I have done the 25:5 gratitude challenge, and I can honestly say that two days into it, and my attitude completely changed. It made me realize how much my husband actually does for me. I was able to stop behaving like a spoiled brat and count my blessings!
I too did the 25:5 . It was a challenge but I persisted. It enabled me to remember more positive aspects about my wife. It made no difference to my wife. She is continuing to pursue a divorce. This approach cannot be guaranteed to effect a change in your spouse, because they are a separate individual and we have no control over another person.
I’m not going through a divorce currently. However, I do see it in my future. No communication, intimacy,respect we are living like we are roommates . I have begged him to go to counseling with me he won’t. We don’t even make eye contact it’s terrible living like this. I’m way passed the hurt stage. Currently he’s giving me the silent treatment, which doesn’t even faze me anymore and that really angers him. I just find something to do. I don’t wish this life on anyone.
My wife has moved in with her mom and says she feels like nothing is going to change she’s gave all she can and has no more tears I told her I accept that she is done but I’m not going to give up on working on our marriage cause she is still my wife and I feel in my heart to keep trying but don’t want to push her further but also be there for her
Hidd3nbeast, keep the communication open, doesn't have to be every day and work on yourself. She could see the effort you are making, you never know. Best of luck. I hope this marriage can be saved.
I'm in the same situation. My wife has decided to completely move out back in November while I was at work. She now lives with her mother 8 hours away. At first there was no communication at all she changed the number block me all of social media. She did call me and has messaged me a few times but it was only to fight about something which I did not give in to the fight and stop communication. We have no children together but I do have two kids from previous relationship and they miss her a lot. I have been doing counseling and working on myself but because of how cold she is towards me she's not seeing any changes at all. The first time we argued since she left was she is going to file for divorce in a few months and is going to get her own place soon. I have been in no contact with her for I want to say almost three weeks now. I am at a loss because I miss my wife and I want her back so badly I know things can be worked out but as long as she remains so distant from me physically and emotionally I don't know what to do right now.
I got my ex husband back with the help of someone who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem❤❤❤❤
inserter400, get clear on what you have control over and then you will know where to focus your energy. Work on being the best you can be and show her. You can't control her mind.
I’m in the same position, I moved out 2 months ago under the impression we are working on things but she wants nothing to do with me. I’m super kind and considerate and she could care less if I’m even alive. She has the house, car, kids and $3500 in cash for food for her and our 3 kids. I pay all other bills too, she does not work or contribute financially but thinks I don’t do enough. How do I get her to talk to me at least as a friend?
@@sonnysamra8733 Sonny Samra, please remember what you can control and what you can't. You are not able to make your ex do anything, so consider adjusting your expectations. Work on improving yourself since that is within your control. If you do text or otherwise contact your ex, try to keep things pithy and without negative emotions or conversation.
Shadow Wolf Channel, so glad we started the channel and you found us. If you want personal coaching, make an appointment at www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall to see how to get going.
I just don't want to live anymore. my dad barely Thai night said his tired and when he is 65 his leaving me and my mom...his abandoning us. We now have a really bad relationship I scare myself my mom cries all the time. My dad wants to win EVERY single argument. He will even put the family at stake to win and it worked...i need help please how can I just. resonate with him...he will never litsen to me or what I have to say.He is the main reasom I have low self-esteem he always called me USELESS.Ik I'm a trash piece of garbage.He was never like this.he was friendly and a good husband and father. I want to fix the relationship but he will never litsen to me or what I write. He gave up all hope on me saying that at my age with what he has been teaching me on work I should be able to unclog a bathroom, a bathtub use ceramic for bathroom...I'm 13 I don't know how to do that much stuff.he says that when he was little like my age he used to help with bricks and cement and that he was the ace at work.we live in a different generation, were adapted differently but he doesn't want to understand.please how can I fix this
Please know that your dad's behavior has more to do with himself than you. Since you can't control his behavior, you can tune him out. You can believe that you are a human being of infinite worth and value who isn't supposed to know how to do everything that an adult can do. You can know that your life is worth living and that your circumstances now will not dictate where you will be in even 5 years. Please talk to a trusted teacher or counselor at school.
