“Go and love someone exactly as they are. And then watch how quickly they transform into the greatest, truest version of themselves. When one feels seen and appreciated in their own essence, one is instantly empowered.” -Wes Angelozzi
It's so good to see that we are not alone to experience this way of life. Your voice is very important and prove that love is higher than biased opinions. We are a trans women and cisgender women family with 2 childrens in France.
You are an incredible, incredible woman. Your partner is beyond lucky to have you. Your videos are also so well structured, informative and brilliantly edited. You speak so well and so confidently with nothing but understanding and compassion, it really is a breath of fresh air.
You both are incredible. At 73 I am learning so much from you. I am not transport nor do I know anyone who is but I support how people want to live and who and how they want to love. You are a very strong woman and your family is very lucky to have you. I wish you all love and happiness. Thank You so much. Merry Christmas!❤
Growing up, my mom would tell me a story about her teacher who transitioned to a woman, and her wife stayed happily married to her. This was the 70s and you can imagine the social backlash. My mom admired them and their love so much and it was a powerful story I heard growing up in the 90s. Here's to you both and your everlasting, all powerful love ❤
I have the same story about my wonderful music teacher (in the late 60s), who transitioned in 1971 and was quickly fired by the school board. I never forgave the board for that terrible act. I wonder if it was the same teacher.
My wife and I are both 60 I came out seven years ago after 34 years of marriage. She has the same feelings you have. I am just father in my transition the new wife is, as you stated, you love the persons, heart, not the body❤
@@KJGVB I have always known and I have dealt with. It should say suppress it my entire life. I have a coming out video on TH-cam under Dawnie Joslynn. Thank you for loving and supporting your partner. You are awesome.
I've watched a LOT of transgender related content on youtube. And without doubt, this is the most inspiring, loving and beautiful story I've listed to. Shaye is so lucky to have you as her wife. If I ever meet anyone half as kind, intelligent and compassionate as you, I would be over the moon. I wish both all the happiness in the world.
I think for some people they don’t think of how supporting someone can mean different things. As a queer person myself, if my partner told me he was trans it wouldn’t change my feelings. We would have a lot of growing to do and change to work through, but that’s ok. In your family support has meant staying together, which I love. I’ve also known couples who after one came out as trans their romantic relationship ended, but they continued to support their former partner as friends, sometimes co-parents, etc, because they didn’t break up because they had issues with their former partner being trans, they just weren’t compatible romantically anymore which is also valid. Love sometimes evolves as we grow as people, and that’s ok. We can support people we love in so many ways.
It’s difficult to think about these things without the traditional binary considerations. At first I was like, ‘so are you now gay?’ But I see that it’s not about that. It’s about commitment, family, acceptance and the literal work of marriage.
It's lovely when people allow themselves to learn about concepts new to them, bravo to you Patricia!! One thing people usually confuse when hearing these topics for the first time is gender & sexuality. Gender has nothing to do with sexual preference and vice versa 🥰
My feeling: sometimes adjectives are in the way. my adopted son? adopted daughter? nah.......it's my son! my daughter! same holds true here. my transgender partner? nah......my partner. I marvel at the grace with which your family is traveling the path that'll get you all where you are meant to be. much love.......
In this case she specifies "transgender partner" specifically because that is the subject of the video. Loving and staying with her partner through this transition. In the title so that it comes up in searches and relate content. In her phrasing to place emphasis on the fact that this isn't just about loving ANY partner, but specifically her transgender partner. Don't forget that Amanda's passion is books and literacy, the specifics of impact from words is her expertise. I'm certain that when introducing Shay in a social setting, she would simply say "this is my partner, Shay".
I said thank you after your last video and I’m saying it again after this one… as mum to 2 teenage boys, one of whom is trans, and as a Christian who has had to battle not only with my own preconceived ideas but sadly with my former church over this, I too believe this is what Jesus would do too… I love both of my sons absolutely and unconditionally, and that’s the message I hear in your story too. Thank you both for being strong enough and brave enough to share your story- I really don’t think you’ll ever know how many people you will help and I wish you and your family nothing but love as you grow and evolve together 🌈💜
I just want to say hi. I'm a religious Jewish lady and 2 of my 3 kids are trans. (Non-binary firstborn and teenage daughter.) Blessed day/night to you! 💙💗🤍💗💙
@@missnaomi613I won’t pretend to know very much about the Jewish faith but I imagine being trans/having children who are was very divisive- and proof of how much your children love & trust you to be able to come out to you despite possibly being afraid of what the wider family/community might think… sending best wishes to all of you 💜
@@annalequesne4580 I used to (sort of) be part of the orthodox community where I live, for my then-husband. He was always homophobic/transphobic, and a product of that community. (He's trying now.) The synagogue I go to now is very accepting.
I live in the same town and so I know that things have not been easy for you and Shaye. I am a Christian (Lutheran) and I agree with you that Jesus would be behind you supporting you both. I wish you and your family all the best and that any negativity by others avoid you all. I'm in my 70's and the world is very different from when I grew up in the uptight '50s. Some people are afraid of change or anything they don't know about. Thank you for putting this out there and I hope it will educate people and give them understanding.
I think you have the wrong Bible God is not supporting what is going on here, Satan is supporting this. God did not make a mistake when he created this man. Sorry people are wrong.
I don’t know how this channel came on my time line but it is wonderful. The way Shay explains self acceptance and not fighting the tide. Resonated with my soul. I’m compelled to look at other videos as I still work toward with finding the joy I desire within.
Thank you for sharing your story. As the mother of transgender son, I find hope in your story. I wish you all the best in your journey and may you find the light in the times of darkness.
I hope when the two of you are ready, that maybe you could have a recommitment ceremony. Let's celebrate this continuing love💕 that the two of you have together and your beautiful family! 💗🌷🌸
Thank you for being a thoughtful, wise, and discerning person and modeling true compassion, love and a commitment to understanding. Your words and example are powerful examples of how to create a world that is safer, healthier and more full of love for everyone.
