What is REALLY paining me for you is, how shameless your formal roommate was. Imagine: he came from PRAYING to God straight to steal your money. Wtf?????
the primary male brain variant behavior (narcissistic originator, umempath. etc) is being removed from the behavioral disorders manuals without assuring that those with an "off-functional" brain, that afflicts one of eight males (and that they did not choose), will have the security of those with a normally empathetic and better functioning brain. (from brain scans)
It is a tragedy to see someone who "Much like a Person Who Can Recognise Music Under Alzheimers/Dementia From Within their Dreamy Chains ⛓️ Still Cry Out For Freedom" ChookScrolled |🐔
Spot on. Right now . and last 10 years... I'll never get those years back. ThankcGod i know that its something that is being Showed to me from God to make me Even stronger , super empath then before..❤❤❤❤❤ Jokes on them . truthfully
They love to aggravate you to watch you get upset but when you call them out on their bs, they back down. Evil, weak, cowards who do not like themselves
They think that going around destroying people makes them feel powerful, that is until you figure them out, then they are like a scared little animal and then play the victim because in their twisted minds somebody else made them do it, because they deserved it. They'll NEVER take responsibility for their actions. They'll gaslight and tell anybody who calls them out that they are the crazy one. They're so miserable with there own lives, that the only that makes them happy is destroying anybody who is a threat to them in some way.
Yes, they study you and take notes over whatever makes them hate and envy you. They then start on a strategic path to defame you, slander you, and make up lies to tear you down to your associates and people who know you. All this while stealing your career, hobbies, personality, style, phrases and god knows what else. All in an attempt to become you and making you into them in the eyes of others, so projection
My opinion is that they are interested in the details of other people's lives for a reason. Everyone has problems in their lives, and the narc is scoping out room to exploit. The interest is as usual out of evil intention, and not concern or affection.
Yes but if you actually try to tell them what you're doing as part of a normal conversation they glaze over or use it as a jumping off point to talk about themselves. It seems like they are only interested in the info they get by sneaking around and stalking 🤷♀️
So obsessed with other peoples business! AVOID them at all costs! They disrespect all boundaries! Help themselves to your personal things! Nosey and gossips! They are poison ,nothing is private! But you are the problem in their eyes! Yes they call us crazy!
Yes!!! My ex is a churchy covert narcissist. He's like an old church lady, scrabbling for gossip and tucking it away, to use at just the right time. Tiny, nasty little man.
We need to teach young people about these monsters. Should be the high school curriculum, in a health class. To be the victim of one of these soul destroyers changes you at the core, we need to protect our children.
Yes! Absolutely. With enough education, we can help future generations avoid getting abused the way we did. This narcissism problem is not going away. It's only going to get worse.
Yes, this is why I plan to make ebooks starting for 5th graders on up to college age and get these ebooks into the hands of as many students as possible. Young people NEED to be educated on the dangers of these narcs so that young people can be equipped with who to choose as friends and a romantic partner and know who to avoid. Hopefully less people's lives will be ruined this way. If you want to know how to support this cause, please let me know here. Thanks!
I used to enjoy working around people until I got burned too many times by "friendly" coworkers. Now I'm happiest working from home and owning my own business.
While I agree wholeheartedly, sadly it’s easier said than done. Maybe I’m too much an empath but it makes me angry with myself that I worry how my husband would manage if I left and, it may sound silly to some, but we have 4 cats and I couldn’t imagine leaving them behind so I just deal with my existence and keep worrying about everything but me😳😤😰🤢🥺
I went through this for the last 20+ years, married to a narcissist. Our relationship was so fake and shallow and he treated me like I was the problem, so I spent two decades trying to fix myself and work on myself. I finally hit rock bottom and was so mentally and emotionally exhausted, and anxiety ridden to the point where I would shake and have a panic attack just sitting next to him. I filed for divorce and ALL of these things you mentioned happened. It was 100x worse than anything I experienced in my marriage, a complete nightmare that is still going on two years later. I am determined to fight my way out and get away from him, and save our children from further abuse. This is spot on.
I’m so amazed with the knowledge that you have about a Narcissist. I was Married to One for 23yrs and knew that there was Something really Strange and also can be really Wicked. but I did not know during that time what a narcissist was. there was so much humiliation Spiteful It was As if he had multiple personalities. I never knew Who He would become next. He was So fake when he needed me for His Supply. he almost destroyed me, But God is Good and he saved me.
I was in a relationship with a pathological liar whose weapon of choice was plausible deniability. He was also extremely sadistic and enjoyed watching you go crazy trying to prove yourself. I recall him having a smirk on his face when I would try to prove something and him calling me forgetful, paranoid and easily triggered. Sick!
Going through this right now. It’s sickening how they bait and taunt you and when you lose it they smirk. 😢 it’s bizarre to see the satisfaction in their face.
My ex husband did it all. Took money from my purse or savings stash, went thru my stuff, read my journals and threw my clothes and belongings away. He would tell his “friends” that I was a horrible person. Talk about me behind my back. All this time he’s not working or doing anything to help around the house and I’m working full time and making dinner etc. After I finally got out, it was great to break all of these habits that he had me trained to do. Freedom from the narcissist is bliss.
My narcissist threw away a jacket from my college without asking me. They hate seeing your successes in life. What I hate is that they try so hard to act like they love and wanna help you, but it's wrong, it's all wrong! Because how can you love someone without respect?
On a wedding "gift" that he gave me in 2007, my narc changed my last name back to my maiden name that I had not used since 1988 when I married him in 2007. He didn't want to see my ex's last name. How idiotic? When my daughter dies, he said he would cancel the life insurance payout if I didn't let him spend the money how he wanted to spend it. He also invited his family to a private visitation at the funeral home after I told him it was only for her brothers and sisters. I had to text and tell them NOT to come. They were puffed up about.
She tormented me to throw away the 4 scarfs my mother lovely knitted stitch for me during two years for freezing winters. The same did against my university books. She took me apart from my family, friends and sport hobby. Finally I brook this toxic relationship to recover myself and try to find love with reciprocity.
@@IT-lr9is same here! My mother hasa always been jealous of me and at 12 years old I knitted an open work sweater which was pretty difficult to do and I was proud of it. After a few years I wanted to know where my sweater was and she had trown away my sweater, can you believe it? What mother does trow away a sweater of her daughter who has put so much effort and love in knitting her sweater? She also threw away a beautiful little vase which I made at a pottery barn at age 9. They do everything to destroy what you love! But at that time 20 years I did not know that my mother was a narcissist. I discovered it only 5 years ago at age 50!! Fortunately through platforms like this narcissism has been discussed so much more than in the 80/90ties. That is why it is so important to learn about narcissism! Now I am no contact with my family and I am at peace!
@@BbBb-xe5pqa covert narcissist will play a game to have you believe things are fine until BOOM! So you can't say that is something to disregard, like you should've left. They love bomb making you believe they are super sweet until you catch on
1. Hunt for supply on social media 2. Go through your private things 3. Smear Campaign 4. Contact old Supply (or enabling family members) 5. Use substances, watch porn
My life currently and planning on my departure here shortly. Of course it's all gotta be planned in secret. You cannot just be up front and say you want out of the relationship. You must plan "the escape"
My narc husband, has been dead for a year. We were living apart for the last 12 yrs of a 38 yr marriage., because of his cheating, and drugging. I still enjoy watching these videos and still trying to figure out what happened in My life. My memories are all that is left, and it feels good to look back and Now know.. what I was in the middle of, but was not aware...I will keep learning to find my peace, in my good memories of my life with him. I will not let him rob me of the good memories.bcause he was sick
My husband would do these things. One day I wanted to clean everything up high so I got the ladder and as soon as I climbed up on it in the kitchen, I found some of my makeup and perfume up there. I couldn't believe he blamed our daughters. Danish is spot on with everything he says. I listen to him everyday. ❤
I know a narc who is always sending random snap in Snapchat to show how wonderful and busy their life is, when in reality they have nothing going on and are just being fake .
I realized that that last one I went out with has almost a million snaps and it occurred to me for him to have that many he’s has to literally be doing it ALL day. I just thought he was lonely and it was a cry to be seen and wanted so I invited him into my life. But it’s just that can’t stand to be alone in the glorious life he brags about to make other people feel small and needs to make you feel small in person. One of the days he gave me the silent treatment he still sent over 200 to someone? I guess 10 an hour doesn’t seem like much when I write it) But if he discards people as fast as he did me than who knows how many sources of supply this guy has as once- gotta be a wild network, while I’m sitting here a lonely introvert thinking of just him 🤦🏻♀️
@@Khaegch-favh the person I know he sends 100-200 snaps a day usually during weekends. Like seriously what are you snapping about that much exactly. It’s wild they are soo attached to social media. I have stopped opening his private snaps he sends as he sends the same to many people. He can go figure.
That’s everyone on earth on social media 😂 Channels like this are interesting, but always remember no one is “typical” and much of this is a social construction.
This is why once again I trust nobody and I don’t care when nobody says me personally, I assume that everybody’s a narcissist, until they prove themselves to me otherwise cause if not, you’re not coming into my house and you’re not coming into my space and that’s real talk
Just know that we ALL carry 1-3 traits in us. You must have 5 or more to be a narc. So if you see 1-3 traits in someone please don't assume they're a narc. There are also other mental disorders which overlap narcissism and look like it so please be very careful. People get called narcs a lot when they are not
I do believe they will hold back information from people to keep power over them because they are insecure and know that information in the hands of someone smarter than they are will knock them down and call them out.
I absolutely can not stand when they do that!!!! And they know it too! And I've even tried it back on them and they don't react, but they seem to do it less often. It's just a joke dealing with these narcs! Day in day out so predictable & maddening.
Every time my phone dings I’m scared to look at the texts. I’m constantly on eggshells waiting for the nasty text messages. His favorite is telling me if I don’t like it get my own phone plan. Then when I call him mean he says why are you with me then.
The last few weeks I'm thinking I can't smile around them :( cause they won't like it. I laughed a few times today with 1 of my kids, it was good, I've hardly been able to in ages
Narcissists have created large amounts of Karmic Debt because they intentionally try to destroy those good people who had nothing but good intentions and love for them. Dear Karma, IT'S ME. Karma says, I GOT THIS!
Narcissists can't stand to be alone in their own head. I was entangled with one I initially considered a friend - she would call everyone who will talk to her, one after the other, talking crap about all the other people. If you didn't answer you'd get a passive aggressive or openly hostile text message.