Turn to God sincerely and lay out all your trouble. Forgive forgive forgive. Even through your pain still be supporting as you can. My sons father was always absent he's going to be 18 and is very worried at his roll as a young man. Take courage and let Jesus help you ❤
What happens when your spouse does not possess the ability for empathy? (And, I'm since questioning their ability for compassion and love!?!) After years of living hell imposed by my spouse - consisting of addiction along with their attention, loyalties and priorities elsewhere - they finally admitted, once, that they were indeed responsible for their involvement in our demise by telling me that their "behavior was not conducive, healthy and/or supportive in being a good spouse or parent." Talk is cheap while they added more hell to the mix as I was doing everything in my power to better myself, ourselves and our family - and they continued to be neglectful to the point of abandon. Not once did they do anything to change themselves that involved any personal growth; not once did they respect themselves, us, me or our family; not once did they even care to act committed, devoted and/or cherish us / our union / our offspring and work towards anything positive to make amends. The bitter, scorned icing-on-the cake topping off my already pulverized ego from their slander, was to then shack up with some two-bit trash pig who had no business in our marriage or family! And, now - what am I up against? A court system that does not support marriage by having a "no-fault" divorce - and lets the adulterers get off without any responsibility and/or reprimand!
Jenuine, you are right, there will be no reprimand for adultery in our court system. Sorry you are having to go through this. Separate who you are from him and know that you can choose how you want to build your life going forward.
I've been slowly detaching, for sure, but it's never quite final as we share offspring ...who have, unfortunately - as much as I've tried to shield them - have learned to parrot their other parents damaging behaviors. So, it almost feels like I'm still reliving the nightmare daily with a miniature version! Will you ever do a video helping the surviving parent to overcome such destructive patterns that have left a mark on the children and help us break those unhealthy cycles and overcome, what feels like, generational issues? Thank you so much for your reply and advice - I'm truly doing my daRn-dest!
@@marijocvitkovic here message Sonia on WhatsApp She'll help you get her back within two days she once helped me when I was in similar situation sometime ago
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I have done the 25:5 gratitude challenge, and I can honestly say that two days into it, and my attitude completely changed. It made me realize how much my husband actually does for me. I was able to stop behaving like a spoiled brat and count my blessings!
So pleased to hear that you gave the challenge a go. It does work when done correctly.
I too did the 25:5 . It was a challenge but I persisted. It enabled me to remember more positive aspects about my wife. It made no difference to my wife. She is continuing to pursue a divorce. This approach cannot be guaranteed to effect a change in your spouse, because they are a separate individual and we have no control over another person.
I’m not going through a divorce currently. However, I do see it in my future. No communication, intimacy,respect we are living like we are roommates . I have begged him to go to counseling with me he won’t. We don’t even make eye contact it’s terrible living like this. I’m way passed the hurt stage. Currently he’s giving me the silent treatment, which doesn’t even faze me anymore and that really angers him. I just find something to do. I don’t wish this life on anyone.
I’m going to give it a shot. I don’t have anything to lose at this point.
My wife has moved in with her mom and says she feels like nothing is going to change she’s gave all she can and has no more tears I told her I accept that she is done but I’m not going to give up on working on our marriage cause she is still my wife and I feel in my heart to keep trying but don’t want to push her further but also be there for her
Hidd3nbeast, keep the communication open, doesn't have to be every day and work on yourself. She could see the effort you are making, you never know. Best of luck. I hope this marriage can be saved.
I'm in the same situation. My wife has decided to completely move out back in November while I was at work. She now lives with her mother 8 hours away. At first there was no communication at all she changed the number block me all of social media. She did call me and has messaged me a few times but it was only to fight about something which I did not give in to the fight and stop communication. We have no children together but I do have two kids from previous relationship and they miss her a lot. I have been doing counseling and working on myself but because of how cold she is towards me she's not seeing any changes at all. The first time we argued since she left was she is going to file for divorce in a few months and is going to get her own place soon. I have been in no contact with her for I want to say almost three weeks now.
I am at a loss because I miss my wife and I want her back so badly I know things can be worked out but as long as she remains so distant from me physically and emotionally I don't know what to do right now.
Update?
Thank you so much for this video. ❤️ It speaks to me a lot.
You are welcome, M Sch. Honored to be on your team.
Hope my soon to be ex doesn’t see this. He keeps trying to save our marriage and I’m over it. Costing me a few grand but worth it in the end
Teresa White, I wish you the best with your new life.
How to get rid off victim mindset? It is my biggest strugle!
zz22, we have lots of things at liveonpurposecentral.com that will help with that.
I got my ex husband back with the help of someone who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem❤❤❤❤
Text him via WhatsApp❤❤❤
OMG it really works for me he came back to me 🌹🌹I'm so glad it worked out
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is it 25 things per day? or 5 per day till you get to 25?
Bryan Irvine, it is 25 per day. It is a challenge and well worth it. It takes time to change the programed responses and outlook of our brains.
Thank you Dr. Paul!! 🧡
My pleasure!
Hahaha Finnish. I’m third gen born in US born from Finland roots. Maiden last name is very common there like smith here.
