Skyler. I survived divorce myself. 4 years ago, my husband left after 27 years of marriage and 30 years together for another woman. It took years of therapy. I'm still in therapy.. He left me for a woman outside of the USA. He left the USA, moved to her country and married her. We share a 26 yo daughter and he has a 14 month old son. The biggest things I learned. Therapy is a good. A neutral 3rd party is what I needed. I cried so much I was sick of hearing myself cry. And that's OK. I now realize he gave me the gift of the freedom I didn't know I deserved. I'm still working on my self esteem..There are many days I don't feel like I'm enough...it's a process. This is my first time in my adult life I've had to do it alone. It hasn't been easy...one thing that did make me smile in my healing, the quints...watching them grow up via your vlogs would bring me cheer when I needed it desperately. To anyone going through divorce I used to pray and cry myself to sleep wanting calm not chaos. It took time but I'm here.
He may return. It could take ten years. Your children and your life together was good. He's gone through a second childhood or mid life crisis. He'll not find happiness in this. Stay positive. It had nothing to do with you and everything to do with him. You're not alone. God loves you. ❤🎉
This is the most wonderful expression on divorce I have ever watched or read. The most awesome show of respect for your former spouse. The truest thoughts on what feelings some spouses experience. You must write a book. Really. Skylar, your tears at the end brought me to tears and I suspect many will say the same. I am also divorced and a former member so I can imagine somewhat how this has been for you. This old grandma just wants to give you a hug. I love you like a son, and I hate to see you hurt. I'm so grateful you were smart enough to get therapy to help you through this. God has good things... more good things... in store for you.
I feel the same. It takes a long time to heal Skylar, just go with what God has given you for now...7 beautiful kids, your health, you have a lovely home, you are a successful vlogger...take it slow Skylar and just focus in on those things. We all love you, much love from Livonia Michigan💙
Skyler , we appreciate you opening up to your followers. It’s clear that you didn’t want the divorce. I believe we were all shocked when this sad devastating news came out. You always seemed so happy and in love. You are a wonderful Dad, son , friend and man. The world needs more Skyler in it. I wish you nothing but the best on your new life journey. Any women that gets to share life with you is a lucky woman. God bless you and your beautiful children. Sending love and hugs from Florida 💙🙏🏻❤
My sentiments exactly💗💗💗 Skylar continue doing what you do to get to where you need to be in life, the love you have for all your beautiful children shines through in everything you do & I Thank you for sharing in the great outdoors. Much Love, hugs & total respect for sharing your truth so publicly 🌟💎💖 xXx
Skyler, I saw your parents a couple of weeks ago in STG and thought of telling them how amazing kids they have ( at least you and Shay) but I felt shy to approaching them and making them feel uncomfortable for having a total stranger telling them something they already know. I missed my chance. Thank you for being so humble and honest, sharing this seems still very painful for you, but of course, there is life after divorce! You’ll be more than great!
I never in a million years thought you and Jamie would divorce but I think you are a wonderful person with a heart of gold. I pray you find happiness again.
This is an awesome post. I was a single Mother MANY years ago but found my special, wonderful, soulmate and we have been married 50+ years. Yes, there is life, wonder life, after divorce. Skyler, your respect and love of Jamie, even though you're no longer married, is so refreshing. People seem to think that you can still love and/or be friends with a former spouse. Yes, you most certainly can. Keep on , keeping on Skyler. Your emotion at the end had me in tears. This is a favorite post.
My favorite post too!!! 😊 It's great to hear the "real" in all of it. It takes a LOT of courage to be this vulnerable. I respect and admire Skyler for your courage. 🎉
That walk was very illuminating to see and hear. Deprogramming from a religious organization is an overwhelming experience for many without throwing a painful divorce on top of it. Taking advantage of mental health services and being appreciated by the friends you love are all good things. Believing you will survive the pain and experience the joy of living again is the biggest hurdle. Your ability to just appreciate what you have will carry you a long way towards peace and security in your person and demonstrate to the kids that your love for them is unconditional, unending, and enduring. You got this. You have a lot more to give.
When I got divorced now 7 years ago, it was the hardest thing I've ever done. We had been married 35 years. My children were grown, but it was still hard on all of us. Yes, there is life after divorce and in my case a much happier and fulfilling life. I have dated a bit, but cannot see ever getting married again. You are still young, Skylar, and I am sure as time passes you will be ready to build a new relationship.
Skyler, your words, talking about Jamie, being your wife once, and your kids, shows, how much love and God are in your heart truly, i hope you both find happiness
As the child of a very messy divorce, I wish I could go back in time 15 years and show my parents this video. We obviously don’t see the private moments between you all during this time but even just how positively you both have talked about each other in the last two years of vlogs has been so amazing to see has honestly brought me some healing in my own fears of marriage and divorce in the future. All the love to you and your family 🫶🏼
Oh gosh, I second this. It’s hard being a child of divorce but even worse when your parents can’t get along and you’re kind of in the middle bouncing off them and left to clean part of their mess
Thank you, Skyler, for being so vulnerable. This is definitely one thing that has not changed about you. I remember when the quints were infants and you were talking about people fasting and praying for your family when Logan's water broke at 21 weeks. Your vulnerability share showed then, and it shows now, and I honestly believe that vulnerability comes as a really good/healthy amount of strength.❤
I remember praying for Logan and reading the comments from all over the world. That’s when I started watching/praying. It was crazy how many came together. Imagine if we do that for everything all the time. Miracles happen. I was raised strict Catholic, and I no longer go to church, but I definitely have a relationship with god. I’ve seen his work first hand. I full heartedly believe my god loves all and doesn’t discriminate.
My first marriage ended in divorce and I was made to feel a failure by my family. Fast forward to today and I have now been married to my true husband (I dont like calling him my second husband!) for 27 years and counting. Everything you say is so correct, but please remember what you are saying applies to you as well. You are raw still, it will come and meantime lean on your family and friends as much as you need to. As others have said, you are amazing parents, you have amazing kids and you are a lovely human. Look after Skyler too! xx
I'm crying as I watch this. I went through this myself. 25 years married, happy. Shocked by the divorce and devastated. I cried in the courthouse when the judge was declaring the divorce finalized. I couldn't understand all the people before me smiling big when they're divorces was finalized
I want to thank you for being kind. Because you have gone a different direction, you have not become hateful to the direction you came from. Thank you for realizing we are not all the same. There is NO shame in divorce. And lots of credit to you for keeping love for your coparent in this journey. Your children will be blessed their whole lives because of it. May your journey be blessed. Just sayin…😊
A divorce is the death of your plans and hopes for the future. You grieve for what is lost, but it definitely can be forward moving. Thanks for sharing.
I met my hubby. Three weeks we ran off got married. 50 years and in 2019 he passed. I’m so blessed to have him for my eternal partner. Life was hard. You do what’s good for you in life. ❤
So many people wanted an explanation but you didn’t owe anyone one. Thanks for sharing in your own way, in your own time frame and from your heart. Much respect to you ❤
It’s not about owing. It’s about a community that grew up over hours and hours of watching and cheering everyone on and deriving pleasure and value in life from the shared experience. People feel deeply attached to this family and just like you want to know what is going on with non virtual loved ones, out of concern and hopes for them, many people, myself included felt very sad and didn’t want the connection to be severed.
