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Praying for a narcissist: 1 - Pray for healing in the foundation cracks. 3:02 2 - Pray for the power of generational inequity to be broken. 4:21 3 - Pray that the narcissist knows his or her value as a child of God. 5:52 4 - Pray that the narcissist would be delivered from the sin of idolatry. 7:31 5 - Pray that the lies narcissists believe about themselves and others be exposed to them and that they will know the truth. 9:09 6 - Pray that the narcissist would elevate God in His rightful place in his or her life, and stop turning to people to be their source of supply. 10:16 7 - Pray for the narcissist to have the disposition of love, joy and peace. 10:44 8 - Pray for the narcissist to be healed of mother issues.11:10 9 - Pray for the narcissist to not harden their hearts when God speaks because narcissism is a hardness of heart issue. 11:42 10 - Pray that God will take their heart of stone and give them a heart of flesh. 12:30 11 - Pray that God would do whatever is takes to bring a narcissist repentance, even if that means they have to hit rock bottom. 12:47
Thank you Wilma. For my diary. It is also very helpful to reveal my own narc. Blind spots. How to pray in to them in your own life. So thanks for writing. God bless you sister 🙏🏻🇩🇰
Absolutely, the world’s way of dealing with narcissism only satisfies the flesh, but to overcome fleshly attitudes, we need to use the spiritual armour as in Ephesians 6, this is a matter of evil versus Holiness, and as believers we surely know who wins hands down
There is also THE ROYAL WHEE, but I prefer Shaneen, she is sweeter and more gentle. I noticed how much is important to me to find acknowledged people ralking about tjis topic from a place of calm and kindness as the minimum tone of bitterness against narcissism triggers mine in me against my narcissists. Thanks God, this never happens to me with Shaneen's videos. She is a blessing, with all those standing against this demon8c tzunami called narcissism.. Bless her!!♡♡♡♡♡♡♡
The world keeps telling us were suppose to abandone a loved one because of their narcissism. Pretty sure christ went to the cross for them too, so happy to find someone teaching grace and mercy and giving prayer points, cause when your in the storm it can be hard to see the heart of the problem.
I was so grieved and brokenhearted when I started reading and watching videos about narcissists that I started crying in a way that i realized reflected deep sorrow. I haven't cried like that in a long time. The world teaches you to basically discard them like they don't matter, but narcissism has formed in some people because they experienced abuse. Some people will probably never change because they don't want to, but some are blinded and just need help. But we aren't the ones to fix them, God is. I believe in the power of Jesus Christ. He died for the narcissists as well. I won't give up on the people who I know are narcissists. Even if that means praying for them from a distance and not communicating with them, but I refuse to give up. God has never given up on me. I pray in the mighty, all powerful and precious name of Jesus Christ that everyone who has been broken and abused by narcissists that their hearts will be completely healed and freed from demonic control. Freedom in Jesus's Name. Jesus Jesus Jesus.
Amen. I totally agree with you. My husband is a covert narcissist. I’m just now learning about narcissistic abuse. It’s a hard dark place to be in. I praying for hood salvation daily. I had to separate myself from him because the toxic behavior & disrespect was overwhelming. We all need Jesus and the Narc does too!!
Finally someone who is shedding the light that narcissism is a spiritual and psychological disorder. All the videos I’ve watched prior to yours are missing this crucial fact. Most of them say that narcissist are beyond redemption but as you point out, this is not true because God is our healer as well as our redeemer. This is a battle that only His Grace can win. Thank you for your insightful and powerful advice.
I am Christian. I know and believe that God appointed and joined me together with my wife in marriage. I am committed to her. I know her family history and background and know that this contributed to her narcissistic ways. I have been praying for her but without real direction. I fully agree with all the points you make and they give me clarity and direction. I know that it is near impossible for someone suffering from narcism to recover, but I have made a decision to have faith and to pray for her, and to learn all about narcism and try to apply as much as possible and believe that in God nothing is impossible and that she will, in His time be healed. Thank you so much for your videos, they are a real Blessing!
A year has gone by since you posted this and I related so deeply with your sentiment. I had to walk away from my fiance because he hurt me so much. I stayed a long time and tried very hard to help him heal. I physically have deteriorated. I clung to hope and my friends and loved ones told me to pay attention to his response and what it meant. So I did. I hope you are emotionally safe and feel loved. If you are willing would you please share what has happened? I guess I'm still looking for hope.
I am her mother. When she was 3yrs old I married a man who I thought loved me & my children. He was abusive to me & my daughter. Psychologically & eventually physically. I am now fully aware that the blame is on me. Thank you for showing how to pray for my daughter. If anyone reads this, please pray for my family. My grandchildren & I are desperately missing each other. I miss my daughter too.
Praise God Sister, you are truly looking at the problem from the Heavenly Father's view, the biblical perspective always wins because God never loses a battle, keep up the good work, blessings.
Narcissism is the world term for a Jezebel spirit, Elijah demonstrated who God is at Mt Carmel, Jehu lead by the Spirit of God just through her to the ground from up where she was and she died. We should destroy Jezebel with the sword of the Spirit, pray for the Narcissist and wage spiritual warfare, we cannot hate them and love God, it doesn't work, God wins whichever we look at, Narcissism is demonic.
I ended a relationship with someone 7 months ago because of ongoing emotional abuse. I prayed this prayer over her 3 days ago. She texted/sms me today, after 6 months of no contact, saying I have been weighing on her mind for the last 3 days and she is praying for me. I don’t know what to do, so I prayed once more and believe that God is stirring her spirit. Maybe she doesn’t understand His confrontation. Pray with me that He will heal her from spiritual blindness 🙏🏻
@@dilciaenid57 you are right. Thank you for your message. It has been a year now. I’m so glad I stayed no contact. I realizing how free I have become over the last few months. I’m thankful you took that bold step. Your soul will recognize the reward soon 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Hi can I pray for both? Can I biblically give you some insights? Can we partner and pray together for those we love? Can I have your email? I would like to hear more.
My husband had moments of awareness but lasted minutes or a day or two. The war between flesh and spirit was raging. I could see it like black and white. The black was much bigger. He ended up nearly killing me as I stood for righteousness and truth. I will be praying. God loves him✝️🙏🏻
When you said my husband has moments of awareness but they don’t last spoke mountains to me I pray for you Danielle and your husband your marriage life please God please God be with Daniel amen
Was already separated, but got him to do Ancient Paths with me. Same thing happened...conviction, softness of heart etc, but he did not follow through on the things he said in that realization and door just shut again.
I thank God for you Sis. 🙏 After 17 years of marriage I knew something wasn't right I didn't have a name for it. But God has been revealing it to me gradually. Most secular life coach you listen to says there isn't any hope for a narcissist. As a Christian I am taught that you can be delivered. Thank you for giving hope and listening to the Voice of the Most High God. 💜
I'm in your exact same spot - 17yrs as well! Your message came straight from my heart. I've always prayed for a biblical wife, that God form me into a righteous husband and keep my heart soft so I can one day forgive her and then love her the way I've wanted to since our wedding day. That is when "Mr Hyde" first came out and I've been living an episode of "what happened to my girlfriend/fiance?" ever since. I haven't been married to the person I fell in love with and proposed to. I come to accept that was all fake - but I still trust that God can move mountains......and I'm stocking up on shovels!
I had a narcissist come into my life 8 yrs ago. I didn't know anything about narcissism so I didn't recognize it and like you there has been a gradual revelation. This man has built my relationship with God in ways that never would have happened without the great need to hug close to God as I deal with him on a daily basis. More recently he has caused me to see a deep need for healing that I had a blind spot to. God has walked me masterfully through this time with this man. Many things God told me what to do in dealing with him often right in the moment which has helped me to hear God better. I'm learning from Shaneen God was telling me the right things to do like when to walk away, recognizing he was gaslighting and not taking it in and many of the other manipulations God gave me eyes to see and wisdom to know what to do. I refuse to hate him and I refuse to give up on him. Right now, he is a man bound for hell. I also believe God brought him into my life so he would have someone to stand in the gap and pray for him. I believe with all my heart that he is going to be delivered and he will become the man God intends him to be. I refuse to give up praying for him and this video was so very helpful in giving me more in depth and specific ways to pray. Thank you Shaneen and @juniaosme2396 for taking a Godly stand in believing God can do anything. He is the God of the impossible, miracles and most high Deliverer.
Thank you. I grew up with narcs. Dad, deceased these past 18 years remained unrepentant. My needs were not met, and he beat me and tortured me from the time I was a few weeks old, and yet, I never became a narc. I'm a Christian since I was 11 and have been surrounded by them all my life. I married one and both my kids are narcs too. I will begin to pray for their healing of the wounds inflicted upon them as young children. I failed them too by not understanding how to meet their emotional needs. Their father was a malignant narc, also gone 17 years, who tried to kill me on three occasions that I know of and my son also tried once. But God has kept me safe and in His will. Many blessings.
So grateful for this Video!! Wrote so many notes. I will form a personal prayer for my husband of 27 years. I could only bring myself to pray "God I give him to you because I dont know what to pray, and I'm too much in pain to find words". Now I have embraced these words today to help. May God bless you!! Thank you for your dedicated work to the Lord.
God is the Same… Yesterday, Today and forevermore! Any abuse thrown on people will be dealt with. Any evil in this world Will NOT change Gods Uktimate Plan for His people who Love him. Remember that. “GOD Has His Way about things” Release your Sorrow… Use “Self Care” for Therapy. Take walks, talk to God. I have a Narcissist ADD husband, he can be viscious with words, But I stand Amy ground now… With a Healthy LOVE for myself to be Strong in Christs Spirit. I say it Firm,” I will Not accept your Condemning words”…. Then I walk away and give him Negative Consequence. He is slowing down on doing that because it doesn’t benefit him. Pray for Healing , read Psalms… and Keep going… STAY BUSY…. Get a Loving Christian Counselor. I will pray for you. “Be Still And KNOW.. I am GOD”, Saith the LORD
My dear sister in Christ. I am in the same situation. I have also mil with us and instead of helping him heal she keeps destroying but both need God and Jesus to heal them. I prayed for God’s intervention and deliverance for them but just like you I have no words but God hears my groaning of the heart. This video is an answer to my prayer. We pray and we leave it to God. This battle belongs to God and for His glory we shall see the victory. Bless you
That is the exact words I pray for my husband of 48 years,because I really don't know what to pray for him anymore. And sometimes I have to fight against the bitterness because he stole my whole life. Satan is really trying to get me bitter and hateful. It's a dayly fight
This video is truly Letting Go and Letting God. Sometimes those around the narcissist think we can fix the problem and we spend a lifetime trying fix it. In reality, only God can change any of us. He does for us what we cannot do for ourselves. I thank God for these prayers that we can ask of him. May he open our hearts and open our Spirits. May he bring healing to this epidemic that only his love can heal.
