Coach Lee I’ve bought that emergency kit, but I think I need a little more guidance on my situation. I’m separated/ officially starting the divorce process. She asked me to meet her to pay for half of the filing fee. We met today, all this time I’ve been trying to do no contact, never reaching out to her. When we met I didn’t beg her, I didn’t talk about the relationship I just smiled through the interaction and kept it short. Said “ I like the necklace” and handed her my half. I don’t know what else to do
You videos are helping me to stay out of depression. Everything was going well he all of sudden asked me for divorce. I made many mistakes after that I was not able to think wisely. Now going through no contact period. He is living seperately from me. All are suggesting me to leave him get over from him but I don't want to I am manifesting, praying to get him back asap. And keeping myself alive watching coach Lee video. You are life saver. Thank you so much
I pray for u. I am going through the same thing. My estranged husband i think is addicted to liverence. Coz he did this to me before. & he dont realize it. I want to shout it to him. I wont take him back wholeheartedly tho, he will hav to earn it back. I am soooo much stronger now due to coach lee & counceling. Reach out if u want to.
How did the no contact work? I am going through the same situation right now. Just started the no contact today after begging and pleading on the phone last night😬
I'm in the process of a (messy and bizarre) divorce and watched a LOT of your video's. You really know what you are talking about, there are so many things that you say that I recognise and are totally plausible. One of those is that people can become monsters during divorce. I can hardly recognise my wife anymore because of it. She has transformed from a sweet woman into a hag, has strategically prepared the divorce behind my back and even disappeared on my birthday under false pretenses. To this day she is ghosting me, and not having closure or some insight is maddening. Often I wonder how many people are watching at the same time, thinking the same thoughts, hoping to regain that lost love, or the love that is about to slip away.
Get a lawyer my friend. Expect her to be ruthless. Her lawyer will convince her to do so and that she is somehow a victim. Talk to a lawyer immediately so you don’t do some little thing that screws you over.
@@RealCoachLee Thanks for the reply and advice. At first I was reluctant to get a lawyer because I didn't want to fight her, didn't want any more conflict or opposition, but since she has her lawyer she has become more sneaky and devious. I'm glad I have one myself.
Going through a divorce myself right now and this is solid sound advice. Get a lawyer. Keep your mouth shut. Seriously shut it. Be nice. Be vague. Be fun. Like you used to be. Thanks for a great video. Coach Lee knows his stuff and I just started watching tonight.
I,m very confused coach Lee, please help me, l wants t have a consultation with you but not lack. I only have the weeks for my divorce to be final. I traid to hold the divorce but my ex wants the divorce, l feels that l don't have a chance, l'm feels listed. I do not wants divorce but he instested. What can l do, pretty soon he will be free and l'm very scare,. My husband let the house four months a go. I do not see any light. Please help.
Please, help me, l don't know what to do. I really needs a consultation with you coach Lee. As l said l only have three weeks and the divorce will be final, what can l do. I have a lower but have not help my situation , my ex did not have a lawey, he gat documents for the count and file divorce, I was served at my home by the police. I gat a lawyer but he only was able hold the divorce for a month and had. Now l I ly have three weeks and will be final. Please help me
Finally a common sense practical video which doesn't call the other side a narcissist , set forth a number of steps which will guarantee to bring your spouse back, talks about creating vibrations, or other simplistic answers. And speaks about the need to protect yourself with a lawyer even though you don't want the divorce.
Your videos have been keeping me sane. My husband moved out, we have been separated for almost two months. We have been married for 15 years, 3 kids, started with nothing but build a very successful life. Every time I bring up “divorce” he ignores the conversation, even though he’s the one that initiated everything and said he doesn’t want to be in this marriage anymore
Somewhere I read about the power of 'okay'. If you just say okay to almost everything your ex says, they can't disagree with you and this disarms them.
That would be great. 10 years married, together 24 & 4 children... I am really devastated & heartbroken. I'm trying to keep cool, but I can lie, the fear & panic of losing the love of my life & everything we've built together is extremely overwhelming. I found Coach Lee's videos a few days back, & I have felt the most calm these past few days than I have the last 2 weeks. I am listening with complete open ears & mind. Thanks, Coach Lee for doing what you do. Seriously
@@loganromero5089 truthfully, pretty crappy. Trying to keep myself together for our kids, & for the fact that I have no choice in anything but my actions. How about you, brother? How are you doing?
I really needed this video. Me and my partner aren’t legally married but we’ve been living as though we are for a long time so this has been eye opening for me. I’m the one who panics and freaks out. We’re taking a break and I’m doing 0 contact and face timing the baby through his mother.
my trick on this is definitely have still time and enjoy your experience in bed with your partner . my man wanted to start divorce process but i came home with spanish fly which helped us a lot in bed and he totally changed his mind
yeah great video. i have never heard of these drops, it sounds kinda like a miracle. actually i'm really considering buying it for my man since he's so bad in bed!
I was really deep in tears 3 weeks ago for 3 weeks prior to that cause my husband says we are gonna get a divorce, but listening to your videos helped calm me and gave me some type of direction...I wish before the "big arguement" I had a had seen your videos, I would have had more of a understanding of what to do at that time...I would still like your personal insight on what I should do in my situation but I hope you do make more marriage help videos...it helps.
Great advice, from personal advice to men, don't move out until you get a separation agreement worked out. Don't lose your cool and watch what you text and say to your wife as it can be used against you as coach Lee says. It might be difficult but once you move out you lose all negotiating room. My ex was having an affair and once I felt strength and started thinking logically to deal with the situation my ex actually reached out to me. I rebutted her advances because I didn't want to be with her anymore, she had destroyed the trust and there was nothing left in it for me. I know it is difficult and you feel like your world is coming to an end, there is life after divorce. By the way she is still with the guy 6 years later, so it was no simple fling.
