How To GET OVER Your FIRST LOVE | FIRST BREAKUP
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I did lose myself. I was fine with being alone before I met him. Now I'm not.
J M what about now? This is me exactly..
J M so true it hurts. It was better before. Are u feeling better?
Xi Lee I had the exact same thing... I’m fine now, just took them out of my life and they came crawling back... now we’re back together but I’m losing feeling so I don’t have to worry
Same here . She dumped me saying I'm too young and we were doing long distance and she wanted to explore her youth. The very never day she dumped me I took many sleeping pills and got admitted and I called her when I was at the hospital and she was in her new guy's bedroom. I was Soo dumb loving a person like her. 😂
Same here 😭
Worst part is being alone with your thoughts at night right before bed, it messes with you so bad. I miss her.
STOP I KNOW SRSLY. That comment hit hard
How are you feeling now?
I feel the same way man. I hope things get better.
@@lillyriley6975 Dude Im feeling so much better man, I’ve been focusing on myself and it’s been better. It cliche but I guess time does heal, thanks for asking man!
@@emperorpalpatine3125 thank you man I appreciate it. They have and they’ll get better for you too just focus and yourself and grind you’ll be fine it’s hard at first but you’ll get through it. Tough times don’t last, tough people do.
I hope things get better because right now every single inch of my body hurts.
They will
I feel u i feel absolute empty and absouletly broken
Time hasn't changed a thing for me _ it'll be a year soon and last night I cried as if it was yesterday.
And no, I'm not stuck on it, I am very busy, I work full time and took on part time jobs, I walk to work for 45min each morning and meditate daily. I have interests and friends.
And quite frankly I feel the loneliest when among other pple.
I hope y’all are feeling better after all this time!
Sky 23 a bit - thank you for asking :)
Bruh i feel so empty right now
Why?
Ikr
louis capuli been feeling empty for 2 years now 😒
louis capuli How do you feel now?
Same.. I feel like I don't even have a heart anymore I feel so empty
Breakups hurt specially when it's ur first love,
and if u feel like shit and don't ever bottle it up cry, cry and remmber that this breakup will only make u a better person,
How u doing now 🙏🙏?
it will not make me a better person , in fact i'll become a worser version of myself before i met her
@@AlexanderTtl it's been a couple mouths now and you just kind of move on🤣 and forget about it so doing pretty good
They suck even more when they cheat on you
it hurts more when “you’re” the one who messes and fuvks everything up. it’s like the regret, guilt will stay with you forever and you just can’t everforgive yourself for ruining a relationship that you wanted to work out more than anything else in the world. and when they clearly say “no” to you after you go back and apologise to them is what hurts the most. i miss my bean so much :’)
Felt all that in my soul i was with her 2 years! We were the same person i was with her through everything and i fucked it all up. I tried reaching out and get no response. All she wanted was me to fight harder and we both folded when it got tough. Its been 4 months
Shit i feel you on that but i got ghosted and i waited for a long time and never stopped texting her everyday thinking that her parents took her phone just to find out that she is polyamory and had fucked another guy while we were both away for vacation without seeing each other for one month
@@dannyxchief her best friend died a month ago i tried reaching out cause its so painful seeing her go through that shit alone. She hasn’t responded to me at all. Shit sucks idk what to do i miss her like crazy
I miss my little Eli too...
@@sagebellic5466 i reached out its been 5 months she’s coming over tomorrow 👍
one must go through experience on their own; that is growth, that is life.
Yes
I needed that
But it’s so painful 😞
@@Emilyarrucci what doesn't kill you makes you stronger
-Kelly Clarkson
I just broke up with my boyfriend. I hate myself for putting myself out there and giving all my soul to a person who took it for granted. I don't want to do that again, the pain is terrible.
Everything is batman my first girlfriend of 2 years loved me like no one ever loved me before and broke up with me a week ago. I mistreated her and I regret everything. I will treat my future girlfriends the way a real passionate man should.
You should. I wish he'd come back to me and realize that, cause even after the break-up, I still care about him and there's nothing I can do to help that. But if he's gonna treat me the same it's probably better to keep a distance.
I don't know about all girls, but in my case, I gave all had to this guy and I really thought he was worth the effort I put in. I thought about the little things, and took a large amount of consideration for the big things. It's partially my fault because I gave him everything and he took it for granted.
Guys will not appreciate the girl they did not work for, and in this case, I did most of the work, if not, all of it.
Do not take her for granted because it will be hard to find someone who likes you like that. Most girls are selfish and will take your money, use you for sex, etc. They will find some advantage in being with you. A girl that loves you enough to even change herself for you should be a big wake up call. Don't take her for granted because she will eventually notice and dump you. She can still love you afterwards, but if she is smart she will guard herself and stay away.
