@@PhoenixAnimations I actually love the fact that you fill the video "NPCs" with pride colors as a recurring sort of thing and it kinda keeps my mind on its toes too noticing the colors. I like this!
@Amy Abitz aww I’m glad :) it’s always been a goal I’ve tried to keep from the start. I think it’s a fun challenge to try and fit some Pride colors in. Especially when people in the comments get excited in spotting them haha
There are 28 too many names on that list. I can’t stop thinking about everything you said... you’re one of my biggest inspirations and I don’t even know you personally. I just went back to school (virtually) and it just hurts. I’m still just hurting because I’m not out out yet and what’s even worse is that they use our photo from last year and last year I hadn’t even gotten my hair cut yet... I *hate* how I look in that photo; and that’s how they see me. You say the things I can’t say out loud right now. You give me just enough hope for the years ahead. *Being trans is not a choice.*
@River Cherny hey there, thank you so much for the kind comment. Your school situation sank in my heart and I hope you’re doing okay overall. Things aren’t easy right now, so don’t hesitate to give yourself time and space to take some deep breaths. Maybe you could reach out to the school and send them an updated picture as replacement? I suppose it’s worth checking out. Regardless, stay safe and stay you. You got this :)
7 months later update: this video continues to hit ridiculously hard. i’m out to a few of my friends in irl school now, and i actually think i’ve finally pretty much figured myself out. and while i can’t say things are great and i’m 100% fine... things are finally looking up. if anyone out there is reading this in a shitty situation and still trying to figure out your own identity, trust me, *trust me* things will eventually get better. maybe not today, maybe not 6 months from now, but things do get better. i’m still grateful for Sean’s reply and thx for all the likes on here, stay alive and stay true to yourselves everyone :)
Today I'm 196 days on Estrogen, and my name is Jezebel. The identity I had was a lie forced upon me, this is my truth and I refuse to lie to myself anymore.
This hit me hard. When you started mentioning their names, i nearly started crying. They did not deserve what happened to them. For all of you fellow trans people, please stay safe and take care of yourselves because in the end, if you don't, then, who will?
As an MTF trans person, I can relate to the closet reason of not transitioning. It's just so scary being out, so many people who could do the things you mentioned, and the closet is safe, but then being in the closet and constantly being treated as the wrong gender is painful.You described this predicament very well, and I think it might help me decide what to do next, closet-wise and such.
I'm glad the video was able to put words into how you and others are feeling. Best of luck in journey regardless of where it takes you :) please stay safe and stay you
Same here it’s hard I am very lucky to have supportive parents but i feel really bad for everybody who can’t come out.. it’s hard you don’t know how they will react to it
God, the fetishization hit hard. People always like to say they're only attracted to trans people and it makes me feel so so sick. But rest in peace to those who have been killed. I actually cried at the amount of names there were.
I feel like not enough people talk about how we are fetishized (and it is partly because people aren’t calling it out when it does happen) 28 lives... hopefully no more will be lost... thank you for watching and commenting
@@polasamierwahsh421 people will say they only find trans men or trans women attractive, they will say innaproate comments about our lower areas. That is fetishizing trans people
@@star-gutz9770 I see , so as long as they accept both equally and don't be pricks about the lower are they're good ....You were right that's something hard to find Thanks for shedding light on such problem
@@polasamierwahsh421 you're very welcome! To be completely honest I dont think it's even their fault, the adult film industry does this so its probably what started to concept :(
I've came out to my mum 5 times in the space of 3 years she still calls me she/her (daughter, lottie) when I tell her to use he/him pronouns (son, Toby) and I am actually crying rn because of this, it's absolutely great being transgender and I 100% choose to be like this because it's so fun!
@@elizathegamer413 I was sorta being sarcastic because people say 'why are you trans? ' like it's a choice. And I'm just a sarcastic person XD, it is kinda fun tho at times. Like when you get your reference to as your preferred pronouns and things.
Ah, Toby is my deadname. I'm a trans girl, still fully closeted tho :/ It's a shame your mother won't use your preferred name and pronouns. I hope my parents will be accepting. Edit: I CAME OUT TO MY PARENTS AND THEY'RE ACCEPTING YAYYYYYYYYYY
not transitioning to some people would be like sitting in a chair with spikes on it and transitioning is moving to that much more comfortable chair a few kilometres away, yeah sure you have to walk those kilometres but it is worth it in the end.
Oh my god, the pain in your voice, I was crying with you 😭💔 I legit cry at night sometimes for all our siblings that have been murdered. And one of MY close friends was raped for being trans, even though he lives the scars are there, and I see and feel that. I know it's lucky he's survived and I am GRATEFUL he is still here. and we always have each other's backs and defend each other when misgendered and mistreated. i wish people would open their eyes and realize none of us choose to be dehumanized like this. thank you for saying what needs to be said. and thank you for being here. stay safe brother 🌷💕
Thank you so much for watching through. Even trying to rewatch it myself is difficult. It’s horrible what happened your friend and I hope he is okay. Send him my best wishes and safety. I’m glad he has someone as supportive as you to talk to. Thanks again. Please stay safe and stay you, Sean
@Fluffy Fleur Sadly it is the current reality in the US, and some places it’s far worse (and other places it’s better). Thanks for watching and commenting!
I feel like the problem is that there is no point in the hate, discrimination for anything is pointless and stupid because you would think we the smart and great humans would know better than to hate people for things that literally don’t affect them
I did a report on LGBTQ+ rights and got yelled at by my teacher last year. But that was okay because the discrimination was so common. Its not okay anymore, it never has been and you have shown me that. We need to stand together and become stronger, show the world that we are people to not just toys, or sick in the mind. I was also wondering if you had a discord server, it might be a way to spread more love and support to other trans and or enby folk.
Thank you for watching and saying all of that. Sadly no Discord that I run, but I’m sure there’s ones out there that have pretty decent moderators and a good group of people. Maybe I’ll put together a resource page with some good groups to join. Currently I just don’t have the time to moderate one at the moment, but it’s a great idea. Community is very important
@@PhoenixAnimations Then consider this my application to run and moderate a server for you. If it’s not something you want to do then you can turn me down but I would sure love to help.
@Ainsley Lange aw that’s cool of you to offer! I’ll say this - you’re welcome to start a discord and I will do my best to advertise it on Tumblr, Instagram, Patreon, and whatnot; however, I’d rather not be... I’m not sure how to explain this. Basically I’m worried that if something bad were to happen, I would feel it’s personally my fault. That’s just my personality, nothing on you or Discord specifically. And so, to avoid that, I don’t necessarily want to be linked as an admin or creator. Maybe if I had the resources to pay people like you to moderate it and whatnot (which I don’t have currently), I would feel a bit more comfortable and open to working with awesome people like you. I hope that makes sense. Anywho, yes, go for it! And I would love to join the Discord as just a regular person who happens to also be a TH-camr haha. I’ll definitely help advertise it though! I’m just not fully prepared to be a mod/admin mentally and financially/time wise.
@@PhoenixAnimations It totally makes sense and thank you for explaining your situation, I would love to make a server. I’ll let you know the link when I get it set up. Thank you for allowing me to do this. 😅😊
Being trans is terrifying, but I don't want to stop being trans. I feel happier knowing I'm being who I am now, and I don't want to give that up. Thank you for making videos. You're helping more people than you think.
Great video, man! Also, people who don't fully transition (for example, don't want to get all the surgeries or hormones) are valid as well. And for some or a lot of people, transitioning is something that can actually SAVE lives I just don't understand why people get so worked up about the lives of others and what they think or know is best for themselves Especially the end was really hard to listen to, because I couldn just hear the pain and emotion in your voice it must've surely been hard to record (that's just my guess though, as I don't know you of course-)
100% agree. A person doesn’t have to get all the surgeries and whatnot if they don’t feel they need them all to be happy and comfortable in their body. Each transition is different Definitely was difficult and took a lot longer than I had expected (Hence why the audio sounds different in certain sections of the video). I appreciate you watching and commenting. I hope you have a good rest of your day/night. Stay safe
@@PhoenixAnimations could I also add how much this reply and video just made my.. Night?? Anyway, I've been feeling really alone or rather lonely and suicidal lonely and this video plus the reply just gave me so much hope and the strength to go on :) Keep it up man, you're doing great
@jugendfreie Organversache yoo you’re doing great! I appreciate the kind words, but don’t forget to tell them to yourself too :) have a good night! Stay safe and stay you.
Yes exactly! it's so frustrating when people act like because I don't want bottom surgery I'm less valid! It's total BS because if the parts I was born with don't define my gender then what I choose to do with those parts shouldn't define my gender either!
And, you dont need dysphoria to be trans, there are many differnt things that make someone trans. And you dont have to transition if you dont want too!
Thank you for saying this, as an enby I don't necessarily get body dysphoria but I get social dysphoria when people use exlusively my birth assigned pronouns and name. Unfortunately for me there aren't socially accepted gender non-specific pronouns in my language so it sometimes gets really hard :,) Especially if the general mindset when it comes to gender is heavy binary and people look at you like you're an alien even if you're "normal" trans person, let alone "something extra".. you don't need to feel body dysphoria to be valid
Ash.4 what exactly do you mean? i’m not trying to be rude here, i’m just genuinely curious because i’ve seen people say this a lot. how does someone be transgender without dysphoria? like, are they choosing to be transgender? who would choose to be transgender? again, i’m not trying to be insensitive or rude, i’m just trying to educate myself.
@@sgtruru it's talking about body dysphoria in particular, gender dysphoria as whole consists of sub types: social, body(also could be specified to chest/bottom dysphoria), and at least one more that just slipped from my mind. You have to experience at least one but most commonly people refer only to one, body dysphoria, simply as dysphoria. You don't need body dysphoria to be classified as transgender since gender is on a spectrum not necessarily connected to ones genitals or other body parts. I for example don't experience body dysphoria (dysphoria for short) but I'm still nonbinary (which falls under transgender) and experience discomfort when people misgender me and/or dead name me. I experience discomfort when I'm perceived as gender I'm not. hope I helped :)
You're choosing to be transgender if you are connected to your birth gender and feel no disconnect. That is dysphoria, i.e. a disconnect, wrong gender, uncomfortable being called your birth pronouns ect. There's nothing wrong with being cis.
I never chose to live a life of getting hunted down, physically, verbally and emotionally abused, getting everything I loved removed from my life, having to have plans to run away from my transphobic country, having so much physical, mental and social pain and having everyone tell me that I’m wrong or that satan is tricking me, just because I chose to. I WOULD NEVER WISH THIS TO MY WORST BLOODY ENEMY, IT IS SO PAINFUL IN SO MANY WAYS THAT ARE UNEXPLAINABLE. I hope everyone has a good day! :)
It’s so disturbing to see all those names of people who just wanted to live their lives in peace and it was denied them in the most horrific way. I’m so sorry for all the pain my trans brothers and sisters must endure on top of being slaughtered for just wanting to be comfortable in their own body. Remember though being gay was illegal only a few decades ago and with so many people starting to stand up we have a chance that we too will be less demonized. It still seems so far off, I know, but we are getting there. Be strong my beautiful friends.
I was born the wrong gender, that's all I have to say, g'night ya'll, door's that way. NVM, stay for one more sec. I meet people that said your sexuality was a choice and your birth gender is your set gender. Both are wrong. People don't choose to be something that can get them killed. Why can't you get that though your head?! Don't hurt us for something we can't control, think of it like this (And yes, this example is Animal Crossing themed) Your trying to breed flowers, you want a black rose so you can start breeding for golden roses. You end up getting a orange rose. Are you going to get rid of that rose when it could help your island just look a little better? If that rose had feelings (Bare with me, I know it's getting weird) it would be thrown away for something it couldn't control. Now, could that rose change it's color, to, let's say pink? Yes, with some help and support, it can. It can become that pink rose it wanted to be. At the end of the day, that new pink rose, can be what make that island 5 stars. Im sorry, that got kinda stupid, using roses and Animal Crossing, PFFFF, Im addicted to that game... Stop hurting and killing us, we can't control this, we are who we are!!