@@ace6285Watching a family on social media that you personally don't know entitles you to nothing. They don't owe any of us explanation for anything that happens in their lives. Just like we don't owe anyone explanation of ours..they aren't any different..also it's called being respectful of their boundaries. Nothing they do personally or otherwise has anything to do with us viewers..it has no effect on our lives. It's their life.😊
@@ace6285 vlogging is a virtual journal and the author gets to choose what they include just like any creator makes the choices over their body of work. As the viewer or reader you accept those choices. It’s also about personal boundaries between a persons public self and private one. Even though they make some of their life public , they also have the right to decide what they want to keep private, often because our lives effect others and isn’t always just our own story to tell
Skyler - I was blindsided by a divorce, with a family I adored. A car accident is a perfect example. There was days I was not sure I could pull though. I am 3 years in and life DOES go on. Your perspective is so refreshing and raw. Thank you! Sending blessings your way.
Skylar you just made me cry!! Wow you’re such a strong man and you should feel so proud of yourself. Your children are lucky to have such a devoted father and of course Mother. Keep smiling because your smile brightens up anyone’s darkest day. Love and best wishes from Debbie in Bristol uk xx
You sir are a fine example to your sons and daughters ! The way you speak about and treat their mother is something they will never forget . I hope at the end of your day you feel proud of you because you should! I think there are many beautiful things ahead for you and your kids.❤
I'm going through a divorce right now and we were married 19 years. I needed to hear your words and I thank you for sharing. Things will get better. My boys and I will get through it and we will come out the other side.
I was married for 18 years before we divorced. It has been 3 years now and I am such a different and happier person. There is life after divorce! It has been hard work to get to where I am at now, but I’m so thankful to be at this place in my life. I do think this is my favorite vlog you have done, thank you for sharing your story and I look forward to watching you continue your journey!
Yes, I feel the same way. The growth and healing hasn’t come easy. It’s taken therapy, a lot of soul-searching, and a ton of patience. Thanks so much for watching. Best wishes!
Your story and the lesson you have learned reminds me a lot of what my mom has gone through after losing my dad.. becoming a widow, having to find a new identity, joy, and for some people, another partner. All of that to say, I absolutely commend you in the way you have handled things, and sharing this story with us. Your platform is a lot greater than you probably even think.. your story is not only going to hit home for those going through divorce, but also people going through their own personal form of grief.. whatever it may be. You have a beautiful family, and I appreciate you for sharing them with us!
It couldn't have been easy to get to this point that you can speak so openly about your feelings and experiences regarding the divorce. Its wonderful to see that you have been able to heal and grow. Having a major life change yourself and having close family going through major changes isn't easy. It's wonderful that you and your sister have been a great support system for each other.
So amazing to see two people love, respect and support one another even after a divorce. SO beautiful for your children to have two parents who love them and love each other without any hated and hurt between one another
I love your energy and kindness that comes so naturally , the respect you have for jaime is refreshing and very special i wish others held that manner and respect x
As a woman who left a 15 year relationship/14yrs married, I related to this a lot. It's been 8 years since separating, 6 years divorced. It finally feels right to look into finding a Godly man to share my time with. Thank you for opening up about the lessons you've learned. I am so grateful for the candor you share.
Marriage is never Godly. It's one Eater marrying another Eater and then producing more Eaters. The reason existence of God (Benevolent Universal Creator) is impossible is because what you believe as God's creation is a system of "Eat and Be Eaten". The world is inherently bad, where every living being is feeding upon another living being in order to survive. Even in the process of breathing, microorganisms are killed. Everyone is born an eater (killer). Man will eat and he will be eaten. That is the nature of the world. Those who justify this carnage use it to justify the existence of God. When the worldly system itself is designed to be inherently bad (eat and be eaten), there is nothing benevolent about its Creator. Rather, the Creator is a Malevolent Force that should be condemned and not glorified. It’s not happiness and pleasure we’re after in this world, but a reduction of the ongoing suffering that’s an inherent part of existence. If we actually compare this world to prison, we will see that the similarities are staggering. In the case with prison, nobody chooses to be here, and the prisoner can’t leave until the sentence ends or when the prisoner dies. The prisoner is limited by the walls of the ever-fleeting present moment, and within the confines of limitations, the prisoner experiences a stream of suffering, tragedy, and misery.
Everyone's already said it all. I'm in awe at how you are handling this twist in your life. Sending you tons of love and respect. You are so strong and inspirational. Keep your chin up Skylar, the world's your oyster!
Hope you know how special you are! I'm a child of divorce and I am pretty sure if my father had a kind, gentle friend like you I wouldn't have suffered as much as I have. Thank you for having the bravery to talk about something difficult..
I was blindsided after 25 yrs married. Divorce was the cruelest things I’ve been through. Definitely take your time healing and finding yourself again. That’s what I’m doing.
Thank you for opening out and being so honest about your divorce and the lessons you learnt. I think it's so important that we share these things that can really help others not to feel alone on their journey.
I haven't watched your channel for a few years-- I admit that most of what I enjoyed in the past was watching the miracle of you all raising your many children together and seeing how that worked! I am sorry to see the big changes that have happened in your lives, and especially that you've had to live through them publicly. I rediscovered your channel again today and even though you don't need the opinion of strangers, I want to leave you with some encouragement. I wish you all the best in your search for truth and understanding. I hope that you will find it and not worry so much about what your followers think or say. Best wishes!
Skyler, you are so beautiful telling us your inner feelings. I felt so bad when you teared up. If you were my son or brother, I’d give you a huge hug. Stay strong Skyler!
This video randomly came up on my feed … I know nothing about you but Thankyou for this!! Seperated for 10 months from my husband of 24 years- 4 children In a Christian church and served in the church also our entire relationship The judgement and stigma around divorce that kept me in the relationship for so long - instead of looking at the big picture and health of a relationship 😢
Skyler, you have no idea what this video did for me! I just went through a painful divorce and also have SEVEN children. Although I saw it coming for years, I was also strangely blindsided. This month would've been our 23rd wedding anniversary. Your tears and vulnerability at the end was everything I needed to keep going. I started crying with you. I literally never comment on any youtube video, but I was so compelled to do so today. My littlest guy is 4 and his name is Lincoln. I started watching your family shortly after the quints were born and I literally chose the name Lincoln because watching your vlogs made me love that name. All the best to you and your beautiful family!!
Thanks for sharing this Katrina. It helps to know that we’re not alone. Divorce can be so disorienting, and whether it’s anticipated or not, it hurts so much when someone you love turns away from you. Sending love and best wishes to your family. ❤️
Thank you for sharing your divorce experience. This wasn’t an easy experience for either of you. Your public appreciates your sharing. We LOVE your family!
I love how you allowed yourself to get vulnerable on camera. It is so tough getting divorced in the LDS faith. I went thru a horrific divorce 13 years ago w 6 minor children and I can honestly say idk how I survived. There IS stigma and there IS shame associated w being a divorced LDS and I’m still navigating those feelings all these years later. Thank you for sharing your journey. It helps to know there are others in the same situation. (P.S. I remarried a year after my divorce was final to a non-LDS man but remain LDS myself.
Thank you for sharing and being open about your experience. It really does help to know that we’re not alone, and that there is life after divorce. Best wishes. 💛
Thank you for sharing. I went through a divorce almost 2 years ago after a 27 year marriage and 5 kids. My marriage ending was a huge shock to me and my kids too. We found out he (my ex husband) had been living a 2nd life and had been having a long affair that he had been covering up. I completely understand the car crash analogy-I went though the same thing (and in some ways I still am). Things do get better but I still have hard days and I still struggle to understand the big picture some days. Your kids are so lucky they have two parents that are still there for them. My kids have not had that with their father and that’s hard to work through as well… but we are doing our best. Thank you again for sharing your story-sometimes it just helps to know we aren’t alone 😊
This was a tough one. Thank you so much for sharing. The “you are worth it” brought tears to my eyes. Skyler I want you to know you are worth it too! Spreading love and encouragement all around. ❤️
Your willingness to share and show your vulnerability is a testament to the work you've done to heal and grow. Thank you for sharing that and keep being courageous!
