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how this woman has only 3.3k subs and such little views 🤯... i think i’ve watched almost every expert videos on these topics and she is so dead on and breaks it down so good.
After watching this video... yesterday night i asked the Lord to set me free from the trauma bond with Narcissist. I saw spirit leaving my body and felt free. Now i have no feelings for the Narcissist
This is such a good explanation of trauma bond. How the narcissist brings the pain and destruction but then turns around and brings the relief just when you can't hold on any longer. Realizing this pattern literally causes a chemical reaction in your body and muscle memory is a really powerful revelation.
I never comment on on any videos but this video really touch me! I've been going through this and did not realized I was trauma bonded! I've been praying to God for guidance on what to do with my relationship and if what I was doing was correct. Your videos are confirmation. It seems like you are speaking directly to my situation! Thank you for this!
Trauma bonding is not a new concept to me, but this is the best explanation I have ever heard. Understanding it’s addictive nature is so empowering. We need to know what we are up against to be able to fully overcome it.
Once again God coming through using you in this journey of healing. Thank you so much for your wisdom and sharing increasing my wisdom and discernment. I love how you used the analogy of them leaving u in the desert then picking u up in the most extravagant ways so u forget they were the ones that put u there in the 1st place. It's definitely that way. During this time away from the narcissist and separating myself from this trauma bond I feel like those drug addicts that are going through withdraws from their drug. Although I may not be vomiting or shaking or sweating etc on the outside inside my soul my spirit my mind feel as if it is. It can get unbearable at times.. This has been the most difficult breakup I've ever experienced in my life and I've had horrible ones but not from how a narcissist played me. I know my God is bigger and He definitely brings me peace and love on my most difficult days of withdrawal. I appreciate your videos. I feel God holding my hand through it all with these. Thank you 💘
Dear Miztruth, I'm sorry for all that you are going through. 😟 I pray that God would bring massive, accelerated healing to your heart in Jesus' name 🙏🏽🤗.❤️🕊 I'm so happy to hear that you are experiencing God's peace and presence through this hard time. He is the One we can always count on to be there and never abandon us. I'm also so glad that you are experiencing God's comfort while watching my videos. That is my prayer--that people watching my videos would experience God's healing and peace. 🙏🏽 Bless you!! 🌺
Thank you so much. It is always so good to hear the truth of God. I went through quite a long trauma, at first without even knowing that I had a trauma. And this is because you feel released as well as completely broken and shattered at the same time. God himself broke my bond by separating me from the narcissist, because I probably would have never done it. It is a great mission to help people, and I mean everyone, to identify the narcissist. God bless you.
@@ShaneenMegji thank you so much for your input and prayer I definitely need the prayer so much. I feel I do good then I slip up and have to start back at square one. So please make one about saving myself from myself because of the addiction maybe u have nd I heard it but jst specifically need it asap.
@@sabinerodenhausen5104 thank u for sharing this I feel the same that we have to share this type of treatment so people know that this signs are not well. Thank u for sharing your experience and God has called us for greater purpose to help people in bondage
Trauma bonding is like a curse. We are made slaves as we allow ourselves to be 'bound' to them. We need to ask God's forgiveness for 'idolising' them. We need to see the 'rituals' and 'Sacrifices' we make to them and the relationships. We need to break the soul tie as mentioned which involves 'forgiveness' and acceptance of our part in these toxic relationships. Power and control (superiority) are the dynamics of the conquest, this is the energy they need to feed their sense of inferiority. I believe the nazi spirit and the fruit of it can be equated to the narcissistic spirit. This revelation brought me the understanding needed to see the truth and trust Jesus to set me free
I cried and was so angry when watching your videos because 15 years later and only now do I understand what I been going through. It should be a crime to destroy someone's mind, body, and soul in the name of love. I hate this exists. I really hate it! I feel as if I will never recover. Or leave and feel like this always. I have done everything including keeping grounded in The Hamachiach. I'm broken and healing seems far from me. I won't give up. I just discovered you today and have sacrificed sleep before my midnight shift to take notes and learn how to get out of this trauma and never feel this way again. I will utilize your tools and wisdom and pray I will be free from this demonic captivity. 😭😢😥🙏
Great video, I am in this situation right now, I have been married for over 30 years, I just started learning about narcissism and realized that my husband is a covert one. I have made a decision that I want to heal myself and even break free from him. Growing up in an alcoholic home, I know I am codependent, I will have to go through a struggle to get to the other side, knowing that you wasted your life in a toxic person for so many years is sad and overwhelming but I know with God's help I will get through this. I have to hang on to the truth that God is in control and He is the only one that can give me that peace that surpasses all understanding.
I found a sarcastic Valentine's Day card decades ago. The interior read: "You finally brought religion into my life. I didn't believe in hell until I met you." :/
I am.so grateful to God for you. My sister. I was dumped 7years ago. Oh it has been a journey, understanding narcissism and slowly finding myself, your videos have been timely at each step on my journey. May the Lord bless you
My best friend, and love of my life, has been in a terribly abusive relationship with the narcissist father of her child. She's tried to leave him 4 times, the last two times were with me. Each time she begins to blossom and emerge from her shell, she starts to feel hopeful again, and then, without warning, he's suddenly back. She knows he makes her miserable, she knows it's damaging to her daughter, she knows she's happier with me, but... She has not been able to free herself yet. I won't abandon her, she saved my life when I was at my lowest. Without her, I would have died with a noose around my neck in some closet. She grips onto our intimate friendship like the drowning would onto a little raft. It hurts when the pendulum swings back, but I am strong and I have a good therapist. My therapist warned me, but doesn't try to dissuade me. She knows that this woman saved my life. I fear for her safety, he's maimed her before and I believe it's only a matter of time until he either does it again or kills her. I'm not going anywhere. I could live ten thousand lifetimes and I would never find another like her. She saved my life, I'm going to repay that debt.
