After finding out that my son, Sam, was struggling with his identity and explaining what was going on in his mind..of course, I was shocked to find out that Sam felt this way and I was confused as well. Perhaps any kids on Sam's channel can share this with their parents as I have first hand experience. My message is for any parents of kids who are struggling with either coming out as trans, gay, lesbian, bi, pansexual, or anything else: I know it's difficult to learn your child does not feel right in the body they were born in.. They feel that their brain does not match the body that they arrived in, or easier understood "they feel they were born into the wrong body". There are cases where it may just be "body dysphoria" or just plain "confusion", or a phase, and you will know from your child's emotions, thoughts, actions, feelings whether it's "real" or not. My best advice is to just educate yourself on what it is they're struggling with. In Sam's case, he knew he was transgender. The only thing I knew about trans at the time (5 years ago) was Chaz Bono. That's the depth of it. I knew nothing else about it. I knew Chaz as Sonny & Cher's beautiful little girl Chastity on their tv show back in the 70's. I just saw that Chastity became a man, now called Chaz. I thought it was a little weird because I didn't understand it. When Sam told me how he felt at age 15, I was clueless..and I was scared more so for Sam, than myself. I did not want anyone hurting my child. He was my life and he still is. He's my only child and he's always been my #1 priority no matter what was going on in my life. As he says in this video, if you choose to have children, you should support and accept what your kid is going through.If you feel like you're struggling as a parent, think about what your kid has or is going through. I did not know what Sam was dealing with when he was 12-14, I just thought it was normal teen behavior..He was a tomboy, so was I, so no flags went up. He was constantly on the computer and I was aware he was pretending to be a boy in games but again, I didn't think anything of it. He was always around more boys than girlswhen he was younger, he hated girl toys or any feminine clothes. He acted like a little boy growing up but he looked like a girl..again, I thought "ok, Sam is a tomboy, it's alright. Eventually he'll be feminine". Again, that never happened. So if you are deciding to be non supportive to whatever your child is going through because you don't have "time" or just want them to be "normal", maybe the best choice would be to at least educate yourself, go to a therapist who specializes in trans, gay, lesbian or bi issues, join a support group of parents going through the same thing (I did that).There's endless resources on the internet about all of these things. I felt ALONE, SCARED and LOSTwhen Sam first came out to me, I didn't know what to do, who to talk to, educating myself about transgender consumed my life..but I learned so much about it and discovered how much stuff my kid was dealing with and then I felt guilty about everything, like "why did this happen to Sam, what did I do wrong raising him, did I do something wrong while being pregnant with Sam that may have caused this"? These are all normal reactions and questions a parent will ask themselves.. If any of you would like advice, you can write me. I would be happy to share my story and give advice that may help you and your child :)
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In fourth grade I would look at a dude and think dang you're so lucky to be a guy and just wanting to be born them so I would be a dude. Then I get mad at them because they were born guys and I wasn't. I thought it was extremely unfair and get mad and upset with my body for being a girl's, I didn't agree with my body from a young age. Like when I saw a guy it honestly hurt me so bad because they could be a guy and no would care but if I did people would start to care. Still questioning gender but everything I've figured out about me feels like it's hitting me upside the head and going "you're a dude you moron!"
Sam, as I told you already, this is the best video you've ever made. I'm so very proud to call you my son. I smile everyday because you are happy....finally. After struggling for many years, inside and alone, not telling anyone not even me... you are finally free to be YOU. If I knew back then what you were going through and what thoughts were entering your mind, I of course would've helped you. I thought it was just "normal teen stuff, I had no clue. We did get through alot and of course I would do anything for you including fighting that school and getting you the education you deserved just like any other student. You inspire so many and are helping others every day since you came out and again, I can't be any more proud of you. You are a brave, strong, special, genuine, kind hearted soul and anyone that can't see that, does not deserve to be in your life. That includes part of our family that are not supportive. We don't need them. You only need the people around you who truly love and support you. Keep doing what you do hon, I love you so much :) Mom
Anyone would be lucky to have you as their mother and friend. Thank you for supporting the LGBT community and your family like you do. All of us subscribers and fans are truly thankful that Sam is here and that we get to hear his words and be inspired by him.
Sam talks like how you talk to a friend. So real, raw and uncensored. There's not a lot of people out there on the internet or in real life. Props to you bro, keep it up. And amazing message in the video
my mom was also in denial at first but she let me wear "boy" clothes and cut my hair and my grandma would constantly criticize her for letting me "look gay" and my mom would always say "i want my kid to be happy. that's what's important most" and yeah idk I'm v lucky for a supportive family
I told my mom I was trans and she doesn’t call me by male pronouns, doesn’t call me by my non- birth name (?) and forces me into dresses. She said she would accept me but I don’t find that accepting at all.
My mom said she wouldn't care if i was transgender or lesbian, but then I came out to her and she legitimately said "oh this is just a phase" and then like a week ago she said I dont accept the fact you're lesbian ( IM TRANSGENDER) "our family is small and you cant have kids" like I can always adopt and she has my straight cis sister and she can have her fucking grandkids
@@yourlocalgremlin933 Idk if you've heard of WOW (world of warcraft), but I'm a girl who used to play with a boy avatar sometimes. My dad didn't really care lol.
sam, if it makes u feel better at all I'm bisexual and i told my best friend that i thought i could trust and she told the whole class and now i get bullied and shoved into my locker everyday and I can't ask my mom to switch my school and stuff and I'm afraid to the to tell her cause she never misses a week of church and she's aways saying don't forget its against the bible to no be straight HOPE U READ THIS COMMENT AND REPLY K BYE
that soudns so bad omg, i know many religious people who are open minded and it angers me to see the ones who force it so much on their children about being :straight" or whatever, but if i were u i would keep it on the low for now, just ot yourself because apparently you arent able to trust ur best friend which sucks
OMG, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!!!!! I am going to immediately go show your video to my child right now! I desperately want him to be comfortable in his own FTM transgender body. I have been fighting family, been disowned by some and currently going through a divorce because I will NOT put ANYONE ahead of my baby!!! My son is 14 years old, a freshman and going through some things at school. I am on a mission to do any and everything I can to make sure he will be a confident person and live his life to the fullest. Again, thank you!
good for you and it is great you are supporting your child... :) its not easy. I'm Sam's mom.. it was difficult to hear him tell me he was transgender, as I didn't really even know what it meant.. research, educate yourself and surround yourself with openminded people. If you have any questions for me, please ask me.
Im currently in the 'hannah montana' stage to be honest. My mum knows something is up with my gender but doesn't seem to care. On the internet everyone accepts me and knows about me and doesn't care. I don't know if i'll ever properly come out because i'm just too scared of everyone around me deserting me for being me
Same I'm to scared to tell anybody but then i felt like i should tell my best friend so i did and she told the whole class and 2 days later it was all over the school
I did it a lot when I was younger as well looking back. I would say I was "Jake" when i played online games and things. Nowdays on social media which people from school nor family I am Jett
thank you so much for sharing this. Like, that 'hannah montana' stage and the 'i want to be him' thing is just, it hit home a lot and watching this video has really inspired me to try and talk to people about it and i just want to thank you for that. Thank you for being such an inspiration, thank you for opening up, and thank you for being there for people.
Sam thank you so much for this. I have non accepting parents that told me I was mentally ill for being trans and that I need help. After watching this I feel so much better
Right,I'm gonna be honest, I see so many videos on TH-cam that are meant to be "inspiration" but if I'm gonna be real, this is one of the most inspirational videos I've seen. The reason for this is because , you talk about the bad times, and tell your audience to get through that, but then you say the good times after them bad times. So all I have to say is thank you for inspiring me to keep going sam!
This is such a powerful video. I myself am not transgender, but I really believe everyone should see this. This was so many life lessons, and told from your viewpoint. I value you greatly as a person and now look up to you, thank you for just existing still and getting through everything.
I'm a 15 year old FtM from Houston ,Tx And when I was 6 years old I had a new teacher who noticed my "masculine " behavior and she would get mad when my friends would call me a boy or "Gary" (a nickname I picked -///-) she found out that I told my friends I was going to be a boy when I grew up and before long she had the school call in a therapist they pulled me out of my class and had me speak with them (my memory is a bit foggy) and then I went home and told my mom she got mad and confronted my teacher who said if I recall "your child is a transsexual and needs to be fixed " my mother got mad and they had an argument where my teacher called my mother insane after that she would fail every single paper I would turn in,she wouldn't let me join in in fun class activities and she would look at me weird .like before she became my teacher I loved school , i was a cheerful kid who was comfortable telling other people that I wanted to be a boy but after she came into my life it got to the point where I would beg my mother in tears that I did it want to go to school. She confronted the school principal about this but they said my teacher was a very caring person who was looking out for me ,in the end I was transferred to a different school .it took me a long time to be able to accept myself after that but because of what happened I'm a proud and stronger person now my parents fully accept me and thanks for reading
I hope you read this c: I've come out a few times to my parents and friends as ftm. My friends are supportive but my parents are a little confused. I admit to second guessing myself a lot because of people putting me down or telling me I'm not [bleh, ect. ] But I've stood my ground and have presented as male for about a year and a half now. I am still a young teen •-• holy fuck. And honestly, I'm just doing my best to focas on grades and homework instead of drama and hyperfocasing everything on my identity. Since it is only a little part of who I am, I kinda just want it to not be the only thing floating around my head all the time. I feel like if I just chill and be my manly self [lmao] then it won't be so hard. Last year when I was fretting about my future I guess I just made it harder for myself-, but y'know! Life is tough man! IT SQUEEZES LEMONS IT YOUR EYES! Q-Q T^T I feel for you as I too have had some pretty wrecked up stuff happen in my life. (I relate with the social media thing and not having a father around. ) I found out how my biological father killed himself, my step dad left a lot- I could state *everything* but gettin to the point, I know this is only the beginning of my life and the hurdles are just going to keep coming. I'm going to keep up my dreams of creating animation and trying to LIVE because I deserve to be happy. And you.. my friend.. Give me hope. Please, please keep making videos, Sam. You're an amazing voice to be heard for the trans community and you make me so happy man. -Zacharie.
