The "trans people can be gay" part of this video was what made me smile. Im ftm and im also gay, woah shocker a ftm trans guy can be gay who knew? Whenever I explain this to people they just say that I'm a "straight female" uM nO
Sysy Improvise Oh god yeah, I live in a house with just my mom and sister, so I have no male role model & I look to youtube for them. Its so difficult being gay AND transgender ugh everyones like "heres my boyfriend" or "heres my girlfriend" and im like "heres my friend because no one will date me"
Sysy Improvise ive been in that situation, it broke me for a while but then i got over it. If he cant be with the happier version of you, he was just encouraging the unhappy one :(
My grandma still saw me as a female after i came out as trans.. But last time she called me "he" and i cried.. She thought she did something wrong. I then told her she called me "He" and she was like:"Yeah, i know. And i love u." i cried more and she was like "Well, that's not very man-like" she was joking and I laughed. I'm going to start testosterone when I'm 17. I turned 16 and I'm so happy when I'm 17!
Jona Cgnoh my god this made me misty eyed to be honest. That’s so sweet. I’m ftm but the only person I’ve rlly been able to tell is my sister (and friends) and she took a lot better than I thought.
Yesssssss you don't have to medically transition for you to be transgender!! Every point you hit was spot on!! As far as bathrooms, I don't use public bathrooms unless it's an emergency/I actually start to be in pain from waiting so long. Awesome video!!!!
I'm trans and at pride two weeks ago, I went into he girls bathroom (I was born a girl and I dont feel comfortable using the mens bathroom) and some woman came up to me and told me "You're so strong" tbh I think she thought I was trans mtf
The thing is i'm dealing with a bit of a problem. I told my best friends (lets say A and B) a couple months ago that i'm trans. A is respecting it but they don't fully agree with it, B is understanding, aware, wants to respect but somewhat refuses ro and makes transphobic comments. I tell person B and it sitll seems to be ineffective. I am considering ending friendship with B. A on the other hand is fine, they use the right pronouns and they understand but at the same time they say some transphobic things and stick to it. I tell A and they understand what i'm saying but the enxt day they'll say, "but technically you'll still slways be a girl". I want to rely on my friends but i'm conflicted and i don't know if ican anymore. Even times when i feel dysohoric in gym class and i tell them that the anxiety is crippling me, they make fun of me and call out my chest which is unfortunaty not of small nature and moves around a lot when i jump bearing in mind i don't have a binder or a very good sports bra to use that flattens. That really hurt and tje rest of my day was spent in tears with my boyfriend. I don't know ehat tp do about this becuase B is just a bitch and i can drop them but the A is so close to me and i'm close to them and they say sorry and help slightly. I need advice really bad becuase i have to go back to school again in a couple of weeks and i don't know what to do
STheGayChronicles CuaseJesusHatesMe If they refuse to understand and continously do things that they know make you uncomfortable, honestly their friendships aren't worth it. Just find people who respect you and stick up for you rather than put you down.
STheGayChronicles CuaseJesusHatesMe if they don't fully respect you, then that's not a real friend. My advice would be to push person B away because they clearly wouldn't stick up for you and don't respect you like you deserve. I've had to break up with about 3 of my "friends" because they didn't accept me being trans. They may have been cool people, but in the end you deserve respect for how you are. My best friend is the same as person A so I still keep them around because they at least try to understand and go by my name/pronouns. If they make a transphobic remark, just ignore it because it tends to happen since they don't really know what it's like. Also, if you can, try to make a joke out of it. I'm FTM and proud but I'll still laugh along because I know I was once a girl and I know that I still have a girls body so I just choose to embrace what I have now. Once I fully transition, then I can be even more proud and see where I came from. But keep person A and drop person B. Good luck on your transition!!
It's hard to tell anyone what to do in a situation like this. To me it seems like, they are somewhat trying to tolerate it, but also not really. I would maybe try to show them videos and or posts that describe the way you feel as a trans person. Sometimes they try to understand but they don't because they don't have enough information. If they still don't get it, and say transphobic and disrespectful stuff, you should cut those people out of your life. Because honestly, if they keep making you feel bad about yourself, they're not worth it.
I would drop B, and try to educate A. It sounds like A is trying (at least a bit), but if you don't make any progress, drop them too. You deserve friends that respect who you are completely.
STheGayChronicles CuaseJesusHatesMe Person A sounds a bit confused and you shouldn't blame them as it's not an everyday thing. I know for non trans I t's hard to gather the concept that you're not who you were born as so think of it like this: to some it may seem like a cat is saying it's a dog (pretend they talk) which is confusing and you wouldn't understand as you're not a cat or dog. They might also not know what they're saying is offensive so you should tell them. But over time if they truly care for you then they'll maybe try to understand more and stop saying things that are offensive to you.
hey i'm max, a transguy, and a freshman in high school. yesterday i came out to my dad and we had the worst argument because he is transphobic and his beliefs on trans people are absolute bullshit and i don't want to live with him. however, i have to, because he is my dad and my school is right next to his house. there's nothing i can do to change his mind. he doesnt use my pronouns or preferred name. any tips?
supreme edgelord lecture him and try to put him in ur position like make him feel how you felt when he didn't be supportive and like a real dad. He needs to know how you feel about ur future and who you are to consider you as a person and male. That's what I have been doing recently and it has been working out great my parents have been so supportive than since I first told them and I feel great.
supreme edgelord dude i feel you 100%, my dad is transphobic too and he doesn't want me to transition to a man. It sucks I know but they're not the ones who decide how to live our lives. It's our lives and we'll live it how we want to.
I'm trans. I was born differently but I was still born, just like any other person. I am a human and I feel emotions too. It's just as simple as I'm transgender.
Well you can transition in lots of different ways, there's no "correct" route. If you want hormones, go see a therapist. Other things you can do is change your pronouns, way of dress if necessary, hair cut, etc. Oh, and coming out to people who you think should know about this.