The narcissist can choose to reject God. He will never take away their free will. We need to keep our own eyes on Christ Jesus and abide in His peace regardless 🕊️
@@ShaneenMegji please pray for me. I just escaped barely with my life from my narcisstic husband and his super narcisstic parents!!! I barely survived coming out with 4 broken ribs, stranglation, emotional, financial abuse. God showed me a bright red demoned shaped as a fetus in the core of my husband. There are generational curses and they catholic italians. Strangest people i ever met. Seemed to be loving at the start but really evil. I pray for them. I sent my husband a letter of forgiveness, love and told him i pray but we all have free will. Free will is a gift and it is between him and God. God loves him so true. My husband had the exact childhood you explained. All so true your amazing with your understanding. Thankyou✝️🙏🏻
... A Narasstic person will NEVER submit their will to God because they THINK they are God. A narasstic person KNOWS what they are doing and TAKES pleasure in doing it. Therefore asking God to forgive them and saying the famous and precious words of Jesus and Stephen to justify these narcarrsstic people behavior is absurd. Using Father forgive them for they know NOT what they are doing is a LIE, because these narcarrsstic people ABSOLUTELY know what they are doing, and again many takes pleasure in hurting and mistreating others, and many narcarrsstic people WILL boldly tell you that they KNOW what they are doing is WRONG and hurtful but they DON'T care about how it hurt, shame or belittle another person. We, especially Christian's need to STOP making excuses for these narcarrsstic people and their evil wicked behaviors. Narcarrsstic people are just evil, wicked, egotical prideful arrogant people who feel self important superior to others and feel entitled and they expect others to bow down to them as if they are God themselves. A narcarrsstic person is a person that is being used as an agent of satan and their lives are void of Almighty God and the Spirit of God DOESN'T dwell within them. For these poeople of children of satan himself and takes pleasure in doing what pleases satan and themselves. There are many people in mental wards or therapy because of these narcarrsstic people and their mental, verbal, physical and emotional abuse, so let's STOP using Father forgive them for they know NOT what they do, using these beautiful words are just a scapegoat for pacifying a narcasstic person evil wicked behavior. Just real talk here.
@@forerunnerforjesus1291 Thought-provoking comment! I had also wondered if we should pray for these people at all, since they enjoy being evil? In 1.Corinthians 5 it says: "11 But now I am writing to you not to associate with anyone who bears the name of brother if he is guilty of sexual immorality or greed, or is an idolater, reviler, drunkard, or swindler-not even to eat with such a one. 12 For what have I to do with judging outsiders? Is it not those inside the church whom you are to judge? 13 God judges those outside. “Therefore put away from among yourselves that wicked person!” Also it is written in 1.John 5,16: If anyone sees his brother committing a sin not leading to death, he shall ask, and God will give him life - to those who commit sins that do not lead to death. *There is sin that leads to death; I do not say that one should pray for that.* So since we are not even to pray for brethren when they commit sins to death(?), why should we always pray for those evil ones who are outside and don´t want to obey CHRIST? On the other hand, it is written in Matthew 5,44: But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, *and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;* God's peace be with you!
Just watched War Room last night, and this video puts a perfect bow on the inspiration to pray strategically. Thank you for these detailed notes on how to pray. It’s just what I needed. Also, I love how you don’t put God in a box…ask God to go back in time? Outrageous…and amazing. Before my husband was, Jesus is there and is the I AM.
I prayed fervently for 9 years that my ex narcopath husband would be delivered and change into a normal, rational person. After a decade of suffering, God led me to a church service that talked about reprobate minded people and to let them go and move on. I no longer devote any time to these demons anymore.
I pray for the man i love, pray to heal.his false pride. He has a wunderful soft heart, but his false pride destroied our loving relationship. His false pride rooted in his head, causing destruction, negative thinking and resentment. He broke me to loosing my hope and value in life. Making me feeling completely distroyed, worthless, devaluing me and my life to a 0, and attributting to me all evil features. It was painful, cruel and it broke his and my heart. So greatful fisrt time in my life to welcome a spiritual prayer regarding the issue with much Gods love towards the person being narcisstic. God bless you much
So many years ago but prayed for a man and what strongholds and was always getting…don’t cast your pearls before swine. Tied in with Asperger’s ahab spirit and the wiring and emotional void. Married and found out many years too late. They project onto you, never marry a non Christian. My son has. Such destruction daughter hates the church. So her spirit is against the Holy Spirit and began to have issues, selfish and hard. Had been like sisters.
But what about Matthew 5,44 ? : But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and *pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;* These people are definitly not in agreement with GOD and His children, thats why they persecute us.
@@JesusChristusistdasLicht well I think that would or should be taken under your personal discernment. If you think or feel you should pray for a narcissist then I think you should. Maybe God will bless you for that 🕊️🕊️🕊️
@@tootienottoofruitie1726 thanks thanks thanks. I agree. Please contact.me If you would.l will leave contact. This is new..the demon vanished in August. Then smear my name and shared personal things. They know what they do.
Wow wow wow! Shaneen!🙏🏿 God has given you a real gift here. Please continue with these videos. Everytime I feel like you’re using Gods guidance and teaching to share information. May God bless you abundantly 👏🏿🙏🏿 we appreciate you🥰
God has led me to scripture and prayer that covers the same prayers outlined here! Confirmation. I am being guided by the Holy Spirit to pray for my husband. God has given me eyes to see my husband's pain.
Oh God is Great and I thank you so much for this videos. I was about to file for divorce. Listening to you have changed my mind about praying 🙏 because I have prayed for over a year and nothing has changed. I'm going to use the same prayers outlined here like Diana is sharing. Thank you so much! Diana you're in my prayers as well 🙏 ❤ 💕
Finally a detailed prayer for my narc wife. Yesterday i was rebuked by my cell group turned into her flying monkeys. I kept silent but i was wrong by explaining via whattsap about gaslighting. I should just quiet and let those flying monkeys, my own friends, rebuke. Thank God I found these prayer today. Thanks Shareen. God bless u.
Wow...praising God for this wonderful ministry!!! After fighting through the worldly view on narcissism that grieved me...this brings hope and faith!!!
@lilirebeccaskinner6670 I want to let you know, I was going to comment on this video but as I was scrolling through the comments, and came across yours. Your comment says what I wanted to say and I know it was God's will for me to see your comment. I have searched, studied, and listened to videos concerning the world's views on narcissism. It was futile and praise God Shaneen's video kept coming to my spirit. It is God's will that I found Shaneen's ministry. May God bless her in her much-needed ministry and may many more people be blessed and find her and benefit from her Godly knowledge. 🙏
Thank you! 😭😭😭 This has got to be one of the most painful situations that I have ever had to endure!!! I love and hate a Narcissist!! I have never ever been so hurt and never ever been so angry! 😭😭😭 It’s my daughter in law!! The very mother of my most precious and beloved grandchildren!! She is ripping my heart right out of my chest…. And to know that all this pain stems from her childhood trauma, is a double whammy for my heartache!!! I have never known how to handle this situation. I hate her one day, and love her even more the next (deep deep empathy)!!! This has been going on for 10 long horrible years. I just want all the pain to STOP 🛑 . She is hurting my grandchildren, and that is tearing me apart! 😭 Please help me pray for her, my son, and my two beautiful grandchildren!! I don’t want her out of our lives! We need her! I want more than anything for this to just all stop!! But, it won’t, because “IT” all depends on her. I have never had family enemies. And we will never ever be an enemy to her. Please help me to pray that God will continually work on my heart!! Pray that we are wise enough to catch the enemy in his tracks, and not be led into the abyss of horror with him!! We must REMEMBER: Ephesians 6:12 “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.” .KJV “Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.” James 4:7 KJV Resist the devil and he will FLEE!! Thank You one and all of my brothers and sisters in Christ for agreeing with me in prayer 🙏 🙏🙏. ♥️♥️♥️
I, too, have grandchildren who are living this horror in real time. You have my sympathy and deep understanding. May God protect our grandchildren from the insidious harm placed upon them as well as our sons.
I am living this hellish nightmare as well. Nothing is impossible with God, let's believev it together. We can trust that He loves our family members more that we do and that He doesn't give up on them even when we feel we can't do it anymore. In my humanness I am so mad at her and deeply hurt by her words and behaviors towards me and my family, but your reminder is true, it is not her but the enemy who we battle against. I had a dream about my daughter-in-law that when she was a child a huge snake and alligator overtook her, and she was helpless. I believe the snake is a lying spirit and the alligator a curse upon her family for generations. This dream has carried me through the hard times, reminding me she is in bondage and God sent her to our family for a reason and maybe that is to pray for her freedom. I have clearly drawn boundaries to protect our family from the damage she causes, and I do believe that has been a game changer. Now, I can more clearly pray for her without the constant damage and pain.
This is one of your best videos, and I bet will be the most liked. If we followers of Messiah say nothing is impossible with Abba, how can we not do our part and pray, especially us warrior wives who go to battle for our husband's? Be separated if need be, no contact even, but pray fervently. I pray many blessings upon you daughter. 😊
@@InvestInTime I will pray for you to be able to escape from this toxic relationship. Adonai please protect your daughter and her child, mentally and physically and give her wisdom in how to leave this situation. Amen! We can always pray for the narc in our life while we are leaving and safely out of harms way. Take courage. Our Father will make a way for you.
Been praying for my husband for years. May God help him see more clearly his childhood trauma and heal him to overcome his current struggles. Thanks for your heavenly point of view. When I married him God showed me who he really is. Now after 31 years he left me for worldly pleasers and supply from others. I pray for his soul! In the mean time I can't have contact. When I do I struggle myself. I love him so much and have prayed for him for so long. We have been through so much. I guess he has to hit rock bottom before he see the truth.
I have been praying for a narcissist, my wife of 27 years. Regarding free will, God revealed to me yesterday Psalm 33:15. While we do all have free will, God forms (as a potter forms clay by squeezing it) our hearts, which is our feelings, intellect and will. This was very encouraging to me.
It's called "wedging" - the purpose is remove every impurity of any kind in the clay body so it won't be "spoiled" when the vessel is fired in the kiln & breaks from something as small as even an air bubble temaining in the clay. Yes, there is so much to glean in Holy Spirit's dealing with us, from the preparing of the "clay" through the making of the vessel, & its being "fired."
It's really tough to pray for the narcissist. It feels a little bit like praying for Satan. It's hard to distinguish between the narcissists will to be evil and the victim of bondage that holds them.
Yes my sweet sister it does but one thing as children of the Most High do, we pray for those that cannot and will not pray for themselves! If we keep this mindset then praying for them to be healed won't be possible because we already are defeated in our thoughts! I BELIEVE GOD can change the heart of man (not just a physical man) but any human being if they want to be changed, He can heal set free and deliver them but a willing vessel is the key! I always say Lord, not my will but your will be done! Blessings Queen!
Thank you so much to speak life into such a painful experience. I believe that even though this has been the most painful experience I have ever encountered, that God turns all crooked paths straight. When the devil meant for evil, God used it for good. Perhaps this happened for us to intercede on their behalf. I feel no hate. I feel sadness for my narcissist.