Channels like yours have saved my sanity! I was triangulated and victimized by my narcissistic mother-in-law & her narcissistic son for years before I realized they were a dangerous duo (couple of sickos)! Thank you for empowering & educating others by sharing your experience!🙏
Same here! His mom even took me shopping a few times. When I told her I felt unsafe with her son, she told me this story about another couple who were violent with each other but remained together because they loved each other. Crazy I stayed a few more years mainly due to her advice
My husband made our friends think he thought the world of me. All the time, he was abusive, emotionally, financially, and sometimes physically and sexually. But not so much of the last 2. And it was always behind closed doors.
Creating a false self-image on social media (matching their false self) with achievements they do not have credit for, and trying to get all sorts of attention either bragging about themselves or making themselves victims.
@@effthamatrix I think it is when it is on a another level. Straight up lies. It is also depending on a lot of other factors, like context. I mean if a young person does it because of insecurity for example is very much different from an middle aged adult who have fabricated a fake persona with fake merits because of their grandiose delusions.
@@johannajuutilainen4779 Exactly. My narcissistic mother posted a picture of my grandmother, herself, and me, and posted some kind of statement about a "loving family." Um.... that picture was taken when my grandmother visited us in Arkansas, and my mother yelled at her and made her cry so bad, she got a Greyhound bus and left the next day. My mother was HORRIBLE to my grandmother. No mention of that in her Facebook post. :( No one would guess it was NOT a "loving family" at all........ "false self." My grandmother has grey-rocked my mom since that visit in 1983 or 1984.
@d0v3Tai1 I disagree. They showed how people should be humble enough to admit when they've done something wrong. Normal family dynamics contain people who understand it is not right to hurt others. In the abuse cases I've seen in the emergency room, parents do not feel they've done anything wrong. These people are sick. And they will lie, kill, anything to make sure no one destroys their false image. I didn't realize it was abnormal for family members to badmouth others behind their back until left my family, and met people with NORMAL families. People who grow up in abnormal family dynamics think that "All in the Family" is normal. It is not. Normalizing that kind of hurtful behavior causes a continuation of the cycle, and is why we have a bevy of narcissists running the world.
You’re so spot on! Narcissist ex would text & talk to his mom all throughout the day like they were dating. He thought I should take care of him & give him everything his mom does, including paying for everything. It was gross.
It is gross, it amazes me when grown men aren't at all embarrassed to mooch off women. I'm amazed how many are absolutely looking for a mommy, someone to financially support them too.
My narcissist mother is always on the phone talking someone's ear off and boring them to death. People don't answer the phone when she calls. Her partner watches TV all day so he doesn't have to talk to her. Her former husband didn't even live with her. That's why they got along.
True......Another thing .....They tell many stories more than a hundred times.....Nobody can hear them anymore.....LOL.....They have such a dreadful life that there is nothing new to tell....
My narcissistic mother was going through all of my personal things when I was not home. I found some items "missing" from my home. She used to go into my house when I was @work. I've gotten my key back. I didn't realize that she was doing this until I learned she was a narcissist. The nerve of her!!! She would constantly come by my house whenever she felt like it. So, she would use my key and barge in my home. She would not like it if I were to do that to her. I also found out that she gossiped about me to my relatives, my stepdad, and my siblings. I've gone NC with her two years ago.
Sounds a lot like the narcissist I deal with. Always eager to "clean my room and help." My mother throws away my things, like mail, food, any purchases I make. I've found lots of my personal belongings in the trash and when confronted about it she cries and makes me feel bad about it? So twisted. This is mind boggling to someone who would never think to do such a thing.
The same happened to me. I used to be a singer. She deleted all my recordings and cut holes in my lingerie. Cut my long hair while I was asleep. Pure evil
Wow. It’s so weird how narcs are almost all the same, I understand. My mom was the same. She went through my drawers, read my diary/notes and try to find any “secret” I had. Strangely, she would never ask me how my day was or talk to me directly if she had any concerns, it was easier for her to go through my things, ask my friends/ my bf about me and had the nerve to tell them to keep it a secret from me 🙄
My narcissistic mother would always accuse other people of stealing. :( Recently I learned she was the one stealing....... it's crazy. They are delusional.
That exact thing happened to me by my mother. Years and years before I found this out when I found out she was a narrcisist. I though she just hated me. Then it was she hated me and was trying g to destroy me, at time I thought I was going crazy, I was even suicidal. Wow, so many years wasted. At least I have answers now and don't have to go through that again.
It’s insane the types of things these ppl will make up just to tear you apart especially when you make a stand for yourself and leave. Everything from bashing you to everyone making up lies to destroy your image to framing you for things you didn’t do and if you have kids they will try to take them from you and tell you your the one who’s a narcissist and mentally ill. Iv tried so hard to make this person see this relationship wasn’t working out and Iv wanted to escape for years and they’d love bomb over and over to trick me and make me think things were gonna change but they never did for long. I left bc I was feeling so sick like he’s killing me and I feel so strongly in my spirit that’s what he’s trying to do. I will not waist my life dealing with that and feeling like the trauma and suffering constantly trying to argue how things happens standing up to myself when they deny everything and twist everything it’s awful. I believe these ppl are possessed by something very evil and alls I can do is pray for him now and make up time and years Iv lost being a mentally strong mother for my kids and just being happy and safe. I pray protection for all those dealing with anyone like this . Take care of yourselves especially you mothers out there you have to be mentally strong for your kids don’t let these men steal your lives from you. We only get one life down here God does not want us to be less then what he’s made us to be and especially doesn’t want us being abused and manipulated by fear. Brothers and Sisters break free and pray for these ppl.
I was with you 100% until you went sexist and said, "...especially you mothers..." Plenty of narc wives lie to the police and judges and falsely accuse good husbands of DV just to get more money and/or sole custody with the clear intent to destroy their husbands completely.
Thank you so much for this post!!! I am married to a narcassist who destroys everything i own, whose every minute of his everyday is focused on destroying me and others cannot see this. Its hard for people to understand the extent a narcassist will go to harass and intimidate their spouse. You hit the nail on the head with these 5 narcassistic traits!
All of this is 💯% true,Danish. He complains about folks being glued to their cellphones but he’s on every type of social media,including TikTok, that’s available. I write in code so he can’t figure out what I’m writing in my diary. They’re very destructive so I never let him have access to anything of mine. The narc that I know lies when there absolutely no reason to lie.
Yup my narc ex moved in his mother and shes a narc as well. They were planning on taking my son all for themselves behind my back and cutting me out of the picture by gaslighting me into signing SMI, saying i was mentally ill when i am not. My ex was sexually abusing our child and the grandmother knew about it and enabled him! Im so sick of these people. Everything that is said in this video is exactly 💯
YES.. can't handle quiet either. Always tv, music or endless chatter about themselves of course.. Because if it's quiet they have to face their demons.
My husband tore my shirts, broke my ear ring, keep my important stuff and pretend as if he does not know what i am talking about. He hates my stuff from his core... He punctured an air teddy sofa given by my family to my daughter for her second birthday when she cried he said our baby did it where as he punched it using a pen. He destroyed my journal and said our kid did. He is a God of Selfishness. We are married for last 8 years but separated after 2 years of marriage. Since the first day till now, no change in him. Just that i am aware now whats going on and still learning how to deal with him.
Im so sorry. Glad you understand your husband appears severely mentally ill, will not change, not your job to change him, your job now is what you are doing. Hope you remain free and can get far away from rhis dangerous behavior. It is not petty it is telling the future. Document! Tell everyone to get Court to keep you safe and alive.
Yes. But unfortunately i am not working. I have full responsibility of my daughter. He has zero contribution except finance, but he pretends infront of everyone as if he has equal contribution in parenting but trust me zero. Brutally hurt physically by him 4 to 5 times. He hurt oir daughter 2 to 3 times physically too. Going through trauma and depression but fighting back to come normal. Thanks for these videoes or i would not have alive now. Want to learn a skill , financial independence than will move far away. Now stuck with this monster. Pray for me please🙏🏻 One day i will be out of this cage i am in alive along with my daughter. 🙏🏻 Need a lots of prayer for me. Thank you❤ @noplacelikehome2.0
Myaccount@ Try to learn about social services in your area for abused women. There are shelters and legal services. But remember !!! Say nothing about your plans to your husband. He is violent toward you and your child, so you have to act now in secrecy Just pack prepare everything in secret and leave when he is not home.💝
My ex husband has done every one of these things! It’s incredible to me just how much alike they all are; as if it’s one evil entity that they have all let in rather then individual people. 🤔
Thank you Danish for this channel. i am somebody who has been mistreated by people with mental issues. I'm not a doctor so i won't try to say whether or not they are narcissists. The problem is that i've started to become very toxic since then. I've definitely taken on some of the narcissistic traits as a self defense mechanism and your channel has helped in raising my self awareness. I have days where i'm just very mean and cold and put myself above others. I know it's not right and i am set to begin counseling very soon. I ultimately don't think i'm a narcissist. More like a wounded animal lashing out in pain. I want so badly to love myself and others and be the kind person that i used to be.
I didn't know about narcissism until in mt 60es. I was so sad, i thought I was going to die. I was praying God to help me. All of a sudden these videos about narcissism start popping on TH-cam. I finally realized why i had nervous breakdowns, why i was sad. Seems like most of the people in my life were narcissist, people i loved dearly, my mother, my sister, my husband, uncles, aunts, in-laws. Now, i teach my children and grandchildren to be cautious.
I’ve had the same experience. In my early 70s when I found out. Like you, very sad much of my life. The stress was so extreme that I got MS and cannot walk now. So I was never able to escape, so far. What I am grateful for are these videos and all the info out on narcissism now. At least knowing and understanding what in the Hell happened to my life has kept me from going crazy!!!
Same here, I knew nothing. Sadly, I lost my husband I loved very much. My sister never came to the funeral, so cruel. She did drive by tge church though. Then my stepson committed suicide. After that my mother passed. I try not to remember how now she wants me to disappear. My 1st Christmas in 64 years alone. Yet I'm not alone. Jesus Christ is my Saviour. With faith in Him we have eternity to look forward to. I thank Him and pray to not murmur. I believe the test can be a testimony. God bless you. 🛐🕯✝️
I was told about sociopaths when I was in my early 40s and how they deliberately sabotage your goals. Not accidentally but deliberately. But then I was told it wasn't politically correct to call someone a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath as apparently those were insulting terms, sociopaths and psychopaths didnt exist and nobody could have too much self esteem. Self esteem was considered good and that you should have as much of it as possible according to the PC crowd.
