5 Ways To Smartly Deal With A Covert Narcissist

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  • @themysticmuse
    @themysticmuse ปีที่แล้ว +382

    Headphones are your best friend.
    Don't speak. Don't listen.
    Ignore. Ignore.

    • @BlessedOne686
      @BlessedOne686 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Facts 😂

    • @n0426
      @n0426 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      And get out and stay away.

    • @nayab5943
      @nayab5943 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      It's too hard when he's your spouse

    • @n0426
      @n0426 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@nayab5943 don’t let him have that much status for too long.

    • @angiegonzalez52311
      @angiegonzalez52311 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      It’s funny, my ex complained about headphones when he saw I was using Boses to block his stupidity out while I was working from home.

  • @KTee851
    @KTee851 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +91

    Believe this. Never share anything with a narcissist. It will be twisted and used against you. 💕😁

  • @dsmusicbird
    @dsmusicbird ปีที่แล้ว +295

    Anything you share with any type of narcissist or toxic persons!
    Is a Hell No!

    • @Dee-iu4eg
      @Dee-iu4eg ปีที่แล้ว +4

      We’ll said ❤

    • @debramarshall4293
      @debramarshall4293 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Don't tell them anything because they will go and tell everyone. Also don't let them know if you are sick feeling down or depressed etc. Like he said don't show them your emotions and keep your lips zipped about your business and your situations. Also if something good happens for you don't tell them. Keep it to yourself.

    • @debramarshall4293
      @debramarshall4293 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I love this Man. 💯❤️❤️❤️

    • @lindaschultz7900
      @lindaschultz7900 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Me too ❤

  • @AnnaAnna-ff4db
    @AnnaAnna-ff4db 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +66

    Recently I broke all these rules and it revenged on me. Never show a narcissist that you are happy.

    • @Melissakay3
      @Melissakay3 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      THIS

  • @CreativeWarrior-
    @CreativeWarrior- 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +132

    #6 - PRAY, Plan secretly, get prepared, leave suddenly without warning and RUN LIKE HELL!! (Don't EVER look back!)

    • @Sunlumiinous
      @Sunlumiinous 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      That's what I had to do when I learned what he was. 2023 was a doozy. Then found out so called friends, mom and sister are that as well. 😢

    • @CreativeWarrior-
      @CreativeWarrior- 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@Sunlumiinous 2023 was a time many toxic people had to leave our presence over here.....a doozy indeed. Got stories of my own. Long ones.

    • @Sunlumiinous
      @Sunlumiinous 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @CreativeWarrior- My deep condolences for all that you had to go through. Mine is not a piece of cake. Still working through stuff. It was one betrayal after another and no peace yet. I hope soon as I'm in flux currently.

    • @CreativeWarrior-
      @CreativeWarrior- 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@Sunlumiinous May you find much love, joy and peace very, very soon! It gets much better with time and YOU WON!

    • @Sunlumiinous
      @Sunlumiinous 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @CreativeWarrior- Thank you. I wish you the same. Joy is the way to ascend. My two little ones bring me a lot of joy to my heart. Watching them play and laugh does my heart a body good. There are days that I cry profusely wishing my babies didn't have to go through what I'm going through, but we will get past this most definitely. I strive to find things to be grateful for and to laugh about so I can get through this dense energy. Thank you so much for your well wishes. Wishing you immense happiness, joy, peace, and prosperity! 💐🌞🤗🙏🏽

  • @divyapoojary258
    @divyapoojary258 ปีที่แล้ว +551

    Mine is a covert i feel the traits match .. I'm planning to file a divorce in april.. who ever reads this please pray i succeed

    • @rupaliparikh758
      @rupaliparikh758 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      Please take care of yourself 🙏
      Wishing you lots of happiness ✨

    • @jenacarter5081
      @jenacarter5081 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      🙏

    • @horrisnorris6478
      @horrisnorris6478 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Praying for you in your journey of healing

    • @divyapoojary258
      @divyapoojary258 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@horrisnorris6478 the hoovering part is hard though it confuses u so so much😑

    • @mjayanthi3425
      @mjayanthi3425 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      God bless you ,
      What ever you do goes smoothly

  • @user-nt3qj2iz4q
    @user-nt3qj2iz4q 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +65

    silence is your best friend and their worst enemy

  • @breakthroughmoment1647
    @breakthroughmoment1647 ปีที่แล้ว +83

    “Just let them talk and tell them nothing about yourself.” That right there is the problem, empaths talk too much. Confident people rest within themselves and are comfortable with silence. They only speak when they have something to say, not because they feel like they have to say anything.

