As someone who is an introvert, I have to argue with her assessment. Being by myself is my happy place. I can socialize and talk to anyone and get along with everyone. But at the end of the day all I need is a good book, a movie or a video game and I'm perfectly content and happy. Being around people for too long is to me, what isolation is to most people, torture.
Wouldn't alone time for introverts be DOWNTIME. I always personality test out EXTREMELY INTROVERTED. I would however, agree with her that too little "OTHERS" destroys even healthy extreme introverts. Yet, gimmie lots of alone time. Play too seems more "brain lightening up" to me with "OTHERS" as long as that radical competition balogna gets outlawed. God made one human who can jump the highest, make the highest % of 3 pointers, procreate the most desireable currently beautiful children or be the perfect physician. And only one Son of Man through which Paradise can be ANY body's. ALL that makes competition, even comparisons unneccessary. Even WRONG.. OFFENSIVE to The Creator, Who is incapable of mistakes, incapable of not Loving or incapable of allowing INJUSTICE to endure. Once in Eternal Paradise, each one will know SO MUCH more than those pitiful littles.
4:35 Adaptability is the key to a prosperous life. 9:10 On Dolphins 10:28 P. O. D. 10:36 Play [have fun without rules]. 12:17 Others [meaningful connections]; Social connection is a basic of life 13:55 Downtime [sleep] Rest and Relaxation is the basic of life 15:38 Look deeply into nature, and then you will understand everything better If everything works well, you will adapt to your circumstances and prosper.
I thought in order to play rules were necessary. Sure the rules can be played with but it seems as we grow up its the very rules (limitations) that make games interesting. If you're playing chess, its not fun if your opponent breaks the rules. In essence rules give life a sense of meaning.
The key to big returns is not big moving stocks. It's managing risk in relationship to reward. Having the correct size on and turning your edge as many times as necessary to reach your goal. That holds true from long term investing to day trading
Our stress does not come solely from a lack of downtime to many people. Most from unable to achieve personal greatness. Lots of people struggle with living, making money to put food on the table and having a roof over their head. The speaker speaks from her own personal view which is helpful for those who shared the same living situation with her. As the Director of youth and Child Life admin, she does not have trouble making enough money to raise her family. And that's where stress come from in life for many people.
teresa chase Sorry for your losses. My condolences, Teresa. Social media helped a lot of people to remedy in situations alike and can bring connections to you. Facebook, Twitter, and online communities such as forums and chatrooms.
Binbin Li. Thank you. im in several fb forums for greive and some on health. it does help when you start to loose faith in the doctors. have a blessed night
Binbin Li Yup.. this talk is meant to solve rich peoples existential problems. The rest of us were too stressed out wondering how to pay next month's rent to pay attention to this video ;-)
Binbin Li Land, labor, capital, management abilities are the factors of production. too bad that most who are in the labor barely can afford to P.O.D. Or put food/roof on the table/head. Some ideas master/servant, wise/not so wise, set up, hypnotized into doing something, labor is always minding the interest of other 3 factors, and the other 3 is ordering the life of labors!! Worked your way out! Its fun, challenging, pod your way out, its a maze, humans find ways, that makes us humans or not it does not make us less humans!!!
On point. I step out to connect with society from time to time and just as quickly I retreat, like the ground hog: five more months of winter. The problem, it seems to me, is that people have been extremely conditioned to abandon what makes them special as individuals. They see movies, they act out the movies. Individuals have allowed so many agents of conditioning a free reign in their lives, and they come out uninteresting, boring, extremely shallow and a sheer waste of time and emotions. Where is the attraction in that?
P. O. D. - Play (have fun without rules). Others (meaningful connections). Downtime (sleep). If everything works well, you will adapt to your circumstances and prosper. Good night ;)
Thank you I was starting to think that maybe Ted talk actually pay these people and by the minute. I'm not sure if they have to feel a specific amount of time every time but after the five minute Mark I was like a dab debility and took you 5 minutes to say adaptability
As interesting as that is, many people work more than 40 hours a week and still live in poverty. Many people who live that life cant P.O.D. and put food on the table or raise kids or live in a decent shelter. Instead we struggle til we die. Poor people cant adapt because of a landslide of obstacles that keep us down.
There are gems within this talk, but I’ve never liked Legos, even before they had rules. I have lots of downtime; I think it gives me too much time inside my head. For me the most healing thing is gratitude. Our speaker has so many accomplishments that must feel great to talk about in public. Seems to me this talk is more for the Haves than the Have Nots.
I love the concept of adoption to me it means not only assimilating the influence of the current environment into your life but also being true to yourself attracting authentic people people who elevate you and make you see things from their perspective thats a profound human connection and adaptation to me
So, live a porpoise driven life? Got it. As a physician treating syndromes of ADHD and associated anxiety, depression, this is one of the most salient presentations I’ve heard.
I completely understand what she's saying about adaptability. I agree with her, 100%. I just don't care to adapt to most of "this world" we have now. The way I have found peace, which may be different for everyone, is to adapt by not going with the flow of globalization. For everyone, it's a different adaptation. I hope everyone finds theirs.
