Process feedback with a strainer, not a sponge | Shanita Williams | TEDxAmoskeagMillyard

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  • @Buff-Psychologist
    @Buff-Psychologist 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    Im glad that SNHU exposed me to this video. What a great way to reframe the way we think about feedback.

  • @joywatson-t3i
    @joywatson-t3i ปีที่แล้ว +47

    Thank you Shanita! I'm currently watching this through a course at SNHU. But I needed this for my everyday life all kinds of pasta stuck in the strainer... lol This year has helped me so much returning to school has been a struggle. Thank you for helping me look at the professor's feedback with new eyes.

    • @shanitawilliams5284
      @shanitawilliams5284 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Let that pasta go Joy lol! So glad you found this helpful!

    • @jmgresham93
      @jmgresham93 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      TEAM SNHU

    • @DailydoseBM
      @DailydoseBM 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I'm currently taking the same course! I hope things worked out fabulously for you. Have a blessed day

    • @Buff-Psychologist
      @Buff-Psychologist 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      same except im in 2024

    • @vanessabloom8090
      @vanessabloom8090 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same!

  • @xiaofangge1380
    @xiaofangge1380 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Normally I don't care for TED talks, but i actually liked this!

  • @Postcard.Social
    @Postcard.Social ปีที่แล้ว +5

    If we take the feedback with an emotional act then we never can process it! only with reason/logic and a constructive view we can change. Not taking feedback personally, we can move forward.

  • @HarrisonGarrison
    @HarrisonGarrison ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was so helpful. My boss really enjoys giving public feedback because he views it as a way to put the employee on the spot for an honest response to him. This will help me to feel less anxious when being critiqued openly among my peers. Thank you!

  • @ricardohollingsworth
    @ricardohollingsworth 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I agree with you , It is hard to get feedback.But feedback is important , Because it allows you view someone else thoughts though their eyes. This Video says a lot .We just got to listen.

  • @PhyllisKarr
    @PhyllisKarr ปีที่แล้ว +3

    A great lesson, thank you! It is so easy to get caught up in our own insecurities; sometimes feedback can help dispel some of those self-doubts, and sometimes it can give us food for thought to improve ourselves and ways of thinking.

  • @Joshuab0943
    @Joshuab0943 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    by one of the best advice in life one could ever hear. Well done Shanita!

  • @bill_stace_indo
    @bill_stace_indo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Thank you, Shanita! This is exactly what I needed to hear. I feel like it lifted a thousand pounds off my shoulders & truly helped me internalize my current struggle w feedback 🙏🏽

    • @shanitawilliams5284
      @shanitawilliams5284 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      The feedback struggle is real! I am so glad that you found this helpful. It is my hope that it continues to add value to all of your feedback experiences 🙏🏾

  • @sathealrogers4376
    @sathealrogers4376 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Shanita I now feel better about feedback because now I can use the information to access the situation without thinking I'm judge.

  • @MsMelAnn78
    @MsMelAnn78 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It is also ok to give people feedback about their feedback. Finding new and creative ways to manage and cope with the behaviors of others is excellent. Letting them know the impact of their "feedback" is also appropriate and creates a learning opportunity for them.

  • @marybudromiller2536
    @marybudromiller2536 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Shanita I have been guilty of looking one way and being positive. Your speech has helped me. Thank you.

  • @DemarousJackson-ub5vj
    @DemarousJackson-ub5vj ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Shanita this was very eye opening, and real. I needed to hear this because I often hold on to things that's not good for me. Now I have a way of straining out the negative feedback and keep what's best for me.

  • @BernellSimmons
    @BernellSimmons 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    From watching this video about the sponge and strainer mentality when it comes to processing feedback, I see now that I was using the sponge method. This method has led me to be overwhelmed and stressed. I have the feedback from my schooling at SNHU, just starting a new job, new relationship and an old relationship that I have to entertain because of my daughter. Feedback is everywhere. I will from now on use the strainer method, examine, process and discard. Thank you Shanita!

  • @1deeish
    @1deeish 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I have listened to you talk about feedback and every time I listen to you I learn something new. Thank you for showing us how to deal with feed back. How we must really watch our face because it can be sent a different message. Thanks again for your talk. I really enjoyed it.

  • @huyennguyen_bemay
    @huyennguyen_bemay 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I thank you for your helpful advice. I usually say thank for your feedback when I receive them from surrounding people. However, my mind react to feedback negatively and I used to sit in a room lonely and look down myself. Thanks for your strategy that it is good to let feedbacks go. Receive feedback--> Learn from it --> Discard.