You shouldn't need to explain why you're staying with her. It's your life you do you, we do us no need to explain your love, and affection to Shaye. If people don't think that love can go beyond husband/wife then people need to be quiet. Shaye is just as much a human as we are watching her life. :)
Hello I found it very educational and thank you for explaining it because I wound not think a person of transgender would want to stay with the same sex but you owe nobody anything ,I for one appreciate your explanation and I will better educate myself.
You are a beautiful couple navigating some really big transitions together. I appreciate and honour the way you are sharing your journey with such sincerity . I wish you both so much happiness ❤
So inspiring. Wishing you both well on this journey. Thank you also for sharing the stories and pieces of history that depict the spectrum of gender. I find that fascinating and helpful in bringing awareness that this is part of humanity for much longer than we know.
I’m very happy for both of you. I hope you continue to grow. I myself a concerned with the transgender movement, but am open to learning. I try to live with as much grace in myself for other people.
An engineer I've known for 25 years came out as transgender and a bass player I played with in a band also came out as transgender. From there I met more and more transgender folk. Before I knew anyone transgender - they were invisible. I think it's pretty cool.
This is absolutely beautiful and I am so grateful to both of you for being so honest, open and vulnerable - which to me = brave - in order to help educate this often narrow minded, rigid society. All peace and love and truth to you and your family. Look forward to your next video! I hope healing is going well and I admire all of you. ☮️❤️🌷
I am 33 and lost my mum last years. (I am single, no kids or anything). My dad is Mormon and because of many people using faith as a weapon against lgbtq people like myself and my friends, it made it very hard for us to be close. My transition is the opposite of Shaye’s, but she inspires me greatly to keep going in the face of adversity. Your sharing helps people like my dad understand people like me… and it gives me hope I won’t always be alone. Thank you.
All truth passes through 3 stages: First, it is ridiculed; Second, it is violently opposed; Third, it is accepted as self evident. " Arther Schopenhauer" Send you and Shay much love a appreciation for sharing your truth, your beautiful family, and your beautiful love for each other. You are an inspiration.
I don't usually touch this subject publicly (and honestly, I'm on the fence about how I see this whole deal), but at the end of the day, a true marriage is all about having your soulmate. I don't really understand this discussion of trans, but if this comes to light in a committed marriage with your true soulmate, you tend to stick together no matter what. My hat is off to you both for continuing to be married soulmates. I wish you all the best. This is coming from a "hypermasculine" dude (whatever that means, but I'm definitely a masculine dude who is ready to cry and otherwise be vulnerable, but I'm a man and I wear that hard). Like I said, I wish you both the best. Stay married, be happy, do well, and be good friends with all. Jesus is probably fine with this. I like to believe my Savior is. Christianity teaches us that none of us are mistakes because God never makes mistakes.
I've always believed that if partners really love each other for who they are inside, exterior changes are irrelevant. I mean, we all hope to grow old, right? Lots of exterior changes there! Each family's journey is unique. Thank you for bringing us along for your beautiful love story! 💙💗🤍💗💙
Loved what you said about learning a lot of gender theory and history but how you’ll never know how you’ll react to as situation until you’re in it. You’re very beautiful, empathetic and wise! Thanks for sharing your story!
I am not Mormon or trans but i am a woman and mother and im more enlightened to gender dysphoria now after watching ( all ) your videos. I appreciate your resources shared regarding historoical Mormon teachings. I applaud your flexibilty as deacribed with the Māhū culture. I do feel our society in the US towards LGBTQ+ is political with inclusion or exclusion. You have dissolved those concepts to me with how your relationship evolves. If more relationships between people were about not only understanding the individual parts of one another but also respecting, we'd have a more healthy human race. I'm a single divorced straight mom and I just want to share with you that you both are wonderful humans, taking what you know and have learned through this life of yours; redesigning the human condition. I hope your children and their children will further share your human spirit. Your story is beautiful and inspiring. Thank you for sharing something so vulnerable. 🫂
Found yall today and binging your videos. Yall are seriously beautiful people!! So happy that Shaye has a partner like you. Sharing the experience from your side is so needed. ❤❤ Also, the quality of yalls content is top notch.
I found your channel through watching your story on Mormon Stories. I really appreciated how much information you both shared about your experience. I feel like i am a very excepting person but was very confused by all the different lables and each personal experiences, but was worried if i asked a question that it would be rude or come across as judging. My adopted son said he thought he was Pan sexual when he was 10 years old. I had never heard this term before because i was living under a rock trying to survive being a stay at home mom and dealing with some other violent behaviors that my son would show. So i had no clue what they were talking about, but tried to reasure them i would always love them, and if they still felt this way when they were older and had a bit more time getting to know themselves we could continue to talk about it. They got older and during the teen years it was super tough for me. My son would get very angry if i asked questions and accused me of not being supportive. I was just asking because i did not know, and was genuinely curious. I really liked your interview on mormon Stories because you did mention that some people are genuinely curious. I am so happy to have found your channel as well. I love how you both are connected, and committed. I am just very moved by this video and what you talk about. I feel i can learn more about this all through your experiences you both share. I hope Shay is doing better everyday after the surgery. So breave and empowering. As for my son, they are 18 now, living on their own. They are on their journey of life, just like each of us are. I feel your videos will continue to help answer some of my possible questions i might have with my relationship with my son. Love what it can become. Thanks.
I don't know if you're aware of this but having each other and standing by one another through this journey It's a blessing beyond all measure. I'm happy for you both that you have each other. When my journey began I had a wonderful person who took me by the hand and led me out of the closet and into the light but my guardian angel fell ill and was no longer able to walk by my side and eventually passed from breast cancer. She wasn't my partner She was my angel. So after The first 6 months of my journey I was on my own. I've been on my own ever since. I've completed all of my surgeries except for FFS and in May of this year I will have been on my journey for 5 years. Keep sharing your message, maybe someday our society will evolve so that others may emerge from the shadows without having to do it in isolation.
