough I wasn’t the least bit hurt, got that divorce and it surprised the hell out of him
Don't ever allow yourself to walk on eggshells, ever!
Eggshells are supposed to go into the compost bin! And Compost helps grow beautiful flowers! There must be a death… a part of yourself must
Die for a new part to be reborn…
For real
💯🎯
Not any more.. Thanks!
Bring it on Narcs!
Run and don’t look back,nobody has to live under those conditions
best advice. Run and NEVER look back
It's my daughter who has my 5 year old granddaughter 😳
Arguing with my narcissist sister is like being water boarded with word vommit
My sister call's her self the Verbal Assassin
Word salad, cognitive dissonance,gaslighting etc...etc...
Separation without argument or explanation helped me. Life does get better.
Sounds like we have similar sisters. 🤦🏻♀️ NC for nine years and more peaceful for it. Holy 💩, it’s been 11 years! See how much more peaceful it is?!
@@dayhill1616 100,000 thumbs up.
I just told a narcissist do not talk to me that way. You will have to leave. I don’t live like that anymore. Bring on the nice normal people!!! Stand strong!!!’
Girls don't like nice, normal people. Girls like dominant narcissists with self serving problems that are enabled by the females that pick these types of men
I told my ex no one talks to me like that! If you can't speak peacefully I want a 3rd person to witness it. He says he's "not allowed on my property " haha can't be nice and just twists everything
Lisa following your advices I am able to move out of a 20 years relationship with a narcissist. Thank you so much!!!!
Wonderful!
I left a 23yr 8mth relationship and its helpful to hear other im not a lone..ive been feeling a lone lately..i know its the process.
So proud of you!!
I'm still in, but aware, too many past failed attempts. Must be integrated and healthy before that.. hes good whole on probation, but that's not a true safety.
Marilena, și eu! Exact 20 de ani, ca și tine. Ăștia sunt nebuni și datorită terapistilor aici, pe YT și eu mi-am dat seama ce viața duceam. Acum sunt in mijlocul divorțului și e și mai rău decât am crezut! Crazy!
Working toward removing myself from 20 years
14:40 That is exactly how it happened to me 😑 It makes so much sense how I went from being confident and independent to being unsure, indecisive, and feeling lost.
🥰I agree
Me tooo
When I first met him. I had a horrible feeling in my stomach. He was just too nice. Put his absolute all in. Made me and my son is priority. But there was always a feeling that he was just too nice and he seemed to good to be true. Even paid off my debt. I became so reliant on him after I was diagnosed with anxiety and panic attack disorder. Felt he was all I had. 4 years together. But last 2 years were awful. He had a drink problem. Blamed me for everything. Kept telling me he was unhappy with me and I needed to change our house situation even though he chose where we stayed but now it wasent good enough
He said it's too small I need more space. Always telling me he wanted to be on his own. One day went to work and just didn't come home. Not heard from him since.
I agree
@@ellexoxo5436 he came my way too.
Exactly the same way...
Walked away haven’t seen him almost 20yrs don’t know if he’s dead or alive
No more pleasing other people, while I leave myself wanting and lacking every day.
🥰
Regina never forget number one ! THATS YOU !
When I first met him. I had a horrible feeling in my stomach. He was just too nice. Put his absolute all in. Made me and my son is priority. But there was always a feeling that he was just too nice and he seemed to good to be true. Even paid off my debt. I became so reliant on him after I was diagnosed with anxiety and panic attack disorder. Felt he was all I had. 4 years together. But last 2 years were awful. He had a drink problem. Blamed me for everything. Kept telling me he was unhappy with me and I needed to change our house situation even though he chose where we stayed but now it wasent good enough
He said it's too small I need more space. Always telling me he wanted to be on his own. One day went to work and just didn't come home. Not heard from him since.
You please your bad boy gas lighter every day or he'll be angry at you. And you don't want that
"your being abused but told your not being abused" exactly it's not always obvious either that's what I've learned this can be expressed in the most subtle ways and manipulative language.
My wife said “all you care about is sex” while we barely ever had.......sex. I love you while literally pushing you away when I go to kiss you. Really screwed me up for a long time but I’m starting to get it now.
Bingo!!!!👍
Girls love gaslighting bad boy narcissist
As a child of a narcissist, you are not taught how to let things go .
How does one grow up with narcissistic parents and NOT become one themselves??
@@kimvaars9290 you are an empathetic healer and or a people pleaser and have childhood thoughts that you must be adopted because you knew in your heart you were in the wrong family and there's no way you are from the same family...
@@kimvaars9290, sometimes the lesson is what not to do .
