Workaholic man forces his wife and son to work 365 days/year. [Hello Counselor/ENG, THA/2019.02.25]

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  • @vv-dn9fg
    @vv-dn9fg 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2150

    him ‘disowning’ his own granddaughter and on her daughter’s wedding was the IT for me. this guy is really toxic, people might defend him bc of his past experiences but it doesn’t justify his behaviour. it is like he married his wife just to benefit from her. ugh i have so much things to say but yeah im just hoping the mum and son supports and stick with each other no matter what

    • @Maya-dw5jz
      @Maya-dw5jz 5 ปีที่แล้ว +74

      It's disgusting how he said she isn't an heir so it doesn't matter to him. I mean we're in 2019 get out of that stupid mindset. Reminds me of he drama with Park Han Byul. The father is the worst:/.

    • @blackrose013
      @blackrose013 5 ปีที่แล้ว +39

      don't forget about the son. It also seems like he only had kids to work for him. At least with the way he acts and talks, its like he is using his family like tools with no consideration.

    • @k3vo592
      @k3vo592 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Ofc hes in the wrong but you can't not forget the fact that he grew up in a situation where he wasnt shown any love and had to work like he had no life other than that. So he doesn't know any other way of life. He should change but people shouldn't hate on him.

    • @santana-iq3376
      @santana-iq3376 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Could someone tell me what the votes are for???

    • @Nothing-iz6hw
      @Nothing-iz6hw 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@santana-iq3376 if they get higher scores they would win some cash

  • @kkiirsten
    @kkiirsten 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1489

    “People work to have a better life. No one lives to work” wow.

    • @MissMerc007
      @MissMerc007 5 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      I started working at 14yo and my dad would only pay my sister for working at the restaurant. In high school I worked 3-4 jobs as well as going to school in case I would be homeless. It was hell. Decades later, I've never been unemployed, but that crazy fear we had to do when I was a child has put a toll on my body. The relationship with my dad has broken, he always asked for more, and took all our money. I had to work to buy my own school lunch.

    • @dominicanpanda4752
      @dominicanpanda4752 4 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      @@MissMerc007 your story is an example of what a lot of parents think. They their kids owe them something when the not. You are a hardworking person and I wish you luck and I wish that you can have the rest you deserve.

    • @uli713
      @uli713 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      that saying only applies to most people in 1st world countries.

    • @aeiara
      @aeiara 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@MissMerc007 The more I watch this show, the more I realise how wonderful my parents are, and how I take it for granted. And reading comments like yours really hurts my heart, I'm really sorry

  • @mirandasings908
    @mirandasings908 5 ปีที่แล้ว +533

    The way the son looked afraid makes me think how the dad is like at home.i feel like after this he will still be the same when they go home

  • @rifa502
    @rifa502 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1502

    The son is afraid of his father and the mother just goes a long with agression and dictatorial behaviour. She should protect herself and her children en leave that abusive man

    • @eleanornicholls8991
      @eleanornicholls8991 5 ปีที่แล้ว +54

      I'm sure would love to but in Korea you are looked down upon seriously if you are divorced or a single mum

    • @user-qc5lg4zt3i
      @user-qc5lg4zt3i 5 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      I'm sorry, but that's what I call ignorance. Blaming her, without knowing anything about this society, or the situation of women in Korea. How nice.

    • @mo7527
      @mo7527 5 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      @@user-qc5lg4zt3i That person is not blaming her, they're simply saying that she COULD leave her husband. I don't know anything about women in Korea, and it probably wouldn't be good for her if she left him either. But you shouldn't call someone ignorant simply for stating facts based off of their own culture. I'm not defending anyone here, but in other countries situations like hers would be an instant divorce. We foreigners could stand to learn a bit more about other's cultures. However, before calling someone ignorant, please understand that our culture is different.

    • @user-qc5lg4zt3i
      @user-qc5lg4zt3i 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      She / he said, this woman should protect her children = she is not protecting them right now, because she is staying with her husband, and goes along with agression. For me, that is (very close to) blaming. For any korean woman, that comment is highly offensive. And really? Foreigners are searching Korean videos that they don't understand, foreigners are commenting on cultural things they don't understand, foreigners are saying hurtful things without even realising it, because they know nothing about Korean culture or society, but still, Koreans should understand that foreigners are from a different culture. Well, we see things a little bit differently than. I kind of understand where are you coming from, but her / his comment is really offensive considering the situation.
      But anyway, I don't want to fight about it. Thank you for your opinion, and have a nice day!