I'm not transgender. but I have a girlfriend. my father hates me for it. my mother disowned me... so I get the depression part.. I've been through that... I'm still going through that.. I've hit my low and I've been trying to get back up since then. it's hard. Its really really hard... 😞
I'm bisexual and want to be a guy. I told my mum this and she says it's just a phase. I'm 15, I've also been suffering from depression for 6 years. She says again it's just a phase. I've got my hair cut short. My 30 year old sister calls me a lesbian for it. She acts as if it's a bad thing. I keep isolating myself from others.
I was born female, i'm confused about my current identity, but for all intents and purposes just go along with being female, despite being a giant adult tomboy. But i relate with a lot of these childhood things. I also always pretending i was a guy online, like way up to maybe 10th grade. And although i'm pretty sure i'm straight, and into guys, i also always thought i wanted to be that guy too, like i'd think "i want to be with him, but also be him" and i don't know what that means but it's been a confusing time.
neonavery I understand how you feel. When I was figuring things out, I told myself that it is impossible to be ftm and like guys and that I'm just a (really weird) girl, who likes guys. Obviously that doesn't make sense because attracktion and gender are not connected. But I was afraid to be different. and I'm also always confused if I like the guy, want to be him, or both^^
neonavery also, check out Elliot Fletcher on the AmbiguiT channel :) he's bisexual I think and talks about it in his vids. And remember, no matter who are what you are. You are valid and beautiful :) :)
I sent both of my parents your video called "Dear Parents of Trans Teens" and they both accepted me completely. Thank you so much for posting that and explaining everything so amazingly. Love you fam
I came out to my mom before as Lesbian/gay but she was so mad at me for like the longest & would always tell me how pretty I was and that I couldn't be lesbian for that reason and because "so many guys" liked me...well, mom I don't like fucken guys so...what's the point? She yelled @ me so badly & made me feel like complete shit :( So...nowadays I have to pretend that I'm straight because she's so homophobic, she has a gay hairstylist, but won't accept me? (Her own daughter) wtf is that bullshit?! It just completely depresses me how I have to pretend that I'm like this straight girl who just loves makeup,,, when in reality I don't even like wearing makeup or being a girl! I'd be so happy if I could be a boy 😞😫 One of my sister's is homophobic as well...my little sister & dad are understanding though, even though I haven't came out as transgender yet, & tbh I'm way too scared 😔 I wish my mom would love me for me
Joanna Vivero I'm really sorry your parents are like that. My parents won't accept me being pansexual and it sucks cuz I rarely get to see my significant other. It's honestly gonna go uphill for you once you've moved out and you'll find more and more people who support you. I wish you the best of luck. 💕💕💕
Im not a trans but I understand you.. I get so mad when people cant accept people for who they are(here in lithuania we dont even have trans surgeries).. Good luck In the future and may your wish of being trans comes true
Hello Sam, i have a question. I came out to my mom a year ago about being ftm. I've asked her a couple times if she can use my perfered pronouns and name but her response is that she had a friend whom is also ftm and his mom calls him, "her baby "girl"" but she uses other transfolks perfered pronouns but she doesn't use mine and she doesn't really like when i wear my binder. it hurts but im not sure what to do. If you or anybody can give me advice I'd very much appreciate it. thank you. --Le awkward bean, Eren
Anime Emerald i'm in the same situation but i've been out almost 3 yrs to my mom as ftm. theres nothing you can do other than wait. she will come around, its just more difficult for her to see you in a different light than what she saw as you grew up.
Anime Emerald The your happiness comes first. Show her a video about dysphoria and tell her that's how you feel when she calls u the wrong pronouns. Maybe? I hope that helps and I hope one day she will come around and accept you. And wear a binder no matter what she says, if it makes you feel comfortable.
i'm just 12 but i came out as trans to pretty much everyone, i was like how you said. acting like a guy online then being a girl in the real world. i always had good friends online until one day someone exposed my voice and it sounded like a girl which made everyone question me. i came out as trans online at first. i know this sounds confusing but in 5th grade i knew something wasn't right. i felt so different, i hanged out with the guys i did guy stuff my guy friends even saw me as a guy, people said i was a tomboy so i accepted it cause i didn't like any girl related. but at that time puberty came along and i thought that i needed to accept how i was born. over the summer i came along a video about a trans man. it inspired the hell out of me like i got this joy inside of me like this is the who i wanna be. i came out to my cousin a month later and she reacted in a good way cause at that time she was a really big fan of Justin Blake and i didn't have a clue who that was until i found him online. 6th grade came along and i didn't like it, i lost all my friends and i didn't have anyone. i started having crushes on girls that i talked to and i thought, am i lesbian?! remember i was 11 and i hardly knew anything about being trans. i later gained friends and they were all girls. i had a crush on pretty much all of them. at that time i told one of my friends that i was trans and stuff and i asked her if she could call me Alex, she agreed to it. i was so happy about it that it gave me the confidence to come out to other people. so i did, half of my friends refused to and it hurt the shit out of me especially when my fucking bestfriend said it to me, some were happy and reacted in such a good way and said very nice stuff but still refused to call me Alex. i knew they were confused about it and they weren't sure of it. i always wore guy clothes my uniform was legit guy clothing and i looked stupid to everyone. i started isolating myself at that point i thought i wasn't good enough to be a guy and stuff that i eventually started crying every night, having break downs. 6th grade ended and 7th grade came along, this was the year i knew i felt something good about myself. later into the year i came out as trans to my new friends i made. they asked me if i was okay with them using Alex and the male pronouns i was so happy like i was freaking out, once again i told my bestfriend to call me Alex cause everyone else was and she was always complaining to make them stop etc. she refused again and i stopped talking to her for awhile. this is where other people found out i still didn't have a haircut and stuff so i still looked like a girl and people would always question me saying "why do people call you Alex and call you a guy when you're not one" i started cutting after all those questions. i couldn't handle it honestly, one of my close friends who are now one of my exs;-; started crying because of everything she was worried about me. she told the counselors about me and i got called down and they called my parents and etc. months pass and it's January 2018. i still feel like i had to come out to my parents, again months pass (just one passed lmao) my dad left and he's in mexico trying to come back because of some stuff that happened with him and his papers, it's May and I still haven't seen him:( but anyways it's now February, i talked to the counselors about how i felt. my friends were telling me to go and do it but i always got so scared, i built enough courage and i did. the counselors planned a meeting with my mom like that i could come out to her cause i was scared cause of how she would react. so i did, she didn't react in a good way at all. the counselors gave her stuff to read and till this day she forgot about all of it and never bothered to read about how i felt. it still hurts me till this day. after that meeting i left the counselors meeting room and went back to class in tears. everyone was asking what was wrong with me:/ one of my friends legit hugged me so tight and just stayed there for me. weeks later and i got a haircut i convinced my mom that i was sick and tired of my long hair and she let me get a haircut. at this time i was dating someone and i thought oh this would be good like that people wouldn't see me as a lesbian person because i was dating a girl and people are idiots these days and say shit about EVERYTHING. later my sister came back because she was with my dad. i came out to her and she yelled at me that i would never be a guy even if i tried. that crushed me and made me start cutting again. she found out a month later and yelled at me that i'm an idiot and why i was cutting again. i lied and said it was about our dad, the truth was i was cutting cause she didn't accept me:/ one day she invited her trans friend over and i didn't know. later when he left she yelled at me that she knows me more then i know myself. like if you fucking knew me you would know how i fucking felt right? she always asked about my sexuality but never my gender which confused the fuck out of me. now the ending of April came along, one of my teachers bought me a binder and i was so happy like this was finally happening. i got a haircut the next day and i came out as trans to the whole school. i went to the counselors to talk about bathroom issues i was having, people would STARE at me like a fucking freak like wtf. i asked if i could use the nurses bathroom and they said it was okay. i asked if the teachers could call me Alex infront of the class and they asked if i was sure about it and i said that i was ready. when i came out to the school i had to mention my sexuality cause i knew people would call me a Lesbian if i got caught dating an other girl (my girlfriend who's now my ex broke up with me because of her bullshit parents.-. , but were friends) now people in my school accept me.. well the 7th graders, and some highschool freshman students do but not the 6th or 8th graders.-. but now i feel more comfortable with people yeah i get the question of "are you a girl?" alot, people fight about me saying that i'm a girl and shit and my friends or even strangers defend me which means A LOT to me:') but yeahhhh
I cryied so fucking much at the dad passing away part i have the exact same relationship with my dad and I just can’t imagine my life without him even if he is not around every single day that’s tough so proud of you 🥺❤️🩹❤️🩹
A kid on my bus asked me why I had "Leo" on my backpack so I told him the truth that I'm FtM and that's my preferred name and he said "oh ok, cool." That was a good start to my day (I don't mind telling random people if they ask because it's not like they have access to my parents)
Thank you for sharing this. Although I may not have gone through this myself. I have male friends who transitioned into males and still have a hard time processing it all and feel awkward sharing the story. I've showed them your channel and I feel it's really helping them. Thank you Sam for being so fearless. Lots of love
making this video, opening yourself completely up for all of us, and telling us everything really takes a lot and i am so thankful for you doing this. i am so proud of you and i really can't thank you enough for helping so many other people with things like this. i know so many people struggle with coming out and being who they are, but i think that you're really helping a lot of these people. thank you for opening up and telling us your story, i'm so proud of you sam and i will never stop saying that. i love you so much❤️
I've been saying for a year that I'm going to wait until college to come out to my parents (I'm a senior in highschool but I'm 16). Recently, something in the back of my mind has been convincing me to come out to them soon. The issue is, I live with a a really transphobic grandfather and I'm not sure how my dad would take it. Any tips?
