5 Things a Narcissist does when they're alone
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00:00 Introduction
00:46 1.They'll jump into sea of social media & try to hunt a lot of supply
02:36 2.They'll start going through your stuff
04:50 3.Calling you friends & family and talking nonsense about you
06:35 4.They will seek their old sources of supply
08:22 5.They get drunk, use drugs & visit adult websites
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What is REALLY paining me for you is, how shameless your formal roommate was. Imagine: he came from PRAYING to God straight to steal your money. Wtf?????
BINGO!
THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I'M GOING THROUGH AS I'M WRITING THIS!
@@bigmama2918 Narcissists are biggest 2-faced HYPOCRITES!
the primary male brain variant behavior (narcissistic originator, umempath. etc) is being removed from the behavioral disorders manuals without assuring that those with an "off-functional" brain, that afflicts one of eight males (and that they did not choose), will have the security of those with a normally empathetic and better functioning brain. (from brain scans)
It is a tragedy to see someone who "Much like a Person Who Can Recognise Music Under Alzheimers/Dementia From Within their Dreamy Chains ⛓️ Still Cry Out For Freedom"
ChookScrolled |🐔
“Their life is all about pretending to be somebody or something that they are not.”
FACTS
Fake people Fake life
So true. It’s like a parallel life, like the Twilight Zone
Yes, they study you and take notes over whatever makes them hate and envy you. They then start on a strategic path to defame you, slander you, and make up lies to tear you down to your associates and people who know you. All this while stealing your career, hobbies, personality, style, phrases and god knows what else. All in an attempt to become you and making you into them in the eyes of others, so projection
I read your comment over and over and over and over again saying to myself how is that even possible? how can someone do that?
What's always surprising to me is just how obsessed narcissists are with what other people are doing.
And how they live in detail😅
My opinion is that they are interested in the details of other people's lives for a reason. Everyone has problems in their lives, and the narc is scoping out room to exploit. The interest is as usual out of evil intention, and not concern or affection.
Yes but if you actually try to tell them what you're doing as part of a normal conversation they glaze over or use it as a jumping off point to talk about themselves. It seems like they are only interested in the info they get by sneaking around and stalking 🤷♀️
So obsessed with other peoples business! AVOID them at all costs! They disrespect all boundaries! Help themselves to your personal things! Nosey and gossips! They are poison ,nothing is private! But you are the problem in their eyes! Yes they call us crazy!
Yes!!! My ex is a churchy covert narcissist. He's like an old church lady, scrabbling for gossip and tucking it away, to use at just the right time. Tiny, nasty little man.
I love my own company, I pray people leave me alone simply because I am realising narcissists are everywhere espcailly in the work place
"Hostile work environment" (aka toxic aggressive high-conflict narcissistic bullies in the workplace).
True. Every job that I’ve worked , there are narcs , especially management.
@@mayn7115 A pattern noticed among certain (narcissistic 'slave-driver') manager types is that they self-servingly "Game-the-System": calculatingly suck-up to higher-ups (in order to get promoted quickly), hyper-focus on the 'money' & higher salary they'll get, are controllingly "bossy", feel entitled (above the mundanity & lazy) not to actually do the work (which is why they prefer having subordinates doing ALL the tasks underneath them), micro-manage & nitpick to feel superior than their minions, play favorites with "Yes"-Men/Women (creating division among the rank & file), etc. -- resulting in a cyclical toxic "crab-in-the-bucket" "every-man-for-himself" dysfunctional corporate culture.
I'm same.
Ditto
We need to teach young people about these monsters. Should be the high school curriculum, in a health class. To be the victim of one of these soul destroyers changes you at the core, we need to protect our children.
My God, what you say resonates very deeply. I could have saved so much pain and heartache had I learned back then.
Yes! Absolutely. With enough education, we can help future generations avoid getting abused the way we did.
This narcissism problem is not going away. It's only going to get worse.
Preach ❤
Yes, this is why I plan to make ebooks starting for 5th graders on up to college age and get these ebooks into the hands of as many students as possible. Young people NEED to be educated on the dangers of these narcs so that young people can be equipped with who to choose as friends and a romantic partner and know who to avoid. Hopefully less people's lives will be ruined this way. If you want to know how to support this cause, please let me know here. Thanks!
Yes. Then some would figure out their parent(s) have strong narcissistic traits. They would need help! What then? Complicated 😔😔
They cannot stand to be alone 😂 they will constantly look for an unaware supply
You nailed it.
Afraid of their own shadow!
That's what I have seen.
Mama here... 🙋
Or prey;-)
They love to aggravate you to watch you get upset but when you call them out on their bs, they back down. Evil, weak, cowards who do not like themselves
And they also play the victim
Yes they are the biggest cowards! What a joke!
no they never back down thats why they are narcissists
They think that going around destroying people makes them feel powerful, that is until you figure them out, then they are like a scared little animal and then play the victim because in their twisted minds somebody else made them do it, because they deserved it. They'll NEVER take responsibility for their actions. They'll gaslight and tell anybody who calls them out that they are the crazy one. They're so miserable with there own lives, that the only that makes them happy is destroying anybody who is a threat to them in some way.
You might watch a strange flip to a friendly face when you point out the truth.
If you want real peace and happiness leave the narc forever and never look back again
🏃🏿Run, Forrest, Run🏃♀...away! ...in the opposite direction, from a: narcissist!
Until you're DECEIVED AGAIN by another!
@@gemjourney5210 Yup! Beware the potential repeat pattern of re-entanglement with yet another (bait & switch) narcissistic type -- particularly as stealthier more cunning sneaky narcissists evolve, the need to fully heal from narcissistic abuse, do the self-work to determine what made you emotionally vulnerable to a narcissist's seductive wiles, trust your intuition, practice enforcing boundaries & saying "No", & learn from past lessons on how to avert future ensnarements with narcissists in all walks of life.
Yep. Love yourself enough to leave. They never change.
& narcissists only get worse over time! If they go to therapy, narcissists have been known to USE what they LEARN to become even more cunning, exploitative, emotionally manipulative narcissists -- per research findings!
They never miss an opportunity to make your life miserable.
