Skyler , we appreciate you opening up to your followers. It’s clear that you didn’t want the divorce. I believe we were all shocked when this sad devastating news came out. You always seemed so happy and in love. You are a wonderful Dad, son , friend and man. The world needs more Skyler in it. I wish you nothing but the best on your new life journey. Any women that gets to share life with you is a lucky woman. God bless you and your beautiful children. Sending love and hugs from Florida 💙🙏🏻❤
My sentiments exactly💗💗💗 Skylar continue doing what you do to get to where you need to be in life, the love you have for all your beautiful children shines through in everything you do & I Thank you for sharing in the great outdoors. Much Love, hugs & total respect for sharing your truth so publicly 🌟💎💖 xXx
Skyler, I saw your parents a couple of weeks ago in STG and thought of telling them how amazing kids they have ( at least you and Shay) but I felt shy to approaching them and making them feel uncomfortable for having a total stranger telling them something they already know. I missed my chance. Thank you for being so humble and honest, sharing this seems still very painful for you, but of course, there is life after divorce! You’ll be more than great!
This is the most wonderful expression on divorce I have ever watched or read. The most awesome show of respect for your former spouse. The truest thoughts on what feelings some spouses experience. You must write a book. Really. Skylar, your tears at the end brought me to tears and I suspect many will say the same. I am also divorced and a former member so I can imagine somewhat how this has been for you. This old grandma just wants to give you a hug. I love you like a son, and I hate to see you hurt. I'm so grateful you were smart enough to get therapy to help you through this. God has good things... more good things... in store for you.
I feel the same. It takes a long time to heal Skylar, just go with what God has given you for now...7 beautiful kids, your health, you have a lovely home, you are a successful vlogger...take it slow Skylar and just focus in on those things. We all love you, much love from Livonia Michigan💙
Skyler. I survived divorce myself. 4 years ago, my husband left after 27 years of marriage and 30 years together for another woman. It took years of therapy. I'm still in therapy.. He left me for a woman outside of the USA. He left the USA, moved to her country and married her. We share a 26 yo daughter and he has a 14 month old son. The biggest things I learned. Therapy is a good. A neutral 3rd party is what I needed. I cried so much I was sick of hearing myself cry. And that's OK. I now realize he gave me the gift of the freedom I didn't know I deserved. I'm still working on my self esteem..There are many days I don't feel like I'm enough...it's a process. This is my first time in my adult life I've had to do it alone. It hasn't been easy...one thing that did make me smile in my healing, the quints...watching them grow up via your vlogs would bring me cheer when I needed it desperately. To anyone going through divorce I used to pray and cry myself to sleep wanting calm not chaos. It took time but I'm here.
He may return. It could take ten years. Your children and your life together was good. He's gone through a second childhood or mid life crisis. He'll not find happiness in this. Stay positive. It had nothing to do with you and everything to do with him. You're not alone. God loves you. ❤🎉
I never in a million years thought you and Jamie would divorce but I think you are a wonderful person with a heart of gold. I pray you find happiness again.
Thank you, Skyler, for being so vulnerable. This is definitely one thing that has not changed about you. I remember when the quints were infants and you were talking about people fasting and praying for your family when Logan's water broke at 21 weeks. Your vulnerability share showed then, and it shows now, and I honestly believe that vulnerability comes as a really good/healthy amount of strength.❤
I remember praying for Logan and reading the comments from all over the world. That’s when I started watching/praying. It was crazy how many came together. Imagine if we do that for everything all the time. Miracles happen. I was raised strict Catholic, and I no longer go to church, but I definitely have a relationship with god. I’ve seen his work first hand. I full heartedly believe my god loves all and doesn’t discriminate.
My first marriage ended in divorce and I was made to feel a failure by my family. Fast forward to today and I have now been married to my true husband (I dont like calling him my second husband!) for 27 years and counting. Everything you say is so correct, but please remember what you are saying applies to you as well. You are raw still, it will come and meantime lean on your family and friends as much as you need to. As others have said, you are amazing parents, you have amazing kids and you are a lovely human. Look after Skyler too! xx
As the child of a very messy divorce, I wish I could go back in time 15 years and show my parents this video. We obviously don’t see the private moments between you all during this time but even just how positively you both have talked about each other in the last two years of vlogs has been so amazing to see has honestly brought me some healing in my own fears of marriage and divorce in the future. All the love to you and your family 🫶🏼
Oh gosh, I second this. It’s hard being a child of divorce but even worse when your parents can’t get along and you’re kind of in the middle bouncing off them and left to clean part of their mess
This is an awesome post. I was a single Mother MANY years ago but found my special, wonderful, soulmate and we have been married 50+ years. Yes, there is life, wonder life, after divorce. Skyler, your respect and love of Jamie, even though you're no longer married, is so refreshing. People seem to think that you can still love and/or be friends with a former spouse. Yes, you most certainly can. Keep on , keeping on Skyler. Your emotion at the end had me in tears. This is a favorite post.
My favorite post too!!! 😊 It's great to hear the "real" in all of it. It takes a LOT of courage to be this vulnerable. I respect and admire Skyler for your courage. 🎉
When I got divorced now 7 years ago, it was the hardest thing I've ever done. We had been married 35 years. My children were grown, but it was still hard on all of us. Yes, there is life after divorce and in my case a much happier and fulfilling life. I have dated a bit, but cannot see ever getting married again. You are still young, Skylar, and I am sure as time passes you will be ready to build a new relationship.
That walk was very illuminating to see and hear. Deprogramming from a religious organization is an overwhelming experience for many without throwing a painful divorce on top of it. Taking advantage of mental health services and being appreciated by the friends you love are all good things. Believing you will survive the pain and experience the joy of living again is the biggest hurdle. Your ability to just appreciate what you have will carry you a long way towards peace and security in your person and demonstrate to the kids that your love for them is unconditional, unending, and enduring. You got this. You have a lot more to give.
Skyler, your words, talking about Jamie, being your wife once, and your kids, shows, how much love and God are in your heart truly, i hope you both find happiness
Skylar you just made me cry!! Wow you’re such a strong man and you should feel so proud of yourself. Your children are lucky to have such a devoted father and of course Mother. Keep smiling because your smile brightens up anyone’s darkest day. Love and best wishes from Debbie in Bristol uk xx
As everyone shared here, I was so touched and moved by you sharing your honesty, love, vulnerability, grace and hope! You showed us all the best we can be and our human complexity; you gifted us all with perspectives we all strive for but may not be equipped to achieve. That’s spreading love, Skylar, at its highest! ❤️❤️❤️
You sir are a fine example to your sons and daughters ! The way you speak about and treat their mother is something they will never forget . I hope at the end of your day you feel proud of you because you should! I think there are many beautiful things ahead for you and your kids.❤
I love your energy and kindness that comes so naturally , the respect you have for jaime is refreshing and very special i wish others held that manner and respect x
It couldn't have been easy to get to this point that you can speak so openly about your feelings and experiences regarding the divorce. Its wonderful to see that you have been able to heal and grow. Having a major life change yourself and having close family going through major changes isn't easy. It's wonderful that you and your sister have been a great support system for each other.
Thank you for opening out and being so honest about your divorce and the lessons you learnt. I think it's so important that we share these things that can really help others not to feel alone on their journey.
I want to thank you for being kind. Because you have gone a different direction, you have not become hateful to the direction you came from. Thank you for realizing we are not all the same. There is NO shame in divorce. And lots of credit to you for keeping love for your coparent in this journey. Your children will be blessed their whole lives because of it. May your journey be blessed. Just sayin…😊
This was a tough one. Thank you so much for sharing. The “you are worth it” brought tears to my eyes. Skyler I want you to know you are worth it too! Spreading love and encouragement all around. ❤️
Everyone's already said it all. I'm in awe at how you are handling this twist in your life. Sending you tons of love and respect. You are so strong and inspirational. Keep your chin up Skylar, the world's your oyster!
