Thank you as always for your love and support. As we’ve been trying to upload more frequently, we’ve been playing around with video styles. Do you like this sit down style or would you prefer more of a vlog style (example: day in the life)? ❤
I enjoy both video styles; i feel like each style has its place perhaps? I came out four years ago and my wife and I have been through some of the same things. Thank you for your sharing your experiences, as it really helps working through ours too.
Love both also. I love the podcast style a little bit more. It just feels like your talking with friends. Thank you for sharing your beautiful life story. You both are making such a difference for different styles of families. Our family is so appreciative of your family❤️
You can still love a person and lose physical attraction for them if they transition. That's not a sign you don't love them but that you are simply not anything but straight.
Thank you for your continued willingness to put this content out publicly. No easy task. It will be an incredible day when labels and sexual intimacy is not where everybody's mind goes to first.
You both are so beautiful but idk how anyone couldn't be attracted to Shaye. She is just so sweet and gentle and beautiful to look at. I love how soft she is. The way you guys explain your attraction to each other just makes perfect sense to me. I feel the exact same way when I'm in love with someone. The attraction is just to the person and how they make me feel.
Everyone talks about the what Shaye has been through and how strong she is, but Amanda? She has been through just as much, if not more. Despite their love, this isn’t easy at all, it is life changing, and Amanda has gone through this with grace and strength, being an example of true love to her spouse and her children ❤
Absolutely agree. Everything in their life and all their family sacrifice has been with a view to Shaye’s happiness. I cannot imagine how difficult that it has been on Amanda. Hopefully now that Shaye feels whole and good about them self, Amanda can feel the same
I must say this is entirely different from any content I'd normally watch. First I saw a few of your short clips then I took the time to watch any of your videos that popped up. I'm in awe of your love story. With so many failed relationships out there, all of mine included, Lol it's awesome to see the love you two beautiful souls have for each other. I'm rooting for you and subscribing now.
Same! I thought here we go type thing. But honestly, I'm learning a lot. You're both beautiful in many ways, and I love your love and compassion for one another.
I have been with my husband for 31 years. As our bodies have changed, so has our intimacy. We look different now. Our hormone levels have changed. Our intimacy is still present, in fact I would say closer than when we first met. Based on your explanation it sounds similar. You still have intimacy with one another even with the changes you have under gone. Thanks for sharing! 😊
My intersex sexual development made me sort of male and female. We made our sexual lives work for us. It is a wonderful thing to have a wife who actually understands and accepts me. This has been 50 years for us, so we must be doing something right. ❤ I’m proud of both of you for living your life and love. ❤️
@@rescuegirl Oh that is awesome 😎 I see us as being the normal ones in the world. I would be perfect if it wasn’t for all the surgeries and related cancer. The doctors are trying to figure a way to allow me to take some form of estrogen that will not cause the cancer to return or spread again.
@@rescuegirl I never heard of that particular form of intersex, very interesting. My intersex is from the earliest weeks of gestation the period when germ cell sexual development takes place. These germ cells failed to fully reach my embryonic gonads. As a result my right gonad/testis remained as a fetal gonad and the left gonad did develop as a testis but remained small. The right one remained undescended and it had to be surgically brought down as a ten year old child. In addition many other germ cells were deposited in various areas of my abdomen. Several were removed as a child other were not found until I was 45 when one became malignant. These were huge as they grew to between 10 and 17.5 cm. As you would expect my gonads are on the small size. I did live as a male but find doing so hard and out of place for me on a phycological level. Hope you are doing well.
I heard an alternative definition of bisexual as being attracted to people of my same gender and people of a different gender. I liked how that was put.
I found your page from Skyler. I was fascinated by your openness. But as I watch your videos, I become more in awe. The support you give each other & the love you have for each other is inspiring. I am a straight woman in a troubled relationship. We work on it daily. But it is me who usually has to concede. When the other person is comfortable & refuses to recognize that there is an issue it strains the relationship. Amanda, I so admire you for accepting & loving Shaye for who they are. It is truly an act of love & acceptance. Shaye, you are a beautiful person. I know being honest & being who you truly are, has not been an easy road. Keep going girl! You be your best you. Love with all your heart. Live your best life. Be the amazing woman you were meant to be. I have gained strength from watching you both. You make me laugh, think, care & most important give me strength to be authentic self. Thank you!
Sim, ela estava explicando sobre conexões da alma, e como ela se sentia mais próxima agora. Como uma pessoa bissexual (que saiu do armário tarde), eu entendo completamente ela. Fazer sex0 com homem sempre pareceu puramente carnal, e com mulher mais profundo, com muito mais conexão, carinho e afeto. Eu imagino o nó que não deve ser vivenciar esse tipo de coisa com a MESMA pessoa.
Idk, I genuinely think maybe she's just sick because before they even started talking about it, she sounded a little congested lol I think of course there's hard parts to talk about certain things but I also think, unless she was doing some crying prior to getting on screen and managing to stop long enough to do her makeup and not cry it off, this might be a "she has a cold" thing
Thank you both for being so brave, so authentic, in sharing your story. As the mom of a transgender daughter, I am grateful for anyone who helps educate the public in getting to know that transgender people are just like everyone else in so many ways.
The love you have for each other is apparent. The tenderness and respect you show each other warms my heart. It’s delightful how Shay’s eyes sparkle when she talks about you, Amanda. It’s obvious there is an intimate connection between you. Intimate, of course, does not necessarily mean sexual. It is generous of you both to answer the curious.
Both are tremendous and I so appreciate you addressing these questions with open heartedness and kindness rather than defensiveness (which would be warranted given it’s truly none of our business). BUT I think you do so much good for others who don’t have to feel alone because of you two beautiful humans using your platform to speak openly and honestly. Assuming the best of people - that they are curious - that they are confused - that they are interested - that they too have been shaped by our culture of projection. Every couple has the right and joy of expressing intimacy in the ways that feel organic and loving to them. Thank you so so much for your channel and your hearts.