Perfectly said
And everyone else in the household 😢
Exactly! They cannot stand it if anybody is better than them in any way. Even their own children. They are very insecure individuals.
The love grill chicken
I was in a relationship with a pathological liar whose weapon of choice was plausible deniability. He was also extremely sadistic and enjoyed watching you go crazy trying to prove yourself. I recall him having a smirk on his face when I would try to prove something and him calling me forgetful, paranoid and easily triggered. Sick!
Going through this right now. It’s sickening how they bait and taunt you and when you lose it they smirk. 😢 it’s bizarre to see the satisfaction in their face.
I can relate ❤🙏🏽💆🏽♀️but heal take the steps needed not to let the trail
Subconsciously control you
I finally learned I don't have to justify myself. If I justify myself to someone, that gives them the upper hand.
Yup! That smirk is undeniable !!
Even if you are forgetful, paranoid and easily triggered, it's usually only around them, and after they've worn you down with their BS
1. Hunt for supply on social media
2. Go through your private things
3. Smear Campaign
4. Contact old Supply (or enabling family members)
5. Use substances, watch porn
My life currently and planning on my departure here shortly. Of course it's all gotta be planned in secret. You cannot just be up front and say you want out of the relationship. You must plan "the escape"
They will stalk your social media
All of these... TRUTH!!! 😕
THANK YOU FOR THE 5 PTS. 😊
True
Narcissists are always at war with themselves, therefore they have no peace and sabotage yours.
they also act dumb on purpose to get under your skin or act like they don’t under you so you can repeat yourself several times
That's a deep one. Thanks for the reminder
I do believe they will hold back information from people to keep power over them because they are insecure and know that information in the hands of someone smarter than they are will knock them down and call them out.
Five years down the line of cognitive therapy -still healing from a type of Palilalia he deliberately caused with this action.
That’s my elderly mother. She did it for as long as I can remember
I absolutely can not stand when they do that!!!! And they know it too! And I've even tried it back on them and they don't react, but they seem to do it less often. It's just a joke dealing with these narcs! Day in day out so predictable & maddening.
You don't have to be a shrink to know that they will never be happy! Their misery is their company!
Yes, and that is somebody elses fault.
@@northstar5919 LOL, you know it
The last few weeks I'm thinking I can't smile around them :( cause they won't like it. I laughed a few times today with 1 of my kids, it was good, I've hardly been able to in ages
Narcissists have created large amounts of Karmic Debt because they intentionally try to destroy those good people who had nothing but good intentions and love for them. Dear Karma, IT'S ME. Karma says, I GOT THIS!
My narcissist threw away a jacket from my college without asking me. They hate seeing your successes in life. What I hate is that they try so hard to act like they love and wanna help you, but it's wrong, it's all wrong! Because how can you love someone without respect?
I have always said you can't love someone you don't respect.
On a wedding "gift" that he gave me in 2007, my narc changed my last name back to my maiden name that I had not used since 1988 when I married him in 2007. He didn't want to see my ex's last name. How idiotic? When my daughter dies, he said he would cancel the life insurance payout if I didn't let him spend the money how he wanted to spend it. He also invited his family to a private visitation at the funeral home after I told him it was only for her brothers and sisters. I had to text and tell them NOT to come. They were puffed up about.
She tormented me to throw away the 4 scarfs my mother lovely knitted stitch for me during two years for freezing winters. The same did against my university books. She took me apart from my family, friends and sport hobby. Finally I brook this toxic relationship to recover myself and try to find love with reciprocity.
@@IT-lr9is same here! My mother hasa always been jealous of me and at 12 years old I knitted an open work sweater which was pretty difficult to do and I was proud of it. After a few years I wanted to know where my sweater was and she had trown away my sweater, can you believe it? What mother does trow away a sweater of her daughter who has put so much effort and love in knitting her sweater? She also threw away a beautiful little vase which I made at a pottery barn at age 9. They do everything to destroy what you love! But at that time 20 years I did not know that my mother was a narcissist. I discovered it only 5 years ago at age 50!! Fortunately through platforms like this narcissism has been discussed so much more than in the 80/90ties. That is why it is so important to learn about narcissism! Now I am no contact with my family and I am at peace!
ABSOLUTELY CORRECT, they don’t know the meaning of respect, they don’t respect anyone or anything….it’s a sign of weakness to them.
My ex husband did it all. Took money from my purse or savings stash, went thru my stuff, read my journals and threw my clothes and belongings away. He would tell his “friends” that I was a horrible person. Talk about me behind my back.
All this time he’s not working or doing anything to help around the house and I’m working full time and making dinner etc.
After I finally got out, it was great to break all of these habits that he had me trained to do. Freedom from the narcissist is bliss.
Mine did some similar things. At one point I think he had a recording device hidden in the house.
Entitled parasitic narcissists want a conflict-avoidant servant/host. Not only will the narcissist throw away my belongings without my permission, but also will recommend to sell my vehicle (that my parents gave me) -- narcissists have no sense of another's sentimental belongings.
Sounds familiar!!!
Truths!!!! Spend so much time trying to destroy others!
were you married to my ex?
I truly feel really bad for anyone that is in a relationship with a narcissist
I know a narc who is always sending random snap in Snapchat to show how wonderful and busy their life is, when in reality they have nothing going on and are just being fake .
I realized that that last one I went out with has almost a million snaps and it occurred to me for him to have that many he’s has to literally be doing it ALL day. I just thought he was lonely and it was a cry to be seen and wanted so I invited him into my life. But it’s just that can’t stand to be alone in the glorious life he brags about to make other people feel small and needs to make you feel small in person. One of the days he gave me the silent treatment he still sent over 200 to someone? I guess 10 an hour doesn’t seem like much when I write it) But if he discards people as fast as he did me than who knows how many sources of supply this guy has as once- gotta be a wild network, while I’m sitting here a lonely introvert thinking of just him 🤦🏻♀️
@@user-wh2bs9tp4y the person I know he sends 100-200 snaps a day usually during weekends. Like seriously what are you snapping about that much exactly. It’s wild they are soo attached to social media. I have stopped opening his private snaps he sends as he sends the same to many people. He can go figure.