Love watching your precious family! I commend you & Jamie for being such great co-parents! Still following both of you on your social media platforms! I also commend you on praising Jamie! My parents got a divorce when I was a teen. I never heard my Mom or Dad bad mouth each other. That isn't always the case. You may have had me crying! You are such a great Father Skyler!
So many people wanted an explanation but you didn’t owe anyone one. Thanks for sharing in your own way, in your own time frame and from your heart. Much respect to you ❤
It’s not about owing. It’s about a community that grew up over hours and hours of watching and cheering everyone on and deriving pleasure and value in life from the shared experience. People feel deeply attached to this family and just like you want to know what is going on with non virtual loved ones, out of concern and hopes for them, many people, myself included felt very sad and didn’t want the connection to be severed.
@@ace6285Watching a family on social media that you personally don't know entitles you to nothing. They don't owe any of us explanation for anything that happens in their lives. Just like we don't owe anyone explanation of ours..they aren't any different..also it's called being respectful of their boundaries. Nothing they do personally or otherwise has anything to do with us viewers..it has no effect on our lives. It's their life.😊
@@ace6285 vlogging is a virtual journal and the author gets to choose what they include just like any creator makes the choices over their body of work. As the viewer or reader you accept those choices. It’s also about personal boundaries between a persons public self and private one. Even though they make some of their life public , they also have the right to decide what they want to keep private, often because our lives effect others and isn’t always just our own story to tell
A divorce is the death of your plans and hopes for the future. You grieve for what is lost, but it definitely can be forward moving. Thanks for sharing.
I met my hubby. Three weeks we ran off got married. 50 years and in 2019 he passed. I’m so blessed to have him for my eternal partner. Life was hard. You do what’s good for you in life. ❤
Skylar as someone who was also raised in the LDS church and then left and also went through a divorce, I completely understand your perspectives and all you’re going through. Thanks for being so genuine! Funny thing, I saw your friend Kyle at a grocery store the other night and then Jamie at a store a few nights later. So surprising for me. I don’t know any of you but recognized them from the vlog. 😂 Hang in there!
The content that so many of us who followed your family's journey from the beginning were waiting for... Life changes have a purpose no matter how difficult and challenging and sad it can be... But you got this!! You both are amazing and beautiful humans aside of being wonderful parents to each of your 7 kids. Be proud and continue living surrounded by love (self love too) and keep building inner strength moving forward.
I'm going through a divorce right now and we were married 19 years. I needed to hear your words and I thank you for sharing. Things will get better. My boys and I will get through it and we will come out the other side.
I'm crying as I watch this. I went through this myself. 25 years married, happy. Shocked by the divorce and devastated. I cried in the courthouse when the judge was declaring the divorce finalized. I couldn't understand all the people before me smiling big when they're divorces was finalized
So amazing to see two people love, respect and support one another even after a divorce. SO beautiful for your children to have two parents who love them and love each other without any hated and hurt between one another
My marriage ended after 18 years. That was 29 years ago. I still remember the pain. I feel it within you. Hang in there, Skylar. In time you too will heal. Hugs.
Your story and the lesson you have learned reminds me a lot of what my mom has gone through after losing my dad.. becoming a widow, having to find a new identity, joy, and for some people, another partner. All of that to say, I absolutely commend you in the way you have handled things, and sharing this story with us. Your platform is a lot greater than you probably even think.. your story is not only going to hit home for those going through divorce, but also people going through their own personal form of grief.. whatever it may be. You have a beautiful family, and I appreciate you for sharing them with us!
Your willingness to share and show your vulnerability is a testament to the work you've done to heal and grow. Thank you for sharing that and keep being courageous!
I was blindsided after 25 yrs married. Divorce was the cruelest things I’ve been through. Definitely take your time healing and finding yourself again. That’s what I’m doing.
I love how you allowed yourself to get vulnerable on camera. It is so tough getting divorced in the LDS faith. I went thru a horrific divorce 13 years ago w 6 minor children and I can honestly say idk how I survived. There IS stigma and there IS shame associated w being a divorced LDS and I’m still navigating those feelings all these years later. Thank you for sharing your journey. It helps to know there are others in the same situation. (P.S. I remarried a year after my divorce was final to a non-LDS man but remain LDS myself.
Thank you for sharing and being open about your experience. It really does help to know that we’re not alone, and that there is life after divorce. Best wishes. 💛
Skyler, you are so beautiful telling us your inner feelings. I felt so bad when you teared up. If you were my son or brother, I’d give you a huge hug. Stay strong Skyler!
High demand religions make it super difficult to know who you are outside of it all. It’s been incredible to see you support your sister, gently deconstruct and grow! The kiddos are lucky to have such an amazing father.
High demand religions. That's a good descriptor for organizations that tell you how to manage your life. Yes, give thanks to your Creator, but don't tell me when to get married, and how soon to have children. Glad you are free from that, Skylar.
As a woman who left a 15 year relationship/14yrs married, I related to this a lot. It's been 8 years since separating, 6 years divorced. It finally feels right to look into finding a Godly man to share my time with. Thank you for opening up about the lessons you've learned. I am so grateful for the candor you share.
Marriage is never Godly. It's one Eater marrying another Eater and then producing more Eaters. The reason existence of God (Benevolent Universal Creator) is impossible is because what you believe as God's creation is a system of "Eat and Be Eaten". The world is inherently bad, where every living being is feeding upon another living being in order to survive. Even in the process of breathing, microorganisms are killed. Everyone is born an eater (killer). Man will eat and he will be eaten. That is the nature of the world. Those who justify this carnage use it to justify the existence of God. When the worldly system itself is designed to be inherently bad (eat and be eaten), there is nothing benevolent about its Creator. Rather, the Creator is a Malevolent Force that should be condemned and not glorified. It’s not happiness and pleasure we’re after in this world, but a reduction of the ongoing suffering that’s an inherent part of existence. If we actually compare this world to prison, we will see that the similarities are staggering. In the case with prison, nobody chooses to be here, and the prisoner can’t leave until the sentence ends or when the prisoner dies. The prisoner is limited by the walls of the ever-fleeting present moment, and within the confines of limitations, the prisoner experiences a stream of suffering, tragedy, and misery.
Proud of you for staying true to yourself and making the decision to leave the Mormon church. As someone who was conditioned to believe that way of life is the only way, I can’t imagine that was an easy thing to do. I would love to hear more about this when you’re ready to talk to us about it.
I was married for 18 years before we divorced. It has been 3 years now and I am such a different and happier person. There is life after divorce! It has been hard work to get to where I am at now, but I’m so thankful to be at this place in my life. I do think this is my favorite vlog you have done, thank you for sharing your story and I look forward to watching you continue your journey!
Yes, I feel the same way. The growth and healing hasn’t come easy. It’s taken therapy, a lot of soul-searching, and a ton of patience. Thanks so much for watching. Best wishes!
Hope you know how special you are! I'm a child of divorce and I am pretty sure if my father had a kind, gentle friend like you I wouldn't have suffered as much as I have. Thank you for having the bravery to talk about something difficult..
Skyler, thank you so much for your transparency…willing to open up to us about you, your marriage, divorce, fatherhood, and a man of God! You are loved by thousands of us and we also love Jamie! This was an incredible vlog and it gave me an even greater appreciation of you. I am a forever follower of both you and your family!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Skyler - I was blindsided by a divorce, with a family I adored. A car accident is a perfect example. There was days I was not sure I could pull though. I am 3 years in and life DOES go on. Your perspective is so refreshing and raw. Thank you! Sending blessings your way.