Superb...my take away from this video...When I played I found new Passion...When I connected I found new Purpose...When I rested I found new Balance...So true..
Thank you! So true! Some of us have to become ill to learn this. I'm not sorry to have had the chance to wake up, but it cost me a lot of time. I hope to encourage you to take charge by letting go of all the things that don't serve you and humanity. Love your life!💞
With all respect to the fact that people watching this come from diverse situations I found great value in her comments and learning. Society does glorify work, and there are also those who must work many hours just to get by. In either case would it not be ideal to have time to be creative (play), socialize, and have downtime? How we get there is often the more difficult question especially when options seem few. TED talks rarely answer this type of question due to time constraints, but it allows us to exercise our own creativity in solving our own problems.
OUTSTANDING! THANK YOU. Everything in balance. We are an unbalanced culture, out of touch with our nature. She is so right. I am a baby boomer and have led a rat race life for too long ... overworking to achieve something is even creeping into my retirement. I need more real play time!
As a political prisoner that went through torture physically and at some point emotionally and mentally, the salutary confinement was the worst aspect of being in prison for me but yet my skills in adaptabilities and imagination helped me somehow not to break in pieces or lose my integrity or my believes .
We all want the best of life for ourselves and loved ones.Watching this I was forced to reconsider what I should strive for and how! Profound presentation but then so obvious- this is a must watch for anyone who wants an awesome life!! Fantastic!
Apologies for all the ranting and negativity in the comments below - I think this was one of the best TED talks I’ve seen in a while, well constructed, delivered with authenticity and left me feeling more compassionate for myself and those around me. Thank you for all your hard work in this area and for sharing your story. You should be very proud :)
How do we become sufficiently adaptable? Simple: prioritize health and play! Dr. Kang makes a great case for this approach, for those who haven't fully realized its value, yet.
What a wondrful talk. Thank you so much Dr. Shimi Kang. Everything I have been thinking about for years have been very concisely related to your talk. I am so impressed with your delivery. Respect! x
We are living in the world where everybody wants to be productive. But deep inside productivity as simple as we think. Play, work and rest these things are the essence of our life.
I have been saying something similar for decades, of all the courses we teach and learn, of all the things we know and master, the one thing we arent taught is how to be "happy". And imho it should be taught every year of school, and if wise we should continue this "study" throughout our lives. For now, if your not "happy" as much as you would like, then you can try focusing on this....do what you love, or love what you do. If you have an interest, a calling, anything your drawn to then GO TO IT, you only have one life, we must use it wisely if we want to be wise, and life fullfilled lives. If you dont have any interest currently, then focus on learning to love whatever it is you are doing, even a job you hate can be turned into one you love i assure you, and imagine the power you gain when you achieve that ability, nothing stands in your way after that, then your/ we are, truly free. 😜😊✌👍👋🙏😀
In my opinion the reason why nobody teach how to be happy, is because the happiness is coming from INSIDE ! Or at least should be... if not you are unhappy what ever you do with your life, like carrier , families, wealth, etc...
14:19 "Stress is the #1 health epidemic of the 21st century" - World Health Organization Coronavirus Covaid-19 : Hold my beer 12:18 Others, this explains perfectly why a lot of Americans are having a challenging time being quarantine during the stay at home. That lack of social connection is some people nuts! This was a very worthwhile TedTalk, especially during these pandemic times.
Bruce Lee has a quot that goes "if you put water in a tea pot the water become a tea pot, if you put water in a cup the water become a cup , be water my friend" this TED talk really help me connect with this quote
If you have to pick one thing it's not adaptability it is understanding; adaptability comes after understanding. Without understanding what you need for you, what do you adapt to? And really if you break it down further it is love, love is far more important than anything for us, but love for all is not realistic but understanding is as it only requires you to understand you and once you understand you you can give love.
Each and every theory related to stress releasing is applicable when we have enough money to pay our bills. Causes for my stress won't go away until I have money.
I definitely like her view on the one skill being adaptability. Looking at today, or at ancient history, that seems pretty evident. After that, she's basically promoting her mental treatment/development theories about the importance of taking it easy.
Listening to this TED I feel confortable: play, other, downtime. I would say: connection. And I like that you don't insist with the sentence: "we are rewarded". Because we're grown up watching out for punishments, hence for guilt and shame, and looking for prizes. Freedom, authonomy and connection grow with free playing, with unconditional love experience, experiencing how our life gets enriched, how we can help the other have a marvellous life, as Marshall Rosenberg says.
Adaptability is a great way to survive, but not great if you wish to thrive. Napoleon wasn't a great general because he could adapt to his setting. If you want to get up from the table never having lost any money, but also not winning any either, than do everything you can to make sure no one notices you were even there. Just adapt. If you don't want anyone to hate you than adapt socially. No one will hate you. In fact, they'll likely forget you were ever there. Adapt. If you never want to get fired, then adapt. You never will. You'll also never know what it is that you could have been in life other than a guy who was never fired. To be the person you are, you must stand firm in who you are when the temptation is greatest to adapt to something else.