Jakob Rose id advise saying something about a trans actor or celebrity infront of your dad like "oh laverne cox is amazing, esp bc she doesnt let being trans stop her!" or "caitlyn jenner is so brave for coming out after so mamy years as presenting as a man, im proud of /her/" and see how your dad reacts
Honestly there is no tips when it comes to this.. for sure, you can try to talk about those subjects at home just to see how your dad will react, but you know it will always be different from the reaction that he will have when it will come to you. Also, don't think too much about it and don't imagine his reaction. It's probably going to be difficult, but you can't leave your life pretending to be someone else, you will reach a time when you will need to come out so have courage and say it
Try to explain your personal lived experience, because a lot of transphobes assume it's something you pick up from other people. Don't tell them what you've been doing to relieve dysphoria, but say things like "When I had to wear that outfit for the party I felt really disgusting and I wanted so badly to wear something else.", "when my friends do [gendered thing] I feel really left out", "When I look in the mirror I feel [this way or that way]" etc etc, just whatever ways dysphoria affect you throughout your life. They may not understand transness or queerness, or the language we use, but they will understand feelings and experiences. Hope this isn't too late to be useful. Good luck!!
I'm a new subscriber, but I'm glad I subscribed. I may not be dealing with anything like this, but you are an inspiration to so many people who are. I'm glad they have someone like you to care and give advice and just be there for people 😊
Hey Sam, I'm a trans ftm kid.. but I don't know how to come out to my mom yet. I'm 15 years old and soon going to be 16. I have come out to some people(online friends) and they have been accepting, but I don't know how to tell her:((
1,000 Subscribers With No Videos I already told her that, but she said she wouldn't want to tell anyone of my fam members. its been a year and a half since I came out as "lesbian" and she hasnt told anybody. that's why I'm afraid to tell her I'm trans because she might do the same thing and eventually keeping me from transitioning..
+Gabriella Damico You can try writing a long letter to her about your feelings and how u wanna continue your life and you really want her to understand, just basically write about how you feel..I think a letter is way more better than saying it eyes to eyes.
I'm a transguy and I knew I felt different ever since I was a little kid. It sucks not being able to figure out why you feel this way for years and eventually find out later in life.
It really amazes me how many kids are going thru this today.. it just is truly amazing.. and I'm so proud of my son, Sam, for coming out publicly on TH-cam and being an inspiration and giving advice after himself going thru hell for years. Sam and I will be making a video in a week or so, about what he went thru younger, and how he told me, etc..so hoping all will tune in :)
You are truly an inspiration. You have gone through so much in your life, yet you still stand strong and follow your dreams. I have seen all your videos and every single time you always end up making me smile and inspire me to not be afraid of who I am. Thank you so much for being an inspiration to many. I love you Sam
I'm v appreciative that you took the time to share intimate portions of your life, solely to benefit the lives of others. It's a great thing you're doing, honestly.
I watch this video all the time and it makes me cry everytime..I'm so proud of you Sam, I love you to the moon and back. You are my entire world and I'm inspired by how you live your life, being who you are and happy and helping other kids that are struggling with what you did. Keep it up.. Love always, Mom :)
honestly the fact that you kept your head up through all of this and you're happier now and everything makes me so happy, I'm beyond proud of you Sam 💕 much love and if you're ever feeling down you can hmu whenever
the phase you were talking about where you said you hated yourself kinda describes me right now. I came out about being trans to my friends and sister. before I realized I was trans my mom and dad would talk about how trans people are stupid and stuff and it honestly scares me to tell them because I'm scared they will like not accept it and tell me to be normal. which I know my parents love me I'm just scared :(((
even though i'm not dealing with specifically what you've talked about, watching your videos still helps me accept myself in other ways and gain strength and that means so much! i honestly can't thank you enough, sam!
Thank you so much for this video, it honestly doesn’t matter to me that it was made 5 years ago, just hearing your story really helped me a lot, even though that sounds cliche.
I discovered your channel two days ago and I've already watched a lot of your videos! I know that everyone has their own experiences, but actually I really need to ear different stories and stuff...It's been a month that I've started questioning myself about my identity and I'm really confused. I've always known that something was different about me, but I didn't wanted to understand it, maybe because I had too much stereotypes in my head..Now, I'm starting to see all the evidences that I have: I've always been jealous of my brother and his friends or of the boys in my school. I was also really happy when I could dress or act " like a boy " so inside of me, I know who I want to be.. but at the same time, during the day, I always change my mind: I say to myself that I can't change who I am, that inside of me, I will always be a woman, that people won't truly see me as a boy especially my family.. I can't imagine a future as a boy, I'm not comfortable with people calling me as a boy (a few of my friends already did it) and all that stuff.. it's confusing as hell because I don't want to be a woman, but I don't know if I truly want to be a boy...maybe it's because I'm confused right now or because I just don't believe in all that " boys have to do that " and "girls have to do that".. I can't really explain it, but I just feel like we are all human, we should have the chance to just do what we want and not having those labels on us: girl / boy. I don't know I feel like if I start my transition, I will go against my convictions that girls can do what boys do. and as the same time, like I said, I can't live my life as I am right now... At the end of the day I need those kind of videos to help me because I feel alone against all that shit and all my questions so sorry for my long text, but you really help me and I'm sure that there is a lot of people like me so thanks
I know this is 3 years late, but I’m 19 and have finally started my transition. I went through a really similar timeline and still sometimes find myself in the low spot of not seeing a future and hating myself, but I’m getting better. Videos like this and people like you remind me that things do get better and that there is a future for me, so thank you
It’s ridiculous how similar our thoughts and behavior was as a kid. Like literally all you said 1-13 was the exact way I experienced the things. (Except liking girls) Even the name Jack you used on the internet was the same. It’s ridiculous 😂
What a wonderful video. I am an author and recently had a book published called FTM. I have several FTMs that I subscribe to and did so much research. I wrote the book to help parents, family and friends. The boys don't need to read it, they already know what they were going through. I think you and other trans boys are the strongest people on earth. It really upsets me when people say bad things about you because they are stupid and have no idea what you go thru. No one would choose to do that unless it was necessary. I give you such admiration for your strength.
so proud of you for being so open and for being such an amazing person after everything you went through. im always gonna be here whether you think so or not. i love you.
The fact that my life is almost exactly like yours was, is crazy- down to saying I'm a guy online to my mom being in denial and to not being able to see my dad until I was 8.
Popcorn is so mainstream. Funyuns are where it's at. Anyway, Sam, I'm so happy you got through all of that since a lot of people don't. You've helped me out a lot and you are awesome.
love your personality so much :) and you are honestly so intelligent for your age haha. just the ability to self reflect / empathize with others' experiences. binge watching right now XD
I'm not transgender but for some reason always find myself watching FTM youtube videos. It's so interesting to learn about. No matter how perfect someone's life seems from the outside, everyone has their own personal struggles. I personally struggle from depression and it's encouraging to see that it gets better. Thanks for these videos :)
Here is my story (but I haven't started T yet) 1-8 I know I was different and while I got older I kept telling myself, "I want to be a boy" And "my life would be so much better is I was a boy" And that's all I would think about like Sam I didn't like feminine clothes or toys but I had to wear them. 9-now after the years passed by I refused to wear feminine clothes and those thoughts of wanting to be a male came back and I was confused cuz I didn't know what was happening or if it was normal and then I found out what transgender was. I was okay after a while but I envied a trans guy (my friend) at my school a little bit and then I started questioning my gender and I looked up videos about transgender and dysphoria. And now I believe I am transgender. I've asked my friends and my significant other (they told me they were gender fluid and I feel bad when I use female or male pronouns on them) to call me by male pronouns and call me by my male name (Dean if anyone was wondering) I have four friends who call me by my birth name and just refuse to call me by what I want to be call but I don't really care all I care about is that my significant other accepts it and they do. (So does my best guy best friend (he's part of the LGBTQ community) and literally almost everyone who is part of the LGBTQ community in one way or other accepts it and calls me what I want to be called by)
When I was younger, I always picked girly things, I loved pink, and I was weirded out when people thought I was a boy when I cut my hair short. I pretended to like boys cause I was pressured to by my cousins and friends. Then puberty happened, and now I get extreme body and social dysphoria and hate anything girly. I guess i always knew I was different, but I just went with the flow and never stated my own opinions. Looking back, I never really liked any of these things. I just had expectations set, and because I have always been terrified of being wrong, I agreed. If I had the willpower to do so, I would've been way more myself then.