    • @mo7527
      @mo7527 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@user-qc5lg4zt3i Your comment was actually quite pleasant. I can see how it would be offensive. And us commenting about Korean culture even though we don't know anything about it is quite childish. Thank you for speaking kindly with me, I appreciate it.

  • @Jana_7
    @Jana_7 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1407

    I really don't know how she spent 28 years living with a man like him. She must have the patience of a saint. Edit: Yeongja is an angel. So kindhearted and had such good words. I adore her.

    • @user-qc5lg4zt3i
      @user-qc5lg4zt3i 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Sad, but she doesn't really have a choice.

    • @uli713
      @uli713 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      its almost impossible to live on your own in korea and the stigma women carry from getting a divorce is the same as the suffering shes going trough now. its a shitty planet in general i wish nasa would send me to space.

    • @hilaholo6822
      @hilaholo6822 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Seriously I was shocked she still with him

  • @BookieMonsterr
    @BookieMonsterr 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1054

    I have a feeling that man has no intentions to change. He's just saying what they need to hear.

  • @Dayamyg
    @Dayamyg 5 ปีที่แล้ว +864

    It's her fate huh? Her fate should be bringing the divorce paper..Okay really awesome he's a hard working man but he completely messed up being selfish,abusive and putting wife and kid to work without a break!28 years without a vacation,family pics that's freakin jail!

    • @jj9268
      @jj9268 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Daya Myers amen

    • @carribeanbratzguyanesequeen997
      @carribeanbratzguyanesequeen997 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I will give you a thousand likes for what you said

    • @eleanornicholls8991
      @eleanornicholls8991 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Yes but in Korea divorces are really frowned upon I know it sounds like bullshit but we're talking like exclusion and looks and some confrontation

    • @spongejin4531
      @spongejin4531 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Daya Myers if we can make baby on our own it will be great!but can’t!we need man sperm!sighhh.....that’s why alot of women suffering because of their fate met wrong man

    • @Tei_022
      @Tei_022 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Exactly.. I was questioning if what he was doing if it was legal.. Isn’t it abuse?

  • @grujose551
    @grujose551 5 ปีที่แล้ว +956

    The fact that they must open every day must've mean that they have many customers. If they do, they would've gotten significant profit. If it is so, he should've employed part time workers. The dad is inconsiderate and selfish af

    • @CXY96
      @CXY96 5 ปีที่แล้ว +60

      But the wife also said that their profit doesn't change that much...so, I don't think they're busy all the time.

    • @nadazman1178
      @nadazman1178 5 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Jason Young yup. But it just his belief and habit to open the restaurant despite they only have a slight profit to cover up their daily cost

    • @rexana
      @rexana 5 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      The wife said that they only make enough money to keep the place open and make ends meet, there's nothing extra to save or do anything with. If he's opening every day, there must be slow days where not many people come. In that case it would likely save money to close on the slowest day than spend all the money and resources to open for just a few people.

  • @missladyOhtee
    @missladyOhtee 5 ปีที่แล้ว +473

    Now i understand why the daughter had a shotgun wedding. It was probably her only escape out of the family. Seeing her mom and brother put up with this horrible father. I get it he’s a hard working father and that struggled his whole life, but where’s your compassion? At least for your children. I really hope that things turn out better for the family

    • @lucyxdani2.0
      @lucyxdani2.0 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      missladyOhtee what's a shotgun marriage

    • @crystal8537
      @crystal8537 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@lucyxdani2.0 means the marriage happened bc the girl got pregnant....

    • @mo7527
      @mo7527 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I'd get married too if I had a father like this. This is honestly just sad.

    • @tinimusaddiq8330
      @tinimusaddiq8330 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@crystal8537 up

    • @tingle2323
      @tingle2323 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Well if i really care for my family ..i would find a way with my brother and mother even if it is divorces..bur never marry in the name of escape saying i m in pain alone

  • @Jana_7
    @Jana_7 5 ปีที่แล้ว +553

    I am usually not a person that would encourage someone to get a divorce but in this case I think both the wife, son, and daughter would be better off and live a much happier life without the husband/dad. He truly is an awful person.

    • @kdxrgx
      @kdxrgx 5 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Jana Pointer agreed he’s so toxic

    • @Li-js4oz
      @Li-js4oz 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Me too. I dont want to talk about divorce in hello councelor. But for this case, i agreed for the sake of the mother & her children. Let the father knows how important family is.

    • @eleanornicholls8991
      @eleanornicholls8991 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      I'm sure she considered it often but in Korea divorce is highly frowned upon

    • @Jana_7
      @Jana_7 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@eleanornicholls8991 So true!! That's why I don't think it's the right answer most of the time. But this case seriously made me weigh whether it was worth it for her and her children. Most cases don't make me even think it could or should be a thought of a divorce. I agree with you.