@@kimvaars9290 becoz those narc parents will hammer t shat out of ur soul to make u to serve them
You will ALWAYS see most women loving a narcissist
Listening to this, I’m realizing that co-dependency and getting involved with narcissistic relationships goes hand in hand. I remember taking the blame and covering up for my sister and brother. I would rather take the punishment than see them go through it. After being raised by an abusive mother both verbal and physical, I’m finally realizing that this has a lot to do with not having or sustaining healthy boundaries in any relationship. Get strong!! Love yourself!! Hope this helps someone that needs it. ❤
I would also like to see you address how narcissistic people are passive aggressive and say things in between the lines when trying to get their point across
The last straw for me was realising that they would never actually be happy for me ,. I would never be quite good enough , never make the grade and get the love and respect I deserved . It was actually during the pandemic , with people dying daily everywhere together with personal worries that I finally found the strength to trust my OWN truth and reality and end the melignant festering lie for good ! It wasn't easy , there's still the self doubt and despair following the pink cloud ,. but you can get a true perspective on yourself , not the old you which has gone , but a new stronger , proud and self aware you , with true feelings of hope about a brighter future xx
❤️
Been there also and whenever I doubt myself I list all the cruel and mean things they did and I congratulate myself for leaving. It is so amazing to be true to ourselves finally!
Love this!!!! Emerge from the trauma bonding a new person!!!
"I'm currently not accepting invitations into anyone else's drama" one of my affirmations. Thx soooo much Ms Lisa🍎💝
also, "I'm not auditioning for any role in their fantasy play"
When you figure their shame isn’t your shame ...it so theirs give it back to them .
Thank you I have done that and I now feel such a freedom never knew I could feel this way 😁❤️❤️😇
That's what happens when you argue. The emotions can flip flop. Insecurities become injected into you, and on their end they gain security where it did not exist before. Other bad emotions can also transfer in this manner through prolonged arguments.
@@dennisrobinson8008 Takes two to argue. For the most part, don't.
@@billmcdonald2445 true.
That's POWERFUL
Abnormal behaviors
and personalities.
Among the narcissist
is the clarification.
It's not you but them.
Which their victims
can't change or fix.
Therefore it's best to
conquer and divide
with your sanity in tact.
Women are the natural selector of the earth human species
You’ve helped me to open my eyes about my own relationship. I am in absolute shock. I’ve never experienced anything like this before I guess I’ve been living under a rock all this time because I never knew people like this exist
FACTS!! Same here like WTF?! What in the hell is this & or going on
When I first met him. I had a horrible feeling in my stomach. He was just too nice. Put his absolute all in. Made me and my son is priority. But there was always a feeling that he was just too nice and he seemed to good to be true. Even paid off my debt. I became so reliant on him after I was diagnosed with anxiety and panic attack disorder. Felt he was all I had. 4 years together. But last 2 years were awful. He had a drink problem. Blamed me for everything. Kept telling me he was unhappy with me and I needed to change our house situation even though he chose where we stayed but now it wasent good enough
He said it's too small I need more space. Always telling me he wanted to be on his own. One day went to work and just didn't come home. Not heard from him since.
@@ellexoxo5436 You and your son are better off!
Narcissists will NEVER give you, a victory -- they will either fall-silent, or lash-out .
The sad truth but it saves time knowing this reality. No contact: just do it
@@MJ-qb5ph 💯🎯
Realized in June of 2018 the relationship I was in was absolutely not normal. Separated in late June. The temper tantrum that followed (along with the most outlandish behaviour). Led me to filing for divorce in early fall. The temper tantrum continued. Then, we’ll planned triangulation arrived and touched all aspects of life. Divorce was complete and finalized 17 months later (no children, no support payments either way) a true divorce. I have been “no contact” for over 18 months now. Going “no contact” if you can, I’d highly recommend. I really like UR videos 👍🏼
no thank U, I do not want the person to return. I’m much happier now !!
One of my friends told me that she didn't know I was normal until I got away from my mother. She had me sobbing three or four days out of the week. I ended up estranged from my parents for 17 years. Leaving her mind games and sick controls was the best thing I ever did though extremely difficult as we we're from a family oriented strong religion. I'm 70 now and my parents have died and finally the guilt and shame the abuse left me with is lifting as I have found my mother was a sociopath....a step beyond a narcissist. A book The sociopath next door helped understand my mother was unable to have empathy. Life was a control game for her and the first peace and lack of fear came with her death. I knew as long as she was alive she would be putting me in danger in any way she could. Praise be to God. I have been set free. By the way she appeared to be perfect and remarkable in public. There were hundreds of people at her funeral. They had no clue what went on in our home when the doors were closed. My biggest fear of dieing was seeing her again on the other side....so sticking around a long time is my plan.
