As an INTJ, I like being intimidating because it keeps annyoing people away and if someone actually comes and talks to you and wants to become friends you only need to begin the analysis then.... I think this is why I don't have a lot of friends
If people don't like you for who you are, there's no point being friends with them. Real friends know you might seem intimidating because you have high expectations for how things should be done but also don't take it personally.
So true, but the friends that do push through it and reach the analysis stage, at least for me, tend to be the ones who actually become my friends. I love that confidence and look for it in all my potential friends and partners.
@@flowieedenn I'm also INTJ and because i am self aware of that i try to socially act a little bit different (i don't lie on who i am to other but i present it in a different way) but when i am alone I'm full INTJ.
It’s so real! I actively hold my face in a soft smile on conference calls. Someone the other day said you’re always smiling and I was like yeah because if I don’t, ppl complain of being scared lol😂
“Not big on people’s feelings.” Story of my life. I’ve learned to care about people’s feelings as a utility because apparently a lot of people need to deal with their feelings before they can get any work done.
Hahaha…nice societal coping mechanism you’ve developed. I manage other INTJs or rational types (I unconsciously have a hiring bias towards other INTJs). I would need to hire a people manager (perhaps an ENTJ or ESTJ or ENFP) and create an additional level in the organizational structure to have non-rational types in my division.
@@MissyBelleSYD2 super logical people (INTJ’s) will clash. Both ways tend to be the right way as the end result, but how we go about the problem/solution is like two rams head butting each other 😄. Gotta have balance.
Imagine being an INTJ without self steem, or with a strong imbalance in their self steem. Like, a part of them believe they are better, they can achieve anything; society's pressure telling them they are wrong makes them doubt whether they can or if they are the toxic one (for being too blunt, too logic). I think the difference for being successful or not is to not let anybody's words affect you, as a sensitive intj, my advice is to believe in yourself to free your own potential.
as mentioned in the video I am the odd one in the room always. This boosts my self esteem so much by giving me a lifelong sentence of no friends or romantic relationships.
@@PsychologyRefresh As you have covered, it is correct that a number of us enjoy being intimidating. Not only can it boost arrogance but it can keep us away from others if we want.
I am an INTJ. I've always gotten INTJ in MBTI tests, including the "official one" that most use, and answered questions in depth. I also have bipolar disorder. What's funny about this video is that I am an INTJ, but I'm capable of feeling gloomy and discouraged. This video makes INTJs seem like borderline sociopathic power houses lol. INTJs often times have a nihilistic view on life because if an intuitive and judgmental we are. Our introverted nature also keeps us aware of our surrounding, world events, and keeps us to our thoughts. If an INTJ is acutely aware of a deteriorating planet, we don't simply stand on it not caring as it burns. Not every INTJ is outgoing, and it does depend on their environment or personal events taking place, such as family issues, relationship issues, or financial problems. We don't always build ladders for ourselves. We're not always hyper motivated. We don't always make the right choices. We can be emotional, easily iratated, and impulsive, because after we criticize an event we've observed, thought about, judged from an analytical perspective, we may act assuming that we know what's right based on our intuitive nature. I have received comments regarding my seemingly cold and intimidating personality. There are people who complain about certain miniscule things that I don't or can't care about. However, I am very compassionate about the welfare of animals and nature. Most of this video is mostly incorrect in the way it makes INTJs seem. We're not intimidating because of our ethics, we're intimidating because we're introverted, intuitive, thoughtful, and judgmental. These are pessimistic traits when interacting with extroverts or those who feel too much or are optimistic. I really do hope people who are also INTJ didn't leave thinking they were some potential CEO "alpha" lol
If you have bipolar doesn’t make sense for you to be intj. You have uncontrollable feelings. Ntm 😂 there’s nothing to prove this is TH-cam. If you felt the need to take several tests and then alert ppl on TH-cam you are not an intj. An intj wouldn’t care
You're pretty ignorant if you think every intjs are not ceo "alpha" material just because that's who you are. There's more to a person than their mbti type- including family, peers and lifestyles. You come off too eager to shoot down people who have high hopes for themselves just because you couldn't get yours. Typical sour loser, regardless of their mbti type. No one has achieved stuff by discouragement, but instead from encouragement either from within or from an outside source in the depths of discouragement. I have lots of intjs in my life and i am one myself. Sucks for you that you can't relate but we certainly can.😂
And I'm not about to talk about your over filtered pfp that reeks of immature fantasy emotes and insecurity hiding your real face to seem more presentable despite wanting attention to your face by putting it out for everyone to see but still with filters layered.😂 honestly i can't see somone who does that to be an intj but hey whatever you wish to think you are, if it helps you stay off the meds and other people's biz. But really though, intjs are more put together in my experience rather than put out messy pfp like you do frfr. My ocd couldn't handle such blurred proportions and color coordinations. You seem more like infp. But you do you.😂
I keep getting INTJ in the tests I've taken, but I disagree or can't relate with most of the characteristics/traits talked in videos such as this one. I like your explanation of why this video is incorrect.
I'm an intj and I have been called out for manipulation when I was using logic to solve problems with other people and idk why people get offended when you tell them that they're wrong
As a fellow INTJ, an important axiom to remember is “what you say is just as important as how you say it.” While you may be right in correcting them, you have to phrase it in a particular way or people will just think your being a jerk.
Right like I don’t manipulate people, it’s literally common sense. At times people have taken the things I say so personal when it’s not a personal at all. It’s just logic
As an INTJ, I feel like my biggest problem is duality. A part of me doesn’t give a crap about anything and I feel cold, but on the other hand, I care about the bigger picture and genuinely want the world to be a perfect place. Perhaps my indifference towards everything stems from an over-perfectionistic attitude. If things can’t be ideal the way I want it, I’d rather it just not exist altogether. This has legitimately caused me problems at work but has also given me strength to walk away from pointless relationships. Duality can be a blessing and a curse.
I am also an INTJ-A who recently moved to the US from Brazil, and past the many difficulties I’ve encountered while moving to a new country and learning their language, I been also able to stand out at work until I was sent to India. I have the same duality issue where I either jump off the boat before it sailed or I stay and play the violin as it sinks.
@@spicyacai I think what it is is that we’re very cautious and calculating by nature because we want things a certain way and can tell went it won’t go that direction. People may call us scared but it’s better to stick to our guns and follow our intuition.
I think the indifference is a natural rationale perspective to develop as you became aware that you can't be the fix for everything you see wrong with the world. So continuing to want to be the problem solver of the world because you care So much, is insanity, bears no fruit, so you move on to indifference
Number #3 is extremely accurate!! Can't stand people who whine about all the bad things going on in their life and don't do anything to fix the issue. INTJ's tend to surround themselves with people who will take action to fix an issue. (Atleast I do.)
this stuff winds me up. i feel like a broken record, telling them the OBVIOUS way of getting out of their ridiculous problems. dont drink so much. go to bed earlier. the day feels short because you get up at TWELVE in the day! this random person which abuses you, cut them out of your life, or are you some case of stockholm syndrome? some people really cant be helped... and at the end your the arrogant evil guy who tramples your precious feelings..
Yep. I hate whiners. I have a co-worker who whines all the time. I told her, yes, life is unfair. There are people who work harder than we do but are still poor. It is unfair for them.
Am I the only one who finds exhausting to be Ni dom? for every little thing that happens my mind starts making a lot of connections and I immediately think about all the possibilities that could happen in a matter of seconds. I always have strange presentiments and it is as if I already know everything that is going to happen and this leads me to think all the time and my mind is never relaxed.pls tell me i’m not the only one 😭
No, you are not. Everything triggers a join-the-dots activity. My mind makes a bee-line for all possible outcomes, and my logical elimination to leave what becomes the sure future is exhausting. But only a fellow INTJ would understand.
Somebody will ask me a question and I go into a blank stare as my mind splits off in many directions like a lightning bolt or a tree branch thinking of alternate ways is of perceiving what they're talking about. I drive a truck and deliver food, I'm at the end of a long line of incompetent morons and it's a strategy all day to get done as efficiently as I can but there's so much I need to do that shouldn't need to be done it eats me up, the little bit of time at home that I should be doing stuff I'm sitting relaxing here usually with a couple glasses of burbon preparing to go to bed to get rest to do it again the next day of course beating myself up for all the things I should be doing. We are our own worst critics and yes the amount of thinking we do does take a toll But if something needs to be done you don't think twice about it you get it done but only when it needs to be done, the rest of the time you're not doing you're thinking it's the way we're programmed. Ignorance is Bliss knowledge can weigh you down.
I am a INTJ-A and my girlfriend is a INFP-T Mediator and she tells me I scare the shit out of her sometime in how I perfectly explain things too her most of the time 😂 Simply because I almost always right. She told me one reason she like me so mutch is I never lie. I'd rather know the truth no matter what it is I always tell her and I expect no less from people around me.
I definitely relate with you. No one can match our loyalty, honesty and commitment, and only a few can meet our standards 😂 I'm also happy for you and your GF :)
I have two face, one very intimidating and the othr very cheerful and outgoing. Because of this my friends and family till today cant understand me at all lol
I’m definitely an INTJ & don’t feel these COLD traits apply to me AT ALL. How I present myself on the outside is a protective mechanism to protect who I am internally (much is at stake)- I actually care MORE than most people which is why I’m so VERY guarded w/whom I’ll share myself.
As an INTJ i think we’re intimidating because we are often focused, determined, minding our own bussiness and dont care about the impression we make in others…
As a proud INTJ I love to use logic and critical analysis for everything especially people. Sometimes to my dismay. I often judge quickly yet precisely unfortunately haha
Happiness is complacence, a lack of ambition. Nothing annoys me more than those who are content with their mediocrity. On the other hand, nihilists and pessimists annoy me because they use their worldview as an excuse to give up the moment they face the slightest of challenges. "Expect the best, but prepare for the worst", now that's an attitude I can get behind. Follow it and you'll never be blindsided by anything.
