@@Kris_Reece I am 67 yrs old. Out of a relationship of 2.5 yrs. With your help God has shown me that with my relationship it was a caregiver one. He was angry, forgetful or sweet and kind. His mom had dementia bad. He is not going through relationship he is going through caregivers.
God is in peoples imagination, nowhere else. The bible was written by men out of their imagination. There isn’t a God with control. Otherwise, life on earth wouldn’t be so cruel. If there was a god he would be terribly cruel and narcisistic.
The most painful part is everyone else thinks they are just so wonderful. They have never nor probably will ever see the dark side, except those who are closest to them; and no, not necessarily their family. I have resentment from their family members, as though I am " ungrateful." They have NO CLUE what I have endured for DECADES.
Most people leave God when they get hurt. I figured out when feeling hurt move closer to God and you feel much better right away. You don't miss them. You miss God.
@Thinkaboutit1212 i miss God so much, I want to go home. I have no home here. Only a car. The narcissist took out his gutting knife on me. At Christmas one year she said" your getting nothing from me" i was the only one that she was that evil 😈 too. He took me home and went back to the party. She had given him 500.00. I just didn't want to be were there was no respect.
Narcissists cant admit when their wrong nor will they take responsibility. They have way too much pride and arrogance and selfishness that they will never repent.
@99rylee E--X--A--C--T--L--Y !!!! THAT IS A FACT!! That is what I told God. If he's waiting for my brother to ever be convicted by the Holy Spirit, forget it because he's resisted the holy spirit's conviction for so long that he's become reprobate. My brother is 100% blinded to his sin. It all started with having the worst, worst Pride. My brother has become so delusional that he actually is saying things that the devil must be telling him straight into his head and he's telling stories and making up things out of thin air. It's like he's delusional. his mind has been so completely taken over by the devil. He doesn't know the truth. God actually spoke to my heart about this and said, "You have spun your wheels for so long and have done everything you could to try to get through to them. But, they are never going to understand the truth because the truth is not in them". I know that my brother has resisted the conviction of the Holy Spirit over and over and over and that's why I kind of asked God today, okay it's been 5 years and he's only gotten worse. I think it's time that God comes and kicks the door down and exposes everything now. I pray for repentance and restoration with my family but my brother is a menace that needs to be stopped and I don't understand why God has allowed this to go on so long. He's literally done everything to try to kill my mother (left her in a place that he knew was abusing her, plus, he himself was severely mentally and emotionally abusing her, etc etc), as well as having maliciously done everything he could to literally destroy my life for 5 years. If God is waiting for him to wake up, it's never going to happen. Pride is the worst of the worst sin because it blinds the person where they can't see what they're doing wrong. It will drive the person who's on the opposite end absolutely crazy. It is the most wicked sin.
You're absolutely right. They will never admit that they are the one that's wrong. You may as well just leave & forget they existed. That's the only way you'll ever find peace.
Kris, I'm the Director of a counseling center. I recommend your channel all the time! Please keep helping others, blending it with God's Word. Too few people do that, and God is the only way to have resilience in life, especially dealing with behavioral heath issues!! Love you sister!!
This is absolutely true! If it hadn't been for the faith of both my husband's and me, we'd never have pulled through. I live in the UK, (English is not my first language and had to learn it) and in this country people rarely speak to each other, unless they are related. I am not British, although my husband is, and we've always been members of churches. This makes us targets for the devil's cohorts, many of whom are church goers. The criticism and nit picking is endless among some. I don't know what it is, but I've had buckets of it thrown at me. Once I asked my doctor "what is wrong with me, am I strange in some way?' "No," he replied, "your only problem is you speak with a foreign accent, you're pretty and some people can't take it - it is jealousy." I also figured out that these people also had a low opinion of others, being one of them I therefore had to be corrected!
Yes thats a need,so is the help for mental health,but they also have to know they need to check on their mental health especially when others can see it clearly where they can not.
Spirituality is creating your own reality by learning from your stepping stones and raising your vibration to be your best self and achieve your mission goals in this lifetime.
actually this makes alot sense to me... i kind of live like that whithout even being aware of the tradition. it just feels natural to me... i mean most religions are more about power and control then anything else ... they lost the essence ... think those 4 core principles are the essence and also the reason why its just healthy to choose to live by thees "values". ... ...being spiritual not religeous... doing the right thing for the greater good not just for personal gain... no need to live on your knees as long you dont put those close to you down. dont be so greedy. there would be enough for all of us... but yo i guess every herd got its black sheep but the european mind is more down whith the devil, the EGO ... false light blindet by there beauty lol. ..who are the real Savages? not everything that shines is gold... the devil is a liar. no matter which shade of brown or whatever... positiv giving or Negative taking... balance just some thoughts and thnx for providing these infos. PEACE out & greetings from Germany
After suffering all types of abuse for many years from my ex narc I couldn’t help but wonder “How can he keep getting away with this?” It never felt fair to me but I continued to cry to God and pray. I was again physically abused about a month ago but this time I reported it to the police. 2 weeks later he got arrested for DWI and totaled his car. The day after he bailed out from jail the cops came to arrest him for the report I made 2 weeks prior. It all came crashing down and was completely unexpected. I just know it was God hearing my cry for help. 🙏Unfortunately, I have a child with him so he will continue to be in my life but I feel pretty confident he won’t put his hands on me anymore. Nobody knows what I go through dealing with this person, they only know what he tells them. All of this has completely changed me and he ruined my character. His family thinks I’m “crazy” but they have no idea what kind of person he truly is. It’s going to take years of therapy to ever recover but with God on my side I know I can do it.
When God takes care of the narcissist, do not rejoice. You will stop God’s vengeance on him or her. Move on and keep praying. She is right on absolutely. No gossip, no hateful thinking about that person. Just keep your eyes on the Lord he’s got you covered. Remember, vengeance is mine saith the Lord. Do not rejoice in it. 🙏👏🙌
She’s talking about when things start going bad for the toxic person. We all want justice for others but then we want God to have mercy on us when we sin. It’s unloving and unmerciful to celebrate their downfall. We can be glad God freed us from them, but not for their downward spiral.
@ It’s like celebrating losing a close friend because of betrayal. It’s necessary to move on but if you celebrate losing them, did you ever really like/love them in the first place? And do you even care that they’re lost? That’s the problem. God’s whole law is centered around loving one another. See?
@@tracycampbell3060Because they are ultimately Gods enemies and we are told to pray for our enemies. and told to forgive and leave vengeance to him because our hearts are wicked when he laughs it’s definitely not the way we would laugh at someone !!!
Glory to God!!! After so much struggles I now own a new house with an influx of $360,500.00 every month God has kept to his words,my family is happy again everything is finally falling into place. God bless America 🇺🇸
Hallelujah!!!! Your channel has been a huge part of my transformation, God is good 🙌🏻🙌🏻.I was owing a loan of $37,800 to the bank. Now I'm no longer in debt after I invested $8,000 and got my payout of $90000 every months.God bless Mildred Evelyn Rooney 🇺🇲
Our God indeed is a covenant keeping God. Has he said a thing and not perform it? I watch how things unfold in my life, from penury to $255,500 every month and I can only praise him and trust him more. Hallelujah🙌🏻❤️🇺🇸
Hello!! how do you make such monthly, I'm a born again Christian and sometimes I feel so down 😭 of myself because of low finance but I still believe God.
After I raised up to 674k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states 🇺🇸🇺🇸 also paid for my 10yrs old son's brain surgery (Oscar). Glory to God.shalom.
I used to desire bloody (literally) revenge against my narc. In a moment of clarity, I realized that God’s judgement is much better than any revenge I could exact. Though we all will be judged, I’m comforted knowing that in the end, the narc isn’t getting away with anything. God sees. God knows. GOD IS. 😁
@adrianam2157 Yes, he does. Over 50 years, God has been keeping me safe. I can finally see his work and see how he is dealing with my family member. I've learned to hold my peace and not try to explain it to my friends after they were told lies upon lies to stir them away from me as a support system, an outlet...I t took me a while to realize what I was up against.
God is in absolute & total control, free will is an illusion & is nowhere in scripture. He is the potter & we are the clay. We all have a will, & it is His will that He put in us. May God open you're eyes to this incredible truth. Also, Jesus is the Savior of the World. Read 1 Timothy 4:10 over & over & over....& if it's God's will, He will have you believe it. Peace.
@@happyami102619 hello I would like to ask about your experience. I already came to my senses and the holy spirt lead me into the truth. I asked God if he wants to lead me out to do so. But he has told me to stay though a prophet (I am a baptist) I didn’t expect it. I stayed but once you see the colours you get more aggressive. Please pray for me to keep my mouth shut and pray to God . Instead of arguing.
Sounds like a prayer and proclamation that I heard in the Bible that went something like this: "Lord, I thank you that I am not like these sinners and tax collectors!" To that I say "Oh please!" Take a good hard look at yourself before you sit there like a self righteous Pharisee yourself.
@Declaration-of-truth Refraining from judging others is not the same as recognizing when someone has a reprobate mind and has intentionally chosen from free will to serve Satan and commit evil. Scripture tells us they will share the same fate as their FATHER “But the wicked shall perish, and the enemies of the LORD shall be as the fat of lambs: they shall consume; into smoke shall they consume away.” - Psalm 37:20
@@INHOUSEMUSICGROUP-PROMOS-vz7lm You're right. But this wasn't a recognition. It was a declared prayer for the masses to break the conniving ways of all narcissists. I observed it as a little proud in nature, unless they pray that same prayer for their own sin... in which case, I don't see that being prayed to the masses. It's easy to recognize the sins of others in North America. I've witnessed far less that can recognize and be humble about their own sins. I don't disagree with anything you said.
These narcs in my dysfunctional family liked to cause problems. Lately, a younger one broke their ankle then had hip surgery, one died at 70, one had COVID and another had a tornado hit their home. Another fell down and had to get 20 stitches. I kid you not. This was in the last 6 months. I think the Lord wasn't happy with them. I distanced myself from them slowly from the last 5 years. I was kind to them but they became so abusive I couldn't go around them anymore. I changed my life around 25 years ago and God has been so good to me. Thank You Lord. 💜 🙏.
these things happens and happened even to believers and good christians and even christan's children. It happens to good and bad persons the same. And there is no christian that does not sin anymore since being saved. Their spirits are perfect, but their souls were in a process. Most children are narcissist by birth. And when the parents are born again believers with the fruit of the Spirit, their children had better chances to grow up by loving God and people than children of unbelievers that much more likely were children of narcissist which were children of narcissist. Children of narcissist in most cases grow up and are themselves narcissist. And you can see it everywhere. They have problems to forgive their parent(s) or their narcissist spouse. And thats the greatest problem of children of narcissists. They cannot forgive them, even knowing that they themselves were victims of narcissists. But to forgive is really needed. Without you are forgiving you cannot be forgiven by Jesus. God's sacrifice is even for the narcissists who believes, but narcissists and their vicims need more time to prosper and to come to healing and fruition and to get the fruits of the Spirit. Its a longer process. Sometimes. It depends on what church they are invited to. Without the Holy Spirit and good teaching and the gifts of The Spirit they cannot discern the Spirits. And often the narcissists are getting the grace of God really better than the Narcissists victims because they had problems to believe in Gods love because they are so wounded in their souls. And I know that sometimes its demons who whispers lies into the ears of spouses or children to make your marriage or family a bad place for yourself and for your spouse and for your children. You can think your partner is a narcissist but he has only a bad remembrance (he cannot remember what he said yesterday because demons gave him a wrong memory. I know that I cannot trust my own memory. Sometimes I cannot discern between only thoughts or real memories). Or he is tormented by demons. When you do not know how to fight against demons your family is a victim at all. Par example: So, you have sinned. Then your child gives you a selfmade birthday present out of love. But the demon has "helped" your child made this present so that it remembers you at your sin and you are believing, God is showing you this because he is rejecting you. And you are shocked and your child looks at you and thinking: My mom does not enjoy my present. And the demons is whispering into the ears of your child: She does not love you at all. Every present you gave her, she hated them. But in reality its a lie from the devil who is whispering lies into the ears of everyone of the family trying to destroy them. Because of what? Because the churches do not cast out demons? They do not even baptising by diving under water. Every new member of the church come in with their own family demons that were in their bloodline since hundreds of years. And then these demons are jumping on every church member lieing to them. They do not even believe anymore that demons exist. They say it was illness and let them go to the doctors. And they gave them pills or vaccines or therapies and tell them even more lies. Jesus said: Love your enemies! Loving your friends who love you,...that do also the gentiles, the unbelievers, the sinners. They all love them that doing good to them. But you as my disciples should love your enemies even like your father in heaven does. Nearly everyone is in some grade a narcissist, therefore everyone has to go through bad situations somehow to mold you.