There is hope for them but in the after life. This video is not a reason to stay in contact with a Narcissist. No Contact is the only known technique for self preservation
You have an extraordinary gifting Shaneen which transcends any professional training which qualified psychiatrists have. It reminds me of the film “The King’s Speech” where the man who helps the King to stop stammering so he can inspire the nation with speeches at a time of war, that man had no qualifications but just knew what to say and do to bring healing. You are so thorough in your insights which just flow so fluently from your mouth. It is very refreshing!
My narcissistic sister verbally abused me to the point I developed PTSD from the trauma (I had been in an abusive marriage). It was hard to find someone who could understand that I couldn't read the bible; I couldn't read at all. I couldn't pray for myself, her, or anyone else and my body completely shut down. I can finally pray for her so I came back to this video. Since I cut off communication, I'll be sending her my prayers for Christmas this year. Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to all. God Bless all who read this.
All you say speaks to me, thank you for the encouragement. I am composing a prayer for my wife (and myself) and am drawing extensively from your video and PDF. In my own case, when I pray, I ask God to remove my pride and replace the pride with humility and this seems to help me in my relationship with God and self as much as anything. Your message is the first I have experienced that offers hope for narcissists; most "experts" seem to concentrate on disparaging and punishing the narcissist all the while affirming their victim hood. Bless you for encouragement in The Trinity's supreme power to heal and recover a soul through earnest prayer. As always: God's will be done.
That was beautiful. I also pray and ask them to give JOY a chance! Permanent joy! Not any instant gratification that feels like HAPPY! but pure joy from within the H-eart that nothing on Eart-h can touch, remove or take away. May we protect and safeguard our new and circumcized heart of flesh. Ahmein
Thank you for sharing this awesome video. I have been married for 11yrs to my narssisist husband and I have been praying 🙏🏼 a long time. And you're right about the parents, my father-in-law is the 👑 king of the narrsisist and so God revealed to me that a part of the root and I had to pray for him as well. I'm praying 🙏🏼 this prayer for them both because I know God is able, what is impossible for man...IS POSSIBLE with GOD💞. God bless you my beautiful sister 🙏🏼
I LOVE ❤️ love❤️ love your channel. So glad I found you. I watched hundreds of videos on narcissism but no one talks about It from the biblical perspective.
I am so bless! I've been praying for so long and was giving up because everything I read and hear its so negative about my nar. husband. I have a different view and praise God 🙌 🙏 for this video.
I echo these sentiments! Shaneen is saving Christian women trapped in these relationships one video at a time. She is the only one I've heard tackling this from a biblical perspective. Can't get enough of listening to them.
God is so good your videos have been aligning up with my healing journey from my ex narcissist. Just when I start to feel discouraged or allow bitterness to take hold there God is using people like you. Thank u I will add so much more to my prayer.
Oh my Lord 🙏 I've been married for 17 years now and I've never received this teaching before I usually pray ,fast, and it just grew worst but I didn't know the name of it, and truly I'm weak and in a lot of emotional pain but just listening all of what you say, it just give me hope to pray for him again and I do believe that through your direction of prayers my pain and weakness and wounds will be heal, God bless you for being so honest and loving and helpful, I am a Christian and I love God, but this marriage as worn me out bitterly, but I'm gonna pray again, I'm here honestly was waiting on him to die, because I can't do nothing more , but you have shown me light through Christ Jesus ,and I take it, I received it, you are not an ordinary one your different your special, your one of God,s masterpiece, and I believe that God is going to use me some day as he is doing in you now. God bless you😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
It's so great discovering the whole covert narc disorder thing from just everyday videos like this, dropping off all of the guilt and shame and all of the hardcore drugging and all. Really, even alcohol is simply a broken attempt to just regular deal with the fake narc script and once we see the problem, then we can stop all of these self-abuse sessions we kept crawling back to. I like the quote Physician, heal thyself, speaks to me in this chapter of my life, to heal myself, chapter II. Thank you for the😊.
For me, the best thing i can do is pray for myself to shut off, my inclination to become very viciously angry is a problem totally separate from the narc, i own that now and reacting by raising my voice because every time i am in the middle of a sentence, they quickly overlap that with some prerecorded line they insult with. Anger destroys the angered and is no good for anyone or anything.
I discovered how far his betrayel went yesterday. I knew but never looked in his phone or accounts! I am having a super hard time with forgiveness. I know I have to forgive to be forgiven. Lord have mercy and help me forgive.
I know I've been there, but remember forgiveness is not for the narrsisist... It's for you🙏🏼 and if God's says it we shall obey. I pray that God shall take away your troubled ❤️ heart and replace it with a ❤️ heart of peace 🕊️.
Keeping forefront that you are NOT forgiving their actions, but their soul. And it's so you don't have hate or animosity in your heart that will just continue to hurt you. It's a process. And one I've found that requires becoming validated. Realizing that you are not responsible for their actions in any way.
Some years ago I watched the Moses Code...I was not a believer then so it is not about the Story per se ..but there was a husband and father and his wife was killed and he said what must have happened to the guy who killed my wife that he was able to do that. It is not an excuse for what he did because it was a tragedy but it is to look from a higher perspective. We do not fight against flesh and blood. I was 20 years in a fake relationship with a Narcissist and he was willing to kill me (by proxy) but it was never personal it is just a reflection of their inner darkness. Let's put on the armor of God and pray for the light to make them see who they are. The Bible said Jesus died for us when we still were enemies to God... He overcame the World and so we will. Bless you.
So you stay with a Husband who betrays you, a man who lives in the sin of fornication. I have to ask you something: Why do you show the world your cleavage? Do you think that pleases God? No it doesn´t because by doing so you cause weak brothers in Christ to sin. Is that what you want? Please think (better pray) about it and then let your insights be followed by action. I greet you with 1. Peter 3,1-7 and Galatians 5,16 GOD bless you!
I recently read a quote by Derek Prince. He said, "You were forgiven (by Christ) the unforgivable. You must also forgive the unforgivable." The Lord then showed me I was wearing a heavy, filthy "coat," like a sheep's coat before it is shorn, full of years of hurt & pain & sorrow & a broken heart, drenched with tears...& unforgiveness. He told me to forgive so He could forgive me...then drop the coat on the floor & walk away. I cannot tell you the relief I felt. I can now begin to heal & pray for this person with clarity & with Holy Spirit's direction.
Thank you, Shaneen. Let us pray for these precious people. They are made in God's image and Satan has deceived them with his lies. God is much stronger than Satan, the chief Narcissist. Jesus is Victor.
Pray for: 1- Healing in foundational cracks/early childhood 2- The power of generational sin will be broken 3- That the narc knows/understands their value as a child of God 4- Deliverance from the sin of idolatry: their entitlement/status above God 5- Exposure of the lies the narc believes about themselves and others, and that they will know the truth 6- God’s elevation to the right place and repentance of using others as their supply 7- A true disposition of love, joy, and peace to replace anger, hatred, and envy 8- Healing from ‘mother issues’, especially related to abandonment or abuse, resulting in hatred and condescension 9- Softening of their hearts when God speaks 10- God will replace their heart of stone with a heart of flesh 11- God will bring them to repentance, whatever it takes, even for them to hit rock bottom, …rather than die without being able to forgive others as God has forgiven us 12: That the Kingdom of God would spread to the lives of others, as they witness how God brings healing to the relationship(s)
This is extremely powerful. Most videos about narcissism ‘right off’ the narcissist. These prayers speak to the roots of the issue and give me hope. 🙏🏼❤️
I love how you brought God into the subject. For years and years, I've struggled as I'm married to a very toxic woman. I can't even fully trust my therapist because her advice is from her wisdom, not God's. I also love that we are here to pray for our oppressors. My wife yelled and screamed at me just hours after my mom died because I wasn't able to pick her up from the bar at 2am. That's a very difficult memory to even bring up, but I'd only bring it up so that she may be healed. Thank you, I think my life is turning around. Pray for me so that I may have the strength to keep it up, as I've been here before. I'd think I was going to break free but something would give her that notation and she'd quickly highlight all my deepest insecurities. Man, I had to fight in three wars. I felt more at home there surrounded by supportive people than I do at home with my wife and child. Thank you for everything. God Bless you.
My husband was hell when my mum and dad left the planet, both left in the same week it was a very difficult time, they do it on purpose to get the spotlight back on them
Thank you, @Dawn Holmes@@dawnholmes2136I can appreciate that struggle, however, I can't imagine losing both within one week. You'll be in my prayers, sister.
This is most excellent. I have watched many videos on narcissism & haven't seen any that have viewed the condition from a Biblical perspective. It makes perfect sense. I've been praying for my narcissist for years. I can't tell you how grateful I am to you for showing me exactly how to do so. God bless you for the work you do & for your videos. Thank you.
My person is so full of shame. It makes her unable to have an adult conversation with out dramatic. It's definitely in the family line. Yes Lord we are of your culture and blood line.
Thank you so much for this! It confirmed for me that I am on the right track praying for them. Several of these I had been praying already; but you've gone deeper and wider, touching on aspects I had not yet considered. As a Christian I need to be very clear about the reasons I do or do not interact with the narcissist ... we are all accountable to God for how we respond to these challenges. Another way I thought of to pray is for God to prevent people coming into their life who can be manipulated. Instead, pray for more people who will recognize their toxicity and manipulation and care enough to join in prayer for them instead of being apathetic, triggered or outraged. Good people who do nothing (and the prayers of a righteous person is far from nothing) merely perpetuate the course of evil. Again, thank you and God bless your outreach!
I a previous video about why God would put a Narcissist in your life, I now see them all around me and to include me even thought as a son of a narcissist I can Relate to the empath I also see the narcissistic tendencies in my own self especially how I feel about women who remind me of my mother in the instant recoil I feel being around women like her even though I married one and couldn’t figure it out for the last 15 years that she also is a narcissist the difference being she is covert. Thank you for sharing your love for Christ as this is the bigest and best difference from other Videos who leave Christ out. Thank you
Thank You so much for your prayer suggestions, this made so much sense to me. My husband suffers from this disorder. He isn't a bad person, he just doesn't know who he is. He has been lost for so long and I finally feel like I have the words to pray to help him. I pray God blesses you for the wisdom you chose to share and I know the lord will redeem his lost children who are willing to humble themselves and be healed from the oppressive spirit of narcissism.
I just subbed to ur channel! It is so refreshing to have a child of God teach us about certain mental health issues. I am a Christian as well and Jesus Christ is my Lord and savior. Thank you so much! I think I found a channel that I will watch all the time!! Thanks again. Much love from Eastern NC ❤ 💙 ♥ 💕 💗 💛 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💪
I've been dealing with these kinds of people most my life. I'm glad I saw this because I didn't know how to deal with them. They were very disturbing toto me. I didn't know what was wrong but now I do.