I find this really beautiful... The word that kept coming up in my head when watching this video is "unconditional love" - love that is not bounded by any physical traits or label... Love that comes from the heart, without any condition... Thank you for sharing both of your journey... 💚
I think everyone should have the right to live their own life, feel how they want, enjoy what they want , along with everything else. I was back in the hospital this week getting more of my leg taken off. How much longer do I have ? I am only 54 , and one leg is almost gone , I want to enjoy life, and so should you , and Shay and everyone else in this world
Thank you for sharing your story so that there are more positive light towards our community. Your love goes beyond gender and it’s truly beautiful to witness. ❤
Such a heartfelt story ! It is complicated and confusing, but like you said, until you actually have to live it you can’t know how you’ll act and what you’ll do. And you two are very beautiful, strong and so blessed !!!
So proud and excited for the both of you and your entire family! It’s great to see you standing by Shaye’s side. It is very special to have a partner who is so loving and devoted. And most importantly, that you won’t be leaving her or seeking out an intimate relationship with a man outside of your love and bond with Shaye. I look forward to following your family’s journey and wish you all the best!!!
Your last sentence made me start to ball!! My beautiful son recently came out transgender! Seeing her become her true authentic self is like seeing this new person emerge that has been hiding for years. Turns out, she’s amazing!! Whitty, smart, playful, wise beyond her years. We always felt like our son was hard, mean, angry. The truth is, that there was a girl in there wanting to be free! THANK YOU, Amanda and Shay! I have turned to your videos more then you will know for guidance and strength during this time and for that, I am forever grateful! ❤
This video is so beautiful and wise !!! I watch all your videos about your transition journey and they have touched me deeply!! I am so so so happy for Shaye that she finally can allow herself to be herself and that she is so loved while doing so! You are so right: trans is beautiful!!❤❤❤
I started following your family’s channel when you began sharing your new home build. It has been such an honor seeing your beautiful story unfold. You are incredibly generous in sharing it all so graciously. Sending love, gratitude and support to you all 🩷🩷🩷
It's such a delight, how you - and your family, know, how to- share God's loving creations. We are all created under his image, and he Loves us so much. We are not created - to be ugly at each other, but to love each other. If we are uncomfortable, which different issues, we are to move on. Not be ugly. God doesn't like "ugly". (My brief summery made short)
What does it say about people, a society and certain aspects of humanity that object to the happiness and love others share? What does it say about you, the reader who watched this video with preconceptions about how others should live their lives? Who they should be to gain your acceptance? Would you prefer everyone else judge you the same for who you should be to them instead of who you are as a human? I don't think there's anything more beautiful than loving someone for who they are inside, especially if they are so honestly showing you who they really are inside. I thank you with all of my heart for showing the world what love is... And yes, JC would do the same! Know that many of us here, there and everywhere support you a million percent because from your actions you're telling us that true happiness is not something for others to objectify. ❤
What about the deceit? Like is no one going to ask about the elephant in the room. Shaye was not honest when they got married, why is this huge thing swept under the carpet? Be whatever you want but don’t go down the aisle as something you are not bc that’s not fair and they knew right well when they got married, this I cannot get past.
As I have always said it's the person not the parts you are truly in love with. I am happy you two found a way through all the changes and are together. THIS is true love❤
I think your take on the situation is beautiful. I wish for all the happiness in the world for both of you! You deserve happiness and acceptance and love!!!
The courage and love you share is beyond amazing. I haven't watched all of your videos and don't know if you still believe in God but there is something divine in the fact that you found each other. I'm sure you run into a lot of hate but all I see is the power of love. Hugs to you all.
I've come to look forward so much to your videos about how your family is navigating Shaye's transition. I cannot be more grateful for your courageous and honest sharing. You are putting so much good into the world & the cheeky bits are a great reminder that all of this isn't heavy and painful. Some of the things we hold onto are just plain silly!
This is a very beautiful thing and can live past this entire lifetime as the testament that you can love your partner or spouse and it doesn’t matter what they express as long as they are happy with how they are.
Just found your channel after researching Mormonism (i have my own religious trauma... Even Used to go to Kenneth Copelands church lol) But ....just.....wow The way you speak I admire your ability to learn and grow with your partner (and yourself! Thats not easy either) Yall have a beautiful family full of love 🖤 Now, i gotta get back to binging your videos lol 🙏🩷☺️
The body is just a shell. Most people never, ever experience true soul love. When you meet a true soulmate, it would not be hard to stay next to someone regardless of the circumstance because you are not in love with their body. You are in love with their soul, and this is a true testament to authentic soul love. How sad that most people never get to experience this. But, what a blessing for you guys. If you’re one of the lucky that get to meet a genuine soulmate in your life, it will change everything for you.❤❤ these bodies are simply a suitcase for the eternal soul and most human beings have been so conditioned to believe otherwise.
This is beautiful. Thank you for your story. I am a non-LBGTQA+ male Christian. I would probably be ostracized by many of my church members because of my views that who you love is not a choice. As for me, I am curious about your (plural) sexuality. But thanks again. My love and hope go with you.
Amanda is really an incredible person and immense lover, salute to her power to unconditional love which is really really challenging for any wife in this world.... I really admire and appreciate her bravery
I just watched this video. This is a message I would love to hear spoken from our religious and political leaders. It binds us as humans and does not divide. The message is so beautifully crafted and it is historically who "mankind" is and has been. It is a message of love that is for all people who want to divide us - one from another - on the basis of differences.
Amanda you inner strength is amazing, thank you for sharing and for teaching us that in this complicated journey you continue to love and support your partner 🌅
I love your story as a mom i have two very beautiful trangender children i live in Tooele Utah and I raised my children LDS but now we just love who we are. My trangender daughter is right now all alone going through her life changing and a divorce and her beingin Mt I only wish i was there with her each day of her steps . Your vidios has touch her in a way that makes her feel very proud of who she is . Thank you for sharing your story with the world .