Hey sis, firstly that’s not how God works. Just taking ppl out right & left lol 🤦🏼♀️ be careful portraying Him as something He’s not, or that only bad ppl get sick! God is waaaay more complex than that. Secondly, it’s doubtful all the ppl you listed are narcissists. “Narcissist” is WAAAY over-used & incorrectly used. It’s a serious & rare disorder. Everyone associates ppl they don’t like, selfish, rude, etc with narcissism. Drives me crazy!!!! The ppl you list probably had personality disorders or mix of them. God boss ❤ oh & Merry Christmas!
Praise God, He led me to you tonight! I am at my wits end with my narcissistic husband and struggling with God’s timing! Thank you, Lord, for answered prayers!!!
@@shawnmorymcmillion same for me! I was on TH-cam searching something entirely different… found this page and C.S.Lewis’ page on the narcissist, dealing with them in the Christian way, Gods way. I have hope now! These videos will help us navigate our lives, and find the strength, hope, peace, courage we need . ❤️
The narcissist stole my daughter. Its been to the point of unbearable.....but I realized my biggest problem was not trusting God with the details of the traumatization of my daughter and me. I now pray for my daughter, cry at the loss, and release the outcome to Him. Time is but a construct of the mind..... Only soon enough God will bring eternal comfort and console my grief. Just stay on the narrow path like a good & faithful servant.
I have the same problem. A Narcissist stole my only child and granddaughters. They have been bullied and brainwashed and he is very dangerous and I don’t know what to do 😭 I’m not allowed to have any contact with them and he has told my babies horrible lies about me and texted me disgusting names🥺 I just pray for peace, but I am totally shattered and recovering from a heart attack. God help me 🙏
@SusanAversa-fl8qj May Almighty God intervene on your behalf. May he bring you "peace beyond understanding" as you release the outcomes and trust patiently in His plan. Crying does help. Keep the faith🙏🏼❤️🩹🕊️
@@ab3246 my narcissist (ex-husband) also “stole” our daughter. She was an alcoholic and he sheltered and enabled her during COVID, despite my efforts to help her get into a rehab facility. Death took him in the manner of a massive heart attack exactly 4 years ago today. He died alone - his greatest fear. A few months later she entered a year-long rehab and has been sober ever since. He was married and divorced 4 times but I was by far the weakest of his wives, having stayed married to him for 26 years. His death brought her to recovery and a renewed and stronger relationship with me and her brother. It was hard to wait to see His goodness (we divorced in 2012) but we are reaping the rewards today, while he is gone and buried.
Even when a narc has a hard time, their brains just don't get it. Ever see one stop and change? Someone who's spent their life lying, manipulating & gaslighting? Not me .
@@Dana19443 Remove yourself from them,find your own life and Peace and stay safe and Happy, cherish your time with the kids as they are Pure gifts from God and Haven't been Poisoned yet
I’ve endured a miserable marriage to a narc for 25 years. Leaving isn’t an option because he didn’t want me working and he controls the money. I’m working on getting a real estate license to provide for my hopeful escape some day. I needed this video. It brought conviction to my heart. I’d never ask God to take him out because I don’t believe he’s saved even though he’s made quite a “godly” name for himself at church. They have no idea who he really is. I love the advice Kris gives on how exactly to pray for the narc. I will add this to my prayers for his salvation. Please pray that I can endure for however much longer it’ll take for God to act on my behalf. Godspeed!!💕
42 years for me. But ten years ago he was caught by his own stupidity, not towards me but towards someone else and people saw what he could be like. I kept silent, showing no sympathy or anger towards him - just let him stew in his own act of folly. He was highly embarrassed about this flaw in his character, as it was all his own undoing. He repented and this changed his ways. Occasionally 'horns' show up on his head, but I only need to remind him of past miseries, and he calms down. So, thank God for that! I hope the same for you. Just keep praying - if you can share this with another TRUSTED Christian, do, then you have someone you can pray with. I pray the Lord's blessing on you.
@@GT-mc9eg hello. Please read Deuteronomy 24:1, Malachi 2n and Matt's 19 in full context to get a better understanding of why The Messiah answered The Pharisees the way He did. The Most High YAH is a loving Creator. Why would He want someone to be in a covenant with an emotionally and mentally abusive person? The person who commits these horrible acts has already broken the marital covenant. Above all, The Most High YAH is love. Where is the love in any type of abusive behavior?
@@GT-mc9eg which bible verse say that of "physical abuse". I see only of "adultery" in scripture. But,...christians are not under the law. When you are not under the law. And where is no law there is no punishment. When you have sinned you run to the Lord and repent and ask for forgiveness. Many christians are not knowing to be led by the spirit, because in their churches their pastors themselves do not know how to be led by the Holy Spirit and therefore they teach the 10 commandments instead. But that is fuel to sin and and death and condemnation. But living in a verbally abusive marriage makes you so sick, mentally and emotionally and finally physically, that the only way out is divorce. Yes, when you are yourself in a very good church, good edified with spiritual gifts and hearing the Holy Spirit you have the good counselor for saving your marriage, you got the good idea what to pray and good answers to handle your marriage, you are a good wife. ... But if God put not the right thoughts into you and the right prayers and you got not visions from the Lord and dreams or revelations and wisdom and knowledge, how will you get the right ideas then and the wisdom to handle. When you not got for yourself the revelation of the love of God and God put not HIS love into your heart and Spirit, you cannot stand an abusive marriage and you are not able to prosper in any way and to live a victorious christian life. Sometimes it is better for you and your children to leave an abusive partner. And sometimes you have ignored God when he wanted you to do special things or not to do some things. The simply run to the Lord and repent and begin new with Jesus. His chesed-grace-love is new every morning. Trust God!
Unfortunately after 30 years marriage . The last 8 years of marriage I had enough . I was in then in a very physical and mental narcissist abuse . I could not leave at that time bc my daughter @22years of age had gotten really sick . She needed a bone marrow transplant. I dropped everything and became a full time caregiver. While going through menopause and dealing with threats every night . Re:to my life so on . After 4 years my daughter finally received a transplant. 100per match . I was home with her for 2 months and he overdosed. I couldn’t believe it . I was so hurt so much anger the pain was so unbearable. Almost 7 years later 5 years of therapy. I am still growing. My point …. God stepped in and saved me , because I could not save myself . God bless all .
I've watched several of your videos lately, but this one really opened my eyes. The thing I need to let go of is that I was there for my brother when he fell, laid on the floor for 3 days, and lost most of his possessions as a result of the squalor he was living in. He's in a good place now, both in health and his living situation. But when I diagnosed with a rare progressive neurological disease, he only got angry with me, like I got this disease to make his life miserable. That's when I decided I have to let him go and let God deal with him. I've also had to examine my own attitude toward him.
I have been condemning myself so much for my anger, and responding poorly when I would bring up mistreatments and he would gaslight, blame me or play the victim. I must confess I have been struggling with rage as a result. And I had and have to repent for words I’ve also used in these toxic incidents. Another way to chip away and erode self worth, feeling terrible for going against my own values as a Christian. Yet how comforting and validating to see in these comments that I’m not alone in this struggle. And that even my fellow Christians battled thoughts of revenge. Thank you for this video the scriptures shared certainly helped me to free my mind from some of these thoughts. God bless you for that as I feel my garden overgrown with weeds from this destruction and heartbreak.
@ yes…and then bring it up forever and ever, especially if your trying to hold them accountable, never let you forget it, but leave out the detailed of what triggered you.
Hang in there, you are not alone! The manipulation tornado's will make you feel like you're about to lose your mind but for me the rage came because of the tremendous pain of someone dragging my boundaries through mud... It is God teaching us to enforce them way sooner in our relationships before we get the pain as if someone else is tearing our skin off. We don't need to go to hell before we can start to feel like we deserve love. We are loved and learning this lesson in the most painful and eye opening way possible. I will always thank God for that.
I definitely need constant humbling. I have a very narcissistic dad. And 2 brothers. My parents are at the stage of needing a lot of help to which the responsibility falls on me. Somedays I want to scream and cry and some days I’m determined to forgive pray and try to keep going. I’m sorry Lord when I complain. His love endures forever.
50 years suffering this narcissistic psycho ,she even added more like minded forming a gang(from those I connect to from work place, friends, neighbors behind my back) ...it never stopped... still waiting for justice,4 of my loved ones suffered too and lost their lives ..I am still holding on to my faith🙏
Esp when it's Ur parent doing this to U and I can't speak up because U have no one to go to for help. Esp when U tried to expose them in the past and Ur family thought U where the sick one for even exposing their sick and twisted acts, making U feel Ur making it up. They are master manipulators, I truly believe that this parent is full blown possessed, a reprobate. I pray God exposes these filthy devils, because there evil is worst than what we did in the world, it's premeditated evil designed to destroy Ur soul. I've given up praying for restoration I want justice before my soul is destroyed under the weight of this.
My mother is a PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE, covert narcissist. She is 86 years old. I'm her oldest child and only daughter. I'm the scapegoat. My brother, who is the middle child, is her invisible child, and the youngest is a golden child. I've had to go NO CONTACT to avoid the emotional-mental pain. I love her because she is my mother, but I don't like her. She can be a little sadistic at times towards me. She smears me to other family members, so the only family member I'm communicating with is my son. It does seem that she is trying to drive a wedge between us, but my son has assured me that will never happen. It upsets me, because she is trying though. I just want her to leave me be. It's painful enough knowing that she doesn't love me, and probably never has. If she passes before me, I can't stand the thought of attending her funeral, and if I pass first, I'd rather she not be at mine. I don't wish anything bad on her, in fact, I wish her a good life....just without me. I've heard that it's neigh impossible for them to admit they are wrong or that they have sinned, so it's highly unlikely she will get saved. I do know that it isnt totally impossible though. HOPEFULLY she will let God heal her. She did have a HORRIFIC childhood, with an alcoholic father and poverty. He was most abusive to her, since she was the oldest? She started being a level 1 hoarder in her 30s, but it's gotten much worse, and now she is a level 3-4 hoarder.
Oh my goodness I have the same situation w my mom! Sometimes it’s good just to know that somebody else out there is feeling and going through the same things. I just I live in a small town and it’s so hard because people will ask me well. How is your mom and how is your mom? They’re always asking the same thing and I’m like sometimes I really don’t even know what to say
Sounds like we have very similar mother's and a very similar situation. I know exactly how you're feeling and my heart hurts for you as it does for myself. GOD is more than enough to make up for our hurtful parents and that has been my rock to lean into. We are so fortunate to have access to these highly qualified teachers helping us navigate these confusing behaviors. It's also comforting to know we aren't the only one with a messed up family of origin. God bless you!
It’s a horrendous situation! I have a mother like this. I’m an only child but she uses my kids and grandkids as well. Very painful! Praying and praying for all of us !
God removed the narcissist from my life, with her infidelity she got pregnant and 3 years earlier i had a vasectomy so I proved it in court, she left with nothing and her new supply dumped her but he had to pay child support for 18 years. i married a woman who couldn't have kids and we raised mine. we are still together and we try to do what God says to do.
Thank you for the video. Im 41, recently divorced. Even when she tried to kill me, turned my oldest narc child against me, and committed adultery, i still told her we made vows to God. And she needed to honor them, and if she would quit her lifestyle we would go to counseling at church. She said no, and her friends said it was ok, it doesnt matter we were separated. Ive been waiting for God to enact some source of justice for me at all, but in the end, i fear she will never acknowledge her wrong doings. And that is truly scary for her.
That’s great to know all these . I know God is with me , I know he protected me , as now my eyes wide open , now I know evil are here to destroy my faith in God , but I can’t be destroy because I’m with God . Thank you.
Really needed to hear this at this very moment. God alone can bring change. In the meantime, one shouldn't lose focus in blooming. Justice will prevail at God's grace.
Unfortunately their pride keeps the Grace of God away from them… I would pray for Lord Jesus to be gentle on them, but as Kris mentioned, pride brings fornication, abuses, self destruction. I have seen it. Keep me humble, Lord, and protect us from the evil one.
Amen ! I wish God brings them in front of everyone whom they have grouped and apologize for their gas lighting ,provoking behavior and all disrespect they have done. Hope they correct their behavior and respect a friendship.
