Reading minds through body language | Lynne Franklin | TEDxNaperville
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- Can you read someone’s mind by looking at them? Almost. Lynne Franklin teaches you how to connect with 3 types of people by understanding how their bodies communicate. After a boy threatened to kill her with a machete, Lynne Franklin decided to learn everything she could about persuasion. She became a neuroscience nerd, studying how the brain works and how to build rapport with people. She has since worked with organizations to use persuasive communication to increase their performance, productivity, and profit, and published a book about her personal research called Getting Others to Do What You Want. In addition to her marketing and consulting work, Lynne is a member of the National Speakers Association and President-elect of its Illinois chapter. After a boy threatened to kill her with a machete, Lynne Franklin decided to learn everything she could about persuasion. She became a neuroscience nerd, studying how the brain works and how to build rapport with people. She has since worked with organizations to use persuasive communication to increase their performance, productivity, and profit, and published a book about her personal research called Getting Others to Do What You Want.
In addition to her marketing and consulting work, Lynne is a member of the National Speakers Association and President-elect of its Illinois chapter. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
It's amazing she's so confident in what she's presenting and has NO EMPIRICAL EVIDENCE to support it...sounds like a million dollar idea.
Exactly!
The fact whatever she said can't be proven wrong anyway helps the confidence too.
😆😆😆😆
Sss"sounds"? like a million dollar idea? ;)
@@theneoncactus2743 we got a listener.
It's just her opinion? 😮 I just guessed it's based on imperical evidence, is it not?
LOOKER
- strong stance
- lots of eye contact
- appearance matters
-well dressed
- forehead wrinkles from looking up lots when remembering ideas
- shoulder tension
- remembers from images
- reciprocate eye contact (not looking, not at tentative)
- give words with visual components (i see, picture this)
LISTENER
- thinks in words and sounds
- not well dressed
- appearance not as important
- down to the left (remembering what you’ve heard)
- head in hand telephone posture
- mumbles to self, thinking in words and sounds
- pen clicker (sounds)
- not lots of eye contact, look and then look away
- use auditory words (lets talk this over, sounds good)
TOUCHER
- brain thinks in feelings and tactile
- ready to hug
- dressed for comfort
- full lips
- tendency to lean in, decrease physical space
- reach out to touch arm in conversation
- look down, remembering something you’ve felt
- let them touch you
- if not comfortable, stick out hand, any point of contact
- use language that has a feeling or tactile (reach out to me)
pay attention to body language
present ideas that they will understand
DONT CHANGE STYLE BUT language and body
listen or look at the words they’re using (feeling, auditory, visual)
The rizz guide?
Thank you for this resume
Thank you brother, appreciate your effort
@@sangeetagupta8546 6:45
@@edcardiff1923 ?? What ??
Am I the only one who can see the memory in images as well as feel all the emotions I felt there ?
Same! I don't think in words so this is how I associate past memories, not with words but with emotions
I find my memories to be extremely accurate. However, I see no images nor feel emotions. Perhaps my memories are orientated more around the technical aspects of the memory and your memories are more orientated around the emotional aspect of the memory. Strangely, I never dream with humans, either. All my dreams have overcast skies, subdued lighting whether indoors or outdoors, no humans, everything quiet, and nothing is locked or blocked from my access. Perhaps I need help.
@Niva💚 same
Same. I'm the first guy the looker and the last girl the toucher . I see the full memory like a movie and remember how I felt , the sounds, the smells.
i was thinking the same
Reading people is a perception of your own understanding. The more understanding you are of yourself,the more understanding you are of everything else. Only to the point that it raises your understanding to understand what it hasn’t yet. At no time when reading people,are they stuck being what you’re thinking. That’s all you,being your perception.
This💯🔥🙌
You got it @Joel Yazell... You hit the nail on the head!!
I'm taking a screenshot of your response.
Based on this if I end my emails as the following I can't go wrong:
Let's see what happens, I trust we hear back soon.
Keep in touch!