I agree with all of these points as an İNTJ women. . . but . INTJs having no place for self doubt İS DEFİNİTELY NOT TRUE We’re not robots. We doubt and feel insecure just as everybody else due to our juding personality. I personaliy find it empowering to hide it hahahaha…haha..ah
As an INTJ, I have experienced sitting at back of our row since my classmates are so intimidated by my presence that they usually forgot what to say when they are on front presenting stuffs to the class. Sometimes I have made my parents irritated by just sitting beside them while they throw tantrums about their day. I usually find being alone the happiest time. I do things alone even though it is a group project, I don't know I just can't do task when I am with other people except with the people I trusted.
I’m also an INTJ. I know exactly how you feel. I thought as a child that I wasn’t normal because I was introverted and shy already for not being around any children. I thought they were all idiots from how crazy they were and I would always do things myself. Also thinking I’m weird.
@@Renarrdيا الاهي شخصيتك وأنت صغير مثل شخصيتي تماماً وكأنك توصفني عندما كنت صغيراً كنت انطوائية جدآ وخجوله ولا ألعب مع الأطفال الذين هم من عمري لدرجه ان امي كانت تدفعني إليهم لالعب معهم وأنا اظل متمسكه بأيد أمي لم اقض طفولتي في اللعب لقد قضيتها بين الكتب وتثقيف نفسي لذالك والي الآن أعتبر نفسي غريبه الأطوار وفي نفس الوقت فريده من نوعي لذالك اندهشت عندما رأيت شخصاً مثلي يا لها من صدفه
My crush is an INTJ and it's actually pretty easy to tell when he's feeling upset about something even when he isn't saying anything, due to my being an INFJ. When that happens, I could actually sense the difference in the atmosphere of the room and it kind of puts me on edge because his emotions are just so intense when he does express them. Either way I'm thankful this video exists because now I can try to see things his way a bit better the next time we meet...
@@PsychologyRefresh for now, since we aren’t actually that close yet, I mainly just stay quiet and let him process his emotions on his own (because I figured INTJs don’t like discussing their emotions with other people), and sometimes I’d try to diffuse the situation when someone else in the room makes him tense up. Can’t wait for more videos soon :)
@@dancyr9638 to be exact, it’s just a really strong vibe that makes me uneasy, and manifests itself as a heavy weight on my chest. Hope this answers your question.
All my life people were/are intimidated in my presence. I discovered I am an INTJ-T female, I belong to 0.8% of the population, and I now also know why people are intimidated.
@@yk-who-it-is Interesting. Even though, the word Interesting starts with IN, somehow INTJ people are not interesting to most types, LOL! I went to school at the age of 4, straight to grade 1, my classmates were actually emotionally more mature than I was, and I could never fit in. I do not know if I am bright, I have two Master's degrees, one in Science, one in Business, and an almost completed Doctoral degree in applied Physics. However, I am still not happy and I wanna change my career once again. I am feeling interested these days in experimental archaeology. Idk, if I start studying that. What is your specialty, btw?
@@Tomisinshalewa Don't gonna lie, but yes. Everyone just misunderstands me, they want me to be a naive lady, but intelligence comes with dashing behavior.
Yes, but who really cares? Once you find your tribe, the rest can go and chatter among themselves, or get their nails done, buy new lawnmowers...whatever...
I feel like intjs create a fight-or-flight feeling in people with disorders whether it's low or no sense of self or overinflated sense of self. I am often misread and misunderstood by these types of people and they seem to want to throw me under the bus for however it is they are perceiving me which usually has nothing to do with my intentions or reality. I consider people with disorders very dangerous and toxic and try to stay as far away as I can but sometimes they're in your life without you realizing it creating Havoc.
I also have recently encountered a particular example this as well. Admittedly I going to do my best to try and convey the story without crossing the thresholds between ecsessive ambiguity and personal gossip as well as providing suffecient detail without rambling but I cannot state I will be successful in this. I was recently attempting to strengthen some of my weaker skills in a game stream community I have built some pressence in and attempted to "bond build" when certain comments were made in jest by a moderator of the stream and I attempted to join the interaction by supplying what I deemed to be a humorous nature video of similair depiction to the recent joke in what amounted to simi secluded side thread of the community as I did desire to establish a stronger bond via humor in an open manor but simultaneously did not wish to cause distraction within the primairy chat. As it turned out this was a grievous error upon my part, the video was deemed extreamly offensive and the other party proceded to announce they had been "wronged" in the primairy thread derailing the entire stream in such a way to draw attention to themselves and suggest the streamers community had been put at risk and they had simultaneously been in essence directly attacked. I did publicly apologize and did try in private message to apologize for my error further as I did wish to make amends for my genuine miscalculation but was blocked only after intitial apology after which they still continued to draw all attention from the community and from the streamer mid game. Graciously the streamer I had built some relationship with did not outright ban me but did deal rather harshly and state that was essentally my one and only mistake I will ever be permitted to make after in essence "psychologically assulting" their moderator. (Notable, I am 90% certain I have been with the community and recognised to be an established regular for longer then this moderator has even been present) Now, in retrospect I still do believe I did indeed make an error in judgment, but not only do I believe it was mishandled, I noticed that while the video did not technically exceed TOS (being arguably being essentally pg 13 in a stated 18+ community) it was still well beyond what I would normally EVER be willing to risk posting which then confused me as it was of very significant deviation from MY norms. This will be important momentarily. After that also took more careful note of when they appeared in neighboring communities as not to instigate trouble aside from careful posts to indicate my presence which resulted in immediate displeasure from the individual, I also noted that any stream they entered was quickly derailed by them in order to essentally be redirected into praising them by both community and streamer alike, in fact, they seem to jump from stream to stream just long enough to do this and repeat. It was at this point I realized they are a very unhealthy isfp who has fallen to inverted negative narcissism and is horribly, near tragically unaware of the cancerous mental illness rapidly growing within them. I also came to realize that while it does in no way excuse my error in failing to recognize an inappropriate post before making it this is likely the scource of the devience from my norms. Many INTJs such as my self if able to conciously contort their stacks to access Fe are dark empaths improper compensation on my part was then the scource of the devience from my norms. TLDR: Self aware dark empath INTJ tries to make friends with non-selfaware narcissistic ISFP by means of self deprocating humor targeted at their shared dark atributes and narcissist went ballistic when confronted by what they try so hard to deny.
As INTJ intimidation comes natural (even when you don't want to intimidate), but to me intimidation is more like a weapon, meant to be used only when situation calls for it. Other than that using intimidation to gain respect or to dominate for no reason is a child's game. It is childish. I've never had to intimidate to dominate or to gain respect, because my skills do that for me. When you stop intimidation you open doors that were previously closed. You grow socially and emotionally. It also helps to make more connections to achieve your goal because no matter how much you try to persevere with your hard work and skills, you still need lots of connections to succeed in every field. That's how society works so it is better to be flexible and grow then be stubborn and break. BUT, but, "it is better to be feared than to be loved, if you cannot both" -Aamon Because we know which side has more power.
Like most things you take what you want from these things. I'm an INTJ and I see the worst things in life and use it an opportunity to "fix" it. If you come as intimidating it's very rarely nothing to do with you, it's how others react. Self-esteem is lucid and comes and goes. Anyone can be intelligent but for the INTJ type we just collect more information both externally and recognize our internal experiences. If you strive to be intimidating just be an asshole and the jobs done.
@@maomao.. the problem I have noticed is that more and more people are using this term without knowing its meaning. I send them to read some books. At a certain age nothing can touch you :)))
I might be an outlier here but I'm more on the pessimistic side rather than the optimistic side. I see optimistic people as foolish for being oblivious to the negative things in life. They are just as bad as gloomy people.
Im an INTJ, i have alot of self confidence and i have knowledge on history, geo politics because i like analysing both but unfortunately i only have one friend due to my distrust of others not because im intimidating even though my friend says im cold and i dont feel stress even when feeling stress is normal for humans
As an intj women , people tell me I look intimidated and angry in fact it doesn't bother me because I can keep annoying people away but sometimes they're quick to judge me as a bully ...
This sounds very accurate. #7 seems to apply only to some...I'm wondering if that one would apply more to INTJs that are "jumpers" according to the Objective Personality typology system (even if that's only a temporary phase in their lives, due to too much isolation, depression, falling in love, etc)? Meaning they are putting more emphasis on their Ni-Fi axis than their Ni-Te axis, and are therefore prioritizing what their feelings want to be accurate and to work more than what their Te would be revealing to them if not for their Fi feelings? Just a thought! :)
An acquaintance once called me for advice because she said I think "cleanly". I was shocked. I didn't know her well at all. People think I am a lot tougher than I feel. Crying is almost physically painful to me. I HATE funerals because of the sadness and emotion. I tnought I was nuts intil I took the Meyers-Brigg. Now I accept myself.
Just know, all or most of your friends and family will one day hold you back from your greater success unless you separate them from your “mission” or whatever you coin your destination. There’s a few that can help or at least function along side you. Most know that eventually you’ll leave this pastor tor better ones and want to keep you with them, to help them. That’s fine if you want. Otherwise, I shoot for the skies and level up. If you’re not progressing, I’ll leave you behind. Lethargy and laziness wear off on those around you. If you have lose friends that have dreams and ambitions but don’t sustainably pursue them, it makes you lazy because you’re doing ok in the same circumstance, or worse (based on environment etc) just set your goals and be better than yesterday. Putting other’s in the equation either limits your success or anxiety and doubt. Just be the best you and you’ll be great. It’s not our mission to be better than others, but to be better than ourselves.