Your story is so similar to mine and my wife’s story. We were married for 18 years before she came out and began her transition. That was 4 years ago. Since then, we’ve just grown closer and it’s been a beautiful thing to see her be so happy from living authentically. In the beginning, it seemed that I would only hear all the horror stories about couples going through a transition. So, it’s so lovely to see another couple living happily after transition.
It's cool to watch the two of you talking so openly and vulnerably about your marriage and how this has changed, yet revealed, how strong your love was in the first place. Obviously it makes a lot of people uncomfortable. Fascinating how binary our culture has been.
When my trans son first "came out" he came out as "lesbian" then eventually he felt more comfortable to be his true self and realized he was trans. I was already a trans advocate and supporter before he came out so I was able to be understanding and be supportive. I have to admit I was confused overall because he never seemed lesbian, He always loved women "as a man" if that makes any sense, he was a male in his essence and so that (being lesbian) confused me. turns out he was actually trans just had not accepted it yet. When I understood the difference between gender and sexuality I understood why he was trans and not lesbian. He is happy and in a great relationship now and I couldn't be happier for him. May we all be happy and well.
What you said about him liking women yet never “seeming lesbian,” and like he liked women “as a man” makes total sense!!! I transitioned ftm, too, and while I’m bisexual, I didn’t even realize I’m attracted to women until after I transitioned - because before I realized I was trans, I intuitively knew “lesbian” didn’t fit me at all, so I didn’t explore my attractions to women. After transitioning, it made a lot more sense.
When you are in love with someone, it doesn't turn off. The body changed, the love didn't. I love ya's and truly could care less about your sex life. At the same time, I do understand why people ask. Anyone going through transition as a couple, I'm sure, have concerns. It's so great you speak so honestly.
Thank your for continuing to share so much of yourselves with us! It’s really beautiful watching this aspect of your lives continue to blossom ❤ My heart just glows listening to you both. Your unconditional love for each other is palatable and simply amazing.
I recently discovered your Instagram accounts and then I watched all your TH-cam videos this week. The love Amanda has for her wife Shaye is so deep. The way Shaye and Amanda go through the transition journey together is so touching. As a cisgender lesbian myself, I almost cried watching your videos. Shaye, you are so beautiful. The love between you and Amanda is so pure and beautiful. Your family is beautiful. Almost too good to be true for queer people like us. Sending love from Hong Kong ❤❤❤
Like I said before, you two are soul mates! Amanda you are so thoughtful and able to express what you are feeling in away that we can all understand. Shaye has a way of making us smile about the discomfort of the subject at hand,lol, but certainly can articulate her inner thoughts as well. I can't think of two better people to help all of us understand that love is love.❤️👍 Thank you!
I have deep respect for your determination to keep healthy boundaries and answer only the questions you want. The rest is nobody's business, as you said. I also loved the treatment you gave to labels which seem to be so necessary for many people. I guess it helps them nail down what is actually a mysterious/confusing realm. What comes through loud and clear is your sophistication, articulation, and deep love for each other. That's gold!
I am amazed by your story of love, loyalty and companionship. I loved the video style and would love if they did more in this style. I have been following you here from Brazil.
What I like the most of listening to your channel, is how educated you both are about gender. It is clear that you both took the time to deconstruct social norms around it, question them, dig into academic material, but from the perspective of someone that wants to understand their own skin. It is clear that also you have access to a financial possibility to reach that information. I feel you also aknowledge the priviledge you´ve had as a trans woman with resources, but you are using it to encourage conversations with care and truth. Sending lots of trans love for the two of you and your family.
the statement “I felt like I was attracted to you, but not in the male way” made so much sense! I have been trying to figure out why I felt so different once I started processing and deconstructing my gender
Many of the ppl watching your channel may be going through something similar and want details they cant find anywhere else. We need to know where to find answers. What happens to a trans woman's boy parts and sexual function? Is it different for an early or late transition? Curious what age Shaye would pick to transition. For example if a boy knows he'll be 6'5" but is now only 5'9", can (s)he begin transition to stop growing, while preserving sexual viability? Never having had children, there maybe the desire to use those parts later, without sperm freezing. So many questions.
It's up to each trans person/couple if they want to divulge that much personal information. No one owes the public that much information, but I'm sure there are trans people/couples elsewhere that are comfortable sharing that much. It might be worth your time to seek out those channels that are comfortable sharing extremely personal information, and if you can't find any, then I agree with @carolionroar, Google is the next best place to go.
a good doctor might be able to help give these answers, as well as support groups. A good doctor should be the one to help people determine a lot of this stuff, its just sad its not super accessible.
I just found y'all's channel today. This was my first video of y'all I watched. You 2 are amazing people and I absolutely love every one of y'all's videos. 2 beautiful ladies living their best life.
Your story reminds me of a happier, best case scenario of The Danish Girl. The wife loved her husband so fully but couldn’t survive the transition romantically. Her love was so gut wrenching. I’m so glad your love remained fully intact on the other side of transitioning 😊
Also it’s beautiful to see the congruency in your life that lines up now 😊 Also it should go both ways, I hope that your wife also feels a congruency in who she loves. She wouldn’t be wrong to say that she loves the masculinity in her marriage from a partner. Neither couple should suffer. Both couples should have their needs met.
you two are so totally cool and interesting. I think you each lucked out in the conversation department. I am a little jealous of how easily you get into deep honest communication--totally cool!
Noticed at some point that shayes nails on her pointer and ring finger are shorter than the rest👀 ? soooo lesbian coded hehe. Y’all are very sweet and such a beautiful example of love! thank you for sharing your lives with us.