8:30 This is so on point, They become so addicted and obsessed with porn and all things explicitly -deviantly sexual , NO ONE can "mesure" up to their expectations. Devestating and very diminishing on your self-esteem and self-worth until you relalize and leave.
Theyll enjoy that and have several secret lives. Itll never be enough. U can explore , open , invite, no judgement, and maybe even go against your own comfort to please them. Its not enough. The thrill is in trickery and abuse. Not s3x itself. Ask me how i know @calebray4168
Wow, Thank you so much for explaining these in terms us regular ppl can fully understand without all the medical mumbo jumbo thrown in. My husband ticks all 5, which is so new for him it's had me questioning myself and the stranger he's become, even though we've been married for 38 yrs, together for 40. Never would I have thought this of him, but now realize this is exactly what it is. Again, thanks for sharing.
Down to the details, you really nailed this video! From them going through your crap, to destroying something someone else has, and they are big into having to know other people’s business
Danish, thank you in particular for this video, it delineates the narcissist in my life exactly. I say in my life, yet on January 1st, as he unleashed his worst treatment to date, I felt myself enter a state of calmness and acceptance that I'd reached my limit and finally could walk away, begin a new journey apart from him and heal. It's been difficult, I've been lonely and watched as some of our friends, without a word to me, chose to take his side. Such harsh treatment and yet I feel so much freedom from him and from fake friends.
As I went no-contact with my mother, I didn't realize HOW many people believed her lies or maybe didn't even believe her lies, but supported her over me because they wanted something from my mom. I ended up blocking SO MANY PEOPLE that I didn't expect would be so cruel to me. In the end, I realized I was so much better off without any of those flying monkeys in my life. Every now and then, she tries to contact someone in my life and try to hoover me through them. It's sick. They just can't stop. When they lose their narcissistic supply they go ballistic. Keep safe.
I have about 8 Narc Coaches that I follow religiously adore them all...but I have to say Danish you are my most favorite. You are very knowledgeable and it's like you've been peeking in my window because you describe my life to a T lol...
My "case" is an older sibling. The thing with going through your stuff... Oh my. We were in my mom's attick after her death. There was a box with my name on it. What did my narc sibling do? She ripped the box open right in front of me! That for me was a sign of no boundaries and zero respect for me. Why didn't I stop her? She was so tense and full of "heat" that I was afraid that if we fight, she may get physical. On the next day, I asked her if it was her envy to make her open the box. Her answer was yes. We were emptying my mom's apartment and the whole stay there was a horrible experience. She was aggressive, called me names, she was smashing things onto the floor in the kitchen. Afterwards, she wrote that she had to walk on egg shells and that I'm aggressive and yell around. This was the crucial moment when I understood that she's projecting, she's gaslighting, she's victimizing herself.
Your are a blessing!! Married to one for 35 yrs. He does everything you say. I have been a highly successful and have a strong character. Bad mouth me to my Mom and adult children. I have been able to turn this around by demonstrating them who I am. I have put locks in my office and bedroom. Silence and not responding to his negativity. They lie 24x7 will not taking accountability for the mistakes.
Exactly, Danish! Unless you have experienced people like this, will you understand! I admire anyone who keeps healing from the pain of this. It can be done once you free yourself and love yourself again. Blessings to you, for educating others, understanding, they are not crazy or the only ones healing.🙏🏻❤️🕊🌹
My mother made an unwanted visit some years back... I had thick plush and freshly vacced carpets. When I returned home after work she'd gone back to her own town as planned but she left her foot prints through the house with built up prints in front of drawers and wardrobes. Also when my Nana died I arrived to do a clean up and she had my Nanas jewellery stuffed in her pockets. (She was my deceased fathers mother). Eventually we became estranged.
@RaptureReadyforJesus-qv2ql it's just awful. I arranged with my mother to rent my great aunts (after she passed) for a time, and initially I would do a clean up in lieu of rent. My mother was going there often as she lived 2 hours away but I was 3.5 hours away. She asked what I needed so it could be a bit livable when we turned up. (My great aunt had the hoarding disorder). I said the oven working, some beds cleared and the kitchen bench. Thats it. We arrived (myself and 6 year old son). The bed had MOUNTAINS on them. The benches you could barely see one inch and of the entire oven we had 1 working top element. My mother had been there, but only to go through everything and get all the antiques and valuables. She had promised to help with the clean up but after doing 7 days a week for 7 weeks and getting all the op ships over getting stuff plus filling huge skip bins I realised she was against me not for me when she made contact about the rent payments due to start up. Market rent for an unlivable property. My friends advised pack up and move out. So I did.
@@rebeccabriggs2982 wow, that is intense. I have a friend that is a hoarder. What is sad is that she says they are broke, but they have thousands of dollars of good items that can be sold.
My Narc went on Facebook and instagram and hit on or tried to date anybody that I was friends with!!!! 😳😢😪 He literally tried to ruin as many of my friendships as he could! It’s sad to think that he actually thought for a second that he was that attractive OR he thought my friends didn’t know exactly what he’s about! They are SAD AND PATHETIC! And they get worse with age!
My narc husband was prescribed some pain medication that he mysteriously “lost”. One day he told my sister to make sure she locked up all her medication because I will steal it. She informed me that he said this so I confronted him about it and he went off on me. Later I found the bottle of pills that he tried to frame me for taking when I did no such thing.
Run. Leave as soon as you can. Besides the fact that this is a horrible situation for you, it‘s also almost hilarious from him and shows how sick these people are. Why on earth should a sane person „steal“ her husbands medication and (!) is going after her sisters (!) medications!?? Unless you are addicted to some sort of painkillers, there is absolutely no reason for such behavior. And if, why should a painkiller addict steal ALL medications, so that would be necessary to lock aspirin’s and vitaminpills and all that stuff away? That’s ridiculous. But logical thinking isn’t their thing, their psychotic. Good bless you and best wishes to get out of this soon, safe, healthy and get your life back.
I’m sorry but you haven’t given enough details to make a proper judgment. How you know he “framed” you? That just seems extremely exaggerative. How you know he didn’t lose the bottle or misplace it then found it?
@@Herbstzeitlosyou’re putting a lot of words in there that she didn’t even say. This is the problem with these videos. Y’all commenting jump to conclusions and begin to sound like narcissists. Plenty of em use baser logic in their arguments, and I don’t think you’re a clinical psychologist so let’s keep the diagnoses and symptoms to ourselves? You’re projecting your story onto hers and neither of you know each other. Both of you could be narcissists, present yourself with some humility instead of just a laundry list of what the other person has done, and that’ll paint a clearer picture. Anybody can just blame the other.
Omg your best vid yet u just get better and better at revealing the truth and validating us thrivers. Duper's delight!😂 Gossiping, destroying belongings, snooping, reading journals , stealing, hiding your things, throwing away something precious of yours, starting random arguments, sowing confusion and chaos, all this I've witnessed
The goal was that nobody was supposed to know what was going on...even if it was nothing. It feels so refreshing to be able to live a real life instead of a fake one.
absolutely superb, comprehensive description. spoken with the deep understanding and compassion of one who has survived living within the surreal borders of the narcissist's evil fantasy land
Every video I watch of yours describes my husband to a T. Hearing it all out loud makes me feel sick, it stabs me in the heart and twists. My Mother and older brother were both Narcissistic. I feel like they kinda prepared me for the endless years of loneliness I would have to endure with my husband. Truthfully I never realized I was fighting through it with my husband until I got older. I was only sixteen with no life experiences when we started dating. I'm fifty one this year. When I sit back and relive all the memories in my head I want to hate them all but in truth they really helped me by showing me how much greater God's love was compared to theirs. Honestly I look forward to the days that are coming with my Lord and Father in heaven. To feel nothing but their acceptance, love, joy and to finally know peace.
@dgriner7463 @@jbrown2908 yes, dear, go and live your life. I have had two narcissistic ex-husbands, cruel men who hurt me very badly. And I was definitely groomed for that by my parents. Yet at 52, after 4 years of avoiding romance, I found the love of my life, and I am forever changed, maybe even starting to heal. 51 is young - keep your heart open 💖
Sadly my dad is SO like this. My dad can make 40-80 phone calls a day looking for supply when he’s alone. Calling his old high school girlfriend 5-10 times in a row, calling anyone you can think of.. calling them over and over again until they pick up the phone or block him. We saw this in his cell phone history on the phone bill.
You’re so spot on it’s like you know the person. Every damn thing you’ve said he’s done, how do they live in their own head with so much going on for nothing.
Doctor what you're saying is so true. I play bingo in the minute I walk out the door and say I forget something I've caught him and mischievous cruel behavior every single time😢
Oh my goodness! My journal, I haven't seen it in months.😢 my money is always missing "It was just here." He better not try to come back 😤. I will call the police. That's my attitude after 2 yrs. Today.
have been watching ur channel a lot these past 2 days and its has initiated a tremendous spark of healing in me.I thank you, sir, and this universe for bringing me the support I needed.❤❤❤
Thank you for making me understand how all this happened to me I don’t feel safe in my house all my clothing is gone now I locked my door and my clothes thank you
That's the absolute worst, when you don't feel safe in your own home. You gotta get out and go no contact. I know it's hard but it's the best thing that will happen to you...being free. ❤
I have never heard anyone ever describe in such fine detail and exactness how they can really be. It is sheer cruelty. I know you have experienced what you are talking about because I've been through those same things. Finally someone explaining it perfectly. I was mentally abused for 13 years by my wife !
I'm broken up w my narcissist but we still live in the same house for now and I leave every weekend and as much as possible and I have done so for years and every time I leave he goes through my room, my stuff.... I've always wondered about this behavior. This video is so spot on!
I went through all this and more. I finally had to have her evicted, she wouldn't leave. Then she took my car after the eviction and disappeared, for four months,I had to hire a private detective. The night they got my car back it was a huge spectacular event, 10-13 police, her in handcuffs. And the next day she texted me saying how wrong I was for taking my car back. I just ignored her.
@@camsteph67to create distance.. to have time apart to "cool down", maybe planning something in a few days and come home later, or dissappear for a while.. they have no empathy for other unless others can notice their actions and get praise from it.. you feel they have no inner thoughts at times but they are very calculated when they want to get away and interact with their supply.
Absolutely. They give no real love or support but demand it from you. If you dare point out this hypocrisy they go bonkers. Bottom line is they're always right and you're always wrong
@@regcreational6447you’re talkin about personally. This guy is talkin about just commenting online. Nobody knows wth they’re talkin about and throws this word around so much. Repeated bad behavior and dysfunction should not be tolerated. That’s it. No need to run around diagnosing everyone.