Geez, you'd think none of us ever had depression. Anyhow, I have seen how intimidating I can be even though I am not trying to be. I think the most intimidating thing about us is our combination of intellect and self-confidence makes us capable of very focused, directed action that comes across (rightfully) as extremely powerful and therefore intimidating. We like being swift and decisive in pursuing our goals and so we rarely think about how that comes across to others - nor are we inclined to. And when we really get going, we get task focused tunnel vision that turns the world into things that either help us toward our goals or get in the way - and some of those things are people. We can come across as ruthless, callous, inhuman machines - and that's on a good day! :)
@@PsychologyRefresh TH-camrs. 😏 Sure, college professors, experts in their fields, talented writers, and the like. I don't get the magazine myself anymore, but it's a breath of fresh air to read _National Wildlife_ at the library because of the high level of discourse in it.
I am an INTJ and I have been known to be intimidating to some. Not that I want to look intimidating or whatsoever, but more or less because I am known to put harsh words when I criticize something. Now I am trying to improve my inter-personal skill..
I'm an INTJ and had to decide between watching this video and a cat video where the cat was chasing its tail. I picked the cat video first. The commentator on this video has a very annoying voice, so I stopped watching at the 2:00 minute mark. The title is obviously click bait, and this video is a waste of time. Cat videos are more important and useful.
I am a girl INTJ and don't feel all those points because I can't intimidate others with my appearance. Also I know that I need to learn a lot more to raise my self esteem within the field I am working. So for now I just have the few topics I like and care about to feel superior. Also I have really good social skills and like to Analyse the problems of my friends to help them solve their issues. I don't know if I am really an INTJ or this personality thing is just way overrated. A lot more facets needs to suggested when it comes to personality. Sry I am German so I don't know if suggested was the right word xD
Me too a female intj And I don't think I'm intimidating And i like really have some self esteem and confidence issues which stops me from stating my actual opinions and also stops from showing others my true and confident self I m just in the path of life to solve this problem of mine and become more confident
INTJs naturally don’t have good social skills, unless they found good reasons to improve them. I think infjs are quite similar but they value social harmony.
A few minutes ago, I came across an MBTI test and decided to give it a try. Regardless of its accuracy, the test results indicated that I am an INTJ-A. Reading about the characteristics of INTJ-A made me chuckle. In addition to that, I also have Asperger's. I'm not sure whether people are intimidated by me, as I haven't really paid attention. Regardless, taking the test and watching a couple of videos about it was an amusing experience. However, I'll stop delving into it now, since I feel that it would be a waste of time. My thought process is, "Who cares?" Now, I need to return to my tasks after sharing this brief comment.
I am an INTJ but those videos are stretching it a bit🤣. For instance, I don't think I am intimidating or inconsiderate. Of course, I'm definitely not the approachable type but I feel like that's because I keep to myself a lot and don't always interact with my surroundings, not because I intimidate others. I've been called a snob by people that don't know me but I don't know. I'm confused 😂
Bc we don’t see ourselves as unapproachable, but I know others will say differently. I’ve been called: know it all, snob, intimidating, accused of thinking I’m better, rude, a$$hole, etc. However I don’t see myself as any of those things, just misunderstood. Lol
Also there’s a part in the video that I disagree with. If a feeling is useless, there is no point to feel it too much. Being annoyed or arrogant at people does not bring actual benefit, however if you are “外圆内方” (a Chinese description) (outside round inside square), you hold your beliefs inside firmly, however on the outside you will need to understand and empathise with others, and able to be swayed just on the outside. This will help with achieving goals more efficiently. And to think of the matter this way, the INTJs that are called to be cold by others, are failures or hypocrites of a sort, because the emotions that they have showed affected their ability to work with others, blunting their effectiveness.
U can be intj and watch videos like this to boost ur ego - if u dont do anything big in ur life ur worthless human - and im intj myself, keep working, never be satisfied with small things 💪
As an INTJ-A, I ABSOLUTELY LOVE being intimidating. That's because, I want people to respect me and not just bug with me, I hate when ppl act like tht. I want ppl to see that I actually CAN be dangerous in many times. I want ppl to know that I WILL beat them up if I feel like it. I'm the type of INTJ who likes to scare people, get revenge, be overprotective (and DEMONIC for some reason), ect. The type of INTJ who is clearly NOT a softie. That's why I'm introverted and always thoughtful. It's easier to humiliate my Enemies.
@@chloeterewaamu No such thing as an "INTJ-A" or "INTJ-T". Those distinctions were made up by the 16personalities site and aren't used anywhere else. Also the 16personalities test is garbage and mistypes all the time. You should do the Michael Caloz or keys2cognition test to have a better assessment of yourself. Probably both.
@@chloeterewaamu Doesn't mean you are, but it's definitely more accurate than the 16personalities. Only way to really know is studying the types and functions and comparing it to your behavior. No test is 100% accurate. ISTPs and INTJs can be very similar. I've also been typed as both.
Also, now it makes so much sense for the way I approach things. For an example, if I want to cook something for the first time, I will look through different recipes and appreciate ingredients that are shared in common and understand their functions, then give a first try, and allow a few tries and errors before settling on something then use it repeatedly to get really good at it. 😂
Because INTJ’s are obsessed with themselves, and always want to assure that what others assume / think about them is in line with how they want to be portrayed. That’s why they’re always looking for information about themselves, and end up watching these kind of videos. - An INTJ
I had a kind of unique experience as an INTJ. My father is also an INTJ so from childhood he could read me very easily. A lot of the same struggles I went through he went through at a similar age. I might not relate to the whole feeling diferente because of that.
Incorrect, we do not enjoy intimidating others. We are hopeless at reading others emotions and don’t even know they feel intimidated. The objective is to communicate facts or strategic insight/direction. Only some types understand us and those sensors feeler combinations just hate us as they are irrational and hysterical about non-issues.
I dont think we are incapable of reading others, moreso that we don't instincively value their "feelings" and therefore don't care or bother to not intimidate them. I feel that we can work on and develop great capability to understand and read their feelings if we want/try to - but still at the end of the day it would only have minimal (or no) effect on our major direction
I scored an INTJ, but Im not mean. lol I just think people are kinda dumb, arent aware of what's going on in the world, and can be pretty gloomy. But other stuff...watch out.
By focusing on the "intimidation" aspect OTHERS perceive, YOU are attempting to define us in an emotional frame, & THAT'S WHOLLY ILLOGICAL. Further, it attempts to give merit to a PERCEPTION, again ILLOGICAL... Over the decades, many have asked why I'm not "like everyone else;" my reply always centers on "Observe 'Spock' from Star Trek, & you'll begin to see the difference." I leave it THERE.🖤
@@KP-w Making assumptions like yours illustrates your addiction to your perceptions... A major FLAW in the human social construct feeding the misunderstanding of myself & those like me. By all means, carry on...
At some point in my life i had to accept the truth that what I want is power, because being in power would also give me freedom. And yes people i dont like, I will intimidate them with social pressure like eye contant. My work colleges think im some kind of serial-killer, wich is perfectly fine with me. INTJ just living in the moment.
Diabetes is a real problem, why increase the risk? 😏 No. People are not animals or children to be appeased with a treat for doing tricks or what they’re supposed to do. Telling the truth is form of care. I tried to soften it, but it was way too subtle.
1) They want control. 2) They have extremely strong belief in themselves. 3) They keep their word and despise whiners. 4) They want some space. 5) They are highly intelligent with a sharp word. 6) They are not big on people's feelings. 7) They force logic to match their vision. 8) They tend to be the odd one in the room. 9) They are extremely proud individuals. 10) They often like to be intimidating.
I agree on the genuine feelings part 100%. You gotta think humanity has been lived in society's and till this day. Where if we say wassup or how's it hangin, the reply always given is good or ok. We all know people will never say how the day is truly going unless there in our social circle. So as an INTJ am I really cold for having minimal to non existent emotion for co workers?
Not sure if I am intimidating, but I have had close friends who have told me that they didn't like me at first. It seems that people have to get to really know ITN s in order to form a bond. We can come off as controlling and judging, but we can be very caring and generous. I am also a Virgo. I have had to really work on being more empathetic and less judging. I get very impatient with people who are not efficient, or don't take a task seriously. Group projects are impossible to me because I can't tolerate indecisive or lazy people. It has in time taught me to try to listen more carefully and to learn tolerance and patience.
"They want control." Nothing could be further from the truth. INTJs want life to be like a 5 man SEAL team...they want EVERYONE to be capable, competent, master of their skills, knowing what to do, when to do it, and how it should be done, without any direction, supervision, communication, oversight, or follow-up on the INTJs' part (and absolutely no repetition!). In short, they want everyone to be the peak of their game, all the time. The dark side of this is that they don't just want it, they EXPECT it. INTJs don't want to control anyone. They despise incompetence, and that's an understatement.
I am INTJ female and there was a time that I thought I was a psycho or sociopath then I learned about this MBTI and realized why I was like this. I went to women’s high school and that 3 year was true hell of my life and I have no memory of those 3 years really. Even as INTJ I feel outsider from other INTJ because I learned what I need is love not power. I learned how to understand others because I needed it to survive. I learned how to socialize because I also realized I need that to be a good mother. I learned how lucky I am being born with high IQ so I also learned to have empathy because we are all sharing same soul. My son made me a better human being. I am grateful I am INTJ and also a mom who understands and try to be better at myself for my son.
Enjoy being intimidating? 😄. No, I don't. I simply have very low tolerance for external b.s, especially if I've already mapped out my optimal way of getting things done. It's annoying having to accommodate weaker perspectives especially if my way already accounts for their safety and well being. If they're too stupid and lacking a backbone, that's really their problem. My INTJ perspective.