That’s everyone on earth on social media 😂 Channels like this are interesting, but always remember no one is “typical” and much of this is a social construction.
The narcissist's obsession with curated 'impression management': The public persona (of how the narcissist wants to be enviably perceived by others, or one-upping others) -- versus the private life, the (ugly, sordid, not-so-glamorous) side that the narcissist does NOT want you to know about.
@@SuperStella1111 No it’s not. But if you missed the point than maybe you’re the narc?
This is why once again I trust nobody and I don’t care when nobody says me personally, I assume that everybody’s a narcissist, until they prove themselves to me otherwise cause if not, you’re not coming into my house and you’re not coming into my space and that’s real talk
That’s the hard truth.
Same!
I’d say everyone is a bit narcissist in some way or another but yeah I agree
That’s really sad
Indeed!
My narc husband, has been dead for a year. We were living apart for the last 12 yrs of a 38 yr marriage., because of his cheating, and drugging. I still enjoy watching these videos and still trying to figure out what happened in My life. My memories are all that is left, and it feels good to look back and Now know.. what I was in the middle of, but was not aware...I will keep learning to find my peace, in my good memories of my life with him. I will not let him rob me of the good memories.bcause he was sick
Make new memories
You lucky dog. You had me at “my narc is dead”. That would sure accelerate my divorce. 😂
@@dontbeadogsbody3564hahahahahahaha!!!!
I pray for your healing.
You are sick
they cannot be alone or or at least sit down for 30 minute in one place.
they do same things as what kids do or look for immediate supply
AMEN 🙏🏽
YES.. can't handle quiet either. Always tv, music or endless chatter about themselves of course.. Because if it's quiet they have to face their demons.
What if you have adhd?
Narcissists can't stand to be alone in their own head. I was entangled with one I initially considered a friend - she would call everyone who will talk to her, one after the other, talking crap about all the other people. If you didn't answer you'd get a passive aggressive or openly hostile text message.
'Talking crap about all the other people " 😂😂 so very accurate!!
They hate it when you don’t call them back.
Great way to TEST the narcissist: don't reply ("No Contact"). Followed by the toxic narcissist's: nasty subversive TEXT.
They talk crap and I’m wedding them out right now!
Creating a false self-image on social media (matching their false self) with achievements they do not have credit for, and trying to get all sorts of attention either bragging about themselves or making themselves victims.
Sounds like just about every person on the internet- fb for sure 😩
@@effthamatrix I think it is when it is on a another level. Straight up lies. It is also depending on a lot of other factors, like context. I mean if a young person does it because of insecurity for example is very much different from an middle aged adult who have fabricated a fake persona with fake merits because of their grandiose delusions.
@@johannajuutilainen4779 Exactly. My narcissistic mother posted a picture of my grandmother, herself, and me, and posted some kind of statement about a "loving family." Um.... that picture was taken when my grandmother visited us in Arkansas, and my mother yelled at her and made her cry so bad, she got a Greyhound bus and left the next day. My mother was HORRIBLE to my grandmother. No mention of that in her Facebook post. :( No one would guess it was NOT a "loving family" at all........ "false self." My grandmother has grey-rocked my mom since that visit in 1983 or 1984.
@@d0v3Tai1 I disagree. They showed how people should be humble enough to admit when they've done something wrong. Normal family dynamics contain people who understand it is not right to hurt others. In the abuse cases I've seen in the emergency room, parents do not feel they've done anything wrong. These people are sick. And they will lie, kill, anything to make sure no one destroys their false image. I didn't realize it was abnormal for family members to badmouth others behind their back until left my family, and met people with NORMAL families. People who grow up in abnormal family dynamics think that "All in the Family" is normal. It is not. Normalizing that kind of hurtful behavior causes a continuation of the cycle, and is why we have a bevy of narcissists running the world.
@@johannajuutilainen4779 yes there are varying degrees of bs ….some dude or woman pretending to be much younger to chat w the kiddies- no good 😫
You’re so spot on! Narcissist ex would text & talk to his mom all throughout the day like they were dating. He thought I should take care of him & give him everything his mom does, including paying for everything. It was gross.
It's worse when your narc husband talks to the mom and siblings in a foreign language you don't understand.
It is gross, it amazes me when grown men aren't at all embarrassed to mooch off women. I'm amazed how many are absolutely looking for a mommy, someone to financially support them too.
My narcissist mother is always on the phone talking someone's ear off and boring them to death. People don't answer the phone when she calls. Her partner watches TV all day so he doesn't have to talk to her. Her former husband didn't even live with her. That's why they got along.
True......Another thing .....They tell many stories more than a hundred times.....Nobody can hear them anymore.....LOL.....They have such a dreadful life that there is nothing new to tell....
Same Here, thanks for the comment 😮, I am so Saddened by then whole thing…Girls!: Be careful out there please ❤ & Be Safe Cuties…
They cause so much hurt and damage, yet they live so damn long.
Probably a myth IMO.
Karma will catch up with them and it won't be pretty.
Will spend eternity in hell though!! 😊
So true
Rubbish doesn't die😢
My narcissistic mother was going through all of my personal things when I was not home. I found some items "missing" from my home. She used to go into my house when I was @work. I've gotten my key back. I didn't realize that she was doing this until I learned she was a narcissist. The nerve of her!!! She would constantly come by my house whenever she felt like it. So, she would use my key and barge in my home. She would not like it if I were to do that to her. I also found out that she gossiped about me to my relatives, my stepdad, and my siblings. I've gone NC with her two years ago.
Sounds a lot like the narcissist I deal with. Always eager to "clean my room and help." My mother throws away my things, like mail, food, any purchases I make. I've found lots of my personal belongings in the trash and when confronted about it she cries and makes me feel bad about it? So twisted. This is mind boggling to someone who would never think to do such a thing.
The same happened to me.
I used to be a singer. She deleted all my recordings and cut holes in my lingerie. Cut my long hair while I was asleep. Pure evil
Wow. It’s so weird how narcs are almost all the same, I understand. My mom was the same. She went through my drawers, read my diary/notes and try to find any “secret” I had. Strangely, she would never ask me how my day was or talk to me directly if she had any concerns, it was easier for her to go through my things, ask my friends/ my bf about me and had the nerve to tell them to keep it a secret from me 🙄
My narcissistic mother would always accuse other people of stealing. :( Recently I learned she was the one stealing....... it's crazy. They are delusional.