Skyler, you have no idea what this video did for me! I just went through a painful divorce and also have SEVEN children. Although I saw it coming for years, I was also strangely blindsided. This month would've been our 23rd wedding anniversary. Your tears and vulnerability at the end was everything I needed to keep going. I started crying with you. I literally never comment on any youtube video, but I was so compelled to do so today. My littlest guy is 4 and his name is Lincoln. I started watching your family shortly after the quints were born and I literally chose the name Lincoln because watching your vlogs made me love that name. All the best to you and your beautiful family!!
Thanks for sharing this Katrina. It helps to know that we’re not alone. Divorce can be so disorienting, and whether it’s anticipated or not, it hurts so much when someone you love turns away from you. Sending love and best wishes to your family. ❤️
Thank you for sharing such a beautiful story. You have been so very blessed with Jamie and the children as we’ve been blessed that you share your family with us. So looking forward to watching you all grow
Your awesome Skyler. You made me cry. I have watched you & Jamie since she was in the hospital with the scary thought of loosing these 5 precious children. I will continue watching you & Jamie & all 7 of your children. Thank you for being the great person you are.
I so appreciate you speaking your truth, Skyler!! Wondering if you ever considered going on Mormon stories podcast to share your story. I love and respect you! You are an amazing Dad and all around human! Blessings:)
I’ve learned so much about the Mormon religion thru these podcasts. Who would want their children to be made to feel unworthy by a Bishop. It’s not healthy in any way. And getting married young, while you’re still “pure” is definitely not healthy. Women should get an education and know their self worth without needing a man to make them feel worthy.
Mormon podcast is NOT a great indication of The Church of Jesus Chrust of Latter Day Saints. It's a podcast where those who left have LOTS of negative things to say which are not neccesarily indicative of the church in general. Just want to make sure Skyler and others understa n d before checking out that podcast. They are often not very kind to the church or church members on that podcast. 😢
You and Jamie are both wonderful people. I’m sure this divorce was painful for both of you. I so respect that both of you talk so lovingly about the other. How hard it must have been for Skyler to have to step away from his faith and for Jamie to hold onto her faith. Life is so hard, and it’s always difficult to know what’s right. You both are making it work, and your children reflect what wonderful parents you are. I hope the days ahead are easy for all of you!
Thank you for sharing. I went through a divorce almost 2 years ago after a 27 year marriage and 5 kids. My marriage ending was a huge shock to me and my kids too. We found out he (my ex husband) had been living a 2nd life and had been having a long affair that he had been covering up. I completely understand the car crash analogy-I went though the same thing (and in some ways I still am). Things do get better but I still have hard days and I still struggle to understand the big picture some days. Your kids are so lucky they have two parents that are still there for them. My kids have not had that with their father and that’s hard to work through as well… but we are doing our best. Thank you again for sharing your story-sometimes it just helps to know we aren’t alone 😊
Hi Skyler. I was raised in a small southern baptist village in rural Louisiana, and while it is different denomination much of that feeling of being in a small close knit community and the pressure to get married young and start having kids is still the same. I got married at 19, and it was a huge mistake for me. I wasn't done growing up and becoming the person I was meant to be. I gave up college for him. Society tells us we're adults at 18, but biologically your brain isn't fully developed til age 25. I wish I had known that back then. That I was allowed to keep growing up. That I didn't have to start doing all these seriously responsible adult things when I barely knew who I was as a person. I had never spent any time by myself, and I think that's so important for personal development. The only way you're going to know who you truly are is if you're forced to be alone with your own thoughts and be your own responsibility for a while. I didn't get that again til I was divorced and nearly 30 years old. I was so resentful of the abusive man I had married, because he took away a decade of my life I could have spent growing and learning about myself. And for the near decade we were married, his verbal abuse left deep scars on my self worth. Things I still deal with to this day. I hope if any young person reads this, don't ever feel like you have to get married fresh out of high school and start making babies. Take time for yourself. Learn who you are. Develop yourself so love can find you organically. Thanks for sharing your story, Skyler.
Skyler thank you so much for breaking down divorce stigma!! It absolutely can be healing and forward moving🫶🏼 I’m inspired by you. Sending your family lots of love!
Your open explanations are so refreshing Skylar, and you certainly are a wonderful dad to all your children. Keep on doing what you're doing, because you're doing it right! Life will be good again for you, I feel it! Your children will see to that xx
I just lost my BF/partner of the last 15 years in july. Im only 28 and he was 27. That lost and alone feeling you described is where I am currently. I know it's a different situation, being he passed away, but it helps to hear/see someone be vulnerable and get through a tough time. Sending love to you. Jamie, and the kids, as I'm sure there are still hard moments/days. Thank you for sharing!
you're a beautiful man skylar. i've gone through a divorce myself, watched family and friends go through divorce, and it's always been a ugly, painful thing to see. really horrible. you are a true breath of fresh air when i hear you speak so respectfully and kind about jamie. that takes a lot of inner strength, character, and maturity. as you already know, as we go through the divorce, there are some days you don't know if you'll make it through the day because the pain is so awful, but you do... and with each passing day you become stronger and stronger. days lead to months, months lead to years and during that process you are forced to ask yourself who you want to be and how you want the rest of your life to play out so you can reach your highest potential. it's a painful process, but necessary and oh so good. good luck my friend. be well, be healthy.
Thanks for sharing Skyler. I went through an unexpected, traumatic and devastating separation and divorce about the same time as you. Most people that knew us were shocked. I wholeheartedly agree with everything you said. And these were some good reminders for me to hear. Wishing you and the kids and Jamie all the healing in this rough patch of life. I hope you receive all the grace you need from your loved ones. Best wishes from Perth Australia.
I have so much love, admiration and respect for you, Skylar. I’m so sorry for the pain you went through and so thankful to you for sharing the lessons you’ve learned. You are an incredible person. Hugs to you. ❤❤❤
It takes a lot of courage for parents to know it is time to move on even though they have children. The parents that stay together for their children do not know how much they can hurt the children when their relationship is not working out. Children see and hear everything! So no matter how hard it is not move on and start a new life, it definitely gets better with time. Wish you and Jamie the best in life! Thank you for sharing and look forward to more of your videos! Love your sense of humor Skyler! ❣
They don't their children nearly as much as the parents who divorce do. They do see and hear everything, including 2 parents who are sacrificing themselves for the sake of their children and being selfless.
We love you Skyler and family. God will definitely heal your wounds and restore your broken heart. Thank you for sharing your life with us and for also making us laugh with your awesome personality. ❤
The fact you have this much self awareness so soon after your divorce is a credit to you Skylar, especially given the pain you have endured during this period. Divorce is the biggest journey of self discovery, it's been 10 years for me and while hard I have learnt who I truly am. I live in the UK and am the same age, also have ADHD and a single parent. The journey whilst massively challenging has given me a strength and awareness I would never have had should I have stayed married. Certainly not always easy but while I'm not religious I do feel that we are destined to take certain paths. Like you i would never have dreamt I would be a single mother/parent but I am moving forward ❤ thank you for sharing, it's a real comfort to know other are on the same path
Skyler, you are brave and you are unique and you are precious. God has a plan and a future for you. Such courage to share your tender journey from your heart! Plus the scenery was amazing...well thought out video!
