We feel uncomfortable in a group or with an individual because we don't express our thoughts emotion , as we express to ourselves for we listen to others more than we express
I'm perfectly fine with being incorrect. So long as you put forth a logical and rational arguement, hear my side of the issue, and provide relevant counterpoints. If I am wrong, I will adjust my thinking to account for new information.
Yes ! If you explain your line of reasoning and it makes some sense, we are totally open to changing our position. We don't follow anyone blindly but our compulsion towards constant and lifelong learning, keeps us open to different perspectives. We're not inflexible, we're just not blinded by bullshit.
I think that is because our knowledge is not based tied to our ego. We want accuracy. Te is known for due diligence, and research. Ni is wrong sometimes, but adaptable. We also have Se which is tactile.
As an INTJ woman, another habit is pretending to be extroverted because, once again, people don't understand (I'd like to know what people do actually understand!) As I've aged, I rarely pretend to be extroverted. I don't care anymore what people don't understand. I no longer dumb myself down to make others comfortable.
Exactly same here. Such a relief to finally accept yourself fully and start appreciating the way you are. Pity I stopped that at the age of 13 and got back at 35.
@speedy_cometI'm Turbulent, and considered a very good manager thanks to that by both my teams and mgmt. But still prone to burnout and people annoy me quite often.
Can totally relate! At work I used to feel like I had to act extroverted.....when you're working with the public, but I don't do that as much these days.
I trained myself to be more social. I was just missing too much. So I "faked it until I made it." Most people don't believe I am an introvert, but I definitely am. Extroversion is my "social game" for data gathering and relationship building. I am good at it and my business depends on it, but it wipes me out.
YES. This is so exausting. I do that a lot and I often question if I’m ENTJ, but I know I’m just forcing because people don’t understand. Being an INTJ woman can be quite challenging.
INTJs do NOT despise being proven to be wrong. In fact, it's the opposite. They don't mind at all if you can show evidence and logic in your argument. What INTJs DO despise is being called incorrect without having any evidence backing up such as assertation. Or worse, saying, "Well, I just FEEL that you're wrong." That is something that INTJs really do despise.
Yes thank you. If someone proves that I am wrong whatever no big deal tahnks for showing. But when someone tells me my views of the wolrd are wrong that I don't know anything becouse I am to young(all things my dad has said) and that they dissagree becouse it's not how they think and they ahve no prof to back up what they are saying well I have lots of proff thats when I get pissed and will pick a fight.
Yes but we are also described as careful thinkers we have put lots of effort into our conclusions and we are right an overwhelming amount of the time once we have come to a conclusion so we can be resistant to listen to a poorly organized counter to our argument. Once we hear and understand it then yes we flip like a switch because it is about right ideas not who had them. But we also tend to discount ideas that come from frequent bad idea givers. Hence the negative perception. And honestly we aren't necessarily being fair to slowly warm up to listening on those cases. Probably not all of us. And some always get a fair shake as they have quality ideas. This prioritizationikely stems from our high value of time and efficiency.
I was thinking about commenting to a similar effect. INTJ's don't necessarily mind being proven wrong, but often if you think you've shown them the facts, the "two sides of the same coin" type response, or just denying it means that you haven't convinced them or proven anything. This tends to happen because INTJ's have a large complex of thought and "facts" that are consistent with their conclusion. Most of the time when anyone is arguing, the actual point of disagreement has not been discussed or even found. If an INTJ is wrong, than you have to find the actual point of disconnect, or challenge his/her presuppositions relevant to the argument.
One of my main "weird" habits is I tend to see everything as an experiment or a way for me to obtain new data (sometimes without being a variable myself). For example, I enjoy people watching(and hypothesizing whilst doing so) because I learn how people react in certain situations and all the different circumstances that can change the outcomes are just very intriguing to me Anyone else have this habit?
Wow that's quite the exact same for me, what young me do is mostly initiate anger, i had a bit Autism in me(asperger) and diagnosed with low empathy when I'm young I'm a bit fascinated with people expressing their emotions, because i almost never cried even when I injured myself. "Why did they scream?, Why are they scared?" Even when I'm angry my feelings are so overwhelming that I'm shutting myself since i don't know how to express it. So watching people's expressions is already a habit of mine. Nowdays I usually scale actors acting based from my data 😂
I disagree that we despise being proven wrong. I love being proven wrong because it means someone else is bringing something to the table. I just want to get to the best outcome.
I feel exactly the same way. I am usually concerned with learning and figuring things out. I dont care if I came in the conversation right, I care about leaving it a little bit smarter.
I feel most videos describe INTJ as an anti-social intelligent grumpy weird loner, but I disagree with that. I think a matured INTJ can be very unique, original, fun, and charming too. I’m an INTJ myself and have almost all those qualities described in this video when I was a teenager. After I grow up, I remain an introvert, an intuitive thinker who always analyze things rationally and trained to be an architect in college. But I also learned how to be with people and I am not cold nor judge-mental at all. I enjoy my alone time and have no problem to go to a movie or go to restaurants by myself, but I also don’t have problem to chit chat with someone next to me in a new restaurant, especially with some interesting topic and conversation. Yes, I enjoy my alone time very much and often think differently from others, and I love being different and unique and never try to change myself to fit in any environment. But at the same time, I am also social, friendly and barely criticize people around me, although I still feel tried after parties. I may not need others much like other personality types, but I am certainly not an intimidating lonely weirdo either. When I hit it off with someone, I can also talk for hours and feel exhausted after.
I can heavily relate. I was that angsty teenager and had a REALLY difficult time because I didn't understand myself. Things got much better after 25. Its easier for me to socialize and I can be a lot of fun when I want to.
One correction. The INTJ type will change their position as long as the facts support the new position. Now this is easier if the correction is presented as new information to make an informed decision rather than the I told you so emotional response. It has taken me a long time to learn how little I truly understand.