I'd shorten hair first, and get a chest binder. Figure out pronouns and a name, then go to counselling for a possibility of surgeries and/or hormones. Have a nice day :)
I thought for a long time about "do trans people not drive?" And then ended up making hypotheticals in my head of meeting a trans person and them saying "I don't drive, because I'm trans"
I feel like Trans women are more socially understood. Trans women are far more present in media and society. As far as transmen all we have is Chaz Bono. Both are just as valid. But I really have not seen a lot of trans representation.
Luke Gilliland trans women are not more socially understood? Trans women are the most targeted when it comes to trans men vs trans women. When people are anti-trans people using the bathroom they usually use a transphobic theory that goes against trans women; ex; "do you want a man in the bathroom with your daughter?" No one goes "do you want a girl in the bathroom with your son" no one does that. Trans women are killed way more frequently than trans men.
Thanks for bringing up the differences in opinion between trans people. I've been told so many times by the radical side of the community that my opinions don't count and I don't count as a true trans person because I disagree with a lot of what the radicals say. It's really sad and frustrating.
Joseph White i’m eight months late rippp but i agree, some trans people are wild in what they say, and if i don’t agree i’m “transphobic and rude” even tho i’m trans..? its frustrating honestly
I think you should have clarified for some that not all drag queens are trans women, but some trans women are drag queens, as drag is an outlet for creativity and an art form. Take Peppermint, Gia Gunn and Carmen Carrera for examples.
I have a great technique for the bathroom! I usually just run into the bathroom like I'm gonna take a shit and people just literally give me space so I can use the stall. Haha
Hey sam. I'm currently 14 and FTM but I would like to know at what age can I start Testosterone without the hormone blockers included? I really want to start T and I'm starting therapy soon but I would just like to know
in my country you have to go on hormone blockers if you're under 18 before starting testosterone. Then you can start at 16 with testosterone. If you're older than 18 you can start testosterone right away. (after all the tests and stuff)
You're my idol bro 💯❤️ you helped me come out and make my own TH-cam channel. Thanks so much. And yes i hate it when people know that im a guy but they still call me "she/her". Thanks for sharing again!
I still don't know if I'm trans, I'm right in the confusion.. like I've experienced and I like to be called Eric, and called a boy, and I feel better when someone calls me that. I have my hair cut short short, and yeah.. it feels better than anything feminine
This video is really insightful. I like how you point out that transgender people can be conservative or liberal and differ in ideology. Sometimes I feel I'm painted with the same brush as the rest of the trans community despite the fact that I don't agree with their points of views most of the time.
when i told my parents i wanted to take testosterone in the future they kind of flipped. my mom said somethign along the lines of "i dotn want you to make a permanant change to your body and regret it later" and my dad said something like, "Youre denying your female body, thi sis hurting you," and comparing it to body positivity. They think im too young to know and to want to transition (im 12 but after the year or so of therapy and then doctors and hormone blockers i should be around 14 to 15 ish) and thye dont understand that i want to rip my skin off, that if i cant transition i will probably stop taking car eof my body, that i cant fucking look at myself in the mirror and am considering to cover it so i dont have to look at this THING i see in my reflection. My friends and girlfriend are trying to help, but they cant exactly convince my parents that i want to be me. I dont think i will be able to live if i cant transition, and that is so fucking terrifying and it hurts so bad and i keep saying to myself that suicide isnt an option for me, theres too much to live for, but if i wasnt able to transition at lets say 15, i would need to wait at least thre more yearts, and be able tio get the momney to payt for it, and i dont think i have the strength to deal with it that long. I literlly cry myself to sleep. Everything hurts, and im trying to find light and happiness, in seeing my girlfriend, in being with my friends, but mostly i wnt to stay locked in my room and cry
AFAB and nonbinary: Still like being perceived as masculine even though I have a female body. Still like wearing makeup. Still like having my hair long. Still like my body, and my curves. Still like seeing my chest flat and/or unbinded. Still like women's clothes, even though I'm trying more men's clothes recently. Still like packing sometimes. Still perceived as female in most situations. Still using the women's bathroom. Still pronoun indifferent but would like people to use they/them, he/him if they could. STILL NONBINARY.
mhm, i'm pretty much content with my body and don't plan to really change it, and i still go by she/her (though also they/them to be fair). i still don't see myself as a girl though, and i'm still just as non-binary as the enby over there who looks completely androgynous. it's how i perceive myself that makes me non-binary.
Hey people, I need help, I just came out to my parents but they have so many questions I just am not able to answer, I just "discovered " transgender thing three months ago and it clicked but I came out a month ago, my mom doesn't stop saying its a phase and by dad say:" I don't agree but I can't stop you " How can I explain!! Thanks for helping me 😌
Sysy Improvise id say let them handle it for a few months, let it sit in, and within that time id link them or show them articles, maybe videos about how being transgender works. dont be forceful with it, they of course can have their own opinions, but at least try to tell them/inform them of certain things so theyll be able to understand it better. tell them thats its not a phase, because if it was then you wouldnt told people something that could potentially hurt yourself in the long run it may take months, maybe years for them to open up and accept you, but be persistant just remember that they are your parents and they love you, but if they decide to treat you poorly (ie. physical harm or threats) after this situation, then please find someplace to be a lot that isnt toxic to you i hope everything goes well, and best of luck to you ❤
TechnicallyTechno thank you a lot ^^ it's feeling good to see people interested, if someone had idea of articles or videos explain really well ftm transition it would help me, I just don't know what could explain them , they are old way people so...
i understand, its quite difficult for people who know little to nothing about this to understand, but im sure theyll come around at some point. until then just try to dig up articles, watch videos, anything on it really, and show them whats up
Regarding your mom, I think she just needs time. After some years/perhaps months of you being out and trans she'll realize that this isn't just some thing that will fade away, and hopefully, she'll try to accept you more. Regarding your dad, there sadly isn't much to change, but he is on a good road. Try to show him some trans people, articles, definitions every once and a while. Answer his questions if you'd like. You can't guarantee he'll understand but showing him what being trans really means may help!