I don’t remember you being in my house growing up! These are behaviors both of my parents acted out. I grew up saying “I am not going to be like that when I grow up “ but I was doing some of the things they did and I went through 17 years (on and off) with several psychologists learning how to overcome those behaviors. I am so grateful for people like you.
They become spiritusl gurus and give "advice" to people online. Also if they live with people they prowl around listening at doors, to hear what's being said, in case it's useful to them later. They also tap phones just to keep tabs on what might be being said (it could be about them). The rest of the time they're in fantasy about their brilliant selves. Actually, they keep themselves busy!
Holy CRAP - this is the playbook in order that my ex-husband followed every time I tried to leave him. Nobody and I mean NOBODY believed me at the time when I tried to tell them what was happening in our house and there are still people drinking his Kool Aid now.
Glad you got away! We all believe you! And there are plenty of us who do. Those who are supporting are either the same kind of person or incredibly naïve. Or they get some sort of benefit out of being around that person financial or other attributes. I learned it is best never to try and convince anyone else unless they’ve been through it themselves they don’t understand it.
omg I never put that together that he might have deliberately allowed other people, (women) to take my clothes and jewelry when I was gone. It makes sense he would allow that disrespect of me just to insure I felt insecure in my own home. I can't believe I took all his abuse personally for so long, wasted tears, wasted years and beat down my self-esteem. It's only been about a year since I've seen videos like yours that I now realize the truth of the whole relationship sadly they're selfishness hurts the kids too! He literally did every one of those things you said! Except he also ran to his enabling lil-sister. You make me think maybe he was the one who stole 4k from me when I thought it might be someone else. Thanks for the insight.
Right before my husband moved out permanently, he slashed a huge hole in my beautiful, gorgeous red sofa that he knew I loved. He blamed it on the dog 😖 Psycho
I left the narc 2 yrs ago and this is soooo accurate. He has now stolen my personality (that he expressed that he hated) and acting like me. Has convinced MY daughter of how bad I am. He NEVER treated his own children this way. My daughter is being heavily recruited for college and bowling. I believe he wants her success as his own. He has blocked me from all forms of communication even though he is not a legal guardian at all.
Had my identity stolen 3 times so far, not joking. The main problem is it acts like a wedge between the victim and their "native environments", robbing them of their place in the world. Narcissistic abuse needs serious investigation efforts ASAP and put the perpetrators in prison where they belong.
This description - particularly towards the end, concerning substance abuse, and artificial relationships, sounds like the lives and personalities of many celebrities - like Diddy, Kanye West, and females like JLo and Madonna!
My ex would say ‘if you’re not doing anything wrong, you won’t care if I went through your stuff’. Did the same thing when he was posting very private stuff online. ‘If it’s not wrong, what difference does it make who knows?’
It is so true they always put the blame on you. They’re always the victim. They never do anything wrong. Meanwhile, they lie, steal, and cheat on a regular basis because it’s habitual for them and without any remorse really disheartening to know that someone that you thought loved you has zero compassion for you
You are describing my youngest daughter(she is an adult and there always been drama follow wherever she goes, even in pre-school she would lie and cause trouble for other kids) and my ex-husband. Except self-hatred they love themselves and are extremely confident. I was always on edge around then because you don’t know what is going to trigger them. I have BPD2 and with the help of my psychiatrist, psychologist and medication I have realised and accepted I am not crazy but it is best to have very little contact and from now on only in public with my youngest daughter(she won’t cause drama or become abusive in public) I love being on my own with my dog in my pool or craft room we will listen to music or binge watch tv whilst she gets all the ribby rubs and chin scratches. Life alone is good. I don’t think I will ever trust again not my children and not even my parents.
Very true. My dog Brook was killed, my clothes burnt, lost Very important docs, called all my friends and relatives telling them crap about me. Brought different women in my house.😢I only knew about narcissism too late after 30+ years, hoping this man would change. You 100% describe a man I have lived with for long.
I think thats the reason I find it impossible to be with someone because all they eventually tufn out to be narcs and i have my two lovely cats even imagining that someone come into my house and try to hurt them makes my head burst from panic. I dont care if sth happens to me but not to my cats.
@@julia1j1j1 Mine had become obsessed with OnlyFans. It seems perfect for a narc. All the power & control to have them fulfill their kink & no commitment involved.
Everything u say is so true...I'm involved with a Narcissist my life is in ruins 3 years now & I feel like I can't recover or be whole again after this
Oh my god! I wish I could find your channel earlier. 10 minutes of straight facts. Thank you so much for this. The gossiping point you talked about is so real. And when you said those lines starting from 9:55 (I guess) were so satisfying. You spoke for me, thanks again. My gosh, narcissist are evil. It is a curse to live with them.
😮Idk what's more shocking-that other people had the same experiences as me or that you find SO many minute details that are painful-even forgotten-but never resolved!
What’s bad is that you don’t find this out until years later. Near the end when you start realizing . And they always get people to believe them . My husbands mother was evil. She knew what he did to me and encouraged him. She knew that he left me with a baby and never picked up the phone to ask if we needed anything. He was staying with her!
Because you "stole" her son from her. Be happy you got away...... You are free now to find someone who really loves you. My narcissistic mother abused my dad -- emotionally, isolated him from all his siblings, stole things from my paternal grandmother, badmouthed everyone constantly. When he died, I found a will in which he left everything to me. Only problem is, my mother managed to get everything into a living trust, and made the will invalid. They are sneaky and evil. I know you don't feel like it now, but you are SO LUCKY to be free of him. I pray you find someone who has NORMAL parents, and who KNOWS how to love you, and make your happiness his happiness.
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What is REALLY paining me for you is, how shameless your formal roommate was. Imagine: he came from PRAYING to God straight to steal your money. Wtf?????
BINGO!
THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I'M GOING THROUGH AS I'M WRITING THIS!
the primary male brain variant behavior (narcissistic originator, umempath. etc) is being removed from the behavioral disorders manuals without assuring that those with an "off-functional" brain, that afflicts one of eight males (and that they did not choose), will have the security of those with a normally empathetic and better functioning brain. (from brain scans)
It is a tragedy to see someone who "Much like a Person Who Can Recognise Music Under Alzheimers/Dementia From Within their Dreamy Chains ⛓️ Still Cry Out For Freedom"
ChookScrolled |🐔
Spot on. Right now . and last 10 years... I'll never get those years back. ThankcGod i know that its something that is being Showed to me from God to make me Even stronger , super empath then before..❤❤❤❤❤
Jokes on them . truthfully
They love to aggravate you to watch you get upset but when you call them out on their bs, they back down. Evil, weak, cowards who do not like themselves
And they also play the victim
Yes they are the biggest cowards! What a joke!
no they never back down thats why they are narcissists
They think that going around destroying people makes them feel powerful, that is until you figure them out, then they are like a scared little animal and then play the victim because in their twisted minds somebody else made them do it, because they deserved it. They'll NEVER take responsibility for their actions. They'll gaslight and tell anybody who calls them out that they are the crazy one. They're so miserable with there own lives, that the only that makes them happy is destroying anybody who is a threat to them in some way.
You might watch a strange flip to a friendly face when you point out the truth.
“Their life is all about pretending to be somebody or something that they are not.”
FACTS
Fake people Fake life
So true. It’s like a parallel life, like the Twilight Zone
Yes, they study you and take notes over whatever makes them hate and envy you. They then start on a strategic path to defame you, slander you, and make up lies to tear you down to your associates and people who know you. All this while stealing your career, hobbies, personality, style, phrases and god knows what else. All in an attempt to become you and making you into them in the eyes of others, so projection
I read your comment over and over and over and over again saying to myself how is that even possible? how can someone do that?
What's always surprising to me is just how obsessed narcissists are with what other people are doing.
And how they live in detail😅
My opinion is that they are interested in the details of other people's lives for a reason. Everyone has problems in their lives, and the narc is scoping out room to exploit. The interest is as usual out of evil intention, and not concern or affection.
Yes but if you actually try to tell them what you're doing as part of a normal conversation they glaze over or use it as a jumping off point to talk about themselves. It seems like they are only interested in the info they get by sneaking around and stalking 🤷♀️
So obsessed with other peoples business! AVOID them at all costs! They disrespect all boundaries! Help themselves to your personal things! Nosey and gossips! They are poison ,nothing is private! But you are the problem in their eyes! Yes they call us crazy!
Yes!!! My ex is a churchy covert narcissist. He's like an old church lady, scrabbling for gossip and tucking it away, to use at just the right time. Tiny, nasty little man.
They probably talk to themselves. The love the sound of their voices!
Never allow idiots to doubt your abilities
We need to teach young people about these monsters. Should be the high school curriculum, in a health class. To be the victim of one of these soul destroyers changes you at the core, we need to protect our children.
My God, what you say resonates very deeply. I could have saved so much pain and heartache had I learned back then.
Yes! Absolutely. With enough education, we can help future generations avoid getting abused the way we did.
This narcissism problem is not going away. It's only going to get worse.
Preach ❤
Yes, this is why I plan to make ebooks starting for 5th graders on up to college age and get these ebooks into the hands of as many students as possible. Young people NEED to be educated on the dangers of these narcs so that young people can be equipped with who to choose as friends and a romantic partner and know who to avoid. Hopefully less people's lives will be ruined this way. If you want to know how to support this cause, please let me know here. Thanks!
Yes. Then some would figure out their parent(s) have strong narcissistic traits. They would need help! What then? Complicated 😔😔
I love my own company, I pray people leave me alone simply because I am realising narcissists are everywhere espcailly in the work place
True. Every job that I’ve worked , there are narcs , especially management.
I'm same.
Ditto
True me too!!!
I used to enjoy working around people until I got burned too many times by "friendly" coworkers. Now I'm happiest working from home and owning my own business.
If you want real peace and happiness leave the narc forever and never look back again
Until you're DECEIVED AGAIN by another!
Yep. Love yourself enough to leave. They never change.
it's the only healthy choice
While I agree wholeheartedly, sadly it’s easier said than done. Maybe I’m too much an empath but it makes me angry with myself that I worry how my husband would manage if I left and, it may sound silly to some, but we have 4 cats and I couldn’t imagine leaving them behind so I just deal with my existence and keep worrying about everything but me😳😤😰🤢🥺
Just what I have done for the past 8 months at a cost of marriage,children etc she keeps turning up at the door knowing I won't answer.