You went through a lot. You have my deepest empathy. Please, please, do not fear death.
No, its over, your suffering from her is over Linda. You are free! Once we die, we will be released from
all negativity. My mother has been gone for over 7 yrs. She will not expect that when her spouse
dies, he resumes controlled narcissist behavior over her. What happens is he receives an understanding of what he
did and why he did it, and all the suffering he caused. As far as I feel, believe, every human is freed with
death to a new glorious way of being. Take care, blessings coming your way.
Me too!
I feel you pain.... You are at peace now and at the end😇❤️
Linda Moses
I can relate unfortunately mine is still alive but I went no contact with her and the rest of my family. She haunts me, she tells our family that I’m crazy because I stood up to her, I’ve put up with her abuse for so long that one night she called me while I was in hospital bed, I was near death she told me that I deserved to be in that hospital bed. She neglected me at age 7, she sided with my childhood abuser, just to hurt me. I couldn’t understand why she wanted to hurt me since I was so good to her until I understood narcism. She has hurt me so deeply, sometimes the emotional pain is hard to live with. I understand the pain you went through. I hope, I don’t see or hear my mother for the rest of my life.
I don’t know you but you have my sympathy. I feel your pain. You are going to be okay now.
You're digesting your food really well 😂 that's not funny but as a person who was full of anxiety, I am grateful to digest my food really well.
I can look back in my family as see narcissism has touched most. I spent my lifetime trying to save them not understanding they couldn’t be. I believe my illness is due to this but gaining the insight I was not crazy, the overly sensitive one is making me well again...I will beat this. Bless all you courageous people facing this destructive condition called narcissism. thank you Lisa for your relentless efforts to educate and heal us.
to all the people who are sick because of the narcissists in the world. God is going to get you and teach you a lesson.
At the end of day l know where she is coming from. I had the misfortune of getting married too one. The relationship became toxic and l had the courage to walk out of the door. In my experience with one
I wouldn't call them human beings, l think the more fitting word is
ANIMAL.
Mine want me to pay taxes on a property they already sold 15 years ago.
I gave my narcissist ex girlfriend an ultimatum and the next day came the discard.
I DO NOT recommend any ultimatums in a reasonable/healthy relationship, but in a healthy relationship there should be zero need for one or any.
Agreed.
Narc boyfriend gave me ultimatum, "It's either him or me." Oh GOOD! I'll keep texting some guy in Africa that I'll never meet and is no threat to you. He said I made a big mistake and moved away. Oh good, because you did whatever you could to make me feel not good enough for you, to get me to drop everything to give you attention, you threw freaky temper-tantrums, you did all kinds of cookoo stuff, constantly accusing me of cheating. Okay, I wish you well, bye-bye!
Whew.
I recently had to give my husband an ultimatum. I didn't like doing it, but I definitely needed some space from his controlling parents. We have had disagreements over how his parents treated me. I was always wrong and he was really dismissive. Always told I had to appologize and it was definitely a not right or fair one. Their behavior started out with little jabs that I kept rolling off. Then they started escalating to really trying to get a reaction when my husband wasnt in the room. Then to doing this right in front of my husband. I said enough if you wont defend me and set healthy boundaries and insist I must vacation with these people and invite them to our home and feed me to the wolves everytime. I want a divorce.
Yes, giving an ultimatum was a bad mistake. It just pushed him into high gear.
@@alanmclain7072 just run!!
It’s taken me ten years after divorce to work out what my toxic ex was . After all the bullying and controlling behaviour towards me and the kids , he has been a textbook Narc . I have since found your channel Lisa so helpful , and found that silence , not engaging , and minimal contact works best . My kids are now viewing the control freak monster he is behind his facade . The mysognist . He tries every once in a while to upset me , but rather than “ defend myself “ I will simply walk away .
This is what I found to be a simple way one can maintain one’s sanity living with narcs
You’re absolutely right they can have moments of greatness and it sucks you back in and then boom right back to the gaslighting and ignoring every time until you just say no more
They are master charmers at getting you back , but it they are only ever thinking about themselves xx
I was in a relationship with someone with narcissistic tendencies. I now fear everything. I force myself to move forward. doubting myself every step I take. Everything you say in this video is so true.
He make me so mad om the one who lashes out and rages. Crazy making. Actually made me wonder if I was the narcissist. But I do self evaluation all the time and keep trying to be normal. I don't do all the things described here and he does He has made me so crazy so weak feeling.