I’ve consumed all your content and it’s really helping me come to terms with what I’ve been through. My gut was right all along. The Holy Spirit did whisper many times but He had to shout before I left. Thanks S, God bless you.
One of the greatest miracles in life is finding out there are sources of hope and help from abuse. Thank you, Shaneen for being that vessel of a miracle! God bless you!
Everytime i have a weak moment one of your videos comes up and its EXACTLY what i need to hear. Your videos and listening to praise music and praying have gotten me past the first 2 weeks after leaving. I'm on week 3 and feeling stronger everyday.
Omg thank you ❣️ I left three weeks ago but the detox was bloody awful. You gave me so much Hope, thank you Jesus 💖🙏🌹😘🥲 going onto breaking the Soul Bond. In the Name of Jesus'
Hello Shaneen, Bonnie Scotland UK here. I just want you to know how much your posts are supporting me just now through a harrowing living nightmare. I pray you keep on posting and supporting victims of these damaging individuals, but realise that could impact highly upon you. May God Bless keep and protect you in your life and the ministry of this work. The post with Laben and Jacob, where even God ultimately arranges no contact between the two and never the two will be involved again.....I am praying to be left in peace by God's Graces and his divine intervention. Miracles can and do happen. Praise be God. Amen. Thank you Shaneen.🙏😇🌌🌠✨💫🌟⭐
Can you address more specifically about a trauma bond with a parent? An adult child who returns to the narcissist to give her care during the last years of her life out of compassion and concern and a longing to receive the live that she never gave.
It's nice and good advice to tell people to simply get out of a toxic relationship, but some people really don't have any way out - financially, etc. If only it were that simple.
All Glory to our Savior and Lord in blessing you to make this life raft of a video.Thank you. Im a bit paralyzed by all the bs my ex partner has put me through n im feeling so hurt n stupid.More hurt for.my children we had together. Please say a prayer for me n my children and please keep the therapy coming very helpful love you my sister in Christ
Praying the Lord will give you and your children much grace, peace and comfort, and provide for every need, and guide each one of your steps. 🙏🏽🤗🕊❤️ He has your back. Bless you 🙏🏽❤️.
Praying for your and your family’s complete healing, especially for you and your children. Praying you all can get free from the narcissist and experience true love and acceptance from true kind and acceptance people (non narcissist).
@@moonmagnolia7 thank you im praying for guidance on where to move so much to consider im feeling overwhelmed sonyour prayers mean alot...thank you.and may our Father b)ess you n your family and help us all stay focus on our Savior Jesus
Learning about this years ago really changed my life. I had so many people just tell me to MoveOn. I felt so alone and I simply couldn’t. Wish I had known you when I left my ex.
Dear God, please give us eyes to see and ears to hear the truth. Please help us to set boundaries and to get completely free from the narcissistic, in Jesus’ name. Help us to see how peaceful and wonderful life can be with You, Jesus, and Holy Spirit as our friends and guide us to do Your will, in Jesus’ name I pray. Thank you God!!
this is by far the best and most understanable explanation of trauma bonding that I have watched. Amazing!!! More people really need to watch your videos. YOU ARE AMAZING!! Thank you Shaneen. May God continue to bless you with His insight and discernment and wisdom and compassion. THANK YOU
I started learning about narcissism and narcissistic abuse in 2016, but it seems I'm still stuck. It's like I'm being held captive, but I can't fight back and I can't flee. It's the worst feeling ever.
Omgosh! I was panicking. I thought I lost u! After a billion videos, books, exhausting research, this one here! Other than the background noise. I’m subscribing for the first time and I’ll b watching every one! Thank you so much!!!❤️
This woman has helped me so much! I still would like to hear her speak about the neglectful narcissist, which is what I am recovering from. Praise God for putting me in touch with her. The breaking the soul ties video is what really opened my eyes the most...I was in tears when I listened to it two weeks ago...and I'm going to watch it again...right now.
Neglectful narcissists are just that: you can’t rely on them when you’re sick; they don’t like the bother and inconvenience. And they are neglectful because they are 100% self absorbed. They can’t think past themselves to consider other’s needs. Speaking from 44 years of marriage to a narcissist. Bottom line: It’s ALL about THEM!
That was the best explanation of trauma bonding that I have ever heard. I just found your channel, and I'm so glad that I did. I listen to a couple doctors on TH-cam who have been greatly helpful to me; however, it's your perspective as a Christian dealing with these issues that is useful.
There can be possible to seek help from an Psychologist, to leave an abusive Narcissist ‼️They isolates their victim from family and friends, to weaken them, so an Psychologist can be support and a witness ‼️A Narcissist want's to control, destroy and dim another humans light ‼️Take your freedom, power and joy back, by leaving a Narcissist ‼️👍
The more I gray rocked, avoided engagement, the more I saw I had to leave. Sort of watched their actions while detached, said no a few times. This was not their way, so the chores expected if me escalated. Nothing was ever good enough, they'd try to have me repeat each task. I had to leave before I was fully prepared, but have peace at last.
Oh please ive been in a 30 yr marriage i never thought i could get out or do it either but God is greater than this evilness and will provide and lift you. The longer you stay the more dangerous and damaged you become. They wont change only get worse. You probably have a good heart and believe in theres good in everyone, ive founfd that is Not true, and honestly the only one can truly change a narcissist is God and a True miracle. I found a book the BIBLICAL perspective of a narcissist, its very eye opening. Please , i feel my calling is to try to help and protect others from these people. You can do this. I can Do ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHO STRENGTHENS ME. 😇😇💞💞💞🙏🙏🙏🙏
Prayers to help and pray I renounce all soul ties with person name in Jesus name. Pray I renounce all covenants with person name in Jesus name. Also ask the Lord to take him out of your life. th-cam.com/play/PLPNQdAefzkSNenmX0clUUdyZEr7m2AYte.html
Thank you so much!!!! I was in this time of relationship for 20 years I am by nuture very strong! But when God opened my eyes this year, and decided to go no contact, I saw my self so small and weak!!! For the treatment of invalidating my person by this person that I feel I need to find my self again and so much more!!!!!! God is good and I can feel the freedom coming by small breez!!!!!!!