So lately I've been dealing with trying to come out to my friends I've told four of them and three out of the four were really accepting which made me so happy. But now I feel that since I'm in 10th grade and I really want to start testosterone, I should come out to my mom. I've went through really bad depression and I still kind of am, so knowing that other people went through it gives me hope that I can get through it. I was about to go to a party last week and it was formal and as soon as I heard I had to wear a dress I told my mom I wasn't going to go.. so she asked me if I wanted to be a guy and I got all defensive and said that it shouldn't matter if I did or not.. my mom is very strict and against a lot of things. Thank you so much! Because your videos mean so much by actually helping explain everything.
I identify so much with what you said, almost equal to my story,the way I foundout it and how I reacted was just like what you said, i love ya sam thank you so much for this video.
this made me cry, i came out to my parents recently and they didn't take it well but i plan on showing them this video to make them understand. this entire video was exactly how i felt during elementary and middle school and the beginning of high school. im almost 16 and really hoping i'll be able to transition soon
As a thirteen year old identifying with almost everything in this video (gender swapped) its good to know other people feel the same, and not everyone trans questioned their gender since they were a toddler.
I'm literally living this rn. I'm only 15, but I'm living this reality so far. I understand the pains as well. It's not exactly the same, but our stories are so similar. Thank you for being here, Sam. I'm so proud of you and I hope I can become similar to you, successful. This is an old video, but thank you for making it. Thank you.
I came out to my mom on March 1st, 2018, I’m 12 years old and before I came out to my mom I had therapy for my anxiety. When I came out to my mom I was in school, and me being stupid I CANE OUT TO HER THROUGH TEXT!! My anxiety makes me not trust my mom and that makes me feel horrible because my mom is the only person I should trust. When I came out to her she made my therapists come about 2-3 times a week because of my trans “problem.” One of my therapists was a guy and my other was a woman. My guy therapist was named Roy and he was supportive of my being trans, he used he/him/his pronouns on me and overall respected me. My girl therapist was kind a little bit on my mom’s side and didn’t use my pronouns and probably thought it was a phase. When my mom found out that Roy (one of my therapists) was being supportive of me, she made him stop coming to give me therapy, and I was just sad and angry. Now I have no therapists anymore that will be able to help me. My mom still thinks it’s a phase, and it annoys me. At this point, I just need some support. (Btw I’m just starting to come out to people at school as FTM trans and gay. I’ve decided to come out to everyone at school on the last day of school May 25th.)
I just turned 18, I really need to know how to get on testosterone, or like different ways I can be able to get it. I'm having a hard time trying. Like I've seen other trans youtubers talk about how they got it, but I really want to hear how you were able to get it.
sam, thank you so much. i am an ftm transgender too, i have a emotionally abusive mom, who keeps making up lame excuses for not supporting me. as a matter of fact, my moms whole side of the family is controlling. i keep telling her that i need a therapist, and she keeps saying that once i get "better grades", she will get me a therapist. i really hate this idea because it means that my mom would not pay for her child's happiness unless they get straight A's. my dad sort of just brushed it off when i came out to him. later, he started to call it an "identity crisis". he also started to drink and vape. because of all this, i have marks on my wrist, which i hate myself for. every day i cry like crazy because of how i am treated by my own family. not only all that, but i am sometimes called a girl on purpose in school. thank you so much for being an amazing, helpful and supportive person, and we will always be there for you.
the parts where you talk about being really young to the parts about realising you were trans and hating yourself for it pretty much reflect my entire life up until i was about 15 usually i can't really relate to other people's stories or experiences or anything but it was so great to find this and see that i'm not the only one who went through it like you described in this video big up to you, gonna watch the rest of your videos now
my mom isnt very accepting and its so hard because like she won't let me transition fully and it sucks I also came out to the internet and my mom found it and all hell broke loose and its just horrible for me right now
There are parents that would't let their kids transition because they think either that is wrong or they just don't want to do that because they are scared for themselves when they should really be scared for the child that came out of her womb.
you have no idea how happy I am to hear that you didn't do anything to yourself bc you're the reason for my happiness and I have no idea what I'd do without you. thank you Sam, i'm so fucking beyond proud of you
"because I use to be a girl if you guys are fucking lost for some reason" LMAO you're so cuteeeee
wanna get married? lol that's not a real question, we're married 💜💙 you're honestly so perfect
+LegitimatelyOctavia ikr. Hes cuter than most guys i seen XDD
Holy dog I made it 666 likes hell yeah
After finding out that my son, Sam, was struggling with his identity and explaining what was going on in his mind..of course, I was shocked to find out that Sam felt this way and I was confused as well. Perhaps any kids on Sam's channel can share this with their parents as I have first hand experience. My message is for any parents of kids who are struggling with either coming out as trans, gay, lesbian, bi, pansexual, or anything else: I know it's difficult to learn your child does not feel right in the body they were born in.. They feel that their brain does not match the body that they arrived in, or easier understood "they feel they were born into the wrong body". There are cases where it may just be "body dysphoria" or just plain "confusion", or a phase, and you will know from your child's emotions, thoughts, actions, feelings whether it's "real" or not. My best advice is to just educate yourself on what it is they're struggling with. In Sam's case, he knew he was transgender. The only thing I knew about trans at the time (5 years ago) was Chaz Bono. That's the depth of it. I knew nothing else about it. I knew Chaz as Sonny & Cher's beautiful little girl Chastity on their tv show back in the 70's. I just saw that Chastity became a man, now called Chaz. I thought it was a little weird because I didn't understand it. When Sam told me how he felt at age 15, I was clueless..and I was scared more so for Sam, than myself. I did not want anyone hurting my child. He was my life and he still is. He's my only child and he's always been my #1 priority no matter what was going on in my life. As he says in this video, if you choose to have children, you should support and accept what your kid is going through.If you feel like you're struggling as a parent, think about what your kid has or is going through. I did not know what Sam was dealing with when he was 12-14, I just thought it was normal teen behavior..He was a tomboy, so was I, so no flags went up. He was constantly on the computer and I was aware he was pretending to be a boy in games but again, I didn't think anything of it. He was always around more boys than girlswhen he was younger, he hated girl toys or any feminine clothes. He acted like a little boy growing up but he looked like a girl..again, I thought "ok, Sam is a tomboy, it's alright. Eventually he'll be feminine". Again, that never happened. So if you are deciding to be non supportive to whatever your child is going through because you don't have "time" or just want them to be "normal", maybe the best choice would be to at least educate yourself, go to a therapist who specializes in trans, gay, lesbian or bi issues, join a support group of parents going through the same thing (I did that).There's endless resources on the internet about all of these things. I felt ALONE, SCARED and LOSTwhen Sam first came out to me, I didn't know what to do, who to talk to, educating myself about transgender consumed my life..but I learned so much about it and discovered how much stuff my kid was dealing with and then I felt guilty about everything, like "why did this happen to Sam, what did I do wrong raising him, did I do something wrong while being pregnant with Sam that may have caused this"? These are all normal reactions and questions a parent will ask themselves.. If any of you would like advice, you can write me. I would be happy to share my story and give advice that may help you and your child :)
Sheila J. How does this not have any replies.
There was someone who needed advice, they wrote a comment for you I guess they didn't see yours but at the end of their comment they left their email for you
Sheila J. This is such a sweet message.
This is so amazingly sweet
im late but this is super sweet, i wish all parents could be so supportive
"i wanted to be him" that hit close to home and it gave me a better grasp on who i was
YES!
In fourth grade I would look at a dude and think dang you're so lucky to be a guy and just wanting to be born them so I would be a dude. Then I get mad at them because they were born guys and I wasn't. I thought it was extremely unfair and get mad and upset with my body for being a girl's, I didn't agree with my body from a young age. Like when I saw a guy it honestly hurt me so bad because they could be a guy and no would care but if I did people would start to care. Still questioning gender but everything I've figured out about me feels like it's hitting me upside the head and going "you're a dude you moron!"
