Japanese KOKUHAKU culture - is LOVE LETTER really a thing in Japan? Love confession in anime and irl
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Have you ever watched a romance anime or drama and wondered if real love life in Japanese schools is actually like this? So I'm here to share my experience as a Japanese boy in a Japanese school and you'd be surprised how much it is similar to anime when it comes to the kokuhaku or love confession culture and love letters. I hope you like the video and be sure to ocmment your thoughts and questions down below and subscribe for more authentic Japanese experience and Japanese language videos!
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Tell me your sweat romantic experience😚
I hope you meant to say sweet! A sweat romantic experience is...something different :O
Unfortunately, my love life, in one word, is 'nonexistent'.
SWEEEEEEEEEEEEET🤣
wlhol9 命の恩人(いのちのおんじん)🤣
mine is: sweaty🥵
because i run after girls only to be rejected again lol
Imagine giving a cute boy a love letter and not only does he reject you, but years later he reads it on his TH-cam channel for thousands to see. lol
LMAO
But he did not throw it away but kept it many years in his room and remembered about it! That is quite strong thing.
@@borisl6368 Yea. I also kept the letter my bestie gave me when we were in the middle school. Even though we don't talk anymore, it's still one of my precious treasures:)
LOL, I was thinking the exact same thing!!!! 😂
He didint even tell their names tho so its no big deal plus they shouldnt care anymore about it i mean they should have moved on about it already
Alternate title: In which Hitoki flexes how much girls liked him in middle school. 女性にモテるねー 😂
他の人も同じくらいだよ！
Onomappu そうかなー
When he started sorting the letters, I was like "Oh, he has a whole COLLECTION of 告白 letters! 結構モテるじゃん！"
Then he says "These aren't all kokuhaku letters, the rest are normal ones! " 😂
同じこと考えていた！
@@Onomappu そうですねwww
女性の友達からも"You are exactly モテている"と言われましたwww
"There was no one and it was quiet...After I came out of the toilet the girl suddenly showed up..." that sounds like a horror movie plot😂
That's how a certain manga about masturbation started out...
That more like a yandere moment right there
@@Selene_VGG Onanie Master Kurosawa
The grudge
@@-zentheintergalacticninja6568 Could be hentai manga at the same horror manga?
"Japanese KOKUHAKU culture "
Did you mean :
*hitoki showing how much he was popular among girls in school* ?
Yeah, absolutely it has to be so
Sus
among us
Amogus
amogsus
Meanwhile in my country: "I Love you!"
"I need time to think"
*Never answers even after graduation
I think that's a no.
in my case it was
"I think we are just friend"
I'm tell you man American dating culture is so weird and makes no sense now I've have great relationships but still you don't quite know when things start and telling someone how you feel about them can either go really great or not so good, which is anywhere to fair but at least with Kokuhaku culture you can get the Grey areas out of the way
4:49 But We shouldn't laugh at that right?...
We all laughed
XD
I think hitoki did, too,right after cutting the clip XD
Indeed LOL
XDD. I have a friend that quite a similar confession like that. Me and my other friend were peeping while my friend Jerry (fake name) got confessed to by a athlete club girl but she's.... flat and... muscular.... worse of all, she looks like a guy and has quite a low tone voice. Jerry fainted in front of her right after she confessed her love to him in a loud voice. She even try to wake him up by using mouth to mouth technique from the CPR emergency rescue course that we had to take. We were shocked and ran over to save with a excuse that Jerry had a "seizure" to safe guard his first kiss.... LOL.... it's still so funny now as I reminiscing it.
@@KusanagiRyuuichi that sounds like something straight out of an anime.
Bud, Jerry's the mc don't let him go xD
I have a funny (creepy?) story of when I was in high school...
One day, I was with my friends at school when a guy I had never seen before approached me and asked me in a very quiet voice if I could go with him for a moment. He was like 2 years younger than me. Then, he gave me a paper that looked like a letter and run away. But it was NOT a letter, it was a drawing of me!
The drawing was very good with a lot of detail. I was kind of flattered because the resemblance was astonishing and you could see the effort, but it gave me a weird feeling because he draw me wearing something like a very sexy warrior armor. Like what you would see on a videogame. I was sooo ashamed! hahaha
Naturally, since they were with me, all my friends saw the drawing and I was laughed at all day.
I tried to look for him, but I honestly couldn't remember his face. Everything happened so fast.