    • @mRinhiddenie
      @mRinhiddenie 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yes, just leave him and live happily with her son and daughter

  • @alicedotkay
    @alicedotkay 5 ปีที่แล้ว +243

    That was so brave of Yeongja to share her own life story. She's such a beautiful human being, love her.
    Seems like the father is having a very, very difficult time letting go of all the trauma and personal issues from his past. I hope he can keep his promise to his family...

  • @rexana
    @rexana 5 ปีที่แล้ว +182

    BAE YOON JUNG IS PISSED
    Shout at him like you shout at the Produce trainees!

    • @rosechampagne1364
      @rosechampagne1364 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      ikr

    • @bichpham9917
      @bichpham9917 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Yeah but Koreans are extremely strict when it comes to age or the way younger people speak to elders, so even though she was so mad, she MUST say it politely, and especially she is one of the members of the show so getting mad and being disrespectful to him is not really a good idea 😔😔

    • @faith6833
      @faith6833 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@bichpham9917 age doesn't automatically make you right

    • @bichpham9917
      @bichpham9917 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      faith6833 I didn't say that the age makes you right though :) I said even though older people are wrong, younger people aren't allowed to clap back because it's considered disrespectful and unacceptable in their country :))

  • @priviek6780
    @priviek6780 5 ปีที่แล้ว +206

    This concern made me boil with anger and l kept sighing while watching how the father is replying ...no regret,remorse whatsoever in his speech..though he also had a rough patch in his life,l wish this family the best after this discussion

  • @chantelle129
    @chantelle129 5 ปีที่แล้ว +229

    If this ain’t the tell tale signs of sociopathic tendencies. No emotion, saying the son should die at work for compensation, clinical mannerisms. He needs therapy and God.

    • @bleaxh1924
      @bleaxh1924 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@lalayastill610 You do know that being a Sociopath doesn't mean you're gonna kill someone. That is an ignorant thought.

    • @gladitsnotme
      @gladitsnotme 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      The only person on ALL of planet earth who loves him is sitting right there and he told her to die at work. He's the sad type of depressed person who will drink themselves to death on the street.

    • @soapboy5556
      @soapboy5556 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      It’s weird because he’s in between sociopathy and psychopathy, he has no emotions but he expresses anger a lot. It’s like those are his two modes. I’m sorry but the woman should leave him, and I’m sorry for stereotyping but old Asian men or women are very, very stubborn. Especially in the mainland countries, since older people are always put on this pedestal and treated like they can do no wrong. It pisses me off to no end since my grandma is like that. She controls our family! Yeah she had a rough past growing up but she manipulated our family with tears and anger. She even outcasted one of my cousins (were very tight knit) and refused to talk to him about something he did 8 years ago! Now not many of our uncles and aunts really talk about him, they ignore him basically. He’s an asshole, yeah, but that’s a shitty situation.
      I’m not talking about all old Asian people but a lot have a superiority complex ...

    • @aradhyachoudhury3602
      @aradhyachoudhury3602 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@soapboy5556 agree..lol .I experienced that too .my grandmother is..meh.

    • @dutchessdioji9368
      @dutchessdioji9368 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@bleaxh1924 He's violent and has blackouts. He didn't even remember smacking his son around for nothing. Who's to say that his violent outbursts won't escalate into something more serious during one of his blackouts? I guess you've never witnessed a violent drunk.

  • @allilam9385
    @allilam9385 5 ปีที่แล้ว +102

    OKAY IM GOING TO THROW SOME HANDS!!!! Dude, your wife got into a car accident and she even says she's glad she got hurt so she could get some rest!! And then you have the audacity to say your daughter isn't you direct heir?!?! And not even caring for your daughter when she had depression or when she gave birth?!?! Look at your son! He's afraid of you!! I get it, everyone wants to live nicely and yes they have to work hard for it but it doesn't mean hurting other to get what you want!!! You're twisted

  • @esthercromwell3414
    @esthercromwell3414 5 ปีที่แล้ว +166

    Imagine not going to see your daughter in labour just because the granddaughter is not your direct heir. Smh..... 😤😤 even their son didn't like him. I wouldn't be surprised if when he's old and frail the son would disown his dad. Seems like the daughter have disowned him a long time ago.

    • @nomad82912
      @nomad82912 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      More common than you think. In some cultures the parents only prepare rooms in their house for their sons because the daughters will 'go to another family' when she gets married. They don't expect her to come back to them at all.

