How should I handle the fact that I am the only one putting effort to heal our problems in marriage? I constantly check in, communicate when I notice something is off, read marriage help books, watch videos (such as this one) on TH-cam, and try my best to apply the tactics in marriage. But just like you said, “you can’t control your spouse’s behavior, you can only control your own”. I have requested that we work as a team. I have asked if he could please put a little more effort into trying, but it’s likes he wants to stay in the same ruts we’ve always been in. He tells me vocally he’ll try, but his actions never follow. It hurts and makes me feel like he doesn’t care enough about me to try. He says a lot with his words, but his actions are always hurtful.
L S, you will have to decide if this is enough for you. What is it you really want and will your husband be able to give it to you? Do you want to be in this marriage if nothing changes? Tough questions but when you decide the answers, your path will be clear.
This short video is packed with exactly what you need to not only save a marriage but thrive in one. Yes it takes two but you can start today by implementing these changes and when your partner sees that change; maybe they will be willing to adopt in their lives as well.
@Tanya here's a few tips for making improvements in your marriage Try to discuss more Help each other out more Start to give and take more (I learned these and why they work on Pavs partner pundit site )
Dr. Paul and Ms. Vicki, y’all are just downright incredible, to say the least. We love y’all to the moon, and we appreciate y’all so damn much! Thank you for this great advice! Much love! 🤟
I'm watching this video, just in case it doesn't happen to me in the future. And my parents were divorced when I was a kid so I don't want to be in the same position. If you know what I mean
Guy- “If people would do more of what it takes to GET married, then more people would STAY married” Millennials- let’s shack up with no faithfulness and get married 10yrs later... gets divorce doing the same thing they were doing while dating. 🤔
Amber Ave, you are spot on, we still need to date our spouses and make time for them in our busy schedules. The wedding is not the end of the story, just the beginning.
I can't thank you enough Dr. Paul & Vickie for these amazing tips! I belief on keep on trying to be a better person(marriage, Mom, sister, etc). Sharing both of ur wisdoms is greatly appreciated by me! Beautiful couple. Can u please keep working together? I humbly love you(work & as a human)!
We love working together, ROSIE112109. Vicki gets pretty busy during the school year but we will make more time for her on the channel when her schedule allows. She is brilliant.
Arzoo Kabul, you don't control how the other person feels and what they put into the marriage. Get clear on what you control and what you don't, then decide what you want to do about the things you do control. www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall.
Why the obsession about "saving a marriage"? If something takes so much effort and so much ego work, causing you to feel like you're trapped and oppressed, why the hell save it?
Khaled Alothman, It is like I always say, it isn't a choice until you see it as a choice. It takes some people a while and they want to know they have done everything they could have before leaving.
How should I handle the fact that I am the only one putting effort to heal our problems in marriage? I constantly check in, communicate when I notice something is off, read marriage help books, watch videos (such as this one) on TH-cam, and try my best to apply the tactics in marriage. But just like you said, “you can’t control your spouse’s behavior, you can only control your own”. I have requested that we work as a team. I have asked if he could please put a little more effort into trying, but it’s likes he wants to stay in the same ruts we’ve always been in. He tells me vocally he’ll try, but his actions never follow. It hurts and makes me feel like he doesn’t care enough about me to try. He says a lot with his words, but his actions are always hurtful.
L S, you will have to decide if this is enough for you. What is it you really want and will your husband be able to give it to you? Do you want to be in this marriage if nothing changes? Tough questions but when you decide the answers, your path will be clear.
This blessed me tonight. I left my house in the middle of the night in anger. I'm going back home and committing to these teachings.
Wonderful! Glad we connected.
Are you still married? Are you still using the tools?
@@tinaf600 Yes we are! 😁
This is a great reminder of what was almost lost. Thank you!
@@alfienykabutler5919 awesome! God bless y'all 🙌
This short video is packed with exactly what you need to not only save a marriage but thrive in one. Yes it takes two but you can start today by implementing these changes and when your partner sees that change; maybe they will be willing to adopt in their lives as well.