Haha Haha!!! Yaaaaasss!!!!
Wtf
mark
Mabye.
this needs more recognition 😂
1. Lookers 75%
○ Well-dress, thin lips, wrinkles on forehead coz thinks what he has seen, stress in shoulders
§ Eyecontact,
§ "Look at this", "Picture it this way"
2. Listener 20%
○ Not well dress, Looks down to remember she heard, hand in face-telephone stance, mumbles
§ Don’t give eye-contact to much,
§ "Lets talk bout this over","Sounds good to me"
3. Touchers 5%
○ Huggers, comfort rather than style, Full lips, tendency to lean in, lookin down to remember what they felt
§ Let em hug u, give a point of contact,
§ "Let's get in touch", "How do u feel bout this"
• Don’t become like somebody else
• Accomadate ur language to build rapport
• Listen for the words to understand who they are
If u start present ur ideas in a way that they get them, they will say yes more often
i am listener amd toucher, i don't give eye contact, I don't dress well, i feel comfortabel in mostly anything, i mumble alot and i try to hug at least one person in a week, i like touching people who i know kinda well's fingers...
im a combination of a listener and a toucher
ughhh this video is so confusing to me. I'm low-key a combination of a Looker and Listener
Mirek Bui man you should do the summaries of my studying notes😂😂
Thank you 👌🏼❤️
The best teachers incorporate all three communication preferences into their lessons. Teacher teaching programs do give direct instruction on these skills. I like the style observation tips. Super useful for those in the field of education.
I am convinced this is a fundamental starting point, a springboard into deeper connections, a way to build bridges between types.
During conversations I always felt uncomfortable to keep eye contact, and hence thought that something is wrong with me. Now I know I'm a listener, and I understand the reasons behind everyday small conflicts I tend to have. Very informative lecture, thank you!
Had that in the past, but the trick, to only focus on one eye from the person you are talking to, helped alot and is unnoticeable.
I have autism, and I often tell people that I can't communicate while having to do eye contact. (Maybe it's related to the predator instinct thingy? Idk) But anyways, I respect people who can't do eye contact. I don't think people can actually read body language... I haven't watched this video. I'm concerned that it even exists. Because of ableism, and the stigmatizing of mental conditions. It's not morally wrong to not do eye contact, and people should just accept that. It's pure ableism to discriminate against that.
@Punch Down King I'm not sure if you understood what I wrote? I probably wrote it badly. I meant it's ableism to discriminate against the inability to maintain eye contact in a neurotypical way.
@@stanmatan2381 h
OMG now i understand why i cant eye contact with someone except to those whom i comfortable with. I even heard that those people who cant do eye contect while talking to others are fake people. Now i know i am a listener so that is whyyyyyy
When I tried to remember an important memory, I remembered it in all three ways. I remembered it like a movie, I remembered what had been said, and how I felt.
Did anyone else experience this ?
Saurabh Natekar yep, we must be the other 5% she failed to mention....
Jayme Frazier Yeah I know right.
One was probably more dominant.
same omg
Me ......bruh i think we are all 3
I'm all three, but I was not raised in this particular culture/country. So for me it is interesting that you separate these three. It is so interesting and I'm excited to analyze my communication, and that of others. Thank you!
Thank You for sharing this video. May God Bless Lynne Franklin. She sounded perfect regarding her body language talk, based on my practical experience in my life that I have gone through so far. Anthony from Santacruz, Mumbai, India.
I'm a listener, a listener who learned to give eye contact
Me2
That's exactly me
Actually, in Spain is considered rude to not look at the eyes of the one speaking to you.
Yh Jiaze not only rude but it literally bad, the people who dont do that will not connect with many simply coz that is one of the most powerful way to connect to people!
👍😂☀🙌👏💛🌍🙏👋🌼🌻💜💖💚
After watching this video I started to watch random ted talks, and try to find out who is a listener, a toucher and a looker, and I found out a cool thing: the listener moves his head side to side - so his hearing range grows bigger. The looker takes his body back and up- so his view field grows wider, and the toucher do the opposite things- he takes his body down and front so there is a better chance to touch
How insightful of you, Yeela! Thanks for doing this research and sharing it.