Deon, She is gone bruh. Don't wait around while she is getting streach by some other dude. He won't ever be the same. Trust me! She will look at you like a door mat. IF, you take her back...it won't last. I've been there and done it. A few years later, she cheated again. Same song and dance. Good luck you simp!!
Yup, she shocked me when she left five months ago. I panicked and went crazy and scared her worse. Her parents don’t like me because I am not a millionaire. I signed the papers today.
Been separated for about a month now. Wife said she wants a divorce. I told her i didn't want a divorce. I noticed that she has removed her wedding ring. Painful. I also noticed when I went by the house, while she was gone, that the pictures of us are all gone now. Sticking with limited contact. I have not been served papers as of now. Trying to figure it out and keep doing what I can for myself. Videos are encouraging but the roller coaster is difficult.
I'm in the same situation with my husband. He removed his wedding ring and told me he wanted a divorce a get weeks back. He works abroad which makes it so much harder. He will be coming back in a few weeks to collect his things. Not sure if I should remove all our photos in the house or not 😓 Awful situation for anyone yo be in, I hope everyone is able to work things out with their spouse's 🙏
More videos like this please!!!!! It’s been a little over a month and she hasn’t even filed paper work yet and I’m so confused as to what’s going on. The break up was ugly and I broke no contact a few times the first month but I told her “I love you and respect you and I’m letting you go like you’ve asked for” and it’s been a week no contact about the relationship. Only about our son or money
With a shattered soul and destroyed heart, the signed the decree yesterday. This is not something I wanted. I did all I could to not make it happen. Whilst it still happened, maybe one day she will see what was once something special.
I feel sad she wants the divorce I don't. 7 months of being separated. Thing about her all the time. I have seen many of your videos Lee but am not getting the results I want. Thanks for all that you do for us...
Hello Coach, my wife (married for 20yrs) left me and my 2 boys on Christmas Eve (2019). She’s been asking her friends what she should do (not her own family) and wanting to socialize everyday. My boys know what’s up, that’s why they stayed with me on their own accord. I know where my priority is. Anyways, I started your NC advice right after her 51st birthday (just 1 week ago) for strategic reasons and have NOT text/call/left her vm since. She text me a few days ago but didn’t respond back and she was complaining why I did respond. She’s been texting me like a freezer cold prior to implement NC. So she came by yesterday unannounced to visit our boys. I welcomed her politely, hugged her, I dressed up, looked good, smelt good and left (mystery as you said). I came back home, then she left without saying goodbye. Now, she just text me (just now) to “tell the boys that she love them and good night...” what the heck man???? I’m not reading into this, for I’m enjoying my NC experience. any thoughts?
Hey Coach Lee. I made several mistakes on trying to prevent divorce. I did the begging and pleading and then finally, I told her I was letting her go and I wont chase her. Is it a lost cause? What can I do? Thanks
Now it’s key to keep your word. I’d need to know a lot more of the details though. Do you have my Emergency Marriage Kit? You can get it at myexbackcoach.com
My husband left me on august 9. He started the paperwork for divorce. I was served on august 31. I just recently started no contact. He’s mean and rude and demanding. I went too far with talking, begging, etc etc. Is there any hope ?
My husband filed for divorce, he is not changing his mind. There is no one else, he doesn’t love me or want to be with me. Listening to Coach Lee helps, even it’s too late & no hope to save our marriage.
I did the panic thing for 6 months! Until i just couldn't anymore. He has moved out and now that I'm not constantly trying he's texting me everyday. How are you? Do you need anything? Even though i found out he has a rebound... he's texting more now. We have 2 kids. But I truly hope this side chick doesn't last long and he realizes what he's lost. He's told me that maybe the distance will be good for us... but now I'm not so sure.
The one thing that complicates my situation is I still live in the same house and have my son as well so the no contact rule is kinda hard but doable at a personal level. My wife wants a divorce she says our relationship is over. I’m kinda glad because she was married to my inner child who had abandonment issues.for the last 4 yrs (other day it was 1.5 yrs) I’ve tried re talking again to her about it bad move. She’s firm in her decision she says. She is waiting 3 months out of respect since we have a family vacation. To her a massive permanent change and her changing her mind is what’ll it’ll take for her to come back. I start counseling tomorrow. I’m gonna work on me for me. If it gets to the point of the d work at the end at least I’ll be a better person
Coach Lee, I am new to your videos after a friend recommended them for a complete different break up that ended 5 days ago. Watching your videos has me emotional and missing my spouse 😥 she got stationed overseas and hit me with the "I want a divorce." This was 2019 Is it too late to get her back? We're still technically married, and I don't think I'm really ready to let her go. I did everything wrong, the begging the crying, we typically have NC unless we need something. Is it too late? Is it worth it? I'm very confused, never thought I'd miss her enough to even consider wanting her back. Especially not after she's had other people. Anyone have similar experience with wanting a spouse back years later? Any advice?
Dear coach, can you please make a video of how you can save the relationship when someone is thinking to dump you because of many fightings and hard time.
