I defend this trans kid in my school someone asked what the binder was he was like " I..ah I" and I then pipe in and say" oh we were playing soccer, and he tripped and landed on some rocks and he had a deep cut on his ribs, It's just bandages for that" And the principal,the kids mom and my mom were really proud of me for saying that and making sure he didn't need to move school cause he loved the one he was at 😀 if you see a trans kid being bullied HELP don't just stand there and watch help them.
I go to an all girl school (which fucking sucks) but there are a few non-binary kids there so it's quite accepting. i get asked at least once a week 'what's your gender' or 'do i call you he or she' and it's so awkward cuz i'm not out to a lot of people and i hAVE to say that i go by she and stuff..
I'm not trans but I was confronted by a school security guard last semester and I almost had a heart attack (also I do recognize that your comment is from three years ago)
In gym some girl came up to me after my teacher called me Tanner & she said "Isn't your name (birth name)?" I told her no, but then she said "Didn't you have a class with me last year though?" So I responded with a lie & was like no I don't think so.
@@otherarcher9620 this is awful but its not up to her to do anything. she can do whatever she want tbh and its ridiculous to be mad at her for that if she didn't understand
Considering there is a lot of information about this readily available; I DO think that it is up to people to get a clue at this point and try to be respectful. It's just polite and civilized.
@@otherarcher9620 I guess we just disagree but I feel that its no one else's responsibility to do anything regarding yourself and she could pretty much do whatever she wanted
I moved into a flat my parents own after graduating high school, just a few weeks before I started transitioning. So my dad already knew the neighbors and we went to great them, so they got to know me as a girl. I started to pass very quickly and the neighbors soon recognised me as male, but when they found out in which flat I lived they got confused because they thought a girl was living there. So I just told them that my "sister" moved away and I live there now- and now two years later my neighbor still asks me about my "sister" and how she's doing xD Sry that was long, thx for reading^^
Eh I would have just said that I'm trans, Ik it's scary, but lying about it is hiding you know bro? & I think you should be yourself without the fear of judgment. But aye you do you G. Stay safe💪💀🔥🔥🔥💯
@@rosshenleytiburcio3287 You don't know my neighbors bro - they're very old and very conservative, they wouldn't understand and I'm not here to educate everyone, and I'm not in the mood for getting misgendered, because that's what they would do. They'd also ask about my private parts and the like. A neighbor who moved in later (and would've undoubtedly found out about me being trans had I told the other neighbors through gossip) talked to me about a mutual friend who is trans and said some insensitive stuff that I would not have been okay with, had she been talking about me. So yeah, I prefer just being stealth and living in peace. People can be so ignorant.
@@eliasklein9311 You're right for not saying anything if you don't feel like it. The only people who should be concerned with your gender are you and any partner you have. It's nobodies business unless you want it to be.
It's a common story, as well. Some people feel the need to interfere in someone else's life and they justify it by saying trans-phobic, ignorant crap like "people deserve to know they're 'really' dating a girl," trying to hide behind some sort of moral outrage. The problem is they don't get the concept that Sam is not now, nor ever has been; female. If they could just understand this one simple concept everyone would be a lot better off and we could all just mind our own business.
Omg I was talking to this girl I liked and I was in her class in 4th grade when I hadn't changed my name yet and she's like " do u have any siblings" and I'm like " oh yeah I have a brother why?" And she said "Oh there's a girl named *my birth name* that looks like u" and I'm like oh lol no...😂 scary shit bruh
I have had something like that happened. But not like yours. So at the beginning trimester of my school. This one girl kept bothering me on a day to day basis. She would ask me if I was a girl every day. At that time I still had long hair. And it wasn't just her. "Are u a girl or boy"? Was the question I was asked almost everyday. And I would get really upset and I kept saying" no I'm a boy". And my orchestra teacher asked me if preferred to be called a he or a no she cuz he wasn't sure what I was. Rumors started through the school that I was a girl because I went to the girls locker room. And I denied that every day. Months went by and things hot a lot better. I told almost everyone that I was trans and I no longer had to use the girls lockeroom. But I had to change in a separate stall which was fine. I got new clothes and I have gotten a better haircut. But still I want to o have a chest binder and I still use sport bras to cover my chest.
im in middle school now but there was this one kid who had special needs who was in my elementary school. at the time he was in 8th and i was in 7th, so i was walking down the 8th grade hallway and he goes are you Will or (my birth name) and all the 8th graders look at me who kinda knew me, worst moment ever
I informed someone that I'm a boy a little while back and their reply was "Yeah... Damn it, I knew you were a boy, I just heard other people calling you 'she' and... Yeah, sorry dude"
Sam I need advice. My friend is trans FtM and he's having a really hard time with the whole dating experience and is super depressed he's parents are absolutely transphobic and he is having a hard time. I don't know what to say to him to make things better besides trying to cheer him up but if you have any advise please please please help me help him
Jyllian Luchenbill Just be there for him and support him always and everyday tell him in some way how much he means to you and don't leave his side. The reasons as to why those things are important is, he may feel like no one is there for him and he's lost. Also don't forget to use his chosen name and pronouns (if you don't) because I find if you do it makes us very happy )for me anyway) Also what I find that makes me happy the most is when you're in a joking scenario say something like "how are you manly man?" Or something lol Hope these helped
Thanks so much I'm very thankful to have some advice it's really hard for me to help when I've never been in that position. He really wants to ask his girl to prom but he has super bad anxiety and finds it really hard and I help a little I think but I'm just a little clueless
the one he was talking about where that girl came and asked him "are you a girl" THAT LITERALLY HAPPENED TO ME TODAY!! I am stealth and i have been for a year and i transferred schools and i guess someone found out and it's like spreading like wild fire around the school. honestly i'm not embarrassed or ashamed i just didn't want people asking me a ton of invasive questions or getting bullied (i'm in highschool and people are dumb) and some girl literally asked me that in the middle of gym class in front of a ton of people and i died
E 2 B i just said no. Like as shitty as that is.. she asked me “are you transgender” in the middle of gym class and if it had been i. private i would’ve said yes bc idc but gym class could’ve been dangerous so i just said no and since i was already cis passing at that point everyone just kinda dropped it but i felt insanely guilty for saying no.. i just wanted to get out of high school and not be bullied anymore and i knew that was the only way
Not Yeehaw I just saw this lmao it did get better! i graduated high school and everyone in college that i have told about me being trans has been extremely supportive!!
