DEALING WITH HEARTBREAK - How It's A Good Thing...
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 15 มี.ค. 2020
- Hey guys, welcome back to another video! In this one I talk about dealing with heartbreak and how/why it's a good thing in today's world. I hope this video can be of resource to you guys out there and with that said I will catch you all in the next one, cheers!
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hey bro nice pfp
I also think sometimes you don't actually miss the person you just miss having someone.
it's attachment imo
to me its more about ego, I want to be the first that leaves
i think i agree with Cole and Ou.
All these are true, 90% of the time all pain goes away once you find a new person.
It’s more of the fear of someone else being the reason she’s happy
Same story. I loved her so much - it hurted when she rejected me. But that heartbreak has transformed myself - I started nofap, workout, more active in sport...
still on no fap?
@@decentlols yeah, but I failed 4 days ago. But nah, I'm gonna try my best 💪
@@Ou-fv1hy later that happened to me bro. Keep going, warrior!
Hmm seems like my own story lmfao.
Jokes aside, good luck bro I hope everything goes well with you.
@@sagar1992 honestly in macroterm everything is much better than 8 months ago. But in microterm I discovered that I'm not as good as I thought about me and its kinda killing my EGO and myself. I lost buddies, but earn one trustworthy friend; I'm single because my expectations are unrealistic in my little town and I'm kinda frightened to be in relationship 😂. Shadow-work is the key now to get my shit together. But I belive in the God, that this is just another path on my journey to become men I would admire.
I broke up with my ex about 10 months ago, she was my first girlfriend and before her I didnt know what love is, she showed me side of me i didnt knew it existed. I loved her so much and till this day I still have love towards her as i think about her often. I doubt we will ever be together again but if anything I just want for her to be happy and thats it
sretno!
I find this way of thinking very true. Recently I was rejected by a girl that made me feel something that I never did before. She was very special for me. It forced me to start developing my mentality. I found out that I had alot to work on. I started to watch hours and hours of coachers( for example you) and it realy changed my way of thinking, so now I feel alot more confident and better about my self. It's all just about the way you look at your failure. There was a wise sentece in my childhood cartoon "A victory teaches nothing but the failure teaches you thousands of things"
Here is a part of my life I've never shared publicly.
I was deeply in love with that girl when I was in high school right. She became my first girlfriend and I progressively fell more and more in love with her.
But as time went by, I realized I couldn't reveal to my parents that I was "dating a girl" as it is taboo in our culture (relationships outside of marriage are forbidden). Nearly 3 years into the relationship, the fear that my parents or any member of my family find out about it started to grow on me. Hanging out with her started to become a real weight on my shoulders. So one day, after weeks of reflection, talking with some friends and myself about the situation, I made a choice to break that thing we had created. I had broken my heart. But it didn't feel like a horrible thing right away.
That was 6 years ago. Today I still haven't been in another relationship. I feel kind of stuck somewhere in the past.
Just wanted to share that with you guys. I love the topics this channel speaks about btw.
Supernova I’m sorry you went through this experience with your parents/girlfriend. It’s tricky I completely hear you. But every challenge always offers itself as an equal blessing. Search for the gifts and they will be revealed. ❤️🙏
I hope you the best man, its not easy to make those kind of choices.
Stay strong
Allah saved you get married brother
i wanted her... but when she rejected me she thought me something i needed... and i thank her for that... great video👍👍👍
Dang, I did not realize you were so young! So freaking wise at your age, holy smokes. Thank you for what you do, you're positively impacting many lives in major ways. Much appreciated brother, and much love.
This video is so true I also heard something similar to this that said we were enthralled into what the person gave us or showed us that we either admired or felt like we were lacking ourselves so when the break up happens it feels like a huge loss.... the cure for this is to find out what those things were and provide it to ourselves so that we can feel complete and whole by ourselves and help us get over the heartbreak.
You keep coming up on my suggested videos and one day I decided to just give in and click on your video.