Ayo, thanks bro. I'm not transgender, but subbed to this channel to Mabye get some insight on what my freind is dealing with. He's a real cool dude, and is actually part of how I figured out I am pansexual. It's super gross that people have to deal with hate JUST for feeling like they are a different gender then the one "God" gave them. I want to suppourt my bro in any way I can, and I am very happy that I can learn from these videos and these comments.
I'm medically transitioning and not socially yet, when I come out to everyone and fully socially transition I will be sharing this video with my family and friends. For now, I'm saving the video in my "When I SocTrans" playlist
I always feel as if I’m faking having these type of thoughts, since I never experienced dysphoria in my childhood. After watching this, I think I’m starting to learn a bit about myself. For that, I thank you. To clarify, most likely I CAN’T transition because first off, my mom would most likely burn me alive. (I’m not joking when I say that, she actually does burn my wrists every now and then.) At the same time, I have no money nor would anybody support that in my family unfortunately. It feels as if I have to forfeit my own safety and human rights just to be who I am. (I say this because the neighborhood where I live is dangerous for trans people.) I hope nobody else has to deal with such threats, so I hope you’re in a better situation than me. At least even that thought makes me know I’m not alone, and I thank you for being who you are, despite the hatred this world has. I’m sorry, and thank you.
I am thankfully in a MUCH better situation than that, as my parents, while somewhat emotionally and mentally abusive at times, are at least not PHYSICALLY abusive, and are also not bigoted at all, except for being pretty ableist. In fact, they're even paying for my HRT lol
I get so many comments that say this on my videos. It only further shows how little some cisgender people attempt to understand and be accepting that other people have different thoughts and feelings to them.
As a cisgender person, I have one word about that one segment: yikes. Hearing about all the horrible things which happen to trans people, I felt genuine fear. I thought the only trans-specific problems were people not supporting your identity, paying for transitioning, and gender dysphoria. I didn’t know people were fetishised and raped just for being born with the wrong genitals. I didn’t know people were shot and killed in public just for using pronouns that don’t allign with their birth gender. I didn’t know people were alienated and rejected by so called “respectable society” just for being trans. But I’m glad I do now, because it helps me be a better ally.
Those things happen truly. You're lucky if your classmates decide to just discriminate against you instead of deciding to rape or torture you. I, as a trans person, have gotten harassed and at an extreme point, a gun pointed at me and got stalked just to get molested. I know these people who just hate me for existing are just taught to react that way by people who they trust and love. I just hope for a future that people just decide not to commit crimes towards someone lifestyle. I know I'm sick that's what fucking gender dysphoria is but if your hate towards a person is to a point you commit unspeakable crimes, I believe you need to be locked up and be forced into therapy. I know many believe I should be locked up, but I'm not a danger towards anyone, the only person I'm a danger to is myself since I'm now suicidal for just being treated as shit for existing. But I'm getting the help I need to not be a danger towards myself. I want to live, be in a comfortable body, and live life like any other person.
@@starrby7790 I do not know what to say, but with you being molested, threatened, etc. to the point of being suicidal, I should acknowledge that. Sorry about all that, and I hope you find better people and get into a better place of mind. I’m not a psychologist or someone who’s been in a similar situation, so I can’t give you any (good) advice, but I’m always here at this comment if you need to vent.
@I kinda just exist Thank you. I appreciate you for being kind, and empathetic towards me. I'm currently slowly changing my life to improve my mental health and have gotten a support animal who has been helping me a lot through my process of healing from PTSD, and not relapsing in bad habits hurtful to myself. I hope to not again fall in a dark place and be able to enjoy my life happily.
@@starrby7790 1. I hope your recovery goes well and that you never go into a horrible and toxic mindset again. 2. Tell your support animal some guy on the internet said ‘hi!’
Damn. The last part goes down deep. Hope y'all trans folk keep on staying stay safe and strong. Y'all are beautiful and valid whether you choose to do transition or not
The way it was put to me was like this: "Coming out is like eating. You get to choose when, where, who with, etc, but in the end you HAVE to do it at some point or else you won't survive."
I am incredibly grateful for my safe and supportive home environment. I am a transgender man and I came out of the closet this year. My father immediately started asking me if I wanted to go to gender therapy, if I had a preferred name and preferred pronouns, if he was allowed to call me by that name and pronouns in front of my friends, etc. The most amazing thing, he bought me a binder for my birthday and he sat me down and said “I know normally Christmas gifts are a surprise. But I’m getting your birth certificate changed to your preferred name and a legalised sex change. I can’t afford to medically transition you but I can afford to put you in gender therapy. Merry Christmas, my son.” And I just sat there crying tears of joy for a solid five minutes. For all of you who don’t have a safe home environment I am so so sorry that you have to go living your life in fear. Please, please stay safe. Trans rights are human rights. 💙💕💙💕
So happy for you. I have had a similar experience among my friends and family. Perhaps not as enthusiastic as your dad but so far no-one has said a bad word to me about it. Even my 93 year old father in law took it in and is using my new name and pronouns. The world has moved on (though not everywhere) it seems. After I came out in a very public way, some of my colleagues have chosen to talk to me as little as possible but most couldn't care less and have quickly adapted.
I wish I could send this to my father. He calls being trans a trend. Maybe I will during Halloween and I'll stay the weekend and a friend's house and then go to my sister's for a day or two. Does anyone else have any better ideas?
My advice is staying as safe as possible when still under your parents roof and not able to leave (usually due to financial stuff and whatnot). You know your father best. If he isn’t friendly to LGBTQ+ folk, that may be a good indicator not to “poke the bear” just yet. Best of luck though. Please stay safe
@@PhoenixAnimations weell do you know why he says its a trend. As there is a spike in transgender teens. And I know a trans person form the uk who need to do it herself as the people who are not trans and only think they are without being really trans are clogging up the system and they risk the lives of trans people who are really trans and suffer under gender dysphoria or am I wrong?
I myself am not trans but I hugely appreciate and enjoy what you are doing here keep it up 💜. I hope you can be a beacon of light those who need it and that this community can help people in some way. I know a trans guy who is stuck at home not being allowed to research trans issues or get non religious help with his dysphoria. Recently his parents found out I was talking to him about lgbtq things and they forced him to cut ties with both me and a friend of mine who knows them. I don’t know how I can help him, I don’t know how hard it is for him to deal with his dysphoria, I just hope he can stick it out and take some care for himself. He is 14 right now and still has years before he can move out. I wish I knew how I could help him. One of the last things I was able to do is show him some trans youtubers and a video of yours. If he sees this I hope he is doing alright, and if he needs it I am always open to talk and find a way to hide it if he feels he needs to.
It was too early for everyone in the transgender community who were taken because someone else couldn't handle their existence. I can only hope for a day it doesn't happen. I want to be myself with my friends without worrying about each other. I'm lucky I havn't lost someone I loved yet. I hope things can change before me or another person does.
I know it's a small part of the vid, but talking about how it's ok if you can't transition helped me a bit. My current situation means if I tried right now it wouldn't end well. Thank you so much for giving me confidence to keep pushing through.
Been going through some serious social dysphoria that triggers my body dysphoria because of my new job. I hate having to hide out of fear of getting hatecrimed, losing my job and losing my family forever. My depression is getting worse with the voice constantly telling me to off myself all day, last night I cried because I feel like I’ll never truly be as masculine as I want to be and appear, too short, no pp, no service. I feel like the best thing I could be is someone’s fetish which also plays as my worst fear. Tbh I’m not proud to be trans, I would give do anything to not be trans and just be cis. I had the NB flag as my pfp for discord but I’d feel ashamed to talk to anyone with it, I’ve changed it. I love seeing trans people love themselves and express their pride but I could never. Not even hormones could help the hate for myself, at the end of the day I feel like I’ll be reaching for something that is just too far out of reach. I just really want to restart, but at the cost of being born a bigot seems like a pretty nope situation.
I can’t even imagine how difficult it is to live as a trans person in this society. So many wonderful people who suffer because of misinformed, ignorant, or just plain hateful people. If you are struggling, for whatever reason, know that you are loved, you are beautiful, and you are valid. And I wish you could live in a society that didn’t try to argue about that. Someday we will get there. We just have to keep going.
Thank you. Thank you a thousand times for making that video. Thank you for saying their names. Thank you for saying out loud what hurts. I was searching a trans audio text to put words on the pain I feel. You did it, thank you.🙏🏽
It wasn't until I was (and still am) partly out of the closet. Lack of support in the people close to me really hit me like a truck. Especially people I expected to be supportive, but who just brushed me off when I came out. There weren't nearly as many supportive people as I expected and that really took a blow at my mental health. I nearly had a mental breakdown when I saw my father and he kept deadnaming me and not correcting himself, and my sister followed suit but questioned me about it when we were alone. It also really upsets me when the people who are supportive deadname and/or misgender me in front of others if they don't clarify first they don't mean it. All that being said, I plan to come out to a classmate tomorrow and at this point I'm not sure what to expect. It might just lead to another mental breakdown, especially considering I'm still recovering from a lot of trauma that resided in school. I recently came out to someone close to me living in the same household and now I try to avoid them because it's too painful when they deadname me. 2/3 people in my household are not supportive and I'm not quite sure what to do. My experiences of being trans so far (purely in the social aspect); it's very difficult to be trans, how difficult varies in where you live. I honestly wish I was just born a boy so that everyone could just accept me without question. It would all be so much easier if I was cis. Despite that, I really treasure the people that ARE supportive, kudos to them!
as a “passing” trans woman im scared every day of my life someone questions what i was born as and decides to harm me because of it. im absolutely terrified.
@@ster-c4u 86.2 trans women are victims of violent crime per 1000, versus 0.0017 people being struck by lightning per 1000. To put it another way, as a trans women you are >50,000 times more likely to be attacked than be struck by lightning
I just within the last week started to realize that I am trans, and I’m for sure not in a safe place to transition right now. I own my own home but I could lose my job or at least have it made much harder for me if I present as fem at work or in public. The most sobering part of this is, my depression has always made me think the people around me wouldn’t just be better off if I were dead, but that they want me to die. Now that I realize that I’m trans, that’s more true than it’s ever been before. At least for some, thankfully my family and friends have been extremely supportive, but I live in a rural neighborhood, where when it’s real quiet you can hear the faint sound of banjos and Sean Hannity’s voice echoing through the trees. If I come out, I might be pulled over more. I might be attacked, or robbed. Or killed.
"Take a break from transitioning" this literally made me tear up. It's so hard sometimes. I have to act super masculine just to be considered male, and I still get misgendered. I can't even act like myself. It's exhausting, it's tiring, it's hard...
I know some people who are usually kind and care for others on a very deep level, but they are unfortunately extremely transphobic. I have literally witnessed them lose all sense of humanity for others just because they were trans. It's so scary knowing some of the people who are out there. Stay safe, y'all, I love you 🏳️⚧️
I hate when people say shiznicks like “I’m glad I grew up in the 90’s we weren’t such snowflakes back then” then their kid makes one joke about them “WAHHHH YOU CANT SAY THAT ABOUT ME!!!!” Same with boomers “I fought in the war you guys need don’t need to whine bout that” the ok boomer meme starts “THIS IS A HATE CRIME!!!”
Thanks, I came out to my family recently and some weren’t so supportive, I needed to hear this as they were really starting to make me second guess the whole thing
I’d like to say thanks for making these videos. Although none of the topics apply to me specifically - as in something that I can relate to - I find this channel very useful for education. I don’t have an inherent reason, I know of trans people that I’m not inherently close to, but in the event that somebody may need my support, or perhaps I feel the need to try and change someone’s views on a situation that neither of us could experience, then I would say that this channel is worth not only my time but everyone’s. I’m not familiar with all the terms, I’m cis (that’s where I’m a bloke and was physcially born as one right?) and straight and thus there’s somethings I don’t understand. I however have the decency not to pester people about private questions as if they’re comfortable enough they’d tell me in my own time. Most stuff seems common sense, but clarification is welcomed. I don’t want to be ignorant. Luckily my situation was easy from the start. But that doesn’t mean you can’t assist others while you’re chugging along freely. You may be smooth sailing; that doesn’t absolve you of the responsibility to help those stranded on a raft.