I loved your video. After 65 years of settling for unhappiness because of others feelings, I am doing something about it. I have bipolar disorder type 1 and I've finally decided to look after all of my head and I'm starting to let others worry about theirs
I HAVE A QUESTION! How is it possible for a human being to have as big a heart as yours?? Also why can't more people be as amazing as you?? Also I love youuu
I recently made a video on my channel about the genderqueer/nonbinary community and this video about Trans people really opened my eyes to certain things! Thanks! ❤
I've said this before. About the bathrooms. I don't care who uses the bathroom when I have to pee I have to pee. Anyway growing in the 70's in Los Angeles I went to Two schools that EVERYONE used the Same bathroom and there were Not stalls. The ages were pre-k to Twelve.So forty years later I can still pee anywhere and in front of anyone. I'm not Trans. I Do TOTALLY RESPECT and SUPPORT YOU ALL. GOD BLESS.
@@edgytypebeat781 it's honestly nuts how people can think pan people are transphobic. usually i hear it's the other way around, uneducated people saying anyone who *isn't* pan is transphobic.
Im F2N (non binary) and am trying to find a nickname that's gender neutral and preferably starts with "C" or "Ce" so it's close-ish to my birth name. I haven't come out to my family yet (as enby) plus i dont want to insult my mom by officially changing my name. So it would just be a nickname and only my friends would use it. Do any of you have any ideas?
@@user-xt3bf8uz9n Thanks, but I already chose one by now though, it's a masculine version of my middle name. (it's Will if you're wondering) But thanks again!
I once got slandered by a whole lgbt forum for not censoring the word trap (sorry if u is offended). I believe that I lost a little respect for people who display their "trans-status" online, but then again most of the slanders and offended people were all minors and youngsters.
A trap is different from being trans, though. They're basically someone who "cross dresses" or has a more "feminine" appearance, but is male. And vice versa. (im assuming u know this tho lol) I could see how they were offended if you associated trans people with that term.
your videos have given me the courage and self esteem and reassurance to come out to my friends and family as trans. you make me feel safe and not so alone anymore, because i dont feel like im the only one 💜 thanks, man
my best friend who i belived was a cis female came out to me and said she was born male and i screamed because i was so happy that she trusted me enough to tell me because she met me online and then she sent me a pic of what she looks like and i didnt even belive she was trans because she looked cis female and she came out to her sister and im so excited for her
I’m trans FtM and basically in the closet from my mum. All of my friends know and are completely supportive, it’s just harder to come out to my family. I’m hoping to be able to accomodate a proper binder soon (at the moment I’m using bandages) and possibly see a gender therapist. It’s unlikely that I’ll be able to without my mum knowing and she doesn’t exactly support me so I doubt that’ll happen. I really want testosterone shots but again, I can’t get them without my mum knowing. Sam, your videos always help me gain a little more confidence and give me hope that soon I might be able to properly come out to my mum and begin transitioning. Thank you for making me smile everyday, you truly inspire me ❤️
I would say generally just a man, that's why people go stealth, somebody thinking of you as a trans man instead of a man can be hurtful cus their perception of you may change or they only see you as trans not a man. This isn't universal but even when people are out I feel like they want to be treated as a guy who happens to be trans than a /trans/ guy. imo anyway.
David C. I'm a trans man and I just want to be referred to as a man. On most trans men online websites/forms I've been on, most trans men just want to be referred to as men. However, there are some people who want to be referred to as a trans man. However, that's a small minority of trans men.
Sam you're such a great person and I love how you stated your ideas and personal opinions, I'm trans too (ftm) and you've inspired me so much :) I came out because you were so helpful and I'm glad I have someone to agree with (thoughts, ideas,feelings, etc.) thank you so much Sam. You're doing a great job contributing to the Transgender Community ❤
Im trans. I was born female and dress and look female but inside for years its been killing me and tarring apart my self esteem. When i came out to my mother she and her boyfriend made fun of me and made it so much worse. I pushed down the emotions and feelings of needing to be a man. Seeing you explain everything and watching your videos inspired me to stand up and start to do what i can to finally make the change. Thank you so much!!
I had my old counselor who told me that using the men's restroom is a danger to cis men... fucking what? Bullshit that's what it is. Ughhhhhhh she also disclosed confidential information to another client. Like fukkkkk
I LUV U!!!! Thx so much for talking about us transwomen who are valid and are women, i find it difficult to explain because people think im lying since im 15 😢
I would like to know what happens if a trans person stop their hormones treatment for both trans girl and boy, do they get back to their original body?
Forever Gone As far as I know you keep the hairline and deep voice. There are definitely more but I forgot them. Hope this helps :) this is for ftm if you weren't sure.
I'm ftm trans and I honestly like it when people ask questions because it means they're willing to learn and are trying to be as respectful as they can by not getting things wrong
I WANT TO BE ALEX AND I WANT TO GO ON T AND I WANT ALL THE SURGERIES BUT I CANT BECAUSE IM NOT OUT AND THOSE ARE ALOT OF MONEY AND IM UPSET (im sorry for all caps but iM UPSET) (edit like, an hour later: AHHHH I BINDED FOR THE FIRST TIME AND I FEEL GR9 OH MY GOD IM SO HAPPY RN I COULD CRY AND I PROBABLY WILL OH MY GEESUS)
I just made a youtube video about when I knew I was nonbinary. I talk about alot of stuff. So if anyone is interested in gaining some knowledge on that - check it out! I'd really appreciate it!
i'm at that awkward stage where i kind of pass but not all the time. i'm at a holiday park and every time i need the toilet i will go all the way back to our room because a few weeks ago i maybe kinda had a mental breakdown so i can't anymore shit
+Iyanah Williams, sure! Thank you for asking! Pansexual means you like all the genders. So basically you like someone for who they are rather than what's in their pants!