Why would they ask that if you're stealth? That's fucked up, they should've considered the dangers of being trans and asked in private or through social media, or just be silent because whether someone is trans or cis doesn't matter, i bet it felt like shit like that weird sweaty feeling you get when someone says something horrible
Im trans too, and ive lived stealth since i was 8 (i "came out" at like 4). Anyways, recently we moved from HK to Berlin, which is where i'm currently living, and at my new school there was this girl from HK, who also happened to be my old neighbor. In HongKong, she knew me back when i still identified as female (and when i changed my name & pronouns), then she moved to Berlin a couple years ago. Of all continents, of all countries, of all cities, of all towns, of all schools, of all grades, and of all classes, she ended up in the exact same school/grade as me, we even share a few classes. So seeing her again in Berlin was a shock. Anyways, i havent said a word to her all year, but she has told various people that i'm trans, which has caused a shit ton of gossip. Theres this annoying ass kid who keeps asking me if im a girl, the whole thing is so fucking annoying. It just blows my mind that she so casually told everyone my deepest secret...
thats the worst and she ended up in the same class as you after being in completely different country's fuck your luck is terrible I'm sorry you have to deal with that :(
omg ok so i was at school and let me tell you, i’m trans ftm, so anyway, i was in class and we had a class discussion and we had to write down something we really wanted by the end of the year and we could either rip it up, or anonymously put it in a brown bag and the teachers read it out loud. idk what the point was but i decided to write down a binder because i’m an idiot. anyway so once again i make a stupid move and instead of ripping it up, i dropped it in the brown bag. so then a teacher read them out loud and we had to discuss among ourselves how a human could obtain whatever was written on the paper. so the teacher pulled mine out last and everyone was like, ummmm go to like any store and get a binder. kids are yelling out “Staples” and “Office Max” and THEY ALL FUCKING THOUGHT A CHILD WAS STRUGGLING TO GET A BINDER TO HOLD PAPERS AND IT WAS HORRIBLE.
i'm nb and if i had been in this class i would've understood :-) i'm sure maybe other closeted kids would be secretly glad that someone else might be trans
I was friends with a girl freshman year (before I started transitioning) then she moved away and we never spoke again. Then junior year she came back and walked up to me and asked if I was *enter dead name here* and I panicked and said she was my twin sister.
I go to an all girl school (which fucking sucks) but there are a few non-binary kids there so it's quite accepting. i get asked at least once a week 'what's your gender' or 'do i call you he or she' and it's so awkward cuz i'm not out to a lot of people and i hAVE to say that i go by she and stuff..
Lol hey Jay. This is mostly just me throwing myself out there, but it would be super cool if u could help ME out? I have been trying endlessly to win a binder because I can't afford one. I know ur prolly won't even see this, but, hey, I gotta try?
Gesepi A I came out to my sister and the same, she started to shout to me like 'you are a girl. don't think shit, please. you are just confused.' We don't talk about it.
Yo, that's weird. My sister is more accepting now but I think she still wishes I was a lesbian. She didn't come when I had my surgery. Idk, there's something about sisters not being supportive
A actually really funny experience that I had was there were to boys at school. I see them coming my way. I was standing with my friends. And then they asked if I'm a boy. I said yes. Then they asked if I'm a girl. I said no. Then they asked if I'm a lesbian. I was like wtf? You were asking for my gender. And a lesbian is basically a girl. Me and my friends ended up laughing.
Yup, I dress as a boy and go in public too. Baggy jeans and a sports bra with a Nike hoodie does the trick. I feel more confident as a boy in public rather than a girl. My facial features are more masculine and when I wear beanies people actually mistake me as a boy. When I turn fourteen, i'm gonna tell my parents that I feel uncomfortable and just wrong when people refer to me with feminine pronouns. At fifteen, i'm going to tell them that I want to be a boy. Wish me luck! o.o"
@@lring7582 Much better!!! I'm out to everyone! My teachers, family, cut off friends who didn't support me, and im starting HRT when I turn 16!!!! So mind boggling looking back at this two years ago! I also got my hair cut 😋 im genuinely so much happier now!
Yes please do binder giveaways! I don't have enough money to buy my own, and I have been trying nonstop to win one but it always seems to be someone else who wins.
Aiden this is so sweet! I’ve luckily been able to purchase many binders over the years now, but thank you so much for the advice it is much appreciated.
dude, you're awesome. I came out only 2 years ago and you've inspired me to be myself. I'm not the most unfortunate trans person (even though my grandpa tried to kill me 6 times) but, keep doing what you're doing :)
Were you on T by the time you were in high school? I recently came out as ftm (about 6 months ago) and I feel like even with binding, my voice definitely gives it away and I don't have a shot at passing (not that passing defines anything but it would be nice, ya know?). Any advice?