Good observation. My synopsis of your objection is: Adapting to WHAT? Kang offers her adapting with the POD solution to address going overboard on goal-setting & stress. (War is the most complete justification of goals & stress, so choosing Napoleon was the most extreme example of being notable that you could choose, but I get your point.) Perhaps an apt continuing question might be, "What *IS* the "person we are"? Are humans merely a product of their culture and ways children are raised? Or can we adapt (by using POD play, others & downtime) to CHOOSE what values and convictions we "are," might want to "sponsor" or "represent," (and hopefully embody and demonstrate in inventive, practical ways) despite our original conditioning? Hopefully, a person would not get too focused on the "OTHER" section of Dr. Kang's POD idea, sacrificing what we discover is true for ourselves during the "PLAY" feature of POD. Experiencing the effects of how we act and responding to balance our efforts in real time *is* adapting. In a perfect world, this usually generates prioritizing convictions and goals that come from experience, without abandoning any advantageous features. However, I have experienced those limitations you outlined above in being "too" adaptable by not really being deliberate enough at arranging my priorities. For awhile instead, I made "Adapting" THE priority and suffered the effects you describe! But I was able to recognize what was happening and hit the "refresh" button. I'm hoping you are still able to respond...!
Kristopher Scott all things in moderation, dear. Also, one must use common sense to know when to apply particular concepts. She's refering to the epidemic of stress, anxiety and other emotional/ mental disorders that have developed as a result of people not thinking for themselves when it comes to life in modern society. She's not referring to EVERY SINGLE aspect of living life and obviously not war
This works if you are working in a meritocratic environment. It doesn’t work if you are working in a dysfunctional environment where you expected to adapt to inefficiencies.
@@muddyshoes4517 Dr. Shimi Kang referred to bacteria, plants, animals (particularly dolphins), large and small businesses, corporations, humans, governments, empires, raising kids. That sounds like nearly all of life to me. In my experience, a great deal of stress is born out of struggling to conform. It is often as simple as being empowered to be great the way we are. As I said, if you get good at adapting, it is a great way to survive (nearly anywhere). But if you go where you are appreciated instead of just tolerated, you will benefit much more.
@@En8el Adaptation has its place but cannot be 'THE priority' as Dr. Shimi Kang emphasizes. Instead, prioritize your goals and you will naturally adapt accordingly. Without YOUR true goals, you can have all the play, interaction and rest you want (as many of us already do these things to some degree already), but without a prominent focus on what we want (our goals), we are left with stress and little to show for it. Do you have goals and the dedication to follow them is more the question. Think of it this way: What if we'll have stress anyways? What if eliminating stressors from our lives with all kinds of made up new skills (packaged as acronyms) do little more than serve as a temporary break from the stress? What if the stress isn't going anywhere no matter what and this is simply as good as it gets? If that's true then maybe it's more about finding the thing(s) that make the stress worth it. A specialist selling a book on TH-cam isn't likely to tell us what that thing is. We'll have to answer that for ourselves and when we find it, instead of compromising in order to adapt and survive, we see these things through for better or for worst. A great man once said, a person with nothing to die for also has nothing to live for (MLK Jr.).
Neurosciences have excellent pieces of advice to improve everydays' life. Each time l listen to a neuroscientist he's full of very useful knowledge and common sense to better people's existance.
Very good, very simple to understand, and, as a dolphin admirer (I spent 8 - 10 weeks studying whales and dolphins 1975 with a class of 4 - 5 year olds and I learned so much about dolphins, and from my class), I love the advice here.
Someone else is using Tedx to learn English? I was using Tedx to learn English however I'm wacthing this because is incredible like I can to learn diferents and usefull things.
Excellent presentation and thought provoking topic. Appreciate the efforts of Dr Shimi. A humble suggestion- I feel like audience can get the best out of all presenters if TEDx can allow them some buffer time rather than asking them to stick to exact time frame. This allows them to dedicate 100% of their talent in delivering the presentation than being equally concerned about the timer running.
Some times we may not realize the small things which can change the life. But Dr.Shimi Kang revealed it very well with her research. Much Appreciated. Thanks you!!
She talks very slow but somehow when you do 2x faster it is still perfectly understandable without spending any effort. I think she really is trying to talk slower consciously She probably thinks she will be understood better if she talks slower.
I am in a uncertaintly about my future life, but i write my thoughts in the diary, my reasoning about different themes. I worry about that i don't make money now, but want start to share my thoughts in RU and EU language. They are deep in understanding this world. I think, that i many time to relax and rest, but all this time i studying and thinking. May be what i don't spend my time for preparing to exams in the university is consequence of the fact that the traditional method of studying isn't my. I live for my pleasure, but my pleasure is a science, calithenics, improving in social communications, psychology, shearing knowledge, ect. Really, may be other forget how to be a human...
Passion is often in your chosen profession. "This is worship: to serve mankind and to minister to the needs of the people. Service is prayer. A physician ministering to the sick, gently, tenderly, free from prejudice and believing in the solidarity of the human race, he is giving praise." ~ Paris Talks, Baha'i Faith
I was listening to this as I fell asleep and thought it was a great speech. I had to shake off my sleepiness when I heard she was giving prescriptions for pot (which really disappointed me). I'm so relieved and amused to find out it wasn't pot...