I remember how I admired Ned from Ned's Survival Gids or Saf from Degrassi back in the day (as watching TV was my life) and now I get why lol
I hit me hard
Sam, as I told you already, this is the best video you've ever made. I'm so very proud to call you my son. I smile everyday because you are happy....finally. After struggling for many years, inside and alone, not telling anyone not even me... you are finally free to be YOU. If I knew back then what you were going through and what thoughts were entering your mind, I of course would've helped you. I thought it was just "normal teen stuff, I had no clue. We did get through alot and of course I would do anything for you including fighting that school and getting you the education you deserved just like any other student. You inspire so many and are helping others every day since you came out and again, I can't be any more proud of you. You are a brave, strong, special, genuine, kind hearted soul and anyone that can't see that, does not deserve to be in your life. That includes part of our family that are not supportive. We don't need them. You only need the people around you who truly love and support you. Keep doing what you do hon, I love you so much :) Mom
You are like the best mom ever... how- how do you do that-
You are like the most supportive mom ever :) Glad Sam has a mom like you to help him out
You are an amazing mother
So sweeeeeet!
Anyone would be lucky to have you as their mother and friend. Thank you for supporting the LGBT community and your family like you do. All of us subscribers and fans are truly thankful that Sam is here and that we get to hear his words and be inspired by him.
Sam talks like how you talk to a friend. So real, raw and uncensored. There's not a lot of people out there on the internet or in real life. Props to you bro, keep it up. And amazing message in the video
i love this comment
I agree. Sam is amazing and he inspires thousands of people everyday.
Sam’s videos: **bleep** **grinning** **truth**
your hair matches your shirt
lol yeah
*Voltron*
@@noblethenewt yessss Keith!!!
@@zoeyedwards1949 *Kirishima*
Bakugo x Kirishima ship has entered the chat
honestly.. touching. I sleep better at night knowing it is possible for people to truly become what they know they are, in their heart.
my mom was also in denial at first but she let me wear "boy" clothes and cut my hair and my grandma would constantly criticize her for letting me "look gay" and my mom would always say "i want my kid to be happy. that's what's important most" and yeah idk I'm v lucky for a supportive family
I wish all parents were like your mom :(
TYSM
Sheila J. Pls adopt me lol
Sheila J.
YOU'RE SO NICE 🙌
I told my mom I was trans and she doesn’t call me by male pronouns, doesn’t call me by my non- birth name (?) and forces me into dresses. She said she would accept me but I don’t find that accepting at all.
My mom said she wouldn't care if i was transgender or lesbian, but then I came out to her and she legitimately said "oh this is just a phase" and then like a week ago she said I dont accept the fact you're lesbian ( IM TRANSGENDER) "our family is small and you cant have kids" like I can always adopt and she has my straight cis sister and she can have her fucking grandkids
I hate it when I see a guy and I think "I want to be like him" it's really annoying but it's so true.
Can relate
Oof me too
so same :(
me.
Omg same...
Lmfao bro. I pretended to be a boy online too. I always chose the boy avatar. xD
Step Jay that's the non-binary flag right?
I tried once, my friend judged me. I knew they could see it. And then I stopped playing that game
Same! X3
@@yourlocalgremlin933 Idk if you've heard of WOW (world of warcraft), but I'm a girl who used to play with a boy avatar sometimes. My dad didn't really care lol.
Same
Am I the only one that actually paused the video to go get popcorn?
i hope not bc i know damn well i would
Jackson M. I paused to get a strawberry lol
i made noodles
@Madeleine Me too lol
Lol I paused to get cereal because I don’t like popcorn 😂
I'm so glad you didn't "disappear" because you're amazing in every way possible and you get to inspire and educate so many people now.
sam,
if it makes u feel better at all I'm bisexual and i told my best friend that i thought i could trust and she told the whole class and now i get bullied and shoved into my locker everyday and I can't ask my mom to switch my school and stuff and I'm afraid to the to tell her cause she never misses a week of church and she's aways saying don't forget its against the bible to no be straight
HOPE U READ THIS COMMENT AND REPLY K BYE
that soudns so bad omg, i know many religious people who are open minded and it angers me to see the ones who force it so much on their children about being :straight" or whatever, but if i were u i would keep it on the low for now, just ot yourself because apparently you arent able to trust ur best friend which sucks
CHILD WITH NO LIFE everything's gonna get better :-)
thats so messed up. Im pansexual/ trans so i can see where ur coming from. You shouldnt be bullied over that.smh Stay strong (:
i will thx for he encouragement
Your welcome
OMG, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!!!!! I am going to immediately go show your video to my child right now! I desperately want him to be comfortable in his own FTM transgender body. I have been fighting family, been disowned by some and currently going through a divorce because I will NOT put ANYONE ahead of my baby!!! My son is 14 years old, a freshman and going through some things at school. I am on a mission to do any and everything I can to make sure he will be a confident person and live his life to the fullest. Again, thank you!
good for you and it is great you are supporting your child... :) its not easy. I'm Sam's mom.. it was difficult to hear him tell me he was transgender, as I didn't really even know what it meant.. research, educate yourself and surround yourself with openminded people. If you have any questions for me, please ask me.
Eurydice Allen god bless you. Seriously.... god. Bless. You
Sheila J.
Hi I love you
Your an amazing person. I wish my mom supported me as much as you support your son. Maybe one day.
@Eurydice Allen
You are an incredible person, thank you for being so supportive of your son
@ all Lgbt kids, you're all beautiful and pure and I love you and am so proud of you
happy:100
Thx ;3
👌❤
Emily Julia ty
:) thank you
Im currently in the 'hannah montana' stage to be honest. My mum knows something is up with my gender but doesn't seem to care. On the internet everyone accepts me and knows about me and doesn't care. I don't know if i'll ever properly come out because i'm just too scared of everyone around me deserting me for being me
Same I'm to scared to tell anybody but then i felt like i should tell my best friend so i did and she told the whole class and 2 days later it was all over the school
A lot of gay/bi people never "come out", you don't owe it to anybody, just do you and be true to yourself. Straight people never have to come out?
Same, I didn't know this was a sign until I saw this video and your comment
aww, that actually sucks I'm sorry :(
I did it a lot when I was younger as well looking back. I would say I was "Jake" when i played online games and things. Nowdays on social media which people from school nor family I am Jett
thank you so much for sharing this. Like, that 'hannah montana' stage and the 'i want to be him' thing is just, it hit home a lot and watching this video has really inspired me to try and talk to people about it and i just want to thank you for that. Thank you for being such an inspiration, thank you for opening up, and thank you for being there for people.
Sam thank you so much for this. I have non accepting parents that told me I was mentally ill for being trans and that I need help. After watching this I feel so much better
ImLoganCarter there's nothing wrong with you love 💕💕💕 you don't need their acceptance
ImLoganCarter I suggest moving out. You can't have people like that around you bringing you down. Good luck with everything
I’m sorry your parents don’t support you, but in the end you can always be genuinely yourself.
Right,I'm gonna be honest, I see so many videos on TH-cam that are meant to be "inspiration" but if I'm gonna be real, this is one of the most inspirational videos I've seen. The reason for this is because , you talk about the bad times, and tell your audience to get through that, but then you say the good times after them bad times. So all I have to say is thank you for inspiring me to keep going sam!
thank UUU
I love that your shirt is matching your hair 😂
I did the Hannah Montana thing too xD
same
Leo Mitch ! I still am
me too but I dont think im trans, I'm not sure
SAME
SAME
You're so mature...And you're Blessed to have such a loving and accepting mom...I would so support my kids if they were trans.
thank you :)
This is such a powerful video. I myself am not transgender, but I really believe everyone should see this. This was so many life lessons, and told from your viewpoint. I value you greatly as a person and now look up to you, thank you for just existing still and getting through everything.
thank u sm
Sam Collins you're freakin amazziiinnnggg
I'm really happy I found your channel
I'm a 15 year old FtM from Houston ,Tx
And when I was 6 years old I had a new teacher who noticed my "masculine " behavior and she would get mad when my friends would call me a boy or "Gary" (a nickname I picked -///-) she found out that I told my friends I was going to be a boy when I grew up and before long she had the school call in a therapist they pulled me out of my class and had me speak with them (my memory is a bit foggy) and then I went home and told my mom she got mad and confronted my teacher who said if I recall "your child is a transsexual and needs to be fixed " my mother got mad and they had an argument where my teacher called my mother insane after that she would fail every single paper I would turn in,she wouldn't let me join in in fun class activities and she would look at me weird .like before she became my teacher I loved school , i was a cheerful kid who was comfortable telling other people that I wanted to be a boy but after she came into my life it got to the point where I would beg my mother in tears that I did it want to go to school. She confronted the school principal about this but they said my teacher was a very caring person who was looking out for me ,in the end I was transferred to a different school .it took me a long time to be able to accept myself after that but because of what happened I'm a proud and stronger person now my parents fully accept me and thanks for reading
I hope you read this c:
I've come out a few times to my parents and friends as ftm. My friends are supportive but my parents are a little confused. I admit to second guessing myself a lot because of people putting me down or telling me I'm not [bleh, ect. ] But I've stood my ground and have presented as male for about a year and a half now.