  • @cherista
    @cherista 5 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    He don't deserve such a kind family, taking everyone for granted. If I were them, I'll left a long time ago.

  • @user-hc8vi7bv7x
    @user-hc8vi7bv7x 5 ปีที่แล้ว +83

    At the beginning i thought he wasnt so bad he just seemed like a workaholic but it was still wrong to bring his wife into it. Towards the end when he showed he basically cared about nothing and said that if they die at work they get workers compensation i couldnt believe it. How could someone be like this he literally doesnt care about his own family's lives. His poor wife was crying just for one day off. And his son looked like he has been emotionally scarred. Poor family 😭

    • @Sonnenanbeterin1991
      @Sonnenanbeterin1991 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I would have divorced him long time ago its no healthy relationship they have ..

  • @lena9407
    @lena9407 5 ปีที่แล้ว +218

    He is very inconsiderate and only cares about his business. I really hope he keeps his promise and closes the restaurant once a week. They will never be happy if he doesn’t keep promise.

    • @YaoiLover4ver
      @YaoiLover4ver 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      I agree. I wish Hello Counselor would do an update on all the families to show if the concerns really were fixed.

    • @yhctaw
      @yhctaw 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      He seems like somebody who would just do it for show. We can only hope for the best for them.

    • @Tei_022
      @Tei_022 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Lena Alkhatabi I agree 100%

  • @faith6833
    @faith6833 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Im glad one person out of all those people had the nerve to tell him he is a terrible person. That is what this show lacks, someone who will tell it like it is and not giggle their way through all of this crap. Its refreshing.

  • @Etherealseren777
    @Etherealseren777 5 ปีที่แล้ว +112

    She needs to divorce him and get her son out, I couldn’t imagine marrying someone that is that selfish and inconsiderate.

    • @AnekoJupiter
      @AnekoJupiter 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I can't imagine how she has lived 28 years of this horrible marriage ((( He has to go to jail!

    • @personalinfo5310
      @personalinfo5310 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sadly in Korea it’s frowned upon to get in a divorce. And if she leaves it’s going to be even worst having a son to take care of by herself.

  • @imanjabrane2072
    @imanjabrane2072 5 ปีที่แล้ว +72

    maaan I love Yeongja! She made me cry! I want to live my life too!😢 why am I living my life just cooking and cleaning to my family!? I have dreams! I want to live my life! I want freedom

  • @yunkixz
    @yunkixz 5 ปีที่แล้ว +183

    This man should go to jail.
    I mean like he mean bro

    • @user-mt3uf1mc2e
      @user-mt3uf1mc2e 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      its the woman's fault for not leaving

    • @lilkeeslayz4824
      @lilkeeslayz4824 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@user-mt3uf1mc2e its not her fault though. In Korea, it's seriously frowned upon to divorce your spouse or to be a single mother. I think she just endures it for her children. I think if this was any other country like the US or the UK, she would've left in a heartbeat and taken her kids with her.

    • @user-mt3uf1mc2e
      @user-mt3uf1mc2e 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lilkeeslayz4824 oh i didnt know that ty for telling me :)

    • @lilkeeslayz4824
      @lilkeeslayz4824 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@user-mt3uf1mc2e Its no problem :))

    • @nye1915
      @nye1915 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@user-mt3uf1mc2e learn not to victim blame

  • @catintheclouds4047
    @catintheclouds4047 5 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    This man is worst of the worst. Abusive✔ greedy✔ selfish✔ stubborn✔ stingy✔ rude✔ miserly✔ woahhhh I dont know what word can describe him more 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ how can he say those cruel words directly to his family on national tv?!?!?!?!? I'm so mad rn.
    Tbh, I'm not sure he can keep his words to give his wife free time. I wish his son will get a proper job and then take his mom to leave his dad. I wish the son and wife can live freely 😣 This case is one of the worst case I've ever watch.

  • @Hana-dp3wr
    @Hana-dp3wr 5 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Yeongja is just amazing. I think her last words might have had an affect on him. He was not cooperating the whole time but her words might change a bit of his mindset.

  • @Chellz801
    @Chellz801 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I have so much respect for Yeongja, she constantly tries to appeal to people to do better with her own life stories. She’s a really caring person.

  • @iMusicJ0K
    @iMusicJ0K 5 ปีที่แล้ว +106

    THROW THE WHOLE HUSBAND AWAY 😂

    • @crystal8537
      @crystal8537 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yeahh konmari him. Dosent spark joy!!!!!!

    • @masochisticdoll
      @masochisticdoll 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      The whole fucking husband away

  • @booknerdjebbi5037
    @booknerdjebbi5037 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    The way the son was leaning as far away from his father as possible the entire episode really broke my heart. He's terrified.