Thank you friend Lisa, for literally saving my life. I found myself a victim of a vile narcissist immediately following my young wife's passing and this person acted like a helpful friend while at my most vulnerable and then changed into her demon narcissist form upon its delusional thought of believing I wanted a relationship while broken hearted from the loss of my young wife of 20 years and been with since I was 20 and only I am now only 41 years old and much of my days I am nothing short of a suicidal widower who has to deal with the insanity of a demonic narc! Thank you for providing the knowledge and strength to rid myself of this vile creature. I owe you my life and love you for being YOU and sharing your experience and knowledge :) I hope and pray the Best to you always in your life and future.
54 and started my healing 2 years ago. Been Thur hell with these people. Just wish I learned this years ago. It woulda saved me much pain.
Both parents narcs. 27 years married to one. I feel some what free knowing I am not crazy! I have great relationships with my kids.
54? Be grateful…… try being 70 and having just started a healing journey and even knowledge of what you were involved with 2 years ago. I remarried a narcissist at 50 only to live 20 years of pure hell.
56, almost 57, and just starting now... We'll get there...
I feel the same way! I’m 48 and am so grateful for TH-cam heroes like this wonderful lady. I clean houses and my headphones and TH-cam are how I’ve gotten better and grown a ton!
Me to a life time of neglect and now am being punished by all three children for a mistake 50 years ago never given the chance to correct just guilt so sad
Lisa is a high value communicator, Narcissts are not.
Narcs are Haters!
I could never understand how I would always have a person around me that make me feel confused about myself then get stuck in thought who am I, I never thought people close to me could hate me so much. Narcissist keep popping up. I would always believe that people should feel happy. Reality check No narcissist love conflict. Thank you for your Podcast its very educational on knowing yourself by who you surround yourself with it all makes sense know. I absolutely love your work
If you are suffering because of a narcissist, remember you are loved, beautiful and worthy. Never give up on yourself! 💗
Thank you. I am dealing with a female she-devil. She is a monster who has turned people I don't even know. Lying manipulating people. She's evil and insane. This started because she was knocking on the walls. Playing weird sounds, slamming cabinets. I guess she doesn't like me because I'm a good person. She definitely is not and never will be good person. I'm learning to ignore her weak friends that's she has wrapped around her finger. What a ugly monster inside and out. They are pathetic lovers
I have learned to say this when I catch myself thinking judgementally or "like my narcissist". I say "This is my programming and not what I truly believe. What I actually think is ___". It is the closest I have to a magic eraser for all the ugliness and negativity the narcissists in my life covered me with.
#3 Inability to forgive ~ TBH, it has always felt deeper, darker than a simple inability. It's actually an addiction to revenge, in my experience.
The silver lining of having to endure a narcissistorture Is you have now opened your mind up to the complexities of the human mind and no doubt anything you learn will benefit you more than you will ever realise
The human mind is incredible!!
Women love their narcissistic dream boats 🚢
We must note though we are not divine beings.
One of the things that really makes it hard to offer forgiveness these days is that people aren't sorry and they don't care what they did or why you're upset. Forgiveness is fairly useless if the other person just doesn't care, it's like your forgiving a void for being a void, it's an empty space that you're sending kind energy into, it makes no difference. If someone did me something wrong I can forgive them if they say I know what I did was wrong, I messed up or now I understand things better, but I would let them know that I don't want to re-associate. LETTING GO, is probably more valuable than forgiveness, letting go releases tension in the body and the mind, if you can do it. Also, you can't apologize to a narcissist, they will weaponize your apology against you, it's shocking and jarring.
The more i listen, this sounds like most of society, i was raised around narcissist, pretty much everybody in the family and most people i have met in life, and thats why i have always felt different and couldnt understand why, now i know
I am now realizing that most of society is narcissistic, too, in one form or another. While it can be painful being different at times, the awareness of why and progressing is liberating. 😊🙏❤️
When you breathe in a little deeper than normal and sigh, a narcissist will tell you you have an attitude problem. That’s what happened to me. I can’t even sigh without starting a fight. Not worth it.
I can relate...they can and do disrespect us as loudly as they please, we are not allowed any reaction, no matter how small. No, they are not worth it. They are worthless and they are many. Education helps a lot...distance helps even more lol
@@pattytrump Unfortunately, in my situation my daughters father is the narcissist so it’s a really tough situation to get out of. He controls all the finances leaving me completely codependent on him so I really have nothing to myself which is really scary I’m trying my best to go get a job and get out of here right now
When they do that, look at them and start laughing....if they don't huff up and leave and want a fuss,,, tell them your training has improved, pick a subject or shall I pick one....let's start with the way you dress and do something about your hair.. when is your next dental appointment?... What! Are you waiting on me to clean the dirty windows on your truck?... I'm tired, let's go get something to eat, you pick, no i don't like that place, no that food wasn't good the last time, no i don't feel like fish tonight, you can't afford where I want to go......a True statement, WHEN GOD SAVED ME HE SAVED SO MANY OTHERS!