Hey there! Thanks so much for reaching out and saying all of that. It always makes me smile to see cisgender people watching and commenting on my videos. It’s clear that you not only watch, but also listen. I think those are two very different things when it comes to watching videos like these or even just having a conversation with someone. Thank you for your open mindedness and support. It is truly appreciated and I cannot say that enough. It’s okay to not be familiar with all the terms. If you do have any additional questions though, don’t hesitate to ask them here or on any of my other videos :) I hope you have a great rest of your day/night. Even as a cis person, you should still stay safe and stay you :)
It’s definitely not a choice, thank you for this video, i love you and you are loved by many, and thank you for acknowledging all these innocent people, rest in paradise all ❤️
Of course, I am glad to make this video (even though it turned out to be more difficult than I had thought to record the audio). I like the "rest in paradise", thank you for saying that for them.
This video hit really hard. I’m not the type of person that cries all that much, but your words had me sobbing. It’s truly awful waking up each day without being able to show my true self to my friends and family because I fear what might happen if they know, the constant struggle of who I see in the mirror vs who I see myself as… it’s just so… tiring. Yet, when I watched the video and got the courage to read some of the comments, I felt… not as alone. Since most people on my country (Dominican Republic) don’t struggle with the same things as me in regards to gender, it always felt like it was me against the world, but reading other peoples experiences and watching your video made me feel a bit relieved and a bit more hopeful. Thank you.
Hey, as another trans sibling, I just want to give you my support in solidarity. I'm not in a position to transition yet either, so I understand how you feel. I understand it can feel like the weight of the world is balancing on your shoulders. Just take a deep breath and relax. You are not alone. You can achieve your goals and become the beautiful person you were meant to be; one step at a time. You are cared about and loved. You are important. 👐 ❤ Sincerely, a transmasc/FTM.
0:55 thank you for talking about how some people don’t discover that about themselves until their older. I was trying to explain how I feel about it to my stepmom, but she said “I think you know who you are when your very young” and I couldn’t put into words how that’s not always the case… (I discovered I may be trans when I was around 12, and came out to them when I was 14. The child in question we were discussing about was three…) in fact, I doubt kids will have there gender identity all sorted out from a super young age already. That’s hypocritical. She’s always been very supportive, and we had that conversation eating at this new Indian restaurant just the two of us (and I absolutely love Indian food) so don’t think she intentionally would say that with bad connotations. Anyways, just thank your for the validation that my point stands as fact. I often have trouble explaining things, so this was a great way to put it. :)
Wow. that showed me a lot I didn't know. I can't begin to understand how much that hurts to have people like you hated and killed I can't believe that people could be so cruel but thank you for telling me this and talking about these people so we can remember them. Thank you.
Ive come to terms with the fact that i might not ever transition and thats okay with me. I wish i could shapeshift or at least that people were more accepting but most arent. I have dysphoria, both physical and social but i am forcing myself to accept it because i can’t go through trying to transition again. I tried when i was around 10-16 on and off but mostly on, doing the whole shebang: cut my hair, binders, button up shirts, etc. and it was amazing. It was so freeing but it was also so limiting. And i felt that i belonged nowhere except online spaces. Conforming to my predetermined femininity has made it easier, though its still hard. I wish all of you the best life and i hope you will be at peace with whatever you decide💕 nothing will change the fact that i am trans. Not even acting like I’m not. Maybe ill regret it when I’m old, maybe i won’t.
It's incredibly disturbing... and unfortunately last year was the most violent. I hope this year does not follow the same track... stay safe, as safe as you can.
When my father told me he wouldnt let me start T I told him, either you say yes now or I do it when I move out and risk a relationship with me. I told him such similar words to “I would rather live my true self for a moment than lie to myself and others”. I told him lI would rather be happy for a minute than go back to how I felt, I would rather be happy for a minute than go through all this pain every day”
Thank you so much! This odd feeling in me couldn't be explained better. It touched my heart and soul when you said "I would rather be me for a moment than lie to myself for my whole life" thank you so much. Hope those people who lost their lives rest in peace.
I'm a trans guy. My gender is male. My gender expression is androgynous. Google was wrong about that definition, but your video is very informative overall! Thank u! ❤
I hate how people think that it’s a choice, we never asked for this, why would we want this? To be dehumanized and treated as if we’re “sick”? It was never a choice, and maybe when we were young we didn’t really know, that doesn’t mean that now that we’re older we should be ashamed or scared to express who we are. People need to grow the fuck up out of their closed minds and realize we are all human, no matter our sexuality, gender identity, race, and sex. We are human, deal with it.
i almost break down at the end.. thank you for putting it into words so well.. it express how im feeling currently cause, i was really questioning my gender again lately. this will be a long comment but i just want to write these things so.. i was born in an islamic family, my parents are not that strict, but they have the base and really holding on to it. i've tried to explain and comeout back then when i was in middle school but they dont accept it that well and tell me to think again maybe im just confused and for a moment, i believe that i was confused. it was the darkest time of my life. i was projecting, and denying everything about who i am as a person. but last year i realized that these feelings, is not going anywhere even until now that im in college, i still feel that way. i finally understand that this is who i am and i have to come to term with it. it wasnt easy, i was still asking a lot of question to my self but im glad that i finally accept it. this is where it kind of turn around, in a good way. istg i havent told my parents about anything yet but i do take off my hijab and they noticed it. they ask me about it and i just tell them that i'm looking for something and i want to experiment with how i express my self. thankfully they kind of accept it? idk, tho they do tell me to put the hijab but they are not forcing me like some parents do and i was really surprised ngl i almost cried😭 also recently i came out to a couple of close friends and changed my name to ian, thankfully they accept it really well and tried their best to call me with that name.. im so thankful for everything that happen and i hope that my parents will try to open up more about all these things so maybe in the future i can explain much more things to them and transition.. cause i do want to transition someday! anyways for anyone who are still reading and reach this part, i just wanted you to know that you got this. you are a strong individual. maybe things doesnt look really bright right now, but things do get better. i know that i'm pretty lucky to have supportive environment that some may dont have but i really hope that things get better for you. i hope that you are always in a safe environment and safe from anything bad. take care fellow trans bby im sending you lots of love🧡
The love of my life is a trans person (cis man here). Before we got together, the transgender fight has always been distant to me. I functionally had no real opinions of trans people, and flip-flopped between affirming and moderately transphobic for a while just based on what the Internet was saying (I am older and wiser to realize the misinformation now). After we got together, however, the transgender fight suddenly became a LOT more personal and dear to me; a sudden realization that your partner, the very person you love most, is in very real danger of a very real death from ignorance and hate is a sobering and haunting realization. So I drove myself to learn, to actively take part in the fight myself. I cannot, and will not, accept a world in which the man I love is unsafe just by virtue of existing as his authentic self. And now 2023 has come, and I have witnessed firsthand the hands of hate, bigotry, and good old-fashioned willful ignorance against trans people, especially from right-wing and conservative culture and media (of which I was born into). It is a truly horrifying kind of bigotry, especially when you hear it from people whom you share a blood relation to. I will never stop fighting, never, until everyone can see the humanity and the beauty of trans people as I have.
I'm quite scared with how things are going on with trans people of colour, as I'm one of them... I want to go stealth so badly but I can't if my parents don't accept me.
Your words touched my heart today, I was very low and in dark place, struggling with whether I should go on or not. I am so tired of living in fear just because I was born trans. I don’t want to live in fear anymore. I don’t want to be ashamed of myself, I just want to be my true self. I stumbled upon your video by accident and it brightened my day. Thank you. ❤
man... so not a choice... I struggle with self depreciation, and I too, would never wish this on my worst enemy... being trans isn't a fun thing (for most at least)... I love you all and wish you all the best
@Ruby Roo Exactly! I’m glad you were able to connect with the video in one way or another :) thank you for the kind comment too! I hope you have a good rest of your day/night
Thank you for this. I feel so isolated and different all the time, i wouldnt wish this horrible feeling on anyone. Its bad enough feeling so horrible all the time but knowing that people want to do disgusting things to you for something you cant control is terrifying.
Seeing the names really struck a chord. I have 2 other friends IRL that are not their assigned gender at birth. Seeing my brothers, sisters, and siblings have to go through all this is painful to watch. Speaking up just a little bit is like a death sentence, sometimes metaphorically, and sometimes literally. I don't think I'll even be able to come out as Non-binary until I'm over 18, or once I move out because of that.
I hope things are okay and safe for you up until then. And that after 18 brings you some much needed mental and/or physical freedom as you come out :) As best of luck to your two friends too. I'm glad you all have one another for support. Stay safe and stay you
I would say that rather than putting a target on yourself, being trans is like being born with a target on your head. You wear a hat to hide that target, but if it slips off from your head, or you get uncomfortable and remove that hat for even a split second, the target is exposed and someone may shoot at it.
I was going to try to come out, and I sort of did, but my dad isn't supportive. Not only that, but I'm terrified of the town I live in, of the country I live in. I'm so scared I won't be able to live long enough to reach the day where I can finally somewhat feel like me, so scared that I'd rather suffer in silence but it's agonizing to be quiet. It's so painful... Anyway, thank you for this, maybe more people will understand. Hopefully more people will understand.
Thank you so much for making this video. I'm very early in my transition, and every day I'm seeing and learning more about all of our many siblings. We are strong. We are valid. We are here. May our days bring us all closer together and into a safer, more accepting world...
I have a friend who is out already, I was talking to my mom about it and she said “Aren’t you too young to decide that?” I was planning on coming out right then and there, until she said that, sure my friend and I may be 12, but that doesn’t mean we can’t feel dysphoria, I had a mental breakdown a few days ago because we were buying clothes and to be able to try a shirt on I had to see my body, and it was worse since changing rooms at clothing stores have very big mirrors, I was allowed to buy a shirt from the men’s section because we were looking for clothes for my brother and I told my mom that I liked a shirt, she asked if I really wanted it (since it was in the men’s section) and I said yes, I’m wearing it right now and it makes me feel so comfortable and happy, I wish I could get a binder, I would be so much more comfortable if I had one
Thank you for this. I put this in a playlist of videos I want to show my mom. I really doubt I will, because of how transphobic she is, but I want to. This means a lot to me and I hope you’re ok
Thank you. I am doing okay and I hope you are too. Please stay safe as any transphobic situation can be unpredictable. You know your mom best though. Best of luck in journey no matter where it takes you :)
"this is who i am, and i would rather live my true self for a moment than spend my whole life lying to myself and to others about who i really am" was not on the let's-cry-instantly bingo card but here we are
This video took the words right out of my mouth. Thank you for taking the time to make this, its very well done and informative. When I saw the list of names at the end, I started crying for the first time in ages. Not one person on that list deserved to die simply for being who they are.
I also think there's more freedom as to what to do as a trans. Whether to want to transition or not. How much you want it to be apart of your identity.
Younger trans girl here. Thanks for making this video. A lot of people don't understand the issue and make it seem so simple. I hold the sentiment that if I live as myself today and help make it a safer place even if I have to lose my life to do so I will take that risk to make it far safer for those who come out in the future.
We are all standing on the shoulders of giants who fought hard for the (often limited) rights we now have. Unfortunately public opinion is something that moves with lead boots so there are still many people out there who think we live in the stone age. There are certain religious books out there that have been around for many centuries that fail to mention anything about trans people. Still the followers criticise us for going against their god's teachings. When all we're doing is evolving to complete her creation. If we were made by a god, just like we are, who are they to criticise us?