I feel like this is more for immature or younger INTJs. We are intuitive (hence the N), we know things, and a lot of times we don't know how we knew it. We can very easily intuit someone's feelings because of out ability to observe even the tiniest details, like microexpressions and body language. And INTJs are actually not judgemental. While we can form opinions of others, more enlightened INTJs try very hard to not judge others because we feel like we have no right to judge anyone. We are very much live and let live. And we do try to see the various perspectives in every situation, but a real INTJ will actually admit when they are wrong because the need to learn something new is greater than their need to be right. This is why I say this seems to be more for a younger or less mature INTJ. In fact the only thing in this video that really applies to an INTJ is the need for extreme amounts of alone time and being easily annoyed. Also for those who wonder which personality type makes a suitable partner for an INTJ, it's an INFJ. They have the ability to help us understand the aspects of humanity we just don't get, and they can more easily understand us.
@@PsychologyRefresh I think there's 2 biggest weaknesses. I'm loyal to a fault. And when someone doesn't meet my standards I get very hurt because of how loyal I am. The second is thinking everyone thinks like I do. While I realize people have different perspectives, my default is to assume people think and know what I do. That gets me into trouble. A very close third would be inability to make a decision without having all the facts. I constantly need more information in order to properly make a decision. But the world doesn't work that way, so I make a decision based on the info I have and then end up wondering if it was the right one. And I wonder that for the rest of my life. Not like most people who can let it go.
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I feel the same way. Older INTJ's don't care if they're right or wrong, they care about why (in BOTH cases). And INTJ's care more about being correct than right.
Number 5 is not really accurate, if someone presents to me information that has a great source and proves to be true, I will be more that happy to study it and change opinions. The issue comes when someone presents information with no source and wants us to change opinions fully based on their word.
I wont say all of them were 100% true for me but they were close. I'm an INTJ but very, VERY unusally empathetic (I sometimes think its a curse) maybe I'm the only one INTJ like that... idk.. I cant be cold I cant be harsh or blunt becz I feel their emotions tooo much. However, I am very bad at expressing my feelings. I have severe trust issues and I hate people being affectionate to me. It makes me very uncomfortable which is smth people find very weird and even offensive... is it just me guys, or u too?
i’m an INTJ as well and i’m just like you. I look like i’m cold, unable to feel emotions and act like a robot (sometimes). But when i get to know someone, they discover me. For example, when i was at 5th grade, i seemed like i was depressed. But someone brave enough approached me and we became friends. After everyone in the class saw how i was, they all tried to get close to me. I sometimes see my friend crying. My brain starts working and i somehow realize why they might be crying, what they want, and how they are feeling what is wrong with my 🧠
@@CatCat-tm2cg oh my god.. yessss... tho if I do realize why my frnds r crying I get stuck in the part where I hv to comfort them. I'll literally be just staring at them like " u.. okay?" my frnd knows that so they dont mind, thankfully!
We’re intuitive and empathetic but we can control ourselves to the point where we put our emotions aside and a try to help by making the other person make sense of their feelings. I feel uncomfortable when people cry because it makes me sad for them but I get annoyed by my own emotions and I’d rather not. We dont like treating people badly because we ourselves wouldn’t like to be treated like this. I think we have a strong moral compass that overrides any need to be cruel to others, we’re honest if asked but we gauge how honest and how to address a situation depending on the person and what they can handle but never lie. Also this might make you laugh, my dad compared giving me a hug as the equivalent of trying to give a feral cat a bath.
We are empathetic if we can relate or it's someone we like and don't like seeing them suffer. OR we aren't if they make the same mistake again like taking back a cheater- we lose sympathy . The odds are they will cheat again.
@@PsychologyRefresh Why is he the poster child or why does it sicken me? First, there are so many better and positive examples: Enstein, Obama or Lincoln to name a few. It sickens me, because Musk represents the most negative and nefarious attributes of an INTJ, thus continuing the fear, isolation and persecution of us INTJs.
@@rolandaranjo6486bro, your personality has nothing to do with your morality. He’s an extremely intelligent man who makes logical decisions without letting his feelings get in the way. I don’t think you’re a true INTJ if you can’t see that. Also, Obama is an ENFJ, Lincoln & Einstein were both INTP’s (close!). Based solely on your perception of Elon Musk (as well as lack of research skills) I would assume you are an INFJ. The F makes a huge difference.
I sometimes think of emotions like data more than actual emotions like other people say(my brother always say I'm weird an asentimental,but the truth is that humans in general don't know how to to do what to do and put "emotions"away or use it as an advantage) I have emotions too,but I just feel that I don't express it like the majority of people
YESSs and it's almost impossible not to think of emotions with some logic behind. psychology is like a big universe of cause and consequences, hate to admit i see humanity that way
@@brendaaaa5012 yesss. I have a degree in psychology just because of my incessant need for “why” and understanding emotions and where they come from and how they vary. We like to question everything including emotions.
Hahahaha, I had a therapist tell me once , "You know, you can't think your emotions, right ? You have to feel them." Hold my beer and get ready for my analysis lol We definitely process emotions differently .. there's no question there.
It is absolutely not true that INTJs will not change their mind on a subject when provided with the facts. True, we formulate our opinions intuitively, but our intuition runs on the evidence provided. I’ll argue until I’m blue in the face when I think I’m right. But if reliable evidence arises contrary to my preconceived understanding, I’ll accept it readily.
As an INTJ, #5 is totally BS. INTJs dont care about being correct. We care more about finding the truth. If you've given enough evidences, then we will switch our standpoint and you gained our respect. #6 and #7 are also not true. so much error in this video. And for #3, it's only true for young INTJs.
One of the things i disagree with most in these personality descriptions is the inference that INTJs over emphasize logic and suggest that INTJs rely on that exclusively. The fact (pun intended) is that while very few people can out logic an INTJ it is INTUITION that is our dominant function...and it us the COMBINATION that makes us so formidable. Very few people are capable of both of both types of reasoning. So we are both highly creative and insightful, but also quite willing to change our minds and "reassemble" our positions when new facts come to light. However we will not do so if presented with an imbalanced argument that takes only one type of reasoning into account. We believe we are correct and our judgement is optimal given a set of facts because experience has shown us (and frankly everyone else) that this is the case. People argue with us because they resent our track record of being correct...not because they have done the work we have or are confident they are right.This video seems to miss this fundamental point.
