As coach for over a decade, I say unless your relationship has gotten to a point of no return (too much toxicity), forgiveness is key -- but should be both ways -- after some time apart. Granted this isn't always the case though, so it really depends.
@@breakupbradbrowning He has actually apologized before as have I. Truth be told, I'm an FA with him (normally I'm secure). If I could temper that and exercise a higher degree of independence when with him, we could probably turn this ship around.
Hey Charm ❤ Lot of love & praises to you ❤ I broke up with my ex a year ago..I've come across your video lot sooner.but made lots of mistakes as I've kind of habit of repeating mistakes even after realising..this year Feb we had a big fight after that I've unfriended & unfollowed her from every social media. But even after that she texted me two different times after that we started reconnecting slowly. Feeling so much confidence & gained lot of knowledge on how dynamics of a relationship works. We met once had a good time..& started reconnecting hope we'll be back together soon..
Hi there! Thanks for sharing this good news. I'm happy for you! :-) If you ever need additional tips or aren't too sure what to do next, then don't go at it alone. So hire me as your coach and/or check out my other vids as well, especially on my other channel where you can see hundreds of vids since I started 10 years ago. Take care!
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Destiny may have played a role in you guys meeting but it's still up to you both to maintain it. :-) Watch this, too, if you think this is a soulmate connection: th-cam.com/video/xlqCSxrAMeE/w-d-xo.html
As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved or if it was overall a dysfunctional/toxic relationship. It's your life and it's your decision.
That's one way of looking at it! As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved or if it was overall a dysfunctional/toxic relationship. It's your life and it's your decision.
I don't understand why seeking closure is so wrong. If my partner doesn't want to be with me, I understand and I would want to support them in their decision. The relationship meant something at one time though, at least allow me to say goodbye. Ending things by e-mail and disappearing is something that ends up being very traumatic, and its cruel to do.
It's because 9 times out of 10 you'll come up with more questions than answers if you're asking for closure. I understand how you feel and it's gut wrenching when you're trying to ask your ex for a really good explanation, but resist that! If you ask me, really, closures are overrated. If your ex broke things off with you and acts like it, trust me, you'd really want to give each other space as soon as possible. However, these may help offer a different perspective on things, as to what really happened in your relationship: th-cam.com/video/t6IX-pUnGZQ/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/VQjVlDWxJ2o/w-d-xo.html
Just don't do mental and emotional acrobatics. Playing games, forcing yourself to be someone else is nonsensical. Breakups have very good reasons. To understand them first, getting your inner balance back are much more helpful...
Yes, while some relationships are worth salvaging while others are not. Taking the time off top clear your head is important which is why I recommend the 30-day no contact rule in a ton of my videos.
I understand what you're going through. You know, moving on is a tricky process and the emotions come in waves. This video is for you: th-cam.com/video/01wvLSaS9_I/w-d-xo.html And if you're still having a hard time, this should help you understand why in order to understand what you're going through: th-cam.com/video/2CakOOSwIiY/w-d-xo.html & understand where your ex is at during the breakup process: y2u.be/dqnqGWOk9NA or get my latest e-book Beat the Breakup guide as that will help you and your mindset to evolve from the breakup and therefore become the best version of yourself. Check it out at www.beatmybreakup.com but if you want to take a shot at trying to fix your relationship, get my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
@@breakupbradbrowning Exactly, that is the point. To find out WETHER you want your ex back. I noticed how confusing it is to listen to videos about getting your ex back BEFORE you are clear about whether you actually want it. Especially, if personality disorders are at work like the narcissistic one, things get very confusing. That is always the problem with generalized advices on social media: the individual situation is always somewhat different. So I would say, this channell, too, has a lot of valuable information. But at the end of the day, you are the king of your own kingdom: you can listen carefully to your trusted advisors, think about it, synthetize your knowledge and make your own decisions. Especially in the early phase of the breakup, it is extremely difficult to see where you actually are, whether to act or pull back, whether to hope or let it go. And yes: if you are confused (by mixed messages for example), the best is to create inner space for yourself as good as you can. Thanks for coming back to me!