Great video! You put it well into words. It’s not that I want to transition, I need it to make my life worth living. I already tried to repress it and I was doing worse and worse every day
I nearly started crying watching this, there is not need to apologize in working towards getting a message out about accepting us and understanding that were working towards being ourselves and don't deserve to be killed just because of transitions or not transitioning and working towards being our true selves, my fiancé and I who are FTM transmen who are working towards being ourselves, socially, medically and out with friends and family, still face ridicule for just trying to be ourselves. I appreciate your videos Sean and wish the best for others who are also working towards transitioning and being themselves wherever they are in their own transitional journey's. If you're taking suggestions for future videos I'd like to see a video about top surgery and ways of saving/making money for the procedure my fiancé and I would love to know other ways of people getting towards that step of doing surgeries especially both top and bottom surgery. Thanks again for making awesome videos! - JessyDraws
Hey Jessy! Thank you for all the kind words and shout out to your fiancé. I hope you all are doing okay and able to stay as safe as possible. That's a great video suggestion! I'll add it to the list :) I think it would be good to make a list of all the ways to save up/raise money for surgery too. Thanks again! I hope you and your partner have a good day/night :)
My parents think that being trans, at my age, is wrong because I never vocalized it at fucking 3. I figured out who I was in 2019, June. Lawrence is my name and I’m a he/him. I’m no longer she/her, mother and father, hell I don’t know if I can tell you that, you seem to downplay my anxiety. Yeah I’m a asshole sometimes but I’m so uncomfortable in this body.
Im recently accepting of being a transwoman. I used to say that for people who were trans or gay or anywhere on the spectrum, that it was a choice. Because I was choosing to avoid what was going on inside myself. The only choice then, is whether you choose to accept who you really are and I strongly believe that anyone who uses that phrase, is making a choice to deny something that scares them within themelves that they arent ready to accept.
That's just sad when being yourself is a cause for killing. Really puts it into perspective of how good a lot of us have it. Sure there are odd looks and a lot of questions, but hey better than getting shot, ran over, brutally beaten.... (The list gets more depressing as it goes on). In realizing that I am Trans, I have never been happier in all my life, it was like finding something I never knew I wanted. I hope others can experience this happiness without fear of being in danger. I will end with this, being a hardcore Catholic, I'm having a hard time seeing why being Trans or Gay is Sinful. In fact I feel being either or both is actually less sinful. Anyone know the logic behind this, if there is any?
For me, Transitioning is literally not a choice. I’m Intersex and developed Hyperestrogenism at age 37 which literally gave me the same changes as a Transwoman. I can’t do anything about it because my heart is too weak for Testosterone treatment so I decided to take Estrogen to speed up the process.
I know im commenting on a year old video but i just wanted to say after watching a couple of these that they have been very educational, thank you, and best wishes
THank you for mentioning that if you can't transition that it doesnt make you less trans. at the moment, i am not able to transition in any way other than cutting my hair short, but i'm still trans and i feel like people need to see that just because i dont feel safe or ready to come out doesnt mean im not trans. Additionally, I pay my respects to those who have died due to transphobia.
my name is alexander, i’m a transgender man, i use he/they and i have this friend. he knows in trans, but i haven’t transitioned yet and it confuses him because i still have a high/soft voice. sometimes he calls me “trans girl” or other things like that.. i try to explain it to him but he doesn’t get it. honestly i give up explaining it to him and i’m just gonna show him this video.. maybe it’ll help
@@user-fo1oj3wf1b it’s not entirely his fault, he lives in a place where trans people arent as common and they’re extremely rare and always closeted where he comes from for like safety reasons. so he doesn’t know how to act but he is getting better! i’m teaching him what to say, and what not to say like how to act respect wise, and stuff like that he’s getting better there is improvement he just needs help understanding
@@m0ssv0m1t3 omg my bad i didn’t know, he’s not a bad friend then. but that’s rlly good!! that he is willing to learn 😁, good job for educating him too
Say it louder for thoses in the back, i get followed around school with people making retching noises. i get spam call from ppl i don't know saying " boy girl" , " ur a girl", " go kys" and "this is why ur dad hates u". Ive also been cornered when I'm trying to get to class and beaten up a lot. its getting to a point where i would walk around school presenting as my assigned birth gender just to get them to back off. I've also had my boyfriend (who I'm afraid to leave) tell me that he likes my girl parts and he has tried things. thankfully i have a very supportive mother who had just had me moved to online schooling and has helped me put a restraining order against my dad. She is going to help me get the things i need in order to transition. it does get better and i beg to any trans person out there that have theses same struggles to never cover yourself and act like the gender your not. you are beautiful inside and out. once you leave school, none of this is ever gonna matter bc your gonna be who you truly are and you will meet some amazing people along the way. my heart is out for anyone who has been brutally mrudered and their families or anyone who is at risk of homelessness for being who they are. you are loved by the whole community, stay safe
People who are transgender are people who were born in the wrong body, or the gender that was assigned to them at birth does not match their internalized gender. A transgender person who is unable to transition doesn't make them any less the gender that they are. What they choose to identify is their business. Why are you so interested in what's in their pants? Another thing that needs to be made clear is GENDER is NOT the same thing as SEX. Sex is your birth assigned gender based of off your genetalia, which usually fits into male or female, and as well as intersex. The gender binary is based off of people's sex. But there are people who do not want to fit into this enclosed binary of only male and female, which creates genders outside the binary, such as non binary or genderfluid. If you're a part of the LGBTQIA+ community, know that you're valid and that you can identify as what you'd like and/or need to. I love you just the way you are, don't change yourself for the sake of people's negative comments around or towards you. - your enby lesbian dad that's still questioning gender 💕
I personally just wish not to ever transition. I’m genderfluid as I’ve already stated. I feel like I’ll be comfortable if I just wear a binder one day. That’s all me though. Some people have an internal need to transition. They want to. And if you’re one of those people then I support you all the way. Also, Thankyou Phoenix for making this video. It’s very important to say. We cannot Thankyou enough.
I resonate with this, I'm enby and don't feel like having to have a top surgery (afab baby) but most days I feel like wearing a binder will help me be seen as my gender. I don't necessarily mind my own chest but people tend to assume where I live and getting myself a binder will help me be more confident in being myself around people. It's all different for each and everyone so don't feel like you're not valid folks, you are whether you want a certain surgery or not. The whole point of being trans is making yourself comfortable in your own body and make it feel like it belongs to you. Your body is a temple and you are the one decorating it
so im 13 and trans. but my mom tells me even about my sexuality that its a trend and that its a phase when im seriously talking about it and now im scared to tell my mom im trans... what do i do...
@ i have accepted reality, you havent. you are literally on a video explaining why what you do hurts people, and you continue to do it., furthermore you only pick on the most vulnerable. you have no life, no soul, and no value at all to society, the world, and people in general,
I’ve been transitioning for 3 years and I’m now realizing that I might not ever pass on estrogen alone. I walk around everyday as a ghost. Nobody can connect with me because nobody can see me. I’m constantly depersonalized, and it just flat out sucks. I’d never wish this pain on anyone. It’s not a choice. Who would choose this? And I’m one of the lucky ones
As a trans woman who didn't start transition yet and afraid to come out to family, I feel you.❤️ We have right to exist.✨ And to all conservatives, your ignorance doesn't justify your oppression!
I’m scared to come out to my maternal side of the family. My mother is extremely transphobic (even though she claims she’s not) and my dad says he “doesn’t believe in being trans” which really pisses me off. I do think I want to be male, but I really like dressing as a girl and doing things associated with femininity. *ALL TRANS LIVES MATTER*
Omg! I have a transphobic mother as well! I came out to her and she was extremely mad at me. she told me that I am sinning and the Lord God is mad at me. I hope your coming out goes better 😔
@@catgamer6370 I’m really sorry about your mom. Mine also got super mad at me and grounded me for a month. I hope your mother will be more accepting of you.
@@baireth9837 Yeah. my mom thinks that I have been watching something about transgender. I told her that I've always felt like a girl. Then she told me that it's a ''sin'' and I'm going against God's will... I wish that the LGBQ+ can be accepted for who they are and for people to stop judging us.
Dude, you have an awesome way of showing people how being transgender is like! I've only watched three of your videos, but they are amazing and I really think that you are showing how it is very well!
“Why are you trans?” Huh? I didn’t choose this? I didn’t choose to go through years of gender dysphoria just to be scared to come out to my school. I didn’t choose anything, I was born the way I was, and that will never change. You can’t pick and choose gender, it’s not like shopping for clothes, it’s emotionally draining waking up to feeling like you were born in the wrong body.
At 2:17 the colors of the people make the Genderfluid Flag, I don't know if this was intentional or not. 😂
Haha yup! I try to hide Easter eggs like that in my videos. Good job spotting it so fast!
@@PhoenixAnimations I actually love the fact that you fill the video "NPCs" with pride colors as a recurring sort of thing and it kinda keeps my mind on its toes too noticing the colors. I like this!
@Amy Abitz aww I’m glad :) it’s always been a goal I’ve tried to keep from the start. I think it’s a fun challenge to try and fit some Pride colors in. Especially when people in the comments get excited in spotting them haha
Now i wanna do that myself if i make videos
@@PhoenixAnimations ouf im genderfluid and I didn’t even notice this😭
you put into words what i felt but couldn't verbalise to my cis peer who just. dont. get it !! thank you for this !!
No problem :) I hope it helps out in explaining more to them.
@@PhoenixAnimations shut up
@@playfulwaffle1716 how about you shut up
Exactly the comment I was about to post. Hugs ♥
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There are 28 too many names on that list. I can’t stop thinking about everything you said... you’re one of my biggest inspirations and I don’t even know you personally. I just went back to school (virtually) and it just hurts. I’m still just hurting because I’m not out out yet and what’s even worse is that they use our photo from last year and last year I hadn’t even gotten my hair cut yet... I *hate* how I look in that photo; and that’s how they see me. You say the things I can’t say out loud right now. You give me just enough hope for the years ahead.
*Being trans is not a choice.*
@River Cherny hey there, thank you so much for the kind comment. Your school situation sank in my heart and I hope you’re doing okay overall. Things aren’t easy right now, so don’t hesitate to give yourself time and space to take some deep breaths. Maybe you could reach out to the school and send them an updated picture as replacement? I suppose it’s worth checking out. Regardless, stay safe and stay you. You got this :)
@@PhoenixAnimations thank you so much for the reply. I’m still fighting
7 months later update: this video continues to hit ridiculously hard. i’m out to a few of my friends in irl school now, and i actually think i’ve finally pretty much figured myself out. and while i can’t say things are great and i’m 100% fine... things are finally looking up. if anyone out there is reading this in a shitty situation and still trying to figure out your own identity, trust me, *trust me* things will eventually get better. maybe not today, maybe not 6 months from now, but things do get better. i’m still grateful for Sean’s reply and thx for all the likes on here, stay alive and stay true to yourselves everyone :)
I'm so sorry Toby. It's been a year so I really hope things have gotten better for you!
Today I'm 196 days on Estrogen, and my name is Jezebel. The identity I had was a lie forced upon me, this is my truth and I refuse to lie to myself anymore.
I dont know what you look like, but, I bet you look absolutely gorgeous Jezebel 🖤 I'm very proud of you and how far you've come
@@star-gutz9770 Just noticed that I never uploaded a profile photo
@@jezebelmei195 oh lol
OMG gurl you're?! So cute?? 🥰 I love your hair in your photo aahhhhh
@chris jones science and my doctor say otherwise boo
This hit me hard. When you started mentioning their names, i nearly started crying. They did not deserve what happened to them. For all of you fellow trans people, please stay safe and take care of yourselves because in the end, if you don't, then, who will?
Thank you for watching. It’s definitely difficult for me to even rewatch the whole video through. You stay safe yourself too :)
i started crying
As an MTF trans person, I can relate to the closet reason of not transitioning. It's just so scary being out, so many people who could do the things you mentioned, and the closet is safe, but then being in the closet and constantly being treated as the wrong gender is painful.You described this predicament very well, and I think it might help me decide what to do next, closet-wise and such.