Astrid I'm in the exact same situation your words 'guys will not appreciate the girl they didn't work for' makes me realise where I went wrong. It was a completely one sided relationship even though he claimed to love me. I wasn't worth the effort or the fight and I believe it's because I made my self too available and handed everything I was to him to just ignore in the end anyway.
Same 😭
I didnt just lose him i lost my best friend. Knowing he doesn't love me anymore makes me wish i was dead
She seems to hate my guts and it hurts me
Please tell me it’s gets better, it’s already been 2 months for me and I still feel terrible and the same thing happened to me
@@maggiegr0521 it definitely does; I posted that comment 2 months ago and as long as she's been out of my life and out of sight, it's only gotten easier. There's a rule called the zero day rule. It means that no matter what you cannot have any zero days. What this means is that do not waste a single day. Do not do nothing in one day, do at least one thing, because one is not zero. Zero pushups? Bad. One pushup? Okay. 30? Great. Think about who you are fighting for. You arent fighting for yourself now, you're fighting for your future self. You are going through all this pain so your future self can be happy. Do things that will benefit your future self and trust me you will be so much happier. You can do it.
@@emperorpalpatine3125 thanks dude
How are you now
This hurts so much, I loved her more than I love myself. I wanted to spend my life with this girl and she just threw it all away so easily. I can't handle this.
Seth419 I know what you mean man shit hurts when you spend so many hours with them it’s like a new life... I honestly can’t handle this pain everything I haven’t gotten sleep my girl didn’t allow us to get back together but she recently just got a new man it’s only been 5-6 days
Fr. My ex(who was my first girlfriend) broke up with me 4 weeks ago just because I was too nervous to talk to her, I panicked. She already has another boyfriend, which is her 4th or 5th one. I felt worthless and I wanted to kill myself. Her older sister talked to me and said she was just another hoe that doesn't appreciate guys like me. So now I'm sayin fuck her. I don't need no one else but God, that's it. It will get better, trust me
Did u get better now ?
Same shit happened to me bro my girl got together with a guy that she was texting everyday and talked about him and broke up with me and went with him :(
@@Dr.Draco19 damn bro same. The worst part is I still love her even though she doesn’t love me and found someone else Alr so fast.
Took me 2 years to get myself back on track. The pain is finally over!
Just came across this. I went through a breakup with my first love who I was with for over 3 years and at the time thought she was definitely the one. Its been about 9 months. And the first 3 months were rough. i lost myself in every way possible. The next 3 months after that i was just kind of lost, didnt know what i wanted anymore or want would make me happy and kind of fell in depression. But theres good news you guys that are going through the rough part.. it gets better. I finally let go and started focusing on myself, eating healthy, going to the gym, getting back on track with my college classes. And it help so much mentally. He’s right, focus on yourself and give yourself a reason to be happy. Dont rely in a girl for your happiness. All i can say is Self discipline is key. And this experience gave me the mental toughness i never had.
Beautiful bro. So happy that you came out on top :D
Period
It’s Been bout 5 Maybe 4 months for me and I feel like absolute shi Iv also texted her but she ignores me and she recently blocked me:( I was drunk and drunk texted her (first time drinking) and I’m just tired idk what to do I feel so unhappy
@@arixramirez3701 start focusing on improving yourself and build your confidence up then move on. You will feel so much better. You will never get a girl back by drunk texting her and feeling sorry for yourself. You need to realize you don’t need her, then life gets better.
I made that comment that you replied to almost 4 years ago. I started going to the gym and trying to improve every aspect of my life and it made me realize if she didn’t want me then that’s her problem I’m not going to sit around hoping she will come back. So I moved on and started dating other girls. Only after that point where I moved on and was content with life without her she says she wants me back and I didn’t just go back right away because I had already gotten over her so I thought about it carefully and decided to try again with her because I was in the right headspace to make that decision. I’m not saying that’s going to happen in your relationship but you need to realize life will still be good without her. You can get through this and you will be a better, mentally tougher person after you do.
@@xDILLONx25 so are you and the girl back together now?
2 years of memories gone in a snap. How does one go from being so in love to "I'm sorry, my feelings changed.", leaving me so broken and alone. My entire body is physically and emotionally hurting. I can't do anything but cry. I still really love him but I can't keep holding on. I had to let go. I hope the pain would go away soon because I don't know how much pain I can handle at this point.
@Yasmine E Hi. I'm actually doing kinda better now. I still think of him from time to time but I have to live my life. You can let yourself be sad but don't get swallowed by the sadness. Just cry until it doesn't hurt anymore. You'll get through it. ❤️
10 months later , how are you now ? i’m going threw this rn :((
@@sydnibutcher975 hi, i'm doing so much better now. i'm finally back on track. the pain will go away soon. you can do this! :)
@@vipmydayatiny7672 Thankyou so much. This pain is the hardest thing i’ve been through.