    • @simplygrateful4494
      @simplygrateful4494 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      That’s a good point. I do talk too much. I need to work on that in my life. Thank you for sharing.

    • @thatcrazyhindu
      @thatcrazyhindu 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Covert narcissists aren’t confident though, neither are grandiose narcissists which is why they always brag about themselves

    • @Atpeace710
      @Atpeace710 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Empaths talk in genuine truth narcs do not

    • @guidinglightorphansinc.5255
      @guidinglightorphansinc.5255 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@Atpeace710plus we are manipulated and love bombed and we open our hearts 😢

    • @Jessica-J.ones.
      @Jessica-J.ones. หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I'm fine sitting in silence but I'm not okay with someone speaking nothing but obvious lies, incessantly. I can handle it a few times but to carry on for hours something has to give. I'm sick of allowing this shit to control my life. I can't say this. I can't do that. But I've gotta listen to this insane person never shut up talking mostly lies and how great they are and so much better than everyone else. I can't say two words to avoid being talked over, an argument trying keep the peace. I'm done with this shit!

  • @dwlsn93
    @dwlsn93 ปีที่แล้ว +302

    #6 When God removes them from your life - let Him! Do not run after the narcissist. There will always be a way out. Wait for the opportunity provided.

    • @888hereandnow
      @888hereandnow ปีที่แล้ว +6

      💕

    • @jenniferbrooks87
      @jenniferbrooks87 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Thank you sister. Please pray for me. I am feeling physically sick because my narcissist mother is currently after me again

    • @lorsange1107
      @lorsange1107 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      ​@@jenniferbrooks87May God be with you and save you from that snake.

    • @bunnyboonot4u
      @bunnyboonot4u 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I pray God will remove my cousin because she's stressing me and my family.

    • @zoesmith6127
      @zoesmith6127 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      For sure you are so right they’re not that smart they pretend it to be .

  • @jans5464
    @jans5464 ปีที่แล้ว +143

    How tragic that we have to live like this and second guess everything we say or do. No contact is the only healthy way to navigate these sick individuals. I have just received a message wishing me a safe journey/nice holiday. My last holiday was with the narcissist and he destroyed it. They are vermin.

    • @asap5629
      @asap5629 ปีที่แล้ว

      terrible human beings, the worst

  • @miketexas4549
    @miketexas4549 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Married to one for 16 years with children. It's so uncanny, I finally figured out exactly these five tactics all on my own naturally. I'm only learning of covert narcissism and these defense tactics AFTER figuring out how to deal with it. I'm in awe and dumbstruck that this thing actually has a name and is well-studied.

  • @preetitoppo8941
    @preetitoppo8941 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    I used to share my business plans with my mother hoping she'll be supportive or at least be happy about it... Bt she left no stone unturned sabotaging my plan, creating hurdles, demotivating me in the process.. She even went out of her way to create misunderstandings between me and my partner so that he would not want to work with me.
    Zipping my mouth since, helped a lot.

    • @tatienono
      @tatienono 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hi baby girl. I hope you pray and take baths. That's a typical witch behavior. You probably were designed for greatness, and she can see it. Take care.

    • @phoenixblue7079
      @phoenixblue7079 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You have a lot coming your way and mum. and see this! That’s okay continue to do you for you!!

  • @redrealruby
    @redrealruby ปีที่แล้ว +52

    I TOTALLY AGREE WITH ''THEY WANT TO RUIN THINGS THAT MAKE YOU HAPPY''

  • @B4466
    @B4466 ปีที่แล้ว +66

    Wish I'd known this way earlier. Now I realise how much of my life was navigated by one of my parents. From little things to big decisions, whenever I talked about my plans, they poked holes in them and made me doubt myself. Only recently have I stopped telling them about any plans I make or decisions I take.