It’s been 6-8 months since the breakup..My ex messaged me in June asking to be friends, I told her I wanted some time to think and took a week to respond and told her I’d be willing to try but she left it on read, I haven’t reached out to her and I haven’t heard from her since but she watched all of my stories. Today she watched my post then unfollowed/unfriended me and that broke me…feel like I should just let her go but I can’t, I want her back
Hey man I understand where you're coming from. If you want to try again with your ex, it's best to be in talking terms with your ex again. Not necessarily friends though. Unless your ex is already in a relationship with someone else, then you shouldn't let communicating with your ex again derail you, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. If you've already reconnected for a while though and your ex is pushing you deeper into that friendship hole, then that's a different story. Getting an ex back is a process. Whatever you do, make sure you don’t resort to doing the things here: y2u.be/jikW4YYC9yo
Pregnancy sure does complicate all of these. Especially when she was the one who did the dumping. She also has abandonment issues. Was broke up with over a month ago. Have wanted to go no contact but now there's our child involved. I just don't know what to do 🤷
Sorry to hear that. Yes, it does play a role. It could be due to hormones so give her space and time to miss you first. But a lot also depends on the issue/s in your relationship. Just make sure to give yourselves a breather first as she may be dealing with a lot right now just as you are. Anyway here's a quick overview of what needs to happen: th-cam.com/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/w-d-xo.html Have you checked out my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 yet? It may help a ton, along with bonus texting materials to send your ex. Before anything else though, take the free quiz on my website to gauge your chances of getting your ex back, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
If you're asking about your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique and things aren't often black and white, I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz or sign up for my coaching program so I could take a closer look at what your situation and guide you accordingly at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Best of luck!
A lot of things happen in the 6 months he blocked me, he came back to make “peace” but didn’t say anything besides I just want to be at peace with you. Like I said I made the mistake n got emotional. . He Cleary said we will never get back together and our story is over, he wants me to be happy,‘move on and gives me his blessings towards someone new, and I can’t say the same back to him… I guess now I just have to stand my ground and let him come towards me
Sorry to hear that. This may help you process or deal with the breakup efficiently: th-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/w-d-xo.html but if you find yourself needing more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com or get my Ex Factor Guide if you want to try to get your ex back in the best possible way, at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!
We broke up a month and a half ago, but we still live together. It’s been really hard for me to let go as he is my dream. I said all the things mentioned tbh 😂 but even tho it was my fault that we end up in this situation, and I did steps to be a better version of myself, he still behaves disrespectful and cruel, from the moment we broke up. It’s like he is a different person. But, as much as I want this relationship to work, I can’t let him behave to me like this anymore just because he thinks I deserve it. I want to fix this relationship tho.. I am lost and I don’t know what else to do..
Why did you believe he thinks you deserved to be mistreated though? Was there cheating involved? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Today i told him after 7 months of breakup that i hate him...we had a bad fight on text and first time he block me and also he is hanging out with a new girl already and i don't know they are not dating or not but yes they will mostly and indirectly i mentioned this and we both blocked each other frnds too ...still i want him back is there any chance
Which steps have you taken to try to get him back during these months apart? As you can already tell, drama will only intensify things... and not in a good way. So that was totally the wrong approach and I've talked about that here: th-cam.com/video/juhamVEwsxU/w-d-xo.html You ought to review this first: th-cam.com/video/L0hxYTCJ2hU/w-d-xo.html and in fact, apply the tips here too instead of taking the shortcut: th-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/w-d-xo.html In the future, if you're still not sure about what you're doing, I really suggest you sign up for my coaching program so I can assess your situation properly and guide you accordingly at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching but please take the free quiz first to see what your chances are for saving this, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
I see. Well, it may seem that way now but underneath the surface, here's what's likely going on in your ex's mind: th-cam.com/video/dqnqGWOk9NA/w-d-xo.html
Hey Brad. My ex dumped me 3 months ago after 4 months of relationships. I did NC for only 14 days, and then I kept messaging him for about 3 months. We even met once, but he told me that we were "too different". Is it too late to go no contact?