    • @shanitawilliams5284
      @shanitawilliams5284 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you for taking the time to listen to my talk. Feedback can easily send us into a negativity spiral that can leave us feeling bad about ourselves. When we take control of the feedback experience, we are able to to learn from the feedback but not dwell on the feedback. I am so glad to hear you feel like you have a strategy that that can help you in that quest! Best of luck to you!

  • @pluggconnectent.901
    @pluggconnectent.901 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great talk SHANITA!!! Loved this lecture! Hope to see more from you! This is a really great topic and method of coping !

  • @arrialkerr965
    @arrialkerr965 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you I'm going to use the strainer mentality it's sooo much better

  • @talina9190
    @talina9190 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    i love this video. im holding on to 24 yrs of feedback. and even more from childhood.

  • @eboniccolors
    @eboniccolors 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I enjoyed this video. There is a lot of growth I need to do. Thank you for this SNHU.

    • @autumlowe487
      @autumlowe487 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Snhu 🎉week 6

  • @nichelles.9283
    @nichelles.9283 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Wow! This was awesome! I've never thought of applying the "strainer mentality" when receiving feedback. I think that would help me not be so hesitant to move forward and instead excited about it because I have new tools to improve! Thank you! Hope she does one on giving feedback in the future.

    • @shanitawilliams5284
      @shanitawilliams5284 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Nichelle S. I am so glad you found this helpful! I am creating an online course that will teach you practical steps to work through. Stay tuned!

  • @ginam.8484
    @ginam.8484 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Great video Shanita! I personally struggle with letting feedback go especially when it is tied with a first impression. I’m going to take this and apply it. Thank you!

  • @SwinkMediaHouse
    @SwinkMediaHouse 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Very powerful message!

  • @ALA87
    @ALA87 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    this was so good and insightful. i am def. doing the sponge mentality and have to work toward the strainer way.

  • @oliverz321
    @oliverz321 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Anyone else here from SNHU?
    I'm doing the computer science class. This is something i gotta watch for it I guess.

    • @Carribeantaste
      @Carribeantaste ปีที่แล้ว

      I am

    • @Carribeantaste
      @Carribeantaste ปีที่แล้ว

      I am learning political science

    • @crusty711
      @crusty711 ปีที่แล้ว

      I am also doing computer science at SNHU. How’s it going for you so far?

    • @oliverz321
      @oliverz321 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@crusty711 Great, I've been coding for 4+ years so 4.0 GPA all the way XD, English is hard tho.

    • @happinesswatts
      @happinesswatts ปีที่แล้ว

      yes, me

  • @susannivia.x2944
    @susannivia.x2944 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    A very nice talk indeed, loved the perspective of the sponge and the strainer.

  • @arrialkerr965
    @arrialkerr965 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wonderful video Shanita

  • @ariannavs56
    @ariannavs56 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Very inspiring! I love this talk and her!!💕

    • @shanitawilliams5284
      @shanitawilliams5284 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      You are much too kind! So glad you enjoy my talk!

  • @giselemubalama7878
    @giselemubalama7878 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks for this talk ,i will try to practice how to process a feedback and let it go

  • @aliciamcfarland1466
    @aliciamcfarland1466 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This was actually a very good video! It helped me realize so much

  • @stephanierutt3684
    @stephanierutt3684 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    So love your talk Shanita!

  • @KimberlyWagner-qi3oo
    @KimberlyWagner-qi3oo 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Really enjoyed this video.... Thank you for sharing.

  • @jessicac7559
    @jessicac7559 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I wish I’d heard this 15 years ago.

  • @l.a.m.4009
    @l.a.m.4009 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Very Very good. I never took into the concept of strainer vs sponge mentality. How enlightening?

  • @SupaBlessedAries
    @SupaBlessedAries ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was soooo good!

  • @agasurreal
    @agasurreal 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I find your analogy very interesting. i have another one I use, related to my work as a therapist: " I am a teflon pan, nothing sticks" ;)

  • @MarionSheffer
    @MarionSheffer ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This makes alot of sense too me but I've never been good at accepting feedback

  • @ZEESKIYKTV
    @ZEESKIYKTV 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Very interesting take

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    @nerdboystudios789 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

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  • @keta5914
    @keta5914 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Great speaker!

  • @elijahevangarcia
    @elijahevangarcia 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Jesus loves you

  • @NoShadeAllFade
    @NoShadeAllFade 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    .

  • @jpresso-x8i
    @jpresso-x8i หลายเดือนก่อน

    Worst ted talk ive ever heard, how's that for feedback

  • @figgyshe49
    @figgyshe49 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hi, Shanita, This was very inspiring, and confirming for me, especially about the sponge and strainer, I choose to believe I am a strainer.