A few weeks later, I received another one on my locker and kept receiving them every now and then... All of them good but weird. hahah
I don't know if he had pictures of me or what. I still have them 10+ years later... but I never knew who he was. I wonder if he is an artist now... or a serial killer. :P
I'm from Mexico btw. Sorry for the long comment. :)
OMG lol This story is epic though🤣Thanks for sharing this!
I worked at the bank as the drive-through window teller. I would send my love interest a lollypop and put a smiley face on his receipt. Eventually, he sent in a note with his phone number so I called him that evening. Soon, we were dating. Now we are married. I sent my kokuhaku (sort of) in 1993. We married in 1998 :-)
Awww...so sweeeeet!!!
this made me smileeeee this is so cute:D
That’s adorable
Damn
Ur story is quite like the anime ones
In france confessing to someone is seen as something a little childish and we never really ask "tsukiattekudaisai". After 3 dates a couple kind of automatically becomes official. But because we never clearly ask someone to become our girlfriend/boyfriend and sometimes it can lead to HUGE misunderstandings lol
I remember my French teacher talking about it. Also, the words "ami/amie" that often mean "friend" can also mean "boyfriend/girlfriend". Is it true?
@@dani.326d no it's not "ami" it's "copain/copine" it can both mean friend and lover. So again we love a good misunderstanding
It seems to be the case here too in Spain. I think i actually prefer our way of handling relationships than the japanese way, how would u know if you want to actually go out with someone you dont actually know that well? It seems that the act of making things official has less thought put into it (but at the same time they make a bigger ritual than us)
In the U.S, it's the same, but when I was growing up in Mexico, confession culture was the norm. A friend would ask you "Ya se la cantaste?" to know whether you confessed to the person you liked yet.
Why 3 dates tho?
I was in 小学校, 4th grade when I wrote love letter to boy I had crush on. He read it out loud in class. It was so embarrassing. I was rejected :,D
That's horrible 😭
One of my crushes friend told everybody I liked him.
It helped me out but it was In front of the whole school 🥲
We had an event going on and he grabbed the microphone got on stage and announced it. I was so embarrassed to the point I was getting hot and sweaty 😂
Woah. Totally scumbag. Lucky you didn't become couple. It would be harder for you
Hahar yea
Not everyone understood the concept of reaching another people's feelings yet at that time.
Sorry about that mann
That fucker humiliated you?? Damn, that sucks! 😠
you are honestly one of the hardest working youtubers by putting all those subtitles on your videos!
My subscribers are helping me make subtitles so I really appreciate them😆
lol I was asked out by accident over facebook and we been dating nearly 10 years now
Wooooow, this is an actual chemistry or maybe we can call it FATE😊
how did that happen?
Yeah, how does that happen? For research purposes only
I’ve made it a habit to turn off captions when watching the videos and my Japanese understanding has improved so much!!
Right!! The first Japanese TH-camr I found was "Mahoto", but he talks so fast its like he's always in a game show 😂 Hitoki speaks much slower and clear 🤗 Even when he forgets and speaks faster it's still clear 👌🏻
Nice try! I always support you😆
@@Onomappu arigato ne 🙏
ooh i should try
I like reading the Japanese subtitles. Especially kanji.
In Brazil, we usually make out before confessing our love lol. But even if you make out with someone, that doesn't mean that you love them. And also, usually we'd spend some time knowing each other (doing all the stuff you'd do with your lover lol) but still, no commitments were made, and then if you fall in love with the other person, you can say "let's date" or something like that. Japan's love confession culture is so cute, here its kinda hard to find this "pure love" concept. Love from Brasil 🇧🇷 あなたの言い方はめっちゃわかりやすいよ〜
Bem difícil mesmo...
True demais
Its easier than booking some hooker then.
Verdade... É ruim quando as coisas não ficam claras... 😢
Usually, when I like a guy I want to at least wait a month to actually start dating them. I want to get to know them and all that but they want to skip all that and get to the kissing part💀
They don’t wanna wait and get to know each other.
大学の時、私の男の友人に告白しました。私はギターと歌うことが好きで、気持ちを込めて、あの人に曲を書いてました。そしてあの人に演奏しました。
演奏の後に震える声で、どう思う？っと聞いたら彼が
"うん、いい曲だね！SoundCloudにアップつもりか？"といった。彼に告白つもり書いたが、彼が全然気づかなかった😅😂
We're engaged now and just celebrated our 4th anniversary together! All's well that ends well 😂🥰
This is sooooo beautiful😭 Thank you!
