Not all dumpees are flawed, my dumper is emotionally unavailable, emotionally immature and extremely avoidant. The person he is now is completely different from the guy that pursued me for 2yrs. I’d love to teach him that he has destructive patterns and will continue to lose good people and waste people’s time. I gave friendship for a time until I had enough and told him I need to move on and him in my orbit is keeping me stuck. He opted to leave me on read, 2 months later I felt bad and reached out to tell him I loved him and would be a friend (my reasoning is I know he has traumas and I don’t want to add to that) again left on read. It’s just so cold and heartless. I no longer care anymore and I suspect that’s why he decided to do the one thing he knows inflicts pain and triggers my abandonment wounds. Real mature.
That's true. Sometimes, dumpers have baggage and trauma that they need to get rid of before they can form a truly healthy relationship. Unfortunately if it's their innate behaviour, that's pretty tough to change unless they decide to do so for themselves. The best you can do at this time for yourself is to move on. With avoidant personalities, there's no telling how long you'd have to put up with a certain behaviour. This may help you process or deal with the breakup efficiently: th-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/w-d-xo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com or get my Ex Factor Guide if you want to try to get your ex back, at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!
It sure sounds like you were dating my boyfriend…. I lasted 10 years….. and now I feel foolish for the time wasted. But I am empathic, and we are the kind of women that can handle the avoidant behavior for a while….. unfortunately I had losses in my own personal life that made me hang onto him too long. But I’ve learned my lessons and this is a huge gross spirit and we’re all going to make it through so that we don’t. Pic the same guy next time with a different face.🤪
It’s been about 5 maybe 5 and a half weeks since we broke up, today I asked if she wanted to go catch up over coffee and she agreed. Hopefully it gets better from here
Good. Remember to take it easy. Since it's been many months since the breakup, it's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: th-cam.com/video/YVViZmY2x0I/w-d-xo.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
What should I do if my ex is in my same classroom, and if ai asks her to shopping or go out, she say that she doesn’t know what to do, because we’re ex
Yeah, don't jump the gun and ask to go out with an ex who's clearly not willing. Take time to build rapport first but first of all, be sure to respect the breakup / be cordial and not act like her boyfriend again while trying to rebuild your relationship, yeah? Good luck!
Hi coach. After 8 months I feel well and I let him go I don't want him back because he hurt me so bad . I did my best in our relationship but I hurt more from his behaviour after the breakup. He did so many toxic things after the breakup
Sorry to hear you're going through this. The breakup looks like a blessing in disguise anyway and this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: th-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/w-d-xo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com
Rebound guy here. My ex broke up with me a month ago to go back with his ex fiance/husband (dont really know what they were). We were together for three months before their contact (not sure who contacted who). I believe they were not together for at least 3-6 months. So all of these tips may work for you. However, do all us "rebound loves" a big favor: If you see them with someone else, leave them alone. Also go on healing journey before you decide to date someone new.
Hi there! I agree. Full disclosure is needed. It helps to discern your date's selfish tendencies though. If they're rebounding, chances are it will show. Use this as a lesson learned in case you run into the same types of people. In all honesty though, the breakup looks like a blessing in disguise and this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: th-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/w-d-xo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com Take care!
Hi coach before 2 months I replied this video. I'm good without my ex and he nothing felt about the breakup. But now he and me in the same groups and he reply my texts in groups but we dont talk each other when we meet. But when I asking or messaging something about in group he replies that messages firstly among others. But he seems like he doesn't care or feel anything about the breakup
Hi! That's a normal reaction especially since the breakup is still fresh. This should help give you an idea of which stage he's in: th-cam.com/video/dqnqGWOk9NA/w-d-xo.html
My seperated wife ask for her wedding ring back to wear it.she is also talking about future plans together.still sometimes she doesnt reach out to much via phone...then she still goes hot and cold...we have been intimate in several times in past 2 weeks...these have to be good signs? She says she wants to fight for our marriage, but doesnt appear to making a big effort? Thanks coach
Those are all promising signs, yes. I suggest to meet her halfway instead of waiting for her to make all the effort. The process of saving one's marriage is a bit complicated and in fact, does NOT make use of the "no contact" rule... but this is why I've released a second book called Mend the Marriage. Check it out at www.marriageguy.com as everything is on there, from how to communicate more effectively, down to how to handle the kids (if applicable), monitor your progress through worksheets and stuff. But while I certainly need more information to know what's going on between you two for sure, I suggest you check out more marriage-saving tips which you may find useful, check out this new channel I've dedicated solely for this purpose. Here's the link: y2u.be/dr2JTi_bCRU or sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!