You are amazing your videos helped me to understand my boyfriend who is trans even though he can't complete his transition yet and I love him so much. Thank you 😊
I'm not Trans or anything but know I support all of you! You're amazing and so worth it in this life! you r all beautiful souls! Have a great day or night to who ever reads❤
Basically your saying you being gay doesn't always go with there body parts if there's a trans female to male and they are dating a male there are gay even though they have a girl body part they present as male and want to live as male and if they like male then they are gay even if they have some other girl body parts so you are straight because you live as male you want to present as a male so a male dating a female is straight doesn't matter always on body parts
Damnnn I need to show this video to the ppl in my gender and law class bc even though they respect everything and are very open minded they are also very confused about trans people... good vid btw, really loved it
I am not trans but I support the community 100% my friend is trans and I knew him for a while now. He started his transition about a year or two ago and I had no problem using different pronouns. I was talking to someone and they mentioned his name. However they referred to him as an "it" not a male. It made me so upset. I don't understand why some transgender males and females have such a hard time throughout there transition. It doesn't matter what parts you were born with! It's who you know you are as a person. The same person asked me when my friend decided to be a male. He didn't decide to be anything he was always a male! He just didn't always identify as one. RANT OVER
How hard is it to come out as trans? I feel like my family won't accept me. My whole life I've felt this way and my mom just thinks I'm tying to look trashy by wearing boxy men's shirts and long shorts but really that's what I feel confident in. I told her I feel confinement in that but she doesn't understand at all. She thinks I'm lazy and just don't want to look nice and won't let me cut my hair or anything. She says she supports me but I'm not sure about that. One day she will be rly nice about things and the next she will say "why did u post that ugly picture you look like a boy", what do I do???
I recently came out as trans ftm and my moms trying to make me just be “a butch lesbian” or whatever and saying that it’s bad to alter your hormones in your body. But she says that she’s supportive, it doesn’t seem that way. But she’s made me think like how do I know. She’s convinced that I’ve never said a thing about being a boy before and that it’s out of the blue but I’ve literally grown up wanting to be a guy and never doing stereotypical girl things. I did go through a year and a half of when I was extremely depressed, looking at my sister, thinking she’s pretty and deciding to wear makeup and dresses, I even went as far as to change my voice to a higher pitch and say what she would say, and pretend to be happy but I’m just over it. And now my mom thinks I’m girly. Should I just live my normal life as trans and then when the time comes when I’m old enough to make the decision, maybe go on T?
SIX MORE WEEKS UNTIL I START TESTOSTERONEEE
ITS LIT!
Good for you :)
omg that's awesome
I'm happy for you
Jay The Son Congratulations!!!!
The "trans people can be gay" part of this video was what made me smile. Im ftm and im also gay, woah shocker a ftm trans guy can be gay who knew? Whenever I explain this to people they just say that I'm a "straight female" uM nO
casually cameron I understand you soooooo well!! I am ftm and bisexual so you can imagine the reaction of my parents , brother and sister
Sysy Improvise Oh god yeah, I live in a house with just my mom and sister, so I have no male role model & I look to youtube for them. Its so difficult being gay AND transgender ugh everyones like "heres my boyfriend" or "heres my girlfriend" and im like "heres my friend because no one will date me"
yeah my boyfriend just broke up this morning because he dont want to be with a men, it makes him fill bad :/
Sysy Improvise ive been in that situation, it broke me for a while but then i got over it. If he cant be with the happier version of you, he was just encouraging the unhappy one :(
yeah, thanks for encouraging
that is a very yellow hoodie
Yes.
I've seen yellow-er 🤣
Mhm.
I love the color yellow.
indeed it is
Last time I was this early I thought I was a girl
oml XD
The most original comment I've seen on a trans related video 👌👌😉
Aspen XY Im shitting myself oml
same
Lmao
My grandma still saw me as a female after i came out as trans.. But last time she called me "he" and i cried.. She thought she did something wrong. I then told her she called me "He" and she was like:"Yeah, i know. And i love u." i cried more and she was like "Well, that's not very man-like" she was joking and I laughed. I'm going to start testosterone when I'm 17. I turned 16 and I'm so happy when I'm 17!
Jona Cgnoh my god this made me misty eyed to be honest. That’s so sweet. I’m ftm but the only person I’ve rlly been able to tell is my sister (and friends) and she took a lot better than I thought.
Awe, yay! Congratulations, and keep being the most authentic you you can be!
Reading this made me smile. Im so happy for you ❤️
You're lucky having a respectful family like this. If I come out as trans to my grand parents... Then bye bye, see you in the sky in a century...
Aww I love that so much.
Yesssssss you don't have to medically transition for you to be transgender!! Every point you hit was spot on!! As far as bathrooms, I don't use public bathrooms unless it's an emergency/I actually start to be in pain from waiting so long. Awesome video!!!!
Logan, yes same
That honestly makes me so sad
Same. School was SUCH a pain when it came to bathrooms.
I'm trans and at pride two weeks ago, I went into he girls bathroom (I was born a girl and I dont feel comfortable using the mens bathroom) and some woman came up to me and told me "You're so strong" tbh I think she thought I was trans mtf
Nate Bane lol😂
I'm FtM and most people actually assume I am MtF so it is very awkward when I have to explain that they did not misgender me the first time.
Whyou hatin thats fucking wrong dude
lmao
Jake Robison how’s it hating
The thing is i'm dealing with a bit of a problem. I told my best friends (lets say A and B) a couple months ago that i'm trans. A is respecting it but they don't fully agree with it, B is understanding, aware, wants to respect but somewhat refuses ro and makes transphobic comments. I tell person B and it sitll seems to be ineffective. I am considering ending friendship with B. A on the other hand is fine, they use the right pronouns and they understand but at the same time they say some transphobic things and stick to it. I tell A and they understand what i'm saying but the enxt day they'll say, "but technically you'll still slways be a girl". I want to rely on my friends but i'm conflicted and i don't know if ican anymore. Even times when i feel dysohoric in gym class and i tell them that the anxiety is crippling me, they make fun of me and call out my chest which is unfortunaty not of small nature and moves around a lot when i jump bearing in mind i don't have a binder or a very good sports bra to use that flattens. That really hurt and tje rest of my day was spent in tears with my boyfriend. I don't know ehat tp do about this becuase B is just a bitch and i can drop them but the A is so close to me and i'm close to them and they say sorry and help slightly. I need advice really bad becuase i have to go back to school again in a couple of weeks and i don't know what to do
STheGayChronicles CuaseJesusHatesMe If they refuse to understand and continously do things that they know make you uncomfortable, honestly their friendships aren't worth it. Just find people who respect you and stick up for you rather than put you down.