@@Onomappu Thank you for the interesting videos!
Those letters are so cute! I can’t imagine how nerve wracking it is to confess if you don’t know how the other person feels...
In the US you usually go through a phase called “talking” where you go on dates, spend a lot of time texting or hanging out in person while you decide if you really like each other. It’s super common to hear girls say “oh, that’s guy I’m talking to” or “We’re just talking” if someone asks if they are a couple. It can get confusing the longer it goes on though!
I once had a boyfriend that never asked me to officially be his girlfriend, so although we spent every day together, I never realized we were actually dating! I eventually got angry with him and yelled “Why won’t you just ask me to be your girlfriend!?” He was super puzzled and said “You sleep at my apartment almost every night, what did you think was going on here?” 😂 He never officially asked, but after that I realized we had been a couple the entire time.
That's so funny 😂
Not gonna lie this is funny and wholesome at the same time
Lol xDdd
You asked me to tell my sweat romatic story. Meanwhile I'm a boring 20 years old boy who haven't even had a crush on anyone.
Well, not everyone does (aromantic asexuals exist)
Same. I'm 25 and have never ever had a crush on someone. Probably will never have one cause relationships seem so alien to me. I think I'm Asexual Aromantic 🤷
American girl here. Learning about Japanese love confession in this video made me think that while it's not typical, it's possible an American man would "confess," but only if he knew the girl well, probably for years as close friends, and neither had brought up the subject of love over that whole time period. It might have almost happened to me once. A close friend really looked like he was starting to confess, he had that look in his eye, but it was so screaming-awkward that I just kissed him to make him stop talking. It all worked out ok.
A friend of mine did this lol
so they usually don't confess there in America? OO
@@ichigoichigolicioux503 some ppl do actually, but the ones I know that do have already gone on several dates and are trying to make it official. Some ppl don’t, so they kind of assume they already are lol
Sometimes the couple have a tacit understanding that they’re going out w/o having to verbally say it. Other couples would need/want that straightforward communication, otherwise it can lead to misunderstandings. It’s a mix here, but at least where I’m from, the ppl around my age group tend to confess. They’re usually pretty short too unless the other person starts asking questions 😆
@@runway5338 omg asking Qs during a confession? HAHAHA THATS WOW. and i geddit, thanks for explaining! I'm in Singapore and I remember my bf and i was a bit in this situation... like we hung out and we did express mutual liking for one another, but no one asked no one out, so i assumed we were "more than friends, less than a couple". until one day he asked "we aren't together?" and i was like "huh? we are?" and there was an awkward moment of silence before he said "then are we now" LOLOL IT MAKES THINGS SO CONFUSING AND AWKWARD istg
I never got and i never confess...what a life
You are not alone lol
@Ayrin Undertaleobsession so confusing lmao
same lol
Hifi me tooo
Same here😂😂
When I was in middle school I jokingly asked my best friend to go out with me. At that time I never knew she was gay and that she actually liked me so she cried and said yes. We graduated high school last year, found a job and moved in together in January of this year
that's so sweet!
oh so cute \(0///0)/
Que linda historia y linda foto de perfil (mejor anime)
I'm an American female. There's one confession from high school I remember quite fondly. Early one morning before practice, I left the restroom and this girl walked up to me. I considered her a friend even though we didn't talk much. She told me she liked me and I said I liked her too, she was so happy and asked "do you want to go out?". But I said no really quickly, because I didn't even realized she was confessing. At the time I felt really confused because it seemed out of nowhere to me. Months later towards the end of the school year, she came up to me again and asked if I wanted to go out with her. I smiled and said thank you but no, then she leaned in and kissed me by surprised and ran away.
Well she got kiss from her crush (you) at the end. Thats nice.
I'm from America too
I just realized that the traditional way in the Philippines is soo hard for the boys.
First: they have to confess their feelings for you either through letters that they have to give secretly or through someone who personally knows the girl. Girls don't really do the confessing, but they usually give hints if they like you.