Having expectations is the root of all misery. If you're curious, you can actually reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: th-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/w-d-xo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: th-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/w-d-xo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!
Don't overthink things. Just be yourself and converse about her subject of interest and what you'd like to know about it. Here are the basics to getting an ex back: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw I also suggest that you read my new version of my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total and the "no contact" rule is only the first), including what to say, do or not do, along with bonus materials for texting, and the psychology of how a woman thinks and understanding women in general. Good timing is essential! Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy
Hey brad He asked for a break initially by saying he don't want to be in a relationship but later he said he lost feelings towards me(I've made few mistakes like i talked to my ex when we were in a relationship and all)I said we'll genuinely try to fix things and I asked for a month he said no.So we broke up. Later he asked if we can be fwb but I said no than he said he was just asking. Yesterday he texted me asking if i want a chance to fix things. I said it involves both. He agreed and we thought of trying to fix things and give us a chance for a month. But after sometime he talked about it and he said it is not a good idea. He said it takes time for everything to get normal. So I said that we'll take a break and focus on ourselves now and later when we are really ready we can date. We didn't put any time period but we thought of coming back to eachother when both of us feel that way. He is happy with the decision too. Am confused now what can I do next?
She discarded me 5mos ago by text for new supply guy using excuse "I" was cheat on her! 😂. Covert narcs. Pffftt. 8 yrs together gone. She wont ever come back anyway much as id maybe be open to it. What a waste my good years.
They say people come into your life for a season or for a lifetime, or something along those lines. So time is never wasted. Someone is either a blessing or a lesson learned. Learn the lessons and become a better version of yourself and learn what you want, don't want, etc. and you'll eventually find a better match, which your ex obviously isn't. Take care!
I just split with someone I deeply cared about. It’s not as big of a deal as some people go through but it hurt so much because I actually felt adored and understood by her. That doesn’t come around often, and at this level, it never has. She’s apologized but I haven’t fully accepted it yet. Planning to talk to her again when I’m actually ready to forgive and I want to just lay it all out and ask her the hard questions on why she lied when communication was our biggest achievement with each other. Should I give her another chance if she actually comes to her senses? I feel such a strong connection with her still, and it may go against what everyone thinks is the right move. The idea is that by the time I talk to her, I will not care if it goes either way, just as long as I do literally all I can do.
Hey, sounds like a plan! It's often best to never to be too attached to the outcome but to nevertheless do the best you can. Take your time to be ready but just so you know, you can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: th-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/w-d-xo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: th-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/w-d-xo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
Hi Brad, my ex and I broke up about 7 months ago. I've probably watched all your videos, lol. We did no contact for the first 2 months, and ever since, we've been texting and having sex regularly. We meet up nearly every weekend, and she stays over at mine. She's also let me take her out on what I would call dates. I get a lot of mixed signals, however, she has said we are not getting back together. One strange thing is she refuses to tell her mum that she's speaking to me again, which I think is part of the problem. I'm not sure what the issue is there though... In the last week or two, she's become quite distant, ignoring texts and cancelled last minute last week. I'm wondering if I need to take a step back, ask her if there's a problem, or walk away entirely?
Hey man! It looks like you're on the right track but I'm not too sure. Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Talk soon?
A lot of my friends think I should not take my ex back. I think that we are human and we make mistakes, and he was my partner, so I want to give him a chance. He broke up with me because he "wants a girlfriend that is a programmer and who he can build a business with." Our friends were all confused and were like "you are that girl lol" (Also ironic cuz I'm going through a job process with a big company for a learn to hire as a programmer program). Hopefully he will learn his lesson soon. I feel like I need to push the lesson #4.