I went through this for the last 20+ years, married to a narcissist. Our relationship was so fake and shallow and he treated me like I was the problem, so I spent two decades trying to fix myself and work on myself. I finally hit rock bottom and was so mentally and emotionally exhausted, and anxiety ridden to the point where I would shake and have a panic attack just sitting next to him. I filed for divorce and ALL of these things you mentioned happened. It was 100x worse than anything I experienced in my marriage, a complete nightmare that is still going on two years later. I am determined to fight my way out and get away from him, and save our children from further abuse. This is spot on.
God bless you. I wish you all the luck in the world.
I’m so amazed with the knowledge that you have about a Narcissist. I was Married to One for 23yrs and knew that there was Something really Strange and also can be really Wicked. but I did not know during that time what a narcissist was. there was so much humiliation Spiteful It was
As if he had multiple personalities. I never knew Who
He would become next. He was So fake when he needed me for His Supply. he almost destroyed me, But God is Good and he saved me.
I was in a relationship with a pathological liar whose weapon of choice was plausible deniability. He was also extremely sadistic and enjoyed watching you go crazy trying to prove yourself. I recall him having a smirk on his face when I would try to prove something and him calling me forgetful, paranoid and easily triggered. Sick!
Going through this right now. It’s sickening how they bait and taunt you and when you lose it they smirk. 😢 it’s bizarre to see the satisfaction in their face.
I can relate ❤🙏🏽💆🏽♀️but heal take the steps needed not to let the trail
Subconsciously control you
I finally learned I don't have to justify myself. If I justify myself to someone, that gives them the upper hand.
Yup! That smirk is undeniable !!
Even if you are forgetful, paranoid and easily triggered, it's usually only around them, and after they've worn you down with their BS
My ex husband did it all. Took money from my purse or savings stash, went thru my stuff, read my journals and threw my clothes and belongings away. He would tell his “friends” that I was a horrible person. Talk about me behind my back.
All this time he’s not working or doing anything to help around the house and I’m working full time and making dinner etc.
After I finally got out, it was great to break all of these habits that he had me trained to do. Freedom from the narcissist is bliss.
Mine did some similar things. At one point I think he had a recording device hidden in the house.
Sounds familiar!!!
Truths!!!! Spend so much time trying to destroy others!
were you married to my ex?
Happy for you!
Narcissists are always at war with themselves, therefore they have no peace and sabotage yours.
Well said.
My narcissist threw away a jacket from my college without asking me. They hate seeing your successes in life. What I hate is that they try so hard to act like they love and wanna help you, but it's wrong, it's all wrong! Because how can you love someone without respect?
I have always said you can't love someone you don't respect.
On a wedding "gift" that he gave me in 2007, my narc changed my last name back to my maiden name that I had not used since 1988 when I married him in 2007. He didn't want to see my ex's last name. How idiotic? When my daughter dies, he said he would cancel the life insurance payout if I didn't let him spend the money how he wanted to spend it. He also invited his family to a private visitation at the funeral home after I told him it was only for her brothers and sisters. I had to text and tell them NOT to come. They were puffed up about.
She tormented me to throw away the 4 scarfs my mother lovely knitted stitch for me during two years for freezing winters. The same did against my university books. She took me apart from my family, friends and sport hobby. Finally I brook this toxic relationship to recover myself and try to find love with reciprocity.
@@IT-lr9is same here! My mother hasa always been jealous of me and at 12 years old I knitted an open work sweater which was pretty difficult to do and I was proud of it. After a few years I wanted to know where my sweater was and she had trown away my sweater, can you believe it? What mother does trow away a sweater of her daughter who has put so much effort and love in knitting her sweater? She also threw away a beautiful little vase which I made at a pottery barn at age 9. They do everything to destroy what you love! But at that time 20 years I did not know that my mother was a narcissist. I discovered it only 5 years ago at age 50!! Fortunately through platforms like this narcissism has been discussed so much more than in the 80/90ties. That is why it is so important to learn about narcissism! Now I am no contact with my family and I am at peace!
@@Rosalie-ct8mi My narcissist is constantly looking for things to throw away. They are destroyers.
I truly feel really bad for anyone that is in a relationship with a narcissist
I don't sorry, because they have a choice to move on, i realy don't undetstand why.
It sucks! Glad I broke free to grow!
@@BbBb-xe5pqa covert narcissist will play a game to have you believe things are fine until BOOM! So you can't say that is something to disregard, like you should've left. They love bomb making you believe they are super sweet until you catch on
My husband is narsist
@@BbBb-xe5pq because of children
They cannot stand to be alone 😂 they will constantly look for an unaware supply
You nailed it.
Afraid of their own shadow!
That's what I have seen.
Mama here... 🙋
Or prey;-)
1. Hunt for supply on social media
2. Go through your private things
3. Smear Campaign
4. Contact old Supply (or enabling family members)
5. Use substances, watch porn
My life currently and planning on my departure here shortly. Of course it's all gotta be planned in secret. You cannot just be up front and say you want out of the relationship. You must plan "the escape"
They will stalk your social media
All of these... TRUTH!!! 😕
THANK YOU FOR THE 5 PTS. 😊
True
My narc husband, has been dead for a year. We were living apart for the last 12 yrs of a 38 yr marriage., because of his cheating, and drugging. I still enjoy watching these videos and still trying to figure out what happened in My life. My memories are all that is left, and it feels good to look back and Now know.. what I was in the middle of, but was not aware...I will keep learning to find my peace, in my good memories of my life with him. I will not let him rob me of the good memories.bcause he was sick
Make new memories
You lucky dog. You had me at “my narc is dead”. That would sure accelerate my divorce. 😂
@@dontbeadogsbody3564hahahahahahaha!!!!
I pray for your healing.
You are sick
My husband would do these things. One day I wanted to clean everything up high so I got the ladder and as soon as I climbed up on it in the kitchen, I found some of my makeup and perfume up there. I couldn't believe he blamed our daughters. Danish is spot on with everything he says. I listen to him everyday. ❤
I know it was him. My daughters would've used my stuff, not hide it.
Wow that's demented..
So true. My narc ex said to me "Every chance he had to cheat he took it" Just proves I was NEVER on his mind 🤦♀️
He said that to punish you.
I know a narc who is always sending random snap in Snapchat to show how wonderful and busy their life is, when in reality they have nothing going on and are just being fake .
I realized that that last one I went out with has almost a million snaps and it occurred to me for him to have that many he’s has to literally be doing it ALL day. I just thought he was lonely and it was a cry to be seen and wanted so I invited him into my life. But it’s just that can’t stand to be alone in the glorious life he brags about to make other people feel small and needs to make you feel small in person. One of the days he gave me the silent treatment he still sent over 200 to someone? I guess 10 an hour doesn’t seem like much when I write it) But if he discards people as fast as he did me than who knows how many sources of supply this guy has as once- gotta be a wild network, while I’m sitting here a lonely introvert thinking of just him 🤦🏻♀️
@@Khaegch-favh the person I know he sends 100-200 snaps a day usually during weekends. Like seriously what are you snapping about that much exactly. It’s wild they are soo attached to social media. I have stopped opening his private snaps he sends as he sends the same to many people. He can go figure.
That’s everyone on earth on social media 😂 Channels like this are interesting, but always remember no one is “typical” and much of this is a social construction.
@@SuperStella1111 No it’s not. But if you missed the point than maybe you’re the narc?
@@SuperStella1111 you're projecting right now fam 😂 self awareness, get some please
This is why once again I trust nobody and I don’t care when nobody says me personally, I assume that everybody’s a narcissist, until they prove themselves to me otherwise cause if not, you’re not coming into my house and you’re not coming into my space and that’s real talk
That’s the hard truth.
I’d say everyone is a bit narcissist in some way or another but yeah I agree
That’s really sad
Indeed!
Just know that we ALL carry 1-3 traits in us. You must have 5 or more to be a narc. So if you see 1-3 traits in someone please don't assume they're a narc. There are also other mental disorders which overlap narcissism and look like it so please be very careful. People get called narcs a lot when they are not
they also act dumb on purpose to get under your skin or act like they don’t under you so you can repeat yourself several times
That's a deep one. Thanks for the reminder
I do believe they will hold back information from people to keep power over them because they are insecure and know that information in the hands of someone smarter than they are will knock them down and call them out.
Five years down the line of cognitive therapy -still healing from a type of Palilalia he deliberately caused with this action.
That’s my elderly mother. She did it for as long as I can remember
I absolutely can not stand when they do that!!!! And they know it too! And I've even tried it back on them and they don't react, but they seem to do it less often. It's just a joke dealing with these narcs! Day in day out so predictable & maddening.
After so much struggles I now own a new house and my family is happy once again everything is finally falling into place!!
I am so glad for you! Enjoy your happy family and let there be peace and joy 🎉🙏
Good for you
They send nasty emails, nasty texts to try to draw you back in.
Every time my phone dings I’m scared to look at the texts. I’m constantly on eggshells waiting for the nasty text messages. His favorite is telling me if I don’t like it get my own phone plan. Then when I call him mean he says why are you with me then.
@@Smurfyis730 Yes I'm now separated from a narcissist husband. He was a liar and very jealous
What kind of nasty texts for example are you referring to?
@@prospectalpha5730 are u a narc trying to learn new tricks?
Why can't you imagine what "nasty text" means?
@@factomator Exactly. I won't add anything I don't see written frequently anyway. I won't give them easy access to ideas.
They never miss an opportunity to make your life miserable.
Perfectly said
And everyone else in the household 😢
Exactly! They cannot stand it if anybody is better than them in any way. Even their own children. They are very insecure individuals.
The love grill chicken
Amen! I hope it's exhausting for them.
You don't have to be a shrink to know that they will never be happy! Their misery is their company!
Yes, and that is somebody elses fault.
@@northstar5919 LOL, you know it
The last few weeks I'm thinking I can't smile around them :( cause they won't like it. I laughed a few times today with 1 of my kids, it was good, I've hardly been able to in ages
Narcissists have created large amounts of Karmic Debt because they intentionally try to destroy those good people who had nothing but good intentions and love for them. Dear Karma, IT'S ME. Karma says, I GOT THIS!
Narcissists can't stand to be alone in their own head. I was entangled with one I initially considered a friend - she would call everyone who will talk to her, one after the other, talking crap about all the other people. If you didn't answer you'd get a passive aggressive or openly hostile text message.
'Talking crap about all the other people " 😂😂 so very accurate!!
They hate it when you don’t call them back.
They talk crap and I’m wedding them out right now!
Channels like yours have saved my sanity!
I was triangulated and victimized by my narcissistic mother-in-law & her narcissistic son for years before I realized they were a dangerous duo (couple of sickos)!