I am still a young teen •-• holy fuck. And honestly, I'm just doing my best to focas on grades and homework instead of drama and hyperfocasing everything on my identity. Since it is only a little part of who I am, I kinda just want it to not be the only thing floating around my head all the time. I feel like if I just chill and be my manly self [lmao] then it won't be so hard. Last year when I was fretting about my future I guess I just made it harder for myself-, but y'know! Life is tough man! IT SQUEEZES LEMONS IT YOUR EYES!
Q-Q T^T
I feel for you as I too have had some pretty wrecked up stuff happen in my life.
(I relate with the social media thing and not having a father around. )
I found out how my biological father killed himself, my step dad left a lot- I could state *everything* but gettin to the point, I know this is only the beginning of my life and the hurdles are just going to keep coming. I'm going to keep up my dreams of creating animation and trying to LIVE because I deserve to be happy.
And you.. my friend.. Give me hope. Please, please keep making videos, Sam. You're an amazing voice to be heard for the trans community and you make me so happy man.
-Zacharie.
L this deserves more likes.
how’s life going now my man?
I'm not transgender. but I have a girlfriend. my father hates me for it. my mother disowned me... so I get the depression part.. I've been through that... I'm still going through that.. I've hit my low and I've been trying to get back up since then. it's hard. Its really really hard... 😞
Hello, how are you feeling? Are you okay? If you ever need a talk then I'm here for you.
I'm sorry, its gonna be ok.
Fuck what your parents think u r an amazing human being
Love your username- a fellow duck 🐥
I hope you are doing well
I'm bisexual and want to be a guy. I told my mum this and she says it's just a phase. I'm 15, I've also been suffering from depression for 6 years. She says again it's just a phase. I've got my hair cut short. My 30 year old sister calls me a lesbian for it. She acts as if it's a bad thing. I keep isolating myself from others.
This isn't my real name either.
hey im watching this 6 years later. How are you doing?
hope ur okay
I was born female, i'm confused about my current identity, but for all intents and purposes just go along with being female, despite being a giant adult tomboy. But i relate with a lot of these childhood things. I also always pretending i was a guy online, like way up to maybe 10th grade. And although i'm pretty sure i'm straight, and into guys, i also always thought i wanted to be that guy too, like i'd think "i want to be with him, but also be him" and i don't know what that means but it's been a confusing time.
neonavery hey there :) it's possible to be ftm and still be into guys, sexuality and gender identity are two separate things.
neonavery I understand how you feel. When I was figuring things out, I told myself that it is impossible to be ftm and like guys and that I'm just a (really weird) girl, who likes guys. Obviously that doesn't make sense because attracktion and gender are not connected. But I was afraid to be different.
and I'm also always confused if I like the guy, want to be him, or both^^
i'm in the same boat. i used to try and convince myself that i couldn't be trans because i liked guys but there are gay trans boys and that's so okay!
neonavery also, check out Elliot Fletcher on the AmbiguiT channel :) he's bisexual I think and talks about it in his vids. And remember, no matter who are what you are. You are valid and beautiful :) :)
Exactly the same with the "I want to be with him, but also be him".
watching this 6 years later and it still makes me tear up. So proud of you son, love you with all my heart.. Mom
I sent both of my parents your video called "Dear Parents of Trans Teens" and they both accepted me completely. Thank you so much for posting that and explaining everything so amazingly. Love you fam
The most accepting people in my family are my great grandparents, which is ironic
it's crazy how similar our stories are. love you bro
Sam these words really helped. I need to talk to my mom about everything
I came out to my mom before as Lesbian/gay but she was so mad at me for like the longest & would always tell me how pretty I was and that I couldn't be lesbian for that reason and because "so many guys" liked me...well, mom I don't like fucken guys so...what's the point? She yelled @ me so badly & made me feel like complete shit :( So...nowadays I have to pretend that I'm straight because she's so homophobic, she has a gay hairstylist, but won't accept me? (Her own daughter) wtf is that bullshit?! It just completely depresses me how I have to pretend that I'm like this straight girl who just loves makeup,,, when in reality I don't even like wearing makeup or being a girl! I'd be so happy if I could be a boy 😞😫 One of my sister's is homophobic as well...my little sister & dad are understanding though, even though I haven't came out as transgender yet, & tbh I'm way too scared 😔 I wish my mom would love me for me
Joanna Vivero I'm really sorry your parents are like that. My parents won't accept me being pansexual and it sucks cuz I rarely get to see my significant other. It's honestly gonna go uphill for you once you've moved out and you'll find more and more people who support you. I wish you the best of luck. 💕💕💕
hello jello thank you so much ! I really needed that ❤️ I wish u the best of luck as well
Im not a trans but I understand you.. I get so mad when people cant accept people for who they are(here in lithuania we dont even have trans surgeries).. Good luck In the future and may your wish of being trans comes true
tell her you're trans and if she gets mad remind her you were never a girl in the first place.
7:52 - I need to show my mom this so she can understand. thank u Sam. ily
Hello Sam, i have a question. I came out to my mom a year ago about being ftm. I've asked her a couple times if she can use my perfered pronouns and name but her response is that she had a friend whom is also ftm and his mom calls him, "her baby "girl"" but she uses other transfolks perfered pronouns but she doesn't use mine and she doesn't really like when i wear my binder. it hurts but im not sure what to do. If you or anybody can give me advice I'd very much appreciate it. thank you.
--Le awkward bean, Eren
Anime Emerald i'm in the same situation but i've been out almost 3 yrs to my mom as ftm. theres nothing you can do other than wait. she will come around, its just more difficult for her to see you in a different light than what she saw as you grew up.
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Anime Emerald don't let her push you around. Your happiness comes first.
Anime Emerald The your happiness comes first. Show her a video about dysphoria and tell her that's how you feel when she calls u the wrong pronouns. Maybe? I hope that helps and I hope one day she will come around and accept you.
And wear a binder no matter what she says, if it makes you feel comfortable.
I can't stop staring at sams beautifully made bed. Sam, can you make my bed lol cause ur made bed is amazing.
I know this video is 4 years old but I've just been watching videos about trans stuff. Will transition ever get easier FTM
I feel like I just watched my own life😂
i'm just 12 but i came out as trans to pretty much everyone, i was like how you said. acting like a guy online then being a girl in the real world. i always had good friends online until one day someone exposed my voice and it sounded like a girl which made everyone question me. i came out as trans online at first. i know this sounds confusing but in 5th grade i knew something wasn't right. i felt so different, i hanged out with the guys i did guy stuff my guy friends even saw me as a guy, people said i was a tomboy so i accepted it cause i didn't like any girl related. but at that time puberty came along and i thought that i needed to accept how i was born. over the summer i came along a video about a trans man. it inspired the hell out of me like i got this joy inside of me like this is the who i wanna be. i came out to my cousin a month later and she reacted in a good way cause at that time she was a really big fan of Justin Blake and i didn't have a clue who that was until i found him online. 6th grade came along and i didn't like it, i lost all my friends and i didn't have anyone. i started having crushes on girls that i talked to and i thought, am i lesbian?! remember i was 11 and i hardly knew anything about being trans. i later gained friends and they were all girls. i had a crush on pretty much all of them. at that time i told one of my friends that i was trans and stuff and i asked her if she could call me Alex, she agreed to it. i was so happy about it that it gave me the confidence to come out to other people. so i did, half of my friends refused to and it hurt the shit out of me especially when my fucking bestfriend said it to me, some were happy and reacted in such a good way and said very nice stuff but still refused to call me Alex. i knew they were confused about it and they weren't sure of it. i always wore guy clothes my uniform was legit guy clothing and i looked stupid to everyone. i started isolating myself at that point i thought i wasn't good enough to be a guy and stuff that i eventually started crying every night, having break downs. 6th grade ended and 7th grade came along, this was the year i knew i felt something good about myself. later into the year i came out as trans to my new friends i made. they asked me if i was okay with them using Alex and the male pronouns i was so happy like i was freaking out, once again i told my bestfriend to call me Alex cause everyone else was and she was always complaining to make them stop etc. she refused again and i stopped talking to her for awhile. this is where other people found out i still didn't have a haircut and stuff so i still looked like a girl and people would always question me saying "why do people call you Alex and call you a guy when you're not one" i started cutting after all those questions. i couldn't handle it honestly, one of my close friends who are now one of my exs;-; started crying because of everything she was worried about me. she told the counselors about me and i got called down and they called my parents and etc. months pass and it's January 2018. i still feel like i had to come out to my parents, again months pass (just one passed lmao) my dad left and he's in mexico trying to come back because of some stuff that happened with him and his papers, it's May and I still haven't seen him:( but anyways it's now February, i talked to the counselors about how i felt. my friends were telling me to go and do it but i always got so scared, i built enough courage and i did. the counselors planned a meeting with my mom like that i could come out to her cause i was scared cause of how she would react. so i did, she didn't react in a good way at all. the counselors gave her stuff to read and till this day she forgot about all of it and never bothered to read about how i felt. it still hurts me till this day. after that meeting i left the counselors meeting room and went back to class in tears. everyone was asking what was wrong with me:/ one of my friends legit hugged me so tight and just stayed there for me. weeks later and i got a haircut i convinced my mom that i was sick and tired of my long hair and she let me get a haircut. at this time i was dating someone and i thought oh this would be good like that people wouldn't see me as a lesbian person because i was dating a girl and people are idiots these days and say shit about EVERYTHING. later my sister came back because she was with my dad. i came out to her and she yelled at me that i would never be a guy even if i tried. that crushed me and made me start cutting again. she found out a month later and yelled at me that i'm an idiot and why i was cutting again. i lied and said it was about our dad, the truth was i was cutting cause she didn't accept me:/ one day she invited her trans friend over and i didn't know. later when he left she yelled at me that she knows me more then i know myself. like if you fucking knew me you would know how i fucking felt right? she always asked about my sexuality but never my gender which confused the fuck out of me. now the ending of April came along, one of my teachers bought me a binder and i was so happy like this was finally happening. i got a haircut the next day and i came out as trans to the whole school. i went to the counselors to talk about bathroom issues i was having, people would STARE at me like a fucking freak like wtf. i asked if i could use the nurses bathroom and they said it was okay. i asked if the teachers could call me Alex infront of the class and they asked if i was sure about it and i said that i was ready. when i came out to the school i had to mention my sexuality cause i knew people would call me a Lesbian if i got caught dating an other girl (my girlfriend who's now my ex broke up with me because of her bullshit parents.-. , but were friends) now people in my school accept me.. well the 7th graders, and some highschool freshman students do but not the 6th or 8th graders.-. but now i feel more comfortable with people yeah i get the question of "are you a girl?" alot, people fight about me saying that i'm a girl and shit and my friends or even strangers defend me which means A LOT to me:') but yeahhhh
I cryied so fucking much at the dad passing away part i have the exact same relationship with my dad and I just can’t imagine my life without him even if he is not around every single day that’s tough so proud of you 🥺❤️🩹❤️🩹
"it obviously wasn't a phase, i mean look at me now" 😂😂
That part where you said you wanted to be him. That was me. I would always look at guys and just say I wanted to be him.