    • @henrytuedor2650
      @henrytuedor2650 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      They are going in hell anyways use your energies to become positive you are still alive that shoukd give you motivation teach others what u learned

    • @AnnaAnna-ff4db
      @AnnaAnna-ff4db 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      It is sad that parents can hurt like that. They are supposed to be on our side. My mother was a narcissist, she always said that I am a bad person, she always compered me to others, she always discouraged me,

    • @guidinglightorphansinc.5255
      @guidinglightorphansinc.5255 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Its only recently that I came to find out that I was raised by a narcissistic mother. Very controlling, I have to get her permission first to do certain things even at age 54. I can never do anything right 😢

  • @vmm5163
    @vmm5163 ปีที่แล้ว +81

    Really great advice. I wish I'd known this decades ago because my life has been forever changed by Narcissistic family members. Not too late to deal with future Narcissists though

  • @francescaali8782
    @francescaali8782 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    I love that you said “if you can’t leave” cuz not everyone can but are made to feel like it’s so simple

  • @Floridafanatic28
    @Floridafanatic28 ปีที่แล้ว +185

    So basically, we can't live an open or happy life. We have to hide or suppress what brings us joy otherwise they will ruin it for us.

    • @timegoesby421
      @timegoesby421 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Sadly😭

    • @JackBeNimble-ff3hb
      @JackBeNimble-ff3hb ปีที่แล้ว +18

      just heal yourself and then run like hell.....

    • @Seraphim7
      @Seraphim7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I Knew it!
      I’ve known this.
      I discerned this.
      This is Confirmation.

    • @TypeOneg
      @TypeOneg ปีที่แล้ว +15

      I know I am not able to develop these skills, I just don't feel like she's worth the effort. I'm 60 and done changing to suit others. I'm way too old for this much crazy.

    • @JackBeNimble-ff3hb
      @JackBeNimble-ff3hb ปีที่แล้ว +1

      you do not have to change to suit others, in fact, your being cognizant of what is going on helps you to change yourself, not the other person. you can't change anyone else anyway. so let it be a wake up call to show you whatever it is IN YOU that keeps this game going. my best guess is start with SELF LOVE, not the ego kind but knowing you are worthy of good because God made you in His image so you are His child and very deserving. God bless. @@TypeOneg

  • @mariaferrenberg6021
    @mariaferrenberg6021 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    So true! Keep your weaknesses for yourself. They will utilise everything against you and tell others about your failures. Keep also your plans and ideas for yourself! They will steal them and tell others it was their ideas 😮

  • @sarahwagland1559
    @sarahwagland1559 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    My covert narc neighbour even started attending the yoga class I had been going to go 6 months. She recruited a flying monkey to attack me and left me with no alternative but to stop going to the class. She is totally obsessed with trying to destroy my life. Unless you experience their tactics first hand you just wouldn't believe how vindictive they are. Pure evil.

    • @marciasantelli-jones1557
      @marciasantelli-jones1557 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Sarah, I know it’s not easy but act like you don’t see or hear her antics. Just find another yoga class, bc they really want a reaction so they can point the finger at you.Their behavior comes from a place of insecurity and jealousy

    • @GTFC_
      @GTFC_ 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😢 blessings my neighbours are both narcs they imitate me and my wife copy everything we do for our garden etc they suck

  • @danbrooks2874
    @danbrooks2874 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    You have the right to remain silent. Anything you say can and will be used against you.

  • @michelemiktus2312
    @michelemiktus2312 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Just yesterday, my covert narc mother asked me if I’m always going to say I’m ok, even if I’m not. My reply was “yup, what’s going to change?” and then I changed the subject. My niece told her that I won’t tell her what is going on w/me. I’ve been doing this 4 1/2 yrs and she didn’t notice or care to pursue it. She obviously didn’t care to pursue it yesterday. She only wanted to be a victim b/c she believed I was going to say why I won’t tell her anything. Instead, I agreed and moved on🤣🤣🤣 She didn’t expect that😂😂😂

  • @alokgautam351
    @alokgautam351 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    People don't change, they are still around at all the time. Good advice.👍

  • @sabrinam3069
    @sabrinam3069 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    So true !! 🤣 , SHARE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING ,they cause destruction. shame on their parents for not teaching them better or getting them help !!

