Well he ain’t have some food. They could just go out. And she does clean and work but apparently don’t pay bills?? but I do agree. “Thats what you supposed to do” is crazy, insane, boiling, blown out of proportion. 🤣
Yeah dudes a sucker. When she said “that’s what you’re supposed to do” that told us everything I need to hear. You let this bish save her money while you spend all yours?
"I aint your momma" is their favorite. Imagine if he stopped paying the bills, taking out the trash, mowing the lawns, paying for her meals etc. and telling her "I aint your dad"
Thats also the weird thing too she may not be his mom but she is a mom and a mom typically makes food for the family not only the kids but the dad too. His mom probably cooked for his dad and her mom probably did the same thing
I hope I find a woman that cooks for me and supports me like that in the future, because this world is just influencing other girls or men to be assholes and not help their partner, or they’re assholes on their own for no reason. Just a shame man.
@@scargimmy3268i think bc she is a nurse and smt bad happened Maybe the fact their times didn't went well, bc one was working while the other was home? prob
@@Malam_NightYorumaybe if you weren’t a idiot you would see that the comment says “as I was leaving for work” and “ my ex is a nurse” they both have jobs
The worst part, to me, is that she very clearly INTENSIONALLY didn't make anything for him. If she fed herself and the kids, then she already ordered/cooked something and DIDN'T get/leave anything for him.
Exactly! She technically doesn’t have to cook for him, she could’ve ordered him a pizza or some other kinda meal! Or bought a meal from the store that she can heat up for him or say “I didn’t feel like cooking but I bought you a meal from the store, I didn’t heat it up yet so if you want to, you can heat it up or I can do it real quick!” Boom, done..
@@romanticsecret6365 Right!? I mean she definitely ordered that pizza, I'm like 90% sure. How difficult it could have possibly been to order not one, but TWO pizzas? It's not like she didn't have money for that. Then the conflict would not even come to existence. But I guess she decided to show some attitude, the reason to which I can't explain, like, what more could you possibly want? He pays for everything AND lets her keep all of her money that she earned. Sounds like a dream to me.
it's not called serving, men are happy with the smallest thing, all we want is to know that we are loved, even in a small wayyour husband is a lucky man I hope you folks always be happy
"What are we married for?" is the realist question he could have asked at that point. She doesn't want a husband, she wants a "Provider" that lets her do whatever she wants but has no intention of actually being a wife.
Right question, wrong timing. He should have asked that BEFORE the marriage. And she wanted provider all along, it's just that after he signed the dotted line, she has that in contract form. Becareful what you sign.
best part is, he's probably paying for the cleaning supplies so she can do said things on top of the electricity to run dryer/washing machine to clean said clothes if you really wanna get down to that level.
Dishes aren't that hard to do. Depending on how many there are, it usually takes about 2-5 minutes to clean them all. Given we have a more technologically advanced world, washing clothes isn't hard to do either. It takes 5 minutes to put them in the wash, then the washer cleans it for you for the next 45 minutes. Afterwards, it takes about 2 minutes to put the clothes in the dryer, and the dryer will dry it for you for about 1-2 hours, depending on the load. When the dryer is done, all you gotta do is fold the clothes which takes about 10-15 minutes to do, again depending on the load. Therefore, it really isn't too hard to do these tasks, and when combined with a job that allows you to work at home, conveniently you have more free time. So, I don't really know why she couldn't use her free time that her husband doesn't get as often to help him out and do something simple as cooking a meal. And I may not know how to cook, but she can also order something for him if she didn't wanna cook for him that badly. And the fact that she's saying that she isn't his mother to excuse her selfish actions and words towards him is mind-boggling to my eyes. Also, what's even worse is she never contributes any of her money to the family, therefore hinting that she considers herself more important to take care of than helping the family out with bills and events. This shows how a lot of women in marriages don't care to love their husbands but love themselves and their own desires. They say the words "I love you" but they know in their minds they love the perks they get from doing nothing for their husbands but getting everything regardless. Eventually, however, these selfish desires will be put in the spotlight and those women will lose it all when their husbands see through their B.S. Sorry about this long rant btw.
He worked a crazy ass shift, i get if she expects him to make his own meal when he has a regular 8hour shift but 13 hour shift… dude should come home to releax and not continue working. Let the man have a rest after such an extreme shift.
To be fair, i don't even think you have to point that he pays all of the bills. If your partner is doing a 13hour shift, give a quick thought like "how can i help him/her". What's the point of marriage if it's still free-for-all mindset
She did her job. She found a man to leech off. Goal obtained! Women lack the drive or ability to obtain the lifestyle they want. So they find a man who has drive and the ability she lacks - Girl Power!
even if it was white collar work at a desk, 13 hours of typing, meetings, deadlines, and bullshit-thats enough to make anyone snap after coming home to an empty table.
@@Xeno7001 It is can be pretty bad though.Streaming for example, requires constant interaction and multitasking. Even if you sit on your ass for 13 hours, you're sitting on your ass and concentrating.
@@ghouldrago360 yea but there are People who just play video games for days straight so if the just recorded it like some it wouldnt change much for them
@@Xeno7001 You still have to edit and manage your community and engage in ways that make your viewers want to still watch you, 9/10 times editing the video takes longer than it took to record the raw video, the music the backgrounds the cuts the animations, all of that is done
"I'm not your mama. I'm your wife." Yeah, and as a wife you should be showing in more ways than one that you LOVE your husband, even if it means cooking him a meal or doing something simple to help him relax after a long day. I wish marriages these days would take in consideration that money and sex doesn't account for a healthy relationship, but compromise, empathy for one another(not just being someone to vent to, but also helping the person out after a rough day), and treating one another as equal does.
Man most of us are easy to please. Especially with food. I will never understand these wife’s. It has nothing to do with “man can’t cook for shit” or “I ain’t your mom” It has to do with caring for them by shoving it. Fuck sakes.
@soulsreaper7145 I go to church so I'll just warn you that alot of these women ain't making it to the Golden gates, traditionalism has officially died in church
I'm a housewife, I'm sorry for her but he pays the bills so it's natural for him to expect at least something to eat after 13 hours of work 💀 What kind of woman can claim loving her husband and denying him a freaking plate at the end of the day? Ridiculous!
I think the important thing is she didnt claim to love him. She claimed it's his job to protect and provide for her while saying she doesnt owe him anything. She barely looked at him so she probably doesnt care about him much at all.
I think the worst was the half eaten pizza offer, like he was supposed to be grateful and appreciative that she thinks he's only worth half eaten leftovers, someone else's table scraps, after he was gone to work for over half a day straight.
@@klaibefhuoaiuwehjklbdfsnxnik heres the funny thing if he just hires a woman lawyer the hottest one he can afford he can just dunk on her because nothing destroys a womans repuation more then another woman destroying it
I love how you have all these people defending the wife but if the husband did the same absolutely nobody would be on his side Edit: to clear things up, what i mean is the Twitter users defending the wife, not TH-cam comments
I don't think so. There would still be people saying things like if the roles were switched people would defend her so its fair, or that the woman should be able to take care of herself since she doesn't need a man's help (mockingly obviously) or some nonsense. Maybe not on tiktok though. But there are always people like this.
Great job, my brother married someone like that, all our family thinked he was the bad one because, well he is a man and even being our family because of her wife tricks we thinked he was cheating and being agressive... But he is a great dad, his son isnt an angel but a little devil which would be even worse without him, infact, when he goes with him after being a month with her mom he becomes a spoiled brat Glad we knew the truth when she tried to file a lawsuit, and she didnt have a freakin proof while he revealed the whole truth with so many proofs and arguments, he just didnt want to expose her while she was yelling "He is a bad husband" to the world
The fact they even have kids and the father has to pay for everything they need as well along the bills and everything too, and yet this woman still had the audacity to tell him to get his own food instead when he probably has pennies to spend for himself. It doesn’t feel like she has any respect towards him or her family at all, she’s just spoiled and entitled.
@@eddieisgreat5150If she paid for anything, and I mean anything, she'd have pulled that out the moment he claimed to pay for everything. I guarantee you she pays for absolutely nothing and doesn't think twice about it.
@@randomuserame did you catch that the kids are on teams? meaning the kids have after school activies, meaning the kids, go to school, mom picks them up, drops them off at the ASA, and has time for herself. from 9-3 she is probably working part time, how long are the ASA? 1hr? 2hrs? cause if its 2-3hrs, she got time to do dishes,laundry etc, and cook...
As a woman, and a decent human being, who loves and respects her husband, it’s doesn’t matter if he worked a 12 hour 6 hour, whatever hour shift! My husband will always come home to a home cooked meal! Because I love him and I want to make him happy! That man needs to re evaluate his marriage!
I worked for 45 minutes today (I'm a contractor). Would I still be entitled to a meal when I get back from a hard "day's" work? I get that other people usually work 8-9 hours a day, but I usually don't.
Unless he says “ come on ,honey, I am taking you out to dinner! Otherwise feed him good homemade hot meal at 6 pm every weeknight and Saturday fun meal, oh the baked goods filled the table, and Sunday big dinners at One o’clock And supper as you like from leftovers. Thank you Mom and Dad And all my family for the good examples. Dad did the meat! Mom cook most and baked and we helped then did the dishes. Because Dad was not the butler and mom was not the maid . I quote. She doesn’t care about him at all. Rude behavior probably routine behavior. Sad.
Great! They say only female mosquitoes suck blood....but you most certainly are NOT a mosquito. A pity so many women are that I probably did not lose anything because I have failed to find a wife.
My mom was like this when my dad was still with her, she ended up talking to another man and subsequently splitting the family apart. She kept all the money she made at work for herself, manipulating my older sister into paying for grocery's/shopping and demanding I return her all the money she had payed for when it came to my college. I was still in my senior year of highschool at the time (including pressuring me into going to an educational program trip I was reluctant to accept, because it was pricey). She stopped helping me pay for university in my sophomore year, and tried filing her taxes two years later to have me as one of her dependents (in turn she would get more money out of me despite not living with her, having a falling out years ago, and being extremely verbally/phyically @busive.) She still talks mad shit about me, my siblings, and stalks my dad (who has moved on and is doing alot better) 😭 ill never understand wtf is wrong with people
@@SkyAuraAkisu lol its alright, its been a tough journey and lesson to learn from. Its been a relief to know that the shit she did/ said were actually fucked up, instead of over-exaggerations like she always deemed it was
Been married 35 years, it's about taking care of each other, and if you're keeping score, eats at you. Everyone has role to take to deal with life, constantly shifts, and he needs her help. Apparently she thinks she's done enough. He deserves a real partner. Love how devoted he is to his kids.
It doesn't matter if she's a housewife or not... If she can cook for herself and the kids, why couldn't she just simply increase the amount of servings she makes?
@@IAmBeingSilenced A duty of a wife is supposed to COOK, CLEAN, CARE, what part of COOK, CLEAN, AND CARE DO YOU NOT UNDERSTAND. If a man does a job and he pays for everything, including the ingredients for food, should the woman NOT cook the god damn food? She wants a traditional marriage so in that sense he should not be spending his own money just to have a wife that isn't reliable because she doesnt want to do jack shit to take care of her husband, INCLUDING COOKING TO FEED HER HUSBAND
@@oogaboogadude "cook, clean, and care" was probably not in their vows. It certainly wasn't on the marriage license, and even if it was, SHE AIN'T DOING IT. Now what? We don't know what even preceded this. She might cook almost every day. I had a certain sympathy for the guy at first, but the more I hear you supposed men whine like toddlers for something you should be more than capable of doing for yourself, the less I feel like this is her fault. You don't talk to someone the way he did if you want their cooperation. I wouldn't even talk to an animal that way, certainly not a wife.
@@IAmBeingSilenced I also wouldn't talk to an animal, but here I am. Is it not common sense that a man should be the one working to provide money for his family while the wife must care for the family. I know I sound a bit sexist but this is in a traditional marriage sense, us men don't usually whine to problems but when it comes to us WORKING 13 HOUR SHIFTS we should at least expect a meal to be granted to us by our wives. We are capable more than you women are, but once we have done our fair share of work shouldn't you also do yours? It also says that he pays for all the goddamn bills and she doesn't pay shit, the least she could do was order a pizza. We are capable of many things but we also get tired like women do, we do our work you should at least care for us when we are done and are tired. Most feminist argue for equal rights but almost 75% of them also don't want to do their work. I understand that she may also be tired but at least she didn't get tired from a labor and not some box office work, I assume he does manual labor not box office work since most companies who were doing box office work had their employees work stay-at-home. Please for the love of GOD consider our work for not only our future but your future and the children's future. If you want to continue to keep living under a roof should you not care for the person working for the money to live under that roof?
@@oogaboogadude I'm a man, a father, in fact. You sound like a child who isn't getting their way. When you say women should "take care of the family", what you mean is that women should focus on a certain class of WORK, domestic work that pays nothing, no money, no benefits, no "work experience", and that keeps her dependent on her mate for her survival, i.e. a slave. I don't know that to be the case in this video, but history shows us some pretty clear examples.
I had a similar experience with a girlfriend in the past, where I worked an average of 12 hours a day and she had no job. She spent her entire day at home without doing any household chores. She even had the audacity to demand that I clean the apartment and cook meals for both of us after work. I decided to end the relationship and asked her to leave, but she refused and accused me of using violence against her when I tried to remove her with her belongings. I had to involve the police in this situation, and she made a whole drama out of it, crying and trying to make me look like the bad person.
Toxic people, the moment I heard she had no job, and wasn't even taking care of the house whilst you were working MULTIPLE red flags went off in my mind, let alone demand you to cook food for both of y'all and clean the house, after working 12 HOURS A DAY? That's not a partner, that's a leech, a partner is an equal who is meant to be there for you when nobody else is.
This is why men should not give apartments to girls without a job. If they don't want to have a job, they can live with their parents. If a woman hints at leaving her job when she moves in with you, tell her hell no she's not moving in with you.
He comes home from work and she's already there and she says "make it yourself"… sounds like a good time to get out of that toxic marriage and find someone who appreciates you working hard all day.
@AliothAncalagon, it works for her because it's so much easier to take advantage of other people and make life easier for herself over being kind, considerate and showing respect.
Her constantly saying "you could've gotten something on the way home" but he shouldnt have to expect to HAVE to, because most people assume they can come home to a meal. He also said she didnt call him all day long, if she only wanted to cook for herself and the kids and specifically not for him, if she had an ounce of caring the least she couldve done is send him a text or something like "get some food otw home" like really
Cooking a meal for your partner who just got home from a long shift is a symbol of love and respect. And since she works from home, doesn't pay the bills, and keeps her money, the least she can do is clean and cook while he is gone. Simple distribution of work, doesn't matter the gender.
@@haven_lady675 for the kids to have a man in their lives. Foreal. We need to go back to when Marriage actually meant something. You see 1 thing between the 2 of them, and your idea is to give up and make the kids little bastard children w no father. Maybe you need better resolve. They BOTH need to work HARD at this to keep it together for the kids. Not sure if both sides will be willing, but that is what they should do. Don't be a degenerate divorcee just bc times get rough. FFS.
Like for real he's supporting her own career as well by letting her keep all the money, so in a sense, he's also her employer by affording her the time and offloading her expenses by paying for them. She gets to live for free, and keep all the money she makes, all for the low price of a few house chores and a meal.