Skylar, Thank you so much for your vulnerability and honesty. I have been divorced for 20 years, married for 10. My son was worth everything I lived through. Take time to heal and love yourself. 💙
Thank you so much for sharing these parts of your story with us. I have gone through divorce, thought I had handled everything, then started writing a book about this experience. I t has been incredibly cathartic, and very surprising. There were many emotions that I had buried, and the writing helped me bring focus and to work through those emotions. You are right in saying that it is not easy, and also right in that we are not alone, and there is life after divorce. I think you are doing so well and you continue to be a great dad to all your kids! You’ve got this, Skyler!! Warm regards from 🇨🇦Calgary, Alberta🇨🇦
I don’t usually comment, but I really appreciated your honesty and vulnerability. Leaving the church is a hard thing to do. I can only imagine how much harder it was to also experience the end of your marriage at the same time. I wish you all the best. I hope that you both can continue to support each other as you co-parent and raise your children.
I love how respectful and how much love you still have for Jamie, it was beautiful to hear you honor her. I loved your last point on divorce, very true!!! I cried with you at the end, your tears sounded like a small break through!! I pray you, Jamie, and the kids continue to grow and heal❤❤❤
This video randomly came up on my feed … I know nothing about you but Thankyou for this!! Seperated for 10 months from my husband of 24 years- 4 children In a Christian church and served in the church also our entire relationship The judgement and stigma around divorce that kept me in the relationship for so long - instead of looking at the big picture and health of a relationship 😢
Very well done video ❤ I was as shocked and sad as everyone else when the news came out that you guys had separated. Thank you for speaking so kindly about Jamie. It means a lot to me when exes can be respectful to each other no matter the reason they’re exes. I truly wish you both the best and want nothing but happiness and healing for you
You are an incredible person, and sharing your respect for Jamie and the sacrifices she has made for your children is very honourable. Navigating a transition out of your faith has to be challenging, but seeking truth is what matters. Best wishes on your journey ahead! ❤
Skyler, thank you. i'm in the middle of an incredibly unexpected divorce from my husband of 20 years, It hurts and I'm sad. I take your words to heart.
Skylar you're amazing. You're brave, you're vulnerable, you're funny and you're honest. Keep being you. Keep learning who you are. I have never been Morman but Christian churches throughout my young life. Not being a member of a church does not stop you from having faith and that is shining through you. I'm full of admiration and I hope that all the people who judged you when you separated and blamed you etc... I hope that they too have grown and learned from your vulnerability. Your marriage wasn't a failure. X
Man him choking up at the end and showing such vulnerability was absolutely heartbreaking but yet so refreshing at the same time!! The respect you have for the mother of your children after divorce is something that’s rarely seen anymore so thank you for letting others going through the same thing know it’s ok not to be ok!!! ❤🙏 Love this video so much and love love the bond you have with all of your precious kids!❤💙
I remembered one of your previos vlog about the first time you discussed about the divorce. That and this one is why I am a fan of you and your family. The way you show your vulnerability and your honesty is very refreshing. My 9 year relationship ended a few months ago and I didnt know how I was going to make it. I am getting there. I dont know where you are from healing but know that it will get better soon. There is no way but up. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability and raw honesty. This is why I love watching your vlogs.
My divorced just got finalized but we were separated for awhile. I couldn’t agree more with everything you said. It’s a process in learning about yourself and growing through the pain. Wishing you and Jamie all the very best ❤️
I will also share the following from a person I respect. "Grace, this is what got us here practice takes us home." Taking us along on your practice feeds us all. Thank you.
Skyler- Thank you so much for your mature words on divorce. When I divorced it offered me the opportunity to have better vision into my beliefs and the life I had lived up till then. I left my faith and discovered a whole new way of living, plus a new found commitment to Jesus.
That made me tear up…I am going through a divorce too and I agree with you 100 percent Skyler! Thank you for being transparent and encouraging ❤️ 🎶 Keeeeep mooooving forward! 🎶
I’ve followed and cared about you all since you started posting. This touched me deeply. Thank you for sharing. I was married for 17 years and then divorced. Now I’m married for 23 years and even though I am sick with terminal cancer, my life with my soul mate is everything. We even adopted two more children together, who have only added to our blessings. There is so much to look forward to!! Can’t wait to see where your journey leads…
What are you talking about??!! What God is he walking with? The one he’s not sure it’s up there? Did you not hear what he said? This man jumped from the pot into the frying pan. Even though he was in a delusional religion but at least he had some morals. Now he doesn’t even have that. Not only does he not care what God has to say about divorce but he actually wants the entire society to think divorce is not bad. You know why? Because he dose t want to feel bad about it. Yeah In this insane society we live in we must make everything that was good bad and everything that ever was bad is now made to be good, this way nobody gets to be responsible or feel bad about anything. Now imagine that world. Do you still wonder why so many kids are opting to take themselves out? This is a perfect example why.
This is beautiful. I am also two years post separation after 22 years of marriage. Never wanted it but I’m slowly healing. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Wow. Without doubt my favorite video of yours from the beginning. I ended with tears, too. You are an amazing human being and my goodness are those children fortunate to have a father like you. Beautiful video. I am so glad that your world is opening up and things are getting better. I wish only peace, love and happiness for you. ☮️❤️🌷
Thanks for sharing! Divorce is hard! Don’t be in a hurry for another relationship. I prayed for years for God to ready my heart and the heart of my future husband. Find yourself be your own person and put your kids first. You will find another person that will love who you are. Love you and Your family!!❤️💙💙💗💗💗💙💙
Skyler , we appreciate you opening up to your followers. It’s clear that you didn’t want the divorce. I believe we were all shocked when this sad devastating news came out. You always seemed so happy and in love. You are a wonderful Dad, son , friend and man. The world needs more Skyler in it. I wish you nothing but the best on your new life journey. Any women that gets to share life with you is a lucky woman. God bless you and your beautiful children. Sending love and hugs from Florida 💙🙏🏻❤
My sentiments exactly💗💗💗 Skylar continue doing what you do to get to where you need to be in life, the love you have for all your beautiful children shines through in everything you do & I Thank you for sharing in the great outdoors. Much Love, hugs & total respect for sharing your truth so publicly 🌟💎💖 xXx
@@christine0418I think she did. She is stating she agreed with everything you said and added her thoughts as well 🥰
Awww. Thank you so much. Thanks for seeing and hearing me with such a loving and understanding heart. 💛
Skyler, I saw your parents a couple of weeks ago in STG and thought of telling them how amazing kids they have ( at least you and Shay) but I felt shy to approaching them and making them feel uncomfortable for having a total stranger telling them something they already know. I missed my chance. Thank you for being so humble and honest, sharing this seems still very painful for you, but of course, there is life after divorce! You’ll be more than great!
Sending best wishes to you for an amazing future, Skylar. Divorce is hard and it is sad, but you move on and each day gets a little better.
This is the most wonderful expression on divorce I have ever watched or read. The most awesome show of respect for your former spouse. The truest thoughts on what feelings some spouses experience. You must write a book. Really. Skylar, your tears at the end brought me to tears and I suspect many will say the same. I am also divorced and a former member so I can imagine somewhat how this has been for you. This old grandma just wants to give you a hug. I love you like a son, and I hate to see you hurt. I'm so grateful you were smart enough to get therapy to help you through this. God has good things... more good things... in store for you.
Thank you! I feel your hugs. Love you 🤗
I feel the same. It takes a long time to heal Skylar, just go with what God has given you for now...7 beautiful kids, your health, you have a lovely home, you are a successful vlogger...take it slow Skylar and just focus in on those things. We all love you, much love from Livonia Michigan💙
This old granny, and great-granny wanted to give him a hug also.