Really sorry, but your window of opportunity may have already passed. Discussed that here: th-cam.com/video/e3l5KWEpIpw/w-d-xo.html and especially if you see the signs here: y2u.be/k1myDIp0gSc However, "no contact" is still the best route though. As to your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
He dumped me 1 month ago after four months relationship, for two weeks after break up i did all mistakes including contacting, insisting etc, now i’m in NC phase for 2 weeks, do you think it can work?
As you may have already suspected, begging does affect your chances. But depending on what really cut the relationship short, it may be time to consider moving on from this. But don't rush. Always take the time to give each other space first, all right? Do a minimum of 3 weeks of "no contact" and see if you still want your ex and if your ex is receptive to contact AFTER that period. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/w-d-xo.html but if you're having a hard time moving on from this, check out my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com Take care!
Lol well that's me screwed I have done all of these and im well in the friends zone, we have a picnic this sat with our children as she wants to show them we can get on as co parents, probably a really bad idea.
If you're hellbent on trying to work things out, let me just set expectations that it's a tough battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule instead of the full on silence associated with the no contact rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible, in addition to my newer vids I've posted: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/w-d-xo.html
@breakupbradbrowning thank you. She has said we may get back together in the future, we don't know what the future holds for us. Not really sure how to take it to be onist, think I'm being strung along to make her life easier.
Hey, good call! As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved or if it was overall a dysfunctional/toxic relationship. It's your life and it's your decision.
Hey, Coach. So, I broke no contact at 34 days. I got so fixated on attachment styles that I figured with her attachment style, it would be worth a try... so I took a chance. "Hey, "V", just wondering how you're doing, how's(her daughter)? How's school going?" Verbatim. She messaged back an hour later saying it was so nice to hear from me. We texted back and forth the last few days. I kept my messages to the point and "one step behind". Tonight, she came out to my place and we had, what I think, a wonderful conversation. There was no relationship talk. Little hints from her end here and there but I tried my best to "skip over" past relationship issues. 3 hours later, as she was leaving, she hugged me.... tightly. Even as I tried to let go, she held on. She opened the door and looked at me and said, "I don't know what would make you think I wouldn't want to see you." I pulled her back inside, held her hand and explained that I understood why she felt she had to break things off. I didn't show her respect where it was due and this breakup has really opened my eyes to my part in why our relationship failed. She said she believed that things had to end the way they did and I agreed(appeared to, at least). I then walked her to her car, said goodbye and suggested another meet up soon. She agreed without hesitation. I kept getting the old "eye contact-kiss me" feeling from her, but I held back. I want to write to her and tell her I had a great time but instincts told me to go no contact directly after the break up so I'll follow the same and not write to her. My heart is pounding in my chest, Coach. What do I do now? I'll be damned if I should have kissed her!😅
Hi there! Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
You think asking them to meet and talk after a year of NC while they are in another relationship (serious or rebound) is a bad idea? I already begged and did every possible thing wrong that was possible. Even took a flight to her town for 10 days straight. She straight up avoided me. I'm thinking to go again to see her brother and done other of her friends. I know you will not reply but any help would help me.
I care about every comment so of course, I'll try to get back when time permits! :-) Re your situation, if they've been with someone for longer than 6 months, yes, it's generally not a good idea to reach out... especially if she has shown one or more signs here: th-cam.com/video/SLXoeSabPnw/w-d-xo.html If so, please consider getting my Beat the Breakup Guide as it will help you gain a different perspective on how to move forward and find peace and true healing, at www.beatmybreakup.com Take care!
It's a tough battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, and in this case, it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule instead of the full on silence associated with the no contact rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged and you can do more than just co-parent. For now, though, try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible, in addition to my newer vids I've posted: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/w-d-xo.html or for a comprehensive guide on how to go about things, consider getting the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
Hey brad after approx 30 days of no contact with my ex , I decided to send him a random snap and soon after he saw the snap, he too sent me a snap of him with his younger brother being in the game zone, a few days ago also he sent me two snaps but i didn't say anything to them and then he stopped sending me snaps but now this happened . What does it mean?