@@devong7124 the key is to act more crazy than them so they freak out Lmaoooo
Blah blah blah. Girls, without zero doubt, love dominant narcissists who can easily gaslight with zero effort. Girls allow it since they are the ones who primarily select. Not men
He always blaming me without purpose. So sick with it. Thank you for the advice, Lisa!
You got this!
I recognize these horrible people that feel good about others feeling badly about themselves , projecting any mal/mis fortunate situations in their own life to cover their hurt
Yes I brow beat my narcissistic x spouse of a 3 time dysfunctionalrelationship … I thought ..but me I’m a Strong Black woman ., not taking drama or crap from a man , and I’m not docile or humbled under him at all. I fight him with his own medicine , then drop kick him to the curve . Course at that point I don’t give A Dam about what he’s feeling
You just summed up the last three years of my life with my ex who was exactly as you described. I couldn't have said it any better!! I became so afraid to speak to her about anything l! Wow
At age 52, I was relatively healthy. Met and married a narcissist. (Unknowingly) Now, age 59, Stress related Heart issues. High blood pressure, uncontrolled anxiety. I’ve never met or known a narc. Never came up in any conversation. I now know.(7 years too late), But I’m getting back to Me. I’m learning, I’m dealing and I find out, I’m a Sigma Empath. 😊
Getting it together and “Playing his Game”.
I will be careful.
Yes be careful
So sorry to hear that , I hope things have improved by now.
Reminds me of my ex who knowingly and intentionally, hurt everyone who ever cared about them, yet used the excuse that nobody cared about him since he was 12 so what does it matter now...( 5 years into the toxic relationship) . They will always have excuse and will use anything and anyone to justify what they do, even at their own fault. And no matter how much calm, sincere explaining what he did and the effects in order to make him see from my point, hed just go thru and repeat those very exact things the next day with zero regard to what i just told him. You cant win.
Yes, you must straighten them out immediately, or you will feel hopeless
Lisa clicking on this video is definitely saving my life.... I have been isolating myself from people... I didn't realize it was bcuz of this narcissistic relationship.... & I used to be a social butterfly... but now I litteraly have a genuine fear of meeting people... afraid that I will meet another narcissist without knowing.....
I thought the only option was suicide! But I can't do that bcuz I have children that I love & I can't leave them stranded but it feels like I keep repeating the pattern even when I don't want to... I keep meeting new narcissists... & bcuz I was raised by a narcissist I was always told that it's my fault when others are abusive to me... I understand that we attract the life we live but I also understand that I am not responsible for another person's abusive behavior... I would love to learn how to smell a narcissist from a mile away... I'm getting better at it so there's definitely hope!
Going through the same. I had such trauma from my childhood that left me looking forward someone to leave me questioning myself and working so hard to be different to hopefully please them which never ever comes. So confused and feeling broken. But definitely beginning to make sense of stuff. Keep on ~ keep on~ 💞💞💞
@@livkind3522 I'm glad that you are making progress... can you believe I spent my entire life trying to please this person... & I wasn't aware that I was doing that.... I'm so grateful for this video bcuz now I have tangible information that I can use for my transformation.... in this moment I feel empowered!! Many Blessings to you on your journey! We are definitely going to need it lol 🤣🙄😊
Exactly it!! First my father then my husband. When we find ourselves looking back at it all with clarity it’s quite mind boggling but oh yes absolutely empowering!!! I want so much to give my lil gal a much better experience ~ no more trauma bonds!! Much love to you!! We can do this!!
We Empaths who are aware, can seek other empaths who have been through and can help us heal. After a while we learn how to "smell" those narcs!
Ms. Romano I just wanted to take a moment and with my Master's in Psychology tell you how absolutely wonderful your videos are.
In fact, the police just left and I'm awaiting a call from the attorney...my next door Narc from hell contracted a tree cutting company to come over while I was out this morning and cut down 2 of my 5 precious lawn border trees. Additionally, this is the second time in eight months...last time she and hubby entered my backyard while my wife and I were at a funeral and cut down 3 other trees within my yard, clearly mine. Let this be a lesson to any victims who fear involving law enforcement. They just can't stand when a legal entity calls them on their bullshit. I love your videos and thank you for your equipping others with the skills required to maintain our sanity.