I never saw myself as intimidating even though I match most of these traits. For example, I picked computer science (science field) as my major in elementary school (long-term planning) because my mother had her mathematician job replaced by computers (broke large goal into achievable sub-goals). I stuck to the plan and currently get 6 figures as a data engineer (achieved goal from accurate planning). I don't get how any of that is scaring other people 😕; it shouldn't affect them at all.
“Not big on people’s feelings.” I used to think that this point means INTJ don't feel the emotions of people around them. But recently I think this point might mean INTJ tend to overlook the influence of emotions. Recently, as an INTJ, I've got some problems of mobilizing people to cooperate.
The only exception is mourning....THEN I am hopelessly muddled😢 for a year. Lost my mate of 41.years over a year ago...I am back now but it took all that time to rebuild my sepf cpnfidence at probleming solvi g too many sudden unexpected problems to solve all at once and while in the greatest sorrow of my life. Lots of. State dept, banking, Social security SNAFUS and issues to unravel and they were knotteu up altogether in one huge ball.
I'm having difficulties comprehending number seven; Can someone explain please? What I grasped was, the logic one has can be twisted depending on the "intuition" they carry. So like, in short, the idea they create is subject to their own bias but because they overly think, this bias is accurate because it's theirs? Please, help lol
This video has both low eq, low IQ, and high eq, and high IQ INTJs all lumped together. I personally use my rationality to correct my emotions and to push myself to care about others' emotional needs because I know what normies want... except when they are out right stupid, lol. It has to be outright because I MIGHT have missed something. It is illogical to think I, although almost always right, can't be wrong. I mean, pushing everyone away is just not logically sound, and conformational bias, and without the ability to assume you might be wrong just mean you are a low functioning INTJ. INTJs tell others to prove they are wrong, not that they don't listen to others. For me, I just cut people short and tell them that they are wrong 2/3 the way through their sentences most of the time, because by then you would know they are wrong and what they are trying to say and the rest is just a waste of MY time. -The End, Words from a self suspecting INTJ
As an INTJ I disagree with the optimist point. Personally I determine with I will be optimistic or pessimistic in a given situation based on the know facts
Intuition is the experience you gathered in time, all the data picked from your own experiences or of other's, stored in your unconscious mind. Intuitive people have the ability of listening to their gut feeling which taps into this resource. Many say that is ilogical and non factual. I'd rather say that is unconscious. Is a superpower.
INTJs are confident bc we’re either right and know exactly what we’re doing or have absolutely no clue.😅 We’ll make the best presentation you’ve ever seen in your life and a written contract your parents have to sign to let you attend our birthday party, but when we have to talk to someone, we’ll spend 30 minutes siking ourselves up and planning out the conversation. 😅 INTJs are binary, we’re either insanely confident or bend over backwards to avoid what we aren’t good at.
As an INTJ I have something many people call.. "Innocent face" I didn't like to be called like that. But I guess you guys will understand when u use that skill for my reputation. But again. They did also call me out on being manipulative-
im INTJ, I have never heard I am intimidating, I heard a lot of the opposite. alright point 1 is true but that doesn't mean OTHERS know about it, so that doesn't intimidate them, something that they are unaware of can't intimidate them, because they aren't even aware that such thing even exists. point 2 is again true but again like this time yes they do see that but they see it as something bad, making mention to what I said at the start, they see me as an arrogant idiot. point 3.... I literally can't understand what is supposed to be intimidating, I barely even understand the words that are being said in that section, yes I do keep my word but I don't see how that is relevant. point 4 is probably one of the best at trying to prove its point, it is kinda true that I do not like to talk with other people and share my thoughts and I can seem unapproachable... because I am, and yes I can understand that that might intimidate some but... most? does someone not wanting to talk with you intimidate you? HAAA no (point 5), as I said they think I'm stupid, and therefore they are not intimidated. point 6 is probably the least true one so far, I do know other peoples feelings, and I care... about some of them... about the ones that I care, I do not care about the others, but I don't really see how this can intimidate people, people care about some people and not so much about others don't they? (point 7) ............ what? literally what? alright there is no way any other point gets any stupider that this one, no it is not true at all I DO care about truth above anything else, I have questioned everything and always will, I do want to be confronted and given arguments for the other side, I want to be proven wrong, I thought that's what the T stood for, I want to think and debate and expand on ideas, no I won't blindly grab onto my first idea and give any trash argument I can't come up, that's the opposite of me....... but even if someone were to do that.... is that intimidating? point 8 yes true but you are proving we are weird and maybe annoying to deal with, not really intimidating. point 9 is point 2 again because someone was running out of ideas to reach the nice number 10. point 10 is so weird because it isn't even talking about the actual point, he just quickly delivers it and then starts to rant about general INTJ stuff, anyway I will address the point itself, it is honestly hard to tell because I haven't experienced it, no one thinks I am intimidating to even think of how it feels, I guess I would enjoy it? but I can't even be sure.
#4 only applies if you're an asshole. I like it when I have an opportunity to share my thoughts on a topic I've studied, genuine conversation is rare in my world. Also "have little regard for others" is bullshit unless you're an asshole. You can be an INTJ and be polite, courteous and not immorally utilitarian, at the same time. I'm so sick of hearing this.
Im an INTJ and my self esteem is soul crushing-ly low. My mom made sure of it. I struggle to bother learning or pushing myself. Its like my ignition is stuck in the "off" position.
The hell is this "always gotta be cheerful and optimistic" noise? No, thank you, do not shove toxic positivity on us. We see it for what it is (more mind control). Leave that for the SF sorts, thank you.
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As an INTJ, I like being intimidating because it keeps annyoing people away and if someone actually comes and talks to you and wants to become friends you only need to begin the analysis then.... I think this is why I don't have a lot of friends
Thank you for bringing up your perspective!
I can confirm all this 😅😅😅😅
Exactly 💯
If people don't like you for who you are, there's no point being friends with them. Real friends know you might seem intimidating because you have high expectations for how things should be done but also don't take it personally.
So true, but the friends that do push through it and reach the analysis stage, at least for me, tend to be the ones who actually become my friends. I love that confidence and look for it in all my potential friends and partners.
You forgot to mention INTJ Death stare which is a usual expression most INTJ's have
Good point!
I am an Intj and Scorpio, my death stare sometimes scares people 🗿
@@flowieedenn I'm also INTJ and because i am self aware of that i try to socially act a little bit different (i don't lie on who i am to other but i present it in a different way) but when i am alone I'm full INTJ.
@@flowieedenn if you put any stock in astrology, you aren't an INTJ.
It’s so real! I actively hold my face in a soft smile on conference calls. Someone the other day said you’re always smiling and I was like yeah because if I don’t, ppl complain of being scared lol😂
“Not big on people’s feelings.” Story of my life. I’ve learned to care about people’s feelings as a utility because apparently a lot of people need to deal with their feelings before they can get any work done.
Thanks for sharing!
Hahaha…nice societal coping mechanism you’ve developed. I manage other INTJs or rational types (I unconsciously have a hiring bias towards other INTJs). I would need to hire a people manager (perhaps an ENTJ or ESTJ or ENFP) and create an additional level in the organizational structure to have non-rational types in my division.
Yep haha I can relate to that...
@@MissyBelleSYD2 super logical people (INTJ’s) will clash. Both ways tend to be the right way as the end result, but how we go about the problem/solution is like two rams head butting each other 😄. Gotta have balance.
I learned not to care, when I figured out they didn't give a damn about mine. I don't need people who are manipulative or "needy".
Imagine being an INTJ without self steem, or with a strong imbalance in their self steem. Like, a part of them believe they are better, they can achieve anything; society's pressure telling them they are wrong makes them doubt whether they can or if they are the toxic one (for being too blunt, too logic). I think the difference for being successful or not is to not let anybody's words affect you, as a sensitive intj, my advice is to believe in yourself to free your own potential.
Very interesting!
This happens when you are caged in a Ni-Fi loop--when your intuition magnifies the burden you have on your introverted feelings and it goes in a cycle
as mentioned in the video I am the odd one in the room always. This boosts my self esteem so much by giving me a lifelong sentence of no friends or romantic relationships.
As an born INTJ i agree with you because for society i am wrong to be too much using logic
I don't have too much self esteem but I also perceive myself as a god whenever I do something and it works.
Face it fellow INTJs, you’re going to use all this to intimidate others.
Do you do that?
@@PsychologyRefresh Y E S.
@@PsychologyRefresh My lack of reply speaks volumes.
@@aydanwissel5631 It does!
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As you have covered, it is correct that a number of us enjoy being intimidating. Not only can it boost arrogance but it can keep us away from others if we want.
I am an INTJ. I've always gotten INTJ in MBTI tests, including the "official one" that most use, and answered questions in depth. I also have bipolar disorder.
What's funny about this video is that I am an INTJ, but I'm capable of feeling gloomy and discouraged.
This video makes INTJs seem like borderline sociopathic power houses lol.
INTJs often times have a nihilistic view on life because if an intuitive and judgmental we are. Our introverted nature also keeps us aware of our surrounding, world events, and keeps us to our thoughts. If an INTJ is acutely aware of a deteriorating planet, we don't simply stand on it not caring as it burns.
Not every INTJ is outgoing, and it does depend on their environment or personal events taking place, such as family issues, relationship issues, or financial problems.
We don't always build ladders for ourselves. We're not always hyper motivated. We don't always make the right choices. We can be emotional, easily iratated, and impulsive, because after we criticize an event we've observed, thought about, judged from an analytical perspective, we may act assuming that we know what's right based on our intuitive nature.
I have received comments regarding my seemingly cold and intimidating personality. There are people who complain about certain miniscule things that I don't or can't care about. However, I am very compassionate about the welfare of animals and nature.
Most of this video is mostly incorrect in the way it makes INTJs seem. We're not intimidating because of our ethics, we're intimidating because we're introverted, intuitive, thoughtful, and judgmental. These are pessimistic traits when interacting with extroverts or those who feel too much or are optimistic.