Wow I never imagined the anatomy of this condition, the trauma bond. Never even thought such a thing existed. I am so glad it does and there is a name for it. It had nothing to do with love. Thank You Jesus for this sister’s research and teaching through Your wisdom.
An Psychologist told that Narcissists use the lovebombing phase to create Dopamine in the brain of a victim, to make them believe they are in love wt them ‼️
Your a beautiful lady in your kindness. Thankyou for sharing. I just broke free after nearly being killed by my narcissistic husband and his equally narc parents. 3 people like wolves tried to devour me over 3 years. Its been horrible. I have 4 fractured ribs, attempted strangulation, bruises and emotional, financial trauma thanks to their superior idolatry egos that rule and reign. You must bow, die or escape with your life. 🙏🏻✝️👑
So grateful to GOD for finding your channel. It popped up on my feed. Thank you for explaining so clearly what I don’t have words for. I am now subscribed and will be listening to your video on breaking soul ties. May the LORD bless and keep you and cause this channel to prosper as it blesses and helps bring healing to many. In JESUS name amen. I appreciate your use of scripture and knowledge of the word of GOD!!! My relationship with the LORD is everything.
That part about no.1 stay in truth. I got stuck for years trying to pull her into the truth and it was actually pulling me out of the truth. Thank you so much
Your wisdom and insights on this topic is off the charts! I've listened to several different ppl, and you have nailed it in such a priceless way! Must totally be that subtle touch of the Holy Spirit! God bless you! You are a beautiful soul, and I can see your heart, for others. You explain this so effectively and effortlessly. It's great to see you overcome and thank you for sharing your knowledge with all of us. This is being so helpful, to me, right now...I am feeling the urge to finally do it, and just break free. I wish I had more time to watch more than I do, but I have subscribed. Again, God bless.
Thank you Shaneen. This means so much to me, leaving a church for 7 years, a lot of confusion and sadness and no life left me, I am watching your videos on these subjects now, and have a lot of "aha"! experiences while you list things up. You have a way of being calm and caring in these videos also, which means a lot, thank you💕🌷
Thank you , so much for explaining Truma bonding, we are in our 60s, 8 years of being with the Pastor of our church, who turn on us at the end , hit us hard , told lies to others and 3 months later came back and ask us to come back ! On his knees in front of members, but we said No! but all members believed him , so we were the enemy at the end !, God bless you ❤❤❤
Thank you. You have no idea how much your videos have helped me to see clearly. Everytime I start to doubt what I'm thinking and seeing and what The Father is revealing to me, one of your videos brings me back to reality. Although, I'm still not sure I know what reality is yet, it seems like what might be the reality is harder to believe than the fantasy. I'm hoping and praying that I am right in my speculations, and not accusing someone of something that is not true. Far be it from me to do so.
I'm so sorry you are still feeling pain. I pray the Lord would accelerate and complete the healing in Jesus' name, and fill you with His joy overflowing. ❤️🙏🏽🕊
Thank you so much for your spiritual view of what life with a Narcissist is like My Narc husband died in Jan 2022. 45 yrs of emotional abuse was hard and very traumatic. But the Lord gave me the grace to serve Him and be a good wife . Since his death I started the journey to Detoxing from the effects of the abuse . I have gone through all the stages of grief....anger being the strongest emotion. He wore 3 mask....one for the public and his Fan Club, another for his private life with me and one for his secret life of cheating, stealing money and lieing. I look back now after recovery and Thank my Lord and Savior for giving me the strength to go through it all. I am 69 yrs old and have completely started over in life. I cut all ties with his family , I call them the Narc cult, have changed churches and cut ties with his business associates, who were involved with him sexually . I feel good about the future and the direction the Lord has pointed me to. Praise God for people like you who have traveled this road before me, and are willing to share your wisdom and knowledge with those of us who have struggled. I give God praise for setting me Free from the narcissist .
I (68 years old) am in a narcissist relationship, married 39 years and we lived together 7 years prior. So 46. He will be 80 soon, and the roller coaster continues. I feel so understood by your story because it is mine. I know I'm trauma bonded, but I fight him often. Not good, but dont want to be run over. Jesus is the only way out of my mess. I cry put to him often. I'd like to ask you, how are you a good wife without being a doormat? God bless you sister, I want that. Much is hidden from my family, and a few friends know the truth. Thanks
@elainesmith I can relate to your experience with the exception of the length of the marriage. He changed the locks on our family home and then brought in his "floosy"! He then systematically turned our children against me. I still have problems with my eldest son today. I am so pleased to have found Shaneen, and I have been concentrating on getting myself healed. I'm seeing a psychologist but also going to watch some more videos and praying for the healing to be transformative as I am too scared of venturing out these days.
Exactly never unsee what has been seen in any relationship this is where they go to make you paint the picture to excuse the lies and excuse their bull
I love this channel!! Thank you for breaking things down even further ! I've been watching videos galore trying to learn and understand how and why this happened to me! It started with my mother and then the father of my children! Familiar spirits!!!