I'm glad the video was able to put words into how you and others are feeling. Best of luck in journey regardless of where it takes you :) please stay safe and stay you
Same here it’s hard I am very lucky to have supportive parents but i feel really bad for everybody who can’t come out.. it’s hard you don’t know how they will react to it
Mtf makes me think of mobile task force 😭
@@Poiplimu bro yesterday I just played SCP SL for the first time in years what a coincidence
Don't let that pain get to you
God, the fetishization hit hard. People always like to say they're only attracted to trans people and it makes me feel so so sick.
But rest in peace to those who have been killed. I actually cried at the amount of names there were.
I feel like not enough people talk about how we are fetishized (and it is partly because people aren’t calling it out when it does happen)
28 lives... hopefully no more will be lost... thank you for watching and commenting
Could you elaborate please
@@polasamierwahsh421 people will say they only find trans men or trans women attractive, they will say innaproate comments about our lower areas. That is fetishizing trans people
@@star-gutz9770 I see , so as long as they accept both equally and don't be pricks about the lower are they're good
....You were right that's something hard to find
Thanks for shedding light on such problem
@@polasamierwahsh421 you're very welcome! To be completely honest I dont think it's even their fault, the adult film industry does this so its probably what started to concept :(
I've came out to my mum 5 times in the space of 3 years she still calls me she/her (daughter, lottie) when I tell her to use he/him pronouns (son, Toby) and I am actually crying rn because of this, it's absolutely great being transgender and I 100% choose to be like this because it's so fun!
don't wanna be rude here but what do you mean 'fun'? I would certainly say that not lying and being your true self makes you feel better, though!
Hi Toby I bet youre a real handsome guy im sorry your mom doesnt use your preferred name and pronouns
@@elizathegamer413 I was sorta being sarcastic because people say 'why are you trans? ' like it's a choice. And I'm just a sarcastic person XD, it is kinda fun tho at times. Like when you get your reference to as your preferred pronouns and things.
@@Chelaysiahsaturn thx!
Ah, Toby is my deadname. I'm a trans girl, still fully closeted tho :/
It's a shame your mother won't use your preferred name and pronouns. I hope my parents will be accepting.
Edit: I CAME OUT TO MY PARENTS AND THEY'RE ACCEPTING YAYYYYYYYYYY
not transitioning to some people would be like sitting in a chair with spikes on it and transitioning is moving to that much more comfortable chair a few kilometres away, yeah sure you have to walk those kilometres but it is worth it in the end.
That’s a great way to explain it, thank you!
@@PhoenixAnimations Thanks!
wait so what would sitting on the floor be
Yeah, because we all know bettering yourself or having self control is too hard, pumpkin.
@@noncomplacent using pet names for people you don't know makes you look extremely creepy.
Oh my god, the pain in your voice, I was crying with you 😭💔
I legit cry at night sometimes for all our siblings that have been murdered. And one of MY close friends was raped for being trans, even though he lives the scars are there, and I see and feel that. I know it's lucky he's survived and I am GRATEFUL he is still here. and we always have each other's backs and defend each other when misgendered and mistreated.
i wish people would open their eyes and realize none of us choose to be dehumanized like this. thank you for saying what needs to be said. and thank you for being here. stay safe brother 🌷💕
Thank you so much for watching through. Even trying to rewatch it myself is difficult. It’s horrible what happened your friend and I hope he is okay. Send him my best wishes and safety. I’m glad he has someone as supportive as you to talk to.
Thanks again. Please stay safe and stay you,
Sean
I knew people had something against trans people..
But I didn't realise it was this bad.. Thank you for sharing this.
@Fluffy Fleur Sadly it is the current reality in the US, and some places it’s far worse (and other places it’s better).
Thanks for watching and commenting!
I feel like the problem is that there is no point in the hate, discrimination for anything is pointless and stupid because you would think we the smart and great humans would know better than to hate people for things that literally don’t affect them
I did a report on LGBTQ+ rights and got yelled at by my teacher last year. But that was okay because the discrimination was so common. Its not okay anymore, it never has been and you have shown me that. We need to stand together and become stronger, show the world that we are people to not just toys, or sick in the mind.
I was also wondering if you had a discord server, it might be a way to spread more love and support to other trans and or enby folk.
Thank you for watching and saying all of that. Sadly no Discord that I run, but I’m sure there’s ones out there that have pretty decent moderators and a good group of people. Maybe I’ll put together a resource page with some good groups to join. Currently I just don’t have the time to moderate one at the moment, but it’s a great idea. Community is very important
@@PhoenixAnimations Then consider this my application to run and moderate a server for you. If it’s not something you want to do then you can turn me down but I would sure love to help.
@Ainsley Lange aw that’s cool of you to offer! I’ll say this - you’re welcome to start a discord and I will do my best to advertise it on Tumblr, Instagram, Patreon, and whatnot; however, I’d rather not be... I’m not sure how to explain this. Basically I’m worried that if something bad were to happen, I would feel it’s personally my fault. That’s just my personality, nothing on you or Discord specifically. And so, to avoid that, I don’t necessarily want to be linked as an admin or creator. Maybe if I had the resources to pay people like you to moderate it and whatnot (which I don’t have currently), I would feel a bit more comfortable and open to working with awesome people like you.
I hope that makes sense. Anywho, yes, go for it! And I would love to join the Discord as just a regular person who happens to also be a TH-camr haha. I’ll definitely help advertise it though! I’m just not fully prepared to be a mod/admin mentally and financially/time wise.
@@PhoenixAnimations It totally makes sense and thank you for explaining your situation, I would love to make a server. I’ll let you know the link when I get it set up. Thank you for allowing me to do this. 😅😊
W teacher
Being trans is terrifying, but I don't want to stop being trans. I feel happier knowing I'm being who I am now, and I don't want to give that up. Thank you for making videos. You're helping more people than you think.
I can’t express how much I agree with that, I love knowing who I am but I’m scared to loose those I love who happen to be homophobic and transphobic
Great video, man!
Also, people who don't fully transition (for example, don't want to get all the surgeries or hormones) are valid as well.
And for some or a lot of people, transitioning is something that can actually SAVE lives I just don't understand why people get so worked up about the lives of others and what they think or know is best for themselves
Especially the end was really hard to listen to, because I couldn just hear the pain and emotion in your voice it must've surely been hard to record (that's just my guess though, as I don't know you of course-)
100% agree. A person doesn’t have to get all the surgeries and whatnot if they don’t feel they need them all to be happy and comfortable in their body. Each transition is different
Definitely was difficult and took a lot longer than I had expected (Hence why the audio sounds different in certain sections of the video). I appreciate you watching and commenting. I hope you have a good rest of your day/night. Stay safe
@@PhoenixAnimations i gotta thank you for making these videos!
It's night for me and I also wish the same to you.
@@PhoenixAnimations could I also add how much this reply and video just made my.. Night??
Anyway, I've been feeling really alone or rather lonely and suicidal lonely and this video plus the reply just gave me so much hope and the strength to go on :)
Keep it up man, you're doing great
@jugendfreie Organversache yoo you’re doing great! I appreciate the kind words, but don’t forget to tell them to yourself too :) have a good night! Stay safe and stay you.
Yes exactly! it's so frustrating when people act like because I don't want bottom surgery I'm less valid! It's total BS because if the parts I was born with don't define my gender then what I choose to do with those parts shouldn't define my gender either!
And, you dont need dysphoria to be trans, there are many differnt things that make someone trans. And you dont have to transition if you dont want too!
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Thank you for saying this, as an enby I don't necessarily get body dysphoria but I get social dysphoria when people use exlusively my birth assigned pronouns and name. Unfortunately for me there aren't socially accepted gender non-specific pronouns in my language so it sometimes gets really hard :,) Especially if the general mindset when it comes to gender is heavy binary and people look at you like you're an alien even if you're "normal" trans person, let alone "something extra".. you don't need to feel body dysphoria to be valid
Ash.4 what exactly do you mean? i’m not trying to be rude here, i’m just genuinely curious because i’ve seen people say this a lot. how does someone be transgender without dysphoria? like, are they choosing to be transgender? who would choose to be transgender?
again, i’m not trying to be insensitive or rude, i’m just trying to educate myself.
@@sgtruru it's talking about body dysphoria in particular, gender dysphoria as whole consists of sub types: social, body(also could be specified to chest/bottom dysphoria), and at least one more that just slipped from my mind. You have to experience at least one but most commonly people refer only to one, body dysphoria, simply as dysphoria. You don't need body dysphoria to be classified as transgender since gender is on a spectrum not necessarily connected to ones genitals or other body parts.
I for example don't experience body dysphoria (dysphoria for short) but I'm still nonbinary (which falls under transgender) and experience discomfort when people misgender me and/or dead name me. I experience discomfort when I'm perceived as gender I'm not. hope I helped :)
You're choosing to be transgender if you are connected to your birth gender and feel no disconnect. That is dysphoria, i.e. a disconnect, wrong gender, uncomfortable being called your birth pronouns ect. There's nothing wrong with being cis.
I never chose to live a life of getting hunted down, physically, verbally and emotionally abused, getting everything I loved removed from my life, having to have plans to run away from my transphobic country, having so much physical, mental and social pain and having everyone tell me that I’m wrong or that satan is tricking me, just because I chose to. I WOULD NEVER WISH THIS TO MY WORST BLOODY ENEMY, IT IS SO PAINFUL IN SO MANY WAYS THAT ARE UNEXPLAINABLE. I hope everyone has a good day! :)
It’s so disturbing to see all those names of people who just wanted to live their lives in peace and it was denied them in the most horrific way. I’m so sorry for all the pain my trans brothers and sisters must endure on top of being slaughtered for just wanting to be comfortable in their own body.
Remember though being gay was illegal only a few decades ago and with so many people starting to stand up we have a chance that we too will be less demonized. It still seems so far off, I know, but we are getting there. Be strong my beautiful friends.
salutes to the nonbinary flag in my room
I was born the wrong gender, that's all I have to say, g'night ya'll, door's that way.
NVM, stay for one more sec. I meet people that said your sexuality was a choice and your birth gender is your set gender. Both are wrong. People don't choose to be something that can get them killed. Why can't you get that though your head?! Don't hurt us for something we can't control, think of it like this (And yes, this example is Animal Crossing themed) Your trying to breed flowers, you want a black rose so you can start breeding for golden roses. You end up getting a orange rose. Are you going to get rid of that rose when it could help your island just look a little better? If that rose had feelings (Bare with me, I know it's getting weird) it would be thrown away for something it couldn't control. Now, could that rose change it's color, to, let's say pink? Yes, with some help and support, it can. It can become that pink rose it wanted to be. At the end of the day, that new pink rose, can be what make that island 5 stars. Im sorry, that got kinda stupid, using roses and Animal Crossing, PFFFF, Im addicted to that game...
Stop hurting and killing us, we can't control this, we are who we are!!
Ayo, thanks bro. I'm not transgender, but subbed to this channel to Mabye get some insight on what my freind is dealing with. He's a real cool dude, and is actually part of how I figured out I am pansexual. It's super gross that people have to deal with hate JUST for feeling like they are a different gender then the one "God" gave them. I want to suppourt my bro in any way I can, and I am very happy that I can learn from these videos and these comments.
Bruh, I talk too much lol
How are you born the wrong gender wtf
@@laer1545 fr
I'm still crying over what happened to me
I'm medically transitioning and not socially yet, when I come out to everyone and fully socially transition I will be sharing this video with my family and friends. For now, I'm saving the video in my "When I SocTrans" playlist
Ay best of luck when you socially transition! Hope my videos can help out
I always feel as if I’m faking having these type of thoughts, since I never experienced dysphoria in my childhood.
After watching this, I think I’m starting to learn a bit about myself. For that, I thank you.
To clarify, most likely I CAN’T transition because first off, my mom would most likely burn me alive. (I’m not joking when I say that, she actually does burn my wrists every now and then.) At the same time, I have no money nor would anybody support that in my family unfortunately. It feels as if I have to forfeit my own safety and human rights just to be who I am. (I say this because the neighborhood where I live is dangerous for trans people.)