I really do hope people who are also INTJ didn't leave thinking they were some potential CEO "alpha" lol
If you have bipolar doesn’t make sense for you to be intj. You have uncontrollable feelings. Ntm 😂 there’s nothing to prove this is TH-cam. If you felt the need to take several tests and then alert ppl on TH-cam you are not an intj. An intj wouldn’t care
Each INTJ is uniquely different, as is all of the 16 Personalities. I try to live my life how I want to, not as the world tells me I should.
You're pretty ignorant if you think every intjs are not ceo "alpha" material just because that's who you are. There's more to a person than their mbti type- including family, peers and lifestyles. You come off too eager to shoot down people who have high hopes for themselves just because you couldn't get yours. Typical sour loser, regardless of their mbti type. No one has achieved stuff by discouragement, but instead from encouragement either from within or from an outside source in the depths of discouragement. I have lots of intjs in my life and i am one myself. Sucks for you that you can't relate but we certainly can.😂
And I'm not about to talk about your over filtered pfp that reeks of immature fantasy emotes and insecurity hiding your real face to seem more presentable despite wanting attention to your face by putting it out for everyone to see but still with filters layered.😂 honestly i can't see somone who does that to be an intj but hey whatever you wish to think you are, if it helps you stay off the meds and other people's biz. But really though, intjs are more put together in my experience rather than put out messy pfp like you do frfr. My ocd couldn't handle such blurred proportions and color coordinations. You seem more like infp. But you do you.😂
I keep getting INTJ in the tests I've taken, but I disagree or can't relate with most of the characteristics/traits talked in videos such as this one. I like your explanation of why this video is incorrect.
I'm an intj and I have been called out for manipulation when I was using logic to solve problems with other people and idk why people get offended when you tell them that they're wrong
People can easily get emotional.
As a fellow INTJ, an important axiom to remember is “what you say is just as important as how you say it.” While you may be right in correcting them, you have to phrase it in a particular way or people will just think your being a jerk.
Right like I don’t manipulate people, it’s literally common sense. At times people have taken the things I say so personal when it’s not a personal at all. It’s just logic
Same, when arguing with people I never use emotion but always use logic. People always perceive me as arrogant or manipulating.
The story of my life 😂
As an INTJ, I feel like my biggest problem is duality. A part of me doesn’t give a crap about anything and I feel cold, but on the other hand, I care about the bigger picture and genuinely want the world to be a perfect place. Perhaps my indifference towards everything stems from an over-perfectionistic attitude. If things can’t be ideal the way I want it, I’d rather it just not exist altogether. This has legitimately caused me problems at work but has also given me strength to walk away from pointless relationships. Duality can be a blessing and a curse.
Thank you for bringing up your perspective!
I am also an INTJ-A who recently moved to the US from Brazil, and past the many difficulties I’ve encountered while moving to a new country and learning their language, I been also able to stand out at work until I was sent to India. I have the same duality issue where I either jump off the boat before it sailed or I stay and play the violin as it sinks.
@@spicyacai I think what it is is that we’re very cautious and calculating by nature because we want things a certain way and can tell went it won’t go that direction. People may call us scared but it’s better to stick to our guns and follow our intuition.
I think the indifference is a natural rationale perspective to develop as you became aware that you can't be the fix for everything you see wrong with the world. So continuing to want to be the problem solver of the world because you care So much, is insanity, bears no fruit, so you move on to indifference
@@dillondelgado2059 Exactly.
Number #3 is extremely accurate!! Can't stand people who whine about all the bad things going on in their life and don't do anything to fix the issue. INTJ's tend to surround themselves with people who will take action to fix an issue. (Atleast I do.)
Thank you for bringing up your perspective!
Sure. It's frustrating
this stuff winds me up. i feel like a broken record, telling them the OBVIOUS way of getting out of their ridiculous problems.
dont drink so much. go to bed earlier. the day feels short because you get up at TWELVE in the day!
this random person which abuses you, cut them out of your life, or are you some case of stockholm syndrome?
some people really cant be helped... and at the end your the arrogant evil guy who tramples your precious feelings..
Yep. I hate whiners. I have a co-worker who whines all the time. I told her, yes, life is unfair. There are people who work harder than we do but are still poor. It is unfair for them.
I don’t refer to myself as an optimist. I think of myself as a pessimistic realist- INTJ
Okay!
Same
Yeah! I see myself as a pessimistic one. And yeah, OnionsFearMe too!
Am I the only one who finds exhausting to be Ni dom? for every little thing that happens my mind starts making a lot of connections and I immediately think about all the possibilities that could happen in a matter of seconds. I always have strange presentiments and it is as if I already know everything that is going to happen and this leads me to think all the time and my mind is never relaxed.pls tell me i’m not the only one 😭
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Don't worry, it's who you are.
No, you are not. Everything triggers a join-the-dots activity. My mind makes a bee-line for all possible outcomes, and my logical elimination to leave what becomes the sure future is exhausting. But only a fellow INTJ would understand.
@@tekknorat You're telling an INTJ not to worry that's funny in itself That's like telling them to stop thinking so much
Somebody will ask me a question and I go into a blank stare as my mind splits off in many directions like a lightning bolt or a tree branch thinking of alternate ways is of perceiving what they're talking about. I drive a truck and deliver food, I'm at the end of a long line of incompetent morons and it's a strategy all day to get done as efficiently as I can but there's so much I need to do that shouldn't need to be done it eats me up, the little bit of time at home that I should be doing stuff I'm sitting relaxing here usually with a couple glasses of burbon preparing to go to bed to get rest to do it again the next day of course beating myself up for all the things I should be doing. We are our own worst critics and yes the amount of thinking we do does take a toll But if something needs to be done you don't think twice about it you get it done but only when it needs to be done, the rest of the time you're not doing you're thinking it's the way we're programmed. Ignorance is Bliss knowledge can weigh you down.
I am a INTJ-A and my girlfriend is a INFP-T Mediator and she tells me I scare the shit out of her sometime in how I perfectly explain things too her most of the time 😂
Simply because I almost always right.
She told me one reason she like me so mutch is I never lie.
I'd rather know the truth no matter what it is I always tell her and I expect no less from people around me.
I definitely relate with you. No one can match our loyalty, honesty and commitment, and only a few can meet our standards 😂
I'm also happy for you and your GF :)
I have two face, one very intimidating and the othr very cheerful and outgoing. Because of this my friends and family till today cant understand me at all lol
Thank you for bringing up your perspective!
same!!
youre not along here
You are my hero. How do you do it?
I’m definitely an INTJ & don’t feel these COLD traits apply to me AT ALL. How I present myself on the outside is a protective mechanism
to protect who I am internally (much is at stake)- I actually care MORE than most people which is why I’m so VERY guarded w/whom I’ll share myself.
INTJs dont feel, they know.
As an INTJ i think we’re intimidating because we are often focused, determined, minding our own bussiness and dont care about the impression we make in others…
As a proud INTJ I love to use logic and critical analysis for everything especially people. Sometimes to my dismay. I often judge quickly yet precisely unfortunately haha
Thanks for sharing!
2:03 I dont agree with that one-. I've never seen an optimistic INTJ. I think we are too realistic to be optimistic
Happiness is complacence, a lack of ambition. Nothing annoys me more than those who are content with their mediocrity. On the other hand, nihilists and pessimists annoy me because they use their worldview as an excuse to give up the moment they face the slightest of challenges. "Expect the best, but prepare for the worst", now that's an attitude I can get behind.
Follow it and you'll never be blindsided by anything.
Thanks for sharing!
I agree with all of these points as an İNTJ women. . . but . INTJs having no place for self doubt İS DEFİNİTELY NOT TRUE
We’re not robots. We doubt and feel insecure just as everybody else due to our juding personality.
I personaliy find it empowering to hide it hahahaha…haha..ah
Thank you for bringing up your perspective!
ENTP here guys ☝️
And we can be particularly hard on ourselves with our standards.
Clarifying the "they're not big on people's feelings" - it's not that I'm not unaware of your feelings, they're just wrong and stupid.
As an INTJ, I have experienced sitting at back of our row since my classmates are so intimidated by my presence that they usually forgot what to say when they are on front presenting stuffs to the class. Sometimes I have made my parents irritated by just sitting beside them while they throw tantrums about their day. I usually find being alone the happiest time. I do things alone even though it is a group project, I don't know I just can't do task when I am with other people except with the people I trusted.
I’m also an INTJ. I know exactly how you feel. I thought as a child that I wasn’t normal because I was introverted and shy already for not being around any children. I thought they were all idiots from how crazy they were and I would always do things myself. Also thinking I’m weird.
@@Renarrdيا الاهي شخصيتك وأنت صغير مثل شخصيتي تماماً وكأنك توصفني عندما كنت صغيراً كنت انطوائية جدآ وخجوله ولا ألعب مع الأطفال الذين هم من عمري لدرجه ان امي كانت تدفعني إليهم لالعب معهم وأنا اظل متمسكه بأيد أمي لم اقض طفولتي في اللعب لقد قضيتها بين الكتب وتثقيف نفسي لذالك والي الآن أعتبر نفسي غريبه الأطوار وفي نفس الوقت فريده من نوعي لذالك اندهشت عندما رأيت شخصاً مثلي يا لها من صدفه
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I have yet to meet a cheerful INTJ, but everything else, spot on.
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An INTJ is only cheerful when they are drunk or with very close friends/family.
@@joao_v_vasconcelos 😂 apt
Right. INTJ, cheerful? Haha😂 😮
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I feel like this video focuses on arrogant INTJ rather than regular INTJ.
The vide about a dark side of INTJ is what you've described. Feel free to check it out!
6:14 maybe an INTJ who is also a narcissist? All I care about it truth and accuracy, I don’t care if it turns out I was wrong.
Some of them are!