A kid on my bus asked me why I had "Leo" on my backpack so I told him the truth that I'm FtM and that's my preferred name and he said "oh ok, cool." That was a good start to my day (I don't mind telling random people if they ask because it's not like they have access to my parents)
Hey dude it’s been a while, how are you doing now?
Thank you for sharing this. Although I may not have gone through this myself. I have male friends who transitioned into males and still have a hard time processing it all and feel awkward sharing the story. I've showed them your channel and I feel it's really helping them. Thank you Sam for being so fearless. Lots of love
i love how some parents are so supportive of their kids. it honestly makes me so happy.
making this video, opening yourself completely up for all of us, and telling us everything really takes a lot and i am so thankful for you doing this. i am so proud of you and i really can't thank you enough for helping so many other people with things like this. i know so many people struggle with coming out and being who they are, but i think that you're really helping a lot of these people. thank you for opening up and telling us your story, i'm so proud of you sam and i will never stop saying that. i love you so much❤️
I've been saying for a year that I'm going to wait until college to come out to my parents (I'm a senior in highschool but I'm 16). Recently, something in the back of my mind has been convincing me to come out to them soon. The issue is, I live with a a really transphobic grandfather and I'm not sure how my dad would take it. Any tips?
Jakob Rose id advise saying something about a trans actor or celebrity infront of your dad like "oh laverne cox is amazing, esp bc she doesnt let being trans stop her!" or "caitlyn jenner is so brave for coming out after so mamy years as presenting as a man, im proud of /her/" and see how your dad reacts
Honestly there is no tips when it comes to this.. for sure, you can try to talk about those subjects at home just to see how your dad will react, but you know it will always be different from the reaction that he will have when it will come to you. Also, don't think too much about it and don't imagine his reaction. It's probably going to be difficult, but you can't leave your life pretending to be someone else, you will reach a time when you will need to come out so have courage and say it
Try to explain your personal lived experience, because a lot of transphobes assume it's something you pick up from other people. Don't tell them what you've been doing to relieve dysphoria, but say things like "When I had to wear that outfit for the party I felt really disgusting and I wanted so badly to wear something else.", "when my friends do [gendered thing] I feel really left out", "When I look in the mirror I feel [this way or that way]" etc etc, just whatever ways dysphoria affect you throughout your life. They may not understand transness or queerness, or the language we use, but they will understand feelings and experiences.
Hope this isn't too late to be useful. Good luck!!
Just found you a couple days ago... As a non binary trans person, thanks for being so transparent, you make great videos :)
I'm a new subscriber, but I'm glad I subscribed. I may not be dealing with anything like this, but you are an inspiration to so many people who are. I'm glad they have someone like you to care and give advice and just be there for people 😊
thanks for listening! it's an opportunity to get a better understanding of all of this
Sam Collins yeah it is, I feel like I have a better understanding about it 😊
I'm definitely showing this to my mom and dad. This describes how I feel/have felt so much and I'm always to scared to even form words
Hey Sam, I'm a trans ftm kid.. but I don't know how to come out to my mom yet. I'm 15 years old and soon going to be 16. I have come out to some people(online friends) and they have been accepting, but I don't know how to tell her:((
sending love ♡
1,000 Subscribers With No Videos I already told her that, but she said she wouldn't want to tell anyone of my fam members. its been a year and a half since I came out as "lesbian" and she hasnt told anybody. that's why I'm afraid to tell her I'm trans because she might do the same thing and eventually keeping me from transitioning..
+Gabriella Damico You can try writing a long letter to her about your feelings and how u wanna continue your life and you really want her to understand, just basically write about how you feel..I think a letter is way more better than saying it eyes to eyes.
Hello. It's been nine months and I'm just checking in on how you are doing?
I'm a transguy and I knew I felt different ever since I was a little kid. It sucks not being able to figure out why you feel this way for years and eventually find out later in life.
It really amazes me how many kids are going thru this today.. it just is truly amazing.. and I'm so proud of my son, Sam, for coming out publicly on TH-cam and being an inspiration and giving advice after himself going thru hell for years. Sam and I will be making a video in a week or so, about what he went thru younger, and how he told me, etc..so hoping all will tune in :)
You are truly an inspiration. You have gone through so much in your life, yet you still stand strong and follow your dreams. I have seen all your videos and every single time you always end up making me smile and inspire me to not be afraid of who I am. Thank you so much for being an inspiration to many. I love you Sam
thank u love
I'm v appreciative that you took the time to share intimate portions of your life, solely to benefit the lives of others. It's a great thing you're doing, honestly.
I watch this video all the time and it makes me cry everytime..I'm so proud of you Sam, I love you to the moon and back. You are my entire world and I'm inspired by how you live your life, being who you are and happy and helping other kids that are struggling with what you did. Keep it up.. Love always, Mom :)
honestly the fact that you kept your head up through all of this and you're happier now and everything makes me so happy, I'm beyond proud of you Sam 💕 much love and if you're ever feeling down you can hmu whenever
As a non binary person who hasn’t come out to my family, your advice helps me so much. Thank you
HOW DO YOU NOT HAVE LIKE 300,000 SUBS????
i hav no clue haha soon enough tho
I'm so happy about how many times you say "look at me now" in this video :,)
the phase you were talking about where you said you hated yourself kinda describes me right now. I came out about being trans to my friends and sister. before I realized I was trans my mom and dad would talk about how trans people are stupid and stuff and it honestly scares me to tell them because I'm scared they will like not accept it and tell me to be normal. which I know my parents love me I'm just scared :(((
Hello, it's been 8 months and I'm trying to get some advice. I want to know how you are doing right now.
even though i'm not dealing with specifically what you've talked about, watching your videos still helps me accept myself in other ways and gain strength and that means so much! i honestly can't thank you enough, sam!
i honestly feel like a proud mom
Thank you so much for this video, it honestly doesn’t matter to me that it was made 5 years ago, just hearing your story really helped me a lot, even though that sounds cliche.
I discovered your channel two days ago and I've already watched a lot of your videos!
I know that everyone has their own experiences, but actually I really need to ear different stories and stuff...It's been a month that I've started questioning myself about my identity and I'm really confused.