Once, my teacher told me what an INTJ should pray for everyday: God, please, give me patience to listen to other's idea until the end, even though I know they are wrong.
I love being different, it's like being a 4-leaf clover in a field of 3-leaf clovers. Not to say i'm better, rather that i just stick out, but can easily blend in. I know my own differences and my own strengths while others look at me weirdly after they find out how truly different i am.
A lot of these habits described feel like their of a less mature INTJ. For example leaving a social situation just for some alone time can come across as somewhat selfish which not all INTJs desire to appear as, that being said we are more prone to leaving a conversation because we're judging the topic of discussion. Also easy annoyance can defintely be a factor of maturity, while we're definitely more judgement, we can still control the level of effect that judgement has on our emotional state
I like people but meed my recharge time. Without it, it all becomes noise and I almost overload. I don't argue about everything, but some things are just not open to discussion. Logic is good. I want things to make sense. Convince me you're right with evidrence and facts Don't browbeat or appeal to emotion. I do judge. Either you're OK, or you're NOT. I've been told my communication methods are clear, but too blunt. Guilty.
I'm an INTJ...I dont know as I agree with INTJ's dont like being wrong...I kind of like being wrong, if I'm wrong I want to know it...if I made a mistake in my logic its important I know it. I'd rather be right than wrong any day of the week....but like actually right, not just right in my own head. Any other INTJ's out there that feel this way?
Don't like being corrected? In such an era where probably literally everything is getting studied and worked on to be more efficient it's arrogant to believe i know it all, criticism is always welcomed
As an INTJ, I enjoy being a weirdo, which idk why but ngl I find me normal and everybody else weird as hell and maybe that is why I'm so easily annoyed with everyone
1) I can't leave any meeting. TH you talking about. 2) Found love early, but failures. 20 years now from age 30 relationship. Didnt know first. 3) VERY annoyed by things. 5) No, wont argue because I'm an INTROVERT. (If it's a personal relationship, it may be different) This is all flawed. 6)...7)....relationships are not a problem 8) yeah, I'm awkward
I like being proven wrong, it shows that others are also critically thinking and using their problem solving skills too.. I praise anyone who finds more efficient methods and shares beneficial knowledge to the people around them
I'm intj and if you bring the right facts and logic and prove me wrong I'm thankful because I learned something new for free. I'll respect you for your intelligence and I might even speak to you again some day.
@@PsychologyRefresh Well sometimes she does catch me talking to myself. And she's not the only one, the girl I sit next to at school says I do too. Other people just come over to me and say they want to entertain me although I'm entertained by either me or a book.
Now I understand why I am always single. I am so cold and even shy and arrogant that I don't let anyone approach me. Of course, I don't trust it anytime soon. I can't even understand the feeling of someone's love, I think it's not real and it is ridiculous!😐
I avoid even come close to a person, like when I'm leaving the apartment to take the elevator, if I hear anyone in the corridor, I wait till that person go.
I've learned to fake it in my old age. I've also learned to look at people and just (internally) say they are idiots. INTJ's rule the world. We just let everyone else think they do, because the minutia is just annoying.
Pet peeves: Rowdy and loud people in restaurants. Handphone music to the max in quiet cafes. Over critical , nagging people. The dirty and unkempt coming towards you. The condescending people. The ' I know it all' people. The one cent also must bargain people. The boundary breakers. Etc. Intj are 100% likely to up and go in a hostile environment, no argument, no explanation given to the oppressor.
About #5: How many times in your life has someone come back to you and said, “You were right about xyz”, xyz course of action or outcome being something you “argued” for using reason and facts, but no one listened and things went sideways just the way you said they would? My most frequently used phrase to these folks is I HATE to be right, I’d rather be listened to.
Not true that INTJ's always have to be right! We are about logic...its all about the TRUTH for us. I don't mind being proven wrong...I am grateful for the enlightenment. So that's an inaccuracy on INTJ'S. We are humble enough to admit we are wrong...because we are about logic & truth.
What I gathered from this video is that we INTJs are very unique. Just the way I want to be. And logic is our best quality, in my opinion. This video showed me more of myself. Now my mom needs to see it so she can understand me better.🙂
First mistake: What made you think INTJ's need to be reassured that they are not weird? I'm pretty sure we are necessary to the survival of humans, and that we are rare in our aptitudes and skills and attitudes is the main reason why. The crow's nest is small, and if too many are in it, it is easy to rock the boat too much. It is the INTJ's job to be up there pointing out the things we see over the horizon from those on the deck and below. If the sail-menders, cooks, swabbers, accountants, rowers, and all the other necessary people could see what we see sooner, we can avoid many shoals. I'm not weird for saying, "End the Fed," or "Greed is the cure for price gouging."
I was told by mom I have no feelings because I don’t understand behaviour an uncle have. I was accused of being unfeeling and all that… But was I answered?? No!! Godammit, if you don’t clarify how am I suppose to understand? Elaborate! There is no sense in irrational fury, it’s ridiculous.
If someone disagrees with me they better have proof to back up what they are saying. And yes we will fight for life, my dad is an INTJ like me but becouse he is an old fart anything that is new and that wasn't around when he was going up is in his own words "fake woke crap that you kids are comeing up with," so yeah dealing with him is a pain in the ass.
engraçado como a personalidade pode estar relacionadas com outras coisas como eu ser INTJ 5w4 e ser signo de Gêmeos (inteligente, curioso, múltiplos interesses) com ascendente Virgem (metódico, observador, detalhista e chato) e Lua em Áries (explosiva quando irritada), e as vezes confundida com autista (olhar desfocado, quieto, no meu mundo, estranha) ou com psicopata (aparentar ser sem emoção e não ter paciência com choradeiras) para quem não me conhece, ou ter temperamento fleumático com toque de colérico, numerologia, etc... tudo meio que relacionado...