So true The restraining order happened to me as a woman I had no idea about it my ex-husband was an attorney at law and he destroyed me on my divorce my life was like a scary movie still is I am still not recover from it he stole everything from me My lawyer was even his friend I could not find anybody that was not connected to him because my ex was an attorney he knew all the judges and all the attorneys and they don’t go against each other so basically I am a very strong woman still standing
While I am reading this (3 days of no contact rule with my husband who wants a divorce . He came two times in the house.. one time when I am not here at day and second was 11pm when I am here already and while I am watching your videos the door ring and open and it’s him.. take long time he appeared on my front and asks “did you eat dinner? “Not yet I replied. You? He said yes. One thing I don’t sure here . If he starts to tell a story what he does for 4 days and who’s with him tell every detail about it and our story takes 3 hours, should I act casual or should I act nuetral,compassionate,? Oh dear, he cry 😢 at the start of him after I said to him this (this is your advice,coach lee you are really sent from heaven.. ) Because I remember what you advice when the time and almost x came by what usually they said is (hi? And they usually just getting hint because they also scared of rejection or their pride to open up first if they want to come back. So that time he opens up the topic by saying did you said to your mom? I find things to said again coach lee in what words I need to reply this time.. I said, no.. Why.. Sounded he’s going to deep deeper but he tries I sounded cool.. (one thing here” I learned something
What do I do if they just served me with the papers? I’m hurt and trying my hardest to find hope but I don’t see any light at the end of the tunnel anymore
Me and my partner of 7 years broke up in december. We live together with our son. Two dogs and our own house. We sleep in different rooms. We are still best friends and she shows jealously sometimes but shuts down any conversation about working on us and is adamant we will only be friend's... we are going to live together until april and i cant see anything changing. Ive done most of coach lees techniques and its just Bought us closer as mates.. not in a relationship sense.
My wife changed her address in another state most likely, pretty sure she emotionally bonded with another person before weening herself off of me. Been three months or so since she left. Like I miss her and want her, but also kinda fed up with the idea of allowing this kind of behavior which is really unattractive. Stuck between a rock and a hard place. Any video suggestions?
So my situation is I’m active duty military and wife has decided to divorce me in the middle of a move cycle that’s up against a time line. So for three weeks I did all the things you said not too. But now prior to this video I’m in no contact. I don’t call I don’t text. I’ll answer phone calls when needed. She is not a fan of it. But it is what it is. We’ve already filed the divorce and so far so good. But we will see what happens.
If I have separated from my husband a year and a half ago (me on Mexico, him on Wisconsin) and all that time I've been begging and pleading to the point he blocked me on my different accounts of messenger, did I ruin my chances of getting back to him? And if so how can I completely forget about him? I feel is more obsession than real love and I'm tired of it
My wife and I are separated. One minute she want space and I give it to her. Next she is calling me asking if I am busy. We have a disability daughter, and she says " hey can you come over and watch her while I go take care of some business. I be like sure, be there in a minute. When I get there she starts talking about the relationship. Then she wants to have sex. We have sex numerous of times. Finally when I go to work in the oil field she start acting funny, but when it is getting close for me to come home her attitude changes back to missing me again. Please tell me what's going on?
That is exactly my situation at this moment .my wife says she want a divorce when I caught her with a man .but now I learn from you on how to deal with this situation .
Any update? I'm in this situation, I caught her attempting to start a long affair and she planned on leaving me soon after. She instead left earlier and suddenly.
I have eight kids and the youngest is 3. I got fixed 2 years ago and she was pissed. She doesn't want me touching her anymore. She doesn't want me in the same bed with her. She has 4 of the kids sleep in the bed with her. She says it's to help me sleep. I work three shifts. A divorce would separate my kids and since she hasn't had a job in 12 years it would cost me most of my income. At that point the kids loose.
My wife and i seperated a month ago. The first week I kinda blew her up. The next week shed only respond to my friend about getting my phone on my own line. This past week shell text me asking if she has mail, and asking questions on my work and plans in how long I plan on working there. She said she wanted divorce to me but tells my friend she wants to get the papers and hold on for them for a year. We both have trust issues. What should I do? I'd like to call
Its funny when relationship coaches say don't panic. I don't know many people that watch these videos ahead of time to know don't panic.😳 That's funny to me. There needs to be a video on I'm sure you panicked, here are some things that can be done that could fix it. 😅 The only contact that I have done is when it comes to the divorce. I'm fighting the divorce, but he filed in Hawaii. Hawaii will grant it no matter what. He basically has to have the change of heart. The problem is that we've had too much space. We're military, so he's always gone. My lawyer SUCKS. I can only afford a lawyer through Legal Shield and he SUCKS. He said that since I'm against the divorce, he doesn't see me as priority. I don't even know what to do about that. The year is rapidly approaching. Everyday I have to breath it out.
I said fuck it, divorce me, I’m divorced happy and 2 year later she came crying wanting me back after putting some dude on a rebound. I said nope. Love being single-many chick in bed, with a fat wallet! Women these days aren’t worth it any more.
Please let us know where in life you are now as I am going through with same situation but there is no women yet but he have options and im in no contact
COACH LEE ,YOUR RIGHT THIS IS THE WORST THING YOU CAN GO THROUGH. MY WIFE IS IN MIDLIFE CRISIS ,SHE IS DISCONNECTED AND SAID SHE IS DONE. WE ARE LIVING IN THE SAME FLAT ANY ADVICE ?
@@po5541 its sooooo difficult bro. Imagine having the one you truly love right there but cant do anything to make things right. My heart hurts whenever i see her or speak to her. She continuosly reminds me that she will be leaving and things just cant be worked out....she definitely does not want to try or to even consider the idea of us being together. Nine and a half years and this is what we have come to.