I have been divorced for 10 years after being married for 27 years. It has been a long healing process, but life is good now. Thank you for sharing your experience and your life with us.
Thanks for sharing Skyler. I went through an unexpected, traumatic and devastating separation and divorce about the same time as you. Most people that knew us were shocked. I wholeheartedly agree with everything you said. And these were some good reminders for me to hear. Wishing you and the kids and Jamie all the healing in this rough patch of life. I hope you receive all the grace you need from your loved ones. Best wishes from Perth Australia.
As everyone shared here, I was so touched and moved by you sharing your honesty, love, vulnerability, grace and hope! You showed us all the best we can be and our human complexity; you gifted us all with perspectives we all strive for but may not be equipped to achieve. That’s spreading love, Skylar, at its highest! ❤️❤️❤️
Love watching your precious family! I commend you & Jamie for being such great co-parents! Still following both of you on your social media platforms! I also commend you on praising Jamie! My parents got a divorce when I was a teen. I never heard my Mom or Dad bad mouth each other. That isn't always the case. You may have had me crying! You are such a great Father Skyler!
Skyler- Thank you so much for your mature words on divorce. When I divorced it offered me the opportunity to have better vision into my beliefs and the life I had lived up till then. I left my faith and discovered a whole new way of living, plus a new found commitment to Jesus.
The content that so many of us who followed your family's journey from the beginning were waiting for... Life changes have a purpose no matter how difficult and challenging and sad it can be... But you got this!! You both are amazing and beautiful humans aside of being wonderful parents to each of your 7 kids. Be proud and continue living surrounded by love (self love too) and keep building inner strength moving forward.
Loved this one! It’s bang on! Was married for 28 yrs, had 4 kids and would do it all again for those 4 yrs! I walked away 5 yrs ago! I lost everyone except my oldest and youngest! Hardest thing I’ve ever done taking a stand for me, my health, my safety, my freedom! I was told it takes 5 yrs to heal and find your true self! And it did! It was me and God and we did a lot of hard hard work! I love the life God has carved out for us! My home is our sanctuary! I am NOT the woman I was 5 yrs ago! In the 5 yrs I found out who God created me to be and allowed him to grow and develop me into my true self! I love me! I found my value in myself! And only now am I truly ready to live another ! Bless you! There is truly an amazing life awaiting you!
Skyler, thank you. i'm in the middle of an incredibly unexpected divorce from my husband of 20 years, It hurts and I'm sad. I take your words to heart.
Skyler thank you so much for breaking down divorce stigma!! It absolutely can be healing and forward moving🫶🏼 I’m inspired by you. Sending your family lots of love!
What are you talking about??!! What God is he walking with? The one he’s not sure it’s up there? Did you not hear what he said? This man jumped from the pot into the frying pan. Even though he was in a delusional religion but at least he had some morals. Now he doesn’t even have that. Not only does he not care what God has to say about divorce but he actually wants the entire society to think divorce is not bad. You know why? Because he dose t want to feel bad about it. Yeah In this insane society we live in we must make everything that was good bad and everything that ever was bad is now made to be good, this way nobody gets to be responsible or feel bad about anything. Now imagine that world. Do you still wonder why so many kids are opting to take themselves out? This is a perfect example why.
Your awesome Skyler. You made me cry. I have watched you & Jamie since she was in the hospital with the scary thought of loosing these 5 precious children. I will continue watching you & Jamie & all 7 of your children. Thank you for being the great person you are.
You and Jamie are both wonderful people. I’m sure this divorce was painful for both of you. I so respect that both of you talk so lovingly about the other. How hard it must have been for Skyler to have to step away from his faith and for Jamie to hold onto her faith. Life is so hard, and it’s always difficult to know what’s right. You both are making it work, and your children reflect what wonderful parents you are. I hope the days ahead are easy for all of you!
Life after 27 years of marriage, then a divorce, is amazing. No regrets marrying my kids Dad. We consider ourselves successful as we have beautiful, kind, good adult children and we remain friends.
Skylar, Thank you so much for your vulnerability and honesty. I have been divorced for 20 years, married for 10. My son was worth everything I lived through. Take time to heal and love yourself. 💙
Skylar you're amazing. You're brave, you're vulnerable, you're funny and you're honest. Keep being you. Keep learning who you are. I have never been Morman but Christian churches throughout my young life. Not being a member of a church does not stop you from having faith and that is shining through you. I'm full of admiration and I hope that all the people who judged you when you separated and blamed you etc... I hope that they too have grown and learned from your vulnerability. Your marriage wasn't a failure. X
High demand religions make it super difficult to know who you are outside of it all. It’s been incredible to see you support your sister, gently deconstruct and grow! The kiddos are lucky to have such an amazing father.
High demand religions. That's a good descriptor for organizations that tell you how to manage your life. Yes, give thanks to your Creator, but don't tell me when to get married, and how soon to have children. Glad you are free from that, Skylar.
Skylar as someone who was also raised in the LDS church and then left and also went through a divorce, I completely understand your perspectives and all you’re going through. Thanks for being so genuine! Funny thing, I saw your friend Kyle at a grocery store the other night and then Jamie at a store a few nights later. So surprising for me. I don’t know any of you but recognized them from the vlog. 😂 Hang in there!
Hi Skyler. I was raised in a small southern baptist village in rural Louisiana, and while it is different denomination much of that feeling of being in a small close knit community and the pressure to get married young and start having kids is still the same. I got married at 19, and it was a huge mistake for me. I wasn't done growing up and becoming the person I was meant to be. I gave up college for him. Society tells us we're adults at 18, but biologically your brain isn't fully developed til age 25. I wish I had known that back then. That I was allowed to keep growing up. That I didn't have to start doing all these seriously responsible adult things when I barely knew who I was as a person. I had never spent any time by myself, and I think that's so important for personal development. The only way you're going to know who you truly are is if you're forced to be alone with your own thoughts and be your own responsibility for a while. I didn't get that again til I was divorced and nearly 30 years old. I was so resentful of the abusive man I had married, because he took away a decade of my life I could have spent growing and learning about myself. And for the near decade we were married, his verbal abuse left deep scars on my self worth. Things I still deal with to this day. I hope if any young person reads this, don't ever feel like you have to get married fresh out of high school and start making babies. Take time for yourself. Learn who you are. Develop yourself so love can find you organically. Thanks for sharing your story, Skyler.
I was very touched by your story, Skyler. I got a divorce that I did not want, but needed. I read a comment that said, it was clear you did not want the divorce, and I wanted to share with you and others, that not wanting a divorce does not mean it was not needed. My situation was very similar to your explanation early on about your experience in counseling and the recommendation to divorce. Even though I knew what I was doing was right, it was a very hard process to go through, it is a tidal wave of emotional change for everyone. I did not have the respect of my ex and he was not motivated to spend time with his kids or plan activites like you do, so I made plans and dand invited him along to benefit my children. I did not want my kids to have to go back and forth for the holidays so we continued our traditions with his family and I tagged along until my kids were teenagers. I love that you take time with all your children, plan activites and respect your co-parent. The 3 lessons you shared can take others decades to embrace, so hats off to you! I could relate to comments about the stigma of divorce, and I feared being judged, especially by my Catholic family and friends. I spoke to my Dad about separating shortly before he died, and being a child of divorce I was surprised when he said, kids only remember the good stuff. Having his blessing before he died was a tremendous help. When I told my Mom, she said "well that does not mean you can't get back together," and I told her that is exactly what it does mean and why I have to do it. A few years later she changed her opinion but always maintained a loving relationship with my ex, as did his Mom with me. I was separated for about 9 months before I decided to divorce, and I started to hear over and over how different I was, some described it as lighter. Once we separated I had peace in my home. In my marraige life was like living in a fish bowl, I was frantically swimming around trying to keep everything afloat and when I jumped out, I could finally breath and enjoy life. I'm so glad to hear that you know you're not ready for dating now, it takes a long to heal and you need that to have a successful relationship. Thank you for sharing your journey. You got this!