Thank you! Some of my observation: “P”-when I am not crafting, I don’t feel as joyful; O”-despite my fear of interacting with coworkers (especially toxic people), I find overall that I enjoy interacting with my coworkers; “D”-I feel guilty for my downtime, including 2 week staycation, but I am recouperating from so much stress and being under the weather. However, when I am at work, I am the least sick person. What she says makes sense.
i don't have the neuro chemicals of happiness and positivity. Everyone and their mother make me feel bad about myself because i don't believe in the power of positive thinking. One friend told me 'Too much happiness is being broken like too much sorrow. Balance is necessary. '
solitary confinement is involuntary! setting oneself apart and having full control over oneself has no deleterious effects on the human. instead it can be a source of strength. being alone not same as being lonely!
Not true, we are naturally social. Hormones release she talked about is true. U isolate, u lose everyday social skills which is d bedrock of our society.
> being alone not same as being lonely! Yeah and solitary confinement is not the same as setting some time aside for yourself. Absolutely ridiculous comparison. I love how many people in these comments seem to think they are so different from others because they like time alone. Newsflash: EVERYONE DOES. Just not for prolonged amounts of time
Dr. Kang's mom successfully raised 5 children without even a first grade education. I found her puzzlement over why anyone needs to be taught "play, others, downtime" very refreshing.
Isn't it funny? We got washing machines, can reach any point in the world within 48h, got internet (imagine communication before electricity) and numerous machines working for us. Yet, we have less time than before.
Great speech. Full of new contents. I don't know why so many people have had negative views. I think most of them are programmed in a way not to see excellence in a colored human.
As someone who is an introvert, I have to argue with her assessment. Being by myself is my happy place. I can socialize and talk to anyone and get along with everyone. But at the end of the day all I need is a good book, a movie or a video game and I'm perfectly content and happy. Being around people for too long is to me, what isolation is to most people, torture.
The same here
Couldn't agree with you more.
I agree. I greatly enjoy my alone time. To the point that people think it's unnatural
Wouldn't alone time for introverts be DOWNTIME. I always personality test out EXTREMELY INTROVERTED. I would however, agree with her that too little "OTHERS" destroys even healthy extreme introverts. Yet, gimmie lots of alone time. Play too seems more "brain lightening up" to me with "OTHERS" as long as that radical competition balogna gets outlawed. God made one human who can jump the highest, make the highest % of 3 pointers, procreate the most desireable currently beautiful children or be the perfect physician. And only one Son of Man through which Paradise can be ANY body's. ALL that makes competition, even comparisons unneccessary. Even WRONG.. OFFENSIVE to The Creator, Who is incapable of mistakes, incapable of not Loving or incapable of allowing INJUSTICE to endure. Once in Eternal Paradise, each one will know SO MUCH more than those pitiful littles.
It drains my energy. Dont know why but it does
4:35 Adaptability is the key to a prosperous life.
9:10 On Dolphins
10:28 P. O. D.
10:36 Play [have fun without rules].
12:17 Others [meaningful connections]; Social connection is a basic of life
13:55 Downtime [sleep] Rest and Relaxation is the basic of life
15:38 Look deeply into nature, and then you will understand everything better
If everything works well, you will adapt to your circumstances and prosper.
Thank you
I thought in order to play rules were necessary. Sure the rules can be played with but it seems as we grow up its the very rules (limitations) that make games interesting. If you're playing chess, its not fun if your opponent breaks the rules. In essence rules give life a sense of meaning.
Thank you.
what does have fun without rules mean?
thank you for your description! a read for start my 2022!
The key to big returns is not big moving stocks. It's managing risk in relationship to reward. Having the correct size on and turning your edge as many times as necessary to reach your goal. That holds true from long term investing to day trading
Would recommend *ROCHELLE DUNGCA-SCHREIBER,* cos she's very proficient in her game I have seen loads of news of
😊
Our stress does not come solely from a lack of downtime to many people. Most from unable to achieve personal greatness. Lots of people struggle with living, making money to put food on the table and having a roof over their head. The speaker speaks from her own personal view which is helpful for those who shared the same living situation with her. As the Director of youth and Child Life admin, she does not have trouble making enough money to raise her family. And that's where stress come from in life for many people.
teresa chase Sorry for your losses. My condolences, Teresa. Social media helped a lot of people to remedy in situations alike and can bring connections to you. Facebook, Twitter, and online communities such as forums and chatrooms.
Binbin Li. Thank you. im in several fb forums for greive and some on health. it does help when you start to loose faith in the doctors. have a blessed night
Binbin Li Yup.. this talk is meant to solve rich peoples existential problems.