Snaps, although not really boring, won't do much when it comes to reconnecting so I suggest to use it sparingly but you can alternate them with text. Just don't use it as the only means of communication with your ex. But yes, you can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: th-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/w-d-xo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: th-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/w-d-xo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
It means he’s breadcrumbing you to get you to chase him to feed his ego. Literally let go of this looser. If a man wants you, there’s nothing it’s gonna stop him from getting to you. You are a valuable person that deserves someone who will take care of your heart, your mind and your spirit.
It happens. I suggest you redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: th-cam.com/video/OzVymYnQFTk/w-d-xo.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: th-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/w-d-xo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/w-d-xo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule - let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
I did no contact for 30 days ,,, he texted back i replied . The next day he texted again i rrplied , he took one day and replied the next day ,, i told him not to text back what shall i do
Average time is 30 days but can go anywhere from 4 to 6 weeks in usual cases. If there's been some endless begging and/or refusing to cut off contact on your end, however, I usually suggest to give it more time, around 2 months or even more. Cheating instances are different if you've cheated, could be longer or shorter depending on how your ex reacts. Do take note that in some instances where the dumpee just couldn't take the hint and continually bugs their ex for months, there comes a time where the ex reaches a "breaking point" and confirms it's the right decision to break up and becomes hellbent in moving on from you. So the bottom line is the "no contact" rule is best applied when the breakup is still fresh. Discussed the importance of silence here: th-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/w-d-xo.html Also don't forget to watch my other vids so you'll know what to do after the "no contact" phase, especially if you're not getting my 2.0 version of the Ex Factor Guide. Good luck!
@@breakupbradbrowning thanks! I haven’t talked to her since July 3rd when she bombed me with an essay then actually amazed that she didn’t want to break up but on a break… but last time I saw her was June 21 in person.. I haven’t contacted her since and it’s killing me
how often do I have to text her after my no contact ends, like if I text her today so how long should I wait to start up another conversation with her. What should be the ideal day gap between conversations and how much time should I give to this rekindling phase to for sure know that if I ask her out to meet me (not a date of course, but a simple friendly meeting) she wont deny.
This depends on the progress between you two and how receptive your ex is. In general, I suggest to focus on texting and try not to meet up when one or both of you aren't ready yet. The phase you're on (assuming you've done the first phase correctly which is the 30-day no contact rule) is the second phase where you're rebuilding attraction. It's part two of the 3-phase system in my guide but here's a quick overview to help you understand better: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw but as you go on this phase, you'll notice one or more signs here: y2u.be/nmRM3dZAzDA and the best you can do is to continue to play your cards right and move to the third phase when you're both ready. Good luck!
no contact should have no end (unless you dumped her and she's in NC with you). The whole point of NC is to "set them free" and see if they come back and if they don't, that's all the closure you need.
It happens. If you're not ready to sign up for coaching yet, be sure to redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: th-cam.com/video/OzVymYnQFTk/w-d-xo.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: th-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/w-d-xo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/w-d-xo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule - let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com Best of luck!
Any wishes to be together are tempered by memories of disrespectful treatment.
As coach for over a decade, I say unless your relationship has gotten to a point of no return (too much toxicity), forgiveness is key -- but should be both ways -- after some time apart. Granted this isn't always the case though, so it really depends.
@@breakupbradbrowning He has actually apologized before as have I. Truth be told, I'm an FA with him (normally I'm secure). If I could temper that and exercise a higher degree of independence when with him, we could probably turn this ship around.
Hey Charm ❤
Lot of love & praises to you ❤
I broke up with my ex a year ago..I've come across your video lot sooner.but made lots of mistakes as I've kind of habit of repeating mistakes even after realising..this year Feb we had a big fight after that I've unfriended & unfollowed her from every social media. But even after that she texted me two different times after that we started reconnecting slowly. Feeling so much confidence & gained lot of knowledge on how dynamics of a relationship works. We met once had a good time..& started reconnecting hope we'll be back together soon..