These videos help sooth my anxiety, but what do i do when my spouse of 19 years initiated a seperation, but is constantly reaching out seemingly like he doesn't want me, but also doesn't want to LOSE ALL of me, like he wants to be friends even though I told him I can't do friends. I know leaving me was very hard for him and he seems unsure of his decision which I understand. I realize my part in our relationship failure and want to work on my issues. He's giving me so many mixed signals. One day he's saying stuff that gives me every hope that we'll get back together and the next he says something that makes me feel like day 1 when we broke up. I can't take the constant mixed signals; they are making me crazy. I want to go no contact to give myself a chance to be ok, but I'm afraid of hurting him and pushing him away more. What do I do?
I've just been told that me wife a texted a mutual friend saying I'm being "worryingly calm" is this good or bad? I've made all the mistakes in the book previously but for the last 3 week I've been using strategic NC with young children involved.
How are you supposed to do "No Contact" when you're separated and the kids spend half the time at your place and half the time at her place? What if she's still with her married affair partner, whom she works with, and she claims they're in love?
My husband already leave more than 2 months we had email each other after one month, we just keep saying the same thing over and over, he said the divorce is in the mail and i will get it soon, i am tired and upset
Just after 3 months my husband left me, a few weeks ago he said he wants a divorce, 3 days ago he came round and it was nice although we spoke about divorce. We ended up in bed. Next day he call to say he's going ahead with it. he's alot younger than me and he says he needs new things. Please help
My wife has she had a lot of signs of being a narcissist whether she's full-on aware of it or not I'm not sure but should I try to save this marriage she's already left and moved out
This is helping me so much.... BUT what happens if this is happening with a third party?Basically my GF cheated with a Married woman who’s gay. Now she phases me out , but still lives in our flat”apartment” And says she loves me still but doesn’t know what’s happening and can’t think?
Hey Lee i need your advice.. I am trying to do no contact but i have to meet my ex in 2 weeks so i can get my stuff back. How should i react to her when i meet her.. And your videos really help a lot, your make things less painfull. For that I thank you so much!
Frederik, there are a lot of details to this and a lot of information I’ll need to answer (there are several answers in fact to parts of your situation). Book a coaching call with me at myexbackcoach.com/book-strategic-call-coach-lee/
I have an interesting quistion I'm currently going through this hardship. We have been married 5 years gave 2 kids. Etc. She walked out said we are separated. I gave her some time/ space. But she wanted to move back home after a while I was happy to allow this as I didnt want the separation. However she stated we are still separated even she wants to sleep in the same bed cuddlebecome intimate. I am so confused by this any advice?
Best video on this topic. I can't thank you enough.
Thank you Coach Lee! I followed your no contact rule and yesterday she called me. I was skeptical but now I’m a believer in your strategy.
Please, please, please make more separation and divorce videos..I'm going through it and this video really helped my anxiety. Ty xo
I will be. I’m going to be doing a lot more marriage coaching.
Oh GOD SAME HERE!!!!
Same here, watching Lee's video's is therapy in itself, it really helps. At least to calm the nerves....
Coach Lee I’ve bought that emergency kit, but I think I need a little more guidance on my situation. I’m separated/ officially starting the divorce process. She asked me to meet her to pay for half of the filing fee. We met today, all this time I’ve been trying to do no contact, never reaching out to her. When we met I didn’t beg her, I didn’t talk about the relationship I just smiled through the interaction and kept it short. Said “ I like the necklace” and handed her my half. I don’t know what else to do
Demetris Ross should of not paid half.
Amazing content. My best friend’s wife is asking for divorce. He’s devastated…I’m sending him this vid.
You videos are helping me to stay out of depression. Everything was going well he all of sudden asked me for divorce. I made many mistakes after that I was not able to think wisely. Now going through no contact period. He is living seperately from me. All are suggesting me to leave him get over from him but I don't want to I am manifesting, praying to get him back asap. And keeping myself alive watching coach Lee video. You are life saver. Thank you so much
I pray for u. I am going through the same thing. My estranged husband i think is addicted to liverence. Coz he did this to me before. & he dont realize it. I want to shout it to him. I wont take him back wholeheartedly tho, he will hav to earn it back. I am soooo much stronger now due to coach lee & counceling. Reach out if u want to.
How did the no contact work? I am going through the same situation right now. Just started the no contact today after begging and pleading on the phone last night😬
I'm in the process of a (messy and bizarre) divorce and watched a LOT of your video's. You really know what you are talking about, there are so many things that you say that I recognise and are totally plausible. One of those is that people can become monsters during divorce. I can hardly recognise my wife anymore because of it. She has transformed from a sweet woman into a hag, has strategically prepared the divorce behind my back and even disappeared on my birthday under false pretenses. To this day she is ghosting me, and not having closure or some insight is maddening. Often I wonder how many people are watching at the same time, thinking the same thoughts, hoping to regain that lost love, or the love that is about to slip away.
Get a lawyer my friend. Expect her to be ruthless. Her lawyer will convince her to do so and that she is somehow a victim. Talk to a lawyer immediately so you don’t do some little thing that screws you over.
@@RealCoachLee Thanks for the reply and advice. At first I was reluctant to get a lawyer because I didn't want to fight her, didn't want any more conflict or opposition, but since she has her lawyer she has become more sneaky and devious. I'm glad I have one myself.
Did you guys divorce?
I'm in a very similar situation. It's very tough. I'm having a hard time with it. Coach Lee's videos do help a lot.
He said it was a strange divorce because HE ended up getting pregnant!! The first man to ever gotten pregnant by a woman!!