I just lost my BF/partner of the last 15 years in july. Im only 28 and he was 27. That lost and alone feeling you described is where I am currently. I know it's a different situation, being he passed away, but it helps to hear/see someone be vulnerable and get through a tough time. Sending love to you. Jamie, and the kids, as I'm sure there are still hard moments/days. Thank you for sharing!
I remembered one of your previos vlog about the first time you discussed about the divorce. That and this one is why I am a fan of you and your family. The way you show your vulnerability and your honesty is very refreshing. My 9 year relationship ended a few months ago and I didnt know how I was going to make it. I am getting there. I dont know where you are from healing but know that it will get better soon. There is no way but up. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability and raw honesty. This is why I love watching your vlogs.
I don’t usually comment, but I really appreciated your honesty and vulnerability. Leaving the church is a hard thing to do. I can only imagine how much harder it was to also experience the end of your marriage at the same time. I wish you all the best. I hope that you both can continue to support each other as you co-parent and raise your children.
I’ve followed and cared about you all since you started posting. This touched me deeply. Thank you for sharing. I was married for 17 years and then divorced. Now I’m married for 23 years and even though I am sick with terminal cancer, my life with my soul mate is everything. We even adopted two more children together, who have only added to our blessings. There is so much to look forward to!! Can’t wait to see where your journey leads…
Your open explanations are so refreshing Skylar, and you certainly are a wonderful dad to all your children. Keep on doing what you're doing, because you're doing it right! Life will be good again for you, I feel it! Your children will see to that xx
Skyler this interaction, you shared your heart with us, a brave thing to do. Divorce can Be the best thing for both of you. It takes courage and strength, but it works for you both 😂and your beautiful children. Skyler take each day as it comes. Just be you. Your Princess will find you. Have fun, spread your wings. Trish ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing these parts of your story with us. I have gone through divorce, thought I had handled everything, then started writing a book about this experience. I t has been incredibly cathartic, and very surprising. There were many emotions that I had buried, and the writing helped me bring focus and to work through those emotions. You are right in saying that it is not easy, and also right in that we are not alone, and there is life after divorce. I think you are doing so well and you continue to be a great dad to all your kids! You’ve got this, Skyler!! Warm regards from 🇨🇦Calgary, Alberta🇨🇦
My marriage ended after 18 years. That was 29 years ago. I still remember the pain. I feel it within you. Hang in there, Skylar. In time you too will heal. Hugs.
This is beautiful. I am also two years post separation after 22 years of marriage. Never wanted it but I’m slowly healing. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
This was a really special video. Not only were you vulnerable and honest with us nameless faceless watchers but we also saw some incredible US scenery. Thanks for your courage and thanks for sharing. I know some people say you will find happiness again I guess meaning another relationship but to me it seems like you have found some happiness and contentment in a situation you never thought you would have to contemplate. Peace is such a valuable thing. Lots of love from Australia
Thanks for this comment, and thank you for watching. It’s been a steep road the past few years, but I’m grateful to be exactly where I am. I’ve learned that happiness begins by finding peace, love, and acceptance within. Thanks again for your kindness. Visiting Australia is toward the top of my bucket list. Sending love and best wishes! ❤️🇦🇺
Very well done video ❤ I was as shocked and sad as everyone else when the news came out that you guys had separated. Thank you for speaking so kindly about Jamie. It means a lot to me when exes can be respectful to each other no matter the reason they’re exes. I truly wish you both the best and want nothing but happiness and healing for you
Divorce has been discribed as gluing 2 boards together and after they dry tearing them apart. They will never separate clean. Part of one board will always be part of the other board.
It takes a lot of courage for parents to know it is time to move on even though they have children. The parents that stay together for their children do not know how much they can hurt the children when their relationship is not working out. Children see and hear everything! So no matter how hard it is not move on and start a new life, it definitely gets better with time. Wish you and Jamie the best in life! Thank you for sharing and look forward to more of your videos! Love your sense of humor Skyler! ❣
They don't their children nearly as much as the parents who divorce do. They do see and hear everything, including 2 parents who are sacrificing themselves for the sake of their children and being selfless.
The fact you have this much self awareness so soon after your divorce is a credit to you Skylar, especially given the pain you have endured during this period. Divorce is the biggest journey of self discovery, it's been 10 years for me and while hard I have learnt who I truly am. I live in the UK and am the same age, also have ADHD and a single parent. The journey whilst massively challenging has given me a strength and awareness I would never have had should I have stayed married. Certainly not always easy but while I'm not religious I do feel that we are destined to take certain paths. Like you i would never have dreamt I would be a single mother/parent but I am moving forward ❤ thank you for sharing, it's a real comfort to know other are on the same path
We love you Skyler and family. God will definitely heal your wounds and restore your broken heart. Thank you for sharing your life with us and for also making us laugh with your awesome personality. ❤
I love how respectful and how much love you still have for Jamie, it was beautiful to hear you honor her. I loved your last point on divorce, very true!!! I cried with you at the end, your tears sounded like a small break through!! I pray you, Jamie, and the kids continue to grow and heal❤❤❤
Skyler. I survived divorce myself. 4 years ago, my husband left after 27 years of marriage and 30 years together for another woman. It took years of therapy. I'm still in therapy.. He left me for a woman outside of the USA. He left the USA, moved to her country and married her. We share a 26 yo daughter and he has a 14 month old son. The biggest things I learned. Therapy is a good. A neutral 3rd party is what I needed. I cried so much I was sick of hearing myself cry. And that's OK. I now realize he gave me the gift of the freedom I didn't know I deserved. I'm still working on my self esteem..There are many days I don't feel like I'm enough...it's a process.
This is my first time in my adult life I've had to do it alone. It hasn't been easy...one thing that did make me smile in my healing, the quints...watching them grow up via your vlogs would bring me cheer when I needed it desperately. To anyone going through divorce I used to pray and cry myself to sleep wanting calm not chaos. It took time but I'm here.
He may return. It could take ten years. Your children and your life together was good. He's gone through a second childhood or mid life crisis. He'll not find happiness in this. Stay positive. It had nothing to do with you and everything to do with him.
You're not alone. God loves you. ❤🎉
I wouldn't give false hope. Poster needs to know she can do this and get through it. @@susannaCdonovan23
This is the most wonderful expression on divorce I have ever watched or read. The most awesome show of respect for your former spouse. The truest thoughts on what feelings some spouses experience. You must write a book. Really. Skylar, your tears at the end brought me to tears and I suspect many will say the same. I am also divorced and a former member so I can imagine somewhat how this has been for you. This old grandma just wants to give you a hug. I love you like a son, and I hate to see you hurt. I'm so grateful you were smart enough to get therapy to help you through this. God has good things... more good things... in store for you.
Thank you! I feel your hugs. Love you 🤗
I feel the same. It takes a long time to heal Skylar, just go with what God has given you for now...7 beautiful kids, your health, you have a lovely home, you are a successful vlogger...take it slow Skylar and just focus in on those things. We all love you, much love from Livonia Michigan💙
This old granny, and great-granny wanted to give him a hug also.