Skyler. I survived divorce myself. 4 years ago, my husband left after 27 years of marriage and 30 years together for another woman. It took years of therapy. I'm still in therapy.. He left me for a woman outside of the USA. He left the USA, moved to her country and married her. We share a 26 yo daughter and he has a 14 month old son. The biggest things I learned. Therapy is a good. A neutral 3rd party is what I needed. I cried so much I was sick of hearing myself cry. And that's OK. I now realize he gave me the gift of the freedom I didn't know I deserved. I'm still working on my self esteem..There are many days I don't feel like I'm enough...it's a process.
This is my first time in my adult life I've had to do it alone. It hasn't been easy...one thing that did make me smile in my healing, the quints...watching them grow up via your vlogs would bring me cheer when I needed it desperately. To anyone going through divorce I used to pray and cry myself to sleep wanting calm not chaos. It took time but I'm here.
He may return. It could take ten years. Your children and your life together was good. He's gone through a second childhood or mid life crisis. He'll not find happiness in this. Stay positive. It had nothing to do with you and everything to do with him.
You're not alone. God loves you. ❤🎉
Aaawww Skyler. I did not think I was going to cry, but the ending just broke my heart. Gentle and warm hugs.
I think this is one of my favorite videos you’ve ever made. Thank you so much for your vulnerability and sharing the wisdom you’ve learned. ❤
So kind! Thank you so much! 💛
I agree
I agree as well. Brought tears to my eyes.
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I wholeheartedly agree with you. ❤
I never in a million years thought you and Jamie would divorce but I think you are a wonderful person with a heart of gold. I pray you find happiness again.
This was as real as it gets. I'm praying you find "peace that passes all understanding.'
From your Baptist friend, who loves Mormon people, too.
I love how you ramble on…..taking a serious subject, making it real, and reminding us that there IS life after divorce. Carry on, sir….❤
Thank you, Skyler, for being so vulnerable. This is definitely one thing that has not changed about you. I remember when the quints were infants and you were talking about people fasting and praying for your family when Logan's water broke at 21 weeks. Your vulnerability share showed then, and it shows now, and I honestly believe that vulnerability comes as a really good/healthy amount of strength.❤
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I remember praying for Logan and reading the comments from all over the world. That’s when I started watching/praying. It was crazy how many came together. Imagine if we do that for everything all the time. Miracles happen. I was raised strict Catholic, and I no longer go to church, but I definitely have a relationship with god. I’ve seen his work first hand. I full heartedly believe my god loves all and doesn’t discriminate.
My first marriage ended in divorce and I was made to feel a failure by my family. Fast forward to today and I have now been married to my true husband (I dont like calling him my second husband!) for 27 years and counting. Everything you say is so correct, but please remember what you are saying applies to you as well. You are raw still, it will come and meantime lean on your family and friends as much as you need to. As others have said, you are amazing parents, you have amazing kids and you are a lovely human. Look after Skyler too! xx
As the child of a very messy divorce, I wish I could go back in time 15 years and show my parents this video. We obviously don’t see the private moments between you all during this time but even just how positively you both have talked about each other in the last two years of vlogs has been so amazing to see has honestly brought me some healing in my own fears of marriage and divorce in the future. All the love to you and your family 🫶🏼
Same here. My parents had a messy divorce and they didn’t talk to each other …
Oh gosh, I second this. It’s hard being a child of divorce but even worse when your parents can’t get along and you’re kind of in the middle bouncing off them and left to clean part of their mess
@@martabarreiro6043do not follow in their footsteps. Set high standards for the persons that are in your life. They were failures.
This is an awesome post. I was a single Mother MANY years ago but found my special, wonderful, soulmate and we have been married 50+ years. Yes, there is life, wonder life, after divorce. Skyler, your respect and love of Jamie, even though you're no longer married, is so refreshing. People seem to think that you can still love and/or be friends with a former spouse. Yes, you most certainly can. Keep on , keeping on Skyler. Your emotion at the end had me in tears. This is a favorite post.
Thank you 😊
My favorite post too!!! 😊 It's great to hear the "real" in all of it. It takes a LOT of courage to be this vulnerable. I respect and admire Skyler for your courage. 🎉
When I got divorced now 7 years ago, it was the hardest thing I've ever done. We had been married 35 years. My children were grown, but it was still hard on all of us. Yes, there is life after divorce and in my case a much happier and fulfilling life. I have dated a bit, but cannot see ever getting married again. You are still young, Skylar, and I am sure as time passes you will be ready to build a new relationship.
Thank you Skylar for sharing this with all of us. You are also worthy, kind, and genuine!
That walk was very illuminating to see and hear. Deprogramming from a religious organization is an overwhelming experience for many without throwing a painful divorce on top of it. Taking advantage of mental health services and being appreciated by the friends you love are all good things. Believing you will survive the pain and experience the joy of living again is the biggest hurdle. Your ability to just appreciate what you have will carry you a long way towards peace and security in your person and demonstrate to the kids that your love for them is unconditional, unending, and enduring. You got this. You have a lot more to give.
Skyler, your words, talking about Jamie, being your wife once, and your kids, shows, how much love and God are in your heart truly, i hope you both find happiness
Skylar you just made me cry!! Wow you’re such a strong man and you should feel so proud of yourself. Your children are lucky to have such a devoted father and of course
Mother. Keep smiling because your smile brightens up anyone’s darkest day.
Love and best wishes from Debbie in Bristol uk xx
As everyone shared here, I was so touched and moved by you sharing your honesty, love, vulnerability, grace and hope! You showed us all the best we can be and our human complexity; you gifted us all with perspectives we all strive for but may not be equipped to achieve. That’s spreading love, Skylar, at its highest! ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you 💛💛💛
It’s up to him if he wants to share his story. If you’re not interested then scroll on and don’t concern yourself!
IF YOU CANT BE KIND THEN WALK AWAY!
You sir are a fine example to your sons and daughters ! The way you speak about and treat their mother is something they will never forget . I hope at the end of your day you feel proud of you because you should! I think there are many beautiful things ahead for you and your kids.❤
I love your energy and kindness that comes so naturally , the respect you have for jaime is refreshing and very special i wish others held that manner and respect x
It couldn't have been easy to get to this point that you can speak so openly about your feelings and experiences regarding the divorce. Its wonderful to see that you have been able to heal and grow. Having a major life change yourself and having close family going through major changes isn't easy. It's wonderful that you and your sister have been a great support system for each other.
Thank you for opening out and being so honest about your divorce and the lessons you learnt. I think it's so important that we share these things that can really help others not to feel alone on their journey.
I want to thank you for being kind. Because you have gone a different direction, you have not become hateful to the direction you came from. Thank you for realizing we are not all the same. There is NO shame in divorce. And lots of credit to you for keeping love for your coparent in this journey. Your children will be blessed their whole lives because of it. May your journey be blessed. Just sayin…😊
This was a tough one. Thank you so much for sharing. The “you are worth it” brought tears to my eyes. Skyler I want you to know you are worth it too! Spreading love and encouragement all around. ❤️
Thank you so much! 😊
Everyone's already said it all. I'm in awe at how you are handling this twist in your life. Sending you tons of love and respect. You are so strong and inspirational. Keep your chin up Skylar, the world's your oyster!
Thank you! It’s yours too! 😁
Love watching your precious family! I commend you & Jamie for being such great co-parents! Still following both of you on your social media platforms! I also commend you on praising Jamie! My parents got a divorce when I was a teen. I never heard my Mom or Dad bad mouth each other. That isn't always the case. You may have had me crying! You are such a great Father Skyler!