My narc husband would say too me that my demon doesn’t like him, and he’s a Christian I left a 33 marriage I’m looking to God he knows all, I’m finally finding peace and freedom,
thank you, this gives me so much hope. still in the relationship but still trying to detach from him emotionally because we have two little kids and i have no out right now. but i will thrive in the name of Jesus and will give me rest, peace and grace to break trauma bond from Childhood and from my narc spouse
This was such a powerful video. It explained so much in ways I have never heard before. This is the first time I’m hearing of a Trauma Bond and I honestly didn’t realize that although I left the environment and relationship physically I have still been in the relationship through this trauma bond. What a powerful revelation. Thank you Shaneen! God bless you and all others who are going through a trauma bond. I pray in Jesus name that your delivered, healed, moving forward and thriving in the purpose and plan that God ordained for your life. 🙏🏽❤
Thank you Shaneen for explaining so clearly what trauma bonding is. I've heard the phrase many times but never really understood it, until now! Best wishes, Oliver
This abuse is so subtle and has been applied to all areas in my life such as family, school, friends,romantic, marriage,legal, medical, spiritual relationships. My intuition, free-will, respect for another person's opinion,my reactions,my responses were first and foremost applied and it's not guaranteed to prevent any kind of abuse
I completely understand 12 years of ups & downs in a crazy psychotic relationship. Then 6 years of no contact. Then 6 years of “just friends” & then “more than friends”Currently no contact for 1.5 years. I know I must cling to The Lord & never have contact.
I like the biblical perspective that you offer on the top/NPD. I have lived it: experienced it, and now I have become aware of this. to navigate out of it.
Thank you. Could you please do a video on how to cultivate new relationships during a quarantine when you're in your late 50s out of long term marriage? Sure I can make acquaintances in school online or such, but seems quite difficult for older folks who are in the stigma of society finding our age group not really noticed. I don't know how to explain it bc it's like once ur over 5o ur forgotten anyway.
Wow, this video is incredible! You truly have a gift for speaking and bringing very valuable insight to those who are struggling to make sense of so much! THANK YOU!
Me too! I would talk to drs, friends and relatives and not one mentioned anything about narcissism! You know something is wrong but you're at a loss to know how to describe it without looking crazy to ppl. Soul destroying.
I think that when the covert narc ghosted me, he left the demons behind and they got into me. I never experienced such a horrible feeling that lasted so long. I tried to understand it through the study of narcissism and the patterns fit but this was something so far beyond the pale. It had to be demonic. Thank you for your insight. We nhave to learn how to protect ourselves.
📣INTRODUCING MY 12-WEEK GROUP COACHING PROGRAM
"RECOVERING YOUR IDENTITY AFTER A NARCISSISTIC RELATIONSHIP"
STARTING THE WEEK OF APRIL 11, 2023
Are you a woman who is preparing to leave, or is recovering from a narcissistic relationship? If that’s you, I’ve created a special 12 week group coaching program specifically for you.
Enrollment for the April Cohort of the group coaching program “Recovering Your Identity After a Narcissistic Relationship” is now open! Registration will be on a first come, first served basis, so I encourage you to set an appointment with me as soon as possible to see if you would be a good fit for the program.
➡Book a slot to chat with me (or one of my coaches) and see if this program is a fit for you with
calendly.com/shaneenm1/discovery
calendly.com/shaneenem2/discovery-session
Slots fill up quickly, but I frequently add more, so if there are no available slots when you check be sure to check back later to see if more have opened up.
Shaneen, can you do a video about how we know if we have trauma bonded to the Narcissist in our lives? What are the signs for this. Thank you! Lori
how this woman has only 3.3k subs and such little views 🤯... i think i’ve watched almost every expert videos on these topics and she is so dead on and breaks it down so good.
She will get there in no time. She is doing youtube organically not purchased likes.
Absolutely! Feel like I’ve wasted a life time!
agreed, it is as if Shaneen has been a fly on the wall :-) Best best videos I have watched with sincere guidance going forward....
Over 17 thousand now.
Over 18k now 😌😌
After watching this video... yesterday night i asked the Lord to set me free from the trauma bond with Narcissist. I saw spirit leaving my body and felt free. Now i have no feelings for the Narcissist
This is such a good explanation of trauma bond. How the narcissist brings the pain and destruction but then turns around and brings the relief just when you can't hold on any longer. Realizing this pattern literally causes a chemical reaction in your body and muscle memory is a really powerful revelation.
Torture is my definition 😅 but you say it just perfectly. Patterns and muscle memory.
Going on 5 years of no contact. Had a dream about her. I watched this video. So helpful to keep me grounded in truth.
I never comment on on any videos but this video really touch me! I've been going through this and did not realized I was trauma bonded! I've been praying to God for guidance on what to do with my relationship and if what I was doing was correct. Your videos are confirmation. It seems like you are speaking directly to my situation! Thank you for this!
Trauma bonding is not a new concept to me, but this is the best explanation I have ever heard. Understanding it’s addictive nature is so empowering. We need to know what we are up against to be able to fully overcome it.
Once again God coming through using you in this journey of healing. Thank you so much for your wisdom and sharing increasing my wisdom and discernment. I love how you used the analogy of them leaving u in the desert then picking u up in the most extravagant ways so u forget they were the ones that put u there in the 1st place. It's definitely that way. During this time away from the narcissist and separating myself from this trauma bond I feel like those drug addicts that are going through withdraws from their drug. Although I may not be vomiting or shaking or sweating etc on the outside inside my soul my spirit my mind feel as if it is. It can get unbearable at times.. This has been the most difficult breakup I've ever experienced in my life and I've had horrible ones but not from how a narcissist played me. I know my God is bigger and He definitely brings me peace and love on my most difficult days of withdrawal. I appreciate your videos. I feel God holding my hand through it all with these. Thank you 💘
Dear Miztruth, I'm sorry for all that you are going through. 😟 I pray that God would bring massive, accelerated healing to your heart in Jesus' name 🙏🏽🤗.❤️🕊 I'm so happy to hear that you are experiencing God's peace and presence through this hard time. He is the One we can always count on to be there and never abandon us. I'm also so glad that you are experiencing God's comfort while watching my videos. That is my prayer--that people watching my videos would experience God's healing and peace. 🙏🏽 Bless you!! 🌺
Thank you so much. It is always so good to hear the truth of God. I went through quite a long trauma, at first without even knowing that I had a trauma. And this is because you feel released as well as completely broken and shattered at the same time. God himself broke my bond by separating me from the narcissist, because I probably would have never done it. It is a great mission to help people, and I mean everyone, to identify the narcissist. God bless you.