Skyler , we appreciate you opening up to your followers. It’s clear that you didn’t want the divorce. I believe we were all shocked when this sad devastating news came out. You always seemed so happy and in love. You are a wonderful Dad, son , friend and man. The world needs more Skyler in it. I wish you nothing but the best on your new life journey. Any women that gets to share life with you is a lucky woman. God bless you and your beautiful children. Sending love and hugs from Florida 💙🙏🏻❤
My sentiments exactly💗💗💗 Skylar continue doing what you do to get to where you need to be in life, the love you have for all your beautiful children shines through in everything you do & I Thank you for sharing in the great outdoors. Much Love, hugs & total respect for sharing your truth so publicly 🌟💎💖 xXx
@@christine0418I think she did. She is stating she agreed with everything you said and added her thoughts as well 🥰
Awww. Thank you so much. Thanks for seeing and hearing me with such a loving and understanding heart. 💛
Skyler, I saw your parents a couple of weeks ago in STG and thought of telling them how amazing kids they have ( at least you and Shay) but I felt shy to approaching them and making them feel uncomfortable for having a total stranger telling them something they already know. I missed my chance. Thank you for being so humble and honest, sharing this seems still very painful for you, but of course, there is life after divorce! You’ll be more than great!
Sending best wishes to you for an amazing future, Skylar. Divorce is hard and it is sad, but you move on and each day gets a little better.
I never in a million years thought you and Jamie would divorce but I think you are a wonderful person with a heart of gold. I pray you find happiness again.
Aaawww Skyler. I did not think I was going to cry, but the ending just broke my heart. Gentle and warm hugs.
This is an awesome post. I was a single Mother MANY years ago but found my special, wonderful, soulmate and we have been married 50+ years. Yes, there is life, wonder life, after divorce. Skyler, your respect and love of Jamie, even though you're no longer married, is so refreshing. People seem to think that you can still love and/or be friends with a former spouse. Yes, you most certainly can. Keep on , keeping on Skyler. Your emotion at the end had me in tears. This is a favorite post.
Thank you 😊
My favorite post too!!! 😊 It's great to hear the "real" in all of it. It takes a LOT of courage to be this vulnerable. I respect and admire Skyler for your courage. 🎉
I love how you ramble on…..taking a serious subject, making it real, and reminding us that there IS life after divorce. Carry on, sir….❤
That walk was very illuminating to see and hear. Deprogramming from a religious organization is an overwhelming experience for many without throwing a painful divorce on top of it. Taking advantage of mental health services and being appreciated by the friends you love are all good things. Believing you will survive the pain and experience the joy of living again is the biggest hurdle. Your ability to just appreciate what you have will carry you a long way towards peace and security in your person and demonstrate to the kids that your love for them is unconditional, unending, and enduring. You got this. You have a lot more to give.
This was as real as it gets. I'm praying you find "peace that passes all understanding.'
From your Baptist friend, who loves Mormon people, too.
When I got divorced now 7 years ago, it was the hardest thing I've ever done. We had been married 35 years. My children were grown, but it was still hard on all of us. Yes, there is life after divorce and in my case a much happier and fulfilling life. I have dated a bit, but cannot see ever getting married again. You are still young, Skylar, and I am sure as time passes you will be ready to build a new relationship.
Skyler, your words, talking about Jamie, being your wife once, and your kids, shows, how much love and God are in your heart truly, i hope you both find happiness
I think this is one of my favorite videos you’ve ever made. Thank you so much for your vulnerability and sharing the wisdom you’ve learned. ❤
So kind! Thank you so much! 💛
I agree
I agree as well. Brought tears to my eyes.
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I wholeheartedly agree with you. ❤
As the child of a very messy divorce, I wish I could go back in time 15 years and show my parents this video. We obviously don’t see the private moments between you all during this time but even just how positively you both have talked about each other in the last two years of vlogs has been so amazing to see has honestly brought me some healing in my own fears of marriage and divorce in the future. All the love to you and your family 🫶🏼
Same here. My parents had a messy divorce and they didn’t talk to each other …
Oh gosh, I second this. It’s hard being a child of divorce but even worse when your parents can’t get along and you’re kind of in the middle bouncing off them and left to clean part of their mess
@@martabarreiro6043do not follow in their footsteps. Set high standards for the persons that are in your life. They were failures.
Thank you, Skyler, for being so vulnerable. This is definitely one thing that has not changed about you. I remember when the quints were infants and you were talking about people fasting and praying for your family when Logan's water broke at 21 weeks. Your vulnerability share showed then, and it shows now, and I honestly believe that vulnerability comes as a really good/healthy amount of strength.❤
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I remember praying for Logan and reading the comments from all over the world. That’s when I started watching/praying. It was crazy how many came together. Imagine if we do that for everything all the time. Miracles happen. I was raised strict Catholic, and I no longer go to church, but I definitely have a relationship with god. I’ve seen his work first hand. I full heartedly believe my god loves all and doesn’t discriminate.
My first marriage ended in divorce and I was made to feel a failure by my family. Fast forward to today and I have now been married to my true husband (I dont like calling him my second husband!) for 27 years and counting. Everything you say is so correct, but please remember what you are saying applies to you as well. You are raw still, it will come and meantime lean on your family and friends as much as you need to. As others have said, you are amazing parents, you have amazing kids and you are a lovely human. Look after Skyler too! xx
I'm crying as I watch this. I went through this myself. 25 years married, happy. Shocked by the divorce and devastated. I cried in the courthouse when the judge was declaring the divorce finalized. I couldn't understand all the people before me smiling big when they're divorces was finalized
If someone is in a bad-horrible relationship, the divorce sets you free.
Tears , Me too! 😢
I want to thank you for being kind. Because you have gone a different direction, you have not become hateful to the direction you came from. Thank you for realizing we are not all the same. There is NO shame in divorce. And lots of credit to you for keeping love for your coparent in this journey. Your children will be blessed their whole lives because of it. May your journey be blessed. Just sayin…😊
A divorce is the death of your plans and hopes for the future. You grieve for what is lost, but it definitely can be forward moving. Thanks for sharing.
So true. And it's OK to grieve. No one can tell you how long the grief will be, but eventually, it does get easier. ❤
I met my hubby. Three weeks we ran off got married. 50 years and in 2019 he passed. I’m so blessed to have him for my eternal partner. Life was hard. You do what’s good for you in life. ❤
I met my husband and 6 months later we were married. I have no regrets.
Life is hard either way, good for you for staying.
I met my hubby and 4 months later we eloped to Vegas. We’ve been happily married now almost 30 YEARS 😊
Thank you Skylar for sharing this with all of us. You are also worthy, kind, and genuine!
It’s up to him if he wants to share his story. If you’re not interested then scroll on and don’t concern yourself!
IF YOU CANT BE KIND THEN WALK AWAY!
So many people wanted an explanation but you didn’t owe anyone one. Thanks for sharing in your own way, in your own time frame and from your heart. Much respect to you ❤
It’s not about owing. It’s about a community that grew up over hours and hours of watching and cheering everyone on and deriving pleasure and value in life from the shared experience. People feel deeply attached to this family and just like you want to know what is going on with non virtual loved ones, out of concern and hopes for them, many people, myself included felt very sad and didn’t want the connection to be severed.
@@ace6285Watching a family on social media that you personally don't know entitles you to nothing. They don't owe any of us explanation for anything that happens in their lives. Just like we don't owe anyone explanation of ours..they aren't any different..also it's called being respectful of their boundaries. Nothing they do personally or otherwise has anything to do with us viewers..it has no effect on our lives. It's their life.😊
@@ace6285 vlogging is a virtual journal and the author gets to choose what they include just like any creator makes the choices over their body of work. As the viewer or reader you accept those choices. It’s also about personal boundaries between a persons public self and private one. Even though they make some of their life public , they also have the right to decide what they want to keep private, often because our lives effect others and isn’t always just our own story to tell
Skyler - I was blindsided by a divorce, with a family I adored. A car accident is a perfect example. There was days I was not sure I could pull though. I am 3 years in and life DOES go on. Your perspective is so refreshing and raw. Thank you! Sending blessings your way.
So true! I thought ut was a great analogy too.