Every single video you make speaks to me, you are so inspiring. Thank you for making these videos and sharing everything with us.
I'm 25, never had a girlfriend. A few months ago a girl at work starting hinting at me and we went on a few dates, I never manned up or something because nothing ever happened. I fell head over heels for her even though we never even kissed or anything, probably because she's like the first one ever to show any interest in me I think.
It became a bit awkward for a while and lately she's been texting and talking to me more but it clearly is just as friends which hurts me because deep down I still like her as much as the day I met her. I still want to ask her out to go do something together even though I know it wont go anywhere, I wont though since I don't want to make things uncomfortable.
I know that I need to let her go and just go focus on myself, but it's hard because I see her 4 days a week at work, I'm looking for another job because my current one is shitty anyway and I'm trying to improve myself with nofap and going for walks. I hope one day to find someone that makes me happy, but before that I should be happy with myself first..
This just gave me a different perspective on why she broke my heart and me. Thank you
Wow dude you are a genius. I am going through a heartbreak. Me and my gf couldn’t quite figure out how to make it work. Didn’t quite make it to marriage. But like you pointed out I think she did reveal a lot of good qualities in me I had not previously been aware of! Entrepreneurship, passion, confidence. She rebalanced me. I’m going to miss her like crazy. 😔. Thanks bro, powerful. I don’t have to feel like it was a total loss. I now carry all of her good qualities with me in my heart. If I ever reconnect with her I want to tell her how much she inspired me. And how much I loved her because of it. ❤️
this clip is amazing, that every break-ups gives a gift. so mind blowing when dave was trying to explain his past i was linking it in to my past also.. so weird,😁 this is enough to realize the truth of it all.
Dude we're so same. It also took me 2 months to get over my first serious relationship (the actual relationship lasted for about a month for me as well) which meant it took me longer to get over than the relationship itself, I was ashamed but was slowly and steadily getting over it through self improvement (that was the only thing that helped) and I literally went from a Zero to Hero in 3 months, it's crazy what self improvement can do to you, especially if a heart break is whats fueling it
I'm 19 breakup made me sounding like a 45 year old with a divorce of 20 years of marriage. They're hypocrites. Be patient. The more you cry the more they'll suffer many more. And it's ok to not knowing but trust me
I have the same experience as you Bro. I met this girl so randomly and it all went sooo smoothly. We clicked just right and I never thought a girl like that existed. Open minded, smart, go-getter and she didint have the typical girl drama going on. Unintentionally She helped me see all my good qualities, but damn did she broke my heart in the end.. i was depressed for 3 years after that, but when i reflect now where i am im so grateful to her
Thank you for this. Your situation is unbelievably similar to mine and this helped hella.
This video is speaking to me. 5 weeks ago my ex an I separated and we had a beautiful love story that didnt work out.
I couldn't believe it at first when we broke up and showed all signs of depression, but after the healing and self-discovery process, I could now look at our relationship from an objective POV and can definitely say I've been left with skills, habits, and a better mindset thanks to her. I appreciate her for being in my life and though I wanted nothing more than it to work out, in a way, I'm happy it didnt.
We were together for almost 4 years. She was my first love and she broke up with me 2 months ago. She taught me empathy. Thanks for the video
Thank you I been dealing with a heartbreak thank you for your video it really help me with it I really appreciate it 🙏🙏🙏💕💕 may God Bless You 🙏🙏🤍 thank you 😊
He taught to love myself first then to allowed someone into my life I could be a more grateful and thankful of him to teach me that now I love myself so more. And I appreciate him all the time
you really motivated me , Thanks man
Wow...exactly thats what I needed!! Thankyou so much !!
i sincerely thank you for this. this video really impacted my perspective on the whole break up situation. i’ve had tons of relationships before but this girl was different, and now i know why. prior to meeting my ex, i was an extremely timid person, the opposite of being a risk taker. this girl showed me otherwise & the amazing things i could achieve just by taking risks & living life to the fullest. even though it’s been almost a year since the breakup, i still feel like it was yesterday. but i get it now why it’s been so tough for me, thank you.