That exact thing happened to me by my mother. Years and years before I found this out when I found out she was a narrcisist. I though she just hated me. Then it was she hated me and was trying g to destroy me, at time I thought I was going crazy, I was even suicidal. Wow, so many years wasted.
At least I have answers now and don't have to go through that again.
They like to abuse their pets when no one is around. Thanks Danish, you're experience and skill in explaining narcissism is amazing.
I DON'T THINK THEY HAVE PETS. THEY ARE NOT CAPABLE OF LOVING THEM.
Not capable
@@caragare3214 I don't have my glasses on and didn't catch the mistake.
yeah, unfortunately they have pets and use them for supply.
Yeah he used the dog as a way for me to go there. He hits the dog, I heard the dog cry once. @@consciousmob
I didn't know about narcissism until in mt 60es. I was so sad, i thought I was going to die. I was praying God to help me. All of a sudden these videos about narcissism start popping on TH-cam. I finally realized why i had nervous breakdowns, why i was sad. Seems like most of the people in my life were narcissist, people i loved dearly, my mother, my sister, my husband, uncles, aunts, in-laws. Now, i teach my children and grandchildren to be cautious.
I’ve had the same experience. In my early 70s when I found out. Like you, very sad much of my life. The stress was so extreme that I got MS and cannot walk now. So I was never able to escape, so far. What I am grateful for are these videos and all the info out on narcissism now.
At least knowing and understanding what in the Hell happened to my life has kept me from
going crazy!!!
The same here. God has seen
Same here, I knew nothing. Sadly, I lost my husband I loved very much. My sister never came to the funeral, so cruel. She did drive by tge church though.
Then my stepson committed suicide. After that my mother passed. I try not to remember how now she wants me to disappear. My 1st Christmas in 64 years alone. Yet I'm not alone. Jesus Christ is my Saviour. With faith in Him we have eternity to look forward to. I thank Him and pray to not murmur. I believe the test can be a testimony. God bless you. 🛐🕯✝️
All of this is 💯% true,Danish. He complains about folks being glued to their cellphones but he’s on every type of social media,including TikTok, that’s available. I write in code so he can’t figure out what I’m writing in my diary. They’re very destructive so I never let him have access to anything of mine. The narc that I know lies when there absolutely no reason to lie.
I've had to tell the "fumble fingers" narcissist to buy their own stuff -- because when they get a hold of my things, the klutzy forceful disrespectful careless narcissist mishandles, misuses, then breaks my possessions!
How can you live like this whewwww Chile ......you are altering reality for the narc ...get out now
My husband tore my shirts, broke my ear ring, keep my important stuff and pretend as if he does not know what i am talking about. He hates my stuff from his core... He punctured an air teddy sofa given by my family to my daughter for her second birthday when she cried he said our baby did it where as he punched it using a pen. He destroyed my journal and said our kid did. He is a God of Selfishness. We are married for last 8 years but separated after 2 years of marriage. Since the first day till now, no change in him. Just that i am aware now whats going on and still learning how to deal with him.
Im so sorry. Glad you understand your husband appears severely mentally ill, will not change, not your job to change him, your job now is what you are doing. Hope you remain free and can get far away from rhis dangerous behavior. It is not petty it is telling the future. Document! Tell everyone to get Court to keep you safe and alive.
Yes. But unfortunately i am not working. I have full responsibility of my daughter. He has zero contribution except finance, but he pretends infront of everyone as if he has equal contribution in parenting but trust me zero. Brutally hurt physically by him 4 to 5 times. He hurt oir daughter 2 to 3 times physically too. Going through trauma and depression but fighting back to come normal. Thanks for these videoes or i would not have alive now. Want to learn a skill , financial independence than will move far away. Now stuck with this monster. Pray for me please🙏🏻
One day i will be out of this cage i am in alive along with my daughter. 🙏🏻
Need a lots of prayer for me. Thank you❤
@noplacelikehome2.0
Wow... horrid... hope you are all healing.
Unbelievable 😮 such a poor example of human being
Myaccount@ Try to learn about social services in your area for abused women. There are shelters and legal services. But remember !!! Say nothing about your plans to your husband. He is violent toward you and your child, so you have to act now in secrecy Just pack prepare everything in secret and leave when he is not home.💝
8:30 This is so on point, They become so addicted and obsessed with porn and all things explicitly -deviantly sexual , NO ONE can "mesure" up to their expectations. Devestating and very diminishing on your self-esteem and self-worth until you relalize and leave.
And what if you’re a freak but still respect others and don’t project unrealistic expectations onto your partner(s)? Askin for a friend
They like men, women and children.
Theyll enjoy that and have several secret lives. Itll never be enough. U can explore , open , invite, no judgement, and maybe even go against your own comfort to please them. Its not enough. The thrill is in trickery and abuse. Not s3x itself. Ask me how i know @calebray4168
I’m so amazed with the knowledge that you have about a Narcissist. I was Married to One for 23yrs and knew that there was Something really Strange and also can be really Wicked. but I did not know during that time what a narcissist was. there was so much humiliation Spiteful It was
As if he had multiple personalities. I never knew Who
He would become next. He was So fake when he needed me for His Supply. he almost destroyed me, But God is Good and he saved me.
They go through your stuff to feel powerful, too
My ex husband has done every one of these things! It’s incredible to me just how much alike they all are; as if it’s one evil entity that they have all let in rather then individual people. 🤔
Only voices and bodies are different
@@yuu_miran So true!!
It's because their ego is annihilated from childhood abuse.
If there's nothing there, it's as empty in every narcissist.
Yup my narc ex moved in his mother and shes a narc as well. They were planning on taking my son all for themselves behind my back and cutting me out of the picture by gaslighting me into signing SMI, saying i was mentally ill when i am not. My ex was sexually abusing our child and the grandmother knew about it and enabled him! Im so sick of these people. Everything that is said in this video is exactly 💯
OMG how did you manage to get out if that and save your kid?