I've been praying daily for my narcissist. Some of the points I include in my prayers have been mentioned in this video and the others I will begin to include. I've had to go no contact with my narcissist and we haven't spoken for several years. I have no idea where they are or how they live. Some nights ago I dreamt of the narcissist and they told me that my prayers were helping. In the dream I took their hands and told them that we'll overcome this together (meaning the spiritual battle). These people desperately need our prayers. Narcissistic people may be impossible to deal with on the physical plane and we may need to physically walk away from them for our own protection but lets not abandon them spiritually.
I think this type of thinking is just going to keep the victims of the narcissist holding on to hope they will change and continue the abuse by feeling sympathetic and empathic for the Narcissist will not change .
Thank you God for bringing Shaneen into my life....I have been watching umpteen number of videos on narcissist relationships and I had been looking for one from a Christian perspective and then I stumbled onto your video...I felt you were talking to me...I am so thankful to God..keep up the good work you are doing...you are making more sense of my life...I have been living with my narcissistic husband for the last 40 years and thanks to TH-cam, I realize that there are such toxic people in this world who cleverly disguise their disgusting personality..Every word you say now makes sense to me now.
I used to ask Jesus the best and wonderful councillor to council the person in countless situations for 28 years when communication became impossible,never realising I was actually dealing with narcissistic traits and I saw miracles .
When I have prayed for or given my narcissist husband to the Lord to help him, it seems that he becomes angrier and harder to deal with(I never tell him I have prayed for that for him). I don’t know if that is Satan hardening his heart to God’s will or my husband fighting against God opening his eyes and trying to help him.
I need someone to pray this for me. I just know that I'm a covert narcissist. But nobody sees it. Criticism or correction feels like dying, I have a constant need for attention, pity, admiration to fill my void and I just don't have empathy and remorse. I've been trying to hide this to the best of my abilities, but everything I do for others is fake. My name is Tabe.
Thank you dear Lord, for Shaneen and her ministry. THIS video is THE only true answer to us Christians with a narc in our lives. A big prayer item is for God to make justice and expose the narc's lies against us, especially those told to our children and close relatives. Only God can do it, and regardless of the narc's disposition.
Thank you so much for this video. I believe Jesus has healed my narcissist husband because he gave me a vision, it hasn't manifested yet here on earth. Thank you Jesus that it's finished and I just have to walk by faith, it's your battle, not mine Lord. I just have to stand firm, put on the Armor of God. Thank you so much for this video gave me a greater understanding how I should be praying for my husband. In Jesus name. God bless you ❤
Mum,im so grateful to God for you. I have so much Godly revelation now. I wondered how to deal with my narc husband as a Christian. I wanted a revenge yet a change for him but after this video, i feel sad for him. He hardly talks about his past, speaks ill of his parents especially mother and it all makes sense now. I'll forgive and pray for him. God bless you
I just love the tone you take in your videos. I’ve watched other videos on narcissism with passionate hosts. Their tone had a slight aggression that kept me from absorbing too much of their content. Your content leaves me feeling light, empowered, and hopeful. Thank you.
Thank you so much for your videos! It's easy to lose hope when listening to the worldly perspective on narcissists but with Jesus anything is possible! Thank you for addressing this issue from a biblical perspective!!
Thanks for the video! Most videos on youtube about narcissism only preaches to reject narcissists outright and never have any interaction with them again. Such "solutions" is neither practcical nor doable because narcisists are everywhere and entrenched in our lives, not to mention believe it or not we do love some of them. So your take to pray for them to have softened hearts and be healed of their illness is refreshing and actually gives me hope.
Thank you Sooooo very much for sharing this prayer strategy. I've been praying and fasting for my son's dad for so long, now in Gods perfect timing as we soon enter the season of decision for God, so much has been happening in these past few days. God showed me I was standing in the way and tried to take His place in saving my ex. I repented remorsefully and one of the next things started to flow. This prayer is exactly what we need right now. Not just for my ex but my mom too. God bless
There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. - Proverbs 12:18 Thank you SO MUCH, Lord Jesus, for Biblical Christian counseling from our humble sister Shaneen!
Dont feel guilty for not praying for the narcissistic while you are healing. Feeling pressure to pray for the abuser keeps them in the forefront of your mind. Heal first , then when you are capable to mention their name and not feel sick to your stomach, then praying for them doesn’t include bad things to happen to them. Take your time.
I've been listening to many videos about narsissit whole day finally you the last one who speaks about prayer and i believe in miracles God is the God of wonders
Thank you for this! I have prayed for him but not this deeply. I am so appreciative of this understanding n help in reference to my forgiveness of his harm to me
Part of me is excited to hear the hope that God can change hearts but the other part is that I don’t believe they heal or change 😢 however God also gives us free will to choose or not to choose him if the narc don’t want to repent it’s their choice not mine. It’s a hard one I wish I have hope in this.
Thank-you for your video its what I needed right now, I watched your other video on narcissism as well. My partner self sabotaged her way out of our loving caring relationship. I was weak and fell to the temptation of venting my anger, demanding she acknowledge her words and actions (after gaslighting me a-lot) and she left. Its now that shes left into the world I fear that the other man she's with may not be as ... gracious as I was. I also see how she needs deliverence appearing to switch from angry and resent-full to remorse and then straight back to angry and bitter and unreasonably demanding. She sometimes appears to forget the things she has said when she is her true self. I refuse to listen to the message of the world that says "this person is toxic, just forget them, give up on them and move on" I was always praying for her and she called me the other day, and shared a story about her childhood abuse, I felt like at times I was hearing her true self but cannot know for sure. But it came after a day of praying for breakthrough. I don't insist god bring her back to me (although part of me wants her back) but she has gone into the world chasing success and relationships that will make her social media profile look great even if it comes at the cost of her integrity. I pray that God deliver her from this self destructive behavior, and that she could have time to heal, love herself, and experience gods love so she can cast aside the temptation of the ego.
These are good things to pray for non-narcissists as well! Since our fallen nature tends toward these characteristics (just some people more than others). And we all need healing that only God can give, when He is in His rightful place in our lives.
Christian empaths like us are magnets for people with NPD. I am praying for my narc boss who is a Christian leader and minister as I am under contract of employment that I can’t break for 2 yrs without consequences. God did allow and put me in this position I have no doubt but I do doubt that he wants me to be psychologically harmed by this man, I need guidance and wisdom from Him!
Thanks great teacher...l will record your teaching which is the holy spirit...and during workout time agree with and speak the family name. They run in packs.l want the heavenly rewards and will turn pain into gain. You are the only one to give scriptures on it. I love God and healing is quick. I see blessings instantly after discardment. Love 💕 Love
There is only one other thing I think to add to the prayer list for this. That is for God to break any trauma bond the narcissist has with whomever instilled the trauma in them that lead them to developing narcissism in their soul. I have experienced this with the narcissist in my life. I noticed that when they stay away from the one (in this case their parent) that was and is abusive they would tend to not be as bad with the narcissist traits, and would begin to see that what their abuser did and does is wrong. However, when they would begin to go around the abuser more, the narcissistic traits would start to manifest in them more. Even though they know it's not good for them to be around that person they can't seem to just let go and keep distance for good because of the trauma bond. And they know what they did to them as a child and still do to others is wrong but they will start defending them to others once they start going around them often again.
Dealing with a troublesome sibling in faith and this hits home not just with the sibling but personally as well. Sometimes our struggles with others are God showing us a mirror to our own flaws that we’d otherwise refuse to be able to see. Definitely the end is correct. We sometimes hit Matthew 18 and have to let the narcissist hit rock bottom.
Thank you so much for this advice. I pray for everyone that’s dealing with this type of person in their lives. May God continue to bless you. Amen 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
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Praying for a narcissist:
1 - Pray for healing in the foundation cracks. 3:02
2 - Pray for the power of generational inequity to be broken. 4:21
3 - Pray that the narcissist knows his or her value as a child of God. 5:52
4 - Pray that the narcissist would be delivered from the sin of idolatry. 7:31
5 - Pray that the lies narcissists believe about themselves and others be exposed to them and that they will know the truth. 9:09
6 - Pray that the narcissist would elevate God in His rightful place in his or her life, and stop turning to people to be their source of supply. 10:16
7 - Pray for the narcissist to have the disposition of love, joy and peace. 10:44
8 - Pray for the narcissist to be healed of mother issues.11:10
9 - Pray for the narcissist to not harden their hearts when God speaks because narcissism is a hardness of heart issue. 11:42
10 - Pray that God will take their heart of stone and give them a heart of flesh. 12:30
11 - Pray that God would do whatever is takes to bring a narcissist repentance, even if that means they have to hit rock bottom. 12:47
Thank you Wilma. For my diary. It is also very helpful to reveal my own narc. Blind spots. How to pray in to them in your own life. So thanks for writing. God bless you sister
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@@kimothy1377 Big pleasure - I am doing this for my narc as well.
Appreciate this. Thank you
Thank you for doing this!
Thank you Wilma for providing the timestamps and for the summary for these amazing prayers 🙏🏼 ❤️ 🙏🏼
Thank you. It was so helpful.
I finally find someone who talks about narcissism from a Christian perspective
I’m so glad the video was helpful!
Absolutely, the world’s way of dealing with narcissism only satisfies the flesh, but to overcome fleshly attitudes, we need to use the spiritual armour as in Ephesians 6, this is a matter of evil versus Holiness, and as believers we surely know who wins hands down
Ywsss!!!!
There is also THE ROYAL WHEE, but I prefer Shaneen, she is sweeter and more gentle. I noticed how much is important to me to find acknowledged people ralking about tjis topic from a place of calm and kindness as the minimum tone of bitterness against narcissism triggers mine in me against my narcissists. Thanks God, this never happens to me with Shaneen's videos. She is a blessing, with all those standing against this demon8c tzunami called narcissism..
Bless her!!♡♡♡♡♡♡♡
The world keeps telling us were suppose to abandone a loved one because of their narcissism. Pretty sure christ went to the cross for them too, so happy to find someone teaching grace and mercy and giving prayer points, cause when your in the storm it can be hard to see the heart of the problem.
I was so grieved and brokenhearted when I started reading and watching videos about narcissists that I started crying in a way that i realized reflected deep sorrow. I haven't cried like that in a long time. The world teaches you to basically discard them like they don't matter, but narcissism has formed in some people because they experienced abuse. Some people will probably never change because they don't want to, but some are blinded and just need help. But we aren't the ones to fix them, God is. I believe in the power of Jesus Christ. He died for the narcissists as well. I won't give up on the people who I know are narcissists. Even if that means praying for them from a distance and not communicating with them, but I refuse to give up. God has never given up on me. I pray in the mighty, all powerful and precious name of Jesus Christ that everyone who has been broken and abused by narcissists that their hearts will be completely healed and freed from demonic control. Freedom in Jesus's Name. Jesus Jesus Jesus.
Thank you Janae for your prayers ❤️🙏
@@aleksandrainkumsah7927 God bless
Amen🙏
Very well said !
I agree completely!