I think he did go on T in high school but also! Voice exercises are a thing you can do to help lower your voice. Wikihow has a few way on lowering your voice w/o hormones
The whole description you gave about the bullies as to why you quit highschool for a year was how I felt when I was a kid. I wasn't out as trans at the time, I was just bullied for 3 years by every kid in my class until I moved in with my grandmother and switched schools.
hsbshs that happened to meeee one time some kid in one of my classes was like- "yo, do you know ____ ____?" and i was like "oh uh yeah thats my sister.. haha. hah." it was so awkward shdbsjdbdb
I went to a middleschool/highschool and I came out in middleschool and TRIED to go stealth, and I actually passed but I would ALWAYS get outed by people who knew me in middleschool. Also I had gender therapy every Friday which caused me to miss 7th hr, and the teacher leactured the whole class about how it's "illegal" to leave class early out of "convince" clearly talking about me, and how he could stop grading all the assignments I turn in. He actually can't do that but go off ig. So my mom sent him an email saying "aye, I have therapy, she's not pulling me out for no reason" so in response he leactured us again saying (and I quote) "Apparently what I said yesterday tRigGerEd some of you guys cuz I got so pretty wEiRd emails yesterday, I'm not saying I WANT to stop grading your assignments, what I'm saying is it's tHE LAW!!" (There's no law saying that if students get pulled out of class for no reason, their assignments don't get graded?? What kind of legal punishment is that?? How would you regulate that???) So that was embarrassing
When you were younger, do you remember when your friend's mom or dad said when you become a beautiful women/ handsome man and you cringe so hard you laugh and say heh yeaaaaaa
its such a difficult situation to run into old friends or aquaintences who arent aware that you are trans and going into the mens bathroom if you even get the slightest strange look your heart drops. this video was the most relatable thing ever. also your videos make me extremely happy and remind me that im not the only one who goes through these things so keep doing what youre doing sam i look up to you tremendously bro.
I love his voice. And Honestly, I don't blame that girl. If he was in my bed and we were alone I wouldn't stop. lol jk. That's not nice, she was very rude.
I'm so happy there's so much representation on the internet and on youtube not only for other trans people but also for people that simply want to learn what it's like! I've only had one trans friend in my life but I never really got to ask about all his troubles and conflicts since I didn't want to be intrusive. So thank you! BTW I've been watching you videos for a small bit and I honestly love your content (and humor haha).
When your parents won’t let the school change your name in the system and all the substitutes pretty much ignore any note the teacher leaves about calling you by your name so you can’t be stealth cause then everyone puts two and two together
I'm actually new but I'm so proud of you of being able to tell your stories, you are so inspiration, I've watched 10 videos and I love you already haha xx
omg the story with the stall happened to me aswell... I was like being all smug with my hoodie just chilling on this parking deck waiting for my friend and I look down and I see this police officer talk to her like: Did you see some boy around here hes been skating on the police parking deck? And I was like 1. OMGHESAIDBOY 2. shit 3. omg lets take a photo of them lol and I had the flash on. He saw me and I ran away and like he called his colleague and they chased me to the city center like at least 2 miles until I lost them. Scariest 20 minutes of my life tbh.
i went through people asking me "Hey (dead name) , are you a girl?" and i just stand there and I say "Well i prefer to be called alex and my pronoun is he/him, I'm a boy" and some people will say "No, you're a girl" or "Oh yeah, just like how i define myself as a attack helicopter" and the second one is always so annoying because it always something across those lines but there have been people who support me and help me which i am so thankful for but it is tough when someone takes away your right to feel human."
While I can't relate to your experiences, I respect you highly for sharing your stories as they matter and it helps people know they're not alone in the same scenarios. Keep going strong Sam and stay awesome!
Doubt anyone will see this as the video is 3 years old but I’mma share anyways: Once I was at a party and I was kinda tipsy when this girl came over and introduced herself and asked what my name was, all around us were people who knew me by my birth name as well as some strangers (like her) and I just malfunctioned and said “I don’t know”. She was drunk as well so she took a few seconds to figure out what the fuck I was saying before asking me “you don’t know?” And I just “nope.” And to this day she does not know my name even tho her boyfriend is one of my childhood friends lmao
3:47 "I think I just spoke french?" 😂 that's my favourite part of the video!! Because this happens to me sometimes when I speak Korean, I will just switch to German and my friends just stares at me like 😐
My story- this happened 2 days ago, I was at the Nailers Game and I had to use the restroom, I was but wasn’t out in school, which I mean my name and pronouns were changed in the school so not everyone knew I was trans, and everyone thought I was a cis boy, and I had to use the restroom... I looked EVERYWHERE... no. Disabled. No. Family. No. Nothing. Only the males. And females. I asked my best friend who’s a guy to check to see if there are stalls in the bathroom. There weren’t any. I had to use the girls. The line was HUGE so I wait forever until it went down. Finally it went down. I went in the girls... all the stalls were FULL. I had to wait in the girls bathroom. Oh! And bonus? GIRLS IN MY SCHOOL WERE IN THERE. they were like WHY ARE U IN HERE?! And I said nothing. While I was washing my hands a little girl whispered “ mommy why is there a boy in the bathroom?” LITERALLY EVERYONE LEFT THR BATHROOM. but my close friends knew I was trans so I told them and they said EEK
I'm stealth at my school to some people but most people knew me before i transitioned and like 3 months after I came out and got my name changed at schools this one guy was like "hey I haven't seen you before are you knew" and I was just like "yeah ,I am" I started at my school over about 3 years before this incident so I was confused but also really pleased that I passed well enough.