Hi! thanks for sharing your story. Yes, hold your ground and feel free to apply the tips from this vid. Don't forget to check out my other videos if you're not getting my Ex Factor guide so you'll know what to do next after the 30-day "no contact" period, to contacting your ex down to re-attracting, and what to do in between those phases and how to transition to actually getting your ex back. Here's a quick overview: th-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/w-d-xo.html Best of luck!
@@breakupbradbrowning Quick Question: What do you do if they live out of state, but you are moving to the same state in 3 weeks for a job? As of today, it's been 30 days already.
I am in no contact period with my gf... I hurt her by saying something that I don't feel for her and I just said that and she get hurt from the core.. She took things to her character... Does this no contact work on this situation???
She needs an apology from you especially if what you said to her had cut her deep. I highly suggest you heed my advice from this vid, first and foremost: th-cam.com/video/jikW4YYC9yo/w-d-xo.html and from my other vid here: th-cam.com/video/PN-07kAtIjw/w-d-xo.html but also make sure you aren't being defensive or deflecting the blame because that's as annoying as ever. It may help to apply the tips here first: th-cam.com/video/qnE192fUKxI/w-d-xo.html Be patient and let things play out first. Let time do its job since it's your biggest ally at this point. Good luck!
Not all dumpees are flawed, my dumper is emotionally unavailable, emotionally immature and extremely avoidant. The person he is now is completely different from the guy that pursued me for 2yrs. I’d love to teach him that he has destructive patterns and will continue to lose good people and waste people’s time. I gave friendship for a time until I had enough and told him I need to move on and him in my orbit is keeping me stuck. He opted to leave me on read, 2 months later I felt bad and reached out to tell him I loved him and would be a friend (my reasoning is I know he has traumas and I don’t want to add to that) again left on read. It’s just so cold and heartless. I no longer care anymore and I suspect that’s why he decided to do the one thing he knows inflicts pain and triggers my abandonment wounds. Real mature.
That's true. Sometimes, dumpers have baggage and trauma that they need to get rid of before they can form a truly healthy relationship. Unfortunately if it's their innate behaviour, that's pretty tough to change unless they decide to do so for themselves. The best you can do at this time for yourself is to move on. With avoidant personalities, there's no telling how long you'd have to put up with a certain behaviour. This may help you process or deal with the breakup efficiently: th-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/w-d-xo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com or get my Ex Factor Guide if you want to try to get your ex back, at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!
Negaztive emotions are addictive to brain...he probably has to learn about his true personality not the addictiv personality or altered personality.
That sounds exactly like what I recently went through. I’m over it too
I’ve learned so much really going to get your program because I need to learn more.
It sure sounds like you were dating my boyfriend…. I lasted 10 years….. and now I feel foolish for the time wasted.
But I am empathic, and we are the kind of women that can handle the avoidant behavior for a while….. unfortunately I had losses in my own personal life that made me hang onto him too long. But I’ve learned my lessons and this is a huge gross spirit and we’re all going to make it through so that we don’t. Pic the same guy next time with a different face.🤪
It’s been about 5 maybe 5 and a half weeks since we broke up, today I asked if she wanted to go catch up over coffee and she agreed. Hopefully it gets better from here
Good. Remember to take it easy. Since it's been many months since the breakup, it's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: th-cam.com/video/YVViZmY2x0I/w-d-xo.html and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
What should I do if my ex is in my same classroom, and if ai asks her to shopping or go out, she say that she doesn’t know what to do, because we’re ex
Yeah, don't jump the gun and ask to go out with an ex who's clearly not willing. Take time to build rapport first but first of all, be sure to respect the breakup / be cordial and not act like her boyfriend again while trying to rebuild your relationship, yeah? Good luck!