Second: After confessing, the boy will have to do a series of courting or "panliligaw". They have to woo her with words, poems, and more letters! And then when there is a positive chance about it, at one point, the boy will sing a serenade in front of the house of the girl. We call this "harana". He would stand outside, probably with his mates who knows how to play and the boy will sing (regardless if he actually knows how to sing). The girl watches from inside, possibly along with the her family. After harana, boy will recite a poem or do another confession or any message to the girl in front of the family who are eavesdropping. At this point, he might be expecting an answer this time or if he thinks he has to do more panliligaw, he might just run away and continue on about the long process. Sometimes tho, the father of the girl will ask the boy inside. His mates will leave him and wish him goodluck 😂. The dad will talk one-on-one with the boy. The girl won't even be allowed to see the boy. So man things that could happen after this. The dad may even discourage the boy. But the boy may prove his feelings for the girl despite it.
Third: After the long process of panliligaw and the girl says yes, then you're FINALLY dating. The boy is still lowkey expected to show signs of affection as he did in the stage of panliligaw. Marriage is expected, btw 🤣.
Anyways. There are some who still practices that BUT very rare. Now, it's soo casual 🤣 my bf didn't even court me in the traditional way. What he did was he regularly sends food he cooked at my house for all my family to eat. When we started dating, he does the harana through phone call. And still regularly sends us food (gifting is most probably his love language).
That’s so cute though I love that 😂
The middle schoolers sound so cute
During middle school, I was like Cupid for my friends. Every time they told me about a boy they liked, it would take me like two weeks to make them start dating.
I was chubby, so boys didn’t find me attractive, I got along pretty well with them, but I wasn’t the type of girl they would fall for, that’s why it was actually easy for me to match make them, my friends were pretty and I wasn’t.
There was only one time I failed in my Cupid job.
My best friend was the one who asked me for help.
I took like a whole year to try to make them end up together.
And it was actually that the boy fell in love with me, not my best friend lmao.
that's really nice of you!! Some people really dont care about the personality and only cares because of their looks. But you're really a good friend! I didnt even wonder why the guy fell for you xD
The boy must have realised during a year that how much good of person you are. And fell for you.
I think in taiwan, young boys and girl in the period of junior high school or high school try to get great chemistry between each other first. After making sure that he or she has same feeling to me, make sure the 告白 success rate is high ☺️
So true. The chemistry is really important😁
Here in Poland, everyone makes sure that friends to dating transition goes as smooth as possible, but of course sometimes you need to do something to stand out and become noticed by this special someone. Looking at myself and my friends we would stay sinngle all of our lives if it took so much courage to even start dating 🥺 so that's incredibly impressive in my opinion 😄
I know how it feels when you try to make a person notice that you like him/her🥺 We call the feeling "甘酸っぱい気持ち"(sweet but sour feeling)
The video starting suddenly with gakuran Hitoki saying "Yo" immediately got me laughing lol, truly the Japanese middle school experience
By the way, I feel like people don't think about it much but there is kind of a confession culture in the US. It definitely doesn't happen if you go from "stranger" straight to "dating", which happens fairly often. Those are usually relationships that are, uh, more "passionate". But in cases when you're already friends with the person you like, particularly good friends, confessions absolutely happen. They're kind of necessary. I have even confessed myself (when I was 19 too, it's not just a middle/high school thing).
Some people also celebrate anniversaries, it's not uncommon. But many people also think that's weird, including me.
Hmm I tend to throw away old love letters. I feel like I want to move on, and give myself completely to the next woman without looking back. There is a Japanese woman I like. But she hardly speaks English. I know only a little Japanese. But before I left her in Japan I gave her my hoodie for her birthday. She has been wearing it when it started getting cold. So I guess that is a good sign! She must know I really like her, but confessing is a bit frightening! I must seem like a stupid foreigner without a good future plan :P
How are things going now, if I may ask? I hope you got closer, this sounds like such a sweet situation :)
My love life is non-existent but for some of my own reasons. Still, I feel like the kokuhaku culture of Japan is very interesting. And also, it's easier than trying to figure out whether someone likes you
ひときさん、一日間であなたの動画約９８％ぐらい見ていました。僕は外国人ので 一所懸命勉強し続きます 。いつかペラペラになります。今まで本当に有難うございました。
Imagine the person who give you the letter watching this be like:
“Ohh,my letter...”
The only time I ever got confessed to was through a text and I really don't like that because it seems so impersonal ;-; Anyway great video as usual ! And is that your school uniform 👀👀
Yeah I also like telling directly in person😃
Yes this is my actual school uniform!