@@penguinjay divorce may couse some depresson to kids but if u tell them what happen and why is there divorce even they will understand u can stil be with kids. she is the one who is stupid here not him.
As a woman, who's a mechanic for a living, I'm siding with the hubby here. If you work to earn money for the entire family (no matter how big), you should be getting proper respect for it. I might be single to this day, but even I get, that marriage is about having each other's back. And that lady ain't having her husband's back.
As a dude working on automation I salute you for being a great woman but also for taking up the tools and being a mechanic. We need more females like you.
this woman works from home and doesn't share her money with the family. THE LEASST she could do is spend a little bit of that money ordering takeout/delivery so she can relieve herself of cooking duties I mean come on lmfao
This man isn't worthy of respect. He is tolerating her misbehavior and rewarding her for it, even. He chose her. He needs to unchoose her, and he SHOULD, because she is being a bad role model for his children and making it harder for him to be a good one. In order for him to be treated like a man, he needs to act like one.
@@IAmBeingSilenced we do live in a society where he could get accused of some shit if he does that cause i know that kind of woman aint gonna sit down, listen and not shut up and play the role she will hold a grudge and maybe she will try something drastic to get what she wants
She has no problem doing the dishes and washing the clothes because she can just throw them all in some machines and do the minimal amount of work. But cooking food actually takes effort to buy, prep, and cook everything, there's no shortcut to it.
Exactly what I'm thinking, some comments here are thinking "Washing the dishes and clothes" are all done by herself with no machines. I see that happening with the dishes, but how with clothing? Not to mention, anyone, even ones with a 9-5 are supposed to do those tasks anyway. If someone isn't already doing it for them.
Seriously. Throw it in the machine and forget about it for half an hour, then throw it in the other machine for an hour and forget about it. I do it all the time when my lady works on weekends. The only thought to it is remembering to do it.
He's not expecting 50/50, he's expecting her to be a little more thoughtful. She doesn't have to make dinner every day, but when your husband is doing a 13 hour day you can take 5 seconds to defrost some chick and throw it on a baking pan with a baked potato and throw some frozen veggies in the microwave. She looks like the kind of person who would die from ever doing any work
I've been there and I see similar cases around me. When a man works hard he becomes just a provider, not a partner, not a husband, not a father, becomes dehumanized. For wife such a man is obstacle, it is much easier for her when man moves away and keeps providing from distance.
I'd have issue if my woman just threw veggies in a microwave. A microwave doesn't actually cook. Microwaves agitate the water inside the food so the food is temporarily warmed. That's why potatoes don't heat in there. They are dense and don't have much water in them. While catsup and other condiments like syrup get super hot.
Idk I use to work 12 hours shift 5 days a week. My wife would cook throughout the week but not everyday. I don't understand expecting a meal to be cooked if leftovers are available from the day or two before. If not, I'll just heat up something in the freezer.
@@ivanbrezina7632 This when y’all choose ambitious man without understanding the sacrifices that are needed to be made. He’s focused on providing. This ain’t the same from your experience. Woman expect a lot from man, man are simple then a mf’er. Woman requires a lot and mostly not needs, just how they feel.
she has the audacity to say "thats what you're supposed to do" but when it comes to fulfilling her role as a wife, all of a sudden the rules dont apply?
@@MrPanGonzo lol then what is her duty? Do do nothing while he works? Who cooks and cleans? The husband after coming home? Please explain your reasoning behind such a statement
If she is not contributing financially to the household, then her working is IRRELEVANT. She is working for herself only. Therefore her household contribution will be that of a regular housewife, which includes making dinner.
If a guy pays bills, and comes home after a 13 hour shift, then it should be fair play for him getting food from his own wife, because he deserves it, especially for working hard and managing the house.
@@That0Homeless0Guy Or just 5 minutes, a can, and a microwave. It doesn't take that much effort to cook something unless you're really going out of your way.
@@immortalfrieza Bro you can open a damn can yourself and put it in the microwave whats wrong with you Cause youre working others need 2 to that for you? Gosh grow up dude you got some real mommy complex...
@@immortalfrieza yah but your not really making a decent meal in 5 minutes, thats some low effort food , it takes atleast 30 minutes to an hour to make a good meal and as the other guy was saying, a lot of that time is just letting the food cook, you can easily do other things while thats going on
@@aidankelley2696 A decent meal can be made in 5 minutes, you really have to be looking to make something notable to take 30 minutes to an hour to make dinner.
After having to spend 13 hours at work for 5-6 days a week for 10 months, I can absolutely tell you that "working from home" compared to being at a job site is not even remotely close to comparable.
For sure. When WFH you can even throw together a low effort meal, even if it takes 2 hrs for stew, you can take a 5 min break here and there to cut vegetables, put the stove on, etc.
@@advertslaxxor If you own a crockpot, it's also possible to put dinner in to cook before you even start wfh and possibly have it finish up once you're done.
Its not really about where they work as much as the fact that her work money is spent only on herself while his work money is spent on the family, which means her work isn't her doing her part for the family but just her own independent choice which is okay if she was also contributing to the house in other ways (cooking+cleaning)
and do not forgett the time you need driving home and to the work. AND if you are lucky you need to use the public transfer where you get waitingtime too.
Agreed. I work remotely for my job. There are days I want a lazy meal, so the slow-cooker gets used. Honestly, I love it, and reduces the stress of driving to work and back. Wake up, wash face, brush teeth, work.
This is why people shouldn't get married unless they're completely sure of the compromises they will make as well as the equal footing they should have for the rest of their lives Edit: will you all please stop fighting in the comments.
Definitely true, but there’s also no point in getting married in the first place except for legal or monetary reasons which have nothing to do with love. Imo.
@@stephencarmickle to start a family then you both officially are mamma and papa, instead of just boyfriend and girlfriend who have kids marriage is supposed to unite both people so that now, you're a family who knows to love, respect, and what to do in certain situations the problem here is that this new generation doesnt care about that. If something is wrong in a relationship, they don't try to fix it, its either breakup/divorce or cheat
@@mugitude Well sometimes if something is wrong with a relationship, it usually has something to do with someone on the relationship not having the insight TO change their ways. That’s how ab*sive and manipulative relationships typically happen. If both of the people in the relationship don’t get along and it gets rocky, that’s a good point to break up. If there’s no longer the chemistry between two people, why should you make it work when the spark is longer there? And for the record, don’t put it on a single generation. Even people of the older generations are capable of the same thing, so don’t pin it on a single generation acting like this.
Preparing meals for your family should be seen as an act of love and care, not as a matter of gender roles. If there isn't mutual respect between spouses, marriage shouldn't be the option in the first place. Edit: Based solely on this brief clip, it's difficult to accurately comprehend the entirety of this couple's circumstances. Yet, it's clear that there's a lack of communication, mutual understanding and respect between them. I have no intention of taking sides in this matter. However, I would like to highlight that preparing meals is fundamentally an act of life preservation. If you truly care for someone, you would naturally be concerned about their basic needs, such as food, clothing, and shelter. (I am a working wife too, in case you're wondering.) As Erich Fromm said, "To love somebody isn't just a strong feeling. It is a decision, a judgment, and a promise."
I told my girlfriend that I do not care what job I have or whatever. If I'm available at breakfast, lunch or dinner time, I'm cooking whatever she wants to eat. And I mean whatever. I'm a chef. You're absolutely correct that, although we all must eat, preparing a meal to be enjoyed by your loved ones is a labor and service of love and gratitude. I see neither of those things here. Maybe she's saving money to get kicked out cuz she sure ain't getting shit. I hope that man has a prenup.
what the hell does gender have to do with anything on this? It was established that the main reason he wants a meal on the table is because he spends the better part of his day working to pay for everything she does not pay for Fuck, people have lows and you won't always have that feeling of love and care in you but at least have some human decency
I see this as a lack of communication and the idea that women work means nothing. The bottom line he could not afford a maid, a chief, laundry services, if he paid for outside help However he 😂seem like she should work for free for his sex and live in there home. Basically his feeling a wife is suppose to be his servant and that is not how the world works today. But I find this couple has a communication problem and maybe they could work out where they share making dinner together instead of him just thinking it is Hollywood movie with this huge dinner showing up in front of him within 3 minutes of walking in the door. Meanwhile he probably did not work 13 hours because he had lunch and breaks and he probably included his travel time also. Meanwhile why would you post this on the internet. Some guy who felt like he needs to be right so bad he had to get positive from other men who think wives are just servers is enough to show me he does not have much respect for her either.
If a man works all day especially 13 hours and pays for everything I don't think it's unreasonable for the man to expect a homemade hot meal. Especially if she is so greedy with the money doesn't help the man pay anything
@Spurduh i have actually noticed that, a lot of times when i see a video of abusive parents the comments are filled with "wait till you have a black mom or black parents". wtf is going on over there that so many are commenting that?
@@brynion2117 70% of black families have either children in the same household with multiple fathers or in single parent house holds. Disfunction all around.
I disagree a bit if he decides to pay for everything and let her keep her money. That's on him. They could hire someone to help as both work. I dont believe that she must do it just because he pays. However, i feel bad for him as everybody ate but not him. Like how can she exclude him?
@@iseechances she seems to be eating something from yesterday, if there's really no time or capacity to cook, she should be using her money to order food for them, because if he pays all other bills it's expected that atleast food is on her, preparation or order whichever
She went out of her way to make sure he didn’t have anything. She and the kids ate and that poor guy came home to nothing, and found out she didn’t have any consideration to him! She keeps all her money and throws the fact she works in his face. He needs to leave that relationship
@@apatheticxmindsetx3549 oh yeah, totally. He worked his ass off to support the family, yet doesn't deserve an actual meal. Also, the wife was asking him to cook it himself dumbass. You are saying that even though the wife does almost nothing at home she can't make a hot meal for her husband ONCE a day?
Oh my. I am not even "women stay home and men provide" type of woman but not cooking for my husband after he was working 12 hours straight????? Even if I was busy at that time I would try to come up with something fast and simple simply just because I love him? This is messed up. My boyfriend also asks me if I'm hungry after he picks me up from my 14 hour shift as a lifeguard during summer season.
I agree! She may work too, but if she had time to prepare herself and her kids food she should've prepared/ got something for her husband too. He worked 13 hours! That's gotta be exhausting and he's gotta be hungry. It's not that hard to make or buy another portion of food, especially if she's keeping all her money anyway
100%. Imagine working from home, and then not using any of the money to pay bills. She absolutely should be a complete homemaker. Her work and money is for her. It doesn't count
Right near the end where she says "I wash the clothes, YOUR children's clothes" I already got the feeling she'd been done with this relationship for a long time. Yeah we're seeing it here, but she definitely doesn't care at all.
This is exactly what I saw too. She's done with him 100%. She doesn't love him. Doesn't respect him. Doesn't care about him. She calls him a provider. Not "my husband". She's keeping the money she makes from her stay-at-home job so she can leave with money when she does leave him. She's very much done with the marriage.
She mentally checked out a long time ago but isn't in a hurry to end things because she gets all her bills paid. Might even be cheating or looking for an exit strategy. Some women do this to get the guy angry enough to snap so that they can tell people "he blew up on me and was being crazy/abusive" so they don't look like the bad ones who broke up the family.
I lived with my best friends for awhile, they are a married couple and they both have jobs. Was never an issue, was never even a question. Whoever was home first, cooked. That way when EVERYONE got home, we could sit down, eat, and chat. Then the one who cooked went and watched TV, while the other two cleaned up the dishes and put away any leftovers. Its not abou5 expecting a "wife" to cook for her "husband." It boils down too, do you love that person enough to not want them to starve?
Really sorry for saying this in advanced, but... Massive Third Wheel? You may have your reasons like the other needed you to survive and vice versa but like....
@zacmayes2802 And im sorry you misunderstood the dynamic. I was not a third wheel, but a glorious Unicycle and they were my trusty training wheels! Though in all seriousness, she had a newborn and i was making sure they didnt lose the house. Plus, beats living alone where everything is silent and lonely.
@@gabrielkawa3477absolutely nothing to do with gender. I cook and clean when I’m home and my wife is at work. She does when it’s the other way around. Gender has absolutely nothing to do with wanting to care for a person you claim to love.
This makes me so sad for this good, hardworking man. Really heartbreaking how little respect his wife has for him. She does not love him. I am a traditional woman and the 3 times I went to the hospital to give birth to our children, I cooked all of my husband's favorite meals and froze them. All he needed to do was heat them up and enjoy his meals until I came home again. I wish this gentleman all the best in his life. Maybe this will be the wake up call he needs to move on.
Doing dishes: The dish washer takes care of 95% of it. Doing laundry: The washer & dryer take care of 95% of it. They are both the quickest and easiest things in the world to do. Someone thinking doing them represents some great achievement is whack. She's making very clear to her a 'relationship' is that he works and she's on permanent vacation.
@@WildBikerBill and if you want to add taking out the trash, it's also not even 10 minutes since all you do is close a bag and put it in the specified location to be picked up
I'm a woman and I'm appalled by her behavior. At least say sorry and offer to order some food meanwhile fix some quick snack or drink. He's been out on 13 hours shift and not appreciated by his wife, I feel really bad for him :(
Same. It takes a conscious effort to make enough food for ONLY for you and the children and not your husband. I completely get him asking "what are we married for?". Why marry him to ignore him until you need bills paid?
@@GuranPurin not all but some marriages are truly a perfect example of "what are we married for?" Because some relationships just arent built like a marriage. For this guy what does he actually get out of this marriage? She says she cleans but only described cleaning that's automated. hes paying for everything and doesnt feel respected.
To be honest I feel bad for the husband. Like imagine working for 13 hours and your hungry thinking about the food you partner made but instead there’s no food
I feel bad for no sides. She's clearly a selfish person and him making a tiktok makes me feel like he wanted to stir the pot for divorce. I work 13 hours at a factory, and she works 8 at a nursing home. there's times I cook my partner food or bring us both home something other times she dies it and we slit all bills 50/50 with me covering the more expensive ones because I can afford it better. A relationship requires both sides to cooperate yet them saying they have a job in the marriage is them treating it as work not a responsibility.
@oey nfrysdniydizsuhfisy ik she pays nothing but him running to the internet when he's clearly a problem in the relationship himself doesn't help. He sees the marriage as a job not a joint responsibility. He should have never took 100% or how relationship like this are rushed into it.
Just do you boss... worry about you and if it's meant to be then it will be. Trust me... don't look for it and it will find you if it's supposed to. You do what you want to do to be happy for you, and in the places you already are the perfect life will be found.
It's not. If both people aren't giving and sacrificing, then yeah, it's like this. If you or the spouse feel like they deserve something from the marriage, don't even try it. It will fail.
@@atcmadness4351 yep. Unfortunately there are too many people (women) with a sense of entitlement to make relationships too big a risk. Stay well my friend 🤙
You can’t have the whole “men are supposed to pay all the bills” but not think that her job then is to do EVERYTHING in the household (including cleaning). She’s literally just living life free of charge.
Wife: "I don't want to be put in a traditional housewife role." Husband: "Fine then. I'll take care of the house and the chores, and cook meals for the two of us, something that you refuse to do. While YOU go out and work 13 FRICKING HOURS a day. How's that sound?" Wife:" No no no no not that!"