The rest of us were too stressed out wondering how to pay next month's rent to pay attention to this video ;-)
Binbin Li Land, labor, capital, management abilities are the factors of production. too bad that most who are in the labor barely can afford to P.O.D. Or put food/roof on the table/head. Some ideas master/servant, wise/not so wise, set up, hypnotized into doing something, labor is always minding the interest of other 3 factors, and the other 3 is ordering the life of labors!! Worked your way out! Its fun, challenging, pod your way out, its a maze, humans find ways, that makes us humans or not it does not make us less humans!!!
ilike beinganonymous. lol isnt tht the truth ;)
Best skill to learn is awareness. Everything is connected to that.
CateDoge Theres a few types! Self awareness is the most vital to your survival !
Especially, when on the web.
Amen
@@jeanneeber pp0⁰0⁰ ⁰
Can you elaborate on this?
"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society" (Jiddu Krishnamurti)
On point. I step out to connect with society from time to time and just as quickly I retreat, like the ground hog: five more months of winter. The problem, it seems to me, is that people have been extremely conditioned to abandon what makes them special as individuals. They see movies, they act out the movies. Individuals have allowed so many agents of conditioning a free reign in their lives, and they come out uninteresting, boring, extremely shallow and a sheer waste of time and emotions. Where is the attraction in that?
I'm appreciating farming more after reading this quote.
Wow..I use his quote often I knew J Krishnamurti in the 70's and 80's...he was so authentic....
Adjusted to yourself is the key. Things will never be perfect outside of us.
Good quote.
But you look like AthleanX.
This is the oxygen I didn't know I needed. No more guilt over basic needs.
"Play is how we adapt"...This is the connection between the game and education which leads to obtaining a skill and then the confidence! Well Done Dr!
People can drain us too..it's important to find supportive ones.
Absolutely .........Toxic personalities!!!
Energy vampires
P. O. D. - Play (have fun without rules). Others (meaningful connections). Downtime (sleep). If everything works well, you will adapt to your circumstances and prosper. Good night ;)
Thank you i was hearing pot hahahaha
Thank you I was starting to think that maybe Ted talk actually pay these people and by the minute. I'm not sure if they have to feel a specific amount of time every time but after the five minute Mark I was like a dab debility and took you 5 minutes to say adaptability
@@christianlopez1555 daily dose of pot XD
that's doesn't sound so bad either
Thank you Vilmantas :) You saved me time so I can go to sleep instead of watching..
As interesting as that is, many people work more than 40 hours a week and still live in poverty. Many people who live that life cant P.O.D. and put food on the table or raise kids or live in a decent shelter. Instead we struggle til we die. Poor people cant adapt because of a landslide of obstacles that keep us down.
There are gems within this talk, but I’ve never liked Legos, even before they had rules. I have lots of downtime; I think it gives me too much time inside my head. For me the most healing thing is gratitude.
Our speaker has so many accomplishments that must feel great to talk about in public. Seems to me this talk is more for the Haves than the Have Nots.
I love the concept of adoption to me it means not only assimilating the influence of the current environment into your life but also being true to yourself attracting authentic people people who elevate you and make you see things from their perspective thats a profound human connection and adaptation to me
1. The one thing: 4:29
2: Supporting evidence 6:17
3. Currrent social diagnosis 8:00
4. The dolphin's way: 10:08
So, live a porpoise driven life? Got it. As a physician treating syndromes of ADHD and associated anxiety, depression, this is one of the most salient presentations I’ve heard.
Go Miami dolphins!
She's right, the environment is changing and we have no control over it, so we must adapt
I completely understand what she's saying about adaptability. I agree with her, 100%. I just don't care to adapt to most of "this world" we have now. The way I have found peace, which may be different for everyone, is to adapt by not going with the flow of globalization. For everyone, it's a different adaptation. I hope everyone finds theirs.
when i am in depression or exiety i frequently listen to music to remind a wondeful period of time
Invest in local community.
@@perrizepeda9638 i just watch comedy and have funn lolllll
Superb...my take away from this video...When I played I found new Passion...When I connected I found new Purpose...When I rested I found new Balance...So true..
Thank you! So true! Some of us have to become ill to learn this. I'm not sorry to have had the chance to wake up, but it cost me a lot of time. I hope to encourage you to take charge by letting go of all the things that don't serve you and humanity. Love your life!💞
With all respect to the fact that people watching this come from diverse situations I found great value in her comments and learning. Society does glorify work, and there are also those who must work many hours just to get by. In either case would it not be ideal to have time to be creative (play), socialize, and have downtime? How we get there is often the more difficult question especially when options seem few. TED talks rarely answer this type of question due to time constraints, but it allows us to exercise our own creativity in solving our own problems.
I LOVE THIS GIRL FOR SHARING HER KNOWLEDGE ABUOT JOY!
THANK YOU!
She's very smart and so beautiful.
OUTSTANDING! THANK YOU. Everything in balance. We are an unbalanced culture, out of touch with our nature. She is so right. I am a baby boomer and have led a rat race life for too long ... overworking to achieve something is even creeping into my retirement. I need more real play time!
I love her book " the self motivated kid". She is inspiring and a breath of fresh air
Thank you Dr. Shimi Kang! One of the best TED talks I’ve ever heard! 👍🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
“Dolphins never compromise the basics of life”
"We are as humans built and meant to thrive, each one of us can have an awesome life".