Same thing happened 2 weeks ago. Idk what to do. Now There's a void in my life. I wish this never happened.
Do you think that loving anyone else after your first love is never as deep ? This is what I'm afraid of . :/ all other love will be shallow and not as good , Thts what I hear from others ..
Work on yourself and your next love will be even greater.
Ana DeAls I'm also scared of that, I just came out a 2 and a half year relationship.
The next person for you might get on with you on whole new level and be even more personal and understanding, I think it's just hard to grasp connecting with anyone so well again but it will happen and when it happens if it's the right person it will be stronger than the last relationships - that's what I'm hoping anyway - all love bro
Nothing compares to the first real love
I felt that way for 8 years after 1st love. I begged God, made a list of the most perfect spouse. God hit everything I asked for on the head, in unexpected ways! I am now married 5 years. God Blessed me after holding onto my 1st love for 8 years!! I dated many over the 8 year span, but just couldn't fully love like I did. I stilled missed our relationship & compared every person to my ex. When I finally let go, expected to grow old alone, God put the most perfect love in my life & I've never loved deeper! Give it to God, dance with God, when the time is right, he will let right person cut in. Ask. Believe. Then you will receive! Jesus is Lord! Amen!!
It's just grown up more of the infatuation romance hollywood selfish driven side ...., to the real non idealistic actually selfless non needy love that will grow to infinity beyond that stupid first love that any one of us had. but that needs work ... on our side rather than work on "searching"
It makes me feel better that's I'm not the alone on this thing
We're never alone!
All these comments are really old and I want to know if you are all doing better :(
I just got dumped myself by my first love. Worse off, we have a daughter together so no only am i crushed from losing my ex but i have to see her when seeing my daughter...here looking for other people that have traveled this path before me hoping for strength.
just got dumped yesterday,feels real bad, i regret so many things,if only i had did this,if only i had did that,it hurts so much,especially not being able to go out and take a breathe,but i believe im able to do this, i really do love her,i want the best for her and for that i must let go. stay strong bro we can do this
Me n my gf of 6 years I’m 19 do the maths jus separated a couple days after we split she rang me and told me she’s pregnant so obviously this will make it very hard to see her while with the kid is around honestly never been so hurt in my life but what won’t kill you will make you stronger ❤️
@@goatboi2764 I think, idk man.... I just dont know..... ur so right.... I could have done it so much better
His brows are freakin amazing.
I'd always heard about this inexplicable pain but it is only now that I understand what it feels like to be dead, when ur body is actually fine. Guys I hope it'll get better
I lost myself
I ruined other relationships unconsciously that I had with others, my friends, family, etc.
I don’t know how I’m going to fix this but I know I can get through this
Hows it goin bud?
Read the Quran ❤
My first love broke up with me a year ago. I was older and she was younger than me. I found out she got married to someone else a few months after. After a year I thought I would be better but I'm still hurting/crying myself to sleep. I just want to be happy again. I involved myself more in church and tried to have a closer relationship with God. I also started trying to be healthier so I lost 20lbs. I still feel the same. My ex once told me, if anything ever happens to her, no one else will ever love me. It was supposed to be a joke but it's messed me up. I'm 27 and I've had one girlfriend and as I get older it just weighs on me. It just really sucks because I find it hard to believe that I'll ever find anyone else and I just don't want to be lonely anymore. There's not a lot of support for men who really care about women on the internet so thanks for the video and sorry for rambling.
Check out my newer vid that I just uploaded. Should help you some brother
Thanks bud. I just watched it and everything you said makes sense and I completely understand. It's just hard and when it comes to this I get discouraged easily. You're a good brother, I just vented to you and you sent more encouragement my way and you're a stranger to me. I appreciate that, means a lot to me *Bro Hug*
Hero 3000 keep your head up
Thanks, I appreciate that.
Np hmu if you want someone to talk to (:
I just got dumped by my first love about two weeks ago and it is helllllll. It’s SO painful. On top of that he’s moved on pretty quickly. :( I like to pep talk myself into thinking he couldn’t possibly be the one if he doesn’t choose me back, so it’s not as hard at times. I’ve learned a lot about myself & what I want in a relationship. It’s gonna be hard getting past all the nightmares & lack of sleep, quarantine forcing me to be antisocial the one time I want to socialize with friends, and just negative thoughts. It’s going to be extra hard trying to trust again too. sigh. wish me luck & good luck to everybody experiencing the same thing 😭 we got this
I feel like i could have wrote this i relate so much
how are you doing now?