@@ShaneenMegji thank you so much for your input and prayer I definitely need the prayer so much. I feel I do good then I slip up and have to start back at square one. So please make one about saving myself from myself because of the addiction maybe u have nd I heard it but jst specifically need it asap.
@@sabinerodenhausen5104 thank u for sharing this I feel the same that we have to share this type of treatment so people know that this signs are not well. Thank u for sharing your experience and God has called us for greater purpose to help people in bondage
Trauma bonding is like a curse. We are made slaves as we allow ourselves to be 'bound' to them. We need to ask God's forgiveness for 'idolising' them. We need to see the 'rituals' and 'Sacrifices' we make to them and the relationships. We need to break the soul tie as mentioned which involves 'forgiveness' and acceptance of our part in these toxic relationships. Power and control (superiority) are the dynamics of the conquest, this is the energy they need to feed their sense of inferiority. I believe the nazi spirit and the fruit of it can be equated to the narcissistic spirit. This revelation brought me the understanding needed to see the truth and trust Jesus to set me free
I cried and was so angry when watching your videos because 15 years later and only now do I understand what I been going through. It should be a crime to destroy someone's mind, body, and soul in the name of love. I hate this exists. I really hate it! I feel as if I will never recover. Or leave and feel like this always. I have done everything including keeping grounded in The Hamachiach. I'm broken and healing seems far from me. I won't give up. I just discovered you today and have sacrificed sleep before my midnight shift to take notes and learn how to get out of this trauma and never feel this way again. I will utilize your tools and wisdom and pray I will be free from this demonic captivity. 😭😢😥🙏
God has healing and freedom for you! Nothing is beyond His restoration.
Great video, I am in this situation right now, I have been married for over 30 years, I just started learning about narcissism and realized that my husband is a covert one. I have made a decision that I want to heal myself and even break free from him. Growing up in an alcoholic home, I know I am codependent, I will have to go through a struggle to get to the other side, knowing that you wasted your life in a toxic person for so many years is sad and overwhelming but I know with God's help I will get through this. I have to hang on to the truth that God is in control and He is the only one that can give me that peace that surpasses all understanding.
This is 💯 You just described exactly the hell I've been in for 10 years and still in. 😭
Same
@@sagenosnibor9173 37 years! call me
Prayers to help and do not give up.
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@@mmommo-hx4dx Me too. Just had my 35th wedding anniversary and it was horrible.
I found a sarcastic Valentine's Day card decades ago. The interior read: "You finally brought religion into my life. I didn't believe in hell until I met you." :/
This is the best TH-cam channel about narcissistic abuse!!!
So good to hear about toxic relationships from a clearly Christian perspective!
I am.so grateful to God for you. My sister.
I was dumped 7years ago. Oh it has been a journey, understanding narcissism and slowly finding myself, your videos have been timely at each step on my journey.
May the Lord bless you
Trauma Bond & soul tie fast & prayer distance self love
My best friend, and love of my life, has been in a terribly abusive relationship with the narcissist father of her child.
She's tried to leave him 4 times, the last two times were with me. Each time she begins to blossom and emerge from her shell, she starts to feel hopeful again, and then, without warning, he's suddenly back. She knows he makes her miserable, she knows it's damaging to her daughter, she knows she's happier with me, but... She has not been able to free herself yet. I won't abandon her, she saved my life when I was at my lowest. Without her, I would have died with a noose around my neck in some closet. She grips onto our intimate friendship like the drowning would onto a little raft. It hurts when the pendulum swings back, but I am strong and I have a good therapist. My therapist warned me, but doesn't try to dissuade me. She knows that this woman saved my life. I fear for her safety, he's maimed her before and I believe it's only a matter of time until he either does it again or kills her. I'm not going anywhere. I could live ten thousand lifetimes and I would never find another like her. She saved my life, I'm going to repay that debt.
I’ve consumed all your content and it’s really helping me come to terms with what I’ve been through. My gut was right all along. The Holy Spirit did whisper many times but He had to shout before I left. Thanks S, God bless you.
One of the greatest miracles in life is finding out there are sources of hope and help from abuse. Thank you, Shaneen for being that vessel of a miracle! God bless you!
Everytime i have a weak moment one of your videos comes up and its EXACTLY what i need to hear. Your videos and listening to praise music and praying have gotten me past the first 2 weeks after leaving. I'm on week 3 and feeling stronger everyday.
Amen.
Omg thank you ❣️ I left three weeks ago but the detox was bloody awful. You gave me so much Hope, thank you Jesus 💖🙏🌹😘🥲 going onto breaking the Soul Bond. In the Name of Jesus'
Hello Shaneen, Bonnie Scotland UK here. I just want you to know how much your posts are supporting me just now through a harrowing living nightmare. I pray you keep on posting and supporting victims of these damaging individuals, but realise that could impact highly upon you. May God Bless keep and protect you in your life and the ministry of this work. The post with Laben and Jacob, where even God ultimately arranges no contact between the two and never the two will be involved again.....I am praying to be left in peace by God's Graces and his divine intervention. Miracles can and do happen. Praise be God. Amen. Thank you Shaneen.🙏😇🌌🌠✨💫🌟⭐
Can you address more specifically about a trauma bond with a parent? An adult child who returns to the narcissist to give her care during the last years of her life out of compassion and concern and a longing to receive the live that she never gave.