100 percent can relate to this video bro , you put it into great words and thank you for that
This video is a masterpiece.
Thank you, man.. This means a lot..
Keep it up Bro, such an inspiration!!
Heartbreak 2 years ago got me so fucked up, hurt, and spiteful that I got off my ass and got in shape, finally lost the beer gut for abs, and love going to the gym now. Currently going through heartbreak again for the first time since and now I have a strong coping mechanism. Still sucks but if you find something to focus on and work towards it really helps. Need to keep reminding myself of that through the pain
As a Man, you are a logical being. You are not supposed to fall in love. Let the heartbreak toughen you up and remember that pain the next time you think you are in love.
Nah. Your words come from a position of insecurity, and show you've not really understood what David says in his videos. Don't follow this mans advice.
@@jamiegreyy You don't have to listen to me. If you think you are in love then you are still blue pilled. You can either love them or you can understand them.
What you're saying.. You don't learn anything. It's just straight up negative vibes. All you're saying to remember from heartbreak is the 'pain'? Not very prodcutive is it. By all means, project masculine stoicism. Develop an abundance and high-value mentality. Be a paragon of male values. But do you need to look on past events like heartbreak negatively to do so? No.
@@HAPPYPANDA53 your logic is purely living on victim mode, you kid.. are the blue pill.
@@iceman5552 quite the opposite actually. Check out the StephIsCold channel if you want to see where I'm coming from. Maybe his methods are a little harsh for the followers of Mr. Hammond here. Have a great weekend fellas.
Ive been seeing the videos very good program going on, extremely notable in real life issues pertaining to all situtaions best advice to hear online counseling at its best thanks again for your help.
Fresh perspective!
Exactly what I needed
There was a girl in my office,she felled for me.due to lockdown we started working from home.but I'd promised her that I will meet her every weekend,but I never showed up I got comfortable,after 5 months of flaking she met with another guy ,and went her way without telling me,broke my heart but I learnt my lesson.thanks
Ever since my ex left me I felt so vulnerable and felt like I lost everything. It was a one sided relationship though. I did everything I could and she still left without any effort. The relationship I always felt like I put 110% and she would put 20% or less. I walked miles to get her candies she likes and she got mad because she didn’t want her mom to figure out even though at that time we dated for 5 months. She told me she hoped I get hit by a car. I didn’t care because I was so blinded by my love. That’s how the relationship was. Not that I want her to suffer but how easy it was for her to leave me without making an effort to work it out. When I was Dissatisfied or hurt by what she said I would tell her but she would put me down and blame me for bringing out the past but I accepted it because I didn’t want to keep arguing. Then one day she snapped because she thought I was trying to put her down and she told me she hates feeling guilty (I only told her that I felt hurt when she tells me all these things). Instead of working it out she just simply left and said that we don’t work out. and i never felt such pain. I still feel it but I’m trying to build my own happiness instead of relying on someone else. Though she wants to be friends because she still “cares” and has feelings for me but that is just gonna bring me down from my healing process and plus it sounds sketchy. I think she just wants attention. I know I sound immature it just hurts a lot.
toxnkoks thanks man I doubt she’ll come back. I’ll get over it though step by step.
toxnkoks thanks bro! It’s a confusing time for sure but things happen for a reason. I learned that I don’t really know myself that much. Time to learn who I am.
With all do respect man the fuck up bro .. I don’t want to say my break up story was worse than you cuz this isn’t a competition... but do this for your self ! If your in your 20s you have a whole life ahead of you take this time to know your self and what you can do better as a person ... learn female nature and your mentality will change so drastically
I only been hurt once my heart felt pain.and i think it was my karma to suffer for being a heart breaker in my life. So i knew what i did before and how it felt. I try not to break any hearts on porpuse now.
U are amazing. I literally want you to narrate my life.