Lynne Franklin I don't think there is a word in my language (Hebrew) which means insightful. I tried to google translate it but I didn't get the right translation...but I can feel what you meant to say (I'm a toucher... lol) and it must to be cool to have such words in your culture. You people are very kind.
Prince Gnanaraj : I'm sorry if someone is offended because of this, I just like to research the differences between cultures, and that dosen't mean that someone is better than the other
Hi Yeela. Insightful (to me) means you have taken a look at something below the surface level, discovered an important idea and shared it with the rest of us. Thank you.
Thank you yeela that was helpful
my first ever ted talk video where I was not concerned about how much time is left to end the video...
literally amazing work.
This makes so much sense! I'm able to understand myself better, but also, I'm able to read others and its hopefully going to make future conversations much easier and effective.
she tells its only halfway, would recommend reading abook about NLP
I am listener myself, but I make eye contact and I don't give people hugs right away, because I've read a book when I was younger that you should give eye contact to people when they are talking. It's more sincere that way. Etiquette books says don't give hugs to people you just meet.
Especially these days )-)-)
They mumble to themselves.
Me (mumbling to myself)- oh god thats insane
Me- OH GOD DAMNIT I JUST DID MYSELF
And I was sitting listening to this with my chin on my hand, head at an angle...yep a listener. Headphones gave it away.
They mumble to themselves.
You (mumbling to yourself)- oh god that's insane
You - OH GOD DAMNIT I JUST DID MYSELF
Me (mumbling to myself)- that's crazy
Me - SHIEEEET
Such a wonderful talk. Brilliant speaker who catches your attention and holds it till the end and stuff that you can start applying immediately ..thank you!
Thank you for this, believe it or not but i was raised with dysfunctional parents who didn’t know how to show love, care, nor support. So it’s been a trial for me at work when dealing with other people (getting along). After a year of growth within my inner self with the help of God and my mentor. I have changed for the better but there is still some work I need to do and now listening to this. I feel I am equipped with the knowledge (what was missing) of knowing how other people’s brains function and I can deal with each and everyone accordingly. God is good! Blessings to all…
I'm visual but eye contact doesn't work well with social anxiety
Fax
Same. I think visually, but eye contact is literally the worst.
Same.......... I feel that saaaaammmmmeeeeee way
How can you say that? That isn't really how it works. And social anxiety doesn't mean they are scared. You can't tell someone with this kind of issue to just stop. Research social anxiety, hopefully you'll understand more.
@Puma Puma They hurt me in the past, that's why I have it now lmao. Its safer not to talk and not to waste my energy on people lol
When she said listeners mumble to themselves I mumbled: ‘I don’t do that’ 😐
Bruh😂
I argue with my self im I schizophrenic.
@@peterallison4464 get some help, please.
@@justyourfellowduck Actual the psychology of talking to ones self is not what the majority of people think. Arguing is a sign of something else: shut,NO shut up maybe why, just shut up. What.
same hahahahaha
This is trying to classify all people in just three extremely distinct categories. It the reality (imo) is that you’re an hybrid of these types, which means that there are MANY more types.
In fact, I buy clothes that look good (as long as they’re not uncomfortable) but end up using the most comfortable ones the most; I remember with images and feelings/sensations; I sometimes mumble to myself. The list goes on, but it just goes to show that you can’t put people in a box
she did say that "you think in all three ways but just the way you have a dominant hand, you have a dominant style".
@@ayeshaakhtar4945 That is true, but still implies the subordination of all the ways but one, which does not reflect the reality of things.
Totally. 100% agree. There’s no science behind body language, it’s a joke in the STEM field. It’s not even considered a soft science. Not many schools offer it. Police using it leads to a lot of false convictions , same with the proven pseudoscience of polygraphs
I think I like the work you've put into this presentation thank you for sharing you're inspiring bravery and presentation
I know a bunch of people who become touchers as soon as they get drunk enough.