  • @adelaideralston6591
    @adelaideralston6591 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Thank you for this advice! So much if the internet advice amounts to “just leave”, but it’s not that simple, especially when you have health problems like I’ve struggled with.

    • @susanfisher3655
      @susanfisher3655 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      You are right, many, and actually most can't leave due to financial reasons. Oftentimes, the narc manipulates finances to keep you trapped.

    • @lindaschultz7900
      @lindaschultz7900 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yes that's why I love his videos. So many people judge if you stay or have to go back to the narc. I am in survival mode right now.

    • @letgo_ofyourpast
      @letgo_ofyourpast 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Nowadays everything in internet. My narc digging everything in internet. Search and talk to people who were in photo with me.
      Destroyed relationship me with friends and everyone.
      Ruined everything i enjoyed.
      This guy really make me feel strong to deal with my narc

    • @priyaramkumar8448
      @priyaramkumar8448 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Yes me too

  • @spetses888
    @spetses888 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    My God, this is my husband. Gaslighting all the time. Recently we moved house. I said I loved the trees. He cut them all down, to make way for a patio drive way.
    That's 1 example in 1 million.
    Absolutely silence and then distance. Great advice.x

  • @TheAdventuresOfCollegeGiRL
    @TheAdventuresOfCollegeGiRL 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    I’m aware of when I’m being manipulated and somehow still totally get manipulated!! 😳🤯😟

  • @GreenchaserMusic
    @GreenchaserMusic ปีที่แล้ว +62

    These videos mean everything to me

  • @teresitaekim2565
    @teresitaekim2565 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    That's what I did. He knows he can't manipulate me or gaslighting me. I considered the narcissists mentally challenged.

  • @believethetruth130
    @believethetruth130 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I accidentally told everything. I understood it's a narcissistic later

    • @phoenixblue7079
      @phoenixblue7079 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same situation for me I shared a lot now he uses it against me…
      Hmmm didn’t know he was a narcissistic person!
      Sad so sad for them

    • @pkarthikkumar5934
      @pkarthikkumar5934 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@phoenixblue7079Same situation for me ..iam facing female narcissistic person.

  • @zoesmith6127
    @zoesmith6127 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    For number one who wants to be with a Narcissist in the first place.They are controlling needy self entitled boring as heck and I have to hold back my feelings because of them. Can’t be myself? They need to go and sit somewhere until they learn they are nobodies or nothing special.Thank you coach for your daily encouragement!
    Appreciate you 🙏💜

  • @cindys.9688
    @cindys.9688 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Danish, when you teach it's like I'm listening to my coach instructing me how to go out and play the game. Or a general telling his troops how to fight the enemy and at the same time protecting themselves. Wonderful, powerful advice. Thank you!

  • @dro2000
    @dro2000 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Long story short.......if you can check even 1 of these boxes about your partner, its time to go!! Because every single one of these traits are hideous! And even 1 means that you deserve better!

  • @jananabanana3180
    @jananabanana3180 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    I HAD to isolate myself and my feelings...ALL OF MY LIFE WAS " NONE- YA!!!"

  • @HappySmile703
    @HappySmile703 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    We didn’t know about narcissism before but we (me and mom) would pray for our situation and those are the same things we felt God was telling us to do.

  • @beatricekuukuakwakye9625
    @beatricekuukuakwakye9625 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    You nialed it!!!!!!!This is very true,They feed on your emotions and self-esteem

  • @aravind0580
    @aravind0580 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Narcissist always keep you in delay, anger and frustration. Don't play thier game. They always use your words against you. Thank you

  • @jenniferyates8100
    @jenniferyates8100 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Like your shorts, you go straight to the point. You understand personality disorder so well. Thank you Danish for your videos and advice. 👍🌷

  • @donnatella-me6jc
    @donnatella-me6jc 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I purchased 2 small plants w/narc husband's permission. I told narc how the plants were doing so well & how much I loved them. The next day, he cut them down to their roots. I got so angry & asked him why he did this? He said nothing and smiled. I never saw him look so happy. I was confused & couldn't understand why he did this. The very next day, he cut the plants' tiny, few leaves of what was left even further until there was nothing left. I could see his eyes got wide as he started to laugh. He got pleasure out of hurting me. That's when I started googling husband thinks it's funny & came upon your channel. Thank you for all your great videos on narcissists. I now know not to react and zip mouth. What a horrible way to live if you can't get out.