That's horrifying. Narcs LOVE to accuse their target of being mentally ill, I've seen it a lot.
I was sexually abused by relatives. My parents knew and did nothing.
@@RaptureReadyforJesus-qv2ql it is unbeleivable heatbreaking to read. I hope you are on the path of healing now! 💚
@@Rosalie-ct8mi you are so kind! 💕 Yes!!!! I am healing and happy.
Right before my husband moved out permanently, he slashed a huge hole in my beautiful, gorgeous red sofa that he knew I loved. He blamed it on the dog 😖 Psycho
Yes, they can be spiteful.
It’s insane the types of things these ppl will make up just to tear you apart especially when you make a stand for yourself and leave. Everything from bashing you to everyone making up lies to destroy your image to framing you for things you didn’t do and if you have kids they will try to take them from you and tell you your the one who’s a narcissist and mentally ill. Iv tried so hard to make this person see this relationship wasn’t working out and Iv wanted to escape for years and they’d love bomb over and over to trick me and make me think things were gonna change but they never did for long. I left bc I was feeling so sick like he’s killing me and I feel so strongly in my spirit that’s what he’s trying to do. I will not waist my life dealing with that and feeling like the trauma and suffering constantly trying to argue how things happens standing up to myself when they deny everything and twist everything it’s awful. I believe these ppl are possessed by something very evil and alls I can do is pray for him now and make up time and years Iv lost being a mentally strong mother for my kids and just being happy and safe. I pray protection for all those dealing with anyone like this . Take care of yourselves especially you mothers out there you have to be mentally strong for your kids don’t let these men steal your lives from you. We only get one life down here God does not want us to be less then what he’s made us to be and especially doesn’t want us being abused and manipulated by fear. Brothers and Sisters break free and pray for these ppl.
After I tought I was a narc,I'm happy too see this video,I don't do these things
They definitely troll for arguments...smh...
Why
@@camsteph67to create distance.. to have time apart to "cool down", maybe planning something in a few days and come home later, or dissappear for a while.. they have no empathy for other unless others can notice their actions and get praise from it.. you feel they have no inner thoughts at times but they are very calculated when they want to get away and interact with their supply.
They go to youtube 😮
Absolutely. They give no real love or support but demand it from you. If you dare point out this hypocrisy they go bonkers. Bottom line is they're always right and you're always wrong
@@regcreational6447you’re talkin about personally. This guy is talkin about just commenting online. Nobody knows wth they’re talkin about and throws this word around so much. Repeated bad behavior and dysfunction should not be tolerated. That’s it. No need to run around diagnosing everyone.
They send nasty emails, nasty texts to try to draw you back in.
Every time my phone dings I’m scared to look at the texts. I’m constantly on eggshells waiting for the nasty text messages. His favorite is telling me if I don’t like it get my own phone plan. Then when I call him mean he says why are you with me then.
@@Smurfyis730 Yes I'm now separated from a narcissist husband. He was a liar and very jealous
What kind of nasty texts for example are you referring to?
My husband would do these things. One day I wanted to clean everything up high so I got the ladder and as soon as I climbed up on it in the kitchen, I found some of my makeup and perfume up there. I couldn't believe he blamed our daughters. Danish is spot on with everything he says. I listen to him everyday. ❤
Bet you'll find HIS fingerprints on YOUR makeup & perfume -- especially if you caught him on 'candid camera'!
I know it was him. My daughters would've used my stuff, not hide it.
@@annettejohnson3625 Narcissists are malicious enemies & saboteurs within -- certain extreme narcissists are also known to toss, burn, purloin, hijack, & sell belongings without the owners' knowledge.
Wow that's demented..
I'm sorry , Danish, that you suffered this abuse
I did also, it's awful.
I'm healing now after a lifetime of various forms of abuse.
My Narc went on Facebook and instagram and hit on or tried to date anybody that I was friends with!!!! 😳😢😪
He literally tried to ruin as many of my friendships as he could! It’s sad to think that he actually thought for a second that he was that attractive OR he thought my friends didn’t know exactly what he’s about! They are SAD AND PATHETIC! And they get worse with age!
The x tried the same with a friend, but I knew what was up and so did she. He looked stupid.
"They cannot sit in their own shade"...that is very deep. Delusions on the grandest scale😢
After so much struggles I now own a new house and my family is happy once again everything is finally falling into place!!
I am so glad for you! Enjoy your happy family and let there be peace and joy 🎉🙏
My mother made an unwanted visit some years back... I had thick plush and freshly vacced carpets. When I returned home after work she'd gone back to her own town as planned but she left her foot prints through the house with built up prints in front of drawers and wardrobes.
Also when my Nana died I arrived to do a clean up and she had my Nanas jewellery stuffed in her pockets. (She was my deceased fathers mother). Eventually we became estranged.
When my grandmother died, my aunt went immediately into the house and grabbed antiques.
@RaptureReadyforJesus-qv2ql it's just awful. I arranged with my mother to rent my great aunts (after she passed) for a time, and initially I would do a clean up in lieu of rent. My mother was going there often as she lived 2 hours away but I was 3.5 hours away. She asked what I needed so it could be a bit livable when we turned up. (My great aunt had the hoarding disorder). I said the oven working, some beds cleared and the kitchen bench. Thats it.
We arrived (myself and 6 year old son). The bed had MOUNTAINS on them. The benches you could barely see one inch and of the entire oven we had 1 working top element.
My mother had been there, but only to go through everything and get all the antiques and valuables. She had promised to help with the clean up but after doing 7 days a week for 7 weeks and getting all the op ships over getting stuff plus filling huge skip bins I realised she was against me not for me when she made contact about the rent payments due to start up. Market rent for an unlivable property. My friends advised pack up and move out. So I did.
@@rebeccabriggs2982 wow, that is intense. I have a friend that is a hoarder. What is sad is that she says they are broke, but they have thousands of dollars of good items that can be sold.
My narc husband was prescribed some pain medication that he mysteriously “lost”. One day he told my sister to make sure she locked up all her medication because I will steal it. She informed me that he said this so I confronted him about it and he went off on me. Later I found the bottle of pills that he tried to frame me for taking when I did no such thing.