Thank you for posting this. I’ve been dealing with an ex is a family law attorney and also a narcissist. The divorce broke me because of her actions before and during the divorce. Even here after everything has been finalized she continues to be terrible but these videos helped me bounce back. I feel like a have a great story to share that may help others.
I pray for you. My narcissist ex-wife brought repeated court actions, losing many times, but costing me in time, stress, and legal fees. I think Kris is teaching me to leave it to the Lord. I cannot change this person, and I have to watch her swim in the settlement money, escaping the huge amount of cash she owes me, and she arrogantly still refuses to accept her violence towards myself and the kids. But I know that she will be answerable for this one day. Meanwhile, I will continue to bring up the best kids in the world. I reckon you will have great relationships with your kids, with your family and your colleagues: everyone will see the greater fruit in your character because of your endurance and surrender to Him. Blessings to you.
Good job girl, i spent 25 years in a marriage and did not even realize what i was doing until i seperated from him. That was sixteen years ago. I am still walking out the repercussions.
Wow! 25 years for me too! It’s been 1.5 years since separation. I’m lonely and every morning still dealing mentally with the aftermath of cruel Discard and destruction of our family unit, while he ran off into the sunset threatening…. But God saw me through!!!! Amazing Wonderful God. He tricked all our church friends also. Very clever COVERT
@@tinaureta9891I'm separated also, but just shy of 4 months and this was a reconciliation... convinced me of change.... Nope, just not as bad, or loud we'll say. Did you divorce?? I want to in the worst way, but am not getting the green light from the Lord... IDK?! The first time it was within 1 1/2 mo., after he left I filed.. He was clear across the country... Wanted counciling via Skype, I finally figured out.. He was wording it weird. But he fought with me via text, email.. FaceTime.. You name it. I was done. My health was in shambles, and he had looked at porn... Besides his behavior. This time he is 5 min. Away from me, we hardly speak, but when we have he's gotten stupid, then I react... He tries to get me to go to concerts with him.. Last was out 1 year anniversary and he'd already been out of the house 2 months.. awkward a bit, but he got mad right in middle of it over WHAT I've no idea... Then he went alone to one of my favorite Christian artists.. Then sent me a pic of them meeting, and then said he had something for me!!? I felt that was rubbing it in my face, but... But we rarely talk, it even then is texting for the most part. I don't know what he's up to, but I had to drop off mail to him... He asks about counciling😳.. He tried that 1 time, said waste of money, didn't like her. I said probably not, but I'd pray about it. Then I notice for someone who didn't want or need friends was saying hello to all his neighbors.. Including female... By name??!! IDK... He just skates..... No remorse, apologies.. It's just, moving on.... So I'm trying to figure out, what's the hold up.. I couldn't even bond with him... He defrauded me there...! Couldn't... You know, even with a handful of those pills! I feel no, the 2 become one.. Asked him if he was gay even... He just laughed uncomfortabley long... Then said no. I'm at a loss.
My ex narc beat me up, in all ways. Took him took court after the police cuffed him. Turned out he had two previous convictions before mine, still he was set free. God introduced me to a woman ten years later who was having counselling by his mother!!!! Small world. So I'm going around with ptsd, hyper vig etc because he moved to my town., this woman told me that her consellers son had died? He died of a brain tumour at 48. So let that be a lesson. I'm not free of the trauma yet, but god showed me lots of lessons about narcs, thank you god so much. 😇 🙏🏼
Asking God to reveal our heart to us is poweful, fact is we’re all sorta messed up this side of heaven and it makes us want to extend grace for bitterness. Not to be a doormat by any measure, but also not to be so anti people that everyone is a toxic narcissist is not good either. I hope and pray all are healing and doing ok, We need Jesus more than ever in these dark, dark days. Only He can restore us to be better than new!
Everyone in this thread had their season of suffering. Now is the season for healing. Everyone here is going to be okay. No drugs. No alcohol. Daily prayer snd worship. Love yourselves. God made lots of promises to us. Declare them! He said "come boldly before the throne" , not limp and whimper. We're all fighting a defeated enemy. You have to know that in your hearts.
Thank you for your insights Bravo "The Lord is my portion saith my soul therefore I shall hope in him, The Lord loves those that wait for him, the soul that seeketh him."
My covert narcissist mother has now passed away. It is hard to explain my feelings. My siblings, who I love dearly are devastated and I am in a deep depression. One day at a time at this time.
After praying for healing for his chronic pain for 33 years, asking God to make me the wife my husband truly needed, asking God to give me a new, deeper love for my spouse, I asked God to shine light on any darkness on our marriage. POW! It was like the spotlights that they use for grand openings of stores! God exposed my soon to be ex-husband for the narcissist he is and severe discipline followed! We are Christians (or at least he always claimed to be) so I believe the Lord is severely pruning him but whether he grows and flourishes is up to him. I set boundaries and he ignored them and God took care of the rest! This teaching is spot on so I encourage those of you who are still trying to navigate life with a narcissist, do what she advises! I didn’t listen to this or even realize my husband was a narcissist before I took the steps she talks about but the steps I took were exactly what she is talking about and it is bringing freedom! God walked me through this and He will do the same for you!
@@biblischerMinnegesang888 I won’t go into the details because they are private but the truth came out and I have Biblical reasons to be released from my marriage.
I appreciate your obedience and feel like God intended for me to see this. I woke at 3am once again feeling angry at an evil landlord that I have sat quietly suppressing hatred toward his actions ( enabling him)and I immediately prayed and asked Gods forgiveness. I opened my phone and this pops up… I now realize now that I’m the only one suffering- through evil people Satan finds a way in to manipulate my mind! I Am an avid gardener of 30+ years and plucking weeds ( even the pretty ones) is one thing I can definitely accomplish. I have always believed that God blessed my grow because I love feeding his people… I now realize that God will bless me with eternal peace and happiness and takes the burden and guilt of vengeance off of me. I’m grateful for this message and sincerely appreciate your obedience. I will happily subscribe. May God continue to Bless you and your journey and us through you.
Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
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Being with my ex narc for the past 8 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I got to know about my narc husband bad ways when I reach out to a private detective digitalinvestigate@gmail. com for help he did a perfect work for me I can see everything he’s doing on his device.
My wife did the same thing but with her family. She left me several times when she didn't get her way. She condoned her mental abuse and lied about what she said. She gaslit me into oblivion and when I cried she called me a bitch and when I raged she called me a psycho. The torture I endured was immense. She didn't love me she loved her own vision for what she could use me for. She never ever returned my love and she always clung to mommy and daddy to validate her
Thank You for sharing, I have endured 22 years of this behaviour with my ex wife.. in the end she stole everything and I was discarded. Its been 12 years and I'm still struggling to recover
This is exactly what I needed to hear, at this stage of my unhappy marriage relationship with my narcissistic husband. I am praying & continue to pray for God’s help to survive. Thank you.
Hard not to be bitter traumatized for sure PTSD BEEN THERE FROM THE WORSTFOR 20 plus years almost killed me literally!!! However I refuse to be a victim or live in anger. One thing this woman said hit me. I’ve studied this at nausea and felt no way no cure and in most cases I still feel that way. However I do believe in God and I’ve witnessed him doing the seemingly impossible so maybe just maybe if they can find God the impossible CAN HAPPEN… so I pray now for him
Watching your videos helped me discover that I have narcissistic behavors. I don't know if I'm a narcissist cause my counselor says a narcissist wouldn't admit or recognize that they're a narcissist. Regardless, it may not have been your intention to help the one behaving narcissistically, but you did. Thank you for raising these awarenesses in me.
Thanks for your video. I had a friend who was married to a narcissist for 30 years. It was awful seeing the effects of his affairs and abuse, and it not stopping. God called her home last month. The man cant hurt her anymore. I do pray God limits that man's actions going forward, because it was traumatic being her friend, esp in a church setting, let alone being her.
Thank you so much, Kris. We adult siblings watch your videos copiously as we navigate trying to balance honoring the elderly narcissist father with distancing ourselves from him to protect our own families. Your advice is priceless!
Your videos are making me rekindle my relationship with God after being Agnostic for the longest time. My dad is a narcissistic alcoholic. My mom is codependent. A friend I had a fallout with who broke my heart and betrayed my trust was also a covert narcissist. I followed my mom's pattern unconsciously because I didn't know better. I hope God can make them see the light and stop what they're doing. Us loving them doesn't work. They don't change. They only hurt us more. We're punished for loving them...
Thank you with all my heart for this video. I am stuck being bullied by three women in my new apartment complex. Triangulating against me, digging for info, banging on my door even though I set boundaries with a do not disturb sign....I thought we were going to be friends but they acted nice in the beginning only to gossip and smear campaign all over the complex about things I told them while they visited my place for the first time. One of them started to tell me lies about the word of God: " Jesus isn't coming back". " Adam didn't tell God the woman gave him the apple".......I grabbed my Bible and read verses to her that contradicted what she was telling me. She blew her top, started yelling at me and that's when I got up and firmly stated " You need to leave". Now, she hates me and has employed flying monkeys to dig for info on me posing as women who wanted to be friends with me. I cried for a week and after much prayer realized that I am letting the devil steal my joy. Spent many hours in binge praying and speaking verses of protection over myself. Woke up with peace and ready to fight. Thanks to you videos I am learning some tools to keep my peace and sanity. God bless you dear.
This might be the wrong video for your comment, except there are members of the body of Christ here who will assist in prayer for you. Continue speaking those scriptures out loud. Continue giving the whole situation to God, and erase any thought of retaliating, yourself. You can thank God for taking care of the situation, and also ask Him to show you what He does. But like another commentor mentioned, don't rejoice over your enemy when God's judgment hits them. Pray for them, also. Remember, Jesus said to pray for your enemies. God is aware of everyone and everything. We aren't. You will see His judgment is always 100% perfect, and you may even find yourself in several future situations which you must continually give to Him. Keep doing it. This world is not large enough to contain the books written. What do you think is written in them? I will say this. One key way to improve your boundaries, is to take a stand.
I believe I've done this. He was exposed and he blamed me so sounds like a gaslighter too. I prayed for pain- so he would know his life is not his own. I've not had any contact but still believe God created him and has a purpose for him.
I had dealt with a narcissistic husband for years and years and finally left. He was from Iran!! Even though I have gone no contact, and I pray for him...I am still tormented with terrifying dreams of him and his manipulating ways...please pray for me that I am delivered from this and that I find a Godly companion. I am 68 yrs old and never truly felt love. Sometime, I even feel abandoned by God.
@@katyasehryn8810It’s tough to stop ruminating! It’s been 1 1/2 yeRs since he discarded after 25 Long amazing , but weird and Hurtful years! Hard not to remember the past and all the things he did to make me. “nothing”….. lower than him….
The worse thing about these kinds of people is when it’s a parent bringing up a child by themselves to a world like this and that child thinks it’s perfectly acceptable to behave in such a way…until in your mid life someone who’s been through it tells you what your own mother is. Then you have to restart your entire life again and try to remove all that programming
I’m going through this with my own adult children and their mother, my ex-wife. I stayed in an abusive relationship for many years before she left for COVID. I knew the truth about COVID but she didn’t support me and she eventually divorced me, what a blessing as I went through counseling and discovered who I was and who she was. I just love them completely right where they are with no critical attitude and it works.
@ when an older sibling or other family members tell you after 31 years of programming. I knew something was up with my mother but never knew what until they told me
This is my wife. She's so clingy to her family that has her in their own little bubble and she thinks their way is the only way. Now that she's alone and lives with them she will have all the time in the world to think about things
Dear Kris Reece, thank you, even though I already suspected what you said to be the case, it is soothing and refreshing to hear you say it, especially in such an upbeat way. I am in a "quantum entanglement" situation (a psychic bond) with someone who refuses to back off and leave me alone. Pleading etc hasn't helped. It's not erotomania, the person has some kind of dependence on me, I don't understand it myself, whether it's a desire for information or a need for some kind of company (fear of solitude) he feels, I don't know. It began when I repeatedly prayed on his behalf (for his tennis matches). But he retired more than two years ago, and he still hasn't let me go. I am 59 and often feel physically fatigued by this. He is 16 years younger and I feel that he's being very selfish, to say the least. At first I thought that he was basically striving for good. Later it turned out that he is in fact obsessed with money and fame, and in the habit of lying (especially in order to portray himself as virtuous). He's a Freemason, and that may be playing a role, even though he isn't senior-level. An evil oath is still an evil oath. The previous times I experienced this (thankfully brief and quickly-ended), at least three of those people were involved in the occult. Mere friendliness and kindness set it off in two cases. My impression is that romantic feelings aren't necessary for the bond to form. I prayed for God to show this person His power and benevolence (and He did), but it doesn't seem as though he has much respect for God. I have to trust in God that He will give me the strength I need to endure this, I don't think it will last my whole life. God was merciful towards Job, I trust that He will have mercy on me also, I just need to be careful to respect Him. Thank you again for the video. May God bless and keep you. PS. I'm feeling quite stressed at the moment, that is the reason why I'm bothering to write this comment. I know that since God didn't answer my prayers (He hasn't yet) when I asked Him to break the psychic link, He has a good reason for not answering that request, even if I don't know the reason. I just have to trust Him and endure! (Easier said than done. but it's possible. I need to stay calm.) It is quite possible that this person will be exposed, since his mendacity increased after retirement. But I don't know whether I would still be chained to him and dragged along, I don't know when this will end. Perhaps when he is distracted by a really severe crisis (such as a literal life-or-death struggle). Thank you again for what you said in the video.