Amen. I totally agree with you. My husband is a covert narcissist. I’m just now learning about narcissistic abuse. It’s a hard dark place to be in. I praying for hood salvation daily. I had to separate myself from him because the toxic behavior & disrespect was overwhelming. We all need Jesus and the Narc does too!!
Finally someone who is shedding the light that narcissism is a spiritual and psychological disorder. All the videos I’ve watched prior to yours are missing this crucial fact. Most of them say that narcissist are beyond redemption but as you point out, this is not true because God is our healer as well as our redeemer. This is a battle that only His Grace can win. Thank you for your insightful and powerful advice.
There is another channel that connects the dots, The Royal We
Many other Christians even write them off
I am Christian. I know and believe that God appointed and joined me together with my wife in marriage. I am committed to her. I know her family history and background and know that this contributed to her narcissistic ways. I have been praying for her but without real direction. I fully agree with all the points you make and they give me clarity and direction. I know that it is near impossible for someone suffering from narcism to recover, but I have made a decision to have faith and to pray for her, and to learn all about narcism and try to apply as much as possible and believe that in God nothing is impossible and that she will, in His time be healed. Thank you so much for your videos, they are a real Blessing!
Bless you
A year has gone by since you posted this and I related so deeply with your sentiment. I had to walk away from my fiance because he hurt me so much. I stayed a long time and tried very hard to help him heal. I physically have deteriorated. I clung to hope and my friends and loved ones told me to pay attention to his response and what it meant. So I did.
I hope you are emotionally safe and feel loved. If you are willing would you please share what has happened? I guess I'm still looking for hope.
I would only add to pray against the spirit of pride, specifically, and ask the Lord to help them truly humble themselves.
I am her mother. When she was 3yrs old I married a man who I thought loved me & my children. He was abusive to me & my daughter. Psychologically & eventually physically. I am now fully aware that the blame is on me. Thank you for showing how to pray for my daughter. If anyone reads this, please pray for my family. My grandchildren & I are desperately missing each other. I miss my daughter too.
Praise God Sister, you are truly looking at the problem from the Heavenly Father's view, the biblical perspective always wins because God never loses a battle, keep up the good work, blessings.
Thank you!
Yes looking at this in view of scripture
Narcissism is the world term for a Jezebel spirit, Elijah demonstrated who God is at Mt Carmel, Jehu lead by the Spirit of God just through her to the ground from up where she was and she died. We should destroy Jezebel with the sword of the Spirit, pray for the Narcissist and wage spiritual warfare, we cannot hate them and love God, it doesn't work, God wins whichever we look at, Narcissism is demonic.
@@lemonadedrink8994 i concur.
That's exactly how I feel. You said that perfectly
I ended a relationship with someone 7 months ago because of ongoing emotional abuse. I prayed this prayer over her 3 days ago. She texted/sms me today, after 6 months of no contact, saying I have been weighing on her mind for the last 3 days and she is praying for me. I don’t know what to do, so I prayed once more and believe that God is stirring her spirit. Maybe she doesn’t understand His confrontation. Pray with me that He will heal her from spiritual blindness 🙏🏻
Cool.... blessings 🎁❤️
My Narc hoovered me too, I using God as well. Pray for a. Safe distance. Be wise. I wish I hadn’t fallen. Now divorcing. Be wise.
@@dilciaenid57 you are right. Thank you for your message. It has been a year now. I’m so glad I stayed no contact. I realizing how free I have become over the last few months. I’m thankful you took that bold step. Your soul will recognize the reward soon 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
You are a good human being for praying for her. Now REMEMBER to keep NO or MINIMAL contact!
Hi can I pray for both? Can I biblically give you some insights? Can we partner and pray together for those we love? Can I have your email? I would like to hear more.
My husband had moments of awareness but lasted minutes or a day or two. The war between flesh and spirit was raging. I could see it like black and white. The black was much bigger. He ended up nearly killing me as I stood for righteousness and truth. I will be praying. God loves him✝️🙏🏻
When you said my husband has moments of awareness but they don’t last spoke mountains to me I pray for you Danielle and your husband your marriage life please God please God be with Daniel amen
Don't put your life at risk, pray from a distance.
Mine too. Divorcing for my peace. I pray he heals, far away from me.
Me too...I called the police and he turned the plate totally and played the victim and accused me!
Was already separated, but got him to do Ancient Paths with me. Same thing happened...conviction, softness of heart etc, but he did not follow through on the things he said in that realization and door just shut again.
I thank God for you Sis. 🙏
After 17 years of marriage I knew something wasn't right I didn't have a name for it. But God has been revealing it to me gradually. Most secular life coach you listen to says there isn't any hope for a narcissist. As a Christian I am taught that you can be delivered. Thank you for giving hope and listening to the Voice of the Most High God. 💜
Awesome, I feel you. It's such a difficult and seemingly lonely life, and know your E-friends understand. See you on the other side.
With God ALL things are possible, even this.
I'm in your exact same spot - 17yrs as well! Your message came straight from my heart. I've always prayed for a biblical wife, that God form me into a righteous husband and keep my heart soft so I can one day forgive her and then love her the way I've wanted to since our wedding day. That is when "Mr Hyde" first came out and I've been living an episode of "what happened to my girlfriend/fiance?" ever since. I haven't been married to the person I fell in love with and proposed to. I come to accept that was all fake - but I still trust that God can move mountains......and I'm stocking up on shovels!
I had a narcissist come into my life 8 yrs ago. I didn't know anything about narcissism so I didn't recognize it and like you there has been a gradual revelation. This man has built my relationship with God in ways that never would have happened without the great need to hug close to God as I deal with him on a daily basis. More recently he has caused me to see a deep need for healing that I had a blind spot to. God has walked me masterfully through this time with this man. Many things God told me what to do in dealing with him often right in the moment which has helped me to hear God better. I'm learning from Shaneen God was telling me the right things to do like when to walk away, recognizing he was gaslighting and not taking it in and many of the other manipulations God gave me eyes to see and wisdom to know what to do. I refuse to hate him and I refuse to give up on him. Right now, he is a man bound for hell. I also believe God brought him into my life so he would have someone to stand in the gap and pray for him. I believe with all my heart that he is going to be delivered and he will become the man God intends him to be. I refuse to give up praying for him and this video was so very helpful in giving me more in depth and specific ways to pray. Thank you Shaneen and @juniaosme2396 for taking a Godly stand in believing God can do anything. He is the God of the impossible, miracles and most high Deliverer.
Amen!
Thank you. I grew up with narcs. Dad, deceased these past 18 years remained unrepentant. My needs were not met, and he beat me and tortured me from the time I was a few weeks old, and yet, I never became a narc. I'm a Christian since I was 11 and have been surrounded by them all my life. I married one and both my kids are narcs too. I will begin to pray for their healing of the wounds inflicted upon them as young children. I failed them too by not understanding how to meet their emotional needs. Their father was a malignant narc, also gone 17 years, who tried to kill me on three occasions that I know of and my son also tried once. But God has kept me safe and in His will. Many blessings.
Deliverance is the only way
So grateful for this Video!! Wrote so many notes. I will form a personal prayer for my husband of 27 years. I could only bring myself to pray "God I give him to you because I dont know what to pray, and I'm too much in pain to find words". Now I have embraced these words today to help. May God bless you!! Thank you for your dedicated work to the Lord.
True
God is the Same… Yesterday, Today and forevermore! Any abuse thrown on people will be dealt with. Any evil in this world Will NOT change Gods Uktimate Plan for His people who Love him.
Remember that.
“GOD Has His Way about things”
Release your Sorrow… Use “Self Care” for Therapy. Take walks, talk to God.
I have a Narcissist ADD husband, he can be viscious with words, But I stand Amy ground now… With a Healthy LOVE for myself to be Strong in Christs Spirit.
I say it Firm,” I will Not accept your Condemning words”…. Then I walk away and give him Negative Consequence. He is slowing down on doing that because it doesn’t benefit him.
Pray for Healing , read Psalms… and Keep going… STAY BUSY…. Get a Loving Christian Counselor.
I will pray for you.
“Be Still And KNOW.. I am GOD”, Saith the LORD
Wow. Can any survive abuse that long and still get excited when they find a tool to help their abuser. My applause to you.
My dear sister in Christ. I am in the same situation. I have also mil with us and instead of helping him heal she keeps destroying but both need God and Jesus to heal them. I prayed for God’s intervention and deliverance for them but just like you I have no words but God hears my groaning of the heart. This video is an answer to my prayer. We pray and we leave it to God. This battle belongs to God and for His glory we shall see the victory. Bless you
That is the exact words I pray for my husband of 48 years,because I really don't know what to pray for him anymore. And sometimes I have to fight against the bitterness because he stole my whole life. Satan is really trying to get me bitter and hateful. It's a dayly fight
You are God’s gift to the bruised and broken. Love you in Christ sister ❤🙏
This video is truly Letting Go and Letting God. Sometimes those around the narcissist think we can fix the problem and we spend a lifetime trying fix it. In reality, only God can change any of us. He does for us what we cannot do for ourselves. I thank God for these prayers that we can ask of him. May he open our hearts and open our Spirits. May he bring healing to this epidemic that only his love can heal.
The narcissist can choose to reject God. He will never take away their free will. We need to keep our own eyes on Christ Jesus and abide in His peace regardless 🕊️
Yes
Amen
@@ShaneenMegji please pray for me. I just escaped barely with my life from my narcisstic husband and his super narcisstic parents!!! I barely survived coming out with 4 broken ribs, stranglation, emotional, financial abuse. God showed me a bright red demoned shaped as a fetus in the core of my husband. There are generational curses and they catholic italians. Strangest people i ever met. Seemed to be loving at the start but really evil. I pray for them. I sent my husband a letter of forgiveness, love and told him i pray but we all have free will. Free will is a gift and it is between him and God. God loves him so true. My husband had the exact childhood you explained. All so true your amazing with your understanding. Thankyou✝️🙏🏻
... A Narasstic person will NEVER submit their will to God because they THINK they are God. A narasstic person KNOWS what they are doing and TAKES pleasure in doing it. Therefore asking God to forgive them and saying the famous and precious words of Jesus and Stephen to justify these narcarrsstic people behavior is absurd. Using Father forgive them for they know NOT what they are doing is a LIE, because these narcarrsstic people ABSOLUTELY know what they are doing, and again many takes pleasure in hurting and mistreating others, and many narcarrsstic people WILL boldly tell you that they KNOW what they are doing is WRONG and hurtful but they DON'T care about how it hurt, shame or belittle another person. We, especially Christian's need to STOP making excuses for these narcarrsstic people and their evil wicked behaviors. Narcarrsstic people are just evil, wicked, egotical prideful arrogant people who feel self important superior to others and feel entitled and they expect others to bow down to them as if they are God themselves. A narcarrsstic person is a person that is being used as an agent of satan and their lives are void of Almighty God and the Spirit of God DOESN'T dwell within them. For these poeople of children of satan himself and takes pleasure in doing what pleases satan and themselves. There are many people in mental wards or therapy because of these narcarrsstic people and their mental, verbal, physical and emotional abuse, so let's STOP using Father forgive them for they know NOT what they do, using these beautiful words are just a scapegoat for pacifying a narcasstic person evil wicked behavior. Just real talk here.