STheGayChronicles CuaseJesusHatesMe if they don't fully respect you, then that's not a real friend. My advice would be to push person B away because they clearly wouldn't stick up for you and don't respect you like you deserve. I've had to break up with about 3 of my "friends" because they didn't accept me being trans. They may have been cool people, but in the end you deserve respect for how you are. My best friend is the same as person A so I still keep them around because they at least try to understand and go by my name/pronouns. If they make a transphobic remark, just ignore it because it tends to happen since they don't really know what it's like. Also, if you can, try to make a joke out of it. I'm FTM and proud but I'll still laugh along because I know I was once a girl and I know that I still have a girls body so I just choose to embrace what I have now. Once I fully transition, then I can be even more proud and see where I came from. But keep person A and drop person B. Good luck on your transition!!
It's hard to tell anyone what to do in a situation like this.
To me it seems like, they are somewhat trying to tolerate it, but also not really.
I would maybe try to show them videos and or posts that describe the way you feel as a trans person.
Sometimes they try to understand but they don't because they don't have enough information.
If they still don't get it, and say transphobic and disrespectful stuff, you should cut those people out of your life.
Because honestly, if they keep making you feel bad about yourself, they're not worth it.
I would drop B, and try to educate A. It sounds like A is trying (at least a bit), but if you don't make any progress, drop them too. You deserve friends that respect who you are completely.
STheGayChronicles CuaseJesusHatesMe Person A sounds a bit confused and you shouldn't blame them as it's not an everyday thing. I know for non trans I t's hard to gather the concept that you're not who you were born as so think of it like this: to some it may seem like a cat is saying it's a dog (pretend they talk) which is confusing and you wouldn't understand as you're not a cat or dog. They might also not know what they're saying is offensive so you should tell them. But over time if they truly care for you then they'll maybe try to understand more and stop saying things that are offensive to you.
hey i'm max, a transguy, and a freshman in high school. yesterday i came out to my dad and we had the worst argument because he is transphobic and his beliefs on trans people are absolute bullshit and i don't want to live with him. however, i have to, because he is my dad and my school is right next to his house. there's nothing i can do to change his mind. he doesnt use my pronouns or preferred name. any tips?
supreme edgelord lecture him and try to put him in ur position like make him feel how you felt when he didn't be supportive and like a real dad. He needs to know how you feel about ur future and who you are to consider you as a person and male. That's what I have been doing recently and it has been working out great my parents have been so supportive than since I first told them and I feel great.
MYL I'm in the same situation I wish I could help but I dont know what to do either
supreme edgelord keep trying. Talk to him more. Don't give up, I have been there.
supreme edgelord dude i feel you 100%, my dad is transphobic too and he doesn't want me to transition to a man. It sucks I know but they're not the ones who decide how to live our lives. It's our lives and we'll live it how we want to.
Hey you should tel your father that its scientifically proven to be biological
I'm trans. I was born differently but I was still born, just like any other person. I am a human and I feel emotions too. It's just as simple as I'm transgender.
oml I read that as "I was stillborn" for a second there.
I recently came out as trans ftm. Where do I start the transition??
Well you can transition in lots of different ways, there's no "correct" route. If you want hormones, go see a therapist. Other things you can do is change your pronouns, way of dress if necessary, hair cut, etc. Oh, and coming out to people who you think should know about this.
Text me on snap and i will help you @dougchapman02
A haircut
good for you
I'd shorten hair first, and get a chest binder. Figure out pronouns and a name, then go to counselling for a possibility of surgeries and/or hormones. Have a nice day :)
I showed this video to my parents and they now call me he/ him, which are my preferred pronouns
Congrats dude! I'm happy they came around.
i’m eight months late but i’m still happy for you dude!
Wow i hope they support you
okay but like he's such a cutie? can we just take a second
Emma Myers he is cute
I'm trans ftm and I'm trying to think of a good name that would suit me, any ideas?? I was thinking maybe Joey but I'm not sure, opinions??
YT vlogs Colby
Abbie Hardesty thanks
YT vlogs Austin
Pic a name for a week or so and if you don't like it then choose a different one
Elliot? Eli, Matthew,zack,?
Yeah some people just seem to forget that we are humans too
I thought for a long time about "do trans people not drive?" And then ended up making hypotheticals in my head of meeting a trans person and them saying "I don't drive, because I'm trans"
IT'S OFFICIAL: not driving is trans culture. OURS NOW.
I have my First T appointment today!!
Tyler Jay four months late but congrats:)
this is suuuper late but congrats!!!
Tyler Jay it’s been a year man wohoooo
I'm trans
Jimin Park samee ^_^
Hi trans, I'm dad.
Same here
Me too I'm mtf 💁🏼
I'm trans too and my bias is jimin :)
Thank you for telling me I'm valid...I really needed to hear that today
I feel like Trans women are more socially understood. Trans women are far more present in media and society. As far as transmen all we have is Chaz Bono. Both are just as valid. But I really have not seen a lot of trans representation.
Luke Gilliland trans women are not more socially understood? Trans women are the most targeted when it comes to trans men vs trans women. When people are anti-trans people using the bathroom they usually use a transphobic theory that goes against trans women; ex; "do you want a man in the bathroom with your daughter?" No one goes "do you want a girl in the bathroom with your son" no one does that. Trans women are killed way more frequently than trans men.
Luke Gilliland yeah...i mean, that's also probably bad for them but yeaaaahhhhh I want more transmen out there
Thanks for bringing up the differences in opinion between trans people. I've been told so many times by the radical side of the community that my opinions don't count and I don't count as a true trans person because I disagree with a lot of what the radicals say. It's really sad and frustrating.
Joseph White i’m eight months late rippp but i agree, some trans people are wild in what they say, and if i don’t agree i’m “transphobic and rude” even tho i’m trans..? its frustrating honestly
I think you should have clarified for some that not all drag queens are trans women, but some trans women are drag queens, as drag is an outlet for creativity and an art form. Take Peppermint, Gia Gunn and Carmen Carrera for examples.
I respect all wamen, even trans wamen
*women?