Thanks for the smile, Alana.
so funny rofl
Alana Aragon Zulke haha 😆
You are imaginar , ur words saying it
. Ha ha
only three categories!👎👎👎
I am a musician, I can remember conversations I had 20 years ago. I can also tell you what you were wearing, and the look on your face when you talked about your mother - while looking you directly in the eye. I hug most folks, when it feels appropriate, and I am well known, within small circles, as giving the best hugs. I dress mostly for comfort, but a little style. Prominent tattoo, ears pierced, shaved head (vanity-started loosing it young). I have ADHD, and I have been able to "read" people since I was a toddler. I was the truth teller. I think in sounds, pictures, and concepts. At 49, my brow is creased, I enjoy people watching. And I talk to myself constantly.... particularly when I'm stressed. It's part, working it out, and part self soothing. And I'm aware that I'm a webbed thinker- which means I see connections in ways other folks don't. I must be a mutant. Lol
Your description matches exactly who I am
matches exactly, with exception of gender, and not bald, super long hair. Only 1 tat...since I was a toddler, also. Feel like a mutant. "a webbed thinkér".
This is me to a T!!
@@rachelquiggle8918 are we mutants? Having total recall of past, is difficult to accept, every detail of some bad experiences from decades ago. Talking to myself, often helpful. Remember as a child thinking "what is this place'". Cheers from someplace in wales.. x
@@natashalynshaw2733 Ouch, good thing you only got one tattoo as a toddler, are you afraid of seeing needles. lol
Ive actually done this unknowingly, i get along with people just by being courteous and polite (basic) by tuning in to their personalities. If i know theyre the fun group, i become fun, if theyre the serious types, i become insightful... and overall, I just give compliments people generally likes that. Nothing to lose if we give time learning and listening to other people.
You're what we call an ENTP. Look it up.
Thank you Lynne, that was really helpful to build rapport
As a person on the Autistic spectrum, I have studied body language from day 1, just to get by. I have learned some crazy things, by developing patterns. Ok, so I say this or do this, and 7 out of 8 of the people reacted similarly. Pattern. So I then try different approaches, try different age groups, until I find the right way to use my body language. Hope this helps!
Interesting, I've never been diagnosed as being on the Austism spectrum but still do the same thing. I've had to learn how to be around people and how to communicate them properly instead of having it there automatically.
That's helpful to know 😊
I'm glad!
Meeting a new person is like being tossed a random musical instrument. "Oh, I sort of know how to play this one. Sort of. Maybe." Sometimes it feels like everyone else is a magic prodigy to whom it just comes naturally.
Wow!! So smart - that’s a really savvy method to learn social skills.
Visual, auditory and kinesthetic representation systems. Basic NLP stuff, but explained beautifully
Thanks, Woody. I like to make one differentiation from NLP. The stuff I'm sharing is about creating connection with people -- literally speaking their language with your words and body -- rather than manipulating them into doing something.
This seems far to cut and dry to be scientifically accurate.. Not really supporting her claims with evidence or anything. Since we know learning styles have been debunked, why should i believe this?
Woody1029 So True.
We are saturate atom
Observing the body language can tell a lot about the particular individual during conversations. I find that there are some great points raised in the video. Most people don't pay attention to body language at all, and can easily fall into one of the 3 categories mentioned in the video.
In my opinion, if you start caring for your body language, you will become more confident and convincing for others. It is important not to give away your true opinions and thoughts with your body.
I didn't realize that people experience things differently like this! I am definitely a listener but I didn't know people were so different in these ways! Guess you learn something new everyday!
I’m a visual learner. When I talk, email or text I have to create a story/visual on what I’m trying to convey. Thanks for this segment! ☺️
I'm over here too... It's like creating a world virtually.
Same! And it's misconstrued in the work environment often.