@@forerunnerforjesus1291 Thought-provoking comment! I had also wondered if we should pray for these people at all, since they enjoy being evil? In 1.Corinthians 5 it says:
"11 But now I am writing to you not to associate with anyone who bears the name of brother if he is guilty of sexual immorality or greed, or is an idolater, reviler, drunkard, or swindler-not even to eat with such a one.
12 For what have I to do with judging outsiders? Is it not those inside the church whom you are to judge?
13 God judges those outside. “Therefore put away from among yourselves that wicked person!”
Also it is written in 1.John 5,16:
If anyone sees his brother committing a sin not leading to death, he shall ask, and God will give him life - to those who commit sins that do not lead to death. *There is sin that leads to death; I do not say that one should pray for that.*
So since we are not even to pray for brethren when they commit sins to death(?), why should we always pray for those evil ones who are outside and don´t want to obey CHRIST?
On the other hand, it is written in Matthew 5,44:
But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, *and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;*
God's peace be with you!
Just watched War Room last night, and this video puts a perfect bow on the inspiration to pray strategically. Thank you for these detailed notes on how to pray. It’s just what I needed. Also, I love how you don’t put God in a box…ask God to go back in time? Outrageous…and amazing. Before my husband was, Jesus is there and is the I AM.
I prayed fervently for 9 years that my ex narcopath husband would be delivered and change into a normal, rational person. After a decade of suffering, God led me to a church service that talked about reprobate minded people and to let them go and move on. I no longer devote any time to these demons anymore.
Would love to be able to listen to that church service. Can you provide a link?
@@priestlyscribe it was an in person service at a small, local church. I don't even remember the name of it, sorry.
I pray for the man i love, pray to heal.his false pride. He has a wunderful soft heart, but his false pride destroied our loving relationship. His false pride rooted in his head, causing destruction, negative thinking and resentment. He broke me to loosing my hope and value in life. Making me feeling completely distroyed, worthless, devaluing me and my life to a 0, and attributting to me all evil features. It was painful, cruel and it broke his and my heart.
So greatful fisrt time in my life to welcome a spiritual prayer regarding the issue with much Gods love towards the person being narcisstic. God bless you much
This is the most important video I ever heard!!!! It is God's provision for the desperate!!!!
Thank you for your great work!!!!
So many years ago but prayed for a man and what strongholds and was always getting…don’t cast your pearls before swine. Tied in with Asperger’s ahab spirit and the wiring and emotional void. Married and found out many years too late. They project onto you, never marry a non Christian. My son has. Such destruction daughter hates the church. So her spirit is against the Holy Spirit and began to have issues, selfish and hard. Had been like sisters.
It's like a triangle.....you, God and the one you are praying for...all three HAVE to be in agreement ❗
But what about Matthew 5,44 ? :
But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and *pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;*
These people are definitly not in agreement with GOD and His children, thats why they persecute us.
@@JesusChristusistdasLicht well I think that would or should be taken under your personal discernment. If you think or feel you should pray for a narcissist then I think you should. Maybe God will bless you for that 🕊️🕊️🕊️
@@JesusChristusistdasLicht did Jesus pray for the pharases ❓
@@tootienottoofruitie1726 No. He accused them of being hypocrites. He publicly exposed them and called them snakes and vipers breed.
@@tootienottoofruitie1726 thanks thanks thanks. I agree. Please contact.me If you would.l will leave contact. This is new..the demon vanished in August. Then smear my name and shared personal things. They know what they do.
Wow wow wow! Shaneen!🙏🏿 God has given you a real gift here. Please continue with these videos. Everytime I feel like you’re using Gods guidance and teaching to share information. May God bless you abundantly 👏🏿🙏🏿 we appreciate you🥰
Thank you Sarah! 🤗
Agree
I agree, these prayer points were a direct download from the Throne of Grace.
God has led me to scripture and prayer that covers the same prayers outlined here! Confirmation. I am being guided by the Holy Spirit to pray for my husband. God has given me eyes to see my husband's pain.
Wow! That is amazing. God is so faithful! God bless you Diane, and may God answer all your prayers! 🙏🏽🕊
Oh God is Great and I thank you so much for this videos. I was about to file for divorce. Listening to you have changed my mind about praying 🙏 because I have prayed for over a year and nothing has changed. I'm going to use the same prayers outlined here like Diana is sharing. Thank you so much! Diana you're in my prayers as well 🙏 ❤ 💕
I praise the good Lord for you sister. True their acts are cold and cruelty but God knows everything and no healing is impossible for Him. 🙏
Would you share the scriptures and prayers you have found? Thank you.
Finally a detailed prayer for my narc wife. Yesterday i was rebuked by my cell group turned into her flying monkeys. I kept silent but i was wrong by explaining via whattsap about gaslighting. I should just quiet and let those flying monkeys, my own friends, rebuke. Thank God I found these prayer today. Thanks Shareen. God bless u.
Wow...praising God for this wonderful ministry!!! After fighting through the worldly view on narcissism that grieved me...this brings hope and faith!!!
yes, ma'am
It does bring hope!
@lilirebeccaskinner6670 I want to let you know, I was going to comment on this video but as I was scrolling through the comments, and came across yours. Your comment says what I wanted to say and I know it was God's will for me to see your comment. I have searched, studied, and listened to videos concerning the world's views on narcissism. It was futile and praise God Shaneen's video kept coming to my spirit. It is God's will that I found Shaneen's ministry. May God bless her in her much-needed ministry and may many more people be blessed and find her and benefit from her Godly knowledge. 🙏
Thank you! 😭😭😭
This has got to be one of the most painful situations that I have ever had to endure!!!
I love and hate a Narcissist!!
I have never ever been so hurt and never ever been so angry!
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It’s my daughter in law!! The very mother of my most precious and beloved grandchildren!!
She is ripping my heart right out of my chest….
And to know that all this pain stems from her childhood trauma, is a double whammy for my heartache!!! I have never known how to handle this situation. I hate her one day, and love her even more the next (deep deep empathy)!!! This has been going on for 10 long horrible years. I just want all the pain to STOP 🛑 .
She is hurting my grandchildren, and that is tearing me apart! 😭
Please help me pray for her, my son, and my two beautiful grandchildren!! I don’t want her out of our lives! We need her! I want more than anything for this to just all stop!! But, it won’t, because “IT” all depends on her.
I have never had family enemies. And we will never ever be an enemy to her. Please help me to pray that God will continually work on my heart!! Pray that we are wise enough to catch the enemy in his tracks, and not be led into the abyss of horror with him!! We must REMEMBER:
Ephesians 6:12
“For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.”
.KJV
“Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.”
James 4:7 KJV
Resist the devil and he will FLEE!!
Thank You one and all of my brothers and sisters in Christ for agreeing with me in prayer 🙏 🙏🙏. ♥️♥️♥️
I, too, have grandchildren who are living this horror in real time. You have my sympathy and deep understanding. May God protect our grandchildren from the insidious harm placed upon them as well as our sons.
I am living this hellish nightmare as well. Nothing is impossible with God, let's believev it together. We can trust that He loves our family members more that we do and that He doesn't give up on them even when we feel we can't do it anymore. In my humanness I am so mad at her and deeply hurt by her words and behaviors towards me and my family, but your reminder is true, it is not her but the enemy who we battle against. I had a dream about my daughter-in-law that when she was a child a huge snake and alligator overtook her, and she was helpless. I believe the snake is a lying spirit and the alligator a curse upon her family for generations. This dream has carried me through the hard times, reminding me she is in bondage and God sent her to our family for a reason and maybe that is to pray for her freedom. I have clearly drawn boundaries to protect our family from the damage she causes, and I do believe that has been a game changer. Now, I can more clearly pray for her without the constant damage and pain.
This is one of your best videos, and I bet will be the most liked. If we followers of Messiah say nothing is impossible with Abba, how can we not do our part and pray, especially us warrior wives who go to battle for our husband's? Be separated if need be, no contact even, but pray fervently. I pray many blessings upon you daughter. 😊
Thank you! 🙏🏽
@@InvestInTime I will pray for you to be able to escape from this toxic relationship. Adonai please protect your daughter and her child, mentally and physically and give her wisdom in how to leave this situation. Amen! We can always pray for the narc in our life while we are leaving and safely out of harms way. Take courage. Our Father will make a way for you.
Pray for me and my children please.
Yes, I left him, but I am praying for him. I’m very concerned for him.
Encouraging, as I almost gave up praying for my narcissistic husband after being known him for past 15 or so years. Thank u🙏
Been praying for my husband for years. May God help him see more clearly his childhood trauma and heal him to overcome his current struggles. Thanks for your heavenly point of view. When I married him God showed me who he really is. Now after 31 years he left me for worldly pleasers and supply from others. I pray for his soul! In the mean time I can't have contact. When I do I struggle myself. I love him so much and have prayed for him for so long. We have been through so much. I guess he has to hit rock bottom before he see the truth.
Sexual impurity and adultery be prayed to be healed
I have been praying for a narcissist, my wife of 27 years. Regarding free will, God revealed to me yesterday Psalm 33:15. While we do all have free will, God forms (as a potter forms clay by squeezing it) our hearts, which is our feelings, intellect and will. This was very encouraging to me.
It's called "wedging" - the purpose is remove every impurity of any kind in the clay body so it won't be "spoiled" when the vessel is fired in the kiln & breaks from something as small as even an air bubble temaining in the clay. Yes, there is so much to glean in Holy Spirit's dealing with us, from the preparing of the "clay" through the making of the vessel, & its being "fired."
Mr. Smith I prayed for your wife with tears streaming from eyes. The Lord bless you, your wife and marriage.
@@lanicewhite376 Beautiful analogy
@@lanicewhite376 Amen and amen 🙌
But being around them gets you or your children sick!!
It's really tough to pray for the narcissist. It feels a little bit like praying for Satan. It's hard to distinguish between the narcissists will to be evil and the victim of bondage that holds them.
Agreed
😂🤣Like praying for satan😂🤣
Yes my sweet sister it does but one thing as children of the Most High do, we pray for those that cannot and will not pray for themselves! If we keep this mindset then praying for them to be healed won't be possible because we already are defeated in our thoughts! I BELIEVE GOD can change the heart of man (not just a physical man) but any human being if they want to be changed, He can heal set free and deliver them but a willing vessel is the key! I always say Lord, not my will but your will be done! Blessings Queen!
You are right. I have been praying for him for 18 years.
@@missyadams3542 Yes Missy, YAHsome!
Thank you so much to speak life into such a painful experience. I believe that even though this has been the most painful experience I have ever encountered, that God turns all crooked paths straight. When the devil meant for evil, God used it for good. Perhaps this happened for us to intercede on their behalf. I feel no hate. I feel sadness for my narcissist.
