The one who was hurt should realize that you can never trust that person again. You’re not a warden and you shouldn’t have to look over your shoulder every time a trigger happens. The other person chose to cheat, not you. Go and work on any possible codependent issues you may have. Get your life back and chose a new course.
I agree that it will never come back together again the same. However, with a lot of hard work and some good fortune, some do bring their relationship back together again, and some make it even stronger than it was initially. I know it can be hard to imagine, but this does happen.
I am the betrayed. If i leave, we ruin our kids' lives and have to split assets. Everything becomes harder and the kids loose... if i give her a chance, she may never repeat the mistake and we might be fine...even with this scar...
The choice to give her a chance is a brave one, but one that can - as you point out - give a chance for you as a couple to have a better future. Something to keep in mind is that couples who navigate this well tend to be ones that face the struggles so that they can reconnect in a genuine way, not just sweeping the issues under the proverbial rug. I hope you find a path toward genuine reconciliation.
I can understand why you'd say that. And in many cases, it is not a wise choice to stay together. But some couples are able to use this marital crisis to strengthen their relationship, even though the betrayal is not forgotten.
It will never be the same, things will change.
The one who was hurt should realize that you can never trust that person again. You’re not a warden and you shouldn’t have to look over your shoulder every time a trigger happens. The other person chose to cheat, not you. Go and work on any possible codependent issues you may have. Get your life back and chose a new course.
nice advice but you will never forget what happened and you will always carrying it to your entire life.
Once that crystal vase breaks? It will NEVER come back together correctly again.
I agree that it will never come back together again the same. However, with a lot of hard work and some good fortune, some do bring their relationship back together again, and some make it even stronger than it was initially. I know it can be hard to imagine, but this does happen.
I am the betrayed. If i leave, we ruin our kids' lives and have to split assets. Everything becomes harder and the kids loose... if i give her a chance, she may never repeat the mistake and we might be fine...even with this scar...
The choice to give her a chance is a brave one, but one that can - as you point out - give a chance for you as a couple to have a better future. Something to keep in mind is that couples who navigate this well tend to be ones that face the struggles so that they can reconnect in a genuine way, not just sweeping the issues under the proverbial rug. I hope you find a path toward genuine reconciliation.
Nope.....I call bull...if you believe her I have a deal for you...
you should not save the marriage...stupidity
I can understand why you'd say that. And in many cases, it is not a wise choice to stay together. But some couples are able to use this marital crisis to strengthen their relationship, even though the betrayal is not forgotten.