D. I. V. O. R. C. E.
Run. Leave as soon as you can. Besides the fact that this is a horrible situation for you, it‘s also almost hilarious from him and shows how sick these people are. Why on earth should a sane person „steal“ her husbands medication and (!) is going after her sisters (!) medications!?? Unless you are addicted to some sort of painkillers, there is absolutely no reason for such behavior. And if, why should a painkiller addict steal ALL medications, so that would be necessary to lock aspirin’s and vitaminpills and all that stuff away? That’s ridiculous. But logical thinking isn’t their thing, their psychotic. Good bless you and best wishes to get out of this soon, safe, healthy and get your life back.
@stephanniekotalik9339 RRRRUUUUUNNNNN‼️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️ Don't look back. They don't change & they get worse!
I’m sorry but you haven’t given enough details to make a proper judgment. How you know he “framed” you? That just seems extremely exaggerative. How you know he didn’t lose the bottle or misplace it then found it?
@@Snowjewels.you’re putting a lot of words in there that she didn’t even say. This is the problem with these videos. Y’all commenting jump to conclusions and begin to sound like narcissists. Plenty of em use baser logic in their arguments, and I don’t think you’re a clinical psychologist so let’s keep the diagnoses and symptoms to ourselves? You’re projecting your story onto hers and neither of you know each other. Both of you could be narcissists, present yourself with some humility instead of just a laundry list of what the other person has done, and that’ll paint a clearer picture. Anybody can just blame the other.
😮Idk what's more shocking-that other people had the same experiences as me or that you find SO many minute details that are painful-even forgotten-but never resolved!
So true. My narc ex said to me "Every chance he had to cheat he took it" Just proves I was NEVER on his mind 🤦♀️
Sadly my dad is SO like this. My dad can make 40-80 phone calls a day looking for supply when he’s alone. Calling his old high school girlfriend 5-10 times in a row, calling anyone you can think of.. calling them over and over again until they pick up the phone or block him. We saw this in his cell phone history on the phone bill.
That’s interesting looking through an unfiltered eye at what they have done
Same my dad is the same
If they have TV and social media they do not care about being alone.
True
Dats me 😊
Channels like yours have saved my sanity!
I was triangulated and victimized by my narcissistic mother-in-law & her narcissistic son for years before I realized they were a dangerous duo (couple of sickos)!
Thank you for empowering & educating others by sharing your experience!🙏
My ex filled his day with his porn & sex addiction.
Mine, too. Once he admittet he did it multiple times a day.
@@julia1j1j1 Mine had become obsessed with OnlyFans. It seems perfect for a narc. All the power & control to have them fulfill their kink & no commitment involved.
Mine too. Sadly.
Yes I was looking for this coment
My ex she did the same thing
I have about 8 Narc Coaches that I follow religiously adore them all...but I have to say Danish you are my most favorite. You are very knowledgeable and it's like you've been peeking in my window because you describe my life to a T lol...
Pls share the names of all the coaches so we can benefit from their content as well
Exactly, Danish!
Unless you have experienced people like this, will you understand!
I admire anyone who keeps healing from the pain of this.
It can be done once you free yourself and love yourself again.
Blessings to you, for educating others, understanding, they are not crazy or the only ones healing.🙏🏻❤️🕊🌹
Thank you so much for this post!!! I am married to a narcassist who destroys everything i own, whose every minute of his everyday is focused on destroying me and others cannot see this. Its hard for people to understand the extent a narcassist will go to harass and intimidate their spouse. You hit the nail on the head with these 5 narcassistic traits!
Danish, thank you in particular for this video, it delineates the narcissist in my life exactly. I say in my life, yet on January 1st, as he unleashed his worst treatment to date, I felt myself enter a state of calmness and acceptance that I'd reached my limit and finally could walk away, begin a new journey apart from him and heal. It's been difficult, I've been lonely and watched as some of our friends, without a word to me, chose to take his side. Such harsh treatment and yet I feel so much freedom from him and from fake friends.
As I went no-contact with my mother, I didn't realize HOW many people believed her lies or maybe didn't even believe her lies, but supported her over me because they wanted something from my mom. I ended up blocking SO MANY PEOPLE that I didn't expect would be so cruel to me. In the end, I realized I was so much better off without any of those flying monkeys in my life. Every now and then, she tries to contact someone in my life and try to hoover me through them. It's sick. They just can't stop. When they lose their narcissistic supply they go ballistic. Keep safe.
Thank you Danish for this channel. i am somebody who has been mistreated by people with mental issues. I'm not a doctor so i won't try to say whether or not they are narcissists. The problem is that i've started to become very toxic since then. I've definitely taken on some of the narcissistic traits as a self defense mechanism and your channel has helped in raising my self awareness. I have days where i'm just very mean and cold and put myself above others. I know it's not right and i am set to begin counseling very soon. I ultimately don't think i'm a narcissist. More like a wounded animal lashing out in pain. I want so badly to love myself and others and be the kind person that i used to be.
I went through all this and more. I finally had to have her evicted, she wouldn't leave. Then she took my car after the eviction and disappeared, for four months,I had to hire a private detective. The night they got my car back it was a huge spectacular event, 10-13 police, her in handcuffs. And the next day she texted me saying how wrong I was for taking my car back. I just ignored her.
They are delusional. :(
@mvbigmagic4048 that sums it up very well!
Omg your best vid yet u just get better and better at revealing the truth and validating us thrivers. Duper's delight!😂 Gossiping, destroying belongings, snooping, reading journals , stealing, hiding your things, throwing away something precious of yours, starting random arguments, sowing confusion and chaos, all this I've witnessed
He’s taken to “moving” my stuff. I’m asleep, who knew it was time to rearrange the house? I can never just add a vase to a room w out him taking it and putting it away in a closet. It’s to humiliate me …
I unfortunately live with a very narcissistic person who does this all the time. He either hides it, bins it breaks it or gives it away. I have read many times that this is text book with many narcissists. Last week I bought a beautiful door wreath and he hid it on top of the kitchen cupboards. At Christmas I bought festive wreath from a boutique, he binned it immediately. I told him that I like nice things around me (as home life is far from peaceful) he screamed at me and called me a hoarder….and many, many other cruel things…….