How are things going now?
I don’t want/need him to make me happy because that’s not his responsibility. But I do hold him responsible for making me unhappy.
How are you today
never thought i'd be writing in the comment section but damn. i relate to you all, and even though i feel like crap, it helps to know i'm not the only one feeling like it
damn just one min in and his voice and face got me over my first love, mashallah!
I went out and had fun and focused on myself and my work, but the very moment I was alone, I was flooded with emotions. This experience did make me mature and evolve as a person spiritually , mentally, and physically. And I stopped believing that there is that one person out there for you. ..
It's been 4 years man. She moved on. I did not. I started to eath healthy, loose weight, started new hobbies and jobs, traveled around the world and lived in differen countries. Met a lot of new people, tried a relationship. After all this through 4 years i am still back with her in my heart.
Don't try to forget her.
It hurts more when you try to do that. Just accept that you love her, it will feel better.
the worst is when you see them move on and be happy while you're alone with your thoughts and still think about them
been a year. still have dreams of them. still cry. relationships arent the same, and i end up ending it over and over
Everything hurts. I miss him more than anything. We had a long distance relationship for a year and 3 months. I have no one left. I feel dead inside.
Victoria Manos how are you now? Do you feel better?
Yeah... same for me. Things were going downhill, we were arguing, and she ended up confiding to someone about our problems and left me for someone.. it's difficult. You spend every moment thinking about what went wrong, what could've been..
You’ll be fine. God help you!
How are you doing now? I’m currently going through the same thing.
Iam going through the same pain...i was in long distance relationship fr 7 years he broke up with me today
I lost myself since i met him, my relationship with him was so stressful but so strong ! It ends tragic ! Now, it's been almost 2 years and im good. I fidnt think i could have lived a moment without him, but im alive and happier single ❤
Hannah, if your somehow reading this, I know things didn’t work out and I know you simply don’t love me anymore. I know I was too codependent. But you’ll always be in my heart. You were the first person who I had ever told my deepest secrets to. The first person I had felt truly opened up to. You were first person to ever love me back, to ever say I wasn’t ugly, but attractive to you. I lost myself in my love for you. I probably still love you, but I know we have to move on. However I’ll never ever forget you. All I can say is thank you for being that first person to ever love me for who I am.
I'm glad you said it takes some people years to grieve, because I kept thinking somethings wrong with me, and I even had a friend who thought I was crazy for taking so long, but I don't think I have any issues, aside from obvious depression. I'm just a sensitive man who is still recovering from losing his first love from 4, nearing 5 years ago now. I'm a hopeless romantic straight male and I fucking live that shit. One HS teacher of mine (love ya Ms.L) told me you never really stop loving your first, and as time goes on I see this may be true. Thing is, you say we must stop thinking about her, but I don't want to lose those memories because that's all I have left of her. I've already lost a lot of them because I've been smoking so much weed to try to lift my spirits. I know that's counter productive I'm trying my very best to quit. So I don't want to lose any more memories, I only have a few left now. She said we'd never get back together, so I know there's no chance of new memories with her, so I'm just afraid if I try to not think about her, I'll forget those old memories, and then I'll be left with this void where I KNEW I experienced literally love at first sight, it was an instant jolt of euphoria upon seeing her from across the auditorium, and I'll barely be able to visualize what I had, I'll just know that I had it, and now it's gone completely. I don't want to lose it completely, those were the best days of my life how can I try to delete that?
my first love just broke up with me a few hours ago. we both decided that we need to focus on ourselves because we both struggle with mental illness and during the relationship we focused too much on making the other happy that we weren't making ourselves happy. i didn't want to break up and i'm honestly so heartbroken, but we decided that once we're mature enough if we both want to be together still we will get back together. neither of us want to be with anyone else, it just sucks. i feel horrible. thank you for this video though
Remember that this, too shall pass
Karen Raley OMG was you my ex, that happened to me we both struggled with mental I was in hospital for 5 mouths because of it. I know your pain but the saying is love yourself before you can love someone els
Any updates on this? How are you doing? Do you two talk?
21 y/o male here. I’m in a similar situation. My first love whom I dated for 5 months broke up with me this week because she felt guilty that she wasn’t meeting my physical needs in the relationship. She has an aversion to sexual touch, possibly due to body image and self-esteem issues, along with bad experiences from a former boyfriend. I explained that we don’t have to rush anything and I’m willing to wait for her to see a therapist but she said that she didn’t want to make me wait for her to get better when I could be seeing other people who might be better for me, so she would rather be my friend than my girlfriend for now. She promised me that if she ever got past her mental health issues and was ready for a relationship once again, she would call me.