Going through a divorce myself right now and this is solid sound advice. Get a lawyer. Keep your mouth shut. Seriously shut it. Be nice. Be vague. Be fun. Like you used to be. Thanks for a great video. Coach Lee knows his stuff and I just started watching tonight.
I,m very confused coach Lee, please help me, l wants t have a consultation with you but not lack. I only have the weeks for my divorce to be final. I traid to hold the divorce but my ex wants the divorce, l feels that l don't have a chance, l'm feels listed. I do not wants divorce but he instested. What can l do, pretty soon he will be free and l'm very scare,. My husband let the house four months a go. I do not see any light. Please help.
Please, help me, l don't know what to do. I really needs a consultation with you coach Lee. As l said l only have three weeks and the divorce will be final, what can l do. I have a lower but have not help my situation , my ex did not have a lawey, he gat documents for the count and file divorce, I was served at my home by the police. I gat a lawyer but he only was able hold the divorce for a month and had. Now l I ly have three weeks and will be final. Please help me
I,m desper, don't know what else to do.
Finally a common sense practical video which doesn't call the other side a narcissist , set forth a number of steps which will guarantee to bring your spouse back, talks about creating vibrations, or other simplistic answers. And speaks about the need to protect yourself with a lawyer even though you don't want the divorce.
Idk if it guarantees that they will come back, hopefully it does though. Great video either way
hi EVERYONE,GREETINGS FROM THE INTERNATIONAL CITY OF HONG KONG.
i can see THIS man on THE video is PURE HEART AND LOVE people.
Your videos have been keeping me sane. My husband moved out, we have been separated for almost two months. We have been married for 15 years, 3 kids, started with nothing but build a very successful life. Every time I bring up “divorce” he ignores the conversation, even though he’s the one that initiated everything and said he doesn’t want to be in this marriage anymore
You can fix it!! You can change things !!
Prayers for your family to be restored 🙏🏽
Somewhere I read about the power of 'okay'. If you just say okay to almost everything your ex says, they can't disagree with you and this disarms them.
Okay
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Coach lee is the best guys, he does not sugar coat anything but gives the right advice.
This is spot on. Pls do more vids on stopping divorce for long term marriage (28 years)
18 yrs for me...19yrs together.
That would be great. 10 years married, together 24 & 4 children... I am really devastated & heartbroken. I'm trying to keep cool, but I can lie, the fear & panic of losing the love of my life & everything we've built together is extremely overwhelming.
I found Coach Lee's videos a few days back, & I have felt the most calm these past few days than I have the last 2 weeks. I am listening with complete open ears & mind. Thanks, Coach Lee for doing what you do. Seriously
@@honoringhonourable8043 no thx
@@jessicab5760 how are you doing?
@@loganromero5089 truthfully, pretty crappy. Trying to keep myself together for our kids, & for the fact that I have no choice in anything but my actions. How about you, brother? How are you doing?
This is really helping, my wife served me with a PFA for a fight we had 2 months ago and she has a case of limmerence
Have you seen my video, “How to save a marriage” at m.th-cam.com/video/oJkn4ir-130/w-d-xo.html
I really appreciate it ;)
While typing this my parents are screaming, fighting and I just can’t take it
Thank you so much!! I mean it.
I really needed this video. Me and my partner aren’t legally married but we’ve been living as though we are for a long time so this has been eye opening for me. I’m the one who panics and freaks out. We’re taking a break and I’m doing 0 contact and face timing the baby through his mother.
You are GOOD man! May God reward your goodness
Just what I needed today was confused on no contact in a marriage
my trick on this is definitely have still time and enjoy your experience in bed with your partner . my man wanted to start divorce process but i came home with spanish fly which helped us a lot in bed and he totally changed his mind
yeah great video. i have never heard of these drops, it sounds kinda like a miracle. actually i'm really considering buying it for my man since he's so bad in bed!
I was really deep in tears 3 weeks ago for 3 weeks prior to that cause my husband says we are gonna get a divorce, but listening to your videos helped calm me and gave me some type of direction...I wish before the "big arguement" I had a had seen your videos, I would have had more of a understanding of what to do at that time...I would still like your personal insight on what I should do in my situation but I hope you do make more marriage help videos...it helps.
Great advice, from personal advice to men, don't move out until you get a separation agreement worked out. Don't lose your cool and watch what you text and say to your wife as it can be used against you as coach Lee says. It might be difficult but once you move out you lose all negotiating room. My ex was having an affair and once I felt strength and started thinking logically to deal with the situation my ex actually reached out to me. I rebutted her advances because I didn't want to be with her anymore, she had destroyed the trust and there was nothing left in it for me. I know it is difficult and you feel like your world is coming to an end, there is life after divorce. By the way she is still with the guy 6 years later, so it was no simple fling.
I just came across your video and it really help me calm down and to get focus on trying to save my marriage.
Deon, She is gone bruh. Don't wait around while she is getting streach by some other dude. He won't ever be the same. Trust me! She will look at you like a door mat. IF, you take her back...it won't last. I've been there and done it. A few years later, she cheated again. Same song and dance. Good luck you simp!!
Yup, she shocked me when she left five months ago. I panicked and went crazy and scared her worse. Her parents don’t like me because I am not a millionaire. I signed the papers today.
Good riddance Justin!
Been separated for about a month now. Wife said she wants a divorce. I told her i didn't want a divorce. I noticed that she has removed her wedding ring. Painful. I also noticed when I went by the house, while she was gone, that the pictures of us are all gone now. Sticking with limited contact. I have not been served papers as of now. Trying to figure it out and keep doing what I can for myself. Videos are encouraging but the roller coaster is difficult.