I already know “are you a girl?” Cut deep😕 damn. I’ve have words do that to me before and it’s the worst. Even just listening to your story that fucked me up
The fact that people don't respect a "no" from a guy is sickening to me. If it was the other way around people would all agree that was awful. How about we just respect boundaries? If someone obviously doesn't want to have sex with you, don't fucking touch them and stop fucking asking
This is giving me disphoria because it's reminding me of things that I've been through at school but this video is so good I'm not going to stop watching lol
I'm finishing up Freshman year of high school, from the beginning of the year I've been stealth. It's really stressful and i'm paranoid 24/7. I have held off on getting into any serious relationships only because I wanted to start school off strong, but I am afraid of what they might do or think because I've been stealth for so long. I am also scared to death that if I start dating (I would come out to them as soon as we would start) this person and something would go down and they'd go behind my back and tell everyone. I'm worried that they'll say stuff like "Why would you *lie* to me" or something like that. I like being stealth but the fact that I strain myself so much to keep the mental image for other people eats away at me every day. It's not just at school it's everywhere, I beat myself up on the fact that I can't be Cis. I just need an opinion I guess because it seems like you had similar problems when you were stealth. Thank you for reading this
aweh you're so cool sharing your story so people can relate to you and doing awesome things for the community like giving away binders! Such a good guy :)
I'm so sorry, I wanna say stuff like "you're awesome" and other compliments, but that's not really gonna do anything, and it may come off as pity. So; You be you, ya cool bean XD
The story with quitting high school for a year reminds me of me at the moment Like I'm a freshman now and I actually had faith in my school and outed myself, now I'm completely alone and everybody just talks about me like I'm the attraction of the school and it pisses me off so much ugh
Can you help me I came out to my parents and they do not believe that I have thought about it enough and they don't understand also they think that I am to young to know but I do and they do not understand
Skylar Wolfe I came out a year ago and my parents didn't understand at first, now they are starting to accept me... Maybe if you give them some time they will understand
so our school does a "commitment to graduation" assembly and I was up and I was literally frowning and all upset and anxious because I didn't know if they'd say my name. And right whenever they did I broke my face with my smile because I was literally not expecting it lol
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Him: I'm giving away binders
Me: Oh that's nice, he's helping trans kids with school supplies
why am I like this
Tramaine Allen 😂 whenever I mention my binder people look at me like I'm crazy
im fucking dying lmao
Omg same tho
One time I told my friend I was going to the graveyard to visit my grandpa and they said “oh does he live near it”
Valid
that girl shouldn't have keep asking you once you said no. she clearly didn't respect your boundaries. sorry you had to experience that
she was ruthless
DAD
Didn’t he say she was drunk?
Rafay Ali Even then it isn‘t okay. No means no, even by a guy! :)
joey how old
were they
"I think i just spoke french" L M A O hahaha omg this killed me :'D
ilhuicatl SAME!!!!
I had to pause the video because I was laughing so hard
ilhuicatl I kept replaying that part
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And it offended me XD
"I think I just spoke french" this fucking guy is awesome
Samuel Hamblin yessss
ouaiiihhhhhh
I defend this trans kid in my school someone asked what the binder was he was like " I..ah I" and I then pipe in and say" oh we were playing soccer, and he tripped and landed on some rocks and he had a deep cut on his ribs, It's just bandages for that" And the principal,the kids mom and my mom were really proud of me for saying that and making sure he didn't need to move school cause he loved the one he was at 😀 if you see a trans kid being bullied HELP don't just stand there and watch help them.
You are truly an amazing person
Respect. 🙌🏽♥️
Corey Boe omg u are the best
So...he was using ace bandages?
Lol I am trans
I would have cried if the first scenario happened. I'm way too shy to talk to security.
Mew Muffins I'm to shy to talk to anyone 😂
I go to an all girl school (which fucking sucks) but there are a few non-binary kids there so it's quite accepting.
i get asked at least once a week 'what's your gender' or 'do i call you he or she'
and it's so awkward cuz i'm not out to a lot of people and i hAVE to say that i go by she and stuff..
Saff x Same :(
I'm not trans but I was confronted by a school security guard last semester and I almost had a heart attack (also I do recognize that your comment is from three years ago)
Since I have an identical twin, I can literally tell people they're confusing me for my twin if they ask me any questions about me pre-transition.
Kaleb Du Mez k
That’s nifty I guess
Kaleb Du Mez well thats handy XD
Cool 👍
Kaleb Du Mez that’s some luck right there, good for you
"Help me Jesus" lmaooo
Marina Noelle "Jesus take the wheel" 😂
oml yes jccccc
5:06 😂
In gym some girl came up to me after my teacher called me Tanner & she said "Isn't your name (birth name)?" I told her no, but then she said "Didn't you have a class with me last year though?" So I responded with a lie & was like no I don't think so.
T Zerr Aw that's so sad......
It's up to her to get the hint and respect your boundaries.
@@otherarcher9620 this is awful but its not up to her to do anything. she can do whatever she want tbh and its ridiculous to be mad at her for that if she didn't understand
Considering there is a lot of information about this readily available; I DO think that it is up to people to get a clue at this point and try to be respectful. It's just polite and civilized.
@@otherarcher9620 I guess we just disagree but I feel that its no one else's responsibility to do anything regarding yourself and she could pretty much do whatever she wanted
I moved into a flat my parents own after graduating high school, just a few weeks before I started transitioning. So my dad already knew the neighbors and we went to great them, so they got to know me as a girl. I started to pass very quickly and the neighbors soon recognised me as male, but when they found out in which flat I lived they got confused because they thought a girl was living there. So I just told them that my "sister" moved away and I live there now- and now two years later my neighbor still asks me about my "sister" and how she's doing xD
Sry that was long, thx for reading^^
THAT'S GREAT OMG
Eh I would have just said that I'm trans, Ik it's scary, but lying about it is hiding you know bro? & I think you should be yourself without the fear of judgment. But aye you do you G. Stay safe💪💀🔥🔥🔥💯
@@rosshenleytiburcio3287 You don't know my neighbors bro - they're very old and very conservative, they wouldn't understand and I'm not here to educate everyone, and I'm not in the mood for getting misgendered, because that's what they would do. They'd also ask about my private parts and the like. A neighbor who moved in later (and would've undoubtedly found out about me being trans had I told the other neighbors through gossip) talked to me about a mutual friend who is trans and said some insensitive stuff that I would not have been okay with, had she been talking about me.
So yeah, I prefer just being stealth and living in peace. People can be so ignorant.
@@eliasklein9311
You're right for not saying anything if you don't feel like it. The only people who should be concerned with your gender are you and any partner you have. It's nobodies business unless you want it to be.
I've always wondered if trans men got into the same situations as trans women!!! I liked this!