Now I don’t know what to do. Should I wait for her? Should I look for someone else?
All I know is I’m madly in love with her in a way I’ve never felt with anyone else and I just don’t know how I can be her friend without seeing her in that romantic light. I hate that something like this had to get in the way of the tremendous love we have for each other. It feels like I’ve lost a big part of myself.
I’m going through exactly this!!! Tell me it gets better I feel absolutely sick and lost
Aye dude, by the time I’m saying this, this video is a few years old. But I found it, and I’m glad I did. I appreciate you dawg. I tend to be positive, but my first love moved away as we both moved off to different colleges. She is going to a college that’s almost 2 hours away from mine, but right now it’s a hard thing to even consider being able to travel there. We were perfect for each other for sure, but I guess she lost that feeling, because 3days before she moved, we lost contact and she stopped messaging back. And I know she was extremely sad that she had to go as well and I believe the stress got to her. But I also think she was able to move on easier for sure. However just a few days ago it all came back after I went to visit a friend and didn’t even realize they were on the same campus. As well as in the SAME dorm. He was in the 3rd floor, she was on the 8th. Of course I visited her, had a great time with her and her roommate catching up with everything she’s doing, she let me spend the night there with her, all those emotions came back, and I lost it on the way home when I had to leave in the morning. It’s been hard and I’m glad I found this man. Thank you so much. My advice: Time is precious, so take it, and also respect it.
Shit's hard bro but you gotta live on. Best of wishes to you
I wish I saw this video before Looking at this all of what you said happened. When she broke up with me I did lose myself. I cut all of my friends off, stopped hanging out with my family, stopped doing the things that made me happy, but instead done things that would give me a quick fix that led me to being only happy for a few secs then being depressed and not caring about anything for the rest of the day. After a month of the breakup I started to work on myself a bit more and as I saw myself doing this I rushed into dating and I got myself into a rebound relationship. I thought it would help me stop thinking about my first love, but in reality it just proved how much I haven’t gotten over her at all and that I still need time. So I clicked on this video to see what I can do to get over her and I realized that it really does take time to recover over these things. Thank you so much for making this video
What hurt the most is when your first love is way above your league and you don't even bother talking to her or him cuz you already know the answer so you just keep watching from afar
Broken too hard to believe in love rn....
Its being over a year....
We are still texting each other like we've never met
I feel so depressed. It’s been 11 weeks 😔 and I’m still feeling this
Ive been with him since i was 12, now im 17 and i know that people will think that it was just a game or something but he meant the world to me, now were in different parts of our lifes and ive decided that i am gonna breakup with him because i wanna let him live his life. If we are meant to be then we will and god i really want that to happen, but i must understand that if you love someone you let them go when things are going bad in the relationship and im been brave, hurts like sheeet but i hope that someday if someone reads this and gives this a like, ill be living my life happy.
I watched many support videos going through this, and I must say this was truly helpful advice. I honestly thought I was the only one who could feel this way, so to see others relating and going through the same feelings makes it more "normal". Thank you!
how are you feeling now
This really got to me, I have just gone through exactly what you’re describing. I’m secluding myself and I feel I don’t deserve to be happy, I don’t know how to feel.
OMG i laughed when you were like: for those three years, it was the same sht..... LMFAO especially because of your straight face.
Hahahah
Charlette Graciani dying over here 😂💀
Fr same asf
I literally thot no one else in the world felt like this... 4 years so far for me and still going through it but everything this man just said is spot on and has made me think
This is good advice. Not losing yourself is so important during a relationship. From my highschool gf (I wouldn't call it my first love), I was lost after the breakup. 6 months aswell to start moving on. I had no hobbies or activities really, I used to game but I didn't even want to do that. Activities out of the house are important to have. This time around, who I'd consider my first adult relationship and first love, although my hobbies and activities cut back a lot while with her, I was still doing them and I didn't feel "lost" like I had in the previous relationship. I still cried my eyes out, but I wasn't a lost puppy. I felt dead and empty inside, but I still had a path to follow. You need a life outside your relationships.
PS. That beard is hella boss man. Looking good.
You're right brother. You need a life outside of your relationship and thanks ahah
It’s not fair to me , I’m a good person . I was loyal to you and was always by your side after everything that happened . I had dreams and you crushed them . I’m a good person , it’s not fair .
Harlynn2194 I know what you mean man all we wants was to love them and here we sit crying and hurting for them all this time we spent for them all this love...