I am. WAMEN
I AM TRANS WAMEN
wamen.
waammeen
*RAMEN*
lol, I'm tryna make fun of the spelling, I just find it humorous. 😁
anyway, I do respect the point you made !
What's a wamen
I have a great technique for the bathroom! I usually just run into the bathroom like I'm gonna take a shit and people just literally give me space so I can use the stall.
Haha
Why haven't I thought of this? (Don't mind my email I haven't changed it..😭)
One day I hope to as brave as you Sam! I just turned 11 and I'm trans too watching you helps me to feel like I'm not alone!
I love how cute sam looks in his yellow hoodie
Hey sam. I'm currently 14 and FTM but I would like to know at what age can I start Testosterone without the hormone blockers included? I really want to start T and I'm starting therapy soon but I would just like to know
Depending on your state 15 or 16 with parental consent
in my country you have to go on hormone blockers if you're under 18 before starting testosterone. Then you can start at 16 with testosterone. If you're older than 18 you can start testosterone right away. (after all the tests and stuff)
sometimes you can start testosterone earlier than 16. But only if you've been out for a long time. Like as a kid.
The FTM prince I live in Idaho, I could start t right now at age 14, and it's surprisingly easy to start it.. Compared to other people's stories..
Okay thanks guys, I live in Indiana but I'm not sure of the state's rules for HRT
You're my idol bro 💯❤️ you helped me come out and make my own TH-cam channel. Thanks so much. And yes i hate it when people know that im a guy but they still call me "she/her". Thanks for sharing again!
I’m telling my therapist I’m a boy today
Layla Cook
I hope everything went well!
You go bro!
MY SISTER LEFT FOR COLLAGE YESTERDAY AND I FOUND A PIN THAT SAID "TRANS PRIDE" THAT SHE LEFT FOR ME ON MY DRESSER
SHE ACCEPTED ME, FUCK YEAHHHH!
I'm not trans but I understood everything you said, you really inspire me sam
Sam this video honestly gave me some courage and i think im gonna come out to my dad as trans soon. Thank you 🙏
Did you do it?
Your Blake Gray hoodie is so lit 😂❤
Thank you so much for helping educate people on this subject Sam!
The more people who understand our differences, the better world to live in ❤️️
I still don't know if I'm trans, I'm right in the confusion.. like I've experienced and I like to be called Eric, and called a boy, and I feel better when someone calls me that. I have my hair cut short short, and yeah.. it feels better than anything feminine
The cockatiel portrait in the background is adorable why is nobody talking about the cute birds!?!?
"Omg I've just confused myself" I do the same exact thing alll the time trying to explain something😂
Cyan Red me too pal me too
This video is really insightful. I like how you point out that transgender people can be conservative or liberal and differ in ideology. Sometimes I feel I'm painted with the same brush as the rest of the trans community despite the fact that I don't agree with their points of views most of the time.
when your camera started moving, i had to pause the video because i thought my eyes were going crazy omg
when i told my parents i wanted to take testosterone in the future they kind of flipped. my mom said somethign along the lines of "i dotn want you to make a permanant change to your body and regret it later" and my dad said something like, "Youre denying your female body, thi sis hurting you," and comparing it to body positivity. They think im too young to know and to want to transition (im 12 but after the year or so of therapy and then doctors and hormone blockers i should be around 14 to 15 ish) and thye dont understand that i want to rip my skin off, that if i cant transition i will probably stop taking car eof my body, that i cant fucking look at myself in the mirror and am considering to cover it so i dont have to look at this THING i see in my reflection. My friends and girlfriend are trying to help, but they cant exactly convince my parents that i want to be me. I dont think i will be able to live if i cant transition, and that is so fucking terrifying and it hurts so bad and i keep saying to myself that suicide isnt an option for me, theres too much to live for, but if i wasnt able to transition at lets say 15, i would need to wait at least thre more yearts, and be able tio get the momney to payt for it, and i dont think i have the strength to deal with it that long. I literlly cry myself to sleep. Everything hurts, and im trying to find light and happiness, in seeing my girlfriend, in being with my friends, but mostly i wnt to stay locked in my room and cry
My dead name is Layla but my new name is Greyson! You don’t have to have something similar to your dead name. It doesn’t matter 💕💗
Nice name choice! ;)
Mine first name and now Phenix
My legal/dead name is Sydney but I go by Eli or Elias
Layla Cook my old name was Rachel and my new name is xaiden
My dead name is ivy but now I’m Blake
I like that picture of those birds in the background.
I'm a Trans Woman and I'm Ace. And thank you for explaining that WE JUST WANT TO PEE! I love your videos Sam 🙂
AFAB and nonbinary:
Still like being perceived as masculine even though I have a female body.
Still like wearing makeup.
Still like having my hair long.
Still like my body, and my curves.
Still like seeing my chest flat and/or unbinded.
Still like women's clothes, even though I'm trying more men's clothes recently.
Still like packing sometimes.
Still perceived as female in most situations.
Still using the women's bathroom.
Still pronoun indifferent but would like people to use they/them, he/him if they could.
STILL NONBINARY.
mhm, i'm pretty much content with my body and don't plan to really change it, and i still go by she/her (though also they/them to be fair). i still don't see myself as a girl though, and i'm still just as non-binary as the enby over there who looks completely androgynous. it's how i perceive myself that makes me non-binary.
Last time I wash this early I thought I was straight
Hey people, I need help, I just came out to my parents but they have so many questions I just am not able to answer, I just "discovered " transgender thing three months ago and it clicked but I came out a month ago, my mom doesn't stop saying its a phase and by dad say:" I don't agree but I can't stop you "
How can I explain!!