@@EE-iv5ej its like me when i talk to my parents when im sick there like A:sleep to get better (i dont remeber one time i have fell asleep in the afternoon or anywhere before nighttime) or B go to school and im like Nonono i wanna play games all day long
She just chose poorly and yes there's some men that will propose and tell you that they don't need their wife to cook or clean for them, and they already have a house set up and she can move in and he will continue to take care of the house bills, as long as she has and raises his kids. THEN you can say the woman is lucky to have that man.
@@_ksm0922 she did and he did. They're just not suited for each other. I'm used to men that treat me like a princess, they buy me gifts and wanna cook for me, not the other way around. If that's what she wanted why did she settle?
"Im not your momma, Im your wife" 1:10 She doesnt realize she is a helper or helpmate. She isnt even willing to make a quick meal for him after a 13hr shift. He is paying ALL the bills and she keeps ALL her money but its too much to expect a meal after working long hours? She is not a keeper
I work 52 to 60 hour weeks myself right now. Straight 12s almost exclusively, but on rare occasions we'll be dead enough that the shop sends me home early if they can.
I've worked 8 hours, 6 days a week in my first job and even I can fully understand him. Even if it wasn't as bad as 13 hour shifts, 8 hours + 6 days a week really grinds your patience down and causes a lot of stress after a while. I can just imagine the level of stress that 60 hour weeks can cause, I wouldn't be very patient with a disrespectful leech for a wife myself at that point.
I knew a Truck driver in Western Australia and during the grain harvest he would work 18 hrs days. He gets home from work shattered, his supper is in the over but when he finishes it his wife who did not work says I left the dishes for you to clean. He refused to do it and the wife's sister told his wife she should leave him and she did. You couldn't make this shit up.
My friend is in the same exact position as this man right here. Needless to say they’re in the process of getting a divorce as well. It’s a crying shame how some of these women think that a man’s job is to pay and provide for everything while they set back saying don’t expect me to do this and that. It’s a crying shame…
At least he's getting rid of some dead weight that doesn't contribute to his needs. It's so easy for women to berate men nowadays with easy social media access but when men do it they pull up the whole "I'm a house wife but I work too" card. Like ok if you are a housewife then do what a housewife would do and if you work then contribute to the family instead of hoarding it like a scrooge
plus if they have kids he kist need to provide bank statements and get the judge to request her im 99% sure the person will be getting money from them it shows their putting the effort in
She likely also has flexibility hours and even loose scheduleing even during working hour. Meaning she either only has a few mandatory scheduled tasks/meetings she has to do at and for a set amount t of time. And everything else can be done at her own pace as long as it is done by the end if the day or before the next working day. Or no scheduled tasks or meetings at a specific time for a specific length at all and only has a quota she has to meet per-day or week or month or quarter which can be done at her own pace.
Right!! I’m appalled at the fact that she continues to stuff her face and doesn’t even offer him a bite or anything whilst he sounds like he’s nearly in tears
@@brownsugga2584 you mean lack of roles? she works from home and doesn't provide anything for her family aside from cleaning clothes that he buys and feeding their children and herself food that he buys, while she saves her money for herself, if that sounds like a healthy relationship you're delusional
Just by staying home with a couch, a fan and many essentials that can cool her off while the husband is sweating outside, working hard, getting the money for his childrens to feed and has to do that for 5 days. Yeah, good "wife" (not) right there hope she gets the "Hell" treatments in the future
When I lost my job and my man worked. Even though it was only 4 10 hour shifts a week. I packed him lunch, I made sure he ate when he came home, I cleaned the house, I did everything I could to make sure he was happy and could relax when he came home. Now that I work 6 days a week he does it for me when he can. That's real love, that's real commitment, that's real respect.
What so many people fail to see is this isn't about the gender. If the roles were switched we would most defititely expect the husband to cook for the wife. It's about mutual understanding and care for your partner and knowing what part you have to play.
And it's not entirely about cooking either. I think the guy would be okay with takeout. He just shouldn't have to prepare something and delay getting fed. Even ordering out still has a delay.
@@Frenzyshark Right, it's about knowing that your partner cares about you, and knowing that they're reliable enough for you to know that you don't need to worry about the home like you do for work.
@@b_w_jYeah my wife isn't reliable for anything.. My home is worse to worry about because she's so extremely messy and house never gets clean until I do it, it's exhausting because of the state it gets in, and it just falls apart in a few days because she doesn't bother to keep things clean. I don't have a partner/wife I have an adult child who is raising our child and I have to put up with too much I basically just check out now.
@@Frenzyshark Cooking is a stand in for actual housework. She mentioned cleaning dishes and clothes, we can see the dishwasher in front of her and I would bet they have a washing machine and a drier. You need 10-15min for each of those chores and you do that like twice a week. Now cooking on the other hand that's a daily chore that takes 1-2 hours.
@@harz632 I'm not sure I understand what you're commenting in regards to my comment. While the guy keeps making a big deal about "home cooking", sometimes you just can't trust people to cook the meal well(so why bother?). And since the guy was working a 13 hour shift, it may not have been certain when he got home. Are you strongly agreeing with him that "a home cooked meal" should be waiting for him as he gets home? And it's still warm? It probably wouldn't be. At the end of the day, it's much more important food is ready for him to eat when he actually gets home. Not that it's "prepared" well, homecooked, and warm when he hypothetically gets home. I wouldn't push for the homecooked meal just because "it's the principle of it". Work smarter and not harder. If he has to rewarm takeout food, so be it. That's better than stubbornly insisting on fresh food the second he's home. I recall a reddit post where a guy's brother hated the poster's cooking(she was the wife of the family). Said it was terrible. This guy also didn't work(he lost his job and was kicked out of his house after divorcing his wife during covid) so he had all of the time in the world to eat "good cooking". The wife was working on a lot of things and said "well you guys can cook the food then. I'll get takeout for myself" while worked on her work and school. Eventually the dishes piled up because the guy refused to do the dishes and cook even though he was the one who was doing all of the cooking and eating it. The guy kept telling the wife "you must do the dishes, I've done the cooking" despite the fact she ate takeout entirely for 2-3 months. She didn't eat a single of the homecooked meals. The moral of the story is all of this fuss about cooking can be often pointless. Again it's more important to have something to eat than scrutinize whether it was homecooked or not. But it seems you're scrutinizing it. And I just don't get it.
@Is really toasty here bro cleaning and washing clothes takes no fucking skills. Cooking is an effort which she can't fucking give. She ain't even paying half the bills
@Is really toasty here No dude, if someone is pulling 12-14 hrs daily and paying all the bills, the house better be clean and meals should be ready and hot or at least almost done when he walks through the door. Doing anything less makes you worthless.
that "keep that mother fucking attitude" broke my heart, that man care so much for everyone in that house and all he wanted was a little something that showed they also care about him, at the end of the day its not about the food or her cooking, it is about the respect you are suppose to have. A LOT of people need to start treating their significant other as a partner, and not a colleague
And then deal with a Divorce and STILL pays her bills AND loses half his Stuff. Men have a lot to lose in a Divorce and more of an incentive to salvage a relationship, regardless how toxic it is, Women have nothing to lose and don't need to care, her Bills are going to get paid in the End.
"She works two so it's not fair to demand she do stuff for you." If a doctor is performing surgery on someone else while you still need surgery you srent gonna be satisfied that someone else got surgery because he didnt perform surgery for you. It isnt selfish to still want your surgery, just doing a job doesn't matter if it isnt being done for you.
@@christophercrafte she still has to be contributing something in house and since she does not do that she should make him a goddamn sandwich every single day or atleast order food for him
The biggest problem here is that if they are married by law, he is stuck. Only way out is a long draining costly court battle involving children and even if they are not biologically his, she can still protest and win a child support argument.
Due to circumstances, I was a stay at home dad for 7 years. My wife landed a good career before I did, and we had decided one of us would stay home. I did all the house chores, took care of the kids, cooked her meals, and packed her lunch nearly every day. What money I made from odd jobs went towards the household. I've been back to work since, while still doing most of the things I was doing, and contributing financially. Currently off work again to help with grandkids(daughter with very high risk pregnancy and 2 other kids) as well as doing a remodel so my wife(DSP) can take an in-home patient. I will then go back to work and contribute again when complete. All for the good of our family, and I love my wife enough to care that much. That lady in the vid is pathetic and doesn't know what a real relationship is. I feel sorry for her husband, he deserves so much more.
@@nightmaregaming6706No, I'm not Indian. No, I don't work more than my wife. She works crazy hours, and still helps out at home and with our grown kids. She works as much as I do. It's pretty much 100/100 for us, 50/50 doesn't cut it.
@@Nightmare2.03 Yeah, well, it hasn't gotten us anywhere. We're still poor despite trying like hell. I thought anyone who valued their family would do as much, but I've been known to be wrong.
for anyone who wants to beat this record, here are some tips: get a lot of money, this is a good way to attract the npcs, after marriage, dumb all your money into something useless. thats the golddiggerdivorce% route try rolling for the african race and get the rizz and gaslighter skill tree. attract npc's with the racist parents debuff and convince them to marry before meeting the parents. after that. ask if you can meet the parents. there will be a 50% chance to divorce, you can increase this to 100% when you say you are jobless.
Don't give up on women, there is plenty good of them. It is the same thing as seeing another footage of creepy man and then thinking that all males are creeps. Internet makes us hate each other.
Modern men also aren't worth it though. I'd rather stay completely single as a woman then deal with them ngl. I'll save my time and money due to the increase of incel culture and redpill misogynist stuff
She's saying its left overs from lastnight but he says he didn't get any. She says the clothes are clean. The dishes are done. But those are not necessary for living. Food is. Everyone knows that food is the one thing men universally appreciate and literally need for survival. But the fact that he can't get food in his own home is wild. When I was adopted, my foster mom came home to a cooked meal every day, and the rest of us waited at the table for her to come and eat first. How is he supposed to provide and protect but she's not cooking? Does she not understand how traditional roles work?
Too much swallowing twitter bullcrap most likely. She already make food for her and their children so just make more portions for him what the problem? Heck she doesn't even have to be the one cooking just call some chinese food or some shit How she able to act all smug with half eaten pizza boggles my mind too.. is it really necessary to provoke her own husband? What she trying to gain from it exactly? Doubt anything good came from it
She want a non-traditional role? Let's have them switch and she's the one to work 13 hours a day. If she can't even be bothered to cook or even order more food for her husband, doubt she'd even be willing to work too. Kinda sickening that people like her use ideas of "not wanting to be a traditional housewife" just as an excuse to not put any effort at all.
@@EE-iv5ej I don't understand, if the woman worked 13 hours and the man didn't provide he would be in the wrong. But people think because it's a woman who's in the wrong it's because of misogynistic gender norms. It's so silly.
That man is not your roommate, that’s someone you take care of after he takes care of all your bills. If y’all have split bills, y’all can make your own food. It may be the Asian in me, but I can’t even IMAGINE eating in the same room as someone who isn’t.
Bingo! I don't even get myself anything without asking my roommate if he wants anything. It just rude to eat and not offer the other person in the house anything. If I get a burger I get him one. If I order a pizza I get him one. I always get extra salads and sparkling water so he can have some too. Her behavior is beyond rude though.
@@BoSmith7045 I always ask my girlfriend if she wants food if I'm going to cook or go out and get something. Shes a nurse. I currently can't work due to my epilepsy, So I'm doing everything at home. Is it really that hard to put in the effort? I'm having seizures multiple times a month breaking shit during them. I fix what I break, I do the laundry, dishes, yardwork, cook, clean, take care of the animals, and my crippled mother. It seems no one can be decent anymore.
@@crazycoffee see, if someone like you, who is prone to seizures every month, can do all those things, what is her excuse? People cleans the dishes and the clothes with a automatic dishwasher and automatic washing machine that does EVERYTHING for you. I bet if she had to do everything by hand, she wouldn't be so smug.
This is a great example of why people should be patient and wait to have kids, even while married, to learn who your partner truly is. It would’ve been different if he pays all the bills and she covers most other expenses but she literally doesn’t pay for anything vital to their or their children’s lives.
Sometimes women change after they give birth. "Took me 9 months and a couple of years, now my insurance is ready! Time to get paid!". That's what nowdays women think about marriage. Destroy a man's life has become a duty.
This is exactly why you shouldn't even get married until you've lived together for a few years. Mirrage is a final commitment and basically a death sentence to most men if it ends in divorce. Kiss all your belongings, savings, most of your future earnings, and retirement goodbye.
So she contributes nothing and all she brings is problems and disrespect? Yeah, get out of my house, I don't even care about the food anymore. If this is happening in my house and you are acting like this, your couch hopping your not even a wife. If my wife works 13 hours and I'm at home aware of it, the first thing I'm doing is making it worthwhile for her and having a nice dinner prepared, the house clean, and the kids taken care of, and if I'm doing the same thing, working late, she would do the same. there is no 50/50 in a relationship, we both put in a 100% effort to our roles as partners and parents and occasionally take up a little more if either one of us is having a long hard day at work or just having a hard time. That's how we see happy elderly couples that have been together for 30, to 50 years plus and still sharing wholesome moments like they are still young. But I'm not a married man nor in a relationship so what would I know 🤷♂️
I wouldnt say nothing. She does some household chores. She doesnt contribute enough. Or rather, she actively doesnt contribute to him. I mean, obviously she makes food for herself and the kids. But she "forgets" making food for her husband?
This sound a lot like the path my marriage took. I was working two jobs (one salaried, the other PT). And spending 96% of my income on bills. She worked PT and spent 50% on the one bill she came into the marriage with … and complained. She also refused to cook, clean, wash dishes, buy groceries. Then it got worse… So I divorced her.
Take notes men. And this problem is only getting worse with the entitled and promiscuous behavior. Also for those who might get offended: Working but not contributing is the same as not working.
I wouldn't say working and not contributing is the same as not working as she still has a job but this is my own personal opinion but the least she could do is cook for him after 13hrs he clearly deserves better and deserves to be treated with respect and he clearly isn't getting that at home she 100% belongs to the streets
@@bluehornet197 if you work and dont contribute, then its the same as not working- imagine youre assigned a group project, (the group being you and your wife) she does her part of the work, but doesnt turn in the paperwork to share with the group or teacher, because she feels like that is her work, so she shouldnt have to share , so you end up having to do the whole project by yourself to turn into the teacher. (the teacher being the companies (bills) that you pay, the group work being money)- she did the work, but refused to turn it in, which is the same as not doing anything at all, in my opinion its actually worse because it shows how selfish she is
@@badfiji then one can argue it's a side project for them she has money she saves up cause she has no financial responsibilities but this isn't about her though or my opinion I just don't share the same opinion as you on this particular matter but what I do agree with is that she needs to be a better to her husband
@@bluehornet197 but the thing is when you're in a group project, you do have responsibly. its supposed to be a team effort. If both parties decided to be selfish and not contribute, then what? and it is unfair for only one to contribute 100 percent and the other to not do anything yet reap the benefits of another's hard work
It's not just about food; it's about taking care of your hardworking partner. I have experienced this situation in my family. I am the breadwinner, responsible for paying the bills and my siblings' tuition fees. When I return home after a long trip, dealing with traffic, hunger, and work-related stress, it becomes even more challenging. Additionally, I try to eat less while I'm at the office because the food there is expensive, and I want to save more money to cover the bills. I expect to come home to a homemade meal because that's the best option. However, when there is no food available, I feel devastated. The combination of hunger, stress, and weakness takes a toll on my mental well-being, and I start to feel as if the people I take care of are not reciprocating by taking care of my basic need for food.