Being an observant person, I found this video very helpful in understanding the body language of myself and the people around me. I think I'll give this a shot and notice these behaviours in people from now on. But I'm curious to know if we all fall into only one category of the three or we predominantly fall into one while having faint characteristics of the other two as well?
She said it 10:27
You have a dominant style
@@leilame3743 How can I know what's the dominant category between the two?
@@rhiko7 ig observing ur words and urself more like what u do more like u feel more or like which style percentage is more seen in u so like ig observing urslef can help it maybe
You have a dominant style otherwise it could vary according to the people you are with
yes I'm curious what is the other 5 prevent of ppl
I am a toucher!!!! I always felt like I thought a bit differently to others. This explains a lot. I wish I listened to this some 20 years ago!
Omg, this is amazing. I discovered I'm a listener. I don't process info as accurately if I use my vision. I have to actually looked down or away from the person and listen to what they say to process it. Even at work, when my boss gives me an instruction, I have to repeat it back to him in a low voice so I can even process what he already said.
Use of non verbal communication always interested me, and this video is a good example to start with, the use of real people as example helps to understand things easily. And from the start of the video it's very clear that understanding body language is not only about judging people on the basis of how they are reacting but it's about understanding how their brain works.
That was one of the most concise and easy to follow talks on body language and interpreting personality types I’ve ever watched, read, or heard.
So no. . . Thank you Lynne! 🤓
Thought that too!
there needs to same feeling like energy to know
That was interesting. I watched it twice over and realised that I've been misjudging people who don't give much eye contact when speaking. Thank you.
What a great lecture. Thank you!
Omg!! Stunned and amazed, I’ve always been into body language and have never heard anything so brilliant. I felt it. Wow I wonder if that is why I’ve struggled. Thank you
Hello
I'm an Aussie living in Japan. I can't speak the language but I've always had a certain knack for body language, one of the reasons I studied Psychology at a Bachelor level. I have found that despite not understanding the language, I can often understand what people are saying by reading their body language. This was my introduction into your work, and I found it fascinating, so I'll definitely be following you more. - Matt
Enjoy your time in Japan. Glad to be of a little help in this adventure!
❤
ABSOLUTELY BRILLIANT, AND SO PRAGMATIC AS WELL. YOU ARE MASTERCLASS MATERIAJ. THANK YOU!
I am empathic and I have definitely learned how to read body language it's incredible you have helped me to understand better
The concept of reading one's mind by just looking at them has always fascinated me. Personally, I myself, try to do that in day-to-day life, though this is done at a common-sense level that is inclusive of body-language as it plays a major role in it.
This video gave me some defined and well structed ideas and concepts for judging mind, by body language in particular. After watching this video I started to observe the people around me and try to differentiate between these three categories looker, listener and toucher and being aware of looker because he have a good memory in remembering it like a movie and also being aware of listener because they are very good in what peoples are said and also being aware of toucher because they are very good in understanding feeling of human.
Talking about my own experience with the activity as discussed in the video, I'm definitely a toucher or in other word, kinesthetic. Because I had taken a test before (people can have more than one of the type) and it's kind of hard to be a toucher bcause you want to touch something without realising it. It's sometimes makes people uncomfortable.
Overall, this is must watch video for those want a greater insight to ways of reading mind through body language!
Where did you take that test? I want to try it out too
When I closed my eyes, I could remember the sounds around me, the landscape around me, and the tangible and emotional things as well. This particular memory was about 4 years ago.
I remembered a moment as a still image, like a long moment...
Could be a short video though lol
Interesting talk . Thank you, bless you. All your dreams come true .
I’m in the 5% minority. I don’t remember things that were said or what things look like but I sure do remember how something or someone made me feel. And to top it all off, I frequently experience cog-fog due to health issues. Husband has a near-perfect memory and is of the 75%.
Equals a rough go of it.
Wonderful Talk, love it. And thank you for helping me to finally understand what’s going on and maybe even mend us up.
I'm in the 5% too 😂 I'm really happy about it
Don’t believe that. It is not based on evidence.