Vortex_wolf yesss and you think you need closure to help you move on but the thing is that’s nothing really compared to what we ourselves need ! I’ve figured out my anxiety and all my sleepless nights and just moments of cryin , we need to admit things to ourselves that we so much ignored during our relationship . Like for example my partner cheated on me , I didn’t really see what it did to me but it gave me so insecurities that I tried to regain control of the relationship and over myself in totally wrong ways . During the time I thought it was normal but I wasn’t in denial , I just didn’t see it . Now that I say it aloud , it’s helped me so much . We need to say thing aloud and that really helps us , if you feel confused doesn’t matter bc the more you speak or just say thing aloud the more it makes sense , you don’t need to talk to anyone just by yourself and it works . We need to realize that this can’t define who we are , love comes and go and every love is different . What stays with us is what we decide to do afterwards . So no more crying okay bc it’s not gonna solve anything if anything cry bc the old you is long gone , the old you that thought that was love and was taken for granted . Say hello to the new you , the one who is going to turn over a new page and begin again ! We are strong , we are worth it and we are beautiful . No more hiding in our fear and bottling up our emotions , no we can do something about these things bc we are alive and God has put us through the ring of fire and gave us an out to see what we didn’t see . It’s like this , it’s a game - you and you’re partner are playing with an audience to see , the thing is during the game you don’t see the mistakes that are mad but the audience does . It’s not until after the game that you see it but everyone around did and tried to warn you but your head was so in the game you didn’t listen and instead kept playing , that’s how bad relationships work ! you don’t see the bad bc you’re in it but everyone around you does and when you’re free from it , you see everything ! No more crying ! With faith and prayer everything will be solved , pick ourselves up and show ourselves we are strong bc the weak doesn’t succeed !
Harlynn2194 you’re right for the most part but what kinda pisses me off is that from the start her friends always said that I was terrible and I’m cheating and ect... if she never had those people around her we would’ve been fine because literally all her friends said I am a bad guy and she should break up
Yes there’s always that one person 😒 dude listen to your heart
Harlynn2194 that’s how everyone should be these days 😭
Ahhh your voice is already healing me
Thanks for being so honest. Had a similar shut down, hope you’ve been better.
thanks for being blunt. i needed to hear all of this
This is the kinda friend you need in your life. He actually tells you how to really deal with the heartache. 👏🏽
This comment section is way to relatable for me
Thank you for this video! Currently going through so much thank you for sharing this!
hey man, you rock. I let negative thoughts and emotions get to me when it shouldn't have after my breakup with my ex. I was angry and didn't want her to be happy. But I realize that only hurts me with those negative thought patterns. I am also doing nofap. I gave up other things that I feel were not helping me. I gave up caffeine, and staying off my phone as much as I can. thanks for your videos man. We can only change what is in our control and that's our self
Very true brother. I'm glad you are coming to those realizations.
I’m here after going through a rough breakup back in 2019. No one seems to compare. To quote a song, “though your face is charming, it’s the wrong face”
She basically told me she didn’t love me anymore, but I still love her and want her. It’s terrible and I can’t help but think about her everyday. It’s difficult man.
same her i took drugs and became selfish and treated her wrong at times but she loved me so much, drugs turned me into a horrible person and i loved her so much but i kept putting myself first, she broke up with my about 3 weeks ago and i still see her on the bus for college, i have tried begging myself back i have stopped taking drugs and have tried to improve myself for her but she says theirs no spark anymore, so i feel fucked inside but i will get over soon and so will you g.
If you love her. You will be happy when she's happy
Big Bird I’m going thro it rn. I’m so lost. How are you doing?
It's hard but we got this!
Great vid!!!!!
This is the truth! This speaks volumes to my soul!
Thank you for making this video, you really helped me. ❤️
Glad to hear that!
Awesome video man! I had this experience too before long ago... Looking forward to more of ur videos bro!
Thank you my brother.
Thank you for being so grounded and adding value in my time of struggle.
The story you just told happend the exact same way for me... Latterly EVERYTHING. Thank you so much for your help. You deserve something special in life❤️
First and foremost, I LOVE your voice. Secondly First loves are like entrance doors. They open you up to experiencing what you like and dont like on the inside and hell even on the outside.
Me and my girl broke up a few months ago and I’m starting to get over it. This really helped me man. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing this experience because i had my first relationship, and I broke up a month ago. I was okay for 2 weeks but then I lost myself now, and I didn’t even know what to do. I don’t want to talk with my friends or other ppl about my ex, and get them involved in that negativity or pity me. I just tell myself that I will get over it and I just started my first year at university, but I didn’t predict that my break up will make me want to isolate myself or feel emptiness after a month. Seeing all those comments and hearing your part of the story makes me feel like I’m not alone in this. Things I really loved that you mentioned in this video 4:39 - 4:54 focus on yourself is the key!!!