  • @AnnySoprano
    @AnnySoprano 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I'm single but i really can't imagine myself asking my husband for permission to rest...

  • @lilianadelabra1007
    @lilianadelabra1007 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Yeongja made me all emotional on her last comment about the situation. I got so motional I had to close my laptop and walk away because I was crying. Yeongja is such a great role model. Strong independent woman who is confident when she speaks and who she is. She is a true beauty inside out.

  • @dhto185odiabd6
    @dhto185odiabd6 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    hurt people always hurt others. I respect that he give them 1 day off work. I hope his son can have better future and lead a normal life

  • @jenjenroxmysox
    @jenjenroxmysox 5 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    i understand needing to work hard because life can be really tough but... wth?!?! how can you be a workaholic alcoholic? he says he's frugal but spends on alcohol?!? thats a huge expense to get to his level where he's throwing furniture or continuously slapping his son and not remembering it. no self awareness and massive anger management problem. how will his restaurant survive when he chucks a temper there? no one would want to come back. i really feel for his family. i do hope their situation gets better but i'm not gonna hold my breath. :(

  • @yglove8138
    @yglove8138 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    “He’s just a father who turned his back on me” I cried😭😭😭😭 father is as important as mother’s part in every child life

  • @sudaxm
    @sudaxm 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Awe you could see how uncomfortable the son was when the dad put his arm around his shoulder :(

  • @SaraH-jn5db
    @SaraH-jn5db 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    He physically assaulted her during an argument, hits his son, decides when she's allowed to see her family, forces her to work everyday, he deserves to run the place alone. Leave him and look out for yourself, you and your kids dont deserve that. Thank you yeongja for sharing your story your compassion and courage is why you're my favorite host of this show

  • @user-mk000
    @user-mk000 5 ปีที่แล้ว +64

    I understand father because of his childhood life he doesn't know how to love his own family but only works. But he needs to be more understanding upon his wife, Son and his family. He reminds me of my dad who works a lot though his health is not good no matter how much we ask him to work less he still works even if he is sick ( but family is his first priority ) . My dad grew up in a very poor family cause his dad died when he was very young so he started working and with that money he will buy books and today he has government job so i hope that father will take care of his health and put his family first. And to the Son no matter how father is l hope you respect and love him big. Lastly, God bless your family.

    • @mayaenoi
      @mayaenoi 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Yes, but you should live and learn from your past childhood, not use it to punish your family who loves you. He isn't insensitive, he is heartless! He should love and protect his family, but he is actually abusing them just b/c they love him. That's inhumane really. He doesn't care, only care for himself. How can he say it's her fate and her fault for marrying him? He doesn't think she did out of love and stay out of love? You take care of your love ones, not beating them up b/c you want your ways. That's not what a father/husband should do. His family is not his priority and he doesn't want anyone to be happy.

    • @user-mk000
      @user-mk000 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@mayaenoi I hope and pray that he will changed and keep his family first.

    • @mayaenoi
      @mayaenoi 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@user-mk000 I sure hope so. There's no point to be stubborn and hardheaded when dealing with those you love. Nothing is more important to have those you love and love you around, and live a happy healthy life together. I grew up poor too and without family, but never once I would compromise my children or husband. I know planning for your future is important, but you should live your life also as you go along. Life really is short, no one knows how long we will be here and if we will make it to retirement day. Working 3yrs straight, no days off? He may not make it to his retirement, he can never bring back time. Children grow older, people grow apart. So, to me being happy with my family is more important.

  • @Alice-up4hm
    @Alice-up4hm 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    "i understand that you're used to living like this and even want to, but your wife isn't"
    "i can't do it alone"
    EXCUSE ME WHAT

  • @XiomaraThaGoddessMeow
    @XiomaraThaGoddessMeow 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Sis in the pink top was done with the husband's shit. Never seen a reaction like hers on this show before, I love it. Lol

    • @Krishna-ev4zi
      @Krishna-ev4zi ปีที่แล้ว +1

      She's bae yoonjung. She's one of the biggest choreographer in south Korea. She's known for her aggressive and extremely strict teaching behaviour. That's why you can see youngja is continuously trying to calm her.

  • @goingfearless5928
    @goingfearless5928 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Seeing their son like tht,, really breaks my heart.. It tells whts going on in the family...

  • @dutchessdioji9368
    @dutchessdioji9368 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This is so heartbreaking

  • @loa6223
    @loa6223 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    The son's actions and reactions show that he has low self esteem. This maybe because of his father's belittling , cursing, and other bad attitudes.