I love all things Finnish. Glad you are here at the channel.
HOW CAN I TURN THINGS AROUND WHEN SHE IS BEING MEAN AND WANTS NOTHING TO DO WITH ME??
inserter400, get clear on what you have control over and then you will know where to focus your energy. Work on being the best you can be and show her. You can't control her mind.
I’m in the same position, I moved out 2 months ago under the impression we are working on things but she wants nothing to do with me. I’m super kind and considerate and she could care less if I’m even alive. She has the house, car, kids and $3500 in cash for food for her and our 3 kids. I pay all other bills too, she does not work or contribute financially but thinks I don’t do enough. How do I get her to talk to me at least as a friend?
@@sonnysamra8733 Sonny Samra, please remember what you can control and what you can't. You are not able to make your ex do anything, so consider adjusting your expectations. Work on improving yourself since that is within your control. If you do text or otherwise contact your ex, try to keep things pithy and without negative emotions or conversation.
I wish you were my coach and I wish I could have a email because all your video truly helping me in my time of need
Shadow Wolf Channel, so glad we started the channel and you found us. If you want personal coaching, make an appointment at www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall to see how to get going.
I just don't want to live anymore. my dad barely Thai night said his tired and when he is 65 his leaving me and my mom...his abandoning us. We now have a really bad relationship I scare myself my mom cries all the time. My dad wants to win EVERY single argument. He will even put the family at stake to win and it worked...i need help please how can I just. resonate with him...he will never litsen to me or what I have to say.He is the main reasom I have low self-esteem he always called me USELESS.Ik I'm a trash piece of garbage.He was never like this.he was friendly and a good husband and father. I want to fix the relationship but he will never litsen to me or what I write. He gave up all hope on me saying that at my age with what he has been teaching me on work I should be able to unclog a bathroom, a bathtub use ceramic for bathroom...I'm 13 I don't know how to do that much stuff.he says that when he was little like my age he used to help with bricks and cement and that he was the ace at work.we live in a different generation, were adapted differently but he doesn't want to understand.please how can I fix this
Please know that your dad's behavior has more to do with himself than you. Since you can't control his behavior, you can tune him out. You can believe that you are a human being of infinite worth and value who isn't supposed to know how to do everything that an adult can do. You can know that your life is worth living and that your circumstances now will not dictate where you will be in even 5 years. Please talk to a trusted teacher or counselor at school.
Turn to God sincerely and lay out all your trouble. Forgive forgive forgive. Even through your pain still be supporting as you can. My sons father was always absent he's going to be 18 and is very worried at his roll as a young man. Take courage and let Jesus help you ❤
Would this work if your wife is a narcissist
Perhaps not, I wish you well.
OMG it really works for me he came back to me 🌹🌹I'm so glad it worked out
who needs any help???
Message me on whtsap
If she's a narcessist, just be glad she's gone!
What happens when your spouse does not possess the ability for empathy? (And, I'm since questioning their ability for compassion and love!?!)
After years of living hell imposed by my spouse - consisting of addiction along with their attention, loyalties and priorities elsewhere - they finally admitted, once, that they were indeed responsible for their involvement in our demise by telling me that their "behavior was not conducive, healthy and/or supportive in being a good spouse or parent." Talk is cheap while they added more hell to the mix as I was doing everything in my power to better myself, ourselves and our family - and they continued to be neglectful to the point of abandon. Not once did they do anything to change themselves that involved any personal growth; not once did they respect themselves, us, me or our family; not once did they even care to act committed, devoted and/or cherish us / our union / our offspring and work towards anything positive to make amends. The bitter, scorned icing-on-the cake topping off my already pulverized ego from their slander, was to then shack up with some two-bit trash pig who had no business in our marriage or family! And, now - what am I up against? A court system that does not support marriage by having a "no-fault" divorce - and lets the adulterers get off without any responsibility and/or reprimand!
Jenuine, you are right, there will be no reprimand for adultery in our court system. Sorry you are having to go through this. Separate who you are from him and know that you can choose how you want to build your life going forward.
I've been slowly detaching, for sure, but it's never quite final as we share offspring ...who have, unfortunately - as much as I've tried to shield them - have learned to parrot their other parents damaging behaviors. So, it almost feels like I'm still reliving the nightmare daily with a miniature version!
Will you ever do a video helping the surviving parent to overcome such destructive patterns that have left a mark on the children and help us break those unhealthy cycles and overcome, what feels like, generational issues?
Thank you so much for your reply and advice - I'm truly doing my daRn-dest!
I whant my vife back
@@marijocvitkovic here message Sonia on WhatsApp She'll help you get her back within two days she once helped me when I was in similar situation sometime ago