6:08 I agree that friends are very helpful to get over the break up!! But I wouldn’t mention anything about my ex because again, I don’t to involve them in my negativity. I’d just enjoy the moment being with them. Focus on the present moment. This will really help you distract your thoughts.
Thanks for the advices, they're helping me a lottt
I fell in love when I was 14. My Mother forbade me to go out with him as I grew older after he was my first date. My first kiss. When I lost my virginity to him is when she said we wheren't allowed to date, but we snuck. We did date others our junior year, but senior year we got back together and got our first place together way to young at 18. We had our 1st child a daughter in 2010 our first son in 2012. Through moving, jobs life ups and downs just had another son 2017💙 Its not always been easy, but theres lots of love between us. I hope we never divorce it would feel like a absalute death to me! If you stay together this long though understand life changes both of you. Put the work in to contenously relearn remeet each other never forget to respect, be loyal and build on that trust. Dont get so into lifes hum drum that you only stay because its comfortable, stay when you still have love.
you have a lovely voice
it’s crazy how i thought i was alright but it hurts after
I'm here because my son is going through his first breakup at 16. She broke his heart. I feel helpless. I don't know how to take his pain away. If I could take that pain from him and put it on myself I would take it instantly. If I feel lost I can't imagine how he is feeling.
Man I really can't stress enough how much of a impact your videos have. I'm going through this right now. She thought I was out of town, but the trip got cancelled. I showed up at her house and there was a car in the driveway that I'd never seen before including her car...I pulled into the driveway and her mom was on the front porch smoking. As soon as her mom saw me pull in the driveway, she dropped her cigarette and ran to the front door and locked the door. I went to the door and banged on it saying let me in....a few minutes later her mom came to the door and said, "Shelby said she doesn't want to be with you and you need to please leave"
The last time we talked, she told me that her and the guy were in her room smoking weed. BIG LIE.
Plus, she misses the point....she shouldn't have had a guy in our room in the 1st place. But anyways man, it's been 1 month since it all happened and I still wake up feeling absolutely lost and alone. I try to keep myself occupied in the gym or with friends and fam but there are times when I'm alone and that's the worst. I'm trying. I really am. Once school starts I'll be so busy it won't even matter. Going for that welding degree!! 👊
I'm also on day 7 of NoFap...I feel like that was partly why the relationship didn't last longer...I was watching porn and jacking off and had been for years...my brain wasn't at the level it needed to be at in order to be fully aware and there in the moments with her....I was there but I wasn't fully there... I've heard you speak on this before and it's very true. Porn has ruined so much for me up to this point and It took me this long to figure it out...But I'll stop ranting and just want to say thank you for being the inspiration that you are bro. I got this. The time is now.
Keep going brother. Glad to see you moving forward
took me almost 2 years and im still 70% havent move on yet
I just got out of my first serious relationship, we knew each other for 2 months before we got together, and then came the happiest 6 months of my life. She was the first person I've ever opened up too, ever really loved and knew in my my heart I'd do anything for. Then she began being distant and when I asked what was up, she said she had simply lost love for me. Thank you for this video, it helps a whole helluva lot.
Felt this shit. You know they say that to keep people's attention in a TH-cam video you have to make cuts and shifts but you don't and you don't need to. you like got this aura that makes me want to listen
Awesome man :)
Wow dude I checked out all your videos from the first one until now, and what a transformation! Physically, Spiritually, Mentally. Crazy what can be achieved in a years time. Props!!!
+Christian Botha Haha appreciate it my brother!
I broke up with the girl I loved so so much and I'm hurt and sad now I keep thinking of her
Why did you break up?
same
MikeHDtv same
sometimes you dont have a choice and you have too and it still hurts
Mike.tv damn this is 2 years ago
Lol OMG facts! Straight Facts, I went through the same circumstances and feel the same way! Mad respect ✊🏼 great insight here
My first love. We had everything.
But then I screwed up so badly and I lied to her about loving her more than someone else I was scared to hurt her and I really didn’t want to and she later found out and that was the worst mistake of my life and it changed me completely. I just wanted to be alone and not do anything. But then we were still friends and I tried to repair everything. But then she told me she wasn’t ready… and then she friend zoned me. It really fucking hurts. I really needed this video. Thank you so much. And I’m still going through the stages right now and it’s hard. Very hard. But still thank you. ❤️
It’s been 1 and a half year and I’ve still never forgotten about my first love
This was a really helpful video. Currently going through my first break up right now. I ended things with my gf of four years in person/during lockdown, and I've lost a big part of myself. To hear your wisdom on the matter gives me hope on better days to come, thank you for this
Hey, how r u doing now?