One group of delusional women that are probably feminists too. (Like it's actually kind of sad to think that feminism as an idea, degraded so much through the execution part, that it became an insult, wanting equality isn't so bad but these womenchildren, they do not want that though and that's a problem) I feel bad for the guys having to endure such type of marriages or relationships where there is 0 empathy and understanding, when people feel love with their brains and only want the good that comes from it and can't deal with the bad. Sickening. While, it's natural that I really want to be on the women side more, but you just can't nowadays. It became so much nonsense and so much promotion of independency of stupidity, that they simply cannot seem to be able to distinct what goes beyond them and their own words of hypocrisy. Even I don't understand them, let alone you guys XD Then the same girls that turn into women, they wonder why, they are 30-40 years old and single and no one wants them. Friendly reminder bestie ^_^ ! You WANTED this. Why are YOU CRYING NOW? *Not all girls are like this* and let's be real, men aren't saints either, heck no. The problem is and always was, that the negatives are a lot and too many. Too many people being stupid and banding together, influencing each other in a toxic way. Both men and women alike. Sad state of the world is that, these "Women" do it too far more than men, because they think *that they can get away with anything* by just thinking of themselves as saints. And society... seems to reward and encourage them and lets them reign free for the "I think therefore I am" type of act. Privilege does that people, regardless of gender. In this world, it just so happens that women are the favorites, and how they drown in that idea of power... only for some of them to wake up to reality (THANKFULLY) and realize how much they've wasted and lost through their "*COPIUM*" and make-believe. (Barely relevant but, I had a somewhat good friend with that mentality, older than me and yet surprisingly not as wise. And trust me when I say that I am not that wise at all XD, so you can only imagine her. I am in my mid twenties and she is close to getting in her forties and acts like a "bish" to one of the most kindest and sweetest gentleman out there whom genuinely cared for her. She loses that relationship eventually (in like almost 1 year of her constantly pushing him around and treating him like a tool and money making machine) and wondered what she did wrong and that he was her everything and why he left... -_- *BRUH* I lost respect for her and then she started to take it out on me on a constant so... I had to go too. I was friends with her for like 5-6 years. I didn't expect her to be like that and kept telling myself that I must've misunderstood things before but damn )
My dad doesn't work (retired), but I feel like both are being really over the top toxic. When my dad came home from his job before he retired, my mom didn't cook for him because they came back at relatively the same time. A 13-hour shift is bad, but couldn't he have messaged her like "what are you cooking tonight?" And vise versa like the wife saying "I'm not cooking tonight. You can go and buy something." I am not supporting any side because if it's a relationship, you gotta stay in touch with the person. The wife is more on my bad side, but both are pretty bad (as I would judge from the video) people to be in a relationship in. I'm not black and am in no way trying to make this seem like one person is better, I just wanna say have at least some decency in decisions instead of getting at each other.
There’s a reason she does the clothes and dishes, they are the least labor inducing chores around the house, and she gets a “I do something in the house” card. There’s still the yard, trash, floor, et cerera.
Wow . Just wow. 100% on the husband's side. I couldn't imagine being home all day and having him pay for absolutely everything , and cam take the time to make herself some food ,but none for him , especially after working such a long shift on top of it. It's the LEAST she could do is put some food on the damn table for her main. No love, no respect. Hope he finds someone who will treat him right. I'd do anything and for my man, and he does the same in return. And that's how it should be
2:37 Yes I can imagine him being pretty upset when he is hungry and overworked, if you ask me he is even managing to keep calm and he kind of sounds more disappointed rather than angry...
@@klaibefhuoaiuwehjklbdfsnxnik I do landscaping and occasionally have to pull some 12 to 14 hour long days to finish a job when there’s a deadline. After hour eight, I feel panicked and stressed and tired. After our 10 I’m really tired, but seem to just give up any hope of having any energy or day left after work so it almost becomes easier to go longer. On those days, I get home and just collapse and turn into a puddle
@@tylerk.7947 summer job when i was 18 was landscaping how i found out my allergy it not fun and hate monkey grass go thro bluejeans almost as bad as sod
How? You like 8 hour shifts where you have to come back everyday? I’d rather push through one long day and have 2 or 3 off than be at work everyday for 8 hours with one day off.
The fact that she keeps all her own money for herself and doesn't use it to help with the bills or the kids really rubs me the wrong way. I'd hate to be married to someone like her.
I also find it unfair when "empowered" women, single, waste all their money away on expensive clothes, shoes, DG handbags, expensive meals outside, trips abroad, etc, while the men of the same age can't. They are already making things out to own a house and a decent car. You work your ass out to be only a good provider to a future wife, who already wasted all her salaries away, is not loyal, and moreover, a house and a car are little things; social media brought to them much richer guys and over the top expectations.
I remember being hit with an increase of hours because of short staff at my workplace. My sister understood that cooking for me was going to be helpful since I was letting her stay with me since visiting. Even us as siblings understood our roles.
Well with siblings the bonds go deeper and longer. Or at least it should. Siblings should understand each other better and earlier before someone who marries them does
I have to side with the husband here. I'm not looking at his request as an obligation, but more as a courtesy, a show of respect and concern and love for your partner. Part of a mature relationship involves compassion and the ability over time to anticipate your partners needs. That includes doing things that will make the day a little easier. That works both ways, too. In this case, I might have taken into account that yes, we are both working, but my husband is going to be exhausted after a 13 hour shift. I'm tired too, but i'm here and it is easier for me at this point to walk into the kitchen and make some food. When i make something for myself, i make enough for both of us. We can both relax and spend some time together over a meal. It doesn't always have to be something fancy or expensive, but just making the effort shows care for your partner, and then sitting down together and having some quality time is good for both people. At minimum, when she got that pizza out, she could have saved some for him or something. If you want to maintain a good relationship, you have to learn how to show concern for your significant other.
She clearly doesnt love him...her behaviour is in "preparation for divorce" stage...she is hoping for some slaps from him and she will start it (or later without it)...She was saving her money and now plan is to take his house, his kids, at least half of his salary for alimony and savings...those who thing about marriage must be seriously crazy
@@hyuga4477 those US women (obviously not all of them) must be hell live with...my GF is Czech and she work full time, contribute 50% of everything (rent, bills etc) and still after work she manage to cook dinner and for next day lunch for both of us, and with smile (i cook too, dont get me wrong)...and she is doing it for last almost 10 years we are together
This is insane 🤦♀️ what is wrong with some woman. I’m a stay at home mom and my man comes home to a clean house, food on the table and clean clothes in the the bathroom waiting for him. He got us so I got him. Where I lack he has me and where he lacks I have him ❤
family dinners keep the family together apart from God being the most important ingredient but even if there are fights or discussions its still good to eat dinner together. a fighting family is better than no family and eating dinner gives you a shedule and unites the family to be on the same rythm
@@mugitude I mean tbh she shows no potential of being fixed. It’s one thing if she didn’t cook but to be standing there stuffing her face while he’s literally asking for food is straight up disrespectful
The fact that she offered him the half eaten slice of pizza is a major insult.
She just treated like a dog. Leftovers are for begging animals, and she did that on purpose.
reminds me of Sasha's half potato offer to the instructor
@@frozennut2430Facts 😭
Please tell me he divorced her and she didn't get anything from hi
Well he ain’t have some food. They could just go out. And she does clean and work but apparently don’t pay bills?? but I do agree. “Thats what you supposed to do” is crazy, insane, boiling, blown out of proportion. 🤣
paying for a housekeeper is cheaper than taking care of that wife
Yeah dudes a sucker. When she said “that’s what you’re supposed to do” that told us everything I need to hear.
You let this bish save her money while you spend all yours?
Probably also a lot less hassle and emotional baggage too 😂
@@OnlyManAfterAll agree😂
and prolly more love
Facts 😂
"I aint your momma" is their favorite. Imagine if he stopped paying the bills, taking out the trash, mowing the lawns, paying for her meals etc. and telling her "I aint your dad"
Thats also the weird thing too she may not be his mom but she is a mom and a mom typically makes food for the family not only the kids but the dad too. His mom probably cooked for his dad and her mom probably did the same thing
A wife should act like your mom in some aspects such as being caring and all of that. Obviously she'll never be your actual mom
She doesn't act like a parent but more like a babysitter
@@edwinrivera2046word
shed leave its terrible how spoiled these people are today
My ex was a nurse, and when she worked 12 hour nights she left with packed food, snacks, and came home to a warm breakfast as I was leaving for work.
i don't know you, but you seem like a cute couple
I hope I find a woman that cooks for me and supports me like that in the future, because this world is just influencing other girls or men to be assholes and not help their partner, or they’re assholes on their own for no reason. Just a shame man.
whys she your ex now if you dont mind me asking
@@scargimmy3268i think bc she is a nurse and smt bad happened
Maybe the fact their times didn't went well, bc one was working while the other was home? prob
@@Malam_NightYorumaybe if you weren’t a idiot you would see that the comment says “as I was leaving for work” and “ my ex is a nurse” they both have jobs
The worst part, to me, is that she very clearly INTENSIONALLY didn't make anything for him.
If she fed herself and the kids, then she already ordered/cooked something and DIDN'T get/leave anything for him.
That means she is strong and independent which a divorce judge must put more imphasis on this relationship.
@@anthonycabigon2230emphasis*
yeap, exactly, at this point, she is acting like a selfish roommate who doesn't share anything, even toilet paper.
Exactly! She technically doesn’t have to cook for him, she could’ve ordered him a pizza or some other kinda meal! Or bought a meal from the store that she can heat up for him or say “I didn’t feel like cooking but I bought you a meal from the store, I didn’t heat it up yet so if you want to, you can heat it up or I can do it real quick!” Boom, done..
@@romanticsecret6365
Right!? I mean she definitely ordered that pizza, I'm like 90% sure. How difficult it could have possibly been to order not one, but TWO pizzas? It's not like she didn't have money for that. Then the conflict would not even come to existence. But I guess she decided to show some attitude, the reason to which I can't explain, like, what more could you possibly want? He pays for everything AND lets her keep all of her money that she earned. Sounds like a dream to me.
40 years into marriage, I always make sure my husband has lunch to take to work and dinner when he gets home. Its because I care.
wholesome indeed this is what you call love
this is what people call love respect.
it's not called serving, men are happy with the smallest thing, all we want is to know that we are loved, even in a small wayyour husband is a lucky man I hope you folks always be happy
@@sahnorat822 thank you sweetheart, I wish you happiness as well.
I will never understand modern women. I don't think that people understand what is love.
"What are we married for?" is the realist question he could have asked at that point. She doesn't want a husband, she wants a "Provider" that lets her do whatever she wants but has no intention of actually being a wife.
She says she's not his mother but his wife but ironically she wants a father not a husband.
Let's have a minute of silence for our boy who married a complete trash bag of a woman. She showed herself as 0% wife material in that short video.
Right question, wrong timing. He should have asked that BEFORE the marriage. And she wanted provider all along, it's just that after he signed the dotted line, she has that in contract form. Becareful what you sign.
So what she really wants is a surrogate father.
he married trash and thats what he got
He was right to record her. You never know what you might get accused of.
The fact she had the audacity to talk about how she did the dishes and clothes like they were even...entitlement at its finest
ngl not hard to do clothes or dishes.
best part is, he's probably paying for the cleaning supplies so she can do said things on top of the electricity to run dryer/washing machine to clean said clothes if you really wanna get down to that level.
Dishes aren't that hard to do. Depending on how many there are, it usually takes about 2-5 minutes to clean them all. Given we have a more technologically advanced world, washing clothes isn't hard to do either. It takes 5 minutes to put them in the wash, then the washer cleans it for you for the next 45 minutes. Afterwards, it takes about 2 minutes to put the clothes in the dryer, and the dryer will dry it for you for about 1-2 hours, depending on the load. When the dryer is done, all you gotta do is fold the clothes which takes about 10-15 minutes to do, again depending on the load. Therefore, it really isn't too hard to do these tasks, and when combined with a job that allows you to work at home, conveniently you have more free time.
So, I don't really know why she couldn't use her free time that her husband doesn't get as often to help him out and do something simple as cooking a meal. And I may not know how to cook, but she can also order something for him if she didn't wanna cook for him that badly.
And the fact that she's saying that she isn't his mother to excuse her selfish actions and words towards him is mind-boggling to my eyes. Also, what's even worse is she never contributes any of her money to the family, therefore hinting that she considers herself more important to take care of than helping the family out with bills and events.
This shows how a lot of women in marriages don't care to love their husbands but love themselves and their own desires. They say the words "I love you" but they know in their minds they love the perks they get from doing nothing for their husbands but getting everything regardless. Eventually, however, these selfish desires will be put in the spotlight and those women will lose it all when their husbands see through their B.S.
Sorry about this long rant btw.
@@ItsMeBarnaby ehh u still chill at home and do the normal necessity of what someone with a child should do.
@@ItsMeBarnabyThe children would be at school most of the day. She doesn't appear anywhere near stressed enough for them to still have an infant.
Whoever sides with the wife, is delusional. He pays for all of the bills, the least she could do is cook for him once in a while.
He worked a crazy ass shift, i get if she expects him to make his own meal when he has a regular 8hour shift but 13 hour shift… dude should come home to releax and not continue working. Let the man have a rest after such an extreme shift.
To be fair, i don't even think you have to point that he pays all of the bills. If your partner is doing a 13hour shift, give a quick thought like "how can i help him/her". What's the point of marriage if it's still free-for-all mindset
@@TheHollowBlade not including commute, which is prob like 30-40 mins, making it a 15 hour shift max, outside the house
She did her job. She found a man to leech off. Goal obtained!
Women lack the drive or ability to obtain the lifestyle they want. So they find a man who has drive and the ability she lacks - Girl Power!
I agree on both party’s dude shouldn’t come home gun blazing expecting food but she should be paying bills though
He did 13 hours in an office? No, no, no... He did 13 hours of blue collar work... Aka, LABOR. I hear it in his voice.
even if it was white collar work at a desk, 13 hours of typing, meetings, deadlines, and bullshit-thats enough to make anyone snap after coming home to an empty table.
13 hours of any kind of work is ridiculous
Except if you are youtuber and making a gameplay
@@Xeno7001 It is can be pretty bad though.Streaming for example, requires constant interaction and multitasking. Even if you sit on your ass for 13 hours, you're sitting on your ass and concentrating.
@@ghouldrago360 yea but there are People who just play video games for days straight so if the just recorded it like some it wouldnt change much for them
@@Xeno7001 You still have to edit and manage your community and engage in ways that make your viewers want to still watch you, 9/10 times editing the video takes longer than it took to record the raw video, the music the backgrounds the cuts the animations, all of that is done
"You could have picked something up on your way to work" alright how about I go pick up some divorce papers while I'm at it 😭😭
Facts. 😢
underrated asf 😭😭
He should divorce honestly.
"I'm not your mama. I'm your wife." Yeah, and as a wife you should be showing in more ways than one that you LOVE your husband, even if it means cooking him a meal or doing something simple to help him relax after a long day. I wish marriages these days would take in consideration that money and sex doesn't account for a healthy relationship, but compromise, empathy for one another(not just being someone to vent to, but also helping the person out after a rough day), and treating one another as equal does.