In elementary school I remember kids used to write love letters to each other here too, but it was much more uh... Obvious ig? I remember when one of my classmates at the time confessed to me, what she did was literally ask another classmate of ours to tell me something like "do you wanna be her boyfriend?" and I went like "yeah sure". It's pretty funny to think about that now pffff
Hitoki せんぱい!! Where’s the part where you prank call 📞 your friend and confess Kokuhaku?? 😳💕😅
Most of my friends are men😳
@@Onomappu lmao
@@Onomappu ... That could still work heh~ 🌝
@@Onomappu I mean... that's even more of a prank, as they said. :D
And if you did that to a girl as a prank, I guess it'd be kind of rude/mean... unless she gets jokes like that. :D
Lol confirms moms are the same everywhere
内容が面白くて、日本語の勉強もできました。
ありがとうございます！
Loved this video a lot! Extremely interesting and insightful as to how dating culture works in Japan. I really love the culture of communicating one's feelings through letters, and the fact that we can save those letters is really beautiful...it's like we can permanently hold and keep safely a bit of the feeling that a person shows you.
It's quite different here in Sri Lanka...there isn't any specific culture of exchanging letters. Dating usually happens when a person you've known for a while confesses and this is usually from your circle of friends or classmates or other classmates. In university or work places too it's the same. The main thing here is that it always starts out as friendship in the beginning. The guy or girl will directly confess or a friend will help them get together. Personally, I've had few people who confessed after being friends for a while but I had to reject them and although I had no issues staying friends with them, they kind of moved away from me after confessing. So it's really sad for me when someone I think is a good friend confesses suddenly because it affects our relationship. However, there are a lot of exceptions too. People whom you meet on buses will ask for your number, sometimes even in the streets saying they want to be friends but usually the intention is to confess, and it's guys who normally do this. And there are people who sit next to you and recite their own phone numbers. This is hilarious when it happens. Anyway, it's uncomfortable when these scenarios happen. Normally girls ignore or turn them down politely or outright get mad at them. Other than this, back in grade 3, I and my best friend always exchanged letters saying we loved each other and would be best friends forever. We lost contact after grade 6 as I had to move countries and I've never exchanged letters as such with anyone after that. I kinda miss those days, because I love writing and a letter is like a gift, especially those that has the writer's feelings poured into it.
Thank you for sharing with us your wonderful experiences!
Thank you for your videos. Studying japanese through them and really enjoying them. This was another good one!
It's really sweet of you to keep these letters after so long! and your uniform still fits! That's amazing~
I once have been so popular too and when I received a love letter I just gave it to my mother to read for fun. Seriously back then I was so focus on studying that I realize I have no experience such thing as blushing, yearning to see the other and etc. But now that I actually start to like someone..😳😳😳 tsk tsk this love that makes people life so tough!!!!
despite taking only a few years of japanese you are so animated that even without the captions I can sort of understand the gist of what you are saying, which is great!!
Thank you my great teacher for all your hard work here! Well done!
Aw I truly wish we did love letters/confessions more often! It’s such a nice and effective way to properly convey one’s feelings!
The only one I’ve ever gotten was from a boy I was “dating” in middle school. Still one of the sweetest things I’ve ever received :’)
I am enjoying your videos because they help me with listening to Japanese and I am happy to find one of a few Japanese channels like yours with easy to understand Japanese. I feel excited too when listening to your and your friends' stories haha. Subscribed! :)
You’re the first Japanese channel I subscribe to. I wish I could know this channel earlier :”) I love Japanese school stories (friendship, love relationship, love confessing, etc) I love watching anime or movies with romance and school in its genre💙💙 thank you for the contents!!
Very interesting video regarding the confession and dating culture in Japan. Thanks a lot for making this video!
Jajajajajaja que tierno el final!!
Im from Argentina, here when we are young if you like someone usually you invited them to going out with friends but you try to talk mostly to that person. Then if you feel like the other person is also only talking to you, maybe you invite them to a date alone. Then we go out some times more alone and then if we feel like we have good chemistry, one will ask the other to go out (we celebrate an anniversary that day)
That’s a way but I feel like there is not only one way to ask someone out
Saludos desde argentina!! 🇦🇷
Me encanta tu canal, gracias por subir siempre videos útiles y entretenidos 😊😊
Ah~ I see. Seeing if you have chemistry with the person sounds like a true love for me. The way of starting going out is so fancy😊
Creo que lo estás haciendo sonar demasiado bien. Es medio un desastre "el sistema" o "la manera" la verdad. (Al menos del lado del hombre)
@@Onomappu well~ I know a lot of couples that are so superficial it's scary. I really want to believe In true love but it's becoming a dream further every month I live (in Argentina)
ちなみに, 制服 すごく似合ってる~~~
ひとき先輩はカッコいい😂😍🤩
I enjoy learning Japanese words by watching your videos! ☺️
I mined so many anki cards from this haha your videos are great for that. And just great immersion in general! Great to have a youtube channel with accurate JP subs, too. Thank you!