I love how Amanda describes her sexuality when she was growing up and younger. It’s kind of like you’re conditioned to it and don’t put much thought into it other than what you’re “supposed to”. She describes exactly how I describe it for myself later in life after I’ve lived and learned about myself.
Thank you for this video, you really didn’t have to address this and not even all straight couples are sexually compatible in the same way. Wish you all the best.
Your love is so heartwarming I know my wife is my person. We Been asked by some strangers in public how do we have sex I like none of your business. Love your sense homours you are both made for each other
I’m so beyond happy I found you both on instagram, I love to see the journey you’re both on it’s truly so beautiful and intense, I commend you both on being the strong diva’s you are!! Sending so much love x
I just want to say that I have seen your guys story and I have so much respect for the things that you both have gone through! As a very active member of the church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints I understand the struggle or judgment that you may have felt through your transition but I love the openness you have I just really respect you both
Since there was testosterone bloçkers, sexual life ofcourse changes. I know this for a fact. My husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer 2 years ago, and after treatment to block the testosterone, he's not able to perform sexually as he used to. Now we thank God for a great imagination. At the end it is LOVE what keeps us together, THE STRONGEST AND DEEPEST LOVE I have ever felt in my life! And it is enough, it is great, we're still US!!❤
The two of you are just so incredible. I think I say the same almost every video now. But it’s true. You are incredible and amazing and brave and just so solid!!! I love your relationship. I pray that one day I will be able to have a relationship as fulfilling and open as yours.
I enjoy some sit down style, and some day in the life! Whatever snippets you feel comfortable sharing! It was very generous of you both to share this video regarding intimacy in your marriage! I mean really, why wouldn’t there be? Much love to you both and your beautiful family ❤
Never realized hooooow much therapy the OG wife now needs to understand her orientation… for the trans person their orientation was always clear but now the the OG wife has to really do a deep dive into herself and it sort of seems like she’s rationalizing the attracted to woman but byr concludes she’ll always be loyal to this person no matter what but definitely seems to have an issue with the sexual orientation part. They seem like a sweet family but never realized how much therapy and processing is probably needed for the whole family when the one person in the family makes a change like that: talk about so many layers to all of this. Very eye opening and it gets us all to really think about things we would have never thought about.
I have a very important question. Are you both happy. My daughter was born male, 😮and she is doing much better now she has started her transition, but we have a long way to go. Her happiness is everything, and it seems to be the most difficult thing to achieve in some people.
I have a trans friend who is only attracted to women... and all of her trans friends are also lesbians. Since gender and s3xu@lity are two separate things, I really don't think trans woman being lesbians is all that uncommon.
All the best for both of you. You're always deserve. Amanda so strong women and Shaye as a good partner. So hard in this situations because all partners want to be clear about sex. Sex not for only one side feeling but both. When Shay change already be transgender there's still together and do sex like before. This is so magical and I'm so respect both of them. Please continue your beautiful life together forever. If body Shay change it's not means a heart changes too. Stay like before. Amanda you're so amazing.❤ ❤❤
You two are a very beautiful couple, I wish my life could be just like this. I am a trans girl and I am lesbian. You are the perfect example of what I want to be! Thank you for existing! 🤍
@GreatScotts I wanted to thank you because your videos have helped me to be a lot more accepting of the emotional and spiritual condition of trans individuals. I understand more deeply now and am deeply impressed by your refusal to walk away from the person you love. Of course, it is the soul we fall in love with; not their plumbing. But even with this being said, I will never think it's healthy to deny our biology as we were born with. To truly spiritually Transcend ideas of petty gender wars it to ACCEPT ourselves as we truly are. I'm unsure if forcing our body on hormones and getting surgery is necessarily healthy when your body WANTS to put out the opposite hormones. You are not broken because your body wants to put out testosterone. And it's OKAY if you identify female, of COURSE it is! Allow your body to be what it is naturally; running from your biological gender only forces your body to be further confused. I hope that one day the LGBT community will realize you can appreciate yourself AS you were born and honor your body temple, still feel the gender influences spiritually from each side of the spectrum, and LIVE happily in whatever clothes you want; WITHOUT destroying your body. Denial of the biological gender you were born is like wearing a mask and refusing to be honest with yourself or others on this. This is not transcending petty gender issues, it's only increasing the dilemma. His body isn't suppose to be on estrogen, it's screaming to do what it was born to do. The soul is the part which experiences the memories of the opposing gender, and there's nothing wrong with that. It very well may even be past lives which explains the confusion. Brightest and best to both of you. ❤ I hope you'll consider my words and not just instantly deny them as something to meditate and consider. An echo chamber is never healthy.
I've only ever had a spiritual connection with women. In my early 20s, I thought I was gay. But I'm not physically attracted to women. So I'm married to a man, but I use my ladies for emotional support. I tried really hard to be with women in my 20s. It wasn't me.
Enjoy your channel. Thanks for sharing. My wife and I are on a parallel journey together. Nice to stumble into such heartfelt content about this topic. ❤️❤️❤️
I believe if it weren’t for rabid toxic homophobia that makes anything but a 6 on the scale socially acceptable there would be far more folks enjoying their bisexual selves over their lifetimes. Or maybe I’m just projecting 😂 I agree, y’all didn’t have to make this video. I believe it will really help others in similar circumstances. I just learned today about your channel after watching your latest Mormon Stories episode. Been watching on & off all day, laughing & crying & enjoying your videos. ❤
Pansexual and bisexual are different. And people who identify as bisexual do not mean to suggest there are only two genders. Pansexual is when you don’t care about the gender of your partner while bisexual is when even thou you are attracted to any gender, you still have preferences.