I have a really bad trust issue, when the bus driver told me to take a certain bus because it will take me right to my house, i was extremely skeptical and “are you sure?” And the bus driver looked at me like I was an alien and said “yes, if you feel that way about it then don’t take it and never go home on time.” So I thought to hell with it and took the bus that he advised me to take and it took me to my house. My face was so red I felt so embarrassed but I also felt so much relief.
I would never ask a driver, I would do research beforehand, especially now with Google maps and tracked bus journeys available on the phone anytime anywhere.😂
Can someone please explain to me why INTJ's are always called "architects"? I am an INTJ but am not an architect. Is this a figure of speech or is this video focused on the profession of architects?
I love being proven wrong. It brings on such growth, and lets me expand my thinking and see further into things. It doesn't happen very often, but I always appeciate it.
The first one is actually really fun to do...get the noise down, clear the head and come back with answers while people trying to take your head off...while fun is troublesome at the same time, so since I know when this things will most likely happend I set up an alarm and pretend is a phone call or take a long tripp to the bathroom...that way I don't expend half hour explaining myself and getting the noise down to get to the point...sorry I'm not a natural english speaker
@@PsychologyRefresh thanks I figured while a pain on the ass to even try those things, I rather do that than getting punch...o yeah that happend one time
@@PsychologyRefresh Not being very social, having specific interests, but might also become briefly fascinated by a topic then move onto something else, not very willing to go with the flow because it doesn't feel authentic, tendency to be straightforward and cut through the BS in a way that neurotypical people find disturbing, need for structure and getting upset when that structure is disrupted, to name a few. I recently found out that I might be on the Autism Spectrum, and my family never told me. I'm an INTJ. I see a lot of overlap between INTJ traits and the traits of people on the Autism Spectrum. I think this could apply to INTPs too.
OK, I think you underestimate how many people who think they are offering new facts or rationale absolutely refuse to discuss it with an INTJ who is just begging you to come up with new data or rationale. We are married to the logic which is an ongoing process that never ends. Truth is very elusive, and if we think we found it, we want you to convince us if there is something we're missing. Any frustration we express is because so many other types think we should submit to dominance, and fake agreement. That is no way to find Truth--and we know better than most that "Truth" is a concept like "Reality." BTW, my INTJ father (electrical engineer, pilot, inventor) taught me that listening on both sides really helps. Listening and conveying that one has heard what they said. But both sides need to participate.
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0:20 - 0:50 You call us 'weird and bizarre', but you're the one who chose these images.
We're not weird, everyone else is.
Amen!
Yeah...that's right.... Humanity is perplexing... Especially Men with "feelings" .....so whatever....
Definitely some truth in that ;)
absolutely
Fax
Get up and leave without a reason?
Wrong, we have a reason, we just aren't going to tell you what that is.
Okay!
cuz then that will start an unnecessary argument
We feel uncomfortable in a group or with an individual because we don't express our thoughts emotion
, as we express to ourselves for we listen to others more than we express
We see who we are dealing with. Already know it's not worth the hassle of explaining and ghost. ✌️
@@1Skorpia you are right but we still need a time for ourselves alone
I'm perfectly fine with being incorrect. So long as you put forth a logical and rational arguement, hear my side of the issue, and provide relevant counterpoints. If I am wrong, I will adjust my thinking to account for new information.
Exactly!
Yes ! If you explain your line of reasoning and it makes some sense, we are totally open to changing our position. We don't follow anyone blindly but our compulsion towards constant and lifelong learning, keeps us open to different perspectives. We're not inflexible, we're just not blinded by bullshit.
Yes
Agreed. I'll admit when I'm wrong, if I'm wrong. Then I'll take the new information on board so I'm not wrong next time
I think that is because our knowledge is not based tied to our ego. We want accuracy. Te is known for due diligence, and research. Ni is wrong sometimes, but adaptable. We also have Se which is tactile.
As an INTJ woman, another habit is pretending to be extroverted because, once again, people don't understand (I'd like to know what people do actually understand!)
As I've aged, I rarely pretend to be extroverted. I don't care anymore what people don't understand. I no longer dumb myself down to make others comfortable.
Exactly same here. Such a relief to finally accept yourself fully and start appreciating the way you are. Pity I stopped that at the age of 13 and got back at 35.
@speedy_cometI'm Turbulent, and considered a very good manager thanks to that by both my teams and mgmt. But still prone to burnout and people annoy me quite often.
Can totally relate! At work I used to feel like I had to act extroverted.....when you're working with the public, but I don't do that as much these days.
I trained myself to be more social. I was just missing too much. So I "faked it until I made it." Most people don't believe I am an introvert, but I definitely am. Extroversion is my "social game" for data gathering and relationship building. I am good at it and my business depends on it, but it wipes me out.
YES. This is so exausting. I do that a lot and I often question if I’m ENTJ, but I know I’m just forcing because people don’t understand. Being an INTJ woman can be quite challenging.
INTJs do NOT despise being proven to be wrong. In fact, it's the opposite. They don't mind at all if you can show evidence and logic in your argument. What INTJs DO despise is being called incorrect without having any evidence backing up such as assertation. Or worse, saying, "Well, I just FEEL that you're wrong." That is something that INTJs really do despise.
Yes thank you. If someone proves that I am wrong whatever no big deal tahnks for showing. But when someone tells me my views of the wolrd are wrong that I don't know anything becouse I am to young(all things my dad has said) and that they dissagree becouse it's not how they think and they ahve no prof to back up what they are saying well I have lots of proff thats when I get pissed and will pick a fight.
Agreed!
Yes but we are also described as careful thinkers we have put lots of effort into our conclusions and we are right an overwhelming amount of the time once we have come to a conclusion so we can be resistant to listen to a poorly organized counter to our argument. Once we hear and understand it then yes we flip like a switch because it is about right ideas not who had them. But we also tend to discount ideas that come from frequent bad idea givers. Hence the negative perception. And honestly we aren't necessarily being fair to slowly warm up to listening on those cases. Probably not all of us. And some always get a fair shake as they have quality ideas.