A friend of mine transitioned. They've been married for many years and stayed together. They sold everything they had and moved to an area more accepting. Such an AMAZING relationship. I've followed their story for a few years now. Thankfully she is finally happy. Wish everyone was more accepting. If my husband decided to transition I couldn't leave him. He's my best friend. I couldn't live without him. I love his soul and he loves mine.
Your message of love and respect came across so clearly. You’ve spoken so intelligently and you mix in a little humor also to remind everyone that it is not all that heavy,; after all you are talking about simply loving your partner for who she is. There is a lot people can learn from you and your family. Your willingness to be open minded and to learn will enrich your and your family and inspire many I am sure. This is exactly the attitude the world needs. I applaud you for handling this the way you do and I wish your family good luck on your journey, may many good things come to you.
Turkish images at 5.30 is the guy who looked after girls in the castle and his genitals would be cut so he cant use it for sex. Thats the image of that, not transgender. And the women with M eyebrows and looks masculine is actually a real women. She did look very masculine according to history but she was a women. Just thought Id clear this up here :) btw you are sooo gorgeous wow
I'm just happy for trans people to be their true selfs i understand why some leave their partners like if your not attracted to a woman and etc but I'm happy for you guys❤
I understand why you and Shaye stay together. It’s because you love each other, you share a beautiful history, you have three gorgeous children and you’ve discussed how you both want to raise them, you get each other’s jokes, you have created your own family traditions, you know each other’s quirks, fears, dreams and goals, you both have a very similar background, your families on both sides have developed relationships with each other, you have grown closer through the years, you’re each other’s best friend. Honestly, I can’t think of reason why you wouldn’t want to stay together.
I feel as feminine today, 5 months post mastectomy ( no reconstructive surgery) as i did when I had both breasts. I actually would like my second breast removed for aesthetics. I don’t need artificial breasts to feel like the cis woman I was born. I applaud you, Shae and everyone who lives a healthy life, in a healthy body. And yes. People can’t believe I didn’t choose reconstruction… it wasn’t right for me. I just didn’t want anything artificial in my body.
I fully support you and everything you said. My two issues with society are that they are pushing gender issues on children to the point of recommending surgery before they have grown to maturity. Thereby causing them to “choose” infertility. Imagine if Shay never got to have children? Where would she be now? Every human deserves to grow to maturity and make the decision as an adult whether to transition and to have children or not.
You are both very beautiful people. I can sense the positive energy you both exude. You are obviously soulmates and are truly meant to be 2gether. I'm glad you found each other and can help break the barriers between genders.❤ we are all human, no matter how we decide to present ourselves to the world, n we all deserve love. Thank u for your videos.
Amanda, please be aware that 21st century, western ideas of gender are different from tribal ideas of gender. We in the west subscribe to an individualistic view of gender, while tribal cultures subscribe to a social view of gender. So the “third gender” that we hear about in history was a social (ie tribal) construct, very much different from today’s individualistic 21st century idea of “I am telling you what I am, so therefore you must perceive me as such” Pleas use caution. I wish you best of luck.
I’m so grateful that you both are sharing your story. I love it so much. This video made me cry because it was so personal and true. I feel that I have a lot of similarities as Shaye. I’m also transgender. I started HRT back in October at age 42. I was raised LDS in SLC in the ‘90’s. All I knew back then was don’t let anyone know my “secret “ and so I tried everything I could to hide my “secret.” One day I couldn’t take it anymore. I realized that I’ll never be happy or enjoy my life if I don’t accept who I really am. My wife was not nearly as supportive as you and unfortunately our marriage of almost 22 years will be officially over next month. Within the coming weeks I plan to tell my father and stepmother as well as my adult children. I know I’ll have many hardships ahead as I finally tell the ones closest to me and coworkers figure it out, but I actually finally feel free. Again, thank you both so much for sharing your story. You two are very special.
“Go and love someone exactly as they are. And then watch how quickly they transform into the greatest, truest version of themselves. When one feels seen and appreciated in their own essence, one is instantly empowered.”
-Wes Angelozzi
That’s beautiful….wish I read this years ago❤️
Such an amazing story- I'm so happy this worked out for you both.
It's so good to see that we are not alone to experience this way of life. Your voice is very important and prove that love is higher than biased opinions. We are a trans women and cisgender women family with 2 childrens in France.
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You are an incredible, incredible woman. Your partner is beyond lucky to have you. Your videos are also so well structured, informative and brilliantly edited. You speak so well and so confidently with nothing but understanding and compassion, it really is a breath of fresh air.
Just want to wish your family the best now & always. The body may be different but the love in Shaye's heart or yours has never changed.
You both are incredible. At 73 I am learning so much from you. I am not transport nor do I know anyone who is but I support how people want to live and who and how they want to love. You are a very strong woman and your family is very lucky to have you. I wish you all love and happiness. Thank You so much. Merry Christmas!❤
Both are lucky to have each other🩷🩷
I think it's wonderful that LOVE is what is keeping you two together.
Growing up, my mom would tell me a story about her teacher who transitioned to a woman, and her wife stayed happily married to her. This was the 70s and you can imagine the social backlash. My mom admired them and their love so much and it was a powerful story I heard growing up in the 90s. Here's to you both and your everlasting, all powerful love ❤
How cool your mom shared that story with you!
I have the same story about my wonderful music teacher (in the late 60s), who transitioned in 1971 and was quickly fired by the school board. I never forgave the board for that terrible act. I wonder if it was the same teacher.
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My wife and I are both 60 I came out seven years ago after 34 years of marriage. She has the same feelings you have. I am just father in my transition the new wife is, as you stated, you love the persons, heart, not the body❤
So you have a sexual proclivity for wearing women's clothes? And if you are a woman now you are a lesbian right?
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@@KJGVB I have always known and I have dealt with. It should say suppress it my entire life. I have a coming out video on TH-cam under Dawnie Joslynn.