@@Mastergrower-kb9ph u gotta go out of country for a wife, or find them in a church. the rest are used and disposed of for a reason.
crazy thing the mama is a wife
Man most of us are easy to please. Especially with food.
I will never understand these wife’s.
It has nothing to do with “man can’t cook for shit” or “I ain’t your mom”
It has to do with caring for them by shoving it. Fuck sakes.
@soulsreaper7145 I go to church so I'll just warn you that alot of these women ain't making it to the Golden gates, traditionalism has officially died in church
He should have said "And I'm not your father either who have to pay everything for an immature spoiled daughter!".
I'm a housewife, I'm sorry for her but he pays the bills so it's natural for him to expect at least something to eat after 13 hours of work 💀 What kind of woman can claim loving her husband and denying him a freaking plate at the end of the day? Ridiculous!
She already cooks too, so it shouldn't even be that big a deal.
I think the important thing is she didnt claim to love him. She claimed it's his job to protect and provide for her while saying she doesnt owe him anything. She barely looked at him so she probably doesnt care about him much at all.
@@christophercrafte his situation is really sad, since if he divorces she'll likely get 50% of everything he owns.
I think the worst was the half eaten pizza offer, like he was supposed to be grateful and appreciative that she thinks he's only worth half eaten leftovers, someone else's table scraps, after he was gone to work for over half a day straight.
@@klaibefhuoaiuwehjklbdfsnxnik heres the funny thing if he just hires a woman lawyer the hottest one he can afford he can just dunk on her because nothing destroys a womans repuation more then another woman destroying it
I love how you have all these people defending the wife but if the husband did the same absolutely nobody would be on his side
Edit: to clear things up, what i mean is the Twitter users defending the wife, not TH-cam comments
Yep. Welcome to the internet. Women get defended no matter what they do.
I don't think so. There would still be people saying things like if the roles were switched people would defend her so its fair, or that the woman should be able to take care of herself since she doesn't need a man's help (mockingly obviously) or some nonsense. Maybe not on tiktok though. But there are always people like this.
Bro………take literally any situation and switch the places, this is the world we live in 🤦♂️🤦♂️
Louder than the people in the back
And then they say they get oppressed....
Just to be clear, I broke up with my ex wife due to situations like this. Yes there were other issues but this was one of the nails in the coffin.
Good on you man, I hope you find a better woman
Glad I know what to do then
You dodged the bullet bro, your life will be much smoother without women like that in life.
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Great job, my brother married someone like that, all our family thinked he was the bad one because, well he is a man and even being our family because of her wife tricks we thinked he was cheating and being agressive...
But he is a great dad, his son isnt an angel but a little devil which would be even worse without him, infact, when he goes with him after being a month with her mom he becomes a spoiled brat
Glad we knew the truth when she tried to file a lawsuit, and she didnt have a freakin proof while he revealed the whole truth with so many proofs and arguments, he just didnt want to expose her while she was yelling "He is a bad husband" to the world
The fact they even have kids and the father has to pay for everything they need as well along the bills and everything too, and yet this woman still had the audacity to tell him to get his own food instead when he probably has pennies to spend for himself. It doesn’t feel like she has any respect towards him or her family at all, she’s just spoiled and entitled.
Did you catch hat she works from home, but he still pays the bills pulling 13s?
@@randomuserame i cant see her not paying any bills,its just 10 sec vid, im sure sge helps out .
@@eddieisgreat5150If she paid for anything, and I mean anything, she'd have pulled that out the moment he claimed to pay for everything. I guarantee you she pays for absolutely nothing and doesn't think twice about it.
@@serpentinious7745 100% this. I've known a lot of women who are petty and would nitpick any exaggerations you make while you are upset with them.
@@randomuserame did you catch that the kids are on teams? meaning the kids have after school activies, meaning the kids, go to school, mom picks them up, drops them off at the ASA, and has time for herself. from 9-3 she is probably working part time, how long are the ASA? 1hr? 2hrs? cause if its 2-3hrs, she got time to do dishes,laundry etc, and cook...
As a woman, and a decent human being, who loves and respects her husband, it’s doesn’t matter if he worked a 12 hour 6 hour, whatever hour shift! My husband will always come home to a home cooked meal! Because I love him and I want to make him happy! That man needs to re evaluate his marriage!
I worked for 45 minutes today (I'm a contractor). Would I still be entitled to a meal when I get back from a hard "day's" work? I get that other people usually work 8-9 hours a day, but I usually don't.
One day i will find someone like you T-T.
Unless he says “ come on ,honey, I am taking you out to dinner!
Otherwise feed him good homemade hot meal at 6 pm every weeknight and Saturday fun meal, oh the baked goods filled the table, and Sunday big dinners at One o’clock
And supper as you like from leftovers.
Thank you
Mom and Dad
And all my family for the good examples.
Dad did the meat!
Mom cook most and baked and we helped then did the dishes.
Because Dad was not the butler and mom was not the maid .
I quote.
She doesn’t care about him at all.
Rude behavior probably routine behavior.
Sad.
Great! They say only female mosquitoes suck blood....but you most certainly are NOT a mosquito. A pity so many women are that I probably did not lose anything because I have failed to find a wife.
in the time the argument took she could have easily fried him an omelet or something WTF
My mom was like this when my dad was still with her, she ended up talking to another man and subsequently splitting the family apart. She kept all the money she made at work for herself, manipulating my older sister into paying for grocery's/shopping and demanding I return her all the money she had payed for when it came to my college. I was still in my senior year of highschool at the time (including pressuring me into going to an educational program trip I was reluctant to accept, because it was pricey). She stopped helping me pay for university in my sophomore year, and tried filing her taxes two years later to have me as one of her dependents (in turn she would get more money out of me despite not living with her, having a falling out years ago, and being extremely verbally/phyically @busive.) She still talks mad shit about me, my siblings, and stalks my dad (who has moved on and is doing alot better) 😭 ill never understand wtf is wrong with people
12 gauge
@@surgensquire4652 tempting 💀
@@MacabreEgg dang
Aw sorry to hear that man :(
@@SkyAuraAkisu lol its alright, its been a tough journey and lesson to learn from. Its been a relief to know that the shit she did/ said were actually fucked up, instead of over-exaggerations like she always deemed it was
Been married 35 years, it's about taking care of each other, and if you're keeping score, eats at you. Everyone has role to take to deal with life, constantly shifts, and he needs her help.
Apparently she thinks she's done enough.
He deserves a real partner. Love how devoted he is to his kids.
It doesn't matter if she's a housewife or not... If she can cook for herself and the kids, why couldn't she just simply increase the amount of servings she makes?
Why couldn't he stop off and get something for himself before coming home?
@@IAmBeingSilenced A duty of a wife is supposed to COOK, CLEAN, CARE, what part of COOK, CLEAN, AND CARE DO YOU NOT UNDERSTAND. If a man does a job and he pays for everything, including the ingredients for food, should the woman NOT cook the god damn food? She wants a traditional marriage so in that sense he should not be spending his own money just to have a wife that isn't reliable because she doesnt want to do jack shit to take care of her husband, INCLUDING COOKING TO FEED HER HUSBAND
@@oogaboogadude "cook, clean, and care" was probably not in their vows. It certainly wasn't on the marriage license, and even if it was, SHE AIN'T DOING IT. Now what?
We don't know what even preceded this. She might cook almost every day.
I had a certain sympathy for the guy at first, but the more I hear you supposed men whine like toddlers for something you should be more than capable of doing for yourself, the less I feel like this is her fault.
You don't talk to someone the way he did if you want their cooperation. I wouldn't even talk to an animal that way, certainly not a wife.
@@IAmBeingSilenced I also wouldn't talk to an animal, but here I am. Is it not common sense that a man should be the one working to provide money for his family while the wife must care for the family. I know I sound a bit sexist but this is in a traditional marriage sense, us men don't usually whine to problems but when it comes to us WORKING 13 HOUR SHIFTS we should at least expect a meal to be granted to us by our wives. We are capable more than you women are, but once we have done our fair share of work shouldn't you also do yours? It also says that he pays for all the goddamn bills and she doesn't pay shit, the least she could do was order a pizza. We are capable of many things but we also get tired like women do, we do our work you should at least care for us when we are done and are tired. Most feminist argue for equal rights but almost 75% of them also don't want to do their work. I understand that she may also be tired but at least she didn't get tired from a labor and not some box office work, I assume he does manual labor not box office work since most companies who were doing box office work had their employees work stay-at-home. Please for the love of GOD consider our work for not only our future but your future and the children's future. If you want to continue to keep living under a roof should you not care for the person working for the money to live under that roof?
@@oogaboogadude I'm a man, a father, in fact. You sound like a child who isn't getting their way.
When you say women should "take care of the family", what you mean is that women should focus on a certain class of WORK, domestic work that pays nothing, no money, no benefits, no "work experience", and that keeps her dependent on her mate for her survival, i.e. a slave.
I don't know that to be the case in this video, but history shows us some pretty clear examples.
I had a similar experience with a girlfriend in the past, where I worked an average of 12 hours a day and she had no job. She spent her entire day at home without doing any household chores. She even had the audacity to demand that I clean the apartment and cook meals for both of us after work. I decided to end the relationship and asked her to leave, but she refused and accused me of using violence against her when I tried to remove her with her belongings. I had to involve the police in this situation, and she made a whole drama out of it, crying and trying to make me look like the bad person.
I hope you won the argument
Toxic people, the moment I heard she had no job, and wasn't even taking care of the house whilst you were working MULTIPLE red flags went off in my mind, let alone demand you to cook food for both of y'all and clean the house, after working 12 HOURS A DAY? That's not a partner, that's a leech, a partner is an equal who is meant to be there for you when nobody else is.
This is why men should not give apartments to girls without a job. If they don't want to have a job, they can live with their parents. If a woman hints at leaving her job when she moves in with you, tell her hell no she's not moving in with you.
@@StopWhiningManguideCultists what argument? There's no argument. It was his house lmao
@@yol_n :/
She has zero love and respect for him. A cheater characteristic combo, for sure.
Maybe she lost it after him comming home and nagging her about full course meals.
@@flyingfrog7847 you want him to cook after working for 13 hours? 💀I hope he kicked her out and gave her a divorce
@@flyingfrog7847Tell me you don’t cook without telling me you don’t cook.
@@flyingfrog7847it’s not that hard to spend an extra thirty to one hour to cook for someone who’s tired after a 13 hour shift with no breaks.
@@flyingfrog7847 reasonable nag
He comes home from work and she's already there and she says "make it yourself"… sounds like a good time to get out of that toxic marriage and find someone who appreciates you working hard all day.
Yes.
If she's not his mom, then he isn't her dad and doesn't have to pay her bills
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the fact that hes the guy paying bills and doesnt get respect shows this woman is a 🚩🚩🚩
Just imagine coming home from a 13 hour shift, exhausted and burned out just to be disrespected by the person you’re working hard to support
He needs to stop paying all the bills, make her pay for something.
@@IloveHildasfeet real
No she’s just a bad person. This isn’t a red flag. She’s a bad person and this guy needs to grow a sack and kick her out fr….
@@Boosted_aj thats legit the same context bro no offense
Imagine having a husband that is forced to work 13 hours to cover the expenses. Then saying "that's was you supposed to do"
She literally just doesn't care.
For her the deal works.
And thats obviously everything that matters for her.
@AliothAncalagon, it works for her because it's so much easier to take advantage of other people and make life easier for herself over being kind, considerate and showing respect.
And she's completely right. And she supposed to cook his food. But she doesn't wanna hold up her end
I can’t understand how she refuses to conform to gender roles while trying to force gender roles on her husband. Hypocrisy.
@@scoot_black740 She wants all the benefits of a traditional relationship with none of the responsibilities.
Her constantly saying "you could've gotten something on the way home" but he shouldnt have to expect to HAVE to, because most people assume they can come home to a meal. He also said she didnt call him all day long, if she only wanted to cook for herself and the kids and specifically not for him, if she had an ounce of caring the least she couldve done is send him a text or something like "get some food otw home" like really
Cooking a meal for your partner who just got home from a long shift is a symbol of love and respect. And since she works from home, doesn't pay the bills, and keeps her money, the least she can do is clean and cook while he is gone. Simple distribution of work, doesn't matter the gender.
Agreed
I think they should divorce. If these people are unhappy with each other, why even stay together?
@@haven_lady675 for the kids to have a man in their lives. Foreal. We need to go back to when Marriage actually meant something. You see 1 thing between the 2 of them, and your idea is to give up and make the kids little bastard children w no father. Maybe you need better resolve. They BOTH need to work HARD at this to keep it together for the kids. Not sure if both sides will be willing, but that is what they should do. Don't be a degenerate divorcee just bc times get rough. FFS.
Like for real he's supporting her own career as well by letting her keep all the money, so in a sense, he's also her employer by affording her the time and offloading her expenses by paying for them. She gets to live for free, and keep all the money she makes, all for the low price of a few house chores and a meal.
@@penguinjay divorce may couse some depresson to kids but if u tell them what happen and why is there divorce even they will understand u can stil be with kids. she is the one who is stupid here not him.
As a woman, who's a mechanic for a living, I'm siding with the hubby here. If you work to earn money for the entire family (no matter how big), you should be getting proper respect for it. I might be single to this day, but even I get, that marriage is about having each other's back. And that lady ain't having her husband's back.
As a dude working on automation I salute you for being a great woman but also for taking up the tools and being a mechanic. We need more females like you.
As a men I would cook for my wife if she works 12 hours a day and pays all the bills, just to show my gratitude. Relationsships should be teamwork.
this woman works from home and doesn't share her money with the family. THE LEASST she could do is spend a little bit of that money ordering takeout/delivery so she can relieve herself of cooking duties I mean come on lmfao
This man isn't worthy of respect. He is tolerating her misbehavior and rewarding her for it, even.
He chose her. He needs to unchoose her, and he SHOULD, because she is being a bad role model for his children and making it harder for him to be a good one. In order for him to be treated like a man, he needs to act like one.
@@IAmBeingSilenced we do live in a society where he could get accused of some shit if he does that cause i know that kind of woman aint gonna sit down, listen and not shut up and play the role she will hold a grudge and maybe she will try something drastic to get what she wants
When a woman shows open contempt for you, it’s time to walk away.
And when a husband shows contempt towards his wife ?
@@mineandmine4528walk away to tf it’s not no one way street lol go to where your respected
@@mineandmine4528Lmao what even is this 'gotcha question'?
@@mineandmine4528😂😂
@@mineandmine4528 walk away bro lmao
The saddest part is, if he actually divorces her, she's still taking half his stuff AND he has to pay child support
At least she will also start paying finally
I doubt he would pay child support, I'm willing to bet he's the bread winner, Very likely he would get custody and she would have to pay.
She has no problem doing the dishes and washing the clothes because she can just throw them all in some machines and do the minimal amount of work. But cooking food actually takes effort to buy, prep, and cook everything, there's no shortcut to it.
Exactly what I'm thinking, some comments here are thinking "Washing the dishes and clothes" are all done by herself with no machines.
I see that happening with the dishes, but how with clothing?
Not to mention, anyone, even ones with a 9-5 are supposed to do those tasks anyway. If someone isn't already doing it for them.
Seriously. Throw it in the machine and forget about it for half an hour, then throw it in the other machine for an hour and forget about it. I do it all the time when my lady works on weekends. The only thought to it is remembering to do it.