@@rabask9226 but it's on the internet it has to be true you can trust me I'm a doctor
So does that mean I’m the only one who thinks in all 3 when the time is needed?
Yeah.. what if you relate to all three types of thought processes and memories? Maybe i just dont know who i am yet?
No
Me too
You’ll still notice 2 or 1 which is more dominant. Some people are never touchey, other people join two things at once. It’s a mix. The less mixed people are, the harder it is to connect with them. That’s why this is useful.
I had a friend’s dad I wanted to create rapport with, he was definitely a feeler and when I talked to him I was elbow to elbow and we laughed a lot heads bowed in each other’s direction.
My nephew can’t stand it if I have my eyes on my phone while we’re together, he’s a looker more than anything. In teaching him spirituality I was saying: do you think such a thing as a God principle exists? And I didn’t get much and then I said, imagine we’re in a video game where humans exist, can you envision what the God Principle could be like in this video game? And I got so much stuff from him.
My niece is a mixture of a feeler and a listener. I can have my eyes on a screen or a book and be touching her and she feels we’ve connected. When we talk about how things went in a problem area she goes directly to what she felt and gets overwhelmed and then I ask her specifically to remember what was said and she goes there and calms down her feelings enough to plan how to address the problem with words and linguistic ideas.
I am a mixture of the 3 as we all are but definitely I’m more looker and feeler than a listener. When solving through problems I now envision what that could look like in an image kind of way and from there I build a strategy, revisiting that image and pulling details from it as if it were a map.
Everyone is all three but the question is how can you use this information to connect better with yourself or others.
I don’t anyone is just one in particular idk maybe they are idk
She's a great speaker! Loved this!
I''m a toucher, I like to establish my presence and connection with other people through any form of physical contact. A quick gentle squeeze on the shoulder, small taps on the back, a small playful bump/nuzzling as I walk pass, light boops and even cuddling...there has not been a day that I spent without doing all of these things with my friends and family. I know it can be annoying to them but it feels so right to do it.
It's NLP model where we learn that every person has her own way of deta processing i.e. Visual , Auditory or kinesthetic. It is a must learn for building rapport.
I am very clearly, a combination of all 3. I think in words, pictures and feelings. I mumble or plain out speak to myself, i demand eye contact during conversation and i naturally read people and treat them accordingly to how well the recieve and put off signals. So, yes i may be mostly with the majority but i wouldnt cow myself into one style of behavioural patterns. Human behavior seems, to me atleast, to be more of a fluid experience. Great talk!
As a flight attendant I definitely observe the people that board my plane, but never thought of these mindful ways to communicate with them.
such an important podcast everybody needs to hear!
A great display of confidence in her own opinion.
incredible, that eyes closed test has confused me even more on what type of person I may be. each time I remember the most important event of my life, I remember it all, visually, the words to describe how I felt, and the feelings themself. its hard not to remember it all, as it was a full blown 6 month long psychotic episode.
I'd like to think that the comparison she made with the dominant hand is not exactly correct
Instead of one thought process being 40-50% better than most, it is more likely to be 0.1-0.2% better
It could also be completely different depending on your genetics and where you grew up
Other than that, her ending statement about other people agreeing with you more is most likely related to the confidence you have whenever you use either of these things and the fact that you would be easier to understand if you are acting in one specific way
I love this so much! It almost made me cry.... It is such a HUGE help!!! Thank you so much, Lynne!!
Thanks for this honor, Miranda.
Her example to identify which you are I see it like a movie, I remember what people said, and I remember how I felt. Tried a few big moments and it is true for every memory.
I got so happy😃when i was seeing marina, bez I am among a fd who always needs a hug, this lady really made my day , really thanks to her from base of my ❤️🤗
When I close my eyes I really don't know how to categerise myself... I seem to watch it like movie, tried to remember what been said and how I felt by those words... I'm confused.
Chances are from what you said, Bobby, you're a Looker and primarily think in pictures and images. Check this out with other characteristics. Look at things you've written: do you use more visual words? Do you like to look at people when they/you speak and feel ignored when they don't give you eye contact? Is how you dress -- your appearance -- important to you? Hope this stuff helps.