I'm in the same situation with my husband. He removed his wedding ring and told me he wanted a divorce a get weeks back. He works abroad which makes it so much harder. He will be coming back in a few weeks to collect his things. Not sure if I should remove all our photos in the house or not 😓
Awful situation for anyone yo be in, I hope everyone is able to work things out with their spouse's 🙏
@wayneriley1556 Focus on becoming the best version of you. Be the better choice !! Tell yourself you can turn the tides!!!
I have a coaching call with you next Thursday, looking forward to it, can definitely use some encouragement.
More videos like this please!!!!! It’s been a little over a month and she hasn’t even filed paper work yet and I’m so confused as to what’s going on. The break up was ugly and I broke no contact a few times the first month but I told her “I love you and respect you and I’m letting you go like you’ve asked for” and it’s been a week no contact about the relationship. Only about our son or money
With a shattered soul and destroyed heart, the signed the decree yesterday. This is not something I wanted. I did all I could to not make it happen.
Whilst it still happened, maybe one day she will see what was once something special.
Thank you coach Lee. This is just what I need to hear.🙏
One of the best videos on this topic. Thanks for your advice
your videos are a GODSEND thank you so much
I feel sad she wants the divorce I don't. 7 months of being separated. Thing about her all the time. I have seen many of your videos Lee but am not getting the results I want. Thanks for all that you do for us...
Hello Coach, my wife (married for 20yrs) left me and my 2 boys on Christmas Eve (2019). She’s been asking her friends what she should do (not her own family) and wanting to socialize everyday. My boys know what’s up, that’s why they stayed with me on their own accord. I know where my priority is.
Anyways, I started your NC advice right after her 51st birthday (just 1 week ago) for strategic reasons and have NOT text/call/left her vm since. She text me a few days ago but didn’t respond back and she was complaining why I did respond. She’s been texting me like a freezer cold prior to implement NC. So she came by yesterday unannounced to visit our boys. I welcomed her politely, hugged her, I dressed up, looked good, smelt good and left (mystery as you said). I came back home, then she left without saying goodbye.
Now, she just text me (just now) to “tell the boys that she love them and good night...”
what the heck man???? I’m not reading into this, for I’m enjoying my NC experience.
any thoughts?
Happy for you, are you guys back together now?
Did yall end up back together?
Hey Coach Lee. I made several mistakes on trying to prevent divorce. I did the begging and pleading and then finally, I told her I was letting her go and I wont chase her. Is it a lost cause? What can I do? Thanks
Now it’s key to keep your word. I’d need to know a lot more of the details though. Do you have my Emergency Marriage Kit? You can get it at myexbackcoach.com
My husband left me on august 9. He started the paperwork for divorce. I was served on august 31. I just recently started no contact. He’s mean and rude and demanding. I went too far with talking, begging, etc etc. Is there any hope ?
My husband filed for divorce, he is not changing his mind. There is no one else, he doesn’t love me or want to be with me. Listening to Coach Lee helps, even it’s too late & no hope to save our marriage.
15 to 20 friends is ambitious coach lee. 😂 I have 2 at best.
Thankyou for the enthusiasm though
Thank You so much for such a details. I educates me. I am really thankful for all your helpful
THANK YOU COACH LEE , I'M IN THIS VERY CIRCUMSTANCES. YOUR ADVICE IS INVALUABLE , GOD BLESS YOU COACH LEE
This is seriously the best video. Thanks coach!
This is so true. Thank you coach lee.
If your spouse wants a divorce and you dont snd want to fight it , how do you respond/act, if they go ahead and filing for the divorce?
I did the panic thing for 6 months! Until i just couldn't anymore. He has moved out and now that I'm not constantly trying he's texting me everyday. How are you? Do you need anything? Even though i found out he has a rebound... he's texting more now. We have 2 kids. But I truly hope this side chick doesn't last long and he realizes what he's lost. He's told me that maybe the distance will be good for us... but now I'm not so sure.
Please do a video about single parents and mixed signals from ex’s like when they say you two are never getting back together
I absolutely wish I heard this video 20 years ago. So much truth here . People , listen up if u about to go through this .
The one thing that complicates my situation is I still live in the same house and have my son as well so the no contact rule is kinda hard but doable at a personal level. My wife wants a divorce she says our relationship is over. I’m kinda glad because she was married to my inner child who had abandonment issues.for the last 4 yrs (other day it was 1.5 yrs) I’ve tried re talking again to her about it bad move. She’s firm in her decision she says. She is waiting 3 months out of respect since we have a family vacation. To her a massive permanent change and her changing her mind is what’ll it’ll take for her to come back. I start counseling tomorrow. I’m gonna work on me for me. If it gets to the point of the d work at the end at least I’ll be a better person
This is the best video I have seen ever , you are the man .
Coach Lee, I am new to your videos after a friend recommended them for a complete different break up that ended 5 days ago.
Watching your videos has me emotional and missing my spouse 😥 she got stationed overseas and hit me with the "I want a divorce." This was 2019
Is it too late to get her back? We're still technically married, and I don't think I'm really ready to let her go.
I did everything wrong, the begging the crying, we typically have NC unless we need something.
Is it too late? Is it worth it? I'm very confused, never thought I'd miss her enough to even consider wanting her back. Especially not after she's had other people.
Anyone have similar experience with wanting a spouse back years later?
Any advice?
Dear coach, can you please make a video of how you can save the relationship when someone is thinking to dump you because of many fightings and hard time.
I so needed this!
my favorite coach lee thanks for this video. i really love your sense of humor 😁
I did panic and pushed for about a month. Did I mess it up for the long run???