So kind Sandra! Thank you 😊
So many people wanted an explanation but you didn’t owe anyone one. Thanks for sharing in your own way, in your own time frame and from your heart. Much respect to you ❤
It’s not about owing. It’s about a community that grew up over hours and hours of watching and cheering everyone on and deriving pleasure and value in life from the shared experience. People feel deeply attached to this family and just like you want to know what is going on with non virtual loved ones, out of concern and hopes for them, many people, myself included felt very sad and didn’t want the connection to be severed.
@@ace6285Watching a family on social media that you personally don't know entitles you to nothing. They don't owe any of us explanation for anything that happens in their lives. Just like we don't owe anyone explanation of ours..they aren't any different..also it's called being respectful of their boundaries. Nothing they do personally or otherwise has anything to do with us viewers..it has no effect on our lives. It's their life.😊
@@ace6285 vlogging is a virtual journal and the author gets to choose what they include just like any creator makes the choices over their body of work. As the viewer or reader you accept those choices. It’s also about personal boundaries between a persons public self and private one. Even though they make some of their life public , they also have the right to decide what they want to keep private, often because our lives effect others and isn’t always just our own story to tell
A divorce is the death of your plans and hopes for the future. You grieve for what is lost, but it definitely can be forward moving. Thanks for sharing.
So true. And it's OK to grieve. No one can tell you how long the grief will be, but eventually, it does get easier. ❤
I met my hubby. Three weeks we ran off got married. 50 years and in 2019 he passed. I’m so blessed to have him for my eternal partner. Life was hard. You do what’s good for you in life. ❤
I met my husband and 6 months later we were married. I have no regrets.
Life is hard either way, good for you for staying.
I met my hubby and 4 months later we eloped to Vegas. We’ve been happily married now almost 30 YEARS 😊
Skylar as someone who was also raised in the LDS church and then left and also went through a divorce, I completely understand your perspectives and all you’re going through. Thanks for being so genuine! Funny thing, I saw your friend Kyle at a grocery store the other night and then Jamie at a store a few nights later. So surprising for me. I don’t know any of you but recognized them from the vlog. 😂 Hang in there!
The content that so many of us who followed your family's journey from the beginning were waiting for... Life changes have a purpose no matter how difficult and challenging and sad it can be... But you got this!! You both are amazing and beautiful humans aside of being wonderful parents to each of your 7 kids. Be proud and continue living surrounded by love (self love too) and keep building inner strength moving forward.
I'm going through a divorce right now and we were married 19 years. I needed to hear your words and I thank you for sharing. Things will get better. My boys and I will get through it and we will come out the other side.
Big hugs ❤
I'm crying as I watch this. I went through this myself. 25 years married, happy. Shocked by the divorce and devastated. I cried in the courthouse when the judge was declaring the divorce finalized. I couldn't understand all the people before me smiling big when they're divorces was finalized
If someone is in a bad-horrible relationship, the divorce sets you free.
Tears , Me too! 😢
So amazing to see two people love, respect and support one another even after a divorce. SO beautiful for your children to have two parents who love them and love each other without any hated and hurt between one another
My marriage ended after 18 years. That was 29 years ago. I still remember the pain. I feel it within you. Hang in there, Skylar. In time you too will heal. Hugs.
Your story and the lesson you have learned reminds me a lot of what my mom has gone through after losing my dad.. becoming a widow, having to find a new identity, joy, and for some people, another partner. All of that to say, I absolutely commend you in the way you have handled things, and sharing this story with us. Your platform is a lot greater than you probably even think.. your story is not only going to hit home for those going through divorce, but also people going through their own personal form of grief.. whatever it may be. You have a beautiful family, and I appreciate you for sharing them with us!
Your willingness to share and show your vulnerability is a testament to the work you've done to heal and grow. Thank you for sharing that and keep being courageous!
I was blindsided after 25 yrs married. Divorce was the cruelest things I’ve been through. Definitely take your time healing and finding yourself again. That’s what I’m doing.
I was blindsided too. I just told my story above. You aren't alone
I’m crying as you’re crying. Your lessons are what I needed. I’m trying to break the generational trauma for my son. Thank you for sharing friend 💛
Sharing your experience is a gift, someone out there is watching this and gathering strength.
Absolutely the truth!!! ❤
Skylar, thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing. Sharing pain and brokeness and healing can help others so much. ❤
I love how you allowed yourself to get vulnerable on camera. It is so tough getting divorced in the LDS faith. I went thru a horrific divorce 13 years ago w 6 minor children and I can honestly say idk how I survived. There IS stigma and there IS shame associated w being a divorced LDS and I’m still navigating those feelings all these years later. Thank you for sharing your journey. It helps to know there are others in the same situation. (P.S. I remarried a year after my divorce was final to a non-LDS man but remain LDS myself.
Thank you for sharing and being open about your experience. It really does help to know that we’re not alone, and that there is life after divorce. Best wishes. 💛
Remarried a year later with 6 'minor' kids? Woah, he got pwned
What does that actually mean? pwned?@@rmac3217
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Skyler, you are so beautiful telling us your inner feelings. I felt so bad when you teared up. If you were my son or brother, I’d give you a huge hug. Stay strong Skyler!
High demand religions make it super difficult to know who you are outside of it all.
It’s been incredible to see you support your sister, gently deconstruct and grow! The kiddos are lucky to have such an amazing father.
Well said. Thanks for your kindness 💛🤗
And well put.
High demand religions. That's a good descriptor for organizations that tell you how to manage your life. Yes, give thanks to your Creator, but don't tell me when to get married, and how soon to have children. Glad you are free from that, Skylar.
Exactly what I was thinking. Well said
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That was a beautiful testament to life and love and mercy. Our God will not fail you, Skyler.
As a woman who left a 15 year relationship/14yrs married, I related to this a lot. It's been 8 years since separating, 6 years divorced. It finally feels right to look into finding a Godly man to share my time with.
Thank you for opening up about the lessons you've learned. I am so grateful for the candor you share.
Marriage is never Godly. It's one Eater marrying another Eater and then producing more Eaters. The reason existence of God (Benevolent Universal Creator) is impossible is because what you believe as God's creation is a system of "Eat and Be Eaten". The world is inherently bad, where every living being is feeding upon another living being in order to survive. Even in the process of breathing, microorganisms are killed. Everyone is born an eater (killer). Man will eat and he will be eaten. That is the nature of the world. Those who justify this carnage use it to justify the existence of God. When the worldly system itself is designed to be inherently bad (eat and be eaten), there is nothing benevolent about its Creator. Rather, the Creator is a Malevolent Force that should be condemned and not glorified. It’s not happiness and pleasure we’re after in this world, but a reduction of the ongoing suffering that’s an inherent part of existence. If we actually compare this world to prison, we will see that the similarities are staggering. In the case with prison, nobody chooses to be here, and the prisoner can’t leave until the sentence ends or when the prisoner dies. The prisoner is limited by the walls of the ever-fleeting present moment, and within the confines of limitations, the prisoner experiences a stream of suffering, tragedy, and misery.
Proud of you for staying true to yourself and making the decision to leave the Mormon church. As someone who was conditioned to believe that way of life is the only way, I can’t imagine that was an easy thing to do. I would love to hear more about this when you’re ready to talk to us about it.
I was married for 18 years before we divorced. It has been 3 years now and I am such a different and happier person. There is life after divorce! It has been hard work to get to where I am at now, but I’m so thankful to be at this place in my life. I do think this is my favorite vlog you have done, thank you for sharing your story and I look forward to watching you continue your journey!
Yes, I feel the same way. The growth and healing hasn’t come easy. It’s taken therapy, a lot of soul-searching, and a ton of patience. Thanks so much for watching. Best wishes!
Your tears at the end choked me up
Hope you know how special you are! I'm a child of divorce and I am pretty sure if my father had a kind, gentle friend like you I wouldn't have suffered as much as I have. Thank you for having the bravery to talk about something difficult..