Thank you brother. Damn going through my second significant heart break. I was in a relationship for 5 years and that was so toxic. We broke up and everything was chaotic for me, I journeyed into my spiritual practice, gained so much self love, understood what I needed to be and opened myself to love and healthy lifestyles. 3 years pass and about 10 months ago I met my latest ex. Finally I thought to myself, finally someone who is at the level. We both were spiritual people, honestly just instant connection. It was as if everything I had gone through before was made for her. I was finally able to put into practice all the life lessons that I have learned. We broke up about a week ago. "You just don't know how to love me the way I want to be loved.." she said. "I don't hate you and I do love you, but you are no longer welcomed into my temple." This crushed me. Absolutely crushed man. I of course have all the tools from my first heart break, but it's like why? Why is it that even when you work so hard on yourself, the universe just slaps shit on your face and says nope, try again. I know I need to feel my emotions, I know I need to sit and get into my meditation practices even stronger now. It just sucks brother.
Stay strong man. I am far younger than you it seems, I just got out of a two year relationship from high school, but I feel you. This pain hurts me so deeply and it’s a daily fight to keep it down inside. I fought so hard to keep her that it pushed her away. Be positive bro. Literally change your mindset when you feel yourself drifting. I want to give you more advice, but you probably know more than me considering this is your second heart break and my first. I’ll leave you with a bible verse that encourages me daily. Romans 8:28 “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” Goodluck in life bro
Hey bro I feel the same way as yourself. I was in and out of relationships after my first heartbreak for 3 years until I finally decided to just stop and spend some time alone. I grew to love myself and enjoyed being alone, then suddenly this wonderful girl came along. We went on our first date and we connected so well. We ended up getting together and our relationship lasted for 1.5 years. She said that I got too comfortable with her and that she needed time for herself. We had made plans to buy a house, get married, and have children, then she came out of nowhere saying that she didn't feel appreciated and needed time alone. It completely shattered me and I'm still hurting. I did the opposite of everything that happened with my first heartbreak. I was more stoic, opened up slowly, and tried my best to show her love but still maintain firmness. It just wasn't good enough. It hurts pretty bad because I'm left again trying to figure out what I have to do now to get moving. It sucks, but hopefully it'll pass.
Jorge Martinez it definitely will pass man. As the days go by, I care less and less, you should too in time. I know it’s hard, but literally just stay positive. Don’t let yourself drift into thoughts, memories, scenarios, or anything related to the past relationship. Tell yourself good positive things. Learn what you can from it. You never know what kind of catch might come your way in the future, and that’s what makes life exciting. Keep fighting for your happiness inside. There is a book I highly recommend you read. It’s called “the rational male” by rollo tomassi. Read it. It explains female and the way they act etc... no homo, but i care for you man because I am still in the same boat. Take good care of yourself.
@@JorgeMartinez-yu8ob I guess there's a bigger plan for the both of us. It sucks I'll tell you, I'm still hurting. We recently talked about a week ago, she tried to mend her heart, but decided talking with me every day was not going to help her heal and she didn't want to hurt me along her process of healing. Well it definitely hurt me that she left again. I literally reflected and understood where I went wrong, I understood the patterns I wanted to change, but that wasn't enough to show her that I was willing and down for her 100%. Now I'm in this battle, do I lock up my heart for a while, keep it protected and cherished? Do I give it out again? I definitely am tired of getting my heart broken by someone else. Yes I know it's in my power to accept, move on and continue life, but right now I must grieve and heal.
@@bensondentalassociates8690 much love, thank you for the recommendation, I'm going to grab it. I need some new books to read or listen to. thank you greatly.
im from philippines thank you for your Vlog i learn a lot from you❤️🙏 keep uploading more.
This is the video I needed to hear, I’m finally starting to move on and let go...
I’m really stoned but that was friken
beautiful
Im stoned and it helped.