  • @marciasantelli-jones1557
    @marciasantelli-jones1557 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Omg all those points are so in target. I’m working on cutting ties with a Covert Narcissist,her so subtle undermining antics impacting relationships with my kids, career. I have been quite open with red flags to others because I wouldn’t wish these people on anyone, it’s beyond hateful. Coverts truly come from a place of insecurity and are very jealous of others that have attributes or things they want to possess.Bittersweet but reinforces your on the right path. ❤

  • @MariahLashayWay333
    @MariahLashayWay333 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    How about NOT DEAL WITH THEM!!!
    We can soulfully feel when someone isn't fit for our lives let's aim to no longer be denial about the truth.
    When you firstly, get a glimpse and peep the person isn't right LEAVE.

    • @giaalston9092
      @giaalston9092 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Clearly, That’s easier said, then done or a lot of us wouldn’t be trying to figure out how we got here?

  • @leticiamilo4387
    @leticiamilo4387 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thanks so much Danish for sharing this video!!❤⚘
    Lips zipped!!!...
    Doors closed!!!...
    Focus on self care self love!!😊😊😊

  • @TheQueensWish
    @TheQueensWish ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Thank you Danish. I look forward to your advice. You always get straight to the point.

  • @eseoghenewealthmychamber6365
    @eseoghenewealthmychamber6365 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Very Accurate 👌. I did all this with him because i never knew he was a narcissist. But as soon as i knew, everything ceased. I am the most happiest person right now because I've finally left him and his house. Glad I'm not having my baby in his house. My Number one wish have successfully come through. Thanks for all your prayers. Please continue to pray for me for a smooth delivery of my baby. Amen 🙏

  • @IlaE.Williams-LaBelleZ
    @IlaE.Williams-LaBelleZ 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You are genius and a strong man, period...This is a great video

  • @okbruh
    @okbruh 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    Definitely covert narcissists are the most treacherous.

  • @karlamartinez7238
    @karlamartinez7238 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    ❤ EXCELLENT advice that's STRAIGHT to the POINT! After abuse, we have poor memories, so it GREAT to listen to your short videos that play over & over, until it is etched permanently into our confused minds. I'm sharing this video with my kids! 😅

  • @gamiedanajaar6655
    @gamiedanajaar6655 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Unfortunately since I'm experiencing financial narcissistic abuse as well, I do give in to alot of the demands, but make no mistake, I'm fully aware of what's going on and am working towards breaking free.

    • @rinakellogg8208
      @rinakellogg8208 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Yes the financial abuse it’s another obstacle and it’s maddening because I don’t know what we have what he’s doing with the money etc. hugs it’s awful

    • @lindaschultz7900
      @lindaschultz7900 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      So am I. 😊

    • @guidinglightorphansinc.5255
      @guidinglightorphansinc.5255 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Amen...am in the same challenge and I am on my way....thousands of miles away😢

  • @Alarippu
    @Alarippu ปีที่แล้ว +10

    That is a very correct list. I went no contact because the push was very aggressive. The person is still pushing.

  • @ellensunden2778
    @ellensunden2778 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Excellent advice! I've been using these tactics successfully against my narc parents for almost a year now. Instead of feeding off of me, they now feed off of themselves.