As a political prisoner that went through torture physically and at some point emotionally and mentally, the salutary confinement was the worst aspect of being in prison for me but yet my skills in adaptabilities and imagination helped me somehow not to break in pieces or lose my integrity or my believes .
= doesn't mean something is something; it means 2 things have equal value and I wish people would get it right already.
We all want the best of life for ourselves and loved ones.Watching this I was forced to reconsider what I should strive for and how! Profound presentation but then so obvious- this is a must watch for anyone who wants an awesome life!! Fantastic!
Apologies for all the ranting and negativity in the comments below - I think this was one of the best TED talks I’ve seen in a while, well constructed, delivered with authenticity and left me feeling more compassionate for myself and those around me. Thank you for all your hard work in this area and for sharing your story. You should be very proud :)
She summed it all in a great way, the basics are the key❤️
POD = Play, Others, & Downtime 💜 it’s all about Balance! We can Adapt to Thrive
The "Others" part is toxic and a mirage.
How do we become sufficiently adaptable? Simple: prioritize health and play! Dr. Kang makes a great case for this approach, for those who haven't fully realized its value, yet.
Love the LEGO analogy - I’ve thought about how it’s changed and never liked it
My dad use to say "rest is not idleness" boy was he right. R.I.P dad. Your wisdom is so needed today.
What a wondrful talk. Thank you so much Dr. Shimi Kang. Everything I have been thinking about for years have been very concisely related to your talk. I am so impressed with your delivery. Respect! x
Free play (how) , others are important in life; meaningful social bonding (why), downtime
Breaks are the moment of breakthroughs, that looking inward gives us innovation and inspiration - nice.
Congratulations...soo smart.. and thanks a lot for P.O.D.... 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏
I Love This Speaker, "The Dolphin Way" A Perfect Thought
We are living in the world where everybody wants to be productive. But deep inside productivity as simple as we think. Play, work and rest these things are the essence of our life.
I have been saying something similar for decades, of all the courses we teach and learn, of all the things we know and master, the one thing we arent taught is how to be "happy". And imho it should be taught every year of school, and if wise we should continue this "study" throughout our lives. For now, if your not "happy" as much as you would like, then you can try focusing on this....do what you love, or love what you do. If you have an interest, a calling, anything your drawn to then GO TO IT, you only have one life, we must use it wisely if we want to be wise, and life fullfilled lives. If you dont have any interest currently, then focus on learning to love whatever it is you are doing, even a job you hate can be turned into one you love i assure you, and imagine the power you gain when you achieve that ability, nothing stands in your way after that, then your/ we are, truly free. 😜😊✌👍👋🙏😀
In my opinion the reason why nobody teach how to be happy, is because the happiness is coming from INSIDE !
Or at least should be... if not you are unhappy what ever you do with your life, like carrier , families, wealth, etc...
14:19 "Stress is the #1 health epidemic of the 21st century" - World Health Organization
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12:18 Others, this explains perfectly why a lot of Americans are having a challenging time being quarantine during the stay at home. That lack of social connection is some people nuts!
This was a very worthwhile TedTalk, especially during these pandemic times.
The whole talk was filled with amazing points. I loved it! Thank you, Dr. Kang.
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Bruce Lee has a quot that goes "if you put water in a tea pot the water become a tea pot, if you put water in a cup the water become a cup , be water my friend" this TED talk really help me connect with this quote
Great talk. I am going to start taking a daily dose of POD everyday. Really liked the comparison to dolphins! So true and makes sense.
If you have to pick one thing it's not adaptability it is understanding; adaptability comes after understanding. Without understanding what you need for you, what do you adapt to? And really if you break it down further it is love, love is far more important than anything for us, but love for all is not realistic but understanding is as it only requires you to understand you and once you understand you you can give love.
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Thank you Dr Kang. I enjoyed your presentation. Adaptability and POD... I'm "all in"!!
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Each and every theory related to stress releasing is applicable when we have enough money to pay our bills. Causes for my stress won't go away until I have money.
I definitely like her view on the one skill being adaptability. Looking at today, or at ancient history, that seems pretty evident.
After that, she's basically promoting her mental treatment/development theories about the importance of taking it easy.
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Listening to this TED I feel confortable: play, other, downtime. I would say: connection. And I like that you don't insist with the sentence: "we are rewarded". Because we're grown up watching out for punishments, hence for guilt and shame, and looking for prizes. Freedom, authonomy and connection grow with free playing, with unconditional love experience, experiencing how our life gets enriched, how we can help the other have a marvellous life, as Marshall Rosenberg says.
Adaptability is a great way to survive, but not great if you wish to thrive. Napoleon wasn't a great general because he could adapt to his setting. If you want to get up from the table never having lost any money, but also not winning any either, than do everything you can to make sure no one notices you were even there. Just adapt. If you don't want anyone to hate you than adapt socially. No one will hate you. In fact, they'll likely forget you were ever there. Adapt. If you never want to get fired, then adapt. You never will. You'll also never know what it is that you could have been in life other than a guy who was never fired. To be the person you are, you must stand firm in who you are when the temptation is greatest to adapt to something else.