This prioritizationikely stems from our high value of time and efficiency.
I was thinking about commenting to a similar effect. INTJ's don't necessarily mind being proven wrong, but often if you think you've shown them the facts, the "two sides of the same coin" type response, or just denying it means that you haven't convinced them or proven anything. This tends to happen because INTJ's have a large complex of thought and "facts" that are consistent with their conclusion. Most of the time when anyone is arguing, the actual point of disagreement has not been discussed or even found. If an INTJ is wrong, than you have to find the actual point of disconnect, or challenge his/her presuppositions relevant to the argument.
@@joshuaatkins2334 True.
One of my main "weird" habits is I tend to see everything as an experiment or a way for me to obtain new data (sometimes without being a variable myself). For example, I enjoy people watching(and hypothesizing whilst doing so) because I learn how people react in certain situations and all the different circumstances that can change the outcomes are just very intriguing to me
Anyone else have this habit?
Wow that's quite the exact same for me, what young me do is mostly initiate anger, i had a bit Autism in me(asperger) and diagnosed with low empathy when I'm young
I'm a bit fascinated with people expressing their emotions, because i almost never cried even when I injured myself. "Why did they scream?, Why are they scared?"
Even when I'm angry my feelings are so overwhelming that I'm shutting myself since i don't know how to express it. So watching people's expressions is already a habit of mine.
Nowdays I usually scale actors acting based from my data 😂
Yes
oh yeah
I do that too. I predict their future action and when I am right I am very pleased with myself.
That’s not just me 😅
We'd rather have an authentic and meaningful relationship than be in a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship.
Definitely, it is very common for all Analysts.
I'm not gonna lie, that feels like most people
@@lee-lv8zo It doesn't seem like it.
This chronically-single female can attest!
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I disagree that we despise being proven wrong. I love being proven wrong because it means someone else is bringing something to the table. I just want to get to the best outcome.
Thanks for sharing!
I feel exactly the same way. I am usually concerned with learning and figuring things out. I dont care if I came in the conversation right, I care about leaving it a little bit smarter.
Exactly @@AKOuterheaven
But I don't like giving in just to get along or to "team" or "because I said so". Convince me with facts. Make it make sense.
Agreed, show me if I’m wrong so I can be more knowledgeable.
I feel most videos describe INTJ as an anti-social intelligent grumpy weird loner, but I disagree with that. I think a matured INTJ can be very unique, original, fun, and charming too.
I’m an INTJ myself and have almost all those qualities described in this video when I was a teenager. After I grow up, I remain an introvert, an intuitive thinker who always analyze things rationally and trained to be an architect in college. But I also learned how to be with people and I am not cold nor judge-mental at all. I enjoy my alone time and have no problem to go to a movie or go to restaurants by myself, but I also don’t have problem to chit chat with someone next to me in a new restaurant, especially with some interesting topic and conversation. Yes, I enjoy my alone time very much and often think differently from others, and I love being different and unique and never try to change myself to fit in any environment. But at the same time, I am also social, friendly and barely criticize people around me, although I still feel tried after parties. I may not need others much like other personality types, but I am certainly not an intimidating lonely weirdo either. When I hit it off with someone, I can also talk for hours and feel exhausted after.
I can heavily relate. I was that angsty teenager and had a REALLY difficult time because I didn't understand myself. Things got much better after 25. Its easier for me to socialize and I can be a lot of fun when I want to.
One correction. The INTJ type will change their position as long as the facts support the new position. Now this is easier if the correction is presented as new information to make an informed decision rather than the I told you so emotional response. It has taken me a long time to learn how little I truly understand.
Thank you for this insight!
I feel like this is more for immature or younger INTJs. We are intuitive (hence the N), we know things, and a lot of times we don't know how we knew it. We can very easily intuit someone's feelings because of out ability to observe even the tiniest details, like microexpressions and body language. And INTJs are actually not judgemental. While we can form opinions of others, more enlightened INTJs try very hard to not judge others because we feel like we have no right to judge anyone. We are very much live and let live. And we do try to see the various perspectives in every situation, but a real INTJ will actually admit when they are wrong because the need to learn something new is greater than their need to be right. This is why I say this seems to be more for a younger or less mature INTJ. In fact the only thing in this video that really applies to an INTJ is the need for extreme amounts of alone time and being easily annoyed. Also for those who wonder which personality type makes a suitable partner for an INTJ, it's an INFJ. They have the ability to help us understand the aspects of humanity we just don't get, and they can more easily understand us.
Thank you Melissa for this insight! What would you say your biggest weakness is?
@@PsychologyRefresh I think there's 2 biggest weaknesses. I'm loyal to a fault. And when someone doesn't meet my standards I get very hurt because of how loyal I am. The second is thinking everyone thinks like I do. While I realize people have different perspectives, my default is to assume people think and know what I do. That gets me into trouble. A very close third would be inability to make a decision without having all the facts. I constantly need more information in order to properly make a decision. But the world doesn't work that way, so I make a decision based on the info I have and then end up wondering if it was the right one. And I wonder that for the rest of my life. Not like most people who can let it go.
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I feel the same way. Older INTJ's don't care if they're right or wrong, they care about why (in BOTH cases). And INTJ's care more about being correct than right.
We like to be right and will change our opinion immediately if proven wrong with facts. Because then we will be right. Which is the point
As an intj person normal people scares me mostly
Okay!
Number 5 is not really accurate, if someone presents to me information that has a great source and proves to be true, I will be more that happy to study it and change opinions. The issue comes when someone presents information with no source and wants us to change opinions fully based on their word.
Thanks for sharing this!
This is so true!
Or worse, they want us to change opinions based on their emotions. Not gonna happen 😂
agreed, I just posted a comment about this too!
Omg thank you for covering the annoyance topic. I am very easily annoyed with minor things like a printer not printing IMMEDIATELY 😂
You're so welcome!