I did the death stare at an inadequately trained employee when I was getting wishy washy feedback from a task I'd set. I felt bad afterwards 🤣
My crush is an INTJ and it's actually pretty easy to tell when he's feeling upset about something even when he isn't saying anything, due to my being an INFJ. When that happens, I could actually sense the difference in the atmosphere of the room and it kind of puts me on edge because his emotions are just so intense when he does express them. Either way I'm thankful this video exists because now I can try to see things his way a bit better the next time we meet...
Thank you so much! How do you deal with it when your partner is upset?
@@PsychologyRefresh for now, since we aren’t actually that close yet, I mainly just stay quiet and let him process his emotions on his own (because I figured INTJs don’t like discussing their emotions with other people), and sometimes I’d try to diffuse the situation when someone else in the room makes him tense up. Can’t wait for more videos soon :)
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what exactly is changing in the atmosphere? Barometric pressure? Humidity? Heat/cold? Or maybe that is just nonsense.
@@dancyr9638 to be exact, it’s just a really strong vibe that makes me uneasy, and manifests itself as a heavy weight on my chest. Hope this answers your question.
All my life people were/are intimidated in my presence. I discovered I am an INTJ-T female, I belong to 0.8% of the population, and I now also know why people are intimidated.
Thank you for bringing up your perspective!
@@yk-who-it-is Interesting. Even though, the word Interesting starts with IN, somehow INTJ people are not interesting to most types, LOL! I went to school at the age of 4, straight to grade 1, my classmates were actually emotionally more mature than I was, and I could never fit in. I do not know if I am bright, I have two Master's degrees, one in Science, one in Business, and an almost completed Doctoral degree in applied Physics. However, I am still not happy and I wanna change my career once again. I am feeling interested these days in experimental archaeology. Idk, if I start studying that. What is your specialty, btw?
It's exhausting as a fellow female INTJ
Isn't it🙂
@@Tomisinshalewa Don't gonna lie, but yes. Everyone just misunderstands me, they want me to be a naive lady, but intelligence comes with dashing behavior.
Yes, but who really cares? Once you find your tribe, the rest can go and chatter among themselves, or get their nails done, buy new lawnmowers...whatever...
I feel like intjs create a fight-or-flight feeling in people with disorders whether it's low or no sense of self or overinflated sense of self. I am often misread and misunderstood by these types of people and they seem to want to throw me under the bus for however it is they are perceiving me which usually has nothing to do with my intentions or reality. I consider people with disorders very dangerous and toxic and try to stay as far away as I can but sometimes they're in your life without you realizing it creating Havoc.
An overdose of authenticity sooner or later forces the beast to show its claws, I guess, no matter how fake it is.
Thank you Dennis for sharing!
I also have recently encountered a particular example this as well.
Admittedly I going to do my best to try and convey the story without crossing the thresholds between ecsessive ambiguity and personal gossip as well as providing suffecient detail without rambling but I cannot state I will be successful in this.
I was recently attempting to strengthen some of my weaker skills in a game stream community I have built some pressence in and attempted to "bond build" when certain comments were made in jest by a moderator of the stream and I attempted to join the interaction by supplying what I deemed to be a humorous nature video of similair depiction to the recent joke in what amounted to simi secluded side thread of the community as I did desire to establish a stronger bond via humor in an open manor but simultaneously did not wish to cause distraction within the primairy chat.
As it turned out this was a grievous error upon my part, the video was deemed extreamly offensive and the other party proceded to announce they had been "wronged" in the primairy thread derailing the entire stream in such a way to draw attention to themselves and suggest the streamers community had been put at risk and they had simultaneously been in essence directly attacked.
I did publicly apologize and did try in private message to apologize for my error further as I did wish to make amends for my genuine miscalculation but was blocked only after intitial apology after which they still continued to draw all attention from the community and from the streamer mid game.
Graciously the streamer I had built some relationship with did not outright ban me but did deal rather harshly and state that was essentally my one and only mistake I will ever be permitted to make after in essence "psychologically assulting" their moderator. (Notable, I am 90% certain I have been with the community and recognised to be an established regular for longer then this moderator has even been present)
Now, in retrospect I still do believe I did indeed make an error in judgment, but not only do I believe it was mishandled, I noticed that while the video did not technically exceed TOS (being arguably being essentally pg 13 in a stated 18+ community) it was still well beyond what I would normally EVER be willing to risk posting which then confused me as it was of very significant deviation from MY norms. This will be important momentarily.
After that also took more careful note of when they appeared in neighboring communities as not to instigate trouble aside from careful posts to indicate my presence which resulted in immediate displeasure from the individual, I also noted that any stream they entered was quickly derailed by them in order to essentally be redirected into praising them by both community and streamer alike, in fact, they seem to jump from stream to stream just long enough to do this and repeat.
It was at this point I realized they are a very unhealthy isfp who has fallen to inverted negative narcissism and is horribly, near tragically unaware of the cancerous mental illness rapidly growing within them.
I also came to realize that while it does in no way excuse my error in failing to recognize an inappropriate post before making it this is likely the scource of the devience from my norms. Many INTJs such as my self if able to conciously contort their stacks to access Fe are dark empaths improper compensation on my part was then the scource of the devience from my norms.
TLDR: Self aware dark empath INTJ tries to make friends with non-selfaware narcissistic ISFP by means of self deprocating humor targeted at their shared dark atributes and narcissist went ballistic when confronted by what they try so hard to deny.
Also, apologies for ramble, but rate of sucess was stated to be dubious.... darn...
@@skoonthatraccoonskunkguy3865 Thank you so much for sharing this!
As INTJ intimidation comes natural (even when you don't want to intimidate), but to me intimidation is more like a weapon, meant to be used only when situation calls for it. Other than that using intimidation to gain respect or to dominate for no reason is a child's game. It is childish. I've never had to intimidate to dominate or to gain respect, because my skills do that for me. When you stop intimidation you open doors that were previously closed. You grow socially and emotionally. It also helps to make more connections to achieve your goal because no matter how much you try to persevere with your hard work and skills, you still need lots of connections to succeed in every field. That's how society works so it is better to be flexible and grow then be stubborn and break.
BUT, but, "it is better to be feared than to be loved, if you cannot both"
-Aamon
Because we know which side has more power.
Me: No way this can be me :)
Video: They want CONTROL
Me: :(
:)
Like most things you take what you want from these things. I'm an INTJ and I see the worst things in life and use it an opportunity to "fix" it. If you come as intimidating it's very rarely nothing to do with you, it's how others react. Self-esteem is lucid and comes and goes. Anyone can be intelligent but for the INTJ type we just collect more information both externally and recognize our internal experiences. If you strive to be intimidating just be an asshole and the jobs done.
people used to say I'm a heartless monster, now i know why
I was told this before and they thought i was a psychopath.I find that so offensive.
Thanks for sharing this!
@@maomao.. the problem I have noticed is that more and more people are using this term without knowing its meaning. I send them to read some books. At a certain age nothing can touch you :)))
I didn’t even realize I was an INTJ until I took the personality test and watched a couple videos. Explained my life perfectly ngl. INTJ-A
Thanks for sharing!
Me also
I might be an outlier here but I'm more on the pessimistic side rather than the optimistic side. I see optimistic people as foolish for being oblivious to the negative things in life. They are just as bad as gloomy people.
Thank you for bringing up your perspective!
I’m neither, I’m a realist.
Me too, i see life as life and believe that both good and bad can happen ,its foolish to look only at the good side.
Toxic positivity really is a thing.
Im an INTJ, i have alot of self confidence and i have knowledge on history, geo politics because i like analysing both but unfortunately i only have one friend due to my distrust of others not because im intimidating even though my friend says im cold and i dont feel stress even when feeling stress is normal for humans
Thanks for sharing!
Hello fellow INTJ weirdos
Welcome!
🙋♀️ Hi, there.
As an intj women , people tell me I look intimidated and angry in fact it doesn't bother me because I can keep annoying people away but sometimes they're quick to judge me as a bully ...
Alright!
I would adjust a bit because I don't want to upset people & make my life easier.
It is true that I really enjoy the power I have now compared to my school days. I constantly have to remind myself to keep some morals.
How do you react when you don't have that power?
I will never ever again loose my power 😈
@@BunterFreigeist Feisty!
This sounds very accurate. #7 seems to apply only to some...I'm wondering if that one would apply more to INTJs that are "jumpers" according to the Objective Personality typology system (even if that's only a temporary phase in their lives, due to too much isolation, depression, falling in love, etc)? Meaning they are putting more emphasis on their Ni-Fi axis than their Ni-Te axis, and are therefore prioritizing what their feelings want to be accurate and to work more than what their Te would be revealing to them if not for their Fi feelings? Just a thought! :)
Interesting thought! Definitely some truth in that.
An acquaintance once called me for advice because she said I think "cleanly". I was shocked. I didn't know her well at all. People think I am a lot tougher than I feel. Crying is almost physically painful to me. I HATE funerals because of the sadness and emotion. I tnought I was nuts intil I took the Meyers-Brigg. Now I accept myself.
Interesting!
Just know, all or most of your friends and family will one day hold you back from your greater success unless you separate them from your “mission” or whatever you coin your destination. There’s a few that can help or at least function along side you. Most know that eventually you’ll leave this pastor tor better ones and want to keep you with them, to help them. That’s fine if you want. Otherwise, I shoot for the skies and level up. If you’re not progressing, I’ll leave you behind. Lethargy and laziness wear off on those around you. If you have lose friends that have dreams and ambitions but don’t sustainably pursue them, it makes you lazy because you’re doing ok in the same circumstance, or worse (based on environment etc) just set your goals and be better than yesterday. Putting other’s in the equation either limits your success or anxiety and doubt. Just be the best you and you’ll be great. It’s not our mission to be better than others, but to be better than ourselves.