Skyler, thank you so much for your transparency…willing to open up to us about you, your marriage, divorce, fatherhood, and a man of God! You are loved by thousands of us and we also love Jamie! This was an incredible vlog and it gave me an even greater appreciation of you. I am a forever follower of both you and your family!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thanks so much Mary! 💛🤗
Skyler - I was blindsided by a divorce, with a family I adored. A car accident is a perfect example. There was days I was not sure I could pull though. I am 3 years in and life DOES go on. Your perspective is so refreshing and raw. Thank you! Sending blessings your way.
So true! I thought ut was a great analogy too.
Skyler, you have no idea what this video did for me! I just went through a painful divorce and also have SEVEN children. Although I saw it coming for years, I was also strangely blindsided. This month would've been our 23rd wedding anniversary. Your tears and vulnerability at the end was everything I needed to keep going. I started crying with you. I literally never comment on any youtube video, but I was so compelled to do so today. My littlest guy is 4 and his name is Lincoln. I started watching your family shortly after the quints were born and I literally chose the name Lincoln because watching your vlogs made me love that name. All the best to you and your beautiful family!!
Thanks for sharing this Katrina. It helps to know that we’re not alone. Divorce can be so disorienting, and whether it’s anticipated or not, it hurts so much when someone you love turns away from you. Sending love and best wishes to your family. ❤️
Sending you virtual hug. It takes so much strength and courage to show vulnerability specially from men. You are an inspiration. ❤
That he is!
Thank you for sharing such a beautiful story. You have been so very blessed with Jamie and the children as we’ve been blessed that you share your family with us. So looking forward to watching you all grow
Your awesome Skyler. You made me cry. I have watched you & Jamie since she was in the hospital with the scary thought of loosing these 5 precious children. I will continue watching you & Jamie & all 7 of your children. Thank you for being the great person you are.
The younger you looks just like your brother. Such a raw , honest video. Glad you're now doing well. Best dad ever.
I so appreciate you speaking your truth, Skyler!! Wondering if you ever considered going on Mormon stories podcast to share your story. I love and respect you! You are an amazing Dad and all around human! Blessings:)
That’s a great podcast!
I’ve learned so much about the Mormon religion thru these podcasts. Who would want their children to be made to feel unworthy by a Bishop. It’s not healthy in any way. And getting married young, while you’re still “pure” is definitely not healthy. Women should get an education and know their self worth without needing a man to make them feel worthy.
Mormon podcast is NOT a great indication of The Church of Jesus Chrust of Latter Day Saints. It's a podcast where those who left have LOTS of negative things to say which are not neccesarily indicative of the church in general.
Just want to make sure Skyler and others understa n d before checking out that podcast. They are often not very kind to the church or church members on that podcast. 😢
I respect and admire you, Skyler. Thank you. You’ve got this.
You and Jamie are both wonderful people. I’m sure this divorce was painful for both of you. I so respect that both of you talk so lovingly about the other. How hard it must have been for Skyler to have to step away from his faith and for Jamie to hold onto her faith. Life is so hard, and it’s always difficult to know what’s right. You both are making it work, and your children reflect what wonderful parents you are. I hope the days ahead are easy for all of you!
Thank you for sharing. I went through a divorce almost 2 years ago after a 27 year marriage and 5 kids. My marriage ending was a huge shock to me and my kids too. We found out he (my ex husband) had been living a 2nd life and had been having a long affair that he had been covering up.
I completely understand the car crash analogy-I went though the same thing (and in some ways I still am). Things do get better but I still have hard days and I still struggle to understand the big picture some days.
Your kids are so lucky they have two parents that are still there for them. My kids have not had that with their father and that’s hard to work through as well… but we are doing our best. Thank you again for sharing your story-sometimes it just helps to know we aren’t alone 😊
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Hi Skyler. I was raised in a small southern baptist village in rural Louisiana, and while it is different denomination much of that feeling of being in a small close knit community and the pressure to get married young and start having kids is still the same. I got married at 19, and it was a huge mistake for me. I wasn't done growing up and becoming the person I was meant to be. I gave up college for him. Society tells us we're adults at 18, but biologically your brain isn't fully developed til age 25. I wish I had known that back then. That I was allowed to keep growing up. That I didn't have to start doing all these seriously responsible adult things when I barely knew who I was as a person. I had never spent any time by myself, and I think that's so important for personal development. The only way you're going to know who you truly are is if you're forced to be alone with your own thoughts and be your own responsibility for a while. I didn't get that again til I was divorced and nearly 30 years old. I was so resentful of the abusive man I had married, because he took away a decade of my life I could have spent growing and learning about myself. And for the near decade we were married, his verbal abuse left deep scars on my self worth. Things I still deal with to this day. I hope if any young person reads this, don't ever feel like you have to get married fresh out of high school and start making babies. Take time for yourself. Learn who you are. Develop yourself so love can find you organically. Thanks for sharing your story, Skyler.
I sincerely hope you find the healing you so richly deserve. ❤
Skyler thank you so much for breaking down divorce stigma!! It absolutely can be healing and forward moving🫶🏼 I’m inspired by you. Sending your family lots of love!
Your open explanations are so refreshing Skylar, and you certainly are a wonderful dad to all your children. Keep on doing what you're doing, because you're doing it right! Life will be good again for you, I feel it! Your children will see to that xx
I just lost my BF/partner of the last 15 years in july. Im only 28 and he was 27. That lost and alone feeling you described is where I am currently. I know it's a different situation, being he passed away, but it helps to hear/see someone be vulnerable and get through a tough time. Sending love to you. Jamie, and the kids, as I'm sure there are still hard moments/days. Thank you for sharing!
I'm so sorry for your loss it sounds so devastating. I will be praying for you
you're a beautiful man skylar. i've gone through a divorce myself, watched family and friends go through divorce, and it's always been a ugly, painful thing to see. really horrible. you are a true breath of fresh air when i hear you speak so respectfully and kind about jamie. that takes a lot of inner strength, character, and maturity. as you already know, as we go through the divorce, there are some days you don't know if you'll make it through the day because the pain is so awful, but you do... and with each passing day you become stronger and stronger. days lead to months, months lead to years and during that process you are forced to ask yourself who you want to be and how you want the rest of your life to play out so you can reach your highest potential. it's a painful process, but necessary and oh so good. good luck my friend. be well, be healthy.
Thanks Joni ❤️
Thanks for sharing Skyler. I went through an unexpected, traumatic and devastating separation and divorce about the same time as you. Most people that knew us were shocked. I wholeheartedly agree with everything you said. And these were some good reminders for me to hear. Wishing you and the kids and Jamie all the healing in this rough patch of life. I hope you receive all the grace you need from your loved ones. Best wishes from Perth Australia.
Thanks you! Sending love and best wishes. ❤️🇦🇺
You are just the best. Thank you for sharing. It was very brave of you. You are loved and supported.
Thank you ❤
Thanks I'm glad you still have a relationship with our Heavenly Father
I have so much love, admiration and respect for you, Skylar. I’m so sorry for the pain you went through and so thankful to you for sharing the lessons you’ve learned. You are an incredible person. Hugs to you. ❤❤❤
It takes a lot of courage for parents to know it is time to move on even though they have children. The parents that stay together for their children do not know how much they can hurt the children when their relationship is not working out. Children see and hear everything! So no matter how hard it is not move on and start a new life, it definitely gets better with time. Wish you and Jamie the best in life! Thank you for sharing and look forward to more of your videos! Love your sense of humor Skyler! ❣
They don't their children nearly as much as the parents who divorce do. They do see and hear everything, including 2 parents who are sacrificing themselves for the sake of their children and being selfless.