He got into my computer and moved all my photos. Changed settings. Then screamed at me when i ask where my photos were.
He’s an Ahole...!!!
This is so sad! I am so sorry to hear this......They cause so much pain and frustration
You’re so spot on it’s like you know the person. Every damn thing you’ve said he’s done, how do they live in their own head with so much going on for nothing.
Every video I watch of yours describes my husband to a T. Hearing it all out loud makes me feel sick, it stabs me in the heart and twists. My Mother and older brother were both Narcissistic. I feel like they kinda prepared me for the endless years of loneliness I would have to endure with my husband. Truthfully I never realized I was fighting through it with my husband until I got older. I was only sixteen with no life experiences when we started dating. I'm fifty one this year. When I sit back and relive all the memories in my head I want to hate them all but in truth they really helped me by showing me how much greater God's love was compared to theirs. Honestly I look forward to the days that are coming with my Lord and Father in heaven. To feel nothing but their acceptance, love, joy and to finally know peace.
Amen!
@dgriner7463 @@jbrown2908 yes, dear, go and live your life. I have had two narcissistic ex-husbands, cruel men who hurt me very badly. And I was definitely groomed for that by my parents. Yet at 52, after 4 years of avoiding romance, I found the love of my life, and I am forever changed, maybe even starting to heal. 51 is young - keep your heart open 💖
He not only went through it, he took what he wanted and threw everything else away.
My ex did the same thing!
Very true. My dog Brook was killed, my clothes burnt, lost Very important docs, called all my friends and relatives telling them crap about me. Brought different women in my house.😢I only knew about narcissism too late after 30+ years, hoping this man would change. You 100% describe a man I have lived with for long.
I think thats the reason I find it impossible to be with someone because all they eventually tufn out to be narcs and i have my two lovely cats even imagining that someone come into my house and try to hurt them makes my head burst from panic. I dont care if sth happens to me but not to my cats.
I go mad if someone killed my dog..he’d better watch his back.
So sorry about your dog, 😰😰😰😰It is a hideous crime to kill an innocent dog. 😭
I am so sorry about brook brings me to tears 37 horrible years I hope you are free all the best to you
Everything you describe in this video I have been through. It took time for me to figure out who was creating destruction in my life. I even denied it was him for a long time. Finally, I found out he lives around the corner from me. I am glad I did research on narcissistic abuse. College did not even prepare me for this.
Wow, Thank you so much for explaining these in terms us regular ppl can fully understand without all the medical mumbo jumbo thrown in. My husband ticks all 5, which is so new for him it's had me questioning myself and the stranger he's become, even though we've been married for 38 yrs, together for 40. Never would I have thought this of him, but now realize this is exactly what it is. Again, thanks for sharing.
Down to the details, you really nailed this video! From them going through your crap, to destroying something someone else has, and they are big into having to know other people’s business
So spot-on! My narcissistic sister has flagrantly stolen from me, read my journals.
Mine, too!!!
My grandmother read mine and then quoted when relatives are together😅 how much she shared in private only God knows
Doctor what you're saying is so true. I play bingo in the minute I walk out the door and say I forget something I've caught him and mischievous cruel behavior every single time😢
Holy CRAP - this is the playbook in order that my ex-husband followed every time I tried to leave him. Nobody and I mean NOBODY believed me at the time when I tried to tell them what was happening in our house and there are still people drinking his Kool Aid now.
Glad you got away! We all believe you! And there are plenty of us who do. Those who are supporting are either the same kind of person or incredibly naïve. Or they get some sort of benefit out of being around that person financial or other attributes. I learned it is best never to try and convince anyone else unless they’ve been through it themselves they don’t understand it.
@@Fishsticks007 Thank you 🙏
NOPE NOT WITH ME. IM not on any media but youtube. I have a new number, gated fenced yard. Guard dogs, security cameras , game cameras, weaponry. Access Denied. I have zero feelings toward them. I dont care if something good or bad
happens, if they live or die, want to see me or not. I don't need apologies,
promises, dteams , flowers or gifts. I gave them everything I had to give including the gift of my absence ❤😂
Scary girl😂🦾
I KNOW THATS RIGHT!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾❤️❤️❤️❤️
Me too, just don't care.
Thank you are so right about everything you said about NARCISSIST!!
What’s bad is that you don’t find this out until years later. Near the end when you start realizing . And they always get people to believe them .
My husbands mother was evil. She knew what he did to me and encouraged him. She knew that he left me with a baby and never picked up the phone to ask if we needed anything. He was staying with her!
Because you "stole" her son from her. Be happy you got away...... You are free now to find someone who really loves you. My narcissistic mother abused my dad -- emotionally, isolated him from all his siblings, stole things from my paternal grandmother, badmouthed everyone constantly. When he died, I found a will in which he left everything to me. Only problem is, my mother managed to get everything into a living trust, and made the will invalid. They are sneaky and evil. I know you don't feel like it now, but you are SO LUCKY to be free of him. I pray you find someone who has NORMAL parents, and who KNOWS how to love you, and make your happiness his happiness.
@@mvbigmagic4048
Thank you. May God bless you for your encouragement and generosity of heart!
Oh my goodness! My journal, I haven't seen it in months.😢 my money is always missing "It was just here." He better not try to come back 😤. I will call the police. That's my attitude after 2 yrs. Today.
Hide your money
The goal was that nobody was supposed to know what was going on...even if it was nothing. It feels so refreshing to be able to live a real life instead of a fake one.
I left the narc 2 yrs ago and this is soooo accurate. He has now stolen my personality (that he expressed that he hated) and acting like me. Has convinced MY daughter of how bad I am. He NEVER treated his own children this way. My daughter is being heavily recruited for college and bowling. I believe he wants her success as his own. He has blocked me from all forms of communication even though he is not a legal guardian at all.
Had my identity stolen 3 times so far, not joking. The main problem is it acts like a wedge between the victim and their "native environments", robbing them of their place in the world. Narcissistic abuse needs serious investigation efforts ASAP and put the perpetrators in prison where they belong.