AHHH MY QUEEN!!
Yeah, we totally do!
Yep.... We do...........
The one thing they cant have is period bc they have sperm still.
Jojo Kitkat neither can trans men...
Why does sam look like he just LEAKS OUT testosterone? Like I bet I could literally smell it on him.
Victoria Pichon LMAO
Victoria Pichon you can
Victoria Pichon prolly smells like a 12 year old boy
tHAT'S RACIST
Ugh honestly wow guys that smell like testosterone make me HOT
I feel like I already heard that story about the girl that found out
Ana yea, he told it before
He also started to tell the same story during his live show a few days ago, until someone told him they'd already heard it haha 😏
It's a common story, as well. Some people feel the need to interfere in someone else's life and they justify it by saying trans-phobic, ignorant crap like "people deserve to know they're 'really' dating a girl," trying to hide behind some sort of moral outrage.
The problem is they don't get the concept that Sam is not now, nor ever has been; female. If they could just understand this one simple concept everyone would be a lot better off and we could all just mind our own business.
Omg I was talking to this girl I liked and I was in her class in 4th grade when I hadn't changed my name yet and she's like " do u have any siblings" and I'm like " oh yeah I have a brother why?" And she said "Oh there's a girl named *my birth name* that looks like u" and I'm like oh lol no...😂 scary shit bruh
Jayden Doyle same thing happened to me lol I just played it off cool like, "oh yeah that's my sister"..😂 awkward...
oof relatable
I have had something like that happened. But not like yours. So at the beginning trimester of my school. This one girl kept bothering me on a day to day basis. She would ask me if I was a girl every day. At that time I still had long hair. And it wasn't just her. "Are u a girl or boy"? Was the question I was asked almost everyday. And I would get really upset and I kept saying" no I'm a boy". And my orchestra teacher asked me if preferred to be called a he or a no she cuz he wasn't sure what I was. Rumors started through the school that I was a girl because I went to the girls locker room. And I denied that every day. Months went by and things hot a lot better. I told almost everyone that I was trans and I no longer had to use the girls lockeroom. But I had to change in a separate stall which was fine. I got new clothes and I have gotten a better haircut. But still I want to o have a chest binder and I still use sport bras to cover my chest.
im in middle school now but there was this one kid who had special needs who was in my elementary school. at the time he was in 8th and i was in 7th, so i was walking down the 8th grade hallway and he goes are you Will or (my birth name) and all the 8th graders look at me who kinda knew me, worst moment ever
I informed someone that I'm a boy a little while back and their reply was "Yeah... Damn it, I knew you were a boy, I just heard other people calling you 'she' and... Yeah, sorry dude"
Sunshine Boy that's cool
That’s true, to be fair, not everyone who’s asks is intentionally trying to be rude, sometimes they’re just confused and misguided
I think that's the best reaction you could get. Were they male or female?
"I think I just spoke French"😂😂😂😂💀
Sam I need advice. My friend is trans FtM and he's having a really hard time with the whole dating experience and is super depressed he's parents are absolutely transphobic and he is having a hard time. I don't know what to say to him to make things better besides trying to cheer him up but if you have any advise please please please help me help him
Jyllian Luchenbill Just be there for him and support him always and everyday tell him in some way how much he means to you and don't leave his side.
The reasons as to why those things are important is, he may feel like no one is there for him and he's lost.
Also don't forget to use his chosen name and pronouns (if you don't) because I find if you do it makes us very happy )for me anyway)
Also what I find that makes me happy the most is when you're in a joking scenario say something like "how are you manly man?" Or something lol
Hope these helped
Thanks so much I'm very thankful to have some advice it's really hard for me to help when I've never been in that position. He really wants to ask his girl to prom but he has super bad anxiety and finds it really hard and I help a little I think but I'm just a little clueless
Jyllian Luchenbill Just be there for him and help him and stand up to any bullies that come his way. You're a great friend btw he's lucky to have you
maxine thanks I just don't want to say stuff wrong or something
for me it helps to spend more time with people who support me
As I was watching this my mom walked in and said I could order a binder for my b-day AHHHHHHHH
Flames on fire 😪 I'm so happy for you
Omfg so lucky!!!
yay! Happy for u dude!
So lucky!!!
the one he was talking about where that girl came and asked him "are you a girl" THAT LITERALLY HAPPENED TO ME TODAY!! I am stealth and i have been for a year and i transferred schools and i guess someone found out and it's like spreading like wild fire around the school. honestly i'm not embarrassed or ashamed i just didn't want people asking me a ton of invasive questions or getting bullied (i'm in highschool and people are dumb) and some girl literally asked me that in the middle of gym class in front of a ton of people and i died
Caden Michael dude I'm so sorry that happened, hope things get better :)
I would of punch her, but stop myself
E 2 B i just said no. Like as shitty as that is.. she asked me “are you transgender” in the middle of gym class and if it had been i. private i would’ve said yes bc idc but gym class could’ve been dangerous so i just said no and since i was already cis passing at that point everyone just kinda dropped it but i felt insanely guilty for saying no.. i just wanted to get out of high school and not be bullied anymore and i knew that was the only way
Not Yeehaw I just saw this lmao it did get better! i graduated high school and everyone in college that i have told about me being trans has been extremely supportive!!
Why would they ask that if you're stealth? That's fucked up, they should've considered the dangers of being trans and asked in private or through social media, or just be silent because whether someone is trans or cis doesn't matter, i bet it felt like shit like that weird sweaty feeling you get when someone says something horrible
Im trans too, and ive lived stealth since i was 8 (i "came out" at like 4). Anyways, recently we moved from HK to Berlin, which is where i'm currently living, and at my new school there was this girl from HK, who also happened to be my old neighbor. In HongKong, she knew me back when i still identified as female (and when i changed my name & pronouns), then she moved to Berlin a couple years ago. Of all continents, of all countries, of all cities, of all towns, of all schools, of all grades, and of all classes, she ended up in the exact same school/grade as me, we even share a few classes. So seeing her again in Berlin was a shock. Anyways, i havent said a word to her all year, but she has told various people that i'm trans, which has caused a shit ton of gossip. Theres this annoying ass kid who keeps asking me if im a girl, the whole thing is so fucking annoying. It just blows my mind that she so casually told everyone my deepest secret...