I hope nobody else has to deal with such threats, so I hope you’re in a better situation than me. At least even that thought makes me know I’m not alone, and I thank you for being who you are, despite the hatred this world has.
I’m sorry, and thank you.
oh my lord……i hope things will get better…my heart goes out to people in situations like this ❤
I am thankfully in a MUCH better situation than that, as my parents, while somewhat emotionally and mentally abusive at times, are at least not PHYSICALLY abusive, and are also not bigoted at all, except for being pretty ableist. In fact, they're even paying for my HRT lol
“Why not just not transition?” Thats like asking “why not just be unhappy and give up.”
I get so many comments that say this on my videos. It only further shows how little some cisgender people attempt to understand and be accepting that other people have different thoughts and feelings to them.
Life isn't happy tho
As a cisgender person, I have one word about that one segment: yikes. Hearing about all the horrible things which happen to trans people, I felt genuine fear. I thought the only trans-specific problems were people not supporting your identity, paying for transitioning, and gender dysphoria.
I didn’t know people were fetishised and raped just for being born with the wrong genitals.
I didn’t know people were shot and killed in public just for using pronouns that don’t allign with their birth gender.
I didn’t know people were alienated and rejected by so called “respectable society” just for being trans.
But I’m glad I do now, because it helps me be a better ally.
Those things happen truly. You're lucky if your classmates decide to just discriminate against you instead of deciding to rape or torture you. I, as a trans person, have gotten harassed and at an extreme point, a gun pointed at me and got stalked just to get molested. I know these people who just hate me for existing are just taught to react that way by people who they trust and love. I just hope for a future that people just decide not to commit crimes towards someone lifestyle. I know I'm sick that's what fucking gender dysphoria is but if your hate towards a person is to a point you commit unspeakable crimes, I believe you need to be locked up and be forced into therapy. I know many believe I should be locked up, but I'm not a danger towards anyone, the only person I'm a danger to is myself since I'm now suicidal for just being treated as shit for existing. But I'm getting the help I need to not be a danger towards myself. I want to live, be in a comfortable body, and live life like any other person.
@@starrby7790 I do not know what to say, but with you being molested, threatened, etc. to the point of being suicidal, I should acknowledge that. Sorry about all that, and I hope you find better people and get into a better place of mind. I’m not a psychologist or someone who’s been in a similar situation, so I can’t give you any (good) advice, but I’m always here at this comment if you need to vent.
@I kinda just exist Thank you. I appreciate you for being kind, and empathetic towards me. I'm currently slowly changing my life to improve my mental health and have gotten a support animal who has been helping me a lot through my process of healing from PTSD, and not relapsing in bad habits hurtful to myself. I hope to not again fall in a dark place and be able to enjoy my life happily.
@@starrby7790 1. I hope your recovery goes well and that you never go into a horrible and toxic mindset again.
2. Tell your support animal some guy on the internet said ‘hi!’
thank you for learning and understanding us :)
PREACH MY BROTHER!! This made me cry hearing the emotion in your voice spoke to me . Get this guy a bigger platform!
Aww thank you. This video took a long time to get the audio recording down... I'm glad it got across
Hope you're doing well and staying safe!
Damn. The last part goes down deep. Hope y'all trans folk keep on staying stay safe and strong. Y'all are beautiful and valid whether you choose to do transition or not
Aw thank you for the kind words 🌈 I hope you have a good rest of your day/night :) please stay safe (or as safe as possible)
The way it was put to me was like this: "Coming out is like eating. You get to choose when, where, who with, etc, but in the end you HAVE to do it at some point or else you won't survive."
I am incredibly grateful for my safe and supportive home environment. I am a transgender man and I came out of the closet this year. My father immediately started asking me if I wanted to go to gender therapy, if I had a preferred name and preferred pronouns, if he was allowed to call me by that name and pronouns in front of my friends, etc. The most amazing thing, he bought me a binder for my birthday and he sat me down and said “I know normally Christmas gifts are a surprise. But I’m getting your birth certificate changed to your preferred name and a legalised sex change. I can’t afford to medically transition you but I can afford to put you in gender therapy. Merry Christmas, my son.” And I just sat there crying tears of joy for a solid five minutes. For all of you who don’t have a safe home environment I am so so sorry that you have to go living your life in fear. Please, please stay safe. Trans rights are human rights. 💙💕💙💕
Goddamn this actually almost made me cry, I'm so happy for you
👍🏿😊🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
So happy for you. I have had a similar experience among my friends and family. Perhaps not as enthusiastic as your dad but so far no-one has said a bad word to me about it. Even my 93 year old father in law took it in and is using my new name and pronouns. The world has moved on (though not everywhere) it seems. After I came out in a very public way, some of my colleagues have chosen to talk to me as little as possible but most couldn't care less and have quickly adapted.
I wish I could send this to my father. He calls being trans a trend. Maybe I will during Halloween and I'll stay the weekend and a friend's house and then go to my sister's for a day or two. Does anyone else have any better ideas?
My advice is staying as safe as possible when still under your parents roof and not able to leave (usually due to financial stuff and whatnot). You know your father best. If he isn’t friendly to LGBTQ+ folk, that may be a good indicator not to “poke the bear” just yet. Best of luck though. Please stay safe
@@PhoenixAnimations weell do you know why he says its a trend. As there is a spike in transgender teens. And I know a trans person form the uk who need to do it herself as the people who are not trans and only think they are without being really trans are clogging up the system and they risk the lives of trans people who are really trans and suffer under gender dysphoria or am I wrong?
good video man, really important stuff. Absolutely agree with everything you've said, thank you.
Why thank you. I was a bit worried about releasing this video, but I'm glad the message is getting across. Thanks for the kind comment!
I myself am not trans but I hugely appreciate and enjoy what you are doing here keep it up 💜. I hope you can be a beacon of light those who need it and that this community can help people in some way. I know a trans guy who is stuck at home not being allowed to research trans issues or get non religious help with his dysphoria. Recently his parents found out I was talking to him about lgbtq things and they forced him to cut ties with both me and a friend of mine who knows them. I don’t know how I can help him, I don’t know how hard it is for him to deal with his dysphoria, I just hope he can stick it out and take some care for himself. He is 14 right now and still has years before he can move out. I wish I knew how I could help him. One of the last things I was able to do is show him some trans youtubers and a video of yours. If he sees this I hope he is doing alright, and if he needs it I am always open to talk and find a way to hide it if he feels he needs to.
It was too early for everyone in the transgender community who were taken because someone else couldn't handle their existence. I can only hope for a day it doesn't happen. I want to be myself with my friends without worrying about each other. I'm lucky I havn't lost someone I loved yet. I hope things can change before me or another person does.
I know it's a small part of the vid, but talking about how it's ok if you can't transition helped me a bit. My current situation means if I tried right now it wouldn't end well. Thank you so much for giving me confidence to keep pushing through.
Been going through some serious social dysphoria that triggers my body dysphoria because of my new job. I hate having to hide out of fear of getting hatecrimed, losing my job and losing my family forever. My depression is getting worse with the voice constantly telling me to off myself all day, last night I cried because I feel like I’ll never truly be as masculine as I want to be and appear, too short, no pp, no service. I feel like the best thing I could be is someone’s fetish which also plays as my worst fear. Tbh I’m not proud to be trans, I would give do anything to not be trans and just be cis. I had the NB flag as my pfp for discord but I’d feel ashamed to talk to anyone with it, I’ve changed it. I love seeing trans people love themselves and express their pride but I could never. Not even hormones could help the hate for myself, at the end of the day I feel like I’ll be reaching for something that is just too far out of reach. I just really want to restart, but at the cost of being born a bigot seems like a pretty nope situation.
I came out to my parents when I was 13 and they kicked me out I got me a job once I turned 15 now I am 21 a proud trans bisexual women
Damn, being kicked out at 13 is absolutely inhuman
Congrats on making it through, I hope things are good for you now
Your parents suck, glad you're doing alright tho sis
I can’t even imagine how difficult it is to live as a trans person in this society. So many wonderful people who suffer because of misinformed, ignorant, or just plain hateful people.
If you are struggling, for whatever reason, know that you are loved, you are beautiful, and you are valid. And I wish you could live in a society that didn’t try to argue about that. Someday we will get there. We just have to keep going.
Thank you. Thank you a thousand times for making that video.
Thank you for saying their names.
Thank you for saying out loud what hurts.
I was searching a trans audio text to put words on the pain I feel. You did it, thank you.🙏🏽
Aw thank you for the kind words. Hopefully I won’t have to make a similar video next year, but I will if I have to. Please stay safe and stay you :)
It wasn't until I was (and still am) partly out of the closet. Lack of support in the people close to me really hit me like a truck. Especially people I expected to be supportive, but who just brushed me off when I came out. There weren't nearly as many supportive people as I expected and that really took a blow at my mental health. I nearly had a mental breakdown when I saw my father and he kept deadnaming me and not correcting himself, and my sister followed suit but questioned me about it when we were alone. It also really upsets me when the people who are supportive deadname and/or misgender me in front of others if they don't clarify first they don't mean it. All that being said, I plan to come out to a classmate tomorrow and at this point I'm not sure what to expect. It might just lead to another mental breakdown, especially considering I'm still recovering from a lot of trauma that resided in school. I recently came out to someone close to me living in the same household and now I try to avoid them because it's too painful when they deadname me. 2/3 people in my household are not supportive and I'm not quite sure what to do. My experiences of being trans so far (purely in the social aspect); it's very difficult to be trans, how difficult varies in where you live. I honestly wish I was just born a boy so that everyone could just accept me without question. It would all be so much easier if I was cis. Despite that, I really treasure the people that ARE supportive, kudos to them!
as a “passing” trans woman im scared every day of my life someone questions what i was born as and decides to harm me because of it. im absolutely terrified.
unlikely that will ever happen, probably a higher chance youd get struck by lightning
@@ster-c4u 86.2 trans women are victims of violent crime per 1000, versus 0.0017 people being struck by lightning per 1000. To put it another way, as a trans women you are >50,000 times more likely to be attacked than be struck by lightning
I just within the last week started to realize that I am trans, and I’m for sure not in a safe place to transition right now. I own my own home but I could lose my job or at least have it made much harder for me if I present as fem at work or in public. The most sobering part of this is, my depression has always made me think the people around me wouldn’t just be better off if I were dead, but that they want me to die. Now that I realize that I’m trans, that’s more true than it’s ever been before. At least for some, thankfully my family and friends have been extremely supportive, but I live in a rural neighborhood, where when it’s real quiet you can hear the faint sound of banjos and Sean Hannity’s voice echoing through the trees. If I come out, I might be pulled over more. I might be attacked, or robbed. Or killed.
"Take a break from transitioning" this literally made me tear up. It's so hard sometimes. I have to act super masculine just to be considered male, and I still get misgendered. I can't even act like myself. It's exhausting, it's tiring, it's hard...
I know some people who are usually kind and care for others on a very deep level, but they are unfortunately extremely transphobic.
I have literally witnessed them lose all sense of humanity for others just because they were trans.
It's so scary knowing some of the people who are out there.
Stay safe, y'all, I love you 🏳️⚧️
PREACHHHH
Not trans, but am part of LGBT community. Dude, thanks for creating this channel, it helps inform me and others.
Of course! And welcome to the channel :) it’s great to have you here 🌈
I hate when people say shiznicks like “I’m glad I grew up in the 90’s we weren’t such snowflakes back then” then their kid makes one joke about them “WAHHHH YOU CANT SAY THAT ABOUT ME!!!!” Same with boomers “I fought in the war you guys need don’t need to whine bout that” the ok boomer meme starts “THIS IS A HATE CRIME!!!”
Thanks, I came out to my family recently and some weren’t so supportive, I needed to hear this as they were really starting to make me second guess the whole thing
This is your journey, not theirs. I wish you all the luck, no matter where life takes you.