Lord have mercy this is SO good.
It's nice and good advice to tell people to simply get out of a toxic relationship, but some people really don't have any way out - financially, etc. If only it were that simple.
Nice to see that you suggest our God for support, reinvent yourself, and healing childhood wounds.
This video came out 2 yrs ago and she now has 65 thousand subs. I wish I had got notified sooner.
Amazingly broken down …. Beautifully explained and taught… I truly appreciate this
You're so welcome! Blessings ❤️🙏🏽
Yes!
All Glory to our Savior and Lord in blessing you to make this life raft of a video.Thank you. Im a bit paralyzed by all the bs my ex partner has put me through n im feeling so hurt n stupid.More hurt for.my children we had together. Please say a prayer for me n my children and please keep the therapy coming very helpful love you my sister in Christ
Praying the Lord will give you and your children much grace, peace and comfort, and provide for every need, and guide each one of your steps. 🙏🏽🤗🕊❤️ He has your back. Bless you 🙏🏽❤️.
Praying for your and your family’s complete healing, especially for you and your children. Praying you all can get free from the narcissist and experience true love and acceptance from true kind and acceptance people (non narcissist).
@@ShaneenMegji thank you that means more then you know right now .May our Father continue to b)ess you . Your videos.help me so much💜
@@moonmagnolia7 thank you im praying for guidance on where to move so much to consider im feeling overwhelmed sonyour prayers mean alot...thank you.and may our Father b)ess you n your family and help us all stay focus on our Savior Jesus
WOW, spot on! Thank you 🙏🏼
Thanks for sharing your knowlegde, it's important that the abusers get exposed ‼️🌼🌺
Learning about this years ago really changed my life. I had so many people just tell me to MoveOn. I felt so alone and I simply couldn’t. Wish I had known you when I left my ex.
Shaneen is wonderful I am trying to heal it’s so hard but I am in Christ and I shall have peace and happiness one day.
valued then devalued....over and over.
Oh my goodness, you hit the nail on the head with the “left in the desert” explanation!! Thanks you!
You're so welcome!
Dear God, please give us eyes to see and ears to hear the truth. Please help us to set boundaries and to get completely free from the narcissistic, in Jesus’ name. Help us to see how peaceful and wonderful life can be with You, Jesus, and Holy Spirit as our friends and guide us to do Your will, in Jesus’ name I pray. Thank you God!!
My exact prayer
Amen!
Yes, I receive this!
Amen 🦁🦁🦁❤️❤️❤️🦁🦁🦁
Amen! 🙏♥️
this is by far the best and most understanable explanation of trauma bonding that I have watched. Amazing!!! More people really need to watch your videos. YOU ARE AMAZING!! Thank you Shaneen. May God continue to bless you with His insight and discernment and wisdom and compassion. THANK YOU
I started learning about narcissism and narcissistic abuse in 2016, but it seems I'm still stuck. It's like I'm being held captive, but I can't fight back and I can't flee. It's the worst feeling ever.
Same
Omgosh! I was panicking. I thought I lost u! After a billion videos, books, exhausting research, this one here!
Other than the background noise. I’m subscribing for the first time and I’ll b watching every one! Thank you so much!!!❤️
This woman has helped me so much! I still would like to hear her speak about the neglectful narcissist, which is what I am recovering from. Praise God for putting me in touch with her. The breaking the soul ties video is what really opened my eyes the most...I was in tears when I listened to it two weeks ago...and I'm going to watch it again...right now.
Thank you for sharing Jaymie. I praise God that the soul tie video helped you. God bless you. 🙏🏽😊
Neglectful narcissists are just that: you can’t rely on them when you’re sick; they don’t like the bother and inconvenience. And they are neglectful because they are 100% self absorbed. They can’t think past themselves to consider other’s needs. Speaking from 44 years of marriage to a narcissist. Bottom line: It’s ALL about THEM!
That was the best explanation of trauma bonding that I have ever heard.
I just found your channel, and I'm so glad that I did. I listen to a couple doctors on TH-cam who have been greatly helpful to me; however, it's your perspective as a Christian dealing with these issues that is useful.
I feel pain while listening to this. I am experiencing this first hand. And I don't know how to escape. I'm so afraid of leaving 😞 😪
I was scared too. Since I left my life is so much better.
There can be possible to seek help from an Psychologist, to leave an abusive Narcissist ‼️They isolates their victim from family and friends, to weaken them, so an Psychologist can be support and a witness ‼️A Narcissist want's to control, destroy and dim another humans light ‼️Take your freedom, power and joy back, by leaving a Narcissist ‼️👍
The more I gray rocked, avoided engagement, the more I saw I had to leave. Sort of watched their actions while detached, said no a few times. This was not their way, so the chores expected if me escalated. Nothing was ever good enough, they'd try to have me repeat each task. I had to leave before I was fully prepared, but have peace at last.
Oh please ive been in a 30 yr marriage i never thought i could get out or do it either but God is greater than this evilness and will provide and lift you. The longer you stay the more dangerous and damaged you become. They wont change only get worse. You probably have a good heart and believe in theres good in everyone, ive founfd that is Not true, and honestly the only one can truly change a narcissist is God and a True miracle. I found a book the BIBLICAL perspective of a narcissist, its very eye opening. Please , i feel my calling is to try to help and protect others from these people. You can do this. I can Do ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHO STRENGTHENS ME. 😇😇💞💞💞🙏🙏🙏🙏
Prayers to help and pray I renounce all soul ties with person name in Jesus name. Pray I renounce all covenants with person name in Jesus name. Also ask the Lord to take him out of your life.