Thank you for loving and supporting your partner. You are awesome.
I've watched a LOT of transgender related content on youtube. And without doubt, this is the most inspiring, loving and beautiful story I've listed to. Shaye is so lucky to have you as her wife. If I ever meet anyone half as kind, intelligent and compassionate as you, I would be over the moon. I wish both all the happiness in the world.
Love is love, it defies, gender, religion, governments and a thousand other roadblocks. SO happy for your family ❤
I think for some people they don’t think of how supporting someone can mean different things. As a queer person myself, if my partner told me he was trans it wouldn’t change my feelings. We would have a lot of growing to do and change to work through, but that’s ok.
In your family support has meant staying together, which I love. I’ve also known couples who after one came out as trans their romantic relationship ended, but they continued to support their former partner as friends, sometimes co-parents, etc, because they didn’t break up because they had issues with their former partner being trans, they just weren’t compatible romantically anymore which is also valid. Love sometimes evolves as we grow as people, and that’s ok. We can support people we love in so many ways.
Omg......I'm going threw the same thing. Wow this sounds like our relationship. This bring tears to my eyes. Thanks for being you.
It’s difficult to think about these things without the traditional binary considerations. At first I was like, ‘so are you now gay?’ But I see that it’s not about that. It’s about commitment, family, acceptance and the literal work of marriage.
It's lovely when people allow themselves to learn about concepts new to them, bravo to you Patricia!! One thing people usually confuse when hearing these topics for the first time is gender & sexuality. Gender has nothing to do with sexual preference and vice versa 🥰
@@sia9907 maybe you do, but most Lesbians absolutely do not confuse gender identity with sexual preference.
here's to growth, acceptance, and love 🥂 thank you for making this video, amanda.
My feeling: sometimes adjectives are in the way. my adopted son? adopted daughter? nah.......it's my son! my daughter! same holds true here. my transgender partner? nah......my partner. I marvel at the grace with which your family is traveling the path that'll get you all where you are meant to be. much love.......
In this case she specifies "transgender partner" specifically because that is the subject of the video. Loving and staying with her partner through this transition. In the title so that it comes up in searches and relate content. In her phrasing to place emphasis on the fact that this isn't just about loving ANY partner, but specifically her transgender partner. Don't forget that Amanda's passion is books and literacy, the specifics of impact from words is her expertise.
I'm certain that when introducing Shay in a social setting, she would simply say "this is my partner, Shay".
I said thank you after your last video and I’m saying it again after this one… as mum to 2 teenage boys, one of whom is trans, and as a Christian who has had to battle not only with my own preconceived ideas but sadly with my former church over this, I too believe this is what Jesus would do too… I love both of my sons absolutely and unconditionally, and that’s the message I hear in your story too. Thank you both for being strong enough and brave enough to share your story- I really don’t think you’ll ever know how many people you will help and I wish you and your family nothing but love as you grow and evolve together 🌈💜
Sending you love, Anna! 🤗
I just want to say hi. I'm a religious Jewish lady and 2 of my 3 kids are trans. (Non-binary firstborn and teenage daughter.) Blessed day/night to you!
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@@missnaomi613I won’t pretend to know very much about the Jewish faith but I imagine being trans/having children who are was very divisive- and proof of how much your children love & trust you to be able to come out to you despite possibly being afraid of what the wider family/community might think… sending best wishes to all of you 💜
@@annalequesne4580 I used to (sort of) be part of the orthodox community where I live, for my then-husband. He was always homophobic/transphobic, and a product of that community. (He's trying now.) The synagogue I go to now is very accepting.
I live in the same town and so I know that things have not been easy for you and Shaye. I am a Christian (Lutheran) and I agree with you that Jesus would be behind you supporting you both. I wish you and your family all the best and that any negativity by others avoid you all. I'm in my 70's and the world is very different from when I grew up in the uptight '50s. Some people are afraid of change or anything they don't know about. Thank you for putting this out there and I hope it will educate people and give them understanding.
I think you have the wrong Bible God is not supporting what is going on here, Satan is supporting this. God did not make a mistake when he created this man. Sorry people are wrong.
@@Momo-cd5pw That's your twisted interpretation of the word of Christ. Maybe go back and reread your Bible.
Bless you Robert! ❤❤❤
@@juststeph6940 jesus isn’t hateful like you
Jesus does not support sin, but calls us to repentance. Our true identity is in Christ, not what the world is trying to convince us.
I don’t know how this channel came on my time line but it is wonderful. The way Shay explains self acceptance and not fighting the tide. Resonated with my soul.
I’m compelled to look at other videos as I still work toward with finding the joy I desire within.
I love your vulnerability and williness to share your journey. Thank you for sharing and allowing us to celebrate your stories.
Thank you for sharing your story. As the mother of transgender son, I find hope in your story. I wish you all the best in your journey and may you find the light in the times of darkness.
"With gender we're all in costume" I love the way you express this and directly take TERF's to task on this issue, this makes so much sense.
I hope when the two of you are ready, that maybe you could have a recommitment ceremony. Let's celebrate this continuing love💕 that the two of you have together and your beautiful family! 💗🌷🌸
That's a wonderful idea. I'd love them to do that.❤
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An absolutely amazing example of unconditional love 💕
This was really really well done. Thank you for sharing your experience and letting us in on your journey.
Thank you for being a thoughtful, wise, and discerning person and modeling true compassion, love and a commitment to understanding. Your words and example are powerful examples of how to create a world that is safer, healthier and more full of love for everyone.
You shouldn't need to explain why you're staying with her. It's your life you do you, we do us no need to explain your love, and affection to Shaye. If people don't think that love can go beyond husband/wife then people need to be quiet. Shaye is just as much a human as we are watching her life. :)
Hello I found it very educational and thank you for explaining it because I wound not think a person of transgender would want to stay with the same sex but you owe nobody anything ,I for one appreciate your explanation and I will better educate myself.