Thank you so much. I love your videos AND I get to learn Japanese. Can the next topic be friendship between girls and boys in Japan? Is it a common thing or not? Many thanks from Romania!
Mi experiencia fue esta: Me enamoré de uno de los amigos de mis amigos, que había cambiado de insti pero volví a ver en una reunión. Me llamó mucho la atención, más en ese momento estaba enganchada con otro chico. Cayó la pandemia y me dí cuenta que me atraía, así que entablamos una amistad que se hizo muy estrecha. Tardé aproximadamente 6-8 meses en enamorarme de él, y llegó el momento. Él era muy reservado aún, así que sentía que había un 95% de probabilidad que no le gustara, pero me arriesgué. Le escribí una carta en japonés, muy parecida a las de ustedes, y se la mandé, y luego corrí y me escondí hasta el día siguiente. Él se asustó e intentó contactarme frenéticamente. Luego, a la mañana siguiente, me envió un mensaje de disculpas y puso al final "Yo te quiero". Pensé que lo decía de manera platónica, así que no respondí. Mas tarde, publiqué una foto y el la comentó, así que hice de tripas corazón y me dije que no perdería esa hermosa amistad. Entonces se confesó, dijo que se enamoró desde el momento en que me vió, un año antes. Vamos a cumplir 9 meses juntos
Entonces ambos hablan japonés? Interesante! Una hermosa historia
@@UN-Seki Yo hablo un poco, estoy estudiandolo, pero el no. Me imagino se quedo con cara de: ¿Y ahora que hago?
@@jessicablack4381 jajaja, seguro que fue una sorpresa para el, pero una buena sorpresa!
Aaaaawwwwww ¡QUE HERMOSO! Espero que sean felices mucho tiempo!
Thank you for teaching us the Japanese culture. You are very handsome and very smart and you deserve all the attention. 😍 i’m learning a lot from your videos.
I think this is actually really nice. There’s no back and forth between the relationship status, they both know where it stands and avoids unnecessary discussions.
Filipinos be like :
"HAPPY MINUTE-SARRY BAE *insert long sweet message here*
I am really happy that this cute culture actually exists!! I only ever heard of it in anime … so I was wondering if bullying happens in Japan as well, I mean it’s quite rare here where I grew up so I don’t really know much 😅
I love your channel already and this is my 3rd video for tonight. So funny and smart. Thank you for sharing that.
Want this custom in my country too!すごく詳しく説明してくれてありがとおおおおう
It's been a long time since I laughed so much about a youtube video + its comments 😂
By the way, very informative, now I can understand why it happens so much in anime
I feel like in Europe it's the other way around - first you date, then eventually it's time for the serious love confessions (ofc it also depends on the person)
As to ラブレター I remember that at my primary&middle school we had this 'secret valentine mail' and you could send a letter to anyone, ah man it was all easier when you were a kid
edit: ちなみに、3万人の登録者おめでとうございます🎉 I love seeing your sub count go up, you SO deserve it♥️
Alicia thank you as always!
I've never heard of secret valentine mail! It's so good that you had a chance to give a letter so that you can tell your honest feeling. That's so cute😚
in america, married couples celebrate the day they get married as their anniversary. people who aren’t married usually celebrate the day that they started dating as their anniversary. i really enjoy your videos! thank you for making them! ❤️
ちょっと恥ずかしいと言ったらすごく可愛く見えました 🤣🤣😂😂🤩😍😍
In Mexico, at least in my experience, confessions through letters were common from elementary through middle school, and (I think) mostly by the girls. Yeah men would try to confess directly. In highschool and later I think in most cases it they would ask directly or by a text message. But it's more common to approach the group of friends the girl hangs out with and check the chemistry before a confession. Friends groups in Mexico can be quite large and diverse, so you might ask a friend in common to organize some activity or at least become acquaintances first.