Yes, what the enemy means for evil, God means it for good. 💯Bless you. 🙏🏽😊
Very helpful... finally someone telling me there is “hope”🙏🏻
There will always be hope. The key is hoping in God, not man.
There is hope for them but in the after life. This video is not a reason to stay in contact with a Narcissist. No Contact is the only known technique for self preservation
You have an extraordinary gifting Shaneen which transcends any professional training which qualified psychiatrists have. It reminds me of the film “The King’s Speech” where the man who helps the King to stop stammering so he can inspire the nation with speeches at a time of war, that man had no qualifications but just knew what to say and do to bring healing. You are so thorough in your insights which just flow so fluently from your mouth. It is very refreshing!
I know a narcissist and I believe he started with mother abandonment issues. May God heal him and convict him and humble him
I have one to add 🙋♀️ they lack love or even been loved so for God to send people into their lives to pour love and for them to accept love 💕
My narcissistic sister verbally abused me to the point I developed PTSD from the trauma (I had been in an abusive marriage). It was hard to find someone who could understand that I couldn't read the bible; I couldn't read at all. I couldn't pray for myself, her, or anyone else and my body completely shut down. I can finally pray for her so I came back to this video. Since I cut off communication, I'll be sending her my prayers for Christmas this year. Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to all. God Bless all who read this.
All you say speaks to me, thank you for the encouragement. I am composing a prayer for my wife (and myself) and am drawing extensively from your video and PDF. In my own case, when I pray, I ask God to remove my pride and replace the pride with humility and this seems to help me in my relationship with God and self as much as anything. Your message is the first I have experienced that offers hope for narcissists; most "experts" seem to concentrate on disparaging and punishing the narcissist all the while affirming their victim hood. Bless you for encouragement in The Trinity's supreme power to heal and recover a soul through earnest prayer. As always: God's will be done.
That was beautiful. I also pray and ask them to give JOY a chance! Permanent joy! Not any instant gratification that feels like HAPPY! but pure joy from within the H-eart that nothing on Eart-h can touch, remove or take away. May we protect and safeguard our new and circumcized heart of flesh. Ahmein
Thank you for sharing this awesome video. I have been married for 11yrs to my narssisist husband and I have been praying 🙏🏼 a long time. And you're right about the parents, my father-in-law is the 👑 king of the narrsisist and so God revealed to me that a part of the root and I had to pray for him as well. I'm praying 🙏🏼 this prayer for them both because I know God is able, what is impossible for man...IS POSSIBLE with GOD💞. God bless you my beautiful sister 🙏🏼
God bless you too Glory 🙏🏽❤️. Yes, our God is so able. May He continue to guide you and bring you peace 🕊.
I can't express my gratitude that I found your videos Shaneen. I am a covert narcissist. Thank you so much, and God bless you. Thank you.
Simply, thank you. So many are not seeing this from the spiritual warfare perspective. You touched on all the key areas of prayer in reference to NPD.
I’m so glad the video was helpful. God bless you. 🙏🏽
I LOVE ❤️ love❤️ love your channel. So glad I found you. I watched hundreds of videos on narcissism but no one talks about It from the biblical perspective.
I’m so glad my videos have been helpful. Bless you 😊🙏🏽
I am so bless! I've been praying for so long and was giving up because everything I read and hear its so negative about my nar. husband. I have a different view and praise God 🙌 🙏 for this video.
I echo these sentiments! Shaneen is saving Christian women trapped in these relationships one video at a time. She is the only one I've heard tackling this from a biblical perspective. Can't get enough of listening to them.
God is so good your videos have been aligning up with my healing journey from my ex narcissist. Just when I start to feel discouraged or allow bitterness to take hold there God is using people like you. Thank u I will add so much more to my prayer.
Bless you Miztruth! 🙏🏽🤗
Oh my Lord 🙏 I've been married for 17 years now and I've never received this teaching before I usually pray ,fast, and it just grew worst but I didn't know the name of it, and truly I'm weak and in a lot of emotional pain but just listening all of what you say, it just give me hope to pray for him again and I do believe that through your direction of prayers my pain and weakness and wounds will be heal, God bless you for being so honest and loving and helpful, I am a Christian and I love God, but this marriage as worn me out bitterly, but I'm gonna pray again, I'm here honestly was waiting on him to die, because I can't do nothing more , but you have shown me light through Christ Jesus ,and I take it, I received it, you are not an ordinary one your different your special, your one of God,s masterpiece, and I believe that God is going to use me some day as he is doing in you now. God bless you😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
It's so great discovering the whole covert narc disorder thing from just everyday videos like this, dropping off all of the guilt and shame and all of the hardcore drugging and all. Really, even alcohol is simply a broken attempt to just regular deal with the fake narc script and once we see the problem, then we can stop all of these self-abuse sessions we kept crawling back to. I like the quote Physician, heal thyself, speaks to me in this chapter of my life, to heal myself, chapter II. Thank you for the😊.
For me, the best thing i can do is pray for myself to shut off, my inclination to become very viciously angry is a problem totally separate from the narc, i own that now and reacting by raising my voice because every time i am in the middle of a sentence, they quickly overlap that with some prerecorded line they insult with. Anger destroys the angered and is no good for anyone or anything.
10 is in The Neverending Story II, one of the greatest films ever made.
Thank You so much. I AM so happy because now l feel so much informed.
I discovered how far his betrayel went yesterday. I knew but never looked in his phone or accounts! I am having a super hard time with forgiveness. I know I have to forgive to be forgiven. Lord have mercy and help me forgive.
I know I've been there, but remember forgiveness is not for the narrsisist... It's for you🙏🏼 and if God's says it we shall obey. I pray that God shall take away your troubled ❤️ heart and replace it with a ❤️ heart of peace 🕊️.
Keeping forefront that you are NOT forgiving their actions, but their soul. And it's so you don't have hate or animosity in your heart that will just continue to hurt you. It's a process. And one I've found that requires becoming validated. Realizing that you are not responsible for their actions in any way.
Some years ago I watched the Moses Code...I was not a believer then so it is not about the Story per se ..but there was a husband and father and his wife was killed and he said what must have happened to the guy who killed my wife that he was able to do that. It is not an excuse for what he did because it was a tragedy but it is to look from a higher perspective. We do not fight against flesh and blood. I was 20 years in a fake relationship with a Narcissist and he was willing to kill me (by proxy) but it was never personal it is just a reflection of their inner darkness. Let's put on the armor of God and pray for the light to make them see who they are. The Bible said Jesus died for us when we still were enemies to God... He overcame the World and so we will. Bless you.
So you stay with a Husband who betrays you, a man who lives in the sin of fornication. I have to ask you something: Why do you show the world your cleavage? Do you think that pleases God? No it doesn´t because by doing so you cause weak brothers in Christ to sin. Is that what you want? Please think (better pray) about it and then let your insights be followed by action.
I greet you with 1. Peter 3,1-7 and Galatians 5,16
GOD bless you!
I recently read a quote by Derek Prince. He said, "You were forgiven (by Christ) the unforgivable. You must also forgive the unforgivable." The Lord then showed me I was wearing a heavy, filthy "coat," like a sheep's coat before it is shorn, full of years of hurt & pain & sorrow & a broken heart, drenched with tears...& unforgiveness. He told me to forgive so He could forgive me...then drop the coat on the floor & walk away. I cannot tell you the relief I felt. I can now begin to heal & pray for this person with clarity & with Holy Spirit's direction.
Men are not the only narcissist. I wish there was more on narcissistic women
Thank you Thank you
Thank you, Shaneen. Let us pray for these precious people. They are made in God's image and Satan has deceived them with his lies. God is much stronger than Satan, the chief Narcissist. Jesus is Victor.
Of course Jesus is the Victor..
Very well said.
Pray for:
1- Healing in foundational cracks/early childhood
2- The power of generational sin will be broken
3- That the narc knows/understands their value as a child of God
4- Deliverance from the sin of idolatry: their entitlement/status above God
5- Exposure of the lies the narc believes about themselves and others, and that they will know the truth
6- God’s elevation to the right place and repentance of using others as their supply
7- A true disposition of love, joy, and peace to replace anger, hatred, and envy
8- Healing from ‘mother issues’, especially related to abandonment or abuse, resulting in hatred and condescension
9- Softening of their hearts when God speaks
10- God will replace their heart of stone with a heart of flesh
11- God will bring them to repentance, whatever it takes, even for them to hit rock bottom, …rather than die without being able to forgive others as God has forgiven us
12: That the Kingdom of God would spread to the lives of others, as they witness how God brings healing to the relationship(s)
This is extremely powerful. Most videos about narcissism ‘right off’ the narcissist. These prayers speak to the roots of the issue and give me hope. 🙏🏼❤️
I love how you brought God into the subject. For years and years, I've struggled as I'm married to a very toxic woman. I can't even fully trust my therapist because her advice is from her wisdom, not God's. I also love that we are here to pray for our oppressors. My wife yelled and screamed at me just hours after my mom died because I wasn't able to pick her up from the bar at 2am. That's a very difficult memory to even bring up, but I'd only bring it up so that she may be healed. Thank you, I think my life is turning around. Pray for me so that I may have the strength to keep it up, as I've been here before. I'd think I was going to break free but something would give her that notation and she'd quickly highlight all my deepest insecurities. Man, I had to fight in three wars. I felt more at home there surrounded by supportive people than I do at home with my wife and child. Thank you for everything. God Bless you.
My husband was hell when my mum and dad left the planet, both left in the same week it was a very difficult time, they do it on purpose to get the spotlight back on them
Thank you, @Dawn Holmes@@dawnholmes2136I can appreciate that struggle, however, I can't imagine losing both within one week. You'll be in my prayers, sister.
This is most excellent. I have watched many videos on narcissism & haven't seen any that have viewed the condition from a Biblical perspective. It makes perfect sense. I've been praying for my narcissist for years. I can't tell you how grateful I am to you for showing me exactly how to do so. God bless you for the work you do & for your videos. Thank you.
Soooo true
My person is so full of shame. It makes her unable to have an adult conversation with out dramatic. It's definitely in the family line. Yes Lord we are of your culture and blood line.
Thank you so much for this! It confirmed for me that I am on the right track praying for them. Several of these I had been praying already; but you've gone deeper and wider, touching on aspects I had not yet considered. As a Christian I need to be very clear about the reasons I do or do not interact with the narcissist ... we are all accountable to God for how we respond to these challenges.
Another way I thought of to pray is for God to prevent people coming into their life who can be manipulated. Instead, pray for more people who will recognize their toxicity and manipulation and care enough to join in prayer for them instead of being apathetic, triggered or outraged. Good people who do nothing (and the prayers of a righteous person is far from nothing) merely perpetuate the course of evil.
Again, thank you and God bless your outreach!
God is smiling on you, you are precious in his sight! Your harvest is beyond!