@@alrinaleroux9229 You are not to endure. You ate to FLEE. Break off all contact. God doesn't do for you what He has told you to do. You are to have NO fellowship with darkness. Obey God, James says to submit , put yourself under God's authority, which would be obeying, and the devil will flee from you. This is not a once and done thing. It is a spiritual battle. Put your Armour on and STAND against this , Ephesians 6, by completely going no contact with this person in any form. You are not helping them, you are giving them devil an open door to you
This was helpful. After going no contact for a good while, the narcissist in my life leaked his way back in---briefly. They wanted me back in their life, wanted me to show up for Christmas. Used several manipulation tactics and said they'd like to move forward, pretend nothing happened, stated if I was afraid of being attacked, that I rest assured that wasn't going to happen. I politely declined stating I was not ready to reenter into this "move forward and forget the past relationship". I identified real quick they were trying to butter me up and bring me back in as their scapegoat of choice. I politely declined as I stated above, and this was met with harsh words, his loss of temper and threats. Proving to me that not only had he not changed at all, but his intentions were nefarious the whole time. I heard his Christmas family plans didn't happen and in fact are now needing to be postponed for weeks. Second year in a row this happened to him (quick back story, when we were a family, he was adamant-downright insistent that holidays are to be celebrated on the actual day of the holiday even if that meant family members who had to work were simply discluded (even if there were a day close to the holiday where everyone could be together). So to hear his holiday plans fell apart 2 years in a row with postponement, I couldn't help but think this was his time to have things go not so well for him. I needed to hear your message in this video, because I do not need to be rejoicing in that, I'm human so first reaction was to think wow, he's getting a dose of things not going his way. But, I know that's not how I want to think. I want a closer relationship with God and I want to be the best version of myself I can be. I needed the reminder that I don't need to involve myself with however God handles this person. I need to stay in my lane and do right by God. Thank you. I think even though this video isn't brand new, it was new to me and the Holy Spirit led me to it to give me that gentle reminder to pray for this person and stay out of the way.
I feel so bad but I went no contact with this person, super demeaning, invalidating my feelings all of the time, manipulative, disrespectful, mocked me in discussions, always blamed me for everything, the list goes on and on. I've tried to be kind and love him like Christ, to be patient and understanding that these are spirits within him and putting myself through the ringer, no empathy towards me reciprocated, I kept empathizing and understanding him despite him saying im not. Point is- i recently saw it for what it is and left him at the dinner table and walked out. He was being extremely disrespectful and hurtful and so, I didn't know what else to do. It was a shift in the moment that happened in me. I felt like my heart started pounding and the restaurant started becoming smaller and I didn't want to panic and I told him very calmly and sincerely "Juan, what you're doing right now is hurting me." He didnt care. And it's like Jesus spoke to me in that moment to just walk away. Never thought I'd have the courage or power to do so but I did it. Didn't say one more word. I grabbed my jacket and purse and walked out. He called twice and texted 3 times, blaming me of course and tried to illicit a response out of me by being manipulative. I didnt answer and havent answered. All because I told him I felt the issue with us was that he didn't respect me. I said it so sincerely and calmly and nicely. He got so angry and started cursing and said we were done and our meeting was a waste........ I said this is exactly why I feel you don't respect my feelings. Look at how you speak to me? Moral of the story i feel bad I went no contact. Am I doing wrongly? I felt there was nothing more I could say or do. There was never resolution on his end. On my end, many suggestions and willingness for solution. On his, none what so ever. Miserable.
Well, this is nice to hear. I’m a Christian by now ex-wife also was is a Christian along with this male friend she has who’s supposed Christian. He’s an alcoholic. They both have psychiatric issues. She seems to be a narcissist. He seems to have bipolar disorder. I’m a 38 year Fire paramedic veteran with PTSD compounded by abuse in betrayal, but I do have good friends around me have known my whole life who keep the faith with me🙏🏼
❤ she is not only my daughter, I even allowed her to be taken into my home, despite warnings from many, there is no way back for me, everything I try to say carefully ends in a fight, and then the old cows come out again, which were never discussed at all! this is my old age, 😢 Help Lord❤
I had to leave a toxic work environment because of a narc colleague... He got fired eventually and everyone despised him. However, it took me two years to recover physically and mentally... Let alone financially. But I di trust when we're in the New Jerusalem, I will not even think about that 😅
I truly appreciate those who speak not only from a humanistic approach, but a biblical standpoint as well. The Word is our manual to navigate life, so not acknowledging His ways makes no sense. Currently, I’m reading the book of Jeremiah & I’m realizing more & more that God is a fair God. Whether it’s a prophet, him allowing a showing personally to you or messages from others, He’ll never lead you blind… but it’s up to us to receive and align our life with that message. Something I’ve had to learn is we’re all God’s children. So that person I can’t stand is still God’s child so they’re deserving of God’s grace, love and protection too. While I pray those individuals come to God before it’s too late, I’ve learned boundaries and allowing only things within my control is what I can do. The rest is in God’s hands 🙏🏾
I'm in an emotionally abusive relationship with a narcissist. It's been 10 years, and I am financially dependent of him just because of our wonderful, loving son. I am currently in school to become a nurse. It's so difficult to study and do my assignments on time. He does everything possible to sabotage me. I'm so confused sometimes with his love bombing that I end up sabotaging myself. This woman's words have hit my soul so deep. I pray the Lord helps me protect my son and my efforts to become a nurse to leave this abusive relationship for good. I don't have friends, I'm isolated from my family, and I miss being the fun, happy, church volunteer I was before meeting him. I should have listened to everyone who warned me, especially the Bible. People who believe in Jesus should not date or marry atheists or those who claim to agnostic.
I appreciate your analysis. Realizing the Biblical Fact that God saves and Man can't has been helpful in dealing, not only with others but also with my own "flesh."
I felt peace letting go of narcissistic person I grew up with. I don’t worry about God’s justice. It’s up to Him how He deals with her. I focus on healing and growing myself. I’m accountable for my own thoughts and actions.
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Narcissists...this word is getting familiar to me. Feel heartbroken n helpless. When there is no way..God always has His ways n mercy. Thank you so much for sharing ma'am 🙏🙏
Wow this was just so so good! Love to hear God‘s heart through you. It’s very helpful and helps me To see His perspective, Which is just so unlike ours in the flesh.
Thank you for your videos Kris, this is so comforting. Please pray for me, I use to speak to my neighbour, but no longer. She lives above me, she has been banging on her floor/ my ceiling for years and seems to be triggered just by hearing me enter my property. I have called police, the council etc. I will continue to pray for her but help me not to respond and just respond in praising God that he will expose her and vindicate me 🙏🏾
Please pray for my dad. He's a narcissist and a professing believer. He has caused so much harm to my family and he kept throwing grenades at me, that I cried out to God and He told me to trust him and walk away. It's been over 2 years with no contact. It breaks my heart, but nothing has changed. He claims innocence and blames the one he threw the grenade at. I've given him to God, but in my love for him, I don't want him going to hell. So please pray that God will get through to him before it's too late 🙏 thank you 💕
How can we save the narcissistic person that happens to be a family member? Well 11:00 answered that. Lord thank you for all you've dont for us in the past, present, and the future. I put all my faith in you to guide me in this task.
The worst narcissist I had in my life (mother in law) died to lung cancer. Even if she gave me the hardest time and I got ptbs from my experiences, I developed so much as a person. The one thing that sticks to my mind and helped me to have compassion towards her was that she never experienced joy and happyness for others or even for herself. I saw that she is unable to have these feelings. What a sad life! I learned to have better boundaries and wished her well in her last time here on earth. God will do what he has to do with her -not me- and that takes a lot of burden off my shoulders.
In church and married a Minister. 10 years as mother and wife and he alienates us from church, lost everything and could not understand so, I begin journaling and visiting psychology websites. Narrowing things down but, unsure, wanted to return to work after kiddos were school age to help our family, naturally, he unmasked after I found full-time job doing what I had previously done in my 10 year career. He had created an environment that spiraled into confrontation.
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Please pray for me and this proves justice so my own kids see there mom was chosen by God to save even though it's been years ..
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@@Kris_Reece I am 67 yrs old. Out of a relationship of 2.5 yrs. With your help God has shown me that with my relationship it was a caregiver one. He was angry, forgetful or sweet and kind. His mom had dementia bad. He is not going through relationship he is going through caregivers.
@@suejames4470my relationship with a narcissist also ended about 2.5 years ago, in June '22
God is in peoples imagination, nowhere else. The bible was written by men out of their imagination. There isn’t a God with control. Otherwise, life on earth wouldn’t be so cruel. If there was a god he would be terribly cruel and narcisistic.
The most painful part is everyone else thinks they are just so wonderful. They have never nor probably will ever see the dark side, except those who are closest to them; and no, not necessarily their family. I have resentment from their family members, as though I am " ungrateful." They have NO CLUE what I have endured for DECADES.
I'm also living this. It really, really is horrible. How many diagnosis did you win? Lol
They know. You're their scapegoat.
@@pmartin6086 Thank you. That is precisely it. We are their “scapegoats”. Kyrie Eleison. 🙏🕯🙏
Non of us are wonderful, non of us a fix repair our sinful brokeness. Only God.
Don't deceive yourselves.
@@lee-annebarrett366 Yes, we are all sinners. No one can escape that. Only God✝️ But this world IS the world.
Most people leave God when they get hurt. I figured out when feeling hurt move closer to God and you feel much better right away. You don't miss them. You miss God.
Alot of Truth
Immediately over night it grown us up strengthens us
What a golden comment! Perfectly stated!
Amen to that, dear one!!!
@Thinkaboutit1212 i miss God so much, I want to go home. I have no home here. Only a car. The narcissist took out his gutting knife on me. At Christmas one year she said" your getting nothing from me" i was the only one that she was that evil 😈 too. He took me home and went back to the party. She had given him 500.00. I just didn't want to be were there was no respect.
Narcissists cant admit when their wrong nor will they take responsibility. They have way too much pride and arrogance and selfishness that they will never repent.
It’s beyond frustrating, even when you tell them how it makes you feel they do it again and don’t apologize. Childish
@99rylee E--X--A--C--T--L--Y !!!! THAT IS A FACT!! That is what I told God. If he's waiting for my brother to ever be convicted by the Holy Spirit, forget it because he's resisted the holy spirit's conviction for so long that he's become reprobate. My brother is 100% blinded to his sin. It all started with having the worst, worst Pride. My brother has become so delusional that he actually is saying things that the devil must be telling him straight into his head and he's telling stories and making up things out of thin air. It's like he's delusional. his mind has been so completely taken over by the devil. He doesn't know the truth. God actually spoke to my heart about this and said, "You have spun your wheels for so long and have done everything you could to try to get through to them. But, they are never going to understand the truth because the truth is not in them".
I know that my brother has resisted the conviction of the Holy Spirit over and over and over and that's why I kind of asked God today, okay it's been 5 years and he's only gotten worse. I think it's time that God comes and kicks the door down and exposes everything now. I pray for repentance and restoration with my family but my brother is a menace that needs to be stopped and I don't understand why God has allowed this to go on so long. He's literally done everything to try to kill my mother (left her in a place that he knew was abusing her, plus, he himself was severely mentally and emotionally abusing her, etc etc), as well as having maliciously done everything he could to literally destroy my life for 5 years. If God is waiting for him to wake up, it's never going to happen. Pride is the worst of the worst sin because it blinds the person where they can't see what they're doing wrong. It will drive the person who's on the opposite end absolutely crazy. It is the most wicked sin.
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Either they have no Conscience or that part of their brain doesn't function as designed.
Pride goes before the fall.