Amanda, are you okay? You’ve been such a beacon of strength, resilience and pure love in your relationship (it’s truly admirable). This is the first video you’ve posted where I feel your vulnerability. It feels like you’re not okay and I think you need to be honest with yourself. Of course, I don’t know either of you, and I’m sure you have close friends, family and therapists around you who can give you better informed advice, but I just get a sense that something is off. I think it’s okay to not be okay. I can only imagine the trauma that both of you have been through and, as an empath myself, I know what’s it’s like to put the needs of your partner ahead of your own. You sound really sad - sounds like you were crying just before you filmed this or maybe you just have a cold. But please just take care of yourself and don’t lose yourself in this journey. Love to both of you.
Hi Caroline, I appreciate you looking out for me. Like everybody, I have my ups and downs, but everything I said in this video was sincere. I wasn’t crying before the video, but rather, I was recovering from a cold. ☺️ -Amanda
@@GreatScotts Glad you're okay. Whether physical or emotional, you know you have a community that supports you. Tbh, I'm just amazed by your strength. I honestly have no idea how I would deal in your situation - as you’ve said in the past, you can never judge until you’ve walked in someone else’s shoes. You’re a very strong and positive person (which has helped you get through this), but I’d actually like to hear more about the vulnerabilities. I know you’re trying to spread a positive message - especially with all the polarizing and negative rhetoric out there - but I think it’s important to also look at that. We focus so much on the mental health of our partner (who is transitioning or going through other issues), that we often neglect our own. It would be interesting to hear about the ‘tools’ you use to cope. I know there’s no ‘rulebook’ for this and we don’t get to see what happens behind the scenes, but the struggles are real - on both sides. I wish you all the best, both in the short-term (your cold) and over the long-term. You’re both beautiful people and we all appreciate you being so open and honest about your experience.
@@LeahFairfield Amanda sounds and seems visibly upset in this video (you can't deny it) - turns out it was just a cold, but you never know. Gotta look out for both partners. It was not a narrative, just an observation that a few other people picked up on too.
i love you both! such care and support for one another! sadly for me im sure im going to go my own way once im out. I do hope we get to meet one day in person as you both are who I look up too.
So uplifting to see a couple love each other and see past the body which is temporary. When you can love the someone inside, that is a much deeper and richer love. ❤ There's an old movie called Cocoon about some aliens that visit a retirement home, I always remember the love making part where the sex the Alien and a human have goes beyond the physical into an intimacy which is something far more complex and complete (even if in the movies it was portrayed in a kinda hokie 80s special effects way🤭
I personally think its really odd that people would ask if you are still attracted to each other or want to be together etc. Ive been with my hubby 25 years, and theres nothing that could happen, that he could do or choose to be (unless is was to cheat of course) but theres nothing that would change how attractive i find him, my attraction to him, and my love for him, when you have shared a life with your best friend in the entire world and you truly love each other, i dont get how there could be anything that changes that, like you say attraction is so much deeper than looks they will go anyway and we expect them to eventually go, so the outside is a shell that we personally have to be happy with in ourselves but i dont understand how it could affect true genuine love in any way. The people that ask must be in maybe pre 10 year's, or havent ever had true unconditional love with someone, because theres nothing on gods earth that could make me not love and be attracted to the human, to the eyes and the soul ive been married to and adore xx love u guys xx
I think you are proving that love is bigger than just a physical act. It is far more all incompassing. For most women, love is far more than juust sexual intimacy. By the way, i was never curious about that. I just assumed you were and you were finding the new ways (none of our bussiness) 😊
Thank you as always for your love and support. As we’ve been trying to upload more frequently, we’ve been playing around with video styles. Do you like this sit down style or would you prefer more of a vlog style (example: day in the life)? ❤
I enjoy both video styles; i feel like each style has its place perhaps?
I came out four years ago and my wife and I have been through some of the same things. Thank you for your sharing your experiences, as it really helps working through ours too.
I love the sit down videos! Honestly I would enjoy a podcast of you two
Both!
Love both also.
I love the podcast style a little bit more. It just feels like your talking with friends. Thank you for sharing your beautiful life story. You both are making such a difference for different styles of families. Our family is so appreciative of your family❤️
yup-both ... thank you!🙂
"I feel a lot more connected to you, because I feel more connected with me." ❤ beautiful.
You are the proof, you should love someone for who they are. That way you’ll love each other no matter what. People can learn from that.
You can still love a person and lose physical attraction for them if they transition. That's not a sign you don't love them but that you are simply not anything but straight.
Thank you for your continued willingness to put this content out publicly. No easy task. It will be an incredible day when labels and sexual intimacy is not where everybody's mind goes to first.
You both are so beautiful but idk how anyone couldn't be attracted to Shaye. She is just so sweet and gentle and beautiful to look at. I love how soft she is. The way you guys explain your attraction to each other just makes perfect sense to me. I feel the exact same way when I'm in love with someone. The attraction is just to the person and how they make me feel.
Everyone talks about the what Shaye has been through and how strong she is, but Amanda? She has been through just as much, if not more. Despite their love, this isn’t easy at all, it is life changing, and Amanda has gone through this with grace and strength, being an example of true love to her spouse and her children ❤
Absolutely agree. Everything in their life and all their family sacrifice has been with a view to Shaye’s happiness. I cannot imagine how difficult that it has been on Amanda. Hopefully now that Shaye feels whole and good about them self, Amanda can feel the same
You are damn right.
I must say this is entirely different from any content I'd normally watch. First I saw a few of your short clips then I took the time to watch any of your videos that popped up. I'm in awe of your love story. With so many failed relationships out there, all of mine included, Lol it's awesome to see the love you two beautiful souls have for each other. I'm rooting for you and subscribing now.
Same, and I totally subscribed, too! Rooting for your entire family! ❤
Same!!
Same! I thought here we go type thing. But honestly, I'm learning a lot. You're both beautiful in many ways, and I love your love and compassion for one another.