Sharing your experience is a gift, someone out there is watching this and gathering strength.
Absolutely the truth!!! ❤
Skylar you just made me cry!! Wow you’re such a strong man and you should feel so proud of yourself. Your children are lucky to have such a devoted father and of course
Mother. Keep smiling because your smile brightens up anyone’s darkest day.
Love and best wishes from Debbie in Bristol uk xx
You sir are a fine example to your sons and daughters ! The way you speak about and treat their mother is something they will never forget . I hope at the end of your day you feel proud of you because you should! I think there are many beautiful things ahead for you and your kids.❤
I'm going through a divorce right now and we were married 19 years. I needed to hear your words and I thank you for sharing. Things will get better. My boys and I will get through it and we will come out the other side.
Big hugs ❤
I was married for 18 years before we divorced. It has been 3 years now and I am such a different and happier person. There is life after divorce! It has been hard work to get to where I am at now, but I’m so thankful to be at this place in my life. I do think this is my favorite vlog you have done, thank you for sharing your story and I look forward to watching you continue your journey!
Yes, I feel the same way. The growth and healing hasn’t come easy. It’s taken therapy, a lot of soul-searching, and a ton of patience. Thanks so much for watching. Best wishes!
The younger you looks just like your brother. Such a raw , honest video. Glad you're now doing well. Best dad ever.
Your story and the lesson you have learned reminds me a lot of what my mom has gone through after losing my dad.. becoming a widow, having to find a new identity, joy, and for some people, another partner. All of that to say, I absolutely commend you in the way you have handled things, and sharing this story with us. Your platform is a lot greater than you probably even think.. your story is not only going to hit home for those going through divorce, but also people going through their own personal form of grief.. whatever it may be. You have a beautiful family, and I appreciate you for sharing them with us!
It couldn't have been easy to get to this point that you can speak so openly about your feelings and experiences regarding the divorce. Its wonderful to see that you have been able to heal and grow. Having a major life change yourself and having close family going through major changes isn't easy. It's wonderful that you and your sister have been a great support system for each other.
I’m crying as you’re crying. Your lessons are what I needed. I’m trying to break the generational trauma for my son. Thank you for sharing friend 💛
So amazing to see two people love, respect and support one another even after a divorce. SO beautiful for your children to have two parents who love them and love each other without any hated and hurt between one another
I love your energy and kindness that comes so naturally , the respect you have for jaime is refreshing and very special i wish others held that manner and respect x
As a woman who left a 15 year relationship/14yrs married, I related to this a lot. It's been 8 years since separating, 6 years divorced. It finally feels right to look into finding a Godly man to share my time with.
Thank you for opening up about the lessons you've learned. I am so grateful for the candor you share.
Marriage is never Godly. It's one Eater marrying another Eater and then producing more Eaters. The reason existence of God (Benevolent Universal Creator) is impossible is because what you believe as God's creation is a system of "Eat and Be Eaten". The world is inherently bad, where every living being is feeding upon another living being in order to survive. Even in the process of breathing, microorganisms are killed. Everyone is born an eater (killer). Man will eat and he will be eaten. That is the nature of the world. Those who justify this carnage use it to justify the existence of God. When the worldly system itself is designed to be inherently bad (eat and be eaten), there is nothing benevolent about its Creator. Rather, the Creator is a Malevolent Force that should be condemned and not glorified. It’s not happiness and pleasure we’re after in this world, but a reduction of the ongoing suffering that’s an inherent part of existence. If we actually compare this world to prison, we will see that the similarities are staggering. In the case with prison, nobody chooses to be here, and the prisoner can’t leave until the sentence ends or when the prisoner dies. The prisoner is limited by the walls of the ever-fleeting present moment, and within the confines of limitations, the prisoner experiences a stream of suffering, tragedy, and misery.
Everyone's already said it all. I'm in awe at how you are handling this twist in your life. Sending you tons of love and respect. You are so strong and inspirational. Keep your chin up Skylar, the world's your oyster!
Thank you! It’s yours too! 😁
Hope you know how special you are! I'm a child of divorce and I am pretty sure if my father had a kind, gentle friend like you I wouldn't have suffered as much as I have. Thank you for having the bravery to talk about something difficult..
I was blindsided after 25 yrs married. Divorce was the cruelest things I’ve been through. Definitely take your time healing and finding yourself again. That’s what I’m doing.
I was blindsided too. I just told my story above. You aren't alone
You are just the best. Thank you for sharing. It was very brave of you. You are loved and supported.
Thank you ❤
Thank you Skylar. As a Mormon who is no longer active and also starting process of divorce thank you.
Thank you for opening out and being so honest about your divorce and the lessons you learnt. I think it's so important that we share these things that can really help others not to feel alone on their journey.
I haven't watched your channel for a few years-- I admit that most of what I enjoyed in the past was watching the miracle of you all raising your many children together and seeing how that worked! I am sorry to see the big changes that have happened in your lives, and especially that you've had to live through them publicly.
I rediscovered your channel again today and even though you don't need the opinion of strangers, I want to leave you with some encouragement. I wish you all the best in your search for truth and understanding. I hope that you will find it and not worry so much about what your followers think or say. Best wishes!
That was a beautiful testament to life and love and mercy. Our God will not fail you, Skyler.
I respect and admire you, Skyler. Thank you. You’ve got this.
Skyler, you are so beautiful telling us your inner feelings. I felt so bad when you teared up. If you were my son or brother, I’d give you a huge hug. Stay strong Skyler!
This video randomly came up on my feed … I know nothing about you but Thankyou for this!!
Seperated for 10 months from my husband of 24 years- 4 children
In a Christian church and served in the church also our entire relationship
The judgement and stigma around divorce that kept me in the relationship for so long - instead of looking at the big picture and health of a relationship 😢
Skyler, you have no idea what this video did for me! I just went through a painful divorce and also have SEVEN children. Although I saw it coming for years, I was also strangely blindsided. This month would've been our 23rd wedding anniversary. Your tears and vulnerability at the end was everything I needed to keep going. I started crying with you. I literally never comment on any youtube video, but I was so compelled to do so today. My littlest guy is 4 and his name is Lincoln. I started watching your family shortly after the quints were born and I literally chose the name Lincoln because watching your vlogs made me love that name. All the best to you and your beautiful family!!
Thanks for sharing this Katrina. It helps to know that we’re not alone. Divorce can be so disorienting, and whether it’s anticipated or not, it hurts so much when someone you love turns away from you. Sending love and best wishes to your family. ❤️
Thank you for sharing your divorce experience. This wasn’t an easy experience for either of you. Your public appreciates your sharing. We LOVE your family!
Your tears at the end choked me up
I love how you allowed yourself to get vulnerable on camera. It is so tough getting divorced in the LDS faith. I went thru a horrific divorce 13 years ago w 6 minor children and I can honestly say idk how I survived. There IS stigma and there IS shame associated w being a divorced LDS and I’m still navigating those feelings all these years later. Thank you for sharing your journey. It helps to know there are others in the same situation. (P.S. I remarried a year after my divorce was final to a non-LDS man but remain LDS myself.
Thank you for sharing and being open about your experience. It really does help to know that we’re not alone, and that there is life after divorce. Best wishes. 💛
Remarried a year later with 6 'minor' kids? Woah, he got pwned
What does that actually mean? pwned?@@rmac3217
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Thank you for sharing. I went through a divorce almost 2 years ago after a 27 year marriage and 5 kids. My marriage ending was a huge shock to me and my kids too. We found out he (my ex husband) had been living a 2nd life and had been having a long affair that he had been covering up.
I completely understand the car crash analogy-I went though the same thing (and in some ways I still am). Things do get better but I still have hard days and I still struggle to understand the big picture some days.