Trained to put up or shut up.
You are so informative Lisa Romano. Now I understand that the behavior I have been tolerating is abusive. I am wiped out and fed up. You have given me the strength to walk away and save myself. I realize that I deserve better than this. I kept blaming myself for his behavior. I finally walked away and now I can exhale. Thank you again.
Omg it got me in so much trouble sticking around by thinking about how the future could be better before years passed.
I recommend you to the person that help me get my ex-partner back is very powerful and he do all kinds of work.
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@@ahmadsuleiman2614 thank u
Just let go people they are not worth your time and effort once you are gaslighted and someone cannot give you their true feelings then they don't really care, so let them go. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. If they don't like you, let them go and find someone they do like.
Exactly, difficult, but not allowing yourself to respond, drives them crazy. Learn to be neutral and definitely don't make it worse! Walk away, do something you enjoy.
My narc sister said she was seeing a therapist. She told me that the therapist says she is assertive, not aggressive, because she researches stuff and calls out the liars. The thing is that when she researches stuff, it is to support her faulty belief. Once, she told me that she overheard two men talking in a restaurant. These were two strangers! She didn't know them, but, yet, went up to them and corrected what she felt was wrong belief. But, yea, her therapist says she's assertive, not aggressive. That's not assertive. I believe that she doesn't tell her therapist, if she even has one, what she actually does. She most likely modifies her stories to the therapist so as not to come off as abusive.
As someone who survived through two long term (years) narcissistic relationships, having absolutely no idea what was going on and spending years trying to figure out why I couldn't make this 2nd person stop being mean to me or why the previous person would dangle love in front of me (the most handsome man I had ever seen) and then say cutting things or disappear on me, I am SO GRATEFUL to finally be discovering what was going on!!! OMG! If only I had discovered these truths tests ago. I finally had to leave town to break free from the first one. The one I married passed away alone due to a lower gastric bleed brought on by alcohol abuse. I always thought they were either drug addicts or alcoholics. Well, they were but you are opening my eyes big time! It's all finally making sense to me. WTF? Interested in your programs and your books. THANK YOU!
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Thank you!!! I left a 35 year abusive relationship!!! GOD bless your works🥰✌
The greatest thing about pain is; IT DOESN'T LAST FOREVER.
Lisa, you and your videos are so precious to me , and I save the old and new and watch on repeats, I have suffered for 64 years from 3 NARCS MUM, WIFE, and Friend's X-wife who love bombed me in front of my wife and sent me to hell fighting with others. I was in pieces did not know anything about NARCISSIM , until almost 3 years ago I found your videos and
I have been hoovered twice, but now I am 66 and going to psychotherapy and watching all your videos to be able to overcome FEAR and scape for good, I am a full Empath and difficult to leave at this age but I WILL.Thank you ,Thank you
YOU GOT THIS!
I can so relate, Lisa is the first person to make any sense of my life. A true game changer ❤
Yeah, Lisa is our Godsend. We are infinitely grateful for opening our eyes to this true pandemic of narcissism on our planet. We are the ones who evolve, our narc are lost.
@@gracegwozdz8185 we are enough🙏
“It’s sad, but it is what it is.” 👌 that just summed up the narcissistic personality right there! Love you @Lisa Romano 💗
Narcissists can't change because they don't think anything is wrong with them. I come from a toxic family system full of perfect narcissists. Growing up was hell on earth! No contact was my only option.
My sister is a full-blown narracist, and 3 weeks ago, her beautiful, loving, kind daughter committed suicide at 22 years. I believe she wasn't strong enough to deal with her narcissist mother.
Annoying ppl to work with. Ignore them really triggers them, especially when the trying to disrespect you. By walking away stopping them in their tracks before they belittle you, causes narc injuries
narsissists and drug use. connect the two. have a really nice day and i pray for people to recover and to b satisfied again. be with people who bring out the ultimate in you and if they make you feel tense it is because of their inferiority complex. what god has for you is just for you.
Get out before it destroys your physical health. My immediate family (both Opas were German soldiers) obesity, addiction, suicide, ALS, GBS, fibromyalgia, coronary artery disease, arthritis. Thank you to Lisa, Dr. Ramani and Dr. Gabor Mate who have made sense of all this.
I ended up with copd
I never had lung issues before and had pneumonia twice while with him as well as panic attacks which I haven't had since we broke uo.
there are not many quality people in the world. it is like so many people were born from a rush job. thank God I did not have any kids. The people are an insult.