You're absolutely right. They will never admit that they are the one that's wrong. You may as well just leave & forget they existed. That's the only way you'll ever find peace.
Kris, I'm the Director of a counseling center. I recommend your channel all the time! Please keep helping others, blending it with God's Word. Too few people do that, and God is the only way to have resilience in life, especially dealing with behavioral heath issues!! Love you sister!!
This is absolutely true! If it hadn't been for the faith of both my husband's and me, we'd never have pulled through. I live in the UK, (English is not my first language and had to learn it) and in this country people rarely speak to each other, unless they are related.
I am not British, although my husband is, and we've always been members of churches. This makes us targets for the devil's cohorts, many of whom are church goers. The criticism and nit picking is endless among some. I don't know what it is, but I've had buckets of it thrown at me.
Once I asked my doctor "what is wrong with me, am I strange in some way?' "No," he replied, "your only problem is you speak with a foreign accent, you're pretty and some people can't take it - it is jealousy." I also figured out that these people also had a low opinion of others, being one of them I therefore had to be corrected!
Yes thats a need,so is the help for mental health,but they also have to know they need to check on their mental health especially when others can see it clearly where they can not.
When God takes care of the narcissistic... I don't rejoice. I stand back and watch God work
Psalm 91
@@Bruce-n4i fairly terrifying
Getting vengeance
@@Bruce-n4i God of justice
Spirituality is creating your own reality by learning from your stepping stones and raising your vibration to be your best self and achieve your mission goals in this lifetime.
actually this makes alot sense to me... i kind of live like that whithout even being aware of the tradition. it just feels natural to me... i mean most religions are more about power and control then anything else ... they lost the essence ... think those 4 core principles are the essence and also the reason why its just healthy to choose to live by thees
"values". ...
...being spiritual not religeous... doing
the right thing for the greater good not just for personal gain... no need to live on your knees as long you dont put those close to you down. dont be so greedy. there would be enough for all of us... but yo i guess every herd got its black sheep but the european mind is more down whith the devil, the EGO ... false light blindet by there beauty lol.
..who are the real
Savages? not everything that shines is gold... the devil is a liar. no matter which shade of brown or whatever... positiv giving or Negative taking...
balance just some thoughts and thnx for providing these infos. PEACE out & greetings from Germany
Please can someone recommend any spiritual therapist?
Yes, Dhitik_scott.
Is she on TikTok?
Yes, she is.
After suffering all types of abuse for many years from my ex narc I couldn’t help but wonder “How can he keep getting away with this?” It never felt fair to me but I continued to cry to God and pray. I was again physically abused about a month ago but this time I reported it to the police. 2 weeks later he got arrested for DWI and totaled his car. The day after he bailed out from jail the cops came to arrest him for the report I made 2 weeks prior. It all came crashing down and was completely unexpected. I just know it was God hearing my cry for help. 🙏Unfortunately, I have a child with him so he will continue to be in my life but I feel pretty confident he won’t put his hands on me anymore. Nobody knows what I go through dealing with this person, they only know what he tells them. All of this has completely changed me and he ruined my character. His family thinks I’m “crazy” but they have no idea what kind of person he truly is. It’s going to take years of therapy to ever recover but with God on my side I know I can do it.
When God takes care of the narcissist, do not rejoice. You will stop God’s vengeance on him or her. Move on and keep praying. She is right on absolutely. No gossip, no hateful thinking about that person. Just keep your eyes on the Lord he’s got you covered. Remember, vengeance is mine saith the Lord. Do not rejoice in it. 🙏👏🙌
She’s talking about when things start going bad for the toxic person. We all want justice for others but then we want God to have mercy on us when we sin. It’s unloving and unmerciful to celebrate their downfall. We can be glad God freed us from them, but not for their downward spiral.
@ It’s like celebrating losing a close friend because of betrayal. It’s necessary to move on but if you celebrate losing them, did you ever really like/love them in the first place? And do you even care that they’re lost? That’s the problem. God’s whole law is centered around loving one another. See?
Sometimes we can get too loving and forgiving. Why can God laugh at His enemies and we can’t?
@@tracycampbell3060Because they are ultimately Gods enemies and we are told to pray for our enemies. and told to forgive and leave vengeance to him because our hearts are wicked when he laughs it’s definitely not the way we would laugh at someone !!!
I'm choosing to focus on GOD'S goodness and in that goodness HE brings justice to the oppressed.
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I used to desire bloody (literally) revenge against my narc. In a moment of clarity, I realized that God’s judgement is much better than any revenge I could exact. Though we all will be judged, I’m comforted knowing that in the end, the narc isn’t getting away with anything. God sees. God knows. GOD IS. 😁
Revenge is mine says the Lord.
The wrath of man does not accomplish the righteousness of God. James 1: 20.
@@gwendolynbien-aime1536 God's judgement is higher than ours, his justice ultimately restorative. We may be surprised!
Amen and Amen! Justice righteousness and truth!
🔊AMEN!!! 🙏🙌
Narcissists dig their own holes. God's second greatest gift was free will. I think God heals the wounds inflicted by narcissists and helps us grow. ❤
Like the potter and the clay...
@adrianam2157 Yes, he does. Over 50 years, God has been keeping me safe. I can finally see his work and see how he is dealing with my family member. I've learned to hold my peace and not try to explain it to my friends after they were told lies upon lies to stir them away from me as a support system, an outlet...I t took me a while to realize what I was up against.
Well said! That is a good gift.
the first free gift being grace. and boy do i need that!
God is in absolute & total control, free will is an illusion & is nowhere in scripture. He is the potter & we are the clay. We all have a will, & it is His will that He put in us. May God open you're eyes to this incredible truth. Also, Jesus is the Savior of the World. Read 1 Timothy 4:10 over & over & over....& if it's God's will, He will have you believe it. Peace.
Took my hubby 20 yrs to come back to the Lord but now he has changed so much 💯❤️🙏
@@happyami102619 Praise God 🙏❤️🩹
Praise Jesus!! Bless His Holy Name!! Love and prayers to you and the fam!
@@happyami102619 hello I would like to ask about your experience. I already came to my senses and the holy spirt lead me into the truth. I asked God if he wants to lead me out to do so. But he has told me to stay though a prophet (I am a baptist) I didn’t expect it. I stayed but once you see the colours you get more aggressive. Please pray for me to keep my mouth shut and pray to God . Instead of arguing.
Was he a narcissist
A snake can shed its skin but never its nature.
Lord, break all their conniving ways!
Sounds like a prayer and proclamation that I heard in the Bible that went something like this: "Lord, I thank you that I am not like these sinners and tax collectors!" To that I say "Oh please!" Take a good hard look at yourself before you sit there like a self righteous Pharisee yourself.
@Declaration-of-truth Refraining from judging others is not the same as recognizing when someone has a reprobate mind and has intentionally chosen from free will to serve Satan and commit evil.
Scripture tells us they will share the same fate as their FATHER
“But the wicked shall perish, and the enemies of the LORD shall be as the fat of lambs: they shall consume; into smoke shall they consume away.” - Psalm 37:20
@@INHOUSEMUSICGROUP-PROMOS-vz7lm You're right. But this wasn't a recognition. It was a declared prayer for the masses to break the conniving ways of all narcissists. I observed it as a little proud in nature, unless they pray that same prayer for their own sin... in which case, I don't see that being prayed to the masses. It's easy to recognize the sins of others in North America. I've witnessed far less that can recognize and be humble about their own sins. I don't disagree with anything you said.
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@@INHOUSEMUSICGROUP-PROMOS-vz7lm amen
These narcs in my dysfunctional family liked to cause problems. Lately, a younger one broke their ankle then had hip surgery, one died at 70, one had COVID and another had a tornado hit their home. Another fell down and had to get 20 stitches. I kid you not. This was in the last 6 months. I think the Lord wasn't happy with them. I distanced myself from them slowly from the last 5 years. I was kind to them but they became so abusive I couldn't go around them anymore. I changed my life around 25 years ago and God has been so good to me. Thank You Lord. 💜 🙏.
these things happens and happened even to believers and good christians and even christan's children. It happens to good and bad persons the same. And there is no christian that does not sin anymore since being saved. Their spirits are perfect, but their souls were in a process. Most children are narcissist by birth. And when the parents are born again believers with the fruit of the Spirit, their children had better chances to grow up by loving God and people than children of unbelievers that much more likely were children of narcissist which were children of narcissist. Children of narcissist in most cases grow up and are themselves narcissist. And you can see it everywhere. They have problems to forgive their parent(s) or their narcissist spouse. And thats the greatest problem of children of narcissists. They cannot forgive them, even knowing that they themselves were victims of narcissists. But to forgive is really needed. Without you are forgiving you cannot be forgiven by Jesus.
God's sacrifice is even for the narcissists who believes, but narcissists and their vicims need more time to prosper and to come to healing and fruition and to get the fruits of the Spirit. Its a longer process. Sometimes. It depends on what church they are invited to. Without the Holy Spirit and good teaching and the gifts of The Spirit they cannot discern the Spirits. And often the narcissists are getting the grace of God really better than the Narcissists victims because they had problems to believe in Gods love because they are so wounded in their souls.
And I know that sometimes its demons who whispers lies into the ears of spouses or children to make your marriage or family a bad place for yourself and for your spouse and for your children. You can think your partner is a narcissist but he has only a bad remembrance (he cannot remember what he said yesterday because demons gave him a wrong memory. I know that I cannot trust my own memory. Sometimes I cannot discern between only thoughts or real memories). Or he is tormented by demons. When you do not know how to fight against demons your family is a victim at all. Par example: So, you have sinned. Then your child gives you a selfmade birthday present out of love. But the demon has "helped" your child made this present so that it remembers you at your sin and you are believing, God is showing you this because he is rejecting you.
And you are shocked and your child looks at you and thinking: My mom does not enjoy my present. And the demons is whispering into the ears of your child: She does not love you at all. Every present you gave her, she hated them.
But in reality its a lie from the devil who is whispering lies into the ears of everyone of the family trying to destroy them. Because of what? Because the churches do not cast out demons? They do not even baptising by diving under water. Every new member of the church come in with their own family demons that were in their bloodline since hundreds of years. And then these demons are jumping on every church member lieing to them. They do not even believe anymore that demons exist. They say it was illness and let them go to the doctors. And they gave them pills or vaccines or therapies and tell them even more lies.
Jesus said: Love your enemies!
Loving your friends who love you,...that do also the gentiles, the unbelievers, the sinners. They all love them that doing good to them. But you as my disciples should love your enemies even like your father in heaven does.
Nearly everyone is in some grade a narcissist, therefore everyone has to go through bad situations somehow to mold you.
God does not act like that.He does not destroy or harm in the new testament
Hey sis, firstly that’s not how God works. Just taking ppl out right & left lol 🤦🏼♀️ be careful portraying Him as something He’s not, or that only bad ppl get sick! God is waaaay more complex than that.
Secondly, it’s doubtful all the ppl you listed are narcissists. “Narcissist” is WAAAY over-used & incorrectly used. It’s a serious & rare disorder. Everyone associates ppl they don’t like, selfish, rude, etc with narcissism. Drives me crazy!!!! The ppl you list probably had personality disorders or mix of them.
God boss ❤ oh & Merry Christmas!
Their evil ways make them vulnerable to demonic attacks. When the devil is done with someone, he will destroy them.
@@biblischerMinnegesang888 Excellent!
My boundaries are up and staying up. Hallelujah Praise God!
Praise God, He led me to you tonight! I am at my wits end with my narcissistic husband and struggling with God’s timing! Thank you, Lord, for answered prayers!!!
@@shawnmorymcmillion same for me! I was on TH-cam searching something entirely different… found this page and C.S.Lewis’ page on the narcissist, dealing with them in the Christian way, Gods way. I have hope now! These videos will help us navigate our lives, and find the strength, hope, peace, courage we need . ❤️
@Klaccik I just heard that, it was powerful and the next stop was here. Amazing wisdom.
The narcissist stole my daughter. Its been to the point of unbearable.....but I realized my biggest problem was not trusting God with the details of the traumatization of my daughter and me. I now pray for my daughter, cry at the loss, and release the outcome to Him. Time is but a construct of the mind..... Only soon enough God will bring eternal comfort and console my grief. Just stay on the narrow path like a good & faithful servant.