Hi there! Thanks for sharing this good news. I'm happy for you! :-) If you ever need additional tips or aren't too sure what to do next, then don't go at it alone. So hire me as your coach and/or check out my other vids as well, especially on my other channel where you can see hundreds of vids since I started 10 years ago. Take care!
If it’s meant to be, it will not pass. This is a mantra that helped me tremendously.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Destiny may have played a role in you guys meeting but it's still up to you both to maintain it. :-) Watch this, too, if you think this is a soulmate connection: th-cam.com/video/xlqCSxrAMeE/w-d-xo.html
You say goodbye to them ..
Nothing less Nothing more
As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved or if it was overall a dysfunctional/toxic relationship. It's your life and it's your decision.
I did say to him tho, I know who I am and what I bring/brought to the table- what I offer is my character, that’s not replaceable 😊
Don't even talk to them they are not worth any effort
The wrong person has to leave for the right person to arrive
That's one way of looking at it! As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved or if it was overall a dysfunctional/toxic relationship. It's your life and it's your decision.
I don't understand why seeking closure is so wrong. If my partner doesn't want to be with me, I understand and I would want to support them in their decision. The relationship meant something at one time though, at least allow me to say goodbye. Ending things by e-mail and disappearing is something that ends up being very traumatic, and its cruel to do.
It's because 9 times out of 10 you'll come up with more questions than answers if you're asking for closure. I understand how you feel and it's gut wrenching when you're trying to ask your ex for a really good explanation, but resist that! If you ask me, really, closures are overrated. If your ex broke things off with you and acts like it, trust me, you'd really want to give each other space as soon as possible. However, these may help offer a different perspective on things, as to what really happened in your relationship: th-cam.com/video/t6IX-pUnGZQ/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/VQjVlDWxJ2o/w-d-xo.html
Just don't do mental and emotional acrobatics. Playing games, forcing yourself to be someone else is nonsensical.
Breakups have very good reasons.
To understand them first, getting your inner balance back are much more helpful...
Yes, while some relationships are worth salvaging while others are not. Taking the time off top clear your head is important which is why I recommend the 30-day no contact rule in a ton of my videos.
I understand what you're going through. You know, moving on is a tricky process and the emotions come in waves. This video is for you: th-cam.com/video/01wvLSaS9_I/w-d-xo.html And if you're still having a hard time, this should help you understand why in order to understand what you're going through: th-cam.com/video/2CakOOSwIiY/w-d-xo.html & understand where your ex is at during the breakup process: y2u.be/dqnqGWOk9NA or get my latest e-book Beat the Breakup guide as that will help you and your mindset to evolve from the breakup and therefore become the best version of yourself. Check it out at www.beatmybreakup.com but if you want to take a shot at trying to fix your relationship, get my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
@@breakupbradbrowning
Exactly, that is the point. To find out WETHER you want your ex back.
I noticed how confusing it is to listen to videos about getting your ex back BEFORE you are clear about whether you actually want it.
Especially, if personality disorders are at work like the narcissistic one, things get very confusing.
That is always the problem with generalized advices on social media: the individual situation is always somewhat different.
So I would say, this channell, too, has a lot of valuable information.
But at the end of the day, you are the king of your own kingdom: you can listen carefully to your trusted advisors, think about it, synthetize your knowledge and make your own decisions.
Especially in the early phase of the breakup, it is extremely difficult to see where you actually are, whether to act or pull back, whether to hope or let it go.
And yes: if you are confused (by mixed messages for example), the best is to create inner space for yourself as good as you can.
Thanks for coming back to me!