I've always known that something was different about me, but I didn't wanted to understand it, maybe because I had too much stereotypes in my head..Now, I'm starting to see all the evidences that I have: I've always been jealous of my brother and his friends or of the boys in my school. I was also really happy when I could dress or act " like a boy " so inside of me, I know who I want to be.. but at the same time, during the day, I always change my mind: I say to myself that I can't change who I am, that inside of me, I will always be a woman, that people won't truly see me as a boy especially my family.. I can't imagine a future as a boy, I'm not comfortable with people calling me as a boy (a few of my friends already did it) and all that stuff.. it's confusing as hell because I don't want to be a woman, but I don't know if I truly want to be a boy...maybe it's because I'm confused right now or because I just don't believe in all that " boys have to do that " and "girls have to do that".. I can't really explain it, but I just feel like we are all human, we should have the chance to just do what we want and not having those labels on us: girl / boy. I don't know I feel like if I start my transition, I will go against my convictions that girls can do what boys do.
and as the same time, like I said, I can't live my life as I am right now... At the end of the day I need those kind of videos to help me because I feel alone against all that shit and all my questions so sorry for my long text, but you really help me and I'm sure that there is a lot of people like me so thanks
I'm in the exact same position as you, you're not alone. I hope you can figure things out soon
You too ! We can help eachothers into this so if u need, I'm here to talk :)
thank you.! Do you have instagram? :)
Yes @exorea :)
Cool mine is @roslynxxemma :) we can talk on there if you want
I know this is 3 years late, but I’m 19 and have finally started my transition. I went through a really similar timeline and still sometimes find myself in the low spot of not seeing a future and hating myself, but I’m getting better. Videos like this and people like you remind me that things do get better and that there is a future for me, so thank you
It’s ridiculous how similar our thoughts and behavior was as a kid. Like literally all you said 1-13 was the exact way I experienced the things. (Except liking girls) Even the name Jack you used on the internet was the same. It’s ridiculous 😂
What a wonderful video. I am an author and recently had a book published called FTM. I have several FTMs that I subscribe to and did so much research. I wrote the book to help parents, family and friends. The boys don't need to read it, they already know what they were going through. I think you and other trans boys are the strongest people on earth. It really upsets me when people say bad things about you because they are stupid and have no idea what you go thru. No one would choose to do that unless it was necessary. I give you such admiration for your strength.
so proud of you for being so open and for being such an amazing person after everything you went through. im always gonna be here whether you think so or not. i love you.
love u gabith
The fact that my life is almost exactly like yours was, is crazy- down to saying I'm a guy online to my mom being in denial and to not being able to see my dad until I was 8.
Omg Sam your so inspirational!!! If you reply I will ligit cry
Popcorn is so mainstream. Funyuns are where it's at.
Anyway, Sam, I'm so happy you got through all of that since a lot of people don't. You've helped me out a lot and you are awesome.
love your personality so much :) and you are honestly so intelligent for your age haha. just the ability to self reflect / empathize with others' experiences. binge watching right now XD
I'm not transgender but for some reason always find myself watching FTM youtube videos. It's so interesting to learn about. No matter how perfect someone's life seems from the outside, everyone has their own personal struggles. I personally struggle from depression and it's encouraging to see that it gets better. Thanks for these videos :)
Here is my story (but I haven't started T yet) 1-8 I know I was different and while I got older I kept telling myself, "I want to be a boy" And "my life would be so much better is I was a boy" And that's all I would think about like Sam I didn't like feminine clothes or toys but I had to wear them. 9-now after the years passed by I refused to wear feminine clothes and those thoughts of wanting to be a male came back and I was confused cuz I didn't know what was happening or if it was normal and then I found out what transgender was. I was okay after a while but I envied a trans guy (my friend) at my school a little bit and then I started questioning my gender and I looked up videos about transgender and dysphoria. And now I believe I am transgender. I've asked my friends and my significant other (they told me they were gender fluid and I feel bad when I use female or male pronouns on them) to call me by male pronouns and call me by my male name (Dean if anyone was wondering) I have four friends who call me by my birth name and just refuse to call me by what I want to be call but I don't really care all I care about is that my significant other accepts it and they do. (So does my best guy best friend (he's part of the LGBTQ community) and literally almost everyone who is part of the LGBTQ community in one way or other accepts it and calls me what I want to be called by)
this video made me cry m god sam has come so far hes so fricken strong and hes such an inspiration. im proud
When I was younger, I always picked girly things, I loved pink, and I was weirded out when people thought I was a boy when I cut my hair short. I pretended to like boys cause I was pressured to by my cousins and friends. Then puberty happened, and now I get extreme body and social dysphoria and hate anything girly.
I guess i always knew I was different, but I just went with the flow and never stated my own opinions. Looking back, I never really liked any of these things. I just had expectations set, and because I have always been terrified of being wrong, I agreed.
If I had the willpower to do so, I would've been way more myself then.
So lately I've been dealing with trying to come out to my friends I've told four of them and three out of the four were really accepting which made me so happy. But now I feel that since I'm in 10th grade and I really want to start testosterone, I should come out to my mom. I've went through really bad depression and I still kind of am, so knowing that other people went through it gives me hope that I can get through it. I was about to go to a party last week and it was formal and as soon as I heard I had to wear a dress I told my mom I wasn't going to go.. so she asked me if I wanted to be a guy and I got all defensive and said that it shouldn't matter if I did or not.. my mom is very strict and against a lot of things. Thank you so much! Because your videos mean so much by actually helping explain everything.
i had exactly the samE PROCESS HOW IS IT THAT WE HAVE THE EXACT SAME FEELINGS I WANT TO CRY
I identify so much with what you said, almost equal to my story,the way I foundout it and how I reacted was just like what you said, i love ya sam thank you so much for this video.
I don't know if it's weird but you really made me feel better about myself. Thank you.
this made me cry, i came out to my parents recently and they didn't take it well but i plan on showing them this video to make them understand. this entire video was exactly how i felt during elementary and middle school and the beginning of high school. im almost 16 and really hoping i'll be able to transition soon
I am so so so proud of you Sam❤
sam Collins story it just like explains me omg like I cant stress that enough,what hes saying matches me almost exactly
"that's still not the case i mean LOOK AT ME NOW" i love you istg
"I did isolate from my mom, the one true woman I love so f*cking much." Oh. My heart just broke. Touching story, Sam. Stay strong. :)
As a thirteen year old identifying with almost everything in this video (gender swapped) its good to know other people feel the same, and not everyone trans questioned their gender since they were a toddler.
I'm literally living this rn. I'm only 15, but I'm living this reality so far. I understand the pains as well. It's not exactly the same, but our stories are so similar. Thank you for being here, Sam. I'm so proud of you and I hope I can become similar to you, successful. This is an old video, but thank you for making it. Thank you.
mom: its a girl!
dad: dang it
sam: comes out
mom: aw
dad: SCREAMING WITH PRIDE
I came out to my mom on March 1st, 2018, I’m 12 years old and before I came out to my mom I had therapy for my anxiety. When I came out to my mom I was in school, and me being stupid I CANE OUT TO HER THROUGH TEXT!! My anxiety makes me not trust my mom and that makes me feel horrible because my mom is the only person I should trust. When I came out to her she made my therapists come about 2-3 times a week because of my trans “problem.” One of my therapists was a guy and my other was a woman. My guy therapist was named Roy and he was supportive of my being trans, he used he/him/his pronouns on me and overall respected me. My girl therapist was kind a little bit on my mom’s side and didn’t use my pronouns and probably thought it was a phase. When my mom found out that Roy (one of my therapists) was being supportive of me, she made him stop coming to give me therapy, and I was just sad and angry. Now I have no therapists anymore that will be able to help me. My mom still thinks it’s a phase, and it annoys me. At this point, I just need some support. (Btw I’m just starting to come out to people at school as FTM trans and gay. I’ve decided to come out to everyone at school on the last day of school May 25th.)
I just turned 18, I really need to know how to get on testosterone, or like different ways I can be able to get it. I'm having a hard time trying. Like I've seen other trans youtubers talk about how they got it, but I really want to hear how you were able to get it.
Talk to your regular doctor about it :)
Julian Delgado you need to go to a gender clinic and they will help you get on testosterone and then you can get surgery if you want.
Go the the doctor, they can probably tell you about that kind of stuff and direct you to the right place
sam, thank you so much. i am an ftm transgender too, i have a emotionally abusive mom, who keeps making up lame excuses for not supporting me. as a matter of fact, my moms whole side of the family is controlling. i keep telling her that i need a therapist, and she keeps saying that once i get "better grades", she will get me a therapist. i really hate this idea because it means that my mom would not pay for her child's happiness unless they get straight A's. my dad sort of just brushed it off when i came out to him. later, he started to call it an "identity crisis". he also started to drink and vape. because of all this, i have marks on my wrist, which i hate myself for. every day i cry like crazy because of how i am treated by my own family. not only all that, but i am sometimes called a girl on purpose in school. thank you so much for being an amazing, helpful and supportive person, and we will always be there for you.
I love how his hair matches his shirt
the parts where you talk about being really young to the parts about realising you were trans and hating yourself for it pretty much reflect my entire life up until i was about 15
usually i can't really relate to other people's stories or experiences or anything but it was so great to find this and see that i'm not the only one who went through it like you described in this video
big up to you, gonna watch the rest of your videos now
You practically described my life up till 8th grade
About the same, but I started being a guy online back in elementary school on the kid's websites I used to go on.
This still makes me cry no matter how many times I watch it
my mom isnt very accepting and its so hard because like she won't let me transition fully and it sucks I also came out to the internet and my mom found it and all hell broke loose and its just horrible for me right now
I hope things start to get easier, I feel for you my friend ♡.
why won't she let you fully transition?
Alex Evans Im in the same boat.
There are parents that would't let their kids transition because they think either that is wrong or they just don't want to do that because they are scared for themselves when they should really be scared for the child that came out of her womb.
you have no idea how happy I am to hear that you didn't do anything to yourself bc you're the reason for my happiness and I have no idea what I'd do without you. thank you Sam, i'm so fucking beyond proud of you