Thanks for helping me 😌
Sysy Improvise id say let them handle it for a few months, let it sit in, and within that time id link them or show them articles, maybe videos about how being transgender works. dont be forceful with it, they of course can have their own opinions, but at least try to tell them/inform them of certain things so theyll be able to understand it better. tell them thats its not a phase, because if it was then you wouldnt told people something that could potentially hurt yourself in the long run
it may take months, maybe years for them to open up and accept you, but be persistant
just remember that they are your parents and they love you, but if they decide to treat you poorly (ie. physical harm or threats) after this situation, then please find someplace to be a lot that isnt toxic to you
i hope everything goes well, and best of luck to you ❤
TechnicallyTechno thank you a lot ^^ it's feeling good to see people interested, if someone had idea of articles or videos explain really well ftm transition it would help me, I just don't know what could explain them , they are old way people so...
i understand, its quite difficult for people who know little to nothing about this to understand, but im sure theyll come around at some point. until then just try to dig up articles, watch videos, anything on it really, and show them whats up
Regarding your mom, I think she just needs time. After some years/perhaps months of you being out and trans she'll realize that this isn't just some thing that will fade away, and hopefully, she'll try to accept you more. Regarding your dad, there sadly isn't much to change, but he is on a good road. Try to show him some trans people, articles, definitions every once and a while. Answer his questions if you'd like. You can't guarantee he'll understand but showing him what being trans really means may help!
I came out in june but my parents don’t respect anything I say to them
I loved your video. After 65 years of settling for unhappiness because of others feelings, I am doing something about it. I have bipolar disorder type 1 and I've finally decided to look after all of my head and I'm starting to let others worry about theirs
I HAVE A QUESTION! How is it possible for a human being to have as big a heart as yours?? Also why can't more people be as amazing as you?? Also I love youuu
My school recently introduced gender neutral bathrooms, I’m so happy!
SO PROUD OF YOU BAE♥️
I recently made a video on my channel about the genderqueer/nonbinary community and this video about Trans people really opened my eyes to certain things! Thanks! ❤
Your hoodie is brighter than me futURE
oh • com mood
I've said this before. About the bathrooms. I don't care who uses the bathroom when I have to pee I have to pee. Anyway growing in the 70's in Los Angeles I went to Two schools that EVERYONE used the Same bathroom and there were Not stalls. The ages were pre-k to Twelve.So forty years later I can still pee anywhere and in front of anyone.
I'm not Trans. I Do TOTALLY RESPECT and SUPPORT YOU ALL. GOD BLESS.
everyone is commenting their genders so are there any fellow nonbinaries here
hello, am genderfluid
@@edgytypebeat781 it's honestly nuts how people can think pan people are transphobic. usually i hear it's the other way around, uneducated people saying anyone who *isn't* pan is transphobic.
Im F2N (non binary) and am trying to find a nickname that's gender neutral and preferably starts with "C" or "Ce" so it's close-ish to my birth name. I haven't come out to my family yet (as enby) plus i dont want to insult my mom by officially changing my name. So it would just be a nickname and only my friends would use it. Do any of you have any ideas?
@@dannystewart4826 Oh that's cool!!!! Thank you!!!!
Hi! I don't know if you've chosen a new name yet, but if you haven't, check out these, they might help you nameberry.com/search/unisex_names/C
@@user-xt3bf8uz9n Thanks, but I already chose one by now though, it's a masculine version of my middle name. (it's Will if you're wondering) But thanks again!
@@caffeination17 Cool, congrats!
you literally make me so happy. i love watching your videos, they're always such a pick me up, i respect you so much. ♥
I once got slandered by a whole lgbt forum for not censoring the word trap (sorry if u is offended). I believe that I lost a little respect for people who display their "trans-status" online, but then again most of the slanders and offended people were all minors and youngsters.
A trap is different from being trans, though. They're basically someone who "cross dresses" or has a more "feminine" appearance, but is male. And vice versa. (im assuming u know this tho lol)
I could see how they were offended if you associated trans people with that term.
your videos have given me the courage and self esteem and reassurance to come out to my friends and family as trans. you make me feel safe and not so alone anymore, because i dont feel like im the only one 💜 thanks, man
my best friend who i belived was a cis female came out to me and
said she was born male and i screamed because i was so happy that she trusted me enough to tell me because she met me online and then she sent me a pic of what she looks like and i didnt even belive she was trans because she looked cis female and she came out to her sister and im so excited for her
I’m trans FtM and basically in the closet from my mum. All of my friends know and are completely supportive, it’s just harder to come out to my family. I’m hoping to be able to accomodate a proper binder soon (at the moment I’m using bandages) and possibly see a gender therapist. It’s unlikely that I’ll be able to without my mum knowing and she doesn’t exactly support me so I doubt that’ll happen. I really want testosterone shots but again, I can’t get them without my mum knowing.
Sam, your videos always help me gain a little more confidence and give me hope that soon I might be able to properly come out to my mum and begin transitioning.
Thank you for making me smile everyday, you truly inspire me ❤️
So do trans men want to be recognized as a trans man or just a man. Or does it differ from person to person.
From what ftm men say when they talk about themself it differs I guess
I would say generally just a man, that's why people go stealth, somebody thinking of you as a trans man instead of a man can be hurtful cus their perception of you may change or they only see you as trans not a man. This isn't universal but even when people are out I feel like they want to be treated as a guy who happens to be trans than a /trans/ guy. imo anyway.
They'd like to be just a man, who happens to have a trans past
David C. I'm a trans man and I just want to be referred to as a man. On most trans men online websites/forms I've been on, most trans men just want to be referred to as men. However, there are some people who want to be referred to as a trans man. However, that's a small minority of trans men.
Thank you all for informing me 😊
Sam you're such a great person and I love how you stated your ideas and personal opinions, I'm trans too (ftm) and you've inspired me so much :) I came out because you were so helpful and I'm glad I have someone to agree with (thoughts, ideas,feelings, etc.) thank you so much Sam. You're doing a great job contributing to the Transgender Community ❤
this just reminded me to do my T shot
Sam struggling to explain things gives me life
TH-cam is going crazy 4 views but 11 likes wtf 😂😂
EDIT:and ur camera is possessed sooo I would buy a new 1 if I were u 😂😖😂
Im trans. I was born female and dress and look female but inside for years its been killing me and tarring apart my self esteem. When i came out to my mother she and her boyfriend made fun of me and made it so much worse. I pushed down the emotions and feelings of needing to be a man. Seeing you explain everything and watching your videos inspired me to stand up and start to do what i can to finally make the change. Thank you so much!!
i haven't watched the video yet but i just need to say that you look good in this video
I had my old counselor who told me that using the men's restroom is a danger to cis men... fucking what? Bullshit that's what it is. Ughhhhhhh she also disclosed confidential information to another client. Like fukkkkk
Last time I was this early was right now
I LUV U!!!! Thx so much for talking about us transwomen who are valid and are women, i find it difficult to explain because people think im lying since im 15 😢
I would like to know what happens if a trans person stop their hormones treatment for both trans girl and boy, do they get back to their original body?