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Thank you so much!!!! I was in this time of relationship for 20 years I am by nuture very strong! But when God opened my eyes this year, and decided to go no contact, I saw my self so small and weak!!! For the treatment of invalidating my person by this person that I feel I need to find my self again and so much more!!!!!! God is good and I can feel the freedom coming by small breez!!!!!!!
Wow I never imagined the anatomy of this condition, the trauma bond. Never even thought such a thing existed. I am so glad it does and there is a name for it. It had nothing to do with love. Thank You Jesus for this sister’s research and teaching through Your wisdom.
An Psychologist told that Narcissists use the lovebombing phase to create Dopamine in the brain of a victim, to make them believe they are in love wt them ‼️
Wow!! Great video!!
Your a beautiful lady in your kindness. Thankyou for sharing. I just broke free after nearly being killed by my narcissistic husband and his equally narc parents. 3 people like wolves tried to devour me over 3 years. Its been horrible. I have 4 fractured ribs, attempted strangulation, bruises and emotional, financial trauma thanks to their superior idolatry egos that rule and reign. You must bow, die or escape with your life. 🙏🏻✝️👑
So grateful to GOD for finding your channel. It popped up on my feed. Thank you for explaining so clearly what I don’t have words for. I am now subscribed and will be listening to your video on breaking soul ties. May the LORD bless and keep you and cause this channel to prosper as it blesses and helps bring healing to many. In JESUS name amen.
I appreciate your use of scripture and knowledge of the word of GOD!!! My relationship with the LORD is everything.
Well explaind GOD BLESS YOU .
Gos is so good !! He's using you in a mighty way! Your podcast is awesome. Everything i been threw in the past 8 months. Thank GOD for you...♥
That part about no.1 stay in truth. I got stuck for years trying to pull her into the truth and it was actually pulling me out of the truth. Thank you so much
Your wisdom and insights on this topic is off the charts! I've listened to several different ppl, and you have nailed it in such a priceless way! Must totally be that subtle touch of the Holy Spirit! God bless you! You are a beautiful soul, and I can see your heart, for others. You explain this so effectively and effortlessly. It's great to see you overcome and thank you for sharing your knowledge with all of us. This is being so helpful, to me, right now...I am feeling the urge to finally do it, and just break free. I wish I had more time to watch more than I do, but I have subscribed. Again, God bless.
God given counsel through this video at the right time
Thank you Shaneen. This means so much to me, leaving a church for 7 years, a lot of confusion and sadness and no life left me, I am watching your videos on these subjects now, and have a lot of "aha"! experiences while you list things up. You have a way of being calm and caring in these videos also, which means a lot, thank you💕🌷
Yes i continued to battle mental issues , crazimaking, untill i completely went NO CONTACT HAVE I BEEN ABLE TO GET STRONGER MENTALLY
always pulling the rug out
You are 10000000 percent right on. Thank u sister!!
You’re so welcome. God bless you. 🙏🏽💕
Thank you sister in Christ ❤️
My pleasure Fabian! 😊
I sent this video to my pastor thanks again
Thank you , so much for explaining Truma bonding, we are in our 60s, 8 years of being with the Pastor of our church, who turn on us at the end , hit us hard , told lies to others and 3 months later came back and ask us to come back ! On his knees in front of members, but we said No! but all members believed him , so we were the enemy at the end !, God bless you ❤❤❤
It is more difficult when parents r such people
Yes absolutely 😔
Thank you. You have no idea how much your videos have helped me to see clearly. Everytime I start to doubt what I'm thinking and seeing and what The Father is revealing to me, one of your videos brings me back to reality. Although, I'm still not sure I know what reality is yet, it seems like what might be the reality is harder to believe than the fantasy.
I'm hoping and praying that I am right in my speculations, and not accusing someone of something that is not true. Far be it from me to do so.
Thank you so much for your videos. I'm still painfully healing from my x narc. God continues to heal me everyday
I'm so sorry you are still feeling pain. I pray the Lord would accelerate and complete the healing in Jesus' name, and fill you with His joy overflowing. ❤️🙏🏽🕊
Super Powerful video!! You really went under the hood and got into the nuts and bolts of how this thing works!! 💯🙏🙏
This is so on point....facts....Thank you❤️❤️❤️🙏
This is the first time I've heard such an accurate description of my experience
Thank you so so much for having your video when I needed it
Story of my life...ThankYou for explaining this further...
You’re very welcome ☺️
Thank you so much for your spiritual view of what life with a Narcissist is like
My Narc husband died in Jan 2022.
45 yrs of emotional abuse was hard and very traumatic. But the Lord gave me the grace to serve Him and be a good wife .
Since his death I started the journey to Detoxing from the effects of the abuse .
I have gone through all the stages of grief....anger being the strongest emotion. He wore 3 mask....one for the public and his Fan Club, another for his private life with me and one for his secret life of cheating, stealing money and lieing. I look back now after recovery and Thank my Lord and Savior for giving me the strength to go through it all. I am 69 yrs old and have completely started over in life. I cut all ties with his family , I call them the Narc cult, have changed churches and cut ties with his business associates, who were involved with him sexually . I feel good about the future and the direction the Lord has pointed me to. Praise God for people like you who have traveled this road before me, and are willing to share your wisdom and knowledge with those of us who have struggled. I give God praise for setting me Free from the narcissist .
I (68 years old) am in a narcissist relationship, married 39 years and we lived together 7 years prior. So 46. He will be 80 soon, and the roller coaster continues. I feel so understood by your story because it is mine. I know I'm trauma bonded, but I fight him often. Not good, but dont want to be run over. Jesus is the only way out of my mess. I cry put to him often. I'd like to ask you, how are you a good wife without being a doormat? God bless you sister, I want that. Much is hidden from my family, and a few friends know the truth. Thanks
@elainesmith I can relate to your experience with the exception of the length of the marriage. He changed the locks on our family home and then brought in his "floosy"! He then systematically turned our children against me. I still have problems with my eldest son today. I am so pleased to have found Shaneen, and I have been concentrating on getting myself healed. I'm seeing a psychologist but also going to watch some more videos and praying for the healing to be transformative as I am too scared of venturing out these days.