What dishes need to be cleaned if she ain't cooking at all? lol
@@SHINE-jk3nd washing machines:
She has no problem with the dishes because she doesn’t cook so there are none
He's not expecting 50/50, he's expecting her to be a little more thoughtful. She doesn't have to make dinner every day, but when your husband is doing a 13 hour day you can take 5 seconds to defrost some chick and throw it on a baking pan with a baked potato and throw some frozen veggies in the microwave.
She looks like the kind of person who would die from ever doing any work
I've been there and I see similar cases around me. When a man works hard he becomes just a provider, not a partner, not a husband, not a father, becomes dehumanized.
For wife such a man is obstacle, it is much easier for her when man moves away and keeps providing from distance.
I'd have issue if my woman just threw veggies in a microwave. A microwave doesn't actually cook. Microwaves agitate the water inside the food so the food is temporarily warmed. That's why potatoes don't heat in there. They are dense and don't have much water in them. While catsup and other condiments like syrup get super hot.
Idk I use to work 12 hours shift 5 days a week. My wife would cook throughout the week but not everyday. I don't understand expecting a meal to be cooked if leftovers are available from the day or two before. If not, I'll just heat up something in the freezer.
Why not dinner every day?
@@ivanbrezina7632 This when y’all choose ambitious man without understanding the sacrifices that are needed to be made. He’s focused on providing. This ain’t the same from your experience. Woman expect a lot from man, man are simple then a mf’er. Woman requires a lot and mostly not needs, just how they feel.
she has the audacity to say "thats what you're supposed to do" but when it comes to fulfilling her role as a wife, all of a sudden the rules dont apply?
yes. His duty is to provide for family.
@@MrPanGonzo and hers to cook clean etc? No?
@@fgh9281 No.
@@MrPanGonzo lol then what is her duty? Do do nothing while he works? Who cooks and cleans? The husband after coming home?
Please explain your reasoning behind such a statement
@@Modikie you sound sexist... why you expect woman to cook and clean? she's not his maid
If she is not contributing financially to the household, then her working is IRRELEVANT.
She is working for herself only.
Therefore her household contribution will be that of a regular housewife, which includes making dinner.
Case closed *mic drop* 🎤
She’s guilty
If a guy pays bills, and comes home after a 13 hour shift, then it should be fair play for him getting food from his own wife, because he deserves it, especially for working hard and managing the house.
It's at most 30 minutes of your day to put something together and most of that is just hanging about making sure the food doesn't burn.
@@That0Homeless0Guy Or just 5 minutes, a can, and a microwave. It doesn't take that much effort to cook something unless you're really going out of your way.
@@immortalfrieza Bro you can open a damn can yourself and put it in the microwave whats wrong with you
Cause youre working others need 2 to that for you? Gosh grow up dude you got some real mommy complex...
@@immortalfrieza yah but your not really making a decent meal in 5 minutes, thats some low effort food , it takes atleast 30 minutes to an hour to make a good meal and as the other guy was saying, a lot of that time is just letting the food cook, you can easily do other things while thats going on
@@aidankelley2696 A decent meal can be made in 5 minutes, you really have to be looking to make something notable to take 30 minutes to an hour to make dinner.
After having to spend 13 hours at work for 5-6 days a week for 10 months, I can absolutely tell you that "working from home" compared to being at a job site is not even remotely close to comparable.
For sure. When WFH you can even throw together a low effort meal, even if it takes 2 hrs for stew, you can take a 5 min break here and there to cut vegetables, put the stove on, etc.
@@advertslaxxor If you own a crockpot, it's also possible to put dinner in to cook before you even start wfh and possibly have it finish up once you're done.
Its not really about where they work as much as the fact that her work money is spent only on herself while his work money is spent on the family, which means her work isn't her doing her part for the family but just her own independent choice which is okay if she was also contributing to the house in other ways (cooking+cleaning)
and do not forgett the time you need driving home and to the work. AND if you are lucky you need to use the public transfer where you get waitingtime too.
Agreed. I work remotely for my job. There are days I want a lazy meal, so the slow-cooker gets used. Honestly, I love it, and reduces the stress of driving to work and back. Wake up, wash face, brush teeth, work.
This is why people shouldn't get married unless they're completely sure of the compromises they will make as well as the equal footing they should have for the rest of their lives
Edit: will you all please stop fighting in the comments.
Definitely true, but there’s also no point in getting married in the first place except for legal or monetary reasons which have nothing to do with love. Imo.
@@stephencarmickle to start a family
then you both officially are mamma and papa, instead of just boyfriend and girlfriend who have kids
marriage is supposed to unite both people so that now, you're a family who knows to love, respect, and what to do in certain situations
the problem here is that this new generation doesnt care about that. If something is wrong in a relationship, they don't try to fix it, its either breakup/divorce or cheat
@@mugitude Well sometimes if something is wrong with a relationship, it usually has something to do with someone on the relationship not having the insight TO change their ways. That’s how ab*sive and manipulative relationships typically happen. If both of the people in the relationship don’t get along and it gets rocky, that’s a good point to break up. If there’s no longer the chemistry between two people, why should you make it work when the spark is longer there?
And for the record, don’t put it on a single generation. Even people of the older generations are capable of the same thing, so don’t pin it on a single generation acting like this.
Never get married ever. It ONLY benefits the woman. If you're with someone who demands marriage, get the fuck out, she wants to use you.
@@mugitude If you got the children together, you're their parents, with or without a ring and a contract
ye the dishes are clean cause there aint no food in it 😂
😂😂
Sad but true. This man showed great restraint not fully snapping.
Preparing meals for your family should be seen as an act of love and care, not as a matter of gender roles. If there isn't mutual respect between spouses, marriage shouldn't be the option in the first place.
Edit:
Based solely on this brief clip, it's difficult to accurately comprehend the entirety of this couple's circumstances. Yet, it's clear that there's a lack of communication, mutual understanding and respect between them. I have no intention of taking sides in this matter. However, I would like to highlight that preparing meals is fundamentally an act of life preservation. If you truly care for someone, you would naturally be concerned about their basic needs, such as food, clothing, and shelter. (I am a working wife too, in case you're wondering.)
As Erich Fromm said, "To love somebody isn't just a strong feeling. It is a decision, a judgment, and a promise."
I agree 😅
I told my girlfriend that I do not care what job I have or whatever. If I'm available at breakfast, lunch or dinner time, I'm cooking whatever she wants to eat. And I mean whatever. I'm a chef.
You're absolutely correct that, although we all must eat, preparing a meal to be enjoyed by your loved ones is a labor and service of love and gratitude. I see neither of those things here. Maybe she's saving money to get kicked out cuz she sure ain't getting shit. I hope that man has a prenup.
what the hell does gender have to do with anything on this? It was established that the main reason he wants a meal on the table is because he spends the better part of his day working to pay for everything she does not pay for
Fuck, people have lows and you won't always have that feeling of love and care in you but at least have some human decency
I see this as a lack of communication and the idea that women work means nothing. The bottom line he could not afford a maid, a chief, laundry services, if he paid for outside help However he 😂seem like she should work for free for his sex and live in there home. Basically his feeling a wife is suppose to be his servant and that is not how the world works today. But I find this couple has a communication problem and maybe they could work out where they share making dinner together instead of him just thinking it is Hollywood movie with this huge dinner showing up in front of him within 3 minutes of walking in the door. Meanwhile he probably did not work 13 hours because he had lunch and breaks and he probably included his travel time also. Meanwhile why would you post this on the internet. Some guy who felt like he needs to be right so bad he had to get positive from other men who think wives are just servers is enough to show me he does not have much respect for her either.
He pays all the bills. She works from home and keeps the money for herself.
If a man works all day especially 13 hours and pays for everything I don't think it's unreasonable for the man to expect a homemade hot meal. Especially if she is so greedy with the money doesn't help the man pay anything
Besides, she already cooks for the kids (allegedly), why doesn't she just make one more portion?? I truly don't get it.
@Spurduh i have actually noticed that, a lot of times when i see a video of abusive parents the comments are filled with "wait till you have a black mom or black parents". wtf is going on over there that so many are commenting that?
@@brynion2117 70% of black families have either children in the same household with multiple fathers or in single parent house holds. Disfunction all around.
I disagree a bit if he decides to pay for everything and let her keep her money. That's on him. They could hire someone to help as both work. I dont believe that she must do it just because he pays.
However, i feel bad for him as everybody ate but not him. Like how can she exclude him?
@@iseechances she seems to be eating something from yesterday, if there's really no time or capacity to cook, she should be using her money to order food for them, because if he pays all other bills it's expected that atleast food is on her, preparation or order whichever
She went out of her way to make sure he didn’t have anything. She and the kids ate and that poor guy came home to nothing, and found out she didn’t have any consideration to him! She keeps all her money and throws the fact she works in his face. He needs to leave that relationship
She literally said they ate leftovers
@@apatheticxmindsetx3549so! Give him a leftover plate then
@@apatheticxmindsetx3549 *she* ate leftovers. and does that mean that the husband doesn't get to eat? what kind of logic is that?
@@GodlyNeel he can eat leftovers too or heat up something in the freezer
@@apatheticxmindsetx3549 oh yeah, totally. He worked his ass off to support the family, yet doesn't deserve an actual meal. Also, the wife was asking him to cook it himself dumbass. You are saying that even though the wife does almost nothing at home she can't make a hot meal for her husband ONCE a day?
Oh my. I am not even "women stay home and men provide" type of woman but not cooking for my husband after he was working 12 hours straight????? Even if I was busy at that time I would try to come up with something fast and simple simply just because I love him? This is messed up. My boyfriend also asks me if I'm hungry after he picks me up from my 14 hour shift as a lifeguard during summer season.
same thing as i said to someone else, i don't know you but you seem like a cute couple, he definitely is a lucky boy
I agree! She may work too, but if she had time to prepare herself and her kids food she should've prepared/ got something for her husband too. He worked 13 hours! That's gotta be exhausting and he's gotta be hungry. It's not that hard to make or buy another portion of food, especially if she's keeping all her money anyway
If she works just for herself , doesn’t pay her bills, AND doesn’t wanna cook, then her “bill” should be ordering food for her man every damn day.
100%.
Imagine working from home, and then not using any of the money to pay bills.
She absolutely should be a complete homemaker.
Her work and money is for her. It doesn't count
Right near the end where she says "I wash the clothes, YOUR children's clothes" I already got the feeling she'd been done with this relationship for a long time. Yeah we're seeing it here, but she definitely doesn't care at all.
This is exactly what I saw too. She's done with him 100%. She doesn't love him. Doesn't respect him. Doesn't care about him. She calls him a provider. Not "my husband". She's keeping the money she makes from her stay-at-home job so she can leave with money when she does leave him.
She's very much done with the marriage.
She's done with the marriage but not done having all her bills paid for her
She mentally checked out a long time ago but isn't in a hurry to end things because she gets all her bills paid. Might even be cheating or looking for an exit strategy. Some women do this to get the guy angry enough to snap so that they can tell people "he blew up on me and was being crazy/abusive" so they don't look like the bad ones who broke up the family.
@@cygnusprime6728 Maybe we should start calling that "quiet breaking up" or something lol.
@@roflBeck lmao true that
I lived with my best friends for awhile, they are a married couple and they both have jobs. Was never an issue, was never even a question. Whoever was home first, cooked. That way when EVERYONE got home, we could sit down, eat, and chat. Then the one who cooked went and watched TV, while the other two cleaned up the dishes and put away any leftovers. Its not abou5 expecting a "wife" to cook for her "husband." It boils down too, do you love that person enough to not want them to starve?
Really sorry for saying this in advanced, but... Massive Third Wheel? You may have your reasons like the other needed you to survive and vice versa but like....
@zacmayes2802 And im sorry you misunderstood the dynamic. I was not a third wheel, but a glorious Unicycle and they were my trusty training wheels! Though in all seriousness, she had a newborn and i was making sure they didnt lose the house. Plus, beats living alone where everything is silent and lonely.
@@kemaree364 Ha! That's pretty good. I knew it wasn't a weird reason. Hope all of you are doing well! And sorry again if it came off as a bit rude.
It IS about the gender.
@@gabrielkawa3477absolutely nothing to do with gender. I cook and clean when I’m home and my wife is at work. She does when it’s the other way around. Gender has absolutely nothing to do with wanting to care for a person you claim to love.
This makes me so sad for this good, hardworking man. Really heartbreaking how little respect his wife has for him. She does not love him. I am a traditional woman and the 3 times I went to the hospital to give birth to our children, I cooked all of my husband's favorite meals and froze them. All he needed to do was heat them up and enjoy his meals until I came home again. I wish this gentleman all the best in his life. Maybe this will be the wake up call he needs to move on.
You sound like a very nice person. I am sure you are a blessing to your family. God bless!
This is a weird situation. I have never seen a married couple where both work and one of them chips in nothing financially.
I've seen it once, unfortunately. He loves her, and she is selfish as in this couple's case.
It’s called modern feminism.
@@dblum I would argue it's just female nature.
"His money is our money and my money is my money".
Whoever is comparing working from home with working a 13 hour shift outside home on an office is delusional or simply don’t work at all.
Doing dishes: The dish washer takes care of 95% of it.
Doing laundry: The washer & dryer take care of 95% of it.
They are both the quickest and easiest things in the world to do.
Someone thinking doing them represents some great achievement is whack.
She's making very clear to her a 'relationship' is that he works and she's on permanent vacation.
@@WildBikerBill and if you want to add taking out the trash, it's also not even 10 minutes since all you do is close a bag and put it in the specified location to be picked up
I'm a woman and I'm appalled by her behavior. At least say sorry and offer to order some food meanwhile fix some quick snack or drink. He's been out on 13 hours shift and not appreciated by his wife, I feel really bad for him :(
Besides, she already cooks for the kids (allegedly), why doesn't she just make one more portion?? I truly don't get it.
Thats what he gets for being stupid enough to marry lmao
Same. It takes a conscious effort to make enough food for ONLY for you and the children and not your husband. I completely get him asking "what are we married for?". Why marry him to ignore him until you need bills paid?
@@GuranPurin not all but some marriages are truly a perfect example of "what are we married for?" Because some relationships just arent built like a marriage. For this guy what does he actually get out of this marriage? She says she cleans but only described cleaning that's automated. hes paying for everything and doesnt feel respected.
On one hand I dont feel bad for him, he let this happen. Like you give her everything and she keeps and her money?
How hard is it to put a meal in a crockpot for supper ?
Homegirl needs an italian husband, who will yell at her on top of his polish cigarette-smelling breath that putting instant shit in owen isn't cooking
To be honest I feel bad for the husband. Like imagine working for 13 hours and your hungry thinking about the food you partner made but instead there’s no food
There is food. The food that she's finishing off as he walks in the door. What a bitch. I hope he finds a decent woman one day.
I feel bad for no sides. She's clearly a selfish person and him making a tiktok makes me feel like he wanted to stir the pot for divorce. I work 13 hours at a factory, and she works 8 at a nursing home. there's times I cook my partner food or bring us both home something other times she dies it and we slit all bills 50/50 with me covering the more expensive ones because I can afford it better.
A relationship requires both sides to cooperate yet them saying they have a job in the marriage is them treating it as work not a responsibility.