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Him.
You are a beautiful couple navigating some really big transitions together.
I appreciate and honour the way you are sharing your journey with such sincerity . I wish you both so much happiness ❤
So inspiring. Wishing you both well on this journey. Thank you also for sharing the stories and pieces of history that depict the spectrum of gender. I find that fascinating and helpful in bringing awareness that this is part of humanity for much longer than we know.
I’m very happy for both of you. I hope you continue to grow. I myself a concerned with the transgender movement, but am open to learning. I try to live with as much grace in myself for other people.
An engineer I've known for 25 years came out as transgender and a bass player I played with in a band also came out as transgender. From there I met more and more transgender folk. Before I knew anyone transgender - they were invisible. I think it's pretty cool.
True love. It’s beautiful how you support and accept each other. Wishing y’all the best! 💗
This is absolutely beautiful and I am so grateful to both of you for being so honest, open and vulnerable - which to me = brave - in order to help educate this often narrow minded, rigid society. All peace and love and truth to you and your family. Look forward to your next video! I hope healing is going well and I admire all of you. ☮️❤️🌷
Oh my heart♥️♥️♥️ I cried at the end🌻🌷🌺🌼🪻🌹
I am 33 and lost my mum last years. (I am single, no kids or anything). My dad is Mormon and because of many people using faith as a weapon against lgbtq people like myself and my friends, it made it very hard for us to be close. My transition is the opposite of Shaye’s, but she inspires me greatly to keep going in the face of adversity. Your sharing helps people like my dad understand people like me… and it gives me hope I won’t always be alone. Thank you.
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Addi, sending you love & hugs!
I can't say enough positive about this video and your kindness and humanity! Thank you!
Yes! You are also such a brave and compassionate soul for supporting your partner with your videos ❤️❤️❤️
I love this so much. True love that is stronger than harmful social constructs. Watching this made me cry.
All truth passes through 3 stages: First, it is ridiculed; Second, it is violently opposed; Third, it is accepted as self evident. " Arther Schopenhauer" Send you and Shay much love a appreciation for sharing your truth, your beautiful family, and your beautiful love for each other. You are an inspiration.
I don't usually touch this subject publicly (and honestly, I'm on the fence about how I see this whole deal), but at the end of the day, a true marriage is all about having your soulmate. I don't really understand this discussion of trans, but if this comes to light in a committed marriage with your true soulmate, you tend to stick together no matter what. My hat is off to you both for continuing to be married soulmates. I wish you all the best. This is coming from a "hypermasculine" dude (whatever that means, but I'm definitely a masculine dude who is ready to cry and otherwise be vulnerable, but I'm a man and I wear that hard). Like I said, I wish you both the best. Stay married, be happy, do well, and be good friends with all. Jesus is probably fine with this. I like to believe my Savior is. Christianity teaches us that none of us are mistakes because God never makes mistakes.
I've always believed that if partners really love each other for who they are inside, exterior changes are irrelevant. I mean, we all hope to grow old, right? Lots of exterior changes there! Each family's journey is unique. Thank you for bringing us along for your beautiful love story!
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I very rarely comment on yt videos. Your story and this video really moved me. I was sobbing by the end. Thank you for putting this out here.
Loved what you said about learning a lot of gender theory and history but how you’ll never know how you’ll react to as situation until you’re in it. You’re very beautiful, empathetic and wise! Thanks for sharing your story!
I am not Mormon or trans but i am a woman and mother and im more enlightened to gender dysphoria now after watching ( all ) your videos. I appreciate your resources shared regarding historoical Mormon teachings. I applaud your flexibilty as deacribed with the Māhū culture. I do feel our society in the US towards LGBTQ+ is political with inclusion or exclusion. You have dissolved those concepts to me with how your relationship evolves. If more relationships between people were about not only understanding the individual parts of one another but also respecting, we'd have a more healthy human race. I'm a single divorced straight mom and I just want to share with you that you both are wonderful humans, taking what you know and have learned through this life of yours; redesigning the human condition. I hope your children and their children will further share your human spirit.
Your story is beautiful and inspiring. Thank you for sharing something so vulnerable. 🫂
Found yall today and binging your videos. Yall are seriously beautiful people!! So happy that Shaye has a partner like you. Sharing the experience from your side is so needed. ❤❤
Also, the quality of yalls content is top notch.
I found your channel through watching your story on Mormon Stories. I really appreciated how much information you both shared about your experience. I feel like i am a very excepting person but was very confused by all the different lables and each personal experiences, but was worried if i asked a question that it would be rude or come across as judging. My adopted son said he thought he was Pan sexual when he was 10 years old. I had never heard this term before because i was living under a rock trying to survive being a stay at home mom and dealing with some other violent behaviors that my son would show. So i had no clue what they were talking about, but tried to reasure them i would always love them, and if they still felt this way when they were older and had a bit more time getting to know themselves we could continue to talk about it. They got older and during the teen years it was super tough for me. My son would get very angry if i asked questions and accused me of not being supportive. I was just asking because i did not know, and was genuinely curious. I really liked your interview on mormon Stories because you did mention that some people are genuinely curious. I am so happy to have found your channel as well. I love how you both are connected, and committed. I am just very moved by this video and what you talk about. I feel i can learn more about this all through your experiences you both share.
I hope Shay is doing better everyday after the surgery. So breave and empowering. As for my son, they are 18 now, living on their own. They are on their journey of life, just like each of us are. I feel your videos will continue to help answer some of my possible questions i might have with my relationship with my son. Love what it can become. Thanks.
I don't know if you're aware of this but having each other and standing by one another through this journey It's a blessing beyond all measure. I'm happy for you both that you have each other.
When my journey began I had a wonderful person who took me by the hand and led me out of the closet and into the light but my guardian angel fell ill and was no longer able to walk by my side and eventually passed from breast cancer. She wasn't my partner She was my angel. So after The first 6 months of my journey I was on my own. I've been on my own ever since. I've completed all of my surgeries except for FFS and in May of this year I will have been on my journey for 5 years.