Lisa, your wisdom is wise! You described my narcissistic husband. After over 30 years I have awakened. These last couple years have been intensely unhealthy. The toxicity of emotional abuse caught up to me. Now that I’m NO longer in denial I’m working on finding myself. I appreciate you so much and some of the comments have really helped me too. I’m a codependent who’s learning to let go of unhealthy behaviors. Thank you for helping my being transition into a healthier wellbeing one day at a time. You are a beautiful person inside out.
I refuse to let him break me down I am the same person I was yesterday I will be the same person tomorrow and I'm the same person right now they will not change me I'm just as strong as I want to be I call him on it whenever I found out about it I break him down he don't even like to talk to me I go all in and he can't handle it. I record all of our conversations because he tries to tell me stuff that I did not say and I rewind the tape there is no gaslighting here I raised four kids damned if I'm going to let a man come into my life and make me second-guess myself
A great video. Reminds me of how far my father and I have come over the years. I used to run from him, from our conversations, even putting states between us. But he has grown, and so have I, over the years. The latest was was a nice lunch together that did get a little loud near its end. I had to disengage and jump out of the car but that was fine. I was safe. I apologized. He waited until the next day (He is 82), but he was also sorry and apologized for his behaviour. He has grown a lot over the years and put in a lot of effort to mend the relationship we had when I was a child.
After 33 yrs married to narcissistic husband I finally researched his behavior and walked away a year ago.
That’s fantastic Bless your forward steps
I’m contemplating leaving right now.
Anxiety and pain are bitter friends and move towards letting them go so to be able to move forward freely
Thank you for helping me see the truth❤
My narcissist talks about everything and everyone else problems not even realizing that he himself has the same problem 🙄 sometimes I wonder if they are truly that unconscious. It's weirdo Bazar to me but then he has certain people who has problems but makes excuses for them even makes excuses for himself though like making it acceptable because it was not his fault the world's fault or the devil...Im praying on the day God opens their eyes these people own up to their crap because they hurt people their children their selves and it's destruction in the end.
Britney, don't hold your breath that day will never come. They will never reach awareness of their evil ways. Lost cases. Save yourself from this calamity. Run!
Ohhhh ! Yeah! The one I knew described people so horrible and at the same time I would be listening and thinking she's describing herself and doesn't even know it.
They NEVER change.
Spot on!
@@gracegwozdz8185 i use to feel that way every now and then until recently he showed me something different and it broke me down but God built me back up to where I know now that I'm stronger than him and God needs me to fulfill his will And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. Mines doesn't believe in for better or worst but I look at it now that it's his problem and not mine. So with that being said if or when he leaves I'll be at peace and he'll be wounded😉 I just enjoy him while I can
I find it exhausting being around my mom
I had a emotional hangover from being around her.
Nausea
exhaustion
chills
I am in a relationship and it is affecting us my boyfriend does not want her around I feel the same constantly complaining his lonely she is
and so on.
It is very hard I don’t see her as much if is so
frustrating.
Lisa is so dang good, I can't take notes fast enough. Finally, someone who has removed the fog from the mirror and helped me figure out what the heck is wrong with 'these' people (Narcissists). Being around them robs my energy and keeps me in a 'fight or flight' mode!
Truly portrayed the situation and experience with a narcissist , but before this l can't know where is my position and what is wrong with me, l totally lost my track in life as how to move forward. Can't find who is the real problem but feeling something exhausting confusing and frustrating but can't explain and express the issues going inside the family clearly till now. Thank you for supporting and helping to understand clearly all about this. 👍🙏🏻🌷💖
I cant believe how true im crying my eyes out
You really know this stuff. I suffer from what you are talking about in the 1st 4 minutes. I know my brother can't totally help himself but what you say is so true.
Thank you for the video. Your Instagram has helped me leave an extremely toxic relationship with my narcissist before it was too late.
You are enough!
Man I'm so glad i found your channel! I'm stuck in a coparenting situation with my sons narcissistic mother. Do you have any videos about coparenting with one? I feel like i cant escape it.
I am currently struggling with a family member, my daughter, who exhibits so many of the traits you describe here. I am telling you, Lisa, I am a prelicensed professsional clinical counselor, almost there, and after watching several therapists on this topic, even Dr. Ramani, your insight is about the best I have heard. Simply amazing.
50 yrs my whole life with nex...4 yrs free now finally. Never knew he was a narc...or even what a narc was. I just kept trying. He has nothing to do with our son....my hugest regret is trying where there was no hope. Terribly evil subhumans. Thank you for your videos.
I love listening to you ,you make sense and it feels so healing for me ...I know now I can move forward without any shame or fear of blame ......I am worthy of love and healthy relationships w my family .