It’s been 6-8 months since the breakup..My ex messaged me in June asking to be friends, I told her I wanted some time to think and took a week to respond and told her I’d be willing to try but she left it on read, I haven’t reached out to her and I haven’t heard from her since but she watched all of my stories. Today she watched my post then unfollowed/unfriended me and that broke me…feel like I should just let her go but I can’t, I want her back
Hey man I understand where you're coming from. If you want to try again with your ex, it's best to be in talking terms with your ex again. Not necessarily friends though. Unless your ex is already in a relationship with someone else, then you shouldn't let communicating with your ex again derail you, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. If you've already reconnected for a while though and your ex is pushing you deeper into that friendship hole, then that's a different story. Getting an ex back is a process. Whatever you do, make sure you don’t resort to doing the things here: y2u.be/jikW4YYC9yo
Pregnancy sure does complicate all of these. Especially when she was the one who did the dumping. She also has abandonment issues. Was broke up with over a month ago. Have wanted to go no contact but now there's our child involved. I just don't know what to do 🤷
Sorry to hear that. Yes, it does play a role. It could be due to hormones so give her space and time to miss you first. But a lot also depends on the issue/s in your relationship. Just make sure to give yourselves a breather first as she may be dealing with a lot right now just as you are. Anyway here's a quick overview of what needs to happen: th-cam.com/video/ECCZm_mqzKg/w-d-xo.html Have you checked out my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 yet? It may help a ton, along with bonus texting materials to send your ex. Before anything else though, take the free quiz on my website to gauge your chances of getting your ex back, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
I’ve said nearly all of those things so do I have no hope? 😭 Wish I had seen this before I made all the mistakes!!!
If you're asking about your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique and things aren't often black and white, I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz or sign up for my coaching program so I could take a closer look at what your situation and guide you accordingly at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Best of luck!
Good Vid buddy…👏👏
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A lot of things happen in the 6 months he blocked me, he came back to make “peace” but didn’t say anything besides I just want to be at peace with you. Like I said I made the mistake n got emotional. . He Cleary said we will never get back together and our story is over, he wants me to be happy,‘move on and gives me his blessings towards someone new, and I can’t say the same back to him… I guess now I just have to stand my ground and let him come towards me
Sorry to hear that. This may help you process or deal with the breakup efficiently: th-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/w-d-xo.html but if you find yourself needing more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com or get my Ex Factor Guide if you want to try to get your ex back in the best possible way, at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!
@@breakupbradbrowning thank you
We broke up a month and a half ago, but we still live together. It’s been really hard for me to let go as he is my dream. I said all the things mentioned tbh 😂 but even tho it was my fault that we end up in this situation, and I did steps to be a better version of myself, he still behaves disrespectful and cruel, from the moment we broke up. It’s like he is a different person. But, as much as I want this relationship to work, I can’t let him behave to me like this anymore just because he thinks I deserve it. I want to fix this relationship tho.. I am lost and I don’t know what else to do..
Why did you believe he thinks you deserved to be mistreated though? Was there cheating involved? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Lol. Yep broke all these suggestions. Oh well, it's good now. Let her go. No need for that FA
Your call.
Today i told him after 7 months of breakup that i hate him...we had a bad fight on text and first time he block me and also he is hanging out with a new girl already and i don't know they are not dating or not but yes they will mostly and indirectly i mentioned this and we both blocked each other frnds too ...still i want him back is there any chance
Which steps have you taken to try to get him back during these months apart? As you can already tell, drama will only intensify things... and not in a good way. So that was totally the wrong approach and I've talked about that here: th-cam.com/video/juhamVEwsxU/w-d-xo.html You ought to review this first: th-cam.com/video/L0hxYTCJ2hU/w-d-xo.html and in fact, apply the tips here too instead of taking the shortcut: th-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/w-d-xo.html In the future, if you're still not sure about what you're doing, I really suggest you sign up for my coaching program so I can assess your situation properly and guide you accordingly at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching but please take the free quiz first to see what your chances are for saving this, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
His peace was just reminding me over and over we are done but I never asked
I see. Well, it may seem that way now but underneath the surface, here's what's likely going on in your ex's mind: th-cam.com/video/dqnqGWOk9NA/w-d-xo.html
Hey Brad. My ex dumped me 3 months ago after 4 months of relationships. I did NC for only 14 days, and then I kept messaging him for about 3 months. We even met once, but he told me that we were "too different". Is it too late to go no contact?