We love you Skyler and family. God will definitely heal your wounds and restore your broken heart. Thank you for sharing your life with us and for also making us laugh with your awesome personality. ❤
The fact you have this much self awareness so soon after your divorce is a credit to you Skylar, especially given the pain you have endured during this period. Divorce is the biggest journey of self discovery, it's been 10 years for me and while hard I have learnt who I truly am. I live in the UK and am the same age, also have ADHD and a single parent. The journey whilst massively challenging has given me a strength and awareness I would never have had should I have stayed married. Certainly not always easy but while I'm not religious I do feel that we are destined to take certain paths. Like you i would never have dreamt I would be a single mother/parent but I am moving forward ❤ thank you for sharing, it's a real comfort to know other are on the same path
Skyler, you are brave and you are unique and you are precious. God has a plan and a future for you. Such courage to share your tender journey from your heart! Plus the scenery was amazing...well thought out video!
Skylar,
Thank you so much for your vulnerability and honesty. I have been divorced for 20 years, married for 10. My son was worth everything I lived through. Take time to heal and love yourself. 💙
Thank you Karen! 🤗
Thank you so much for sharing these parts of your story with us. I have gone through divorce, thought I had handled everything, then started writing a book about this experience. I t has been incredibly cathartic, and very surprising. There were many emotions that I had buried, and the writing helped me bring focus and to work through those emotions. You are right in saying that it is not easy, and also right in that we are not alone, and there is life after divorce. I think you are doing so well and you continue to be a great dad to all your kids! You’ve got this, Skyler!! Warm regards from 🇨🇦Calgary, Alberta🇨🇦
Thank you ❤️🇨🇦
I don’t usually comment, but I really appreciated your honesty and vulnerability. Leaving the church is a hard thing to do. I can only imagine how much harder it was to also experience the end of your marriage at the same time. I wish you all the best. I hope that you both can continue to support each other as you co-parent and raise your children.
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I love how respectful and how much love you still have for Jamie, it was beautiful to hear you honor her. I loved your last point on divorce, very true!!! I cried with you at the end, your tears sounded like a small break through!! I pray you, Jamie, and the kids continue to grow and heal❤❤❤
Thank you Skylar. As a Mormon who is no longer active and also starting process of divorce thank you.
Thanks for sharing. I is wonderful that you and Jamie are able to put things aside and can co-parent so well. Best wishes to ALL.💕😊
This video randomly came up on my feed … I know nothing about you but Thankyou for this!!
Seperated for 10 months from my husband of 24 years- 4 children
In a Christian church and served in the church also our entire relationship
The judgement and stigma around divorce that kept me in the relationship for so long - instead of looking at the big picture and health of a relationship 😢
Very well done video ❤ I was as shocked and sad as everyone else when the news came out that you guys had separated. Thank you for speaking so kindly about Jamie. It means a lot to me when exes can be respectful to each other no matter the reason they’re exes. I truly wish you both the best and want nothing but happiness and healing for you
You are an incredible person, and sharing your respect for Jamie and the sacrifices she has made for your children is very honourable. Navigating a transition out of your faith has to be challenging, but seeking truth is what matters. Best wishes on your journey ahead! ❤
Skyler, thank you. i'm in the middle of an incredibly unexpected divorce from my husband of 20 years, It hurts and I'm sad. I take your words to heart.
Sending love and best wishes. You are worth it, and you’ll get through this. ❤️
Skylar you're amazing. You're brave, you're vulnerable, you're funny and you're honest.
Keep being you. Keep learning who you are.
I have never been Morman but Christian churches throughout my young life. Not being a member of a church does not stop you from having faith and that is shining through you.
I'm full of admiration and I hope that all the people who judged you when you separated and blamed you etc... I hope that they too have grown and learned from your vulnerability.
Your marriage wasn't a failure. X
Skylar, You are a man of depth and wisdom…and fun. Thanks for sharing. Maybe the best vlog you’ve ever made in my opinion. ❤
Man him choking up at the end and showing such vulnerability was absolutely heartbreaking but yet so refreshing at the same time!! The respect you have for the mother of your children after divorce is something that’s rarely seen anymore so thank you for letting others going through the same thing know it’s ok not to be ok!!! ❤🙏
Love this video so much and love love the bond you have with all of your precious kids!❤💙
I am so glad you put this video out! So many need to hear this! & Thank you for being so vulnerable!
I remembered one of your previos vlog about the first time you discussed about the divorce. That and this one is why I am a fan of you and your family. The way you show your vulnerability and your honesty is very refreshing. My 9 year relationship ended a few months ago and I didnt know how I was going to make it. I am getting there. I dont know where you are from healing but know that it will get better soon. There is no way but up. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability and raw honesty. This is why I love watching your vlogs.
Very touching video. Love how you speak about Jamie. Would love to learn more about your Mormon journey.
Skylar , my heart dropped and I shed tears for you when you started crying . It will get better , you have my prayers .
My divorced just got finalized but we were separated for awhile. I couldn’t agree more with everything you said. It’s a process in learning about yourself and growing through the pain. Wishing you and Jamie all the very best ❤️
Thank you! Very best wishes! 😊🙏🏻
Trees are family. This is what's stuck in my head after this vlog.
I will also share the following from a person I respect.
"Grace, this is what got us here practice takes us home." Taking us along on your practice feeds us all. Thank you.
Skyler- Thank you so much for your mature words on divorce. When I divorced it offered me the opportunity to have better vision into my beliefs and the life I had lived up till then. I left my faith and discovered a whole new way of living, plus a new found commitment to Jesus.
That made me tear up…I am going through a divorce too and I agree with you 100 percent Skyler! Thank you for being transparent and encouraging ❤️ 🎶 Keeeeep mooooving forward! 🎶
Hang in there my friend! Let’s both keep swimming. Things get better one day at a time. Sending best wishes!
I’ve followed and cared about you all since you started posting. This touched me deeply. Thank you for sharing.
I was married for 17 years and then divorced. Now I’m married for 23 years and even though I am sick with terminal cancer, my life with my soul mate is everything. We even adopted two more children together, who have only added to our blessings.
There is so much to look forward to!! Can’t wait to see where your journey leads…
I just know your story is going to end beautifully for the simple fact that you are walking with God. He has you and will never let go. ❤
What are you talking about??!!
What God is he walking with? The one he’s not sure it’s up there? Did you not hear what he said? This man jumped from the pot into the frying pan. Even though he was in a delusional religion but at least he had some morals. Now he doesn’t even have that. Not only does he not care what God has to say about divorce but he actually wants the entire society to think divorce is not bad. You know why? Because he dose t want to feel bad about it.
Yeah In this insane society we live in we must make everything that was good bad and everything that ever was bad is now made to be good, this way nobody gets to be responsible or feel bad about anything.
Now imagine that world.
Do you still wonder why so many kids are opting to take themselves out?
This is a perfect example why.
This is beautiful. I am also two years post separation after 22 years of marriage. Never wanted it but I’m slowly healing. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Wow. Without doubt my favorite video of yours from the beginning. I ended with tears, too. You are an amazing human being and my goodness are those children fortunate to have a father like you. Beautiful video. I am so glad that your world is opening up and things are getting better. I wish only peace, love and happiness for you. ☮️❤️🌷
Thanks for sharing! Divorce is hard! Don’t be in a hurry for another relationship. I prayed for years for God to ready my heart and the heart of my future husband. Find yourself be your own person and put your kids first. You will find another person that will love who you are. Love you and Your family!!❤️💙💙💗💗💗💙💙