Also, I think it's not that common in other countries outside of latinamerica, but is quite common your girlfriend meeting or and hanging out with your family on some events! After University weddings become common and is better if you have a partner to keep you company, since they tend to become big and might take a few hours of your time. So is not rare to even bring some trusty girl-friend (or your actual girlfriend). The thing is, shit happens and we all know it and we don't take it so seriously if the family meets your "friend".
In Brazil it's very difficult to receive a love letter 💌, usually people make confessions talking directly to the loved person and then they'll start kissing in the same day 🤣.
For the first time. I watch Japanese video without subtitle/captions. I'M PROUD.
チャンネルすごいね、ヒトキさん。色んな人に役立ちそうと思う。是非これからも頑張り続けてください
When I was in high school, I think I got a confession on my myspace page. Is that how kids are still doing it these days?
I’m from the U.S. and from my experience, I’ve had guys mostly send me letters while I was in elementary and middle school. Of course, I’ve sent letters to guys as well. Sometimes they’ll write back to your letter or they’ll just talk to you directly the next time they see you. In high school I didn’t really date, but I’ve seen people flirt with each other until someone confesses. Also, sometimes they had their friends ask their crushes if they liked them before deciding to confess or not. In university, I’ve had guys tell me directly that they like me. Being a young adult, I prefer to say it directly or the guy because I think it’s more meaningful to say it in person and it’s straightforward. Guys can give mixes signals sometimes and being direct is best for me so that I can know clearly if they’re interested or not. I used to be scared of rejection as a kid, but now I think I handle rejection well if it happens, lol
Trueee, I’m also happy that someone confesses directly
On the other hand, I understand that it needs some courage because it's easy to get trauma from the experience as you said
Hmm maybe that's why people like being confessed directly? because you know he/she is trying to tell you something even though it's a bit risky for the person but he/she thinks you deserve it🤔
I didn't turn on captions but I still understood everything I thank anime for this
I am watching your videos for learning Japanese, especially listening. I've found that your spoken Japanese is very clear and easy to understand. I wonder if you have slowed down your speech for learners like us or you're speaking as if you are talking to another native speaker? By the way, I appreciate your efforts in making these videos. Thanks so much Hitoki san!
In Indonesia (which based on my friends experience :) ) before ask someone to going out, the girl and the boy will be a friend and often together (ofc with some other friends too). This is called PDKT. At least, PDKT will take a week, a month even a year (or even longer in some cases). Then, (usually) the boy will do the love confession.
In my experience, my friends (which is girl) tell me that the boy i liked was want to do a love confession. Unfortunately, I'm rejected that boy because I don't like his way when he asked me to going out with him. I mean, how can you proof your love when you asked your friends to say that you like me?
I'm sorry if my english is not good enough to make you guys (who read my comment) understand about what I've wrote :)
I understand 😀
I'm kinda late here but I understand what you're trying to say.
En México en lo general se hace un gran show en donde te apoyan tus amigos y los chicos hacen carteles o dan regalos a la persona que les gusta viceversa con las chicas, igual las chicas escriben cartas pero se acostumbran más a darlas en el día de San Valentín 💖💓.
In Mexico, in general, there is a great show where your friends support you and the boys make posters or give gifts to the person they like, vice versa with the girls, even the girls write letters but they get more used to giving them on the day of Valentine 💖💓
Gracias por hacer los subtirutlos en español!! Estuvo interesante, demaisdso diría yo 😅
学ランめっちゃ似合う！
ひときさん高校の時絶対モテたよねｗｗｗ
at my school there was a way for the person to declare that it was by letter but usually the letter came with a question and underneath a field written yes or no
example :
I like you do you like me
Yes ( )No ( )
So basically you're flexing your popularity back in middle school 😂 nah I'm kidding! This is a good video. I thought the animes and mangas are exaggerating. But no, it's real! Thank you for this video!
教えてくれて、ありがとうございました
i didnt think i would understand japanese this well. my subtitles were broken but ik japanese a little so i watched without subtitles and understood what you were saying :)
Plot twist: the letter was written by himself 😂✌️
I'm from Brazil and I can say that is totally the opposite here XD
Normally it's work like: friends -> kiss -> romantic relationship.
Sooo,it's basically about the physical touch.
I think that we see the kiss as a way to testing chemistry. Like, if the kiss is good and fit, there is a strong reason to believe that the relationship can evolve to love. And if it don't fit well, it's the opposite.