Forever Gone there are some things that reverse and some stay the same even if u stop hormones
YT vlogs What I want to know is what things stay if you stop the hormones, and thanks for answering!
Forever Gone ah, np and I found out by searching it but I forgot what specific thins stay
*things
Forever Gone As far as I know you keep the hairline and deep voice. There are definitely more but I forgot them. Hope this helps :) this is for ftm if you weren't sure.
I'm ftm trans and I honestly like it when people ask questions because it means they're willing to learn and are trying to be as respectful as they can by not getting things wrong
Eyyy i'm early for once. Last time i was this early i thought i was straight hahahahha
I WANT TO BE ALEX AND I WANT TO GO ON T AND I WANT ALL THE SURGERIES BUT I CANT BECAUSE IM NOT OUT AND THOSE ARE ALOT OF MONEY AND IM UPSET (im sorry for all caps but iM UPSET)
(edit like, an hour later: AHHHH I BINDED FOR THE FIRST TIME AND I FEEL GR9 OH MY GOD IM SO HAPPY RN I COULD CRY AND I PROBABLY WILL OH MY GEESUS)
awesome vid👍👌
Yessss. Representing right leaning or conservative trans people 🙌🙌
I just made a youtube video about when I knew I was nonbinary. I talk about alot of stuff. So if anyone is interested in gaining some knowledge on that - check it out! I'd really appreciate it!
Camryn Quinn I'll check it out when I'm done watching this video
Camryn Quinn holy shit im Camryn too.
Sam I'm proud of you for being you and saying how you feel and others may feel about being trans❤️ I love you so much
some people are stupid enough to not know that we're real people.
I'm questioning my gender and sexuality and its hard to find who you are as a person
Love u Sam
i'm at that awkward stage where i kind of pass but not all the time.
i'm at a holiday park and every time i need the toilet i will go all the way back to our room because a few weeks ago i maybe kinda had a mental breakdown so i can't anymore shit
Notifications squad where you at?
I am so glad you stood up for Trans women!
If you are a trans guy and you like girls yay your straight!!!!!! (I am pansexual but, I might become gay? Idk I just feel that change coming on.)
not to sound rude or nosy but nobody explained to me what pansexual is can explain it to me
+Iyanah Williams, sure! Thank you for asking! Pansexual means you like all the genders. So basically you like someone for who they are rather than what's in their pants!
you might become gay? huh, i thought society already established that being gay isn't a choice, maybe the christians are right? Scary thought.
I love Sam. He's a blessing. He's hilarious.
sammmmmmm notice me i love you
You are amazing your videos helped me to understand my boyfriend who is trans even though he can't complete his transition yet and I love him so much. Thank you 😊
Hiiiii
I'm not Trans or anything but know I support all of you! You're amazing and so worth it in this life! you r all beautiful souls! Have a great day or night to who ever reads❤
Basically your saying you being gay doesn't always go with there body parts if there's a trans female to male and they are dating a male there are gay even though they have a girl body part they present as male and want to live as male and if they like male then they are gay even if they have some other girl body parts so you are straight because you live as male you want to present as a male so a male dating a female is straight doesn't matter always on body parts
Christine Redburn yeah p much. My best friend is gay and ftm, meaning he only likes guys, even though he was afab
Damnnn I need to show this video to the ppl in my gender and law class bc even though they respect everything and are very open minded they are also very confused about trans people... good vid btw, really loved it
Sam: "I don't get offended by *anything* "
**makes a whole video talking about how he got misgendered at the store**
This video was actually so good and people need to see this, love you Sam! ❣
FINALLY!!! IT LOADED!!!👌👌
Edit: oh and I haven't seen your merch...like I went to your website and I didn't see anything...😔
*For everyone who says we hate our bodies:* we love our bodies, and although we had to make some changes to it, it doesn't mean we love it any less❤
I am not trans but I support the community 100% my friend is trans and I knew him for a while now. He started his transition about a year or two ago and I had no problem using different pronouns. I was talking to someone and they mentioned his name. However they referred to him as an "it" not a male. It made me so upset. I don't understand why some transgender males and females have such a hard time throughout there transition. It doesn't matter what parts you were born with! It's who you know you are as a person. The same person asked me when my friend decided to be a male. He didn't decide to be anything he was always a male! He just didn't always identify as one. RANT OVER
At 5:34 his voice goes so deep the camera shakes
How hard is it to come out as trans? I feel like my family won't accept me. My whole life I've felt this way and my mom just thinks I'm tying to look trashy by wearing boxy men's shirts and long shorts but really that's what I feel confident in. I told her I feel confinement in that but she doesn't understand at all. She thinks I'm lazy and just don't want to look nice and won't let me cut my hair or anything. She says she supports me but I'm not sure about that. One day she will be rly nice about things and the next she will say "why did u post that ugly picture you look like a boy", what do I do???
I recently came out as trans ftm and my moms trying to make me just be “a butch lesbian” or whatever and saying that it’s bad to alter your hormones in your body. But she says that she’s supportive, it doesn’t seem that way. But she’s made me think like how do I know. She’s convinced that I’ve never said a thing about being a boy before and that it’s out of the blue but I’ve literally grown up wanting to be a guy and never doing stereotypical girl things. I did go through a year and a half of when I was extremely depressed, looking at my sister, thinking she’s pretty and deciding to wear makeup and dresses, I even went as far as to change my voice to a higher pitch and say what she would say, and pretend to be happy but I’m just over it. And now my mom thinks I’m girly. Should I just live my normal life as trans and then when the time comes when I’m old enough to make the decision, maybe go on T?