I love that you’re addressing the things people are curious about. Education is key
I have been with my husband for 31 years. As our bodies have changed, so has our intimacy. We look different now. Our hormone levels have changed. Our intimacy is still present, in fact I would say closer than when we first met.
Based on your explanation it sounds similar. You still have intimacy with one another even with the changes you have under gone.
Thanks for sharing! 😊
My intersex sexual development made me sort of male and female. We made our sexual lives work for us. It is a wonderful thing to have a wife who actually understands and accepts me. This has been 50 years for us, so we must be doing something right. ❤
I’m proud of both of you for living your life and love. ❤️
I am also intersex! My wife has been absolutely amazing and accepting!
@@rescuegirl Oh that is awesome 😎 I see us as being the normal ones in the world.
I would be perfect if it wasn’t for all the surgeries and related cancer. The doctors are trying to figure a way to allow me to take some form of estrogen that will not cause the cancer to return or spread again.
@@rescuegirl I never heard of that particular form of intersex, very interesting. My intersex is from the earliest weeks of gestation the period when germ cell sexual development takes place. These germ cells failed to fully reach my embryonic gonads. As a result my right gonad/testis remained as a fetal gonad and the left gonad did develop as a testis but remained small. The right one remained undescended and it had to be surgically brought down as a ten year old child. In addition many other germ cells were deposited in various areas of my abdomen. Several were removed as a child other were not found until I was 45 when one became malignant. These were huge as they grew to between 10 and 17.5 cm.
As you would expect my gonads are on the small size. I did live as a male but find doing so hard and out of place for me on a phycological level. Hope you are doing well.
@@davidmicheletti6292Good luck!
@@davidmicheletti6292 Exactly what my doctor is doing for me. I’ve lived my entire life as a female so the added E makes me happy as a side effect. 🙂
I heard an alternative definition of bisexual as being attracted to people of my same gender and people of a different gender. I liked how that was put.
I always used the description that I was more interested in what's between the ears than what's between the legs. 😁
Pansexual wasnt much of a social term when I came out in the 90s-2000s, this is how we always explained it
I found your page from Skyler. I was fascinated by your openness. But as I watch your videos, I become more in awe. The support you give each other & the love you have for each other is inspiring. I am a straight woman in a troubled relationship. We work on it daily. But it is me who usually has to concede. When the other person is comfortable & refuses to recognize that there is an issue it strains the relationship. Amanda, I so admire you for accepting & loving Shaye for who they are. It is truly an act of love & acceptance. Shaye, you are a beautiful person. I know being honest & being who you truly are, has not been an easy road. Keep going girl! You be your best you. Love with all your heart. Live your best life. Be the amazing woman you were meant to be. I have gained strength from watching you both. You make me laugh, think, care & most important give me strength to be authentic self. Thank you!
Amanda seemed she would cry at any moment.
Sim, ela estava explicando sobre conexões da alma, e como ela se sentia mais próxima agora. Como uma pessoa bissexual (que saiu do armário tarde), eu entendo completamente ela. Fazer sex0 com homem sempre pareceu puramente carnal, e com mulher mais profundo, com muito mais conexão, carinho e afeto. Eu imagino o nó que não deve ser vivenciar esse tipo de coisa com a MESMA pessoa.
Idk, I genuinely think maybe she's just sick because before they even started talking about it, she sounded a little congested lol I think of course there's hard parts to talk about certain things but I also think, unless she was doing some crying prior to getting on screen and managing to stop long enough to do her makeup and not cry it off, this might be a "she has a cold" thing
She sounds congested to me. At first I thought she was on the verge of tears
I think she has a bad cold.
Thank you both for being so brave, so authentic, in sharing your story. As the mom of a transgender daughter, I am grateful for anyone who helps educate the public in getting to know that transgender people are just like everyone else in so many ways.
The love you have for each other is apparent. The tenderness and respect you show each other warms my heart. It’s delightful how Shay’s eyes sparkle when she talks about you, Amanda. It’s obvious there is an intimate connection between you. Intimate, of course, does not necessarily mean sexual. It is generous of you both to answer the curious.
I just love your story and your willingness to be open. It is so eye opening as to how being truly yourself clearly brings so much happiness!
Both are tremendous and I so appreciate you addressing these questions with open heartedness and kindness rather than defensiveness (which would be warranted given it’s truly none of our business). BUT I think you do so much good for others who don’t have to feel alone because of you two beautiful humans using your platform to speak openly and honestly. Assuming the best of people - that they are curious - that they are confused - that they are interested - that they too have been shaped by our culture of projection. Every couple has the right and joy of expressing intimacy in the ways that feel organic and loving to them. Thank you so so much for your channel and your hearts.
Your story is so similar to mine and my wife’s story. We were married for 18 years before she came out and began her transition. That was 4 years ago. Since then, we’ve just grown closer and it’s been a beautiful thing to see her be so happy from living authentically. In the beginning, it seemed that I would only hear all the horror stories about couples going through a transition. So, it’s so lovely to see another couple living happily after transition.
It's real ? You are lesbian now?
It's cool to watch the two of you talking so openly and vulnerably about your marriage and how this has changed, yet revealed, how strong your love was in the first place. Obviously it makes a lot of people uncomfortable. Fascinating how binary our culture has been.
If I’m asked for examples of a healthy marriage…I’ll use you two as an example.
When my trans son first "came out" he came out as "lesbian" then eventually he felt more comfortable to be his true self and realized he was trans. I was already a trans advocate and supporter before he came out so I was able to be understanding and be supportive. I have to admit I was confused overall because he never seemed lesbian, He always loved women "as a man" if that makes any sense, he was a male in his essence and so that (being lesbian) confused me. turns out he was actually trans just had not accepted it yet. When I understood the difference between gender and sexuality I understood why he was trans and not lesbian. He is happy and in a great relationship now and I couldn't be happier for him. May we all be happy and well.