Covetous is the word I found describes my narcissitic mother best. Jealous and resentful of people who are genuine, they seek to control and destroy and "suck the cool" off of them😢
Absolutely right. Narcissist would want to use your personal items and tell you that you can't use theirs because of XYZ. And the calling includes coworkers. They ultimately destroy people closest to them. Sick people.
He used to give away our personal stuff out the house to other people….even a gold ring to a teenage neighbour
That's a sign of grooming others. Giving people gifts that they don't deserve so that later they feel entitled to them in some way shape or form. They shouldn't be around kids/teens. No phone numbers, visits, etc🚫
Mine would give my stuff away to his mates while I was at work
My ex would say ‘if you’re not doing anything wrong, you won’t care if I went through your stuff’. Did the same thing when he was posting very private stuff online. ‘If it’s not wrong, what difference does it make who knows?’
They have no respect for you!
My brother has no interests or hobbies. His project is my elderly mother and making sure he stops her from leaving anything to myself or my sisters.
With #2, I recently bought a new lock for my door and lock it when im gone. My narc mother got into a rage and took her anger out on my daughter [we share the room]. She said locking the door is against the 4th commandment 😂😂😂 the stupidity was actually hilarious 😂
Yeah 4th commandment, on a private property.. Ironic.. 😂
@@ephidd290 right ?! Hahahaha 😆 😂
Uh oh, I hope your daughter is safe! 😨
hilarious and stupid behaviour from your mother! Very good of you to change locks 👏👏👏
Thank you so very much for this episode. Here ive found two so disgusting behaviors that nobody talks about and that will help me to finally understand and accept that its NOT my imagination, they are actually capable of doing such despicable things. Thank you again Danish.
What you said its absolutely right,my nars does so many unacceptable things like this
Im leaving an abusive relationship and i cannot wait to be alone and i am not interested in another romantic relationship. Im interested in a real relationship with myself. Healing, growing and understanding who i am after this relationship.
A Narc will teach you not to trust. They will teach you not to even trust yourself.
I also lived with one. He was so damn mean. I left him after 22 yrs of marriage. I am now a Single woman and have been for 25 yrs. The Evil I went through, I can not subject myself to another relationship. It literally crushed me!
Thank you for making me understand how all this happened to me I don’t feel safe in my house all my clothing is gone now I locked my door and my clothes thank you
That's the absolute worst, when you don't feel safe in your own home. You gotta get out and go no contact. I know it's hard but it's the best thing that will happen to you...being free. ❤
have been watching ur channel a lot these past 2 days and its has initiated a tremendous spark of healing in me.I thank you, sir, and this universe for bringing me the support I needed.❤❤❤
Yes, their own self hatred gets taken out on you. Then being by themselves eats them alive. So true.
How backassward is that? No way can a normal person have a healthy two way conversation with a narcissist or even have a relationship with them???.
OMG.
All of these did but the last really stood out. I was w her for a year and she was clean w a past drug problem. She was always worried about me doing drugs but our relationship ended 2 days after she had a bad night on Adderall. Hypocrisy
I'm not gon lie. You had me questioning if I'm a narcissist myself here lol
I've often struggled with infidelity through talking to women and pornography addiction. Especially if I was drunk or high, porn was a go to. It's honestly probably my most disgusting trait.
I know the infidelity comes from an insecurity of my own value as a person, along with a lustful, likely hypersexualized mind. I want help with that side of me but idk where to even start.
They become spiritusl gurus and give "advice" to people online. Also if they live with people they prowl around listening at doors, to hear what's being said, in case it's useful to them later. They also tap phones just to keep tabs on what might be being said (it could be about them). The rest of the time they're in fantasy about their brilliant selves.
Actually, they keep themselves busy!
Also, many dog owners display classic narcissist traits. They break public rules, endanger others, pollute the environment without a care in the world and deny the fact that they can't control their hell beast. They will also blame you if their dog randomly attacks you. Avoid them at all costs. 🤢
I've experienced these things from more than one important relationship in my life. My favorite sweater my mother knitted me torn off of me and ripped apart. Yes journals and diaries read and then taken to my mother. The smear campaign that ran me out of the small town I had children and a separation and divorce. I've had the smear campaign and under attack in the town my mother once held her estate down here. I've been lied to, raged at and used by an ex boyfriend I met after my mother died. That in which includes the getting drunk and lying about drug use and porn. Makes you ask yourself what it is about me that atracks these ppl. The love bombing? My kindness and seeing ppl for their good side and then shock and betrayal erupts. In this video you described the ex boyfriend to a tee. Embarrassed and shamed of myself for being with him and tolerating him. Thank you for your video as you described one particular type of narcissist to a tee. They have demons. Thank you very much as I've focused on another and what happened with my mother's estate. You described the one I've chosen to forget.
My Mom is a narcissist and a racist she is 90 and I can’t help but still Love her. Her whole world is crumbling down around her, it’s everyone’s fault not hers. My heart hurts for her, she thinks everyone’s against her. I don’t know how to tell her that it’s her own fault.
Spot on!!😅 My ex bf did all of it!!
Yes! a parent can do all these things and its evil! Every word. Thank you for verbalizing what took me a lifetime to figure out!
omg I never put that together that he might have deliberately allowed other people, (women) to take my clothes and jewelry when I was gone. It makes sense he would allow that disrespect of me just to insure I felt insecure in my own home. I can't believe I took all his abuse personally for so long, wasted tears, wasted years and beat down my self-esteem. It's only been about a year since I've seen videos like yours that I now realize the truth of the whole relationship sadly they're selfishness hurts the kids too! He literally did every one of those things you said! Except he also ran to his enabling lil-sister. You make me think maybe he was the one who stole 4k from me when I thought it might be someone else. Thanks for the insight.
Sir ,you are absolutely right in your analysis,I have witnessed my neighbor destroy his family cause his children to hate him,annihilate his wife in every possible way to where she filed for divorce to get away from him.thanks for posting,I enjoy your perspective.
Thank you for making these videos, I have NPD the very covert type you talk about with conduct disorder and DID, I decided after many years of treatment to help people escape narcissistic abuse and i enjoy watching you do the same, i want to collab with you if you agree I can tell honestly stuff now that I dedicated myself to it. Ps. I just sub to you.