Hi coach. After 8 months I feel well and I let him go I don't want him back because he hurt me so bad . I did my best in our relationship but I hurt more from his behaviour after the breakup. He did so many toxic things after the breakup
Sorry to hear you're going through this. The breakup looks like a blessing in disguise anyway and this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: th-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/w-d-xo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com
Rebound guy here. My ex broke up with me a month ago to go back with his ex fiance/husband (dont really know what they were). We were together for three months before their contact (not sure who contacted who). I believe they were not together for at least 3-6 months. So all of these tips may work for you. However, do all us "rebound loves" a big favor: If you see them with someone else, leave them alone. Also go on healing journey before you decide to date someone new.
Hi there! I agree. Full disclosure is needed. It helps to discern your date's selfish tendencies though. If they're rebounding, chances are it will show. Use this as a lesson learned in case you run into the same types of people. In all honesty though, the breakup looks like a blessing in disguise and this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: th-cam.com/video/7zp7SFbeCRU/w-d-xo.html but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life without your ex, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com Take care!
Hi coach before 2 months I replied this video. I'm good without my ex and he nothing felt about the breakup. But now he and me in the same groups and he reply my texts in groups but we dont talk each other when we meet. But when I asking or messaging something about in group he replies that messages firstly among others. But he seems like he doesn't care or feel anything about the breakup
Hi! That's a normal reaction especially since the breakup is still fresh. This should help give you an idea of which stage he's in: th-cam.com/video/dqnqGWOk9NA/w-d-xo.html
People who play games are not immature, they are toxic and cycle repeats
My seperated wife ask for her wedding ring back to wear it.she is also talking about future plans together.still sometimes she doesnt reach out to much via phone...then she still goes hot and cold...we have been intimate in several times in past 2 weeks...these have to be good signs? She says she wants to fight for our marriage, but doesnt appear to making a big effort? Thanks coach
Those are all promising signs, yes. I suggest to meet her halfway instead of waiting for her to make all the effort. The process of saving one's marriage is a bit complicated and in fact, does NOT make use of the "no contact" rule... but this is why I've released a second book called Mend the Marriage. Check it out at www.marriageguy.com as everything is on there, from how to communicate more effectively, down to how to handle the kids (if applicable), monitor your progress through worksheets and stuff. But while I certainly need more information to know what's going on between you two for sure, I suggest you check out more marriage-saving tips which you may find useful, check out this new channel I've dedicated solely for this purpose. Here's the link: y2u.be/dr2JTi_bCRU or sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!
31 days of nc and he didn't reach out 😢
Having expectations is the root of all misery. If you're curious, you can actually reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: th-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/w-d-xo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: th-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/w-d-xo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Take care!
Hang in there, sometimes it takes a little longer.
Cmon i commented on a vid im desperate she said how can i help u after i asked her for help for calisthenics and she said how can i help plss
Don't overthink things. Just be yourself and converse about her subject of interest and what you'd like to know about it. Here are the basics to getting an ex back: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw I also suggest that you read my new version of my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total and the "no contact" rule is only the first), including what to say, do or not do, along with bonus materials for texting, and the psychology of how a woman thinks and understanding women in general. Good timing is essential! Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy
Hey brad
He asked for a break initially by saying he don't want to be in a relationship but later he said he lost feelings towards me(I've made few mistakes like i talked to my ex when we were in a relationship and all)I said we'll genuinely try to fix things and I asked for a month he said no.So we broke up. Later he asked if we can be fwb but I said no than he said he was just asking. Yesterday he texted me asking if i want a chance to fix things. I said it involves both. He agreed and we thought of trying to fix things and give us a chance for a month. But after sometime he talked about it and he said it is not a good idea. He said it takes time for everything to get normal.
So I said that we'll take a break and focus on ourselves now and later when we are really ready we can date. We didn't put any time period but we thought of coming back to eachother when both of us feel that way. He is happy with the decision too.
Am confused now what can I do next?
Perfect timing! I think this vid is for you: th-cam.com/video/pmo-TSNCo4E/w-d-xo.html
She discarded me 5mos ago by text for new supply guy using excuse "I" was cheat on her! 😂. Covert narcs. Pffftt. 8 yrs together gone. She wont ever come back anyway much as id maybe be open to it. What a waste my good years.