Really sorry, but your window of opportunity may have already passed. Discussed that here: th-cam.com/video/e3l5KWEpIpw/w-d-xo.html and especially if you see the signs here: y2u.be/k1myDIp0gSc However, "no contact" is still the best route though. As to your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
He dumped me 1 month ago after four months relationship, for two weeks after break up i did all mistakes including contacting, insisting etc, now i’m in NC phase for 2 weeks, do you think it can work?
As you may have already suspected, begging does affect your chances. But depending on what really cut the relationship short, it may be time to consider moving on from this. But don't rush. Always take the time to give each other space first, all right? Do a minimum of 3 weeks of "no contact" and see if you still want your ex and if your ex is receptive to contact AFTER that period. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/w-d-xo.html but if you're having a hard time moving on from this, check out my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com Take care!
Lol well that's me screwed I have done all of these and im well in the friends zone, we have a picnic this sat with our children as she wants to show them we can get on as co parents, probably a really bad idea.
If you're hellbent on trying to work things out, let me just set expectations that it's a tough battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule instead of the full on silence associated with the no contact rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible, in addition to my newer vids I've posted: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/w-d-xo.html
@breakupbradbrowning thank you. She has said we may get back together in the future, we don't know what the future holds for us.
Not really sure how to take it to be onist, think I'm being strung along to make her life easier.
My ex was a scammer. I don't want him back.
Hey, good call! As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved or if it was overall a dysfunctional/toxic relationship. It's your life and it's your decision.
Hey, Coach. So, I broke no contact at 34 days. I got so fixated on attachment styles that I figured with her attachment style, it would be worth a try... so I took a chance.
"Hey, "V", just wondering how you're doing, how's(her daughter)? How's school going?" Verbatim.
She messaged back an hour later saying it was so nice to hear from me. We texted back and forth the last few days. I kept my messages to the point and "one step behind".
Tonight, she came out to my place and we had, what I think, a wonderful conversation. There was no relationship talk. Little hints from her end here and there but I tried my best to "skip over" past relationship issues.
3 hours later, as she was leaving, she hugged me.... tightly. Even as I tried to let go, she held on.
She opened the door and looked at me and said, "I don't know what would make you think I wouldn't want to see you."
I pulled her back inside, held her hand and explained that I understood why she felt she had to break things off. I didn't show her respect where it was due and this breakup has really opened my eyes to my part in why our relationship failed.
She said she believed that things had to end the way they did and I agreed(appeared to, at least).
I then walked her to her car, said goodbye and suggested another meet up soon. She agreed without hesitation. I kept getting the old "eye contact-kiss me" feeling from her, but I held back.
I want to write to her and tell her I had a great time but instincts told me to go no contact directly after the break up so I'll follow the same and not write to her.
My heart is pounding in my chest, Coach. What do I do now?
I'll be damned if I should have kissed her!😅
Hi there! Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
What was her attachment Style
@@jf5505 I also want to know!!
@breakupbradbrowning I wish I could, but my finances aren't the best right now.
You think asking them to meet and talk after a year of NC while they are in another relationship (serious or rebound) is a bad idea? I already begged and did every possible thing wrong that was possible. Even took a flight to her town for 10 days straight. She straight up avoided me. I'm thinking to go again to see her brother and done other of her friends. I know you will not reply but any help would help me.
I don't wanna keep contact with them just to get her back. I don't care anymore. I just like the boys.
I care about every comment so of course, I'll try to get back when time permits! :-) Re your situation, if they've been with someone for longer than 6 months, yes, it's generally not a good idea to reach out... especially if she has shown one or more signs here: th-cam.com/video/SLXoeSabPnw/w-d-xo.html If so, please consider getting my Beat the Breakup Guide as it will help you gain a different perspective on how to move forward and find peace and true healing, at www.beatmybreakup.com Take care!