I have the same problem. A Narcissist stole my only child and granddaughters. They have been bullied and brainwashed and he is very dangerous and I don’t know what to do 😭 I’m not allowed to have any contact with them and he has told my babies horrible lies about me and texted me disgusting names🥺 I just pray for peace, but I am totally shattered and recovering from a heart attack. God help me 🙏
@SusanAversa-fl8qj May Almighty God intervene on your behalf. May he bring you "peace beyond understanding" as you release the outcomes and trust patiently in His plan. Crying does help. Keep the faith🙏🏼❤️🩹🕊️
@@SusanAversa-fl8qj😭 It literally feels like they were kidnapped doesn't it? I'm so sorry I've been there, keep Prayn. 🙏
@@ab3246 my narcissist (ex-husband) also “stole” our daughter. She was an alcoholic and he sheltered and enabled her during COVID, despite my efforts to help her get into a rehab facility. Death took him in the manner of a massive heart attack exactly 4 years ago today. He died alone - his greatest fear. A few months later she entered a year-long rehab and has been sober ever since. He was married and divorced 4 times but I was by far the weakest of his wives, having stayed married to him for 26 years. His death brought her to recovery and a renewed and stronger relationship with me and her brother. It was hard to wait to see His goodness (we divorced in 2012) but we are reaping the rewards today, while he is gone and buried.
@@SusanAversa-fl8qj 🙏♥️🙏
God’s way is always best. Amen
The suffering is long and exhausting, but still waiting and believing the God will give me the victory.
❤🙏🏻
Your words bring me so much comfort.
PLEASE GOD 🙏 I give this extremely sick pesons hold over me to your care and give me the strength and wisdom to be able to deal with this..❤
Its hard to keep waiting but i know God Almighty will do it when it is time, amen 🙏
Even when a narc has a hard time, their brains just don't get it. Ever see one stop and change? Someone who's spent their life lying, manipulating & gaslighting? Not me .
Absolutely spot on 😉
It's literally not possible.
@@Dana19443 👍 I am not Waiting for God to Fix it,, I am making Karma work right now
@@Dana19443 Remove yourself from them,find your own life and Peace and stay safe and Happy, cherish your time with the kids as they are Pure gifts from God and Haven't been Poisoned yet
@@daynapeterson9033
✌️ We can all pray for a miracle. Other than that, same ol' same ol'.
I’ve endured a miserable marriage to a narc for 25 years. Leaving isn’t an option because he didn’t want me working and he controls the money. I’m working on getting a real estate license to provide for my hopeful escape some day. I needed this video. It brought conviction to my heart. I’d never ask God to take him out because I don’t believe he’s saved even though he’s made quite a “godly” name for himself at church. They have no idea who he really is. I love the advice Kris gives on how exactly to pray for the narc. I will add this to my prayers for his salvation. Please pray that I can endure for however much longer it’ll take for God to act on my behalf. Godspeed!!💕
He planned your life that way to keep you under control and diminished. Hard to believe they are believers.
@@amygeist5260 I'm praying for you, Amy ❤️
42 years for me. But ten years ago he was caught by his own stupidity, not towards me but towards someone else and people saw what he could be like. I kept silent, showing no sympathy or anger towards him - just let him stew in his own act of folly. He was highly embarrassed about this flaw in his character, as it was all his own undoing. He repented and this changed his ways. Occasionally 'horns' show up on his head, but I only need to remind him of past miseries, and he calms down. So, thank God for that! I hope the same for you. Just keep praying - if you can share this with another TRUSTED Christian, do, then you have someone you can pray with. I pray the Lord's blessing on you.
@@saraheck7898 ♥️💕
@@irenemcwatt4443 Bless you!!💖
If anybody is been abused by a narc you have the right to divorce that evil person in Lord name.
No, you don't have the right. Divorce is only allowed because of adultery and physical abuse.
@@GT-mc9eg hello. Please read Deuteronomy 24:1, Malachi 2n and Matt's 19 in full context to get a better understanding of why The Messiah answered The Pharisees the way He did. The Most High YAH is a loving Creator. Why would He want someone to be in a covenant with an emotionally and mentally abusive person? The person who commits these horrible acts has already broken the marital covenant. Above all, The Most High YAH is love. Where is the love in any type of abusive behavior?
@@GT-mc9eg which bible verse say that of "physical abuse". I see only of "adultery" in scripture.
But,...christians are not under the law.
When you are not under the law. And where is no law there is no punishment. When you have sinned you run to the Lord and repent and ask for forgiveness.
Many christians are not knowing to be led by the spirit, because in their churches their pastors themselves do not know how to be led by the Holy Spirit and therefore they teach the 10 commandments instead. But that is fuel to sin and and death and condemnation.
But living in a verbally abusive marriage makes you so sick, mentally and emotionally and finally physically, that the only way out is divorce. Yes, when you are yourself in a very good church, good edified with spiritual gifts and hearing the Holy Spirit you have the good counselor for saving your marriage, you got the good idea what to pray and good answers to handle your marriage, you are a good wife. ...
But if God put not the right thoughts into you and the right prayers and you got not visions from the Lord and dreams or revelations and wisdom and knowledge, how will you get the right ideas then and the wisdom to handle. When you not got for yourself the revelation of the love of God and God put not HIS love into your heart and Spirit, you cannot stand an abusive marriage and you are not able to prosper in any way and to live a victorious christian life. Sometimes it is better for you and your children to leave an abusive partner. And sometimes you have ignored God when he wanted you to do special things or not to do some things. The simply run to the Lord and repent and begin new with Jesus. His chesed-grace-love is new every morning. Trust God!
Oftentimes, justice to a narcissist waits til judgment day
I even doubt the life review
I absolutely agree.
Since they love victimhood , they can't see that God's judgement is brought forth from their actions, so often it is held back until judgment day!
Unfortunately after 30 years marriage . The last 8 years of marriage I had enough . I was in then in a very physical and mental narcissist abuse .
I could not leave at that time bc my daughter @22years of age had gotten really sick . She needed a bone marrow transplant. I dropped everything and became a full time caregiver. While going through menopause and dealing with threats every night . Re:to my life so on .
After 4 years my daughter finally received a transplant. 100per match . I was home with her for 2 months and he overdosed. I couldn’t believe it . I was so hurt so much anger the pain was so unbearable. Almost 7 years later 5 years of therapy. I am still growing.
My point …. God stepped in and saved me , because I could not save myself . God bless all .
Thank you for your testimony. I'm sorry you went through all that 😢
Yeah at times god will intervene and set things straight
God is always working.
@@kygray4184 ❤️Amen
I've watched several of your videos lately, but this one really opened my eyes. The thing I need to let go of is that I was there for my brother when he fell, laid on the floor for 3 days, and lost most of his possessions as a result of the squalor he was living in. He's in a good place now, both in health and his living situation. But when I diagnosed with a rare progressive neurological disease, he only got angry with me, like I got this disease to make his life miserable. That's when I decided I have to let him go and let God deal with him. I've also had to examine my own attitude toward him.
Hi Linda, how's your day going with you?
I have been condemning myself so much for my anger, and responding poorly when I would bring up mistreatments and he would gaslight, blame me or play the victim. I must confess I have been struggling with rage as a result. And I had and have to repent for words I’ve also used in these toxic incidents. Another way to chip away and erode self worth, feeling terrible for going against my own values as a Christian. Yet how comforting and validating to see in these comments that I’m not alone in this struggle. And that even my fellow Christians battled thoughts of revenge. Thank you for this video the scriptures shared certainly helped me to free my mind from some of these thoughts. God bless you for that as I feel my garden overgrown with weeds from this destruction and heartbreak.
Narcs will use your re-active rage against you ... notice how they're happy once they've triggered you and transfered their anger to you
@ yes…and then bring it up forever and ever, especially if your trying to hold them accountable, never let you forget it, but leave out the detailed of what triggered you.
Hang in there, you are not alone! The manipulation tornado's will make you feel like you're about to lose your mind but for me the rage came because of the tremendous pain of someone dragging my boundaries through mud... It is God teaching us to enforce them way sooner in our relationships before we get the pain as if someone else is tearing our skin off. We don't need to go to hell before we can start to feel like we deserve love. We are loved and learning this lesson in the most painful and eye opening way possible. I will always thank God for that.
I definitely need constant humbling. I have a very narcissistic dad. And 2 brothers. My parents are at the stage of needing a lot of help to which the responsibility falls on me. Somedays I want to scream and cry and some days I’m determined to forgive pray and try to keep going. I’m sorry Lord when I complain. His love endures forever.
GOsh, I feel the same now (4 yrs of relationship with a narc). I hate myself, I am always angry.
50 years suffering this narcissistic psycho ,she even added more like minded forming a gang(from those I connect to from work place, friends, neighbors behind my back) ...it never stopped... still waiting for justice,4 of my loved ones suffered too and lost their lives ..I am still holding on to my faith🙏
That is horrible. I can’t do 10 more years. I’d be dead.
Mine used social norms to entrap me and my love of children.🥺
I am so sorry for your losses and suffering you've endured.
Failure to thrive as an adult is criminal
You are not alone❤
I hope God will expose these conniving deceitful individuals! For the sake of us people in this world.
Esp when it's Ur parent doing this to U and I can't speak up because U have no one to go to for help. Esp when U tried to expose them in the past and Ur family thought U where the sick one for even exposing their sick and twisted acts, making U feel Ur making it up. They are master manipulators, I truly believe that this parent is full blown possessed, a reprobate. I pray God exposes these filthy devils, because there evil is worst than what we did in the world, it's premeditated evil designed to destroy Ur soul. I've given up praying for restoration I want justice before my soul is destroyed under the weight of this.
My mother is a PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE, covert narcissist. She is 86 years old. I'm her oldest child and only daughter. I'm the scapegoat. My brother, who is the middle child, is her invisible child, and the youngest is a golden child. I've had to go NO CONTACT to avoid the emotional-mental pain. I love her because she is my mother, but I don't like her. She can be a little sadistic at times towards me. She smears me to other family members, so the only family member I'm communicating with is my son. It does seem that she is trying to drive a wedge between us, but my son has assured me that will never happen. It upsets me, because she is trying though. I just want her to leave me be. It's painful enough knowing that she doesn't love me, and probably never has. If she passes before me, I can't stand the thought of attending her funeral, and if I pass first, I'd rather she not be at mine. I don't wish anything bad on her, in fact, I wish her a good life....just without me. I've heard that it's neigh impossible for them to admit they are wrong or that they have sinned, so it's highly unlikely she will get saved. I do know that it isnt totally impossible though. HOPEFULLY she will let God heal her. She did have a HORRIFIC childhood, with an alcoholic father and poverty. He was most abusive to her, since she was the oldest? She started being a level 1 hoarder in her 30s, but it's gotten much worse, and now she is a level 3-4 hoarder.
Oh my goodness I have the same situation w my mom! Sometimes it’s good just to know that somebody else out there is feeling and going through the same things. I just I live in a small town and it’s so hard because people will ask me well. How is your mom and how is your mom? They’re always asking the same thing and I’m like sometimes I really don’t even know what to say
Sounds like we have very similar mother's and a very similar situation. I know exactly how you're feeling and my heart hurts for you as it does for myself. GOD is more than enough to make up for our hurtful parents and that has been my rock to lean into. We are so fortunate to have access to these highly qualified teachers helping us navigate these confusing behaviors. It's also comforting to know we aren't the only one with a messed up family of origin. God bless you!
@@user-xe2im5ff1gSame here.
It’s a horrendous situation! I have a mother like this. I’m an only child but she uses my kids and grandkids as well. Very painful! Praying and praying for all of us !
You don't have to attend anyone's funeral or memorial service.
God removed the narcissist from my life, with her infidelity she got pregnant and 3 years earlier i had a vasectomy so I proved it in court, she left with nothing and her new supply dumped her but he had to pay child support for 18 years. i married a woman who couldn't have kids and we raised mine. we are still together and we try to do what God says to do.
Amen!
I had a similar experience and I’m sorry you had to experience that pain. I’m glad to hear God have you a new wife and family to enjoy.
@@krystabledsoe8066 Thank you, 41 years and we are happy together and we are believers.
Thank you for the video. Im 41, recently divorced. Even when she tried to kill me, turned my oldest narc child against me, and committed adultery, i still told her we made vows to God. And she needed to honor them, and if she would quit her lifestyle we would go to counseling at church. She said no, and her friends said it was ok, it doesnt matter we were separated. Ive been waiting for God to enact some source of justice for me at all, but in the end, i fear she will never acknowledge her wrong doings. And that is truly scary for her.
That’s great to know all these . I know God is with me , I know he protected me , as now my eyes wide open , now I know evil are here to destroy my faith in God , but I can’t be destroy because I’m with God . Thank you.
Really needed to hear this at this very moment. God alone can bring change. In the meantime, one shouldn't lose focus in blooming. Justice will prevail at God's grace.