Keep sharing your message, maybe someday our society will evolve so that others may emerge from the shadows without having to do it in isolation.
I find this really beautiful... The word that kept coming up in my head when watching this video is "unconditional love" - love that is not bounded by any physical traits or label... Love that comes from the heart, without any condition... Thank you for sharing both of your journey... 💚
You’re both beautiful inside and out I’m so glad to share this existence with y’all ❤
I think everyone should have the right to live their own life, feel how they want, enjoy what they want , along with everything else.
I was back in the hospital this week getting more of my leg taken off. How much longer do I have ? I am only 54 , and one leg is almost gone , I want to enjoy life, and so should you , and Shay and everyone else in this world
You’re such a great narrator/public speaker. Love your stories.
I’m sure you’ll help so many ppl and I feel you can change minds out there.
Great video. Love the powerful love and empathy, love the intelligence and humor in the editing, what a wonderful example of humanity!
Thank you for sharing your story so that there are more positive light towards our community. Your love goes beyond gender and it’s truly beautiful to witness. ❤
Such a heartfelt story ! It is complicated and confusing, but like you said, until you actually have to live it you can’t know how you’ll act and what you’ll do. And you two are very beautiful, strong and so blessed !!!
So proud and excited for the both of you and your entire family! It’s great to see you standing by Shaye’s side. It is very special to have a partner who is so loving and devoted. And most importantly, that you won’t be leaving her or seeking out an intimate relationship with a man outside of your love and bond with Shaye.
I look forward to following your family’s journey and wish you all the best!!!
Your last sentence made me start to ball!! My beautiful son recently came out transgender! Seeing her become her true authentic self is like seeing this new person emerge that has been hiding for years. Turns out, she’s amazing!! Whitty, smart, playful, wise beyond her years. We always felt like our son was hard, mean, angry. The truth is, that there was a girl in there wanting to be free! THANK YOU, Amanda and Shay! I have turned to your videos more then you will know for guidance and strength during this time and for that, I am forever grateful! ❤
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This video is so beautiful and wise !!! I watch all your videos about your transition journey and they have touched me deeply!! I am so so so happy for Shaye that she finally can allow herself to be herself and that she is so loved while doing so! You are so right: trans is beautiful!!❤❤❤
I started following your family’s channel when you began sharing your new home build. It has been such an honor seeing your beautiful story unfold. You are incredibly generous in sharing it all so graciously. Sending love, gratitude and support to you all 🩷🩷🩷
It's such a delight, how you - and your family, know, how to- share God's loving creations. We are all created under his image, and he Loves us so much. We are not created - to be ugly at each other, but to love each other. If we are uncomfortable, which different issues, we are to move on. Not be ugly. God doesn't like "ugly". (My brief summery made short)
So glad you’ve found peace. I love your videos, seams like you’ve come along way since morman stories too
She is one lucky gal to have such a supportive partner. I wish your family abundant blessings!
What does it say about people, a society and certain aspects of humanity that object to the happiness and love others share? What does it say about you, the reader who watched this video with preconceptions about how others should live their lives? Who they should be to gain your acceptance? Would you prefer everyone else judge you the same for who you should be to them instead of who you are as a human? I don't think there's anything more beautiful than loving someone for who they are inside, especially if they are so honestly showing you who they really are inside. I thank you with all of my heart for showing the world what love is... And yes, JC would do the same! Know that many of us here, there and everywhere support you a million percent because from your actions you're telling us that true happiness is not something for others to objectify. ❤
Beautifully said ❤️
What about the deceit? Like is no one going to ask about the elephant in the room. Shaye was not honest when they got married, why is this huge thing swept under the carpet? Be whatever you want but don’t go down the aisle as something you are not bc that’s not fair and they knew right well when they got married, this I cannot get past.
Wow, you are different kind of human! You should teach a class on transgender and feminism crossroad. Thank you for sharing and being open. ❤
You speak so lovingly and explain beautifully.
As I have always said it's the person not the parts you are truly in love with. I am happy you two found a way through all the changes and are together. THIS is true love❤
I think your take on the situation is beautiful. I wish for all the happiness in the world for both of you! You deserve happiness and acceptance and love!!!
That story is truly something deep and amazing. Thank you so much for sharing so openly
You have a heart of gold! I could listen to you talk for hours💛
This is great and you are an amazing and understanding woman! X
The courage and love you share is beyond amazing. I haven't watched all of your videos and don't know if you still believe in God but there is something divine in the fact that you found each other. I'm sure you run into a lot of hate but all I see is the power of love. Hugs to you all.
So beautiful that the two of you found each other.
I've come to look forward so much to your videos about how your family is navigating Shaye's transition. I cannot be more grateful for your courageous and honest sharing. You are putting so much good into the world & the cheeky bits are a great reminder that all of this isn't heavy and painful. Some of the things we hold onto are just plain silly!
This is a very beautiful thing and can live past this entire lifetime as the testament that you can love your partner or spouse and it doesn’t matter what they express as long as they are happy with how they are.
Just found your channel after researching Mormonism (i have my own religious trauma... Even Used to go to Kenneth Copelands church lol)
But ....just.....wow
The way you speak
I admire your ability to learn and grow with your partner (and yourself! Thats not easy either)
Yall have a beautiful family full of love 🖤
Now, i gotta get back to binging your videos lol 🙏🩷☺️
This is so beautiful! They are so brave ❤️
The body is just a shell. Most people never, ever experience true soul love. When you meet a true soulmate, it would not be hard to stay next to someone regardless of the circumstance because you are not in love with their body. You are in love with their soul, and this is a true testament to authentic soul love. How sad that most people never get to experience this. But, what a blessing for you guys. If you’re one of the lucky that get to meet a genuine soulmate in your life, it will change everything for you.❤❤ these bodies are simply a suitcase for the eternal soul and most human beings have been so conditioned to believe otherwise.