  • @MM-fc2gi
    @MM-fc2gi ปีที่แล้ว +4

    They RUIN the things that YOU ENJOY! FACTS. I IMMEDIATELY noticed a new narc try this on my first crab leg night with my family. The narc kept calling and trying to be combative or debate silly things on the phone while I'm cooking until I said I think I should hang up now and the narc stopped that day.I told narc how much I love crab leg night! Soon the narc took over crab leg night changing it to DATE night For just us and not my FAMILY. ..For 5 months in a row EVERY crab leg night was ruined either by them complaining, ruining the seafood, forgetting ingredients, being in a bad mood. All on a full moon too oddly. First I stopped telling narc about it and did crab night without them then dumped him for other narc related reasons. The narc only paid for crabs once on the first time to change it to DATE night and ruined the entire batch of crabs that time. After that all the loss was mine. He is right. I prefer to tell a narc now and see IF they try to ruin it and ditch them ASAP. Learn to accept these are NOT coincidences😮

  • @sharonparis8916
    @sharonparis8916 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    My goodness you are something else. “Five Ways To Smartly Deal With A Covert Narcissist When You Can’t Leave!”Thank you for this!Absolutely brilliant!What wonderful advice to give to the person that’s not 30 anymore, married 33 years, soooo much invested…. it’s not always so easy to walk away.It’s not “fun” this way it’s like your separated living in the same household. I’m grateful in one sense 3 of our adult children are still at home with us which is a buffer for me. When they begin to move out (one of them are going to have to take me with them ,bc I don’t want to be here alone with their father.)He can have everything we built together, I would just want to go- it would be to awkward here just him and I.Thank God we never had physical problems( safety) but,the poor communication, attention,affection,harmony part…not great.Again another awesome helpful video. God bless and keep you!Please continue helping people. Many of us were not familiar with NPD( I just tuned into this 3 months ago and it has been helping me tremendously)he does not want to go to a counselor-says he doesn’t need it. So, I find your channel helpful for me. I share many if your videos with my kids(adults)

    • @rinakellogg8208
      @rinakellogg8208 ปีที่แล้ว

      I’m in the same predicament as you. Do you still sleep in the same bed?? I’ve thought of making my office into my own room to make it less awkward but I’m sure it will make him mad. Hugs it’s not easy and it’s honestly a sad reality but I’m grateful for my kids.

  • @johedges5946
    @johedges5946 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I only tell my mother Im going somewhere when Im already on the train😂

  • @lorsange1107
    @lorsange1107 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I pray so we all can find a soon and safe way out. May God be with us.🙏

  • @tzeniblond9091
    @tzeniblond9091 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I liked a tee with a flavour. I told that to my mother and she threw it away and never bought it again.

  • @Lilylibra
    @Lilylibra ปีที่แล้ว +4

    At last!!! I can manage not to rise to the bait. I leave him to simmer in his persistent anger instead. Taken ages for me to master, but I feel so much healthier now I don’t take his twaddle seriously.

  • @rupaliparikh758
    @rupaliparikh758 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    In the beginning I couldn't understand her behaviour which I had never ever seen before. I was made to feel so bad and useless about myself that I started hating myself for being me..I was filled with guilt. After a point I started noticing the patterns of her behaviour, twisting the facts and manipulations and finally after struggling for 25 years I could convince myself that there was nothing wrong with me... I started staying away from her as much as possible and reduced my interactions to minimal. However I was punished and smeared for the same by maligning my reputation in the family..and she became the victim..! It's a no win situation in the end..

    • @js-tw3vs
      @js-tw3vs ปีที่แล้ว +8

      You win. None of those people care about the truth. You got out, you're not brainwashed, you win. She's miserable every day, and you get to be free.

    • @jenniferyates8100
      @jenniferyates8100 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      That's why if you can go no contact. You can't reason with them, they have no empathy. Hope you have moved forward. 🌈🕊️

    • @rupaliparikh758
      @rupaliparikh758 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@js-tw3vs ❤️

    • @rupaliparikh758
      @rupaliparikh758 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@jenniferyates8100 ❤️

    • @jenniferyates8100
      @jenniferyates8100 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@rupaliparikh758 you take care of yourself.🙏❤️

  • @ArunaSingh08
    @ArunaSingh08 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Only important things..READ EVERYDAY..REMEMBER ALL THE TIME

  • @loricarini2260
    @loricarini2260 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Yes, I am finding out, only in last few months, that everything that He is sharing is true, and you can't share yourself with a narcissistic. I was sad at first because he is my husband and we've only been married 4 1/2 years but now , I can clearly see what's going on ! It's been horrible, but I've been trying to do more research in the last year! I hope and Pray that I can get free from this soon! 🙏 ❤

  • @haroldcravens5927
    @haroldcravens5927 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You've helped me so much. I went Celibate for 7 years and she finally left me?!!!