Thank you for empowering & educating others by sharing your experience!🙏
Same here! His mom even took me shopping a few times. When I told her I felt unsafe with her son, she told me this story about another couple who were violent with each other but remained together because they loved each other. Crazy I stayed a few more years mainly due to her advice
My husband made our friends think he thought the world of me. All the time, he was abusive, emotionally, financially, and sometimes physically and sexually. But not so much of the last 2. And it was always behind closed doors.
Hugs and love to you sweetheart ❤
Creating a false self-image on social media (matching their false self) with achievements they do not have credit for, and trying to get all sorts of attention either bragging about themselves or making themselves victims.
Sounds like just about every person on the internet- fb for sure 😩
@@effthamatrix I think it is when it is on a another level. Straight up lies. It is also depending on a lot of other factors, like context. I mean if a young person does it because of insecurity for example is very much different from an middle aged adult who have fabricated a fake persona with fake merits because of their grandiose delusions.
@@johannajuutilainen4779 Exactly. My narcissistic mother posted a picture of my grandmother, herself, and me, and posted some kind of statement about a "loving family." Um.... that picture was taken when my grandmother visited us in Arkansas, and my mother yelled at her and made her cry so bad, she got a Greyhound bus and left the next day. My mother was HORRIBLE to my grandmother. No mention of that in her Facebook post. :( No one would guess it was NOT a "loving family" at all........ "false self." My grandmother has grey-rocked my mom since that visit in 1983 or 1984.
@d0v3Tai1 I disagree. They showed how people should be humble enough to admit when they've done something wrong. Normal family dynamics contain people who understand it is not right to hurt others. In the abuse cases I've seen in the emergency room, parents do not feel they've done anything wrong. These people are sick. And they will lie, kill, anything to make sure no one destroys their false image. I didn't realize it was abnormal for family members to badmouth others behind their back until left my family, and met people with NORMAL families. People who grow up in abnormal family dynamics think that "All in the Family" is normal. It is not. Normalizing that kind of hurtful behavior causes a continuation of the cycle, and is why we have a bevy of narcissists running the world.
@@johannajuutilainen4779 yes there are varying degrees of bs ….some dude or woman pretending to be much younger to chat w the kiddies- no good 😫
You’re so spot on! Narcissist ex would text & talk to his mom all throughout the day like they were dating. He thought I should take care of him & give him everything his mom does, including paying for everything. It was gross.
It's worse when your narc husband talks to the mom and siblings in a foreign language you don't understand.
It is gross, it amazes me when grown men aren't at all embarrassed to mooch off women. I'm amazed how many are absolutely looking for a mommy, someone to financially support them too.
My narcissist mother is always on the phone talking someone's ear off and boring them to death. People don't answer the phone when she calls. Her partner watches TV all day so he doesn't have to talk to her. Her former husband didn't even live with her. That's why they got along.
True......Another thing .....They tell many stories more than a hundred times.....Nobody can hear them anymore.....LOL.....They have such a dreadful life that there is nothing new to tell....
Same Here, thanks for the comment 😮, I am so Saddened by then whole thing…Girls!: Be careful out there please ❤ & Be Safe Cuties…
My narcissistic mother was going through all of my personal things when I was not home. I found some items "missing" from my home. She used to go into my house when I was @work. I've gotten my key back. I didn't realize that she was doing this until I learned she was a narcissist. The nerve of her!!! She would constantly come by my house whenever she felt like it. So, she would use my key and barge in my home. She would not like it if I were to do that to her. I also found out that she gossiped about me to my relatives, my stepdad, and my siblings. I've gone NC with her two years ago.
Sounds a lot like the narcissist I deal with. Always eager to "clean my room and help." My mother throws away my things, like mail, food, any purchases I make. I've found lots of my personal belongings in the trash and when confronted about it she cries and makes me feel bad about it? So twisted. This is mind boggling to someone who would never think to do such a thing.
The same happened to me.
I used to be a singer. She deleted all my recordings and cut holes in my lingerie. Cut my long hair while I was asleep. Pure evil
Wow. It’s so weird how narcs are almost all the same, I understand. My mom was the same. She went through my drawers, read my diary/notes and try to find any “secret” I had. Strangely, she would never ask me how my day was or talk to me directly if she had any concerns, it was easier for her to go through my things, ask my friends/ my bf about me and had the nerve to tell them to keep it a secret from me 🙄
My narcissistic mother would always accuse other people of stealing. :( Recently I learned she was the one stealing....... it's crazy. They are delusional.
That exact thing happened to me by my mother. Years and years before I found this out when I found out she was a narrcisist. I though she just hated me. Then it was she hated me and was trying g to destroy me, at time I thought I was going crazy, I was even suicidal. Wow, so many years wasted.
At least I have answers now and don't have to go through that again.
It’s insane the types of things these ppl will make up just to tear you apart especially when you make a stand for yourself and leave. Everything from bashing you to everyone making up lies to destroy your image to framing you for things you didn’t do and if you have kids they will try to take them from you and tell you your the one who’s a narcissist and mentally ill. Iv tried so hard to make this person see this relationship wasn’t working out and Iv wanted to escape for years and they’d love bomb over and over to trick me and make me think things were gonna change but they never did for long. I left bc I was feeling so sick like he’s killing me and I feel so strongly in my spirit that’s what he’s trying to do. I will not waist my life dealing with that and feeling like the trauma and suffering constantly trying to argue how things happens standing up to myself when they deny everything and twist everything it’s awful. I believe these ppl are possessed by something very evil and alls I can do is pray for him now and make up time and years Iv lost being a mentally strong mother for my kids and just being happy and safe. I pray protection for all those dealing with anyone like this . Take care of yourselves especially you mothers out there you have to be mentally strong for your kids don’t let these men steal your lives from you. We only get one life down here God does not want us to be less then what he’s made us to be and especially doesn’t want us being abused and manipulated by fear. Brothers and Sisters break free and pray for these ppl.
I was with you 100% until you went sexist and said, "...especially you mothers..." Plenty of narc wives lie to the police and judges and falsely accuse good husbands of DV just to get more money and/or sole custody with the clear intent to destroy their husbands completely.
Thank you so much for this post!!! I am married to a narcassist who destroys everything i own, whose every minute of his everyday is focused on destroying me and others cannot see this. Its hard for people to understand the extent a narcassist will go to harass and intimidate their spouse. You hit the nail on the head with these 5 narcassistic traits!
They like to abuse their pets when no one is around. Thanks Danish, you're experience and skill in explaining narcissism is amazing.
I DON'T THINK THEY HAVE PETS. THEY ARE NOT CAPABLE OF LOVING THEM.
Not capable
@@caragare3214 I don't have my glasses on and didn't catch the mistake.
yeah, unfortunately they have pets and use them for supply.
Yeah he used the dog as a way for me to go there. He hits the dog, I heard the dog cry once. @@consciousmob
All of this is 💯% true,Danish. He complains about folks being glued to their cellphones but he’s on every type of social media,including TikTok, that’s available. I write in code so he can’t figure out what I’m writing in my diary. They’re very destructive so I never let him have access to anything of mine. The narc that I know lies when there absolutely no reason to lie.
How can you live like this whewwww Chile ......you are altering reality for the narc ...get out now
Yup my narc ex moved in his mother and shes a narc as well. They were planning on taking my son all for themselves behind my back and cutting me out of the picture by gaslighting me into signing SMI, saying i was mentally ill when i am not. My ex was sexually abusing our child and the grandmother knew about it and enabled him! Im so sick of these people. Everything that is said in this video is exactly 💯
OMG how did you manage to get out if that and save your kid?
That's horrifying. Narcs LOVE to accuse their target of being mentally ill, I've seen it a lot.
I was sexually abused by relatives. My parents knew and did nothing.
@@RaptureReadyforJesus-qv2ql it is unbeleivable heatbreaking to read. I hope you are on the path of healing now! 💚
@@Rosalie-ct8mi you are so kind! 💕 Yes!!!! I am healing and happy.
"They cannot sit in their own shade"...that is very deep. Delusions on the grandest scale😢
My Karma, I am rising up. So very many opportunities are in my view, Thank you Danish. BIGGEST HUGGS BROTHER
they cannot be alone or or at least sit down for 30 minute in one place.
they do same things as what kids do or look for immediate supply
AMEN 🙏🏽
YES.. can't handle quiet either. Always tv, music or endless chatter about themselves of course.. Because if it's quiet they have to face their demons.
What if you have adhd?
Be quiet 🤫
My husband tore my shirts, broke my ear ring, keep my important stuff and pretend as if he does not know what i am talking about. He hates my stuff from his core... He punctured an air teddy sofa given by my family to my daughter for her second birthday when she cried he said our baby did it where as he punched it using a pen. He destroyed my journal and said our kid did. He is a God of Selfishness. We are married for last 8 years but separated after 2 years of marriage. Since the first day till now, no change in him. Just that i am aware now whats going on and still learning how to deal with him.
Im so sorry. Glad you understand your husband appears severely mentally ill, will not change, not your job to change him, your job now is what you are doing. Hope you remain free and can get far away from rhis dangerous behavior. It is not petty it is telling the future. Document! Tell everyone to get Court to keep you safe and alive.
Yes. But unfortunately i am not working. I have full responsibility of my daughter. He has zero contribution except finance, but he pretends infront of everyone as if he has equal contribution in parenting but trust me zero. Brutally hurt physically by him 4 to 5 times. He hurt oir daughter 2 to 3 times physically too. Going through trauma and depression but fighting back to come normal. Thanks for these videoes or i would not have alive now. Want to learn a skill , financial independence than will move far away. Now stuck with this monster. Pray for me please🙏🏻
One day i will be out of this cage i am in alive along with my daughter. 🙏🏻
Need a lots of prayer for me. Thank you❤
@noplacelikehome2.0
Wow... horrid... hope you are all healing.
Unbelievable 😮 such a poor example of human being
Myaccount@ Try to learn about social services in your area for abused women. There are shelters and legal services. But remember !!! Say nothing about your plans to your husband. He is violent toward you and your child, so you have to act now in secrecy Just pack prepare everything in secret and leave when he is not home.💝
My ex husband has done every one of these things! It’s incredible to me just how much alike they all are; as if it’s one evil entity that they have all let in rather then individual people. 🤔
Only voices and bodies are different
@@yuu_miran So true!!
It's because their ego is annihilated from childhood abuse.
If there's nothing there, it's as empty in every narcissist.