  • @ryanyo6718
    @ryanyo6718 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I highly doubt he will actually keep his promise.

  • @iluvbears4861
    @iluvbears4861 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Some people shouldn't be spouses or a parent, period. This man shows no real compassion or love towards his wife or kids.

  • @koinophobia8106
    @koinophobia8106 5 ปีที่แล้ว +164

    They need a break, they need a Kit-kat.

    • @maryyalda548
      @maryyalda548 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      or a snicker bar.

    • @graciigrace4845
      @graciigrace4845 5 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      or a divorce certificate.

    • @CXY96
      @CXY96 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@graciigrace4845 Let's try to push for couples to work out their problems, not just discard a 28-year marriage.

    • @user-vp2ii3sl8d
      @user-vp2ii3sl8d 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@CXY96 you mean push by letting them hurt more and stay in a toxic relationship.(I understand u ,but I once heard that when a relationship is toxic then that isn't a right love anymore,cause love shouldn't be toxic and would just make you feel hurt and cry at night😪)

    • @CXY96
      @CXY96 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Black Pink If this were an abusive relationship between two teenagers, sure, I would totally encourage them to split. But this is a 28 year marriage with two kids and grandchildren too. The man is not unwilling to change. As dogmatic as he is, you can see that at the end, he responds to his wife’s tears. There is hope to revive the softer parts of this marriage.

  • @cayzerchris
    @cayzerchris 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    He is no difference with my father, that's why after i graduate i move out and live on my own

  • @ping0518
    @ping0518 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I can totally relate with the whole business operating 365 days a year.. that was the life before with our family business when dad was running the place... But that soon changed when my brother took over... i can understand the wife so MUCH! Hearing her testimony just made me tear up... Asians think it's a waste of time to rest but honestly we all need it -___- i know i'm workaholic because it has been our lifestyle but i learned to slowly take life in a slow pace... *sigh* i hope everyone needs to understand that unwinding just for a day per week really helps the mind...

  • @vse__997
    @vse__997 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    If my dad is like him , I will run away ☹️

    • @a.ashley5292
      @a.ashley5292 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      yep, he's doing the same thing to his son that was done to him, being mean and hateful. just terrible and selfish.

    • @spongejin4531
      @spongejin4531 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      V SE its not easy to run if you financially weak you can’t run anywhere

  • @someonefartedwhilereadingt9917
    @someonefartedwhilereadingt9917 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    There are marriages that just don't work and are toxic and just need to be split. This is one of them

  • @_cal__z
    @_cal__z 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    SAVE THEM AND SAVE THE SON HE'S TOO YOUNG TO SUFFER THIS

  • @mayakattt3475
    @mayakattt3475 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Nobody on their deathbed has ever said "I wish I had spent more time at the office".

  • @eylul-d.s.2948
    @eylul-d.s.2948 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    that father has mental problem seriously.. i just hate those people who forced their opinion and decision on others...!!!

  • @Krishna-ev4zi
    @Krishna-ev4zi ปีที่แล้ว +1

    As a T-ara's fan I can say hyomin is emotional because she's very close to her father. She's also great cook, her father itself teached her cooking.

  • @emiv592
    @emiv592 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    This concern makes me so angry. And why does the son have a bandaid on his chin? He looks like he is wary of his dad, scared to upset him. If this father is saving for his retirement he better find a way to save up a lot fast, since his children would be right to not want to support him when he is old.

    • @SaraH-jn5db
      @SaraH-jn5db 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      He probably has acne. I saw men do that in Seoul, they'd rather cover it with a bandaid than just leave it

  • @CrazyDuvalina
    @CrazyDuvalina 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I'd love to have yeonja in México I'm a big fan of her and she would enjoy our food too, I alwas cry when she got emotional, we can find her a good husband here too :3

  • @diana5742
    @diana5742 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    his bitterness on his childhood made him workaholic. Create his comfort zone at work but without Love & Passion. I hope his Son will not become bitter man and husband in the future.

  • @daisy9812
    @daisy9812 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i really can relate to her. Being hospitalized is the best break from the mental stress due to overwork..

  • @hisaeyamashiro4948
    @hisaeyamashiro4948 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    There must be some really traumatic events in his life. Serious problems he declined to deal with. Now the consequences are showing off of his personality and behaviour. I wish him and his family the best!

  • @oh.1980
    @oh.1980 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    “He’s just a dad that turned his back on me” he even calls him dad after everything he’s done to him and his family😭

  • @reidesuga
    @reidesuga 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This is the very first concern that made me feel like flying to Skorea to smack some sense into him and tell his wife to divorce this selfish man. I cant believe how the hell she managed to live for 28 years with him when i cant stand looking at him until the end of this clip.