UPS Brown, it is worth a try. Thanks!
Love the 2 of you together. This is great! Thank you.
Tanya, thanks for watching.
@Tanya here's a few tips for making improvements in your marriage
Try to discuss more
Help each other out more
Start to give and take more
(I learned these and why they work on Pavs partner pundit site )
This is very helpful; I particularly liked the part where you said "recreate your marriage" thank you very much for sharing this information.
Glad it was helpful!
Dr. Paul and Ms. Vicki, y’all are just downright incredible, to say the least. We love y’all to the moon, and we appreciate y’all so damn much!
Thank you for this great advice! Much love! 🤟
We are honored to be on your team.
I want to see more videos with Vicky and maybe some just from her. She’s so calm and relaxed!
The Work at Home Mama, I will get Vicki on the channel any time her schedule allows. I will ask her about soloing.
These,principles can be used to save a friendship from divorce too….if both parties are willing participants!
I agree.
I love you guys. You are absolutely amazing! Fireside with Mr. and Mrs. Jenkins :)
Thanks, Malwina. I hope Vicki can join me for some more videos soon.
Wow.. amazing tips... Thank you so much, I’m gona send to my husband and see if we can work together on these things 🙏
Wonderful! Sakina Kharrubi, if you are both working on it, then I know you can do this.
I'm watching this video, just in case it doesn't happen to me in the future. And my parents were divorced when I was a kid so I don't want to be in the same position. If you know what I mean
That is awesome! I am glad you are thinking a lot about how to make your marriage successful. It can be done.
"Love is a declaration of intent"
Wendi Watson, I like to think of love as a verb, requiring action.
Guy- “If people would do more of what it takes to GET married, then more people would STAY married”
Millennials- let’s shack up with no faithfulness and get married 10yrs later... gets divorce doing the same thing they were doing while dating. 🤔
Amber Ave, you are spot on, we still need to date our spouses and make time for them in our busy schedules. The wedding is not the end of the story, just the beginning.
Tips Starts 7:10
Thanks.
Great heads up 👍🏽
Listening to the tips without understanding it completely, doesn't help in a long run...so for better understanding listen it EVERYTHING.
I can't thank you enough Dr. Paul & Vickie for these amazing tips! I belief on keep on trying to be a better person(marriage, Mom, sister, etc). Sharing both of ur wisdoms is greatly appreciated by me! Beautiful couple. Can u please keep working together? I humbly love you(work & as a human)!
We love working together, ROSIE112109. Vicki gets pretty busy during the school year but we will make more time for her on the channel when her schedule allows. She is brilliant.
Such a great video! Good job! Thank you ❤️
You are so welcome!
Thank you so much for your help
Happy to help
Doesn't work from one side marriage. Other doesn't care how spouse feels. What can do. When have children involved in marriage.
Arzoo Kabul, you don't control how the other person feels and what they put into the marriage. Get clear on what you control and what you don't, then decide what you want to do about the things you do control. www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall.
Why the obsession about "saving a marriage"? If something takes so much effort and so much ego work, causing you to feel like you're trapped and oppressed, why the hell save it?
Khaled Alothman, It is like I always say, it isn't a choice until you see it as a choice. It takes some people a while and they want to know they have done everything they could have before leaving.
Thank you
You're welcome
I love ya"lls teamwork together.
Wendi Watson, wish I could get more of her time to have her on all the videos.
Great suggestions
Thank you, Juhi.
Cool.
Thanks, Unicorn Gamer, this was fun to put together.
Just WoW
Thanks!
Good stuff
Thanks, Cathy Knaffle. Honored to be on your team.
Marriage is hard work, it is not for the lazy. Dun try if you are not prepared to dive.
arthur lee, it can also bring the most fulfillment and strength during difficult times.
HOW CAN I GET MY WIFE, SHE WANTS NOTHING TO DO WITH ME.
inserter400, get some counseling, for you if she won't go at first and then maybe once she sees some changes, she will want to come along.