What you said about him liking women yet never “seeming lesbian,” and like he liked women “as a man” makes total sense!!! I transitioned ftm, too, and while I’m bisexual, I didn’t even realize I’m attracted to women until after I transitioned - because before I realized I was trans, I intuitively knew “lesbian” didn’t fit me at all, so I didn’t explore my attractions to women. After transitioning, it made a lot more sense.
Amazing!!! You devoted your life to trans people and your child decided to be trans. To bad you didn't support heart surgeons.
Now I'm convinced Shaye is a lesbian who once proposed to her bride as man. This will make us "rethink" of definition of love.
Earth need more people like amanada. And she deserves all the happiness in world
I absolutely adore you two:). As a lesbian I feel such joy and hope when I listen to you share yourselves. Many thanks for all you are and do:)
When you are in love with someone, it doesn't turn off. The body changed, the love didn't. I love ya's and truly could care less about your sex life. At the same time, I do understand why people ask. Anyone going through transition as a couple, I'm sure, have concerns. It's so great you speak so honestly.
Thank your for continuing to share so much of yourselves with us! It’s really beautiful watching this aspect of your lives continue to blossom ❤
My heart just glows listening to you both. Your unconditional love for each other is palatable and simply amazing.
I recently discovered your Instagram accounts and then I watched all your TH-cam videos this week. The love Amanda has for her wife Shaye is so deep. The way Shaye and Amanda go through the transition journey together is so touching. As a cisgender lesbian myself, I almost cried watching your videos. Shaye, you are so beautiful. The love between you and Amanda is so pure and beautiful. Your family is beautiful. Almost too good to be true for queer people like us. Sending love from Hong Kong ❤❤❤
“Everything we wanted to cover”. The rest is nobody’s business!! You are absolutely right!!
Like I said before, you two are soul mates! Amanda you are so thoughtful and able to express what you are feeling in away that we can all understand. Shaye has a way of making us smile about the discomfort of the subject at hand,lol, but certainly can articulate her inner thoughts as well. I can't think of two better people to help all of us understand that love is love.❤️👍
Thank you!
Shaye looks a lot like Juliana Margulies , so beautiful 😍
You are such a blessing to this world (I might repeat myself, but it can't be said too often ❤)
I have deep respect for your determination to keep healthy boundaries and answer only the questions you want. The rest is nobody's business, as you said. I also loved the treatment you gave to labels which seem to be so necessary for many people. I guess it helps them nail down what is actually a mysterious/confusing realm. What comes through loud and clear is your sophistication, articulation, and deep love for each other. That's gold!
I am amazed by your story of love, loyalty and companionship. I loved the video style and would love if they did more in this style. I have been following you here from Brazil.
What I like the most of listening to your channel, is how educated you both are about gender. It is clear that you both took the time to deconstruct social norms around it, question them, dig into academic material, but from the perspective of someone that wants to understand their own skin. It is clear that also you have access to a financial possibility to reach that information. I feel you also aknowledge the priviledge you´ve had as a trans woman with resources, but you are using it to encourage conversations with care and truth. Sending lots of trans love for the two of you and your family.
You are the best! I so appreciate your openness and your courage.
the statement “I felt like I was attracted to you, but not in the male way” made so much sense! I have been trying to figure out why I felt so different once I started processing and deconstructing my gender
I can tell how attracted you are to each other just by watching the videos❤😊❤ y'all have a wonderful Sunday❤❤❤
Many of the ppl watching your channel may be going through something similar and want details they cant find anywhere else. We need to know where to find answers. What happens to a trans woman's boy parts and sexual function? Is it different for an early or late transition? Curious what age Shaye would pick to transition. For example if a boy knows he'll be 6'5" but is now only 5'9", can (s)he begin transition to stop growing, while preserving sexual viability? Never having had children, there maybe the desire to use those parts later, without sperm freezing. So many questions.
google is your friend.
It's up to each trans person/couple if they want to divulge that much personal information. No one owes the public that much information, but I'm sure there are trans people/couples elsewhere that are comfortable sharing that much. It might be worth your time to seek out those channels that are comfortable sharing extremely personal information, and if you can't find any, then I agree with @carolionroar, Google is the next best place to go.
Y’all should try it. It’s a mess of (mis)information.
But I appreciate your efforts by telling me to Google.
Really helpful. Have a better day. 💕
a good doctor might be able to help give these answers, as well as support groups. A good doctor should be the one to help people determine a lot of this stuff, its just sad its not super accessible.
@@ImaDoGToo So you think insisting that someone share extremely personal information with you, a stranger to them, is a better option? Have a day.
If that was my husband. I would always wonder if he would be attracted to me. You have to be a very evolved person to handle the marriage.
I just found y'all's channel today. This was my first video of y'all I watched. You 2 are amazing people and I absolutely love every one of y'all's videos. 2 beautiful ladies living their best life.
Your story reminds me of a happier, best case scenario of The Danish Girl. The wife loved her husband so fully but couldn’t survive the transition romantically. Her love was so gut wrenching. I’m so glad your love remained fully intact on the other side of transitioning 😊
I don't think you can find intimacy without being your authentic self. Love you both!
Also it’s beautiful to see the congruency in your life that lines up now 😊 Also it should go both ways, I hope that your wife also feels a congruency in who she loves. She wouldn’t be wrong to say that she loves the masculinity in her marriage from a partner. Neither couple should suffer. Both couples should have their needs met.
you two are so totally cool and interesting. I think you each lucked out in the conversation department. I am a little jealous of how easily you get into deep honest communication--totally cool!
Noticed at some point that shayes nails on her pointer and ring finger are shorter than the rest👀 ? soooo lesbian coded hehe. Y’all are very sweet and such a beautiful example of love! thank you for sharing your lives with us.