@@dimitrijames00001 dude she pays for nothing at all this is a completely different situation then you pretend it is
This is a good example of an “everyone sucks” type of situation
@oey nfrysdniydizsuhfisy ik she pays nothing but him running to the internet when he's clearly a problem in the relationship himself doesn't help. He sees the marriage as a job not a joint responsibility. He should have never took 100% or how relationship like this are rushed into it.
if this is how things actually are, i'd be happy to stay a bachelor forever
Lofl.....I was married once. I've since rebuilt and no damn way am I sharing it with anyone!!
Just do you boss... worry about you and if it's meant to be then it will be. Trust me... don't look for it and it will find you if it's supposed to. You do what you want to do to be happy for you, and in the places you already are the perfect life will be found.
It's not. If both people aren't giving and sacrificing, then yeah, it's like this. If you or the spouse feel like they deserve something from the marriage, don't even try it. It will fail.
@@hitekredneck109 I can't agree any more, it took me a long time to rebuild and I do far better alone; not sharing it with anyone...
@@atcmadness4351 yep. Unfortunately there are too many people (women) with a sense of entitlement to make relationships too big a risk. Stay well my friend 🤙
You can’t have the whole “men are supposed to pay all the bills” but not think that her job then is to do EVERYTHING in the household (including cleaning).
She’s literally just living life free of charge.
Wife: "I don't want to be put in a traditional housewife role."
Husband: "Fine then. I'll take care of the house and the chores, and cook meals for the two of us, something that you refuse to do. While YOU go out and work 13 FRICKING HOURS a day. How's that sound?"
Wife:" No no no no not that!"
@@EE-iv5ej its like me when i talk to my parents when im sick there like A:sleep to get better (i dont remeber one time i have fell asleep in the afternoon or anywhere before nighttime) or B go to school and im like Nonono i wanna play games all day long
She just chose poorly and yes there's some men that will propose and tell you that they don't need their wife to cook or clean for them, and they already have a house set up and she can move in and he will continue to take care of the house bills, as long as she has and raises his kids. THEN you can say the woman is lucky to have that man.
@@diyab1056 she chose poorly? No he did
@@_ksm0922 she did and he did. They're just not suited for each other. I'm used to men that treat me like a princess, they buy me gifts and wanna cook for me, not the other way around. If that's what she wanted why did she settle?
"Im not your momma, Im your wife" 1:10 She doesnt realize she is a helper or helpmate. She isnt even willing to make a quick meal for him after a 13hr shift. He is paying ALL the bills and she keeps ALL her money but its too much to expect a meal after working long hours? She is not a keeper
Time to take the trash out. Kick her rotten a$$ out and start to enjoy life. Am sorry for you!
Poor man. I hear the pain in his voice. Worked 12 hour shifts myself and i can understand him. I wish him the best.
I work 52 to 60 hour weeks myself right now. Straight 12s almost exclusively, but on rare occasions we'll be dead enough that the shop sends me home early if they can.
I've worked 8 hours, 6 days a week in my first job and even I can fully understand him. Even if it wasn't as bad as 13 hour shifts, 8 hours + 6 days a week really grinds your patience down and causes a lot of stress after a while. I can just imagine the level of stress that 60 hour weeks can cause, I wouldn't be very patient with a disrespectful leech for a wife myself at that point.
I knew a Truck driver in Western Australia and during the grain harvest he would work 18 hrs days. He gets home from work shattered, his supper is in the over but when he finishes it his wife who did not work says I left the dishes for you to clean. He refused to do it and the wife's sister told his wife she should leave him and she did. You couldn't make this shit up.
@@MegaDavyk sounds like she was looking for an excuse to leave him.
Why does everybody complain about their relationships on TikTok. It makes the situation even worse 😭
Because even a therapist can’t deal with their crap
Clout. That simple. ‘My life is worse than yours’ point apparently exist…
real
To expose shitty people before they leave them? Who knows
@@ryuken0088 yea but they always don’t fully explain the full situation which makes it even more confusing to see who’s wrong
My friend is in the same exact position as this man right here. Needless to say they’re in the process of getting a divorce as well. It’s a crying shame how some of these women think that a man’s job is to pay and provide for everything while they set back saying don’t expect me to do this and that. It’s a crying shame…
At least he's getting rid of some dead weight that doesn't contribute to his needs. It's so easy for women to berate men nowadays with easy social media access but when men do it they pull up the whole "I'm a house wife but I work too" card. Like ok if you are a housewife then do what a housewife would do and if you work then contribute to the family instead of hoarding it like a scrooge
plus if they have kids he kist need to provide bank statements and get the judge to request her im 99% sure the person will be getting money from them it shows their putting the effort in
She clearly doesn't give af.
Time to move on, bro.
What do people mean "She works too"? So? She doesn't use that money to pay the bills or help them? She uses it for herself.
And she works from home.
She can work on her bed with her laptop in the comfiest position possible.
She likely also has flexibility hours and even loose scheduleing even during working hour. Meaning she either only has a few mandatory scheduled tasks/meetings she has to do at and for a set amount t of time. And everything else can be done at her own pace as long as it is done by the end if the day or before the next working day. Or no scheduled tasks or meetings at a specific time for a specific length at all and only has a quota she has to meet per-day or week or month or quarter which can be done at her own pace.
@@paccawacca4069You didn't saw how tired she was? How stress her work is? cmon, look at her, she barely stands on 2 feet
@@InnerEagle She looks fine bro
@MaeRose26 woops, my b.
She had no drive to make him any food after his shift and yet she found time to feed herself while she stayed home.
Right!! I’m appalled at the fact that she continues to stuff her face and doesn’t even offer him a bite or anything whilst he sounds like he’s nearly in tears
she had left over pizza that she put in the microwave. He wanted a 4 course meal in which she's tired because of all the roles she have
@@brownsugga2584 you mean lack of roles? she works from home and doesn't provide anything for her family aside from cleaning clothes that he buys and feeding their children and herself food that he buys, while she saves her money for herself, if that sounds like a healthy relationship you're delusional
@@brownsugga2584 in no moment in the video the dude has asked for a four course meal. have you taken your meds today?
Just by staying home with a couch, a fan and many essentials that can cool her off while the husband is sweating outside, working hard, getting the money for his childrens to feed and has to do that for 5 days. Yeah, good "wife" (not) right there hope she gets the "Hell" treatments in the future
When I lost my job and my man worked. Even though it was only 4 10 hour shifts a week. I packed him lunch, I made sure he ate when he came home, I cleaned the house, I did everything I could to make sure he was happy and could relax when he came home.
Now that I work 6 days a week he does it for me when he can. That's real love, that's real commitment, that's real respect.
😃
that's a real relationships supposed to be, why is too difficult to modern womens to understand it ?
That's how a proper marriage is supposed to be. Unfortunately there's too many idiots out there that can't grasp this simple concept.
"Im not your mama"
Yes he is his AND ONLY for his (and the little ones') mother, and he's the father.
What so many people fail to see is this isn't about the gender. If the roles were switched we would most defititely expect the husband to cook for the wife. It's about mutual understanding and care for your partner and knowing what part you have to play.
And it's not entirely about cooking either. I think the guy would be okay with takeout. He just shouldn't have to prepare something and delay getting fed. Even ordering out still has a delay.
@@Frenzyshark Right, it's about knowing that your partner cares about you, and knowing that they're reliable enough for you to know that you don't need to worry about the home like you do for work.
@@b_w_jYeah my wife isn't reliable for anything.. My home is worse to worry about because she's so extremely messy and house never gets clean until I do it, it's exhausting because of the state it gets in, and it just falls apart in a few days because she doesn't bother to keep things clean. I don't have a partner/wife I have an adult child who is raising our child and I have to put up with too much I basically just check out now.
@@Frenzyshark Cooking is a stand in for actual housework.
She mentioned cleaning dishes and clothes, we can see the dishwasher in front of her and I would bet they have a washing machine and a drier. You need 10-15min for each of those chores and you do that like twice a week.
Now cooking on the other hand that's a daily chore that takes 1-2 hours.
@@harz632 I'm not sure I understand what you're commenting in regards to my comment. While the guy keeps making a big deal about "home cooking", sometimes you just can't trust people to cook the meal well(so why bother?). And since the guy was working a 13 hour shift, it may not have been certain when he got home. Are you strongly agreeing with him that "a home cooked meal" should be waiting for him as he gets home? And it's still warm? It probably wouldn't be.
At the end of the day, it's much more important food is ready for him to eat when he actually gets home. Not that it's "prepared" well, homecooked, and warm when he hypothetically gets home. I wouldn't push for the homecooked meal just because "it's the principle of it". Work smarter and not harder. If he has to rewarm takeout food, so be it. That's better than stubbornly insisting on fresh food the second he's home.
I recall a reddit post where a guy's brother hated the poster's cooking(she was the wife of the family). Said it was terrible. This guy also didn't work(he lost his job and was kicked out of his house after divorcing his wife during covid) so he had all of the time in the world to eat "good cooking". The wife was working on a lot of things and said "well you guys can cook the food then. I'll get takeout for myself" while worked on her work and school. Eventually the dishes piled up because the guy refused to do the dishes and cook even though he was the one who was doing all of the cooking and eating it. The guy kept telling the wife "you must do the dishes, I've done the cooking" despite the fact she ate takeout entirely for 2-3 months. She didn't eat a single of the homecooked meals. The moral of the story is all of this fuss about cooking can be often pointless. Again it's more important to have something to eat than scrutinize whether it was homecooked or not. But it seems you're scrutinizing it. And I just don't get it.
It’s not such an effort to cook, after someone works 13 hours and you actually, like, lóve your spouse you’d do this.
@Is really toasty here bro cleaning and washing clothes takes no fucking skills. Cooking is an effort which she can't fucking give. She ain't even paying half the bills
@Is really toasty here he works and pays for everything , she has no fucking excuse bro they are not roomates they are married
@Is really toasty here No dude, if someone is pulling 12-14 hrs daily and paying all the bills, the house better be clean and meals should be ready and hot or at least almost done when he walks through the door. Doing anything less makes you worthless.
Besides, she already cooks for the kids (allegedly), why doesn't she just make one more portion?? I truly don't get it.
@@isreallytoastyhere3711obody asked the loser, take the L and move on SIMP.
that "keep that mother fucking attitude" broke my heart, that man care so much for everyone in that house and all he wanted was a little something that showed they also care about him, at the end of the day its not about the food or her cooking, it is about the respect you are suppose to have. A LOT of people need to start treating their significant other as a partner, and not a colleague
Truth!
The NEXT phrase he'll be uttering soon will be "I talked to a Lawyer".....
Caring for your spouse is an act of love not a chore
In what realm do you have a non violent problem with your spouse and decide to start filming them? Theyre both doomed. Break up.
Maybe he just got pissed after the 3rd month?
Probably needs the video to show she contributed nothing to marriage so he can keep the house and not pay spousal support.
@@slowpoke1 valid
And then deal with a Divorce and STILL pays her bills AND loses half his Stuff.
Men have a lot to lose in a Divorce and more of an incentive to salvage a relationship, regardless how toxic it is, Women have nothing to lose and don't need to care, her Bills are going to get paid in the End.
"Working but not contributing is the same as not working." Agreed.
She might as well be jobless if the money goes nowhere but her.
"She works two so it's not fair to demand she do stuff for you."
If a doctor is performing surgery on someone else while you still need surgery you srent gonna be satisfied that someone else got surgery because he didnt perform surgery for you.
It isnt selfish to still want your surgery, just doing a job doesn't matter if it isnt being done for you.
“But i need my clothes and makeup” 😭
@@christophercrafte but here's the thing. The doctor will eventually perform a surgery to you but the woman is not doing so with the money.
@@christophercrafte she still has to be contributing something in house and since she does not do that she should make him a goddamn sandwich every single day or atleast order food for him
@@numbertwo579 the man probably pays that flr her too her working is irrelevant in their relationship
The biggest problem here is that if they are married by law, he is stuck. Only way out is a long draining costly court battle involving children and even if they are not biologically his, she can still protest and win a child support argument.
@quetzalpacheco yes.
@quetzalpacheco I'm literally gonna screenshot it and then quote it. Well said.
There is also 1 other way out… 😈 if she dies
He can also just walk away lol…there is nothing against the law that says your forced to be near your wife…this is a joke btw
One of my former coworkers dodged a massive bullet. He didn't realize until the divorce that he was never actually married in the first place.
She understood the "staying at home" part of being a housewife but not the "taking care of the house" part of being a housewife
Due to circumstances, I was a stay at home dad for 7 years. My wife landed a good career before I did, and we had decided one of us would stay home. I did all the house chores, took care of the kids, cooked her meals, and packed her lunch nearly every day. What money I made from odd jobs went towards the household.
I've been back to work since, while still doing most of the things I was doing, and contributing financially. Currently off work again to help with grandkids(daughter with very high risk pregnancy and 2 other kids) as well as doing a remodel so my wife(DSP) can take an in-home patient. I will then go back to work and contribute again when complete. All for the good of our family, and I love my wife enough to care that much.
That lady in the vid is pathetic and doesn't know what a real relationship is. I feel sorry for her husband, he deserves so much more.
Bro you are Indian and you work so much more doesn't it should be 50 50
@@nightmaregaming6706No, I'm not Indian. No, I don't work more than my wife. She works crazy hours, and still helps out at home and with our grown kids. She works as much as I do. It's pretty much 100/100 for us, 50/50 doesn't cut it.
@@StonedDead1981Wow, that’s incredible how well organized you guys are
@@Nightmare2.03 Yeah, well, it hasn't gotten us anywhere. We're still poor despite trying like hell. I thought anyone who valued their family would do as much, but I've been known to be wrong.
@@nightmaregaming6706 racist
Babe wake up new marriage speedrun just dropped
Divorce
@@syamelkiller5804yeah thats the end of the speedrun
@@JohnyMeBoi marriage speedrun (divorce edition)
@Shamash_Utu hoping for a speedrun with fixingproblems% instead of goingstraightforthedivorce%
for anyone who wants to beat this record, here are some tips:
get a lot of money, this is a good way to attract the npcs, after marriage, dumb all your money into something useless. thats the golddiggerdivorce% route
try rolling for the african race and get the rizz and gaslighter skill tree. attract npc's with the racist parents debuff and convince them to marry before meeting the parents. after that. ask if you can meet the parents.
there will be a 50% chance to divorce, you can increase this to 100% when you say you are jobless.
Speedrunning divorce.
New world record 1:13:27:40
And then he'll REALLY have to cook for himself anyways.
“ What are we married for? “ hit the nail on the head.
Save your money and your sanity fellas.
STAY SINGLE. Modern women are not worth it.
Don't give up on women, there is plenty good of them. It is the same thing as seeing another footage of creepy man and then thinking that all males are creeps.
Internet makes us hate each other.
@@millowi9268 the internet made us comfortable abt talking shit to others and not getting punched for it
mike tyson
Modern men also aren't worth it though. I'd rather stay completely single as a woman then deal with them ngl. I'll save my time and money due to the increase of incel culture and redpill misogynist stuff
1:53 Of course the dishes and the clothes are clean, they have a dishwasher and washing machine.
She's saying its left overs from lastnight but he says he didn't get any. She says the clothes are clean. The dishes are done. But those are not necessary for living. Food is. Everyone knows that food is the one thing men universally appreciate and literally need for survival. But the fact that he can't get food in his own home is wild. When I was adopted, my foster mom came home to a cooked meal every day, and the rest of us waited at the table for her to come and eat first. How is he supposed to provide and protect but she's not cooking? Does she not understand how traditional roles work?