So good! Thank-you for sharing your wisdom Kris. Vengeance belongs to the lord. All we can do is pray for peace.
Hi Suzka, how's your day going with you?
Unfortunately their pride keeps the Grace of God away from them…
I would pray for Lord Jesus to be gentle on them, but as Kris mentioned, pride brings fornication, abuses, self destruction. I have seen it. Keep me humble, Lord, and protect us from the evil one.
Amen, I've seen it too 🥺🙏🏻❤️
Amen ! I wish God brings them in front of everyone whom they have grouped and apologize for their gas lighting ,provoking behavior and all disrespect they have done. Hope they correct their behavior and respect a friendship.
I simply can’t thank this wonderful lady enough…she’s been a blessing in my life!!! ❤
Thank you for posting this. I’ve been dealing with an ex is a family law attorney and also a narcissist. The divorce broke me because of her actions before and during the divorce. Even here after everything has been finalized she continues to be terrible but these videos helped me bounce back. I feel like a have a great story to share that may help others.
@@e2amracer some narcs love being involved in the “law”. They love to “judge” others with their faux narrative. 🤥
God bless you and you are not alone in what you just described. The road is rough but God is with you 🙏🏾
I pray for you. My narcissist ex-wife brought repeated court actions, losing many times, but costing me in time, stress, and legal fees. I think Kris is teaching me to leave it to the Lord. I cannot change this person, and I have to watch her swim in the settlement money, escaping the huge amount of cash she owes me, and she arrogantly still refuses to accept her violence towards myself and the kids. But I know that she will be answerable for this one day. Meanwhile, I will continue to bring up the best kids in the world. I reckon you will have great relationships with your kids, with your family and your colleagues: everyone will see the greater fruit in your character because of your endurance and surrender to Him. Blessings to you.
Good job girl, i spent 25 years in a marriage and did not even realize what i was doing until i seperated from him. That was sixteen years ago. I am still walking out the repercussions.
Wow! 25 years for me too!
It’s been 1.5 years since separation. I’m lonely and every morning still dealing mentally with the aftermath of cruel Discard and destruction of our family unit, while he ran off into the sunset threatening….
But God saw me through!!!! Amazing Wonderful God.
He tricked all our church friends also. Very clever COVERT
@@tinaureta9891I'm separated also, but just shy of 4 months and this was a reconciliation... convinced me of change.... Nope, just not as bad, or loud we'll say.
Did you divorce?? I want to in the worst way, but am not getting the green light from the Lord... IDK?! The first time it was within 1 1/2 mo., after he left I filed.. He was clear across the country... Wanted counciling via Skype, I finally figured out.. He was wording it weird. But he fought with me via text, email.. FaceTime.. You name it. I was done. My health was in shambles, and he had looked at porn... Besides his behavior. This time he is 5 min. Away from me, we hardly speak, but when we have he's gotten stupid, then I react... He tries to get me to go to concerts with him.. Last was out 1 year anniversary and he'd already been out of the house 2 months.. awkward a bit, but he got mad right in middle of it over WHAT I've no idea... Then he went alone to one of my favorite Christian artists.. Then sent me a pic of them meeting, and then said he had something for me!!? I felt that was rubbing it in my face, but... But we rarely talk, it even then is texting for the most part. I don't know what he's up to, but I had to drop off mail to him... He asks about counciling😳.. He tried that 1 time, said waste of money, didn't like her. I said probably not, but I'd pray about it. Then I notice for someone who didn't want or need friends was saying hello to all his neighbors.. Including female... By name??!! IDK... He just skates..... No remorse, apologies.. It's just, moving on.... So I'm trying to figure out, what's the hold up.. I couldn't even bond with him... He defrauded me there...! Couldn't... You know, even with a handful of those pills! I feel no, the 2 become one.. Asked him if he was gay even... He just laughed uncomfortabley long... Then said no. I'm at a loss.
My ex narc beat me up, in all ways. Took him took court after the police cuffed him. Turned out he had two previous convictions before mine, still he was set free. God introduced me to a woman ten years later who was having counselling by his mother!!!! Small world. So I'm going around with ptsd, hyper vig etc because he moved to my town., this woman told me that her consellers son had died? He died of a brain tumour at 48. So let that be a lesson. I'm not free of the trauma yet, but god showed me lots of lessons about narcs, thank you god so much. 😇 🙏🏼
Thanks sister. It's been a brutally painful journey through the wilderness. God bless you.
Asking God to reveal our heart to us is poweful, fact is we’re all sorta messed up this side of heaven and it makes us want to extend grace for bitterness. Not to be a doormat by any measure, but also not to be so anti people that everyone is a toxic narcissist is not good either. I hope and pray all are healing and doing ok, We need Jesus more than ever in these dark, dark days. Only He can restore us to be better than new!
Everyone in this thread had their season of suffering. Now is the season for healing. Everyone here is going to be okay. No drugs. No alcohol. Daily prayer snd worship. Love yourselves. God made lots of promises to us. Declare them! He said "come boldly before the throne" , not limp and whimper. We're all fighting a defeated enemy. You have to know that in your hearts.
Thank you for your insights Bravo "The Lord is my portion saith my soul therefore I shall hope in him, The Lord loves those that wait for him, the soul that seeketh him."
My covert narcissist mother has now passed away. It is hard to explain my feelings. My siblings, who I love dearly are devastated and I am in a deep depression. One day at a time at this time.
After praying for healing for his chronic pain for 33 years, asking God to make me the wife my husband truly needed, asking God to give me a new, deeper love for my spouse, I asked God to shine light on any darkness on our marriage. POW! It was like the spotlights that they use for grand openings of stores! God exposed my soon to be ex-husband for the narcissist he is and severe discipline followed! We are Christians (or at least he always claimed to be) so I believe the Lord is severely pruning him but whether he grows and flourishes is up to him. I set boundaries and he ignored them and God took care of the rest! This teaching is spot on so I encourage those of you who are still trying to navigate life with a narcissist, do what she advises! I didn’t listen to this or even realize my husband was a narcissist before I took the steps she talks about but the steps I took were exactly what she is talking about and it is bringing freedom! God walked me through this and He will do the same for you!
God answered you to leave your husband, to divorce him?
@@biblischerMinnegesang888 I won’t go into the details because they are private but the truth came out and I have Biblical reasons to be released from my marriage.
I appreciate your obedience and feel like God intended for me to see this. I woke at 3am once again feeling angry at an evil landlord that I have sat quietly suppressing hatred toward his actions ( enabling him)and I immediately prayed and asked Gods forgiveness. I opened my phone and this pops up… I now realize now that I’m the only one suffering- through evil people Satan finds a way in to manipulate my mind! I Am an avid gardener of 30+ years and plucking weeds ( even the pretty ones) is one thing I can definitely accomplish. I have always believed that God blessed my grow because I love feeding his people… I now realize that God will bless me with eternal peace and happiness and takes the burden and guilt of vengeance off of me. I’m grateful for this message and sincerely appreciate your obedience. I will happily subscribe. May God continue to Bless you and your journey and us through you.
Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
Being with my ex narc for the past 8 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I got to know about my narc husband bad ways when I reach out to a private detective digitalinvestigate@gmail. com for help he did a perfect work for me I can see everything he’s doing on his device.
My wife did the same thing but with her family. She left me several times when she didn't get her way. She condoned her mental abuse and lied about what she said. She gaslit me into oblivion and when I cried she called me a bitch and when I raged she called me a psycho. The torture I endured was immense. She didn't love me she loved her own vision for what she could use me for. She never ever returned my love and she always clung to mommy and daddy to validate her
@@smokingcrab2290 can you tell the patterns that she was showing. Was she manipulating the things and playing victim cards like that more patterns!!?
Thank You for sharing, I have endured 22 years of this behaviour with my ex wife.. in the end she stole everything and I was discarded. Its been 12 years and I'm still struggling to recover
Open the eyes of the blind, Lord! ❤️🙏
Spectacular video. God is clearly raising up a new generation of shepherds to protect people from this type of evil in the world!
Psalm 119:10-12
This is exactly what I needed to hear, at this stage of my unhappy marriage relationship with my narcissistic husband. I am praying & continue to pray for God’s help to survive. Thank you.
Hard not to be bitter traumatized for sure PTSD BEEN THERE FROM THE WORSTFOR 20 plus years almost killed me literally!!! However I refuse to be a victim or live in anger. One thing this woman said hit me. I’ve studied this at nausea and felt no way no cure and in most cases I still feel that way. However I do believe in God and I’ve witnessed him doing the seemingly impossible so maybe just maybe if they can find God the impossible CAN HAPPEN… so I pray now for him
@@josephgrumet ptsd anxiety before he comes home unlimited apologies…no wonder some of dream of heaven more
It seems like the people that struggle the most have a good heart ❤️ 💜 ❤️ 💜.
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Watching your videos helped me discover that I have narcissistic behavors. I don't know if I'm a narcissist cause my counselor says a narcissist wouldn't admit or recognize that they're a narcissist. Regardless, it may not have been your intention to help the one behaving narcissistically, but you did. Thank you for raising these awarenesses in me.
Thanks for your video. I had a friend who was married to a narcissist for 30 years. It was awful seeing the effects of his affairs and abuse, and it not stopping. God called her home last month. The man cant hurt her anymore. I do pray God limits that man's actions going forward, because it was traumatic being her friend, esp in a church setting, let alone being her.
Thank you so much, Kris. We adult siblings watch your videos copiously as we navigate trying to balance honoring the elderly narcissist father with distancing ourselves from him to protect our own families. Your advice is priceless!
Your videos are making me rekindle my relationship with God after being Agnostic for the longest time. My dad is a narcissistic alcoholic. My mom is codependent. A friend I had a fallout with who broke my heart and betrayed my trust was also a covert narcissist. I followed my mom's pattern unconsciously because I didn't know better. I hope God can make them see the light and stop what they're doing. Us loving them doesn't work. They don't change. They only hurt us more. We're punished for loving them...
Thank you with all my heart for this video. I am stuck being bullied by three women in my new apartment complex. Triangulating against me, digging for info, banging on my door even though I set boundaries with a do not disturb sign....I thought we were going to be friends but they acted nice in the beginning only to gossip and smear campaign all over the complex about things I told them while they visited my place for the first time.
One of them started to tell me lies about the word of God: " Jesus isn't coming back". " Adam didn't tell God the woman gave him the apple".......I grabbed my Bible and read verses to her that contradicted what she was telling me. She blew her top, started yelling at me and that's when I got up and firmly stated " You need to leave". Now, she hates me and has employed flying monkeys to dig for info on me posing as women who wanted to be friends with me.
I cried for a week and after much prayer realized that I am letting the devil steal my joy. Spent many hours in binge praying and speaking verses of protection over myself. Woke up with peace and ready to fight. Thanks to you videos I am learning some tools to keep my peace and sanity. God bless you dear.
This might be the wrong video for your comment, except there are members of the body of Christ here who will assist in prayer for you. Continue speaking those scriptures out loud. Continue giving the whole situation to God, and erase any thought of retaliating, yourself. You can thank God for taking care of the situation, and also ask Him to show you what He does. But like another commentor mentioned, don't rejoice over your enemy when God's judgment hits them. Pray for them, also. Remember, Jesus said to pray for your enemies. God is aware of everyone and everything. We aren't. You will see His judgment is always 100% perfect, and you may even find yourself in several future situations which you must continually give to Him. Keep doing it. This world is not large enough to contain the books written. What do you think is written in them? I will say this. One key way to improve your boundaries, is to take a stand.
Excellent! Explains a short and VERY unhappy marriage. Then the God of all mercies sent the perfect woman.
@richardwells8954 : congratulations to you!
I believe I've done this. He was exposed and he blamed me so sounds like a gaslighter too. I prayed for pain- so he would know his life is not his own. I've not had any contact but still believe God created him and has a purpose for him.
Thank you for the education and support,many Blessings and love to everyone ❤
I'm so glad to see you again! You are looking so well. Thank you.
Thk u for this!!! God is so good!!! I hope my husband repents and turns to God in the end
I just need this pain to stop...😢😢
I had dealt with a narcissistic husband for years and years and finally left. He was from Iran!! Even though I have gone no contact, and I pray for him...I am still tormented with terrifying dreams of him and his manipulating ways...please pray for me that I am delivered from this and that I find a Godly companion. I am 68 yrs old and never truly felt love. Sometime, I even feel abandoned by God.
First learn to be alone, busy, not lonely. Neediness turns friendship away.