They say people come into your life for a season or for a lifetime, or something along those lines. So time is never wasted. Someone is either a blessing or a lesson learned. Learn the lessons and become a better version of yourself and learn what you want, don't want, etc. and you'll eventually find a better match, which your ex obviously isn't. Take care!
@@breakupbradbrowning Do appreciate the perspective and well wishes. Thank you for what you do on this forum.
I just split with someone I deeply cared about. It’s not as big of a deal as some people go through but it hurt so much because I actually felt adored and understood by her. That doesn’t come around often, and at this level, it never has. She’s apologized but I haven’t fully accepted it yet. Planning to talk to her again when I’m actually ready to forgive and I want to just lay it all out and ask her the hard questions on why she lied when communication was our biggest achievement with each other. Should I give her another chance if she actually comes to her senses? I feel such a strong connection with her still, and it may go against what everyone thinks is the right move. The idea is that by the time I talk to her, I will not care if it goes either way, just as long as I do literally all I can do.
Hey, sounds like a plan! It's often best to never to be too attached to the outcome but to nevertheless do the best you can. Take your time to be ready but just so you know, you can reach out to your ex after the 30 days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: th-cam.com/video/7PcfGeJqUYo/w-d-xo.html including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: th-cam.com/video/t6I5k55pnCE/w-d-xo.html but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
@@breakupbradbrowning I appreciate it!
Communication is key,talk to her and take it from there,let's hope she s not too angry to talk to you
Hi Brad, my ex and I broke up about 7 months ago. I've probably watched all your videos, lol. We did no contact for the first 2 months, and ever since, we've been texting and having sex regularly. We meet up nearly every weekend, and she stays over at mine. She's also let me take her out on what I would call dates. I get a lot of mixed signals, however, she has said we are not getting back together. One strange thing is she refuses to tell her mum that she's speaking to me again, which I think is part of the problem. I'm not sure what the issue is there though... In the last week or two, she's become quite distant, ignoring texts and cancelled last minute last week. I'm wondering if I need to take a step back, ask her if there's a problem, or walk away entirely?
she's also told a few people im her BF which was quite surprising
Hey man! It looks like you're on the right track but I'm not too sure. Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Talk soon?
@@nathantibble2801lol
A lot of my friends think I should not take my ex back. I think that we are human and we make mistakes, and he was my partner, so I want to give him a chance. He broke up with me because he "wants a girlfriend that is a programmer and who he can build a business with." Our friends were all confused and were like "you are that girl lol" (Also ironic cuz I'm going through a job process with a big company for a learn to hire as a programmer program). Hopefully he will learn his lesson soon. I feel like I need to push the lesson #4.
Hi! thanks for sharing your story. Yes, hold your ground and feel free to apply the tips from this vid. Don't forget to check out my other videos if you're not getting my Ex Factor guide so you'll know what to do next after the 30-day "no contact" period, to contacting your ex down to re-attracting, and what to do in between those phases and how to transition to actually getting your ex back. Here's a quick overview: th-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/w-d-xo.html Best of luck!
@@breakupbradbrowning Quick Question: What do you do if they live out of state, but you are moving to the same state in 3 weeks for a job? As of today, it's been 30 days already.
I am in no contact period with my gf... I hurt her by saying something that I don't feel for her and I just said that and she get hurt from the core.. She took things to her character... Does this no contact work on this situation???
She needs an apology from you especially if what you said to her had cut her deep. I highly suggest you heed my advice from this vid, first and foremost: th-cam.com/video/jikW4YYC9yo/w-d-xo.html and from my other vid here: th-cam.com/video/PN-07kAtIjw/w-d-xo.html but also make sure you aren't being defensive or deflecting the blame because that's as annoying as ever. It may help to apply the tips here first: th-cam.com/video/qnE192fUKxI/w-d-xo.html
Be patient and let things play out first. Let time do its job since it's your biggest ally at this point. Good luck!