So true The restraining order happened to me as a woman I had no idea about it my ex-husband was an attorney at law and he destroyed me on my divorce my life was like a scary movie still is I am still not recover from it he stole everything from me My lawyer was even his friend I could not find anybody that was not connected to him because my ex was an attorney he knew all the judges and all the attorneys and they don’t go against each other so basically I am a very strong woman still standing
While I am reading this (3 days of no contact rule with my husband who wants a divorce . He came two times in the house.. one time when I am not here at day and second was 11pm when I am here already and while I am watching your videos the door ring and open and it’s him.. take long time he appeared on my front and asks “did you eat dinner? “Not yet I replied. You? He said yes. One thing I don’t sure here . If he starts to tell a story what he does for 4 days and who’s with him tell every detail about it and our story takes 3 hours, should I act casual or should I act nuetral,compassionate,? Oh dear, he cry 😢 at the start of him after I said to him this (this is your advice,coach lee you are really sent from heaven.. ) Because I remember what you advice when the time and almost x came by what usually they said is (hi? And they usually just getting hint because they also scared of rejection or their pride to open up first if they want to come back. So that time he opens up the topic by saying did you said to your mom? I find things to said again coach lee in what words I need to reply this time.. I said, no.. Why.. Sounded he’s going to deep deeper but he tries I sounded cool.. (one thing here” I learned something
When are u going to accept people for coaching calls again?? I tried to make one and got a recording saying u were too busy. Help!
What do I do if they just served me with the papers? I’m hurt and trying my hardest to find hope but I don’t see any light at the end of the tunnel anymore
You're so right!!! She got a lawyer and became a monster! I was the idiot that didn't see it coming.
Wow! Minute 2 was something i should have done~ not panic
Message him on whatsApp for help
I am just commenting to be able to update later. Been about a month since our separation.
@@behatilife9581 there is nothing to get back
Me and my partner of 7 years broke up in december. We live together with our son. Two dogs and our own house. We sleep in different rooms. We are still best friends and she shows jealously sometimes but shuts down any conversation about working on us and is adamant we will only be friend's... we are going to live together until april and i cant see anything changing. Ive done most of coach lees techniques and its just Bought us closer as mates.. not in a relationship sense.
My wife changed her address in another state most likely, pretty sure she emotionally bonded with another person before weening herself off of me. Been three months or so since she left.
Like I miss her and want her, but also kinda fed up with the idea of allowing this kind of behavior which is really unattractive. Stuck between a rock and a hard place. Any video suggestions?
So my situation is I’m active duty military and wife has decided to divorce me in the middle of a move cycle that’s up against a time line. So for three weeks I did all the things you said not too. But now prior to this video I’m in no contact. I don’t call I don’t text. I’ll answer phone calls when needed. She is not a fan of it. But it is what it is. We’ve already filed the divorce and so far so good. But we will see what happens.
If I have separated from my husband a year and a half ago (me on Mexico, him on Wisconsin) and all that time I've been begging and pleading to the point he blocked me on my different accounts of messenger, did I ruin my chances of getting back to him? And if so how can I completely forget about him? I feel is more obsession than real love and I'm tired of it
Mina, read this article all the way through for your situation: myexbackcoach.com/what-to-do-when-your-ex-has-blocked-you-on-phone-and-facebook/
I’m at temp motions. Not friends right now either. In the same house still. I am fighting. She’s pissed about the countersuit.
thank you thank you thank you
Coach Lee be blessed
My wife and I are separated. One minute she want space and I give it to her. Next she is calling me asking if I am busy. We have a disability daughter, and she says " hey can you come over and watch her while I go take care of some business. I be like sure, be there in a minute. When I get there she starts talking about the relationship. Then she wants to have sex. We have sex numerous of times. Finally when I go to work in the oil field she start acting funny, but when it is getting close for me to come home her attitude changes back to missing me again. Please tell me what's going on?
That is exactly my situation at this moment .my wife says she want a divorce when I caught her with a man .but now I learn from you on how to deal with this situation .
Any update? I'm in this situation, I caught her attempting to start a long affair and she planned on leaving me soon after. She instead left earlier and suddenly.
I have eight kids and the youngest is 3.
I got fixed 2 years ago and she was pissed. She doesn't want me touching her anymore. She doesn't want me in the same bed with her. She has 4 of the kids sleep in the bed with her. She says it's to help me sleep. I work three shifts.
A divorce would separate my kids and since she hasn't had a job in 12 years it would cost me most of my income.
At that point the kids loose.
My wife left I haven't seen our 19 month old girl in 4 months she filed divorce and restraining order no contact she moved a state away what do I do
Why would you want to get a person back that is so infantile?
My wife and i seperated a month ago. The first week I kinda blew her up. The next week shed only respond to my friend about getting my phone on my own line. This past week shell text me asking if she has mail, and asking questions on my work and plans in how long I plan on working there. She said she wanted divorce to me but tells my friend she wants to get the papers and hold on for them for a year. We both have trust issues. What should I do? I'd like to call
Its funny when relationship coaches say don't panic. I don't know many people that watch these videos ahead of time to know don't panic.😳 That's funny to me. There needs to be a video on I'm sure you panicked, here are some things that can be done that could fix it. 😅 The only contact that I have done is when it comes to the divorce. I'm fighting the divorce, but he filed in Hawaii. Hawaii will grant it no matter what. He basically has to have the change of heart. The problem is that we've had too much space. We're military, so he's always gone. My lawyer SUCKS. I can only afford a lawyer through Legal Shield and he SUCKS. He said that since I'm against the divorce, he doesn't see me as priority. I don't even know what to do about that. The year is rapidly approaching. Everyday I have to breath it out.