Thank you for your videos and spiritual knowledge and counsel. I think God is opening doors for me to set me free from the narcissistic abuse
Exactly never unsee what has been seen in any relationship this is where they go to make you paint the picture to excuse the lies and excuse their bull
I love this channel!! Thank you for breaking things down even further ! I've been watching videos galore trying to learn and understand how and why this happened to me! It started with my mother and then the father of my children! Familiar spirits!!!
Amazing video. Love hearing about this topic from a biblical perspective. Thank you.
Jesus take the wheel!!! If you don’t stop reading my life!!! Girl you are a straight healer!!!!!
This is my wife soon to be my ex wife. 32 years, two children. I can't believe this has happened to me, at least I've woken up now.
My narc husband would say too me that my demon doesn’t like him, and he’s a Christian I left a 33 marriage I’m looking to God he knows all, I’m finally finding peace and freedom,
Yes that's projection at it's finest.. the truth is his demon didn't like you..
God needs to be spelled with a big G
@@annafranc8081 thank you for letting me know, 🙏🏻
So so much truth in this! I needed truth to be set free.🔥☝🔥
So glad this video helped you! May God bless you and continue to set you free in Jesus' name. ❤️🙏🏽🕊
What an amazing god we have he doesn't change others he changes our thinking our approach and our mind towards the situation
thank you, this gives me so much hope.
still in the relationship but still trying to detach from him emotionally because we have two little kids and i have no out right now. but i will thrive in the name of Jesus and will give me rest, peace and grace to break trauma bond from Childhood and from my narc spouse
Amazing insights. Thank you!
This was such a powerful video. It explained so much in ways I have never heard before. This is the first time I’m hearing of a Trauma Bond and I honestly didn’t realize that although I left the environment and relationship physically I have still been in the relationship through this trauma bond. What a powerful revelation. Thank you Shaneen! God bless you and all others who are going through a trauma bond. I pray in Jesus name that your delivered, healed, moving forward and thriving in the purpose and plan that God ordained for your life. 🙏🏽❤
Thank you so much for your channel! It’s so helpful for me and I thank God for you and your knowledge on this topic 💛
Excellent! Value & devalue! Ty for your spot on explanation!
Thank you Shaneen for explaining so clearly what trauma bonding is. I've heard the phrase many times but never really understood it, until now! Best wishes, Oliver
I'm so glad the video was helpful! 😊
This makes so much sense as to why I fled. I am learning so much. Omission. He was emotionally unavailable in moving to Seattle.
Thank you so much for showing us a biblical perspective on these issues!
You have definitely found your purpose and calling. Your videos uplift and edify. Thank you so much and continue bringing the world, great content.
EXACTLY WHAT I AM GOING THROUGH🤦🏼♀️
Powerful and a comfort. Thank you so much for all your videos! 😘
This abuse is so subtle and has been applied to all areas in my life such as family, school, friends,romantic, marriage,legal, medical, spiritual relationships.
My intuition, free-will, respect for another person's opinion,my reactions,my responses were first and foremost applied and it's not guaranteed to prevent any kind of abuse
Yeah in this crazy world u need strong boundaries!
Take your freedom, power and joy back, by leaving a Narcissist ‼️
I completely understand 12 years of ups & downs in a crazy psychotic relationship. Then 6 years of no contact. Then 6 years of “just friends” & then “more than friends”Currently no contact for 1.5 years. I know I must cling to The Lord & never have contact.
I like the biblical perspective that you offer on the top/NPD. I have lived it: experienced it, and now I have become aware of this. to navigate out of it.
Shaneen, you have so much insight! I love you so very much - you have helped so much- I really appreciate you
Aw...thank you Lynn 🥰. I appreciate your kind words!
Thank you very much for your help and support. God bless you.
Shaneen.... this has been so refreshing! Thank you!🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
Thank you for this wonderful videos. It is very helpful. God bless. 🙏🙏
Thank you.
Could you please do a video on how to cultivate new relationships during a quarantine when you're in your late 50s out of long term marriage?
Sure I can make acquaintances in school online or such, but seems quite difficult for older folks who are in the stigma of society finding our age group not really noticed. I don't know how to explain it bc it's like once ur over 5o ur forgotten anyway.
Do the dating sites and forget what society says about age. You have to live your life on your terms.
Dating sites are rife with narcs. Please be extremely careful if you do go that route. I would say stay away from them though.
So well explained, thank you.
Wow, this video is incredible! You truly have a gift for speaking and bringing very valuable insight to those who are struggling to make sense of so much! THANK YOU!
Excellent video, thank you so much!
You're so welcome! Bless you! ❤️🙏🏽
You are amazing❤️
I'm sooo happy to have found you! I've been going through decades if this! I only found out what this was not long ago!
Me too! I would talk to drs, friends and relatives and not one mentioned anything about narcissism! You know something is wrong but you're at a loss to know how to describe it without looking crazy to ppl. Soul destroying.
I think that when the covert narc ghosted me, he left the demons behind and they got into me. I never experienced such a horrible feeling that lasted so long. I tried to understand it through the study of narcissism and the patterns fit but this was something so far beyond the pale. It had to be demonic. Thank you for your insight. We nhave to learn how to protect ourselves.
I'm sorry. Did you get delivered?
@@sarahvministry I hope so. Thanks.
@@sarahvministry I hope so. Thanks.
The Lord is more powerful.
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