  • @Gaeliclass
    @Gaeliclass 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Exactly, don't share anything!

  • @user-rs8zb9on3j
    @user-rs8zb9on3j 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you,my good friend and advisor for your endless valuable advice and emotional support 😊!

  • @tereseczimbal8099
    @tereseczimbal8099 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Early in our marriage, I'd shared how we were beaten with the belt metal buckle and how just hearing it made me freeze with fear. He'd enjoyed shaking his belt and watching me freeze. He'd laugh and laugh. I used that to help get an Annulment!

  • @hollyfemrite3113
    @hollyfemrite3113 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    One of the most valuable and concise pieces of advice! thank you enormously for posting this

    • @Coco-og7zw
      @Coco-og7zw 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      💯 %

  • @acraftyginger3086
    @acraftyginger3086 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I recommend noise cancelling headphones because they will continue to keep at you and escalating until they are so under your skin it becomes impossible to keep your mouth shut.

  • @freedomwarrior5087
    @freedomwarrior5087 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    #6 when having to converse with your covert narcissist (NPD) mother, do deep breathing exercises throughout the conversation. Breathe a sigh of relief after hanging up.

  • @dwlsn93
    @dwlsn93 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Please let no one say;
    “Easier said than done!”
    It’s an illusion that you cannot be free!! ❤

  • @simonwadsworth9402
    @simonwadsworth9402 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    This is what I am taking on board I am not allowing my narcissistic family to control, manipulate, guilt trip or gas light me anymorw. They can all go. I am done with people like tbis. I am not doing anything that they try to pressirise me into doing.

  • @kymberlyann4421
    @kymberlyann4421 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I’m so thankful to you and all the others that are making videos about this. I really need this in my life right now. Thank you. Things I already learned on my own before TH-cam was really popular. But things I need to hear again because for some reason I think “maybe the narcissist can change” I’m pretty good at deflect this narcissist but this time almost got me. Thank you again I need to hear this. Day three of redoing everything from I learned the first time on my own these videos are just a helpful reminder I’m doing everything correctly so thanks again.

  • @Doreen3010
    @Doreen3010 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    these are the best tactics to regain your peace. Thanks for the confirmation.❤❤

  • @EGreensoul
    @EGreensoul ปีที่แล้ว +4

    That's what I am doing now. What ever it is, living with them will make us zombies

  • @jdoyle7768
    @jdoyle7768 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I just foundout one of the things that makes me happy is barbershopping. Any barbershopping event ( meaning singing) she never felt comfortable around the guys or wanted to be part of the pack. However anytime I would go without her, I had so much more fun. Plus then alot more singing and getting connected with people that I enjoy being around

  • @Melissakay3
    @Melissakay3 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Everytime I speak I instantly regret it lol

  • @notreally308
    @notreally308 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    It's almost easy not to tell them anything cause it's not like they ask how your day was or give you a chance to speak since all they are doing is talking about their day non stop.

  • @laraevery3959
    @laraevery3959 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Everytime I see one of ur videos, I feel stronger, safer, better prepared, and ready to face life again. Danish, your work is so vital for so many people. I'm so glad you are always here for us. You have turned the most difficult situation in ur life, into information gold, and valuable virtual support. Thanks so much. Keep doing this great work!! ❤

  • @Safiamoritz
    @Safiamoritz ปีที่แล้ว +10

    My narc bf told me to bring my son to the hotel where he stays just because I enjoy cooking for myself and son.Immediately after I told him that I'm going to spend some time with my son he easily get jealous and said that I should bring my son in his hotel room so that I dont have to cook for my son.He is such an evil.

  • @hawaiigirl8089
    @hawaiigirl8089 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    My narc says minimal to nothing! He is poker face

  • @creatoratplay
    @creatoratplay 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Just checked to see if you had a video on how to break up with narcissistic old "friends". This is helpful since they're covert and use guilt a lot. Thanks for your content!