Read this Comment she will burn in hell
I don't usually encourage fighting but damn, I would kick her ass.
thats the worst and she ended up in the same class as you after being in completely different country's fuck your luck is terrible I'm sorry you have to deal with that :(
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Thats so messed up. Its your place to twll people when and if you want. Not hers.
omg ok so i was at school and let me tell you, i’m trans ftm, so anyway, i was in class and we had a class discussion and we had to write down something we really wanted by the end of the year and we could either rip it up, or anonymously put it in a brown bag and the teachers read it out loud. idk what the point was but i decided to write down a binder because i’m an idiot. anyway so once again i make a stupid move and instead of ripping it up, i dropped it in the brown bag. so then a teacher read them out loud and we had to discuss among ourselves how a human could obtain whatever was written on the paper. so the teacher pulled mine out last and everyone was like, ummmm go to like any store and get a binder. kids are yelling out “Staples” and “Office Max” and THEY ALL FUCKING THOUGHT A CHILD WAS STRUGGLING TO GET A BINDER TO HOLD PAPERS AND IT WAS HORRIBLE.
i'm nb and if i had been in this class i would've understood :-) i'm sure maybe other closeted kids would be secretly glad that someone else might be trans
toon i met this kid and he ended up being pan and trans and i was so excited 😂
greyballoon / omg poor you
@@naila2420 I cannot tell if you're being sarcastic.
I was friends with a girl freshman year (before I started transitioning) then she moved away and we never spoke again. Then junior year she came back and walked up to me and asked if I was *enter dead name here* and I panicked and said she was my twin sister.
Jake Brown I think I'm ftm and I have a twin sister which looks just like me, so I have no problem with that xd
I go to an all girl school (which fucking sucks) but there are a few non-binary kids there so it's quite accepting.
i get asked at least once a week 'what's your gender' or 'do i call you he or she'
and it's so awkward cuz i'm not out to a lot of people and i hAVE to say that i go by she and stuff..
but i'm gonna tell a few of the LGBT people i go by he/him
honestly ur wicked cute but yay u graduated at my school
i'd donate if i had a job, i'm still 16 and trying to save for a binder. it's pretty shit
meme lord if you need help getting a binder, I can try to help. I have a pretty good job and have a good pay, so it wouldn't be a bother.
Lol hey Jay. This is mostly just me throwing myself out there, but it would be super cool if u could help ME out? I have been trying endlessly to win a binder because I can't afford one. I know ur prolly won't even see this, but, hey, I gotta try?
L/uke/ily I will certainly do my best to help you, after I pay for my tux rental for prom.
Man, if you could actually do that, that would be amazing! Thank you for noticing me!
L/uke/ily of course I can, I just need about a week or two. Do you have an ig?
I came out to my sister today and she didn't react too good. She cried and she said she didn't want me to change but I guess we're cool now :/
Gesepi A I came out to my sister and the same, she started to shout to me like 'you are a girl. don't think shit, please. you are just confused.' We don't talk about it.
Yo, that's weird. My sister is more accepting now but I think she still wishes I was a lesbian. She didn't come when I had my surgery. Idk, there's something about sisters not being supportive
Hopefully 3 years later she’s accepting now
How are you doing now?
Oh wow..
I'm early dad..
ILL IMPRESS YOU WITH A JOKE!
My life.
hah?
eh?
relatable
why do you call him a dad
Rabondo I call everyone 'dad' or 'mom' honestly. Just a force of habit~
Summer Taime sameeeee 😂
i am the dad friend so i'm used to people calling me dad or mom but some ppl get uncomfortable so-
a little to close to home bud ;((
A actually really funny experience that I had was there were to boys at school. I see them coming my way. I was standing with my friends. And then they asked if I'm a boy. I said yes. Then they asked if I'm a girl. I said no. Then they asked if I'm a lesbian. I was like wtf? You were asking for my gender. And a lesbian is basically a girl. Me and my friends ended up laughing.
jmsboy I'm trying to make out your profile but it looks like Jimin
jmsboy I'm glad you could laugh about it :)
A lesbian isn't basically a girl...a lesbian is a girl. And why would they keep asking you questions if you already said yes to one
I swear you've told the 2nd one 👌🏼 but you told it a bit more detailed this time
Also the third story omggggg
lmao at '' I run into her and her stupid friend '' hahahaha so classic
Yup, I dress as a boy and go in public too. Baggy jeans and a sports bra with a Nike hoodie does the trick. I feel more confident as a boy in public rather than a girl. My facial features are more masculine and when I wear beanies people actually mistake me as a boy. When I turn fourteen, i'm gonna tell my parents that I feel uncomfortable and just wrong when people refer to me with feminine pronouns. At fifteen, i'm going to tell them that I want to be a boy. Wish me luck! o.o"
How are you now?
@@lring7582 Much better!!! I'm out to everyone! My teachers, family, cut off friends who didn't support me, and im starting HRT when I turn 16!!!! So mind boggling looking back at this two years ago! I also got my hair cut 😋 im genuinely so much happier now!
@@carlyliebman6623 OMGGG!!!, that’s so amazing, I hope you have a great life and you are valid:)💙
@@carlyliebman6623 broo im so happy for you!!
“I’m a boy”
“...no”
W h a t ?
TBH, I find you so freaking attractive, man. You're like my ideal boy :*)
He's not a boy. He's a man 💪
You should make merch with stealth written on :)
friggen rude people....they'll never go away Sam.