@@Alma-gj9no amazingly, I've never felt better. Over the past year, I've experienced so much, got a new job, met some amazing people, discovering more of what I like. Developed new habits like going to gym 3 times a week, journalling every day, meal prepping etc and am overall the best version of myself physically and mentally becausae of it all. Time is an amazing healer and brings a lot of valuable perspective.
Thank you so much I needed this
Nice video. You helped me alittle bit! Thanks
This was the best video ever . Thank u
26 and it was mutual......first proper love.....i now have so much more sympathy for breakups now!
Thanks a lot man going through some struggles myself and this video has eased a lot of the nerves thank you .
Thank you, at 27 I thought I'd never find it, within the same year I never expected to lose it but I have to keep marching on, I have to believe in a better future.
Wise words as usual my friend.
I hated when I hear " you don't usually end up with the first love" because she is so beautiful
I was with my first love for about 6 months on and off. His parents ended up getting involved and forced the first breakup. The first breakup broke me but I eventually healed. Not much later we got back together then broke up, got back together, etc. I finally called it quits for good today. His parents made it where he couldn't see me and even had him block my number this past month. Because of them exploiting our relationship, it was a cause of many arguments. They had no explanation for not liking me, they just didn't. I was just being dragged along and I didn't deserve that. This has been some of the hardest months of my life but this time I learned my lesson.
Bro Thanks a lot! I needed this video today.
First love will teach you lessons and help you once u move on and the next person you get with you will know what to do better even though I am still hurt by this you guys need to know it will get better.
I agree
Yo you got a ghost in your house
ll SAVAGE KING ll no fucking way I thought I was insane I seen it too g the lamp wtf
What minutes?
Ka Galit very end of the video
7:01 theres a shadow
Why is it that I have no idea if I truly love her but she’s always on my mind
lmao, your first time around sounds like my story, but it took 2 years for dreams to stop, 2 more years to fully move on. and now I'm most of the way through college and one thing I learned is there will never be someone who got me like her, I can always get close or even compromise, but it will never be the same. so I've been single 4yrs going on 5. I mean I get gals wanting to date me all the time, but tbh none have the personality to reach my heart like that first one. I decided to just stay single, life is going good, college is all A's and "my wallets never empty jk." but on a serious note, ya I still have my days that drag me down, and I think of all the good and love we shared. but suppressing the pain with something you like seems to help, working out, movies, friend support anything to help you through those off days. and most people I see try to move on in a year and then that is a mess, it's because that was your first true love, nothing and no one will ever make you fill different, your feelings for her will never go away. it's because "love=sacrifice" and you can't get rid of it. all you can do is like you said learn from it. to all the fellow people out there going through this, don't rush it or try to fill it with sin, just take time cuz time is the only thing that will help. :)
great video brother, im the type where its taken me like 5 years to get over mine, but now im really over it
Glad you've overcome it brother. What was your breaking point
I'm so broken i don't even know what to do. He's my everything but yet i feel like its not the same anymore not like the time we feel for each other. We are together for more than one year. It suck so bad.Never falling for this shit again
Thank you a lot, sir. You really helped somehow. I feel ready to let go now. I feel capable to get through it.
got you bro
my first love is about the break up with me. it all started out great for a few months then now all we do is argue just like you said in the video. thanks for the great video and advice. new subscriber right here
....it’s been 3 months and I’m still not over her...
It takes a while, just focus on what you love to do and listen to sad music that makes you feel better. Don’t tag on the break up or her. This is take time to heal it took me a year to heal, I’m still healing. But you got this and just be ready for these emotional times. If you need any help comment me back I’m here to help
Its been a week for me. I still feel something is missing. I just sleep 3 hours a day and then wake up thinking about her. Its so hard. Im stressed and feel very lonely
Godfather NO I shall not accept this level of pain. I’ll be here for you until you’re better so be happy
@@00RaveRat i need someone
Godfather I’ll be here
I broke up with my first love 4 months ago and I still be thinking about it... it’s just those lonely nights that be hitting me a lot 😔
why’d you break up with him/her anyway? i just wanna know bc i’m going threw a break up rn :((
man we broke up 3 months ago and I reached out 2 weeks ago; we were friends up until tonight, when he told me he wasn’t comfortable being friends and he just wanted to move on. it feels like breaking up for the 2nd time and it hurts so much. I feel like something is wrong with me. I wish we could’ve stayed friends and it feels like im holding on for dear life, I don’t want to move on.
Took me years to get over my first love. We're still distant FB friends and she lives abroad but every now and then she'll put up a pic of her and eventual husband/kids and i'll get that little kick to the guts even though i know it couldn't have worked and both of us are now happy. Wish i saw this video years ago. Like many on here i bet, i never openly talked about it to anyone. It helps.
Sorry for that bro. Just know that it wasn't meant to be