Stoners unite 💯😌
Love the videos bro
Its about a lil over 2yrs since my breakup, worst heartbreak.. 1st year was awful 2nd year things started to pick up & i’m finding myself again. Sitting back and reflecting on my mistakes really helps me coup and work on myself for my next relationship. I promised myself not to get serious until I truly love myself again 😌 This video put the icing on the cake thanks brother
bro you have an amazing channel!!!!!
Mukesh P ahh cheers man! I appreciate it. ❤️😊
Nice video! Got it! 🙂
Heartbreak works as moving force towards goals.
Thank you
Great video bro :)
Thank you for this video
he's talking about you bro
love it
thank you
My ex left me for a another guy, 24 yrs relationship and she dump me for a another guy. It's so hard to get over it. Ur videos help me daily. Thank you.
you have a fineness channel and business i think u should combine all three into this channel and create ur name brand instead of having separate channels
When you have a video up for a month with no dislikes. Keep it up brother
Blue Lines cheers bro! 🤟
You see that one dislike? That's because someone saw your comment and just wanted to be a douche. 😅
@@jamiegreyy It was you, wasn't it?
Damn!!!
yo i’m crying
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I'm almost 10momths in my BU with my ex of 5years. We had a failed reconciliation maybe 2months after orignal BU. I got breadcrumbed a lot. But now I just dont know what to do anymore. The day she left,all the confidence just left my body. I dont know how to love myself anymore. Thats what I struggle the most with. Its so tiring. I'm mentally exhausted. Lol
Work out and day of eating plzzz🙏
This video really helpful since I'm actually going through it right now, and Idk if... Lets say the time that the relationship lasted has something to do with the pain... Is a 6 months relationship breakup hits harder than a 1 or 2 year relationship ?
Nicolas H. Juts had roughly a 6 month relationship break up man it has destroyed me to my core, I still simp for her but haven’t talked to her since the break I guess you could say the one good side is it motivated me to get into the best shape of my life and focuses everything on myself and that’s what you gotta do to get through it focus on #1 and keep your head up kind hope all goes well
Good video, have never been in a relation. But will remember these tips. U always talk in your videos dont chase woman they need to chase you. I just do my things, am working on myself and what i realized is that i dont need women is it weird?
Ofc i want a gf but i dont chase😂. And now this happens. So its not like im gay, there is nothing wrong with being gay btw.
Yes you don’t need anyone or anything. Believe it or not you have it all within. Once you realize you have the gifts naturally within they then appear into your life! You’re in a good place bro. Like I always say “when needing nothing, you attract everything.” Namaste 🙏
Holly shit. That fucking hit me. Hard. I still get emotional about this girl I knew for about 4 fucking days that I feel soo deeply in love with a couple weeks ago. She brought out characteristics in me that I fell in love with.
Hey lads and women just letting you know going through heartbreak does develop you a lot and I feel more thick skinned and a better person trust me your a good person if your watching this you got this
Look at that. Sharing is losing….. not sharing is caring.
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Hey love your vids❤️..how to know if a relationship is worth it?
If you really want to know, then think to yourself, is the relationship making me a better person? or what is this relationship bringing into my life, is it good or bad?
I think you always get something out of relationships or anything that you want to do. People say what you want is want you need. Even if it's wrong person or a bad experience at least you know what's not good for you but be mindful don't fall for them next time!
Can you do a video on semen retention haters ?
I never comment on any videos but damn this came right in time. Tonight the girl I like is getting back with her ex. Fuckkkk. :(
Daron z yes. This video is here for the few going through it like yourself. You got this, stay strong & trust what is meant for you will be yours period. You got this man. ❤️🙏
Its crazy how you just describe my own situation. This year I was going down a very dark path, then this girl came into my life and literally changed my trajectory in life. Even though she brought out some bad qualities in me, those qualities were eating me up from the inside. She decided to go back to her ex after 1 month of us messing around. BUT DAMMN what a month that was....
By the way, I need a husband like you! Really 💁♀️
My last ex made me become a womanizer, so there's that.
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Fool, you do NOT deal with a breakup. You simply REPLACE HER FAST.
U look dammm cool😘