I love how Amanda describes her sexuality when she was growing up and younger. It’s kind of like you’re conditioned to it and don’t put much thought into it other than what you’re “supposed to”. She describes exactly how I describe it for myself later in life after I’ve lived and learned about myself.
I love that Amanda chose to use this transition as an opportunity to show unconditional love ❤️
Thank you for this video, you really didn’t have to address this and not even all straight couples are sexually compatible in the same way. Wish you all the best.
As always I appreciate your vulnerability and openness. Sending you both oodles and oodles of love from me to you both.
Hi from Arkansas my wife and i jus watched this on her lunch break..I came an picked her up...we love u both so much..beautiful
Your love is so heartwarming I know my wife is my person. We Been asked by some strangers in public how do we have sex I like none of your business. Love your sense homours you are both made for each other
They love each other. It's more than sex. That's real love.
Soul connection, love my partner, is not perfect, love is love ❤
I’m so beyond happy I found you both on instagram, I love to see the journey you’re both on it’s truly so beautiful and intense, I commend you both on being the strong diva’s you are!!
Sending so much love x
I just want to say that I have seen your guys story and I have so much respect for the things that you both have gone through! As a very active member of the church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints I understand the struggle or judgment that you may have felt through your transition but I love the openness you have I just really respect you both
Since there was testosterone bloçkers, sexual life ofcourse changes. I know this for a fact. My husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer 2 years ago, and after treatment to block the testosterone, he's not able to perform sexually as he used to.
Now we thank God for a great imagination. At the end it is LOVE what keeps us together, THE STRONGEST AND DEEPEST LOVE I have ever felt in my life!
And it is enough, it is great, we're still US!!❤
The two of you are just so incredible. I think I say the same almost every video now. But it’s true. You are incredible and amazing and brave and just so solid!!! I love your relationship. I pray that one day I will be able to have a relationship as fulfilling and open as yours.
Bravo for your courage and openness. Thank you for sharing your journey. Your conversation is needed.
I enjoy some sit down style, and some day in the life! Whatever snippets you feel comfortable sharing! It was very generous of you both to share this video regarding intimacy in your marriage! I mean really, why wouldn’t there be? Much love to you both and your beautiful family ❤
First time watching one of your long form videos ans wow Shay has such a gentle voice and comforting energy 🩷
I think that when you find your person you find your person. If things change it’s just part of your journey together.
Never realized hooooow much therapy the OG wife now needs to understand her orientation… for the trans person their orientation was always clear but now the the OG wife has to really do a deep dive into herself and it sort of seems like she’s rationalizing the attracted to woman but byr concludes she’ll always be loyal to this person no matter what but definitely seems to have an issue with the sexual orientation part. They seem like a sweet family but never realized how much therapy and processing is probably needed for the whole family when the one person in the family makes a change like that: talk about so many layers to all of this. Very eye opening and it gets us all to really think about things we would have never thought about.
I have a very important question. Are you both happy. My daughter was born male, 😮and she is doing much better now she has started her transition, but we have a long way to go. Her happiness is everything, and it seems to be the most difficult thing to achieve in some people.
I have a trans friend who is only attracted to women... and all of her trans friends are also lesbians. Since gender and s3xu@lity are two separate things, I really don't think trans woman being lesbians is all that uncommon.
Omg. People are so f ing nosy. You are so brave to share all of this!!
Amanda and Shaye, you ladies are amazing ❤
They way they look at each other... ❤
I don’t care about your sex life. What I wanna know about is the KIDS!!
I love the way you two are together. Just love it. ❤️❤️
All the best for both of you. You're always deserve. Amanda so strong women and Shaye as a good partner. So hard in this situations because all partners want to be clear about sex. Sex not for only one side feeling but both. When Shay change already be transgender there's still together and do sex like before. This is so magical and I'm so respect both of them. Please continue your beautiful life together forever. If body Shay change it's not means a heart changes too. Stay like before. Amanda you're so amazing.❤ ❤❤
Omg her voice 😮😮😮
You two are a very beautiful couple, I wish my life could be just like this.
I am a trans girl and I am lesbian. You are the perfect example of what I want to be! Thank you for existing! 🤍
@GreatScotts I wanted to thank you because your videos have helped me to be a lot more accepting of the emotional and spiritual condition of trans individuals. I understand more deeply now and am deeply impressed by your refusal to walk away from the person you love. Of course, it is the soul we fall in love with; not their plumbing. But even with this being said, I will never think it's healthy to deny our biology as we were born with. To truly spiritually Transcend ideas of petty gender wars it to ACCEPT ourselves as we truly are. I'm unsure if forcing our body on hormones and getting surgery is necessarily healthy when your body WANTS to put out the opposite hormones. You are not broken because your body wants to put out testosterone. And it's OKAY if you identify female, of COURSE it is! Allow your body to be what it is naturally; running from your biological gender only forces your body to be further confused. I hope that one day the LGBT community will realize you can appreciate yourself AS you were born and honor your body temple, still feel the gender influences spiritually from each side of the spectrum, and LIVE happily in whatever clothes you want; WITHOUT destroying your body. Denial of the biological gender you were born is like wearing a mask and refusing to be honest with yourself or others on this. This is not transcending petty gender issues, it's only increasing the dilemma. His body isn't suppose to be on estrogen, it's screaming to do what it was born to do. The soul is the part which experiences the memories of the opposing gender, and there's nothing wrong with that. It very well may even be past lives which explains the confusion. Brightest and best to both of you. ❤ I hope you'll consider my words and not just instantly deny them as something to meditate and consider. An echo chamber is never healthy.
you’re both so gorgeous 💗 light and love to you both x
Geeze, they are both STUNNING 😮
Y'all!!!!!