It's really bad when your an INTJ AND you have OCD and everyone forgets to clear the extra time on the microwave and put the toilet seat cover down 👀😅
The printer thing is an annoyance for me as well. Technology must comply immediately or it is being defiant and deserves a smack.
I really get frustrated with my IT guy for not attending to my printing.
I wont say all of them were 100% true for me but they were close.
I'm an INTJ but very, VERY unusally empathetic (I sometimes think its a curse)
maybe I'm the only one INTJ like that... idk..
I cant be cold
I cant be harsh or blunt
becz I feel their emotions tooo much.
However, I am very bad at expressing my feelings. I have severe trust issues and I hate people being
affectionate to me. It makes me very uncomfortable which is smth people find very weird and even offensive...
is it just me guys, or u too?
Thanks for sharing!
i’m an INTJ as well and i’m just like you. I look like i’m cold, unable to feel emotions and act like a robot (sometimes). But when i get to know someone, they discover me. For example, when i was at 5th grade, i seemed like i was depressed. But someone brave enough approached me and we became friends. After everyone in the class saw how i was, they all tried to get close to me.
I sometimes see my friend crying. My brain starts working and i somehow realize why they might be crying, what they want, and how they are feeling
what is wrong with my 🧠
@@CatCat-tm2cg oh my god..
yessss... tho if I do realize why my frnds r crying I get stuck in the part where I hv to comfort them. I'll literally be just staring at them like " u.. okay?" my frnd knows that so they dont mind, thankfully!
We’re intuitive and empathetic but we can control ourselves to the point where we put our emotions aside and a try to help by making the other person make sense of their feelings. I feel uncomfortable when people cry because it makes me sad for them but I get annoyed by my own emotions and I’d rather not. We dont like treating people badly because we ourselves wouldn’t like to be treated like this. I think we have a strong moral compass that overrides any need to be cruel to others, we’re honest if asked but we gauge how honest and how to address a situation depending on the person and what they can handle but never lie. Also this might make you laugh, my dad compared giving me a hug as the equivalent of trying to give a feral cat a bath.
We are empathetic if we can relate or it's someone we like and don't like seeing them suffer. OR we aren't if they make the same mistake again like taking back a cheater- we lose sympathy . The odds are they will cheat again.
How is it that Elon Musk has become the poster child of us INTJs? It's sickening.
Why do you think that?
@@PsychologyRefresh Why is he the poster child or why does it sicken me? First, there are so many better and positive examples: Enstein, Obama or Lincoln to name a few. It sickens me, because Musk represents the most negative and nefarious attributes of an INTJ, thus continuing the fear, isolation and persecution of us INTJs.
@@rolandaranjo6486 Thanks for sharing! Do you think the characters you mentioned are all INTJs?
He's rich, and marries beautiful women.
@@rolandaranjo6486bro, your personality has nothing to do with your morality. He’s an extremely intelligent man who makes logical decisions without letting his feelings get in the way. I don’t think you’re a true INTJ if you can’t see that. Also, Obama is an ENFJ, Lincoln & Einstein were both INTP’s (close!). Based solely on your perception of Elon Musk (as well as lack of research skills) I would assume you are an INFJ. The F makes a huge difference.
I sometimes think of emotions like data more than actual emotions like other people say(my brother always say I'm weird an asentimental,but the truth is that humans in general don't know how to to do what to do and put "emotions"away or use it as an advantage) I have emotions too,but I just feel that I don't express it like the majority of people
Thank you for this insight!
YESSs and it's almost impossible not to think of emotions with some logic behind. psychology is like a big universe of cause and consequences, hate to admit i see humanity that way
@@brendaaaa5012 yesss. I have a degree in psychology just because of my incessant need for “why” and understanding emotions and where they come from and how they vary. We like to question everything including emotions.
Hahahaha, I had a therapist tell me once , "You know, you can't think your emotions, right ? You have to feel them." Hold my beer and get ready for my analysis lol We definitely process emotions differently .. there's no question there.
It is absolutely not true that INTJs will not change their mind on a subject when provided with the facts. True, we formulate our opinions intuitively, but our intuition runs on the evidence provided. I’ll argue until I’m blue in the face when I think I’m right. But if reliable evidence arises contrary to my preconceived understanding, I’ll accept it readily.
Thanks for sharing!
Agree.
As an INTJ, #5 is totally BS. INTJs dont care about being correct. We care more about finding the truth. If you've given enough evidences, then we will switch our standpoint and you gained our respect.
#6 and #7 are also not true. so much error in this video.
And for #3, it's only true for young INTJs.
I feel like hes right because he has points but i dont want to "ABOLISH" my opinion entirily i am also INTJ
One of the things i disagree with most in these personality descriptions is the inference that INTJs over emphasize logic and suggest that INTJs rely on that exclusively. The fact (pun intended) is that while very few people can out logic an INTJ it is INTUITION that is our dominant function...and it us the COMBINATION that makes us so formidable. Very few people are capable of both of both types of reasoning. So we are both highly creative and insightful, but also quite willing to change our minds and "reassemble" our positions when new facts come to light. However we will not do so if presented with an imbalanced argument that takes only one type of reasoning into account. We believe we are correct and our judgement is optimal given a set of facts because experience has shown us (and frankly everyone else) that this is the case. People argue with us because they resent our track record of being correct...not because they have done the work we have or are confident they are right.This video seems to miss this fundamental point.
INTJ love to be corrected if someone can prove them wrong. If convinced by additional information INTJs will adjust.
Im an intj i find ppl attractive who prove me wrong but with evidence
I was rarely alone as a teen/young adult and dated often. I was confident in myself enough to know what I wanted and went for it. 2:28
Once, my teacher told me what an INTJ should pray for everyday:
God, please, give me patience to listen to other's idea until the end, even though I know they are wrong.
🤣
I would rather be single if I don't find a good partner
I think its INSANE to be in a bad relationship and complain rather than break up and start over. Romantic Relationships are overrated as it is.