Thank you Danish for this channel. i am somebody who has been mistreated by people with mental issues. I'm not a doctor so i won't try to say whether or not they are narcissists. The problem is that i've started to become very toxic since then. I've definitely taken on some of the narcissistic traits as a self defense mechanism and your channel has helped in raising my self awareness. I have days where i'm just very mean and cold and put myself above others. I know it's not right and i am set to begin counseling very soon. I ultimately don't think i'm a narcissist. More like a wounded animal lashing out in pain. I want so badly to love myself and others and be the kind person that i used to be.
They cause so much hurt and damage, yet they live so damn long.
Probably a myth IMO.
Karma will catch up with them and it won't be pretty.
Will spend eternity in hell though!! 😊
So true
Rubbish doesn't die😢
After I tought I was a narc,I'm happy too see this video,I don't do these things
I didn't know about narcissism until in mt 60es. I was so sad, i thought I was going to die. I was praying God to help me. All of a sudden these videos about narcissism start popping on TH-cam. I finally realized why i had nervous breakdowns, why i was sad. Seems like most of the people in my life were narcissist, people i loved dearly, my mother, my sister, my husband, uncles, aunts, in-laws. Now, i teach my children and grandchildren to be cautious.
I’ve had the same experience. In my early 70s when I found out. Like you, very sad much of my life. The stress was so extreme that I got MS and cannot walk now. So I was never able to escape, so far. What I am grateful for are these videos and all the info out on narcissism now.
At least knowing and understanding what in the Hell happened to my life has kept me from
going crazy!!!
The same here. God has seen
Same here, I knew nothing. Sadly, I lost my husband I loved very much. My sister never came to the funeral, so cruel. She did drive by tge church though.
Then my stepson committed suicide. After that my mother passed. I try not to remember how now she wants me to disappear. My 1st Christmas in 64 years alone. Yet I'm not alone. Jesus Christ is my Saviour. With faith in Him we have eternity to look forward to. I thank Him and pray to not murmur. I believe the test can be a testimony. God bless you. 🛐🕯✝️
I was told about sociopaths when I was in my early 40s and how they deliberately sabotage your goals. Not accidentally but deliberately. But then I was told it wasn't politically correct to call someone a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath as apparently those were insulting terms, sociopaths and psychopaths didnt exist and nobody could have too much self esteem. Self esteem was considered good and that you should have as much of it as possible according to the PC crowd.
8:30 This is so on point, They become so addicted and obsessed with porn and all things explicitly -deviantly sexual , NO ONE can "mesure" up to their expectations. Devestating and very diminishing on your self-esteem and self-worth until you relalize and leave.
And what if you’re a freak but still respect others and don’t project unrealistic expectations onto your partner(s)? Askin for a friend
They like men, women and children.
Theyll enjoy that and have several secret lives. Itll never be enough. U can explore , open , invite, no judgement, and maybe even go against your own comfort to please them. Its not enough. The thrill is in trickery and abuse. Not s3x itself. Ask me how i know @calebray4168
Wow, Thank you so much for explaining these in terms us regular ppl can fully understand without all the medical mumbo jumbo thrown in. My husband ticks all 5, which is so new for him it's had me questioning myself and the stranger he's become, even though we've been married for 38 yrs, together for 40. Never would I have thought this of him, but now realize this is exactly what it is. Again, thanks for sharing.
Down to the details, you really nailed this video! From them going through your crap, to destroying something someone else has, and they are big into having to know other people’s business
Danish, thank you in particular for this video, it delineates the narcissist in my life exactly. I say in my life, yet on January 1st, as he unleashed his worst treatment to date, I felt myself enter a state of calmness and acceptance that I'd reached my limit and finally could walk away, begin a new journey apart from him and heal. It's been difficult, I've been lonely and watched as some of our friends, without a word to me, chose to take his side. Such harsh treatment and yet I feel so much freedom from him and from fake friends.
As I went no-contact with my mother, I didn't realize HOW many people believed her lies or maybe didn't even believe her lies, but supported her over me because they wanted something from my mom. I ended up blocking SO MANY PEOPLE that I didn't expect would be so cruel to me. In the end, I realized I was so much better off without any of those flying monkeys in my life. Every now and then, she tries to contact someone in my life and try to hoover me through them. It's sick. They just can't stop. When they lose their narcissistic supply they go ballistic. Keep safe.
I have about 8 Narc Coaches that I follow religiously adore them all...but I have to say Danish you are my most favorite. You are very knowledgeable and it's like you've been peeking in my window because you describe my life to a T lol...
Pls share the names of all the coaches so we can benefit from their content as well
I'm sorry , Danish, that you suffered this abuse
I did also, it's awful.
I'm healing now after a lifetime of various forms of abuse.
My "case" is an older sibling. The thing with going through your stuff... Oh my. We were in my mom's attick after her death. There was a box with my name on it. What did my narc sibling do? She ripped the box open right in front of me! That for me was a sign of no boundaries and zero respect for me. Why didn't I stop her? She was so tense and full of "heat" that I was afraid that if we fight, she may get physical. On the next day, I asked her if it was her envy to make her open the box. Her answer was yes.
We were emptying my mom's apartment and the whole stay there was a horrible experience. She was aggressive, called me names, she was smashing things onto the floor in the kitchen. Afterwards, she wrote that she had to walk on egg shells and that I'm aggressive and yell around. This was the crucial moment when I understood that she's projecting, she's gaslighting, she's victimizing herself.
Your are a blessing!! Married to one for 35 yrs. He does everything you say. I have been a highly successful and have a strong character. Bad mouth me to my Mom and adult children. I have been able to turn this around by demonstrating them who I am. I have put locks in my office and bedroom. Silence and not responding to his negativity. They lie 24x7 will not taking accountability for the mistakes.
Exactly, Danish!
Unless you have experienced people like this, will you understand!
I admire anyone who keeps healing from the pain of this.
It can be done once you free yourself and love yourself again.
Blessings to you, for educating others, understanding, they are not crazy or the only ones healing.🙏🏻❤️🕊🌹
My mother made an unwanted visit some years back... I had thick plush and freshly vacced carpets. When I returned home after work she'd gone back to her own town as planned but she left her foot prints through the house with built up prints in front of drawers and wardrobes.
Also when my Nana died I arrived to do a clean up and she had my Nanas jewellery stuffed in her pockets. (She was my deceased fathers mother). Eventually we became estranged.
When my grandmother died, my aunt went immediately into the house and grabbed antiques.
@RaptureReadyforJesus-qv2ql it's just awful. I arranged with my mother to rent my great aunts (after she passed) for a time, and initially I would do a clean up in lieu of rent. My mother was going there often as she lived 2 hours away but I was 3.5 hours away. She asked what I needed so it could be a bit livable when we turned up. (My great aunt had the hoarding disorder). I said the oven working, some beds cleared and the kitchen bench. Thats it.
We arrived (myself and 6 year old son). The bed had MOUNTAINS on them. The benches you could barely see one inch and of the entire oven we had 1 working top element.
My mother had been there, but only to go through everything and get all the antiques and valuables. She had promised to help with the clean up but after doing 7 days a week for 7 weeks and getting all the op ships over getting stuff plus filling huge skip bins I realised she was against me not for me when she made contact about the rent payments due to start up. Market rent for an unlivable property. My friends advised pack up and move out. So I did.
@@rebeccabriggs2982 wow, that is intense. I have a friend that is a hoarder. What is sad is that she says they are broke, but they have thousands of dollars of good items that can be sold.
My Narc went on Facebook and instagram and hit on or tried to date anybody that I was friends with!!!! 😳😢😪
He literally tried to ruin as many of my friendships as he could! It’s sad to think that he actually thought for a second that he was that attractive OR he thought my friends didn’t know exactly what he’s about! They are SAD AND PATHETIC! And they get worse with age!
The x tried the same with a friend, but I knew what was up and so did she. He looked stupid.
Wow i feel for you Danish. Those things you said that happened to you are exactly what happened to me.😢 They very sick and demonic.😢
They go through your stuff to feel powerful, too
They also get angry if you lock everything away. Like if you had a chest of drawers with a lock on every drawer.
My narc husband was prescribed some pain medication that he mysteriously “lost”. One day he told my sister to make sure she locked up all her medication because I will steal it. She informed me that he said this so I confronted him about it and he went off on me. Later I found the bottle of pills that he tried to frame me for taking when I did no such thing.
D. I. V. O. R. C. E.
Run. Leave as soon as you can. Besides the fact that this is a horrible situation for you, it‘s also almost hilarious from him and shows how sick these people are. Why on earth should a sane person „steal“ her husbands medication and (!) is going after her sisters (!) medications!?? Unless you are addicted to some sort of painkillers, there is absolutely no reason for such behavior. And if, why should a painkiller addict steal ALL medications, so that would be necessary to lock aspirin’s and vitaminpills and all that stuff away? That’s ridiculous. But logical thinking isn’t their thing, their psychotic. Good bless you and best wishes to get out of this soon, safe, healthy and get your life back.
@stephanniekotalik9339 RRRRUUUUUNNNNN‼️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️ Don't look back. They don't change & they get worse!
I’m sorry but you haven’t given enough details to make a proper judgment. How you know he “framed” you? That just seems extremely exaggerative. How you know he didn’t lose the bottle or misplace it then found it?
@@Herbstzeitlosyou’re putting a lot of words in there that she didn’t even say. This is the problem with these videos. Y’all commenting jump to conclusions and begin to sound like narcissists. Plenty of em use baser logic in their arguments, and I don’t think you’re a clinical psychologist so let’s keep the diagnoses and symptoms to ourselves? You’re projecting your story onto hers and neither of you know each other. Both of you could be narcissists, present yourself with some humility instead of just a laundry list of what the other person has done, and that’ll paint a clearer picture. Anybody can just blame the other.
Omg your best vid yet u just get better and better at revealing the truth and validating us thrivers. Duper's delight!😂 Gossiping, destroying belongings, snooping, reading journals , stealing, hiding your things, throwing away something precious of yours, starting random arguments, sowing confusion and chaos, all this I've witnessed
The goal was that nobody was supposed to know what was going on...even if it was nothing. It feels so refreshing to be able to live a real life instead of a fake one.
absolutely superb, comprehensive description. spoken with the deep understanding and compassion of one who has survived living within the surreal borders of the narcissist's evil fantasy land
Every video I watch of yours describes my husband to a T. Hearing it all out loud makes me feel sick, it stabs me in the heart and twists. My Mother and older brother were both Narcissistic. I feel like they kinda prepared me for the endless years of loneliness I would have to endure with my husband. Truthfully I never realized I was fighting through it with my husband until I got older. I was only sixteen with no life experiences when we started dating. I'm fifty one this year. When I sit back and relive all the memories in my head I want to hate them all but in truth they really helped me by showing me how much greater God's love was compared to theirs. Honestly I look forward to the days that are coming with my Lord and Father in heaven. To feel nothing but their acceptance, love, joy and to finally know peace.