TYSM :)
When you stuttered and said "I think I just spoke French" I kid you not I was laughing for 10 minutes straight idk why it wasn't even that funny
okay but no the second one isn't funny like he basically got sexually harassed that's really not okay
Yes please do binder giveaways! I don't have enough money to buy my own, and I have been trying nonstop to win one but it always seems to be someone else who wins.
Aiden this is so sweet! I’ve luckily been able to purchase many binders over the years now, but thank you so much for the advice it is much appreciated.
dude, you're awesome. I came out only 2 years ago and you've inspired me to be myself. I'm not the most unfortunate trans person (even though my grandpa tried to kill me 6 times) but, keep doing what you're doing :)
I'm A Trans Boi
Wait r u serious?! I think you should really tell authorities or at least someone else about this! That's some serious stuff.
WhAT. Is thaT evEn LegalllLlLl??!!?!
@@jaimieratboy77 I don't think attempted murder is legal anywhere
oh man I made that comment awhile ago. Sorry for joking around on a clearly serious comment chain op
"We were both in bed...laying in bed... in the same bed..." -Sam Collins *BEST OF 2017* .....
ok...XD
“Are you a girl?”
“No, I’m a boy”
“....n o”
'are you blank blank' sam! we hear this story everytime!!! 😂👏
Were you on T by the time you were in high school? I recently came out as ftm (about 6 months ago) and I feel like even with binding, my voice definitely gives it away and I don't have a shot at passing (not that passing defines anything but it would be nice, ya know?). Any advice?
I think he did go on T in high school but also! Voice exercises are a thing you can do to help lower your voice. Wikihow has a few way on lowering your voice w/o hormones
* hiccup/ voice crack *
“I think I just spoke French..”
The whole description you gave about the bullies as to why you quit highschool for a year was how I felt when I was a kid.
I wasn't out as trans at the time, I was just bullied for 3 years by every kid in my class until I moved in with my grandmother and switched schools.
I watch his videos like the minute they upload
hsbshs that happened to meeee
one time some kid in one of my classes was like- "yo, do you know ____ ____?" and i was like "oh uh yeah thats my sister.. haha. hah." it was so awkward shdbsjdbdb
3:15 you could hear his emotion coming in... god damnit someone give this man a hug!!!!!
"I think i just spoke french" lmaooo
That moment when you're talking and suddenly you just start speaking French. Ugh, so relatable.
someone called me by my full birth name, and i just made a confused face and said 'who the fuck is that?'
I went to a middleschool/highschool and I came out in middleschool and TRIED to go stealth, and I actually passed but I would ALWAYS get outed by people who knew me in middleschool. Also I had gender therapy every Friday which caused me to miss 7th hr, and the teacher leactured the whole class about how it's "illegal" to leave class early out of "convince" clearly talking about me, and how he could stop grading all the assignments I turn in. He actually can't do that but go off ig. So my mom sent him an email saying "aye, I have therapy, she's not pulling me out for no reason" so in response he leactured us again saying (and I quote) "Apparently what I said yesterday tRigGerEd some of you guys cuz I got so pretty wEiRd emails yesterday, I'm not saying I WANT to stop grading your assignments, what I'm saying is it's tHE LAW!!" (There's no law saying that if students get pulled out of class for no reason, their assignments don't get graded?? What kind of legal punishment is that?? How would you regulate that???) So that was embarrassing
When you were younger, do you remember when your friend's mom or dad said when you become a beautiful women/ handsome man and you cringe so hard you laugh and say heh yeaaaaaa
HIS LAUGH AT 4:48 IM CRYING THAT WAS SO FUCKING CUTE
I started feeling scared right after he said "picture a big gym"
its such a difficult situation to run into old friends or aquaintences who arent aware that you are trans and going into the mens bathroom if you even get the slightest strange look your heart drops. this video was the most relatable thing ever. also your videos make me extremely happy and remind me that im not the only one who goes through these things so keep doing what youre doing sam i look up to you tremendously bro.
Oh my god I'm just watching this now and this poor angel about to cry... I can't I'm crying damn empathy
I love his voice. And Honestly, I don't blame that girl. If he was in my bed and we were alone I wouldn't stop. lol jk. That's not nice, she was very rude.
I'm so happy there's so much representation on the internet and on youtube not only for other trans people but also for people that simply want to learn what it's like! I've only had one trans friend in my life but I never really got to ask about all his troubles and conflicts since I didn't want to be intrusive. So thank you! BTW I've been watching you videos for a small bit and I honestly love your content (and humor haha).
You should’ve told the girl after “I respect you too much as a person to be a one night thing” that she was drunk and wasn’t thinking right
When your parents won’t let the school change your name in the system and all the substitutes pretty much ignore any note the teacher leaves about calling you by your name so you can’t be stealth cause then everyone puts two and two together
The girl in sams 1st dirty story : "I wanna do things etc" Sam : " *GASP* Not on my christian server"
"I am a boy."
*"I am a boy."*
*_"i am a boy"_*
Me as soon as I'm out
My neighbor didn't recognize who I was and asked if I was my brothers friends cause I was around a lot and I'm not even out
Inspiration of the year ❤😍
The importance of a good binder is crucial to stealthiness. A good binder + shirts that suit you will be the key to avoiding any questions.
I'm actually new but I'm so proud of you of being able to tell your stories, you are so inspiration, I've watched 10 videos and I love you already haha xx
My trans-son's name is Sam, too. I support you in your courageous journey.
Whenever I say “I’m wearing a binder” my friends look at me like I’m insane 😂
I JUST GOT A RELIGIOUS ADD ON THIS VIDEO?! WHYYY!!
omg the story with the stall happened to me aswell... I was like being all smug with my hoodie just chilling on this parking deck waiting for my friend and I look down and I see this police officer talk to her like: Did you see some boy around here hes been skating on the police parking deck? And I was like 1. OMGHESAIDBOY 2. shit 3. omg lets take a photo of them lol
and I had the flash on.