  • @idk27212
    @idk27212 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    "It was her fault for marrying me." DID HE JUST-

  • @uijinhwang7260
    @uijinhwang7260 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It’s like this guy is proud of working

  • @ajbear9534
    @ajbear9534 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    i really salute the mother...hw huge her heart and patience that she has to put up wif all of it for 28 years?!!!!
    the dad juz.......juz..........speechless..
    feeling depressed cuz been keeping up wif all the previous ep. ....all the concerns were depressing...

  • @mongviemong9156
    @mongviemong9156 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    🤣 this old man similar to my mum
    my mum own restaurant, only close at Newyear and Christmas and several occasions so in 1 year we had less than a month day off
    i was helping my mum since junior highschool, i dont get single penny 🤣 my work paid with food and shelter 🤣
    but she help me open new businesses of my own (i pay back every penny without interest)
    life is hard but is ok for me 😁😁😁
    now i work 3 shift (i own two business also still helping my mum) 🙉

  • @torto972k
    @torto972k 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The amount of yams and rocks in this video

  • @StephJ0seph
    @StephJ0seph 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    His son get's paid 2 dollars an hour??
    That means that he works all-day-everyday to make extensively less than minimum wage.

  • @sunmoonrise1
    @sunmoonrise1 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is one of the most serious episodes I've seen

  • @NordousJ
    @NordousJ 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    He lives like he has to survive even if there is no need to He can't stop this mindset. Saving for Retirement? Ok for how long? YOU DON'T KNOW! bruh. "I care about the present" what kind of present are you living sir. Are you happy? No trip in family, no album, no REST, sad family who is scared of you, etc. You are living to work. When you retire and start to rest and reflect about your live, what do you see? yess pitiful yes you were wrong yes you wasted your only life and your family's life. WAKE UP!

    • @samhayet4286
      @samhayet4286 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      They're not even saving money. The wife says they can barely make ends meet. And she and the son are underpaid. They're being literally slave-driven all for nothing on top of that. :/

  • @yeldnezzuproc3336
    @yeldnezzuproc3336 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    i get his point where he have the passion to work because of hardship of life that brought to him. i hope one day she will open up to his grand daughter. grand daughters are special specially to fathers

  • @helenvaldez1270
    @helenvaldez1270 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Does this show ever do updates on any of their "very concern" guests? Like this one?

    • @twilightglow1658
      @twilightglow1658 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      they do that sometimes but a very few of them and those concerns are not as serious as this one.

  • @wonhoscake1214
    @wonhoscake1214 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I feel for the son. I work like that at my parent’s place to but luckily don’t have to pay loan interests

  • @bbibbible
    @bbibbible 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is so sad 😞 I feel bad for his wife and his son.. I hope they become a happy family from now on :).

  • @ifkpopislifethenblackpinki6985
    @ifkpopislifethenblackpinki6985 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Some men really abuse the power they believe they have
    😑

  • @angelafeng3520
    @angelafeng3520 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I’m pretty sure he didn’t do what his wife wanted after this episode aired...

  • @imonly17igotafewdollars62
    @imonly17igotafewdollars62 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Omg its the guy that played dong joo from can you hear my heart ❤️❤️❤️

  • @rajshreerai628
    @rajshreerai628 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I think the reason this man is so tough on everybody and has a defensive character is because he had been treated roughly by everyone in his childhood. If he had been surrounded by kindness he wouldn't be so hard on himself and everyone else now. poor guy.

  • @ashbb7271
    @ashbb7271 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Feel bad for the son.. he'd do better on his own. Work a job with proper pay.. he can afford to rent room/studio.. he can get good rest.. proper off day.. far from abusive and toxic father.. but he probably don't want to leave his mom alone..

  • @jhos43
    @jhos43 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I would've *yeeted* myself out of that marriage 💀

  • @bloomprinceton
    @bloomprinceton 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I feel terrible for the son,the fact that he remembers how badly his father treated him is definitely hard to deal worse live with!

  • @kG-uq7ju
    @kG-uq7ju 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Red flags have been ignored. Looking at how he reacts and responds, there's no way he's gonna change. This may sound harsh but I do hope that the wife found the courage to get out of such a toxic marriage and relationship for her sake and her children's. I was touched by what she said... "People work to have a better life, no one lives to work." We all work, yes. But we do that not only to survive but to actually live.

  • @MyRainn
    @MyRainn 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    It makes me cry. I don’t even know how to counter him or understand him. Too much.