I’d like to say thanks for making these videos. Although none of the topics apply to me specifically - as in something that I can relate to - I find this channel very useful for education. I don’t have an inherent reason, I know of trans people that I’m not inherently close to, but in the event that somebody may need my support, or perhaps I feel the need to try and change someone’s views on a situation that neither of us could experience, then I would say that this channel is worth not only my time but everyone’s. I’m not familiar with all the terms, I’m cis (that’s where I’m a bloke and was physcially born as one right?) and straight and thus there’s somethings I don’t understand. I however have the decency not to pester people about private questions as if they’re comfortable enough they’d tell me in my own time. Most stuff seems common sense, but clarification is welcomed. I don’t want to be ignorant. Luckily my situation was easy from the start. But that doesn’t mean you can’t assist others while you’re chugging along freely. You may be smooth sailing; that doesn’t absolve you of the responsibility to help those stranded on a raft.
Thank you ❤
Hey there! Thanks so much for reaching out and saying all of that. It always makes me smile to see cisgender people watching and commenting on my videos. It’s clear that you not only watch, but also listen. I think those are two very different things when it comes to watching videos like these or even just having a conversation with someone. Thank you for your open mindedness and support. It is truly appreciated and I cannot say that enough.
It’s okay to not be familiar with all the terms. If you do have any additional questions though, don’t hesitate to ask them here or on any of my other videos :)
I hope you have a great rest of your day/night. Even as a cis person, you should still stay safe and stay you :)
It’s definitely not a choice, thank you for this video, i love you and you are loved by many, and thank you for acknowledging all these innocent people, rest in paradise all ❤️
Of course, I am glad to make this video (even though it turned out to be more difficult than I had thought to record the audio). I like the "rest in paradise", thank you for saying that for them.
Phoenix Animations and please make more videos, I love your channel!! I’m transgender as well ❤️
@Moni Omnas will do haha :) plenty more to come
I hope you have a good rest of your day/night!
Phoenix Animations you too hon and thank you for helping educate people ❤️
This video hit really hard. I’m not the type of person that cries all that much, but your words had me sobbing. It’s truly awful waking up each day without being able to show my true self to my friends and family because I fear what might happen if they know, the constant struggle of who I see in the mirror vs who I see myself as… it’s just so… tiring.
Yet, when I watched the video and got the courage to read some of the comments, I felt… not as alone. Since most people on my country (Dominican Republic) don’t struggle with the same things as me in regards to gender, it always felt like it was me against the world, but reading other peoples experiences and watching your video made me feel a bit relieved and a bit more hopeful. Thank you.
Hey, as another trans sibling, I just want to give you my support in solidarity. I'm not in a position to transition yet either, so I understand how you feel. I understand it can feel like the weight of the world is balancing on your shoulders. Just take a deep breath and relax. You are not alone. You can achieve your goals and become the beautiful person you were meant to be; one step at a time. You are cared about and loved. You are important. 👐 ❤
Sincerely, a transmasc/FTM.
video: is depressing, the ad before it: now that we have helped people cover and save with liberty mutual we can finally do some beach reading
HA, yeah the TH-cam ad algorithm is wack
0:55 thank you for talking about how some people don’t discover that about themselves until their older.
I was trying to explain how I feel about it to my stepmom, but she said “I think you know who you are when your very young” and I couldn’t put into words how that’s not always the case… (I discovered I may be trans when I was around 12, and came out to them when I was 14. The child in question we were discussing about was three…) in fact, I doubt kids will have there gender identity all sorted out from a super young age already. That’s hypocritical.
She’s always been very supportive, and we had that conversation eating at this new Indian restaurant just the two of us (and I absolutely love Indian food) so don’t think she intentionally would say that with bad connotations.
Anyways, just thank your for the validation that my point stands as fact. I often have trouble explaining things, so this was a great way to put it. :)
Wow. that showed me a lot I didn't know. I can't begin to understand how much that hurts to have people like you hated and killed I can't believe that people could be so cruel but thank you for telling me this and talking about these people so we can remember them. Thank you.
Ive come to terms with the fact that i might not ever transition and thats okay with me. I wish i could shapeshift or at least that people were more accepting but most arent. I have dysphoria, both physical and social but i am forcing myself to accept it because i can’t go through trying to transition again. I tried when i was around 10-16 on and off but mostly on, doing the whole shebang: cut my hair, binders, button up shirts, etc. and it was amazing. It was so freeing but it was also so limiting. And i felt that i belonged nowhere except online spaces. Conforming to my predetermined femininity has made it easier, though its still hard. I wish all of you the best life and i hope you will be at peace with whatever you decide💕 nothing will change the fact that i am trans. Not even acting like I’m not. Maybe ill regret it when I’m old, maybe i won’t.
sending this to my transphobic friend, that guy gets all that's coming to him
I hope the video helps give him a new perspective
I’m trans and I’ve tried not to be and it just does not work. However I am going to transition and no can stop me.
I’ll never get over why people murder others just for being themselves.
It's incredibly disturbing... and unfortunately last year was the most violent. I hope this year does not follow the same track... stay safe, as safe as you can.
When my father told me he wouldnt let me start T I told him, either you say yes now or I do it when I move out and risk a relationship with me. I told him such similar words to “I would rather live my true self for a moment than lie to myself and others”. I told him lI would rather be happy for a minute than go back to how I felt, I would rather be happy for a minute than go through all this pain every day”
Thank you so much! This odd feeling in me couldn't be explained better. It touched my heart and soul when you said "I would rather be me for a moment than lie to myself for my whole life" thank you so much. Hope those people who lost their lives rest in peace.
@Robin Vobin I’m so glad I could help put into words how you’re feeling. It’s not easy and I can understand that. Please stay safe and stay you
@@PhoenixAnimations thank you so freaking much and same goes for you too fam
I'm a trans guy. My gender is male. My gender expression is androgynous. Google was wrong about that definition, but your video is very informative overall! Thank u! ❤
I hate how people think that it’s a choice, we never asked for this, why would we want this? To be dehumanized and treated as if we’re “sick”? It was never a choice, and maybe when we were young we didn’t really know, that doesn’t mean that now that we’re older we should be ashamed or scared to express who we are. People need to grow the fuck up out of their closed minds and realize we are all human, no matter our sexuality, gender identity, race, and sex. We are human, deal with it.
If there is a god, she created us just the way we are. All we're doing is evolving to fulfil her creation.
i almost break down at the end.. thank you for putting it into words so well.. it express how im feeling currently cause, i was really questioning my gender again lately.
this will be a long comment but i just want to write these things so.. i was born in an islamic family, my parents are not that strict, but they have the base and really holding on to it. i've tried to explain and comeout back then when i was in middle school but they dont accept it that well and tell me to think again maybe im just confused and for a moment, i believe that i was confused. it was the darkest time of my life. i was projecting, and denying everything about who i am as a person. but last year i realized that these feelings, is not going anywhere even until now that im in college, i still feel that way. i finally understand that this is who i am and i have to come to term with it. it wasnt easy, i was still asking a lot of question to my self but im glad that i finally accept it.
this is where it kind of turn around, in a good way. istg i havent told my parents about anything yet but i do take off my hijab and they noticed it. they ask me about it and i just tell them that i'm looking for something and i want to experiment with how i express my self. thankfully they kind of accept it? idk, tho they do tell me to put the hijab but they are not forcing me like some parents do and i was really surprised ngl i almost cried😭 also recently i came out to a couple of close friends and changed my name to ian, thankfully they accept it really well and tried their best to call me with that name.. im so thankful for everything that happen and i hope that my parents will try to open up more about all these things so maybe in the future i can explain much more things to them and transition.. cause i do want to transition someday! anyways for anyone who are still reading and reach this part,
i just wanted you to know that you got this. you are a strong individual. maybe things doesnt look really bright right now, but things do get better. i know that i'm pretty lucky to have supportive environment that some may dont have but i really hope that things get better for you. i hope that you are always in a safe environment and safe from anything bad. take care fellow trans bby im sending you lots of love🧡
The love of my life is a trans person (cis man here). Before we got together, the transgender fight has always been distant to me. I functionally had no real opinions of trans people, and flip-flopped between affirming and moderately transphobic for a while just based on what the Internet was saying (I am older and wiser to realize the misinformation now).
After we got together, however, the transgender fight suddenly became a LOT more personal and dear to me; a sudden realization that your partner, the very person you love most, is in very real danger of a very real death from ignorance and hate is a sobering and haunting realization. So I drove myself to learn, to actively take part in the fight myself. I cannot, and will not, accept a world in which the man I love is unsafe just by virtue of existing as his authentic self.
And now 2023 has come, and I have witnessed firsthand the hands of hate, bigotry, and good old-fashioned willful ignorance against trans people, especially from right-wing and conservative culture and media (of which I was born into). It is a truly horrifying kind of bigotry, especially when you hear it from people whom you share a blood relation to.
I will never stop fighting, never, until everyone can see the humanity and the beauty of trans people as I have.
I'm quite scared with how things are going on with trans people of colour, as I'm one of them... I want to go stealth so badly but I can't if my parents don't accept me.
Very nice video, this NEEDS to be known, thank you
Thank you for the kind comment. I really appreciate it
Your words touched my heart today, I was very low and in dark place, struggling with whether I should go on or not. I am so tired of living in fear just because I was born trans. I don’t want to live in fear anymore. I don’t want to be ashamed of myself, I just want to be my true self. I stumbled upon your video by accident and it brightened my day. Thank you. ❤
Stay safe sister, and love yourself for who you are. You are unique and special!
man... so not a choice... I struggle with self depreciation, and I too, would never wish this on my worst enemy... being trans isn't a fun thing (for most at least)... I love you all and wish you all the best
@Ruby Roo Exactly! I’m glad you were able to connect with the video in one way or another :) thank you for the kind comment too! I hope you have a good rest of your day/night
Thank you for this. I feel so isolated and different all the time, i wouldnt wish this horrible feeling on anyone. Its bad enough feeling so horrible all the time but knowing that people want to do disgusting things to you for something you cant control is terrifying.
Seeing the names really struck a chord. I have 2 other friends IRL that are not their assigned gender at birth. Seeing my brothers, sisters, and siblings have to go through all this is painful to watch. Speaking up just a little bit is like a death sentence, sometimes metaphorically, and sometimes literally. I don't think I'll even be able to come out as Non-binary until I'm over 18, or once I move out because of that.
I hope things are okay and safe for you up until then. And that after 18 brings you some much needed mental and/or physical freedom as you come out :) As best of luck to your two friends too. I'm glad you all have one another for support. Stay safe and stay you
I feel for the families of those 28 as I am also trans and I don’t have much support I know how hard life is thank you for putting this out there
I would say that rather than putting a target on yourself, being trans is like being born with a target on your head. You wear a hat to hide that target, but if it slips off from your head, or you get uncomfortable and remove that hat for even a split second, the target is exposed and someone may shoot at it.
I was going to try to come out, and I sort of did, but my dad isn't supportive. Not only that, but I'm terrified of the town I live in, of the country I live in. I'm so scared I won't be able to live long enough to reach the day where I can finally somewhat feel like me, so scared that I'd rather suffer in silence but it's agonizing to be quiet. It's so painful...
Anyway, thank you for this, maybe more people will understand. Hopefully more people will understand.
Thank you so much for making this video. I'm very early in my transition, and every day I'm seeing and learning more about all of our many siblings. We are strong. We are valid. We are here. May our days bring us all closer together and into a safer, more accepting world...
I have a friend who is out already, I was talking to my mom about it and she said “Aren’t you too young to decide that?”