Too much swallowing twitter bullcrap most likely. She already make food for her and their children so just make more portions for him what the problem?
Heck she doesn't even have to be the one cooking just call some chinese food or some shit
How she able to act all smug with half eaten pizza boggles my mind too..
is it really necessary to provoke her own husband? What she trying to gain from it exactly? Doubt anything good came from it
She want a non-traditional role? Let's have them switch and she's the one to work 13 hours a day. If she can't even be bothered to cook or even order more food for her husband, doubt she'd even be willing to work too. Kinda sickening that people like her use ideas of "not wanting to be a traditional housewife" just as an excuse to not put any effort at all.
@@EE-iv5ej I don't understand, if the woman worked 13 hours and the man didn't provide he would be in the wrong. But people think because it's a woman who's in the wrong it's because of misogynistic gender norms. It's so silly.
That man is not your roommate, that’s someone you take care of after he takes care of all your bills. If y’all have split bills, y’all can make your own food. It may be the Asian in me, but I can’t even IMAGINE eating in the same room as someone who isn’t.
Bingo! I don't even get myself anything without asking my roommate if he wants anything. It just rude to eat and not offer the other person in the house anything. If I get a burger I get him one. If I order a pizza I get him one. I always get extra salads and sparkling water so he can have some too. Her behavior is beyond rude though.
@@BoSmith7045 I always ask my girlfriend if she wants food if I'm going to cook or go out and get something. Shes a nurse. I currently can't work due to my epilepsy, So I'm doing everything at home. Is it really that hard to put in the effort? I'm having seizures multiple times a month breaking shit during them. I fix what I break, I do the laundry, dishes, yardwork, cook, clean, take care of the animals, and my crippled mother. It seems no one can be decent anymore.
@@crazycoffee see, if someone like you, who is prone to seizures every month, can do all those things, what is her excuse?
People cleans the dishes and the clothes with a automatic dishwasher and automatic washing machine that does EVERYTHING for you.
I bet if she had to do everything by hand, she wouldn't be so smug.
@@MioMillefeuille Exactly my point. I don't understand how she or anyone for that matter can justify her actions or attitude.
If the husband has to cook for himself, then the wife should find her own checking account to use her cards on.
This is a great example of why people should be patient and wait to have kids, even while married, to learn who your partner truly is.
It would’ve been different if he pays all the bills and she covers most other expenses but she literally doesn’t pay for anything vital to their or their children’s lives.
Sometimes women change after they give birth.
"Took me 9 months and a couple of years, now my insurance is ready! Time to get paid!".
That's what nowdays women think about marriage. Destroy a man's life has become a duty.
Yup just had my 1st after 13yrs of being married 😅
Or just become rich and influental enough that your wife wouldnt even think about messing with you.
This is exactly why you shouldn't even get married until you've lived together for a few years. Mirrage is a final commitment and basically a death sentence to most men if it ends in divorce. Kiss all your belongings, savings, most of your future earnings, and retirement goodbye.
because that has worked so well for all the famous, business executives, and politicians.
I'd argue they suffer these issues the worst.
So she contributes nothing and all she brings is problems and disrespect? Yeah, get out of my house, I don't even care about the food anymore. If this is happening in my house and you are acting like this, your couch hopping your not even a wife. If my wife works 13 hours and I'm at home aware of it, the first thing I'm doing is making it worthwhile for her and having a nice dinner prepared, the house clean, and the kids taken care of, and if I'm doing the same thing, working late, she would do the same. there is no 50/50 in a relationship, we both put in a 100% effort to our roles as partners and parents and occasionally take up a little more if either one of us is having a long hard day at work or just having a hard time. That's how we see happy elderly couples that have been together for 30, to 50 years plus and still sharing wholesome moments like they are still young. But I'm not a married man nor in a relationship so what would I know 🤷♂️
No, you got a good start. Good idea.
I wouldnt say nothing. She does some household chores.
She doesnt contribute enough.
Or rather, she actively doesnt contribute to him.
I mean, obviously she makes food for herself and the kids. But she "forgets" making food for her husband?
Bro a private chef is probably cheaper than taking care of the wife
This sound a lot like the path my marriage took. I was working two jobs (one salaried, the other PT). And spending 96% of my income on bills. She worked PT and spent 50% on the one bill she came into the marriage with … and complained. She also refused to cook, clean, wash dishes, buy groceries.
Then it got worse…
So I divorced her.
The best decision you made in your life man. Kudos to you
"She [...] complained. She also refused to cook, clean, wash dishes, buy groceries" So very different case.
seems like a w to me dawg
She was workin too dude. You dont get a pass
@@Sandra-ml1xnshe doesn’t contribute to the household bills though. So the work she do is basically a hobby.
Take notes men. And this problem is only getting worse with the entitled and promiscuous behavior. Also for those who might get offended: Working but not contributing is the same as not working.
There is no point in having a wife if she can't do something as simple as cook
I wouldn't say working and not contributing is the same as not working as she still has a job but this is my own personal opinion but the least she could do is cook for him after 13hrs he clearly deserves better and deserves to be treated with respect and he clearly isn't getting that at home she 100% belongs to the streets
@@bluehornet197 if you work and dont contribute, then its the same as not working- imagine youre assigned a group project, (the group being you and your wife) she does her part of the work, but doesnt turn in the paperwork to share with the group or teacher, because she feels like that is her work, so she shouldnt have to share , so you end up having to do the whole project by yourself to turn into the teacher. (the teacher being the companies (bills) that you pay, the group work being money)- she did the work, but refused to turn it in, which is the same as not doing anything at all, in my opinion its actually worse because it shows how selfish she is
@@badfiji then one can argue it's a side project for them she has money she saves up cause she has no financial responsibilities but this isn't about her though or my opinion I just don't share the same opinion as you on this particular matter but what I do agree with is that she needs to be a better to her husband
@@bluehornet197 but the thing is when you're in a group project, you do have responsibly. its supposed to be a team effort. If both parties decided to be selfish and not contribute, then what? and it is unfair for only one to contribute 100 percent and the other to not do anything yet reap the benefits of another's hard work
It's not just about food; it's about taking care of your hardworking partner. I have experienced this situation in my family. I am the breadwinner, responsible for paying the bills and my siblings' tuition fees. When I return home after a long trip, dealing with traffic, hunger, and work-related stress, it becomes even more challenging. Additionally, I try to eat less while I'm at the office because the food there is expensive, and I want to save more money to cover the bills. I expect to come home to a homemade meal because that's the best option. However, when there is no food available, I feel devastated. The combination of hunger, stress, and weakness takes a toll on my mental well-being, and I start to feel as if the people I take care of are not reciprocating by taking care of my basic need for food.
Bro worked a 13 hour OFFICE SHIFT?!?!? I'm surprised he didn't drive of a cliff on the way home
No matter what a woman does, there would always be that one group that supports her every deed
Mostly or entirely women I am willing to bet in this case. They want to be able to do the same thing. It's a sweet deal for them.
real
One group of delusional women that are probably feminists too. (Like it's actually kind of sad to think that feminism as an idea, degraded so much through the execution part, that it became an insult, wanting equality isn't so bad but these womenchildren, they do not want that though and that's a problem)
I feel bad for the guys having to endure such type of marriages or relationships where there is 0 empathy and understanding, when people feel love with their brains and only want the good that comes from it and can't deal with the bad. Sickening.
While, it's natural that I really want to be on the women side more, but you just can't nowadays. It became so much nonsense and so much promotion of independency of stupidity, that they simply cannot seem to be able to distinct what goes beyond them and their own words of hypocrisy. Even I don't understand them, let alone you guys XD
Then the same girls that turn into women, they wonder why, they are 30-40 years old and single and no one wants them. Friendly reminder bestie ^_^ ! You WANTED this. Why are YOU CRYING NOW?
*Not all girls are like this* and let's be real, men aren't saints either, heck no. The problem is and always was, that the negatives are a lot and too many. Too many people being stupid and banding together, influencing each other in a toxic way. Both men and women alike. Sad state of the world is that, these "Women" do it too far more than men, because they think *that they can get away with anything* by just thinking of themselves as saints. And society... seems to reward and encourage them and lets them reign free for the "I think therefore I am" type of act.
Privilege does that people, regardless of gender. In this world, it just so happens that women are the favorites, and how they drown in that idea of power... only for some of them to wake up to reality (THANKFULLY) and realize how much they've wasted and lost through their "*COPIUM*" and make-believe.
(Barely relevant but, I had a somewhat good friend with that mentality, older than me and yet surprisingly not as wise. And trust me when I say that I am not that wise at all XD, so you can only imagine her. I am in my mid twenties and she is close to getting in her forties and acts like a "bish" to one of the most kindest and sweetest gentleman out there whom genuinely cared for her. She loses that relationship eventually (in like almost 1 year of her constantly pushing him around and treating him like a tool and money making machine) and wondered what she did wrong and that he was her everything and why he left... -_- *BRUH* I lost respect for her and then she started to take it out on me on a constant so... I had to go too. I was friends with her for like 5-6 years. I didn't expect her to be like that and kept telling myself that I must've misunderstood things before but damn )
My dad doesn't work (retired), but I feel like both are being really over the top toxic. When my dad came home from his job before he retired, my mom didn't cook for him because they came back at relatively the same time. A 13-hour shift is bad, but couldn't he have messaged her like "what are you cooking tonight?" And vise versa like the wife saying "I'm not cooking tonight. You can go and buy something." I am not supporting any side because if it's a relationship, you gotta stay in touch with the person. The wife is more on my bad side, but both are pretty bad (as I would judge from the video) people to be in a relationship in. I'm not black and am in no way trying to make this seem like one person is better, I just wanna say have at least some decency in decisions instead of getting at each other.
@@defnotnaruto222 You're right.
There’s a reason she does the clothes and dishes, they are the least labor inducing chores around the house, and she gets a “I do something in the house” card. There’s still the yard, trash, floor, et cerera.
Wow . Just wow. 100% on the husband's side. I couldn't imagine being home all day and having him pay for absolutely everything , and cam take the time to make herself some food ,but none for him , especially after working such a long shift on top of it. It's the LEAST she could do is put some food on the damn table for her main. No love, no respect. Hope he finds someone who will treat him right. I'd do anything and for my man, and he does the same in return. And that's how it should be
2:37 Yes I can imagine him being pretty upset when he is hungry and overworked, if you ask me he is even managing to keep calm and he kind of sounds more disappointed rather than angry...
i physically cant even work 13 hours. massive respect to him
fr I cant even imagine what that must be like.
@@klaibefhuoaiuwehjklbdfsnxnik I do landscaping and occasionally have to pull some 12 to 14 hour long days to finish a job when there’s a deadline. After hour eight, I feel panicked and stressed and tired. After our 10 I’m really tired, but seem to just give up any hope of having any energy or day left after work so it almost becomes easier to go longer. On those days, I get home and just collapse and turn into a puddle
@@tylerk.7947 summer job when i was 18 was landscaping how i found out my allergy it not fun and hate monkey grass go thro bluejeans almost as bad as sod
How? You like 8 hour shifts where you have to come back everyday? I’d rather push through one long day and have 2 or 3 off than be at work everyday for 8 hours with one day off.
@@__Gum__ i literally cant physically work that long, what do you not understand about that simple to understand sentence?
The fact that she keeps all her own money for herself and doesn't use it to help with the bills or the kids really rubs me the wrong way. I'd hate to be married to someone like her.
Her money is her money and his money is her money too.
I also find it unfair when "empowered" women, single, waste all their money away on expensive clothes, shoes, DG handbags, expensive meals outside, trips abroad, etc, while the men of the same age can't. They are already making things out to own a house and a decent car. You work your ass out to be only a good provider to a future wife, who already wasted all her salaries away, is not loyal, and moreover, a house and a car are little things; social media brought to them much richer guys and over the top expectations.
I remember being hit with an increase of hours because of short staff at my workplace. My sister understood that cooking for me was going to be helpful since I was letting her stay with me since visiting. Even us as siblings understood our roles.
Well with siblings the bonds go deeper and longer. Or at least it should. Siblings should understand each other better and earlier before someone who marries them does
@@yeshuaislord6880what world are you living in?
the real world . Many husbands and wives are waste of time . Many siblings are better@@Aden_III
@@yeshuaislord6880so what you're saying is...sweet home Alabama
He's meant to provide and protect.
But she's meant to support and respect.
Says who???
"She's going to make such a nice single mother" -Someone, Probably.
Bold of you to assume she’ll even have the kids
@@Kisogai12 People like her always have kids..
I have to side with the husband here. I'm not looking at his request as an obligation, but more as a courtesy, a show of respect and concern and love for your partner. Part of a mature relationship involves compassion and the ability over time to anticipate your partners needs. That includes doing things that will make the day a little easier. That works both ways, too. In this case, I might have taken into account that yes, we are both working, but my husband is going to be exhausted after a 13 hour shift. I'm tired too, but i'm here and it is easier for me at this point to walk into the kitchen and make some food. When i make something for myself, i make enough for both of us. We can both relax and spend some time together over a meal. It doesn't always have to be something fancy or expensive, but just making the effort shows care for your partner, and then sitting down together and having some quality time is good for both people.
At minimum, when she got that pizza out, she could have saved some for him or something. If you want to maintain a good relationship, you have to learn how to show concern for your significant other.
That’s the whole truth right there
She clearly doesnt love him...her behaviour is in "preparation for divorce" stage...she is hoping for some slaps from him and she will start it (or later without it)...She was saving her money and now plan is to take his house, his kids, at least half of his salary for alimony and savings...those who thing about marriage must be seriously crazy
it is a decent thing to do. but we are not talking about people with morality.
@@scaredpaul540 My thoughts exactly. The man just worked 13 hours he is tired and hungry but she could care less. Get her out of there she's useless.
@@hyuga4477 those US women (obviously not all of them) must be hell live with...my GF is Czech and she work full time, contribute 50% of everything (rent, bills etc) and still after work she manage to cook dinner and for next day lunch for both of us, and with smile (i cook too, dont get me wrong)...and she is doing it for last almost 10 years we are together
This is insane 🤦♀️ what is wrong with some woman. I’m a stay at home mom and my man comes home to a clean house, food on the table and clean clothes in the the bathroom waiting for him. He got us so I got him. Where I lack he has me and where he lacks I have him ❤
Cooking for the family, everyone sitting at the table eating together, talking about your day,catching up with everyone is an amazing experience .
family dinners keep the family together apart from God being the most important ingredient but even if there are fights or discussions its still good to eat dinner together. a fighting family is better than no family and eating dinner gives you a shedule and unites the family to be on the same rythm
"I'm not your mama, I'm your wife"
Holy shit that is an instant divorce, how disrespectful can she be? 💀
"I'm yo mama not your friend", same boat. Same HELL NOPE
and whats the definition of a wife?
@@YaToGamiKuro "i'm here for the money and the complaining part"
i hate the thinking bro like instead of trynna fix it its just an "instant divorce". Shit's tragic
@@mugitude I mean tbh she shows no potential of being fixed. It’s one thing if she didn’t cook but to be standing there stuffing her face while he’s literally asking for food is straight up disrespectful