Your kids are so lucky they have two parents that are still there for them. My kids have not had that with their father and that’s hard to work through as well… but we are doing our best. Thank you again for sharing your story-sometimes it just helps to know we aren’t alone 😊
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This was a tough one. Thank you so much for sharing. The “you are worth it” brought tears to my eyes. Skyler I want you to know you are worth it too! Spreading love and encouragement all around. ❤️
Thank you so much! 😊
Your willingness to share and show your vulnerability is a testament to the work you've done to heal and grow. Thank you for sharing that and keep being courageous!
I have been divorced for 10 years after being married for 27 years. It has been a long healing process, but life is good now. Thank you for sharing your experience and your life with us.
Thanks for sharing Skyler. I went through an unexpected, traumatic and devastating separation and divorce about the same time as you. Most people that knew us were shocked. I wholeheartedly agree with everything you said. And these were some good reminders for me to hear. Wishing you and the kids and Jamie all the healing in this rough patch of life. I hope you receive all the grace you need from your loved ones. Best wishes from Perth Australia.
Thanks you! Sending love and best wishes. ❤️🇦🇺
Thanks I'm glad you still have a relationship with our Heavenly Father
As everyone shared here, I was so touched and moved by you sharing your honesty, love, vulnerability, grace and hope! You showed us all the best we can be and our human complexity; you gifted us all with perspectives we all strive for but may not be equipped to achieve. That’s spreading love, Skylar, at its highest! ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you 💛💛💛
You are NOT alone friend! Those children will always be connected.
Love watching your precious family! I commend you & Jamie for being such great co-parents! Still following both of you on your social media platforms! I also commend you on praising Jamie! My parents got a divorce when I was a teen. I never heard my Mom or Dad bad mouth each other. That isn't always the case. You may have had me crying! You are such a great Father Skyler!
So kind Sandra! Thank you 😊
Skyler- Thank you so much for your mature words on divorce. When I divorced it offered me the opportunity to have better vision into my beliefs and the life I had lived up till then. I left my faith and discovered a whole new way of living, plus a new found commitment to Jesus.
The content that so many of us who followed your family's journey from the beginning were waiting for... Life changes have a purpose no matter how difficult and challenging and sad it can be... But you got this!! You both are amazing and beautiful humans aside of being wonderful parents to each of your 7 kids. Be proud and continue living surrounded by love (self love too) and keep building inner strength moving forward.
Loved this one! It’s bang on!
Was married for 28 yrs, had 4 kids and would do it all again for those 4 yrs!
I walked away 5 yrs ago! I lost everyone except my oldest and youngest! Hardest thing I’ve ever done taking a stand for me, my health, my safety, my freedom!
I was told it takes 5 yrs to heal and find your true self! And it did! It was me and God and we did a lot of hard hard work!
I love the life God has carved out for us! My home is our sanctuary! I am NOT the woman I was 5 yrs ago! In the 5 yrs I found out who God created me to be and allowed him to grow and develop me into my true self! I love me! I found my value in myself! And only now am I truly ready to live another !
Bless you! There is truly an amazing life awaiting you!
Skyler, thank you. i'm in the middle of an incredibly unexpected divorce from my husband of 20 years, It hurts and I'm sad. I take your words to heart.
Sending love and best wishes. You are worth it, and you’ll get through this. ❤️
Sending you virtual hug. It takes so much strength and courage to show vulnerability specially from men. You are an inspiration. ❤
That he is!
Skyler thank you so much for breaking down divorce stigma!! It absolutely can be healing and forward moving🫶🏼 I’m inspired by you. Sending your family lots of love!
I just know your story is going to end beautifully for the simple fact that you are walking with God. He has you and will never let go. ❤
What are you talking about??!!
What God is he walking with? The one he’s not sure it’s up there? Did you not hear what he said? This man jumped from the pot into the frying pan. Even though he was in a delusional religion but at least he had some morals. Now he doesn’t even have that. Not only does he not care what God has to say about divorce but he actually wants the entire society to think divorce is not bad. You know why? Because he dose t want to feel bad about it.
Yeah In this insane society we live in we must make everything that was good bad and everything that ever was bad is now made to be good, this way nobody gets to be responsible or feel bad about anything.
Now imagine that world.
Do you still wonder why so many kids are opting to take themselves out?
This is a perfect example why.
Your awesome Skyler. You made me cry. I have watched you & Jamie since she was in the hospital with the scary thought of loosing these 5 precious children. I will continue watching you & Jamie & all 7 of your children. Thank you for being the great person you are.
Skylar , my heart dropped and I shed tears for you when you started crying . It will get better , you have my prayers .
You and Jamie are both wonderful people. I’m sure this divorce was painful for both of you. I so respect that both of you talk so lovingly about the other. How hard it must have been for Skyler to have to step away from his faith and for Jamie to hold onto her faith. Life is so hard, and it’s always difficult to know what’s right. You both are making it work, and your children reflect what wonderful parents you are. I hope the days ahead are easy for all of you!
Life after 27 years of marriage, then a divorce, is amazing. No regrets marrying my kids Dad. We consider ourselves successful as we have beautiful, kind, good adult children and we remain friends.
Skylar, thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing. Sharing pain and brokeness and healing can help others so much. ❤
Skylar,
Thank you so much for your vulnerability and honesty. I have been divorced for 20 years, married for 10. My son was worth everything I lived through. Take time to heal and love yourself. 💙
Thank you Karen! 🤗
Skylar you're amazing. You're brave, you're vulnerable, you're funny and you're honest.
Keep being you. Keep learning who you are.
I have never been Morman but Christian churches throughout my young life. Not being a member of a church does not stop you from having faith and that is shining through you.
I'm full of admiration and I hope that all the people who judged you when you separated and blamed you etc... I hope that they too have grown and learned from your vulnerability.
Your marriage wasn't a failure. X
Your eyes filled up when you said "it will be easier"....I teared up too....love you man
High demand religions make it super difficult to know who you are outside of it all.
It’s been incredible to see you support your sister, gently deconstruct and grow! The kiddos are lucky to have such an amazing father.
Well said. Thanks for your kindness 💛🤗
And well put.
High demand religions. That's a good descriptor for organizations that tell you how to manage your life. Yes, give thanks to your Creator, but don't tell me when to get married, and how soon to have children. Glad you are free from that, Skylar.
Exactly what I was thinking. Well said
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Skylar as someone who was also raised in the LDS church and then left and also went through a divorce, I completely understand your perspectives and all you’re going through. Thanks for being so genuine! Funny thing, I saw your friend Kyle at a grocery store the other night and then Jamie at a store a few nights later. So surprising for me. I don’t know any of you but recognized them from the vlog. 😂 Hang in there!
Hi Skyler. I was raised in a small southern baptist village in rural Louisiana, and while it is different denomination much of that feeling of being in a small close knit community and the pressure to get married young and start having kids is still the same. I got married at 19, and it was a huge mistake for me. I wasn't done growing up and becoming the person I was meant to be. I gave up college for him. Society tells us we're adults at 18, but biologically your brain isn't fully developed til age 25. I wish I had known that back then. That I was allowed to keep growing up. That I didn't have to start doing all these seriously responsible adult things when I barely knew who I was as a person. I had never spent any time by myself, and I think that's so important for personal development. The only way you're going to know who you truly are is if you're forced to be alone with your own thoughts and be your own responsibility for a while. I didn't get that again til I was divorced and nearly 30 years old. I was so resentful of the abusive man I had married, because he took away a decade of my life I could have spent growing and learning about myself. And for the near decade we were married, his verbal abuse left deep scars on my self worth. Things I still deal with to this day. I hope if any young person reads this, don't ever feel like you have to get married fresh out of high school and start making babies. Take time for yourself. Learn who you are. Develop yourself so love can find you organically. Thanks for sharing your story, Skyler.