What if they won't talk to you and you have an infant child together? Don't break no contact right? I just want to see my child. I don't want her
It's a tough battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, and in this case, it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule instead of the full on silence associated with the no contact rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged and you can do more than just co-parent. For now, though, try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible, in addition to my newer vids I've posted: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/w-d-xo.html or for a comprehensive guide on how to go about things, consider getting the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
@@breakupbradbrowning thank you 🙏
Hey brad after approx 30 days of no contact with my ex , I decided to send him a random snap and soon after he saw the snap, he too sent me a snap of him with his younger brother being in the game zone, a few days ago also he sent me two snaps but i didn't say anything to them and then he stopped sending me snaps but now this happened . What does it mean?
Snaps, although not really boring, won't do much when it comes to reconnecting so I suggest to use it sparingly but you can alternate them with text. Just don't use it as the only means of communication with your ex. But yes, you can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: th-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/w-d-xo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: th-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/w-d-xo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
@@breakupbradbrowning
It means he’s breadcrumbing you to get you to chase him to feed his ego. Literally let go of this looser. If a man wants you, there’s nothing it’s gonna stop him from getting to you. You are a valuable person that deserves someone who will take care of your heart, your mind and your spirit.
Wish I seen this before I made all these mistakes 😢
It happens. I suggest you redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: th-cam.com/video/OzVymYnQFTk/w-d-xo.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: th-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/w-d-xo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/w-d-xo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule - let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
I did no contact for 30 days ,,, he texted back i replied . The next day he texted again i rrplied , he took one day and replied the next day ,, i told him not to text back what shall i do
Stop texting him first. Apply the tips from this vid: th-cam.com/video/npuQb1APSaU/w-d-xo.html
Do you even know what you want?
How long should I go on a break that wants no contact..
Average time is 30 days but can go anywhere from 4 to 6 weeks in usual cases. If there's been some endless begging and/or refusing to cut off contact on your end, however, I usually suggest to give it more time, around 2 months or even more. Cheating instances are different if you've cheated, could be longer or shorter depending on how your ex reacts. Do take note that in some instances where the dumpee just couldn't take the hint and continually bugs their ex for months, there comes a time where the ex reaches a "breaking point" and confirms it's the right decision to break up and becomes hellbent in moving on from you. So the bottom line is the "no contact" rule is best applied when the breakup is still fresh. Discussed the importance of silence here: th-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/w-d-xo.html Also don't forget to watch my other vids so you'll know what to do after the "no contact" phase, especially if you're not getting my 2.0 version of the Ex Factor Guide. Good luck!
@@breakupbradbrowning thanks! I haven’t talked to her since July 3rd when she bombed me with an essay then actually amazed that she didn’t want to break up but on a break… but last time I saw her was June 21 in person.. I haven’t contacted her since and it’s killing me
how often do I have to text her after my no contact ends, like if I text her today so how long should I wait to start up another conversation with her. What should be the ideal day gap between conversations and how much time should I give to this rekindling phase to for sure know that if I ask her out to meet me (not a date of course, but a simple friendly meeting) she wont deny.
This depends on the progress between you two and how receptive your ex is. In general, I suggest to focus on texting and try not to meet up when one or both of you aren't ready yet. The phase you're on (assuming you've done the first phase correctly which is the 30-day no contact rule) is the second phase where you're rebuilding attraction. It's part two of the 3-phase system in my guide but here's a quick overview to help you understand better: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw but as you go on this phase, you'll notice one or more signs here: y2u.be/nmRM3dZAzDA and the best you can do is to continue to play your cards right and move to the third phase when you're both ready. Good luck!
You don't text her.
no contact should have no end (unless you dumped her and she's in NC with you). The whole point of NC is to "set them free" and see if they come back and if they don't, that's all the closure you need.
@@roydied15 My man! 👑
Oh no ive done these things 😢
It happens. If you're not ready to sign up for coaching yet, be sure to redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: th-cam.com/video/OzVymYnQFTk/w-d-xo.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: th-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/w-d-xo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/w-d-xo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule - let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com Best of luck!