He saw me and I ran away and like he called his colleague and they chased me to the city center like at least 2 miles until I lost them. Scariest 20 minutes of my life tbh.
AWWWWW "I'm a boy" "No." I FEEL THE SAME WAY I FEEL SO BAD FOR YOUUUU
5:04 Jesus take the whole car, I'm begging you
i went through people asking me "Hey (dead name) , are you a girl?" and i just stand there and I say "Well i prefer to be called alex and my pronoun is he/him, I'm a boy" and some people will say "No, you're a girl" or "Oh yeah, just like how i define myself as a attack helicopter" and the second one is always so annoying because it always something across those lines but there have been people who support me and help me which i am so thankful for but it is tough when someone takes away your right to feel human."
While I can't relate to your experiences, I respect you highly for sharing your stories as they matter and it helps people know they're not alone in the same scenarios. Keep going strong Sam and stay awesome!
Doubt anyone will see this as the video is 3 years old but I’mma share anyways:
Once I was at a party and I was kinda tipsy when this girl came over and introduced herself and asked what my name was, all around us were people who knew me by my birth name as well as some strangers (like her) and I just malfunctioned and said “I don’t know”. She was drunk as well so she took a few seconds to figure out what the fuck I was saying before asking me “you don’t know?” And I just “nope.” And to this day she does not know my name even tho her boyfriend is one of my childhood friends lmao
3:47 "I think I just spoke french?" 😂 that's my favourite part of the video!! Because this happens to me sometimes when I speak Korean, I will just switch to German and my friends just stares at me like 😐
My story- this happened 2 days ago, I was at the Nailers Game and I had to use the restroom, I was but wasn’t out in school, which I mean my name and pronouns were changed in the school so not everyone knew I was trans, and everyone thought I was a cis boy, and I had to use the restroom... I looked EVERYWHERE... no. Disabled. No. Family. No. Nothing. Only the males. And females. I asked my best friend who’s a guy to check to see if there are stalls in the bathroom. There weren’t any. I had to use the girls. The line was HUGE so I wait forever until it went down. Finally it went down. I went in the girls... all the stalls were FULL. I had to wait in the girls bathroom. Oh! And bonus? GIRLS IN MY SCHOOL WERE IN THERE. they were like WHY ARE U IN HERE?! And I said nothing. While I was washing my hands a little girl whispered “ mommy why is there a boy in the bathroom?” LITERALLY EVERYONE LEFT THR BATHROOM. but my close friends knew I was trans so I told them and they said EEK
That girl at school was really rude. She shouldn't have talked to you like that.
I've had a bad last 24 hours with depression, but that sexual story had me laughing. Thank you!! I so relate.
I love when he messes up his words 😂💕
I don’t really support lgbt but I love your channel and nobody deserves to be discriminated
I'm stealth at my school to some people but most people knew me before i transitioned and like 3 months after I came out and got my name changed at schools this one guy was like "hey I haven't seen you before are you knew" and I was just like "yeah ,I am" I started at my school over about 3 years before this incident so I was confused but also really pleased that I passed well enough.
I already know “are you a girl?” Cut deep😕 damn. I’ve have words do that to me before and it’s the worst. Even just listening to your story that fucked me up
“I think I just spoke French.” 😂
The fact that people don't respect a "no" from a guy is sickening to me. If it was the other way around people would all agree that was awful. How about we just respect boundaries? If someone obviously doesn't want to have sex with you, don't fucking touch them and stop fucking asking
You’re really brave for sharing these
This is giving me disphoria because it's reminding me of things that I've been through at school but this video is so good I'm not going to stop watching lol
I'm finishing up Freshman year of high school, from the beginning of the year I've been stealth. It's really stressful and i'm paranoid 24/7. I have held off on getting into any serious relationships only because I wanted to start school off strong, but I am afraid of what they might do or think because I've been stealth for so long. I am also scared to death that if I start dating (I would come out to them as soon as we would start) this person and something would go down and they'd go behind my back and tell everyone. I'm worried that they'll say stuff like "Why would you *lie* to me" or something like that. I like being stealth but the fact that I strain myself so much to keep the mental image for other people eats away at me every day. It's not just at school it's everywhere, I beat myself up on the fact that I can't be Cis. I just need an opinion I guess because it seems like you had similar problems when you were stealth.
Thank you for reading this
Your the cutest guy ever, stay strong ✨
At my school someone told EVERYONE my dead name and it was so scary and sad
Tbh I would have told the security guard we killed someone in there or some shit lol 😂
I’m going into 8th grade and I’m a female and I don’t know when to tell my parents that I want to be male.
Advice?
aweh you're so cool sharing your story so people can relate to you and doing awesome things for the community like giving away binders! Such a good guy :)
I'm so sorry, I wanna say stuff like "you're awesome" and other compliments, but that's not really gonna do anything, and it may come off as pity.
So;
You be you, ya cool bean XD
The second situation has happened to me once and it was actually the most horrifying thing to be asked about in public.
The story with quitting high school for a year reminds me of me at the moment
Like I'm a freshman now and I actually had faith in my school and outed myself, now I'm completely alone and everybody just talks about me like I'm the attraction of the school and it pisses me off so much ugh
Akikosato damn I'm sorry you had to go through that some peoe are just assholes.
Can you help me I came out to my parents and they do not believe that I have thought about it enough and they don't understand
also they think that I am to young to know but I do and they do not understand
Skylar Wolfe I came out a year ago and my parents didn't understand at first, now they are starting to accept me... Maybe if you give them some time they will understand
so our school does a "commitment to graduation" assembly and I was up and I was literally frowning and all upset and anxious because I didn't know if they'd say my name. And right whenever they did I broke my face with my smile because I was literally not expecting it lol
The second story made my fucking heart race. I'm stealth and I've been to 4 high schools and been dreading eventually happening every day