I love being different, it's like being a 4-leaf clover in a field of 3-leaf clovers. Not to say i'm better, rather that i just stick out, but can easily blend in. I know my own differences and my own strengths while others look at me weirdly after they find out how truly different i am.
Thank you for bringing up your perspective!
4-leaf clovers are indeed very special. And there are people out there, who love you INTJ types very much. 😉🍀
As a INTJ I can say that I follow all of those weird activities.
;)
because you aren't intj.
INTJ here, I don't argue as much… I discuss…
How many INTJs here 👋? сколько INTJ 👋здесь ?
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A lot of these habits described feel like their of a less mature INTJ. For example leaving a social situation just for some alone time can come across as somewhat selfish which not all INTJs desire to appear as, that being said we are more prone to leaving a conversation because we're judging the topic of discussion. Also easy annoyance can defintely be a factor of maturity, while we're definitely more judgement, we can still control the level of effect that judgement has on our emotional state
Omg this is so accurate 🤣
I like people but meed my recharge time. Without it, it all becomes noise and I almost overload.
I don't argue about everything, but some things are just not open to discussion. Logic is good. I want things to make sense. Convince me you're right with evidrence and facts Don't browbeat or appeal to emotion.
I do judge. Either you're OK, or you're NOT.
I've been told my communication methods are clear, but too blunt. Guilty.
I'm an INTJ...I dont know as I agree with INTJ's dont like being wrong...I kind of like being wrong, if I'm wrong I want to know it...if I made a mistake in my logic its important I know it. I'd rather be right than wrong any day of the week....but like actually right, not just right in my own head. Any other INTJ's out there that feel this way?
Don't like being corrected?
In such an era where probably literally everything is getting studied and worked on to be more efficient it's arrogant to believe i know it all, criticism is always welcomed
As an INTJ, I enjoy being a weirdo, which idk why but ngl I find me normal and everybody else weird as hell and maybe that is why I'm so easily annoyed with everyone
1) I can't leave any meeting. TH you talking about. 2) Found love early, but failures. 20 years now from age 30 relationship. Didnt know first. 3) VERY annoyed by things. 5) No, wont argue because I'm an INTROVERT. (If it's a personal relationship, it may be different) This is all flawed. 6)...7)....relationships are not a problem 8) yeah, I'm awkward
Thank you for bringing up your perspective!
Not introvert extremely introvert
I like being proven wrong, it shows that others are also critically thinking and using their problem solving skills too.. I praise anyone who finds more efficient methods and shares beneficial knowledge to the people around them
I'm intj and if you bring the right facts and logic and prove me wrong I'm thankful because I learned something new for free. I'll respect you for your intelligence and I might even speak to you again some day.
Thanks for sharing!
I'm a weirdo. And that's a good thing. Cause the social norms are sick, obviously.
Pioneers always the first to do something. They get the Glory and respect later when the rest catch up. In the meantime they get hate.
My mom tells me that I talk to imaginary people all the time.
Why is that?
@@PsychologyRefresh Well sometimes she does catch me talking to myself. And she's not the only one, the girl I sit next to at school says I do too. Other people just come over to me and say they want to entertain me although I'm entertained by either me or a book.
@@Ghibli_73 Thanks for sharing!
same
Now I understand why I am always single. I am so cold and even shy and arrogant that I don't let anyone approach me. Of course, I don't trust it anytime soon. I can't even understand the feeling of someone's love, I think it's not real and it is ridiculous!😐
I avoid even come close to a person, like when I'm leaving the apartment to take the elevator, if I hear anyone in the corridor, I wait till that person go.
Alright!
I've learned to fake it in my old age. I've also learned to look at people and just (internally) say they are idiots. INTJ's rule the world. We just let everyone else think they do, because the minutia is just annoying.
Why tf do i have all of these?
Omg this is so accurate 🤣
Heh. I don't know. My wife calls me a weirdo all the time 😆
Well, being a weirdo is way more fun than being normal, right? Embrace your inner weirdo and wear that title with pride!
I have always had trust issues, i feel like someone is watching me, i feel like someone will kidnap me.
i should see a doc
Okay!
easily annoyed is a weird thing to hear, easily bored is more accurated
i do all of this- i don’t think im INFP anymore now
INTJs have Trauma
They can be disconnected from reality World
How many INTJs are actually autistic? (which would not be something bad, I'm just wondering about the overlap)
Im proud of being intj
INTJ=MASTERMIND (not Architech...Architech is INTP)
Pet peeves:
Rowdy and loud people in restaurants.
Handphone music to the max in quiet cafes.
Over critical , nagging people.
The dirty and unkempt coming towards you.
The condescending people.
The ' I know it all' people.
The one cent also must bargain people.
The boundary breakers.
Etc.
Intj are 100% likely to up and go in a hostile environment, no argument, no explanation given to the oppressor.
I'm sorry, but #5 is so wrong that I can't trust any of your statements. It's 180° wrong. If I were you, I would be humiliated and delete this video.
About #5: How many times in your life has someone come back to you and said, “You were right about xyz”, xyz course of action or outcome being something you “argued” for using reason and facts, but no one listened and things went sideways just the way you said they would? My most frequently used phrase to these folks is I HATE to be right, I’d rather be listened to.
Not true that INTJ's always have to be right! We are about logic...its all about the TRUTH for us. I don't mind being proven wrong...I am grateful for the enlightenment. So that's an inaccuracy on INTJ'S. We are humble enough to admit we are wrong...because we are about logic & truth.
3:39 I got super annoyed of this ex friend who just talked too much, so this checks out lol
What I gathered from this video is that we INTJs are very unique. Just the way I want to be. And logic is our best quality, in my opinion.
This video showed me more of myself. Now my mom needs to see it so she can understand me better.🙂
First mistake: What made you think INTJ's need to be reassured that they are not weird? I'm pretty sure we are necessary to the survival of humans, and that we are rare in our aptitudes and skills and attitudes is the main reason why. The crow's nest is small, and if too many are in it, it is easy to rock the boat too much. It is the INTJ's job to be up there pointing out the things we see over the horizon from those on the deck and below. If the sail-menders, cooks, swabbers, accountants, rowers, and all the other necessary people could see what we see sooner, we can avoid many shoals. I'm not weird for saying, "End the Fed," or "Greed is the cure for price gouging."