Your strength lies in your love.
This is beautiful. Thank you for your story. I am a non-LBGTQA+ male Christian. I would probably be ostracized by many of my church members because of my views that who you love is not a choice. As for me, I am curious about your (plural) sexuality. But thanks again. My love and hope go with you.
This is a beautiful story of your experience. Thank you so very much for sharing. 💜
I think you and your family represents the way we all should live: with love, always
Amanda is really an incredible person and immense lover, salute to her power to unconditional love which is really really challenging for any wife in this world.... I really admire and appreciate her bravery
I just watched this video. This is a message I would love to hear spoken from our religious and political leaders. It binds us as humans and does not divide. The message is so beautifully crafted and it is historically who "mankind" is and has been. It is a message of love that is for all people who want to divide us - one from another - on the basis of differences.
Amanda you inner strength is amazing, thank you for sharing and for teaching us that in this complicated journey you continue to love and support your partner 🌅
I love the both of you! I wish I had a way to connect with you both as I’ve so many parallels with Shay. I wish you both the best.
I love your story as a mom i have two very beautiful trangender children i live in Tooele Utah and I raised my children LDS but now we just love who we are. My trangender daughter is right now all alone going through her life changing and a divorce and her beingin Mt I only wish i was there with her each day of her steps . Your vidios has touch her in a way that makes her feel very proud of who she is . Thank you for sharing your story with the world .
A friend of mine transitioned. They've been married for many years and stayed together. They sold everything they had and moved to an area more accepting. Such an AMAZING relationship. I've followed their story for a few years now. Thankfully she is finally happy. Wish everyone was more accepting. If my husband decided to transition I couldn't leave him. He's my best friend. I couldn't live without him. I love his soul and he loves mine.
Love is Love is Love is Love! Thank you for teaching us how to Love!! What a beautiful family!!!
Your message of love and respect came across so clearly. You’ve spoken so intelligently and you mix in a little humor also to remind everyone that it is not all that heavy,; after all you are talking about simply loving your partner for who she is. There is a lot people can learn from you and your family. Your willingness to be open minded and to learn will enrich your and your family and inspire many I am sure. This is exactly the attitude the world needs. I applaud you for handling this the way you do and I wish your family good luck on your journey, may many good things come to you.
Remarkable, POWERFUL and most BEAUTIFUL! That’s what true love is about and that’s what God wants us to be! ❤️
Let's go!
We love to see it ❤🎉🫶🏾
Turkish images at 5.30 is the guy who looked after girls in the castle and his genitals would be cut so he cant use it for sex. Thats the image of that, not transgender. And the women with M eyebrows and looks masculine is actually a real women. She did look very masculine according to history but she was a women. Just thought Id clear this up here :) btw you are sooo gorgeous wow
Thank you Amanda, you and Shaye are truly amazing humans!!!❤
I have the utmost respect for you and your family…..sending love ❤️
I'm just happy for trans people to be their true selfs i understand why some leave their partners like if your not attracted to a woman and etc but I'm happy for you guys❤
I understand why you and Shaye stay together. It’s because you love each other, you share a beautiful history, you have three gorgeous children and you’ve discussed how you both want to raise them, you get each other’s jokes, you have created your own family traditions, you know each other’s quirks, fears, dreams and goals, you both have a very similar background, your families on both sides have developed relationships with each other, you have grown closer through the years, you’re each other’s best friend. Honestly, I can’t think of reason why you wouldn’t want to stay together.
I feel as feminine today, 5 months post mastectomy ( no reconstructive surgery) as i did when I had both breasts. I actually would like my second breast removed for aesthetics. I don’t need artificial breasts to feel like the cis woman I was born. I applaud you, Shae and everyone who lives a healthy life, in a healthy body. And yes. People can’t believe I didn’t choose reconstruction… it wasn’t right for me. I just didn’t want anything artificial in my body.
This is the first video I've watched on this channel. And I just have to say you're amazing.
I fully support you and everything you said. My two issues with society are that they are pushing gender issues on children to the point of recommending surgery before they have grown to maturity. Thereby causing them to “choose” infertility. Imagine if Shay never got to have children? Where would she be now? Every human deserves to grow to maturity and make the decision as an adult whether to transition and to have children or not.
I’m not trans nor do I have anyone trans in my life, but this video still felt so uplifting and beautiful.
You are both very beautiful people. I can sense the positive energy you both exude. You are obviously soulmates and are truly meant to be 2gether. I'm glad you found each other and can help break the barriers between genders.❤ we are all human, no matter how we decide to present ourselves to the world, n we all deserve love. Thank u for your videos.
Amanda, please be aware that 21st century, western ideas of gender are different from tribal ideas of gender. We in the west subscribe to an individualistic view of gender, while tribal cultures subscribe to a social view of gender. So the “third gender” that we hear about in history was a social (ie tribal) construct, very much different from today’s individualistic 21st century idea of “I am telling you what I am, so therefore you must perceive me as such”
Pleas use caution. I wish you best of luck.
I’m so grateful that you both are sharing your story. I love it so much. This video made me cry because it was so personal and true. I feel that I have a lot of similarities as Shaye. I’m also transgender. I started HRT back in October at age 42. I was raised LDS in SLC in the ‘90’s. All I knew back then was don’t let anyone know my “secret “ and so I tried everything I could to hide my “secret.” One day I couldn’t take it anymore. I realized that I’ll never be happy or enjoy my life if I don’t accept who I really am. My wife was not nearly as supportive as you and unfortunately our marriage of almost 22 years will be officially over next month. Within the coming weeks I plan to tell my father and stepmother as well as my adult children. I know I’ll have many hardships ahead as I finally tell the ones closest to me and coworkers figure it out, but I actually finally feel free. Again, thank you both so much for sharing your story. You two are very special.
Thank you for sharing your story. You are an incredible human being. More love to you and Shaye.
You are both brave and helping change the world. I support you 🤗🫂🤍💚