I sincerely hope you find the healing you so richly deserve. ❤
I was very touched by your story, Skyler. I got a divorce that I did not want, but needed. I read a comment that said, it was clear you did not want the divorce, and I wanted to share with you and others, that not wanting a divorce does not mean it was not needed. My situation was very similar to your explanation early on about your experience in counseling and the recommendation to divorce. Even though I knew what I was doing was right, it was a very hard process to go through, it is a tidal wave of emotional change for everyone. I did not have the respect of my ex and he was not motivated to spend time with his kids or plan activites like you do, so I made plans and dand invited him along to benefit my children. I did not want my kids to have to go back and forth for the holidays so we continued our traditions with his family and I tagged along until my kids were teenagers. I love that you take time with all your children, plan activites and respect your co-parent. The 3 lessons you shared can take others decades to embrace, so hats off to you! I could relate to comments about the stigma of divorce, and I feared being judged, especially by my Catholic family and friends. I spoke to my Dad about separating shortly before he died, and being a child of divorce I was surprised when he said, kids only remember the good stuff. Having his blessing before he died was a tremendous help. When I told my Mom, she said "well that does not mean you can't get back together," and I told her that is exactly what it does mean and why I have to do it. A few years later she changed her opinion but always maintained a loving relationship with my ex, as did his Mom with me. I was separated for about 9 months before I decided to divorce, and I started to hear over and over how different I was, some described it as lighter. Once we separated I had peace in my home. In my marraige life was like living in a fish bowl, I was frantically swimming around trying to keep everything afloat and when I jumped out, I could finally breath and enjoy life. I'm so glad to hear that you know you're not ready for dating now, it takes a long to heal and you need that to have a successful relationship. Thank you for sharing your journey. You got this!
I just lost my BF/partner of the last 15 years in july. Im only 28 and he was 27. That lost and alone feeling you described is where I am currently. I know it's a different situation, being he passed away, but it helps to hear/see someone be vulnerable and get through a tough time. Sending love to you. Jamie, and the kids, as I'm sure there are still hard moments/days. Thank you for sharing!
I'm so sorry for your loss it sounds so devastating. I will be praying for you
I remembered one of your previos vlog about the first time you discussed about the divorce. That and this one is why I am a fan of you and your family. The way you show your vulnerability and your honesty is very refreshing. My 9 year relationship ended a few months ago and I didnt know how I was going to make it. I am getting there. I dont know where you are from healing but know that it will get better soon. There is no way but up. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability and raw honesty. This is why I love watching your vlogs.
I don’t usually comment, but I really appreciated your honesty and vulnerability. Leaving the church is a hard thing to do. I can only imagine how much harder it was to also experience the end of your marriage at the same time. I wish you all the best. I hope that you both can continue to support each other as you co-parent and raise your children.
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I’ve followed and cared about you all since you started posting. This touched me deeply. Thank you for sharing.
I was married for 17 years and then divorced. Now I’m married for 23 years and even though I am sick with terminal cancer, my life with my soul mate is everything. We even adopted two more children together, who have only added to our blessings.
There is so much to look forward to!! Can’t wait to see where your journey leads…
Your open explanations are so refreshing Skylar, and you certainly are a wonderful dad to all your children. Keep on doing what you're doing, because you're doing it right! Life will be good again for you, I feel it! Your children will see to that xx
Skyler this interaction, you shared your heart with us, a brave thing to do. Divorce can Be the best thing for both of you. It takes courage and strength, but it works for you both 😂and your beautiful children. Skyler take each day as it comes. Just be you. Your Princess will find you. Have fun, spread your wings. Trish ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing these parts of your story with us. I have gone through divorce, thought I had handled everything, then started writing a book about this experience. I t has been incredibly cathartic, and very surprising. There were many emotions that I had buried, and the writing helped me bring focus and to work through those emotions. You are right in saying that it is not easy, and also right in that we are not alone, and there is life after divorce. I think you are doing so well and you continue to be a great dad to all your kids! You’ve got this, Skyler!! Warm regards from 🇨🇦Calgary, Alberta🇨🇦
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Thank you Skyler for this vulnerable and honest vlog. All the best wishes to you and your lovely family.
My marriage ended after 18 years. That was 29 years ago. I still remember the pain. I feel it within you. Hang in there, Skylar. In time you too will heal. Hugs.
This is beautiful. I am also two years post separation after 22 years of marriage. Never wanted it but I’m slowly healing. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
This was a really special video. Not only were you vulnerable and honest with us nameless faceless watchers but we also saw some incredible US scenery. Thanks for your courage and thanks for sharing. I know some people say you will find happiness again I guess meaning another relationship but to me it seems like you have found some happiness and contentment in a situation you never thought you would have to contemplate. Peace is such a valuable thing. Lots of love from Australia
Thanks for this comment, and thank you for watching. It’s been a steep road the past few years, but I’m grateful to be exactly where I am. I’ve learned that happiness begins by finding peace, love, and acceptance within. Thanks again for your kindness. Visiting Australia is toward the top of my bucket list. Sending love and best wishes! ❤️🇦🇺
Every day you need to tell yourself, that You are "ENOUGH"! My therapist said that to me at my first appointment. Send hugs and support your way.
Very well done video ❤ I was as shocked and sad as everyone else when the news came out that you guys had separated. Thank you for speaking so kindly about Jamie. It means a lot to me when exes can be respectful to each other no matter the reason they’re exes. I truly wish you both the best and want nothing but happiness and healing for you
Divorce has been discribed as gluing 2 boards together and after they dry tearing them apart. They will never separate clean. Part of one board will always be part of the other board.
@dawnwatkins6554 I love that!
Such a great description. I described it as two trees entertained being ripped apart...I felt the pain physically in every part of my body.
Very touching video. Love how you speak about Jamie. Would love to learn more about your Mormon journey.
It takes a lot of courage for parents to know it is time to move on even though they have children. The parents that stay together for their children do not know how much they can hurt the children when their relationship is not working out. Children see and hear everything! So no matter how hard it is not move on and start a new life, it definitely gets better with time. Wish you and Jamie the best in life! Thank you for sharing and look forward to more of your videos! Love your sense of humor Skyler! ❣
They don't their children nearly as much as the parents who divorce do. They do see and hear everything, including 2 parents who are sacrificing themselves for the sake of their children and being selfless.
The fact you have this much self awareness so soon after your divorce is a credit to you Skylar, especially given the pain you have endured during this period. Divorce is the biggest journey of self discovery, it's been 10 years for me and while hard I have learnt who I truly am. I live in the UK and am the same age, also have ADHD and a single parent. The journey whilst massively challenging has given me a strength and awareness I would never have had should I have stayed married. Certainly not always easy but while I'm not religious I do feel that we are destined to take certain paths. Like you i would never have dreamt I would be a single mother/parent but I am moving forward ❤ thank you for sharing, it's a real comfort to know other are on the same path
Bless your heart! Divorce is never easy. Glad you are taking care of yourself and your beautiful family! Hugs!
We love you Skyler and family. God will definitely heal your wounds and restore your broken heart. Thank you for sharing your life with us and for also making us laugh with your awesome personality. ❤
Oh Skyler, my heart hurts for you. Please know that you are so loved. You are an inspiration and a joy. Love from Australia - Cath
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I love how respectful and how much love you still have for Jamie, it was beautiful to hear you honor her. I loved your last point on divorce, very true!!! I cried with you at the end, your tears sounded like a small break through!! I pray you, Jamie, and the kids continue to grow and heal❤❤❤
You are amazing. So happy to hear your healing. I hope other people hear that message that divorce can be healing. Keep growing!
Thank you! 💛🤗