Good observation. My synopsis of your objection is: Adapting to WHAT? Kang offers her adapting with the POD solution to address going overboard on goal-setting & stress. (War is the most complete justification of goals & stress, so choosing Napoleon was the most extreme example of being notable that you could choose, but I get your point.)
Perhaps an apt continuing question might be, "What *IS* the "person we are"? Are humans merely a product of their culture and ways children are raised? Or can we adapt (by using POD play, others & downtime) to CHOOSE what values and convictions we "are," might want to "sponsor" or "represent," (and hopefully embody and demonstrate in inventive, practical ways) despite our original conditioning?
Hopefully, a person would not get too focused on the "OTHER" section of Dr. Kang's POD idea, sacrificing what we discover is true for ourselves during the "PLAY" feature of POD. Experiencing the effects of how we act and responding to balance our efforts in real time *is* adapting. In a perfect world, this usually generates prioritizing convictions and goals that come from experience, without abandoning any advantageous features.
However, I have experienced those limitations you outlined above in being "too" adaptable by not really being deliberate enough at arranging my priorities. For awhile instead, I made "Adapting" THE priority and suffered the effects you describe! But I was able to recognize what was happening and hit the "refresh" button.
I'm hoping you are still able to respond...!
Kristopher Scott all things in moderation, dear. Also, one must use common sense to know when to apply particular concepts. She's refering to the epidemic of stress, anxiety and other emotional/ mental disorders that have developed as a result of people not thinking for themselves when it comes to life in modern society. She's not referring to EVERY SINGLE aspect of living life and obviously not war
This works if you are working in a meritocratic environment. It doesn’t work if you are working in a dysfunctional environment where you expected to adapt to inefficiencies.
@@muddyshoes4517 Dr. Shimi Kang referred to bacteria, plants, animals (particularly dolphins), large and small businesses, corporations, humans, governments, empires, raising kids. That sounds like nearly all of life to me.
In my experience, a great deal of stress is born out of struggling to conform. It is often as simple as being empowered to be great the way we are. As I said, if you get good at adapting, it is a great way to survive (nearly anywhere). But if you go where you are appreciated instead of just tolerated, you will benefit much more.
@@En8el Adaptation has its place but cannot be 'THE priority' as Dr. Shimi Kang emphasizes. Instead, prioritize your goals and you will naturally adapt accordingly.
Without YOUR true goals, you can have all the play, interaction and rest you want (as many of us already do these things to some degree already), but without a prominent focus on what we want (our goals), we are left with stress and little to show for it. Do you have goals and the dedication to follow them is more the question.
Think of it this way: What if we'll have stress anyways? What if eliminating stressors from our lives with all kinds of made up new skills (packaged as acronyms) do little more than serve as a temporary break from the stress? What if the stress isn't going anywhere no matter what and this is simply as good as it gets? If that's true then maybe it's more about finding the thing(s) that make the stress worth it. A specialist selling a book on TH-cam isn't likely to tell us what that thing is. We'll have to answer that for ourselves and when we find it, instead of compromising in order to adapt and survive, we see these things through for better or for worst. A great man once said, a person with nothing to die for also has nothing to live for (MLK Jr.).
She spoke slowly about presentation,It's helpful for me.I think Keeping balance is not easy.
Thank you for sharing this wonderful truth and wisdom, I really needed to hear this and will set out to practice it!
Neurosciences have excellent pieces of advice to improve everydays' life. Each time l listen to a neuroscientist he's full of very useful knowledge and common sense to better people's existance.
Spectacular talk. Shimi made me organize POD. Thanks a lot!
I heartily agree with Dr. Kang. God bless this lady.
Very good, very simple to understand, and, as a dolphin admirer (I spent 8 - 10 weeks studying whales and dolphins 1975 with a class of 4 - 5 year olds and I learned so much about dolphins, and from my class), I love the advice here.
Beautiful! No wonder I feel so much better when POD is part of my life! Thanks for passing this on! I'll be doing the same.
I was struck by your amazing presentation .
Personal Development is key to finding your true self!
I think discipline and knowing the best course of action are the two biggest factors is in achieving success.
oh i'm so glad she said that about modern day lego!
Adaptability is that one skill.
she carried herself elegantly...BTW , nice research....perspective shifted :) !!
IN my opinion, the best TED ever!
I totally agree WITH you.
This was really amazing. Thank you for this TED talk!
"Look deeply into nature and then you will understand everything better"
Thank you ma'am. I enjoyed it and I will implement this technique.
Someone else is using Tedx to learn English? I was using Tedx to learn English however I'm wacthing this because is incredible like I can to learn diferents and usefull things.
Excellent presentation and thought provoking topic. Appreciate the efforts of Dr Shimi.
A humble suggestion- I feel like audience can get the best out of all presenters if TEDx can allow them some buffer time rather than asking them to stick to exact time frame. This allows them to dedicate 100% of their talent in delivering the presentation than being equally concerned about the timer running.