YAY!
I just realized that I was never “love bombed” by the narc, and it makes going no contact so easy since that evil mil of mine has absolutely zero relevance in my life😃 She hated me from day one no matter what I did.
I met my great, great uncle Eldon when he was in his nineties, I was going to college in the town where this aunt and uncle lived. I was 18, I knew nothing about narcissists, but in hindsight, this elderly man was a fading, bitter, jealous, evil narcissist. I did well in college and got a high profile job in this historic, well known town. I innocently sent he and my aunt a note about life and my college graduation, etc. He responded with a narcissisticly rageful, brutal lecture discrediting, minimizing and berating me. So I sent another announcement when I got my next degree and mentioned I was on full scholarship!
Hahaha love it. Send him your wedding pictures next 🤣
Well done you 😂😂😂😂
Damn girl, you are tapped in. I love it. I AM so grateful thar I was guided to your authentic self-awareness that you've shared. God's work. ❤ to all of you. We have hope.
You have shown humility by recognizing other therapists that have helped many of us. It's nice being validated by multiple voices.
Lisa Brault well done. Beautifully said.
wow and i though it was me, your describing my ex to the tee, i feel for my teenage daughter though trying to keep the peace and emotionally distant from the ex she has a charming way of getting people to like her!
I’m just getting out of a 19 year relationship which I never realized that I was in a abusive relationship. He broke me and my children mental state that we get nervous and anxiety when we have to talk to him. He has made me feel like I’m worthless and my kids. I’m trying to heal myself and my children but listening to you and others is what helping me understand what we were going through with him.
Great people !!!: Dr Ramni, Sam Vaknin, &Assc. Direct were my main first teachers
when I started my Narcassism journey.Then I branched into others.I premade all my month ly Meals to allow me time to watch many HOURS of you
tube.Narcassism is so comple x,detail,different& dangerous, these hours are greatly need
ed.
I've only just discovered your videos. Gosh how fantastic you're Lisa. I'm learning so so much. From having a high functioning narcissist mother who emotional mentally and physically abused me, to attracting men of a similar way. I'm writing it all down, in the hope I'll finally breakfree. At 54, currently trying to let go of a hf narcissist man, I've felt trapped by since summer 2019. I'm eternally grateful for you wisdom and advice.
This video made me cry as I am only just waking up to it ..with a member of my family ..horrible ! thanks so much .
Dr. Sam Vaknin, Dr. Ramani and you are my favorites. Love the experience and content shared
Same 🙋🏼♀️ And Melanie Tonia Evans and Richard Grannon on codependancy...
heartfelt appreciation xoxoxo
Same on all of the above!
And inner integration❤️
I am right smack dab IN THE MIDDLE of this right now and my sanity would be gone if not for you. I realized it long before but still tried to believe the "good times" were real, but once I finally swallowed the fact that there is nothing left or was never anything to salvage it is now a game for me and I pause and consciously decide if I want to play BEFORE I even open her text and read it. I NEVER answer her phone calls and NEVER reply to texts for at least 30 minutes after receiving it.
It's like watching a tv rerun with all the Crapbook 101 material she pulls and chucks at me....reinforcing for me the reasons we're not together.
Thank you so much!
I have a hard time letting go. My past has a lot to do with it!! I want to very much so let go. I'm sick of the way I have been. Not living my life. I don't even know what that means anymore!!
Thank you so much Lisa.
i was narcissistic in my teenage years and i was humbled in my physical life. I am grateful for that.
Listening to you, everything is making so much sense. She had this victim mentality, blended with anger and rage. She didn't ever let go of issues and magnified my small indiscretions despite having cheated on me with three men in one month! Thanks for the information, I'm glad I'm out of that space and onto my healing path.
Omg I was in this same situation always walking on egg shells although I loved him so much I wasn't preicated.
Have a wonderful day sunshine stay amazing and thank you for being you for others I appreciate you.👻✍️👑🧠🔌⚖️🦈😉❤️ I'm a super empath
Exactly right. The GOAL is LOVE.
I sadly was born to Narcissistic maternal parent. I was brainwashed to believe I was defective,no affection and lots of abuse and trauma. School was my safe place until high school. At 50 I have been blessed by an awakening and have learned the truth. I am still suffering abuse,invalidation and the rest to this day. Am stuck caring for Narcissist as her sons(golden child) don’t care,refuse to disrupt their own lives. I’m trying to work on myself but often find myself crying to God,from the depths of despair. Totally on my own,no support. I don’t know what to do next….😢
Stand up for yourself and fight for you. You can be on your own, and free. Please do not give up