I was told by mom I have no feelings because I don’t understand behaviour an uncle have.
I was accused of being unfeeling and all that…
But was I answered?? No!! Godammit, if you don’t clarify how am I suppose to understand? Elaborate! There is no sense in irrational fury, it’s ridiculous.
The annoyance thing is so spot on!
My whole life can be falling apart and I’m fine, but if that drawer gets caught on something…god help that drawer.
There are subsets of INTJs. Not all INTJs fall into what is being said here. Elon Musk is an INTJ 5.
If someone disagrees with me they better have proof to back up what they are saying. And yes we will fight for life, my dad is an INTJ like me but becouse he is an old fart anything that is new and that wasn't around when he was going up is in his own words "fake woke crap that you kids are comeing up with," so yeah dealing with him is a pain in the ass.
engraçado como a personalidade pode estar relacionadas com outras coisas como eu ser INTJ 5w4 e ser signo de Gêmeos (inteligente, curioso, múltiplos interesses) com ascendente Virgem (metódico, observador, detalhista e chato) e Lua em Áries (explosiva quando irritada), e as vezes confundida com autista (olhar desfocado, quieto, no meu mundo, estranha) ou com psicopata (aparentar ser sem emoção e não ter paciência com choradeiras) para quem não me conhece, ou ter temperamento fleumático com toque de colérico, numerologia, etc... tudo meio que relacionado...
As an INTJ my knowledge is such that I know the fact of my ignorance.
I have a really bad trust issue, when the bus driver told me to take a certain bus because it will take me right to my house, i was extremely skeptical and “are you sure?” And the bus driver looked at me like I was an alien and said “yes, if you feel that way about it then don’t take it and never go home on time.” So I thought to hell with it and took the bus that he advised me to take and it took me to my house.
My face was so red I felt so embarrassed but I also felt so much relief.
Thank you for bringing up your perspective!
It could have been more fun if driver lied to you xd
I would never ask a driver, I would do research beforehand, especially now with Google maps and tracked bus journeys available on the phone anytime anywhere.😂
Can someone please explain to me why INTJ's are always called "architects"? I am an INTJ but am not an architect. Is this a figure of speech or is this video focused on the profession of architects?
I love being proven wrong. It brings on such growth, and lets me expand my thinking and see further into things. It doesn't happen very often, but I always appeciate it.
You do not have to apologize for calling us weird. We don't care. It's just annoying.
The last one his close to home. I am very awkward and have been described as socially stupid which is also true.
The thrid one is true my sister will do something then keep bugging me wondering why I am pissed off and not understand that it's her.
Yes Me❤ Relationships all around I’m into it until I get bored the shallowness is real
;)
The first one is actually really fun to do...get the noise down, clear the head and come back with answers while people trying to take your head off...while fun is troublesome at the same time, so since I know when this things will most likely happend I set up an alarm and pretend is a phone call or take a long tripp to the bathroom...that way I don't expend half hour explaining myself and getting the noise down to get to the point...sorry I'm not a natural english speaker
Very interesting insight Mateo, thank you!
@@PsychologyRefresh thanks I figured while a pain on the ass to even try those things, I rather do that than getting punch...o yeah that happend one time
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I need to do that, because people always find it weird when I'm leaving for No reason
Fact two is makeing me question if I am really aroace or if it's the fact that I am an INTJ.
Did other intj's have no issues with covid restrictions eg lockdowns etc? I didnt find it difficult.
people seem to be confused about me often ... I always wonder what Im doing wrong 😂
Netflix and youtube TV my name is Heather ha
Wow this is so me, but that is ok with me when someone proves me wrong.
In my humble opinion, this was not written by an INTJ
Jesus quit stalking me and making accurate videos
*relying on logic too much* is definitely not a thing
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as an intj, this is a stupid video, so much inaccuracies.
I finally found love at 28 but it's stressing me
Does anyone else think that INTX types have a lot of traits that overlap with traits of people on the Autism Spectrum?
Which traits in particular?
I'm autistic!!
@@PsychologyRefresh alone time, not getting social cues...being crisp with my words....in my experience most folks are being phony....
@@kelleycook2627 Thank you for sharing! Is making new friends hard for you?
@@PsychologyRefresh Not being very social, having specific interests, but might also become briefly fascinated by a topic then move onto something else, not very willing to go with the flow because it doesn't feel authentic, tendency to be straightforward and cut through the BS in a way that neurotypical people find disturbing, need for structure and getting upset when that structure is disrupted, to name a few.
I recently found out that I might be on the Autism Spectrum, and my family never told me. I'm an INTJ. I see a lot of overlap between INTJ traits and the traits of people on the Autism Spectrum. I think this could apply to INTPs too.
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😅its not wierd its Unique 😊
#3 is annoyingly incorrect.
Weird is a compliment
Elon Musk is most likely an INTP, according to CS Joseph
According to Psychology Refresh he is an INTJ ;)
@@PsychologyRefresh Elon Musk built SpaceX on first principles. That suggests Ti hero.
#yep
🎉
Musk is not an INTJ
I love INTJ - from INFJ
Elon Musk is INTP
Nah , i am fucked up.
OK, I think you underestimate how many people who think they are offering new facts or rationale absolutely refuse to discuss it with an INTJ who is just begging you to come up with new data or rationale. We are married to the logic which is an ongoing process that never ends. Truth is very elusive, and if we think we found it, we want you to convince us if there is something we're missing. Any frustration we express is because so many other types think we should submit to dominance, and fake agreement. That is no way to find Truth--and we know better than most that "Truth" is a concept like "Reality." BTW, my INTJ father (electrical engineer, pilot, inventor) taught me that listening on both sides really helps. Listening and conveying that one has heard what they said. But both sides need to participate.