Some times we may not realize the small things which can change the life. But Dr.Shimi Kang revealed it very well with her research. Much Appreciated.
Thanks you!!
My greatest ideas come to my head when im relaxing by myself in nature
or at the moment a turd is squeezed out.
Incidentally, I become a genius when squeezing one in nature.
Thoroughly enjoyed listening to your speech.
So wonderfully simple and practical and achievable advice!
I love staying by myself and reading. It really depends.
Me too but don’t over do it
Excellent. We are going away from natural things and re using old concepts as invention ...
I'm so glad TH-cam allows me to watch videos at 2x normal speed.
same, kinda wish they let them go faster
You're too stressed!
Guys, like Willard's comment so that it'd come up on top and people like me could be reminded earlier to hit that 2x button!
she talks very slow. 2x is still not enough.
She talks very slow but somehow when you do 2x faster it is still perfectly understandable without spending any effort. I think she really is trying to talk slower consciously She probably thinks she will be understood better if she talks slower.
I am in a uncertaintly about my future life, but i write my thoughts in the diary, my reasoning about different themes. I worry about that i don't make money now, but want start to share my thoughts in RU and EU language. They are deep in understanding this world. I think, that i many time to relax and rest, but all this time i studying and thinking. May be what i don't spend my time for preparing to exams in the university is consequence of the fact that the traditional method of studying isn't my. I live for my pleasure, but my pleasure is a science, calithenics, improving in social communications, psychology, shearing knowledge, ect. Really, may be other forget how to be a human...
I love how people say, "I turned out OK." That's a red flag.
wins the comment section. Well done sir
Passion is often in your chosen profession. "This is worship: to serve mankind and to minister to the needs of the people. Service is prayer. A physician ministering to the sick, gently, tenderly, free from prejudice and believing in the solidarity of the human race, he is giving praise." ~ Paris Talks, Baha'i Faith
"Well, grit is great but we all know, hard-working gritty people who have no joy or meaning in their lives." damn this hurts me.
"to change with change is the changeless state" B. Lee
I was listening to this as I fell asleep and thought it was a great speech. I had to shake off my sleepiness when I heard she was giving prescriptions for pot (which really disappointed me). I'm so relieved and amused to find out it wasn't pot...
Pot very funny. d POD thing is very true
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Hahaha me too!
communication is the best skill to have in life
key= volunteering
Tony D it’s a great example of the O In POD
Thank you! Some of my observation: “P”-when I am not crafting, I don’t feel as joyful; O”-despite my fear of interacting with coworkers (especially toxic people), I find overall that I enjoy interacting with my coworkers; “D”-I feel guilty for my downtime, including 2 week staycation, but I am recouperating from so much stress and being under the weather. However, when I am at work, I am the least sick person. What she says makes sense.
Christ people are petty. She is a beautiful speaker sharing her knowledge and wisdom. What the hell have the rest of you done lately.
Busy working. Lol
i don't have the neuro chemicals of happiness and positivity. Everyone and their mother make me feel bad about myself because i don't believe in the power of positive thinking. One friend told me 'Too much happiness is being broken like too much sorrow. Balance is necessary. '
solitary confinement is involuntary! setting oneself apart and having full control over oneself has no deleterious effects on the human. instead it can be a source of strength. being alone not same as being lonely!
Not true, we are naturally social. Hormones release she talked about is true. U isolate, u lose everyday social skills which is d bedrock of our society.
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Exactly!
Being alone is not the same as being lonely!
> being alone not same as being lonely!
Yeah and solitary confinement is not the same as setting some time aside for yourself. Absolutely ridiculous comparison. I love how many people in these comments seem to think they are so different from others because they like time alone. Newsflash: EVERYONE DOES. Just not for prolonged amounts of time
Dr. Kang's mom successfully raised 5 children without even a first grade education. I found her puzzlement over why anyone needs to be taught "play, others, downtime" very refreshing.
Excellent. I would love to have a coffee with Dr. Kang one day and learn more about your journey. All the best
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Speaking speed is awesome.. Assuredly suitable for English language learners
The one skill is "social connection." 12:50 ~ 13:03. That's it.
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The presentation is amazing, you speak at the right speed, I really much obliged to you, thank you 👍
Excellent and inspiring
So rightly said survival of the fittest. Thank you, bless you n All your dreams come true.
Isn't it funny? We got washing machines, can reach any point in the world within 48h, got internet (imagine communication before electricity) and numerous machines working for us. Yet, we have less time than before.
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Growth without limits never ends well...
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The answer to that is very simple: devaluing of human labor and interest based society, taxation is close third on this list.
you have a flying washing machines O_o ?
Excellent. Gives so much to consider and to modify your thinking about the way you perceive others and life.
Idk if what we go through today counts as real stress. I’d much rather live in this century than any previous ones.
Dr. Kang is incredibility beautiful and intelligent. Fantastic talk!
Just listened to the flow of speech and couldnt realize when it finished..so inspirational...
Great speech. Full of new contents. I don't know why so many people have had negative views. I think most of them are programmed in a way not to see excellence in a colored human.
Very well said. Agree wholeheartedly