Sorry - I should know better than to comment without full context... I was only 2/3rds of the way through. Please ignore.
If almost all people in your theory are lookers, then how useful is it as far as prediction is concerned? Your theory is closer to astrology than science as far as prediction is concerned. You have absolutely no understanding of scientific method. You are out of your league. And you are catering to the most gullible people in our society. You are a modern-day snake oil salesmen.
I was confused, too! However I'll check over how I communicate (as the predominent way may have the other two following very closely behind, as I love to see, listen and feel all very much)! This is what I read in a good book called 'NLP for Dummies'- but the good kind of NLP. Thanks for the talk, Lynne!
Its Because you're extraordinary person but rate the rank.
to position yourself right.
It's a fantastic lecture related to reading minds of the people through their body language..There are three models of body language according to Lynne Franklin. The first one is lookers. A looker's brain thinks in pictures and images. They stand tall with good poster and have a good appearance. They mostly have wrinkles on their forehead as they think oftenly looking upwards. They give you lot of eye contact. In order to build rapport with them, one should make eye contact and use words which have visual component. But, I have seen persons who are lookers who bend a while standing and don't have any wrinkles on forehead. Second type of persons are listeners. Their mind thinks in words and sounds. They don't give much preference to appearance and they look on to the left side when they remember something they heard. I have observed so many listeners who always on the right when remembering something . And last type of people are touchers whose brain think in feelings. Their characteristics are , they are ready to hug a person if they meet him for first time. They wear dress which are comfortable rather than stylish. I oppose the point. I have a friend who is a toucher. He dresses to look stylish rather than having comfort. Lynne Franklin said to know to which category we belong to we can know by imagining a situation i.e whether we remember in pictures or in words or feelings. I imagined a situation like movie at the same time with some words as well. So, I feel we can't say whether a person is looker or listener or toucher just by the way they imagine.
Control, the way you act and the way you look is always the best starting point to start
This one's definitely a sure shot watch! Interesting ways to deal with people!
Well, I loved the video . Body language provides a great deal of information on what other people are thinking. One could learn plenty of things from her, the strength she had and how she gave live examples. Well I think I am a looker and a listener.The concept is explained in such a simplified manner that anyone can apply this in real life . Great video, makes me want to learn more!
A movie, then words then emotions most of the time. Years back in a management class I was taught to try and adjust to the other person(s) so as to get the best from them. It is useful to recognize this if you are trying to motivate others or get them to work on the same team. This was a great explanation.
Tedx talks are always world changing videos
I find it very interesting especially to understand the people we work with, we live with. Maybe now it will be easier.Thank you
A very smart person and I respect her to the fullest.
Honestly, I find this Bul.
All people have moments they think in images, sounds and touch.
This woman is smart, she almost convinced me.
She is an enthusiastic speaker!
I can hardly ever recall what someone says verbatim.
There’s no science behind body language, it’s a joke in the STEM field. It’s not even considered a soft science. Not many schools offer it. Police using it leads to a lot of false convictions , same with the proven pseudoscience of polygraphs
A really wondrous presentation. Thank you so much.
I’m easily a listener eye contact scares me I’m always talking to myself and I’m always rest my hand on my face. This might explain why I love music so much
Same!!
Same
A box to poop in wtf😂😂😂
Whoever you are you are my spirit person/animal lol I feel like I'm a listener too I love music, definitely all type of genres and different era's I have 70% more of old songs in my playlist than new ones
Omg why did you just describe me ? Scary...
Very interesting video. Easy to use her techniques in daily life. Thank you Lynne.
this is the best TEDx video I have ever seen.
Gratitude, this talk is very interesting, and I am going to try the lessons learned here very soon 🙏
After watching this video I started to observe the people around me and try to differentiate between these three categories looker, listener and toucher and being aware of looker because s/he have a good memory in remembering it like a movie and also being aware of listener because they are very good in what peoples are said and also being aware of toucher because they are very good in understading feeling of human.