It's a good way to put it
Woah! I seem to have found a fun channel.
Honestly I just like chit chat themes and host is so genuinely cute.
Keep up your good work it must have been a lot of hardwork to manage and maintain such a good channel.
Thnx this is helping me improve my Japanese!
ヒトキはありがとうごじあます。！！
*hopefully that means thankyou Hitoki!
Japanese: embarrassed, shy, "p...please going out with me, i like you"
Me: I just say once, going out with me or not, just answer yes or no.
P/s: it's always work, you should try ( maybe do it with kabedon is better )
好きだと思います…
インドネシアで全国的に、今の時代は普段皆はそのLINEとか他のアップリをつかって告白していますが昔は日本の文化と同じく手紙かラブレターを書けて、好きな人に渡す
確かに今はラブレターは日本でも少なくなってきたかも🤔
かわいい😍 I am so much in love with Japanese language now!!!
I never experience this so I can't relate :"D
I'm sure that you will have a romantic relationship for sure so then tell me😉
@@Onomappu btw I’m already 21 this year but thank you XD I hope so too :D
モテモテですねw
これ普通なの！他の人もこのくらい！
it's so sweet giving love letters like that,I would love to receive one but I confess that the fear of being rejected would make me not have the courage to give one to someone
Your speaking voice is SO NICE 聞きやすいですね😌
日本語が綺麗過ぎてちょう勉強になってますよ。ありがとうございます！
In Philippines, when 1 confesses and the other feels the same way they go through the 'mutual understanding' stage where there is no commitment but they exclusively flirt or it may be courtship when a guy tries to win a girls love before it becomes official.
イケメンですね、告白したいですけど、僕は男です笑
I mean… I would write you a kokuhaku because I love you and your videos so much 😙
私はハーフでイギリスに住んでいるんだけど、こうゆうのって憧れるよね
I'm a Chinese girl who immigrated to the U.S. when I was young. I grew up watching anime, so I definitely think I was heavily influenced by Japanese culture when it comes to romantic relationships, although I think Asian countries in general are very similar in idealizing the "aimai"/ambiguous phase of the relationship a lot. In high school, my close friend and I were in an ambiguous relationship, and before we graduated I decided to actually confess. Since I was too shy to confess in person and also felt like I couldn't possibly convey all my thoughts eloquently, I wrote it in a letter and emailed it to him. As a nerdy kid I also wrote it in essay format so that in case he opens it in the library, no one will think it's a love letter! He turned me down though since we were going to college soon and he didn't want a long-distance relationship.
Afterwards, in college, I met my current boyfriend. At our school, we have a quirky tradition in which you can send letter to friends and classmates on Valentine's Day, and hire a person dressed as a ninja to deliver it dramatically to them in class! So I sent him one of these letters in which I wrote about how much I appreciated him and liked hanging out with him, without actually outright saying I liked him. I also sent letters to all of my other friends partly to cover up the fact that this was explicitly romantic, since I wanted to leave it open to interpretation. I think he got the message though and eventually confessed to me while we were hanging out! Nonetheless, the beginning of our relationship was a bit rocky since we had different expectations of what dating meant - I wanted a kind of anime-esque relationship where we develop feelings slowly over time, but he was a lot more American haha. Nonetheless, after my experience in high school, I had also learned to be more straightforward with my feelings too, so I think we met at a good time and was able to compromise.
三万subscriberおめでとう
I don't know how to say subscriber in japanese.
Your videos are so interesting. I have learned a lot about Japan from your video.
Thanks for keeping us entertained
ありがとうございます
In the UK we don't have confessions, but when I taught in Korea the students were my age and I had a lot of joke confessions from them. The most surprising was when they made a video with their class about how much they loved me and showed it in front of 250 people... I didn't even know their name.
I'm Brazilian and I used to do that until the high school. Then I stopped, I don't know why. I think this a really cute way to declare yourself
When I was in middle school, there was this Senpai I always admired. Senpai was very cheerful, creative and the first time my heart felt like it was beating - it was when I saw Senpai did a dance on stage. I tried to get close and so we got along very well. Sometimes we fought like any other juniors and seniors.
I forgot when it all began but before Senpai left, she left me a letter and a key chain. Senpai had inspired me to be a graphic design since I love to draw a lot.
Sadly we kinda lost contact 😅 but I still kept the letter anyway...