Thanks for sharing!
Or, if you can't be of any use to me, get out of my way.
I am an INTJ grizzly bear, but, I manipulate people into thinking that I am a cuddly TEDDY BEAR.. 🧸... Just a tall muscular INTJ
Geez, you'd think none of us ever had depression.
Anyhow, I have seen how intimidating I can be even though I am not trying to be. I think the most intimidating thing about us is our combination of intellect and self-confidence makes us capable of very focused, directed action that comes across (rightfully) as extremely powerful and therefore intimidating. We like being swift and decisive in pursuing our goals and so we rarely think about how that comes across to others - nor are we inclined to. And when we really get going, we get task focused tunnel vision that turns the world into things that either help us toward our goals or get in the way - and some of those things are people.
We can come across as ruthless, callous, inhuman machines - and that's on a good day! :)
Interesting!
Most people don't know what the hell they are talking about. Why would I listen to them?
Is there any people that you listen to?
@@PsychologyRefresh TH-camrs. 😏
Sure, college professors, experts in their fields, talented writers, and the like. I don't get the magazine myself anymore, but it's a breath of fresh air to read _National Wildlife_ at the library because of the high level of discourse in it.
@@anonygent Gotcha! Thanks for sharing!
Because sometimes you have to pretend, and only then do they give you funds.
@@imho2278 Mmm, begging. I hate begging, whether for money, a job, or a sale.
I am an INTJ and I have been known to be intimidating to some. Not that I want to look intimidating or whatsoever, but more or less because I am known to put harsh words when I criticize something.
Now I am trying to improve my inter-personal skill..
I HATE whinners. I used to tell my group of employees....we are not victims. We are all strong powerful women. Ask for what you want.
I am INTJ, 6’4”, 260lbs, Viking machine living in S Florida. The amount of physical and mental restraint it takes to operate in society is exhausting.
;)
Lmao
I'm an INTJ and had to decide between watching this video and a cat video where the cat was chasing its tail. I picked the cat video first. The commentator on this video has a very annoying voice, so I stopped watching at the 2:00 minute mark. The title is obviously click bait, and this video is a waste of time. Cat videos are more important and useful.
I am a girl INTJ and don't feel all those points because I can't intimidate others with my appearance. Also I know that I need to learn a lot more to raise my self esteem within the field I am working. So for now I just have the few topics I like and care about to feel superior. Also I have really good social skills and like to Analyse the problems of my friends to help them solve their issues. I don't know if I am really an INTJ or this personality thing is just way overrated. A lot more facets needs to suggested when it comes to personality. Sry I am German so I don't know if suggested was the right word xD
Thank you for bringing up your perspective!
That's interesting. I also think my appearance is not intimidating, but sometime people said that I look cold/angry, that's why intimidate others.
Me too a female intj
And I don't think I'm intimidating
And i like really have some self esteem and confidence issues which stops me from stating my actual opinions and also stops from showing others my true and confident self
I m just in the path of life to solve this problem of mine and become more confident
Same here..I think I answered incorrectly
INTJs naturally don’t have good social skills, unless they found good reasons to improve them. I think infjs are quite similar but they value social harmony.
A few minutes ago, I came across an MBTI test and decided to give it a try. Regardless of its accuracy, the test results indicated that I am an INTJ-A.
Reading about the characteristics of INTJ-A made me chuckle.
In addition to that, I also have Asperger's.
I'm not sure whether people are intimidated by me, as I haven't really paid attention.
Regardless, taking the test and watching a couple of videos about it was an amusing experience. However, I'll stop delving into it now, since I feel that it would be a waste of time. My thought process is, "Who cares?"
Now, I need to return to my tasks after sharing this brief comment.
I am an INTJ but those videos are stretching it a bit🤣. For instance, I don't think I am intimidating or inconsiderate. Of course, I'm definitely not the approachable type but I feel like that's because I keep to myself a lot and don't always interact with my surroundings, not because I intimidate others. I've been called a snob by people that don't know me but I don't know. I'm confused 😂
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Bc we don’t see ourselves as unapproachable, but I know others will say differently. I’ve been called: know it all, snob, intimidating, accused of thinking I’m better, rude, a$$hole, etc. However I don’t see myself as any of those things, just misunderstood. Lol
Do any other INTJs notice that people are reluctant to sit next to you, despite having good hygiene and appearance?
Do you notice it?
@@PsychologyRefresh As an INTJ I am sometimes reluctant to sit next to some specific people.
Also there’s a part in the video that I disagree with. If a feeling is useless, there is no point to feel it too much. Being annoyed or arrogant at people does not bring actual benefit, however if you are “外圆内方” (a Chinese description) (outside round inside square), you hold your beliefs inside firmly, however on the outside you will need to understand and empathise with others, and able to be swayed just on the outside. This will help with achieving goals more efficiently.
And to think of the matter this way, the INTJs that are called to be cold by others, are failures or hypocrites of a sort, because the emotions that they have showed affected their ability to work with others, blunting their effectiveness.
@@PsychologyRefresh I am genuinely surprised tho, that you still spend so much effort to read and reply to the comments so long ago. Respect ❤
@@PsychologyRefresh Yes, throughout my life, especially in college.
This is 99.999% accurate
U can be intj and watch videos like this to boost ur ego - if u dont do anything big in ur life ur worthless human - and im intj myself, keep working, never be satisfied with small things 💪
Absolutely
Cyber stalkers criticizing me.
Go figure.
Are you an INTJ?
@@PsychologyRefresh
INFJ
Asperger's
High IQ.
But these folks
don't understand
function stacks.
@@degraham9198 Why do you think so?
Meh… Just remind them that they owe you the price for the show ticket… and make them pay for it (mwahaha 😆).
INTJ here. This is awfully accurate.
Glad to hear!
As an INTJ-A, I ABSOLUTELY LOVE being intimidating. That's because, I want people to respect me and not just bug with me, I hate when ppl act like tht. I want ppl to see that I actually CAN be dangerous in many times. I want ppl to know that I WILL beat them up if I feel like it. I'm the type of INTJ who likes to scare people, get revenge, be overprotective (and DEMONIC for some reason), ect. The type of INTJ who is clearly NOT a softie. That's why I'm introverted and always thoughtful. It's easier to humiliate my Enemies.
You seem a lot more like an edgy teenager who needs to touch some grass 😂
@@chloeterewaamu No such thing as an "INTJ-A" or "INTJ-T". Those distinctions were made up by the 16personalities site and aren't used anywhere else. Also the 16personalities test is garbage and mistypes all the time. You should do the Michael Caloz or keys2cognition test to have a better assessment of yourself. Probably both.
@@nobodyharder6575 I ended up being a istp so... Thank you mentioned website.
@@chloeterewaamu Doesn't mean you are, but it's definitely more accurate than the 16personalities. Only way to really know is studying the types and functions and comparing it to your behavior. No test is 100% accurate. ISTPs and INTJs can be very similar. I've also been typed as both.
@@nobodyharder6575 oh okay it bad my brain chose to do the test late as.. In my defense I can't sleep 😴😴😴 🤣
Also, now it makes so much sense for the way I approach things. For an example, if I want to cook something for the first time, I will look through different recipes and appreciate ingredients that are shared in common and understand their functions, then give a first try, and allow a few tries and errors before settling on something then use it repeatedly to get really good at it. 😂
May someone tell me , how is that possible, that there are a lots of INTJS in the comments?
Because INTJ’s are obsessed with themselves, and always want to assure that what others assume / think about them is in line with how they want to be portrayed. That’s why they’re always looking for information about themselves, and end up watching these kind of videos. - An INTJ
I had a kind of unique experience as an INTJ. My father is also an INTJ so from childhood he could read me very easily. A lot of the same struggles I went through he went through at a similar age. I might not relate to the whole feeling diferente because of that.
Thanks for sharing!
Incorrect, we do not enjoy intimidating others. We are hopeless at reading others emotions and don’t even know they feel intimidated. The objective is to communicate facts or strategic insight/direction. Only some types understand us and those sensors feeler combinations just hate us as they are irrational and hysterical about non-issues.
Thank you for bringing up your perspective!
I dont think we are incapable of reading others, moreso that we don't instincively value their "feelings" and therefore don't care or bother to not intimidate them. I feel that we can work on and develop great capability to understand and read their feelings if we want/try to - but still at the end of the day it would only have minimal (or no) effect on our major direction
A message to all INTJs: Get your head out of the clouds and stop being pretentious.
- An INTJ
Thank you for this message!
I scored an INTJ, but Im not mean. lol I just think people are kinda dumb, arent aware of what's going on in the world, and can be pretty gloomy. But other stuff...watch out.
Basically we rebellious genius
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By focusing on the "intimidation" aspect OTHERS perceive, YOU are attempting to define us in an emotional frame, & THAT'S WHOLLY ILLOGICAL. Further, it attempts to give merit to a PERCEPTION, again ILLOGICAL...
Over the decades, many have asked why I'm not "like everyone else;" my reply always centers on "Observe 'Spock' from Star Trek, & you'll begin to see the difference." I leave it THERE.🖤
@@KP-w My reference to Spock was as a frame to aid understanding, NOTHING ELSE.
YOU need to put a leash on your assumptions... 🖤
@@KP-w Making assumptions like yours illustrates your addiction to your perceptions... A major FLAW in the human social construct feeding the misunderstanding of myself & those like me. By all means, carry on...
Im a Entj so I have a Intj teacher and I know is an intj and I have fear of him
Okay!
I highly relate to every word
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The personality quiz says there’s only 2% of the populations are an INTJ, but why are there soooooo much INTJs on social media😮
SO ARE YOU SAYING "BAD SEED" INTJ 's are narcissist
Could be!