I have videos where I say that I know you’ve panicked and messed up but here’s what to do now.
I said fuck it, divorce me, I’m divorced happy and 2 year later she came crying wanting me back after putting some dude on a rebound. I said nope. Love being single-many chick in bed, with a fat wallet! Women these days aren’t worth it any more.
Husband of 20 years left to be with another woman. Im on day 30 or so of no contact. Its really the only hope I have left other than praying.
I hope you're feeling strong Melissa. I know it's hard 💝
Please let us know where in life you are now as I am going through with same situation but there is no women yet but he have options and im in no contact
COACH LEE ,YOUR RIGHT THIS IS THE WORST THING YOU CAN GO THROUGH. MY WIFE IS IN MIDLIFE CRISIS ,SHE IS DISCONNECTED AND SAID SHE IS DONE. WE ARE LIVING IN THE SAME FLAT ANY ADVICE ?
Does she say why she is done?
@@RealCoachLee YES
How to apply this if you are still living in the same house with the person but are still separated?
I totally here ya! Wife and I are separated in the same house and she ghosted me! I live downstairs.... I feel for you... hang in there!
@@po5541 its sooooo difficult bro. Imagine having the one you truly love right there but cant do anything to make things right. My heart hurts whenever i see her or speak to her. She continuosly reminds me that she will be leaving and things just cant be worked out....she definitely does not want to try or to even consider the idea of us being together. Nine and a half years and this is what we have come to.
These videos help sooth my anxiety, but what do i do when my spouse of 19 years initiated a seperation, but is constantly reaching out seemingly like he doesn't want me, but also doesn't want to LOSE ALL of me, like he wants to be friends even though I told him I can't do friends. I know leaving me was very hard for him and he seems unsure of his decision which I understand. I realize my part in our relationship failure and want to work on my issues. He's giving me so many mixed signals. One day he's saying stuff that gives me every hope that we'll get back together and the next he says something that makes me feel like day 1 when we broke up. I can't take the constant mixed signals; they are making me crazy. I want to go no contact to give myself a chance to be ok, but I'm afraid of hurting him and pushing him away more. What do I do?
Sounds exactly like my story
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I can't believe am with my love again ..
How can u fight the divorce?
I know my husband still loves. Weve been split since XMAS. He wont reach out its been 6 mths. Hes I guess still w the rebound. Is there a chance???
I hope this works , thanks
I suggest you get my free mini-course on saving a marriage: www.marriageradio.com/mini-course-to-save-your-marriage/
I've just been told that me wife a texted a mutual friend saying I'm being "worryingly calm" is this good or bad?
I've made all the mistakes in the book previously but for the last 3 week I've been using strategic NC with young children involved.
We can't send gift to our spouse but I wonder what if they get into the financial problem or something bad happen to them. Should we help?
How about if you don’t have friends?
How are you supposed to do "No Contact" when you're separated and the kids spend half the time at your place and half the time at her place? What if she's still with her married affair partner, whom she works with, and she claims they're in love?
Hi, watch this video all the way through: th-cam.com/video/TmoRHJAZ9dc/w-d-xo.html
Thanks Coach !
My husband already leave more than 2 months we had email each other after one month, we just keep saying the same thing over and over, he said the divorce is in the mail and i will get it soon, i am tired and upset
My husband said he still loves me, but is unhappy in our marriage. It sucks
Absolutely get my free mini-course on saving your marriage at myexbackcoach.com/hope-for-marriages-in-crisis/
SO HELPFUL
Just after 3 months my husband left me, a few weeks ago he said he wants a divorce, 3 days ago he came round and it was nice although we spoke about divorce. We ended up in bed. Next day he call to say he's going ahead with it. he's alot younger than me and he says he needs new things. Please help
My wife has she had a lot of signs of being a narcissist whether she's full-on aware of it or not I'm not sure but should I try to save this marriage she's already left and moved out
Nah. Make her come to you
Video was helpful
Wish I'd seen this video earlier. Very good info.
my husband didn't divorce me but he make another marriage in his country. now he leave me ,he said he need to stay with his new wife.
When will you be taking calls again?
This is helping me so much.... BUT what happens if this is happening with a third party?Basically my GF cheated with a Married woman who’s gay. Now she phases me out , but still lives in our flat”apartment” And says she loves me still but doesn’t know what’s happening and can’t think?
Hey Lee i need your advice.. I am trying to do no contact but i have to meet my ex in 2 weeks so i can get my stuff back. How should i react to her when i meet her..
And your videos really help a lot, your make things less painfull. For that I thank you so much!
Frederik, there are a lot of details to this and a lot of information I’ll need to answer (there are several answers in fact to parts of your situation). Book a coaching call with me at myexbackcoach.com/book-strategic-call-coach-lee/
Im intrested in breakup tool kit can u pls tell me what all is included in the kit?
I have an interesting quistion I'm currently going through this hardship. We have been married 5 years gave 2 kids. Etc. She walked out said we are separated. I gave her some time/ space. But she wanted to move back home after a while I was happy to allow this as I didnt want the separation. However she stated we are still separated even she wants to sleep in the same bed cuddlebecome intimate. I am so confused by this any advice?
Thank you.
Is it wrong that I love your sapphire blue eyes??? I am mesmerized.
Please make a video about separated she’s with a rebound 🙏🏼
I'm in that position but she also had an affair couldn't bring herself to try with us and is now with someone else