Amen!
@dgriner7463 @@jbrown2908 yes, dear, go and live your life. I have had two narcissistic ex-husbands, cruel men who hurt me very badly. And I was definitely groomed for that by my parents. Yet at 52, after 4 years of avoiding romance, I found the love of my life, and I am forever changed, maybe even starting to heal. 51 is young - keep your heart open 💖
Sadly my dad is SO like this. My dad can make 40-80 phone calls a day looking for supply when he’s alone. Calling his old high school girlfriend 5-10 times in a row, calling anyone you can think of.. calling them over and over again until they pick up the phone or block him. We saw this in his cell phone history on the phone bill.
That’s interesting looking through an unfiltered eye at what they have done
Same my dad is the same
So spot-on! My narcissistic sister has flagrantly stolen from me, read my journals.
Mine, too!!!
My grandmother read mine and then quoted when relatives are together😅 how much she shared in private only God knows
You’re so spot on it’s like you know the person. Every damn thing you’ve said he’s done, how do they live in their own head with so much going on for nothing.
Doctor what you're saying is so true. I play bingo in the minute I walk out the door and say I forget something I've caught him and mischievous cruel behavior every single time😢
Oh my goodness! My journal, I haven't seen it in months.😢 my money is always missing "It was just here." He better not try to come back 😤. I will call the police. That's my attitude after 2 yrs. Today.
have been watching ur channel a lot these past 2 days and its has initiated a tremendous spark of healing in me.I thank you, sir, and this universe for bringing me the support I needed.❤❤❤
Thank you for making me understand how all this happened to me I don’t feel safe in my house all my clothing is gone now I locked my door and my clothes thank you
That's the absolute worst, when you don't feel safe in your own home. You gotta get out and go no contact. I know it's hard but it's the best thing that will happen to you...being free. ❤
Thank you are so right about everything you said about NARCISSIST!!
I have never heard anyone ever describe in such fine detail and exactness how they can really be. It is sheer cruelty. I know you have experienced what you are talking about because I've been through those same things. Finally someone explaining it perfectly. I was mentally abused for 13 years by my wife !
I'm broken up w my narcissist but we still live in the same house for now and I leave every weekend and as much as possible and I have done so for years and every time I leave he goes through my room, my stuff.... I've always wondered about this behavior. This video is so spot on!
@@SatanenPerkele I'm working on it... I can't wait to be able to move out.
@@SatanenPerkele thank you!!!
I went through all this and more. I finally had to have her evicted, she wouldn't leave. Then she took my car after the eviction and disappeared, for four months,I had to hire a private detective. The night they got my car back it was a huge spectacular event, 10-13 police, her in handcuffs. And the next day she texted me saying how wrong I was for taking my car back. I just ignored her.
They are delusional. :(
@mvbigmagic4048 that sums it up very well!
They definitely troll for arguments...smh...
Why
@@camsteph67to create distance.. to have time apart to "cool down", maybe planning something in a few days and come home later, or dissappear for a while.. they have no empathy for other unless others can notice their actions and get praise from it.. you feel they have no inner thoughts at times but they are very calculated when they want to get away and interact with their supply.
They go to youtube 😮
Absolutely. They give no real love or support but demand it from you. If you dare point out this hypocrisy they go bonkers. Bottom line is they're always right and you're always wrong
@@regcreational6447you’re talkin about personally. This guy is talkin about just commenting online. Nobody knows wth they’re talkin about and throws this word around so much. Repeated bad behavior and dysfunction should not be tolerated. That’s it. No need to run around diagnosing everyone.
I don’t remember you being in my house growing up! These are behaviors both of my parents acted out. I grew up saying “I am not going to be like that when I grow up “ but I was doing some of the things they did and I went through 17 years (on and off) with several psychologists learning how to overcome those behaviors. I am so grateful for people like you.
Some of them take time to get almost perfect at a hobby or job, in order to be grandious and then look down on others in the same field.
They become spiritusl gurus and give "advice" to people online. Also if they live with people they prowl around listening at doors, to hear what's being said, in case it's useful to them later. They also tap phones just to keep tabs on what might be being said (it could be about them). The rest of the time they're in fantasy about their brilliant selves.
Actually, they keep themselves busy!
Yes! a parent can do all these things and its evil! Every word. Thank you for verbalizing what took me a lifetime to figure out!
Holy CRAP - this is the playbook in order that my ex-husband followed every time I tried to leave him. Nobody and I mean NOBODY believed me at the time when I tried to tell them what was happening in our house and there are still people drinking his Kool Aid now.
Glad you got away! We all believe you! And there are plenty of us who do. Those who are supporting are either the same kind of person or incredibly naïve. Or they get some sort of benefit out of being around that person financial or other attributes. I learned it is best never to try and convince anyone else unless they’ve been through it themselves they don’t understand it.
@@EightBallAnswers1 Thank you 🙏
omg I never put that together that he might have deliberately allowed other people, (women) to take my clothes and jewelry when I was gone. It makes sense he would allow that disrespect of me just to insure I felt insecure in my own home. I can't believe I took all his abuse personally for so long, wasted tears, wasted years and beat down my self-esteem. It's only been about a year since I've seen videos like yours that I now realize the truth of the whole relationship sadly they're selfishness hurts the kids too! He literally did every one of those things you said! Except he also ran to his enabling lil-sister. You make me think maybe he was the one who stole 4k from me when I thought it might be someone else. Thanks for the insight.
This hits hard with some family members. I thank God I am Adopted! Thanks so much for your help!
Right before my husband moved out permanently, he slashed a huge hole in my beautiful, gorgeous red sofa that he knew I loved. He blamed it on the dog 😖 Psycho
Yes, they can be spiteful.
What you said its absolutely right,my nars does so many unacceptable things like this
I left the narc 2 yrs ago and this is soooo accurate. He has now stolen my personality (that he expressed that he hated) and acting like me. Has convinced MY daughter of how bad I am. He NEVER treated his own children this way. My daughter is being heavily recruited for college and bowling. I believe he wants her success as his own. He has blocked me from all forms of communication even though he is not a legal guardian at all.
Had my identity stolen 3 times so far, not joking. The main problem is it acts like a wedge between the victim and their "native environments", robbing them of their place in the world. Narcissistic abuse needs serious investigation efforts ASAP and put the perpetrators in prison where they belong.
This description - particularly towards the end, concerning substance abuse, and artificial relationships, sounds like the lives and personalities of many celebrities - like Diddy, Kanye West, and females like JLo and Madonna!
exactly my ex likes talking to strangers about everything and anything great about themselves and bad about others. i was so shocked
My ex would say ‘if you’re not doing anything wrong, you won’t care if I went through your stuff’. Did the same thing when he was posting very private stuff online. ‘If it’s not wrong, what difference does it make who knows?’
They have no respect for you!
It is so true they always put the blame on you. They’re always the victim. They never do anything wrong. Meanwhile, they lie, steal, and cheat on a regular basis because it’s habitual for them and without any remorse really disheartening to know that someone that you thought loved you has zero compassion for you
He not only went through it, he took what he wanted and threw everything else away.
My ex did the same thing!
You are describing my youngest daughter(she is an adult and there always been drama follow wherever she goes, even in pre-school she would lie and cause trouble for other kids) and my ex-husband. Except self-hatred they love themselves and are extremely confident. I was always on edge around then because you don’t know what is going to trigger them. I have BPD2 and with the help of my psychiatrist, psychologist and medication I have realised and accepted I am not crazy but it is best to have very little contact and from now on only in public with my youngest daughter(she won’t cause drama or become abusive in public) I love being on my own with my dog in my pool or craft room we will listen to music or binge watch tv whilst she gets all the ribby rubs and chin scratches. Life alone is good. I don’t think I will ever trust again not my children and not even my parents.
Very true. My dog Brook was killed, my clothes burnt, lost Very important docs, called all my friends and relatives telling them crap about me. Brought different women in my house.😢I only knew about narcissism too late after 30+ years, hoping this man would change. You 100% describe a man I have lived with for long.
I think thats the reason I find it impossible to be with someone because all they eventually tufn out to be narcs and i have my two lovely cats even imagining that someone come into my house and try to hurt them makes my head burst from panic. I dont care if sth happens to me but not to my cats.
I go mad if someone killed my dog..he’d better watch his back.
So sorry about your dog, 😰😰😰😰It is a hideous crime to kill an innocent dog. 😭
I am so sorry about brook brings me to tears 37 horrible years I hope you are free all the best to you
My ex filled his day with his porn & sex addiction.
Mine, too. Once he admittet he did it multiple times a day.
@@julia1j1j1 Mine had become obsessed with OnlyFans. It seems perfect for a narc. All the power & control to have them fulfill their kink & no commitment involved.
Mine too. Sadly.
Yes I was looking for this coment
My ex she did the same thing
Everything u say is so true...I'm involved with a Narcissist my life is in ruins 3 years now & I feel like I can't recover or be whole again after this
Oh my god! I wish I could find your channel earlier. 10 minutes of straight facts. Thank you so much for this. The gossiping point you talked about is so real. And when you said those lines starting from 9:55 (I guess) were so satisfying. You spoke for me, thanks again.
My gosh, narcissist are evil. It is a curse to live with them.
😮Idk what's more shocking-that other people had the same experiences as me or that you find SO many minute details that are painful-even forgotten-but never resolved!
What’s bad is that you don’t find this out until years later. Near the end when you start realizing . And they always get people to believe them .
My husbands mother was evil. She knew what he did to me and encouraged him. She knew that he left me with a baby and never picked up the phone to ask if we needed anything. He was staying with her!
Because you "stole" her son from her. Be happy you got away...... You are free now to find someone who really loves you. My narcissistic mother abused my dad -- emotionally, isolated him from all his siblings, stole things from my paternal grandmother, badmouthed everyone constantly. When he died, I found a will in which he left everything to me. Only problem is, my mother managed to get everything into a living trust, and made the will invalid. They are sneaky and evil. I know you don't feel like it now, but you are SO LUCKY to be free of him. I pray you find someone who has NORMAL parents, and who KNOWS how to love you, and make your happiness his happiness.
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Thank you. May God bless you for your encouragement and generosity of heart!