I was planning on coming out right then and there, until she said that, sure my friend and I may be 12, but that doesn’t mean we can’t feel dysphoria, I had a mental breakdown a few days ago because we were buying clothes and to be able to try a shirt on I had to see my body, and it was worse since changing rooms at clothing stores have very big mirrors, I was allowed to buy a shirt from the men’s section because we were looking for clothes for my brother and I told my mom that I liked a shirt, she asked if I really wanted it (since it was in the men’s section) and I said yes, I’m wearing it right now and it makes me feel so comfortable and happy, I wish I could get a binder, I would be so much more comfortable if I had one
Thank you for this. I put this in a playlist of videos I want to show my mom. I really doubt I will, because of how transphobic she is, but I want to. This means a lot to me and I hope you’re ok
Thank you. I am doing okay and I hope you are too. Please stay safe as any transphobic situation can be unpredictable. You know your mom best though. Best of luck in journey no matter where it takes you :)
@@PhoenixAnimations thank you 🥺
"this is who i am, and i would rather live my true self for a moment than spend my whole life lying to myself and to others about who i really am"
was not on the let's-cry-instantly bingo card but here we are
God I need to show this to my dad I’m not trans but I have a trans friend and my dad hates that fact and constantly misgenders her
:/ dang that sucks. Good on you for wanting to show your dad, but also please stay safe!! And thanks for being such a supportive friend
@@PhoenixAnimations yeah he’s that sorta person who constantly refers to people by their dead name every time he gets the chance
This video took the words right out of my mouth. Thank you for taking the time to make this, its very well done and informative.
When I saw the list of names at the end, I started crying for the first time in ages. Not one person on that list deserved to die simply for being who they are.
All I can say is thank you for standing up for those who could not stand up for themselves. ❤
I also think there's more freedom as to what to do as a trans. Whether to want to transition or not. How much you want it to be apart of your identity.
Younger trans girl here. Thanks for making this video. A lot of people don't understand the issue and make it seem so simple. I hold the sentiment that if I live as myself today and help make it a safer place even if I have to lose my life to do so I will take that risk to make it far safer for those who come out in the future.
We are all standing on the shoulders of giants who fought hard for the (often limited) rights we now have. Unfortunately public opinion is something that moves with lead boots so there are still many people out there who think we live in the stone age. There are certain religious books out there that have been around for many centuries that fail to mention anything about trans people. Still the followers criticise us for going against their god's teachings. When all we're doing is evolving to complete her creation. If we were made by a god, just like we are, who are they to criticise us?
Great video! You put it well into words. It’s not that I want to transition, I need it to make my life worth living. I already tried to repress it and I was doing worse and worse every day
@ist egal exactly!
Glad you liked the video. I hope you have a good rest of your day/night!
Phoenix Animations you too!
This is who we are. We exist, and we deserve human rights
I nearly started crying watching this, there is not need to apologize in working towards getting a message out about accepting us and understanding that were working towards being ourselves and don't deserve to be killed just because of transitions or not transitioning and working towards being our true selves, my fiancé and I who are FTM transmen who are working towards being ourselves, socially, medically and out with friends and family, still face ridicule for just trying to be ourselves. I appreciate your videos Sean and wish the best for others who are also working towards transitioning and being themselves wherever they are in their own transitional journey's. If you're taking suggestions for future videos I'd like to see a video about top surgery and ways of saving/making money for the procedure my fiancé and I would love to know other ways of people getting towards that step of doing surgeries especially both top and bottom surgery. Thanks again for making awesome videos!
- JessyDraws
Hey Jessy!
Thank you for all the kind words and shout out to your fiancé. I hope you all are doing okay and able to stay as safe as possible. That's a great video suggestion! I'll add it to the list :) I think it would be good to make a list of all the ways to save up/raise money for surgery too. Thanks again! I hope you and your partner have a good day/night :)
@@PhoenixAnimations Thanks for the wonderful message! Were hanging in there and keeping our heads up for sure! Can't wait to watch new videos!
My parents think that being trans, at my age, is wrong because I never vocalized it at fucking 3. I figured out who I was in 2019, June. Lawrence is my name and I’m a he/him. I’m no longer she/her, mother and father, hell I don’t know if I can tell you that, you seem to downplay my anxiety. Yeah I’m a asshole sometimes but I’m so uncomfortable in this body.
What a beautiful name Lawrence, I hope you will eventually be accepted for the man you really are
@@littleelmoore Thank you so much!!
@Nile Voya I hope you get accepted by someone, I have a good aunt that’s been helping me.
Im recently accepting of being a transwoman. I used to say that for people who were trans or gay or anywhere on the spectrum, that it was a choice. Because I was choosing to avoid what was going on inside myself. The only choice then, is whether you choose to accept who you really are and I strongly believe that anyone who uses that phrase, is making a choice to deny something that scares them within themelves that they arent ready to accept.
That's just sad when being yourself is a cause for killing. Really puts it into perspective of how good a lot of us have it. Sure there are odd looks and a lot of questions, but hey better than getting shot, ran over, brutally beaten.... (The list gets more depressing as it goes on). In realizing that I am Trans, I have never been happier in all my life, it was like finding something I never knew I wanted. I hope others can experience this happiness without fear of being in danger. I will end with this, being a hardcore Catholic, I'm having a hard time seeing why being Trans or Gay is Sinful. In fact I feel being either or both is actually less sinful. Anyone know the logic behind this, if there is any?
For me, Transitioning is literally not a choice. I’m Intersex and developed Hyperestrogenism at age 37 which literally gave me the same changes as a Transwoman. I can’t do anything about it because my heart is too weak for Testosterone treatment so I decided to take Estrogen to speed up the process.
I know im commenting on a year old video but i just wanted to say after watching a couple of these that they have been very educational, thank you, and best wishes
Glad you like them! Yeah some of them are rather old and need some updates - working on making more currently :) thanks and best wishes to you too
THank you for mentioning that if you can't transition that it doesnt make you less trans. at the moment, i am not able to transition in any way other than cutting my hair short, but i'm still trans and i feel like people need to see that just because i dont feel safe or ready to come out doesnt mean im not trans.
Additionally, I pay my respects to those who have died due to transphobia.
my name is alexander, i’m a transgender man, i use he/they and i have this friend. he knows in trans, but i haven’t transitioned yet and it confuses him because i still have a high/soft voice. sometimes he calls me “trans girl” or other things like that.. i try to explain it to him but he doesn’t get it. honestly i give up explaining it to him and i’m just gonna show him this video.. maybe it’ll help
omg that’s a bad friend, how are u a trans girl? ur a boy. don’t let him get to u bro maybe distance urself
@@user-fo1oj3wf1b it’s not entirely his fault, he lives in a place where trans people arent as common and they’re extremely rare and always closeted where he comes from for like safety reasons. so he doesn’t know how to act but he is getting better! i’m teaching him what to say, and what not to say like how to act respect wise, and stuff like that he’s getting better there is improvement he just needs help understanding
@@user-fo1oj3wf1b he was willing to take it slow and learn too, and after i showed him the vid he was even more willing to be a better ally
@@m0ssv0m1t3 omg my bad i didn’t know, he’s not a bad friend then. but that’s rlly good!! that he is willing to learn 😁, good job for educating him too
Say it louder for thoses in the back, i get followed around school with people making retching noises. i get spam call from ppl i don't know saying " boy girl" , " ur a girl", " go kys" and "this is why ur dad hates u". Ive also been cornered when I'm trying to get to class and beaten up a lot. its getting to a point where i would walk around school presenting as my assigned birth gender just to get them to back off. I've also had my boyfriend (who I'm afraid to leave) tell me that he likes my girl parts and he has tried things. thankfully i have a very supportive mother who had just had me moved to online schooling and has helped me put a restraining order against my dad. She is going to help me get the things i need in order to transition. it does get better and i beg to any trans person out there that have theses same struggles to never cover yourself and act like the gender your not. you are beautiful inside and out. once you leave school, none of this is ever gonna matter bc your gonna be who you truly are and you will meet some amazing people along the way. my heart is out for anyone who has been brutally mrudered and their families or anyone who is at risk of homelessness for being who they are. you are loved by the whole community, stay safe
People who are transgender are people who were born in the wrong body, or the gender that was assigned to them at birth does not match their internalized gender. A transgender person who is unable to transition doesn't make them any less the gender that they are. What they choose to identify is their business. Why are you so interested in what's in their pants?
Another thing that needs to be made clear is GENDER is NOT the same thing as SEX. Sex is your birth assigned gender based of off your genetalia, which usually fits into male or female, and as well as intersex. The gender binary is based off of people's sex. But there are people who do not want to fit into this enclosed binary of only male and female, which creates genders outside the binary, such as non binary or genderfluid.
If you're a part of the LGBTQIA+ community, know that you're valid and that you can identify as what you'd like and/or need to. I love you just the way you are, don't change yourself for the sake of people's negative comments around or towards you.
- your enby lesbian dad that's still questioning gender 💕
I personally just wish not to ever transition. I’m genderfluid as I’ve already stated. I feel like I’ll be comfortable if I just wear a binder one day. That’s all me though. Some people have an internal need to transition. They want to. And if you’re one of those people then I support you all the way. Also, Thankyou Phoenix for making this video. It’s very important to say. We cannot Thankyou enough.
I resonate with this, I'm enby and don't feel like having to have a top surgery (afab baby) but most days I feel like wearing a binder will help me be seen as my gender. I don't necessarily mind my own chest but people tend to assume where I live and getting myself a binder will help me be more confident in being myself around people. It's all different for each and everyone so don't feel like you're not valid folks, you are whether you want a certain surgery or not. The whole point of being trans is making yourself comfortable in your own body and make it feel like it belongs to you. Your body is a temple and you are the one decorating it
Foxy35 love this reply so much. 💙💙💙💙
The Vermillion Skull Pone 💖💖💖
so im 13 and trans. but my mom tells me even about my sexuality that its a trend and that its a phase when im seriously talking about it and now im scared to tell my mom im trans... what do i do...
@ no shes not, and dont you EVER say that shit again
id say dont tell her, if she refuses to accept you, just hold out until you can leave, and take your life back.
@ at least i have a life
@ says the grown adult spending his time hurting children.
@ i have accepted reality, you havent. you are literally on a video explaining why what you do hurts people, and you continue to do it., furthermore you only pick on the most vulnerable. you have no life, no soul, and no value at all to society, the world, and people in general,
Thank you... That was such a powerful message... Im crying too... Thank you for giving your voice for those lost... 💖🌈
I came out as trans to my Christian mom and she was so mad at me...
I’ve been transitioning for 3 years and I’m now realizing that I might not ever pass on estrogen alone. I walk around everyday as a ghost. Nobody can connect with me because nobody can see me. I’m constantly depersonalized, and it just flat out sucks. I’d never wish this pain on anyone. It’s not a choice. Who would choose this?
And I’m one of the lucky ones
Some people can't get that fact inside their thick skulls
As a trans woman who didn't start transition yet and afraid to come out to family, I feel you.❤️
We have right to exist.✨ And to all conservatives, your ignorance doesn't justify your oppression!
I’m scared to come out to my maternal side of the family. My mother is extremely transphobic (even though she claims she’s not) and my dad says he “doesn’t believe in being trans” which really pisses me off. I do think I want to be male, but I really like dressing as a girl and doing things associated with femininity.
*ALL TRANS LIVES MATTER*
Omg! I have a transphobic mother as well! I came out to her and she was extremely mad at me. she told me that I am sinning and the Lord God is mad at me. I hope your coming out goes better 😔
@@catgamer6370
I’m really sorry about your mom. Mine also got super mad at me and grounded me for a month. I hope your mother will be more accepting of you.
@@baireth9837 Yeah. my mom thinks that I have been watching something about transgender. I told her that I've always felt like a girl. Then she told me that it's a ''sin'' and I'm going against God's will... I wish that the LGBQ+ can be accepted for who they are and for people to stop judging us.
Funnily enough, my room's closet is the best hiding spot in my house
Dude, you have an awesome way of showing people how being transgender is like!
I've only watched three of your videos, but they are amazing and I really think that you are showing how it is very well!
“Why are you trans?” Huh? I didn’t choose this? I didn’t choose to go through years of gender dysphoria just to be scared to come out to my school. I didn’t choose anything, I was born the way I was, and that will never change. You can’t pick and choose gender, it’s not like shopping for clothes, it’s emotionally draining waking up to feeling like you were born in the wrong body.
Yyyeah. I can feel my mood dropping every second I can see myself. Not fun, as you must know.