Y'all look at each other like your each others favorite bowl of cereal! 😂❤❤❤
Everyone stay with someone who makes them happy.
This video actually really educated me,thanks very much for doing this video.
I've only ever had a spiritual connection with women. In my early 20s, I thought I was gay. But I'm not physically attracted to women. So I'm married to a man, but I use my ladies for emotional support. I tried really hard to be with women in my 20s. It wasn't me.
You two are amazing! Beautiful people inside and out. Sending love and positive vibes your way ❤️ ✨️
Enjoy your channel. Thanks for sharing. My wife and I are on a parallel journey together. Nice to stumble into such heartfelt content about this topic.
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I believe if it weren’t for rabid toxic homophobia that makes anything but a 6 on the scale socially acceptable there would be far more folks enjoying their bisexual selves over their lifetimes. Or maybe I’m just projecting 😂
I agree, y’all didn’t have to make this video. I believe it will really help others in similar circumstances. I just learned today about your channel after watching your latest Mormon Stories episode. Been watching on & off all day, laughing & crying & enjoying your videos. ❤
You guys are funny. good answers. At the end of the day it's "You are my person"
This was very insightful. Thank you.
Pansexual and bisexual are different. And people who identify as bisexual do not mean to suggest there are only two genders. Pansexual is when you don’t care about the gender of your partner while bisexual is when even thou you are attracted to any gender, you still have preferences.
What if you don't care but still have preferences 🙃
What an interesting and insightful conversation honestly
A beautiful couple! Thank you for sharing your story!
You are both so lovely. So happy to watch your journey.
Amanda, are you okay? You’ve been such a beacon of strength, resilience and pure love in your relationship (it’s truly admirable). This is the first video you’ve posted where I feel your vulnerability. It feels like you’re not okay and I think you need to be honest with yourself. Of course, I don’t know either of you, and I’m sure you have close friends, family and therapists around you who can give you better informed advice, but I just get a sense that something is off. I think it’s okay to not be okay. I can only imagine the trauma that both of you have been through and, as an empath myself, I know what’s it’s like to put the needs of your partner ahead of your own. You sound really sad - sounds like you were crying just before you filmed this or maybe you just have a cold. But please just take care of yourself and don’t lose yourself in this journey. Love to both of you.
Came here to say the same thing - sounds like she’s on the verge of crying
Hi Caroline, I appreciate you looking out for me. Like everybody, I have my ups and downs, but everything I said in this video was sincere. I wasn’t crying before the video, but rather, I was recovering from a cold. ☺️ -Amanda
@@GreatScotts Glad you're okay. Whether physical or emotional, you know you have a community that supports you. Tbh, I'm just amazed by your strength. I honestly have no idea how I would deal in your situation - as you’ve said in the past, you can never judge until you’ve walked in someone else’s shoes. You’re a very strong and positive person (which has helped you get through this), but I’d actually like to hear more about the vulnerabilities. I know you’re trying to spread a positive message - especially with all the polarizing and negative rhetoric out there - but I think it’s important to also look at that. We focus so much on the mental health of our partner (who is transitioning or going through other issues), that we often neglect our own. It would be interesting to hear about the ‘tools’ you use to cope. I know there’s no ‘rulebook’ for this and we don’t get to see what happens behind the scenes, but the struggles are real - on both sides. I wish you all the best, both in the short-term (your cold) and over the long-term. You’re both beautiful people and we all appreciate you being so open and honest about your experience.
@@carolinekerr5853why overthink and spin your own narrative about someone you don’t know?
@@LeahFairfield Amanda sounds and seems visibly upset in this video (you can't deny it) - turns out it was just a cold, but you never know. Gotta look out for both partners. It was not a narrative, just an observation that a few other people picked up on too.
Well, the woman is like crying...it's as if she's struggling...I hope the best for both of them
I would NEVER ask questions about your sexuality. I’m shocked that anyone would. It’s your private business.
i love you both! such care and support for one another! sadly for me im sure im going to go my own way once im out. I do hope we get to meet one day in person as you both are who I look up too.
So uplifting to see a couple love each other and see past the body which is temporary.
When you can love the someone inside, that is a much deeper and richer love. ❤
There's an old movie called Cocoon about some aliens that visit a retirement home, I always remember the love making part where the sex the Alien and a human have goes beyond the physical into an intimacy which is something far more complex and complete (even if in the movies it was portrayed in a kinda hokie 80s special effects way🤭
The husband look prettier than the wife😮
I personally think its really odd that people would ask if you are still attracted to each other or want to be together etc. Ive been with my hubby 25 years, and theres nothing that could happen, that he could do or choose to be (unless is was to cheat of course) but theres nothing that would change how attractive i find him, my attraction to him, and my love for him, when you have shared a life with your best friend in the entire world and you truly love each other, i dont get how there could be anything that changes that, like you say attraction is so much deeper than looks they will go anyway and we expect them to eventually go, so the outside is a shell that we personally have to be happy with in ourselves but i dont understand how it could affect true genuine love in any way. The people that ask must be in maybe pre 10 year's, or havent ever had true unconditional love with someone, because theres nothing on gods earth that could make me not love and be attracted to the human, to the eyes and the soul ive been married to and adore xx love u guys xx
People come up with many ignorant... and sometimes mean or hateful comments.
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Beautiful amazing couple - if we could all be so luck. thank you for sharing.
I think you are proving that love is bigger than just a physical act. It is far more all incompassing. For most women, love is far more than juust sexual intimacy. By the way, i was never curious about that. I just assumed you were and you were finding the new ways (none of our bussiness) 😊
You can tell which one the man, the voice gives it away.
And the point of that comment is what exactly?
Way to announce you're an asshole to the whole world 😂
Honestly your sexuality is nobody business. Take a lot to put it out there. ❤❤