Thank you! Bless you! 🙏🏽💕
I a previous video about why God would put a Narcissist in your life, I now see them all around me and to include me even thought as a son of a narcissist I can Relate to the empath I also see the narcissistic tendencies in my own self especially how I feel about women who remind me of my mother in the instant recoil I feel being around women like her even though I married one and couldn’t figure it out for the last 15 years that she also is a narcissist the difference being she is covert. Thank you for sharing your love for Christ as this is the bigest and best difference from other Videos who leave Christ out. Thank you
Thank You so much for your prayer suggestions, this made so much sense to me. My husband suffers from this disorder. He isn't a bad person, he just doesn't know who he is. He has been lost for so long and I finally feel like I have the words to pray to help him. I pray God blesses you for the wisdom you chose to share and I know the lord will redeem his lost children who are willing to humble themselves and be healed from the oppressive spirit of narcissism.
I find it interesting they maintain civility out in public but not at home
I just subbed to ur channel! It is so refreshing to have a child of God teach us about certain mental health issues. I am a Christian as well and Jesus Christ is my Lord and savior. Thank you so much! I think I found a channel that I will watch all the time!! Thanks again. Much love from Eastern NC ❤ 💙 ♥ 💕 💗 💛 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💪
I've been dealing with these kinds of people most my life. I'm glad I saw this because I didn't know how to deal with them. They were very disturbing toto me. I didn't know what was wrong but now I do.
This is the most complete and succinct description I’ve found for the origin and explanation of narcissism! God bless you, Shaneen, thank you!!!
Thank you so much!
Exactly . . i can finally sleep tonight. Narcissism is the real pandemic.
I've been praying daily for my narcissist. Some of the points I include in my prayers have been mentioned in this video and the others I will begin to include. I've had to go no contact with my narcissist and we haven't spoken for several years. I have no idea where they are or how they live. Some nights ago I dreamt of the narcissist and they told me that my prayers were helping. In the dream I took their hands and told them that we'll overcome this together (meaning the spiritual battle). These people desperately need our prayers. Narcissistic people may be impossible to deal with on the physical plane and we may need to physically walk away from them for our own protection but lets not abandon them spiritually.
What a powerful dream! And your words couldn’t be truer. God bless you! 🙏🏽💕
@@ShaneenMegji Thank you! God bless you too and your work.
I'm soo thankful for you..I'm going through hell right now figuring out what to do..if someone could pray for me and my narc husband I'd appreciate it
I think this type of thinking is just going to keep the victims of the narcissist holding on to hope they will change and continue the abuse by feeling sympathetic and empathic for the Narcissist will not change .
Thank you God for bringing Shaneen into my life....I have been watching umpteen number of videos on narcissist relationships and I had been looking for one from a Christian perspective and then I stumbled onto your video...I felt you were talking to me...I am so thankful to God..keep up the good work you are doing...you are making more sense of my life...I have been living with my narcissistic husband for the last 40 years and thanks to TH-cam, I realize that there are such toxic people in this world who cleverly disguise their disgusting personality..Every word you say now makes sense to me now.
I used to ask Jesus the best and wonderful councillor to council the person in countless situations for 28 years when communication became impossible,never realising I was actually dealing with narcissistic traits and I saw miracles .
Wow, what a testimony! Thank you for sharing!
When I have prayed for or given my narcissist husband to the Lord to help him, it seems that he becomes angrier and harder to deal with(I never tell him I have prayed for that for him). I don’t know if that is Satan hardening his heart to God’s will or my husband fighting against God opening his eyes and trying to help him.
I need someone to pray this for me. I just know that I'm a covert narcissist. But nobody sees it. Criticism or correction feels like dying, I have a constant need for attention, pity, admiration to fill my void and I just don't have empathy and remorse. I've been trying to hide this to the best of my abilities, but everything I do for others is fake. My name is Tabe.
I pray that you become free. ❤
Thank you dear Lord, for Shaneen and her ministry. THIS video is THE only true answer to us Christians with a narc in our lives.
A big prayer item is for God to make justice and expose the narc's lies against us, especially those told to our children and close relatives. Only God can do it, and regardless of the narc's disposition.
Thank you so much for this video. I believe Jesus has healed my narcissist husband because he gave me a vision, it hasn't manifested yet here on earth. Thank you Jesus that it's finished and I just have to walk by faith, it's your battle, not mine Lord. I just have to stand firm, put on the Armor of God. Thank you so much for this video gave me a greater understanding how I should be praying for my husband. In Jesus name. God bless you ❤
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Mum,im so grateful to God for you. I have so much Godly revelation now. I wondered how to deal with my narc husband as a Christian. I wanted a revenge yet a change for him but after this video, i feel sad for him. He hardly talks about his past, speaks ill of his parents especially mother and it all makes sense now. I'll forgive and pray for him. God bless you
I just love the tone you take in your videos. I’ve watched other videos on narcissism with passionate hosts. Their tone had a slight aggression that kept me from absorbing too much of their content. Your content leaves me feeling light, empowered, and hopeful. Thank you.
Thank you so much for your videos! It's easy to lose hope when listening to the worldly perspective on narcissists but with Jesus anything is possible! Thank you for addressing this issue from a biblical perspective!!
Thanks for the video! Most videos on youtube about narcissism only preaches to reject narcissists outright and never have any interaction with them again. Such "solutions" is neither practcical nor doable because narcisists are everywhere and entrenched in our lives, not to mention believe it or not we do love some of them. So your take to pray for them to have softened hearts and be healed of their illness is refreshing and actually gives me hope.
I love this! I needed to hear this though I knew all of this already we Christians tend to need reminded!
You are a Godsend! This is an answer to prayer 🙏🙌❤
I'm so glad. Praise God!
Thank you Sooooo very much for sharing this prayer strategy. I've been praying and fasting for my son's dad for so long, now in Gods perfect timing as we soon enter the season of decision for God, so much has been happening in these past few days. God showed me I was standing in the way and tried to take His place in saving my ex. I repented remorsefully and one of the next things started to flow. This prayer is exactly what we need right now. Not just for my ex but my mom too. God bless
I'm so glad the prayer has been helpful. May the Lord bring much healing to you and your family in Jesus' name. 🙏🏽🕊
There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. - Proverbs 12:18
Thank you SO MUCH, Lord Jesus, for Biblical Christian counseling from our humble sister Shaneen!
Dont feel guilty for not praying for the narcissistic while you are healing. Feeling pressure to pray for the abuser keeps them in the forefront of your mind. Heal first , then when you are capable to mention their name and not feel sick to your stomach, then praying for them doesn’t include bad things to happen to them. Take your time.
absolutely
I love you already atleast you are amazing I never pray for my husband I just feel hurt everyday I’ll try prayer this time
I've been listening to many videos about narsissit whole day finally you the last one who speaks about prayer and i believe in miracles God is the God of wonders
Wow this was so POWERFUL! PRAISE GOD I thank you so much! This is life and truth🔥☝🔥
Bless you Angel! 🙏🏽🤗
@@ShaneenMegji . How does one pray for someone suffering from schizophrenia?
Thank you for this! I have prayed for him but not this deeply. I am so appreciative of this understanding n help in reference to my forgiveness of his harm to me
Part of me is excited to hear the hope that God can change hearts but the other part is that I don’t believe they heal or change 😢 however God also gives us free will to choose or not to choose him if the narc don’t want to repent it’s their choice not mine. It’s a hard one I wish I have hope in this.
😭He acts POSSESSED for real😭
Thank-you for your video its what I needed right now, I watched your other video on narcissism as well. My partner self sabotaged her way out of our loving caring relationship. I was weak and fell to the temptation of venting my anger, demanding she acknowledge her words and actions (after gaslighting me a-lot) and she left. Its now that shes left into the world I fear that the other man she's with may not be as ... gracious as I was. I also see how she needs deliverence appearing to switch from angry and resent-full to remorse and then straight back to angry and bitter and unreasonably demanding. She sometimes appears to forget the things she has said when she is her true self. I refuse to listen to the message of the world that says "this person is toxic, just forget them, give up on them and move on" I was always praying for her and she called me the other day, and shared a story about her childhood abuse, I felt like at times I was hearing her true self but cannot know for sure. But it came after a day of praying for breakthrough. I don't insist god bring her back to me (although part of me wants her back) but she has gone into the world chasing success and relationships that will make her social media profile look great even if it comes at the cost of her integrity. I pray that God deliver her from this self destructive behavior, and that she could have time to heal, love herself, and experience gods love so she can cast aside the temptation of the ego.
This woman was PREACHING!!
Ha ha...thank you!
She was teaching but not in a church. She’s a gift to me and to my family.
Yes indeed she is preaching, amen. To reach the ears that need to hear her words, we are being blessed whether we know it or not.
I feel guilty for divorcing myself from my sister. Now I have a concrete system to pray for her
These are good things to pray for non-narcissists as well! Since our fallen nature tends toward these characteristics (just some people more than others). And we all need healing that only God can give, when He is in His rightful place in our lives.
Christian empaths like us are magnets for people with NPD. I am praying for my narc boss who is a Christian leader and minister as I am under contract of employment that I can’t break for 2 yrs without consequences. God did allow and put me in this position I have no doubt but I do doubt that he wants me to be psychologically harmed by this man, I need guidance and wisdom from Him!
Thanks great teacher...l will record your teaching which is the holy spirit...and during workout time agree with and speak the family name. They run in packs.l want the heavenly rewards and will turn pain into gain. You are the only one to give scriptures on it. I love God and healing is quick. I see blessings instantly after discardment. Love 💕 Love
Beautifully said. Thanks for sharing.
I have not spoken to the borderline ex in 4.5 years, and have not seen him in over 5 years, but I still pray for him from a distance.
Your videos have been SO VERY HELPFUL, CONFIRMING. Trying to work through this, prayerfully and wisely, in the name of Jesus 🤔😢🕊️🙏
There is only one other thing I think to add to the prayer list for this. That is for God to break any trauma bond the narcissist has with whomever instilled the trauma in them that lead them to developing narcissism in their soul. I have experienced this with the narcissist in my life. I noticed that when they stay away from the one (in this case their parent) that was and is abusive they would tend to not be as bad with the narcissist traits, and would begin to see that what their abuser did and does is wrong. However, when they would begin to go around the abuser more, the narcissistic traits would start to manifest in them more. Even though they know it's not good for them to be around that person they can't seem to just let go and keep distance for good because of the trauma bond. And they know what they did to them as a child and still do to others is wrong but they will start defending them to others once they start going around them often again.
Dealing with a troublesome sibling in faith and this hits home not just with the sibling but personally as well.
Sometimes our struggles with others are God showing us a mirror to our own flaws that we’d otherwise refuse to be able to see.
Definitely the end is correct. We sometimes hit Matthew 18 and have to let the narcissist hit rock bottom.
Thank you so much for this advice. I pray for everyone that’s dealing with this type of person in their lives. May God continue to bless you. Amen 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