  • @Kathleen67.
    @Kathleen67. 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Excellent! Best definition and reccomendation I've heard.

  • @TheKakamuka
    @TheKakamuka ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Need this on auto play and speakers around me 😂❤❤❤

  • @brucebooker2227
    @brucebooker2227 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    #6 If they are attached to you and know you are leaving, they may poison you.

  • @Lilylibra
    @Lilylibra 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    ‘They ruin the things you enjoy’. So true. Every beautiful or productive plant and tree I valued in the garden, he has systematically destroyed. I made the mistake of telling him I enjoyed the herbs, greengages, blackberries and other fruits. So puzzling, I don’t get it. 😵‍💫

  • @helpinyerdasellavon
    @helpinyerdasellavon 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Absolutely true! Wonderful advice. Thank you, Danish 👍🏻

  • @ghazalsutar4653
    @ghazalsutar4653 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    My MIL is a covert narcicisst with all these signs

  • @MrsLMyles
    @MrsLMyles 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    It’s too late. I’ve shared so much and now I’ve been discarded. & he’s trying to use everything he can against me.

    • @harikab1182
      @harikab1182 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Varahi kavacham ( you can download from internet as pdf)is a Matra which you can read pure heartedly praying to a goddess .
      What happens: either he will understand always there is some sort of a problem for him if he ruins your happiness...
      Or if he still continues to disturb you in same manner then he will be taken little far from your niche...like a transfer to a different place for example.
      Believe me dear do it more number of times in a day if you face issues from him constantly.
      You will also see other enemies who try to degrade or work against you will also gets same effect and minimises other excessive emotions in you say if you are too sensitive or too emotional everything normalises.
      TRUST ME AND TRY YOU WON'T REGRET Dear friend.

  • @julievalencia8633
    @julievalencia8633 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This typically runs in their family.

  • @sah-nae
    @sah-nae ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Yep exactly right ! Thank you for these videos 🌻

  • @draganjagodic4056
    @draganjagodic4056 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Golden advice. Thank You Sir.

  • @jodyfarina1147
    @jodyfarina1147 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Right on! Direct and to the point!

  • @partharoy7527
    @partharoy7527 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    These things we learn at the end of the relationship with a narcissist..its help ful if we go for another.. we can use our experience

  • @marshasomham3085
    @marshasomham3085 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You’re absolutely correct on that!!!! They use everything against you. I just happened to be watching TicTok and it was live. I heard my ex at McDonalds drive thru. They were laughing about how I couldn’t get my stuff up! It hurt, it almost broke me. I’m STILL breathing, that’s right I’m still living, even though he degraded me to the point of being so horrible. I’ve survived his grasping hand. I’m not brokenhearted about that anymore. Knowing him, knowing his new lover is going to be a big victim and a blessing for me. ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @bonnieromick9397
    @bonnieromick9397 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yes Absolutely my sweet coach. Also EVERYTHING. Pisses them off. Your smile pisses them off!!

    • @WhitePeopleareburden
      @WhitePeopleareburden 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Still you ain't going to achieve anything

  • @ruthslater6364
    @ruthslater6364 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Exactly correct. Really sick stuff. Good lessons here.

  • @Brishti155
    @Brishti155 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Word to word is absolute true....💯💯

  • @allesgut8506
    @allesgut8506 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    So good advise - thank you Danish - these are golden rules - much love for you ---.

  • @jojo1960uk
    @jojo1960uk หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you Danish, I need to hear this every day!

  • @Seliz463
    @Seliz463 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’ve found that feeding them a tsunami of information about fake emotions and fears is a great tactic. They feel very well fed and you just successfully fooled them into giving up the stalking and flying monkey behaviors because they think they got you. Being fake-vulnerable can work very well

  • @kerstitekko2257
    @kerstitekko2257 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is gold.

  • @julial.r.5383
    @julial.r.5383 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Very important advice!! Thank you

  • @DG_cooking
    @DG_cooking 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This seems like the whole world to me😮

  • @CherryStudios2
    @CherryStudios2 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Don't tell them what makes you happy because they'll try to sabotage it. Ouch. Gotta be mindful of this around my dad.