I'm an INTJ, but I am not intimidating. I have social anxiety, which keeps me from being intimidating
Break out of it. I did and I think everyone is scared and/or worried now 🤣
At some point in my life i had to accept the truth that what I want is power, because being in power would also give me freedom. And yes people i dont like, I will intimidate them with social pressure like eye contant. My work colleges think im some kind of serial-killer, wich is perfectly fine with me. INTJ just living in the moment.
Thank you for sharing this!
Agree
Everyone at my workplace thought I was cold and rude even my boss told me I should be more friendly 😂😂! Ngl it did work to attract the girls
Soft skills must be employed to disarm and defuse others' responses to analytical strategies. A spoonful of sugar...
Thanks for sharing!
Diabetes is a real problem, why increase the risk? 😏
No. People are not animals or children to be appeased with a treat for doing tricks or what they’re supposed to do. Telling the truth is form of care. I tried to soften it, but it was way too subtle.
1) They want control.
2) They have extremely strong belief in themselves.
3) They keep their word and despise whiners.
4) They want some space.
5) They are highly intelligent with a sharp word.
6) They are not big on people's feelings.
7) They force logic to match their vision.
8) They tend to be the odd one in the room.
9) They are extremely proud individuals.
10) They often like to be intimidating.
"Your eyes are seeing straight into my soul!"
Now that makes sense, after reading the comments. :)
Ok so I got INTJ 3 times in 2 different tests and I don't feel identified with any of these 10 facts wtf!
Thanks for sharing!
Because some of these ‘facts’ are wrong. 😄
I agree on the genuine feelings part 100%. You gotta think humanity has been lived in society's and till this day. Where if we say wassup or how's it hangin, the reply always given is good or ok. We all know people will never say how the day is truly going unless there in our social circle. So as an INTJ am I really cold for having minimal to non existent emotion for co workers?
Not sure if I am intimidating, but I have had close friends who have told me that they didn't like me at first. It seems that people have to get to really know ITN s in order to form a bond. We can come off as controlling and judging, but we can be very caring and generous. I am also a Virgo. I have had to really work on being more empathetic and less judging. I get very impatient with people who are not efficient, or don't take a task seriously. Group projects are impossible to me because I can't tolerate indecisive or lazy people. It has in time taught me to try to listen more carefully and to learn tolerance and patience.
Tolerance and patience…was the effort worth it or just yet another waste of time?
@@claudiamanta1943helps to cope with annoying people. Helps build characters and self-control.
This video is stereotypical.
Why do you think so?
@@PsychologyRefresh No one would work for INTJs or at least willingly if INTJs are incapable to learn to avoid intimidating others.
@@solomontai7950 Do you think there are no intimidating bosses?
"They want control." Nothing could be further from the truth. INTJs want life to be like a 5 man SEAL team...they want EVERYONE to be capable, competent, master of their skills, knowing what to do, when to do it, and how it should be done, without any direction, supervision, communication, oversight, or follow-up on the INTJs' part (and absolutely no repetition!). In short, they want everyone to be the peak of their game, all the time. The dark side of this is that they don't just want it, they EXPECT it. INTJs don't want to control anyone. They despise incompetence, and that's an understatement.
I am INTJ female and there was a time that I thought I was a psycho or sociopath then I learned about this MBTI and realized why I was like this. I went to women’s high school and that 3 year was true hell of my life and I have no memory of those 3 years really. Even as INTJ I feel outsider from other INTJ because I learned what I need is love not power. I learned how to understand others because I needed it to survive. I learned how to socialize because I also realized I need that to be a good mother. I learned how lucky I am being born with high IQ so I also learned to have empathy because we are all sharing same soul. My son made me a better human being. I am grateful I am INTJ and also a mom who understands and try to be better at myself for my son.
Enjoy being intimidating? 😄. No, I don't.
I simply have very low tolerance for external b.s, especially if I've already mapped out my optimal way of getting things done.
It's annoying having to accommodate weaker perspectives especially if my way already accounts for their safety and well being.
If they're too stupid and lacking a backbone, that's really their problem. My INTJ perspective.
I never saw myself as intimidating even though I match most of these traits. For example, I picked computer science (science field) as my major in elementary school (long-term planning) because my mother had her mathematician job replaced by computers (broke large goal into achievable sub-goals). I stuck to the plan and currently get 6 figures as a data engineer (achieved goal from accurate planning).
I don't get how any of that is scaring other people 😕; it shouldn't affect them at all.
“Not big on people’s feelings.” I used to think that this point means INTJ don't feel the emotions of people around them. But recently I think this point might mean INTJ tend to overlook the influence of emotions. Recently, as an INTJ, I've got some problems of mobilizing people to cooperate.
The only exception is mourning....THEN I am hopelessly muddled😢 for a year. Lost my mate of 41.years over a year ago...I am back now but it took all that time to rebuild my sepf cpnfidence at probleming solvi g too many sudden unexpected problems to solve all at once and while in the greatest sorrow of my life. Lots of. State dept, banking, Social security SNAFUS and issues to unravel and they were knotteu up altogether in one huge ball.
I believe I'm an undiagnosed auDhd'er with c-ptsd, who is also unfortunately intj. I suffered narcissistic abuse and have no friends family or job.
I'm having difficulties comprehending number seven; Can someone explain please?
What I grasped was, the logic one has can be twisted depending on the "intuition" they carry. So like, in short, the idea they create is subject to their own bias but because they overly think, this bias is accurate because it's theirs?
Please, help lol
This video has both low eq, low IQ, and high eq, and high IQ INTJs all lumped together. I personally use my rationality to correct my emotions and to push myself to care about others' emotional needs because I know what normies want... except when they are out right stupid, lol. It has to be outright because I MIGHT have missed something. It is illogical to think I, although almost always right, can't be wrong. I mean, pushing everyone away is just not logically sound, and conformational bias, and without the ability to assume you might be wrong just mean you are a low functioning INTJ. INTJs tell others to prove they are wrong, not that they don't listen to others. For me, I just cut people short and tell them that they are wrong 2/3 the way through their sentences most of the time, because by then you would know they are wrong and what they are trying to say and the rest is just a waste of MY time.
-The End,
Words from a self suspecting INTJ
This is litterally a charicature of INTJs. The whole optimistic thing? Lol. Have you ever met an INTJ??
As an INTJ I disagree with the optimist point. Personally I determine with I will be optimistic or pessimistic in a given situation based on the know facts
Intuition is the experience you gathered in time, all the data picked from your own experiences or of other's, stored in your unconscious mind. Intuitive people have the ability of listening to their gut feeling which taps into this resource. Many say that is ilogical and non factual. I'd rather say that is unconscious. Is a superpower.
INTJs are confident bc we’re either right and know exactly what we’re doing or have absolutely no clue.😅 We’ll make the best presentation you’ve ever seen in your life and a written contract your parents have to sign to let you attend our birthday party, but when we have to talk to someone, we’ll spend 30 minutes siking ourselves up and planning out the conversation. 😅 INTJs are binary, we’re either insanely confident or bend over backwards to avoid what we aren’t good at.
As an INTP I don’t find the INTJ to be intimidating at all. They’re usually quiet and logical. My best friend is INTJ.
As an INTJ I have something many people call.. "Innocent face" I didn't like to be called like that. But I guess you guys will understand when u use that skill for my reputation. But again. They did also call me out on being manipulative-
im INTJ, I have never heard I am intimidating, I heard a lot of the opposite.
alright point 1 is true but that doesn't mean OTHERS know about it, so that doesn't intimidate them, something that they are unaware of can't intimidate them, because they aren't even aware that such thing even exists. point 2 is again true but again like this time yes they do see that but they see it as something bad, making mention to what I said at the start, they see me as an arrogant idiot. point 3.... I literally can't understand what is supposed to be intimidating, I barely even understand the words that are being said in that section, yes I do keep my word but I don't see how that is relevant. point 4 is probably one of the best at trying to prove its point, it is kinda true that I do not like to talk with other people and share my thoughts and I can seem unapproachable... because I am, and yes I can understand that that might intimidate some but... most? does someone not wanting to talk with you intimidate you? HAAA no (point 5), as I said they think I'm stupid, and therefore they are not intimidated. point 6 is probably the least true one so far, I do know other peoples feelings, and I care... about some of them... about the ones that I care, I do not care about the others, but I don't really see how this can intimidate people, people care about some people and not so much about others don't they? (point 7) ............ what? literally what? alright there is no way any other point gets any stupider that this one, no it is not true at all I DO care about truth above anything else, I have questioned everything and always will, I do want to be confronted and given arguments for the other side, I want to be proven wrong, I thought that's what the T stood for, I want to think and debate and expand on ideas, no I won't blindly grab onto my first idea and give any trash argument I can't come up, that's the opposite of me....... but even if someone were to do that.... is that intimidating? point 8 yes true but you are proving we are weird and maybe annoying to deal with, not really intimidating. point 9 is point 2 again because someone was running out of ideas to reach the nice number 10. point 10 is so weird because it isn't even talking about the actual point, he just quickly delivers it and then starts to rant about general INTJ stuff, anyway I will address the point itself, it is honestly hard to tell because I haven't experienced it, no one thinks I am intimidating to even think of how it feels, I guess I would enjoy it? but I can't even be sure.
#4 only applies if you're an asshole. I like it when I have an opportunity to share my thoughts on a topic I've studied, genuine conversation is rare in my world. Also "have little regard for others" is bullshit unless you're an asshole. You can be an INTJ and be polite, courteous and not immorally utilitarian, at the same time. I'm so sick of hearing this.
Im an INTJ and my self esteem is soul crushing-ly low. My mom made sure of it. I struggle to bother learning or pushing myself. Its like my ignition is stuck in the "off" position.
The hell is this "always gotta be cheerful and optimistic" noise? No, thank you, do not shove toxic positivity on us. We see it for what it is (more mind control). Leave that for the SF sorts, thank you.