This was actually really fascinating to me
I am all 3. I remember the video, feeling, with stills or pauses. I also remember how others felt.
Insightful, power packed distillation of ideas
Excelent presentation. Good content, explained simply without excess of words. Beautifull.
This is so nice to learn, thank you so much! I think me and my grandmother doesn’t get along too well because she is a listener and I am a looker
I’m a looker, listener, and toucher. Glad these types of thinking actually have names
Body language is an important aspect of nonverbal communication that can reveal a lot about a person's thoughts and feelings. Body language alone cannot read people's minds, but it can provide insight into their emotional states and intentions. Facial expressions, gestures, and postures can be used to interpret a person's mood and engagement in conversation. However, body language can also be influenced by cultural and individual differences, so it is important to consider several factors when interpreting non-verbal cues. Ultimately, body language can give clues about a person's thoughts and feelings, but it should only be viewed as part of the overall communication picture.
Great talk Lynne! I agree, a book on this would be great! Loved the easy breakdown of the types and especially the clues on how they were dressed. Didn't know that!
Glad to give you some new, useful information, Ellen.
are you a looker?
I'm a Listener, Raghav, so my brain thinks in words and sounds. But if I stood on a stage and never looked at the audience--just had my ear pointed at them--there'd be no way for me to build rapport. I can't change how my brain works, but I can be flexible with my words and body language to be more inclusive to others--and still be comfortable with myself. Thanks for asking!
Woahhhh! I do look down and to the left when I'm trying to remember something I've heard🤯🤯🤯
That was SO accurate. Thank you!
This talk has actually changed my life
How?
You may like NLP training. It has much more information in it, combining the different kinda characters and eye patterns. 👌
Yep lewis... i noticed.
i am all three. When i think back of memories pictures pop up in my mind, people's voices ring in my head and sometimes a strong feeling (the exact feeling that i felt then) strikes me at my chest
I remembered it as a movie explaining to myself with words that how I felt.
Lynne Franklin: Let me teach you how to read through body language.
Sociopaths/Psycopaths: Let me teach you.
Great stuff Lynne. Loved this talk.
A little lesson in NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming)! Absolutely agree with this! Well presented, great points!
Hello Marilyn
Finally! I know why I do the things I do! I'm a listener! I always thought I was just socially awkward and needed to get better at eye contact. But being a listener explains the mumbling to myself and tapping my pen/pencil.
Also, you touchers out there: If someone tries to block your hug with a handshake, DO NOT ignore that and hug them anyway. Just accept the handshake! I have tried to avoid a hug with a handshake before and had the person completely ignore my gesture and it makes you feel violated.
This makes me think of visual , audio, and kinesthetic learning styles too.
Everytime you generalize like this you make mistakes. One of the major factors she seems to ignore is cultural habits... Overall, the speech was very shallow and questionable.
Adriana Quintão totally get what you're saying, in my culture you don't use eye contact with people much older than you so these assumptions are inaccurate
Very true! I was thinking the exact same thing
Finally...just look at her body lenguage how stiff and "practiced" she is...she has no conffidense in what she's saying.
exactly! In my culture it's very common to give hugs to people you just met but that doesn't mean everyone is a toucher
Very good observation thanks for sharing
A very nice and interesting talk! Great Lynne!
Already my favorite TedxTalk video ♥♥♥
Listening to this really changed my perspective
I noticed in myself that I do all three I listen I sometimes struggle with eye contact and or I just look and look people thinks I’m staring sometimes then makes me uncomfortable, sometimes I wear for comfort and or very nice and feel to process information my biggest thing I process things mainly by pictures I’m a visual learner but I can listen very well
I feel like I'm all of them, so I don't know how true this is. Or maybe how literal we should take it
I’m a listener in school as it’s not really a natural environment for me, I’m only confident in other social situations and I’ll sometimes give eye contact.
It’s weird, but it makes sense.
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