Lord have mercy on them 🙏🏼
This lady is gold full of knowledge and wisdom may God increase your knowledge amen
You missed the one of the most important steps!
RUN, GET OUT OF THEIR LIVES, EVEN IF YOU ARE RELATED TO THEM!
Yes! No contact is essential!!! That means also not ruminating on them and what they did.
LOL 😂
@@katyasehryn8810It’s tough to stop ruminating! It’s been 1 1/2 yeRs since he discarded after 25 Long amazing , but weird and Hurtful years!
Hard not to remember the past and all the things he did to make me. “nothing”….. lower than him….
Sometimes that's not possible.
I really needed to see this video! Thank you for showing me that God is working on my husband!
The worse thing about these kinds of people is when it’s a parent bringing up a child by themselves to a world like this and that child thinks it’s perfectly acceptable to behave in such a way…until in your mid life someone who’s been through it tells you what your own mother is. Then you have to restart your entire life again and try to remove all that programming
I’m going through this with my own adult children and their mother, my ex-wife.
I stayed in an abusive relationship for many years before she left for COVID.
I knew the truth about COVID but she didn’t support me and she eventually divorced me, what a blessing as I went through counseling and discovered who I was and who she was. I just love them completely right where they are with no critical attitude and it works.
When does someone usually have the realization that their parent(s) might be a narcissist?
This is where I'm at. Hardest year of my life😢😢
@ when an older sibling or other family members tell you after 31 years of programming. I knew something was up with my mother but never knew what until they told me
This is my wife. She's so clingy to her family that has her in their own little bubble and she thinks their way is the only way. Now that she's alone and lives with them she will have all the time in the world to think about things
Thank you for this teaching! I am still healing from the abuse of a narcissist. God is faithful!
Dear Kris Reece, thank you, even though I already suspected what you said to be the case, it is soothing and refreshing to hear you say it, especially in such an upbeat way.
I am in a "quantum entanglement" situation (a psychic bond) with someone who refuses to back off and leave me alone. Pleading etc hasn't helped. It's not erotomania, the person has some kind of dependence on me, I don't understand it myself, whether it's a desire for information or a need for some kind of company (fear of solitude) he feels, I don't know. It began when I repeatedly prayed on his behalf (for his tennis matches). But he retired more than two years ago, and he still hasn't let me go. I am 59 and often feel physically fatigued by this. He is 16 years younger and I feel that he's being very selfish, to say the least.
At first I thought that he was basically striving for good. Later it turned out that he is in fact obsessed with money and fame, and in the habit of lying (especially in order to portray himself as virtuous).
He's a Freemason, and that may be playing a role, even though he isn't senior-level. An evil oath is still an evil oath.
The previous times I experienced this (thankfully brief and quickly-ended), at least three of those people were involved in the occult. Mere friendliness and kindness set it off in two cases. My impression is that romantic feelings aren't necessary for the bond to form.
I prayed for God to show this person His power and benevolence (and He did), but it doesn't seem as though he has much respect for God. I have to trust in God that He will give me the strength I need to endure this, I don't think it will last my whole life. God was merciful towards Job, I trust that He will have mercy on me also, I just need to be careful to respect Him.
Thank you again for the video. May God bless and keep you.
PS. I'm feeling quite stressed at the moment, that is the reason why I'm bothering to write this comment. I know that since God didn't answer my prayers (He hasn't yet) when I asked Him to break the psychic link, He has a good reason for not answering that request, even if I don't know the reason. I just have to trust Him and endure! (Easier said than done. but it's possible. I need to stay calm.)
It is quite possible that this person will be exposed, since his mendacity increased after retirement. But I don't know whether I would still be chained to him and dragged along, I don't know when this will end. Perhaps when he is distracted by a really severe crisis (such as a literal life-or-death struggle). Thank you again for what you said in the video.
@@alrinaleroux9229 You are not to endure. You ate to FLEE. Break off all contact. God doesn't do for you what He has told you to do.
You are to have NO fellowship with darkness.
Obey God, James says to submit , put yourself under God's authority, which would be obeying, and the devil will flee from you.
This is not a once and done thing. It is a spiritual battle.
Put your Armour on and STAND against this , Ephesians 6, by completely going no contact with this person in any form.
You are not helping them, you are giving them devil an open door to you
This was helpful. After going no contact for a good while, the narcissist in my life leaked his way back in---briefly.
They wanted me back in their life, wanted me to show up for Christmas. Used several manipulation tactics and said they'd like to move forward, pretend nothing happened, stated if I was afraid of being attacked, that I rest assured that wasn't going to happen.
I politely declined stating I was not ready to reenter into this "move forward and forget the past relationship". I identified real quick they were trying to butter me up and bring me back in as their scapegoat of choice. I politely declined as I stated above, and this was met with harsh words, his loss of temper and threats. Proving to me that not only had he not changed at all, but his intentions were nefarious the whole time.
I heard his Christmas family plans didn't happen and in fact are now needing to be postponed for weeks. Second year in a row this happened to him (quick back story, when we were a family, he was adamant-downright insistent that holidays are to be celebrated on the actual day of the holiday even if that meant family members who had to work were simply discluded (even if there were a day close to the holiday where everyone could be together). So to hear his holiday plans fell apart 2 years in a row with postponement, I couldn't help but think this was his time to have things go not so well for him.
I needed to hear your message in this video, because I do not need to be rejoicing in that, I'm human so first reaction was to think wow, he's getting a dose of things not going his way. But, I know that's not how I want to think. I want a closer relationship with God and I want to be the best version of myself I can be. I needed the reminder that I don't need to involve myself with however God handles this person. I need to stay in my lane and do right by God.
Thank you. I think even though this video isn't brand new, it was new to me and the Holy Spirit led me to it to give me that gentle reminder to pray for this person and stay out of the way.
He went straight to a rebound living normal life.
Hi Sue, how's your day going with you?
Another great lesson on dealing with Narcissist. Godly and true. Honor God in this. Let the peace of God cover you all as you deal with this disorder.
I feel so bad but I went no contact with this person, super demeaning, invalidating my feelings all of the time, manipulative, disrespectful, mocked me in discussions, always blamed me for everything, the list goes on and on. I've tried to be kind and love him like Christ, to be patient and understanding that these are spirits within him and putting myself through the ringer, no empathy towards me reciprocated, I kept empathizing and understanding him despite him saying im not. Point is- i recently saw it for what it is and left him at the dinner table and walked out. He was being extremely disrespectful and hurtful and so, I didn't know what else to do. It was a shift in the moment that happened in me. I felt like my heart started pounding and the restaurant started becoming smaller and I didn't want to panic and I told him very calmly and sincerely "Juan, what you're doing right now is hurting me." He didnt care. And it's like Jesus spoke to me in that moment to just walk away. Never thought I'd have the courage or power to do so but I did it. Didn't say one more word. I grabbed my jacket and purse and walked out. He called twice and texted 3 times, blaming me of course and tried to illicit a response out of me by being manipulative. I didnt answer and havent answered. All because I told him I felt the issue with us was that he didn't respect me. I said it so sincerely and calmly and nicely. He got so angry and started cursing and said we were done and our meeting was a waste........ I said this is exactly why I feel you don't respect my feelings. Look at how you speak to me? Moral of the story i feel bad I went no contact. Am I doing wrongly? I felt there was nothing more I could say or do. There was never resolution on his end. On my end, many suggestions and willingness for solution. On his, none what so ever. Miserable.
Should I feel bad?
You did the right thing. A narcissist is like a Pharisee, and look at how Jesus dealt with them. “Scorched Earth” every time…🤐🔥🤫
@spaceskipster4412 thank you for your reply. 🙏🏼🩵
Well, this is nice to hear. I’m a Christian by now ex-wife also was is a Christian along with this male friend she has who’s supposed Christian. He’s an alcoholic. They both have psychiatric issues. She seems to be a narcissist. He seems to have bipolar disorder. I’m a 38 year Fire paramedic veteran with PTSD compounded by abuse in betrayal, but I do have good friends around me have known my whole life who keep the faith with me🙏🏼
I needed this just now. Thank you, Lord, for Your timing. Thank you, Chris, for making this.
❤ she is not only my daughter, I even allowed her to be taken into my home, despite warnings from many, there is no way back for me, everything I try to say carefully ends in a fight, and then the old cows come out again, which were never discussed at all! this is my old age, 😢
Help Lord❤
I had to leave a toxic work environment because of a narc colleague... He got fired eventually and everyone despised him. However, it took me two years to recover physically and mentally... Let alone financially. But I di trust when we're in the New Jerusalem, I will not even think about that 😅
I truly appreciate those who speak not only from a humanistic approach, but a biblical standpoint as well. The Word is our manual to navigate life, so not acknowledging His ways makes no sense.
Currently, I’m reading the book of Jeremiah & I’m realizing more & more that God is a fair God. Whether it’s a prophet, him allowing a showing personally to you or messages from others, He’ll never lead you blind… but it’s up to us to receive and align our life with that message. Something I’ve had to learn is we’re all God’s children. So that person I can’t stand is still God’s child so they’re deserving of God’s grace, love and protection too. While I pray those individuals come to God before it’s too late, I’ve learned boundaries and allowing only things within my control is what I can do. The rest is in God’s hands 🙏🏾
That was EXCELLENT...Thank you Kris
I'm in an emotionally abusive relationship with a narcissist. It's been 10 years, and I am financially dependent of him just because of our wonderful, loving son. I am currently in school to become a nurse. It's so difficult to study and do my assignments on time. He does everything possible to sabotage me. I'm so confused sometimes with his love bombing that I end up sabotaging myself. This woman's words have hit my soul so deep. I pray the Lord helps me protect my son and my efforts to become a nurse to leave this abusive relationship for good. I don't have friends, I'm isolated from my family, and I miss being the fun, happy, church volunteer I was before meeting him. I should have listened to everyone who warned me, especially the Bible. People who believe in Jesus should not date or marry atheists or those who claim to agnostic.
I appreciate your analysis. Realizing the Biblical Fact that God saves and Man can't has been helpful in dealing, not only with others but also with my own "flesh."
I felt peace letting go of narcissistic person I grew up with. I don’t worry about God’s justice. It’s up to Him how He deals with her. I focus on healing and growing myself. I’m accountable for my own thoughts and actions.
Same!
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Narcissists...this word is getting familiar to me. Feel heartbroken n helpless. When there is no way..God always has His ways n mercy. Thank you so much for sharing ma'am 🙏🙏
Wow this was just so so good! Love to hear God‘s heart through you. It’s very helpful and helps me To see His perspective, Which is just so unlike ours in the flesh.
I have prayed for my sister salvation for many years, she even lives near a church but nothing
Thank you for your videos Kris, this is so comforting. Please pray for me, I use to speak to my neighbour, but no longer. She lives above me, she has been banging on her floor/ my ceiling for years and seems to be triggered just by hearing me enter my property. I have called police, the council etc.
I will continue to pray for her but help me not to respond and just respond in praising God that he will expose her and vindicate me 🙏🏾
God works on his time not ours. No revenge is needed when know God's got you
Please pray for my dad. He's a narcissist and a professing believer. He has caused so much harm to my family and he kept throwing grenades at me, that I cried out to God and He told me to trust him and walk away. It's been over 2 years with no contact. It breaks my heart, but nothing has changed. He claims innocence and blames the one he threw the grenade at. I've given him to God, but in my love for him, I don't want him going to hell. So please pray that God will get through to him before it's too late 🙏 thank you 💕
@ToLiveIsChrist4Eternity I am living in same situation, my husband padtored 35 years, he has ruined our whole family he is 91 i am 80
Thanks!
How can we save the narcissistic person that happens to be a family member? Well 11:00 answered that. Lord thank you for all you've dont for us in the past, present, and the future. I put all my faith in you to guide me in this task.
The worst narcissist I had in my life (mother in law) died to lung cancer. Even if she gave me the hardest time and I got ptbs from my experiences, I developed so much as a person. The one thing that sticks to my mind and helped me to have compassion towards her was that she never experienced joy and happyness for others or even for herself. I saw that she is unable to have these feelings. What a sad life! I learned to have better boundaries and wished her well in her last time here on earth. God will do what he has to do with her -not me- and that takes a lot of burden off my shoulders.
Thank you for this amazing word. This was life changing.
In church and married a Minister. 10 years as mother and wife and he alienates us from church, lost everything and could not understand so, I begin journaling and visiting psychology websites. Narrowing things down but, unsure, wanted to return to work after kiddos were school age to help our family, naturally, he unmasked after I found full-time job doing what I had previously done in my 10 year career. He had created an environment that spiraled into confrontation.