  • @masochisticdoll
    @masochisticdoll 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I don’t think he’ll close the restaurant once a week, he only said that to benefit them. The son is obviously scared of the father & wth is a direct heir

  • @manana7035
    @manana7035 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    she has been nothing but understanding and supportive for 28 years ?!!!he still asks for her to be understanding ?

  • @missmei4692
    @missmei4692 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I hope one day they will be happy

  • @hilaholo6822
    @hilaholo6822 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Ughhh I ever have a job that requires my presence every day and it was a heck!!! I quit after one month
    And what??? He's so abusive, she should run away

  • @lillianaescobedo232
    @lillianaescobedo232 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    What the 'counselors' need to do is stop trying to convince the man to change or 'be understanding' (it keeps pissing me off when they say that, it comes across as something that can be easily fixed) because even at the end, he won't care. The wife needs her own chance to live her life while we have it, the husband is a hypocrite whom justifies the ever-ending work just because he brought up the way he survived. But thats the thing, this isn't surviving in the least. He killed the family's love. The daughter and the son, resent the environment and whatever relationship the father thinks he has with them. I am no more of a expert in body language than the so called counselors on this program, but this didn't solve anything, at the end the son still keeps his distance. Trust and believe I would have posted up with my husband if he ever laid a had on my children or damaged the family in anyway. This can't be saved and I will ever know why they always say, "Can't you guys work it out" or "Are you sure you want to divorce?", when the marriage is TOXIC. I'm hoping the mom, son, and daughter find a far better living environment to be physically/emotionally SAFE and HEALTHY.

  • @MsSHINeeTVXQSuju
    @MsSHINeeTVXQSuju 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    i really hope he keeps his promise :/

  • @sel__sel
    @sel__sel 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    i can relate this, my mom is workaholic, she didnt even take a break in public holiday and force me to work on her shop too after my graduation, but i rebel smoothly because i know she hate being poor because of her past, i just didn't want to hurt her, so i just being lazy at work (thank god my mom isn't abusive). Then she offer to pay me if i work more dilligent, but no, i won't accept it. I'll keep tell her everyday that i want to work on my passion, not being a shop keeper, even if that can makes me richer.
    note: we have 3 employee, but she never trust them, thats why she makes me work for her.

  • @yogiepratamaaa8565
    @yogiepratamaaa8565 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Im sorry to say this!!
    But hes just the type of person that i HATE THE MOST!!!
    How people can be so heartless?
    So cheap, so mindless, taking advantages of his family...

  • @kimborassecondwife
    @kimborassecondwife 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I become so sad when Youngja starts crying :(

  • @haurasyifa8373
    @haurasyifa8373 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    wow this is the highest rate my frustration could get in 2019 so far

  • @renjenhaecjaemchenji7664
    @renjenhaecjaemchenji7664 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    His son is reall6 afraid of him. He tried to hug him but his son keeps going to the side trying to avoid him. I hope the family will have more than this. Fighting!

  • @balqismisya9134
    @balqismisya9134 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    “If die, die at work” LMAO IM SO SUPRISED WHEN HE SAID LIKE THAT

  • @phanarobert
    @phanarobert 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    It would be nice to get an update lol this family

  • @steffyprants5277
    @steffyprants5277 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I don't want to insult the father, so I just hope he changes his ways and let's the mother and the brother live their own lives and that the family comes together more by spending quality time together.

  • @MinestoDKL
    @MinestoDKL 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    younjae saved it with her story

  • @mohammedrashid6137
    @mohammedrashid6137 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This might seem out of topic but, it said 365 days a year that one leap year on February 😌💅

  • @jananiu6430
    @jananiu6430 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    ik this is a really serious show but the sound effects that chani did at 1:27 were cute tbh

  • @AnaNurAlnidal_
    @AnaNurAlnidal_ 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Im from malaysia and im a daughter to parent who have their own shop to. We open our shop for 365 days every year to . But , if i wnt to holiday.i can ask for it Or if i sick i can leave and rest at home. If there is something urgent or we got wedding invitation from our relatives. We close our shop and do to the event. I cant believe how its feel to not have rest and holiday even for a day in one month. Its must feel so stress. I can feel and understand it

  • @rumia2756
    @rumia2756 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I can't believe the son doesn't get paid when he works every single day. He looks like he has really low self-esteem, and I think he should find work somewhere else so he can get away from his father and be financially independent.
    also what's the point of having hyomin there

  • @jana_ap6584
    @jana_ap6584 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I am litetally crying. Honey, take your Kids and run. That man can't be trusted.